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Speaker 1: Scrubbing in with Scatilly and Tanya Brad and I Heart

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Speaker 1: Radio and People's Choice Award winning podcast. Hello everybody, happy Monday.

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Speaker 1: Oh it is Monday. We're actually in the studio much

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Speaker 1: later than we normally are. This is like after hours

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Speaker 1: scrubbing in. You know what. I actually was going to

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Speaker 1: UM bring a drink for me too. I actually thought

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Speaker 1: about doing another game part part do, but part do.

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Speaker 1: But I remembered how everybody pooh pooed my UM call

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Speaker 1: to action last time. So if it wasn't no, we

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Speaker 1: didn't pooh pooh it, it was for special occasions, well

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Speaker 1: like once a month. We don't want to like overdo it,

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Speaker 1: r two weeks, bi weekly. Yeah, she's like meet me

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Speaker 1: in the middle. I'm actually wearing I'm wearing my Maui

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Speaker 1: shirt that I got in the airport. Came very close

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Speaker 1: They're comfy. I love them. Wait. So if I would

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Speaker 1: have suggested that you guys would have played Truth or

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Speaker 1: Drink again, yeah, I mean yeah, I would have done.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't have been like, no, we're not doing that.

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Speaker 1: But I wasn't. I was just planning on bringing wine

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Speaker 1: to like hang out. Yeah, yeah, I didn't need the interrogation. Um,

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Speaker 1: but I'm on the same wavelength. Yeah, how was your

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Speaker 1: what what's new? What's new in your life? Well, we've

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Speaker 1: been hanging out a lot together, which I really am

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Speaker 1: enjoying a lot of We have been really fun. Well

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Speaker 1: I can't even say, like, I can't even try and

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Speaker 1: be genuine about comments like that because everyone laughs around me.

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Speaker 1: So sad I am having fun, You're like one of

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Speaker 1: my best friends. No, I know it's true, and I

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Speaker 1: do have to say, um, have been very Uh what's

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Speaker 1: the word like down? You're like hashtag down, I'm hashtag

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Speaker 1: I quit your hashtag down? And I'm so, what does

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Speaker 1: hashtag down mean? You're like down for down to do stuff? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it was like TF, but like d t HF down

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Speaker 1: to half fun, down to have fun. Yeah. Um, well yeah,

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Speaker 1: you know, I'm just trying to get on the mantra

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Speaker 1: it's really weird, but I've regressed to like teenage years

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Speaker 1: so I'm like up at night. So if any time

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Speaker 1: right now in a phase like college student. It's so weird.

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Speaker 1: Like last night, I was up till well, I was

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Speaker 1: understand how she does that. I try. I almost got

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Speaker 1: stuff unnecessarily. But I was desperate because I was reading,

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Speaker 1: I watched TV. I tried everything. It wasn't like I

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Speaker 1: but I was like trying. I tried to shut my

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Speaker 1: I was going to work one day and I was

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Speaker 1: texting you and you're like, I'm still up for the night.

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Speaker 1: And by the way, okay, well that could be at

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Speaker 1: I was like this, those are really dark. Those are

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Speaker 1: me to stay out late. Yeah, we well, we went

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Speaker 1: to the Children's Hospital prom, which is always just like

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Speaker 1: the cutest and best time ever. Shout out to Kara.

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Speaker 1: She's a childlike specialist at Children's Hospital Orange County and

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Speaker 1: she is an angel on this earth. Honestly, she is

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Speaker 1: of Oz theme that was my senior prom or one

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Speaker 1: But anyways, we I was like waiting for it to Hey,

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Speaker 1: We get to the place and there's three parties going on.

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Speaker 1: But you know what, we did it. We made it

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Speaker 1: have just used a little bit of a little buzz

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Speaker 1: that night. That was pretty much it. We booked our

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Speaker 1: I guess all right, um, but yeah, so that's all

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Speaker 1: It feels weird not having Mark here. Yeah, there's we

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Speaker 1: guess like I don't realize how much my day is

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Speaker 1: so NonStop until it's like this, you know what I mean,

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Speaker 1: get a song of today, I'm gonna get a workout

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Speaker 1: Well we had a photo shoot for something, a project

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Speaker 1: five over that. I feel like I'm giving you a

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Speaker 1: that it was. It was that I was passionate about

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Speaker 1: I guess if you will. So I studied biology premed

427
00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:23,280
Speaker 1: University of Iowa, thinking like, Okay, this is you know,

428
00:24:23,320 --> 00:24:25,560
Speaker 1: my dad's a doctor. This kind of feels like this

429
00:24:25,600 --> 00:24:29,160
Speaker 1: is the route to go. But I wasn't completely sold

430
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Speaker 1: on the idea of going to four more years of

431
00:24:31,359 --> 00:24:34,280
Speaker 1: medical school. And randomly I heard on the radio about

432
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Speaker 1: this model talent search at the Devonport Holiday and next

433
00:24:36,920 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 1: Tuesday nights and I was like, and they were like,

434
00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:40,920
Speaker 1: you can travel the world and work with supermodels, and

435
00:24:40,960 --> 00:24:43,399
Speaker 1: I was like, that sounds it sounds interesting. So I

436
00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:45,320
Speaker 1: show up at this thing and it's kind of like

437
00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:47,600
Speaker 1: American Idol where you walk in there's two ladies in

438
00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 1: front of the desk, and UM. At the time, I

439
00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:53,240
Speaker 1: had e er was popular, so George Clooney was the man,

440
00:24:53,359 --> 00:24:56,720
Speaker 1: and I had the George Clooney Caesar haircut glasses and

441
00:24:57,200 --> 00:24:59,159
Speaker 1: the ladies asked me to take my glasses off and

442
00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,040
Speaker 1: messed up my hair. And then they invited me to

443
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:04,080
Speaker 1: uh this model convention thing, which I went to in Chicago,

444
00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:07,320
Speaker 1: and then a few months later, I'm on runway shows

445
00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:10,920
Speaker 1: in Milan, Italy with Georgio ARMANI like personally fitting me

446
00:25:11,080 --> 00:25:13,600
Speaker 1: with suits. And then I got to know the Versacci

447
00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:17,159
Speaker 1: family and doing runway shows for Versaci and dinners with

448
00:25:17,200 --> 00:25:20,520
Speaker 1: Elton John and Donna Tella and Baby Spice, and I

449
00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:24,440
Speaker 1: mean my whole world flipped from small town USA to

450
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:27,720
Speaker 1: like the glamor of all this like supermodel stuff. And

451
00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:30,320
Speaker 1: then I moved to New York City and I was like, oh,

452
00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 1: this will last for a couple of years and then

453
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:34,439
Speaker 1: I'll just go back home and you know, go to

454
00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:38,479
Speaker 1: medical school. Um. And I just randomly jumped into an

455
00:25:38,480 --> 00:25:41,560
Speaker 1: acting class because I started going on some commercial auditions

456
00:25:41,600 --> 00:25:44,680
Speaker 1: and started booking, but I didn't know what I was doing.

457
00:25:44,720 --> 00:25:47,159
Speaker 1: So my my acting teacher or my agent was like,

458
00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 1: once you jump into an acting class, have you ever

459
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:51,280
Speaker 1: thought about doing that, and I said no, I mean

460
00:25:51,320 --> 00:25:55,240
Speaker 1: I I was always shy and introverted growing up. Um,

461
00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:58,000
Speaker 1: But once I jumped into an acting class and had

462
00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:01,080
Speaker 1: I had now a script with all these amazing words,

463
00:26:01,359 --> 00:26:04,600
Speaker 1: and I was like doing scenes with beautiful girls like yourself,

464
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:06,960
Speaker 1: and I was like, this is what I've always been

465
00:26:06,960 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 1: wanting to say. I just didn't know how to say it.

466
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 1: So acting class was an amazing training ground for me

467
00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:16,400
Speaker 1: to just start to learn how to communicate, I mean

468
00:26:16,840 --> 00:26:21,320
Speaker 1: really um, and get in touch with what really mattered

469
00:26:21,359 --> 00:26:23,800
Speaker 1: to me. And that's why I advise anyone to jump

470
00:26:23,800 --> 00:26:26,560
Speaker 1: into an acting class, especially if you're like in business

471
00:26:26,640 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 1: or in sales, because what I talked about an agile

472
00:26:29,359 --> 00:26:31,840
Speaker 1: artist is that we can get so stuck in our

473
00:26:31,880 --> 00:26:35,520
Speaker 1: head um about being analytical about things and how to

474
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,879
Speaker 1: problem solve, and we just have to you know, work harder,

475
00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:43,720
Speaker 1: you know, right, um. And what I talked about is

476
00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:46,800
Speaker 1: that if you're not connected with your heart and your

477
00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:50,560
Speaker 1: your gut, um, you're just never going to find your

478
00:26:50,600 --> 00:26:56,080
Speaker 1: way because you need to be mentally, intellectually, spiritually connected

479
00:26:56,119 --> 00:26:58,200
Speaker 1: in order for something to feel right. And if one

480
00:26:58,200 --> 00:27:01,040
Speaker 1: of those is off, then there's always going to be

481
00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:04,719
Speaker 1: something that kind of is unsettled within you. And that's

482
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:06,600
Speaker 1: why we talk about like if you're with someone and

483
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:10,119
Speaker 1: just didn't feel right and it's like you because I've

484
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:13,480
Speaker 1: dated women and it's like they look beautiful and they've

485
00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:16,880
Speaker 1: they fit the bill, but and you're just hoping. You're

486
00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:19,879
Speaker 1: just like, why is what's missing? You know? Um? And

487
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:21,800
Speaker 1: so I talked about that in my book in terms

488
00:27:21,800 --> 00:27:24,520
Speaker 1: of how to get really connected with what really matters

489
00:27:24,560 --> 00:27:27,399
Speaker 1: to you and then once you identify that, how to

490
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 1: overcome the obstacles and the challenges, um, to fulfill on

491
00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:35,240
Speaker 1: whatever it is that uh, that you truly want in life?

492
00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:38,719
Speaker 1: What was going on? And like I always feel Tanya

493
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:40,280
Speaker 1: always says like, oh, I want to write a book.

494
00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:42,199
Speaker 1: I'm going to write a book one day, because she

495
00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:44,800
Speaker 1: has a lot of stories about in her dating life

496
00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:48,000
Speaker 1: and her career life and everything. Was there a point

497
00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:51,159
Speaker 1: at some point in your career or relationship or whatever

498
00:27:51,200 --> 00:27:53,200
Speaker 1: where you were like I need to get I need

499
00:27:53,200 --> 00:27:58,159
Speaker 1: to write this down. Not necessarily, uh, the idea of

500
00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:01,320
Speaker 1: writing a book was never even on my radar because

501
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:06,800
Speaker 1: I just it, sit down and write. I've tried to

502
00:28:06,840 --> 00:28:10,000
Speaker 1: write screenplays before, and I'll get into like page thirty

503
00:28:10,160 --> 00:28:11,920
Speaker 1: and then I'll just be like, I don't know where

504
00:28:11,920 --> 00:28:13,919
Speaker 1: this is going. I don't know where this is going

505
00:28:13,960 --> 00:28:17,960
Speaker 1: to end. Um. But I recently moved back to Chicago

506
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:22,520
Speaker 1: last year and uh Ran I was speaking at an

507
00:28:22,680 --> 00:28:26,560
Speaker 1: entrepreneurial kind of real estate conference and this book publisher

508
00:28:26,600 --> 00:28:28,440
Speaker 1: came up to me afterwards and she was like, you've

509
00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:30,280
Speaker 1: got a really interesting story. Have you ever thought about

510
00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:32,200
Speaker 1: writing a book? I was like, Hell, no, I don't.

511
00:28:32,200 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 1: I don't even know the first thing to do. So um,

512
00:28:35,640 --> 00:28:37,960
Speaker 1: and often introduce you to my book publisher because she's

513
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:41,400
Speaker 1: really sweet and it sounds like you'd you'd be able

514
00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:43,920
Speaker 1: to I'm sure you have like a ton of stories.

