1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:01,840 Speaker 1: And I don't think you have that yet. I don't 2 00:00:01,880 --> 00:00:03,920 Speaker 1: think you've shifted that way. I don't think you've looked 3 00:00:03,920 --> 00:00:18,159 Speaker 1: at love as self less. Hey, everybody, welcome back to 4 00:00:18,200 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: the podcast. Thank you for listening. Wherever you're coming from, 5 00:00:21,920 --> 00:00:24,040 Speaker 1: I appreciate you. This is one of my favorite things 6 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:27,479 Speaker 1: to do, to go through your questions and just walk 7 00:00:27,520 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: through them. It takes really no preparation on my end. 8 00:00:30,320 --> 00:00:34,520 Speaker 1: I'm literally just coming in here and opening up these 9 00:00:34,560 --> 00:00:38,519 Speaker 1: emails and walking through them with no notes or quotes 10 00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:41,040 Speaker 1: in front of me. As if we're just two friends 11 00:00:41,080 --> 00:00:43,559 Speaker 1: riding in the truck and you say, hey, man, can 12 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:46,640 Speaker 1: I run something by you? And I talked through it. 13 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 1: That means that I'm not always right, you know. I'm 14 00:00:49,800 --> 00:00:52,800 Speaker 1: just giving you the best advice that I would give 15 00:00:52,840 --> 00:00:57,360 Speaker 1: a friend. And sometimes it's just like a knee jerk response, 16 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:02,000 Speaker 1: right because I'm not always Sometimes I'm not always thinking 17 00:01:02,040 --> 00:01:03,560 Speaker 1: it all the way through. I'm just like, hey, there's 18 00:01:03,600 --> 00:01:05,759 Speaker 1: my first here's my first response, so take it as 19 00:01:05,760 --> 00:01:10,800 Speaker 1: you will. The email for this is podcast at grangersmith 20 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:13,560 Speaker 1: dot com. This is a new email that used to 21 00:01:13,840 --> 00:01:16,960 Speaker 1: what it used to be, so podcast at grangersmith dot com. 22 00:01:16,959 --> 00:01:19,600 Speaker 1: It's a new email. Shoot me over an email and 23 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:23,920 Speaker 1: try to make it about a phone link long. If 24 00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 1: you make it too long, it gets more difficult to 25 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:29,760 Speaker 1: read on the podcast. But let's jump right into these 26 00:01:30,360 --> 00:01:33,600 Speaker 1: and there is there's no rhyme or reason today to 27 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:38,680 Speaker 1: what we're going to do. Okay, first question says help 28 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:41,960 Speaker 1: subject line, and the email says, I'm fifty eight years 29 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:45,679 Speaker 1: old and no one loves me. I give and give, 30 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 1: but no one helps me when I need it. That's 31 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:51,880 Speaker 1: the end of the email. It says sent from my iPad. 32 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:57,680 Speaker 1: So we've got an anonymous emailer here and fifty eight 33 00:01:57,720 --> 00:02:01,520 Speaker 1: years old, and there's just one simple plea. It says, 34 00:02:02,320 --> 00:02:05,400 Speaker 1: I give and I give, but no one helps me 35 00:02:05,600 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 1: when I need it. No one loves me. It's so 36 00:02:10,760 --> 00:02:14,360 Speaker 1: interesting if we if we if we take something so 37 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: simple without knowing any context, without knowing this person, without 38 00:02:19,520 --> 00:02:22,280 Speaker 1: knowing their situation or their story, or maybe what has 39 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:25,680 Speaker 1: triggered this, maybe something that has happened recently, or maybe 40 00:02:25,680 --> 00:02:28,440 Speaker 1: this is something that's been going on over and over 41 00:02:28,520 --> 00:02:33,160 Speaker 1: and over. It's interesting that we can take a lot 42 00:02:33,240 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 1: from just these two sentences. Right, So, without context, without 43 00:02:38,800 --> 00:02:46,720 Speaker 1: knowing this person, I would say you you think you're 44 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 1: thinking that love requires reciprocation. Okay, you say no one 45 00:02:58,360 --> 00:03:02,600 Speaker 1: loves me period. Or you could say because I give 46 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 1: and give, but no one helps me when I need it. 47 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 1: So you're saying to qualify someone to love you, they 48 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 1: must help you when you need them or when you 49 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:21,480 Speaker 1: need help. Okay. It's interesting because when you say I 50 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:24,880 Speaker 1: give and give, it's almost is once again no context here, 51 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:29,400 Speaker 1: it's almost if you give and give and expect help 52 00:03:29,440 --> 00:03:33,520 Speaker 1: and return. That's not strange that you expect that, right 53 00:03:33,560 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: that that would be normal to think I'm paying in 54 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:40,560 Speaker 1: so that I can get paid back. But that's not love. 55 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:45,840 Speaker 1: That's what's crazy. If we think about it just from 56 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: these two sentences. Love is never self searching, self desiring, 57 00:03:56,440 --> 00:04:03,720 Speaker 1: self needing, self replenishing. It's always outward. It's not anything 58 00:04:03,760 --> 00:04:08,160 Speaker 1: that you get back. So if you are not speaking 59 00:04:08,200 --> 00:04:13,960 Speaker 1: about them, if you are loving and expecting something back, 60 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:19,640 Speaker 1: then I would question is that love? Once again no 61 00:04:19,720 --> 00:04:21,880 Speaker 1: context here. So I don't know your story, but it's 62 00:04:21,960 --> 00:04:24,520 Speaker 1: interesting to think of it in that way. What if 63 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:28,720 Speaker 1: you went with the mindset of hey, I'm gonna whoever 64 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:30,920 Speaker 1: this person is, Hey, brother, I'm gonna help you out. 65 00:04:32,120 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be there for you. I'm gonna listen to you. 66 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: I'm gonna i'm gonna learn your love language. I'm gonna 67 00:04:38,120 --> 00:04:42,359 Speaker 1: bring you a gift. I'm gonna give you acts of service. 68 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'm gonna give you words of affirmation. I'm 69 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna be here just to sit with you 70 00:04:47,040 --> 00:04:49,960 Speaker 1: in empathy. And by the way, I don't need anything 71 00:04:49,960 --> 00:04:55,080 Speaker 1: from you, nothing, nothing, I don't need. I don't need 72 00:04:55,120 --> 00:05:00,720 Speaker 1: you to reciprocate any of this. I just as gratitude 73 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:03,120 Speaker 1: of my love for you. I'm just I'm just giving 74 00:05:03,160 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 1: you this unmerited favor. This is my grace towards you. Right. 75 00:05:09,880 --> 00:05:13,960 Speaker 1: I wonder if that kind of mind shift changes things, 76 00:05:15,320 --> 00:05:16,919 Speaker 1: and it might not. I mean, you might just be 77 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:22,400 Speaker 1: around the wrong people. But no one is unlovable. Let's 78 00:05:22,400 --> 00:05:26,520 Speaker 1: put it that way. You are not unlovable. There's no way. 79 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:31,200 Speaker 1: There's no human on this planet that is unlovable. Now, 80 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:35,640 Speaker 1: sometimes it takes that switch, that that mind switch, that shift, 81 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:38,159 Speaker 1: and I don't think you have that yet. I don't 82 00:05:38,400 --> 00:05:40,480 Speaker 1: think you've shifted that way. I don't think you've looked 83 00:05:40,480 --> 00:05:44,000 Speaker 1: at love as self less. I think you're looking at 84 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:47,000 Speaker 1: it as you're needing. You're needing, You're needing. I'm giving, 85 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:49,919 Speaker 1: I'm giving, Granger, I'm giving, but I'm not getting anything. 