1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,320 Speaker 1: All right, buckle up, hold old tight. He she is 2 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:06,080 Speaker 1: sharing the straw. Her with a straw. Very left. Thank you, 3 00:00:06,160 --> 00:00:10,760 Speaker 1: junior subject. I left in the middle of the night. Here, 4 00:00:10,840 --> 00:00:14,320 Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley. I need your honest advice here because I 5 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:16,680 Speaker 1: don't know how to handle this situation. I'm in my 6 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:19,680 Speaker 1: late forties and in a good relationship with a man 7 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:23,520 Speaker 1: my age. We are well above the age of foolishness, 8 00:00:23,520 --> 00:00:27,120 Speaker 1: but recently we had a big disagreement. I was staying 9 00:00:27,160 --> 00:00:29,159 Speaker 1: at his house the other night and I got a 10 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:33,040 Speaker 1: call from my ex husband, who I still consider a friend. 11 00:00:33,560 --> 00:00:37,080 Speaker 1: My ex husband is still single and he lives alone, 12 00:00:37,479 --> 00:00:40,519 Speaker 1: so when he called me at two thirty a m. 13 00:00:40,560 --> 00:00:43,360 Speaker 1: I figured there had to be something serious going on 14 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:46,360 Speaker 1: and I needed to go and see about him. So 15 00:00:46,880 --> 00:00:49,279 Speaker 1: I got up and was leaving to go help my 16 00:00:49,360 --> 00:00:53,519 Speaker 1: ex husband. My boyfriend got very upset with me, and 17 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:56,520 Speaker 1: we got into a huge argument about it. I don't 18 00:00:56,640 --> 00:00:59,640 Speaker 1: understand what the big deal is. I would help anybody. 19 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 1: I may have shared too many details about my friendship 20 00:01:02,720 --> 00:01:05,320 Speaker 1: with my ex husband, and I probably shouldn't have told 21 00:01:05,400 --> 00:01:07,360 Speaker 1: him that my ex still has me listed as a 22 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:11,640 Speaker 1: beneficiary on his life insurance policy. Surely my man doesn't 23 00:01:11,640 --> 00:01:14,600 Speaker 1: think I still want my ex husband or vice versa. 24 00:01:15,160 --> 00:01:17,560 Speaker 1: My man said he was only angry because it was 25 00:01:17,600 --> 00:01:20,320 Speaker 1: a safety issue for me to leave it to thirty, 26 00:01:20,360 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 1: But I know it's deeper than that. So now I'm 27 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:26,760 Speaker 1: second guessing everything. Maybe I should have even maybe I 28 00:01:26,760 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 1: shouldn't have even answered the late night phone call. Was 29 00:01:29,400 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 1: I'm not supposed to go help my ex? What do 30 00:01:31,920 --> 00:01:36,040 Speaker 1: you think? Please help? Okay? After he called it to 31 00:01:36,240 --> 00:01:40,000 Speaker 1: thirty a m And you ran off too, as you say, 32 00:01:40,080 --> 00:01:44,120 Speaker 1: go see about him. Yes, your man definitely thinks you 33 00:01:44,160 --> 00:01:47,080 Speaker 1: guys have something going on okay, and that you guys 34 00:01:47,080 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 1: still want each other. I mean, who does this? I 35 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:52,400 Speaker 1: don't I don't get it. Who does that? Did your 36 00:01:52,440 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 1: ex say something was wrong or seriously going on? Like 37 00:01:55,480 --> 00:01:58,640 Speaker 1: you say in the letter? I'll ask it this way. 38 00:01:58,680 --> 00:02:01,640 Speaker 1: What man is going to sit back and be okay 39 00:02:01,680 --> 00:02:04,559 Speaker 1: with his woman running to another man at two thirty 40 00:02:04,600 --> 00:02:07,280 Speaker 1: in the morning. How does this make sense to you? 41 00:02:07,880 --> 00:02:10,280 Speaker 1: This is a man who happens to be your ex husband. 42 00:02:10,560 --> 00:02:13,720 Speaker 1: I mean, does this really sound reasonable to you? Uh? 43 00:02:13,800 --> 00:02:16,079 Speaker 1: He may have said that it was a safety issue 44 00:02:16,120 --> 00:02:18,120 Speaker 1: with you, but it was way more than that, and 45 00:02:18,720 --> 00:02:21,160 Speaker 1: probably that too. As a matter of fact, if if 46 00:02:21,160 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 1: it was a safety issue, if he thought he should 47 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:26,079 Speaker 1: have gone along with you, I can guarantee you he's 48 00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: not upset about you. Uh. And the life insurance thing, 49 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:32,640 Speaker 1: that's not anything for him to be worried about, because 50 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:35,960 Speaker 1: that's a good thing. Uh. It's about you getting up 51 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:38,480 Speaker 1: out of that bed and going over to your ex's house. 52 00:02:38,639 --> 00:02:41,960 Speaker 1: That's it. That's all. Let me ask you this, what 53 00:02:41,960 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 1: what if you were, um, what were you going to 54 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:47,240 Speaker 1: do for your ex? Did he say? Uh? He never 55 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:50,239 Speaker 1: You never said what it was. You just never said 56 00:02:51,600 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 1: you never said what it was. Help him do? What 57 00:02:55,040 --> 00:02:58,080 Speaker 1: I mean? Couldn't it wait until later in the morning? 58 00:02:58,440 --> 00:03:01,200 Speaker 1: Otherwise it just sounds like a what he called? That's it. 59 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 1: I don't see how you don't see that. You're right. 60 00:03:04,440 --> 00:03:07,200 Speaker 1: You shouldn't have answered the phone when you saw it 61 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:09,760 Speaker 1: was your ex husband. You shouldn't have gone over there. 62 00:03:09,960 --> 00:03:12,520 Speaker 1: It could have waited. Whatever was Your man is right 63 00:03:12,560 --> 00:03:15,440 Speaker 1: to be mad. Uh. If he was at your house 64 00:03:15,480 --> 00:03:17,440 Speaker 1: and a woman called him at two thirty in the morning, 65 00:03:17,440 --> 00:03:19,320 Speaker 1: he got up to go see her, how would you 66 00:03:19,440 --> 00:03:22,440 Speaker 1: feel you would be mad just like he is. So UM, 67 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:28,240 Speaker 1: I know you'd be highly upset and have a major attitude. Okay, So, uh, 68 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:30,240 Speaker 1: you were wrong. You should have stayed there and not 69 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:32,959 Speaker 1: answered the call. Okay, and you're gonna have to deal 70 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:35,440 Speaker 1: with this because your man, hopefully he'll forgive you. But 71 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:44,800 Speaker 1: I don't know, Steve, Oh, I can't believe this is 72 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:53,320 Speaker 1: written by a woman who's grown late for I left 73 00:03:53,320 --> 00:03:56,080 Speaker 1: in the middle of night. The name of this letter 74 00:03:56,200 --> 00:04:00,920 Speaker 1: should be how stupid this sound to you? That's the 75 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:05,360 Speaker 1: title of this letter. Let's change this letter, how stupid 76 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:09,840 Speaker 1: this sound to you? Shirley, I need your honest advice, 77 00:04:09,960 --> 00:04:12,960 Speaker 1: and Steve, I'm glad you. I'm glad you said, honest 78 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:15,880 Speaker 1: said because I want to hell you fitting get help, 79 00:04:16,839 --> 00:04:19,320 Speaker 1: because I don't know how to handle this situation. I 80 00:04:19,320 --> 00:04:22,680 Speaker 1: remember late parties. Get a good relationship with with with 81 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:27,520 Speaker 1: a man my age, we above the age of foolishness. No, no, no, 82 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:32,080 Speaker 1: stop right there, he is above the foolish You all 83 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 1: up in foolishness. But recently we had a big disagreement. 84 00:04:37,240 --> 00:04:39,479 Speaker 1: I was staring at this house the other night I 85 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:42,599 Speaker 1: got a call from my ex husband, who I still 86 00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:47,039 Speaker 1: consider a fred problem Number one, my ex husband is 87 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:51,120 Speaker 1: still single. Problem number two with the little noise that's 88 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 1: putting on the brake, and he lives alone. That's problem 89 00:04:55,400 --> 00:04:59,600 Speaker 1: number three. So he called me a two third am. 90 00:04:59,720 --> 00:05:02,320 Speaker 1: I figured there had to be something serious going on 91 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 1: and I needed to go see about him. So I 92 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:07,480 Speaker 1: got up and was leaving to help my ex husband. 93 00:05:07,839 --> 00:05:11,840 Speaker 1: The hell is wrong with you? Crazy? Let's go back 94 00:05:11,880 --> 00:05:14,279 Speaker 1: to the title that I want to call this letter. 95 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:19,839 Speaker 1: How stupid this sound to you. We're laying in bed, 96 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:26,760 Speaker 1: phone rang, it's too thirty. You figure something seriously got 97 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:30,400 Speaker 1: to be wrong. So you sits up, you gets dressed, 98 00:05:30,440 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 1: and you're going to see about your ex husband, too thanty. 99 00:05:36,880 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 1: A m phone calls it's prime booty time. One more time, 100 00:05:45,600 --> 00:05:49,800 Speaker 1: Prime booty time. A matter of fact, you're on the 101 00:05:49,839 --> 00:05:53,719 Speaker 1: back end of a booty call. Mhmm to thirty late. 102 00:05:55,080 --> 00:05:59,120 Speaker 1: The booty is in the process of having already answered 103 00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:06,520 Speaker 1: the call. Wow, we're showing about now. This risk all 104 00:06:08,200 --> 00:06:11,479 Speaker 1: usually the big risk all. We'll be back with the 105 00:06:11,520 --> 00:06:15,039 Speaker 1: rest of his hell you talking about. We'll have part 106 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:19,000 Speaker 1: two of Steve's response comes going right. Come on, Steve, 107 00:06:19,279 --> 00:06:21,760 Speaker 1: a part two of your response to this woman and 108 00:06:21,920 --> 00:06:24,240 Speaker 1: got a booty call at two thirty in the morning, 109 00:06:24,320 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 1: her laying next to her new boyfriend. It's her ex 110 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:30,880 Speaker 1: husband who is single and lives alone, and you figured 111 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:33,200 Speaker 1: something had to be seriously wrong at too thirty in 112 00:06:33,200 --> 00:06:35,840 Speaker 1: the morning, So you get up leading now yo yo, 113 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:38,360 Speaker 1: her boyfriend man, what what are you posted to be? 114 00:06:39,279 --> 00:06:42,200 Speaker 1: You're getting up to answer? What is? We all know 115 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:47,320 Speaker 1: is a booty call? Sharlon know that? So why are 116 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:50,359 Speaker 1: we sitting up here trying to act like this ain't 117 00:06:50,400 --> 00:06:54,520 Speaker 1: what it is? My boyfriend got very upset with me. 118 00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:56,720 Speaker 1: We got it to a huge argument about it. I 119 00:06:56,760 --> 00:06:59,839 Speaker 1: don't understand what the big deal is. I would help anybody. 120 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:06,080 Speaker 1: Oh so now you're tricking. Oh, you would help anybody. 121 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:10,720 Speaker 1: So anybody that calls at thirty, you're willing to get 122 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:13,280 Speaker 1: up and help him. Let me explain something to you, lady. 123 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:16,320 Speaker 1: I'm sixty one. Let me just dig off in my 124 00:07:16,440 --> 00:07:19,880 Speaker 1: past a little bit here. I didn't call a lot 125 00:07:19,960 --> 00:07:23,880 Speaker 1: of women at tooth thirty in the morning and said, 126 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:30,160 Speaker 1: it ain't ever been nothing wrong ever, you haven't been sick, 127 00:07:30,360 --> 00:07:37,040 Speaker 1: or it's not an emergency, not a too if I 128 00:07:37,160 --> 00:07:41,360 Speaker 1: call you a tooth thirty, the only thing wrong with 129 00:07:41,560 --> 00:07:45,720 Speaker 1: me is I'm lonely and you need them to come through. 130 00:07:46,960 --> 00:07:52,720 Speaker 1: I just need to be I need some coming. I 131 00:07:52,840 --> 00:07:57,800 Speaker 1: need somebody to put me to sleep. I'm suffering from it. 132 00:07:58,040 --> 00:08:01,200 Speaker 1: Something new. I can't go to sleep. And you could 133 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:06,320 Speaker 1: be the biggest ass peel come rock a bye baby 134 00:08:06,400 --> 00:08:11,640 Speaker 1: in the tree talking, come on, come and put me 135 00:08:11,760 --> 00:08:16,520 Speaker 1: to sleep. But I took that in the morning. What 136 00:08:16,640 --> 00:08:23,200 Speaker 1: a man called a woman. Something's going old. Someone's on 137 00:08:23,240 --> 00:08:31,320 Speaker 1: the phone three o'clock in the moaning talking about Hi. 138 00:08:31,680 --> 00:08:36,280 Speaker 1: He can't make it right. Did you hear me al 139 00:08:36,440 --> 00:08:40,840 Speaker 1: Green saying about this fil Now hear you answering it, 140 00:08:41,000 --> 00:08:42,800 Speaker 1: trying to figure out what the hell he's mad about. 141 00:08:42,840 --> 00:08:50,280 Speaker 1: Because Al Green is at your house. My friendship I 142 00:08:50,400 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 1: have shared. I would help anybody. I may have shared 143 00:08:53,960 --> 00:08:56,760 Speaker 1: too many details about my friendship with my ex husband, 144 00:08:57,760 --> 00:09:02,040 Speaker 1: So now you're running your mouth too, okay, And I 145 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:05,560 Speaker 1: probably shouldn't have told him my ex stell has me 146 00:09:05,640 --> 00:09:09,679 Speaker 1: listed as a beneficial on his life insurance policy. Oh well, 147 00:09:09,720 --> 00:09:12,679 Speaker 1: maybe that was it. Maybe you was going over there 148 00:09:12,679 --> 00:09:17,720 Speaker 1: and make sure you're still be afficiate. Well, but see, 149 00:09:17,760 --> 00:09:19,760 Speaker 1: but in order to make sure you the beneficial, you 150 00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:24,840 Speaker 1: gotta provide benefit. See, you get the beneficial you got 151 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 1: to beat them benefit. You understand see that what I'm 152 00:09:28,880 --> 00:09:32,400 Speaker 1: talking about. Surely, surely my man doesn't think I still 153 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:35,480 Speaker 1: want my ex husband or vice versa. Why would you not? 154 00:09:36,640 --> 00:09:39,839 Speaker 1: Hedn't put you on the policy. This that he that 155 00:09:39,960 --> 00:09:42,880 Speaker 1: impitied me a sugar daddy. I'm your sugar daddy now 156 00:09:43,040 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 1: and when I'm gonna hello hello, this is a matter 157 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:50,440 Speaker 1: of fact, your ex husband falls into the category a 158 00:09:50,600 --> 00:09:57,959 Speaker 1: super sugar daddy. Deep and see so now if you 159 00:09:58,080 --> 00:10:00,679 Speaker 1: gotta sugar daddy, that's a super sugar the daddy that 160 00:10:00,760 --> 00:10:04,160 Speaker 1: can provide sugar, living and gold. You got to get 161 00:10:04,200 --> 00:10:08,040 Speaker 1: over there and provide benefit so you can be remained 162 00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 1: the beneficial area. That's what you need to do. Mm hmm. Now, 163 00:10:13,760 --> 00:10:19,120 Speaker 1: my man said he was only angry because it was 164 00:10:19,160 --> 00:10:21,800 Speaker 1: a safety issue for me to leave at two thirty. 165 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:24,400 Speaker 1: Your damn writer, it was a safety issue for you 166 00:10:24,480 --> 00:10:27,520 Speaker 1: to leave in two thirty. The damn safety issue was 167 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:30,800 Speaker 1: he might lose you to the man with all the 168 00:10:30,960 --> 00:10:36,320 Speaker 1: damn This man gotta sure his policy. But I know 169 00:10:36,360 --> 00:10:41,719 Speaker 1: it's deeper than that. So now I'm second guessing. Let 170 00:10:41,720 --> 00:10:44,319 Speaker 1: me see what you say. Now, maybe I shouldn't even 171 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:47,959 Speaker 1: have answered the late night phone call. Well, maybe you shouldn't. 172 00:10:49,400 --> 00:10:55,079 Speaker 1: Was I not supposed to go help my ex? Maybe 173 00:10:55,120 --> 00:11:00,840 Speaker 1: you shouldn't have What do you think? Let's talk about 174 00:11:00,880 --> 00:11:05,600 Speaker 1: the help you probably provided. Break it down, Break it down. 175 00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:12,920 Speaker 1: Let's see he's locked out of his house. Oh, and 176 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:18,400 Speaker 1: why do you have a key? Oh, he's sick and 177 00:11:18,480 --> 00:11:23,679 Speaker 1: only you can make him better. It's too thirty in 178 00:11:23,720 --> 00:11:28,800 Speaker 1: the morning. He didn't got some bad news, and now 179 00:11:28,920 --> 00:11:36,240 Speaker 1: here you come to hold him him, console him, shape 180 00:11:36,320 --> 00:11:40,680 Speaker 1: and mold him. You better make a song out of this. 181 00:11:41,880 --> 00:11:52,440 Speaker 1: Now to come on in the morning. Somebody just can't sleeve. 182 00:11:55,480 --> 00:12:00,720 Speaker 1: Picks up the phone and it called on me and 183 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:08,280 Speaker 1: I went out to do just to skippy happy mine 184 00:12:10,200 --> 00:12:14,079 Speaker 1: about to go out the door I got, I bought 185 00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:19,560 Speaker 1: both fives. I'm about to give him some more because 186 00:12:19,679 --> 00:12:29,920 Speaker 1: I'm being official, about to used to be maverick, used 187 00:12:29,920 --> 00:12:35,400 Speaker 1: to be mavering. Now I gotta go and take care 188 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:50,360 Speaker 1: my beneficial status won't and I won't heal uh huh, 189 00:12:50,720 --> 00:12:56,960 Speaker 1: he's leaving mine when it ain't no more. Hell, he 190 00:12:57,200 --> 00:13:03,280 Speaker 1: got me now and I get it being so I'll 191 00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:14,360 Speaker 1: go open, open, open, letting me. That was that was excellent. 192 00:13:14,400 --> 00:13:16,240 Speaker 1: Thank you so much we got to get out of here. 193 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:18,960 Speaker 1: Email us or Instagram. I short thoughts on today's Strawberry 194 00:13:19,040 --> 00:13:22,640 Speaker 1: Letter At my Girl, Shirley, you're listening to the Steve 195 00:13:22,800 --> 00:13:23,760 Speaker 1: Harbay Morning Show.