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Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Today anyway, it's your co host AJ Holiday.
Speaker 1: Y'all, It's me Tian Bama. I love y'all once again.
Speaker 1: I love you AJ girl.
Speaker 2: Thanksgiving just passed. Did you eat a lot?
Speaker 1: Girl? I ate everything wasn't nailed to the table. I
Speaker 1: went down to Montgomery, Alabama, where my sister lives. She
Speaker 1: hosted this year, and I was only supposed to make.
Speaker 1: I set everybody up with what they were supposed to do,
Speaker 1: and they agreed to it, right, So I made sure
Speaker 1: to make my lists very small of what I was
Speaker 1: supposed to do. I was supposed to make a potter
Speaker 1: rice and some deviled eggs, no mac. Tanisha was insistent
Speaker 1: that it was her house and she was making the
Speaker 1: mac and cheese this year. Fine, whatever. Before I knew it,
Speaker 1: I had tone made the collar greens dressing, rice and gravy,
Speaker 1: some meshed potatoes and deviled eggs, and I was helping
Speaker 1: her with the mag.
Speaker 2: Shame. She tried to show your mac up this year.
Speaker 1: She tried, she tried. It wasn't mine. It was good,
Speaker 1: but it wasn't mine. You know what I'm saying. You
Speaker 1: did anything for the weekend? Oh yeah, we went to
Speaker 1: We went to the museum, the Legacy Museum in Montgomery.
Speaker 1: It was very I ain't want to be there. I
Speaker 1: ran through it. I ain't gonna lie. I ran through it.
Speaker 1: That ship was like little chap of horrors. It was
Speaker 1: literally like as soon as you walk in the museum,
Speaker 1: niggas heads on the ground. What God, Yeah, it was
Speaker 1: like they was in the ocean, the people who jumped
Speaker 1: off the boats, so all their heads was like down
Speaker 1: in the sand and they just was like screaming and
Speaker 1: you can hear chains, and I was like, I don't
Speaker 1: want to put myself through this. They had like jars up.
Speaker 1: They literally had people go to the places where we've
Speaker 1: known black people were lyched and dig some of the
Speaker 1: sand from under the tree and put it in the
Speaker 1: jar and bring it there. So she looked there like, oh,
Speaker 1: some of their DNA might be in that sand.
Speaker 2: What is wrong with people? Like listen, I believe in
Speaker 2: with Kraft period, I might do a little something something
Speaker 2: that shit sounds crazy as hell to me that y'all
Speaker 2: going to take remains from people and bind them in
Speaker 2: a jar somewhere in a museum. Y'all doing replications of
Speaker 2: people in the sand. That is weird. And that's just
Speaker 2: like when we went to Memphis and y'all went to
Speaker 2: that goddamn museum.
Speaker 1: That's what I not. That's what I said. I'm not
Speaker 1: do none of that no more. It's just doesn't I
Speaker 1: was like, do y'all feel good now like this? I
Speaker 1: feel I feel sad.
Speaker 2: I have so much more, greater things that we could
Speaker 2: put in a museum about black people.
Speaker 1: I swear yeah. I was like, is this our legacy?
Speaker 1: Because it's called the Legacy Museum, and what nothing but
Speaker 1: black people there?
Speaker 2: So it's like, it's not our legacy.
Speaker 1: We're living our own trauma. I understand the importantness of
Speaker 1: importance of knowing the history, but I don't feel like
Speaker 1: that's for us. I think white people should go to
Speaker 1: that ship.
Speaker 2: Yes, exactly, how they do to how they how the
Speaker 2: Jewish people do to people when they step overstep their bounds,
Speaker 2: they send their ass to the damn the Holocaust Museum.
Speaker 2: That's what that's for. That's not for black people. Y'all
Speaker 2: have done enough of ciphering O goddamn energy. Yeah, and
Speaker 2: now you and I saw in the building circulating looking
Speaker 2: at all this crazy.
Speaker 1: Name, all this pain. So I ran through that ship,
Speaker 1: waiting for everybody outside I left. I ran through that yeah,
Speaker 1: straight up, straight up, I ran through that motherfucker. I
Speaker 1: sat outside wait on niggas. I was like, I sit
Speaker 1: out that bitch like somebody got a newport. That ship
Speaker 1: almost driving me to smoke spots. But then we went
Speaker 1: down to the river boat and we saw the Harriet
Speaker 1: and then the chair was out there. I got a
Speaker 1: picture y'all have me holding the folding chair in the
Speaker 1: sky like why ya YadA.
Speaker 2: Like I've heard of me like that.
Speaker 1: That made me feel better, girl. That ship is wild,
Speaker 1: no long, it ain't over. So then that night to
Speaker 1: the club called Infusions something like that. Montgomery. These niggas
Speaker 1: do not dance. The only type of dance they do
Speaker 1: is line dancing.
Speaker 2: Bitch.
Speaker 1: When a song they and they got line dances that
Speaker 1: don't nobody know about? That motherfucker to songs, I'm like, damn,
Speaker 1: who came up with this and then motherfuckers was honky
Speaker 1: talking baby they was but any other thing. Don't nobody dance.
Speaker 1: It was only line dancing. That's the only dancing I
Speaker 1: seen them do. So you've seen some.
Speaker 2: Niggas of gold teeth line dancing.
Speaker 1: Line dancing like a mom. Shit had seventeen steps. I
Speaker 1: could keep up. Well, I think it about you. We
Speaker 1: need to post that video.
Speaker 2: Were supposedly was doing that Mia up to.
Speaker 1: Me a dance.
Speaker 2: Oh.
Speaker 1: I tried to learn that shit over weekend too.
Speaker 2: No, I ain't got enough coordination or brain cells for
Speaker 2: that shit. Man, I need space for other things too.
Speaker 1: Much to remember child.
Speaker 2: So this weekend. So this weekend I went to Charleston
Speaker 2: and the Thanksgiving Thanksgiving wasn't nothing major.
Speaker 1: It's just we barely cooked food.
Speaker 2: For real, man, really, and I really don't need to
Speaker 2: eat anyway. She cooked like turkey wings and shit, I
Speaker 2: made a mac, so I had mac and caligarens. That's it.
Speaker 2: But and Friday night, so our schools are high schools,
Speaker 2: they had like alumni games, like basketball games. Four high schools.
Speaker 2: It was lit. And then the high schools that I
Speaker 2: went to in West Ashley, they had like an alumni
Speaker 2: party Saturday night, so it was nice to see people
Speaker 2: I hadn't seen in years acting stupid, acting up. And
Speaker 2: then we went to a little hood spot after that,
Speaker 2: so it was a little outside weekend for the most part.
Speaker 2: I ain't see no my fucking heads in the sand.
Speaker 1: Right, you went to a black school, I said, I
Speaker 1: sound right, we went to a black school.
Speaker 2: We don't have a well, I guess you could. You
Speaker 2: might consider North Charleston High School a black school. Yeah,
Speaker 2: North Charleston would be a black school. But no, I'm
Speaker 2: from West Ashley, so the schools was mixed. So the
Speaker 2: two high schools we had St. Andrews in Middleton, they
Speaker 2: ended up merging my last year of high school, well
Speaker 2: last two years of high school. But they always was
Speaker 2: like rivals, so they played against each other. Then No
Speaker 2: Choleston Downtown played against each other, and then the winners
Speaker 2: had to play each other.
Speaker 1: So it was cool. You. I feel like black schools
Speaker 1: always get together for some shit. My school was predominantly white.
