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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: When you hear it, you hear it right here, right now.

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Speaker 1: Hear it. Hear it. Buckle up and hold on tight.

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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: all right. It says hot and bretty for my younger man.

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I'm a sixty seven year old woman

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Speaker 1: married to a very handsome gentleman that is thirteen years

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Speaker 1: younger than me. We've been married for four years, but

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Speaker 1: we've been we've known each other for six years. When

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Speaker 1: we first met, he waited a while to have sex

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Speaker 1: with me, and it finally happened when we were away

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Speaker 1: on vacation. I have always been the aggressor in the bedroom,

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Speaker 1: and he would just let me take advantage of him

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Speaker 1: in all kinds of freaky ways. Two years ago, I

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Speaker 1: decided to switch things up because I got tired of

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Speaker 1: always initiating sex and doing the most work in the bedroom.

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Speaker 1: I also got tired of suggesting different places for us

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Speaker 1: to have sex throughout the house. Well, when I pulled back,

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Speaker 1: he did not step up, and we've gone for weeks

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Speaker 1: at a time without having sex. When we do have it,

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Speaker 1: it's a quickie and then he goes straight to sleep.

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Speaker 1: I have asked him if he's okay or if his

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Speaker 1: sex drive was decreased because of his age, and he

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Speaker 1: says he's fine since the quarantine is over. He works

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Speaker 1: long hours and when he comes home he's too tired

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Speaker 1: most nights, so I feel bad about waking him up

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Speaker 1: for sex. I planned a nice vacation for us, and

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Speaker 1: we had our own cabana on the water. I thought

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Speaker 1: it would be a perfect romantic setting. But all he

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Speaker 1: did was drink pina coladas till he passed out nightly.

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Speaker 1: It says till he passed nightly in the copy in

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Speaker 1: the letter, but I'm sure she meant passed outright. I'm

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Speaker 1: hot and ready for him all the time, but he's

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Speaker 1: never in the mood. I confided in my male cousin

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Speaker 1: and asked for his advice. He told me to stop

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Speaker 1: taking the lead in the home and with finances and

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Speaker 1: let my husband step up and be a man. I

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Speaker 1: have a very dominant personality. I'm a very dominant person,

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Speaker 1: but I never intended to emasculate my man. Is this

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Speaker 1: all my fault? Well, this letter kind of took a

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Speaker 1: turn hard left at the end with you asking about

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Speaker 1: emasculating your man and everything. I don't know about all

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Speaker 1: of that, and I didn't even know that you were

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Speaker 1: financing everything. You didn't mention that till the very end.

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Speaker 1: But I do think your cousin is right, your male cousin,

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Speaker 1: I think you're doing way too much. You definitely need

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Speaker 1: to let your husband step up and be a man,

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Speaker 1: and if he doesn't, you should stop trying to make

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Speaker 1: him and realize what's going on here. Because honestly, honestly,

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Speaker 1: and I hate to say this, I really do, but

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Speaker 1: he doesn't sound like he's interested in you. He doesn't

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Speaker 1: sound like he wants to do it, or that he

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Speaker 1: cares if you do it, or his interest lies someplace else.

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Speaker 1: Because he's not interested, you're always the aggressor because all

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Speaker 1: the signs are there. He never initiates sex. You said it,

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Speaker 1: he's too tired after work, he goes to bed at

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Speaker 1: ten pm, straight to sleep. When you pulled back because

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Speaker 1: huh nothing, Oh, when he's too tired after work, When

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Speaker 1: you pulled back because you were tired of always being

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Speaker 1: the aggressor, he didn't step up, He didn't do anything.

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Speaker 1: You guys just didn't have sex. And you said to yourself,

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Speaker 1: he's never in the mood. Never again. The signs are there, ma'am.

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Speaker 1: The signs are all there. On vacation, he gets drunk

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Speaker 1: and passes out every night. And why are you trying

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Speaker 1: to finance everything? I mean, he's fifty four. What does

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Speaker 1: he do? Is he working? Does he contribute to the

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Speaker 1: household or to you in any way? It just doesn't

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Speaker 1: sound like it, because you didn't say that in the letter.

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Speaker 1: I think you know, if you're gonna stay here with

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Speaker 1: this loser, get used to this behavior because he's not

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Speaker 1: gonna change. I certainly hope you get wise and see

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Speaker 1: that he's not interested and move on with your life.

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Speaker 1: You're sixty seven, you still have a healthy sex life

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Speaker 1: and all of that. You sound energetic. You can do

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Speaker 1: way better than this guy. Steve, what Shirley, we didn't

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Speaker 1: read two different damn letters. Right, we did. I didn't

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Speaker 1: see none of this that you saw in this letter.

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Speaker 1: You know, I normally started the top of the letter.

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Speaker 1: But see you got throwed off in the letter by

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Speaker 1: her cousin. He threw you off. Course he fin to

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Speaker 1: throw me off. She went to the cousin to ask

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Speaker 1: for his advice because she's getting under six. He told

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Speaker 1: with finances and let my husband step up and be

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Speaker 1: a man. What the question was, I'm being under sex?

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Speaker 1: What can I do to get him to take the lead?

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Speaker 1: Your dumb ass cousin talking about finances and something that

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Speaker 1: take him? Let him be a man at the house.

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Speaker 1: That ain't what's this damn letter about. Let me tell

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Speaker 1: you what's really wrong in this damn letter. Your old

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Speaker 1: ass is too damn much. That's what's wont with this

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Speaker 1: damn that right here. He's not interest. Let me just

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Speaker 1: walk you through, girl, he ain't got a chance to

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Speaker 1: be interested. Let me walk you through this letter so

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Speaker 1: you can understand it. Sixty seven year old woman sixty

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Speaker 1: seven mad to a handsome man thirteen years younger than her.

