WEBVTT - Episode 256: Pinky Ring Remix (Feat. Ne-Yo) 0:00:02.240 --> 0:00:05.720 What they lift service and listen, we have our good 0:00:05.760 --> 0:00:09.360 friend here. But I'm Antio Laghi, I'm Jiji Maguire, I'm 0:00:09.400 --> 0:00:21.319 lurryow and yeah, oh what's up? My bad. We do 0:00:21.440 --> 0:00:23.880 have to clarify when you hear like screaming, that's at 0:00:23.920 --> 0:00:27.280 his household. There's children in the house. So yeah, yeah, 0:00:27.440 --> 0:00:29.720 my my little ones is going nuts. But it's all right, 0:00:29.840 --> 0:00:34.240 it's all good. You've been having a very active COVID 0:00:34.360 --> 0:00:42.440 nineteen quarantine, right. Indeed, indeed I have, Yeah, everybody else, 0:00:42.680 --> 0:00:44.440 well I won't see everybody else. But the majority of 0:00:44.479 --> 0:00:46.919 people kind of looked at this whole COVID nineteen thing, 0:00:47.320 --> 0:00:49.560 this quarantine as a negative thing. Oh man, we gotta 0:00:49.560 --> 0:00:54.279 stay in the house whatever whatever for me. Honestly, when 0:00:54.320 --> 0:00:56.440 they stay stay in the house, I was like, you 0:00:56.600 --> 0:00:58.360 gotta tell me twice because I don't get to stay 0:00:58.400 --> 0:01:00.520 in the house. I don't don't. I'm earlier at all, 0:01:00.800 --> 0:01:03.480 what I mean. So I took it as an opportunity to, 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:05.839 you know, to lock back in with my kids. Of course, 0:01:05.840 --> 0:01:10.240 as job as everybody knows, my wife get back to 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:12.800 the stuff that that matters, you know. We tend to 0:01:12.880 --> 0:01:15.800 let a lot of the stuff that don't matter matters 0:01:15.880 --> 0:01:18.240 so much in in regard to just the way that 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:20.640 we the way do we live this thing. And I'm 0:01:20.720 --> 0:01:23.520 happy that I'm happy that this. I'm not happy that 0:01:23.600 --> 0:01:26.720 anybody lost their life, of course, you know, dutiful Code nineteen. 0:01:26.840 --> 0:01:30.520 But I'm happy that this set your ass down moment 0:01:30.640 --> 0:01:33.679 happened because it didn't need We definitely needed this moment. 0:01:33.720 --> 0:01:37.119 The earth needed this moment, right, I agree? I agree, 0:01:37.280 --> 0:01:39.920 did y'all? Some somebody told me that, uh, the olds 0:01:39.959 --> 0:01:42.639 On layer was healing itself because it was less people 0:01:43.000 --> 0:01:45.759 driving cars and whatnot. And yeah, there's there's a lot 0:01:45.840 --> 0:01:49.800 less smug and everything and there, and even like natural wildlife. 0:01:49.880 --> 0:01:51.640 But I will say the problem here in New York 0:01:51.760 --> 0:01:56.680 is these rats are everywhere, so that are like the 0:01:56.720 --> 0:02:03.160 ones on the ground put both. But you know, because 0:02:03.200 --> 0:02:05.320 a lot of the restaurants aren't open, so they're used 0:02:05.360 --> 0:02:08.079 to like drummage in through the garbage and because there's 0:02:08.120 --> 0:02:10.160 not as much of that, so and you know, New 0:02:10.200 --> 0:02:12.240 York is already kind of dirty. So we go outside 0:02:12.240 --> 0:02:17.880 and the rats are everywhere. Now, yeah, man, you know 0:02:17.880 --> 0:02:20.120 what I want to asked, because I've been watching everything 0:02:20.120 --> 0:02:22.560 you've been doing, right, do you think that people give 0:02:22.680 --> 0:02:26.520 up like too quickly in relationships and especially in marriage? 0:02:27.000 --> 0:02:31.440 So absolutely absolutely. Nowadays, you know a person will find 0:02:31.480 --> 0:02:33.560 any excuse like why are you why are you breathe 0:02:33.600 --> 0:02:35.919 so loud? You know what? You know what? We need space? 