Speaker 1: I ain't seen the motherfucker since I graduated. We had nothing.
Speaker 2: It's so weird that, Yeah, we didn't go to all
Speaker 2: all white schools or all black schools. But only the
Speaker 2: black people was outside for these things, So maybe maybe
Speaker 2: the game was only maybe we're the only one that
Speaker 2: actually put these stuff together. Because I'm gonna tell you,
Speaker 2: I feel like I mentioned this before when we did
Speaker 2: our ten year high school re union, I didn't realize
Speaker 2: how racist the white people were that we went to
Speaker 2: school with. When I tell you, like the black people
Speaker 2: planned the reunion, it was really really, really nice, top notch,
Speaker 2: even if the principal of school came. But like I said,
Speaker 2: we came from two different high schools, so Middleton was
Speaker 2: more of the honky tongue school, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: The Sandrews, like we all raised together, the black and
Speaker 2: white people. The white people from Middleton were so racist
Speaker 2: when we were planning this goddamn reunion. They're like, I
Speaker 2: don't know any of these people. They went and had
Speaker 2: them a beach day.
Speaker 1: Girl.
Speaker 2: They didn't even come to the reunion. Well, welcome to
Speaker 2: South Carolina. So ooh, girl, isn't it anyway? That was
Speaker 2: my weekend?
Speaker 1: Child.
Speaker 2: Let's take a break right quick and get into this
Speaker 2: stupid internet news. All right, y'all, we back and ingle disaster.
Speaker 2: What we know, all y'all, seen King and t I
Speaker 2: arguing over the weekend. Tiny too oh tiny was there
Speaker 2: too right to? I can't hear a little voice in
Speaker 2: the background, just that fucking spoiled as bratt. Okay, it's
Speaker 2: gonna come a day when you got to put hands
Speaker 2: on one of your kids, at least one, it's going
Speaker 2: to give you hell.
Speaker 1: And he's that kid. He is one of the children.
Speaker 1: He is entitled. He's just not a nice young man period.
Speaker 1: He's not nice to his parents, how he presents on
Speaker 1: social media, it's just not becoming. They named him King.
Speaker 1: That's where they fucked up, because he probably already got
Speaker 1: a complex about superiority to people with that name. Ship.
Speaker 1: They need to like cut him off financially so he
Speaker 1: can be humbled.
Speaker 2: I think no, I don't think they need to. I
Speaker 2: think he needs to go to therapy. I went to
Speaker 2: his page because I have I had a theory in
Speaker 2: my mind about what was going on with him, and
Speaker 2: I do think he has some mental health that she
Speaker 2: was going on. I went to this page and this
Speaker 2: is I went further back than the last few days,
Speaker 2: so I can see, like what his comments usually look like.
Speaker 2: The amount of people that was calling that boy ugly
Speaker 2: and saying little weird things about him was overwhelming. And
Speaker 2: it's just me looking at it. Yeah, right, So imagine
Speaker 2: being the recipient of these comments daily when you just
Speaker 2: try to live Breathe he has, He definitely has a complex,
Speaker 2: multiple of them, and the Internet play a big role
Speaker 2: in that. Yeah, Like, and how do you while everybody
Speaker 2: you know he looks different, We're just going to say
Speaker 2: that he does look different.
Speaker 1: Right.
Speaker 2: I don't think the drags help, you know, he makes
Speaker 2: me just get a little regular color haircut.
Speaker 1: But I think, all right, So I think these young
Speaker 1: people have like social anxieties that we didn't have, and
Speaker 1: you know, not in the amount that has it. And
Speaker 1: I really think that they be hiding under that hair
Speaker 1: and that's why they grow it down in their face
Speaker 1: so they can hide under it. Why is your hair
Speaker 1: in your face like that? It's I think it's the
Speaker 1: place to hide. Absolutely.
Speaker 2: So now me, if that were my child, we'd be
Speaker 2: going to therapy because now your TI's son, right, You're
Speaker 2: trying to now, you know, have your own separate identity
Speaker 2: from your parents, and look how you're being received by
Speaker 2: the world.
Speaker 1: But I think cutting him off from money and excess
Speaker 1: is a form of therapy because he wants to. It's
Speaker 1: an exercise because you feel like you struggle and may
Speaker 1: I won't say he don't have no traumas, because just
Speaker 1: because you have money doesn't mean that you don't see
Speaker 1: trauma growing up. Right, we all have things that happen
Speaker 1: to us, whether we're poor or rich. But you want
Speaker 1: to be hood so bad, I'm gonna give you an
Speaker 1: opportunity to feel it in away in a significant way.
Speaker 1: Not just yeah.
Speaker 2: But then their son might end up in prison. They
Speaker 2: might he might end up in prison. You know what
Speaker 2: I'm saying, trying to get it out the mud in
Speaker 2: the bando. You know what I'm saying, Like, if I
Speaker 2: have the means, I'm never gonna make my child struggle.
Speaker 2: Absolutely not.
Speaker 1: I'll try to if he if he gonna end up
Speaker 1: in jail because you cutting off his money, he go
Speaker 1: in jail with money, what's the train of thought that's
Speaker 1: gonna make you go do some dumb ship like that
Speaker 1: that you wouldn't do it with the money.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I just could. I just wouldn't do that.
Speaker 2: I don't think that that's to me. That's not where
Speaker 2: I was starting and I think the Internet wants to
Speaker 2: see that. I think people want to see him have
Speaker 2: nothing right because we elevate people and then we all not.
Speaker 2: When I say we, I'm talking about the collective because
Speaker 2: this is never my mind, my state of mind, and
Speaker 2: when I think about people like black people love to
Speaker 2: elevate a motherfucker and also simultaneously be the person to
Speaker 2: bring them down. It's not my job to humble anybody.
Speaker 2: It's not any any one.
Speaker 1: Of our jobs to hum No, it's his parents job,
Speaker 1: That's what I'm talking about. It's his parents' job, and
Speaker 1: I think they missed the mark with that with him,
Speaker 1: Like he needs to learn some humility, but.
Speaker 2: All other kids are good, all other kids like he
Speaker 2: needs to learn balance. But there's something else at played.
Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying. It's not just about him wanting
Speaker 2: to be bad. He's acting out for Okay, So here's
Speaker 2: what the document says. It says a lot. They were
Speaker 2: at the Falcons game, so he's embarrassing in them, embarrassing
Speaker 2: them at a fucking football game. Shit win Sideways, King
Speaker 2: started arguing with his parents. Voices intentions continue to rise
Speaker 2: as two sides yell at each other so what it
Speaker 2: says is that a crowd of people can be heard
Speaker 2: teasing King saying he had a silver spoon in his mouth,
Speaker 2: but he barked back, yelling it wasn't true. His mother
Speaker 2: attempted to remind him of his wealthy upbringing as a child.
Speaker 2: Toddy then mentioned that the only reason King loved going
Speaker 2: over to his grand grandmother's house was not so that
Speaker 2: he could run around with his hood raft friends, but
Speaker 2: because he because she allowed him to suck and spacify
Speaker 2: into leave as well. The nineteen year old appeared to
Speaker 2: be offended, claiming that his parents were trying to hide
Speaker 2: the fact that he was really in the streets doing
Speaker 2: all the things, and the two of them tried to
Speaker 2: stare him away from At one point, TI could be
Speaker 2: her yelling nigga, nigga, you ain't. You are an embarrassment
Speaker 2: to your family. You are an ambassament. Later King of
Speaker 2: to your exactly Later, King appeared to pose an obscured
Speaker 2: photo from behind a car wheel. He added the next text,
Speaker 2: I stand on business, don't give a fuck who you are.
