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Speaker 1: Talk Talk Talk to We're just two unapologetically black women

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Speaker 2: Ooh what's up y'all? Thank you for tuning in for

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Speaker 2: a new episode and we talked back a show dedicated

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Speaker 2: to you dreamers and chasers and everybody else.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Today anyway, it's your co host AJ Holiday.

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Speaker 1: Y'all, It's me Tian Bama. I love y'all once again.

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Speaker 1: I love you AJ girl.

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Speaker 2: Thanksgiving just passed. Did you eat a lot?

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Speaker 1: Girl? I ate everything wasn't nailed to the table. I

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Speaker 1: went down to Montgomery, Alabama, where my sister lives. She

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Speaker 1: hosted this year, and I was only supposed to make.

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Speaker 1: I set everybody up with what they were supposed to do,

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Speaker 1: and they agreed to it, right, So I made sure

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Speaker 1: to make my lists very small of what I was

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Speaker 1: supposed to do. I was supposed to make a potter

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Speaker 1: rice and some deviled eggs, no mac. Tanisha was insistent

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Speaker 1: that it was her house and she was making the

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Speaker 1: mac and cheese this year. Fine, whatever. Before I knew it,

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Speaker 1: I had tone made the collar greens dressing, rice and gravy,

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Speaker 1: some meshed potatoes and deviled eggs, and I was helping

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Speaker 1: her with the mag.

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Speaker 2: Shame. She tried to show your mac up this year.

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Speaker 1: She tried, she tried. It wasn't mine. It was good,

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Speaker 1: but it wasn't mine. You know what I'm saying. You

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Speaker 1: did anything for the weekend? Oh yeah, we went to

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Speaker 1: We went to the museum, the Legacy Museum in Montgomery.

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Speaker 1: It was very I ain't want to be there. I

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Speaker 1: ran through it. I ain't gonna lie. I ran through it.

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Speaker 1: That ship was like little chap of horrors. It was

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Speaker 1: literally like as soon as you walk in the museum,

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Speaker 1: niggas heads on the ground. What God, Yeah, it was

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Speaker 1: like they was in the ocean, the people who jumped

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Speaker 1: off the boats, so all their heads was like down

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Speaker 1: in the sand and they just was like screaming and

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Speaker 1: you can hear chains, and I was like, I don't

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Speaker 1: want to put myself through this. They had like jars up.

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Speaker 1: They literally had people go to the places where we've

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Speaker 1: known black people were lyched and dig some of the

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Speaker 1: sand from under the tree and put it in the

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Speaker 1: jar and bring it there. So she looked there like, oh,

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Speaker 1: some of their DNA might be in that sand.

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Speaker 2: What is wrong with people? Like listen, I believe in

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Speaker 2: with Kraft period, I might do a little something something

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Speaker 2: that shit sounds crazy as hell to me that y'all

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Speaker 2: going to take remains from people and bind them in

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Speaker 2: a jar somewhere in a museum. Y'all doing replications of

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Speaker 2: people in the sand. That is weird. And that's just

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Speaker 2: like when we went to Memphis and y'all went to

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Speaker 2: that goddamn museum.

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Speaker 1: That's what I not. That's what I said. I'm not

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Speaker 1: do none of that no more. It's just doesn't I

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Speaker 1: was like, do y'all feel good now like this? I

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Speaker 1: feel I feel sad.

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Speaker 2: I have so much more, greater things that we could

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Speaker 2: put in a museum about black people.

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Speaker 1: I swear yeah. I was like, is this our legacy?

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Speaker 1: Because it's called the Legacy Museum, and what nothing but

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Speaker 1: black people there?

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Speaker 2: So it's like, it's not our legacy.

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Speaker 1: We're living our own trauma. I understand the importantness of

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Speaker 1: importance of knowing the history, but I don't feel like

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Speaker 1: that's for us. I think white people should go to

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Speaker 1: that ship.

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Speaker 2: Yes, exactly, how they do to how they how the

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Speaker 2: Jewish people do to people when they step overstep their bounds,

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Speaker 2: they send their ass to the damn the Holocaust Museum.

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Speaker 2: That's what that's for. That's not for black people. Y'all

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Speaker 2: have done enough of ciphering O goddamn energy. Yeah, and

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Speaker 2: now you and I saw in the building circulating looking

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Speaker 1: Name, all this pain. So I ran through that ship,

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Speaker 1: waiting for everybody outside I left. I ran through that yeah,

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Speaker 1: straight up, straight up, I ran through that motherfucker. I

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Speaker 1: out that bitch like somebody got a newport. That ship

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Speaker 1: and then the chair was out there. I got a

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Speaker 2: Like I've heard of me like that.

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Speaker 1: That made me feel better, girl. That ship is wild,

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Speaker 1: no long, it ain't over. So then that night to

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Speaker 1: the club called Infusions something like that. Montgomery. These niggas

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Speaker 2: Bitch.

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Speaker 1: When a song they and they got line dances that

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Speaker 1: don't nobody know about? That motherfucker to songs, I'm like, damn,

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Speaker 1: who came up with this and then motherfuckers was honky

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Speaker 1: talking baby they was but any other thing. Don't nobody dance.

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Speaker 1: It was only line dancing. That's the only dancing I

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Speaker 2: Niggas of gold teeth line dancing.

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Speaker 1: Line dancing like a mom. Shit had seventeen steps. I

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Speaker 1: could keep up. Well, I think it about you. We

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Speaker 1: need to post that video.

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Speaker 2: Were supposedly was doing that Mia up to.

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Speaker 1: Me a dance.

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 1: I tried to learn that shit over weekend too.

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Speaker 2: No, I ain't got enough coordination or brain cells for

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Speaker 2: that shit. Man, I need space for other things too.

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Speaker 1: Much to remember child.

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Speaker 2: So this weekend. So this weekend I went to Charleston

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Speaker 2: and the Thanksgiving Thanksgiving wasn't nothing major.

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Speaker 1: It's just we barely cooked food.

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Speaker 2: For real, man, really, and I really don't need to

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Speaker 2: eat anyway. She cooked like turkey wings and shit, I

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Speaker 2: made a mac, so I had mac and caligarens. That's it.

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Speaker 2: But and Friday night, so our schools are high schools,

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Speaker 2: they had like alumni games, like basketball games. Four high schools.

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Speaker 2: It was lit. And then the high schools that I

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Speaker 2: party Saturday night, so it was nice to see people

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Speaker 2: I hadn't seen in years acting stupid, acting up. And

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Speaker 2: then we went to a little hood spot after that,

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Speaker 2: so it was a little outside weekend for the most part.

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Speaker 2: I ain't see no my fucking heads in the sand.

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Speaker 1: Right, you went to a black school, I said, I

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Speaker 1: sound right, we went to a black school.

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Speaker 2: We don't have a well, I guess you could. You

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Speaker 2: might consider North Charleston High School a black school. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: North Charleston would be a black school. But no, I'm

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Speaker 2: from West Ashley, so the schools was mixed. So the

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Speaker 2: last two years of high school. But they always was

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Speaker 1: So it was cool. You. I feel like black schools

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Speaker 1: always get together for some shit. My school was predominantly white.

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Speaker 1: I ain't seen the motherfucker since I graduated. We had nothing.

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Speaker 2: It's so weird that, Yeah, we didn't go to all

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Speaker 2: the game was only maybe we're the only one that

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Speaker 2: I feel like I mentioned this before when we did

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Speaker 2: our ten year high school re union, I didn't realize

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Speaker 2: how racist the white people were that we went to

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Speaker 2: planned the reunion, it was really really, really nice, top notch,

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Speaker 2: even if the principal of school came. But like I said,

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Speaker 2: we came from two different high schools, so Middleton was

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Speaker 2: more of the honky tongue school, you know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 2: The Sandrews, like we all raised together, the black and

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Speaker 2: white people. The white people from Middleton were so racist

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Speaker 2: when we were planning this goddamn reunion. They're like, I

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Speaker 2: don't know any of these people. They went and had

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Speaker 1: Girl.

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Speaker 2: They didn't even come to the reunion. Well, welcome to

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Speaker 2: South Carolina. So ooh, girl, isn't it anyway? That was

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Speaker 2: my weekend?

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Speaker 1: Child.

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Speaker 2: Let's take a break right quick and get into this

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Speaker 2: stupid internet news. All right, y'all, we back and ingle disaster.

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Speaker 2: What we know, all y'all, seen King and t I

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Speaker 2: arguing over the weekend. Tiny too oh tiny was there

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Speaker 2: too right to? I can't hear a little voice in

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Speaker 2: the background, just that fucking spoiled as bratt. Okay, it's

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Speaker 2: gonna come a day when you got to put hands

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Speaker 2: on one of your kids, at least one, it's going

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Speaker 2: to give you hell.

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Speaker 1: And he's that kid. He is one of the children.

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Speaker 1: He is entitled. He's just not a nice young man period.

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Speaker 1: He's not nice to his parents, how he presents on

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Speaker 1: social media, it's just not becoming. They named him King.

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Speaker 1: That's where they fucked up, because he probably already got

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Speaker 1: a complex about superiority to people with that name. Ship.

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Speaker 1: They need to like cut him off financially so he

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Speaker 2: I think no, I don't think they need to. I

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Speaker 2: think he needs to go to therapy. I went to

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Speaker 2: I do think he has some mental health that she

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Speaker 2: so I can see, like what his comments usually look like.

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Speaker 2: The amount of people that was calling that boy ugly

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Speaker 2: it's just me looking at it. Yeah, right, So imagine

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Speaker 2: being the recipient of these comments daily when you just

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Speaker 2: try to live Breathe he has, He definitely has a complex,

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Speaker 2: multiple of them, and the Internet play a big role

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Speaker 2: in that. Yeah, Like, and how do you while everybody

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Speaker 2: you know he looks different, We're just going to say

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Speaker 2: that he does look different.

