WEBVTT - Intensity vs Sanity 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:03.360 Welcome to Insider's Guide to the Other Side, a production 0:00:03.440 --> 0:00:09.280 of iHeartRadio. Hi, y'all, I'm Julie. 0:00:09.400 --> 0:00:13.320 Hi there, I'm Brenda. Welcome to Insider's Guide to the 0:00:13.360 --> 0:00:13.920 Other Side. 0:00:14.400 --> 0:00:16.880 Now, y'all need to know that we are obsessed with 0:00:17.320 --> 0:00:20.000 everything on the other side. 0:00:20.480 --> 0:00:23.800 Yes, we are, because once you learn to navigate the energetic, 0:00:24.360 --> 0:00:27.880 or to some the invisible world, life is going to 0:00:27.920 --> 0:00:30.600 be more fun and much more serene. 0:00:31.320 --> 0:00:35.479 Uh heck, yes it can, because, let's be honest, for 0:00:35.600 --> 0:00:36.600 in earth school is hard. 0:00:36.640 --> 0:00:40.080 In fact, you taught me that let's crush Earth school together. 0:00:43.040 --> 0:00:48.519 Well, hello, my witchy pooh, how in the crazy assue 0:00:48.520 --> 0:00:53.440 world are you? And why the hell are you laughing 0:00:53.440 --> 0:00:54.120 at me already? 0:00:56.320 --> 0:00:57.279 Oh my god, Oh my god. 0:00:57.280 --> 0:01:00.880 It's such a great greeting, such an appropriate greed today 0:01:01.080 --> 0:01:05.479 as we celebrate the super intensity for all of our 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:10.600 listeners who maybe, like me, a little crispy on the edges, 0:01:12.880 --> 0:01:16.520 like in the very center. Fine, but on the edges. 0:01:17.360 --> 0:01:21.840 It's been by the same like that that eclipse. Yeah 0:01:22.280 --> 0:01:23.360 it fried me too. 0:01:23.959 --> 0:01:26.480 Yeah it was great. Yeah, it was great. 0:01:26.680 --> 0:01:30.319 It was magical in lots of ways. It's actually really fun, 0:01:30.360 --> 0:01:34.440 by the way, seeing shadows of like a crescent moon, 0:01:35.120 --> 0:01:37.880 because what the shadows looked like. It was actually really fun, cool, 0:01:38.520 --> 0:01:42.560 really cool. And everybody at the Santa Fe Community College 0:01:43.360 --> 0:01:45.680 was not only playing on again I'm gonna call it 0:01:45.720 --> 0:01:51.280 a boombox because I'm in my fifties, but or they're 0:01:51.320 --> 0:01:57.520 they're playing or singing the Johnny Cash song, ring exactly right, 0:01:57.680 --> 0:02:02.080 ring afar. But yeah, krispy is a really great word. 0:02:02.680 --> 0:02:03.360 Yeah. 0:02:03.400 --> 0:02:08.040 So the eclipse energy, literally it starts two weeks before 0:02:08.760 --> 0:02:13.359 and so we have the panacle of course during the 0:02:13.800 --> 0:02:17.959 actual eclipse, but it just starts like tempers get short. 0:02:18.080 --> 0:02:21.360 Some people have trouble sleeping, they're just a little edgy 0:02:21.440 --> 0:02:24.120 and they don't know why. Or people are snapping and 0:02:24.120 --> 0:02:29.040 they don't know why. This happens a lot, and so 0:02:29.120 --> 0:02:34.240 that's why it's so great to study astrology to know like, okay, 0:02:34.440 --> 0:02:36.560 it's good. Things are cooking up. Things are cooking up, 0:02:36.840 --> 0:02:39.840 so you can actually be informed on how to navigate 0:02:40.360 --> 0:02:42.520 instead of taking the bait. You know, like in a 0:02:42.560 --> 0:02:47.320 conversation you're like, don't need to weigh in on this one, you. 0:02:47.320 --> 0:02:50.440 Know, girl, I got to tell you I understand that 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:55.079 that happened in the pre eclipse time for me as well. Yeah, 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:59.520 and it's funny because listen all around the clips has 