Speaker 1: So you feel like this nigga who stands on business
Speaker 1: don't give a fuck who you are? Probably in the
Speaker 1: car that his parents had provided him should not be
Speaker 1: taught given an exercise in getting money for yourself.
Speaker 2: And even his own daddy clin in him. It says
Speaker 2: early this month t I couldn't help but clown his son,
Speaker 2: King Harris over the latter's new teeth.
Speaker 1: What.
Speaker 2: During an appearance on the Baller Alert Show, King was
Speaker 2: asked about his newly white and teeth those are not
Speaker 2: just newly white. And he went to somebody cheap to
Speaker 2: get them chip lit things.
Speaker 1: And because I haven't seen a lot of people come
Speaker 1: back with him, begins teeth in their mouth. And you
Speaker 1: gotta act like you don't notice.
Speaker 2: When I know, hold on when you just said that,
Speaker 2: you gotta act like you don't notice when I tell you,
Speaker 2: I know so many people who got them things in
Speaker 2: their mouth, and I can't help but stare at them
Speaker 2: when they talk.
Speaker 1: You gotta act like you don't see that ship about
Speaker 1: to jump out their face. Yeah.
Speaker 2: So more of the story is he need his ask well,
Speaker 2: but he also needs their man. He going through it.
Speaker 1: He going through it. He needs therapy and he needs
Speaker 1: some financial humility exercises.
Speaker 2: No, I don't think that's the way, but anyway, a
Speaker 2: long couple.
Speaker 1: With therapy, that they don't have to come from a
Speaker 1: dark angry place. It ain't gonna come from a dark
Speaker 1: angry place like what cut you off? No, it's like
Speaker 1: more like we want you to experience life without the
Speaker 1: financial help that that your family provides you, so you
Speaker 1: can understand how privileged you really have been. Because there's
Speaker 1: a disconnect somewhere. It don't have to be man, It
Speaker 1: don't say put him on the street, but he might
Speaker 1: end up there.
Speaker 2: He might not even have the wherewithal to create something
Speaker 2: out of nothing, you know what I'm saying, But because
Speaker 2: he has been so privileged and spoiled, like you know what,
Speaker 2: I like, that's.
Speaker 1: Heat kid, give him like take. He probably still live
Speaker 1: at home. I mean I don't.
Speaker 2: We don't know how he living though, what the setup is.
Speaker 1: You know, she's only nineteen years old. He's only nineteen
Speaker 1: years old. I doubt that he's got his own place,
Speaker 1: so it an't way he got to pay rent nowhere.
Speaker 1: Just a kid, He's just a kid. Parents take, That's
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, giving their kids allowance all the time,
Speaker 1: And why is it any different for king When they misbehaved,
Speaker 1: they get cut off from their allowance. I don't understand
Speaker 1: why it's any different from him.
Speaker 3: From him M I feel I have a lot of
Speaker 3: I think I have a lot of empathy for King
Speaker 3: because I've seen how people be talking to him and
Speaker 3: then you're at a football game and people chanting shit.
Speaker 2: At you, like what the fuck?
Speaker 1: Like, why is that even happening?
Speaker 2: How did he cause that to happen? Did he cause
Speaker 2: it to happen? Or was he's talking shit to somebody?
Speaker 2: Like why is that happening?
Speaker 1: I think it's been his social media persona that he gives,
Speaker 1: entitled little ship. That's what he gives.
Speaker 2: All right, let's move on from King a little badass.
Speaker 1: Anyway, We're gonna pray finally, we love you, my young boy.
Speaker 2: Y'all listen, if you are on dating websites hinge uh
Speaker 2: plenty of fish.
Speaker 1: What's the other one?
Speaker 2: I know?
Speaker 1: You know, I'm dam give me another talking about you know.
Speaker 1: I know, because I ain't got no money. There's hinge
Speaker 1: plenty of fish, tender, there's rayah.
Speaker 2: That's how I want to get on. Riya bitch, do
Speaker 2: you ever get on?
Speaker 1: No, they won't let me on. I don't think I
Speaker 1: think it's on Riyah. I deleted that app. I got
Speaker 1: mad because it's been months the fuck.
Speaker 2: So black people think, oh yeah, black people meet. So
Speaker 2: apparently there's this thing called food Digger. This article says
Speaker 2: food Digger scam. Beware of new scam on dating apps
Speaker 2: like tender Bumble and Hinge.
Speaker 1: Y'all.
Speaker 2: So apparently the restaurants, the restaurants are using bots and
Speaker 2: they're on these dating websites. They are courting women and
Speaker 2: men via the app setting up dates. You get to
Speaker 2: the restaurant waiting on your date. Your date never shows.
Speaker 2: Your mindset is like, well shit, I'm here already, let
Speaker 2: me go ahead and eat. The date unfollows you, unmatches
Speaker 2: with you on the dating app, and now you're spending
Speaker 2: money at least, you know, food and a couple of
Speaker 2: drinks because now you're depressed. They need a fucking ass fud.
Speaker 1: Listen, and you sitting at the Cheesecake Factor like I
Speaker 1: didn't even want to come here another basket of prouderad.
Speaker 1: That's fucked up. That's real, fucked up. People is just
Speaker 1: doing anything for money right now, y'all just have to
Speaker 1: be careful out here, because when the restaurants is date
Speaker 1: fishing you to get you to come in there and
Speaker 1: eat is crazy.
Speaker 2: Yeah, like what like I would have never ever like
Speaker 2: who the fuck is in their marketing department that thought
Speaker 2: about that ship.
Speaker 1: Like imagine Red Loss to be a real charming with
Speaker 1: you in the app so you could go have channar
Speaker 1: baby biscuits. It's crazy, Red Loss of Like, so where
Speaker 1: are you from?
Speaker 2: Bro?
Speaker 1: That's crazy, that's fucking crazy.
Speaker 2: They need they ask what so the restaurants that like, say,
Speaker 2: for in.
Speaker 1: You like to eat, so what you like to eat?
Speaker 2: But they're not like on the apps as Red Lobster
Speaker 2: like they're on the app.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying it's really Red Lobster, but it's a person.
Speaker 1: It's a buy right. Yep.
Speaker 2: That's terrible.
Speaker 1: I really love people. I really love Red Lobster. We
Speaker 1: should meet there.
Speaker 2: Did you see that video of Red Lobster had like
Speaker 2: some maggots in the food?
Speaker 1: Oh no, let's grows.
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I like a lot of them too. I
Speaker 2: like a lot of maggots. I don't really like eating
Speaker 2: out no more. Man, everything the price of everything is
Speaker 2: going up and then equality is going down.
Speaker 1: But yeah, but in the same breath the food. I
Speaker 1: remember when it used to be cheaper to go to
Speaker 1: the grocery store than to go out to eat. And
Speaker 1: that's a lot in the case, y'all.
Speaker 2: So, did I know everybody pretty much watched Squid Squid Games?
Speaker 2: I think what year was that?
Speaker 1: Was? That the high it was? It was like right
Speaker 1: before right when Coach started.
Speaker 2: Yeah, twenty twenty maybe twenty twenty one. Squid Games came
Speaker 2: out so right now, and I saw it when I
Speaker 2: was scrolling through Netflix the other day. Now they have
Speaker 2: a real life challenge, like a real life challenge, Square
Speaker 2: Games Challenge on Netflix right now.