515
00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:49,400
Speaker 1: It's just one of those things where like I share

516
00:28:49,480 --> 00:28:51,600
Speaker 1: so many of my stories on the air and everyone's like,

517
00:28:51,640 --> 00:28:53,280
Speaker 1: you need to write these things down. And I'm like,

518
00:28:53,320 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 1: even if it doesn't publish or go anywhere, like I

519
00:28:55,520 --> 00:28:57,520
Speaker 1: want to have a book to share with my kids

520
00:28:57,520 --> 00:29:03,760
Speaker 1: someday to be like look at what like their mom did. Truly.

521
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:08,000
Speaker 1: So what my publisher said, she was like, well, look, um,

522
00:29:08,160 --> 00:29:11,400
Speaker 1: think about let's do like five to seven chapters. So

523
00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:14,920
Speaker 1: think about the biggest five to seven things that have

524
00:29:14,960 --> 00:29:17,560
Speaker 1: happened in your life that I have left that mark

525
00:29:17,680 --> 00:29:20,120
Speaker 1: on you that you feel like you could flesh out

526
00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:23,280
Speaker 1: into a chapter. So I wrote down the seven major

527
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:26,400
Speaker 1: events in my life. UM, one of them being that

528
00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 1: model search thing that kind of got me into Europe

529
00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:32,040
Speaker 1: and then into the acting thing. And then I talked

530
00:29:32,040 --> 00:29:35,200
Speaker 1: about the World Trade Center experience because I lived across

531
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 1: the street from that, and so when I woke up

532
00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:41,160
Speaker 1: one morning and I saw people hanging out the tops

533
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 1: of those towers. UM. I'd been in New York for

534
00:29:44,240 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 1: four years and I've been studying acting, and I thought

535
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 1: about doing it professionally. But I I mean, when you

536
00:29:51,680 --> 00:29:54,440
Speaker 1: go to see Top Gun and all these other movies

537
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 1: that you're thinking, like, how the idea of going to Hollywood.

538
00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:00,479
Speaker 1: I didn't know anyone out here. I didn't know like

539
00:30:00,560 --> 00:30:04,080
Speaker 1: that was. But going to acting class, I just fell

540
00:30:04,120 --> 00:30:06,800
Speaker 1: in love with it. So it was I knew that

541
00:30:06,800 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 1: that's what I wanted to do. I just didn't I

542
00:30:09,600 --> 00:30:13,120
Speaker 1: think it was possible until that day on nine eleven,

543
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:17,440
Speaker 1: when those planes hit those towers. My life changed completely

544
00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:22,080
Speaker 1: because at at that moment I kind of realized everything

545
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:25,280
Speaker 1: was put into perspective very intensely in the in the

546
00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:28,719
Speaker 1: sense that, um, seeing those people trapped up in those

547
00:30:28,840 --> 00:30:33,760
Speaker 1: windows and then starting to see them jump, it was horrible.

548
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:36,200
Speaker 1: I mean it was the most horrendous thing anyone could

549
00:30:36,200 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 1: ever witness. And once the first tower came down, and

550
00:30:40,280 --> 00:30:43,040
Speaker 1: I was running down the street and people were screaming,

551
00:30:43,080 --> 00:30:44,960
Speaker 1: and it was just I couldn't get back to my

552
00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:47,560
Speaker 1: apartment for two weeks. And once I got back in there,

553
00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 1: it looked like a bomb had blown up inside my

554
00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:53,560
Speaker 1: my apartment. And I mean it was debris and glass

555
00:30:53,560 --> 00:30:56,640
Speaker 1: and metal beams. And a National Guard soldier guy said,

556
00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:58,480
Speaker 1: you have ten minutes to throw whatever you can throw

557
00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:00,760
Speaker 1: into a suitcase and get out of here. And so

558
00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:03,600
Speaker 1: I didn't have a home, and I've been thinking about

559
00:31:03,600 --> 00:31:05,959
Speaker 1: going out to Hollywood to pursue my dream of being

560
00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:09,240
Speaker 1: an actor. Um, and up until that moment, I thought

561
00:31:09,280 --> 00:31:12,120
Speaker 1: about those people up in the top of those towers,

562
00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:14,720
Speaker 1: like if they had a second chance at life and

563
00:31:14,760 --> 00:31:17,080
Speaker 1: there was something that they had thought about doing, like

564
00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:20,560
Speaker 1: writing a book or even just telling their wife that

565
00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:23,360
Speaker 1: they loved them one last time, I guarantee you they

566
00:31:23,360 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 1: would have done it. And they wouldn't have listened to

567
00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:28,200
Speaker 1: all the negative criticism or the voice in your head

568
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:30,480
Speaker 1: that says, like, who do you think you are? You

569
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:33,320
Speaker 1: know you're nobody. And because we all have that inner

570
00:31:33,360 --> 00:31:38,120
Speaker 1: critic that can destroy us imposter syndrome, what it's called

571
00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:42,360
Speaker 1: imposter syndrome. Imposter syndrome. Okay, the first time I've yeah,

572
00:31:42,400 --> 00:31:45,680
Speaker 1: there you go exactly exactly. So in agile Artists, I

573
00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:49,880
Speaker 1: talked about how to identify all those negative thoughts, and

574
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:54,120
Speaker 1: I talked about how our brains just evolutionarily are designed

575
00:31:54,120 --> 00:31:58,760
Speaker 1: to protect us. Um, they're not designed to encourage us

576
00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:00,720
Speaker 1: to get out of our come for its own and

577
00:32:00,800 --> 00:32:05,080
Speaker 1: pursue our dreams. So by recognizing that that's just biologically

578
00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 1: how our brains work, and it's almost like the matrix

579
00:32:07,680 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 1: where you kind of have to pull your thoughts outside

580
00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:16,120
Speaker 1: of the physical, chemical, hormonal thoughts that your brain just

581
00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:19,280
Speaker 1: naturally does and right, And what I did was I

582
00:32:19,320 --> 00:32:22,160
Speaker 1: wrote down, Okay, what do I want to accomplish, and

583
00:32:22,640 --> 00:32:25,080
Speaker 1: just saying it down there on paper and getting it

584
00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:29,360
Speaker 1: out of my head, um, I was then able to say, Okay, look,

585
00:32:30,560 --> 00:32:33,120
Speaker 1: there's nothing that's going to stop me now. Because if

586
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:34,920
Speaker 1: I was on the top of those towers, I would

587
00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:36,680
Speaker 1: have been like, you know what, please, God, just give

588
00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 1: me one more chance. I will do anything. And so

589
00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:41,760
Speaker 1: it put things into perspective where I came out here,

590
00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:45,520
Speaker 1: UM started booking a few little jobs here and there,

591
00:32:45,640 --> 00:32:48,160
Speaker 1: and then three years later I ended up booking a

592
00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 1: job on All my Children soap opera where I played

593
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:56,280
Speaker 1: the transplanted, unaboarded fetus of Eric Kane. Yeah, it was.

594
00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:59,480
Speaker 1: It was a great three years. UM. For three years.

595
00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:02,520
Speaker 1: I was on it for three years, and I was like, wow,

596
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 1: amazing I've been. People are stoked, like yeah, and a

597
00:33:07,080 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 1: lot of people like what do you what do you

598
00:33:08,800 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 1: do to a soap opera? Like you try getting on

599
00:33:11,400 --> 00:33:14,800
Speaker 1: a soap? You know, like you try just getting any

600
00:33:14,840 --> 00:33:18,600
Speaker 1: acting job. It's insane. UM. And I've done the statistics,

601
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:21,200
Speaker 1: like just right right writing the book, I realized I've

602
00:33:21,240 --> 00:33:25,360
Speaker 1: gone over about roughly two thousand auditions in my twenty

603
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:28,520
Speaker 1: year acting career. And if you go on my IMDb page,

604
00:33:28,640 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 1: I have like roughly like forty credits, and you know,

605
00:33:32,040 --> 00:33:35,000
Speaker 1: I've worked with Sylvester Sloane, my Boyhood, Idol, and Kate

606
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 1: Hudson and Jennifer Love Hewitt and I got all these

607
00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:39,920
Speaker 1: like parties and and people like oh my god, you've

608
00:33:39,960 --> 00:33:43,720
Speaker 1: you've made it, you're successful, But the statistics are I'm

609
00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 1: successful two of the time. So I faced of the time,

610
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:52,960
Speaker 1: I'm rejected, And so I talked about a natural largist

611
00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:55,959
Speaker 1: how how can you overcome all that rejection or how

612
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:57,800
Speaker 1: how do you live with that much rejection and keep

613
00:33:57,840 --> 00:33:59,360
Speaker 1: moving forward? And that's why when you go to Starbucks

614
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:01,440
Speaker 1: here in Los angele, Us, you see so many actors

615
00:34:01,480 --> 00:34:06,240
Speaker 1: just like a shell of themselves because they're like, I'm horrible,

616
00:34:06,320 --> 00:34:09,800
Speaker 1: I didn't get the job, you know, and um, it's

617
00:34:09,840 --> 00:34:12,319
Speaker 1: it's tough. Um. And so I talked about how to

618
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:18,000
Speaker 1: reframe rejection and and setbacks into more of an empowering

619
00:34:18,040 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 1: context to be able to just keep going. And it

620
00:34:21,520 --> 00:34:24,880
Speaker 1: really comes down to how hungry are you? What are

621
00:34:24,880 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 1: you willing to sacrifice? Because to go after anything in life,

622
00:34:28,080 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 1: you have to sacrifice something. And it's not necessarily how much,

623
00:34:32,800 --> 00:34:35,000
Speaker 1: how exciting, or how much you want something, it's how

624
00:34:35,080 --> 00:34:37,640
Speaker 1: much you're willing to put up with in order to

625
00:34:37,719 --> 00:34:40,600
Speaker 1: get there. And that's what a lot of people don't realize,

626
00:34:40,640 --> 00:34:42,239
Speaker 1: Like I want to be an actor, I want to

627
00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:46,359
Speaker 1: be so and so well are you willing and are

628
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:49,719
Speaker 1: you uh equipped with the tools to be able to

629
00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:53,680
Speaker 1: deal with all the negativity and the setback and the

630
00:34:53,760 --> 00:34:57,600
Speaker 1: challenges that are gonna help you be successful. I feel

631
00:34:57,640 --> 00:34:59,880
Speaker 1: like people are ready for the yeses, but they're not

632
00:35:00,040 --> 00:35:04,400
Speaker 1: prepared for the nose. You know, Like people only see like,

633
00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:06,920
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I'm they see the bright lights and

634
00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 1: they're not ready for I mean, you talk to every

635
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:12,719
Speaker 1: actor out there, and they say, the amount of rejection

636
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:16,960
Speaker 1: verse of versus the amount of like the jobs that

637
00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 1: I get is shocking. Yeah. So the statistics are there's

638
00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:23,440
Speaker 1: about a hundred and sixty thousand Screen Actor Guild members

639
00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:27,360
Speaker 1: and at any given point, only five are working and

640
00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:32,400
Speaker 1: only three percent are actually doing it consistently. So the

641
00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:34,640
Speaker 1: I mean, this is not the best business to get

642
00:35:34,680 --> 00:35:38,400
Speaker 1: into if you're looking for long term security, you know.

643
00:35:38,920 --> 00:35:41,400
Speaker 1: But for me, it's like when I wake up in

644
00:35:41,440 --> 00:35:45,319
Speaker 1: the morning, I like even just going to uh like

645
00:35:45,400 --> 00:35:47,680
Speaker 1: working on any of the TV like movies, TV, Like

646
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:51,040
Speaker 1: every morning I would wake up and like, I love this.

647
00:35:51,400 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 1: I'm nervous and I'm excited, and but I still like

648
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:57,080
Speaker 1: to the stage twenty years later, whenever I book a job,

649
00:35:57,120 --> 00:36:00,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, like, it's it's just there, It's in you'll

650
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:03,720
Speaker 1: talk to listen to a lot of just different actors

651
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:07,480
Speaker 1: and um people who are successful in whatever they do.