86 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:55,919 Speaker 1: I go, oh, that's not love. That's not love because 87 00:05:56,320 --> 00:06:01,480 Speaker 1: it doesn't require anything in return. That's interesting, right. I 88 00:06:01,480 --> 00:06:05,000 Speaker 1: hope this helps you. Just two sentences, but pretty deep here. 89 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:15,920 Speaker 1: Next question, it says grandma in law. That's the subject line. 90 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:19,479 Speaker 1: Three years ago, it says when my youngest son was born, 91 00:06:20,360 --> 00:06:24,279 Speaker 1: my wife's grandma called me. This was after he was 92 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:28,600 Speaker 1: born nine weeks premature and was spending time in the NICU, 93 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:31,120 Speaker 1: which turned out to be a six week stay. During 94 00:06:31,160 --> 00:06:33,600 Speaker 1: this time, I had to stay at home, an hour 95 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:35,400 Speaker 1: away from the hospital, to work and take care of 96 00:06:35,440 --> 00:06:38,159 Speaker 1: the dog. My wife was staying with her parents and 97 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 1: our oldest son. I had two weeks of paternity leave 98 00:06:42,080 --> 00:06:44,800 Speaker 1: that I used when he was born and another one 99 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:47,760 Speaker 1: when he came. The issue arose when she called me 100 00:06:48,080 --> 00:06:49,960 Speaker 1: and told me that I was not being a man 101 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:53,159 Speaker 1: and taking care of my family. She said I needed 102 00:06:53,160 --> 00:06:56,679 Speaker 1: to be there for them through everything. At the time, 103 00:06:56,960 --> 00:06:59,320 Speaker 1: we were not in a financial situation where I could 104 00:06:59,360 --> 00:07:02,159 Speaker 1: commute that far every day and pay for someone to 105 00:07:02,200 --> 00:07:05,680 Speaker 1: take care of our dog. To me, staying and working 106 00:07:06,200 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 1: was how I had to take care of my family. 107 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 1: They had to have a roof over their head and 108 00:07:12,480 --> 00:07:14,400 Speaker 1: they were out of the hospital. When they were out 109 00:07:14,400 --> 00:07:16,560 Speaker 1: of the hospital. Am I wrong for doing this? How 110 00:07:16,560 --> 00:07:18,240 Speaker 1: do I forgive her for telling me that I'm not 111 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:21,160 Speaker 1: a good husband. It's been weighing on me for three 112 00:07:21,320 --> 00:07:24,920 Speaker 1: years and she refuses to apologize. I see it as 113 00:07:24,960 --> 00:07:28,239 Speaker 1: my job as the sole provider to provide and ensure 114 00:07:28,320 --> 00:07:30,560 Speaker 1: my family's taking care of. Thanks for your time. Please 115 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:34,160 Speaker 1: keep this anonymous if you read it on your podcast. Okay, 116 00:07:34,320 --> 00:07:36,560 Speaker 1: I appreciate you, ma'am. Thanks for emailing. I think I 117 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:43,160 Speaker 1: got your situation. And what's interesting is, hmm, it's interesting 118 00:07:43,160 --> 00:07:45,840 Speaker 1: how these two questions so far in this episode have 119 00:07:46,160 --> 00:07:49,600 Speaker 1: kind of correlated together, because you could almost say that 120 00:07:49,640 --> 00:07:53,840 Speaker 1: the first question I got that said I give and 121 00:07:53,880 --> 00:07:58,880 Speaker 1: give and I get nothing. It's a shorter version of 122 00:07:58,920 --> 00:08:02,080 Speaker 1: what this email was, just a lot more detail and 123 00:08:02,120 --> 00:08:07,880 Speaker 1: a lot longer. This is someone who is expecting something 124 00:08:08,320 --> 00:08:11,880 Speaker 1: out of their love. They're expecting something and not in 125 00:08:11,920 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: a not in a healthy way. Because of course, of course, listen, y'all, 126 00:08:15,320 --> 00:08:18,760 Speaker 1: don't hear me wrong that when you love, there's there 127 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:22,520 Speaker 1: is an expectation that, for instance, a spouse in this case, 128 00:08:22,720 --> 00:08:26,160 Speaker 1: there's an expectation that the spouse gives back and loves 129 00:08:26,200 --> 00:08:30,280 Speaker 1: you back. But just because that expectation, a level of 130 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:34,400 Speaker 1: that expectation is there, doesn't mean that that's why you 131 00:08:34,520 --> 00:08:37,959 Speaker 1: do it, right? Does that make sense? You love not 132 00:08:38,040 --> 00:08:41,640 Speaker 1: expecting anything, but you also know that there is an 133 00:08:41,679 --> 00:08:44,560 Speaker 1: expectation that you'll get it. But that's not why you love. 134 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:48,600 Speaker 1: You love out of your own grace. That would is unmerited, 135 00:08:48,880 --> 00:08:51,200 Speaker 1: favored you. You have a favor on your wife. You 136 00:08:51,280 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 1: love your wife. You you're so pleased with your wife. 137 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:56,679 Speaker 1: You want to give to your wife. When when you 138 00:08:56,720 --> 00:08:59,560 Speaker 1: say your vows, you say until death do us part. 139 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 1: You say for better or for worse, and sickness and 140 00:09:05,280 --> 00:09:10,720 Speaker 1: in health, you love regardless of what you get out 141 00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:14,400 Speaker 1: of it. That's true love loving your spouse in a 142 00:09:14,440 --> 00:09:18,319 Speaker 1: way that, regardless of what you get out of it, 143 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:23,760 Speaker 1: how you benefit from it from her, you still give 144 00:09:23,800 --> 00:09:26,360 Speaker 1: it because you love her. That's what you said in 145 00:09:26,360 --> 00:09:28,439 Speaker 1: your vowels. That's what it means to say for better 146 00:09:28,559 --> 00:09:34,280 Speaker 1: or for worse, you love, you give, You're not needing 147 00:09:34,320 --> 00:09:38,080 Speaker 1: anything back. And what's crazy about it is when love 148 00:09:38,480 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 1: works in that way, in that selfless way, you do 149 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:48,120 Speaker 1: get it back. That's the circle, right. It's crazy how 150 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:51,880 Speaker 1: many episodes we've done and and kind of hit on 151 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:55,040 Speaker 1: the same thing. It's crazy that of all the questions 152 00:09:55,160 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 1: is complex as they get in all the problems. So 153 00:09:58,840 --> 00:10:05,120 Speaker 1: many times it's fi by being selfless, stop worrying about yourself, 154 00:10:05,280 --> 00:10:08,560 Speaker 1: stop needing things for yourself, and you go, but Granger, 155 00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:12,040 Speaker 1: I don't get anything. I say, stop stop being needy, 156 00:10:12,120 --> 00:10:16,480 Speaker 1: stop wanting, stop needing to have yourself filled up by them. 157 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:20,480 Speaker 1: And it's crazy. Then when you do stop needing it, 158 00:10:21,280 --> 00:10:26,160 Speaker 1: you actually get it. You actually get what you originally wanted, 159 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:31,280 Speaker 1: just because you started being selfless. And she said, she said, 160 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:33,720 Speaker 1: what do you need from me? And you say, maybe 161 00:10:33,840 --> 00:10:36,520 Speaker 1: I need nothing from you. I just want to get 162 00:10:36,520 --> 00:10:38,360 Speaker 1: I just want to serve you. I want to be 163 00:10:38,400 --> 00:10:41,280 Speaker 1: here for you. How could I be a better husband 164 00:10:41,400 --> 00:10:44,160 Speaker 1: when she says you were not here for us during 165 00:10:44,160 --> 00:10:49,640 Speaker 1: the pregnancy. Listen, ma'am, it doesn't matter what your story is. 166 00:10:49,760 --> 00:10:52,200 Speaker 1: And I'm not saying I don't believe you, but there 167 00:10:52,280 --> 00:10:55,360 Speaker 1: has to be a shred of truth to that. There 168 00:10:55,360 --> 00:10:58,240 Speaker 1: has to be more than just I needed Hey, Granger, 169 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:00,480 Speaker 1: I was being a good man and I was staying 170 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:02,360 Speaker 1: at home, earning money and taking care of the dog. 171 00:11:02,600 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 1: Now she says I wasn't there. There has to be 172 00:11:05,760 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 1: something more, like she has to have seen something that 173 00:11:09,559 --> 00:11:13,280 Speaker 1: I don't know from this email. And so when she says, look, 174 00:11:13,920 --> 00:11:16,199 Speaker 1: you weren't there during the pregnancy, you weren't there during 175 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:21,240 Speaker 1: the birth, you say, instead of saying I need you, 176 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:25,160 Speaker 1: I need you to just apologize for this. I'm a 177 00:11:25,200 --> 00:11:28,000 Speaker 1: good man. Instead of that, all that, stop stop that. 178 00:11:28,120 --> 00:11:33,079 Speaker 1: Instead of that, you say, I want to be better 179 00:11:33,120 --> 00:11:37,160 Speaker 1: for you. I don't want to make that mistake again. 