Speaker 1: You couldn't get me to sign up for that shit.
Speaker 2: Absolutely not. And apparently the players want compensation for injuries.
Speaker 1: Did y'all not watch the movie, right, y'all? Lucky, y'all
Speaker 1: ain't dead. Stupid ass took y'all out there and put
Speaker 1: on that green dicky suit. No, it's a sweat suit.
Speaker 1: Is it green or orange? It's green? Oh?
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, okay, and it says contestants on Netflix Squid
Speaker 2: Game the challenge are seeking compensation for alleged injuries, including
Speaker 2: hypothermia and nerve damage sustained during filming. Represented by Express Solicitors,
Speaker 2: they claim poor health and safety standards are on set.
Speaker 2: The game, based on the South Korean drama Squid Game,
Speaker 2: involved players standing still for extended periods and cold temperatures.
Speaker 2: Netflix and Studio Lambert, the co producers emphasize contestants welfare,
Speaker 2: denying serious injuries. So how are you going to tell
Speaker 2: somebody and get fucked up during this game? I mean,
Speaker 2: and essentially it is a job, So why would you
Speaker 2: not be able to get some type of workers compensation?
Speaker 2: But they need to check the contract that they signed
Speaker 2: when they signed up for this fucking challenge where people
Speaker 2: actually were dying on the movie.
Speaker 1: Yeah, what woud y'all expect? I don't understand you could
Speaker 1: like we're doing a real squid games. Would you like
Speaker 1: to sign up? No, niggas die, I'm not playing that game.
Speaker 1: I might you would. I can see you right now.
Speaker 1: Number four fifty six, Oh yo? Good? I four five six?
Speaker 2: I like three six nine?
Speaker 1: No you like six ' nine?
Speaker 2: I don't like six nine? Actually? Do you like it?
Speaker 1: I don't know's I can't enjoy it. If I got
Speaker 1: a word, I like to see my cuchigain eight.
Speaker 2: I do not like like why y'all to do this?
Speaker 2: And that at the same time, like, what is happening?
Speaker 2: It's not enjoyable for real, yang, y'all. So that sence
Speaker 2: for the week, y'all.
Speaker 1: So on Sunday, I was laying in bed and I
Speaker 1: was just like I had this pensive spirit. I was melancholy.
Speaker 1: I don't even know what to call it. I just
Speaker 1: was not feeling my joy yourself at all. It felt
Speaker 1: real low. I was feeling mindy bad. I was feeling
Speaker 1: real down like Sophia from Color. And I was like thinking,
Speaker 1: like does it have something to do with the season?
Speaker 1: And I know a lot of people are suffering from
Speaker 1: seasonal to pre so I wanted us to get into
Speaker 1: the conversation of what that is and how we can
Speaker 1: cope as black people are all people can use these tools,
Speaker 1: but this was specific to black people because I am Black.
Speaker 1: So I have seven ways to cope with seasonal depression.
Speaker 1: So after this break, we'll get into it. And where I.
Speaker 2: So, Tam, what exactly is seasonal depression? Do we know
Speaker 2: exactly what it is?
Speaker 1: All right? So? Seasonal depression, also known as seasonal effective
Speaker 1: disorder SAD, is the acronym for it is a mood
Speaker 1: disorder characterized by depression that occurs at the same time
Speaker 1: every year. Typically it's when during the climate change, when
Speaker 1: there's less sunlight. Typically people aren't typically depressed during the summertime.
Speaker 1: It's usually when it's colder. And I think for you know,
Speaker 1: African Americans, you know, we already have a vitamin D
Speaker 1: deficiency because we are we have melanin and it blocks
Speaker 1: out the sun more than others. So that vitamin D,
Speaker 1: you know, I think it's important for us to add
Speaker 1: it to our diet during the winter months because I
Speaker 1: think that does help with seasonal depression. I'm not sure though.
Speaker 2: But no that I mean that makes sense yet because
Speaker 2: black people do our son, I mean, excuse me, our son,
Speaker 2: that is our son, Okay, it is literally for us,
Speaker 2: and that's why. And it winter times, black people may
Speaker 2: be a little bit more depressed because you know, we
Speaker 2: white people can stand the coal a little bit more
Speaker 2: than we can. It's just a known fact, okay.
Speaker 1: And so.
Speaker 2: I would say, yeah, man, get you a good ass
Speaker 2: vitamin D and and add it beef up on it,
Speaker 2: because I mean, I feel like, I feel like black
Speaker 2: we should already be taking some extra vitamin.
Speaker 1: D and not penis. Not penis girls. I know it's
Speaker 1: a busual listening. I get vitamin D every night.
Speaker 2: Not that when it's cold outside, No, I feel it.
Speaker 1: I feel it because I feel.
Speaker 2: Like when it's yeah, I like when it's I like
Speaker 2: the summertime. I like to go sit out in the
Speaker 2: grass and just you know, absorb the sun. And in
Speaker 2: the winter, I mean the sun is still out, but
Speaker 2: it's like cold.
Speaker 1: I'm not sitting outside. I'd be feeling like more said,
Speaker 1: even like at night. And I think it's because my
Speaker 1: bed is empty every night and I reminded that I'm alone. No,
Speaker 1: I'm not. Do you have sads?
Speaker 2: Is that really sads? Which is the the seasonal depression
Speaker 2: or is it something else? Uh?
Speaker 1: No, it's really it is because I've read that it
Speaker 1: could increase at night during the nighttime.
Speaker 2: That you're if you think about adam, like think about beers,
Speaker 2: they say, animals who end up having to hibernate by themselves,
Speaker 2: they usually die. Like you are supposed to be partnered up,
Speaker 2: especially in the winter, especially in the winter months, like
Speaker 2: humans just sophisticated animals. So where's your partner, you know,
Speaker 2: to help you? Because hugs safe lives, rubbing feet on
Speaker 2: the nigga feet safe lives right.
Speaker 1: Why I ain't got that, I don't know, because I
Speaker 1: can't just invite somebody to my bed, you know, and
Speaker 1: I don't want to just be in someone else's bed.
Speaker 1: You know. It has to be right because you fucking
Speaker 1: around and have the wrong nigga. Then you be sad
Speaker 1: because you rob you know, you know at your house.
Speaker 2: It really said five dollars out of your pocketbook while
Speaker 2: you had right.
Speaker 1: All that bullshit, because now you really said, now you
Speaker 1: got seasonal depression and you're missing money? Like that ain't cool?
Speaker 1: TV gone, I got my I got my eyes set
Speaker 1: on one person. But I'm gonna talk about it in
Speaker 1: my therapy session because I feel like I be too
Speaker 1: excited about these niggas when I like them and they
Speaker 1: be noticing likes. Am I thirsty?
Speaker 2: Is it?
Speaker 1: Given? Thirst? And running like a nigga off?
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, we have to play a game with men. Sometimes
Speaker 2: some men will match your energy, but others it's like
Speaker 2: you have to act like you despise them niggas for
Speaker 2: them to fall in love with you. And I just
Speaker 2: don't have that type of time. Yeah, I kind't have
Speaker 2: that type of time. And in the minute you stop answering
Speaker 2: the phone, and a minute you stop responding immediately, then
Speaker 2: they start ramping it up on you. Those are niggas
Speaker 2: you gotta stay away from because they they got mental issues.
Speaker 2: Now they trying to love bomb you and shit when
Speaker 2: you've removed your energy from them.