0:02:36.000 --> 0:02:38.080 This is this breathing you're doing. I can't take all 0:02:38.120 --> 0:02:41.320 this breathing. They'll find any reason to to get out 0:02:41.320 --> 0:02:46.920 of relationship nowadays, because relationships are not easy. It's just 0:02:46.960 --> 0:02:51.080 what it is. It's not easy to constantly find that 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:54.680 common ground with another person if that person is really 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:56.760 being who they are. Like you, two different people with 0:02:56.880 --> 0:02:59.680 two completely different outlooks on certain things. You're not gonna 0:02:59.680 --> 0:03:03.359 like other all the time. It's gonna get hard. Being faithful. 0:03:03.919 --> 0:03:09.280 It's hard first time people. For some Okay, for some people, yea. 0:03:11.240 --> 0:03:13.400 Being faithful it's not an easy thing to do. It 0:03:13.639 --> 0:03:16.200 requires discipline that a lot of people either don't have 0:03:16.360 --> 0:03:19.120 or don't want to work towards having. That's just what 0:03:19.480 --> 0:03:22.480 kind of what it is right now, you know, being 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:25.000 quickly easy. I would push back and say that being 0:03:25.040 --> 0:03:28.240 faithful is easier than not just because I think that 0:03:28.320 --> 0:03:31.399 once you get older, like having multiple it's just gets 0:03:31.440 --> 0:03:34.480 like complicated, it's a lot of work. It costs more 0:03:34.560 --> 0:03:37.000 money than just being like with one person and not 0:03:37.040 --> 0:03:39.840 having to worry about all those things. I think it's 0:03:39.880 --> 0:03:44.960 all in a way that it's done. But I do 0:03:45.000 --> 0:03:47.640 agree with you as as you age, you start you 0:03:47.680 --> 0:03:52.800 start realizing what's important versus what's microwaves, so to speak. 0:03:53.160 --> 0:03:55.240 You know what I mean, It's like it's like waiting. 0:03:55.240 --> 0:03:57.200 It's like waiting on that home cooking meal even though 0:03:57.200 --> 0:03:58.480 it's gonna take a little long and you know it's 0:03:58.480 --> 0:04:01.760 gonna be good, so you way instead of going to 0:04:01.800 --> 0:04:03.800 McDonald's re quick and grabbing a burglar. You know what 0:04:03.800 --> 0:04:07.360 I mean. It's just so nil. What do you feel 0:04:07.440 --> 0:04:10.240 like where your issues? You and Crystal's issues when y'all 0:04:10.280 --> 0:04:13.760 decided like, all right, we're gonna have to really call 0:04:13.800 --> 0:04:18.000 it quit whether your phone, you know what, the fault 0:04:18.000 --> 0:04:20.680 lives on, default lives on both of us. I can genuinely, 0:04:20.760 --> 0:04:22.839 truly and honestly say the fault out and through both 0:04:22.880 --> 0:04:26.240 of us. I'm not gonna go too heavily into detail 0:04:26.360 --> 0:04:29.240 just because I'm not, but just I mean, the best 0:04:29.320 --> 0:04:33.400 way to put it is when you are not being 0:04:33.440 --> 0:04:36.160 honest with yourself about things, and this and this goes 0:04:36.200 --> 0:04:38.520 for both of us. It's going to be difficult to 0:04:38.600 --> 0:04:43.080 get the get that genuine from anyone from from It's 0:04:43.080 --> 0:04:45.320 not gonna be it's not gonna be a genuine uh 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:48.080 connection if you're not being honest with yourself, If you 0:04:48.120 --> 0:04:50.000 have issues that you need to deal with, you need 0:04:50.080 --> 0:04:51.760 to deal with those issues. And if you don't deal 0:04:51.800 --> 0:04:54.760 with those issues, those issues will cause where between you 0:04:54.839 --> 0:04:57.080 and that person that you're trying to be with. And uh, 0:04:57.160 --> 0:04:59.359 that's something that we both needed to learn. You know, 0:04:59.440 --> 0:05:01.640 we both had to do some soul search. We both 0:05:01.640 --> 0:05:04.720 had to get into ourselves and go all right, let 0:05:04.720 --> 0:05:06.120 me put this mirror in front of me and figure 0:05:06.120 --> 0:05:08.600 out what's wrong with me before I turned it, and 0:05:08.640 --> 0:05:14.040 go what's wrong with you? Y'all had some y'all have 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:18.320 some petty moments, you know during that to say there 0:05:18.360 --> 0:05:20.839 was some pettiness going on, I was like, I didn't know, 0:05:20.960 --> 0:05:25.400 never so petty. How was it? I was? It wasn't 0:05:25.440 --> 0:05:27.240 just you. I got both of you guys, though, you 0:05:27.279 --> 0:05:30.680 did have some petty moments, you know, And when when 0:05:31.080 --> 0:05:33.320 drama is drama is it is what it is. I 0:05:33.360 --> 0:05:37.240 don't think either one of us had Uh. Okay, everybody 0:05:37.240 --> 0:05:40.520 took Pinkyring as a disrecord. It was not a disrecord. 