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Speaker 1: That mean he fifty four. They've known each other for

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Speaker 1: six years. That mean she met him when she was

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Speaker 1: sixty one. They've been met for four years. Yeah, man,

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Speaker 1: when he was fifty, she was sixty one. She was

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Speaker 1: sixty one. Now she ain't talking about no we waited

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Speaker 1: a while to have sex with me. You was sixty one?

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Speaker 1: What what don't you mean waited a while? A while

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Speaker 1: for her? Could have been three weeks. She fast, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I've been want to come back. I'm gonna tell you

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Speaker 1: what's wrong with her? This woman is two damn much.

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Speaker 1: He's not interested. All right, we'll have part two of

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Speaker 1: Steve's response coming up at twenty three minutes after the

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Speaker 1: hour's subject Hot and Ready for My Younger Man. We'll

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Speaker 1: get back into it right after this. You're listening Morning show,

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Speaker 1: All right, Come on, Steve, let's recap today Strawberry letter,

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Speaker 1: subject and Ready for my Younger Man. You and I

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Speaker 1: disagreed completely on this letter. Go ahead completely, and I'll

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Speaker 1: tell you why this letter is title Hot and Ready

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Speaker 1: for My Younger Man. The whole letter three ninety eight

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Speaker 1: percent of the words in here is pertaining to sex.

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Speaker 1: She decided, saying she's getting under sex to go to

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Speaker 1: her male cousin. And confide in him. After all this

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Speaker 1: talk about sex. His advice was, he told her to

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Speaker 1: stop taking the lead in the home and with finances

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Speaker 1: and let my husband step up and be a man.

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Speaker 1: What did he even listen to you? So that's why

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Speaker 1: I think your cousin is stupid. Surely this ain't got

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Speaker 1: She taking care of finances. That ain't what this let about.

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Speaker 1: When it's sending the letter, she said, stop taking the

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Speaker 1: and all this. Here the man working, and it's saying

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Speaker 1: the letter. He worked all the time and he come

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Speaker 1: home tied. So it ain't like he ain't working. He

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Speaker 1: got money. All right. Let me let me show you

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Speaker 1: this shiit. Six seven year old woman man to this

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Speaker 1: dude thirteen years younger than me, he fifty four. They

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Speaker 1: dated for six years. First he waited a while, he

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Speaker 1: away on vacation. Then she said, I have always been

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Speaker 1: the aggressor in the bedroom. Okay, right there, Since you

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Speaker 1: always the aggressive, you don't know how to sit your

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Speaker 1: old ass down and wait on nothing. You're pushing the

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Speaker 1: button every time you come through the damn house. Okay,

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Speaker 1: he didn't get used to that. You started that. He

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Speaker 1: would just letting me take advantage of him in all

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Speaker 1: kinds of freaky waves. Well, let me tell you something.

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Speaker 1: You was freaky with him at sixty one, been married

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Speaker 1: six years. You ain't the same. I'm just gonna tell

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Speaker 1: you that right now. You ain't the same. The position

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Speaker 1: that was sexy when you was fifty, that position at

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Speaker 1: sixty seven has changed. I'm just telling you what you

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Speaker 1: when you was sixty, it's a little different putting your

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Speaker 1: foot up there at sixty seven. So I'm just letting

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Speaker 1: you know, a little miss hot mama, your ass ain't

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Speaker 1: all that damn hot. You might be aggravating at this point.

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Speaker 1: To tell you the truth, I take advantage him and

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Speaker 1: all kinds of freaky ways. You sixty seven, Stop saying,

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Speaker 1: freaking what does that have to do with anything, because

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Speaker 1: I'm saying, freaking, you're sixty seven. You're too old become

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Speaker 1: so damn foot right. Okay, we'll listen to this my

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Speaker 1: letter now. Surely two years ago I decided to switch

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Speaker 1: Tired of your ass. Two damn much kind of sandbox

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Speaker 1: in there, and mud, and no nobody want all this

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Speaker 1: your old freaking ass down and all people, all people

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Speaker 1: freaking different, you know, if they don't know all the

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Speaker 1: new stuff that's down at the sex stores and at

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Speaker 1: the adult store. She all up in the room with bacon,

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Speaker 1: sixty seven throughout the house. What is you in the

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Speaker 1: upstairs where with the seat. It's dogged down here in

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Speaker 1: this damn basement. You're all up in there. You're all

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Speaker 1: stuff like you meet me in the sex tape. You

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Speaker 1: can't do all that. Put that shower curtain down. That

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Speaker 1: is not for us. We're not swinging on this shower

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Speaker 1: do anything. Well, then I pulled back. He didn't step up, Hell,

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Speaker 1: because he scared. He didn't step up, step up. He

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Speaker 1: need a break. He's fifty four. You're always hurt of

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Speaker 1: her old ass in here with all these ideas, every

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Speaker 1: damn light too. Okay, Well, we can't even take a

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Speaker 1: walk because your ass wants to have sex. That's go

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Speaker 1: he's okay. If his sex drive has increased, Hell, has

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Speaker 1: yours has increased? That's the problem. It ain't that his

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Speaker 1: sexy than you really are. See, you're fighting what's really

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Speaker 1: damn much. Clothes don't fit like they used to. You're

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Speaker 1: Sit your he go to bed at ten o'clock. Old people,

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Speaker 1: sixty seven, Get your damn rest. I think all right,

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