Speaker 1: Should I feel a way if I'm having a text
Speaker 1: conversation with someone and they just stop responding abruptly, Yes,
Speaker 1: nobody does.
Speaker 2: That to somebody they like they want to make sure
Speaker 2: you know these times.
Speaker 1: Just come back when like a day later, finishing the conversation.
Speaker 2: That's wold well if you in the stages of trying
Speaker 2: to get to know somebody like via text is never
Speaker 2: the way anyway, Like why we're not on the phone,
Speaker 2: because once you're don't talk for like thirty minutes an hour.
Speaker 2: I really don't need to be texting no more for
Speaker 2: the day. I've already gotten out everything I need to
Speaker 2: say to you on the phone. Call men who like
Speaker 2: the text, women who like the text they have they
Speaker 2: don't like conversation. I like to converse me too.
Speaker 1: I like to be on the phone, So don't fucking
Speaker 1: start a conversation with me via text. And then as
Speaker 1: I'm responding, you just stop responding.
Speaker 2: That's so rude, because it might be flying, driving, all
Speaker 2: type of shit be going on, That's what I'm saying,
Speaker 2: And just call and have a conversation right quick when
Speaker 2: you get a moment.
Speaker 1: Then that way it won't be no text balls dropped.
Speaker 1: All right, So let me get into this list, you guys.
Speaker 1: The first way, there's a therapist named Harris, and this
Speaker 1: is from isy in live dot com. And the first
Speaker 1: thing for you to do, it's feel your feelings. So
Speaker 1: Harris suggests spending intentional time to acknowledge and assess your feelings,
Speaker 1: but don't wallow in them. Black women don't often give
Speaker 1: themselves permission to feel tender emotions because they are often
Speaker 1: encouraged to be strong. Share your feelings, whether it be
Speaker 1: with friends and family or therapists. Make sure that you
Speaker 1: aren't suffering in silence. Now that's a lot of people. Yeah,
Speaker 1: people don't even know how to identify what they feel,
Speaker 1: and they just walk around feeling miserable and not saying shit.
Speaker 1: Because we've been taught to cope, cope with everything.
Speaker 2: And that's why I put on I mean, we are
Speaker 2: not licensed therapists, but I think I give pretty good
Speaker 2: advice and I'm definitely a good listening air. That's why
Speaker 2: I put on the story, like if anybody want to chat,
Speaker 2: this is what we're talking about. If anybody need to talk,
Speaker 2: just to get people out, like because people DMS stuff
Speaker 2: all the time. But maybe they didn't see the story
Speaker 2: so they can could have could have called in and
Speaker 2: had a conversation right quick to us, how you feeling shit,
Speaker 2: How you getting through sads right now?
Speaker 1: I don't think it's nos on it through right now?
Speaker 1: Yoh yeah. So then the list goes on to say
Speaker 1: what we already said, reach for your vitamin D. Y'all. Guys,
Speaker 1: they have h one called black Girl Vitamin D. Y'all
Speaker 1: should check that one out. Uh, specific to your black body,
Speaker 1: created by other black women. So try that. But we're
Speaker 1: gonna move on from that one. Move your body, so
Speaker 1: this is an important one.
Speaker 2: I think that's why I got sad right now. I
Speaker 2: am not moving my fucking body.
Speaker 1: Physical activities such as exercise has shown the decreased symptoms
Speaker 1: of depression. Exercise benefits your brain by increasing memory, relieving stress,
Speaker 1: and improving your sleep, all things that can be beneficial
Speaker 1: to improving your daily function. So y'all get y'all ass
Speaker 1: up and go to that gym. You got in the
Speaker 1: gym in your apartment complex. But you don't have no
Speaker 1: not to take your ass over there. Yo, it's a
Speaker 1: bitch listening Dan, she's talking to me. I do gotta
Speaker 1: give me this month, even if you.
Speaker 2: Just got some ten pound weights, just do some of
Speaker 2: her calisthetics. Yeah, I'm gonna do a workout today.
Speaker 1: I like work out today. I went back to spend.
Speaker 1: I had took like literally a month off and gain
Speaker 1: half of my way back just in a month. So
Speaker 1: I went back and I really enjoyed it. I did
Speaker 1: twelve miles on that bike, and that night I did
Speaker 1: sleep a lot more peacefully than the other night. So
Speaker 1: gotta get yourself physically active, or if.
Speaker 2: You got a man. If you got a man, stop
Speaker 2: being a pillow princess and ride that dick. Okay, get
Speaker 2: some cardio in. I literally wear my fitbit when I'm
Speaker 2: riding dick okay, because I like to count calories. I
Speaker 2: like to see how many calories I've burned, and you
Speaker 2: can actually burn a lot of calories having sex.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I was what that. But you're right,
Speaker 1: You're absolutely right if you.
Speaker 2: But they are just you know how you can select
Speaker 2: your exercise. They need to add sex to it? Why
Speaker 2: sex in on that? I gotta just indoor physical activity.
Speaker 1: Because how you're gonna like decide like a bitch a
Speaker 1: lay on her back and say, yeah, I burned seven
Speaker 1: had the calories.
Speaker 2: That's why I said, ride dick. Okay, you gotta get
Speaker 2: up and ride it.
Speaker 1: You can imagine your app have it ride dick as
Speaker 1: an option. Imagine it.
Speaker 2: It's just sex. Just put sex.
Speaker 1: But sex isn't always exercise.
Speaker 2: Yes, it is, even with laying on your back, like
Speaker 2: the breathing. All of that causes you to burn calories,
Speaker 2: even if you know are not the one.
Speaker 1: Actually, I know some bitches they burned not a liquor
Speaker 1: calorie laying there getting humped by a nigga breathing in
Speaker 1: their faith bill, get off, get off, all right? So
Speaker 1: it says, take advantage of natural light.
Speaker 2: Avoid me up and open the windows, y'all. Yeah, open
Speaker 2: your blinds.
Speaker 1: Avoid being cooped up indoors all day. If you can
Speaker 1: do your best to go out as much as you
Speaker 1: can during the daylight hours, A quick walk around the
Speaker 1: block may help. Elevate your mood, clear your mind, and
Speaker 1: give extra bit of energy. Many of us are home
Speaker 1: more than ever before, so to decrease the likelihood of
Speaker 1: cabin fever, make sure to step outside, even if it's
Speaker 1: for five to ten minutes.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so even if it's coal outside, like, just go out.
Speaker 2: The sun is still out right, So like twelve o'clock
Speaker 2: is when the sun is the hottest. Usually between like
Speaker 2: twelve and three right now, because it is getting dark
Speaker 2: at five forty five. Yeah, I know, yeah, maybe maybe
Speaker 2: even earlier than that, ten between ten and two. Go outside,
Speaker 2: can't you get?
Speaker 1: Like I've seen where people had like artificial sun lamps
Speaker 1: that's like the UV, like, yeah, to get put it
Speaker 1: in your room and just lay up under it.
Speaker 2: I remember, I have a skin disease called pity yourized rosia.
Speaker 1: It don't bother me anymore.
Speaker 2: When I stopped being chicken, I don't have the issues
Speaker 2: no more. But I used to go to the tanning bed,
Speaker 2: and that shit gave me hives. Tanning bed, yes, so
Speaker 2: I'm allergic to that fake light. So what you was
Speaker 2: doing there, I was in the tanning bed. That's all
Speaker 2: I did is went there with a bathy suit on
Speaker 2: and for what turn the tanna bed on. It helps
Speaker 2: your skin, It helps the skin heel.