0:05:40.960 --> 0:05:43.240 Listen to the lyrics of the song. I didn't say 0:05:43.320 --> 0:05:46.560 anything negative about her. I didn't diss her on that 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:50.280 record was flattering, No, it was a flatter. It was 0:05:50.279 --> 0:05:55.520 a song about divorce, right, Yeah, this was turning the 0:05:55.600 --> 0:05:58.680 Ring and Spinky Ring. That was the disk because it's 0:05:58.720 --> 0:06:02.039 like right in my heart, that was me saying. That 0:06:02.160 --> 0:06:04.560 was me saying, as opposed to sitting in the dark 0:06:04.600 --> 0:06:06.880 room crying my eyes out, I'm gonna keep it pushing, 0:06:06.880 --> 0:06:08.680 I'm gonna keep it pimping. That's that was what I 0:06:08.720 --> 0:06:12.240 was saying. But that's what that's what guys do. You know, 0:06:12.279 --> 0:06:14.200 that's what guys be doing the breakup. I feel like 0:06:14.279 --> 0:06:17.680 guy on y'all breakup. No, they try to like act 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:20.400 like they're okay, and you know, just brush it off 0:06:20.440 --> 0:06:22.919 and keep it moving. But then it comes back and 0:06:22.960 --> 0:06:25.760 affects you later because you didn't do it, and then 0:06:25.760 --> 0:06:28.599 it hits you even harder and even harder. Very true, 0:06:28.720 --> 0:06:31.520 very true. Yeah, I won't to not none of that. Yeah. 0:06:31.560 --> 0:06:34.360 I wrote the song uh pretty much the night that 0:06:34.440 --> 0:06:37.000 you know, the argument happened that caused. It caused us 0:06:37.000 --> 0:06:40.239 to to like separating and uh, it was a rant, 0:06:40.360 --> 0:06:43.320 but it was a classy rant. Okay, I'm not I'm 0:06:43.360 --> 0:06:46.800 not that dude like that because I'm not gonna do that. 0:06:46.800 --> 0:06:48.440 That's still the mother of my kids. At the end 0:06:48.480 --> 0:06:50.719 of the day, I'm saying, I'm never gonna I'm never 0:06:50.880 --> 0:06:52.840 I'm not that guy. She got to live in unfair 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:55.000 that like he might write a song about me. I 0:06:55.000 --> 0:06:59.360 gotta get like, like I decided to do nothing is 0:06:59.400 --> 0:07:05.279 inspired many songs she ain't work And then you want 0:07:05.360 --> 0:07:07.200 right now, write the new song right now. I don't 0:07:07.200 --> 0:07:10.640 want nobody else you to love, you to love I 0:07:10.800 --> 0:07:14.720 love it, Yes you the love feature my man Jeremiah. Um, 0:07:14.760 --> 0:07:16.920 I gotta I gotta give credit where credit is due. 0:07:17.200 --> 0:07:20.040 A lot of this song was was Jeremih already like 0:07:20.160 --> 0:07:22.320 when he brought it to me. The beat was done, 0:07:22.680 --> 0:07:24.640 the hook was already on it, his verse was done. 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:26.280 All I did was at the parts that you did me. 0:07:27.080 --> 0:07:29.920 And that was that. So I got man, gotta get 0:07:29.920 --> 0:07:32.960 that man his props. But that must have been perfect. 0:07:33.240 --> 0:07:36.360 You're usually one right in the songs, right, so that 0:07:36.440 --> 0:07:39.760 must have been due. I wanted to I've been a 0:07:39.760 --> 0:07:41.400 fan of Jeremi for a really long time, and I 0:07:41.400 --> 0:07:43.000 wanted to work with him for a really long time. 0:07:43.000 --> 0:07:46.640 It's just whatever the schedules, you know, situation circumstances causing 0:07:46.680 --> 0:07:49.320 not to happen. I'm in a studio working on this 0:07:49.400 --> 0:07:53.520 album with my man, rock Star, you know rock Star. Yeah, 0:07:53.680 --> 0:07:56.120 all right, so you dope produce a dope writer. So 0:07:56.160 --> 0:07:58.600 we're