652
00:36:07,520 --> 00:36:10,640
Speaker 1: And they always say, I'm sure you hear this too.

653
00:36:10,640 --> 00:36:14,080
Speaker 1: If it doesn't scare you, then it's not worth doing. Yeah,

654
00:36:14,160 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 1: you know, because what's to your quote. It doesn't challenge you,

655
00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:19,400
Speaker 1: it doesn't change you. There you go, there you go.

656
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:21,759
Speaker 1: And like we were talking about earlier, you know, it's

657
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:24,200
Speaker 1: it's so easy to stay in our comfort zone and

658
00:36:24,320 --> 00:36:26,319
Speaker 1: be like I could never do that, or but I'm

659
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:29,560
Speaker 1: gonna help you write your book. I appreciate that. Do

660
00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:31,959
Speaker 1: you want to tell everyone where they can get the book?

661
00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 1: I know it says available on Amazon? Is that Amazon

662
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 1: dot com right now? And ten percent of the proceeds

663
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:42,800
Speaker 1: actually go towards I'm helping build a community center in

664
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Speaker 1: the South Side of Chicago. A lot of the schools

665
00:36:45,719 --> 00:36:48,800
Speaker 1: in in the South Side have had budgets, uh cuts,

666
00:36:49,000 --> 00:36:53,160
Speaker 1: so like athletics and arts and music, these kids just

667
00:36:53,239 --> 00:36:57,080
Speaker 1: don't have those type of outlets to be creative. And

668
00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:59,080
Speaker 1: there's a guy down in the South Side of Chicago

669
00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:03,520
Speaker 1: who started a nonprofit called Art on the Loose where

670
00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:09,600
Speaker 1: he teaches kids, um exposes them to careers in art

671
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:15,400
Speaker 1: and creativity, so graphic design and um uh, writing, drawing, painting,

672
00:37:16,520 --> 00:37:20,600
Speaker 1: anything creative. And they've been looking for a permanent headquarters

673
00:37:20,680 --> 00:37:23,879
Speaker 1: and I identified a building down there. So, like I said,

674
00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 1: ten percent of the proceeds of the book go towards

675
00:37:26,440 --> 00:37:31,000
Speaker 1: helping establish this community center. And so everyone who buys

676
00:37:31,000 --> 00:37:34,800
Speaker 1: a book, you are contributing to the lives of people.

677
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:38,640
Speaker 1: Um And then where can people follow you? On Instagram? Twitter?

678
00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:43,800
Speaker 1: On Instagram at Colin Egglesfield. Twitter is at Sea Egglesfield,

679
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:49,080
Speaker 1: not changing it up. I started out with Twitter and

680
00:37:49,120 --> 00:37:52,120
Speaker 1: then I when I jumped over to Instagram, I was like, yeah,

681
00:37:52,120 --> 00:37:56,360
Speaker 1: I think I should put my full name so exactly.

682
00:37:56,440 --> 00:37:59,320
Speaker 1: And then I also we just started uh an agile

683
00:37:59,440 --> 00:38:03,440
Speaker 1: artist community Facebook page. So what I talked about in

684
00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:06,160
Speaker 1: the book as well is that you can't do things

685
00:38:06,160 --> 00:38:08,480
Speaker 1: on your own. And growing up, I always felt like

686
00:38:08,640 --> 00:38:10,839
Speaker 1: I'm a guy, I can do you know, I don't

687
00:38:10,880 --> 00:38:13,920
Speaker 1: need anyone's help. Um, But when I was diagnosed with cancer,

688
00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 1: I realized that I just couldn't get through this on

689
00:38:18,600 --> 00:38:22,040
Speaker 1: my own. I knew I needed to get some help

690
00:38:22,120 --> 00:38:25,120
Speaker 1: with regards to how to just keep going to my

691
00:38:25,239 --> 00:38:29,400
Speaker 1: radiation treatments and how to just get through it all. Um.

692
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:32,400
Speaker 1: Every month I had UH to go to Sloan Cattering

693
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:36,120
Speaker 1: Hospital for my checkups, and it literally felt like I

694
00:38:36,200 --> 00:38:37,879
Speaker 1: was a ticking time bomb because I was like, are

695
00:38:37,880 --> 00:38:42,360
Speaker 1: they going to find something this time? Because I had cancer. UM.

696
00:38:42,560 --> 00:38:45,960
Speaker 1: I was diagnosed with testicular cancer six months after booking

697
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:49,000
Speaker 1: all my children. So I was on my dream job

698
00:38:49,080 --> 00:38:51,760
Speaker 1: and you know, I was like my first steady acting

699
00:38:51,840 --> 00:38:55,640
Speaker 1: job and six months later, boom. And with testicular cancer,

700
00:38:55,680 --> 00:38:59,759
Speaker 1: that's a pretty sensitive personal topics. So I don't want

701
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:02,160
Speaker 1: any wanted to know, you know. And so I I

702
00:39:02,239 --> 00:39:05,239
Speaker 1: hit it and had the first surgery and no one

703
00:39:05,320 --> 00:39:07,839
Speaker 1: knew about it, and then it UM I went through

704
00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:12,160
Speaker 1: radiation treatment. My third week of radiation treatment. UM. For

705
00:39:12,200 --> 00:39:14,640
Speaker 1: those of you don't know what that feels like, it's

706
00:39:14,640 --> 00:39:17,479
Speaker 1: like you go into the hospital five days a week,

707
00:39:18,040 --> 00:39:21,759
Speaker 1: um or to the radiology clinic and they zap you

708
00:39:21,920 --> 00:39:25,280
Speaker 1: with nothing touches you. It's like literally for five seconds

709
00:39:25,360 --> 00:39:27,600
Speaker 1: on the front, five seconds on the back, and then

710
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:29,760
Speaker 1: you leave in like an hour later. You just feel

711
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:31,360
Speaker 1: like you want to vomit and throw up, and you

712
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:34,239
Speaker 1: have a fever and you just feel sick. And I

713
00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:36,200
Speaker 1: was doing that and then going to all my children

714
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:38,919
Speaker 1: and having to do these scenes with my shirt off

715
00:39:38,920 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 1: and be like, love you excuse me? You know. So

716
00:39:43,840 --> 00:39:46,440
Speaker 1: at a certain point my director could tell that there

717
00:39:46,480 --> 00:39:48,560
Speaker 1: was something I was and I didn't want him to

718
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:50,440
Speaker 1: think I was like out partying the night before, I

719
00:39:50,520 --> 00:39:53,520
Speaker 1: was hung over, and uh, you know, he's like, are

720
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:55,480
Speaker 1: you all right? You don't seem like you're You're so

721
00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:58,479
Speaker 1: so good, and I and I just finally I looked

722
00:39:58,520 --> 00:39:59,759
Speaker 1: up at him and I was just like in the

723
00:39:59,800 --> 00:40:02,680
Speaker 1: very of tears, and I was just like, I can't

724
00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:06,480
Speaker 1: hide this anymore. I need to tell you that I'm

725
00:40:06,480 --> 00:40:10,920
Speaker 1: going through radiation treatment for cancer. And he's like, are

726
00:40:10,960 --> 00:40:14,000
Speaker 1: you crazy? Why why didn't you tell us? And what

727
00:40:14,080 --> 00:40:17,520
Speaker 1: I realized is that once you share something, your community

728
00:40:17,560 --> 00:40:20,520
Speaker 1: shows up to support you. And they gave me time

729
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:25,080
Speaker 1: off to finish my radiation treatment, and um, and it just, uh,

730
00:40:25,440 --> 00:40:28,600
Speaker 1: it made me realize that when you ask for help

731
00:40:29,320 --> 00:40:32,520
Speaker 1: as long as yeah, it shows up in some amazing ways.

732
00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:34,799
Speaker 1: And that's why I feel like now is the time

733
00:40:34,840 --> 00:40:38,359
Speaker 1: to kind of give back and share what I've learned

734
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:41,000
Speaker 1: through all of this, so it helps of helping someone

735
00:40:41,000 --> 00:40:43,600
Speaker 1: else's going through it because what helped me get through

736
00:40:43,680 --> 00:40:47,640
Speaker 1: my cancer experience too was UM. I read Lance Armstrong's

737
00:40:47,760 --> 00:40:50,760
Speaker 1: book about how he got through all of it and

738
00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:53,600
Speaker 1: hopefully with you know someone going through the same thing.

739
00:40:53,600 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 1: Because I do a lot of charity work with St.

740
00:40:55,600 --> 00:40:59,560
Speaker 1: Jude's Children's Hospital and Children's Hospital Los Angeles, I do

741
00:40:59,640 --> 00:41:03,480
Speaker 1: the Blibu Triathlon every year and the South Beach Triathlon

742
00:41:03,760 --> 00:41:06,279
Speaker 1: with St. Jude's Hospital, so I meet a lot of

743
00:41:06,280 --> 00:41:08,600
Speaker 1: these kids and families who are going through what I

744
00:41:08,640 --> 00:41:15,040
Speaker 1: went through, and knowing that someone else has gone through it, UM,

745
00:41:15,120 --> 00:41:17,480
Speaker 1: it just makes all the difference. I talked about a

746
00:41:17,520 --> 00:41:20,000
Speaker 1: little segment in my book where I was going to

747
00:41:20,040 --> 00:41:24,439
Speaker 1: slow and cattering from my checkups and UM, a year

748
00:41:24,480 --> 00:41:29,279
Speaker 1: after my first diagnosis, I was diagnosed a second time,

749
00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:31,879
Speaker 1: so I'd have to have a second surgery. And at

750
00:41:31,920 --> 00:41:34,800
Speaker 1: that point, you know that happens only five percent of

751
00:41:34,880 --> 00:41:37,080
Speaker 1: the time, so I'm in a high risk category. And

752
00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:40,520
Speaker 1: so at this point I my world was flipping upside down.

753
00:41:40,560 --> 00:41:44,560
Speaker 1: I was like, literally, am I going to die? Um?

754
00:41:44,640 --> 00:41:49,200
Speaker 1: And I left Sloane cattering one after my second diagnosis,

755
00:41:49,400 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 1: And this is one of these miraculous things. This cab

756
00:41:53,360 --> 00:41:55,560
Speaker 1: pulls up and I, you know, I hailed him down,

757
00:41:55,640 --> 00:41:58,479
Speaker 1: got in the taxi and it was this Russian guy

758
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:01,240
Speaker 1: and he looked at me through the rear view mirror

759
00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:03,520
Speaker 1: and he could tell like, I don't know, just maybe

760
00:42:03,520 --> 00:42:06,160
Speaker 1: I just had my head down or I wash he goes.

761
00:42:06,360 --> 00:42:08,520
Speaker 1: He asked me, you know how, what was doing? And

762
00:42:09,120 --> 00:42:11,879
Speaker 1: normally I don't really like to chit chat, but at

763
00:42:11,880 --> 00:42:15,960
Speaker 1: this moment, I was just like, not good man. And

764
00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:19,800
Speaker 1: he's like, why, What's what's wrong? And I said, I

765
00:42:20,400 --> 00:42:23,680
Speaker 1: gotta have another surgery. I He's like, for what I said,

766
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 1: cancer and he's like, I have cancer too, and I

767
00:42:28,560 --> 00:42:30,839
Speaker 1: was like really, He's like he asked me what kind?

