WEBVTT -  Dig DeepXYZ: Pool Parties and Punishments

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to desperately devoted.

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<v Speaker 2>Think of us as your favorite neighbors as we chat

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<v Speaker 2>about life and relationships, all.

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<v Speaker 3>While we revisit the iconic show Desperate Housewives together.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Terry Hatcher, I'm Andrea Bowen.

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<v Speaker 3>And I'm Emerson Tani. Well, let's dive into the deep

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<v Speaker 3>end of this pool. We are here for X y

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<v Speaker 3>Z and we are talking about pool parties, high school parties,

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<v Speaker 3>high school relationship.

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<v Speaker 1>High school pool parties and all of.

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<v Speaker 3>The weird questions of body image and judgment and all

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<v Speaker 3>of that that that brings up.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I just flag something right away? And maybe I'm

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<v Speaker 1>in the minority here, but I don't think I am.

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<v Speaker 1>I assume most pool parties take place during the day.

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<v Speaker 3>A nighttime pool party is borderline psychotic.

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<v Speaker 1>It's so weird. It's so weird for this teenage pool

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<v Speaker 1>party to be at nighttime.

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<v Speaker 2>Really, because I have pool parties at nighttime. You're an adult, Well, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>that's true. I have a pool when I was a

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<v Speaker 2>young kid.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like you're just you know, feeding into like

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<v Speaker 1>nighttime vibes. Everyone's in a swimsuit, you know, you're it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's kind.

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<v Speaker 3>Of yeah, I have to say. My one image, and

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<v Speaker 3>it's a pop culture reference of a pool party at

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<v Speaker 3>night is in one of my favorite movies, Easy A

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<v Speaker 3>and Melanie Bostick. That's how I'm A Stone's character says

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<v Speaker 3>her name. Melanie Bostik's parents always let her throat. She's

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<v Speaker 3>like the popular girl in their middle school. Let her

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<v Speaker 3>throw a party every time she catches them doing it

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<v Speaker 3>in the pool, which apparently is every weekend. And so

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<v Speaker 3>we cut to her throwing this big high school party,

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<v Speaker 3>and it is at night, and you see kids in clothes,

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<v Speaker 3>but then you also see kids diving into the pool,

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<v Speaker 3>and I have to say, it looks like much more

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<v Speaker 3>of a rager than the Zax party.

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<v Speaker 1>My friend Bert V. Royle wrote Easy A and I

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<v Speaker 1>one of my favorite things I've ever done in my

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<v Speaker 1>career is I did a Los Angeles production of the

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<v Speaker 1>play Dogs He's God, which Bert also wrote.

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<v Speaker 2>That play.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's such a fantastic play and it's based around

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<v Speaker 1>the Charles Schultz characters of Peanut Charlie Brown, yea, the

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<v Speaker 1>Peanut the Peanuts characters, and I played Sally Brown. But

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's it's like this very incredible, dark, twisted, very

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<v Speaker 1>funny take on those Charlie Brown characters and anyway, so

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<v Speaker 1>I love that movie and love that man and that

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<v Speaker 1>writer Zach's Sadpool Party. It's it's kind of it's not

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<v Speaker 1>a for him, it's not a rager.

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<v Speaker 2>And Julie's empathetic, like I've got to go over here

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<v Speaker 2>and try to still support this weird guy.

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<v Speaker 3>Which I which I So Susan has really forbid Julie

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<v Speaker 3>from going over there, and I think this leads us

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<v Speaker 3>to something that I know you wanted to talk more

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<v Speaker 3>about mom with Bree and her daughter and what bree

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<v Speaker 3>says to John the Gardner when she wants him to

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<v Speaker 3>break up with her daughter.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, So Susan does, you know, try to get in

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<v Speaker 2>the middle of saying you're not allowed to see that boy.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think there's some validity to you know, he

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<v Speaker 2>threw furniture across the room, and that kind of feels

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<v Speaker 2>like a reason you would want to stop that. But yes,

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<v Speaker 2>Breeze character actually goes to John's house and tells him

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<v Speaker 2>that he that she you know, would like him to

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<v Speaker 2>not take Danielle's virginity. And then when he says, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to I didn't want to He's like okay,

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<v Speaker 2>she says, well, I want you to be brutal about

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<v Speaker 2>how you break up with her.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, I know my daughter, and he's not going

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<v Speaker 1>to go down without a fight.

