WEBVTT - Ep 344: I Don't Owe This Country My Trauma 0:00:06.200 --> 0:00:14.440 Hey, hey, hey, we're back. We're black, We're brown, we're brown, 0:00:14.720 --> 0:00:18.160 we're broad ambition ambitions. 0:00:20.440 --> 0:00:22.560 I can never. I can never join in because you 0:00:22.640 --> 0:00:27.720 be changing the I do the lyrics. 0:00:28.920 --> 0:00:29.360 I never. 0:00:30.600 --> 0:00:34.280 How are you today? I'm doing good? How are you good? 0:00:34.280 --> 0:00:36.479 You see my African sweatshirt? You know, I was the 0:00:36.479 --> 0:00:38.959 first thing I saw. First I saw African, and then 0:00:38.960 --> 0:00:41.360 I saw the lashes, and I'll, yeah, I'll come to 0:00:41.400 --> 0:00:43.720 play today. I did not come to play with the girls. 0:00:43.760 --> 0:00:46.120 Okay, I have see If you watched this on YouTube, 0:00:46.120 --> 0:00:48.360 you would see my lashed out face, you know. 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:50.280 But you know, some of y'all just not up on 0:00:50.320 --> 0:00:53.040 it yet. Go to YouTube. They're very subtle though. I 0:00:53.040 --> 0:00:55.400 can tell. They make your eyes pop, but they're not 0:00:55.520 --> 0:00:58.920 giving like ru Paul drag queen. Yeah, what's something wrong 0:00:58.960 --> 0:01:00.760 with that? But it's just that's just this day, complete 0:01:00.880 --> 0:01:01.480 time in the place. 0:01:01.520 --> 0:01:01.680 You know. 0:01:02.000 --> 0:01:03.880 Yeah, this is giving mink. 0:01:04.000 --> 0:01:07.480 I'm I'm cute and African for my Yeah, I'm not 0:01:07.480 --> 0:01:09.920 gonna lie. My skin is glowing, my lips is popping, 0:01:10.080 --> 0:01:11.800 my lash is a property. I'm feeling myself today. 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:13.759 You got like a side. Whenever you have the side, pony, 0:01:13.760 --> 0:01:15.680 I feel like tips here to like have a good time, 0:01:17.800 --> 0:01:21.039 not side pony tip. Yeah, it's like a little you know, 0:01:21.080 --> 0:01:23.960 a little like to the to the right purpose. It 0:01:24.040 --> 0:01:29.720 is intentional. I know, I know. I'm appreciating it. Oh man, 0:01:29.840 --> 0:01:32.920 oh man, oh man. There's so much going on. Last 0:01:32.959 --> 0:01:35.520 week was intense. Rio was sick all dayn week and 0:01:35.560 --> 0:01:39.759 your girl, I'm trying. I'm not gonna I'm not going 0:01:39.800 --> 0:01:41.920 to and I'm not going to put it into the universe. 0:01:42.000 --> 0:01:44.040 What you're hearing because I know what you're hearing is 0:01:44.080 --> 0:01:46.640 similar to what we started to hear at the end 0:01:46.640 --> 0:01:48.680 of last year when I was like on death's bed 0:01:48.680 --> 0:01:52.080 every day. But I'm just gonna pretend like this is 0:01:52.080 --> 0:01:54.880 not going to turn into a thing. I've got some 0:01:54.880 --> 0:01:58.280 some teas and we're just gonna we're just gonna think 0:01:58.400 --> 0:02:01.960 ourselves out of this virus. What we're going to be doing. God, 0:02:02.000 --> 0:02:04.600 it's like it's so hard though, because and this is 0:02:04.600 --> 0:02:06.360 the argument that me and my husband have all the time. 0:02:06.440 --> 0:02:08.960 Like he works full time. He works with the federal government, 0:02:09.000 --> 0:02:11.959 and he has he has an important job like helping 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:15.880 put bad people away, and he has to go to 0:02:15.919 --> 0:02:18.280 court a lot, and like he has to be in 0:02:18.320 --> 0:02:20.240 the office every day. He's got a very much nine 0:02:20.280 --> 0:02:22.560 to five or a day like today he's working nine 0:02:22.600 --> 0:02:24.720 to ten, like he'll be in Brooklyn all night doing 0:02:24.720 --> 0:02:28.960 trial prep. So I'm batty entrepreneur and I will I'm 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:33.040 not trying to brag, but despite leaving corporate and starting 0:02:33.040 --> 0:02:35.560 a brand new business, I still I'm still the breadwinner. 