768
00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:35,080
Speaker 1: I said, testicular And then uh, I'll never forget this

769
00:42:35,160 --> 00:42:38,399
Speaker 1: because I looked at him through the rear view mirror

770
00:42:38,440 --> 00:42:40,799
Speaker 1: and he just had a stoplight. He looked at me

771
00:42:41,600 --> 00:42:45,120
Speaker 1: and he just lasered into my eyes and he was

772
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 1: just like, you're gonna be okay. I mean, it was like,

773
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:52,959
Speaker 1: I don't know, an angel or something that was put

774
00:42:53,040 --> 00:42:57,560
Speaker 1: in that moment where I needed it. And it's those

775
00:42:57,600 --> 00:43:01,400
Speaker 1: little moments that keep you going. And that's why I

776
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 1: wrote this book too, because I want to make sure

777
00:43:05,160 --> 00:43:09,040
Speaker 1: that people are going through the same thing. Have that

778
00:43:09,120 --> 00:43:14,440
Speaker 1: support because it is scary. It is terrifying. Yeah, and

779
00:43:14,480 --> 00:43:19,240
Speaker 1: knowing that your community is there, um makes all the difference. Wow,

780
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:23,000
Speaker 1: that's amazing. Tany is emotional. I am just because I

781
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 1: just know like a lot of people that are going

782
00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:28,920
Speaker 1: through that. I'm sure your books going to touch a

783
00:43:28,920 --> 00:43:34,239
Speaker 1: lot of people. Yeah, thank you. That's that's why I

784
00:43:34,239 --> 00:43:38,439
Speaker 1: wrote it. If you haven't already gotten onto Amazon dot com,

785
00:43:38,719 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 1: get on there by Agile Artists and ten will go

786
00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:46,880
Speaker 1: to what is the charity called Art on the Loose

787
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:49,920
Speaker 1: Arts on the Loose, which is a community center that

788
00:43:49,920 --> 00:43:52,919
Speaker 1: they're building in Chicago. Thank you so much for being here.

789
00:43:53,400 --> 00:43:58,080
Speaker 1: You're amazing. Thanks for having me. Um. He is so cute,

790
00:43:58,440 --> 00:44:02,040
Speaker 1: he is and so nice, so nice. I feel like

791
00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:08,120
Speaker 1: I felt like there was there vibes with me. Are

792
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:11,400
Speaker 1: you on glue? No? Do you see what I look

793
00:44:11,480 --> 00:44:16,920
Speaker 1: like right now? Gorgeous? I haven't showered, I haven't slept,

794
00:44:18,120 --> 00:44:22,839
Speaker 1: I've never Thank you so much. It's very don't feel

795
00:44:22,880 --> 00:44:28,400
Speaker 1: out at all. I remember, okay, but you can still

796
00:44:28,440 --> 00:44:32,560
Speaker 1: feel things. He was. I really was taken aback by

797
00:44:32,600 --> 00:44:35,719
Speaker 1: how amazing he is. Yeah, he's so he's like such

798
00:44:35,760 --> 00:44:40,640
Speaker 1: a normal good like good guy looking, good guy for sure.

799
00:44:41,880 --> 00:44:47,640
Speaker 1: Wow good, Yeah, we're good. He got you emotional there. Yeah,

800
00:44:47,880 --> 00:44:50,040
Speaker 1: well you know I have like I think I just

801
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:56,080
Speaker 1: have such a soft spot with cancer that I can't

802
00:44:56,120 --> 00:45:02,000
Speaker 1: even like. People that go through are really just a

803
00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:05,560
Speaker 1: different human. Oh yeah, a different kind of human. Yeah,

804
00:45:06,280 --> 00:45:10,880
Speaker 1: it's it's such a powerful testimony. So yeah, um, he's awesome.

805
00:45:11,560 --> 00:45:15,840
Speaker 1: Would I would suggest maybe giving him a follow on Instagram? Okay,

806
00:45:16,000 --> 00:45:17,799
Speaker 1: I will do Okay, I will do that, but in

807
00:45:17,840 --> 00:45:21,400
Speaker 1: a quick way. Yeah, like I follow you, but I

808
00:45:21,480 --> 00:45:26,080
Speaker 1: follow you because you are great to have. You're great here. Yeah,

809
00:45:26,320 --> 00:45:30,800
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Speaker 1: so we got First of all, I asked the Facebook

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Speaker 1: group for some questions UM that they wanted answered. And

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00:47:19,800 --> 00:47:23,080
Speaker 1: then we had an email that I wanted to read

844
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Speaker 1: because I thought it was interesting, UM Eastern Would you

845
00:47:26,920 --> 00:47:30,040
Speaker 1: like to to be the email reader? Yes? I would?

846
00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:37,960
Speaker 1: All right, here we go. This is from Jill. I'm sorry, Tanya,

847
00:47:38,080 --> 00:47:41,000
Speaker 1: but I can't support your new I quit mantra. I've

848
00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:43,279
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849
00:47:43,320 --> 00:47:46,000
Speaker 1: find it the moment I stopped looking, and five years,

850
00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:48,879
Speaker 1: ten years later, they wonder why Sometimes the I quit

851
00:47:48,920 --> 00:47:51,479
Speaker 1: attitude works. But is that the exception or the rule?

852
00:47:52,160 --> 00:47:54,040
Speaker 1: For me? Finding my person took a lot of work.

853
00:47:54,080 --> 00:47:56,120
Speaker 1: I treated it like a second job, and it wasn't

854
00:47:56,120 --> 00:47:58,600
Speaker 1: always fun. But like anything you really want, I was

855
00:47:58,640 --> 00:48:01,480
Speaker 1: committed to giving the process of time and effort necessary.

856
00:48:01,680 --> 00:48:04,080
Speaker 1: So finding your person is something you truly want, Tanya.

857
00:48:04,400 --> 00:48:11,279
Speaker 1: Please don't quit, Jill, I like want to answer this.

858
00:48:12,120 --> 00:48:14,840
Speaker 1: I want to respond to this for you go with

859
00:48:15,040 --> 00:48:17,919
Speaker 1: like your representative. But what do you think I would say,

860
00:48:18,120 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 1: because I think even you're a little hazy on what

861
00:48:23,719 --> 00:48:31,080
Speaker 1: I quit means, like no, no, no, no, you were

862
00:48:31,080 --> 00:48:34,920
Speaker 1: a little because you say things that contradict themselves like

863
00:48:35,000 --> 00:48:38,839
Speaker 1: you do and say things that contradict the I quit attitude.

864
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:43,880
Speaker 1: No I quit means like I quit, yes, treating it

865
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:46,560
Speaker 1: like a second job, which I feel like I was doing.

866
00:48:47,400 --> 00:48:50,120
Speaker 1: I quit doesn't mean I'm taking myself out of the game,

867
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:52,640
Speaker 1: like I'm not right. I think a lot of people

868
00:48:52,719 --> 00:48:55,000
Speaker 1: think that it meant you were taking yourself out of

869
00:48:55,000 --> 00:48:57,400
Speaker 1: the game saying and I'm not gonna be I'm not

870
00:48:57,400 --> 00:48:59,319
Speaker 1: gonna say no, I'm not gonna I'm open to the

871
00:48:59,320 --> 00:49:02,480
Speaker 1: possibility lit tease, but not attached to but not attached

872
00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:04,839
Speaker 1: to the outcome. So like basically like if someone was like, oh,

873
00:49:04,840 --> 00:49:06,879
Speaker 1: I want to set you up with somebody tomorrow, I'd

874
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:10,400
Speaker 1: be like, okay, cool. But I'm not actively pursuing people

875
00:49:10,520 --> 00:49:12,080
Speaker 1: setting me up and like you know what I mean.

876
00:49:12,080 --> 00:49:14,640
Speaker 1: It's just I'm taking a step back and kind of

877
00:49:14,719 --> 00:49:16,720
Speaker 1: letting it happen. But I'm still like living my life.

878
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:18,359
Speaker 1: Like we know, Beck and I have been going out,

879
00:49:18,520 --> 00:49:21,280
Speaker 1: We've been going to places that we've never been before

880
00:49:21,320 --> 00:49:24,600
Speaker 1: and being more social and just putting ourselves out there.

881
00:49:24,600 --> 00:49:27,399
Speaker 1: But I'm not. So I'm not quitting in terms of

882
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:31,240
Speaker 1: like I'm saying no to any guy that asks me out.

883
00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 1: I'm just quitting being so persistent. I think it's more

884
00:49:37,680 --> 00:49:42,320
Speaker 1: like there's been a time recently, I mean up until

885
00:49:42,480 --> 00:49:47,280
Speaker 1: this point where she have this life altering moment tiphany,

886
00:49:47,320 --> 00:49:51,840
Speaker 1: if you piphany, if you will um that like we

887
00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:55,640
Speaker 1: would be around anyone we met. It was like do

888
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:58,120
Speaker 1: you have friends? Do you have any single friends? Right?

889
00:49:58,200 --> 00:50:00,160
Speaker 1: Or like if we met like a cool girl, I'd like,

890
00:50:00,200 --> 00:50:02,520
Speaker 1: do you have a brother brother? I mean the way

891
00:50:02,560 --> 00:50:05,279
Speaker 1: she started talking to Mark Wahlberg was asking about his son,

892
00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:08,960
Speaker 1: Like that really sums it up. So I think it

893
00:50:09,080 --> 00:50:11,600
Speaker 1: was like more that mentality of like, I'm not putting

894
00:50:11,760 --> 00:50:14,680
Speaker 1: so much effort into making this happen on my own.

895
00:50:15,200 --> 00:50:17,880
Speaker 1: If it comes to me, I will accept it, but

896
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:22,080
Speaker 1: I'm not going to like seek it out, which leads

897
00:50:22,080 --> 00:50:26,759
Speaker 1: me to this like almost more justification of my I

898
00:50:26,920 --> 00:50:30,440
Speaker 1: quit epiphany. My pastor said something the other day that

899
00:50:30,680 --> 00:50:34,399
Speaker 1: really struck me, and it was basically about forcing things.

900
00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:38,160
Speaker 1: If you're forcing something, and how we hope people force relationships,

901
00:50:38,200 --> 00:50:40,560
Speaker 1: people force jobs, like I'm not getting the promotion until

902
00:50:40,560 --> 00:50:42,640
Speaker 1: they like force like they forced themselves into a new job,

903
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:49,480
Speaker 1: and you forcing things is not living in faith truly,

904
00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:52,800
Speaker 1: and it's like God's been so faithful in my life,

905
00:50:52,880 --> 00:50:55,400
Speaker 1: and like he has been so faithful to me in

906
00:50:55,480 --> 00:50:59,080
Speaker 1: every aspect. Why am I questioning him in this? And

907
00:50:59,080 --> 00:51:01,160
Speaker 1: that's what I've been doing. I've enforcing all these things

908
00:51:01,160 --> 00:51:03,080
Speaker 1: and I'm just I'm just letting my faith take over.

909
00:51:04,360 --> 00:51:06,399
Speaker 1: Proud of you, thank you. But yeah, I think that

910
00:51:06,600 --> 00:51:09,320
Speaker 1: I think she thought that you were saying I quit

911
00:51:09,360 --> 00:51:12,560
Speaker 1: to everything, Jill, just to let you know, Tony has

912
00:51:12,600 --> 00:51:19,719
Speaker 1: not actually quit fully. She's right, I'm not like songs, man, No, no,

913
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:26,000
Speaker 1: you are songs, but you're okay with waiting until the

914
00:51:26,120 --> 00:51:29,120
Speaker 1: right one shows up. Yeah, And the possibility of saying

915
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:32,120
Speaker 1: yes to what comes to you rather than being like

916
00:51:32,280 --> 00:51:35,640
Speaker 1: desperately seeking it out correct like I mean she says,

917
00:51:35,680 --> 00:51:37,680
Speaker 1: treating it like a second job. I think that's a

918
00:51:37,680 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 1: little With all due respect, Jill, I think it's a

919
00:51:39,560 --> 00:51:43,719
Speaker 1: little aggressive. Back back in back in my dating days,

920
00:51:43,719 --> 00:51:48,880
Speaker 1: when I was a young nap on the prowl um

921
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:52,400
Speaker 1: I found that. Um I was when I was asking

922
00:51:52,680 --> 00:51:55,080
Speaker 1: a lot of girls on dates. A lot of them

923
00:51:55,120 --> 00:51:57,800
Speaker 1: would say no or or we got once, they wouldn't

924
00:51:57,960 --> 00:51:59,759
Speaker 1: want to go out again. And I was getting really

925
00:51:59,800 --> 00:52:01,120
Speaker 1: fresh trade, and I was like, oh, I'm not trying

926
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:03,839
Speaker 1: hard enough. And then I realized once I took some

927
00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:07,040
Speaker 1: steps back, and I started like not not so much

928
00:52:07,080 --> 00:52:10,040
Speaker 1: like focusing on myself, but like trying new things that

929
00:52:10,120 --> 00:52:12,520
Speaker 1: I was interested in, like going to new places or

930
00:52:12,560 --> 00:52:15,360
Speaker 1: doing new things like you know, spending time at the

931
00:52:15,400 --> 00:52:18,680
Speaker 1: gym or like going out to do things. Uh. I

932
00:52:18,800 --> 00:52:21,480
Speaker 1: found that you put make yourself open to meeting new

933
00:52:21,520 --> 00:52:24,400
Speaker 1: people and put new things entering your life, and then

934
00:52:24,400 --> 00:52:27,359
Speaker 1: these things kind of materialized. And I know, I know

935
00:52:27,480 --> 00:52:30,000
Speaker 1: a lot of people do that and then nothing happens.