working together. We're having a conversation about people I 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:00.840 want to work with that I haven't yet. I mentioned 0:08:00.880 --> 0:08:06.200 Jeremiah Litening goes, oh wait, time up. Jeremy pulled up 0:08:06.240 --> 0:08:10.120 that night, two records that night, and one of Woman's 0:08:10.160 --> 0:08:12.200 is do You to Love Joining? So yeah, that's it's 0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:15.080 hard to get Jeremed into anything that's not music related 0:08:15.120 --> 0:08:18.640 and being in the studio related. But when it comes 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:24.880 to music, because that dude, that dude is a musician, 0:08:25.160 --> 0:08:26.760 you know what I mean. I think I think that 0:08:26.800 --> 0:08:30.600 in the music industry, you have musicians, you have you know, 0:08:31.000 --> 0:08:34.600 celebrities like stars, you know, like the front person, and 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:36.679 you have you have people that do it that do 0:08:36.720 --> 0:08:38.880 it form from a musical standpoint, and that's the that's 0:08:38.920 --> 0:08:41.040 the focal point, that's the important part. And I feel 0:08:41.080 --> 0:08:42.960 like that's kind of what Jeremiah is. Just like, you 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:45.440 know what, and I it's not so much about what 0:08:45.520 --> 0:08:47.160 I look like or what I'm wearing right now, listen 0:08:47.240 --> 0:08:49.560 to this joint. You know what I just did. It's back, 0:08:49.760 --> 0:08:52.800 you know, like that's that's the that's a different cloth. Man. 0:08:53.440 --> 0:08:55.240 Do you think that breaking up and getting back together 0:08:55.360 --> 0:08:57.720 might make your love stronger? Just because during the time 0:08:57.720 --> 0:09:01.400 of part you realize just how much you missed somebody 0:09:01.600 --> 0:09:03.959 or just the things that you need to change. And 0:09:04.120 --> 0:09:06.200 sometimes I think people break up and then they go 0:09:06.240 --> 0:09:07.880 out there and they try to find something else and 0:09:07.920 --> 0:09:10.199 it doesn't really work out, and then they realized what 0:09:10.320 --> 0:09:12.120 I had at home, that's the best thing I had. 0:09:12.640 --> 0:09:17.160 Uh yeah, I really couldn't said about myself. Yeah it was. 0:09:17.280 --> 0:09:19.319 You know what. It's like I said earlier. We we 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:24.560 tend to let the outside noise get real out, you know, 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:29.000 being opinions from friends, opinions of other people you know, 0:09:29.080 --> 0:09:30.840 you get know I g and get to reading comments 0:09:30.840 --> 0:09:33.440 and opinions from people you don't even know. You tend 0:09:33.480 --> 0:09:35.480 to let all this stuff become really really important to 0:09:35.480 --> 0:09:39.120 you for some reason, and it becomes definite to where 0:09:39.520 --> 0:09:42.880 you can't hear the person that's sitting right next to you, 0:09:42.960 --> 0:09:44.800 that's been right next to you when he was down, 0:09:44.880 --> 0:09:46.720 that's been right next to you when he was ugly, 0:09:46.760 --> 0:09:49.040 it's been right next to you when he was broke. 0:09:49.880 --> 0:09:51.760 You know, you can't hear that. You can't hear that 0:09:51.800 --> 0:09:54.640 person because all you hear is the loudness. So what's 0:09:54.640 --> 0:09:58.000 happening for worth? You know? So again, that's why when 0:09:58.000 --> 0:10:00.840 I when we were forced to sit down, you know, 0:10:00.960 --> 0:10:03.800 we got there. We got the opportunity to really look 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:06.920 at what's important. And what's important is the fact that 0:10:07.160 --> 0:10:09.080 I would die for you, you would die for me. 0:10:09.559 --> 0:10:12.400 That's the love that we share. Everything else we're supposed 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:14.640 to be able to work through. Everything else we supposed 