0:02:35.880 --> 0:02:41.240 You know, I still earn more. So I'm not I'm 0:02:41.280 --> 0:02:43.600 a huge I would make a very good contribution to 0:02:43.639 --> 0:02:47.120 our household finances, and yet I am the on call 0:02:47.639 --> 0:02:52.000 parent whenever rio sick. And my job is so flexible, 0:02:52.360 --> 0:02:55.320 you know, or it's seen that way, but it's so hard. 0:02:55.480 --> 0:02:58.640 Like last week, it really killed me because it's just 0:02:58.680 --> 0:03:01.320 really challenging for anyone like it brought me. It just 0:03:01.320 --> 0:03:03.119 brings me back to the dark days of the pandemic 0:03:03.160 --> 0:03:05.920 when I was like juggling, and I mean the brain 0:03:06.600 --> 0:03:08.480 capacity that you have when you when you have your 0:03:08.560 --> 0:03:10.760 kid at home, and yeah, you have your computer and 0:03:10.800 --> 0:03:13.960 you have your apps and stuff, but it's just so exhausting, 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:16.959 the mental toll on top of already like being pregnant 0:03:17.360 --> 0:03:19.880 on top of that, Like it was so hard and 0:03:20.600 --> 0:03:23.800 really depressing almost because I just felt like I wasn't 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:27.280 able to give my all all week, and so I 0:03:27.320 --> 0:03:29.040 came and I sat down at my desk this morning. 0:03:29.080 --> 0:03:30.760 I almost got a little emotional. I'm just like, I'm 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:34.560 so happy, like if Rio's back in daycare, I could 0:03:34.680 --> 0:03:37.360 just focus with one hundred percent of my brain, you know, 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:39.520 And I sometimes I guess it's just a little bit 0:03:39.560 --> 0:03:42.600 of mourning, like I'm in I'm mourn a little bit 0:03:43.240 --> 0:03:45.120 the time when I not that I took it for 0:03:45.160 --> 0:03:47.560 granted because I used it when I had it, but 0:03:48.480 --> 0:03:51.160 the time when I could just one hundred percent be 0:03:51.720 --> 0:03:54.360 focused on whatever I needed to be focused on, you know, 0:03:54.400 --> 0:03:57.200 and not have to pull myself in a million different 0:03:57.200 --> 0:03:58.600 directions day after day. 0:03:58.760 --> 0:04:01.120 You know, it's crazy because now but like I do, 0:04:01.200 --> 0:04:02.840 because you know, I don't really have to look after anywhere. 0:04:02.840 --> 0:04:05.640 I mean, Supergirl states with me one weekend of the month. 0:04:06.360 --> 0:04:09.000 But honestly, she's sixteen, and a black sixteen is like 0:04:09.400 --> 0:04:11.640 everybody else twenty five. You know, she grown, She's a 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:15.520 grown woman. I cash out her her money and she's like, 0:04:15.560 --> 0:04:17.080 I'm going to get my own dinner. I'm like, okay, 0:04:17.120 --> 0:04:20.360 so let's go off. So I don't have to really 0:04:20.400 --> 0:04:24.040 look after anyone, And so I used to think, like, oh, 0:04:24.080 --> 0:04:25.960 if I had all the time and energy to look 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:28.359 after just I would just be a beast girl. 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:30.400 The only beast I do is walking. 0:04:31.040 --> 0:04:36.240 Like surprisingly, it's not you know, I'm just I'm not 0:04:36.600 --> 0:04:41.760 using this like time necessarily to like you know, like 0:04:41.920 --> 0:04:44.599 re up on the work, you know, because certainly you 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:47.320 know I can do whatever whenever. I could travel with 0:04:47.360 --> 0:04:49.120 I mean, you know, I don't have to. I don't 0:04:49.160 --> 0:04:53.040 have to navigate around anyone else's schedule. But yeah, it's funny, 0:04:53.040 --> 0:04:55.520 how you know you think, like if I had all 0:04:55.560 --> 0:04:56.840 the time, this is what I would do. It's like 0:04:56.880 --> 0:04:58.440 when I moved