936
00:52:30,160 --> 00:52:33,600
Speaker 1: But I I found that, like you were saying, there's

937
00:52:33,600 --> 00:52:35,520
Speaker 1: an old phrase that I can't say on the air,

938
00:52:36,040 --> 00:52:38,319
Speaker 1: but if you have to, it's like a fart. If

939
00:52:38,320 --> 00:52:43,879
Speaker 1: you have to force it, it's probably poop. Yeah it's

940
00:52:43,920 --> 00:52:47,080
Speaker 1: really gross, but but it's true. I think it's very

941
00:52:47,200 --> 00:52:50,880
Speaker 1: like it really paints the picture of Yeah, it's very crash,

942
00:52:50,920 --> 00:52:52,480
Speaker 1: but but I don't know that. The way I look

943
00:52:52,520 --> 00:52:55,040
Speaker 1: at it is, um, I like I quit I look

944
00:52:55,080 --> 00:52:57,080
Speaker 1: a lot. Yeah I do too. I'm not. I'm not

945
00:52:57,160 --> 00:52:59,399
Speaker 1: living in a place of fear anymore. I just don't

946
00:52:59,440 --> 00:53:01,319
Speaker 1: stepping into a d I love it too, and I

947
00:53:01,360 --> 00:53:04,200
Speaker 1: think it's amazing and I think it's exactly what you

948
00:53:04,280 --> 00:53:06,759
Speaker 1: needed to hear and for it to happen. I just

949
00:53:06,800 --> 00:53:09,680
Speaker 1: feel like it wasn't exactly clear when you said I quit.

950
00:53:10,000 --> 00:53:11,359
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people were like, well, I

951
00:53:11,440 --> 00:53:14,840
Speaker 1: quit do and everyone's just sitting at home and saying

952
00:53:14,840 --> 00:53:17,160
Speaker 1: no to dates and not doing things because they're like,

953
00:53:17,160 --> 00:53:19,400
Speaker 1: well done, you're quite so I quit. So just to

954
00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:22,000
Speaker 1: clear it up, that's what I quit. Can you get

955
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:24,239
Speaker 1: us out on a date? I would love for you

956
00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:27,279
Speaker 1: to go, but just don't put so much pressure on it. Yeah.

957
00:53:27,400 --> 00:53:29,239
Speaker 1: When you first started the I quit stuff, I really

958
00:53:29,239 --> 00:53:31,000
Speaker 1: thought it was like I am giving up and that

959
00:53:31,000 --> 00:53:33,239
Speaker 1: that is it, Like I'm done, And it took me

960
00:53:33,239 --> 00:53:35,319
Speaker 1: a while to understand like, oh no, it's not. It's

961
00:53:35,320 --> 00:53:37,800
Speaker 1: not just like I'm giving up on everything. I was

962
00:53:37,880 --> 00:53:41,080
Speaker 1: having like respond to the Facebook group like no, no, no,

963
00:53:43,200 --> 00:53:47,319
Speaker 1: she's fine. W She's not giving up forever. She's not

964
00:53:47,360 --> 00:53:51,040
Speaker 1: in that headspace. But um, yeah, I think it's great.

965
00:53:51,360 --> 00:53:54,560
Speaker 1: Speaking of I had a very emotional moment with my

966
00:53:54,640 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 1: friend Jesse. I don't even know when that was last

967
00:53:58,200 --> 00:54:02,919
Speaker 1: week and we were just talking about um, I don't

968
00:54:02,920 --> 00:54:05,640
Speaker 1: know if it's after I took the indiogram test. I

969
00:54:05,680 --> 00:54:09,120
Speaker 1: think a lot makes sense about my personality type and

970
00:54:09,200 --> 00:54:11,600
Speaker 1: being a nine. And I feel like I've always been

971
00:54:11,680 --> 00:54:15,360
Speaker 1: very I like want everyone to be to get along.

972
00:54:15,440 --> 00:54:18,040
Speaker 1: I don't want there to be any friction. I hate conflict,

973
00:54:18,120 --> 00:54:21,279
Speaker 1: I hate confrontation. I want everyone to be proud of me.

974
00:54:21,360 --> 00:54:24,120
Speaker 1: We talked about this, like making like we were talking

975
00:54:24,120 --> 00:54:27,279
Speaker 1: about this with our friend Paulina and we were just saying, like,

976
00:54:28,320 --> 00:54:31,880
Speaker 1: it's a lot when you are this personality type and

977
00:54:31,920 --> 00:54:34,600
Speaker 1: you want you want everyone to be pleased with you,

978
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:37,319
Speaker 1: It's like a lot of pressure and it's all me,

979
00:54:37,520 --> 00:54:41,120
Speaker 1: Like I've put it all on myself. But um, I

980
00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:43,040
Speaker 1: was talking to my friend Jesse and she was just

981
00:54:43,120 --> 00:54:47,120
Speaker 1: asking about like how I was doing, how my relationship

982
00:54:47,160 --> 00:54:51,359
Speaker 1: with God was, and I I cried so much that day.

983
00:54:51,440 --> 00:54:55,279
Speaker 1: I think, just like like talking about it. I guess

984
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:57,920
Speaker 1: I haven't talked about it in a long time. And um,

985
00:54:58,000 --> 00:55:00,560
Speaker 1: she was like, she said, she goes, you know how

986
00:55:00,640 --> 00:55:05,120
Speaker 1: Tanya like you don't even have to know her and

987
00:55:05,200 --> 00:55:09,160
Speaker 1: you can feel there's something about her that like radiates

988
00:55:09,200 --> 00:55:11,920
Speaker 1: out of her. And I was like, yeah, I was

989
00:55:11,960 --> 00:55:13,920
Speaker 1: like I know exactly what you're talking about and she

990
00:55:14,040 --> 00:55:17,480
Speaker 1: was like, she was like, I want you to feel

991
00:55:17,640 --> 00:55:20,160
Speaker 1: like I want that's how I feel about you. But

992
00:55:20,360 --> 00:55:24,120
Speaker 1: I feel like you've put everything into like your relationship

993
00:55:24,200 --> 00:55:27,800
Speaker 1: and your friendships, and like you have like wanted everyone

994
00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:30,440
Speaker 1: else to shine and you have just like sat down

995
00:55:31,120 --> 00:55:32,960
Speaker 1: and I was like, I think I have, but I

996
00:55:33,000 --> 00:55:35,480
Speaker 1: think it's more than like what's my purpose? Like what

997
00:55:35,520 --> 00:55:37,600
Speaker 1: am I doing? And we talked about it a little bit,

998
00:55:37,680 --> 00:55:40,080
Speaker 1: like You're like, I think you found your purpose, like

999
00:55:40,440 --> 00:55:43,000
Speaker 1: you're living your purpose, but I think I in my head,

1000
00:55:43,040 --> 00:55:45,919
Speaker 1: I'm like, am I doing enough? Like with what I've

1001
00:55:45,920 --> 00:55:48,480
Speaker 1: been given? I just think that so and it's not

1002
00:55:48,560 --> 00:55:51,359
Speaker 1: just you. I think so many people feel like they

1003
00:55:51,400 --> 00:55:55,879
Speaker 1: had like a purpose in life is just this grandiose thing,

1004
00:55:56,200 --> 00:55:59,959
Speaker 1: when in reality, like everybody, your purpose could be something

1005
00:56:00,080 --> 00:56:03,120
Speaker 1: even so minute. You know, it could just be being

1006
00:56:03,120 --> 00:56:06,319
Speaker 1: that person that's always smiling and happy and like for you,

1007
00:56:06,480 --> 00:56:08,719
Speaker 1: I think the way that you live your life and

1008
00:56:08,760 --> 00:56:11,479
Speaker 1: the people that are in your life, you are so

1009
00:56:11,560 --> 00:56:14,680
Speaker 1: special and like your heart is so generous and loving

1010
00:56:14,719 --> 00:56:18,200
Speaker 1: and kind, and I don't think you realize it because

1011
00:56:18,239 --> 00:56:21,320
Speaker 1: it just comes naturally to you, if that makes sense,

1012
00:56:21,719 --> 00:56:24,040
Speaker 1: But because you don't see it from an outside perspective,

1013
00:56:24,080 --> 00:56:26,319
Speaker 1: but the way that you treat people and the way

1014
00:56:26,320 --> 00:56:28,279
Speaker 1: that that you are to the people in your life

1015
00:56:28,360 --> 00:56:32,000
Speaker 1: is so like loving and and it hurts me that

1016
00:56:32,040 --> 00:56:34,360
Speaker 1: you don't see that about yourself, you know, and I

1017
00:56:34,400 --> 00:56:39,600
Speaker 1: think that is your purpose. Don't cry, but it's it's

1018
00:56:39,640 --> 00:56:42,080
Speaker 1: so beautiful. It's such a beautiful trait, and you don't

1019
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:44,680
Speaker 1: see it about yourself. And that's what kills me, because

1020
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:47,480
Speaker 1: you think, like, my purpose needs to be this, like

1021
00:56:47,520 --> 00:56:49,120
Speaker 1: I need to be I don't even know who the

1022
00:56:49,200 --> 00:56:51,440
Speaker 1: Dolly Llama or something. And I think you're putting so

1023
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:55,400
Speaker 1: much pressure on yourself to have this this gigantic thing

1024
00:56:55,560 --> 00:56:58,680
Speaker 1: when it's like, you have such a beautiful purpose, but

1025
00:56:58,760 --> 00:57:01,080
Speaker 1: you don't. I don't think like there's so many little

1026
00:57:01,120 --> 00:57:03,560
Speaker 1: things that you do for the people that you love

1027
00:57:04,160 --> 00:57:07,960
Speaker 1: that I don't even think you realize is so out

1028
00:57:07,960 --> 00:57:10,799
Speaker 1: of the ordinary. I don't think you realize it because

1029
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:12,959
Speaker 1: it's just a second nature to you. I remember coming

1030
00:57:12,960 --> 00:57:16,600
Speaker 1: off The Bachelor and um, I tweeted something or said

1031
00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:19,600
Speaker 1: something that people like didn't like or they responded to

1032
00:57:19,680 --> 00:57:21,600
Speaker 1: in like a negative way, and I was like freaking

1033
00:57:21,600 --> 00:57:25,800
Speaker 1: out about it and one of the producers. I texted

1034
00:57:25,880 --> 00:57:28,720
Speaker 1: him about it, and he was like, you don't have

1035
00:57:28,880 --> 00:57:31,920
Speaker 1: to be perfect, Like no one wants that, Like you

1036
00:57:31,960 --> 00:57:35,080
Speaker 1: don't you're putting all this like pressure on yourself. And

1037
00:57:35,360 --> 00:57:37,360
Speaker 1: I did it with the whole virginity thing, like it

1038
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:42,520
Speaker 1: became my identity. And I remember like having this moment

1039
00:57:42,640 --> 00:57:46,240
Speaker 1: of being like, have I let everyone down? Because that's

1040
00:57:46,240 --> 00:57:49,040
Speaker 1: not my like title anymore. And it was such a

1041
00:57:49,120 --> 00:57:53,720
Speaker 1: like sad moment of being like have I not like

1042
00:57:53,800 --> 00:57:56,880
Speaker 1: have I made this like promise that was supposed to

1043
00:57:56,880 --> 00:58:00,439
Speaker 1: be like to myself and to God about what other

1044
00:58:00,480 --> 00:58:03,840
Speaker 1: people think about me, like strangers. And it was like

1045
00:58:03,880 --> 00:58:06,880
Speaker 1: this really crazy moment for me to be like, Wow,

1046
00:58:06,920 --> 00:58:10,040
Speaker 1: I've put this price. I've made this my identity just

1047
00:58:10,320 --> 00:58:12,680
Speaker 1: because I wanted people to like approve of me or

1048
00:58:12,800 --> 00:58:16,240
Speaker 1: like me. And I think I've done it my whole life.