0:10:14.640 --> 0:10:16.359 be able to work through on top of that foundation, 0:10:16.600 --> 0:10:19.000 and and here we are. I felt like the blog 0:10:19.080 --> 0:10:22.960 quickly tried to like pin y'all against each other and 0:10:23.160 --> 0:10:26.040 um one of the things that happened was that Crystal 0:10:26.160 --> 0:10:27.960 was seeing out at a party and she was with 0:10:28.240 --> 0:10:31.959 a guy from Black Ank Ryan. I So, how did 0:10:32.000 --> 0:10:34.559 that make you feel? When y'all are in a situation 0:10:34.600 --> 0:10:37.080 where y'all were kind of not talking, then you see 0:10:37.120 --> 0:10:40.120 something like that is that something where you call her 0:10:40.160 --> 0:10:43.760 immediately or did it kind of just confirmed to you 0:10:43.840 --> 0:10:46.000 that you're like, damn, this is really over, Like how 0:10:46.040 --> 0:10:50.720 did that work out? Um? I know Crystal. I know 0:10:50.800 --> 0:10:53.440 Crystal better than a lot of people, and I know one. 0:10:54.160 --> 0:10:56.200 I knew one hundred percent for a fact that it 0:10:56.280 --> 0:11:00.000 wasn't what everybody thought. It was, like, she's not that person. 0:11:00.640 --> 0:11:02.960 But also she also knew that was a good picture 0:11:03.000 --> 0:11:05.280 to make you mad. Yeah, that's what I was probably 0:11:06.520 --> 0:11:09.680 at least that's a good Hey, you guys, y'all know 0:11:09.840 --> 0:11:14.000 that's a good strategy. You always. I don't. I don't. 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:15.960 I don't doubt it. I don't doubt it. But I 0:11:16.040 --> 0:11:18.880 knew that it wasn't that, you know, because again, that's 0:11:19.160 --> 0:11:21.439 not who that's not who she is. That's how and 0:11:21.520 --> 0:11:25.160 I saw it, and I'm like, okay, um wow, that 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:30.120 is that is definitely petty. But I didn't. I wasn't. 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:31.880 I couldn't. I couldn't let it. I couldn't let it 0:11:31.920 --> 0:11:34.720 phase me. I didn't let it face. I had to again, 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:36.319 I had to keep a print and I had to 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:39.480 keep a pushing especially because at this point I'm surrounded 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:42.200 by all of you know, my my crew and everybody, 0:11:42.600 --> 0:11:44.160 and you know a lot of my friends like, yeah, 0:11:44.280 --> 0:11:49.439 we're single again. Why do guys very much keep that Yeah, 0:11:49.920 --> 0:11:51.480 well I'm all right, you know I'm saying. And then 0:11:51.480 --> 0:11:54.640 I give by myself. Yeah you know what they saying. Right, 0:11:54.679 --> 0:11:56.679 guys are the ones to celebrate the break up. But 0:11:56.800 --> 0:11:59.800 why did they do that? It's so annoying, Like then 0:12:00.320 --> 0:12:03.440 the friends are so happy, like, yes, you're a single again, 0:12:04.520 --> 0:12:08.240 while the girlfriends are like, oh no, girl, you're gonna 0:12:08.280 --> 0:12:12.880 be okay, we got you back girl. Exactly what happens, 0:12:12.960 --> 0:12:15.280 especially if the majority of your friends are single too, 0:12:15.840 --> 0:12:21.360 like they want you to bring the They also don't 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:23.520 care if they're single or not. Majority of them, your 0:12:23.520 --> 0:12:29.720 married friends are like, yeah, we're single again, and I 0:12:29.720 --> 0:12:31.320 shout out to you, I got I got on my 0:12:31.360 --> 0:12:34.840 good brother shore. I saw you were giving the merchant 0:12:35.120 --> 0:12:39.200 shout out to Von not in a relationship. Now that's 0:12:39.280 --> 0:12:41.200 and you had a baby and everything. So that's joke. 0:12:42.480 --> 0:12:45.719 Did anybody embarrass theirselves with you, like as far as 0:12:45.800 --> 0:12:47.880 maybe jump out the window and black You know, I've 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:51.400 been waiting for you to to get a not in 0:12:51.440 --> 0:12:53.560 those exact words, but like I've been waiting for you 0:12:53.600 --> 0:12:58.760 to break upside get my yeah, and then and then 0:12:59.160 --> 0:13:02.240 and then my way say, I will say that my 0:13:02.360 --> 0:13:04.760 d ms were more active than than they had been 0:13:04.760 --> 0:13:09.880 in along once knowledge of the divorce hit. But even 0:13:09.920 --> 0:13:12.360 more so than people jumping out the window, it was 0:13:12.400 --> 0:13:14.320 a lot of people that was that that started telling 0:13:14.320 --> 0:13:19.680 me about myself because I and in the relationship, Um, 0:13:19.720 --> 0:13:23.240 I allowed myself to change behind my marriage, like like 0:13:23.280 --> 0:13:25.880 I became a different person to to my friends and 0:13:25.920 --> 0:13:27.640 became a different person to the people that I worked 0:13:27.640 --> 0:13:31.240 with behind my marriage. And and you know that was 0:13:31.280 --> 0:13:33.080 part that was one part of that was one part 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:35.360 of what we had to work on. That I got 0:13:35.360 --> 0:13:36.800 into a place where I felt like I couldn't be 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:39.200 me around her, you know what I mean. I don't 0:13:39.200 --> 0:13:40.920 know how we got there. I don't know what that was, 0:13:41.080 --> 0:13:44.000 but I got into that place, and uh and and 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:46.720 it became evident, you know, whenever we were hanging around 0:13:46.720 --> 0:13:48.920 with my friends, you know, when my friends aren't there 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:50.320 on one way, then when she shows up, I would 0:13:50.360 --> 0:13:53.680 come another way. And it's like I didn't even realize it. 0:13:54.000 --> 0:13:56.200 So like, you know, when I when I went to 0:13:56.240 --> 0:13:58.240 my friends, like hey, I think I'm getting a divorce. 0:13:58.400 --> 0:14:01.439 It became a you know what, brother, I'm gonna say nothing. 0:14:02.679 --> 0:14:06.319 You ain't you what? You ain't you in this marriage? 0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:09.080 Like something's wrong because you're not you. I don't know what, 0:14:09.280 --> 0:14:11.800 but you you're not you in this marriage. And I 0:14:11.800 --> 0:14:14.080 don't know if this is what needs to happen or whatever, 0:14:14.120 --> 0:14:16.880 But now that you're in this place, now I can 0:14:16.920 --> 0:14:19.480 tell you you ain't you at for whatever reason, you're 0:14:19.480 --> 0:14:21.880 not you in this marriage? You know so, I mean 0:14:22.000 --> 0:14:25.360 I paid attention to that. I paid attention to, you know, 0:14:25.440 --> 0:14:27.680 just what I would feel when she would come around, 0:14:27.680 --> 0:14:29.760 and I and I realized what it was and needed 0:14:29.800 --> 0:14:32.480 to happen. What what conversation we needed to have. We 0:14:32.520 --> 0:14:35.880 had that conversation. We're in a great space now, you know. 0:14:35.960 --> 0:14:37.680 And and my and my friends. The cool thing is 0:14:37.720 --> 0:14:39.400 that my friends see it's who they see now. They 0:14:39.400 --> 0:14:41.960 can see that, you know, I don't feel like I 0:14:42.040 --> 0:14:44.720 have to become another person when she's around. I can 0:14:44.760 --> 0:14:47.160 be who I am, you know, around I can be 0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:51.240 me around everybody there. Well, were these different people like 0:14:51.320 --> 0:14:55.960 how do you what's different? Like what's different when? Yeah, 0:14:56.000 --> 0:14:57.680 like what it's different when you're around your friends that 0:14:57.720 --> 0:14:59.720 you feel like you had you had to back then 0:15:00.360 --> 0:15:03.120 change like what is it that was different when she 0:15:03.240 --> 0:15:06.040 was just differently these different elements of my personality, you 0:15:06.080 --> 0:15:09.040 know what I'm saying. Like some uh some might some 0:15:09.320 --> 0:15:13.360 a person might say that I'm a bit flirtatious. Person 0:15:13.440 --> 0:15:17.080 might say that, you know what I mean, And uh, 0:15:17.240 --> 0:15:20.359 I don't mean it to come to come across flirtatious. 