out of my parents' house for the 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:00.320 first time when I was twenty two. I was you know, 0:05:00.400 --> 0:05:04.000 when I move ound, I'm clubbing every night. I'm going 0:05:04.080 --> 0:05:09.120 now I'm gonna be grown girl. I was home Monday 0:05:09.279 --> 0:05:14.120 through Sunday and my buzzy slippers and like, you know, 0:05:14.400 --> 0:05:17.679 the oldest twenty two year old, you know. So sometimes 0:05:17.680 --> 0:05:19.240 you think, like, oh, if I had all the space 0:05:19.240 --> 0:05:21.560 and whatever, you probably would just use it just to 0:05:21.600 --> 0:05:24.040 like wusai anyway. So I mean I just say all 0:05:24.080 --> 0:05:27.880 that to say, I don't know, like today, I'm talking 0:05:27.880 --> 0:05:29.280 to my sister Carol. You know, she's got the two 0:05:29.320 --> 0:05:31.320 little ones of a room in seven and Amelia is 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:34.159 Mimi's five, And like, I don't know how she gets 0:05:34.160 --> 0:05:39.200 anything done, you know, because like there's times when you know, 0:05:39.560 --> 0:05:43.240 she works for me, she's my efficiency's manager, and there's 0:05:43.320 --> 0:05:45.880 times when I don't know who could be a better 0:05:45.920 --> 0:05:48.680 efficiencies manager than a mom of two little kids, you know, 0:05:48.839 --> 0:05:51.440 because there are times when I'm like, you know, like 0:05:51.480 --> 0:05:53.440 we'll have a meeting and I look at the time 0:05:53.480 --> 0:05:56.440 and I'm like, I know it's pick up. So somehow 0:05:56.480 --> 0:05:59.800 she's outing them to the car, listening on in contributing, 0:06:00.160 --> 0:06:01.880 getting back, and you know, when they get back, Mammy, 0:06:01.920 --> 0:06:03.640 I want this, And I just I don't know how 0:06:03.720 --> 0:06:04.599 y'all do it, honestly. 0:06:05.000 --> 0:06:07.880 Yeah, like we can do it, We like do it well, 0:06:07.920 --> 0:06:11.520 but it's the it's the mental tax afterward. And you're right, like, 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:13.560 and to your point, one of the things that I've 0:06:13.600 --> 0:06:17.279 been trying to work on is not mentally punishing myself 0:06:17.320 --> 0:06:20.440 when after all day, you know, and then it's not 0:06:20.480 --> 0:06:22.440 just like he's at home reading a book on his own, 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:25.400 he's three years old. He wants me in a certain 0:06:25.640 --> 0:06:28.119 he wants me on the chaise lounge portion of our couch, 0:06:28.240 --> 0:06:30.240 not on they other seat. And if I try to 0:06:30.279 --> 0:06:31.880 sit on the edge so that I can like watch 0:06:31.880 --> 0:06:33.920 what's happening in the air fryer or see if Molly, 0:06:34.040 --> 0:06:36.799 He's like, no, Mama, sit back, and he like shoves 0:06:36.839 --> 0:06:38.680 me to the back of the couch. He wants to 0:06:38.720 --> 0:06:41.880 be in the nook with you know, his favorite YouTube 0:06:41.880 --> 0:06:44.080 show on and that's where he's happiest. And you know, 0:06:44.640 --> 0:06:46.120 so it's not like I can get up and be 0:06:46.160 --> 0:06:48.760 doing things so that, you know, but I'm I'm trying 0:06:48.760 --> 0:06:52.719 to get better about because it's so mentally draining that 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:55.440 I'm not you know, at the end, when he's in bed, 0:06:55.720 --> 0:06:57.880 I go to bed. I'm not working in the I'm 0:06:57.920 --> 0:07:00.400 not trying to work, you know, to make up for 0:07:00.400 --> 0:07:02.680 the hours that I lost because I would just die. 0:07:03.839 --> 0:07:06.840 And that's okay, And like I so I let that 0:07:06.880 --> 0:07:09.040 go for the week. I'm just like, less's gonna get done. 0:07:09.160 --> 0:07:13.040 Meanings are gonna get canceled and moved and everything. But yeah, there, 0:07:13.320 --> 0:07:16.320 it's it's I'm just like it's it's hard, and it 