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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: advice and relationships, work, sex, parenting and more. Please submit

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Speaker 1: Buckle up and hold on tight. We got afore you here.

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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter, all right. Subject he hates

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Speaker 1: his wife, but I don't. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a

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Speaker 1: forty four year old married man and my sister in

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Speaker 1: law is living with us temporarily. She and my brother

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Speaker 1: are separated because she caught my brother in her bed

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Speaker 1: with another woman that happened to live next door. The

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Speaker 1: Facebook page. He told her that he hates her in

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Speaker 1: the comments. She was willing to work things out, but

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Speaker 1: the word hate kept coming back to her mind. She

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Speaker 1: had a bad phone call with him one day about

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Speaker 1: a month ago, and when I walked in, she was crying. Naturally,

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Speaker 1: I comforted her, and in her vulnerable state, she told

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Speaker 1: me that it felt good to be touched, so I

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Speaker 1: continued to touch her to make her feel better. It

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Speaker 1: was innocent at first, but then she started touching me back,

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Speaker 1: and she touched me in a certain place for a

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Speaker 1: very long time, so it was only right for me

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Speaker 1: to return the favor. I had the most passionate kiss

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Speaker 1: that day, and it led to us having unheated affair

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Speaker 1: in my house where I live with my wife and kids.

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Speaker 1: It's not even awkward because she and I have an understanding.

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Speaker 1: My role is to help her move past the hurt,

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Speaker 1: and her role is to help me release sexual tension

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Speaker 1: I have in my marriage. I don't feel bad about it,

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Speaker 1: and neither does she. In fact, I encourage her daily

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Speaker 1: to him about coming to get his wife out of

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Speaker 1: my house. I don't really want her to go because

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Speaker 1: it's convenient, but I'm convinced this affair will still go

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Speaker 1: on even after she's moved back home. I'm concerned that

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Speaker 1: she's catching feelings. Though I had an affair before and

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Speaker 1: had to end it because the woman the woman fell

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Speaker 1: for me. Can I trust that she is in this

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Speaker 1: for the same reasons as I am? What if this

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Speaker 1: you try to justify this. This is just wrong. It's wrong,

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Speaker 1: and you're asking the wrong questions. You wrote this letter

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Speaker 1: like you did something good, like you're really trying to

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Speaker 1: help her, Like you should be commended because you were

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Speaker 1: there for her to help her get over her pain. No,

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Speaker 1: you're married and this is your brother's wife. You should

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Speaker 1: be asking why are you cheating on your wife? And

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Speaker 1: why are you betraying your brother? Or why are you

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Speaker 1: such a disgusting human being who's carrying on an affair

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Speaker 1: in your own home, right under your wife and kids

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Speaker 1: their noses? Why are you doing this and behind your

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Speaker 1: brother's back? All right, here's a question you should be

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Speaker 1: thinking about. If your brother and your wife find out,

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Speaker 1: will they post your affair on Facebook like your sister

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Speaker 1: in law did. The sick part about this is you

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Speaker 1: feel not guilty or ashamed. You don't feel any of that.

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Speaker 1: The answer to those questions is you don't feel any

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Speaker 1: of that because you're selfish. If you don't care, you

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Speaker 1: don't care. You took advantage of your sister in law

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Speaker 1: when she was vulnerable. You said that in the letter,

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Speaker 1: and none of us have sympathy for you at all.

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Speaker 1: If your brother finds out, he's gonna beat your behind,

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Speaker 1: he really is. Your brother is gonna be more upset

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Speaker 1: is crazy. Break this off. I know you're not going to,

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Speaker 1: to break it off, because she probably won't, but you

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Speaker 1: need to. Steve. Hey, man, let me ask you a question,

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Speaker 1: what the hell did you write us fat? Because I

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Speaker 1: don't even get the purpose. He hates his wife, but

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Speaker 1: seeking guidance. This, to me, is a man writing a

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Speaker 1: how he operate who he is because you, first of all,

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Speaker 1: don't you said nothing that was redeeming at all? And

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Speaker 1: like Shirley said, you have no morse in this ladder,

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Speaker 1: no damn where you ain't wrong on no stretch, no account.

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Speaker 1: You know what's wrong with you? Man? You say you're

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Speaker 1: a low dude. Man, I ain't gonna lie to you.

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Speaker 1: Forty four years old. Man, you're a low dude. You're married, man,

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Speaker 1: your brother, now your brother, I mean right, hey, man,

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Speaker 1: you are completely incapable of being a loyal friend. Listen

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Speaker 1: to me, man, people like this they can't be loyal friends.

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Speaker 1: If you'll do your brother, your brother, I know, good

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Speaker 1: damn well you will do me. He has no colde

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Speaker 1: he he doesn't honor no man code nowhere. Now she

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Speaker 1: caught your brother in bed with another woman. The apple

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Speaker 1: don't fall far from the tree. You and your brother

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Speaker 1: Jesse alike. Now she caught your brother in bed with

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Speaker 1: another woman. They're doing it so good day, so into it.

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Speaker 1: Sheeah took pictures of him in the act. If I's

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Speaker 1: no way you can photograph me and I don't know it.

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Speaker 1: He told her he hates her in his comments. You

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Speaker 1: know why he hate Huh. That's a lot of nerve. Man.

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Speaker 1: See you and your brother similar people. He hate hub

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Speaker 1: why for catching him in they bed in the act

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Speaker 1: with another woman? All that thought, Steve, All that thought.

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Speaker 1: We'll come back with part two of Steve's response to

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Speaker 1: today's Strawberry letter. The subject is he hates his wife,

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Speaker 1: but I don't. We'll be back at twenty three minutes

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Speaker 1: after the hour, right after this. You're listening, all right,

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Speaker 1: Come on, Steve, Let's recap today's Strawberry letter. The subject is,

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Speaker 1: he hates his wife, but I don't. Well, like I said,

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Speaker 1: this man is not seeking any guidance from us. He

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Speaker 1: just wants some admiration. He wants to brag about his work.

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Speaker 1: He's a forty four year old brother whose brother is

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Speaker 1: that happened to live next door. That's key information. She

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Speaker 1: the comments that he hate her. What he hate hard fault.

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Speaker 1: You got caught. She took the pictures. He was with

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Speaker 1: the sister in law, was willing to work it out,

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Speaker 1: but the word hate kept coming back. So then she

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Speaker 1: had a bad phone call with him one day about

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Speaker 1: walked in the forty four year She was crying. Naturally,

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Speaker 1: I comforted her in her vulnerable state. She told me

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Speaker 1: in the snake in the grass that I am out. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I continued to touch her to make her feel better.

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Speaker 1: It was innocent at first, No, it wasn't. But then

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Speaker 1: she started touching me back, and she touched me in

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Speaker 1: a suddain place for a very long time. So it

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Speaker 1: was only right. It was the only right for me

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Speaker 1: to return to favor. Me being the snake in the

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Speaker 1: to return to faith. I had the most passionate that day,

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Speaker 1: and it left to us having a defeated affair in

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Speaker 1: my house. Y'all like to do a lot of stuff

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Speaker 1: in y'all house, You and your damn brother, and y'all

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Speaker 1: ain't never thought about room. Nowhow y'all do a lot

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Speaker 1: of stuff. You know about the next neighbor, your brother,

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Speaker 1: you got his wife in your house and we had

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Speaker 1: a heat of a fan where I live with my

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Speaker 1: wife and kids. Hold up, brother, you got no respect

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Speaker 1: for your brother, You have no respect for your wife,

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Speaker 1: and you have no respect for your children. Then right

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Speaker 1: after that complete act of disrespect, guess what he said.

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Speaker 1: It's not even awkward, dog, How that ain't awkward because

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Speaker 1: she and I have an understanding. Oh, as long as

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Speaker 1: y'all cool with it, it don't matter who else ain't.

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Speaker 1: My role is to help her move past to hurt,

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Speaker 1: and her role is to help me release sexual tension

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Speaker 1: I have in my marriage. Wow. Wow, No, that's how

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Speaker 1: you wrote that off. I don't feel bad about it.

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Speaker 1: Here we go again. It's not awkward. Y'all have an understanding,

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Speaker 1: you not feel bad about betraying your brother? Right? Okay, dog,

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Speaker 1: I got you having the affair, I got that, But

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Speaker 1: the betrayal of your brother with your brother's wife in

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Speaker 1: your house, ultimate love dog. You're just low man. You

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Speaker 1: all the man code. You have no honor dog. I

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Speaker 1: don't even know why you wrote us man. I don't

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Speaker 1: feel bad about it, and neither does she. That's why

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Speaker 1: she at your house. In fact, I encourage her to

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Speaker 1: daily work things out with my brother, and I talked

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Speaker 1: you because it's convenient. But I'm convinced that this fair

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Speaker 1: will still going on even after she's moved back home. Wow,

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Speaker 1: I'm concerned that she's catching feelings though I hadn't fab before. Where,

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Speaker 1: Yeah you ain't. This ain't your first rodeo. I knew

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Speaker 1: that I hadn't a fab before, and it ended because

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Speaker 1: the woman failed for me. Can I trust that she

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Speaker 1: is in this for the same reasons as I am. Oh,

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Speaker 1: you mean for the same self sender, egotistical, self serving,

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Speaker 1: narcissistic route that you're taking. Yeah. Yeah, she's in for

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Speaker 1: the same way and she stays there free. Yeah. So

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Speaker 1: this is banging for rent. It's what this is called. Wow,

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Speaker 1: banging for rick, banging for groceries. M Now, can I

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Speaker 1: trust if she's in this for the same reason as

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Speaker 1: I am? What if this is some kind of revenge? What? Brother? What? What?

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Speaker 1: What difference do it make If it's some kind of revenge,

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Speaker 1: what's your reason for doing it? He's just not asking

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Speaker 1: the right questions. No, he no, Shelly, it ain't no question.

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Speaker 1: He don't feel awkward. He don't see nothing wrong with it.

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Speaker 1: There there's no remorse. There is no love for his brother,

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Speaker 1: there's no honor in the main code. There's total disrespect

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Speaker 1: of his home. Man this dude, miss me. Man, dog,

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Speaker 1: this is Benn to go all bad for you. It

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Speaker 1: is all bad for you. Please email us back after

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Speaker 1: everybody find out. All right? Thank you? Steve. Coming up,

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