WEBVTT - Best Bits: Morgan & Amy Share Tiny Moments… Big Proud 0:00:00.840 --> 0:00:03.760 The Best Bits of the Week with Morgan. 0:00:03.480 --> 0:00:06.400 Part one behind a scene with a member of the show. 0:00:09.520 --> 0:00:12.600 Good morning, everybody, Welcome to the Best Bits. I hope you're 0:00:12.640 --> 0:00:15.680 having a great weekend. I'm joined this weekend by Amy. 0:00:15.680 --> 0:00:16.919 Amy. How are you hi? 0:00:17.120 --> 0:00:17.320 Good? 0:00:17.360 --> 0:00:18.560 How are you good? 0:00:18.680 --> 0:00:20.880 We are doing this a little bit earlier because we 0:00:20.920 --> 0:00:24.280 have so much CMA best stuff going on, but that 0:00:24.320 --> 0:00:26.280 means it is a little bit different. I'm not gonna 0:00:26.560 --> 0:00:28.520 describe the Best Bits. You're just gonna have to go 0:00:28.600 --> 0:00:30.520 check out part two and catch up on the Bobby 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:31.200 Bone Show that way. 0:00:31.280 --> 0:00:32.760 So that means Amy, you and I are. 0:00:32.680 --> 0:00:33.960 Just diveing ride in Okay? 0:00:34.080 --> 0:00:34.560 Is that cool? 0:00:34.640 --> 0:00:34.880 Yes? 0:00:35.880 --> 0:00:38.680 We need a little live update. What's been going on 0:00:39.040 --> 0:00:40.680 with you lately? Anything you want to share. 0:00:41.120 --> 0:00:43.160 My niece just moved in with me for the next 0:00:43.280 --> 0:00:43.960 eight weeks. 0:00:44.080 --> 0:00:45.000 She arrived this week. 0:00:45.040 --> 0:00:47.839 So she's going to be a junior at CU Boulder 0:00:48.040 --> 0:00:51.200 and she has to have an internship for her business degree, 0:00:51.320 --> 0:00:54.440 and so she just is living with me for eight 0:00:54.440 --> 0:00:56.160 weeks as my intern. 0:00:56.240 --> 0:00:59.120 Which is weird because she was so sweet. 0:00:59.160 --> 0:01:02.880 She sent me a tech asking and we recorded a 0:01:02.880 --> 0:01:05.800 little podcast actually, so it's my four Things episode this 0:01:05.840 --> 0:01:09.920 week she's going to do four different episodes with me, 0:01:10.040 --> 0:01:12.280 so for there's four Thursdays in the month of June, 0:01:12.480 --> 0:01:15.959 so she's gonna be my co host oh for them, 0:01:16.560 --> 0:01:20.920 and she's practicing just coming up with ideas and the 0:01:20.959 --> 0:01:21.680 one she came up. 0:01:21.760 --> 0:01:23.479 But this week is. 0:01:23.440 --> 0:01:28.400 About how she grew up in like the hangout house, okay, 0:01:28.600 --> 0:01:31.920 like her parents just always made it welcome for her friends. Yeah, 0:01:31.959 --> 0:01:33.399 and that's the kind of house I want to be. 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:37.000 But I'm a little bit more just not how my 0:01:37.040 --> 0:01:38.959 sister and I grew up. So that my sister and 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:41.920 her husband, they cultivated this environment for kids, and I 0:01:42.000 --> 0:01:44.720 am now now that I have teenagers, I'm taking notes 0:01:44.800 --> 0:01:46.479 like wait, what do I need to do? And why 0:01:46.520 --> 0:01:48.680 am I so rigid about this or uptight? And my 0:01:48.760 --> 0:01:53.240 sister can be that way too, just wanting order because 0:01:53.240 --> 0:01:55.360 we just feel better when our mom was that way. 0:01:55.520 --> 0:01:58.560 She felt better when she was vacuuming and there was lines, 0:01:58.640 --> 0:02:00.919 or for me, it's like when the laundry is folded 0:02:00.960 --> 0:02:03.600 and when the countertops are clean and some of that 0:02:03.640 --> 0:02:06.840 you just have to release and surrender no matter what 0:02:07.000 --> 0:02:09.120 anything looks like, and be okay with mess. 0:02:09.240 --> 0:02:14.880 But you're making connection over that sort of stuff, and 0:02:14.919 --> 0:02:16.040 so she just talked about. 