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:03.240 been wild for me. Weirdly, I slept like a baby 0:03:03.560 --> 0:03:07.440 and I cannot I can't explain it. Susannah's like, how 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:12.079 are you sleeping? Exactly, probably because I just exhaust myself 0:03:12.160 --> 0:03:14.720 during the day from all the energies, Like I just 0:03:15.200 --> 0:03:19.320 I'm exhausted. But I will tell you when we were there, 0:03:19.600 --> 0:03:24.880 I felt my cells were kind of jittery. I felt, 0:03:25.480 --> 0:03:27.840 I've actually jittery is probably a pretty good word. I 0:03:28.080 --> 0:03:30.280 felt that it was on the outside, Like you said, 0:03:30.280 --> 0:03:32.160 it wasn't on the inside. It was on the outside. 0:03:32.160 --> 0:03:35.280 I felt the jitterness of it. It was also excitement 0:03:35.720 --> 0:03:40.440 because I love a good celestial event, but that jitter 0:03:40.800 --> 0:03:44.640 And imagine people who didn't know what it was, how 0:03:44.680 --> 0:03:45.760 they were exploding. 0:03:46.840 --> 0:03:50.920 Yeah, well and that's it. But they usually people don't go, hmm, 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:54.840 I wonder what's going on. They explode on the outside 0:03:55.040 --> 0:03:57.920 like they just start sniping to get to release the 0:03:58.120 --> 0:04:01.360 energy instead of like I got a ground, I have 0:04:01.440 --> 0:04:04.440 to take this in now. Could you actually see you 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:06.040 could see it where you were were? 0:04:06.200 --> 0:04:07.800 Yeah, we were eight We had eighty percent. 0:04:08.440 --> 0:04:10.320 Okay, Yeah, that's cool. That's cool. 0:04:10.400 --> 0:04:15.360 We weren't in that, but when it was at the 0:04:15.400 --> 0:04:19.200 peak even here, like again, we couldn't see it. It 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:23.599 didn't we weren't in range. But the stillness that falls 0:04:23.800 --> 0:04:30.320 in nature, it's it's so potent. It's like, whoa, what's 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:34.720 happening right now? It was really cool and it was 0:04:34.839 --> 0:04:37.080 cloudy here. It wasn't Sunday at all, you know, it 0:04:37.120 --> 0:04:40.040 was it was kind of stormy anyhow, and then everything 0:04:40.080 --> 0:04:40.839 went still. 0:04:41.480 --> 0:04:45.760 That's crazy. Yeah, it was opposite here because we had 0:04:45.920 --> 0:04:50.360 eighty percent. Right, that's so cool and a perfectly like 0:04:50.480 --> 0:04:51.400 not a cloud in the sky. 0:04:52.000 --> 0:04:54.200 Oh my god, there are people. It's funny. I was. 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:58.680 I was actually texting with a friend and uh hold 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:02.840 it was Tim and he lives in Florida and they 0:05:02.880 --> 0:05:05.599 only got like forty percent somewhere in the forties, I 0:05:05.600 --> 0:05:08.080 think is what they got. And a friend of his, 0:05:08.839 --> 0:05:11.359 I think, he said, went to Oregon, like paid for 0:05:11.400 --> 0:05:14.880 the trip, gonna yep, it was completely clouded. They couldn't 0:05:14.880 --> 0:05:18.080 see a damn thing. So I'm sending him pictures. She's like, 0:05:18.120 --> 0:05:20.560 I'm glad somebody is because my friend who went to 0:05:20.600 --> 0:05:22.039 Oregon couldn't see a thing. 0:05:23.600 --> 0:05:27.760 It's so funny, fun but it was, but it was. 0:05:27.800 --> 0:05:30.760 It was literally a perfect day. You couldn't have asked 0:05:30.800 --> 0:05:35.000 for a more perfect day. Some people had their dogs 0:05:35.120 --> 0:05:38.080 out at the community center. I didn't bring Sukie because 0:05:38.080 --> 0:05:41.240 I didn't know what would happen to their eyes, you know, so, 0:05:41.240 --> 0:05:42.960 so I wanted to protect her eyes more than so. 