1049
00:58:16,480 --> 00:58:19,080
Speaker 1: And it's so sad because it's like I haven't been

1050
00:58:19,120 --> 00:58:24,120
Speaker 1: able to just like live yeah hashtag just live No,

1051
00:58:24,200 --> 00:58:26,400
Speaker 1: But it's true. Yeah, Like I think, and You've said

1052
00:58:26,400 --> 00:58:29,720
Speaker 1: this so many times about like your purpose and I'm like, Bucca,

1053
00:58:30,680 --> 00:58:34,320
Speaker 1: you are literally living in your purpose right now. But

1054
00:58:34,400 --> 00:58:37,040
Speaker 1: I always feel like much and I don't think that

1055
00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:40,840
Speaker 1: you realize what you You don't realize the way that

1056
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:46,440
Speaker 1: you treat people is so special. I guess I just

1057
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:48,480
Speaker 1: always I mean, I guess I never feel want to

1058
00:58:48,480 --> 00:58:52,000
Speaker 1: feel like complacent with what my impact is, you know.

1059
00:58:52,040 --> 00:58:53,840
Speaker 1: I always want to feel like, oh I can do more,

1060
00:58:53,920 --> 00:58:56,040
Speaker 1: I can be you know, I can I can do

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Speaker 1: But I have to really I don't. I don't want

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Speaker 1: it's I don't think you're the only person dealing with

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1079
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Speaker 1: it's just me, and I think and part part of

1082
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1086
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Speaker 1: not like all the sudden one day I can just

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Speaker 1: I'm wondering if it kind of goes yeah, I probably

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Speaker 1: we had some questions, Like I said that we wanted

1143
01:03:26,880 --> 01:03:32,440
Speaker 1: to answer. What did you find? One? Did I listen?

1144
01:03:32,800 --> 01:03:39,240
Speaker 1: Have you been listening? Um? I screenshot at a few

1145
01:03:40,960 --> 01:03:43,080
Speaker 1: this one. I'm going to ask you which. I only

1146
01:03:43,120 --> 01:03:44,920
Speaker 1: bring this up because I feel like a lot of

1147
01:03:44,960 --> 01:03:50,320
Speaker 1: our listeners are huge Bachelor fans. Among all the Bachelor

1148
01:03:50,400 --> 01:03:53,880
Speaker 1: World contestants, who would you consider dating even if it

1149
01:03:53,920 --> 01:03:58,959
Speaker 1: were completely unlikely? Are you gonna answer what you're birth

1150
01:03:58,960 --> 01:04:03,280
Speaker 1: gonna answer? I think of all the oh, like just

1151
01:04:03,400 --> 01:04:08,480
Speaker 1: all the land from from seasons. If I had to

1152
01:04:08,520 --> 01:04:12,080
Speaker 1: pick somebody, who would I date? Yeah, even if he's married, Yeah,

1153
01:04:12,120 --> 01:04:17,240
Speaker 1: it could be totally unlikely. Jason Mesnick, Oh wow, Yeah,

1154
01:04:17,240 --> 01:04:22,800
Speaker 1: you're very solid dude, married Molly, great family. I just

1155
01:04:22,880 --> 01:04:26,600
Speaker 1: feel like he's a solid dude. Great answer, Thank you

1156
01:04:26,640 --> 01:04:33,920
Speaker 1: so much. Great answer. Mine would be I didn't watch

1157
01:04:33,920 --> 01:04:35,640
Speaker 1: it before I was on it, so I don't know

1158
01:04:35,680 --> 01:04:37,360
Speaker 1: a lot of Like I only know like who I

1159
01:04:37,440 --> 01:04:39,960
Speaker 1: know from when I was on it. I'm just trying

1160
01:04:40,000 --> 01:04:46,360
Speaker 1: to I'm going through my rolodex those called. I mean,

1161
01:04:46,480 --> 01:04:48,720
Speaker 1: I love Ben Higgins. I just think he's like the

1162
01:04:48,760 --> 01:04:52,280
Speaker 1: best guy. But I did he dumped me, like you know,

1163
01:04:52,320 --> 01:04:55,240
Speaker 1: it didn't work out. But it just like you anytime

1164
01:04:55,280 --> 01:04:57,000
Speaker 1: any one of you says each other's name, they're like

1165
01:04:57,000 --> 01:04:59,200
Speaker 1: that got bad guy. I know, but I think it's

1166
01:04:59,200 --> 01:05:03,000
Speaker 1: just like here it comes. He's very happy to relationship.

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01:05:03,000 --> 01:05:05,560
Speaker 1: I'm very happy to relationship. But I think out of

1168
01:05:05,600 --> 01:05:08,440
Speaker 1: all the guys that I know from the show, I

1169
01:05:08,520 --> 01:05:13,160
Speaker 1: just I love him as a person. Um. I just

1170
01:05:13,200 --> 01:05:15,280
Speaker 1: thought this would be fun to answer because this is

1171
01:05:15,320 --> 01:05:18,000
Speaker 1: like a fun question. I'm going on a first date tomorrow.

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Speaker 1: What are your tips for making first date's not super awkward?

1173
01:05:21,200 --> 01:05:25,080
Speaker 1: Because I seem to be the pro at awkward first dates,

1174
01:05:25,160 --> 01:05:28,560
Speaker 1: so exciting tips to not make it awkward? Well, I

1175
01:05:28,600 --> 01:05:32,600
Speaker 1: don't like awkward silence? So do you just like talk

1176
01:05:32,760 --> 01:05:34,680
Speaker 1: through all of it? If I'm on a bad date

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01:05:34,800 --> 01:05:37,680
Speaker 1: and the guy doesn't know how to communicate, it basically

1178
01:05:37,680 --> 01:05:41,840
Speaker 1: turns into an interview where I'm just interviewing him, like

1179
01:05:42,240 --> 01:05:44,480
Speaker 1: where are you from? Do you have brothers and sisters?

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01:05:44,720 --> 01:05:46,720
Speaker 1: What did you know where when you grew up? What

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01:05:46,760 --> 01:05:48,480
Speaker 1: was your favorite thing to watch on TV? Where do

1182
01:05:48,480 --> 01:05:51,520
Speaker 1: you to college? Were you in a fraternity? Did you graduate?

1183
01:05:51,560 --> 01:05:53,600
Speaker 1: Would you graduate in? Oh? What's your job? Tell me

1184
01:05:53,600 --> 01:05:55,320
Speaker 1: about your job? What do you do Monday through Friday?

1185
01:05:55,320 --> 01:05:56,320
Speaker 1: What do you do on the weekend? I mean I

1186
01:05:56,360 --> 01:05:59,400
Speaker 1: could keep going Okay, Um, I feel like that's semi

1187
01:05:59,400 --> 01:06:02,600
Speaker 1: good advice, like maybe you know, if if he's not

1188
01:06:03,320 --> 01:06:06,440
Speaker 1: a good communicator and not asking questions, you step up.

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01:06:06,480 --> 01:06:09,320
Speaker 1: But also like if it's that bad and that awkward

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Speaker 1: and you're having to take control, I would be like,

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01:06:12,040 --> 01:06:14,200
Speaker 1: all right, thanks for your time. Wait, what's her name?

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Speaker 1: Do you have her name? Um? Her name is, well,

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01:06:19,040 --> 01:06:21,240
Speaker 1: do we want to Her name's Ari l Ari L.

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Speaker 1: I just have to tell you you have to go

1195
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Speaker 1: into it with a positive attitude because all it takes

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Speaker 1: is one good date and he could be the rest

1197
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Speaker 1: of your life. It's so like he could be terrible

1198
01:06:35,760 --> 01:06:37,360
Speaker 1: and if it's awkward, then you just have to have

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Speaker 1: to see you again. Like whatever, it's one night and

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Speaker 1: you lose, you lose whatever, But it could be amazing

1201
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Speaker 1: and this could be the start of something really great.

1202
01:06:44,320 --> 01:06:46,480
Speaker 1: So like go into it thinking like this could be

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Speaker 1: the start of something, and if it's not, whatever, you're

1204
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Speaker 1: back to where you were today. And if it is,

1205
01:06:52,360 --> 01:06:55,880
Speaker 1: then that's so exciting. Okay, let's let's let's give her

1206
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Speaker 1: some first ake questions that aren't like where what did

1207
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Speaker 1: you watch on be in high school? But something like

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Speaker 1: that are like good, like four good questions that if

1209
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Speaker 1: she gets in a right it's a good conversation starter.

1210
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Speaker 1: I like to know people's relationship with relationships with their family.

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01:07:11,560 --> 01:07:14,120
Speaker 1: I feel like that tells a lot. But what if

1212
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Speaker 1: it's like a sensitive topic, if someone doesn't have a

1213
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Speaker 1: good relationship, that might not be like a first aid combo. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think if people have bad you know, or if

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Speaker 1: like maybe they've lost their parents or something, that's sometimes

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Speaker 1: I always go there on um. I also like to

1217
01:07:29,240 --> 01:07:32,560
Speaker 1: find out their birthday, just to like you could do

1218
01:07:32,680 --> 01:07:35,120
Speaker 1: like the well, no, you could do like the like

1219
01:07:35,400 --> 01:07:38,040
Speaker 1: if you're into the zodiac thing. It's always a funny

1220
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Speaker 1: because even if you're not, it's still funny if they

1221
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Speaker 1: say like what they are and you're like, well, I

1222
01:07:42,720 --> 01:07:44,920
Speaker 1: don't know anything about that, or like well you can

1223
01:07:44,960 --> 01:07:47,680
Speaker 1: see what he orders to drink. I always find like

1224
01:07:48,400 --> 01:07:51,880
Speaker 1: dates like to talk about the liquor that they drink. Weirdly,

1225
01:07:52,000 --> 01:07:54,800
Speaker 1: guys are kind of into liquors that they order beer

1226
01:07:54,880 --> 01:07:57,160
Speaker 1: or like, I don't know. Yeah, but what do you

1227
01:07:57,200 --> 01:08:03,240
Speaker 1: think do you think asking about work on a first

1228
01:08:03,280 --> 01:08:05,720
Speaker 1: date is weird or like asking what they do or

1229
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Speaker 1: what they're Okay, I think that's a good one. It's

1230
01:08:08,200 --> 01:08:10,760
Speaker 1: a big part of some people's lives. Yeah, I think

1231
01:08:10,760 --> 01:08:14,440
Speaker 1: that's a that's fair. Ask if they have pets. Yeah,

1232
01:08:14,760 --> 01:08:16,719
Speaker 1: I just like to see how people live their lives,

1233
01:08:17,439 --> 01:08:19,559
Speaker 1: you know, just to see if we're like compatible. Even well,

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01:08:19,600 --> 01:08:23,080
Speaker 1: you know, it sounds like you get everything about them

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Speaker 1: on the first day. You know. I don't leave most

1236
01:08:25,520 --> 01:08:29,719
Speaker 1: stones unturned after a first date, to be honest, because

1237
01:08:29,760 --> 01:08:31,679
Speaker 1: it's like then you decide if you want to don't

1238
01:08:31,800 --> 01:08:36,240
Speaker 1: don't talk about your exes or any like past no ton, Yeah,

1239
01:08:36,280 --> 01:08:39,839
Speaker 1: that's like one oh one. You're not supposed to do it. Yeah,

1240
01:08:40,000 --> 01:08:42,800
Speaker 1: all right, I mean I don't go into detail for sure,

1241
01:08:42,880 --> 01:08:46,800
Speaker 1: not detail. But yeah, let let him bring that up

1242
01:08:46,840 --> 01:08:49,080
Speaker 1: if he wants. I would not go into that. If

1243
01:08:49,120 --> 01:08:53,599
Speaker 1: you have any conspiracy theories, I would keep those or

1244
01:08:55,000 --> 01:08:57,400
Speaker 1: you could also um make it light and just be like, oh,

1245
01:08:57,479 --> 01:08:59,840
Speaker 1: have you heard about the Taylor Swift Scooter bron drama?

