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Speaker 4: So I have a question for you guys, and it's
Speaker 4: about a friend of mine named Maelon Okay, And Maelan
Speaker 4: is single, you know, on the streets, and Maelan is
Speaker 4: starting to you know, dabble here, a little dabble there.
Speaker 4: Now one of Mayelan's past excess from a while ago
Speaker 4: has reached out. Now the issue is when we dated
Speaker 4: the first time, I Kiki and I always say like
Speaker 4: timing is definitely a big issue, and there are some
Speaker 4: other factors that it just it didn't work out.
Speaker 1: It didn't mean there weren't feelings.
Speaker 4: There, but I also would say that Maelan was a
Speaker 4: little bit more ready to like take it the long haul.
Speaker 4: Then this person was okay, okay, and so it kind
Speaker 4: of just it ended and it's okay, all good. Well,
Speaker 4: recently this person has reached back out and is now
Speaker 4: all of a sudden ready for all of the things. Okay,
Speaker 4: Now do we think someone can really change? Do we
Speaker 4: think that you give this person another chance? Or do
Speaker 4: we think that Malan should never go back and always
Speaker 4: go forward and talk to the accountant.
Speaker 3: The only problem for Malan was that this person didn't
Speaker 3: want to commit forever.
Speaker 2: That was the only.
Speaker 4: Issue, just places in our lives that it wasn't. We
Speaker 4: couldn't take it to like marriage and kids, which is
Speaker 4: what I would have wanted. And this person expressed to
Speaker 4: Mailan that they wanted that with them, but it wasn't
Speaker 4: the time.
Speaker 3: Me.
Speaker 2: I don't like. I don't like going back to axis.
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 3: I think the same issues always rear their heads. I
Speaker 3: think timing is a thing, and I'm sure there are
Speaker 3: people listening who can be like, well, but so and
Speaker 3: so called me ten years later and it worked out. Yeah,
Speaker 3: maybe maybe, But I don't. I don't like going backwards.
Speaker 3: I feel like in my experience, no matter what the
Speaker 3: issue was, the issue.
Speaker 2: Represents itself.
Speaker 1: So you think it's never a good idea to revisit.
Speaker 3: I think it's odds are not great. No, no, and
Speaker 3: then that's just my personal experience too. And I hope
Speaker 3: you tell Meylan that.
Speaker 2: I said that.
Speaker 4: Well, I'm going to tell her I'm taking notes on
Speaker 4: what you guys think because she's she's curious, she needs help.
Speaker 2: The thing about X is that amazed me by the way.
Speaker 3: And this is a little bit of an offshoot, but
Speaker 3: like I always, I always hear from the ones from
Speaker 3: the past. They always come back, they always come back,
Speaker 3: And the ones that seem to be the most aggressive
Speaker 3: are the ones that did the worst stuff, as if
Speaker 3: I somehow forgot that you're an awful human being.
Speaker 2: Like, well, I don't know why you won't talk to me.
Speaker 2: I know.
Speaker 3: I know why, but it's like, why would you think
Speaker 3: I would like, like how much of a narcissist are you?
Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
Speaker 3: Like you you did all this stuff and then you're like,
Speaker 3: I don't know why I won't talk to me anymore.
Speaker 3: I you know, it's like, because like what's wrong with you?
Speaker 3: So I kind of wonder, like are we being? And
Speaker 3: it can also it can be sort of it could
Speaker 3: be fun to think about the good times with the
Speaker 3: person from the past, and then you don't reflect as
Speaker 3: much on the bad times because it's been a little
Speaker 3: while and you're single and it's a known factor. So
Speaker 3: you're like, well, I know what i'm getting here, and
Speaker 3: maybe this was good and that was good, and you
Speaker 3: remember those things. And then as soon as you get
Speaker 3: back together or as soon as start hanging out again,
Speaker 3: and all the newness, the new knewness, wears off, then
Speaker 3: the old things re emerge and you're like, well, now
Speaker 3: I understand why it didn't work, because I have a
Speaker 3: tendency to only remember the good stuff. Yeah, like especially
Speaker 3: when I was the one who didn't act. Yeah, like
Speaker 3: when I was the one who didn't move things forward.
Speaker 3: And then I see someone happy doing the thing that
Speaker 3: they wanted to do with me, but they're doing it
Speaker 3: with someone else. Then all I torture myself with all
Speaker 3: the good reasons why I should have been that guy,
Speaker 3: only for me to then realize, no, wait a minute,
Speaker 3: here the reason. And occasionally you get the shot to
Speaker 3: do it again, yeah, and then it's like, oh, now
Speaker 3: I remember why this didn't work the first time.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 4: The difficulty with this person is so that person was
Speaker 4: put in a certain category by Maelan not ready, not
Speaker 4: going to be ready, not an option for long term.
Speaker 1: So Maelan was thinking maybe maybe you know.
Speaker 4: We get a little littled at all just because you
Speaker 4: know them and it's your eggs and then you know
Speaker 4: what you're gonna get. But now that there's like this
Speaker 4: person is bringing feelings and emotions into it, then I
Speaker 4: would not be able to like do that and su that.
Speaker 1: So it's interesting how.
Speaker 3: Long ago was this that you that Maelan experienced this
Speaker 3: gentleman for the first time. Experience for the first gentleman
Speaker 3: might be generous, but.