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:45.760 I don't know how she responded at that moment, because 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:48.000 we were away from the house and I know that, 0:05:48.160 --> 0:05:50.400 you know, for us, we had to wear the glasses, 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:53.760 you know. Yeah, so we wore the glasses to make 0:05:53.760 --> 0:05:56.080 sure we wouldn't you know, I don't know, burn our eyeballs, 0:05:57.200 --> 0:05:59.360 but I would assume the same thing happened with dogs. 0:05:59.360 --> 0:05:59.960 So I didn't bring her. 0:06:00.600 --> 0:06:03.200 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, that's no, that's good. But dogs 0:06:03.200 --> 0:06:04.240 don't usually look at the sun. 0:06:05.440 --> 0:06:07.680 Well, oh that's fair, I guess not. I just overly 0:06:07.680 --> 0:06:10.440 protective dog bomb. But I will tell you really fascinating 0:06:12.000 --> 0:06:15.840 and and you all can't see me, but I'm wearing 0:06:15.839 --> 0:06:21.760 a hat right now. It's actually uh uh Garth Brooks 0:06:21.800 --> 0:06:23.599 Friends and Low Place's hat, just so you know, But 0:06:23.640 --> 0:06:26.000 I'm tipping it to my witchipoo that I just did 0:06:26.480 --> 0:06:32.160 because she slash you as I'm looking at you. Brenda 0:06:32.640 --> 0:06:35.440 has taught me during so many things in life, as 0:06:35.440 --> 0:06:40.080 we all know. But you know about pitta pitta pitta, 0:06:40.120 --> 0:06:43.040 which is an aravetic like you know, fiery right like, 0:06:43.040 --> 0:06:44.760 and you've told me, I don't know how many times 0:06:45.160 --> 0:06:47.760 you're like, uh, you don't need to be eating hot 0:06:47.800 --> 0:06:53.120 sauces all that kind of stuff, which I do. 0:06:53.160 --> 0:06:54.880 You might as well set yourself on fire. 0:06:55.160 --> 0:06:57.360 I do. I set myself on fire all the time. 0:06:58.839 --> 0:07:01.920 But here's what's funny during it's the clips because I'm 0:07:01.960 --> 0:07:05.080 also an EmPATH and I'm more attuned to that and 0:07:05.560 --> 0:07:08.360 try to take care of myself more. I found myself 0:07:08.400 --> 0:07:11.160 without consciously doing it, but recognizing after I did it, 0:07:11.360 --> 0:07:14.000 eating very bland food. I wasn't even doing my ginger 0:07:14.040 --> 0:07:17.160 shots and stuff even because that's also heat, which I love. 0:07:18.200 --> 0:07:21.880 But I found my body was telling me to not 0:07:22.080 --> 0:07:24.320 do that. And I think my body way smarter than 0:07:24.320 --> 0:07:29.560 my brain, is, way more intuitive, A different kind of wisdom, 0:07:29.680 --> 0:07:31.840 a different kind of wisdom was telling me not to 0:07:31.880 --> 0:07:34.239 do that because of the celestial event that was happening, 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:37.040 and it was just fascinating because it was truly my 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:41.360 It was the first time I've ever really noticed that. 0:07:41.440 --> 0:07:44.600 At least, the pit's a part of me where my body's. 0:07:44.280 --> 0:07:47.320 Like, no, don't read that clip. 0:07:47.520 --> 0:07:51.080 No, you're already on fire, no need to add. I 0:07:51.080 --> 0:07:54.720 mean I ordered, like at my favorite restaurant, which is 0:07:54.760 --> 0:07:58.680 the Tusuki Grill or just the Tusuki Market Grill, and 0:07:58.720 --> 