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Speaker 1: this kind of help that the group gives you to

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Speaker 1: give you a little bit more confidence or maybe I'll

442
00:21:32,996 --> 00:21:34,756
Speaker 1: try it, you know, because everyone else is doing it.

443
00:21:35,036 --> 00:21:38,276
Speaker 1: I mean, what is that done for your confidence levels?

444
00:21:38,316 --> 00:21:41,156
Speaker 1: I imagine that trying these things out when you thought, oh,

445
00:21:41,196 --> 00:21:42,596
Speaker 1: I'm going to just be terrible at this, I'm going

446
00:21:42,676 --> 00:21:45,236
Speaker 1: to suck, and then it was okay, Like that does

447
00:21:45,276 --> 00:21:47,596
Speaker 1: that help you do new things in the future. I

448
00:21:47,676 --> 00:21:48,356
Speaker 1: think it does.

449
00:21:48,516 --> 00:21:53,076
Speaker 3: I feel like we no one's judging anyone. We all

450
00:21:53,116 --> 00:21:55,916
Speaker 3: just want to experience it together, and some of us

451
00:21:55,956 --> 00:21:58,276
Speaker 3: will be better than others. There are definitely some more

452
00:21:58,396 --> 00:22:02,076
Speaker 3: natural athletes than others in the group, but no one

453
00:22:02,116 --> 00:22:05,516
Speaker 3: feels embarrassed or feels bad if they're not good. We

454
00:22:05,636 --> 00:22:08,436
Speaker 3: just laugh and just enjoy the experience together. And so

455
00:22:08,516 --> 00:22:10,756
Speaker 3: I think that give you the confidence to say yes

456
00:22:10,836 --> 00:22:15,276
Speaker 3: when someone brings up another idea that maybe goat yoga

457
00:22:15,356 --> 00:22:17,036
Speaker 3: was the other one that just came up recently that

458
00:22:17,116 --> 00:22:19,196
Speaker 3: hasn't been scheduled yet, but some people are like, oh,

459
00:22:19,156 --> 00:22:19,636
Speaker 3: I don't know.

460
00:22:19,836 --> 00:22:21,036
Speaker 1: But I'll do it, okay.

461
00:22:21,836 --> 00:22:25,236
Speaker 2: I think some of it too, is no one wants

462
00:22:25,276 --> 00:22:27,796
Speaker 2: to miss it, even if you're not interested in the event.

463
00:22:28,556 --> 00:22:31,076
Speaker 2: But you're free, you'll go because you want to be

464
00:22:31,116 --> 00:22:31,796
Speaker 2: with everybody.

465
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Speaker 1: And I think that's the kind of thing where it

466
00:22:33,956 --> 00:22:37,196
Speaker 1: can that benefit of social connection can really push you

467
00:22:37,396 --> 00:22:39,596
Speaker 1: to take part in these activities that you might not

468
00:22:39,676 --> 00:22:41,956
Speaker 1: have gone to, but itevably are going to be more

469
00:22:41,996 --> 00:22:43,556
Speaker 1: fun than you think. I think this is a big

470
00:22:43,556 --> 00:22:45,756
Speaker 1: problem with the mind as that we assume, oh, that'll

471
00:22:45,756 --> 00:22:47,636
Speaker 1: feel like too much work, or I won't enjoy that,

472
00:22:47,756 --> 00:22:49,476
Speaker 1: or I won't be good at that, and that can

473
00:22:49,516 --> 00:22:51,716
Speaker 1: cause us not to go. But when you have the

474
00:22:51,796 --> 00:22:55,316
Speaker 1: kind of camaraderie, maybe slash pressure of the group, like

475
00:22:55,356 --> 00:22:57,396
Speaker 1: you kind of have to go to these things.

476
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Speaker 4: Exactly, and some of us are just better at finding

477
00:23:00,436 --> 00:23:04,636
Speaker 4: these events and our better planners, and others of us

478
00:23:05,276 --> 00:23:07,476
Speaker 4: like myself are just always have my hands up, yep,

479
00:23:07,516 --> 00:23:09,996
Speaker 4: I'll do it, Yep, I'll do it, or followers. So

480
00:23:10,076 --> 00:23:13,156
Speaker 4: for me it's great because I don't I don't innately

481
00:23:13,276 --> 00:23:16,196
Speaker 4: find these activities like you guys are so good at that,

482
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Speaker 4: but I will definitely always join in.