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:17.480 Being a teenager and now that she's twenty one, she 0:02:17.520 --> 0:02:19.120 was like, I don't know that I appreciated it fully 0:02:19.120 --> 0:02:22.240 at the time. And it wasn't complicated, like they didn't 0:02:22.280 --> 0:02:25.640 overthink it. It just was easy. My mom just always 0:02:26.120 --> 0:02:29.280 made sure that if we were all outside doing something 0:02:29.320 --> 0:02:33.079 that she'd walk outside with a tray full of cheese toasts. 0:02:33.080 --> 0:02:36.440 So again nothing crazy. Is a piece of bread with 0:02:36.560 --> 0:02:38.160 cheese on top that she would throw in the oven 0:02:38.160 --> 0:02:39.920 at three fifty for a few minutes and let the 0:02:39.960 --> 0:02:42.880 cheese bubble up. So and the kids thought, well that 0:02:42.960 --> 0:02:45.040 was great. There was just always food. 0:02:45.360 --> 0:02:45.680 There was. 0:02:45.720 --> 0:02:47.640 If they would get in the hot tab, shoot my 0:02:47.720 --> 0:02:50.680 mom or my mom my sister, her mom would just 0:02:50.720 --> 0:02:53.640 walk out with towels right away and say like get in, 0:02:53.960 --> 0:02:58.440 like come, And then extra stools in the kitchen and 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:01.040 are in the dining room so that anybody could pull 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:02.840 a seat up to the table because they're a family 0:03:02.880 --> 0:03:05.400 of six and their table literally fits six, so you 0:03:05.480 --> 0:03:08.040 have to put a tiny stool up to the table. 0:03:08.360 --> 0:03:12.360 But they've squeezed you know, fifteen or more around and 0:03:12.400 --> 0:03:14.720 they did that often. So anyway, it's just something I've 0:03:14.720 --> 0:03:16.600 been thinking about as I move into a new house. 0:03:16.639 --> 0:03:19.360 That's another life update. I'm going to be moving and 0:03:19.400 --> 0:03:21.320 it's like, Okay, what do I want the energy of 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:24.120 this house to be? And while I want it to 0:03:24.120 --> 0:03:25.760 be a no shoes house. 0:03:26.000 --> 0:03:27.679 Hey, it's okay. You give mean no shoes and still 0:03:27.720 --> 0:03:28.160 be the house. 0:03:28.240 --> 0:03:29.359 That was how our house was. 0:03:29.480 --> 0:03:32.520 So I tried that in my home that I'm currently in, 0:03:32.800 --> 0:03:37.600 and it just it was difficult to implement, and that 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:40.760 is on me. I just wasn't disciplined enough. I do 0:03:40.840 --> 0:03:43.320 feel when you go into a new space, it's a 0:03:43.360 --> 0:03:46.320 new opportunity and mentally that's a good thing for me 0:03:46.480 --> 0:03:50.600 to just be like, Okay, new space, new behavior, and 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:53.520 my new behaviors for this new space are yeah, I 0:03:53.520 --> 0:03:58.200 would prefer it to be a no shoe house. And also, 0:03:59.280 --> 0:04:02.720 but you know, kids everywhere and friends everywhere, and people 0:04:02.760 --> 0:04:04.880 everywhere and some people that don't have kids. Adeline and 0:04:04.960 --> 0:04:08.640 I touch on that too, and just talk about that 0:04:08.960 --> 0:04:10.080 your friends are always welcome. 0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:11.600 I currently have a pool where I live. 0:04:11.840 --> 0:04:12.040 Don't. 0:04:12.080 --> 0:04:14.760 I won't at my new house. But I love that 0:04:14.840 --> 0:04:16.880 some of my girlfriends. I come home on a Saturday 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:19.040 after doing something and they're my backyard laying. 0:04:18.800 --> 0:04:22.040 Out because they they know how to get it. 0:04:22.080 --> 0:04:24.880 They just go make themselves at home, and I love 0:04:24.960 --> 0:04:27.400 coming home to that. I won't have that sort of 0:04:27.480 --> 0:04:29.760 vibe with my girlfriends at my new house, but one 0:04:29.800 --> 0:04:31.600 of my friends that uses it often, she's like, it's okay, 0:04:31.600 --> 0:04:33.200 I'm just gonna put a kiddy pool in your backyard. 