Speaker 1: Oh from the sign. Yeah that's.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it wasn't helping me. That shit gave me
Speaker 2: fucking hives on top of the other skin is shoe
Speaker 2: I got. Now I'm fucking itching from UV allergy.
Speaker 1: I guess you couldn't get me to get my whole
Speaker 1: body under their fingernail light. That ain't the light for
Speaker 1: your whole I would like sticking my hands in that
Speaker 1: motherfucking thing.
Speaker 2: Oh, the sauna, even if you know, even if you
Speaker 2: don't work out, go to the sauna, just like that's
Speaker 2: the heat, the steam and all that. That should make
Speaker 2: you feel good too. A you do burn calories in
Speaker 2: the sauna. Yeah, so it's like a little tiny little
Speaker 2: workout and it might make you feel better too, sleep
Speaker 2: better for sure.
Speaker 1: I love the song, dude.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so do like thirty minutes in the sauna if
Speaker 2: you can. You might have to step out and breathe
Speaker 2: a little bit and come back.
Speaker 1: The problem with the sauna is Black women we have
Speaker 1: like this relationship with our hair in exercise that just
Speaker 1: has been like unhealthy.
Speaker 2: Man. I don't think they just give a fuck no more.
Speaker 2: Everybody will look fine now. Man, y'all care about hair?
Speaker 2: Y'all still care about y'all hair? I do y'all snatches
Speaker 2: fucking wig off?
Speaker 1: Man, you got them a wig, But if you got
Speaker 1: clippings and you got like a silk press, it's like
Speaker 1: fucked up. Now. I'm getting some braces today. I'm getting
Speaker 1: some brace today for that very reason, because I want
Speaker 1: to lose at least ten pounds before the new year,
Speaker 1: if possible, before the new year. So we'll see, all right,
Speaker 1: next one, write it out. Harris suggests taking inventory of
Speaker 1: your thoughts and emotions by journaling, recognize your triggers, and
Speaker 1: possibly log in the time of day in which you
Speaker 1: experience a decline and mood and energy. This way you
Speaker 1: can be proactive and self care and mindset.
Speaker 2: I gotta get better at it. Writing down. I know
Speaker 2: your ass, write down every fucking thing, y'all. When we
Speaker 2: first started this podcast, this bitch ain't have no computer, y'all.
Speaker 2: Tammy letter used to be like.
Speaker 1: Hold on, let me go get I had an iPad.
Speaker 2: Let me go get my computer. It'll be the notepad.
Speaker 1: She gotta run to the car again, I write it down.
Speaker 1: I still I prefer it instead.
Speaker 2: That's a good practice. That's a good practice because when
Speaker 2: I write, my hand hurts. It's like it's an exercise
Speaker 2: for me. God damn. But you start oing good then
Speaker 2: to get bad.
Speaker 1: Y'all. I see she sent me a video on her
Speaker 1: jacking off, and she's a jackar master and never risks
Speaker 1: be working. But now you can't write?
Speaker 2: What what are you doing to.
Speaker 1: Somebody else on this life? Listen for the record.
Speaker 2: I never said this bitch send her nothing. Nah. I've
Speaker 2: seen her doing some ship, but she ain't never seen
Speaker 2: me doing nothing.
Speaker 1: I have, lie, black girl, you see remember you. I
Speaker 1: ain't gonna say it, but you. First of all, I
Speaker 1: see you do some things.
Speaker 2: Lie.
Speaker 1: Oh you forgot see how forget? I remember? But now
Speaker 1: you can't write? Get your pay and paper.
Speaker 2: Yeah, niggas women do this type of ship too, right,
Speaker 2: y'all think y'all are only trifling ones out here?
Speaker 1: Get trifling too. I'm not trifling. I just I didn't.
Speaker 1: I clicked on the face time. It was like, but
Speaker 1: I you're returned, all right? The last the next one
Speaker 1: is set a realistic sleep schedule. Y'all, Stop scrolling all
Speaker 1: night and take your ass to beg why is this
Speaker 1: talking to me? Because it's you. I'm looking directly at
Speaker 1: you saying that, because I be getting memes and videos
Speaker 1: from this bit two thirty in the morning of a
Speaker 1: fat lady shaking her ass during the water dance and
Speaker 1: talking about this, you girl? Fuck you going to sleep?
Speaker 1: Make me all up in LA with this big old
Speaker 1: bookie huge as fuck? Is she talking about this? You girl?
Speaker 1: Go to sleep?
Speaker 2: I need to go to sleep. I literally have Instagram
Speaker 2: set for two hours a day that I always be
Speaker 2: taking the timer off.
Speaker 1: You might as well just cut that shit off.
Speaker 2: I have my sleep timer. When my phone goes on
Speaker 2: D and D at nine forty five, I be turning
Speaker 2: that off. And then I just stay up till one
Speaker 2: or two o'clock in the morning. And shit is fucking ridiculous.
Speaker 2: And it's a known fact. It's a scientific fact that
Speaker 2: women need more sleep than men. So I gotta find
Speaker 2: a way to get some rest. Man, I never get
Speaker 2: first of all, and then when I do, like leave
Speaker 2: everything off, it just so takes me a long time
Speaker 2: to actually fall asleep. And I don't want to do
Speaker 2: no melotone or none of that shit. Weed weed helps.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why you be going to sleep. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: for sure. I love my little weed and edibles going crazy.
Speaker 1: I last night I put on andre three thousands albums.
Speaker 2: I listen. It sounds every night. It don't matter every night.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you what you need to try. Try
Speaker 1: brown noise, y'all, if you're not at night, go on
Speaker 1: YouTube and put in brown noise and it just sounds
Speaker 1: like it's not white noise, like the one from the
Speaker 1: TV is brown. I don't know what the difference is,
Speaker 1: but it works. It helped me fall asleep. And I
Speaker 1: even have an app.
Speaker 2: I have an app I paid eighty four ninety nine
Speaker 2: a year for. It's called Sinctuition, and that helps. But
Speaker 2: you know, I have a new I've been using the
Speaker 2: Beats headphones and them should be doing something in my ear,
Speaker 2: so I'll be wanting to fall asleep with them in
Speaker 2: my brain.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: But I used to when I need to give me
Speaker 2: another set of wired headphones, because with the wired headphones,
Speaker 2: I would plug it in and just listen to sinc Tuition.
Speaker 2: I'll be out of there.
Speaker 1: Just don't even use headphones, just put on put it on.
Speaker 2: Yet sometimes I do speak mm hmm.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so yeah we gotta have betters. Yeah, me too, scrolling.
Speaker 1: Don't let me get on tick talk. I'll be watching
Speaker 1: bitches cook, watching how to fold. I do not know
Speaker 1: how to fold a fitish sheet. Still, do y'all know
Speaker 1: how to really fold the finish sheet I just put.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can fool it, but it's so it's not
Speaker 2: gonna look as neat as the top sheet.
Speaker 1: It don't never look good. My shit be like in
Speaker 1: a neat little ball in the club. Stupid y'all. If
Speaker 1: y'all know how to fold the fish sheet, please send
Speaker 1: me a video, because I can't do that shit. It
Speaker 1: be pissing me off, all right. The last one is
Speaker 1: choose joy. So you need to find happiness by any
Speaker 1: means necessary. Everything isn't all sad and dying during this time.
Speaker 1: Be intentional and finding things that you do enjoy about
Speaker 1: this time? Is it snuggling underwarm blankets? Is it pump
Speaker 1: pumpkin spice lattes? Is it fall? Is it holiday? Decre Like?