0:15:20.600 --> 0:15:23.680 I'm just a very friendly person. And there was a 0:15:23.680 --> 0:15:27.560 point in our relationship where uh that became that became 0:15:27.600 --> 0:15:30.280 an issue, the point of relationship with that became an issue. 0:15:30.280 --> 0:15:32.160 I could see that point where I felt like, all right, 0:15:32.520 --> 0:15:38.720 all right, uh, wife, he's around, let me to try 0:15:38.760 --> 0:15:43.200 to avoid us getting into a potential argument later and 0:15:43.200 --> 0:15:44.840 and that, you know, and that maybe that got me 0:15:44.840 --> 0:15:47.040 the feeling like, Okay, if I can't be who I 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:51.120 am with you, then maybe we shouldn't be together because 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:53.600 who I am is who I am is person that 0:15:53.640 --> 0:15:57.720 I am. I'm not being because because you're around and 0:15:57.720 --> 0:15:58.960 I don't I don't think that, I don't think that 0:15:59.040 --> 0:16:01.280 I should have to be. But then she also said, 0:16:01.320 --> 0:16:03.600 all right, well, I don't mind you being you, but 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:07.160 you you definitely know the line between being you know 0:16:07.240 --> 0:16:13.120 the right. So so it really became again us going 0:16:13.160 --> 0:16:15.760 all right, what is it that's wrong with me? As 0:16:15.760 --> 0:16:17.880 opposed what is it that's wrong with you. It's kind 0:16:17.880 --> 0:16:20.040 of like, right, I didn't know the line between flirting 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:22.280 and and being and being funny. I know thee I 0:16:22.320 --> 0:16:25.520 know when it's all right, But that's that's a bit toofore. 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:29.000 I know, I know, we all know. We get we 0:16:29.040 --> 0:16:30.760 see what we can get away with. That's just kind 0:16:30.760 --> 0:16:33.360 of that's just what people tend to do in relationships 0:16:33.480 --> 0:16:35.960 with you don't ever want to do something like if 0:16:36.000 --> 0:16:38.040 you can't do it with your wife there and you 0:16:38.080 --> 0:16:40.040 would be uncomfortable, then you shouldn't be doing it. But 0:16:40.160 --> 0:16:43.920 she's not. That's always a good thing to see what's 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:46.440 appropriate and what's not, Like if I'm comfortable and she's 0:16:46.480 --> 0:16:49.080 here and I and I said this or acted this way, 0:16:49.200 --> 0:16:51.240 and then when she's not here, because I think you 0:16:51.240 --> 0:16:53.120 can really measure a person by how they act when 0:16:53.160 --> 0:16:56.200 you're not around. Right, That's but I feel like, still 0:16:56.280 --> 0:16:58.760 on on the other on the flip side of it, 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:01.680 it's kind of like you can't make someone feel so 0:17:01.760 --> 0:17:06.240 suffocating with being the souths if that's his personality, Yes, 0:17:06.359 --> 0:17:08.560 like you said, there's a line that needs to be drawn. 0:17:08.760 --> 0:17:10.440 But that's why I feel like you both have to 0:17:10.840 --> 0:17:12.920 had to work on each other because it's kind of like, 0:17:12.960 --> 0:17:16.080 what is my insecurity that I feel like I can't 0:17:16.119 --> 0:17:18.359 just let him flirt with people and just in a 0:17:18.440 --> 0:17:21.280 friendly way. Maybe you might take it too far after 0:17:21.320 --> 0:17:23.520 a while because you take everything. You know what I 0:17:23.520 --> 0:17:25.240 mean like, Okay, he's gonna go too far. I know 0:17:25.280 --> 0:17:27.639 he's gonna go too far. So I get what you're saying. 