0:04:33.200 --> 0:04:36.560 I'll be over because she just likes being in a home. 0:04:36.560 --> 0:04:38.440 She lives in an apartment and wants more of like 0:04:38.480 --> 0:04:41.400 a homie vibe when she needs a little break from 0:04:41.400 --> 0:04:43.960 her space. And so I guess I want to create that. 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:46.720 And Adeline said for some of her friends that didn't 0:04:46.760 --> 0:04:49.440 have a good family life, they were always it was 0:04:49.480 --> 0:04:51.919 always welcome. They could spend the night three, four or 0:04:51.920 --> 0:04:55.919 five nights in a row. And I just thought my 0:04:55.960 --> 0:04:58.159 sister would be a little more rigid than that, like 0:04:58.200 --> 0:05:01.279 even on school nights and stuff. But it was more 0:05:01.480 --> 0:05:06.200 connection over anything else. And we talk about, you know, 0:05:06.320 --> 0:05:08.920 some other stories I had with my teenage daughter recently 0:05:08.960 --> 0:05:11.680 where I could have been more uptight, but I decided 0:05:11.680 --> 0:05:14.320 to just chill out and it did. It created more 0:05:14.360 --> 0:05:16.880 space for connection with her and her friends, and I 0:05:17.000 --> 0:05:19.360 now feel like a safe space instead of a super 0:05:19.400 --> 0:05:22.120 strict mom. And then there's rules and boundaries. 0:05:22.839 --> 0:05:26.160 But so that's a two big life updates. 0:05:26.160 --> 0:05:29.039 My niece is living with me for a week's doing 0:05:29.080 --> 0:05:32.159 more than just the podcast stuff. But I just thought 0:05:32.240 --> 0:05:34.840 that would be a fun thing for her to work 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:38.720 on in addition to some other stuff that she's going 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:40.320 to be putting together or helping me with. 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:41.040 I don't know, I don't. 0:05:41.120 --> 0:05:42.520 I'm like, I don't really know what to do it 0:05:42.520 --> 0:05:44.200 in in turn, but we can come up with stuff 0:05:44.200 --> 0:05:47.599 and sure get you credit because it's not artificial iHeart thing, 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:51.600 it's you know, other stuff that I have going on 0:05:51.600 --> 0:05:55.320 on the side, even though the podcast is parted by heart, 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:57.880 but you know what I mean. And then moving that's 0:05:57.920 --> 0:05:59.919 the other update. So loaded question. 0:06:00.600 --> 0:06:05.280 I'm sorry, I started off very hard, coming very well. 0:06:05.360 --> 0:06:08.800 No, I mean I feel comfortable with those two updates. 0:06:09.120 --> 0:06:09.440 I'm not. 0:06:09.880 --> 0:06:13.280 I feel like they're there. They were ones that feel 0:06:13.440 --> 0:06:15.599 really good to me. 0:06:15.640 --> 0:06:18.320 I'm very happy about both of those things. 0:06:18.480 --> 0:06:18.720 Good. 0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:23.120 I don't have any you know, want want updates for you. 0:06:23.120 --> 0:06:25.239 No, those are good updates. They're fun updates. 0:06:25.240 --> 0:06:27.640 A lot happening and a lot of movement happening. Around 0:06:27.640 --> 0:06:29.360 a house in particular. 0:06:29.560 --> 0:06:31.360 Yeah, what was your house like as a kid. 0:06:31.680 --> 0:06:35.280 Oh yeah, we were definitely the hosting household. Now it 0:06:35.320 --> 0:06:37.440 was more of my parents, just we. We also had 0:06:37.440 --> 0:06:39.440 a pool. I think a pool is a gathering spot 0:06:39.440 --> 0:06:41.800 and that helps a lot. But we just always hung 0:06:41.800 --> 0:06:43.680 out at my house or we'd be running back and 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:46.400 forth between The cool thing when we were growing up 0:06:46.440 --> 0:06:48.320 is a lot of us lived by each other, so 0:06:48.360 --> 0:06:50.360 we'd be running around the neighborhood and we'd just pop 0:06:50.400 --> 0:06:51.719 into everybody's different house. 