180 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:42,120 Speaker 1: I want to be a better husband. This whole taking 181 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:44,720 Speaker 1: care of the dog thing, it was wrong, and in 182 00:11:44,760 --> 00:11:46,640 Speaker 1: your mind you might be thinking I thought it was right, 183 00:11:47,160 --> 00:11:49,040 Speaker 1: and you can even say that, look, I thought that 184 00:11:49,160 --> 00:11:51,600 Speaker 1: was her right move at the time, but I know 185 00:11:51,800 --> 00:11:55,400 Speaker 1: now because of how you're reacting to it, that's not 186 00:11:55,440 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 1: what you wanted and what I want because I love you, 187 00:11:59,360 --> 00:12:02,840 Speaker 1: what I want to do what you want right. My 188 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:08,160 Speaker 1: desire is your desire. So tell me, baby, what is it. 189 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 1: It's crazy If you take that approach, I guarantee you 190 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:16,040 Speaker 1: things will start turning around. Maybe not right at the beginning, 191 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:20,040 Speaker 1: but slowly you start breaking down those walls with that. 192 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:24,400 Speaker 1: She says, let's look at your email again, and said 193 00:12:24,720 --> 00:12:27,120 Speaker 1: it's been this is your words. It's been weighing on 194 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:30,360 Speaker 1: me for three years. And she refuses to apologize. You 195 00:12:30,400 --> 00:12:33,640 Speaker 1: see how self serving that is. You see how self 196 00:12:33,679 --> 00:12:38,720 Speaker 1: seeking that is. There's nothing self less about it. You say, 197 00:12:38,840 --> 00:12:40,800 Speaker 1: how do I forgive her for telling me that I'm 198 00:12:40,840 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 1: not a good husband. It's been weighing on me for 199 00:12:42,960 --> 00:12:45,560 Speaker 1: three years? And she refuses. Dude, I get that this 200 00:12:45,640 --> 00:12:48,719 Speaker 1: is hard, and I'm not here on this podcast to 201 00:12:48,760 --> 00:12:52,000 Speaker 1: like coddle you. I'm not here to say, buddy, man, 202 00:12:52,080 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 1: that sucks. Man. She must be she must be a 203 00:12:55,320 --> 00:12:58,760 Speaker 1: bad woman. Man. You deserve bad bro, You're working hard, 204 00:12:58,840 --> 00:13:00,560 Speaker 1: you deserve You want me to say that I'm not. 205 00:13:00,880 --> 00:13:02,800 Speaker 1: That's not what this Maybe there's an there's probably another 206 00:13:02,840 --> 00:13:06,080 Speaker 1: podcast that does that. But on this podcast, I'm gonna 207 00:13:06,080 --> 00:13:09,880 Speaker 1: say stop it, man, that sounds self serving. Flip it around. 208 00:13:10,080 --> 00:13:12,600 Speaker 1: Even though your mind says no or your heart says no, 209 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:16,319 Speaker 1: you go in and go. Baby. I want to tell 210 00:13:16,360 --> 00:13:19,360 Speaker 1: you something. Could I sit down with you? This has 211 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:22,560 Speaker 1: been three years now, I've been carrying around this burden. 212 00:13:22,920 --> 00:13:25,719 Speaker 1: I've been carrying this around because three years ago, when 213 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:28,440 Speaker 1: we had this baby, you said I wasn't there for 214 00:13:28,559 --> 00:13:30,600 Speaker 1: you said I wasn't a good husband. And I've been 215 00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:33,880 Speaker 1: carrying because that, because that hurt me, because I want 216 00:13:33,920 --> 00:13:36,480 Speaker 1: to please you, because I want to be a good husband. 217 00:13:37,520 --> 00:13:40,040 Speaker 1: I've been carrying that around. And Baby, I don't I 218 00:13:40,080 --> 00:13:42,320 Speaker 1: don't need. I don't need an apology. That's not what 219 00:13:42,360 --> 00:13:45,320 Speaker 1: I'm asking for. I don't need an attitude adjustment from you. 220 00:13:45,400 --> 00:13:48,760 Speaker 1: I'm not asking for that, certainly. What I want is 221 00:13:48,800 --> 00:13:50,920 Speaker 1: I want to know, right here today, how I could 222 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:53,880 Speaker 1: turn this around. And I know, Baby, I know it 223 00:13:53,920 --> 00:13:56,000 Speaker 1: takes a long time to earn it, and I know 224 00:13:56,120 --> 00:13:58,040 Speaker 1: I know trust is earned, and I got to build 225 00:13:58,120 --> 00:14:00,960 Speaker 1: this up and I'm ready to begin. That's the first step. 226 00:14:01,600 --> 00:14:04,880 Speaker 1: I'm here to learn. I'm here to know what you need, 227 00:14:04,920 --> 00:14:06,720 Speaker 1: how I could serve you as a husband. Have Do 228 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:12,440 Speaker 1: I do that? But do you try that? You try 229 00:14:12,480 --> 00:14:14,600 Speaker 1: that and see what happens. 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I don't 285 00:17:15,560 --> 00:17:18,399 Speaker 1: know why the subject line says bullying, but that's what 286 00:17:18,520 --> 00:17:21,439 Speaker 1: it says. The email literally says, how do I know 287 00:17:21,480 --> 00:17:24,280 Speaker 1: if the career I'm in is the right career for me? 288 00:17:24,400 --> 00:17:26,919 Speaker 1: That's it. This is the episode of the short the 289 00:17:27,000 --> 00:17:32,160 Speaker 1: one liners. Okay, so once again here we go. No context, 290 00:17:32,160 --> 00:17:34,119 Speaker 1: that's okay. I don't need context. That's not what this 291 00:17:34,160 --> 00:17:35,639 Speaker 1: is about. I'm not like, hey, give me all the 292 00:17:35,680 --> 00:17:39,680 Speaker 1: details you can. That wouldn't work. So I'm going by 293 00:17:40,640 --> 00:17:44,960 Speaker 1: just what I know, which is you're having doubts about 294 00:17:44,960 --> 00:17:50,280 Speaker 1: your career. Okay, going by just that how do I 295 00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:52,240 Speaker 1: know if the career I'm in is right for me? 296 00:17:52,320 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 1: It's I'd say, you make a list and you get 297 00:17:54,720 --> 00:18:00,679 Speaker 1: you get some details down one. Are you paying the bills? Okay? 298 00:18:00,840 --> 00:18:03,400 Speaker 1: Are you not paying the bills? Is it not enough 299 00:18:03,400 --> 00:18:05,280 Speaker 1: to pay the bills? I don't think it's the right 300 00:18:05,280 --> 00:18:09,479 Speaker 1: career for you. Done? Are you just getting by? You're 301 00:18:09,520 --> 00:18:14,159 Speaker 1: barely paying the bills? Okay? Then you say, okay, do 302 00:18:14,240 --> 00:18:18,679 Speaker 1: I love it? Do I absolutely passionately love it? Let 303 00:18:18,720 --> 00:18:22,399 Speaker 1: me say nah, I don't. Okay, then it's not the 304 00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:24,600 Speaker 1: right career for you. If it's barely paying the bills, 305 00:18:24,880 --> 00:18:27,200 Speaker 1: just barely, and you don't love it, it's not the 306 00:18:27,280 --> 00:18:30,399 Speaker 1: right career for you. So then we move on. We go, okay, 307 00:18:30,640 --> 00:18:33,480 Speaker 1: now you're you're not only paying the bills, but you're 308 00:18:33,480 --> 00:18:37,480 Speaker 1: making a little extra. And then I say do you 309 00:18:37,640 --> 00:18:42,919 Speaker 1: absolutely love it? And you go, no, I don't. I 310 00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:46,800 Speaker 1: don't think I do. I just I just I'm getting by, 311 00:18:47,119 --> 00:18:49,119 Speaker 1: Like it's okay, it pays the bills and get a 312 00:18:49,119 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 1: little extra and that's it. Then I say, okay, let's 313 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:55,080 Speaker 1: not trash this, but this is a good holding career. 