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<v Speaker 2>And it kind of made me think about did I

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<v Speaker 2>ever get in the way of your dating like that?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't feel like I know.

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, thank god, because it's so many more years of

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<v Speaker 3>therapy for me and I'm already in therapy.

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<v Speaker 1>Would you have listened if she did?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean, we so luckily did not have. I feel

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<v Speaker 3>like that type of relationship. I think, if anything, I

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<v Speaker 3>aired much more, which I think is maybe like you

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<v Speaker 3>aired much more on the side of Like I was

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<v Speaker 3>a pretty good kid, Like I would sometimes go to parties,

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<v Speaker 3>but I was not doing drugs. I wasn't drinking, Like

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<v Speaker 3>I smoked pot for the first time my senior year

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<v Speaker 3>of high school. I lost my virginity my senior year

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<v Speaker 3>of high school. Like I really was not pushing the

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<v Speaker 3>line too much. That said, I had plenty of people

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<v Speaker 3>I dated in high school, and I do think, Mom,

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<v Speaker 3>you were actually like relatively supportive of some of these

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<v Speaker 3>rando guys. But like, I don't know what I was

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<v Speaker 3>doing going out with them, But I feel like you

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<v Speaker 3>sort of let me flounder my way forward until.

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<v Speaker 2>We I feel like I still do this your first girlfriend,

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<v Speaker 2>I kept my mouth up for nine months.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, floundered around for a long time with that one.

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<v Speaker 3>But I do though, I think and I was thinking

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<v Speaker 3>about this in relation to high school parties, and I

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<v Speaker 3>want to hear how this played out for you, Andrew

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<v Speaker 3>and Hollywood, Like, what was the version of high school parties?

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<v Speaker 3>Because the most trouble, the most trouble I ever got

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<v Speaker 3>in was my junior year or most of my friends

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<v Speaker 3>were seniors and they had like a big I think

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<v Speaker 3>it was like post prom party and I hadn't gone

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<v Speaker 3>to prom as a junior, but I went to the

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<v Speaker 3>party with one of my best friends at the time,

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<v Speaker 3>this guy Evan. We were in musical theater together, and

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<v Speaker 3>Evan's parents were divorced like my parents, and normally when

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<v Speaker 3>we would go out and like go to a party,

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<v Speaker 3>or we would even sometimes throw parties at his dad's

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<v Speaker 3>house because his dad like wasn't home a lot, or

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<v Speaker 3>like traveled. It was just like the place we typically went,

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<v Speaker 3>and his dad's house was not too far from my

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<v Speaker 3>mom's house. It was kind of like up over in

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<v Speaker 3>the canyons and as mom's house I had actually never

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<v Speaker 3>been to before, but it was like further deep in

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<v Speaker 3>the valley. All this to say, I told my mom

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to sleep over. I'm gonna go to this

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<v Speaker 3>party and I'm gonna sleep over. And my mom was vehement,

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<v Speaker 3>she was like, I don't want you sleeping over. I

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<v Speaker 3>want to pick you up. We gotten an uber because

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<v Speaker 3>we were not drinking and driving again, so I yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>and I had never even any drugs, but I think

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<v Speaker 3>maybe I had like a drink at the party like

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<v Speaker 3>one night. But I was, you know, I was a

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<v Speaker 3>good kid. And we got in the car and we

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<v Speaker 3>were like chatting away, laughing it up, and I texted

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<v Speaker 3>my mom, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>We're on our way back.

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<v Speaker 3>Here's the address, and I sent her Evan's dad's address.

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<v Speaker 3>And I realized in the dark late night, two thirty

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<v Speaker 3>am uber ride, pretty late, that we were not going

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<v Speaker 3>to where I thought we were going his dad's house.

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<v Speaker 3>We were going to his mom's house. I didn't know

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<v Speaker 3>he was staying at his mom's house then.

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<v Speaker 1>And so you thought initially that you were telling the truth.