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 2: I don't think the drags help, you know, he makes

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Speaker 2: me just get a little regular color haircut.

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Speaker 1: But I think, all right, So I think these young

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Speaker 1: people have like social anxieties that we didn't have, and

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Speaker 1: you know, not in the amount that has it. And

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Speaker 1: I really think that they be hiding under that hair

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Speaker 1: and that's why they grow it down in their face

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Speaker 1: so they can hide under it. Why is your hair

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Speaker 1: in your face like that? It's I think it's the

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Speaker 1: place to hide. Absolutely.

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Speaker 2: So now me, if that were my child, we'd be

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Speaker 2: going to therapy because now your TI's son, right, You're

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Speaker 2: trying to now, you know, have your own separate identity

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Speaker 2: from your parents, and look how you're being received by

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Speaker 2: the world.

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Speaker 1: But I think cutting him off from money and excess

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Speaker 1: is a form of therapy because he wants to. It's

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Speaker 1: an exercise because you feel like you struggle and may

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Speaker 1: I won't say he don't have no traumas, because just

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Speaker 1: because you have money doesn't mean that you don't see

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Speaker 1: trauma growing up. Right, we all have things that happen

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Speaker 1: to us, whether we're poor or rich. But you want

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Speaker 1: to be hood so bad, I'm gonna give you an

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Speaker 1: Not just yeah.

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Speaker 1: So you feel like this nigga who stands on business

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Speaker 2: And even his own daddy clin in him. It says

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Speaker 1: You gotta act like you don't see that ship about

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Speaker 2: So more of the story is he need his ask well,

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Speaker 2: but he also needs their man. He going through it.

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Speaker 1: He going through it. He needs therapy and he needs

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Speaker 2: No, I don't think that's the way, but anyway, a

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Speaker 1: With therapy, that they don't have to come from a

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Speaker 1: angry place like what cut you off? No, it's like

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Speaker 1: don't say put him on the street, but he might

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Speaker 2: He might not even have the wherewithal to create something

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Speaker 2: I like, that's.

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Speaker 1: Heat kid, give him like take. He probably still live

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Speaker 2: We don't know how he living though, what the setup is.

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Speaker 1: You know, she's only nineteen years old. He's only nineteen

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Speaker 1: so it an't way he got to pay rent nowhere.

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Speaker 1: And why is it any different for king When they misbehaved,

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Speaker 1: Like, why is that even happening?

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Speaker 2: How did he cause that to happen? Did he cause

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Speaker 2: Like why is that happening?

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Speaker 1: I think it's been his social media persona that he gives,

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Speaker 1: entitled little ship. That's what he gives.

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Speaker 2: All right, let's move on from King a little badass.

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Speaker 1: Anyway, We're gonna pray finally, we love you, my young boy.

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Speaker 2: Y'all listen, if you are on dating websites hinge uh

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Speaker 2: plenty of fish.

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Speaker 1: What's the other one?

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Speaker 2: I know?

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm dam give me another talking about you know.

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Speaker 1: I know, because I ain't got no money. There's hinge

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Speaker 1: plenty of fish, tender, there's rayah.

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Speaker 2: That's how I want to get on. Riya bitch, do

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Speaker 2: you ever get on?

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Speaker 1: No, they won't let me on. I don't think I

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Speaker 1: think it's on Riyah. I deleted that app. I got

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Speaker 2: So black people think, oh yeah, black people meet. So

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Speaker 2: apparently there's this thing called food Digger. This article says

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Speaker 2: food Digger scam. Beware of new scam on dating apps

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Speaker 2: like tender Bumble and Hinge.

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Speaker 1: Y'all.

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Speaker 2: So apparently the restaurants, the restaurants are using bots and

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Speaker 2: Your mindset is like, well shit, I'm here already, let

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Speaker 2: me go ahead and eat. The date unfollows you, unmatches

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Speaker 2: drinks because now you're depressed. They need a fucking ass fud.

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Speaker 1: Listen, and you sitting at the Cheesecake Factor like I

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Speaker 1: That's fucked up. That's real, fucked up. People is just

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Speaker 1: doing anything for money right now, y'all just have to

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Speaker 1: be careful out here, because when the restaurants is date

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like what like I would have never ever like

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Speaker 2: who the fuck is in their marketing department that thought

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Speaker 1: Like imagine Red Loss to be a real charming with

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Speaker 1: you in the app so you could go have channar

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Speaker 1: baby biscuits. It's crazy, Red Loss of Like, so where

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Speaker 1: are you from?

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Speaker 2: Bro?

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Speaker 1: That's crazy, that's fucking crazy.

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Speaker 2: They need they ask what so the restaurants that like, say,

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Speaker 1: You like to eat, so what you like to eat?

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Speaker 2: But they're not like on the apps as Red Lobster

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Speaker 1: I'm just saying it's really Red Lobster, but it's a person.

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Speaker 1: It's a buy right. Yep.

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Speaker 2: That's terrible.

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Speaker 1: I really love people. I really love Red Lobster. We

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Speaker 2: Did you see that video of Red Lobster had like

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Speaker 1: Oh no, let's grows.

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I like a lot of them too. I

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Speaker 2: out no more. Man, everything the price of everything is

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Speaker 1: But yeah, but in the same breath the food. I

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Speaker 2: So, did I know everybody pretty much watched Squid Squid Games?

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Speaker 2: I think what year was that?

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Speaker 1: Was? That the high it was? It was like right

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Speaker 2: Yeah, twenty twenty maybe twenty twenty one. Squid Games came

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Speaker 2: out so right now, and I saw it when I

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Speaker 2: a real life challenge, like a real life challenge, Square

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Speaker 2: Games Challenge on Netflix right now.

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Speaker 1: You couldn't get me to sign up for that shit.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely not. And apparently the players want compensation for injuries.

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Speaker 1: Did y'all not watch the movie, right, y'all? Lucky, y'all

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Speaker 1: ain't dead. Stupid ass took y'all out there and put

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Speaker 1: on that green dicky suit. No, it's a sweat suit.

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Speaker 1: Is it green or orange? It's green? Oh?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, okay, and it says contestants on Netflix Squid

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Speaker 2: Game the challenge are seeking compensation for alleged injuries, including

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Speaker 2: hypothermia and nerve damage sustained during filming. Represented by Express Solicitors,

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Speaker 2: they claim poor health and safety standards are on set.

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Speaker 2: The game, based on the South Korean drama Squid Game,

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Speaker 2: Netflix and Studio Lambert, the co producers emphasize contestants welfare,

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Speaker 2: denying serious injuries. So how are you going to tell

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Speaker 2: somebody and get fucked up during this game? I mean,

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Speaker 2: and essentially it is a job, So why would you

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Speaker 2: But they need to check the contract that they signed

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Speaker 2: when they signed up for this fucking challenge where people

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what woud y'all expect? I don't understand you could

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Speaker 1: like we're doing a real squid games. Would you like

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Speaker 1: to sign up? No, niggas die, I'm not playing that game.

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Speaker 1: I might you would. I can see you right now.

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Speaker 1: Number four fifty six, Oh yo? Good? I four five six?

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Speaker 2: I like three six nine?

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Speaker 1: No you like six ' nine?

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Speaker 2: I don't like six nine? Actually? Do you like it?

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Speaker 1: I don't know's I can't enjoy it. If I got

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Speaker 1: a word, I like to see my cuchigain eight.

440
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Speaker 2: I do not like like why y'all to do this?

441
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:23,520
Speaker 2: And that at the same time, like, what is happening?

442
00:24:23,560 --> 00:24:29,000
Speaker 2: It's not enjoyable for real, yang, y'all. So that sence

443
00:24:29,080 --> 00:24:30,160
Speaker 2: for the week, y'all.

444
00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:32,919
Speaker 1: So on Sunday, I was laying in bed and I

445
00:24:33,040 --> 00:24:37,560
Speaker 1: was just like I had this pensive spirit. I was melancholy.

446
00:24:37,680 --> 00:24:39,159
Speaker 1: I don't even know what to call it. I just

447
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:44,280
Speaker 1: was not feeling my joy yourself at all. It felt

448
00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:47,879
Speaker 1: real low. I was feeling mindy bad. I was feeling

449
00:24:47,960 --> 00:24:52,840
Speaker 1: real down like Sophia from Color. And I was like thinking,

450
00:24:52,920 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 1: like does it have something to do with the season?

451
00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:59,280
Speaker 1: And I know a lot of people are suffering from

452
00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:02,000
Speaker 1: seasonal to pre so I wanted us to get into

453
00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:04,400
Speaker 1: the conversation of what that is and how we can

454
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:08,959
Speaker 1: cope as black people are all people can use these tools,

455
00:25:09,000 --> 00:25:11,600
Speaker 1: but this was specific to black people because I am Black.

456
00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:16,640
Speaker 1: So I have seven ways to cope with seasonal depression.

457
00:25:17,040 --> 00:25:23,840
Speaker 1: So after this break, we'll get into it. And where I.

458
00:25:25,440 --> 00:25:30,080
Speaker 2: So, Tam, what exactly is seasonal depression? Do we know

459
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:31,199
Speaker 2: exactly what it is?

460
00:25:31,359 --> 00:25:36,280
Speaker 1: All right? So? Seasonal depression, also known as seasonal effective

461
00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:40,640
Speaker 1: disorder SAD, is the acronym for it is a mood

462
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:43,880
Speaker 1: disorder characterized by depression that occurs at the same time

463
00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:50,640
Speaker 1: every year. Typically it's when during the climate change, when

464
00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:55,840
Speaker 1: there's less sunlight. Typically people aren't typically depressed during the summertime.

