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Speaker 2: It could be Buckle up and hold on tight. We

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Speaker 1: Thanking if you subject, leave my man out of your rumors.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm married to a man that has

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Speaker 1: cheated on me once before, so he's a target for rumors.

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Speaker 1: My dad is the main one that has any I

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Speaker 1: on my husband, just waiting for him to cheat again.

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Speaker 1: I try to keep my family out of my business,

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Speaker 1: but the female he cheated with works with my dad.

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Speaker 1: So now, if the girl steps away to take a

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Speaker 1: call at work, my dad is ear hustling. If the

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Speaker 1: girl leaves a job early, my dad calls me and

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Speaker 1: warns me that she's up to no good and I

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Speaker 1: need to see where my husband is. My dad is

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Speaker 1: the last person to judge because he got a woman

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Speaker 1: pregnant when I was in middle school, and we still

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Speaker 1: don't know what happened to that baby. While he was

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Speaker 1: worrying about me. My mother spends all of his money

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Speaker 1: at the casino. When she's not gambling, she's helping my

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Speaker 1: dad spread all kinds of rumors about my marriage because

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Speaker 1: she's jealous that my man is a great father and provider.

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Speaker 1: She started some new mess about my husband cheating, and

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Speaker 1: she told two of my aunts. Friday night, my husband

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Speaker 1: went to a comedy show at the casino with his brother.

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Speaker 3: My mother was there gambling, but.

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Speaker 1: It wasn't supposed to but wasn't supposed to be there,

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Speaker 1: so she watched. She said, my husband from Afar and

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Speaker 1: he was with the girl that he cheated with. I

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Speaker 1: told her, there's no way he is that stupid to

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Speaker 1: be in public with this girl. Again, she kept insisting,

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Speaker 1: so I asked my husband and if the lady was there,

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Speaker 1: and he said, yes, she was there, and it is

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Speaker 1: a free country, so she can go see a show

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Speaker 1: if she wants to, and it has nothing to do

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Speaker 1: with him. My mother insists that I am brainwashed and

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Speaker 1: that he's a cheating loser. I warned her that if

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Speaker 1: she doesn't stop spreading rumors, I will tell my dad

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Speaker 1: about her gambling addiction. Why can't they stop hating on

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Speaker 1: my marriage? Well, this is crazy and messy and petty

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Speaker 1: and dysfunctional, nosy blank.

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Speaker 3: Family, just like any other family.

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Speaker 1: They're always in your business, all of this dysfunctional everything.

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Speaker 1: And yes, your parents are hating on your marriage, aren't they?

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Speaker 1: But so is your husband. I mean, if he's been cheating,

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Speaker 1: he's hating on your marriage too. I mean, let's be clear.

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Speaker 1: I don't agree with your mom and dad meddling in

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Speaker 1: they're doing like ear hustling and reporting to you when

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Speaker 1: you know she leaves work and stuff the other woman.

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Speaker 1: But I'm sure some of that is because you're their

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Speaker 3: That's what it is. So they're keeping an eye on him.

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Speaker 3: Are they nosy?

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Speaker 1: Yes, they are nosy. So you can argue that they

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Speaker 1: care about you and they love you. You can post

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Speaker 1: that argument. They can definitely argue that. But your husband

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Speaker 1: is wrong for being with that woman again, no question,

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Speaker 1: especially in public.

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Speaker 3: What was he thinking?

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Speaker 1: I don't believe it was a coincidence. I think he

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Speaker 1: was intentionally with her, and even though your mom was

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Speaker 1: out of order for spying, she was right. Your husband

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Speaker 1: admitted it, so he could be that stupid. Why didn't

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Speaker 1: he take you? You never mentioned that the woman that

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Speaker 1: your husband and brother were there. M come on, I say,

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Speaker 1: listen to your mom on this one. Listen to your mom, Steve, I.

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Speaker 4: Can't help dog on this one. Damn, dog, man, Man, dog.

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Speaker 2: I try to be there for some man, but man,

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Speaker 2: sometimes we just do something so damn. It's hard to

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Speaker 2: work with stupid.

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Speaker 4: I work with a little lightweight iglists, but when you're stupid.

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Speaker 2: Really, I don't know where to goes.

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Speaker 4: I'm married to a man to cheat it on me

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Speaker 4: once before, so he's a target of room. My dad

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Speaker 4: waiting for him to cheat again. Now, she says, I've

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Speaker 4: the female that.

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Speaker 2: Her husband cheated on works with her father. God.

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Speaker 4: So now if the girls step away to take a

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Speaker 4: call my daddy, your husband, if the girl lead a job.

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Speaker 2: Early.

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Speaker 4: Your daddy called you and want you She up to

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Speaker 4: no good. You need to find out where your husband is.

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Speaker 4: Then after all this, she say, my dad the last

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Speaker 4: person judged because he got a woman pregnant when I

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Speaker 4: was in middle school, and we still don't know what

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Speaker 4: happened to that baby. So while he worried about me,

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Speaker 4: my mother spent all his money at the casino.

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Speaker 2: So we're starting to form a pattern here. I want

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Speaker 2: you to watch this pattern.

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Speaker 4: Everybody else is wrong except the man that created the

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Speaker 4: problem in the first place. So see, so now it's

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Speaker 4: gonna be hard for me to help you cause you

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Speaker 4: don't want help. You have survived, You have supplied a

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Speaker 4: solution for each one of the problems in this letter,

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Speaker 4: and ain't none of the solutions your huss So when

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Speaker 4: we come back, I'm just gonna let you further know

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Speaker 4: that I can't help you, and I can't help him either,

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Speaker 4: because he has done a wonderful job, an absolute wonderful job,

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Speaker 4: of getting that deflected any blame that's on him. How

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Speaker 4: he did this even I don't know, So all hell

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Speaker 4: to the man in your letter, and we'll get back

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Speaker 4: into it when we come back.