0:08:03.000 the Tusuki is actually a tribe and it sounds like Suki, 0:08:03.080 --> 0:08:05.560 so I call her to Suki when we're there. But 0:08:05.720 --> 0:08:08.280 I order everything spicy because I love it. And I 0:08:08.400 --> 0:08:11.760 ordered like a club sandwich, not even with not even 0:08:11.840 --> 0:08:14.120 with like hatch green chilis on it. It was like 0:08:14.240 --> 0:08:17.800 plain as you could possibly get. And I'm and I 0:08:17.920 --> 0:08:19.680 and as I'm ordered, I'm like, and I'm in my 0:08:19.680 --> 0:08:22.120 I'm like, who am I? And then I'm like, oh, 0:08:22.120 --> 0:08:24.480 I know who I am. I don't want to set 0:08:24.520 --> 0:08:27.840 myself so much on fire that I actually like explode 0:08:27.840 --> 0:08:28.960 and I'm no longer here. 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:32.040 It's spontaneous combustion, exactly right. 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:34.880 And I think those really great advice. Over instance, we 0:08:34.880 --> 0:08:38.160 have another one coming up about knowing that this energy 0:08:38.240 --> 0:08:42.120 is there, knowing that the kind of fried edges happened too. 0:08:42.120 --> 0:08:44.959 I don't care who you are is to be sought 0:08:45.000 --> 0:08:48.520 because I love how you handled it. I just didn't 0:08:48.600 --> 0:08:52.880 eat jlapenos. You actually handled it in a way where 0:08:54.520 --> 0:08:58.680 I not of not setting other people on fire. 0:08:59.000 --> 0:09:01.160 That's exactly right, try not to. 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:04.960 But the two weeks before, I just noticed people would 0:09:04.960 --> 0:09:09.880 tell me about some edgy, super charged conversations coming out, 0:09:09.960 --> 0:09:14.000 people having strong reactions. And obviously, you know, when I'm 0:09:14.040 --> 0:09:16.480 when I'm coaching people, I need to weigh in and 0:09:16.520 --> 0:09:20.640 give them guidance and have them consider options to de 0:09:20.920 --> 0:09:24.880 escalate things. And in my personal life when people, you know, 0:09:24.960 --> 0:09:31.120 there's been a lot of family conversations and navigations. Both 0:09:31.120 --> 0:09:34.720 sides of my family have been experienced, uh, some people 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:36.840 jumping the planet, so lots of things to coordinate. 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:40.520 And and one of my favorite people, but go ahead, I. 0:09:40.520 --> 0:09:48.880 Know, and Darrin Lewis, And in these conversations, I'm like, Brent, 0:09:49.120 --> 0:09:50.880 stay in your lane. You don't need to weigh in. 0:09:51.559 --> 0:09:54.360 Just you know, let let that run its course. They 0:09:54.360 --> 0:09:57.520 will figure it out. They haven't asked for help, no 0:09:57.640 --> 0:09:58.120 reason to. 0:09:58.040 --> 0:09:58.520 Step in. 0:10:00.080 --> 0:10:01.520 Advice in general, let's be honest. 0:10:02.120 --> 0:10:04.240 Yeah, but especially doing this during. 0:10:04.040 --> 0:10:06.559 The eclipse because it's gonna set, because you're literally setting 0:10:06.559 --> 0:10:12.360 people on fire. You're throwing the match on the gasoline 0:10:12.400 --> 0:10:19.040 that's already poured all over them from the sky. It's 0:10:19.120 --> 0:10:23.199 Cosmo Petro and it's like, why throw a match on it? 0:10:23.679 --> 0:10:23.880 Yeah? 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:26.480 And so my job just take it down, Just take 0:10:26.520 --> 0:10:26.840 it down. 0:10:26.880 --> 0:10:28.079 And I think that's so good. 0:10:28.440 --> 0:10:32.319 So we have some other EmPATH things we want to 0:10:32.360 --> 0:10:33.240 talk about. 0:10:33.480 --> 0:10:38.000 Just how do we take care of ourselves during the 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:42.240 super intense time when you are super sensitive. So that's 0:10:42.280 --> 0:10:43.440 our conversation today. 0:10:43.880 --> 0:10:46.040 That's right, we'll be right back, y'all. 0:10:56.240 --> 0:10:56.920 Get that fire. 0:10:58.440 --> 0:11:04.800 Are we back? Wow? That was the crappiest intro re 0:11:05.000 --> 0:11:07.640 intro from a break that we've ever had. It's like 0:11:07.880 --> 0:11:11.559 your giggle experience, do it. It's like, y'all, y'all just 0:11:11.600 --> 0:11:14.960 need to understand. Brenda like showing me fingers three two 0:11:15.400 --> 0:11:17.040 and then she starts to giggle. I'm like, well, I 0:11:17.040 --> 0:11:22.600 guess we're back. This is actually the greatest way for 0:11:22.640 --> 0:11:24.400 an EmPATH to deal with life right now, which is 0:11:24.720 --> 0:11:29.640 with humor. Just FYI, So I you know, I think 0:11:29.679 --> 0:11:32.000 the eclipse was a great way for us to kind 0:11:32.000 --> 0:11:34.960 of start this conversation about how do we take care? 0:11:35.080 --> 0:11:38.480 How how can we be more aware and sometimes you know, 0:11:38.520 --> 0:11:41.360 maybe going against what your body feels, your nature may 0:11:41.360 --> 0:11:42.400 be something like that. 0:11:42.720 --> 0:11:44.120 And well and. 0:11:44.080 --> 0:11:48.640 Again, when when the environment gets really intense, instead of 0:11:48.960 --> 0:11:51.960 being overwhelmed by it or matching it, how can you 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:56.520 make a strategic choice for self care and to actually 0:11:56.559 --> 0:11:59.560 serve the situation. Like I think that's that's what we 0:11:59.600 --> 0:12:01.800 want to talk about today, Like do we double down 0:12:01.800 --> 0:12:04.320 on the intensity or are we going to choose sanity? 0:12:04.840 --> 0:12:05.000 Right? 0:12:05.160 --> 0:12:05.319 Right? 0:12:05.480 --> 0:12:08.680 Right? And I think let's be fair, there's something. There's 0:12:08.720 --> 0:12:11.000 a lot going on in the world around us that 0:12:11.120 --> 0:12:14.280 you can't avoid, you can't hide from, you know, whether 0:12:14.360 --> 0:12:19.120 it's in Israel or a Gaza or Ukraine, or it's 0:12:19.160 --> 0:12:25.120 our own you know, events that happen with floods and fires, tornadoes. 0:12:25.320 --> 0:12:27.440 It just seems like there's an awful lot more that 0:12:27.559 --> 0:12:28.319 goes on. 0:12:28.800 --> 0:12:31.559 That can't actually do anything right now. 0:12:31.440 --> 0:12:35.280 Or where shut down. Then there's that. But you know, 0:12:35.559 --> 0:12:39.400 as an EmPATH, and so those who know like an 0:12:39.400 --> 0:12:41.760 EmPATH like it because I'm very much you've called me 0:12:41.800 --> 0:12:44.480 in pathic since I think the day you met me, Brenda, 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:47.440 I think you have in fact, I know you have. 0:12:48.840 --> 0:12:49.080 That. 0:12:49.240 --> 0:12:52.920 You know I feel everything you know, I can feel 0:12:52.920 --> 0:12:57.120 pain from other people their pain and it's tough because 0:12:57.120 --> 0:13:00.600 you kind of take it on. I can also joy 0:13:00.760 --> 0:13:04.080 as well. I mean, the past is not just the 0:13:03.600 --> 0:13:06.960 the hard part. It can also be a lighter as well. 0:13:08.320 --> 0:13:11.960 And with what's been going on, you know, and again, 0:13:12.679 --> 0:13:16.400 whether it is you know, the fires in Hawaii, you know, 0:13:16.960 --> 0:13:21.439 the the current bombings that are happening, you