483
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Speaker 3: And we've done more than even just activities. We've gone

484
00:23:22,156 --> 00:23:25,036
Speaker 3: to plays together. We have a book club that the

485
00:23:25,116 --> 00:23:28,836
Speaker 3: running group is does every month, so we also like

486
00:23:28,916 --> 00:23:31,716
Speaker 3: to listen to podcasts.

487
00:23:31,036 --> 00:23:33,356
Speaker 1: And so why did you need the Fun Prevention Group

488
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Speaker 1: if you already were doing these things that were really

489
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Speaker 1: pleasurable and fun.

490
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Speaker 3: Jen, I think we wanted to be organized about it

491
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Speaker 3: and make sure that each month we.

492
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Speaker 1: Could have a fun activity to do together.

493
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Speaker 3: So it was really putting a little bit more structure

494
00:23:47,316 --> 00:23:51,676
Speaker 3: around this connection of women and creating opportunities to do

495
00:23:51,716 --> 00:23:52,556
Speaker 3: fun things together.

496
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Speaker 1: And you might think that that structure makes it, you know,

497
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Speaker 1: more rigid, maybe less fun, but talk about why the

498
00:23:58,116 --> 00:24:01,156
Speaker 1: structure was really essential for everyone to get together. I

499
00:24:01,196 --> 00:24:02,036
Speaker 1: just think the structure.

500
00:24:02,116 --> 00:24:06,316
Speaker 4: The structure was essential because so easy for the month

501
00:24:06,396 --> 00:24:10,996
Speaker 4: to get away from you, and we have really carved

502
00:24:11,036 --> 00:24:13,556
Speaker 4: out the time and and like you said, even if

503
00:24:13,556 --> 00:24:16,436
Speaker 4: it's something you're not that interested in doing, it's like

504
00:24:16,516 --> 00:24:18,356
Speaker 4: I am not missing out. All my friends are going

505
00:24:18,396 --> 00:24:21,356
Speaker 4: to be together, and I'll move heaven and Earth in

506
00:24:21,436 --> 00:24:24,396
Speaker 4: my schedule to make sure that I can be there.

507
00:24:24,756 --> 00:24:29,436
Speaker 4: And I have never regretted doing that in order to

508
00:24:29,436 --> 00:24:31,836
Speaker 4: be at one of them or to be with these guys.

509
00:24:31,876 --> 00:24:33,716
Speaker 4: So it's definitely worth it.

510
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Speaker 3: And I think that what we try to do is

511
00:24:36,316 --> 00:24:39,476
Speaker 3: schedule it almost a month or two out so that

512
00:24:39,516 --> 00:24:43,316
Speaker 3: people can save the date. I think what becomes hard

513
00:24:43,356 --> 00:24:46,316
Speaker 3: just in life generally, is everybody has a lot of commitments.

514
00:24:46,676 --> 00:24:51,716
Speaker 3: We all have families and friends, and so by having

515
00:24:51,716 --> 00:24:54,556
Speaker 3: it be structured with save the dates, people market and

516
00:24:54,596 --> 00:24:58,196
Speaker 3: it's that day is our Funterrevention day, and more people

517
00:24:58,236 --> 00:24:58,956
Speaker 3: can go that way.

518
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Speaker 1: It also seems like it's a pretty forgiving process, right,

519
00:25:01,996 --> 00:25:04,116
Speaker 1: Like I imagine if you had somebody in the Fundervention

520
00:25:04,236 --> 00:25:06,316
Speaker 1: group that just for whatever reason couldn't come for a bunch,

521
00:25:06,356 --> 00:25:08,236
Speaker 1: they don't get like kicked out of the funder vention

522
00:25:08,436 --> 00:25:11,596
Speaker 1: in that ever, So I want to talk about some

523
00:25:11,596 --> 00:25:13,076
Speaker 1: of the benefits that you all got out of this

524
00:25:13,116 --> 00:25:16,596
Speaker 1: funtervention process. I'm curious if there was some extra social

525
00:25:16,636 --> 00:25:19,356
Speaker 1: benefit that you got out of doing the funterventions together.