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:20.400 does feel good to be especially now that it's like 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:23.680 the six season, like every day is not promised. We 0:07:23.760 --> 0:07:27.400 have to you know, hang in there. But yeah, thanks 0:07:27.400 --> 0:07:30.000 for the encouragement and for anyone going through the same thing, 0:07:30.120 --> 0:07:33.440 like get your rest, you know. I just I think 0:07:33.520 --> 0:07:36.560 about Homeboy number two is kicking the crap out of me, 0:07:36.840 --> 0:07:39.200 and I'm just like, I feel you in there. I 0:07:39.200 --> 0:07:40.040 haven't forgotten about you. 0:07:40.120 --> 0:07:43.360 I'm gonna take a nap, okay, Mama, go and take 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:46.560 a nap. But I know, yeah, yeah, I'm like, I 0:07:46.640 --> 0:07:50.200 literally I just look at I'm just I am always 0:07:50.200 --> 0:07:51.760 in awe of moms because. 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:55.600 I'm just like houses and I just have the one. 0:07:55.720 --> 0:07:58.960 I just especially when moms of like, you know, multiples, 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:01.760 Like I look at my mom five. 0:08:01.560 --> 0:08:07.320 Girl, sister, I know, are you crazy for YouTube and iPads? Girl? 0:08:07.560 --> 0:08:08.480 She will have to stay at home. 0:08:08.520 --> 0:08:11.400 Mom Sylvia was a nurse, a full time nurse, and 0:08:11.440 --> 0:08:13.720 I didn't know until later the bread winner to your 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:18.280 point and cooked every night, you know, and like I 0:08:18.440 --> 0:08:22.000 just I don't know, you know, Like I said my mom, whever. 0:08:21.720 --> 0:08:23.080 I asked her how does she do it, She's always 0:08:23.080 --> 0:08:25.200 like I wouldn't recommend it. I'm like, yeah, I know, 0:08:26.480 --> 0:08:28.280 it's like trauma. You just have to like you just 0:08:28.320 --> 0:08:29.800 go through. You have no choice, you know. 0:08:30.360 --> 0:08:33.440 But honestly, you know, if you have your one wild one, 0:08:33.440 --> 0:08:34.800 you never know because I was a wild one that 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:35.680 calls all the trouble. 0:08:35.960 --> 0:08:38.480 Seemingly, that's what they say. I don't believe it, but 0:08:38.520 --> 0:08:40.079 look I look after them so well. Now. 0:08:40.080 --> 0:08:42.439 I told my mother the days of struggle and sacrifice 0:08:42.480 --> 0:08:45.760 are over that if you need something or one, you know, 0:08:45.840 --> 0:08:48.000 I send them money every month. I take care of 0:08:48.000 --> 0:08:49.640 whatever the house needs. The house is paid off. I 0:08:49.679 --> 0:08:52.240 paid it off. But if there's anything that you need, 0:08:52.720 --> 0:08:55.079 you know, like, don't hesitate to ask you. You are 0:08:55.120 --> 0:08:57.600 not to struggle anymore. 0:08:58.000 --> 0:08:58.200 You know. 0:08:58.679 --> 0:09:01.920 You poured into us and we are now here, thankfully 0:09:01.920 --> 0:09:04.080 to be able to pour back into you. And the 0:09:04.160 --> 0:09:07.200 other day, Lisa the Baby sent me a picture of 0:09:07.200 --> 0:09:08.680 my mom. My mom was getting like I don't know 0:09:08.720 --> 0:09:11.640 lately she's been doing photo shoots because why not, and 0:09:11.720 --> 0:09:13.000 she was in full Africa. 