314 00:18:55,240 --> 00:18:56,800 Speaker 1: This is a good career that we just kind of 315 00:18:56,840 --> 00:18:59,680 Speaker 1: wrap up and we just do we do out of 316 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:04,080 Speaker 1: loyal because this is this is what we're supposed to do. 317 00:19:04,119 --> 00:19:05,639 Speaker 1: We need to get out, we need to work with 318 00:19:05,680 --> 00:19:07,800 Speaker 1: our hands, and we need to make a living. We 319 00:19:07,800 --> 00:19:09,560 Speaker 1: need to pay the bills, put a little bit in 320 00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:11,240 Speaker 1: the bank, which is what this career is doing. You 321 00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:13,840 Speaker 1: don't love it, that's okay, but you could hold on 322 00:19:13,920 --> 00:19:16,800 Speaker 1: to it. You could hold on to it and right 323 00:19:16,840 --> 00:19:19,960 Speaker 1: now now you could start taking a few maybe classes, 324 00:19:20,040 --> 00:19:23,160 Speaker 1: maybe going to that that that tech school a little bit. 325 00:19:23,880 --> 00:19:27,160 Speaker 1: Maybe maybe you're getting that CDL you're working on. Maybe 326 00:19:27,200 --> 00:19:29,199 Speaker 1: you're working on a pilot's license down here at the 327 00:19:29,200 --> 00:19:34,760 Speaker 1: local airport. You're you're trying some new things. You're interning 328 00:19:34,800 --> 00:19:38,359 Speaker 1: somewhere maybe at night, right, so you're trying a couple 329 00:19:38,400 --> 00:19:41,320 Speaker 1: other things. You're building your skill set. I've heard it 330 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:44,480 Speaker 1: said like you need all the tools you can get. 331 00:19:45,560 --> 00:19:46,840 Speaker 1: You still got to get out of the cave and 332 00:19:46,880 --> 00:19:48,880 Speaker 1: go make your kill, but you need to start collecting 333 00:19:48,920 --> 00:19:51,560 Speaker 1: your tools. And your tools are what you know in 334 00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:55,199 Speaker 1: your mind. Right And that's that's your CDL, that's your 335 00:19:55,200 --> 00:19:59,399 Speaker 1: Police Academy degree, that's your fire school, that's your tech school. 336 00:19:59,640 --> 00:20:04,480 Speaker 1: That's undergrad college. Maybe that is uh, that's that's all 337 00:20:04,520 --> 00:20:07,879 Speaker 1: these things that you're building, tools that are giving you options. 338 00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:13,240 Speaker 1: Welding school, plumbing school, there's giving you options to grow 339 00:20:13,520 --> 00:20:15,480 Speaker 1: and go. Man. You know what, you know what I've 340 00:20:15,520 --> 00:20:19,560 Speaker 1: always wanted to do, Granger. I've always wanted to go 341 00:20:19,640 --> 00:20:25,480 Speaker 1: to Alaska and fly floatplanes for hunters. Get contracts, take 342 00:20:25,480 --> 00:20:27,800 Speaker 1: them out here, take them out, drop them off, go 343 00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:29,800 Speaker 1: get this hunter. I mean, I know that, Granger, I 344 00:20:29,800 --> 00:20:31,359 Speaker 1: know that's a crazy dream, but I've always wanted to 345 00:20:31,400 --> 00:20:33,879 Speaker 1: do that. I say, okay, we'll go down to your 346 00:20:33,880 --> 00:20:38,360 Speaker 1: local airport here and start pilot's license to start your lessons. 347 00:20:38,880 --> 00:20:40,960 Speaker 1: If you can't afford it, just do a little bit. 348 00:20:41,240 --> 00:20:42,919 Speaker 1: You're making a little extra with this job, right, so 349 00:20:43,119 --> 00:20:46,720 Speaker 1: you're building something towards that. Let's move on to the 350 00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:50,960 Speaker 1: next scenario. You're making a lot of money, a lot 351 00:20:50,960 --> 00:20:53,679 Speaker 1: of money at this job, and you don't like it. 352 00:20:53,720 --> 00:20:57,640 Speaker 1: You hate it, you hate it. I say, if you're 353 00:20:57,680 --> 00:21:00,000 Speaker 1: making a lot of money and you've you've been able 354 00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:03,399 Speaker 1: to put a little bit aside, then jump out of it. 355 00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:06,439 Speaker 1: Live on what you have. If you have three months 356 00:21:06,480 --> 00:21:10,680 Speaker 1: worth of income put aside and you hate this job, 357 00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:16,160 Speaker 1: it's tearing you apart mentally, physically, emotionally. You're drained. Now. 358 00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:18,200 Speaker 1: You're in a place where you might not be good 359 00:21:18,240 --> 00:21:20,159 Speaker 1: for the next job or the next interview. You're certainly 360 00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:22,520 Speaker 1: not good to be taken any of these tech school 361 00:21:22,600 --> 00:21:25,240 Speaker 1: classes because you just you're so drained because you hate 362 00:21:25,240 --> 00:21:26,679 Speaker 1: the job. Now, I say, get out. It's not their 363 00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:29,400 Speaker 1: right career for you. Get out right now, and let's 364 00:21:29,440 --> 00:21:31,520 Speaker 1: live on that nest egg a little bit. You got 365 00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:33,920 Speaker 1: three months to jump into something else. Maybe you jump 366 00:21:33,960 --> 00:21:37,040 Speaker 1: into another job that's like equal pay to your bills, 367 00:21:37,640 --> 00:21:40,080 Speaker 1: and you're just kind of in this holding pattern, you 368 00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:43,520 Speaker 1: see what I mean. So what I'm doing, I don't 369 00:21:43,560 --> 00:21:45,640 Speaker 1: have any notes in front of me, and I've never 370 00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:48,760 Speaker 1: thought about this kind of specific scenario. But all I'm 371 00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:50,880 Speaker 1: trying to get you to do in this podcast right 372 00:21:50,880 --> 00:21:56,240 Speaker 1: now is think through it, logically, think through scenarios, write 373 00:21:56,280 --> 00:21:59,680 Speaker 1: things down. It's gonna be about passion for it, love 374 00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:03,840 Speaker 1: for and are you paying the bills? Okay? Is there 375 00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:07,080 Speaker 1: someone at your job you absolutely hate? You hate your boss. 376 00:22:07,320 --> 00:22:09,520 Speaker 1: You can't even stand to see his face. It just 377 00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:13,280 Speaker 1: brings you down. You got a little extra cash, get out, 378 00:22:13,800 --> 00:22:16,480 Speaker 1: you don't have extra cash, suck it up. Be looking 379 00:22:16,480 --> 00:22:20,040 Speaker 1: for something else in the meantime. Right. So, I'm not 380 00:22:20,119 --> 00:22:22,439 Speaker 1: telling you yes or no, because I don't even know 381 00:22:22,600 --> 00:22:24,560 Speaker 1: through the context. But what I am telling you is, 382 00:22:25,080 --> 00:22:28,280 Speaker 1: use some logic, use some ration. People, that's all we 383 00:22:28,320 --> 00:22:33,160 Speaker 1: gotta do. Use our minds and start unpacking this. Right 384 00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:36,920 Speaker 1: Get off of Instagram, get off of TikTok. Right now. 385 00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:39,840 Speaker 1: You don't have time to play PS five. Right now, 386 00:22:41,119 --> 00:22:43,280 Speaker 1: we've got to work on this thing. We got to 387 00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:50,520 Speaker 1: get our pen and paper and work this out. Next question, 388 00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:55,440 Speaker 1: subject Clin says, help my dad believe? Hey Granger, my 389 00:22:55,560 --> 00:22:58,199 Speaker 1: name is Caleb. I'm eighteen years old. My parents are 390 00:22:58,200 --> 00:23:01,440 Speaker 1: both believers, and I've been in church my whole life. 391 00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:04,200 Speaker 1: My question is how do I help my dad believe 392 00:23:04,359 --> 00:23:07,439 Speaker 1: in heaven? When he says, how does a rapist or 393 00:23:07,520 --> 00:23:10,600 Speaker 1: murder or death row get saved in the death chair 394 00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:16,399 Speaker 1: and we as Christians have to try to live a 395 00:23:16,440 --> 00:23:19,800 Speaker 1: perfect life to get to heaven. Also, how do I 396 00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:21,640 Speaker 1: honor my dad but also try to tell him when 397 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:25,840 Speaker 1: he is wrong about religion? Okay, all right, Caleb, so 398 00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:28,880 Speaker 1: let me kind of help let me unpack this for myself. 399 00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:34,760 Speaker 1: Eighteen you say, my parents are both believers. But that's 400 00:23:34,800 --> 00:23:40,439 Speaker 1: then going against what's happening in the email. So it 401 00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:45,520 Speaker 1: sounds like your dad is not a believer. Right, So 402 00:23:45,560 --> 00:23:49,120 Speaker 1: we'll start there. I mean literally, your subject CLIENTE says, 403 00:23:49,160 --> 00:23:51,560 Speaker 1: helped my dad believe, and then the next line is 404 00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:55,159 Speaker 1: my parents are both believers. That's not okay, So in 405 00:23:55,200 --> 00:23:57,919 Speaker 1: your mind you got to know dad's not. Dad's not. 406 00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:04,440 Speaker 1: Let me see what your dad is arguing here, help 407 00:24:04,520 --> 00:24:07,720 Speaker 1: my dad believe in heaven? When he says this is 408 00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:12,200 Speaker 1: his argument, how does a rapist or murderer on death 409 00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:17,160 Speaker 1: row get saved in the death chair and we as 410 00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:19,320 Speaker 1: Christians have to try to live a perfect life to 411 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:21,960 Speaker 1: get to heaven. I don't understand either one of those scenarios. 412 00:24:22,040 --> 00:24:28,080 Speaker 1: First of all, what do you mean murder gets saved 413 00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:30,640 Speaker 1: in the death chair? And also what do you mean 414 00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:34,600 Speaker 1: Christians have to live a perfect life? I don't understand Christians. 415 00:24:34,680 --> 00:24:36,720 Speaker 1: Let's start there, because I don't understand the death row thing. 416 00:24:37,040 --> 00:24:42,520 Speaker 1: Maybe you're talking about like some miraculous you know, pastor 417 00:24:42,600 --> 00:24:45,639 Speaker 1: goes and preaches the Gospel and he gets saved. Maybe 418 00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:47,800 Speaker 1: that's what I don't know. I don't know. I'm gonna 419 00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:54,919 Speaker 1: leave that alone. But the Christians, we do not. This 420 00:24:55,080 --> 00:24:59,200 Speaker 1: is okay, we can't. I should say that we can't 421 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:04,760 Speaker 1: live a perfect life. Just stop right there, much less 422 00:25:05,160 --> 00:25:09,440 Speaker 1: do that in order to get to heaven. We can't. 423 00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:12,359 Speaker 1: This is what I would do. I'm gonna make this 424 00:25:12,440 --> 00:25:15,240 Speaker 1: as easy as possible for everyone listening, and for you, Caleb. 425 00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:19,040 Speaker 1: You're gonna go to your dad, and this is good 426 00:25:19,040 --> 00:25:20,520 Speaker 1: for you too. It's not just good for your dad. 427 00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:23,840 Speaker 1: It's great for you. You're gonna go to You're gonna pull 428 00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:26,840 Speaker 1: out your Bible and you go, Dad, I want to 429 00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:29,360 Speaker 1: read some stuff together, right, And so you're gonna pull 430 00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:33,160 Speaker 1: up the Book of Romans. Oh man, that's good, it's good. 431 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:38,160 Speaker 1: The Book of Romans will not only change your dad's life, 432 00:25:38,400 --> 00:25:42,960 Speaker 1: it'll change yours and whoever's listening right now. Literally, the 433 00:25:43,000 --> 00:25:46,000 Speaker 1: Book of Romans saved my brother Parker. The Book of 434 00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:50,359 Speaker 1: Romans is famous also for saving amongst millions of others, 435 00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:54,879 Speaker 1: but also Martin Luther, which is the beginning of the Reformation. 436 00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:58,000 Speaker 1: So the Book of Romans, if you go there and 437 00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:00,560 Speaker 1: just start at the beginning, and so if you go 438 00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:07,840 Speaker 1: to chapter one, verse sixteen, right, it's gonna say I'm 439 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:10,280 Speaker 1: not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power 440 00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:14,840 Speaker 1: of God for salvation for everyone who believes. And then 441 00:26:14,880 --> 00:26:18,160 Speaker 1: it's gonna say something crazy after that. And I want 442 00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:20,639 Speaker 1: you to take that with your dad, and when you 443 00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:24,520 Speaker 1: walk through verse seventeen, which is the verse literally the 444 00:26:24,600 --> 00:26:28,280 Speaker 1: verse that saved Martin Luther once he finally understood it, 445 00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:31,240 Speaker 1: because it says, I don't want to give it away, 446 00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:33,960 Speaker 1: because I want you to explore this with your dad. 447 00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:35,520 Speaker 1: I think it would be I think it would be 448 00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:39,080 Speaker 1: an incredible, an incredible journey to walk slowly through it, 449 00:26:39,160 --> 00:26:41,640 Speaker 1: not fast, not read it. You read it through once 450 00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:43,480 Speaker 1: and you go, I don't get it. Walk through every 451 00:26:43,480 --> 00:26:45,840 Speaker 1: word of it. And I want you to go through 452 00:26:45,840 --> 00:26:48,360 Speaker 1: the first three chapters that way, and if you want 453 00:26:48,359 --> 00:26:51,720 Speaker 1: to keep going, But the first three chapters it's going 454 00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:56,280 Speaker 1: to say basically this, it's gonna say you cannot do it. 455 00:26:57,359 --> 00:27:01,680 Speaker 1: You cannot live a perfect life. But a perfect life 456 00:27:02,080 --> 00:27:04,879 Speaker 1: from you is required for heaven. That's kind of what 457 00:27:04,880 --> 00:27:11,480 Speaker 1: your dad's saying. Only a righteous person is required. Only 458 00:27:11,520 --> 00:27:13,960 Speaker 1: a righteous person can get into heaven. That's what it's 459 00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:16,920 Speaker 1: going to say in chapter one. But here's the thing. 460 00:27:17,440 --> 00:27:20,440 Speaker 1: You can't be righteous. It's gonna say that right there, right, 461 00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:26,000 Speaker 1: So let me say this another way. God demands from 462 00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:30,840 Speaker 1: you righteousness, but you are a sinner and you're too 463 00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:33,880 Speaker 1: far gone to give him what he demands. Because he's 464 00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:38,280 Speaker 1: a holy God. He demands from you, as a holy God, righteousness, right, 465 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:41,320 Speaker 1: which is what you're saying, a perfect life. We'll use 466 00:27:41,359 --> 00:27:44,639 Speaker 1: those two things as the same. God. A holy God 467 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:49,359 Speaker 1: demands from you righteousness, but you are too far gone 468 00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:53,800 Speaker 1: to give it to him. So the gospel is God 469 00:27:53,880 --> 00:27:59,040 Speaker 1: devises a plan at the cost of his son's life, 470 00:27:59,440 --> 00:28:03,400 Speaker 1: his only son, to go to the cross and to die, 471 00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:07,400 Speaker 1: the only one that's righteous, the only one that lived 472 00:28:07,440 --> 00:28:10,679 Speaker 1: a perfect life, Jesus goes to the cross and dies 473 00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:17,359 Speaker 1: as a substitute for you, and whoever believes then gets 474 00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:21,520 Speaker 1: credited that righteousness back to him. So God demands, a 475 00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:25,439 Speaker 1: holy God demands righteousness from you. You can't give it, 476 00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:31,280 Speaker 1: and in his mercy he gives you the righteousness that 477 00:28:31,359 --> 00:28:35,320 Speaker 1: he demands back to himself so that he could reconcile 478 00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:38,600 Speaker 1: you to himself. These are not my words, This is 479 00:28:38,640 --> 00:28:41,000 Speaker 1: not a theory, This is not something I just made up. 480 00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:46,800 Speaker 1: This is the Book of Romans. Check it out. Walk 481 00:28:46,800 --> 00:28:48,800 Speaker 1: through it with your dad. So if anyone wants to 482 00:28:48,840 --> 00:28:50,800 Speaker 1: get a hold of me. You're listening to the podcast 483 00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:52,760 Speaker 1: right now, and you think, Man, I would love for 484 00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:55,280 Speaker 1: Granger to shoot me a text or send me a 485 00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:58,640 Speaker 1: video message on something else, on some other subject, maybe 486 00:28:58,680 --> 00:29:00,840 Speaker 1: a little pick me up. Maybe I wish Granger would 487 00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:03,200 Speaker 1: give me a happy birthday wish. Or my brother's a 488 00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:06,480 Speaker 1: huge fan he could use a happy birthday. Maybe with 489 00:29:06,600 --> 00:29:09,640 Speaker 1: the holidays coming up, you're thinking, what do I get 490 00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:12,120 Speaker 1: my kid? What do I get my nephew? What do 491 00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:14,920 Speaker 1: I get my brother or my wife? What do I 492 00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:17,200 Speaker 1: What kind of present do I get them? They already 493 00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:20,040 Speaker 1: have what they need. Well, how about a gift of 494 00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:22,800 Speaker 1: cameo And what that is is you got a cameo 495 00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:25,560 Speaker 1: dot com slash Granger Smith and you could find me 496 00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:28,400 Speaker 1: on there and you just say, hey, Granger, I want 497 00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:30,520 Speaker 1: you to send a message to my wife and just 498 00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:34,360 Speaker 1: say happy birthday or Merry Christmas, whatever you want me 499 00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:36,280 Speaker 1: to say. It's right there in the app in the form. 500 00:29:36,320 --> 00:29:39,240 Speaker 1: It's super easy. I get that notification on my phone, 501 00:29:39,720 --> 00:29:42,640 Speaker 1: I take it, do the selfie cam and then send 502 00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:45,520 Speaker 1: it right back to you. Super easy. Cameo dot Com 503 00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:48,960 Speaker 1: slash Grangersmith. That's c ame eo dot com, or you 504 00:29:49,000 --> 00:29:51,800 Speaker 1: can look for me on the cameo app granger Smith. 505 00:29:51,960 --> 00:29:54,680 Speaker 1: Next question. The subject line here says please read on 506 00:29:54,760 --> 00:29:57,400 Speaker 1: the podcast. By the way, these are random, That's not 507 00:29:57,440 --> 00:30:01,640 Speaker 1: the reason I'm reading it, just to say. The email says, 508 00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:05,040 Speaker 1: Hey Granger, I'm Jackson. I am fifteen. There is a 509 00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:08,040 Speaker 1: girl at my church who I like very much, and 510 00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:11,880 Speaker 1: she liked me too, and we talked for like four 511 00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:15,560 Speaker 1: or five months. She's fourteen, by the way. At youth group, 512 00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:18,480 Speaker 1: she took me aside but still in front of everybody, 513 00:30:18,640 --> 00:30:20,680 Speaker 1: and said that she would rather be friends than in 514 00:30:20,720 --> 00:30:23,680 Speaker 1: a relationship. Now I'm not allowed to have a girlfriend 515 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:27,520 Speaker 1: until I'm sixteen, but she is. I believe there is 516 00:30:28,960 --> 00:30:31,840 Speaker 1: something to do with another boy. I believe that this 517 00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:34,480 Speaker 1: is I think you meant to say this has something 518 00:30:34,520 --> 00:30:37,280 Speaker 1: to do with another boy at school. I know how 519 00:30:37,280 --> 00:30:39,520 Speaker 1: you feel about relationships at such a young age, and 520 00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:41,400 Speaker 1: I wish that I didn't get into this one. My 521 00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:43,440 Speaker 1: parents were okay with me talking to her as long 522 00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:46,800 Speaker 1: as we didn't have a title on their relationship. My 523 00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:49,800 Speaker 1: only problem is I still really like her, and I 524 00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:52,120 Speaker 1: don't know how I'm going to handle seeing her every 525 00:30:52,120 --> 00:30:55,120 Speaker 1: Sunday and Wednesday. I already go to the gym quite 526 00:30:55,120 --> 00:30:59,120 Speaker 1: often with a buddy and my brother, plus take kickboxing 527 00:30:59,120 --> 00:31:02,040 Speaker 1: classes and kung and I'm homeschooled, so I wake up 528 00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:04,000 Speaker 1: early and I usually get done with school by noon 529 00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:06,440 Speaker 1: or a little later. But I need advice on how 530 00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:09,800 Speaker 1: to get over her quicker. Yes, I have no social 531 00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:12,440 Speaker 1: media or anything like that. Thanks for recommending the McShane plan. 532 00:31:12,520 --> 00:31:17,840 Speaker 1: It's really helped strengthen my relationship with Godee. Love you man, Jackson. 533 00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:21,080 Speaker 1: I like to see moo. Thanks Thanks buddy fifteen years old. 534 00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:24,120 Speaker 1: It's always so impressive that a fifteen year old is 535 00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:28,400 Speaker 1: listening to a very adult podcast. I should say, you know, 536 00:31:28,400 --> 00:31:31,720 Speaker 1: we're talking about a lot of very adult issues on here, 537 00:31:32,280 --> 00:31:38,400 Speaker 1: and dude, it's just really encouraging. It's really encouraging that 538 00:31:38,400 --> 00:31:41,680 Speaker 1: that there are fifteen year olds that are looking for 539 00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:46,640 Speaker 1: deeper things, right, So thank you Jackson. And I think 540 00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:51,160 Speaker 1: that's also a testament to homeschooling. I think that's that. 541 00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:55,280 Speaker 1: I think that's a great thing because I think there's 542 00:31:55,320 --> 00:32:01,600 Speaker 1: a correlation between a homeschooled kid that's listening to this podcast. 543 00:32:03,000 --> 00:32:05,160 Speaker 1: I think there's something there, and we can discuss that 544 00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:09,200 Speaker 1: another time maybe, But you've got a good old fashioned 545 00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:13,840 Speaker 1: girl problem, Jackson. That's what's going on here. And I 546 00:32:13,880 --> 00:32:18,520 Speaker 1: love how you said this. You said I need advice 547 00:32:18,760 --> 00:32:22,360 Speaker 1: on how to get over her quicker? Right. I mean 548 00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:25,680 Speaker 1: that's a great way to say it, because what you're 549 00:32:25,720 --> 00:32:28,760 Speaker 1: saying is by that sentence, you're saying, listen, I know 550 00:32:28,800 --> 00:32:31,480 Speaker 1: I need to get over her, and I know I will. 551 00:32:31,680 --> 00:32:33,480 Speaker 1: I just need to speed it up because this is 552 00:32:33,480 --> 00:32:36,760 Speaker 1: not working out. This isn't very fun right now. Right. 553 00:32:36,800 --> 00:32:39,920 Speaker 1: It's like saying I've got the flu and doctor, hey, doc, 554 00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:42,560 Speaker 1: how do I get over this quicker? And he says 555 00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:44,160 Speaker 1: it's going to take about eight days? And you go, 556 00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:46,960 Speaker 1: what could I do to make it three? Because I 557 00:32:46,960 --> 00:32:51,000 Speaker 1: don't like the flu? That's what you're saying, and it's 558 00:32:51,040 --> 00:32:53,960 Speaker 1: a great thing. A couple other things I like. I 559 00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:55,880 Speaker 1: would like this email, by the way, if you kise 560 00:32:55,920 --> 00:33:00,560 Speaker 1: you can't tell. The other thing I like is how 561 00:33:01,200 --> 00:33:04,959 Speaker 1: you say this. You say, I know how you feel 562 00:33:05,000 --> 00:33:08,760 Speaker 1: about relationships at such a young age, and I wish 563 00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:12,160 Speaker 1: I didn't get into this one. And then you go 564 00:33:12,200 --> 00:33:16,720 Speaker 1: on to say, my only problem is I still really 565 00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:21,800 Speaker 1: like her. There's something so real and raw about that. 566 00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:24,560 Speaker 1: Because when I say, hey, look on this podcast, I'm 567 00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:32,840 Speaker 1: not advocating young teenage relationships, I wish that. Let's see, 568 00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:36,200 Speaker 1: I didn't really get into relationships until about fifteen about 569 00:33:36,240 --> 00:33:39,120 Speaker 1: your age, Jackson, and I look back and I go, man, 570 00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:42,760 Speaker 1: my parents discouraged it, but I wish they said no. 571 00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:46,720 Speaker 1: I don't know how that would have turned out. This 572 00:33:46,760 --> 00:33:50,360 Speaker 1: is all just you know, this is all in hindsight 573 00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:54,680 Speaker 1: looking back, because let me say it this way, Jackson, 574 00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:58,560 Speaker 1: I wish I hadn't at all. I wish I hadn't. 575 00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:01,080 Speaker 1: And what I like about what you're saying is the 576 00:34:01,160 --> 00:34:04,719 Speaker 1: vulnerability of you saying I still just like her. And 577 00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:08,080 Speaker 1: so what I'm meant to