Speaker 1: Whatever you delight in, do more of that. So you
Speaker 1: have to choose to be happy, and I mean just
Speaker 1: try to. But what if you like to eat well,
Speaker 1: then eat, but in moderation eat find good things to eat,
Speaker 1: find healthier ways to enjoy food.
Speaker 2: I have started eating olives like a lot.
Speaker 1: Well, I like all ofves.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I never knew I like them.
Speaker 1: Do you like dirty martinis? No? I love Oh you
Speaker 1: gotta try it if you like all.
Speaker 2: Well, now, but that's vodka, right mm hmm.
Speaker 1: Well you don't have to have it. You can get
Speaker 1: it made. Yeah, you can get it made different. It
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be vodka. But I'll give me a
Speaker 1: nice little kettle warmar dirty martini extra. I like my
Speaker 1: extra dirty making extra dirty stir with and you can
Speaker 1: get the blue cheese olives with it.
Speaker 2: Oh, girl, girl, listen, I'd be going to Whole Foods
Speaker 2: to getting them alives. You know how expensive that fucking
Speaker 2: bar is. Yeah, that those blue cheese. They have a
Speaker 2: ranch one too.
Speaker 1: Oh that sound good?
Speaker 2: Why is this happening? But yeah, I never knew all
Speaker 2: of this was that good.
Speaker 1: Olives is a good snack. Damn. I mean they hire
Speaker 1: in sodium though, so you gotta be careful. But I
Speaker 1: know so I.
Speaker 2: Did one of those little things with like maybe about
Speaker 2: fifteen of them in there. That's five dollars.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's expensive.
Speaker 2: And I'll eat that whole shit.
Speaker 1: But fifteen hours ain't bad. You know that's not bad
Speaker 1: versus fifteen cookies.
Speaker 2: I never eat no fifteen cookies. Bit you're running out.
Speaker 1: I'm saying you, I'll easily run through a sleeve of
Speaker 1: oreoles chilling on the couch.
Speaker 2: I don't eat orioles no more ever since I've seen
Speaker 2: his TikTok video. Well, actually I hadn't been eating them
Speaker 2: before then because they just don't taste the same anymore
Speaker 2: to me. But they have some I'm singing the video.
Speaker 2: They were pointing out how the orioles have these sadist
Speaker 2: symbols on them, said, what's true?
Speaker 1: Oreosy, you know how to ruin a good snack for me?
Speaker 1: I'm helping. Look, you know yours. You know your oreoles
Speaker 1: got the devil in them? Like is evil?
Speaker 2: God, damn, Listen, everything is not what we think.
Speaker 1: That's just it.
Speaker 2: And I feel like a lot of the veil has
Speaker 2: been lifted. So a lot of people notice the ship
Speaker 2: that they didn't notice before.
Speaker 1: That's it. You could have just kept that one and
Speaker 1: let me just have my oreos. So like sometimes ignorance
Speaker 1: ignorance can be blissed.
Speaker 2: Let me see what else I can ruin for you,
Speaker 2: because you can lose them ten pounds by New Year's.
Speaker 1: No, girlshav the fuck up. We about to go to commercial.
Speaker 1: We'll be right back, y'all.
Speaker 2: So we have a Somebody commented on the post. It
Speaker 2: says it's coming. I'm getting sick of myself that that
Speaker 2: New Year New meat stigmas engraves in my mind. I'm
Speaker 2: working on being okay in the now. Stop overplanning, overthinking,
Speaker 2: and overly growing. I'm not a I'm not a GMO plant,
Speaker 2: So why am I forcing myself to be one? Thanks
Speaker 2: for listening.
Speaker 1: Who said that?
Speaker 2: It's me Auntie Energy I n e er.
Speaker 1: I like, hey, hey, Auntie, I oh, I agree. Stop.
Speaker 1: We don't pat ourselves on the back and of for
Speaker 1: what we already doing. Yeah, sometimes y'all beat yourself up
Speaker 1: for not getting nothing done. Sometimes it's okay to just
Speaker 1: not do shit. You know you do already do so much.
Speaker 1: Just not do shit sometimes, and don't beat yourself up
Speaker 1: about it. Shit fucking clothes, they'll get folded.
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no. See that's the thing that we
Speaker 2: can't do. You can't let your space get messy, because
Speaker 2: that's how your mind then starts to feel.
Speaker 1: If you go one day without folding some clothes, you'll
Speaker 1: be it ain't gonna it, ain't there bad.
Speaker 2: But if you depressed, one day turns into two, two
Speaker 2: days turns into three. I think you remember that movie
Speaker 2: with a guy took the pill and he got like
Speaker 2: real smart.
Speaker 1: The first thing he did was clean up his home.
Speaker 2: Yes, exactly. You got to keep the house clean, no
Speaker 2: matter what. No matter what, y'all keep your house clean.
Speaker 1: No, I disagree. If you need a break, break bitch,
Speaker 1: whenever it is clean or not clean. If you need
Speaker 1: a break, if you're tired, you just don't feel like it,
Speaker 1: don't fucking do it till you can't, till you can't.
Speaker 2: When a person is depressed, you're saying and telling them
Speaker 2: to do some shit when they can you might. I
Speaker 2: didn't say, God, force yourself to keep the space clean
Speaker 2: at least man.
Speaker 1: No, we're we're talking about we're talking about what Auntie said,
Speaker 1: and she said, you know, giving herself to she don't
Speaker 1: have to grow so fast out growing and doing no.
Speaker 2: But she was more talking about, you know, thinking about
Speaker 2: the next year and resolutions and things you gotta do
Speaker 2: like that. Stuff can't cause you anxiety thinking about the
Speaker 2: future oftentimes, so live in the now. What I'm saying
Speaker 2: is in order to even plan or do anything, you
Speaker 2: got to keep a clean space. You just you have to.
Speaker 1: I agree to me. But if you want to take
Speaker 1: a break, take it.
Speaker 2: Nobody's saying not take a break, Tommy. Of course, that's
Speaker 2: all I wanted two days, but that turns into a
Speaker 2: week for some people.
Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying is if you need a break,
Speaker 1: take it. That's all I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that can turn into a whole two weeks of
Speaker 2: ship on your floor, stuff in the closet, all and disarray.
Speaker 2: Your kitchen ain't clean.
Speaker 1: Day too.
Speaker 2: That's that's become a thing on social media. These I
Speaker 2: call them hoiters because that's what the house looks like.
Speaker 2: House hod girl, Listen, I don't care. Hoiter.
Speaker 1: That's not what.
Speaker 2: It's a hoiter.
Speaker 1: That's what it is. It's a hoarder.
Speaker 2: Hoiter. That's my dialect. Okay, I know how to spell hoiter.
Speaker 2: This is how it's. This is how I'm gonna pronounce it.
Speaker 2: I say a lot of words, you say a lot
Speaker 2: of words that may not be correct and because of
Speaker 2: a dialect. Okay, so the hoiters, Okay, British.
Speaker 1: They have these videos.
Speaker 2: Now these women are like the cars are nasty, the
Speaker 2: houses are nasty, and they like they posted videos cleaning
Speaker 2: it like did you make your shit get that nasty
Speaker 2: so you can make a video like content cleaning it up.