1246
01:09:00,040 --> 01:09:02,880
Speaker 1: You know, like bringing into pop culture. Yeah, pop culture

1247
01:09:02,880 --> 01:09:05,720
Speaker 1: is always good, but a guy probably is not like

1248
01:09:06,120 --> 01:09:08,880
Speaker 1: thrilled to talk about to her stuff. Maybe asked about

1249
01:09:09,120 --> 01:09:11,960
Speaker 1: if you're into sports, Like, if he's into sports, that

1250
01:09:12,000 --> 01:09:15,519
Speaker 1: could be a good one. Um, like any like TV

1251
01:09:15,640 --> 01:09:18,120
Speaker 1: shows that you've really liked that you feel like would

1252
01:09:18,160 --> 01:09:22,439
Speaker 1: be something that he could be into. WEALR It was

1253
01:09:22,520 --> 01:09:27,679
Speaker 1: like the worst questions ever. This is good advice? Really? Yeah? Okay,

1254
01:09:27,720 --> 01:09:29,719
Speaker 1: well all y'all. I hope you have the best first

1255
01:09:29,800 --> 01:09:32,160
Speaker 1: day ever. And I hope it's not awkward at all,

1256
01:09:32,200 --> 01:09:35,240
Speaker 1: and I hope that um you just have a great time.

1257
01:09:35,280 --> 01:09:37,400
Speaker 1: Whether he's the one or not. Yeah, you know what

1258
01:09:37,439 --> 01:09:41,479
Speaker 1: I always tell myself, it just takes one. Just takes one,

1259
01:09:42,120 --> 01:09:45,599
Speaker 1: just one one person. That's all I need, just one

1260
01:09:45,640 --> 01:09:48,040
Speaker 1: good one. I might take a long time to find

1261
01:09:48,080 --> 01:09:51,920
Speaker 1: that one, but once you do. Someone said, what happened

1262
01:09:51,920 --> 01:09:54,519
Speaker 1: in Becca's last relationship that makes her want to be

1263
01:09:54,560 --> 01:09:57,439
Speaker 1: so private? I totally respect it, but just curious us

1264
01:09:57,439 --> 01:10:00,880
Speaker 1: to what it was. She was very public with Robert.

1265
01:10:01,640 --> 01:10:03,960
Speaker 1: I think that's really it because I was very public

1266
01:10:04,000 --> 01:10:10,160
Speaker 1: with Robert UM, I think it's it's interesting because I'm

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Speaker 1: not My relationship is not a secret. It's just private,

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Speaker 1: like everyone in my life knows, Like everyone who's in

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01:10:18,520 --> 01:10:24,320
Speaker 1: my life knows. Um. But it's something that is mine

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01:10:24,439 --> 01:10:28,479
Speaker 1: and I feel very protective over it. UM. And I

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01:10:28,520 --> 01:10:30,800
Speaker 1: think there was a lot of I felt so much

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01:10:30,960 --> 01:10:35,320
Speaker 1: pressure with the fact that my relationship with Robert was

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01:10:35,960 --> 01:10:38,479
Speaker 1: public because when it came time and I knew it

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01:10:38,520 --> 01:10:41,920
Speaker 1: was coming to an end, I was way. I was

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01:10:41,960 --> 01:10:47,599
Speaker 1: so worried about like once again disappointing people, making people like,

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01:10:48,120 --> 01:10:50,559
Speaker 1: you know, upset that we broke up. People were like

1277
01:10:50,640 --> 01:10:56,320
Speaker 1: invested in our relationship, and UM, I think I know

1278
01:10:56,640 --> 01:11:00,320
Speaker 1: it's a burden. Yeah, And it's weird because um, there's

1279
01:11:00,479 --> 01:11:05,360
Speaker 1: there are parts of keeping a relationship private that that's hard.

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01:11:05,439 --> 01:11:08,679
Speaker 1: I was talking to Tanya earlier about this, that it's

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01:11:08,720 --> 01:11:11,639
Speaker 1: like another um added thing that I have to think

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01:11:11,680 --> 01:11:15,160
Speaker 1: about when I'm posting or doing stuff, because you spend

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01:11:15,200 --> 01:11:16,640
Speaker 1: a lot of time with the person you're in a

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01:11:16,680 --> 01:11:20,000
Speaker 1: relationship with. So it is like a weird thing of

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01:11:20,040 --> 01:11:23,800
Speaker 1: having to, um be cautious of that. But I'm not.

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01:11:24,120 --> 01:11:27,120
Speaker 1: It's not necessarily I'm not doing it to stay like secretive.

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01:11:27,160 --> 01:11:29,120
Speaker 1: I'm not doing it as like a game. I'm just

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01:11:29,520 --> 01:11:35,840
Speaker 1: protecting something that's very special to me. But I don't know,

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01:11:35,960 --> 01:11:38,479
Speaker 1: I just I don't like to me, it seems like

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01:11:38,720 --> 01:11:41,800
Speaker 1: harder to do that. Yeah, I get it because I

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01:11:41,840 --> 01:11:45,280
Speaker 1: don't have that perception of if this relationship ends, I

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01:11:45,280 --> 01:11:49,080
Speaker 1: don't feel pressure to like hurt let people down. Yeah yeah, yeah,

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01:11:49,120 --> 01:11:52,960
Speaker 1: But there's also there's pros and cons because if it's public,

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01:11:53,080 --> 01:11:55,880
Speaker 1: I have to deal with other issues, you know, I

1295
01:11:55,920 --> 01:11:59,479
Speaker 1: have to deal with people having in an opinion and

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01:11:59,560 --> 01:12:02,680
Speaker 1: people and I, as we are talking about, I do

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01:12:02,800 --> 01:12:04,960
Speaker 1: care about that no matter how much I don't want to,

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01:12:05,680 --> 01:12:09,280
Speaker 1: and keeping it private has its own But the only

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01:12:09,360 --> 01:12:12,320
Speaker 1: thing that about keeping it private is that I have

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01:12:12,360 --> 01:12:15,360
Speaker 1: a lot of people asking about it constantly. But even

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01:12:15,400 --> 01:12:18,920
Speaker 1: if I shared it, there would still be questions about

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01:12:19,680 --> 01:12:23,800
Speaker 1: something else, you know. So it's interesting. But um, I

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01:12:23,840 --> 01:12:29,040
Speaker 1: do think keeping the identity of that person private it

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01:12:29,720 --> 01:12:33,280
Speaker 1: is important because not just in your case, I just

1305
01:12:33,320 --> 01:12:36,040
Speaker 1: think in general, because I remember when I was dating

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01:12:36,080 --> 01:12:39,760
Speaker 1: doctor W and we gave too many specifics about what

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01:12:39,800 --> 01:12:41,960
Speaker 1: he did and what he looked like, and then people

1308
01:12:42,000 --> 01:12:44,400
Speaker 1: found him and they were commenting on his photos like

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01:12:44,520 --> 01:12:46,800
Speaker 1: be good to Tanya and La la la and so

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01:12:46,960 --> 01:12:50,080
Speaker 1: like I didn't feel bad about that, So I think

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01:12:50,120 --> 01:12:52,240
Speaker 1: for me moving forward, I definitely want to make sure

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01:12:52,280 --> 01:12:54,160
Speaker 1: that that's why we came up with red starburs because

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01:12:54,160 --> 01:12:57,240
Speaker 1: it's just like keep them very just very vague. So

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01:12:57,320 --> 01:13:01,000
Speaker 1: I do get that. So you get it for sure

1315
01:13:01,080 --> 01:13:03,479
Speaker 1: very you get an extent? Do you get it to

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01:13:03,520 --> 01:13:07,639
Speaker 1: an extent? Yeah? But um yeah, thanks for I do

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01:13:07,800 --> 01:13:10,080
Speaker 1: like it's really nice that people care. And I felt

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01:13:10,080 --> 01:13:12,439
Speaker 1: like people were so kind when on the podcast and

1319
01:13:12,520 --> 01:13:14,639
Speaker 1: I said I was in love, everyone was like so happy.

1320
01:13:15,080 --> 01:13:19,559
Speaker 1: So because who doesn't love love? Who doesn't love love?

1321
01:13:19,680 --> 01:13:23,760
Speaker 1: Besides the gringe? And I think now he does he

1322
01:13:23,880 --> 01:13:27,720
Speaker 1: enjoys love a little bit after his adventure. Yeah, I

1323
01:13:27,760 --> 01:13:30,759
Speaker 1: wanted like a really juicy question because everyone really posts

1324
01:13:30,800 --> 01:13:34,360
Speaker 1: some like good stuff on the Facebook. Girl, this might

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01:13:34,400 --> 01:13:38,120
Speaker 1: be too gross to talk about it. I know you're

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01:13:38,160 --> 01:13:41,600
Speaker 1: going to bring up the blow job. I think we

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01:13:41,600 --> 01:13:44,160
Speaker 1: should all give our tips. And since Eastern is a guy,

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01:13:45,120 --> 01:13:50,840
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, go what do you want to talk about?

1329
01:13:52,040 --> 01:13:56,759
Speaker 1: Did we like give our tips? What are your tips?

1330
01:13:57,680 --> 01:13:58,880
Speaker 1: Are you going to give one or is it just

1331
01:13:58,880 --> 01:14:01,320
Speaker 1: gonna be me? I just need to see, like where

1332
01:14:01,360 --> 01:14:04,799
Speaker 1: you're going with it before I even say my tips,

1333
01:14:06,439 --> 01:14:09,759
Speaker 1: tips and tricks. I have found putting things in your mouth,

1334
01:14:11,760 --> 01:14:22,040
Speaker 1: maybe as such as mints or ice cubes of that

1335
01:14:22,280 --> 01:14:27,400
Speaker 1: nature tend to really high happen things up. Yeah, it's true,

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01:14:28,400 --> 01:14:33,599
Speaker 1: it's true. I mean that can enhance any experience. That's

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01:14:33,600 --> 01:14:36,960
Speaker 1: all I'm That's all I want to say. Yeah, I've

1338
01:14:36,960 --> 01:14:42,800
Speaker 1: heard about the ice cube thing. Um, I feel like

1339
01:14:42,840 --> 01:14:46,679
Speaker 1: you're one of my only friends who like actually not

1340
01:14:46,760 --> 01:14:52,000
Speaker 1: necessarily like enjoyed that doing that, but I was definitely

1341
01:14:52,040 --> 01:14:54,040
Speaker 1: willing to do it more than most of my other

1342
01:14:54,120 --> 01:14:58,160
Speaker 1: friends that I talked to who were in relationships. But

1343
01:14:59,479 --> 01:15:02,400
Speaker 1: I don't. I I like, I was so communicative. I

1344
01:15:02,439 --> 01:15:04,880
Speaker 1: was like, just tell me, like, what do you like?

1345
01:15:04,920 --> 01:15:09,800
Speaker 1: What don't you like? So awkward? I don't know. I

1346
01:15:09,920 --> 01:15:14,639
Speaker 1: feel weird because I because I think about who could

1347
01:15:14,720 --> 01:15:19,080
Speaker 1: listen and have an opinion? Where is it you don't?