say is, as though I 578 00:34:08,120 --> 00:34:13,600 Speaker 1: don't advocate young teenage relationships, I'm also not naive enough 579 00:34:13,640 --> 00:34:16,799 Speaker 1: to say you also shouldn't like a girl, because that's 580 00:34:16,840 --> 00:34:19,879 Speaker 1: something I can't tell you. That's something that's just going 581 00:34:19,920 --> 00:34:22,960 Speaker 1: to happen because you're a boy and you're gonna naturally 582 00:34:23,000 --> 00:34:27,959 Speaker 1: be attracted ever so often to just the right one. 583 00:34:28,600 --> 00:34:31,279 Speaker 1: When you see a girl and she talks a certain way, 584 00:34:31,320 --> 00:34:33,920 Speaker 1: and she walks a certain way, and she smiles at 585 00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:36,879 Speaker 1: you a certain way and you just go, oh man, 586 00:34:37,000 --> 00:34:39,640 Speaker 1: Granger said, don't get in a relationship. But I really 587 00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:44,440 Speaker 1: like her. You know, look, I'm not telling you that 588 00:34:44,520 --> 00:34:48,000 Speaker 1: you can't. I'm just saying, make sure your foot is 589 00:34:48,040 --> 00:34:53,000 Speaker 1: always on that break Jackson. Make sure you go oh man, okay, okay. 590 00:34:53,200 --> 00:34:56,040 Speaker 1: I really like her. But I could put boundaries on 591 00:34:56,080 --> 00:34:58,640 Speaker 1: this at the beginning. The further you go in these 592 00:34:58,719 --> 00:35:01,919 Speaker 1: kind of relationships, harder and harder and harder, it gets 593 00:35:02,160 --> 00:35:04,440 Speaker 1: to actually make any kind of boundary at all. But 594 00:35:04,440 --> 00:35:07,640 Speaker 1: at the very beginning, when you haven't gotten close to her, 595 00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,480 Speaker 1: you don't even know her middle name yet, you can 596 00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:14,320 Speaker 1: go We're gonna hang out in groups, even though I 597 00:35:14,320 --> 00:35:15,759 Speaker 1: don't want to. I want to be one on one. 598 00:35:15,840 --> 00:35:19,239 Speaker 1: We're gonna hang out in groups. And I'm going to 599 00:35:19,280 --> 00:35:22,120 Speaker 1: put limits on my phone conversations. I don't know what 600 00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:24,640 Speaker 1: kids do these days. Text Probably we're gonna put limits 601 00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:26,719 Speaker 1: on the texting if that's what's going to go down. 602 00:35:27,800 --> 00:35:31,320 Speaker 1: And I would encourage all parents listening to always monitor 603 00:35:31,600 --> 00:35:36,560 Speaker 1: everything that happens on a phone. Nothing happens privately for 604 00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:40,759 Speaker 1: a kid. A kid that's living in the household of 605 00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:46,440 Speaker 1: parents does not and has not earned privacy right to 606 00:35:46,480 --> 00:35:48,560 Speaker 1: that extent. To the extent that they're talking to a 607 00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:51,640 Speaker 1: boy on a phone, they don't get to do stuff 608 00:35:51,680 --> 00:35:55,440 Speaker 1: like that. They get to have freedom on a leash. 609 00:35:56,000 --> 00:35:59,680 Speaker 1: Their freedom is tethered to the to mom and dad monitoring, 610 00:35:59,800 --> 00:36:03,560 Speaker 1: mind nitoring everything that goes down. That's just the way 611 00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:10,480 Speaker 1: it needs to be. Now, you can so long. At 612 00:36:10,480 --> 00:36:12,799 Speaker 1: the very beginning, it's like you're leading them and they're 613 00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:16,319 Speaker 1: behind you. But then as they become a teenager, you're 614 00:36:16,320 --> 00:36:18,600 Speaker 1: starting to walk next to them. I'm talking to parents, 615 00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:21,720 Speaker 1: so you're walking side by side. But it's not until 616 00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:25,560 Speaker 1: they hit that eighteen nineteen twenty when they could start 617 00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:29,520 Speaker 1: taking the lead and you go, good, go out do 618 00:36:29,640 --> 00:36:33,200 Speaker 1: your thing. I heard a great thing. Some friends said 619 00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:36,240 Speaker 1: that when they hit a certain age, is like seventeen eighteen, 620 00:36:36,920 --> 00:36:41,040 Speaker 1: the parents said, look, you could You have to ask us. 621 00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,520 Speaker 1: You have to ask mom and dad whatever it is 622 00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:48,520 Speaker 1: you want to do. If we both say yes, then 623 00:36:48,560 --> 00:36:51,600 Speaker 1: you absolutely can do it. If we both say no, 624 00:36:51,960 --> 00:36:54,359 Speaker 1: then you can't do it. If one of us says 625 00:36:54,440 --> 00:36:58,400 Speaker 1: yes and one of us says no, you decide. But 626 00:36:58,560 --> 00:37:00,560 Speaker 1: just so you know, if you do it, you got 627 00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:04,160 Speaker 1: to live knowing that one of your parents didn't want 628 00:37:04,200 --> 00:37:08,239 Speaker 1: you to right. So that's when you're walking side by 629 00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:11,560 Speaker 1: side in this relationship. It's like, look, i'm gonna give 630 00:37:11,600 --> 00:37:13,600 Speaker 1: you the reins a little bit. You're gonna you're gonna 631 00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:16,920 Speaker 1: ride this horse a little bit on your own, but 632 00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:19,279 Speaker 1: just so you know you fall off, we're not here 633 00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:23,319 Speaker 1: to catch you. It's so interesting now that talk to 634 00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:27,960 Speaker 1: Jackson and you're in this and I'm talking to you. 635 00:37:27,960 --> 00:37:31,319 Speaker 1: Your question, really, after all that is how do I 636 00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:34,839 Speaker 1: get over her a little quicker? I'm worried about Sundays 637 00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:41,319 Speaker 1: and Wednesdays seeing her, Right, Well, I'm not gonna tell 638 00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:42,520 Speaker 1: you that. It's not gonna be hard if you really 639 00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:44,319 Speaker 1: like this girl. But I think you're doing the right 640 00:37:44,360 --> 00:37:48,160 Speaker 1: thing to walk away. So avoid social media, I'm sure 641 00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:49,880 Speaker 1: you do. You told me that, you told me that, 642 00:37:50,440 --> 00:37:53,160 Speaker 1: And avoid any kind of phone interaction. I'm sure you do. 643 00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:55,640 Speaker 1: I think you told me that too. And then when 644 00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:58,719 Speaker 1: you see her on Sundays and Wednesdays, it's gonna just slowly, 645 00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:03,239 Speaker 1: slowly fizzle out. And if you're worried about it, and 646 00:38:03,280 --> 00:38:05,799 Speaker 1: you're worried that she's talking another guy and she's maybe 647 00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:08,840 Speaker 1: manipulative like fourteen year old girls. Are you know that? Buddy? 648 00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:14,840 Speaker 1: If you're worried about that, then also physically remove yourself 649 00:38:14,960 --> 00:38:17,239 Speaker 1: from the situation. You're not going to always be able 650 00:38:17,280 --> 00:38:19,080 Speaker 1: to avoid her. But if she's in a little click 651 00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:21,640 Speaker 1: and you're walking up, don't get into that little click. 652 00:38:22,080 --> 00:38:25,640 Speaker 1: Just keep on going, Keep on going, Jackson. You're doing 653 00:38:25,680 --> 00:38:27,560 Speaker 1: the right thing, buddy. Thank you for emailing and thank 654 00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:33,920 Speaker 1: you for listening. Next question, subject line says where to 655 00:38:34,080 --> 00:38:38,120 Speaker 1: begin again? Hey, Grangeer. My name is Matt Kimball. I 656 00:38:38,160 --> 00:38:40,440 Speaker 1: am a Christian and I have been a believer in 657 00:38:40,520 --> 00:38:44,280 Speaker 1: Christ my entire life. Although I have strayed many times. 658 00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:47,279 Speaker 1: I'm entering a season where I have felt closer to 659 00:38:47,360 --> 00:38:50,840 Speaker 1: God more than I've ever felt. I have graduated to 660 00:38:50,920 --> 00:38:55,400 Speaker 1: daily readings, nightly podcast, and constant prayer. I have a 661 00:38:55,440 --> 00:39:00,960 Speaker 1: desire to feel His pool and continue this journey, keeping 662 00:39:00,960 --> 00:39:04,040 Speaker 1: this as short as possible. We recently lost my father, 663 00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:07,919 Speaker 1: who was the sweetest, toughest, most godly man I've ever known. 