0:06:51.800 --> 0:06:53.480 So it was like back and forth, and the parents 0:06:53.520 --> 0:06:54.640 were like wherethy at now? 0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:57.160 But it was one of the three or four houses 0:06:57.200 --> 0:06:59.359 in the neighborhood, so they knew they could locate us 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:00.600 somewhere if they were needed to. 0:07:01.120 --> 0:07:02.480 But I loved that. 0:07:02.520 --> 0:07:04.479 I loved being able to just go into each and 0:07:04.520 --> 0:07:08.000 it felt like everybody was family. So it was a 0:07:08.040 --> 0:07:11.720 similar vibe of the hosting house, but we had multiple 0:07:11.720 --> 0:07:12.280 of them. 0:07:12.520 --> 0:07:16.920 Yeah, so yeah, I that's I interview your parents and 0:07:16.960 --> 0:07:18.160 see how they, you know. 0:07:18.400 --> 0:07:21.000 Created that they're dead to rigid too. 0:07:22.280 --> 0:07:24.920 Okay, so for them, they're rigid, but it also probably 0:07:24.960 --> 0:07:26.880 so it took some intention from them of like, hey, 0:07:26.920 --> 0:07:30.120 we'd rather have them here than who knows where, and. 0:07:30.080 --> 0:07:31.880 They always said that they would always be like, hey, 0:07:31.880 --> 0:07:33.520 we want to make sure you're safe and we want 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:36.320 to make sure that you are comfortable, but definitely we 0:07:36.360 --> 0:07:38.280 have rules. Like I was doing my dad the next 0:07:38.280 --> 0:07:40.520 morning he's like, we are cleaning this house and I'm 0:07:40.560 --> 0:07:43.360 like okay, And that was like hard at the time. 0:07:43.400 --> 0:07:45.040 Now I understand. I'm the same way. I'm like, I 0:07:45.080 --> 0:07:47.760 always want my house clean. So they had their moments 0:07:47.800 --> 0:07:49.480 where it'd be like, go have fun, and then the 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:51.960 next morning, okay, time to clean, So there was the 0:07:52.040 --> 0:07:53.280 balance between the two. 0:07:53.640 --> 0:07:57.760 Adeline shared an expectation her parents have and she's like, 0:07:57.800 --> 0:08:00.280 my friends, no, She's like, especially my best best friends. 0:08:00.040 --> 0:08:01.480 That were there a lot. 0:08:03.360 --> 0:08:05.320 You'll if you go listen to the podcast it's four 0:08:05.360 --> 0:08:07.160 Things where they meet Brown, you can hear more about 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:09.600 it because there's a lot of little nuggets that I 0:08:09.640 --> 0:08:13.120 never really thought about. But it's serving both sides of 0:08:13.160 --> 0:08:16.160 the table. So my sister and her husband, they will 0:08:16.200 --> 0:08:18.320 serve the kids, but they're not going to do it 0:08:18.320 --> 0:08:20.960 to a point of exhaustion and that you're not contributing, 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:23.320 because some parents will do that if they just want 0:08:23.320 --> 0:08:25.680 their friends everybody to have a good time, and they 0:08:25.680 --> 0:08:29.080 wear themselves out. And that's not what my sister does either. 