465
00:25:55,840 --> 00:25:59,240
Speaker 1: It's usually when it's colder. And I think for you know,

466
00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:02,800
Speaker 1: African Americans, you know, we already have a vitamin D

467
00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:08,399
Speaker 1: deficiency because we are we have melanin and it blocks

468
00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:11,720
Speaker 1: out the sun more than others. So that vitamin D,

469
00:26:11,920 --> 00:26:14,920
Speaker 1: you know, I think it's important for us to add

470
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:17,960
Speaker 1: it to our diet during the winter months because I

471
00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:21,720
Speaker 1: think that does help with seasonal depression. I'm not sure though.

472
00:26:21,640 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 2: But no that I mean that makes sense yet because

473
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:28,880
Speaker 2: black people do our son, I mean, excuse me, our son,

474
00:26:29,600 --> 00:26:32,440
Speaker 2: that is our son, Okay, it is literally for us,

475
00:26:32,840 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 2: and that's why. And it winter times, black people may

476
00:26:35,320 --> 00:26:37,159
Speaker 2: be a little bit more depressed because you know, we

477
00:26:37,359 --> 00:26:40,119
Speaker 2: white people can stand the coal a little bit more

478
00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:43,560
Speaker 2: than we can. It's just a known fact, okay.

479
00:26:43,680 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 1: And so.

480
00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:48,320
Speaker 2: I would say, yeah, man, get you a good ass

481
00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:52,600
Speaker 2: vitamin D and and add it beef up on it,

482
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:54,360
Speaker 2: because I mean, I feel like, I feel like black

483
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:56,560
Speaker 2: we should already be taking some extra vitamin.

484
00:26:56,280 --> 00:27:01,080
Speaker 1: D and not penis. Not penis girls. I know it's

485
00:27:01,080 --> 00:27:03,920
Speaker 1: a busual listening. I get vitamin D every night.

486
00:27:04,080 --> 00:27:11,000
Speaker 2: Not that when it's cold outside, No, I feel it.

487
00:27:11,840 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: I feel it because I feel.

488
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 2: Like when it's yeah, I like when it's I like

489
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:18,080
Speaker 2: the summertime. I like to go sit out in the

490
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:21,199
Speaker 2: grass and just you know, absorb the sun. And in

491
00:27:21,240 --> 00:27:23,840
Speaker 2: the winter, I mean the sun is still out, but

492
00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 2: it's like cold.

493
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:30,440
Speaker 1: I'm not sitting outside. I'd be feeling like more said,

494
00:27:31,600 --> 00:27:35,159
Speaker 1: even like at night. And I think it's because my

495
00:27:35,280 --> 00:27:39,320
Speaker 1: bed is empty every night and I reminded that I'm alone. No,

496
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 1: I'm not. Do you have sads?

497
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:47,480
Speaker 2: Is that really sads? Which is the the seasonal depression

498
00:27:47,920 --> 00:27:51,199
Speaker 2: or is it something else? Uh?

499
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:54,679
Speaker 1: No, it's really it is because I've read that it

500
00:27:54,680 --> 00:27:57,760
Speaker 1: could increase at night during the nighttime.

501
00:27:58,119 --> 00:28:01,439
Speaker 2: That you're if you think about adam, like think about beers,

502
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:04,120
Speaker 2: they say, animals who end up having to hibernate by themselves,

503
00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:06,959
Speaker 2: they usually die. Like you are supposed to be partnered up,

504
00:28:07,080 --> 00:28:11,560
Speaker 2: especially in the winter, especially in the winter months, like

505
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:16,439
Speaker 2: humans just sophisticated animals. So where's your partner, you know,

506
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:20,199
Speaker 2: to help you? Because hugs safe lives, rubbing feet on

507
00:28:20,280 --> 00:28:23,360
Speaker 2: the nigga feet safe lives right.

508
00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:27,359
Speaker 1: Why I ain't got that, I don't know, because I

509
00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:30,040
Speaker 1: can't just invite somebody to my bed, you know, and

510
00:28:30,119 --> 00:28:32,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to just be in someone else's bed.

511
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:34,920
Speaker 1: You know. It has to be right because you fucking

512
00:28:34,920 --> 00:28:36,680
Speaker 1: around and have the wrong nigga. Then you be sad

513
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:41,680
Speaker 1: because you rob you know, you know at your house.

514
00:28:43,040 --> 00:28:45,880
Speaker 2: It really said five dollars out of your pocketbook while

515
00:28:46,200 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 2: you had right.

516
00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:49,560
Speaker 1: All that bullshit, because now you really said, now you

517
00:28:49,600 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 1: got seasonal depression and you're missing money? Like that ain't cool?

518
00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:58,360
Speaker 1: TV gone, I got my I got my eyes set

519
00:28:58,440 --> 00:29:01,680
Speaker 1: on one person. But I'm gonna talk about it in

520
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:05,520
Speaker 1: my therapy session because I feel like I be too

521
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:08,600
Speaker 1: excited about these niggas when I like them and they

522
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:12,120
Speaker 1: be noticing likes. Am I thirsty?

523
00:29:12,840 --> 00:29:13,000
Speaker 2: Is it?

524
00:29:13,080 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 1: Given? Thirst? And running like a nigga off?

525
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:21,840
Speaker 2: Unfortunately, we have to play a game with men. Sometimes

526
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:25,600
Speaker 2: some men will match your energy, but others it's like

527
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:28,160
Speaker 2: you have to act like you despise them niggas for

528
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 2: them to fall in love with you. And I just

529
00:29:30,360 --> 00:29:33,000
Speaker 2: don't have that type of time. Yeah, I kind't have

530
00:29:33,040 --> 00:29:35,160
Speaker 2: that type of time. And in the minute you stop answering

531
00:29:35,200 --> 00:29:37,680
Speaker 2: the phone, and a minute you stop responding immediately, then

532
00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:40,360
Speaker 2: they start ramping it up on you. Those are niggas

533
00:29:40,400 --> 00:29:43,840
Speaker 2: you gotta stay away from because they they got mental issues.

534
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:46,160
Speaker 2: Now they trying to love bomb you and shit when

535
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:47,960
Speaker 2: you've removed your energy from them.

536
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:51,080
Speaker 1: Should I feel a way if I'm having a text

537
00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:55,680
Speaker 1: conversation with someone and they just stop responding abruptly, Yes,

538
00:29:56,160 --> 00:29:56,960
Speaker 1: nobody does.

539
00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:59,240
Speaker 2: That to somebody they like they want to make sure

540
00:29:59,400 --> 00:30:01,000
Speaker 2: you know these times.

541
00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:05,160
Speaker 1: Just come back when like a day later, finishing the conversation.

542
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:08,240
Speaker 2: That's wold well if you in the stages of trying

543
00:30:08,240 --> 00:30:10,480
Speaker 2: to get to know somebody like via text is never

544
00:30:10,520 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 2: the way anyway, Like why we're not on the phone,

545
00:30:12,440 --> 00:30:14,480
Speaker 2: because once you're don't talk for like thirty minutes an hour.

546
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:16,240
Speaker 2: I really don't need to be texting no more for

547
00:30:16,280 --> 00:30:18,680
Speaker 2: the day. I've already gotten out everything I need to

548
00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:22,280
Speaker 2: say to you on the phone. Call men who like

549
00:30:22,360 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 2: the text, women who like the text they have they

550
00:30:24,280 --> 00:30:27,120
Speaker 2: don't like conversation. I like to converse me too.

551
00:30:27,200 --> 00:30:30,600
Speaker 1: I like to be on the phone, So don't fucking

552
00:30:30,640 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 1: start a conversation with me via text. And then as

553
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:36,640
Speaker 1: I'm responding, you just stop responding.

554
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 2: That's so rude, because it might be flying, driving, all

555
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:42,360
Speaker 2: type of shit be going on, That's what I'm saying,

556
00:30:42,400 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 2: And just call and have a conversation right quick when

557
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:45,280
Speaker 2: you get a moment.

558
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:48,800
Speaker 1: Then that way it won't be no text balls dropped.

559
00:30:49,080 --> 00:30:51,680
Speaker 1: All right, So let me get into this list, you guys.

560
00:30:51,960 --> 00:30:55,280
Speaker 1: The first way, there's a therapist named Harris, and this

561
00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:59,000
Speaker 1: is from isy in live dot com. And the first

562
00:30:59,000 --> 00:31:01,880
Speaker 1: thing for you to do, it's feel your feelings. So

563
00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 1: Harris suggests spending intentional time to acknowledge and assess your feelings,

564
00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:09,800
Speaker 1: but don't wallow in them. Black women don't often give

565
00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:13,280
Speaker 1: themselves permission to feel tender emotions because they are often

566
00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:16,880
Speaker 1: encouraged to be strong. Share your feelings, whether it be

567
00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 1: with friends and family or therapists. Make sure that you

568
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:23,960
Speaker 1: aren't suffering in silence. Now that's a lot of people. Yeah,

569
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:26,360
Speaker 1: people don't even know how to identify what they feel,

570
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:30,680
Speaker 1: and they just walk around feeling miserable and not saying shit.

571
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:34,520
Speaker 1: Because we've been taught to cope, cope with everything.

572
00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:37,880
Speaker 2: And that's why I put on I mean, we are

573
00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:40,200
Speaker 2: not licensed therapists, but I think I give pretty good

574
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:45,000
Speaker 2: advice and I'm definitely a good listening air. That's why

575
00:31:45,040 --> 00:31:47,920
Speaker 2: I put on the story, like if anybody want to chat,

576
00:31:47,960 --> 00:31:49,960
Speaker 2: this is what we're talking about. If anybody need to talk,

577
00:31:50,320 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 2: just to get people out, like because people DMS stuff

578
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:54,440
Speaker 2: all the time. But maybe they didn't see the story

579
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:59,000
Speaker 2: so they can could have could have called in and

580
00:31:59,040 --> 00:32:02,120
Speaker 2: had a conversation right quick to us, how you feeling shit,

581
00:32:02,200 --> 00:32:04,440
Speaker 2: How you getting through sads right now?

582
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 1: I don't think it's nos on it through right now?

583
00:32:11,400 --> 00:32:14,960
Speaker 1: Yoh yeah. So then the list goes on to say

584
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:17,720
Speaker 1: what we already said, reach for your vitamin D. Y'all. Guys,

585
00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 1: they have h one called black Girl Vitamin D. Y'all

586
00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:24,200
Speaker 1: should check that one out. Uh, specific to your black body,

587
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:28,680
Speaker 1: created by other black women. So try that. But we're

588
00:32:28,680 --> 00:32:31,800
Speaker 1: gonna move on from that one. Move your body, so

589
00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:32,960
Speaker 1: this is an important one.

590
00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:36,120
Speaker 2: I think that's why I got sad right now. I

591
00:32:36,160 --> 00:32:38,959
Speaker 2: am not moving my fucking body.

592
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 1: Physical activities such as exercise has shown the decreased symptoms

593
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:49,680
Speaker 1: of depression. Exercise benefits your brain by increasing memory, relieving stress,

594
00:32:49,680 --> 00:32:52,400
Speaker 1: and improving your sleep, all things that can be beneficial

595
00:32:52,440 --> 00:32:55,720
Speaker 1: to improving your daily function. So y'all get y'all ass

596
00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:57,360
Speaker 1: up and go to that gym. You got in the

597
00:32:57,400 --> 00:32:59,840
Speaker 1: gym in your apartment complex. But you don't have no

598
00:33:00,840 --> 00:33:05,400
Speaker 1: not to take your ass over there. Yo, it's a

599
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:07,680
Speaker 1: bitch listening Dan, she's talking to me. I do gotta

600
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:11,440
Speaker 1: give me this month, even if you.

601
00:33:11,440 --> 00:33:13,520
Speaker 2: Just got some ten pound weights, just do some of

602
00:33:13,520 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 2: her calisthetics. Yeah, I'm gonna do a workout today.

603
00:33:17,600 --> 00:33:19,720
Speaker 1: I like work out today. I went back to spend.

604
00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:22,520
Speaker 1: I had took like literally a month off and gain

605
00:33:22,640 --> 00:33:26,560
Speaker 1: half of my way back just in a month. So

606
00:33:26,760 --> 00:33:28,719
Speaker 1: I went back and I really enjoyed it. I did

607
00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:30,680
Speaker 1: twelve miles on that bike, and that night I did

608
00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:34,959
Speaker 1: sleep a lot more peacefully than the other night. So

609
00:33:35,680 --> 00:33:38,760
Speaker 1: gotta get yourself physically active, or if.

610
00:33:38,680 --> 00:33:41,600
Speaker 2: You got a man. If you got a man, stop

611
00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:44,560
Speaker 2: being a pillow princess and ride that dick. Okay, get

612
00:33:44,560 --> 00:33:47,400
Speaker 2: some cardio in. I literally wear my fitbit when I'm

613
00:33:47,440 --> 00:33:50,840
Speaker 2: riding dick okay, because I like to count calories. I

614
00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:53,160
Speaker 2: like to see how many calories I've burned, and you

615
00:33:53,200 --> 00:33:55,480
Speaker 2: can actually burn a lot of calories having sex.

616
00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:59,120
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I was what that. But you're right,

617
00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:04,080
Speaker 1: You're absolutely right if you.

618
00:34:02,680 --> 00:34:06,280
Speaker 2: But they are just you know how you can select

619
00:34:06,360 --> 00:34:08,879
Speaker 2: your exercise. They need to add sex to it? Why

620
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:13,200
Speaker 2: sex in on that? I gotta just indoor physical activity.

621
00:34:13,680 --> 00:34:17,680
Speaker 1: Because how you're gonna like decide like a bitch a

622
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:20,080
Speaker 1: lay on her back and say, yeah, I burned seven

623
00:34:20,120 --> 00:34:20,920
Speaker 1: had the calories.

624
00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:24,200
Speaker 2: That's why I said, ride dick. Okay, you gotta get

625
00:34:24,280 --> 00:34:25,239
Speaker 2: up and ride it.

626
00:34:25,320 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 1: You can imagine your app have it ride dick as

627
00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:29,560
Speaker 1: an option. Imagine it.

628
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:31,680
Speaker 2: It's just sex. Just put sex.

629
00:34:33,000 --> 00:34:36,120
Speaker 1: But sex isn't always exercise.

630
00:34:36,160 --> 00:34:38,239
Speaker 2: Yes, it is, even with laying on your back, like

631
00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:40,760
Speaker 2: the breathing. All of that causes you to burn calories,

632
00:34:40,960 --> 00:34:42,600
Speaker 2: even if you know are not the one.

633
00:34:42,680 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 1: Actually, I know some bitches they burned not a liquor

634
00:34:45,239 --> 00:34:47,759
Speaker 1: calorie laying there getting humped by a nigga breathing in

635
00:34:47,800 --> 00:35:01,560
Speaker 1: their faith bill, get off, get off, all right? So

636
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:05,759
Speaker 1: it says, take advantage of natural light.

637
00:35:06,360 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 2: Avoid me up and open the windows, y'all. Yeah, open

638
00:35:09,160 --> 00:35:09,840
Speaker 2: your blinds.

639
00:35:10,320 --> 00:35:12,879
Speaker 1: Avoid being cooped up indoors all day. If you can

640
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:14,680
Speaker 1: do your best to go out as much as you

641
00:35:14,719 --> 00:35:17,279
Speaker 1: can during the daylight hours, A quick walk around the

642
00:35:17,280 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 1: block may help. Elevate your mood, clear your mind, and

643
00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:23,759
Speaker 1: give extra bit of energy. Many of us are home

644
00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:26,600
Speaker 1: more than ever before, so to decrease the likelihood of

645
00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:29,960
Speaker 1: cabin fever, make sure to step outside, even if it's

646
00:35:30,000 --> 00:35:31,120
Speaker 1: for five to ten minutes.

647
00:35:31,920 --> 00:35:34,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, so even if it's coal outside, like, just go out.

648
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:38,800
Speaker 2: The sun is still out right, So like twelve o'clock

649
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:41,839
Speaker 2: is when the sun is the hottest. Usually between like

650
00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:44,400
Speaker 2: twelve and three right now, because it is getting dark

651
00:35:44,440 --> 00:35:48,560
Speaker 2: at five forty five. Yeah, I know, yeah, maybe maybe

652
00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 2: even earlier than that, ten between ten and two. Go outside,

653
00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:52,919
Speaker 2: can't you get?

654
00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:56,640
Speaker 1: Like I've seen where people had like artificial sun lamps

655
00:35:57,120 --> 00:36:00,120
Speaker 1: that's like the UV, like, yeah, to get put it

656
00:36:00,160 --> 00:36:02,160
Speaker 1: in your room and just lay up under it.

657
00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:07,360
Speaker 2: I remember, I have a skin disease called pity yourized rosia.

658
00:36:07,360 --> 00:36:08,320
Speaker 1: It don't bother me anymore.

659
00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:10,240
Speaker 2: When I stopped being chicken, I don't have the issues

660
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:12,959
Speaker 2: no more. But I used to go to the tanning bed,

661
00:36:13,120 --> 00:36:17,440
Speaker 2: and that shit gave me hives. Tanning bed, yes, so

662
00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:22,719
Speaker 2: I'm allergic to that fake light. So what you was

663
00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:25,839
Speaker 2: doing there, I was in the tanning bed. That's all

664
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:27,960
Speaker 2: I did is went there with a bathy suit on

665
00:36:28,040 --> 00:36:31,680
Speaker 2: and for what turn the tanna bed on. It helps

666
00:36:31,760 --> 00:36:33,560
Speaker 2: your skin, It helps the skin heel.

667
00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:36,400
Speaker 1: Oh from the sign. Yeah that's.

668
00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:41,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it wasn't helping me. That shit gave me

669
00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 2: fucking hives on top of the other skin is shoe

670
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:49,120
Speaker 2: I got. Now I'm fucking itching from UV allergy.

671
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:52,479
Speaker 1: I guess you couldn't get me to get my whole

672
00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:59,640
Speaker 1: body under their fingernail light. That ain't the light for

673
00:36:59,680 --> 00:37:02,359
Speaker 1: your whole I would like sticking my hands in that

674
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 1: motherfucking thing.

675
00:37:03,719 --> 00:37:06,400
Speaker 2: Oh, the sauna, even if you know, even if you

676
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:08,880
Speaker 2: don't work out, go to the sauna, just like that's

677
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:12,080
Speaker 2: the heat, the steam and all that. That should make

678
00:37:12,120 --> 00:37:14,239
Speaker 2: you feel good too. A you do burn calories in

679
00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:17,040
Speaker 2: the sauna. Yeah, so it's like a little tiny little

680
00:37:17,040 --> 00:37:19,360
Speaker 2: workout and it might make you feel better too, sleep

681
00:37:19,400 --> 00:37:20,080
Speaker 2: better for sure.

682
00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:21,760
Speaker 1: I love the song, dude.

683
00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:24,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, so do like thirty minutes in the sauna if

684
00:37:24,040 --> 00:37:25,960
Speaker 2: you can. You might have to step out and breathe

685
00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:26,879
Speaker 2: a little bit and come back.

686
00:37:27,239 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 1: The problem with the sauna is Black women we have

687
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:33,680
Speaker 1: like this relationship with our hair in exercise that just

688
00:37:33,719 --> 00:37:36,040
Speaker 1: has been like unhealthy.

689
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:38,920
Speaker 2: Man. I don't think they just give a fuck no more.

690
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:41,640
Speaker 2: Everybody will look fine now. Man, y'all care about hair?

691
00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:46,120
Speaker 2: Y'all still care about y'all hair? I do y'all snatches

692
00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:46,959
Speaker 2: fucking wig off?