Speaker 1: I think maybe like twenty one.
Speaker 2: So it's been five years.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, yeah, I.
Speaker 3: Mean it's people do change and people can realize what
Speaker 3: they've missed.
Speaker 2: But I also think sometimes.
Speaker 3: The things again, I think maybe you it seems like
Speaker 3: a good idea, then you're remembering certain things and maybe
Speaker 3: not all the things.
Speaker 1: Okay, so don't even entertain it, you think.
Speaker 2: I feel like.
Speaker 3: Moving forward is always the best plan, but I could
Speaker 3: be wrong about that. I was just a bunch of
Speaker 3: texts about this. I was told that going back to
Speaker 3: an X is like microwaving micro microwaving.
Speaker 2: McDonald's French fries.
Speaker 3: Was. Another person says, can definitely go back for the
Speaker 3: right person if timing was off, but also plenty of
Speaker 3: fish in the sea. I believe Tay Swift taught us
Speaker 3: that's digging in the trash.
Speaker 1: Her brother says that, yes, yes.
Speaker 3: Why is there we end when talking to the third
Speaker 3: person with regards to Meylan, I don't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, my bad, yeah.
Speaker 3: No, friend, I think she should give it a try.
Speaker 3: It doesn't hurt to try, and if it doesn't work
Speaker 3: out the second time around, then you know, was never
Speaker 3: meant to be. But if it doesn't work out, it
Speaker 3: could be one of the most I guess If it
Speaker 3: does work out, it could be one of the most
Speaker 3: beautiful things. He doesn't want to argue with her over this,
Speaker 3: But what else.
Speaker 2: Is he not?
Speaker 3: Is this the same text? I can't tell this is
Speaker 3: the same day. No, this is a different day. If
Speaker 3: those were the reasons, one hundred percent go back? Oh
Speaker 3: move forward, Never go back. I mean this is going
Speaker 3: on and on.
Speaker 5: Well you know me, I say, do it for the plot,
Speaker 5: you know, so I'm ready to get hurt again.
Speaker 1: What do you have to lose?
Speaker 5: Like, just do it, my heart, Well, you'll get it back.
Speaker 5: But like some timing can be a real thing. And
Speaker 5: if timing was the only issue that you all experienced,
Speaker 5: then why not try it again if he was a
Speaker 5: decent person and you felt love there, and maybe give
Speaker 5: it another try, because I do think men sometimes are
Speaker 5: not ready, or they think they're not ready until they
Speaker 5: see you with someone else or they realize what they've lost.
Speaker 1: It's very interesting. I just started to feel great again,
Speaker 1: and then here comes melan.
Speaker 4: Just started to feel great again, and then here comes someone.
Speaker 1: They always come back now, even guys they called me crazy.
Speaker 1: You know, you come back for seconds, so they always
Speaker 1: come back.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. I don't like it.
Speaker 1: Pe a man now says the married woman as a child.
Speaker 2: It's fun.
Speaker 3: I don't know, Like I'm just from the male perspective.
Speaker 3: I'm trying to think, like I've seen people break up
Speaker 3: or become single again. Then I light up and I'm like, ah,
Speaker 3: here we go, here's my shot. But really it's it's
Speaker 3: typically the same issues over and over again. And I
Speaker 3: think a lot of it has to do with the
Speaker 3: you know the fact that dating apps are a numbers
Speaker 3: game and and and you have to work really hard
Speaker 3: at it, and you and people don't want to, and
Speaker 3: they don't have the best experience with them. So it's like, well,
Speaker 3: here's a known factor and this was okay, and that
Speaker 3: was okay, so I'll go to it.
Speaker 2: Kind of it can be kind.
Speaker 3: Of emotionally lazy, I think to go backwards because then
Speaker 3: you're not you don't have to do the work to
Speaker 3: go forwards, you know what I mean? Because I don't know.
Speaker 3: I just I just think what's meant to be. I
Speaker 3: don't know if I believe what's meant to be will be,
Speaker 3: but I believe I guess.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I don't like going back to.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: I don't know that it's all fate related because again,
Speaker 3: you know, I don't like I don't like things that
Speaker 3: are unaccountable.
Speaker 2: I don't like, well, what's meant to be will be? Okay?
Speaker 3: So that that that and then don't get me going
Speaker 3: on this what's meant to be will be? And let
Speaker 3: them and if you wanted to, he would all these things.
Speaker 3: These are things that people say when they're not willing
Speaker 3: to be self aware.
Speaker 2: These are people.
Speaker 3: These are things that people say when they want justification
Speaker 3: for why things are happening, and oftentimes the solution might
Speaker 3: be to look in the mirror and assess oneself as
Speaker 3: opposed to continually projecting onto other people. You know, it's
Speaker 3: like if you wanted to, he would. So you're doing
Speaker 3: everything perfectly and this person is just lazy. Maybe maybe,
Speaker 3: or maybe there's something that you could be doing to
Speaker 3: attract a different kind of person, or there's something you
Speaker 3: could be doing to open yourself up a little. Maybe
Speaker 3: it's not just about everybody else all the time. So
Speaker 3: I don't like unaccountable platitudes.
Speaker 4: Okay, So you vote no, Kiki votes yes, Paulina votes no.
Speaker 1: Men ever Okay, yeah, any period,