0:08:29.200 --> 0:08:33.000 She keeps it simple. She loves having everybody, but serving 0:08:33.040 --> 0:08:37.760 both sides of the table is a requirement of entry, 0:08:38.040 --> 0:08:42.520 which means, you know, she may set up a taco 0:08:42.600 --> 0:08:45.520 bar or something like something easy like throw chicken in 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:47.960 the crockpot and shredded chicken with some tortillas and make 0:08:48.000 --> 0:08:50.120 it easy for a lot of kids to eat, and 0:08:50.200 --> 0:08:53.360 everybody gather around the table, and you're required like, let's 0:08:53.360 --> 0:08:55.920 gather around the table and really be together, even if 0:08:55.960 --> 0:08:58.240 it's just for ten minutes, and then you'll go back outside. 0:08:58.720 --> 0:09:00.679 But once you're done, you pick up and you go 0:09:00.840 --> 0:09:04.400 into the kitchen and everybody pitches in cleaning up, and 0:09:04.440 --> 0:09:07.480 it happens that moment. It's not weighted or excuse me, 0:09:07.679 --> 0:09:09.400 is wait, it's not weighted. I don't know why I 0:09:09.400 --> 0:09:12.000 said it that way. It's not something they delay until later. 0:09:12.080 --> 0:09:14.679 They just go ahead and do it, and it's an 0:09:14.720 --> 0:09:19.040 act of service. Full circle, and that she said that 0:09:19.080 --> 0:09:20.800 has helped a lot. And she goes, we'll make it fun, 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:23.040 like we'll set a timer and everybody does their quick 0:09:23.080 --> 0:09:25.200 pu we turn on music, we have dance party in 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:28.040 the kitchen. But really, I mean, their house is just 0:09:28.080 --> 0:09:30.719 always full of kids, so you have to have some 0:09:30.800 --> 0:09:33.880 structure in order to the chaos, and so serving both 0:09:33.880 --> 0:09:35.520 sides of the table was a way that they do that, 0:09:35.679 --> 0:09:39.319 And I thought, gosh, I my brain would be like, oh, 0:09:39.320 --> 0:09:41.920 I just want them to have fun, so we'll leave 0:09:41.920 --> 0:09:45.000 the kitchen a mess and figure it out later. And 0:09:45.120 --> 0:09:47.840 now I'm going to just have a different way of 0:09:47.960 --> 0:09:50.560 thinking with that, which I think will serve them well too, 0:09:50.640 --> 0:09:52.679 and how they grow up and how they interact and 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:55.559 what they do instead of me trying to please, please, please, 0:09:55.600 --> 0:09:58.720 which then makes me more tired and then more rigid, 0:09:58.760 --> 0:10:00.640 and then it's a domino effect and then I'm like, oh, 0:10:00.760 --> 0:10:01.640 never mind, I don't. 0:10:01.440 --> 0:10:02.720 Want these kids in my home. 0:10:03.080 --> 0:10:03.400 Yeah. 0:10:03.480 --> 0:10:05.480 Yeah, you gotta allow them to help you out, And 0:10:05.520 --> 0:10:08.320 I think that's an important part of that for sure. Well, 0:10:08.360 --> 0:10:13.199 I don't have any massive, feel like life updates, but 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:15.520 I did just get back from passion Palm Springs. 0:10:15.559 --> 0:10:18.120 I feel like you have some life updates, but you 0:10:18.200 --> 0:10:19.040 sure what you want? 0:10:20.400 --> 0:10:22.760 Well, you're like a little all over the place. 0:10:22.800 --> 0:10:26.720 Oh, my goodness, travel bog lately, my life feels super chaotic. 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:29.840 But I did just plan an entire bacherette trip for 0:10:29.880 --> 0:10:33.240 my sister in Palm Springs, and I had so much fun. 0:10:33.720 --> 0:10:35.920 I loved Palm Springs. I don't know what I was 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:39.640 expecting going out there. It's definitely a desert, but Palm Springs, 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:41.920 the little town sits at the bottom of a mountain, 0:10:42.360 --> 0:10:44.320 and it's just beautiful views all the time, and it 0:10:44.360 --> 0:10:48.199 feels amazing. Some moments are really spicy, very hot because 0:10:48.200 --> 0:10:51.400 you're in the desert, but we have the best time. 0:10:51.559 --> 0:10:54.320 I drove a ten passenger van for the first time. 0:10:55.120 --> 0:10:57.120 Can you imagine me just sitting there in this huge, 0:10:57.160 --> 0:10:59.520 giant white van. No, and I drove all of us 0:10:59.559 --> 0:11:01.520 around in Joshua Tree National Park. 0:11:02.720 --> 0:11:04.959 So you're you rented that all about yourself. 