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:14.840 Girl. 0:09:15.000 --> 0:09:16.640 Don't I love it. 0:09:17.360 --> 0:09:19.240 We did like a family one which they're really cute, 0:09:19.240 --> 0:09:20.640 like with jeans and a white shirt and all this 0:09:20.720 --> 0:09:23.480 other stuff she had us do, like when like Thanksgiving 0:09:23.480 --> 0:09:26.320 came because my sister Karen was here from Chicago and so, 0:09:26.520 --> 0:09:28.600 but I guess my mother was like, girl, I need 0:09:28.600 --> 0:09:31.839 my own. So Lisa sent us pictures like because Lisa 0:09:31.840 --> 0:09:34.120 did her makeup. And first of all, my mother I 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:36.480 was like, I've never seen this African outfit. Clearly it's new. 0:09:36.600 --> 0:09:39.000 She's like, don't worry mine, this is this is where 0:09:39.000 --> 0:09:42.360 the money is going. She looked amazing. I said, this 0:09:42.440 --> 0:09:46.640 is what well rested, soft life Sylvia looks like, you know, 0:09:46.760 --> 0:09:48.800 and I love it for her. When I tell you 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:51.480 she looked so good. I just such a good idea. 0:09:51.520 --> 0:09:54.000 I want to do that. Yeah, Mom, she'd be so comfortable. 0:09:54.160 --> 0:09:56.160 That's such a good idea. What a great gift. Even 0:09:56.160 --> 0:09:57.560 I know she did do it for herself, which is 0:09:57.559 --> 0:10:01.320 even more badass. But yeah, that's so amazing. You're gonna 0:10:01.320 --> 0:10:04.120 look I mean, y'all are chairs shows pictures too forever? Well, 0:10:04.559 --> 0:10:07.120 should we get into some some buzz? There's a lot 0:10:07.160 --> 0:10:11.679 buzzn't I do wanna? Yeah? So should we should we 0:10:11.720 --> 0:10:14.800 start with some like lighted lighter stuff or should we 0:10:14.800 --> 0:10:16.480 say a word about first? Yeah? 0:10:16.840 --> 0:10:19.719 Okay, well we can't, but I honestly, yeah, that's how 0:10:19.840 --> 0:10:21.800 I want to keep it light with it. I just 0:10:22.200 --> 0:10:24.920 I said, I don't owe this country my trauma. I 0:10:24.960 --> 0:10:27.480 do not owe it in my sadness. And so I told, 0:10:27.520 --> 0:10:28.959 like my friends there, I had a few friends who 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:31.120 watched the video, and I was like, honestly, I'm not 0:10:31.160 --> 0:10:34.440 gonna watch no. And if I did not watch George Floor, 0:10:34.480 --> 0:10:37.200 I refew. Here's the thing that I thought was so crazy. 0:10:37.200 --> 0:10:42.880 Amanda Seals mentioned this, Why the way they share this 0:10:43.000 --> 0:10:45.280 video as if it was a movie coming out. 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:48.360 Right, it was like a pay per view girling match. 0:10:48.760 --> 0:10:54.720 Yes, literally the way they yes black people down South, 0:10:55.280 --> 0:10:59.720 it became understepacal. That's where the word pick nick came from, 0:11:00.080 --> 0:11:02.520 that you would bring your food to watch a black 0:11:02.559 --> 0:11:06.200 person be murdered. And so the fact that the media 0:11:06.760 --> 0:11:08.480 all haild hands to say we're going to hold the 0:11:08.520 --> 0:11:11.320 video and drop it like it's the hottest new release 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:13.000 is sickening and disgusting. 0:11:13.280 --> 0:11:14.480 I don't want a description. 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:18.120 I don't want to know like this poor, poor young 0:11:18.200 --> 0:11:21.080 man whose life was just stolen from him in the 0:11:21.080 --> 0:11:23.400 most violent way. I don't want to see it. I 0:11:23.400 --> 0:11:26.920 don't want to hear you know how it happened. And 0:11:26.960 --> 0:11:29.800 I just am so sick of the United States of 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:34.760 how they display murdered black bodies for sport, you know, 0:11:35.440 --> 0:11:38.160 And so yeah. 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:38.960 I want the right people to see it, the people 0:11:38.960 --> 0:11:42.239 who can hold people accountable. But I don't necessarily understand 0:11:42.920 --> 0:11:44.760 why it has to be released publicly. I mean, I'm 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:47.120 wondering with the does the family get to decide? I 0:11:47.160 --> 0:11:50.480 don't know how all that happens. But yeah, I didn't 0:11:50.840 --> 0:11:53.560 watch it either. I spent some time on his and 0:11:53.600 --> 0:11:55.000 it was hard. I mean I spent some