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<v Speaker 3>I thought I was telling the truth, and I sent

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<v Speaker 3>my mom the wrong address, and then I sent a

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<v Speaker 3>bunch of texts following like twenty minutes later, like that's

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<v Speaker 3>not the right address, here's the right address.

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<v Speaker 1>But she didn't see those texts because.

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<v Speaker 2>She's driving, driving, and I don't read and drive.

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<v Speaker 1>Right and also so responsible, so responsible.

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<v Speaker 3>And then we got there and she called and obviously

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<v Speaker 3>realized there'd been the house mixed up, and it took

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<v Speaker 3>her like a she had to drive.

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<v Speaker 2>Now.

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<v Speaker 3>All the way from the Deep Valley over like to

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<v Speaker 3>Beverly area was long drive. And she pulled up and

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<v Speaker 3>she was livid, and I'd not really seen her like this,

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<v Speaker 3>and I got in the car and she slams the door.

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<v Speaker 3>She starts driving immediately and she goes, I'm taking you

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<v Speaker 3>to UCLA. I'm getting you drug tested. Are you on

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<v Speaker 3>drugs right now? And I was like, I'm not on drugs.

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<v Speaker 3>I just sent you the wrong address, like I made

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<v Speaker 3>a genuine mistake.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not on drugs.

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<v Speaker 3>And she did not end up taking me to the

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<v Speaker 3>hospital to get drug tested, but that was the threat

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<v Speaker 3>for most of the car ride.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a serious moment for you, too.

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<v Speaker 2>I never had, and I think it came out of

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<v Speaker 2>you know, when people look at their fights and what

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<v Speaker 2>is what is the the base of your fight, it

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<v Speaker 2>is usually about you don't you feel the trust is broken,

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<v Speaker 2>you don't feel seen, you don't feel respected, you don't

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<v Speaker 2>feel you know, it's it's that, it's that it's some

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<v Speaker 2>base connection. And and I think at that point is

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<v Speaker 2>the exhaustedness of it. The late night, it was hard

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<v Speaker 2>for me to just see this as a very standard

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<v Speaker 2>mistake mistake, and and it felt much deeper. And that

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<v Speaker 2>was my reaction to it. But that is you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, when you don't fight at all, the one

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<v Speaker 2>fight you remember, it's huge because that's the only one

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<v Speaker 2>we ever had.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but wait, so then so Susan Susan. The overlap

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<v Speaker 1>here is that as Terry drove to get Emerson, Susan goes.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not as far she just has to walk across

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<v Speaker 1>the street, but she walks across the street over to

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<v Speaker 1>this pool party where she doesn't end up finding Julie,

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<v Speaker 1>but her intention is to go and and yeah and

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<v Speaker 1>and catch her doing something bad, as you know presumed.

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<v Speaker 1>And so this party episode I do remember because this.

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<v Speaker 2>Is this this was significant to me. It was the

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<v Speaker 2>first time we've seen all the child the children of

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<v Speaker 2>Lynette and Susan and Brie all not Lynette, but I

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<v Speaker 2>mean the the actors.

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<v Speaker 1>So it was you and Joy and Sean, so me

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<v Speaker 1>and Danielle and Andrew and Cody who plays Zach. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>we were all hanging out at Zach's house, which no,

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<v Speaker 1>dug woo, yeah, no parents.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you remember what that was like to shoot?

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<v Speaker 1>I do. I remember being excited to film that type

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<v Speaker 1>of scene with them because we all felt like we

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<v Speaker 1>were a little club, of course, and I was excited

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<v Speaker 1>that Julie got scenes with Danielle because Joy and I

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<v Speaker 1>are still friends and were friends, and we were like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>this is cool. And in the story at that point,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know that we had established besides Julie's connection

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<v Speaker 1>to Zach, there really wasn't any sort of connection between

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<v Speaker 1>Julie and Danielle. So that was a surprising, fun moment.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember, even though I'm mocking the fact that it

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<v Speaker 1>was at night, thinking, okay, great because if any of

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<v Speaker 1>us have to be in swimsuits like, it's at night,

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<v Speaker 1>so that's going to be flattering. So that you were

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<v Speaker 1>interesting self conscious to be honestly. But we didn't have

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<v Speaker 1>to be in swimsuits. So I was very relieved about

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<v Speaker 1>no swimsuits, but if there were going to be swimsuits

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<v Speaker 1>at night time, because yeah, I think pool parties as

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<v Speaker 1>a teenager are so scary. I agree, they're not the

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<v Speaker 1>same as pool parties when you're a kid and you're diving.