0:11:05.040 --> 0:11:06.679 I rented it, went picked it up from the airport 0:11:06.720 --> 0:11:09.000 while everybody was getting ready, got it back, and I 0:11:09.080 --> 0:11:11.680 got us all the Joshua Tree and everybody was safe. 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:14.880 It was great and we had so much fun in 0:11:14.920 --> 0:11:16.400 like the actual Joshua Tree, which. 0:11:16.200 --> 0:11:19.400 Feels very otherworldly, which I did not know. 0:11:19.520 --> 0:11:22.679 Joshua trees are called the Tree of Life, which is 0:11:22.720 --> 0:11:23.240 super cool. 0:11:24.040 --> 0:11:24.600 They look like. 0:11:24.520 --> 0:11:27.160 Doctor Seus's trees something you'd see in a doctor Seus's book, 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:28.520 very spyly worldly. 0:11:28.880 --> 0:11:30.200 So it's cool the seal of those. 0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:35.240 But we did get in Joshua Tree National Park. So bees, 0:11:35.280 --> 0:11:39.520 bumblebees are apparently very dehydrated in places like the desert, 0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:44.240 so they're kind of, uh, super chaotic and looking for water. Well, 0:11:44.280 --> 0:11:46.200 we parked in one of this area where there was 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:50.679 all these giant cactuses everywhere, and as soon as we parked, 0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:53.040 we didn't know this going in. We were supposed to 0:11:53.040 --> 0:11:54.960 like sit in the cart for ten minutes and let 0:11:54.960 --> 0:11:58.160 the air conditioner like dry out. Well, we got out 0:11:58.200 --> 0:12:03.160 immediately and there were bees swarm everywhere everywhere like chaotically 0:12:03.240 --> 0:12:07.040 wanted the perspiration off of us. They wanted the air 0:12:07.360 --> 0:12:10.280 like the basically the dripping hydration that came out of 0:12:10.280 --> 0:12:11.400 the air condition of the van. 0:12:11.840 --> 0:12:14.000 They were everywhere. You would have thought that, like these 0:12:14.040 --> 0:12:15.319 bees were swarming over. 0:12:15.679 --> 0:12:18.360 Like a dead body somewhere. That's what the chaoticness of 0:12:18.480 --> 0:12:21.840 what it felt like. And so we were in this 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:25.040 it was called the Cholla Cactus Garden for maybe ten 0:12:25.080 --> 0:12:27.800 minutes because everybody kept screaming. One of the girls got 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:33.199 stung by a bee like p are chaos, and then 0:12:33.240 --> 0:12:35.600 my mom couldn't get she had actually hit like the 0:12:36.440 --> 0:12:40.079 emergency part break on the van and she couldn't get 0:12:40.080 --> 0:12:42.160 it to back out. While I'm just like frolicking in 0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:44.720 the cactus garden and then I hear all these screams, 0:12:44.720 --> 0:12:46.760 so I like come out and there's like just pure 0:12:46.840 --> 0:12:48.320 chaos of bees everywhere. 0:12:48.360 --> 0:12:50.199 Know that about bees, you would think they would just 0:12:50.360 --> 0:12:51.840 migrate to where they could get water. 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:53.120 Yeah, I don't know. 0:12:53.200 --> 0:12:55.560 I don't know if they're like make migration is different. 0:12:55.640 --> 0:12:57.760 Then you know how birds can fly forever. If bees 0:12:57.760 --> 0:12:59.920 can only go a certain oh yeah about. 