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Speaker 2: All right, Steve.

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Speaker 1: All right, we'll have part two of your response coming

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Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry

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Speaker 1: letter subject leave my man out of your rumors. We'll

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Speaker 1: get back into that right after this. You're listening hard

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Speaker 1: morning show. All right, Steve, come on, let's recap today's

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Speaker 1: strawberry letter. This is a crazy one, leave my man

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Speaker 1: out of your rumors.

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Speaker 4: She won't everybody leave a man out the rumor, but

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Speaker 4: he created the rumor.

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Speaker 2: Men. But it's her father that's the main one.

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Speaker 4: Because the girl that your husband cheated with, he cheated

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Speaker 4: on you one time. But the husband, the girl that

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Speaker 4: your husband cheated with, works with your dad. So now

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Speaker 4: if the girls step away, take a call your daddy.

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Speaker 2: Trying to listen to it.

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Speaker 4: The girl leaves the job early, your dad call me

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Speaker 4: and tell me she up to no good.

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Speaker 2: I need to see where your husband is.

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Speaker 4: Then you say, your dad the last person need to

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Speaker 4: in middle school and you still at y'all still don't

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Speaker 2: Wow, what you worried about? That foulk?

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Speaker 4: And in this letter, like I said before we left.

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Speaker 4: I think we have a pattern for him in here,

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Speaker 4: because everybody fought sip your man. You think everybody is

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Speaker 4: unjustly targeting.

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Speaker 2: Him, and it may be, but you know, things don't

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Speaker 2: look good now out.

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Speaker 4: You said, while he's worried about me, my mother spends

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Speaker 4: all his money at the casino.

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Speaker 2: Oh, I bet you he know that. I bet you

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Speaker 2: he know that. Well, she's not gambling.

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Speaker 4: She's helping my dad spread all kinds of rumors about

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Speaker 4: my marriage because she's jealous.

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Speaker 2: That my man is a great father and provider. That's

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Speaker 2: what she's jealous. Are seem to me like her husband

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Speaker 2: is a great father and provider too.

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Speaker 4: He's looking out for his daughter, trying to protect her

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Speaker 4: keep going to the damn casino. So I think your

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Speaker 4: daddy is doing a fine job of providing and being

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Speaker 4: a great dad so far. And let's not forget that

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Speaker 4: other baby that he got that while.

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Speaker 2: You was in middle school.

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Speaker 4: And the reason you don't know, you don't know where

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Speaker 4: He's a great provided. Seemed like to me, he the

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Speaker 4: only person I can help in this letter is the father.

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Speaker 2: Because you and your husband, I ain't gonna be able

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Speaker 4: She started some new mess about my husband cheating, and

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Speaker 4: she told two of my aunts and this is what

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Speaker 4: she said. Friday night, my husband went to a comedy

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Speaker 4: show at the casino with his brother.

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Speaker 2: Your mama was there gambling, but.

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Speaker 4: She wasn't supposed to be there, so she said she

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Speaker 4: watched my husband from a father and he was with

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Speaker 4: the girl he cheated with. I told her that is

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Speaker 4: no way he is that stupid. Oh okay, well, well

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Speaker 4: no way he is that stupid to be in public

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Speaker 2: She kept insisting that it was him and her. So

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Speaker 4: You asked your husband, let's clear this up right away,

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Speaker 4: and guess what he said with his stupid ass.

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Speaker 3: What, Yes, she was there.

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Speaker 4: Now a minute ago you just said, there is no

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Speaker 4: Is a free country, so she can go see a

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Speaker 4: show if he want to, and it has nothing to

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Speaker 4: your mama wasn't at the comedy show. Your mama was

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Speaker 4: at the casino that whether she was supposed to be

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Speaker 4: or not. The comedy show is not in the middle

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Speaker 4: of the casino. I performed at many they have separate

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Speaker 4: rooms with soundstage lighting and everything. Comedy shows and singers

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Speaker 4: at hotels are just there to draw foot traffic, because

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Speaker 4: in order to go to the theater or the performer,

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Speaker 4: They are there merely as to create foot traffic into

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Speaker 2: So now I warned her.

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Speaker 4: My mother insists that I am brainwashed and that he

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Speaker 4: don't stop spreading rumors, I'm gonna tell my dad about

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Speaker 4: her gambling addiction. Lady, your daddy know that your daddy

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Speaker 4: knows she at the casino.

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Speaker 2: He cool with Dad. He's been tired of your.

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Speaker 4: Mama, so he let her go to the casino to gamble.

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Speaker 4: Here at the house chilling, he enjoyed hisself.

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Speaker 2: Peace.

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Speaker 4: Come with a call. Why can't they stop hating on

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Speaker 4: my Mari. I don't know if they hating on your

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Speaker 2: Now.

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Speaker 4: Your man is with her brother at the comedy show,

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Speaker 4: and she just happens to be at the comedy show

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Speaker 4: the girl he cheated with, and your mama saw him

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Speaker 4: at the casino, not at the comedy show. The comedy

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Speaker 4: gambling and she saw them at the casino, which means

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Speaker 4: they was outside the comedy show. Now, yeah, he can't

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Speaker 4: stop up from going to the comedy show, but he

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Speaker 4: can show arrange to meet her in the casino. So

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Speaker 4: stupid just didn't see your damn mama.

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Speaker 2: That's all this is.

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Speaker 4: And you blaming everybody but your man, So I can't

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Speaker 4: help you. But I do like your daddy though, I

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Speaker 4: do like your daddy a lot of this.

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