WEBVTT - Taking Your Ex Back!

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, talk them back.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you, dear blog.

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<v Speaker 4>So I have a question for you guys, and it's

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<v Speaker 4>about a friend of mine named Maelon Okay, And Maelan

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<v Speaker 4>is single, you know, on the streets, and Maelan is

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<v Speaker 4>starting to you know, dabble here, a little dabble there.

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<v Speaker 4>Now one of Mayelan's past excess from a while ago

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<v Speaker 4>has reached out. Now the issue is when we dated

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<v Speaker 4>the first time, I Kiki and I always say like

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<v Speaker 4>timing is definitely a big issue, and there are some

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<v Speaker 4>other factors that it just it didn't work out.

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<v Speaker 1>It didn't mean there weren't feelings.

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<v Speaker 4>There, but I also would say that Maelan was a

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<v Speaker 4>little bit more ready to like take it the long haul.

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<v Speaker 4>Then this person was okay, okay, and so it kind

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<v Speaker 4>of just it ended and it's okay, all good. Well,

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<v Speaker 4>recently this person has reached back out and is now

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<v Speaker 4>all of a sudden ready for all of the things. Okay,

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<v Speaker 4>Now do we think someone can really change? Do we

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<v Speaker 4>think that you give this person another chance? Or do

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<v Speaker 4>we think that Malan should never go back and always

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<v Speaker 4>go forward and talk to the accountant.

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<v Speaker 3>The only problem for Malan was that this person didn't

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<v Speaker 3>want to commit forever.

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<v Speaker 2>That was the only.

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<v Speaker 4>Issue, just places in our lives that it wasn't. We

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<v Speaker 4>couldn't take it to like marriage and kids, which is

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<v Speaker 4>what I would have wanted. And this person expressed to

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<v Speaker 4>Mailan that they wanted that with them, but it wasn't

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<v Speaker 4>the time.

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<v Speaker 3>Me.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like. I don't like going back to axis.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't.

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<v Speaker 3>I think the same issues always rear their heads. I

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<v Speaker 3>think timing is a thing, and I'm sure there are

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<v Speaker 3>people listening who can be like, well, but so and

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<v Speaker 3>so called me ten years later and it worked out. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>maybe maybe, But I don't. I don't like going backwards.

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<v Speaker 3>I feel like in my experience, no matter what the

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<v Speaker 3>issue was, the issue.

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<v Speaker 2>Represents itself.

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<v Speaker 1>So you think it's never a good idea to revisit.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it's odds are not great. No, no, and

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<v Speaker 3>then that's just my personal experience too. And I hope

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<v Speaker 3>you tell Meylan that.

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<v Speaker 2>I said that.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I'm going to tell her I'm taking notes on

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<v Speaker 4>what you guys think because she's she's curious, she needs help.

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<v Speaker 2>The thing about X is that amazed me by the way.

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<v Speaker 3>And this is a little bit of an offshoot, but

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<v Speaker 3>like I always, I always hear from the ones from

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<v Speaker 3>the past. They always come back, they always come back,

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<v Speaker 3>And the ones that seem to be the most aggressive

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<v Speaker 3>are the ones that did the worst stuff, as if

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<v Speaker 3>I somehow forgot that you're an awful human being.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, well, I don't know why you won't talk to me.

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<v Speaker 2>I know.

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<v Speaker 3>I know why, but it's like, why would you think

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<v Speaker 3>I would like, like how much of a narcissist are you?

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 3>Like you you did all this stuff and then you're like,

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know why I won't talk to me anymore.

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<v Speaker 3>I you know, it's like, because like what's wrong with you?

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<v Speaker 3>So I kind of wonder, like are we being? And

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<v Speaker 3>it can also it can be sort of it could

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<v Speaker 3>be fun to think about the good times with the

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<v Speaker 3>person from the past, and then you don't reflect as

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<v Speaker 3>much on the bad times because it's been a little

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<v Speaker 3>while and you're single and it's a known factor. So

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<v Speaker 3>you're like, well, I know what i'm getting here, and

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<v Speaker 3>maybe this was good and that was good, and you

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<v Speaker 3>remember those things. And then as soon as you get

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<v Speaker 3>back together or as soon as start hanging out again,

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<v Speaker 3>and all the newness, the new knewness, wears off, then

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<v Speaker 3>the old things re emerge and you're like, well, now

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<v Speaker 3>I understand why it didn't work, because I have a

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<v Speaker 3>tendency to only remember the good stuff. Yeah, like especially

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<v Speaker 3>when I was the one who didn't act. Yeah, like

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<v Speaker 3>when I was the one who didn't move things forward.

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<v Speaker 3>And then I see someone happy doing the thing that

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<v Speaker 3>they wanted to do with me, but they're doing it

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<v Speaker 3>with someone else. Then all I torture myself with all

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<v Speaker 3>the good reasons why I should have been that guy,

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<v Speaker 3>only for me to then realize, no, wait a minute,

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<v Speaker 3>here the reason. And occasionally you get the shot to

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<v Speaker 3>do it again, yeah, and then it's like, oh, now

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<v Speaker 3>I remember why this didn't work the first time.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>The difficulty with this person is so that person was

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<v Speaker 4>put in a certain category by Maelan not ready, not

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<v Speaker 4>going to be ready, not an option for long term.

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<v Speaker 1>So Maelan was thinking maybe maybe you know.

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<v Speaker 4>We get a little littled at all just because you

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<v Speaker 4>know them and it's your eggs and then you know

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<v Speaker 4>what you're gonna get. But now that there's like this

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<v Speaker 4>person is bringing feelings and emotions into it, then I

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<v Speaker 4>would not be able to like do that and su that.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's interesting how.