0:12:59.640 --> 0:13:01.440 I think they have lived an about but I mean 0:13:01.440 --> 0:13:03.600 they could take a little plane, a road trip, take 0:13:03.840 --> 0:13:04.559 take on a minute. 0:13:04.600 --> 0:13:06.559 But a few miles of the tower from. 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:09.800 The cac Die is cac Die, I believe it is. Yeah, 0:13:09.920 --> 0:13:14.000 so then they get it from there. But that makes sense. 0:13:14.040 --> 0:13:17.319 I feel like I run around chaotic, dehydrated. 0:13:17.840 --> 0:13:19.600 Yeah, when you need water, like I get it. They 0:13:19.600 --> 0:13:21.120 want to support their beehive. 0:13:20.800 --> 0:13:23.000 And sometimes when that's happening, you're a little kaotic. 0:13:23.120 --> 0:13:25.600 So that was our b experience in Joshua Tree and 0:13:25.600 --> 0:13:27.600 then me driving the passenger van. 0:13:27.800 --> 0:13:30.880 So it was It was really fun though, like, besides. 0:13:30.720 --> 0:13:34.320 Besides that moment and the beasting and everything, we had 0:13:34.360 --> 0:13:35.959 so much fun and palm springs. 0:13:35.960 --> 0:13:38.520 I did karaoke at a bar. I did karaoke in 0:13:38.520 --> 0:13:38.920 an uber. 0:13:40.040 --> 0:13:40.760 Oh they had that. 0:13:40.960 --> 0:13:43.040 Yeah, I've never done that. I've just seen it, like 0:13:43.120 --> 0:13:44.560 people post about it or on TV. 0:13:44.760 --> 0:13:45.679 There's that show. 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:48.800 Yeah, there was a guy and he didn't speak much English, 0:13:48.880 --> 0:13:51.080 and I think his way of connecting with people was 0:13:51.120 --> 0:13:53.200 through music, which I thought was a really cool idea. 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:55.920 And he he was like, I don't he basically he 0:13:55.960 --> 0:13:58.200 could say I don't speak English, and he just pointed 0:13:58.200 --> 0:13:59.720 to the microphone. And I was in the front seat. 0:13:59.720 --> 0:14:02.160 I was like, well, yes, we're doing karaoke and the tuber. 0:14:02.040 --> 0:14:04.440 Today, So I didn't man, I feel like a woman 0:14:04.480 --> 0:14:06.040 by Schneich pain and he got a great show. 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:07.640 That's fun during it. 0:14:08.080 --> 0:14:10.080 But yeah, it was fun. That feels like my big 0:14:10.120 --> 0:14:11.520 life update right now. 0:14:12.080 --> 0:14:14.440 So being at a bachelorette party and planning for your 0:14:14.480 --> 0:14:17.600 sister's wedding does it make you want to get married? 0:14:18.920 --> 0:14:19.200 You know? 0:14:19.320 --> 0:14:20.720 I think it kind of does the opposite. 0:14:20.920 --> 0:14:21.960 Okay, I want to. 0:14:22.080 --> 0:14:24.080 I want to get married one day, but I don't 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:26.400 know that I want the full thing. Like I would 0:14:26.400 --> 0:14:28.320 totally be okay with running off getting married on the 0:14:28.320 --> 0:14:31.040 mountain and saying, hey, guess what, I'm married and not 0:14:31.360 --> 0:14:33.880 doing all the planning and stuff. There's so much that 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:37.120 goes into it, and so much money and so much time, 0:14:37.280 --> 0:14:41.240 and like, I want to be celebrated by everybody that 0:14:41.360 --> 0:14:43.600 I love, and I think that part is really cool, 0:14:44.120 --> 0:14:47.360 But gosh, the stress that I've just seen. I'm in 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:50.000 three weddings this year, and I've just watched people be 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:53.880 so stressed out and spent so much money on weddings 0:14:54.520 --> 0:14:57.360 and bringing everybody together, which I think is super cool. 0:14:57.600 --> 0:14:59.360 But I don't know. 0:14:59.520 --> 0:15:02.400 I'm I'm leaning towards now watching this whole experience of 0:15:02.440 --> 0:15:05.480 being like, you