0:17:27.640 --> 0:17:31.359 We're both sides hold out ladies. Now, y'are not letting 0:17:31.400 --> 0:17:34.440 your man de flirtations? I know, but you also don't 0:17:34.440 --> 0:17:36.920 want some because I did have a similar problem where 0:17:37.240 --> 0:17:40.760 I would change my personality around the person that I've 0:17:40.800 --> 0:17:44.159 been told that before. Did I've changed my personality around, 0:17:44.200 --> 0:17:47.320 But it's because they take that things that you would do. 0:17:47.600 --> 0:17:52.879 So now you feel like, damn everything, I'm doing it. 0:17:51.440 --> 0:17:54.800 But then the conversation you're supposed to go, all right, 0:17:55.280 --> 0:17:57.640 if this is what it is, okay, so you tell me, 0:17:57.800 --> 0:18:00.520 you tell me what's the line for you? I know 0:18:00.560 --> 0:18:01.760 what the line. I know what the line is. I 0:18:01.800 --> 0:18:03.200 know what I feel like the line is. You tell 0:18:03.240 --> 0:18:05.199 me what the line is to you and we and 0:18:05.359 --> 0:18:09.000 we compromise. We find a way to where both parties 0:18:09.040 --> 0:18:11.840 can be happy with the outcome. Like, that's what compromises 0:18:11.880 --> 0:18:14.600 supposed to be. All right, it's not completely you and 0:18:14.600 --> 0:18:17.239 it's not completely mean. We've both been that we can 0:18:17.280 --> 0:18:21.840 meet in the middle, and let's talk about to do. 0:18:22.840 --> 0:18:25.560 Let's talk about something antients were discussing it right now. Okay, 0:18:25.600 --> 0:18:29.680 so is this taking it too far? Right? If somebody 0:18:29.680 --> 0:18:31.840 says a girl that your friends sits on your lap 0:18:32.040 --> 0:18:36.240 but it's not in a sexual way, but maybe just 0:18:36.880 --> 0:18:39.320 not enough room in the car, Like, what's the reason 0:18:41.000 --> 0:18:44.800 why this happened? I don't know. Actually, just feels comfortable 0:18:44.880 --> 0:18:46.360 enough to do that, you know how some people are 0:18:46.400 --> 0:18:53.320 just super friendly acting. Um, yeah, that's just I can't 0:18:53.359 --> 0:18:58.199 let Yeah I'm not that's not that's crossing. Okay, what okay? 0:18:58.240 --> 0:19:01.199 What about just coming and hug and a kiss on 0:19:01.200 --> 0:19:05.080 the cheek? Is that okay? Um? I mean yeah, yeah, 0:19:05.119 --> 0:19:08.040 it depends on it depends on the situation. Yeah, that's fine, 0:19:08.560 --> 0:19:11.399 that's fine. Now again okay, so so the kiss on 0:19:11.400 --> 0:19:15.359 the cheek, there's a friendly kiss on the cheek, and 0:19:15.400 --> 0:19:17.200 then there's a kiss on the cheek that clearly needs 0:19:17.240 --> 0:19:19.200 more than a kiss on the cheek. It's like half 0:19:19.240 --> 0:19:22.719 on the mouth, half on the cheek again, you know, 0:19:23.280 --> 0:19:25.439 you know, you know the lines. Now what you do 0:19:25.560 --> 0:19:27.400 is how you do it? They do that, and then 0:19:27.400 --> 0:19:29.040 there's and then there's a not so filing way to 0:19:29.040 --> 0:19:31.879 do that. Okay, Now what if you're in the club 0:19:32.000 --> 0:19:33.960 and the girl is next to you in the club 0:19:34.280 --> 0:19:36.320 and she leans her head on your shoulder for a second? 0:19:36.440 --> 0:19:45.000 Is that too much? Why was you Angela? That is 0:19:45.000 --> 0:19:50.240 it like some sleepy like just like I'm so tired 0:19:50.280 --> 0:19:52.439 of being in the club, you know, and then next thing, 0:19:52.480 --> 0:19:57.240 you know, there's a picture everywhere. You know, if you 0:19:57.280 --> 0:20:00.280 can't even explain that, Yeah, I think I think one 0:20:00.320 --> 0:20:02.760 part of it is is again like it's it's very 0:20:02.760 --> 0:20:04.119 good the thing that you said. You know, if you 0:20:04.119 --> 0:20:06.560 wouldn't be comfortable doing it with your significant other there, 0:20:06.720 --> 0:20:08.639 you probably should do it. Yeah, you don't want to 0:20:08.640 --> 0:20:14.040 put yourself in position to to to even to even 0:20:14.040 --> 0:20:17.080 create confusion like so, well I would so I wouldn't 0:20:17.119 --> 0:20:18.800 have no girls sitting next to me and then put 0:20:18.840 --> 0:20:20.840 her head on my shoulders where somebody can stop to 0:20:20.840 --> 0:20:23.040 get you to where Now we have confusions about what 0:20:23.080 --> 0:20:27.600 happens and this this thing come on a little bit girl, 0:20:27.760 --> 0:20:32.200