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<v Speaker 3>Long ago was this that you that Maelan experienced this

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<v Speaker 3>gentleman for the first time. Experience for the first gentleman

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<v Speaker 3>might be generous, but.

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<v Speaker 1>I think maybe like twenty one.

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<v Speaker 2>So it's been five years.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, yeah, I.

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<v Speaker 3>Mean it's people do change and people can realize what

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<v Speaker 3>they've missed.

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<v Speaker 2>But I also think sometimes.

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<v Speaker 3>The things again, I think maybe you it seems like

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<v Speaker 3>a good idea, then you're remembering certain things and maybe

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<v Speaker 3>not all the things.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so don't even entertain it, you think.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel like.

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<v Speaker 3>Moving forward is always the best plan, but I could

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<v Speaker 3>be wrong about that. I was just a bunch of

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<v Speaker 3>texts about this. I was told that going back to

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<v Speaker 3>an X is like microwaving micro microwaving.

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<v Speaker 2>McDonald's French fries.

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<v Speaker 3>Was. Another person says, can definitely go back for the

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<v Speaker 3>right person if timing was off, but also plenty of

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<v Speaker 3>fish in the sea. I believe Tay Swift taught us

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<v Speaker 3>that's digging in the trash.

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<v Speaker 1>Her brother says that, yes, yes.

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<v Speaker 3>Why is there we end when talking to the third

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<v Speaker 3>person with regards to Meylan, I don't.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, my bad, yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>No, friend, I think she should give it a try.

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<v Speaker 3>It doesn't hurt to try, and if it doesn't work

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<v Speaker 3>out the second time around, then you know, was never

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<v Speaker 3>meant to be. But if it doesn't work out, it

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<v Speaker 3>could be one of the most I guess If it

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<v Speaker 3>does work out, it could be one of the most

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<v Speaker 3>beautiful things. He doesn't want to argue with her over this,

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<v Speaker 3>But what else.

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<v Speaker 2>Is he not?

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<v Speaker 3>Is this the same text? I can't tell this is

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<v Speaker 3>the same day. No, this is a different day. If

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<v Speaker 3>those were the reasons, one hundred percent go back? Oh

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<v Speaker 3>move forward, Never go back. I mean this is going

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<v Speaker 3>on and on.

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<v Speaker 5>Well you know me, I say, do it for the plot,

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<v Speaker 5>you know, so I'm ready to get hurt again.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you have to lose?

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<v Speaker 5>Like, just do it, my heart, Well, you'll get it back.

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<v Speaker 5>But like some timing can be a real thing. And

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<v Speaker 5>if timing was the only issue that you all experienced,

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<v Speaker 5>then why not try it again if he was a

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<v Speaker 5>decent person and you felt love there, and maybe give

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<v Speaker 5>it another try, because I do think men sometimes are

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<v Speaker 5>not ready, or they think they're not ready until they

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<v Speaker 5>see you with someone else or they realize what they've lost.

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<v Speaker 1>It's very interesting. I just started to feel great again,

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<v Speaker 1>and then here comes melan.

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<v Speaker 4>Just started to feel great again, and then here comes someone.

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<v Speaker 1>They always come back now, even guys they called me crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you come back for seconds, so they always

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<v Speaker 1>come back.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I don't know. I don't like it.

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<v Speaker 1>Pe a man now says the married woman as a child.

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<v Speaker 2>It's fun.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know, Like I'm just from the male perspective.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm trying to think, like I've seen people break up

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<v Speaker 3>or become single again. Then I light up and I'm like, ah,

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<v Speaker 3>here we go, here's my shot. But really it's it's

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<v Speaker 3>typically the same issues over and over again. And I

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<v Speaker 3>think a lot of it has to do with the

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<v Speaker 3>you know the fact that dating apps are a numbers

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<v Speaker 3>game and and and you have to work really hard

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<v Speaker 3>at it, and you and people don't want to, and

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<v Speaker 3>they don't have the best experience with them. So it's like, well,

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<v Speaker 3>here's a known factor and this was okay, and that

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<v Speaker 3>was okay, so I'll go to it.

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<v Speaker 2>Kind of it can be kind.

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<v Speaker 3>Of emotionally lazy, I think to go backwards because then

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<v Speaker 3>you're not you don't have to do the work to

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<v Speaker 3>go forwards, you know what I mean? Because I don't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I just I just think what's meant to be. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know if I believe what's meant to be will be,

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<v Speaker 3>but I believe I guess.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I don't like going back to.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't know that it's all fate related because again,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, I don't like I don't like things that

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<v Speaker 3>are unaccountable.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't like, well, what's meant to be will be? Okay?

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<v Speaker 3>So that that that and then don't get me going

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<v Speaker 3>on this what's meant to be will be? And let

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<v Speaker 3>them and if you wanted to, he would all these things.

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<v Speaker 3>These are things that people say when they're not willing

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<v Speaker 3>to be self aware.

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<v Speaker 2>These are people.

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<v Speaker 3>These are things that people say when they want justification

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<v Speaker 3>for why things are happening, and oftentimes the solution might

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<v Speaker 3>be to look in the mirror and assess oneself as

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<v Speaker 3>opposed to continually projecting onto other people. You know, it's

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<v Speaker 3>like if you wanted to, he would. So you're doing

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<v Speaker 3>everything perfectly and this person is just lazy. Maybe maybe,

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<v Speaker 3>or maybe there's something that you could be doing to

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<v Speaker 3>attract a different kind of person, or there's something you

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<v Speaker 3>could be doing to open yourself up a little. Maybe

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<v Speaker 3>it's not just about everybody else all the time. So

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<v Speaker 3>I don't like unaccountable platitudes.

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<v Speaker 4>Okay, So you vote no, Kiki votes yes, Paulina votes no.

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<v Speaker 1>Men ever Okay, yeah, any period,