know, whoever wants to come, we're going 0:15:05.560 --> 0:15:07.800 to be on this now and at this time. Come 0:15:07.880 --> 0:15:11.080 if you want to, don't, It's cool. We'll be back 0:15:11.080 --> 0:15:12.880 and we'll be married, you know what I mean. 0:15:13.000 --> 0:15:16.160 Yeah, I was just talking to another friend actually that 0:15:16.800 --> 0:15:19.440 is in a pretty serious relationship now, and. 0:15:19.400 --> 0:15:21.600 It got serious fast. It's sort of like you. 0:15:23.000 --> 0:15:27.280 And they met on hinge or bumble or whatever, and 0:15:27.880 --> 0:15:30.240 she's had a pretty rocky dating relationship. 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:32.360 But it's crazy to. 0:15:32.280 --> 0:15:35.040 Think that this one day it's now changed everything for her. 0:15:35.160 --> 0:15:39.320 I mean, they are definitely planning on getting married, and 0:15:39.720 --> 0:15:42.160 she doesn't want a wedding similar to you, or she 0:15:42.200 --> 0:15:43.640 could take it or leave it sort of. She just 0:15:43.720 --> 0:15:46.760 doesn't want to deal with that. But he really wants 0:15:47.400 --> 0:15:52.320 the full shebang. Okay, yeah, which is which is interesting 0:15:52.360 --> 0:15:53.680 because you think could be flipped. 0:15:53.720 --> 0:15:56.560 But well, I think so much of the planning traditionally 0:15:56.640 --> 0:15:58.480 would go on the women. I think men are becoming 0:15:58.520 --> 0:15:59.920 more involved, which is really cool to see. 0:16:00.080 --> 0:16:02.760 My sister, my sister's fiance is very involved. 0:16:02.760 --> 0:16:04.240 He wants to be a part of all the planning 0:16:04.280 --> 0:16:06.160 and everything, which has been cool to watch. 0:16:06.200 --> 0:16:08.240 But it is it's a lot of pressure, a lot 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:08.560 of time. 0:16:08.640 --> 0:16:11.000 It's like a second job trying to plan a whole 0:16:11.040 --> 0:16:14.360 event like that. So I do get it, and I 0:16:14.440 --> 0:16:16.680 have the same I have a friend they got married 0:16:16.920 --> 0:16:19.000 or they got they met each other in October of 0:16:19.080 --> 0:16:23.680 last year, got engaged like a month and a half ago, 0:16:23.800 --> 0:16:27.200 and they're getting married this September. Insane turn around, like 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:29.960 of time, but they're just like madly in love and 0:16:30.480 --> 0:16:31.320 ready to be married. 0:16:31.400 --> 0:16:33.880 I'm like, okay, here we go. But one year in 0:16:33.880 --> 0:16:34.840 a wedding, that's a lot. 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:37.680 So that's what's going on, a lot of wedding stuff 0:16:37.800 --> 0:16:40.680 for everybody else, not me. I'm not getting married this year. 0:16:40.760 --> 0:16:43.280 I'm just participating in a lot of them. 0:16:43.480 --> 0:16:44.800 And we're only halfway through the year. 0:16:46.160 --> 0:16:47.360 All right, we're gonna take a quick break. 0:16:47.360 --> 0:16:47.920 We'll be right back. 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:50.760 All right. 0:16:50.800 --> 0:16:54.240 What is something you've done? After seeing it on the internet, 0:16:54.240 --> 0:16:55.920 and the reason I asked this, I can kind of 0:16:56.120 --> 0:16:57.400 give you what happened to me. 0:16:57.800 --> 0:17:01.560 I had seen a psychologist on TikTok about if you 0:17:01.800 --> 0:17:06.399 dress up during your errand running, more people will respect you, 0:17:06.400 --> 0:17:10.000 you might get better interactions, and things will just naturally 0:17:10.080 --> 0:17:12.280 go better for you because you're presenting yourself in this 0:17:12.840 --> 0:17:17.080 pretty respectful manner rather than being in your yoga pants 0:17:17.119 --> 0:17:20.119 and sweatpants and your hair thrown about. I was like, okay, well, 0:17:20.280 --> 0:17:22.280