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<v Speaker 1>You've got your goggles on and you're diving at the

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<v Speaker 1>bottom of the pool to retrieve toys. That's a fun

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<v Speaker 1>pool party for someone. I think when you're a teenager,

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<v Speaker 1>there's so obviously so much comparing your body, and your

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<v Speaker 1>body's going through so many changes. My body went through

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<v Speaker 1>so many changes on camera on Wisteria La and on

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<v Speaker 1>Desperate Housewives. It was awkward for me. It was hard

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<v Speaker 1>front of the paparazzi. I mean, it was just like

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<v Speaker 1>a thing. It was how could I do that? It

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<v Speaker 1>was not easy. It was not a smooth experience for me. Luckily,

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<v Speaker 1>I had a lot of beautiful role models in my

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<v Speaker 1>life who were sending me positive messaging about my body,

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<v Speaker 1>but you know, it was an awkward time. I also

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<v Speaker 1>had I was a late bloomer, so like I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>even get my period until I was sixteen, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>so I hit puberty late, so my body changes were

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<v Speaker 1>really gradual, and you know, it was super It was

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<v Speaker 1>vulnerable to be to grow up in the spotlight as

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<v Speaker 1>a teenager. And I definitely, you know, without going so

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<v Speaker 1>far into a topic that we don't necessarily have enough

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<v Speaker 1>time to really deep dive pool analogy into, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's shaped my relationship to food and eating

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<v Speaker 1>in general and having a healthy body, positive image or

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<v Speaker 1>having disordered eating habits and things like that. And I

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<v Speaker 1>think that, I mean, it's relatable to anybody. It's not

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<v Speaker 1>just growing up in Hollywood and on screen, but like

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<v Speaker 1>teenage pool parties are a vulnerable place, I think, so vulnerable,

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<v Speaker 1>just running rampent with judgment and did them.

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<v Speaker 2>Body images based on just being in front of a

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<v Speaker 2>oh paparazzi with God?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, yeah, I totally did. And I actually a very

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<v Speaker 3>distinct memory comes to mind when you say this. I

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<v Speaker 3>remember I must have been I was around probably maybe

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<v Speaker 3>the second to last season of justper Housewife, because I

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<v Speaker 3>think I was like fourteen, okay, and I went through

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<v Speaker 3>my kind of awkward puberty phase of everybody does, yes,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, I mean earlier than Andrew was when I

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<v Speaker 3>was sixteen. It was like twelve, well like thirteen, fourteen, fifteen.

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<v Speaker 3>I was definitely my body was changing a lot, and

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<v Speaker 3>I remember distinctly. It was in Studio City. My mom

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<v Speaker 3>and I had gone out somewhere for lunch. I was

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<v Speaker 3>wearing Oh my god, I can literally see the picture

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<v Speaker 3>in my head. I was wearing this like Urban Outfitters

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<v Speaker 3>black dress that had a little triangle cutout and was

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<v Speaker 3>kind of like a Halter shorter dress that had pineapples

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<v Speaker 3>all over it, which ironically I'm allergic to, so I

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<v Speaker 3>hear it was a bad move from the beginning, and

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<v Speaker 3>like little boots. And there was some paparazzi picture of

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<v Speaker 3>us leaving lunch, and my mom was a little bit

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<v Speaker 3>in the background, and I was kind of in the

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<v Speaker 3>foreground and already I'm two three inches taller than my mom.

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<v Speaker 3>My mom is a very petite woman. I'm really small,

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<v Speaker 3>but I am bigger, and I was bigger than I

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<v Speaker 3>am even now physically in size. Then as I was

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<v Speaker 3>going through all of my changes, and there was this

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<v Speaker 3>snapshot of us, and I remember seeing it was like

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<v Speaker 3>in people like online, and there was some comment that

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<v Speaker 3>was like Terry's daughter would be pretty if she just

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<v Speaker 3>lost some weight.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh God, it makes me so mad.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so sorry. Yeah, that happened to you, and it

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<v Speaker 1>just makes me so enraged.