time on 0:11:55.000 --> 0:11:59.520 his his website. He has a photography website, and I 0:11:59.559 --> 0:12:02.120 just felt like I knew, you know, like he I 0:12:02.200 --> 0:12:03.560 just felt like I knew him or we would have 0:12:03.559 --> 0:12:05.640 been friends. You know, he's such a not that that 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:07.400 even matters. He's a human being at the end of 0:12:07.440 --> 0:12:09.560 the day. But you know his about me section on 0:12:09.600 --> 0:12:12.480 his website. I was reading that, looking at his photography 0:12:12.520 --> 0:12:15.080 and pictures of the sunset, like you know, in his 0:12:15.160 --> 0:12:19.280 skateboarding videos. So I mean, it's so it's it's obviously tragic, 0:12:19.360 --> 0:12:22.800 but I think if we learn about him and through 0:12:22.800 --> 0:12:25.440 his parents' voices, I was just trying to find that 0:12:25.920 --> 0:12:28.079 and protect yourselves. Like man, I was trying to watch 0:12:28.120 --> 0:12:29.520 the news this morning, and I was like, I'll turn 0:12:29.559 --> 0:12:31.960 on CBS. They're you know, they're not They're not usually 0:12:31.960 --> 0:12:34.839 so bad, but they showed clips that I really did 0:12:34.880 --> 0:12:37.040 not want to see, and I felt like I had 0:12:37.040 --> 0:12:40.240 been assaulted. Yeah, you know, looking for the remote like 0:12:40.280 --> 0:12:43.920 turn it off. And so I'm going to take a 0:12:43.920 --> 0:12:47.160 little I'm going to take a little break between. Yeah, 0:12:47.280 --> 0:12:50.200 but I just want to. Of course, we acknowledge and 0:12:50.520 --> 0:12:55.760 mourn Tyree Nichols and his senseless, tragic murder. We have 0:12:55.840 --> 0:13:00.240 to do better. We have to. It's unacceptable. It's what 0:13:00.440 --> 0:13:06.600 is happening. I know exactly, it's exactly all right. I 0:13:06.640 --> 0:13:09.040 want to talk a little bit about workplace for romance. 0:13:09.080 --> 0:13:12.120 Have you ever had a workplace romance? Tiff girl, Well, 0:13:12.160 --> 0:13:13.600 I know you kind of met your vella at work. 0:13:13.720 --> 0:13:19.320 I was the love of my life. 0:13:19.520 --> 0:13:24.640 I'm trying to think, Jarrell, no, because I that was 0:13:24.640 --> 0:13:26.920 like my first real job, my first and only real job. 0:13:26.960 --> 0:13:28.200 I was a teacher, and then that was it. 0:13:29.600 --> 0:13:31.559 Maybe some little internships, but I don't remember having I 0:13:31.600 --> 0:13:35.520 mean probably some little non consequential cross or something like that. 0:13:35.520 --> 0:13:37.520 But yeah, I met Jerell at work. So yeah, I 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:39.239 had me a little workplace with romance. 0:13:40.480 --> 0:13:42.800 I had it in my head for really like I 0:13:42.840 --> 0:13:44.840 when I started my career in my twenties, like never 0:13:44.920 --> 0:13:47.240 dated coworker, but it was when all the dating apps 0:13:47.240 --> 0:13:49.560 were coming on the scene, and like you would match 0:13:49.600 --> 0:13:51.439 with people at your office, Like I'd be kind of 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:57.560 scrolling on my launch brit I'd be like Steven, like 0:13:57.640 --> 0:13:59.600 I know that guy for real and no, no, okay, 0:13:59.640 --> 0:14:01.880 keep it know, But I didn't want to talk with 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:07.520 Amy Roebock and TJ Holmes have officially left ABC, like 0:14:07.600 --> 0:14:11.920 they have been pushed out because of their workplace romance, 0:14:12.000 --> 0:14:13.320 and I just wanted to get your thoughts on it, 0:14:13.320 --> 0:14:16.320 because honestly, I really feel like that was a little 0:14:16.400 --> 0:14:19.920 extra of ABC to like I don't understand what the 0:14:20.200 --> 0:14:24.480 I mean. I know that they were apparently not faithful 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:27.200 to their partners, but at the end of the day, 0:14:27.280 --> 0:14:30.440 like their equals on the set, so like why couldn't 0:14:30.480 --> 0:14:32.240 they have a relationship. But I don't know. I don't 0:14:32.240 --> 0:14:33.640 think it was that it was. 0:14:33.840 --> 0:14:35.360 I mean, I don't know about Amy, but like all 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:37.440 this other stuff came out about TJ with him being 0:14:37.440 --> 0:14:39.760 with interns, there was an intern that he had she 0:14:39.920 --> 0:14:42.680 was twenty four and wo and like a bunch of 0:14:42.720 --> 0:14:45.160 other people who were not his equals. I think the 0:14:45.200 --> 0:14:46.760 intern one might have been the one that pushed you 0:14:46.800 --> 0:14:50.600 because that you know, this young woman who's significantly younger, 0:14:50.720 --> 0:14:54.280 and you are a you know, this well known host, 0:14:54.440 --> 0:14:56.520 and you know she's an intern. So I think that 0:14:56.600 --> 0:14:59.680 I'm not sure why Amy was pushed out because from 0:14:59.720 --> 0:15:03.000 what I understand, her only workplace romance was TJ. But 0:15:03.080 --> 0:15:05.080 TJ had a number of them, and some of them 0:15:05.240 --> 0:15:08.000 certainly there was a power and balance that made it 0:15:08.400 --> 0:15:08.920 not okay. 0:15:09.080 --> 0:15:11.800 They didn't want like a Today Show Matt Lower kind 0:15:11.800 --> 0:15:15.640 of situation, oh okay, but like yeah, it just struck 0:15:15.680 --> 0:15:19.320 me as like a little too much in people's personal lives, 0:15:19.480 --> 0:15:21.960 and it must have been so horribly embarrassing for them 0:15:22.560 --> 0:15:25.560 and for their partners. My god, and TJ's wife was 0:15:25.600 --> 0:15:29.560 like a boss, you know, a high powered attorney. So 0:15:29.800 --> 0:15:32.080 I don't know for all parties involved, that is messy 0:15:32.120 --> 0:15:35.880 and sloppy, But yeah, I think my twenty year old's 0:15:35.920 --> 0:15:40.240 advice still stands like office work warmances just don't that. Plus, 0:15:40.280 --> 0:15:43.280 watching a few seasons of Below Deck last week, I 0:15:43.320 --> 0:15:46.520 know that you don't watch it, but people listening watch it. Okay, 0:15:47.000 --> 0:15:52.360 talk about workplace romance drama. I loves it. Okay, so good, 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:54.160 all right, how do you feel? 0:15:54.200 --> 0:15:54.280 So? 0:15:54.520 --> 0:15:57.320 OSCAR nominations came out I think last week. One of 0:15:57.360 --> 0:15:59.480 the two movies I think I saw in all of 0:15:59.520 --> 0:16:04.560 twenty two need to was Woman King, and there was 0:16:04.600 --> 0:16:06.680 a lot of news about or maybe there should have 0:16:06.680 --> 0:16:11.960 been more. No nominations for Viola Davis for the director. God, 0:16:12.000 --> 0:16:13.280 what was her name. I should have looked it up. 0:16:13.520 --> 0:16:19.440 She's a woman. But none for the supporting cast, like nothing. 0:16:20.440 --> 0:16:23.120 It was just shocking to me because that was like 0:16:23.200 --> 0:16:26.400 watch it did so well? Yeah, I didn't want I mean, 0:16:26.400 --> 0:16:30.160 I watched, you know, forever. I started to watch Woman King, 0:16:30.640 --> 0:16:32.680 but I don't know, these days, I can't stomach the 0:16:32.760 --> 0:16:34.520 violence that I used to be able to stomach before, 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:39.080 and so I just so I started to watch, and 0:16:39.120 --> 0:16:41.080 then when I realized it was about to get violence, 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:43.920 I said, uh, maybe later I walk because I definitely 0:16:43.920 --> 0:16:46.520 want to watch it, but I just I just can't 0:16:46.560 --> 0:16:50.800 stomach violence like I used to. You're watching to get home, Yeah, 0:16:51.320 --> 0:16:53.200 and it's really hard to sit through things all the 0:16:53.200 --> 0:16:55.720 way at home. Yeah, because like if your stomach starts 0:16:55.720 --> 0:16:57.640 to turn, you can turn to a millionaire. 