693
00:37:47,040 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 1: Man, you got them a wig, But if you got

694
00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:52,239
Speaker 1: clippings and you got like a silk press, it's like

695
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:57,000
Speaker 1: fucked up. Now. I'm getting some braces today. I'm getting

696
00:37:57,040 --> 00:38:00,239
Speaker 1: some brace today for that very reason, because I want

697
00:38:00,239 --> 00:38:02,279
Speaker 1: to lose at least ten pounds before the new year,

698
00:38:02,320 --> 00:38:07,359
Speaker 1: if possible, before the new year. So we'll see, all right,

699
00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 1: next one, write it out. Harris suggests taking inventory of

700
00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:15,680
Speaker 1: your thoughts and emotions by journaling, recognize your triggers, and

701
00:38:15,760 --> 00:38:18,040
Speaker 1: possibly log in the time of day in which you

702
00:38:18,120 --> 00:38:20,800
Speaker 1: experience a decline and mood and energy. This way you

703
00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:23,720
Speaker 1: can be proactive and self care and mindset.

704
00:38:24,400 --> 00:38:26,200
Speaker 2: I gotta get better at it. Writing down. I know

705
00:38:26,239 --> 00:38:29,080
Speaker 2: your ass, write down every fucking thing, y'all. When we

706
00:38:29,120 --> 00:38:31,840
Speaker 2: first started this podcast, this bitch ain't have no computer, y'all.

707
00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:33,720
Speaker 2: Tammy letter used to be like.

708
00:38:33,600 --> 00:38:35,440
Speaker 1: Hold on, let me go get I had an iPad.

709
00:38:36,120 --> 00:38:38,520
Speaker 2: Let me go get my computer. It'll be the notepad.

710
00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:44,360
Speaker 1: She gotta run to the car again, I write it down.

711
00:38:44,520 --> 00:38:46,400
Speaker 1: I still I prefer it instead.

712
00:38:46,680 --> 00:38:49,719
Speaker 2: That's a good practice. That's a good practice because when

713
00:38:49,719 --> 00:38:52,400
Speaker 2: I write, my hand hurts. It's like it's an exercise

714
00:38:52,480 --> 00:38:55,600
Speaker 2: for me. God damn. But you start oing good then

715
00:38:55,600 --> 00:38:56,200
Speaker 2: to get bad.

716
00:38:56,560 --> 00:38:58,400
Speaker 1: Y'all. I see she sent me a video on her

717
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:01,080
Speaker 1: jacking off, and she's a jackar master and never risks

718
00:39:01,120 --> 00:39:02,800
Speaker 1: be working. But now you can't write?

719
00:39:02,880 --> 00:39:05,840
Speaker 2: What what are you doing to.

720
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:13,280
Speaker 1: Somebody else on this life? Listen for the record.

721
00:39:13,320 --> 00:39:16,640
Speaker 2: I never said this bitch send her nothing. Nah. I've

722
00:39:16,680 --> 00:39:18,759
Speaker 2: seen her doing some ship, but she ain't never seen

723
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:19,640
Speaker 2: me doing nothing.

724
00:39:20,520 --> 00:39:26,640
Speaker 1: I have, lie, black girl, you see remember you. I

725
00:39:26,640 --> 00:39:31,400
Speaker 1: ain't gonna say it, but you. First of all, I

726
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:32,720
Speaker 1: see you do some things.

727
00:39:33,120 --> 00:39:34,920
Speaker 2: Lie.

728
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:47,239
Speaker 1: Oh you forgot see how forget? I remember? But now

729
00:39:47,280 --> 00:39:49,120
Speaker 1: you can't write? Get your pay and paper.

730
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:51,960
Speaker 2: Yeah, niggas women do this type of ship too, right,

731
00:39:54,280 --> 00:39:56,440
Speaker 2: y'all think y'all are only trifling ones out here?

732
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:04,000
Speaker 1: Get trifling too. I'm not trifling. I just I didn't.

733
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:09,080
Speaker 1: I clicked on the face time. It was like, but

734
00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:16,399
Speaker 1: I you're returned, all right? The last the next one

735
00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:22,160
Speaker 1: is set a realistic sleep schedule. Y'all, Stop scrolling all

736
00:40:22,239 --> 00:40:25,799
Speaker 1: night and take your ass to beg why is this

737
00:40:25,880 --> 00:40:30,080
Speaker 1: talking to me? Because it's you. I'm looking directly at

738
00:40:30,080 --> 00:40:33,280
Speaker 1: you saying that, because I be getting memes and videos

739
00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:35,880
Speaker 1: from this bit two thirty in the morning of a

740
00:40:35,880 --> 00:40:40,040
Speaker 1: fat lady shaking her ass during the water dance and

741
00:40:40,239 --> 00:40:43,960
Speaker 1: talking about this, you girl? Fuck you going to sleep?

742
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:48,839
Speaker 1: Make me all up in LA with this big old

743
00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:54,040
Speaker 1: bookie huge as fuck? Is she talking about this? You girl?

744
00:40:54,120 --> 00:40:54,640
Speaker 1: Go to sleep?

745
00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:58,360
Speaker 2: I need to go to sleep. I literally have Instagram

746
00:40:58,440 --> 00:41:00,880
Speaker 2: set for two hours a day that I always be

747
00:41:01,920 --> 00:41:02,959
Speaker 2: taking the timer off.

748
00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 1: You might as well just cut that shit off.

749
00:41:05,400 --> 00:41:08,000
Speaker 2: I have my sleep timer. When my phone goes on

750
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:11,600
Speaker 2: D and D at nine forty five, I be turning

751
00:41:11,600 --> 00:41:14,080
Speaker 2: that off. And then I just stay up till one

752
00:41:14,160 --> 00:41:16,640
Speaker 2: or two o'clock in the morning. And shit is fucking ridiculous.

753
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:20,040
Speaker 2: And it's a known fact. It's a scientific fact that

754
00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:25,480
Speaker 2: women need more sleep than men. So I gotta find

755
00:41:25,480 --> 00:41:28,000
Speaker 2: a way to get some rest. Man, I never get

756
00:41:28,400 --> 00:41:30,200
Speaker 2: first of all, and then when I do, like leave

757
00:41:30,239 --> 00:41:32,640
Speaker 2: everything off, it just so takes me a long time

758
00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:35,120
Speaker 2: to actually fall asleep. And I don't want to do

759
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:37,840
Speaker 2: no melotone or none of that shit. Weed weed helps.

760
00:41:38,200 --> 00:41:41,799
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's why you be going to sleep. Yeah, I

761
00:41:42,400 --> 00:41:46,240
Speaker 1: for sure. I love my little weed and edibles going crazy.

762
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 1: I last night I put on andre three thousands albums.

763
00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:55,680
Speaker 2: I listen. It sounds every night. It don't matter every night.

764
00:41:55,840 --> 00:41:57,799
Speaker 1: Let me tell you what you need to try. Try

765
00:41:57,920 --> 00:42:01,600
Speaker 1: brown noise, y'all, if you're not at night, go on

766
00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:05,160
Speaker 1: YouTube and put in brown noise and it just sounds

767
00:42:05,200 --> 00:42:08,520
Speaker 1: like it's not white noise, like the one from the

768
00:42:08,680 --> 00:42:11,920
Speaker 1: TV is brown. I don't know what the difference is,

769
00:42:12,400 --> 00:42:15,759
Speaker 1: but it works. It helped me fall asleep. And I

770
00:42:15,840 --> 00:42:16,680
Speaker 1: even have an app.

771
00:42:17,880 --> 00:42:19,839
Speaker 2: I have an app I paid eighty four ninety nine

772
00:42:19,840 --> 00:42:24,520
Speaker 2: a year for. It's called Sinctuition, and that helps. But

773
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:28,040
Speaker 2: you know, I have a new I've been using the

774
00:42:28,080 --> 00:42:31,879
Speaker 2: Beats headphones and them should be doing something in my ear,

775
00:42:31,960 --> 00:42:35,239
Speaker 2: so I'll be wanting to fall asleep with them in

776
00:42:35,239 --> 00:42:35,720
Speaker 2: my brain.

777
00:42:36,160 --> 00:42:36,839
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

778
00:42:36,840 --> 00:42:38,400
Speaker 2: But I used to when I need to give me

779
00:42:38,400 --> 00:42:40,840
Speaker 2: another set of wired headphones, because with the wired headphones,

780
00:42:40,840 --> 00:42:43,800
Speaker 2: I would plug it in and just listen to sinc Tuition.

781
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:44,799
Speaker 2: I'll be out of there.

782
00:42:45,680 --> 00:42:50,040
Speaker 1: Just don't even use headphones, just put on put it on.

783
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:53,000
Speaker 2: Yet sometimes I do speak mm hmm.

784
00:42:53,600 --> 00:42:58,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, so yeah we gotta have betters. Yeah, me too, scrolling.

785
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:01,640
Speaker 1: Don't let me get on tick talk. I'll be watching

786
00:43:01,680 --> 00:43:05,640
Speaker 1: bitches cook, watching how to fold. I do not know

787
00:43:05,680 --> 00:43:10,960
Speaker 1: how to fold a fitish sheet. Still, do y'all know

788
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:15,239
Speaker 1: how to really fold the finish sheet I just put.

789
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:17,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, I can fool it, but it's so it's not

790
00:43:17,280 --> 00:43:19,080
Speaker 2: gonna look as neat as the top sheet.

791
00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:21,400
Speaker 1: It don't never look good. My shit be like in

792
00:43:21,480 --> 00:43:29,080
Speaker 1: a neat little ball in the club. Stupid y'all. If

793
00:43:29,120 --> 00:43:30,920
Speaker 1: y'all know how to fold the fish sheet, please send

794
00:43:30,960 --> 00:43:33,239
Speaker 1: me a video, because I can't do that shit. It

795
00:43:33,320 --> 00:43:35,799
Speaker 1: be pissing me off, all right. The last one is

796
00:43:36,480 --> 00:43:40,399
Speaker 1: choose joy. So you need to find happiness by any

797
00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:45,080
Speaker 1: means necessary. Everything isn't all sad and dying during this time.

798
00:43:45,200 --> 00:43:47,800
Speaker 1: Be intentional and finding things that you do enjoy about

799
00:43:47,800 --> 00:43:51,240
Speaker 1: this time? Is it snuggling underwarm blankets? Is it pump

800
00:43:51,480 --> 00:43:55,840
Speaker 1: pumpkin spice lattes? Is it fall? Is it holiday? Decre Like?

801
00:43:55,920 --> 00:43:59,160
Speaker 1: Whatever you delight in, do more of that. So you

802
00:43:59,239 --> 00:44:02,040
Speaker 1: have to choose to be happy, and I mean just

803
00:44:02,120 --> 00:44:05,839
Speaker 1: try to. But what if you like to eat well,

804
00:44:05,880 --> 00:44:09,680
Speaker 1: then eat, but in moderation eat find good things to eat,

805
00:44:09,840 --> 00:44:12,680
Speaker 1: find healthier ways to enjoy food.

806
00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:15,040
Speaker 2: I have started eating olives like a lot.

807
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:16,560
Speaker 1: Well, I like all ofves.

808
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:18,319
Speaker 2: Yeah, I never knew I like them.

809
00:44:18,560 --> 00:44:22,840
Speaker 1: Do you like dirty martinis? No? I love Oh you

810
00:44:22,840 --> 00:44:24,600
Speaker 1: gotta try it if you like all.

811
00:44:24,640 --> 00:44:27,439
Speaker 2: Well, now, but that's vodka, right mm hmm.

812
00:44:28,560 --> 00:44:30,000
Speaker 1: Well you don't have to have it. You can get

813
00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:31,759
Speaker 1: it made. Yeah, you can get it made different. It

814
00:44:31,800 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 1: doesn't have to be vodka. But I'll give me a

815
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:38,080
Speaker 1: nice little kettle warmar dirty martini extra. I like my

816
00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:45,799
Speaker 1: extra dirty making extra dirty stir with and you can

817
00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 1: get the blue cheese olives with it.

818
00:44:47,800 --> 00:44:50,920
Speaker 2: Oh, girl, girl, listen, I'd be going to Whole Foods

819
00:44:50,920 --> 00:44:52,960
Speaker 2: to getting them alives. You know how expensive that fucking

820
00:44:52,960 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 2: bar is. Yeah, that those blue cheese. They have a

821
00:44:56,200 --> 00:44:56,960
Speaker 2: ranch one too.

822
00:44:57,400 --> 00:44:58,600
Speaker 1: Oh that sound good?

823
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:01,799
Speaker 2: Why is this happening? But yeah, I never knew all

824
00:45:01,800 --> 00:45:02,840
Speaker 2: of this was that good.

825
00:45:03,080 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 1: Olives is a good snack. Damn. I mean they hire

826
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:09,279
Speaker 1: in sodium though, so you gotta be careful. But I

827
00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:10,920
Speaker 1: know so I.

828
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:12,880
Speaker 2: Did one of those little things with like maybe about

829
00:45:12,920 --> 00:45:15,400
Speaker 2: fifteen of them in there. That's five dollars.

830
00:45:15,760 --> 00:45:17,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's expensive.

831
00:45:17,239 --> 00:45:18,399
Speaker 2: And I'll eat that whole shit.

832
00:45:21,239 --> 00:45:24,680
Speaker 1: But fifteen hours ain't bad. You know that's not bad

833
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:26,640
Speaker 1: versus fifteen cookies.

834
00:45:27,920 --> 00:45:30,560
Speaker 2: I never eat no fifteen cookies. Bit you're running out.

835
00:45:31,600 --> 00:45:34,600
Speaker 1: I'm saying you, I'll easily run through a sleeve of

836
00:45:34,600 --> 00:45:36,080
Speaker 1: oreoles chilling on the couch.

837
00:45:36,760 --> 00:45:38,959
Speaker 2: I don't eat orioles no more ever since I've seen

838
00:45:38,960 --> 00:45:41,719
Speaker 2: his TikTok video. Well, actually I hadn't been eating them

839
00:45:41,719 --> 00:45:43,920
Speaker 2: before then because they just don't taste the same anymore

840
00:45:43,960 --> 00:45:48,520
Speaker 2: to me. But they have some I'm singing the video.

841
00:45:49,400 --> 00:45:55,120
Speaker 2: They were pointing out how the orioles have these sadist

842
00:45:55,840 --> 00:45:59,759
Speaker 2: symbols on them, said, what's true?

843
00:46:00,400 --> 00:46:06,440
Speaker 1: Oreosy, you know how to ruin a good snack for me?

844
00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:11,960
Speaker 1: I'm helping. Look, you know yours. You know your oreoles

845
00:46:11,960 --> 00:46:15,040
Speaker 1: got the devil in them? Like is evil?

846
00:46:18,120 --> 00:46:24,880
Speaker 2: God, damn, Listen, everything is not what we think.

847
00:46:25,400 --> 00:46:26,040
Speaker 1: That's just it.

848
00:46:26,680 --> 00:46:28,200
Speaker 2: And I feel like a lot of the veil has

849
00:46:28,200 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 2: been lifted. So a lot of people notice the ship

850
00:46:30,040 --> 00:46:31,080
Speaker 2: that they didn't notice before.

851
00:46:31,400 --> 00:46:35,239
Speaker 1: That's it. You could have just kept that one and

852
00:46:35,320 --> 00:46:38,520
Speaker 1: let me just have my oreos. So like sometimes ignorance

853
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 1: ignorance can be blissed.

854
00:46:40,800 --> 00:46:42,400
Speaker 2: Let me see what else I can ruin for you,

855
00:46:42,440 --> 00:46:44,960
Speaker 2: because you can lose them ten pounds by New Year's.

856
00:46:45,280 --> 00:46:49,560
Speaker 1: No, girlshav the fuck up. We about to go to commercial.

857
00:46:49,560 --> 00:46:50,600
Speaker 1: We'll be right back, y'all.

858
00:46:55,000 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 2: So we have a Somebody commented on the post. It

859
00:46:58,239 --> 00:47:01,440
Speaker 2: says it's coming. I'm getting sick of myself that that

860
00:47:01,560 --> 00:47:04,359
Speaker 2: New Year New meat stigmas engraves in my mind. I'm

861
00:47:04,400 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 2: working on being okay in the now. Stop overplanning, overthinking,

862
00:47:08,640 --> 00:47:12,360
Speaker 2: and overly growing. I'm not a I'm not a GMO plant,

863
00:47:12,440 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 2: So why am I forcing myself to be one? Thanks

864
00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:15,640
Speaker 2: for listening.

865
00:47:18,000 --> 00:47:18,680
Speaker 1: Who said that?

866
00:47:21,640 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 2: It's me Auntie Energy I n e er.

867
00:47:24,719 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 1: I like, hey, hey, Auntie, I oh, I agree. Stop.

868
00:47:30,600 --> 00:47:32,440
Speaker 1: We don't pat ourselves on the back and of for

869
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:35,920
Speaker 1: what we already doing. Yeah, sometimes y'all beat yourself up

870
00:47:35,960 --> 00:47:40,319
Speaker 1: for not getting nothing done. Sometimes it's okay to just

871
00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 1: not do shit. You know you do already do so much.

872
00:47:44,800 --> 00:47:47,120
Speaker 1: Just not do shit sometimes, and don't beat yourself up

873
00:47:47,160 --> 00:47:52,840
Speaker 1: about it. Shit fucking clothes, they'll get folded.

874
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no. See that's the thing that we

875
00:47:56,440 --> 00:48:01,440
Speaker 2: can't do. You can't let your space get messy, because

876
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:03,360
Speaker 2: that's how your mind then starts to feel.

877
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:06,719
Speaker 1: If you go one day without folding some clothes, you'll

878
00:48:06,760 --> 00:48:08,239
Speaker 1: be it ain't gonna it, ain't there bad.

879
00:48:08,480 --> 00:48:10,839
Speaker 2: But if you depressed, one day turns into two, two

880
00:48:10,960 --> 00:48:13,320
Speaker 2: days turns into three. I think you remember that movie

881
00:48:15,280 --> 00:48:17,319
Speaker 2: with a guy took the pill and he got like

882
00:48:17,400 --> 00:48:18,000
Speaker 2: real smart.

883
00:48:18,680 --> 00:48:20,239
Speaker 1: The first thing he did was clean up his home.

884
00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:23,600
Speaker 2: Yes, exactly. You got to keep the house clean, no

885
00:48:23,640 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 2: matter what. No matter what, y'all keep your house clean.

886
00:48:26,840 --> 00:48:31,040
Speaker 1: No, I disagree. If you need a break, break bitch,

887
00:48:31,200 --> 00:48:33,319
Speaker 1: whenever it is clean or not clean. If you need

888
00:48:33,320 --> 00:48:35,359
Speaker 1: a break, if you're tired, you just don't feel like it,

889
00:48:35,400 --> 00:48:39,000
Speaker 1: don't fucking do it till you can't, till you can't.

890
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:41,920
Speaker 2: When a person is depressed, you're saying and telling them

891
00:48:41,920 --> 00:48:45,120
Speaker 2: to do some shit when they can you might. I

892
00:48:45,160 --> 00:48:47,600
Speaker 2: didn't say, God, force yourself to keep the space clean

893
00:48:47,640 --> 00:48:48,160
Speaker 2: at least man.

894
00:48:48,239 --> 00:48:51,839
Speaker 1: No, we're we're talking about we're talking about what Auntie said,

895
00:48:52,239 --> 00:48:56,120
Speaker 1: and she said, you know, giving herself to she don't

896
00:48:56,120 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 1: have to grow so fast out growing and doing no.

897
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:02,879
Speaker 2: But she was more talking about, you know, thinking about

898
00:49:02,920 --> 00:49:04,920
Speaker 2: the next year and resolutions and things you gotta do

899
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:07,319
Speaker 2: like that. Stuff can't cause you anxiety thinking about the

900
00:49:07,360 --> 00:49:10,600
Speaker 2: future oftentimes, so live in the now. What I'm saying

901
00:49:10,680 --> 00:49:12,640
Speaker 2: is in order to even plan or do anything, you

902
00:49:12,719 --> 00:49:15,120
Speaker 2: got to keep a clean space. You just you have to.

903
00:49:15,719 --> 00:49:18,040
Speaker 1: I agree to me. But if you want to take

904
00:49:18,080 --> 00:49:19,239
Speaker 1: a break, take it.

905
00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:22,279
Speaker 2: Nobody's saying not take a break, Tommy. Of course, that's

906
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:24,880
Speaker 2: all I wanted two days, but that turns into a

907
00:49:24,880 --> 00:49:25,840
Speaker 2: week for some people.

908
00:49:26,080 --> 00:49:27,880
Speaker 1: That's all I'm saying is if you need a break,

909
00:49:27,920 --> 00:49:29,160
Speaker 1: take it. That's all I'm saying.

910
00:49:29,640 --> 00:49:34,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, that can turn into a whole two weeks of

911
00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:37,520
Speaker 2: ship on your floor, stuff in the closet, all and disarray.

912
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:38,840
Speaker 2: Your kitchen ain't clean.

913
00:49:40,880 --> 00:49:41,399
Speaker 1: Day too.

914
00:49:42,239 --> 00:49:44,920
Speaker 2: That's that's become a thing on social media. These I

915
00:49:45,040 --> 00:49:47,040
Speaker 2: call them hoiters because that's what the house looks like.

916
00:49:47,160 --> 00:49:52,520
Speaker 2: House hod girl, Listen, I don't care. Hoiter.

917
00:49:53,160 --> 00:49:53,759
Speaker 1: That's not what.

918
00:49:55,239 --> 00:49:55,880
Speaker 2: It's a hoiter.

919
00:49:56,400 --> 00:49:58,160
Speaker 1: That's what it is. It's a hoarder.

920
00:49:59,480 --> 00:50:02,800
Speaker 2: Hoiter. That's my dialect. Okay, I know how to spell hoiter.

921
00:50:03,280 --> 00:50:06,440
Speaker 2: This is how it's. This is how I'm gonna pronounce it.

922
00:50:06,880 --> 00:50:08,520
Speaker 2: I say a lot of words, you say a lot

923
00:50:08,560 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 2: of words that may not be correct and because of

924
00:50:13,080 --> 00:50:26,880
Speaker 2: a dialect. Okay, so the hoiters, Okay, British.

925
00:50:23,120 --> 00:50:24,080
Speaker 1: They have these videos.

926
00:50:24,080 --> 00:50:27,400
Speaker 2: Now these women are like the cars are nasty, the

927
00:50:27,440 --> 00:50:30,200
Speaker 2: houses are nasty, and they like they posted videos cleaning

928
00:50:30,239 --> 00:50:33,280
Speaker 2: it like did you make your shit get that nasty

929
00:50:33,360 --> 00:50:36,000
Speaker 2: so you can make a video like content cleaning it up.

930
00:50:36,320 --> 00:50:38,560
Speaker 1: I follow this one black lady. She is actually a

931
00:50:38,600 --> 00:50:43,520
Speaker 1: therapist and her home got really really really out of

932
00:50:43,560 --> 00:50:48,360
Speaker 1: control because she was depressed, and she's posted making videos

933
00:50:48,360 --> 00:50:51,400
Speaker 1: to her like getting rid of all the clutter and

934
00:50:51,440 --> 00:50:53,759
Speaker 1: the nasty because it was a lot of nasty going on,

935
00:50:54,120 --> 00:50:57,160
Speaker 1: and people were in the videos judging all the perfect

936
00:50:57,200 --> 00:51:01,960
Speaker 1: people judging her life, and she was like, you know,

937
00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:04,719
Speaker 1: I I'm sorry, I'm not perfect, like y'all, I went

938
00:51:04,760 --> 00:51:06,920
Speaker 1: through a rough patch. This is me getting out of it.

939
00:51:08,360 --> 00:51:10,360
Speaker 1: And then a lot of people align with her, like,

940
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:13,920
Speaker 1: you know, I applaud you for showing your reality to us.

941
00:51:14,680 --> 00:51:20,160
Speaker 1: So everybody got they own shit. But I'm not saying

942
00:51:20,239 --> 00:51:22,160
Speaker 1: let your house go. I'm just saying, if you need

943
00:51:22,200 --> 00:51:25,040
Speaker 1: to take a day to not, take a day to

944
00:51:25,120 --> 00:51:30,759
Speaker 1: not there's nothing wrong with that. Either. Some people got

945
00:51:30,760 --> 00:51:33,960
Speaker 1: their hand. They played soul full, they juggling, they single mothers,

946
00:51:33,960 --> 00:51:38,120
Speaker 1: they juggling kids, job, sick parents, all these things, and

947
00:51:38,120 --> 00:51:40,080
Speaker 1: then they come home and they see a polo clothes,

948
00:51:40,480 --> 00:51:43,719
Speaker 1: clean clothes on the bed, fucking clothes for a night.

949
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:47,120
Speaker 1: It's okay, No, you're not gonna die if the clothes

950
00:51:47,120 --> 00:51:52,120
Speaker 1: don't get folded tonight. Give yourself some grace. You're already

951
00:51:52,120 --> 00:51:58,080
Speaker 1: a superhero. Shit mm fuck it.

952
00:51:58,800 --> 00:51:59,680
Speaker 2: Yeah for one day?

953
00:52:00,239 --> 00:52:06,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, hold on.

954
00:52:07,680 --> 00:52:22,840
Speaker 4: Hodsds hoarders, hoiters, No hoarders, hoarders, hoarders, not no hois.

955
00:52:22,960 --> 00:52:25,759
Speaker 2: It's a hoiter. What what o the extra land at

956
00:52:25,800 --> 00:52:26,000
Speaker 2: my bus?

957
00:52:26,719 --> 00:52:37,400
Speaker 1: Hoarders not hoiterss hoarders hoarders. You're saying hoiters is horders,

958
00:52:37,480 --> 00:52:41,279
Speaker 1: So what it's the same thing. It's not.

959
00:52:42,320 --> 00:52:45,800
Speaker 2: It's not bitch's goddamn inionaires hoiters.

960
00:52:46,200 --> 00:52:47,640
Speaker 1: No, it's hoards.

961
00:52:48,080 --> 00:52:51,600
Speaker 2: What you want, y'all like betting You're like, you're like

962
00:52:51,800 --> 00:52:55,080
Speaker 2: hoarders whore because see that's the that's the part she likes.

963
00:52:55,480 --> 00:52:59,960
Speaker 1: She's like, that's what you deflected from the word.

964
00:53:02,719 --> 00:53:10,360
Speaker 2: Like that, that you're a hoarder, aarder and you're a hoarder.

965
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:16,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, I am a hoarder of clothing.

966
00:53:16,840 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 2: No, I'm a hoarder of hair products and mail.

967
00:53:21,040 --> 00:53:27,319
Speaker 1: Mail. Yes, oh that ship out never make it in

968
00:53:27,360 --> 00:53:31,799
Speaker 1: my house, especially the bills. I ain't opening that fuck that.

969
00:53:31,320 --> 00:53:34,000
Speaker 1: That should be a short in the car. That should

970
00:53:34,040 --> 00:53:38,200
Speaker 1: be going to the trash at the mailbox, like, bitch,

971
00:53:38,239 --> 00:53:39,719
Speaker 1: you know what I need to pay? Why are y'all

972
00:53:39,760 --> 00:53:41,759
Speaker 1: talking to me? Are y'all sending me a paper mail?

973
00:53:41,800 --> 00:53:44,360
Speaker 1: Y'all are wasting paper where you you don't give a

974
00:53:44,360 --> 00:53:46,960
Speaker 1: fuck about the environment. That'd be the final notices you're

975
00:53:46,960 --> 00:53:47,560
Speaker 1: getting mail.

976
00:53:47,640 --> 00:53:52,440
Speaker 2: Now that email you fifty eleven times, that's the final notice.

977
00:53:52,520 --> 00:53:59,439
Speaker 1: Mail that can go to hell. That's all I'm saying. Hey,

978
00:53:59,480 --> 00:54:03,359
Speaker 1: you boys, nothing give you, raggedy motherfuck is nothing. Now

979
00:54:03,360 --> 00:54:05,359
Speaker 1: I'm joking, I'm gonna pay my student loans. I fuck

980
00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:05,960
Speaker 1: with you, Sally.

981
00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:09,080
Speaker 2: Now, I'm fucking Sally because they ain't forgive none of

982
00:54:09,080 --> 00:54:13,640
Speaker 2: my shit. Yeh, look I probably don't have enough qualifying payments.

983
00:54:17,719 --> 00:54:22,000
Speaker 2: Fuck them student loans. Okay, that shit is a burden.

984
00:54:22,440 --> 00:54:24,960
Speaker 2: It is on our generation.

985
00:54:25,880 --> 00:54:26,439
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

986
00:54:26,440 --> 00:54:29,000
Speaker 2: They doing so much to help, like the party and

987
00:54:29,000 --> 00:54:33,280
Speaker 2: stuff we had this weekend, that is to give out scholarships.

988
00:54:34,400 --> 00:54:37,080
Speaker 2: That's nice for the graduating class of twenty twenty four

989
00:54:37,160 --> 00:54:42,000
Speaker 2: from high school. Dog, we ain't have no help for

990
00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:45,080
Speaker 2: our generation. We just got all of these fucking student loans.

991
00:54:45,160 --> 00:54:46,960
Speaker 2: That is calling me causing me sad.

992
00:54:48,840 --> 00:54:51,879
Speaker 1: It's causing you said, it's definitely causing me some saying

993
00:54:52,960 --> 00:54:55,520
Speaker 1: that shit though a seasonal. That shit all year long.

994
00:54:55,760 --> 00:54:56,520
Speaker 1: Bhind that shit.

995
00:54:57,320 --> 00:55:00,120
Speaker 2: Fuck them student loans, man, y'all fuck them bills. If

996
00:55:00,160 --> 00:55:02,640
Speaker 2: you don't clean, at least listen fucking.

997
00:55:02,320 --> 00:55:08,080
Speaker 1: The Fuck them bills and fuck them clothes. Fuck all

998
00:55:08,120 --> 00:55:13,440
Speaker 1: that shit. Fuck them kids. Know I'm call CPS on you. Now.

999
00:55:13,840 --> 00:55:15,240
Speaker 1: Don't do that. Girl.

1000
00:55:15,280 --> 00:55:16,960
Speaker 2: Fuck them kids for a day. Girl, if you a

1001
00:55:16,960 --> 00:55:19,080
Speaker 2: single parent, go drop them damn kids off to the

1002
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:22,880
Speaker 2: gam granny house. Okay, once they on the porch, they

1003
00:55:22,880 --> 00:55:23,720
Speaker 2: ain't gonna do nothing.

1004
00:55:24,320 --> 00:55:27,799
Speaker 1: Just don't leave them somewhere. Now, Fuck them kids. We

1005
00:55:27,840 --> 00:55:33,279
Speaker 1: talk bad to no. Make sure it's safe though. I mean,

1006
00:55:33,320 --> 00:55:35,160
Speaker 1: you can drop them off the grandma, but don't be

1007
00:55:35,239 --> 00:55:37,879
Speaker 1: dropping them off the grandma and grandma don't know that's

1008
00:55:37,920 --> 00:55:40,719
Speaker 1: fucked up. I don't see the video of that where

1009
00:55:40,760 --> 00:55:43,120
Speaker 1: they girl want to leave her kids with her grandma.

1010
00:55:43,360 --> 00:55:46,080
Speaker 1: She just wanted with her mama because she want to

1011
00:55:46,080 --> 00:55:46,520
Speaker 1: be free.

1012
00:55:48,760 --> 00:55:53,000
Speaker 2: Man, that postpartum depression is real. It might even get

1013
00:55:53,000 --> 00:55:55,640
Speaker 2: any even worse during the summertime, during the winter sormery,

1014
00:55:55,640 --> 00:55:59,080
Speaker 2: when you don't have support. Yeah, sometimes like that's the

1015
00:55:59,120 --> 00:56:01,479
Speaker 2: best thing to do us as opposed to killing the ass,

1016
00:56:01,480 --> 00:56:05,239
Speaker 2: because women be killing their kids out here because they're overwhelmed.

1017
00:56:05,280 --> 00:56:07,160
Speaker 2: They don't have any support, they don't have any help.

1018
00:56:07,200 --> 00:56:08,600
Speaker 2: So if I got to drop them, if you got

1019
00:56:08,600 --> 00:56:11,840
Speaker 2: to drop me, because I mean, listen, I'm about to

1020
00:56:11,840 --> 00:56:14,480
Speaker 2: have a baby by my goddamn self. Because if a

1021
00:56:14,520 --> 00:56:17,880
Speaker 2: nigga leave you better take your kid with you and

1022
00:56:17,920 --> 00:56:23,560
Speaker 2: this child support check. You're gonna leave me with a baby,

1023
00:56:24,440 --> 00:56:28,680
Speaker 2: Yes the fuck I will. If a nigga thinks he's

1024
00:56:28,680 --> 00:56:32,640
Speaker 2: about to leave me with a kid, you're sadly mistaken,

1025
00:56:32,960 --> 00:56:36,759
Speaker 2: my nigga. This baby started in you, This baby came

1026
00:56:36,800 --> 00:56:39,759
Speaker 2: out of you first, and you think you're just gonna

1027
00:56:39,880 --> 00:56:45,160
Speaker 2: leave the seed in me and walk away go with

1028
00:56:45,280 --> 00:56:45,760
Speaker 2: your daddy.

1029
00:56:45,920 --> 00:56:48,279
Speaker 1: What am I do with two more keys? What am

1030
00:56:48,320 --> 00:56:49,960
Speaker 1: I do with keys? You should have.

1031
00:56:49,960 --> 00:56:57,120
Speaker 2: Thought about that before you got pregnant. Nigga should have

1032
00:56:57,160 --> 00:56:59,920
Speaker 2: thought about that shit. I remember one of my homegirls. Man,

1033
00:57:00,800 --> 00:57:02,360
Speaker 2: we used to work at the same job and she

1034
00:57:02,400 --> 00:57:04,279
Speaker 2: had a baby, young girl, she was younger than me,

1035
00:57:04,880 --> 00:57:07,239
Speaker 2: and she had the baby. She kept missing work. I'm like, listen,

1036
00:57:07,280 --> 00:57:10,320
Speaker 2: you gotta lose your job. Your baby daddy don't work nowhere,

1037
00:57:10,360 --> 00:57:12,279
Speaker 2: his mom doesn't work anywhere. If you won't drop that

1038
00:57:12,320 --> 00:57:14,520
Speaker 2: baby off on the porch and call him from the car,

1039
00:57:16,320 --> 00:57:20,280
Speaker 2: she ended up losing her job. Damn you had you

1040
00:57:20,360 --> 00:57:23,040
Speaker 2: have child care. You shouldn't be trying to figure out

1041
00:57:23,040 --> 00:57:25,200
Speaker 2: how you're gonna work and take care of your kid

1042
00:57:25,240 --> 00:57:28,120
Speaker 2: and watch your kid. When you have you have support.

1043
00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:30,160
Speaker 2: Sometimes you just have to nudge people a little bit.

1044
00:57:30,640 --> 00:57:31,919
Speaker 2: Drop that fucking baby off.

1045
00:57:32,680 --> 00:57:39,960
Speaker 1: Shit, not that fucking drop that fucking baby off. Just

1046
00:57:39,960 --> 00:57:41,280
Speaker 1: get the fuck up out of here, y'all.

1047
00:57:42,600 --> 00:57:45,240
Speaker 2: If you have see those depression, seek therapy, go to

1048
00:57:45,280 --> 00:57:46,360
Speaker 2: go talk to somebody.

1049
00:57:46,400 --> 00:57:50,560
Speaker 1: Call me, y'a can call you. Yeah, it might cost

1050
00:57:50,560 --> 00:57:55,600
Speaker 1: you a couple of dollars, but look, we should have.

1051
00:57:55,560 --> 00:57:59,040
Speaker 2: Did a little Thanksgiving, little Thanksgiving discount code or something

1052
00:57:59,480 --> 00:58:00,640
Speaker 2: for the New Year years.

1053
00:58:01,160 --> 00:58:02,280
Speaker 1: Maybe we can implement that.

1054
00:58:02,560 --> 00:58:04,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, hit us up. You know, I'm not a

1055
00:58:04,960 --> 00:58:08,400
Speaker 2: licensed therapist, but I'm like, oh, we do.

1056
00:58:09,280 --> 00:58:11,000
Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm gonna give you any real

1057
00:58:11,080 --> 00:58:15,440
Speaker 1: solid advice outside of the last, but you gonna laugh, bitch.

1058
00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:17,440
Speaker 1: That's all I can saying. That might help a little bit.

1059
00:58:21,080 --> 00:58:22,120
Speaker 1: All Right, y'all listen.

1060
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:24,840
Speaker 2: If you enjoy this episode, tune in every Thursday on

1061
00:58:24,880 --> 00:58:28,960
Speaker 2: the iHeartRadio app wherever the fuck your sad ass get

1062
00:58:29,000 --> 00:58:32,320
Speaker 2: your podcast at. This is your co host, AJ Holiday

1063
00:58:32,440 --> 00:58:36,640
Speaker 2: two point zero. Hit us up on www dot We

1064
00:58:36,840 --> 00:58:39,800
Speaker 2: Talked back eant dot com. If you want to schedule

1065
00:58:39,840 --> 00:58:43,640
Speaker 2: a consultation, you want to schedule a little meet and greet,

1066
00:58:43,920 --> 00:58:44,440
Speaker 2: hit us up.

1067
00:58:44,560 --> 00:58:47,959
Speaker 1: What's up? Tam, y'all's official tambam on Instagram. Y'all please

1068
00:58:47,960 --> 00:58:50,600
Speaker 1: follow me. Remember I really do love y'all. I don't

1069
00:58:50,640 --> 00:58:53,240
Speaker 1: just be saying that shit because it's something to say.

1070
00:58:53,440 --> 00:58:55,520
Speaker 1: I really do love y'all, and I appreciate all of

1071
00:58:55,600 --> 00:58:58,880
Speaker 1: y'all for tuning in every week. Y'all. If you're sad,

1072
00:58:59,000 --> 00:59:02,600
Speaker 1: you know, take some of these the seven tools that

1073
00:59:02,640 --> 00:59:04,560
Speaker 1: I gave you, and please apply it to your life

1074
00:59:04,600 --> 00:59:06,560
Speaker 1: because we need you here and we want you happy

1075
00:59:06,600 --> 00:59:09,240
Speaker 1: and healthy. Y'all. Remember to speak now.

1076
00:59:09,840 --> 00:59:12,240
Speaker 2: And never hold y'all.

1077
00:59:13,480 --> 00:59:17,960
Speaker 1: Peace, do sys bye.