526
00:25:19,516 --> 00:25:21,756
Speaker 2: There's a beauty when you're in small groups. Sometimes like

527
00:25:21,756 --> 00:25:24,036
Speaker 2: we're this big group and that big group is awesome,

528
00:25:24,436 --> 00:25:27,156
Speaker 2: but there's certain times we have three tables and you're

529
00:25:27,156 --> 00:25:29,276
Speaker 2: maybe only at a table with four and it might

530
00:25:29,316 --> 00:25:31,916
Speaker 2: not be the person that you're usually with. It just

531
00:25:32,036 --> 00:25:34,636
Speaker 2: gives you a chance to connect a little bit more,

532
00:25:34,716 --> 00:25:38,796
Speaker 2: a little bit deeper with somebody in the group.

533
00:25:39,116 --> 00:25:41,316
Speaker 1: And so talk about the playful part of the Funder

534
00:25:41,396 --> 00:25:44,156
Speaker 1: ventions because so many of the activities you took part in,

535
00:25:44,196 --> 00:25:47,836
Speaker 1: whether it's the scavenger hunt or you know, kind of

536
00:25:48,076 --> 00:25:50,396
Speaker 1: like the flower arranging, which is you know, maybe you're

537
00:25:50,396 --> 00:25:52,156
Speaker 1: supposed to be serious, but it sounds like you all

538
00:25:52,196 --> 00:25:54,716
Speaker 1: had fun like that. Playfulness seems to be a big

539
00:25:54,756 --> 00:25:57,356
Speaker 1: part of it. Was that playfulness something that you were

540
00:25:57,356 --> 00:25:59,356
Speaker 1: getting a lot of in your regular life or is

541
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Speaker 1: it something that you really got out of the fundrevention.

542
00:26:01,596 --> 00:26:04,596
Speaker 4: Maybe, Lisa, I would say the playfulness I got out

543
00:26:04,596 --> 00:26:08,196
Speaker 4: of the Funder vention because you don't in your regular life,

544
00:26:08,396 --> 00:26:10,036
Speaker 4: you know, you just try. I'd always be doing the

545
00:26:10,116 --> 00:26:13,756
Speaker 4: right thing, making the right decisions. But when we were

546
00:26:13,756 --> 00:26:17,716
Speaker 4: doing like say the flower arranging, we were like stealing

547
00:26:17,756 --> 00:26:21,116
Speaker 4: flowers out of other people's arrangements because theirs looked better

548
00:26:21,196 --> 00:26:23,596
Speaker 4: and I didn't have as many, and laughing about it.

549
00:26:23,796 --> 00:26:26,356
Speaker 4: So I definitely think it's it's helped me be more

550
00:26:26,476 --> 00:26:28,196
Speaker 4: silly and stuff.

551
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Speaker 1: Yeah, Natalie, well, we did one.

552
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Speaker 2: Of the most fun I thought one of the most

553
00:26:32,876 --> 00:26:37,916
Speaker 2: fun ones was a cooking class with a chef in Boston.

554
00:26:38,796 --> 00:26:40,996
Speaker 2: It was like we made food together, but there were

555
00:26:41,036 --> 00:26:44,036
Speaker 2: other people at the event. It was not a private event,

556
00:26:44,676 --> 00:26:48,196
Speaker 2: and I'm sure for those other people they were like, Wow,

557
00:26:48,316 --> 00:26:51,116
Speaker 2: these people like because we are fun and we're laughing

558
00:26:51,196 --> 00:26:53,676
Speaker 2: and we're goofing with each other and we're silly and

559
00:26:53,676 --> 00:26:55,756
Speaker 2: we're goofing with the chef, and I just kind of

560
00:26:55,796 --> 00:26:57,956
Speaker 2: you feel for the other people in the group.

561
00:26:58,556 --> 00:27:04,156
Speaker 1: But there is definitely like a silliness to our group.

562
00:27:04,756 --> 00:27:07,516
Speaker 2: I think in like that fun audit of the podcast,

563
00:27:07,596 --> 00:27:09,796
Speaker 2: when you think about it and you really think about

564
00:27:09,836 --> 00:27:15,476
Speaker 2: in your adult life in Franklin, the most fun you've

565
00:27:15,516 --> 00:27:18,956
Speaker 2: had and the things that you've had fun at, it's

566
00:27:19,036 --> 00:27:23,036
Speaker 2: usually these people in this group are present, maybe with

567
00:27:23,116 --> 00:27:27,156
Speaker 2: their husbands as well, maybe just them, but they're a

568
00:27:27,236 --> 00:27:28,756
Speaker 2: big component in our fun.