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<v Speaker 3>I think a version of that tabloids. You know, high

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<v Speaker 3>school can be its own version of a tabloid echo chamber,

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<v Speaker 3>even if you're not in the public eye or not

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<v Speaker 3>in Hollywood at all, the way kids talk amongst each other,

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<v Speaker 3>I think, honestly, for years, I would think about being

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<v Speaker 3>self conscious in a bathing suit. And we went on

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<v Speaker 3>a trip to Croatia, and I remember there was a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of paparazzi then, and I was so self conscious

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<v Speaker 3>about knowing that we were on this beach vacation and

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<v Speaker 3>I was going to be in bathing suits and they

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<v Speaker 3>were going.

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<v Speaker 2>To be those photos.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it's all you're thinking, like this, Our society and

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<v Speaker 1>this particular industry has always sort of conflated beauty and

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<v Speaker 1>thinness and value, right. And I will say, growing up

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<v Speaker 1>on a television show where all of the leads were women,

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<v Speaker 1>but thin women, you know, fit thin, beautiful women, messed

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<v Speaker 1>with my mind sometimes when I didn't necessarily feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I looked like you guys, you know, or that I

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<v Speaker 1>started being one thing and then I had to grow

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<v Speaker 1>up and I went through all these physical changes. None

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<v Speaker 1>of the rest of you did because you were fully

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<v Speaker 1>formed women. So I was looking at these women bodies

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<v Speaker 1>and looking at my developing body and wondering if I

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<v Speaker 1>was going to be as beautiful or if I was

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<v Speaker 1>going to have that confidence, you know, And certainly you

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<v Speaker 1>never made me feel like that, but looking at someone

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<v Speaker 1>as stunning as you and being around you in that

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<v Speaker 1>environment would sometimes make me question, like how does this

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<v Speaker 1>look on camera? And how do I look on camera

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<v Speaker 1>next to her? And how does this outfit look? And

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<v Speaker 1>you know, mess with my head sometimes and then I

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<v Speaker 1>do think and we'll get there, because it's later seasons

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<v Speaker 1>and it's still kind of fuzzy in my mind. But

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<v Speaker 1>this whole topic of body image and young girls and

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<v Speaker 1>body image comes up pretty strongly and intensely as we're

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<v Speaker 1>talking about this with Gabrielle's storyline and her daughters, and

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<v Speaker 1>I remember having bad feelings about the stories we were telling,

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<v Speaker 1>and now I wonder how responsible, you know, I will feel,

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<v Speaker 1>not that it was on me, but that we didn't

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<v Speaker 1>someone didn't say this is problem. So we'll get there

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<v Speaker 1>eventually in the storyline as it relates to image and

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<v Speaker 1>being a young girl.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, well we're the parting words before you all go

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<v Speaker 2>figure out a body of water to dive into and

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<v Speaker 2>have some fun.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I have to say now I'm too old to

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<v Speaker 3>have Thank God, we're out of that awkward body image phase.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's just swim in all the water and wear whatever

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<v Speaker 3>you want.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah right, I feel like I've aged out of caring

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<v Speaker 2>so much about it. Also, which is another great thing

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<v Speaker 2>about age, is that you just care less what anybody

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<v Speaker 2>thinks about anything. I just want to be healthy. That's

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<v Speaker 2>all I care about at this point. But I do

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<v Speaker 2>just want to say all of the things we were

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<v Speaker 2>talking about. I think the bottom line lesson is like,

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<v Speaker 2>just be nicer to each other. Yeah, just everybody, just

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<v Speaker 2>be nice to each other, ourselves. Just thank you for

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<v Speaker 2>listening to the podcast this week with us, and just

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<v Speaker 2>go out and be nice to people.

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<v Speaker 3>Go out and be nice and be nice to yourself,

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<v Speaker 3>and we'll see you soon.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah,