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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Joseph is on the phone today for our first Day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Mia. So we're

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Speaker 2: gonna see if we can find out why he's getting

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Speaker 2: ghosted and maybe get him another date if he still

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Speaker 2: wants one. But first, Joseph Hollin's have been since you

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Speaker 2: heard from Mia?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Well, I mean it's been a couple of weeks now,

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Speaker 4: and I'm getting kind of worried.

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Speaker 5: You're getting worried. Is there a reason why you feel worried?

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Speaker 5: Like about her or about her how she's ghosting you.

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Speaker 4: Most is about like how she's ghosting me. It's it's

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Speaker 4: been a little while, and it went so well. This

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Speaker 4: was one of the best days I've ever had. It

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Speaker 4: seems so promising. We actually we had We were stal

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Speaker 4: We were set up for dinner in a movie and

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Speaker 4: we were talking for so long at dinner that we

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Speaker 4: ended up missing the movie. Like that was great, you know, yeah.

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Speaker 5: You missed the whole movie.

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Speaker 4: Well no, I mean we were able to get it,

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Speaker 4: and it's just it's been it. We ended up missing

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Speaker 4: the opening. Those just felt really good, you know, talking

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Speaker 5: No, tell us more about it. What did you guys

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Speaker 5: talk about?

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Speaker 6: Why?

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Speaker 5: You know, do you feel like it was so great?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 4: Well, I mean we went to a pizza place because

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Speaker 4: she had said in a previous conversation how much she

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Speaker 4: loved pizza. And I was like, oh great. This is

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Speaker 4: kind of casual but also kind of like, you know,

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Speaker 4: sort of a dinner, so a little more than just

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Speaker 4: like coffee. Is great. We had to talk about our careers,

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Speaker 4: you know, our families. We seem to be on the

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Speaker 4: same wavelengths. You know. Actually we both mentioned that we

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Speaker 4: wanted to check out a museum that we had been

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Speaker 4: looking at and maybe we could do that sometime. And

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Speaker 4: I was like, oh good, okay, so like second date

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Speaker 4: right there, it's kind of built into it, and I

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Speaker 4: just felt really promising.

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Speaker 7: Did anything happen on the date? We're kind of an

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Speaker 7: obvious sign.

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Speaker 5: Why she's not.

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Speaker 4: On you back, I've got I'm not gonna lie, I've

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Speaker 4: got an idea of what might have happened. See will

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Speaker 4: we were Uh, while we were out, I saw my

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Speaker 4: sister and you know, my my my sister is married,

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Speaker 4: and I go over to dinner with her and her

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Speaker 4: family every once in a while so I can see

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Speaker 4: my nieces and nephews. And we've recently talked about how

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Speaker 4: I probably shouldn't talk about my love life, uh, you

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Speaker 4: know around like the kids right now, you know, just

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Speaker 4: until things get kind of settled, because that way, you know,

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Speaker 4: it'd be kind of awkward for them. And when you know,

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Speaker 4: I saw it out, I was like, oh no, this

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Speaker 4: is kind of awkward, this is kind of weird. How

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Speaker 4: do I act in this situation? I wouldn't be surprised

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Speaker 4: if that was a little confusing.

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Speaker 5: Wait, so you didn't you didn't talk to your sister?

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Speaker 4: No? No, I just was like, oh god, what do

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Speaker 4: I What do I do here? And I probably it

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Speaker 4: probably kind of upset how I I spoke to to

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Speaker 7: Did you tell me that it was your sister who

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Speaker 7: was there, or that you knew each other or anything

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Speaker 4: No, well, I was afraid it was going to make

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Speaker 4: things even more awkward. One's like, oh god, if I

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Speaker 4: just kind of play this off, let's not even like

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Speaker 4: make a thing out of it. It's one of those

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Speaker 4: the bigger the things of the more weird it gets.

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Speaker 4: I'm not gonna lie. I'm not sure I did a

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Speaker 4: great job that.

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Speaker 5: Okay, it sounds like it was kind of weird.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, it sounds awkward. All right, Well, we'll see if

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Speaker 6: we can figure it out.

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Speaker 2: We'll play a song and then come back and call

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Speaker 2: her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting

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Speaker 2: you and maybe get you another date.

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Speaker 6: Okay, Okay, I think all right? Well, plays on, come back,

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Speaker 1: Next first Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Right in the middle of the first Date follow Up

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Speaker 2: and if you're just joining us, Joseph is on the phone.

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Speaker 2: He's been getting ghosted for like two weeks now and

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Speaker 2: doesn't know why. So we're about to call the girl

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Speaker 2: that he went out with. Her name is Mia and

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Speaker 2: see if we can figure out why he's getting ghosted

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Speaker 2: and maybe get him another date. But before we do that, Josephy,

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Speaker 2: don't you refresh everybody's memory about your date with Mia.

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Speaker 4: Sure, me and I had a great time. We went

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Speaker 4: to a pizza place, We talked about setting up a

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Speaker 4: second day at a museum. We actually were talking for

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Speaker 4: so long we almost missed the movie. I'm not sure

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Speaker 4: why she hasn't gotten back to me after like a

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Speaker 4: couple of weeks. I'm a little worried that it's because

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Speaker 4: I was a little awkward when I saw my sister out.

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Speaker 4: But I'm not sure.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, we'll give her a call right now and

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Speaker 2: ask her if she'll ask her why she's a ghost

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Speaker 2: to you, and see if she'll tell us, and then

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Speaker 2: maybe get you another day. You're ready, all right, let's go,

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Speaker 2: all right, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak

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Speaker 2: to mea please? This Hey Mia, how are you? My

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Speaker 2: name is Jubell. I host a radio show. It's called

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Speaker 2: The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 5: Aimia. The show's here too. I'm Nina, Hi, and I'm Victoria.

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Speaker 3: Oh hi, how are you doing today? Good? Okay, So

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Speaker 3: what's the show.

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Speaker 2: It's a radio show. It's called The Jewel Show. We

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Speaker 2: do a segment on our show called the First Day Followup.

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Speaker 2: That's where if you go out on a date with

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Speaker 2: somebody and then end up ghosting them, they get they

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Speaker 2: can email us to get you on the phone and

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Speaker 2: ask why you're ghosting them. And we got an email

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Speaker 2: about you from Joseph.

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Speaker 3: Oh oh oh yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I definitely went

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Speaker 3: out with a guy named Joseph.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, Joseph said, you've been ghosting him for like

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Speaker 2: two weeks now and he wants to know why.

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Speaker 6: He thought things went really well and he liked you

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Speaker 6: a lot.

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Speaker 3: Well, it actually did spurn off really well. We went

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Speaker 3: and had pizza, and we had a lot of things coming.

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Speaker 3: We were laughing. We were even planning on going to

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Speaker 3: to the movies and he is clearly not over his

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Speaker 3: acting really weird. He showed no affection to me. It

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Speaker 5: How do you know that was his X? Did you

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Speaker 3: He didn't say that, but it was like he looked

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Speaker 3: it felt like it was his X. I mean you

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Speaker 3: kind of just know that's his ex. You know. It

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Speaker 3: was awkward because he like stopped touching me. He stopped,

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Speaker 3: I mean he lost would it be you know.

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Speaker 6: Could it be like his sister or something?

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Speaker 3: Well, why would his sister care if he was touching me.

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Speaker 5: That is a very fair point. But sometimes what we

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Speaker 3: Possibly, I mean, what was not his sister?

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Speaker 2: I don't know, let's ask him. Joseph is actually on

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Speaker 2: the phone listening and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, Hi, Yeah, you were actually really weird with

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Speaker 3: that girl. It definitely felt like that was your ex.

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Speaker 3: You had your hand on my lap and then when

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Speaker 4: It was very awkward. Yeah, believe it or not, that

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Speaker 3: Yes, I was.

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Speaker 4: We have an agreement that I don't like that I

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Speaker 4: don't talk about my ongoing like romantic relationships for a

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Speaker 4: little while here. Definitely not you know, around my nieces

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Speaker 3: Like, oh god, it's like not time.

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Speaker 4: I don't really want to like introduce the family on

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that was Why did you just say something or

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Speaker 3: then like it just felt very awkward. I mean, if

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Speaker 3: you don't want to talk about your relationship, but I

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Speaker 3: guess sometimes you don't. I mean, it was our first date.

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Speaker 3: I guess I got that, like you don't want to,

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Speaker 3: He couldn't say hi to her or or even say

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Speaker 4: Yeah, right, Yeah, no, I just kind of wanted to

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Speaker 4: oh good, I'll just kind of get out of here.

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Speaker 4: I'll play it off cool. I very clearly did a terrible.

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Speaker 6: Job of that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah you did.

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Speaker 8: I mean, yeah, it was very comfortable. And then also

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Speaker 8: you saw her and this night and day you were affectionate,

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Speaker 8: and then nothing.

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Speaker 5: Joseph, you kind of turned into a red flag. I'm

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Speaker 5: really sorry. You're so sweet, and I really wanted this

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Speaker 5: to work out for you. But you can't just run

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Speaker 5: away from a situation that's unfortable every time something's not

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Speaker 5: cool for you. You can't just let's go.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's funny. That was.

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Speaker 5: Sure, I know somehow.

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Speaker 7: I mean, on a first day meeting family, you just

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Speaker 7: say it's your friend, but yeah, your sister's obviously not

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Speaker 7: going to be But listen, if you're doing it in

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Speaker 7: You know, well for me, you could have done that

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Speaker 7: the next time.

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Speaker 6: The next time, yeah, next time.

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Speaker 2: Well, how would you like to have another awkward situation

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Speaker 2: happened with Joseph? Because I think there might be many like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: would you like to go on another date with Joseph?

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Speaker 6: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 3: How many siblings? How many times will this happen? Uh,

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Speaker 3: it's knowing that it's his sister. I actually feel a

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Speaker 3: lot better. It was a little weird. Just tell me

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Speaker 3: next time. But yeah, I actually have a really good

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Speaker 3: time at the pizza place, and I would like to

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Speaker 3: see that zoom still, so I totally want to go

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Speaker 3: out with you.

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Speaker 5: Run into his girlfriend at the museum. Sorry, just kidding.

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Speaker 6: The best

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Speaker 3: You will first date follow up