569
00:27:29,076 --> 00:27:32,916
Speaker 3: I also think there's a playfulness in the activity activity,

570
00:27:32,996 --> 00:27:36,396
Speaker 3: even if it's not really a playful activity. So, as

571
00:27:36,436 --> 00:27:39,636
Speaker 3: Lisa was saying with the flower ranging, I remember my

572
00:27:39,716 --> 00:27:43,996
Speaker 3: friend Carrie's flowers. She was moving them around so much

573
00:27:44,036 --> 00:27:46,956
Speaker 3: that they started to like literally disintegrate, and we were

574
00:27:47,116 --> 00:27:50,276
Speaker 3: making fun of her because these beautiful flowers are falling apart,

575
00:27:50,356 --> 00:27:53,196
Speaker 3: and hers is wilting and ours there's all looking great.

576
00:27:53,316 --> 00:27:57,196
Speaker 3: And so you can just make any activity really playful

577
00:27:57,276 --> 00:27:58,756
Speaker 3: and I think that that's what we found with a

578
00:27:58,796 --> 00:28:00,756
Speaker 3: lot of the things that we do, we just start

579
00:28:00,836 --> 00:28:04,316
Speaker 3: laughing about whether it's in the salt cave or bike

580
00:28:04,396 --> 00:28:07,676
Speaker 3: riding or cross country skiing, when we're all falling down.

581
00:28:08,196 --> 00:28:10,676
Speaker 1: You can make it fun. And I'm curious if that

582
00:28:10,716 --> 00:28:13,476
Speaker 1: fund really helps you get through the other more difficult times.

583
00:28:13,476 --> 00:28:15,156
Speaker 1: You know, you talked about how this group has been

584
00:28:15,196 --> 00:28:18,676
Speaker 1: around through all kinds of big life changes and stresses.

585
00:28:19,076 --> 00:28:21,156
Speaker 1: Any good examples of how the fun got you through

586
00:28:21,196 --> 00:28:21,876
Speaker 1: a tough time.

587
00:28:22,676 --> 00:28:27,076
Speaker 3: I think there's a bonding that by participating in so

588
00:28:27,116 --> 00:28:30,076
Speaker 3: many different types of activities and really putting yourself out

589
00:28:30,076 --> 00:28:32,476
Speaker 3: there with a group of people. I think we put

590
00:28:32,516 --> 00:28:35,116
Speaker 3: ourselves out there even when we have hard times, and

591
00:28:35,156 --> 00:28:37,356
Speaker 3: we rally around each other. And there have been a

592
00:28:37,356 --> 00:28:42,236
Speaker 3: lot of instances where people have needed support and we

593
00:28:42,436 --> 00:28:45,636
Speaker 3: also are the first to kind of come together and

594
00:28:45,636 --> 00:28:48,036
Speaker 3: say what can we do for that person. One of

595
00:28:48,076 --> 00:28:51,876
Speaker 3: our friends had, you know, a foot surgery, and we

596
00:28:51,876 --> 00:28:54,436
Speaker 3: were like, what can we do to help her? Even

597
00:28:54,436 --> 00:28:56,676
Speaker 3: if it's just sitting and watching TV with her or

598
00:28:56,716 --> 00:29:00,316
Speaker 3: bringing her food. We've all had family things that have happened,

599
00:29:00,436 --> 00:29:03,436
Speaker 3: and no one's trying to pretend their life is something

600
00:29:03,436 --> 00:29:05,756
Speaker 3: that it's not. We're very honest about what's going on

601
00:29:05,836 --> 00:29:07,836
Speaker 3: and asking for advice and getting support.

602
00:29:07,996 --> 00:29:09,996
Speaker 2: And I think even like one of the people in

603
00:29:10,036 --> 00:29:12,756
Speaker 2: our group one time we were walking and running and

604
00:29:12,796 --> 00:29:14,756
Speaker 2: she was like, I feel this group is the happiest

605
00:29:14,796 --> 00:29:17,156
Speaker 2: group of people I know in this town, and we're

606
00:29:17,236 --> 00:29:19,316
Speaker 2: very real. And some people would say, when you're running,

607
00:29:19,356 --> 00:29:21,516
Speaker 2: you can't really lie. I don't know, it's like a saying,

608
00:29:21,556 --> 00:29:24,756
Speaker 2: but it's hard to not tell the truth when you're running.

609
00:29:25,036 --> 00:29:28,716
Speaker 2: Kind of the truth comes out, but it's no like

610
00:29:28,836 --> 00:29:31,636
Speaker 2: keeping up with the Jones'. No, like people say, oh

611
00:29:31,716 --> 00:29:34,916
Speaker 2: my son did this, my daughter did that, my husband

612
00:29:34,956 --> 00:29:38,116
Speaker 2: did that. Like no one's pretending that their life is

613
00:29:38,236 --> 00:29:41,476
Speaker 2: anything other than what it really is. And I think we,

614
00:29:41,916 --> 00:29:45,236
Speaker 2: like Jen just said, we come together, Like Jen is

615
00:29:45,436 --> 00:29:48,236
Speaker 2: more like the Sunshine Committee person, and I feel like

616
00:29:48,356 --> 00:29:51,916
Speaker 2: I'm more the doom and Gloom committee. Like when someone's like,

617
00:29:51,996 --> 00:29:54,796
Speaker 2: we had a friend whose mom died and I just

618
00:29:54,876 --> 00:29:59,036
Speaker 2: remember being at the service and looking at the pew

619
00:29:59,356 --> 00:30:03,756
Speaker 2: and it was like ten running people. It was just

620
00:30:03,796 --> 00:30:09,116
Speaker 2: a really solid supporting show of love and we're there

621
00:30:09,236 --> 00:30:09,916
Speaker 2: for everybody.

622
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Speaker 1: But I think that's a beautiful part, right, is that

623
00:30:11,796 --> 00:30:15,236
Speaker 1: if you're engaging in social connection during the FUNTERVENTIONCE, that's

624
00:30:15,276 --> 00:30:17,956
Speaker 1: fun and you're getting social connection, but that connection is

625
00:30:17,996 --> 00:30:19,996
Speaker 1: real connection, right. Those are the people that are going

626
00:30:20,036 --> 00:30:22,396
Speaker 1: to show up when you're in a moment of grief

627
00:30:22,476 --> 00:30:24,716
Speaker 1: or when you're struggling and you need someone to help you,

628
00:30:24,756 --> 00:30:26,916
Speaker 1: when you break your foot and so on. So it's

629
00:30:26,916 --> 00:30:28,876
Speaker 1: not just kind of like, oh connection, you know, this

630
00:30:28,956 --> 00:30:31,956
Speaker 1: fleeting thing you know while you're flower arranging, it becomes

631
00:30:31,956 --> 00:30:34,836
Speaker 1: the kind of thing that forms these really deep, real

632
00:30:34,876 --> 00:30:35,876
Speaker 1: friendships over time.

633
00:30:36,036 --> 00:30:38,716
Speaker 4: Oh, people wait to come to the group and they'll

634
00:30:38,756 --> 00:30:40,836
Speaker 4: have an issue if it's one of the keys, you know,

635
00:30:40,876 --> 00:30:43,756
Speaker 4: because we're our kids are sort of we hit every age,

636
00:30:43,796 --> 00:30:47,196
Speaker 4: every grade, and you know, you'll come and you'll be like, okay,

637
00:30:47,396 --> 00:30:49,516
Speaker 4: so this is what's going on. And then people with

638
00:30:49,556 --> 00:30:51,916
Speaker 4: older kids will be like, the same thing happened, this

639
00:30:51,956 --> 00:30:55,876
Speaker 4: is what we did. This is all broad is closer,

640
00:30:56,116 --> 00:30:58,556
Speaker 4: and the connectivity is like a couple of us have

641
00:30:58,676 --> 00:31:01,516
Speaker 4: run a marathon, and when you're training for a marathon,

642
00:31:01,996 --> 00:31:05,836
Speaker 4: we'll wait at different points and I'll run five with you,

643
00:31:06,076 --> 00:31:08,516
Speaker 4: I'll run the next eight with you, and we like

644
00:31:08,596 --> 00:31:12,036
Speaker 4: tap o and we each do. Like when that person

645
00:31:12,076 --> 00:31:14,476
Speaker 4: has to do a thirteen mile run, they don't do

646
00:31:14,756 --> 00:31:17,756
Speaker 4: a mile of it alone. I can't do a marathon,

647
00:31:17,796 --> 00:31:20,236
Speaker 4: but I can do five or six miles. So we

648
00:31:20,316 --> 00:31:22,996
Speaker 4: all do that, and that just is our friendship, I think,

649
00:31:23,036 --> 00:31:26,236
Speaker 4: in our group. So when we decided to have fun together,

650
00:31:26,276 --> 00:31:28,036
Speaker 4: everybody sort of I'm.

651
00:31:27,796 --> 00:31:28,436
Speaker 1: In, I'm in.

652
00:31:28,996 --> 00:31:32,156
Speaker 3: I wanted to add to what Natalie said at the

653
00:31:32,196 --> 00:31:34,996
Speaker 3: funeral that she was referring to that was such a

654
00:31:35,036 --> 00:31:40,076
Speaker 3: powerful moment when I just felt when I looked across

655
00:31:40,116 --> 00:31:42,356
Speaker 3: and saw a whole pew of all of us there

656
00:31:42,516 --> 00:31:44,756
Speaker 3: for our friend when our mom passed. It was just

657
00:31:44,796 --> 00:31:47,996
Speaker 3: a moment where like it just hits you of how

658
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Speaker 3: important that friendship is, you know. And I think that

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Speaker 3: meant a lot to her to look out and see

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Speaker 3: all of us across a pew like that.

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Speaker 1: And so it has all these benefits, but it can

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Speaker 1: be hard to do. Mostly, I think the biggest constry

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Speaker 1: on other people engaging in fun is just time, you know.

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Speaker 1: So for listeners who think that this sounds amazing, but

665
00:32:06,716 --> 00:32:08,796
Speaker 1: there's no way they could fit this into their schedule,

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Speaker 1: and there's way their friends could fit this into their schedule.

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Speaker 1: What advice do you have about how to get it started?

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Speaker 1: I would just say start small.

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Speaker 3: It doesn't have to be every month, it doesn't have

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Speaker 3: to be a group of thirteen people. If you have

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00:32:21,076 --> 00:32:24,076
Speaker 3: a close group of four friends and you make a

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00:32:24,116 --> 00:32:28,436
Speaker 3: point of even four times a year, each person schedules something,

673
00:32:28,956 --> 00:32:31,516
Speaker 3: and it's something that doesn't have to even be expensive.

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Speaker 3: A lot of the things that we did were actually

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Speaker 3: no cost at all and somewhat pretty nominal cost and

676
00:32:37,116 --> 00:32:40,516
Speaker 3: just getting out there and finding something new and different

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Speaker 3: that you want to explore or do together.

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Speaker 1: So another thing that comes up is that people start

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Speaker 1: to worry about whether their preferences are like weird in

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Speaker 1: some way. You know, I have my own fun factors,

681
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Speaker 1: but they might not be your fun factors, right, And

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Speaker 1: so how do you navigate that sort of thing? Do

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Speaker 1: you vet the ideas ahead of time or how do

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Speaker 1: you figure that out?

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Speaker 3: Jen, We really don't, And I do think you have

686
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Speaker 3: to be up for this idea of a fun prevention

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Speaker 3: is something that maybe you don't think you're interested in,

688
00:33:08,796 --> 00:33:10,836
Speaker 3: but you get there and it actually is more fun

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Speaker 3: than you thought it was going to be. And so

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Speaker 3: being open to that opportunity even if it's not something

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Speaker 3: that would have necessarily been on your fun list, it

692
00:33:18,676 --> 00:33:20,716
Speaker 3: might be on your fun list after the event.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I think that's part of the message of all

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Speaker 1: the things you've been saying, is that you know, nine

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Speaker 1: times out of ten, maybe you know ninety nine times

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Speaker 1: out of one hundred, it's going to be more fun

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Speaker 1: than you expect. Absolutely.

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Speaker 3: There was one exception where there was an email about

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Speaker 3: what people do goat yoga.

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Speaker 2: And I do think a lot it was boat yoga

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Speaker 2: or a boat ride, and we were like, boat ride.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I'm also curious how the other people in your

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00:33:44,436 --> 00:33:46,396
Speaker 1: life react to this, right, and I imagine many of

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00:33:46,436 --> 00:33:48,396
Speaker 1: you have like husbands and kids, and you're all off

705
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Speaker 1: doing these fun things. It sounds like they might not

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00:33:50,836 --> 00:33:53,796
Speaker 1: be invited to, Like have they ever had any reaction

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00:33:53,876 --> 00:33:55,556
Speaker 1: to this, or do they get inspired to do their

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00:33:55,596 --> 00:33:56,356
Speaker 1: own fund prevention.

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Speaker 3: We have had friends that have when we post a picture,

710
00:34:00,956 --> 00:34:03,356
Speaker 3: have commented, I want to do fun preventions, and we

711
00:34:03,436 --> 00:34:05,436
Speaker 3: do know that they've started to set them up with

712
00:34:05,476 --> 00:34:08,636
Speaker 3: some of their friends. Sometimes people ask if they can

713
00:34:08,716 --> 00:34:11,396
Speaker 3: join us, but we've really left it with the running group.

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Speaker 1: Our kids definitely love it.

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Speaker 4: My girls and their friends all follow us on social

716
00:34:16,116 --> 00:34:18,796
Speaker 4: media and they cannot wait for the pictures to come

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Speaker 4: out of the fun prevention that we just did. And sometimes,

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Speaker 4: I mean they're in their twenties, they'll go and do

719
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Speaker 4: the things that we did, and so we're like iconstantly.

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Speaker 1: So it seems like your fund inventions are inspiring them

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Speaker 1: that fun stuff.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, to go to the same places and do the

723
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Speaker 4: same things.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, I think the reaction I.

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Speaker 2: Get like if I'm telling someone like a work person

726
00:34:40,396 --> 00:34:44,716
Speaker 2: or and I start to talk about like our group

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00:34:44,996 --> 00:34:48,676
Speaker 2: and the number and the closeness and the connection, even

728
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Speaker 2: before I get to like the fun prevention part of it,

729
00:34:51,236 --> 00:34:53,796
Speaker 2: just who we all are, their first reaction is like

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Speaker 2: I don't have that, Like, oh, that sounds so nice,

731
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Speaker 2: And we just happen to have a lot of people.

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Speaker 2: But you could do it with any number of people.

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Speaker 3: And I don't even think you have to do it

734
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Speaker 3: with just friends when you think about it. If you

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Speaker 3: have extended family members, you could do it with cousins,

736
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Speaker 3: you could do it even with family co workers, yes, couples.

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Speaker 1: It sounds like the key is just that you have

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Speaker 1: to put in a little bit of work, right. It

739
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Speaker 1: takes a little bit of structure.

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Speaker 4: And then the fun part is Jen has it all chronicled.

741
00:35:25,076 --> 00:35:26,836
Speaker 4: Sometimes we'll just go out and we'll sit and we'll

742
00:35:26,836 --> 00:35:29,436
Speaker 4: go back through a lot like we did today, and

743
00:35:29,476 --> 00:35:30,996
Speaker 4: we'll laugh again about them.

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00:35:31,396 --> 00:35:34,716
Speaker 1: So a little bit of structure it goes a long

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Speaker 1: way and they're really fun, fun memories. So do you

746
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Speaker 1: want to hear how we ended up with the three

747
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Speaker 1: of us?

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Speaker 2: We had to like basically, everybody wanted to do this,

749
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Speaker 2: like the whole group.

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Speaker 1: You would have had thirteen of us if possible.

751
00:35:48,276 --> 00:35:52,236
Speaker 2: Everybody wanted to everybody like so we shout out, that's

752
00:35:52,276 --> 00:35:54,116
Speaker 2: what makes us us like all of us.

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Speaker 1: We got to give them a shot. Especially yeah, oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: they all want to come all day to day. Good

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Speaker 1: luck you guys, extra special thanks to the entire Fun

756
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Speaker 1: Invention group, not just Lisa, Jen and Natalie, but Denise, Carrey, Ellen, Jamie,

757
00:36:08,436 --> 00:36:13,316
Speaker 1: Peggy Morey, Jill Kim, Teresa Karen and Paula. Hey. All right,

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Speaker 1: more heads up if we can get it to work again?

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Speaker 4: Sure?

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, Hannah Montana, Oh uh, Wiley Cyrus.

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Speaker 1: Oh he's wrestler.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: The Runners of Franklin, Massachusetts are such a great group

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Speaker 1: of friends and they've really taken the science of well

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Speaker 1: being and the lessons of the Happiness Lab to heart.

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Speaker 1: And if you missed the two episodes about My own Funtervention,

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Speaker 1: not to worry because we'll be returning these two episodes

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Speaker 1: to the top of our feed next week