0:16:57.760 --> 0:17:01.600 Channels, yes, and so I like, yeah, I started to 0:17:01.600 --> 0:17:03.720 watch when like the young girl was getting trained to be, 0:17:03.800 --> 0:17:08.480 you know, one of the warriors, and then I just 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:10.679 did yeah, Like I said, like, and you know, I 0:17:10.720 --> 0:17:14.600 think my inability or just I would say inability, just 0:17:14.720 --> 0:17:16.680 lack of desire to to. 0:17:18.200 --> 0:17:19.600 Watch violence on purpose. 0:17:19.760 --> 0:17:23.280 It is, you know, in the wake of like the 0:17:23.320 --> 0:17:26.919 George Floyd and all these other videos coming out of 0:17:27.160 --> 0:17:32.679 just like mis abused Black Bodies, and I just yeah, 0:17:32.840 --> 0:17:35.320 I just was like, uh, maybe maybe another time. 0:17:35.600 --> 0:17:39.080 Yeah. So I mean, although I've heard amazing things about it, Yeah, 0:17:39.440 --> 0:17:41.359 for me, I felt like I went by myself actually, 0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:42.880 and for me, it just felt like there was enough 0:17:42.920 --> 0:17:45.280 heart and with Biola, like you're never getting a one 0:17:45.880 --> 0:17:48.680 dimensional character, and the fact that they got this movie 0:17:48.720 --> 0:17:50.960 made and it was like such a strong black female 0:17:51.040 --> 0:17:54.880 cast Lashawna Lynch. Oh, she was so good. So it 0:17:54.920 --> 0:17:56.639 was just you know, I feel like it was a 0:17:56.640 --> 0:17:58.600 slap in the face. I mean, there were I think 0:17:58.640 --> 0:18:00.879 it's going to be a big year because some Asian Americans. 0:18:01.280 --> 0:18:04.359 For the Jesus Michelle Yoh, I think it's the first 0:18:04.720 --> 0:18:09.040 potentially Asian American winner of the Best Oscar for Best actress, 0:18:09.040 --> 0:18:12.000 which is sad and crazy for the everything, which I 0:18:12.000 --> 0:18:14.959 still haven't watched. I haven't listen. You guys don't come 0:18:15.000 --> 0:18:20.040 to us for our movie reviews because I watched movies pizza. 0:18:20.600 --> 0:18:23.560 But I'm here for representation at the award show. Okay, 0:18:24.119 --> 0:18:28.560 But anyway, moving on the Oh so Joe Biden. We 0:18:28.600 --> 0:18:31.439 all have talked about crypto before. See all crypto bros 0:18:31.600 --> 0:18:34.400 better get ready because the Biden administration is rolling out, 0:18:34.440 --> 0:18:38.920 supposedly some new regulations for crypto. So just another way 0:18:39.200 --> 0:18:44.800 that crypto is not actually like the anti bank can't 0:18:44.800 --> 0:18:51.760 be regulated, you know, currency, it's looking very regulated regular 0:18:53.160 --> 0:18:54.679 I still don't have any. Do you still have your 0:18:54.680 --> 0:18:56.000 little bitcoin coins? I do. 0:18:56.040 --> 0:18:58.000 I'm just gonna leave with that. I can't even I mean, 0:18:58.040 --> 0:18:59.639 what is that thing? What's that main one called that? 0:18:59.680 --> 0:19:00.480 Everybody it was using? 0:19:00.800 --> 0:19:01.240 It's there. 0:19:01.359 --> 0:19:03.280 It's maybe like less than fifty I mean, I don't 0:19:03.280 --> 0:19:05.240 know what it is now, but I think initially I 0:19:05.240 --> 0:19:09.159 put like two thousand dollars in there, and basically so 0:19:09.200 --> 0:19:11.480 I don't know what it's grown to or what it's 0:19:11.560 --> 0:19:14.560 you know, just disappeared to. But you know, at the time, 0:19:14.600 --> 0:19:17.239 I knew that it was risky. That's less than you know, 0:19:17.320 --> 0:19:20.199 like they say you shouldn't have more than five percent 0:19:20.320 --> 0:19:22.760 of your you know, assets and crypto that's not even five. 0:19:22.840 --> 0:19:25.639 That's like a point zero zersers, you know. So I said, 0:19:25.680 --> 0:19:27.399 you know, let me, let me see what the girls 0:19:27.440 --> 0:19:30.160 just talking about. But I never felt comfortable with it. 0:19:30.200 --> 0:19:32.040