1348
01:15:19,360 --> 01:15:22,360
Speaker 1: I know it's a problem. It's really a problem where

1349
01:15:22,400 --> 01:15:28,160
Speaker 1: your yang is my yang is? I will say, Because

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01:15:28,200 --> 01:15:31,520
Speaker 1: I think the whole thing was about not gagging, right, Yeah,

1351
01:15:31,760 --> 01:15:33,920
Speaker 1: I had a I had someone who I dated, and

1352
01:15:34,000 --> 01:15:36,640
Speaker 1: he said he did not mind the gagging because it

1353
01:15:36,680 --> 01:15:45,120
Speaker 1: gave him an ego. I cannot that is foul? Wait

1354
01:15:45,360 --> 01:15:50,479
Speaker 1: is it? Yes? Wait what parts of growths? All of it? No?

1355
01:15:50,760 --> 01:15:56,920
Speaker 1: Like what though, I don't gag? Is that weird at all?

1356
01:15:56,920 --> 01:16:00,759
Speaker 1: When all the guys come for locking to John hashtag

1357
01:16:00,800 --> 01:16:06,240
Speaker 1: I quit? But I guess what. I'm surprised that's what

1358
01:16:06,439 --> 01:16:09,519
Speaker 1: got you though, Like, like that's what made you say

1359
01:16:09,520 --> 01:16:11,439
Speaker 1: that's foul. I just feel like there's not right. I

1360
01:16:11,560 --> 01:16:14,679
Speaker 1: was like, I felt that was pretty. I did feel

1361
01:16:14,680 --> 01:16:18,080
Speaker 1: it was pretty. I don't want to say it's pretty tame,

1362
01:16:18,160 --> 01:16:21,920
Speaker 1: but also it's not like that egregious. Egregious, that's a

1363
01:16:21,920 --> 01:16:24,160
Speaker 1: good word. I'm just saying. I was always like, oh

1364
01:16:24,200 --> 01:16:27,720
Speaker 1: my god. I I literally could barely go to the

1365
01:16:27,800 --> 01:16:29,840
Speaker 1: dentist when they put the things in your mouth to

1366
01:16:30,000 --> 01:16:32,160
Speaker 1: like do act rays and stuff, because it made me gag.

1367
01:16:32,560 --> 01:16:36,120
Speaker 1: I'd like the most sensitive gag reflex. So I was

1368
01:16:36,160 --> 01:16:40,200
Speaker 1: always like, this is this is not ideal. Also, never

1369
01:16:40,280 --> 01:16:44,720
Speaker 1: heard of dudes say that out loud because yeah, like

1370
01:16:44,800 --> 01:16:49,599
Speaker 1: you think that, but yeah, like but have you thought it? Well,

1371
01:16:52,320 --> 01:16:57,479
Speaker 1: no comment, I'm just saying that. I mean, every man

1372
01:16:57,600 --> 01:17:00,400
Speaker 1: likes an ego, but I'm just I've never seen that

1373
01:17:00,720 --> 01:17:03,519
Speaker 1: math equation done right? So was he just trying to

1374
01:17:03,520 --> 01:17:06,280
Speaker 1: make me feel better? Is that what you're implaying? No?

1375
01:17:06,520 --> 01:17:10,120
Speaker 1: Do you think he was just very bold? He's being

1376
01:17:10,240 --> 01:17:14,280
Speaker 1: very bold? Yeah, yeah, I admire is honesty. Yeah, comfortable

1377
01:17:14,280 --> 01:17:17,160
Speaker 1: with me. I suppose we both just wanted the best

1378
01:17:17,200 --> 01:17:21,200
Speaker 1: for each other. While we're on the topic, Um, I

1379
01:17:21,240 --> 01:17:26,679
Speaker 1: finally gotta wax Oh great, yeah, tell us more or don't?

1380
01:17:26,720 --> 01:17:29,080
Speaker 1: I don't know. I want to have a question. Did

1381
01:17:29,080 --> 01:17:33,840
Speaker 1: the waxing person could they detect you or like vikily, Yeah,

1382
01:17:34,080 --> 01:17:36,680
Speaker 1: she's like your VIRKINI line seems a little shorter than

1383
01:17:36,680 --> 01:17:39,240
Speaker 1: the rest. I was like, because I did my own

1384
01:17:39,280 --> 01:17:44,560
Speaker 1: work and not that great. As we were inspected in Hawaii,

1385
01:17:45,040 --> 01:17:47,920
Speaker 1: she was like, yeah, I really missed some spots, so

1386
01:17:48,960 --> 01:17:57,120
Speaker 1: worked out that that date didn't happen. Totally totally well good.

1387
01:17:57,160 --> 01:18:00,360
Speaker 1: I glad, I'm glad. Everything's back in line, everything back

1388
01:18:00,360 --> 01:18:04,439
Speaker 1: in good shape. Tanya tunups just in oh yeah, Tanya tunup,

1389
01:18:05,439 --> 01:18:08,559
Speaker 1: Tanya two point oh, Tunapa two points coming in hot.

1390
01:18:08,680 --> 01:18:11,960
Speaker 1: I love these things like out of nowhere, just like

1391
01:18:12,040 --> 01:18:13,680
Speaker 1: you make it up in your head and then you

1392
01:18:13,720 --> 01:18:17,360
Speaker 1: post it and then it's like whoever, like me, I'm like, wait,

1393
01:18:17,400 --> 01:18:27,040
Speaker 1: what are we all she's gonna be born? What? Why

1394
01:18:27,120 --> 01:18:30,040
Speaker 1: isn't it she born right now? Because she's being tuned up.

1395
01:18:30,760 --> 01:18:35,400
Speaker 1: She's in beda testing right now, right now. When is

1396
01:18:35,680 --> 01:18:39,080
Speaker 1: considered fall September? Do you have a date or just

1397
01:18:39,120 --> 01:18:41,599
Speaker 1: a general season? Just a season? Okay? Are you going

1398
01:18:41,640 --> 01:18:47,200
Speaker 1: to head back to school? We're back to school? Are

1399
01:18:47,200 --> 01:18:49,600
Speaker 1: you gonna have an adventures back to school? Like a

1400
01:18:49,720 --> 01:18:52,760
Speaker 1: coming out party? A debut? Tom Vall like what, I

1401
01:18:52,800 --> 01:18:55,360
Speaker 1: don't even get it. It's like you make these things

1402
01:18:55,439 --> 01:18:57,559
Speaker 1: up to get a reaction out of me. Or she

1403
01:18:57,680 --> 01:19:02,000
Speaker 1: comes Tanya two point oh? What is she though? You'll

1404
01:19:02,000 --> 01:19:04,880
Speaker 1: know when you see her, You'll just know she's gonna

1405
01:19:04,920 --> 01:19:09,240
Speaker 1: have an aura. The walk, The walk has really been perfected.

1406
01:19:09,880 --> 01:19:13,519
Speaker 1: She's gonna have a new strut, new hair, a new walk.

1407
01:19:13,680 --> 01:19:15,880
Speaker 1: We already talked like no, no, my walk is like

1408
01:19:16,120 --> 01:19:19,280
Speaker 1: is like done, like the new walk, the new you

1409
01:19:19,280 --> 01:19:21,200
Speaker 1: have a new walk right now? Yeah. I got in

1410
01:19:22,360 --> 01:19:24,920
Speaker 1: a little pep in the step. You don't do that

1411
01:19:25,640 --> 01:19:28,160
Speaker 1: with the one video and Easton did Shaggy and I

1412
01:19:28,240 --> 01:19:30,559
Speaker 1: was like, that was the last time I saw either

1413
01:19:30,600 --> 01:19:32,760
Speaker 1: of those. That's not true. I walked next to you

1414
01:19:32,800 --> 01:19:37,640
Speaker 1: every day and you never do. I don't bounced to

1415
01:19:37,680 --> 01:19:43,519
Speaker 1: my step if you think about it. Just oh yeah,

1416
01:19:43,720 --> 01:19:47,360
Speaker 1: you're gonna be over exaggerating it now, like the wheels

1417
01:19:47,360 --> 01:19:49,760
Speaker 1: are falling off. I hear the preorders coming in for

1418
01:19:49,880 --> 01:19:53,479
Speaker 1: telling you two point out at this point right, Well,

1419
01:19:54,400 --> 01:19:57,320
Speaker 1: well not no, I don't even know that really took

1420
01:19:57,360 --> 01:19:59,960
Speaker 1: a turn towards the end. It's getting late here, people

1421
01:20:00,720 --> 01:20:08,000
Speaker 1: approach it. Um, well, thank you for listening. We love you. Guys.

1422
01:20:08,439 --> 01:20:10,760
Speaker 1: Keep sending in good emails. I know you'll save a

1423
01:20:10,760 --> 01:20:13,559
Speaker 1: lot of them for the Facebook group and because everyone

1424
01:20:13,680 --> 01:20:16,400
Speaker 1: rallies together to give advice. But if you want, you know,

1425
01:20:16,800 --> 01:20:24,240
Speaker 1: specific advice from the experts here, Um, we're waiting for expertise. Yeah,

1426
01:20:24,240 --> 01:20:27,800
Speaker 1: it's scrubbing in at iHeart media dot Com. Um, I

1427
01:20:27,840 --> 01:20:31,040
Speaker 1: hope everyone has an amazing week this week. We missed

1428
01:20:31,080 --> 01:20:34,680
Speaker 1: you last week. Um, and do you have anything to

1429
01:20:34,680 --> 01:20:38,599
Speaker 1: offer Tanya at one point, yeah, she's actually one point five.

1430
01:20:38,800 --> 01:20:42,640
Speaker 1: But UM, I'm gonna miss you while you're gone. I

1431
01:20:42,680 --> 01:20:45,160
Speaker 1: don't know how I'm gonna pull through, and I'm not

1432
01:20:45,160 --> 01:20:47,479
Speaker 1: gonna see you for a week, so that's not ideal.

1433
01:20:48,800 --> 01:20:51,760
Speaker 1: I'll be home soon, I'm not I'll tell you what

1434
01:20:51,800 --> 01:20:54,080
Speaker 1: I'm not doing, and that's getting in the water so

1435
01:20:54,120 --> 01:21:01,080
Speaker 1: scared of sharks. YEAHA, I was looking I was looking

1436
01:21:01,280 --> 01:21:03,639
Speaker 1: up because I was just like getting I had chills

1437
01:21:03,720 --> 01:21:08,439
Speaker 1: just thinking about sharks sitting on my couch. I've been

1438
01:21:08,479 --> 01:21:10,439
Speaker 1: at I read about that shark attack in the Bahamas,

1439
01:21:10,479 --> 01:21:13,200
Speaker 1: and I've had like nightmares. Didn't you go in the

1440
01:21:13,280 --> 01:21:18,599
Speaker 1: ocean and Hawaii? Sure did? Oh? No, no, no I didn't.

1441
01:21:18,640 --> 01:21:20,800
Speaker 1: I mean I went and like dipped my hair, but

1442
01:21:20,880 --> 01:21:25,400
Speaker 1: I know it was But in Um, for my birthday,

1443
01:21:25,680 --> 01:21:28,120
Speaker 1: we went and we went on a boat and then

1444
01:21:28,120 --> 01:21:30,599
Speaker 1: all of us got out and went snorkeling. And I'll

1445
01:21:30,640 --> 01:21:34,759
Speaker 1: never do it again after what I've read. So anyways,

1446
01:21:35,800 --> 01:21:39,160
Speaker 1: um that we really went to a lot of places today.

1447
01:21:39,200 --> 01:21:42,360
Speaker 1: But I hope everyone has a great week. Um so much.

1448
01:21:42,520 --> 01:21:44,479
Speaker 1: We will see you next week or talk to you next.

1449
01:21:44,600 --> 01:21:49,840
Speaker 1: You'll hear from us next week called death. Oh this

1450
01:21:49,880 --> 01:22:02,280
Speaker 1: is a big top money what didn't even talk about it?