664 00:39:08,680 --> 00:39:12,840 Speaker 1: I recently found his spare time pocket Bible, which he 665 00:39:13,040 --> 00:39:17,360 Speaker 1: highlighted many scriptures in scribbled many notes and folded pages. 666 00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:21,320 Speaker 1: I'm finding myself reading more of my old man's words 667 00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:24,200 Speaker 1: as opposed to taking in the word of God. I 668 00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:26,719 Speaker 1: just love reading the verses and quotes that my old 669 00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:30,000 Speaker 1: man lived by. But I feel the need for more. 670 00:39:30,280 --> 00:39:33,239 Speaker 1: I feel like my focus needs to change. Where do 671 00:39:33,320 --> 00:39:36,160 Speaker 1: you think I should continue this journey? Thank you, brother, 672 00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:38,440 Speaker 1: I'm very pleased to have gotten to know you and 673 00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:44,000 Speaker 1: your family in my walk with God. Thanks for the email, brother, 674 00:39:45,000 --> 00:39:47,600 Speaker 1: And it's interesting and I think it's a good question. 675 00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:52,440 Speaker 1: I'm sorry about the loss of your father. Unfortunately, I 676 00:39:52,520 --> 00:39:55,960 Speaker 1: know that loss, not to your extent because I didn't 677 00:39:56,000 --> 00:39:58,520 Speaker 1: know your dad, but I do know my extent of 678 00:39:58,600 --> 00:40:01,960 Speaker 1: losing my dad. I love to my dad, I still do. 679 00:40:02,680 --> 00:40:07,239 Speaker 1: I think about them often and to me, this is 680 00:40:07,239 --> 00:40:09,600 Speaker 1: a great email, and it's it's super easy fix. I 681 00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:14,880 Speaker 1: love when it's an easy one I read. And this 682 00:40:15,040 --> 00:40:17,680 Speaker 1: was mentioned on a couple questions ago. I read the 683 00:40:17,800 --> 00:40:21,080 Speaker 1: McShane plan. This is a Bible reading plan. There's many 684 00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:23,200 Speaker 1: of them. This is just the one I prefer, and 685 00:40:23,280 --> 00:40:27,200 Speaker 1: I think I think it's a great, really great plan. 686 00:40:27,600 --> 00:40:29,920 Speaker 1: I love it. I believe this is my third or 687 00:40:30,000 --> 00:40:34,080 Speaker 1: fourth year on it. But what it does, the McShane plan, 688 00:40:35,200 --> 00:40:39,080 Speaker 1: it gets you through the Old Testament, once in a year, 689 00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:43,160 Speaker 1: the New Testament and the Psalms twice in a year, 690 00:40:44,040 --> 00:40:46,960 Speaker 1: so you're reading about four chapters a day. I do 691 00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:48,880 Speaker 1: this in the morning. This is just my routine. I 692 00:40:48,880 --> 00:40:50,400 Speaker 1: get up in the morning. First thing I'm gonna do 693 00:40:51,200 --> 00:40:55,440 Speaker 1: is brush my teeth, make some coffee, settle in before 694 00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:57,640 Speaker 1: most most of the time before anyone else is up 695 00:40:57,680 --> 00:40:59,960 Speaker 1: in the house, and I'm gonna read my McShane plan, 696 00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:04,160 Speaker 1: and I do it on an iPad because that just 697 00:41:04,280 --> 00:41:07,040 Speaker 1: ends up working out pretty well because in the McShane plan, 698 00:41:07,320 --> 00:41:09,200 Speaker 1: first of all, it's dark in my house and the 699 00:41:09,239 --> 00:41:12,439 Speaker 1: iPad lights up. Uh. And second of all, I could 700 00:41:12,600 --> 00:41:16,400 Speaker 1: just see it better and it loads up the mcshamee 701 00:41:16,480 --> 00:41:20,360 Speaker 1: plan instantly for me. So it picks up where I 702 00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:23,120 Speaker 1: left off and I hit I hit start on my 703 00:41:23,160 --> 00:41:29,840 Speaker 1: new day, and after I read one chapter, I hit next, next, next, finish, 704 00:41:30,000 --> 00:41:32,839 Speaker 1: and it logs it and it's ready for the next day. 705 00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:35,000 Speaker 1: It's gonna que me up again. So I just really 706 00:41:35,040 --> 00:41:37,840 Speaker 1: like that. That's been my rhythm, and it also allows 707 00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:43,239 Speaker 1: me to switch. I switched translations every year, so I'm 708 00:41:43,280 --> 00:41:46,640 Speaker 1: not ever reading the same same same translation, and I 709 00:41:46,680 --> 00:41:49,600 Speaker 1: see new things saying the same thing. But I'm seeing 710 00:41:49,640 --> 00:41:52,359 Speaker 1: new words and new seeing seeing things in a new light. 711 00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:57,399 Speaker 1: So what I'm now, I'm speaking to you, and Matt, 712 00:41:57,480 --> 00:41:59,680 Speaker 1: I would I would add something like that to your 713 00:41:59,680 --> 00:42:04,000 Speaker 1: morning like, that's your mourning devotional, your personal reading. That's 714 00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:07,359 Speaker 1: you're feeding time. That's your nourishment time. You and God, 715 00:42:07,440 --> 00:42:10,720 Speaker 1: God is nourishing you through his ever living, breathing word 716 00:42:10,760 --> 00:42:13,560 Speaker 1: of God. He's he's he's speaking to you. He's ministering 717 00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:16,640 Speaker 1: to you through his word sharper than any two edges 718 00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:20,920 Speaker 1: sore piercing the heart. Okay, so that is that's your 719 00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:25,000 Speaker 1: morning time, whatever Bible reading plan minds the McShane. And 720 00:42:25,120 --> 00:42:27,719 Speaker 1: then what I would do if I were you, this 721 00:42:27,960 --> 00:42:32,480 Speaker 1: suggestion at night I would make. I would carve out 722 00:42:32,480 --> 00:42:37,160 Speaker 1: some time at night before bed, when your heart is 723 00:42:37,200 --> 00:42:41,239 Speaker 1: tender and you're a little bit tired and you're winding down. 724 00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:45,279 Speaker 1: I pull out your dad's Bible. Then go to your 725 00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:48,560 Speaker 1: go to your dad's Bible and look for those highlighted things, 726 00:42:48,920 --> 00:42:51,279 Speaker 1: look for those words, look for those little notes in 727 00:42:51,280 --> 00:42:54,560 Speaker 1: the margin and the things that are underlined, and think 728 00:42:54,600 --> 00:42:58,400 Speaker 1: about your dad and think about how he's saved and 729 00:42:58,440 --> 00:43:02,640 Speaker 1: how he's he's got he is in a place right 730 00:43:02,680 --> 00:43:08,160 Speaker 1: now with with our Lord, right, and it'll help you 731 00:43:08,239 --> 00:43:12,200 Speaker 1: reflect on the kindness of God, the mercy of God, 732 00:43:12,920 --> 00:43:21,120 Speaker 1: the fact that God allows broken sinners, he allows them 733 00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:26,080 Speaker 1: a righteousness that then can reconcile them to Him. Right. 734 00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:28,080 Speaker 1: So you're kind of you're kind of thinking through all this, 735 00:43:28,560 --> 00:43:30,840 Speaker 1: and you're thinking about Dad, and you're thinking about the 736 00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:33,000 Speaker 1: good father that he was, and you miss him a 737 00:43:33,040 --> 00:43:35,239 Speaker 1: little bit, and there's his words and and he's with 738 00:43:35,320 --> 00:43:39,440 Speaker 1: our Lord. And then you're also not thinking, man, I 739 00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:41,840 Speaker 1: need I need to be nourished myself because but you 740 00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:44,040 Speaker 1: don't think that because you got it this morning, right. 741 00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:45,720 Speaker 1: You got it this morning with your cup of coffee. 742 00:43:46,680 --> 00:43:49,800 Speaker 1: That's my that's my thought on this. Use your evening's 743 00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:52,000 Speaker 1: times with Dad. And I think you're right in thinking 744 00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:55,799 Speaker 1: I don't want to only read Dad's words. I think 745 00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:59,400 Speaker 1: you're right in thinking that as well. So, Buddy, I 746 00:43:59,440 --> 00:44:02,600 Speaker 1: appreciate the email. Thank you for listening to the podcast. 747 00:44:02,600 --> 00:44:04,280 Speaker 1: All of y'all, thank you for listening to the podcast, 748 00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:07,560 Speaker 1: And if you have a question for me, email podcast 749 00:44:07,960 --> 00:44:14,840 Speaker 1: at grangersmith dot com. That is podcast at grangersmith dot com. 750 00:44:14,840 --> 00:44:17,840 Speaker 1: We'll see y'all next Monday. Thanks for joining me on 751 00:44:17,880 --> 00:44:21,160 Speaker 1: the Grangersmith podcast. I appreciate all of you guys. 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