Speaker 1: I follow this one black lady. She is actually a
Speaker 1: therapist and her home got really really really out of
Speaker 1: control because she was depressed, and she's posted making videos
Speaker 1: to her like getting rid of all the clutter and
Speaker 1: the nasty because it was a lot of nasty going on,
Speaker 1: and people were in the videos judging all the perfect
Speaker 1: people judging her life, and she was like, you know,
Speaker 1: I I'm sorry, I'm not perfect, like y'all, I went
Speaker 1: through a rough patch. This is me getting out of it.
Speaker 1: And then a lot of people align with her, like,
Speaker 1: you know, I applaud you for showing your reality to us.
Speaker 1: So everybody got they own shit. But I'm not saying
Speaker 1: let your house go. I'm just saying, if you need
Speaker 1: to take a day to not, take a day to
Speaker 1: not there's nothing wrong with that. Either. Some people got
Speaker 1: their hand. They played soul full, they juggling, they single mothers,
Speaker 1: they juggling kids, job, sick parents, all these things, and
Speaker 1: then they come home and they see a polo clothes,
Speaker 1: clean clothes on the bed, fucking clothes for a night.
Speaker 1: It's okay, No, you're not gonna die if the clothes
Speaker 1: don't get folded tonight. Give yourself some grace. You're already
Speaker 1: a superhero. Shit mm fuck it.
Speaker 2: Yeah for one day?
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, hold on.
Speaker 4: Hodsds hoarders, hoiters, No hoarders, hoarders, hoarders, not no hois.
Speaker 2: It's a hoiter. What what o the extra land at
Speaker 2: my bus?
Speaker 1: Hoarders not hoiterss hoarders hoarders. You're saying hoiters is horders,
Speaker 1: So what it's the same thing. It's not.
Speaker 2: It's not bitch's goddamn inionaires hoiters.
Speaker 1: No, it's hoards.
Speaker 2: What you want, y'all like betting You're like, you're like
Speaker 2: hoarders whore because see that's the that's the part she likes.
Speaker 1: She's like, that's what you deflected from the word.
Speaker 2: Like that, that you're a hoarder, aarder and you're a hoarder.
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I am a hoarder of clothing.
Speaker 2: No, I'm a hoarder of hair products and mail.
Speaker 1: Mail. Yes, oh that ship out never make it in
Speaker 1: my house, especially the bills. I ain't opening that fuck that.
Speaker 1: That should be a short in the car. That should
Speaker 1: be going to the trash at the mailbox, like, bitch,
Speaker 1: you know what I need to pay? Why are y'all
Speaker 1: talking to me? Are y'all sending me a paper mail?
Speaker 1: Y'all are wasting paper where you you don't give a
Speaker 1: fuck about the environment. That'd be the final notices you're
Speaker 1: getting mail.
Speaker 2: Now that email you fifty eleven times, that's the final notice.
Speaker 1: Mail that can go to hell. That's all I'm saying. Hey,
Speaker 1: you boys, nothing give you, raggedy motherfuck is nothing. Now
Speaker 1: I'm joking, I'm gonna pay my student loans. I fuck
Speaker 1: with you, Sally.
Speaker 2: Now, I'm fucking Sally because they ain't forgive none of
Speaker 2: my shit. Yeh, look I probably don't have enough qualifying payments.
Speaker 2: Fuck them student loans. Okay, that shit is a burden.
Speaker 2: It is on our generation.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: They doing so much to help, like the party and
Speaker 2: stuff we had this weekend, that is to give out scholarships.
Speaker 2: That's nice for the graduating class of twenty twenty four
Speaker 2: from high school. Dog, we ain't have no help for
Speaker 2: our generation. We just got all of these fucking student loans.
Speaker 2: That is calling me causing me sad.
Speaker 1: It's causing you said, it's definitely causing me some saying
Speaker 1: that shit though a seasonal. That shit all year long.
Speaker 1: Bhind that shit.
Speaker 2: Fuck them student loans, man, y'all fuck them bills. If
Speaker 2: you don't clean, at least listen fucking.
Speaker 1: The Fuck them bills and fuck them clothes. Fuck all
Speaker 1: that shit. Fuck them kids. Know I'm call CPS on you. Now.
Speaker 1: Don't do that. Girl.
Speaker 2: Fuck them kids for a day. Girl, if you a
Speaker 2: single parent, go drop them damn kids off to the
Speaker 2: gam granny house. Okay, once they on the porch, they
Speaker 2: ain't gonna do nothing.
Speaker 1: Just don't leave them somewhere. Now, Fuck them kids. We
Speaker 1: talk bad to no. Make sure it's safe though. I mean,
Speaker 1: you can drop them off the grandma, but don't be
Speaker 1: dropping them off the grandma and grandma don't know that's
Speaker 1: fucked up. I don't see the video of that where
Speaker 1: they girl want to leave her kids with her grandma.
Speaker 1: She just wanted with her mama because she want to
Speaker 1: be free.
Speaker 2: Man, that postpartum depression is real. It might even get
Speaker 2: any even worse during the summertime, during the winter sormery,
Speaker 2: when you don't have support. Yeah, sometimes like that's the
Speaker 2: best thing to do us as opposed to killing the ass,
Speaker 2: because women be killing their kids out here because they're overwhelmed.
Speaker 2: They don't have any support, they don't have any help.
Speaker 2: So if I got to drop them, if you got
Speaker 2: to drop me, because I mean, listen, I'm about to
Speaker 2: have a baby by my goddamn self. Because if a
Speaker 2: nigga leave you better take your kid with you and
Speaker 2: this child support check. You're gonna leave me with a baby,
Speaker 2: Yes the fuck I will. If a nigga thinks he's
Speaker 2: about to leave me with a kid, you're sadly mistaken,
Speaker 2: my nigga. This baby started in you, This baby came
Speaker 2: out of you first, and you think you're just gonna
Speaker 2: leave the seed in me and walk away go with
Speaker 2: your daddy.
Speaker 1: What am I do with two more keys? What am
Speaker 1: I do with keys? You should have.
Speaker 2: Thought about that before you got pregnant. Nigga should have
Speaker 2: thought about that shit. I remember one of my homegirls. Man,
Speaker 2: we used to work at the same job and she
Speaker 2: had a baby, young girl, she was younger than me,
Speaker 2: and she had the baby. She kept missing work. I'm like, listen,
Speaker 2: you gotta lose your job. Your baby daddy don't work nowhere,
Speaker 2: his mom doesn't work anywhere. If you won't drop that
Speaker 2: baby off on the porch and call him from the car,
Speaker 2: she ended up losing her job. Damn you had you
Speaker 2: have child care. You shouldn't be trying to figure out
Speaker 2: how you're gonna work and take care of your kid
Speaker 2: and watch your kid. When you have you have support.
Speaker 2: Sometimes you just have to nudge people a little bit.
Speaker 2: Drop that fucking baby off.
Speaker 1: Shit, not that fucking drop that fucking baby off. Just
Speaker 1: get the fuck up out of here, y'all.
Speaker 2: If you have see those depression, seek therapy, go to
Speaker 2: go talk to somebody.
Speaker 1: Call me, y'a can call you. Yeah, it might cost
Speaker 1: you a couple of dollars, but look, we should have.
Speaker 2: Did a little Thanksgiving, little Thanksgiving discount code or something
Speaker 2: for the New Year years.
Speaker 1: Maybe we can implement that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, hit us up. You know, I'm not a
Speaker 2: licensed therapist, but I'm like, oh, we do.
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm gonna give you any real
Speaker 1: solid advice outside of the last, but you gonna laugh, bitch.
Speaker 1: That's all I can saying. That might help a little bit.
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