know across 0:13:21.520 --> 0:13:26.440 the big Giant Pond, I feel all that I feel. 0:13:27.000 --> 0:13:30.280 I can also feel the rage. I can feel the 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:36.480 pain the families that have been utterly devastated, the fear 0:13:37.520 --> 0:13:43.440 also that people have, and. 0:13:41.640 --> 0:13:45.599 And the desperation and the people are in the situation 0:13:45.920 --> 0:13:48.439 and the people who are trying to find their loved 0:13:48.440 --> 0:13:52.240 ones or are worried for their loved ones, right, I mean, 0:13:52.360 --> 0:13:53.960 it's it's contagious. 0:13:54.280 --> 0:13:57.040 It is or not having and feeling of the not 0:13:57.120 --> 0:14:01.960 having resources. Again, whether it's Ukraine, whether it's in the 0:14:01.960 --> 0:14:08.040 the Middle East, it's very apocalyptic in that respect. And 0:14:08.040 --> 0:14:10.520 and again, and I also just want to be very clear. 0:14:12.520 --> 0:14:15.280 Everybody has a point of view on things. My point 0:14:15.320 --> 0:14:19.640 of view, especially when we talk about being empathetic, is 0:14:19.840 --> 0:14:24.040 just about human nature. Is about humans. It's not about sides. 0:14:24.120 --> 0:14:27.560 Nobody's taking sides in this conversation. The side that we 0:14:27.720 --> 0:14:31.080 have is yours, and the side is how can we 0:14:31.120 --> 0:14:38.119 take care of ourselves, especially those that are hyper empathetic 0:14:38.200 --> 0:14:41.080 or even normal. If you're normal, if you're like a five, 0:14:41.680 --> 0:14:44.520 you're gonna feel what's going on? Right, It's like, isn't 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:48.240 so intense? How do people not? And so I was 0:14:48.240 --> 0:14:51.000 sharing with Brenda earlier that you know, the other day 0:14:52.120 --> 0:14:54.280 Suzanne said to me, she goes, I think you need 0:14:54.280 --> 0:14:57.760 to go take a walk. She goes, you because she 0:14:57.800 --> 0:15:00.560 could see my face. I mean, I can watch somebody 0:15:00.560 --> 0:15:02.840 here something. I have tears running down my face too. 0:15:03.760 --> 0:15:06.320 I get angry that comes out. And she's like, I 0:15:06.320 --> 0:15:08.920 think you just need to go be walk be with 0:15:08.960 --> 0:15:12.320 your dog. You don't go with unconditional love and go 0:15:12.400 --> 0:15:15.880 with the planet. Yeah, and with nature, go with nature, 0:15:16.480 --> 0:15:18.560 go with it, Go with your little critter that you 0:15:18.600 --> 0:15:20.760 love more than anything in the world with it's also true, 0:15:22.320 --> 0:15:25.840 and get walk away and you know what, I come 0:15:25.920 --> 0:15:27.440 back and I am a different person. 0:15:28.160 --> 0:15:28.400 Yeah. 0:15:29.080 --> 0:15:32.040 Yeah, And that's the way to do it. Yeah. 0:15:32.160 --> 0:15:37.440 Moving the body is very helpful, very helpful. And also 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:42.840 you know, finding out a positive way or a helpful 0:15:42.840 --> 0:15:46.120 way to have that emotional release now for you, it's 0:15:46.160 --> 0:15:48.800 getting on a plane and watching a movie crying. 0:15:48.440 --> 0:15:50.880 My ass off. Yeah, we're watching a Muppet movie, because 0:15:50.880 --> 0:15:53.800 I'm here to tell you those damn Muppet movies. I 0:15:53.840 --> 0:15:55.600 went when I was in college. I remember it was 0:15:55.600 --> 0:15:58.680 in like the either late eighties, early nineties, and it 0:15:58.680 --> 0:16:01.040 was the Muppet Christmas Carol. And I went by myself 0:16:01.080 --> 0:16:02.520 because nobody would go with me because there are a 0:16:02.520 --> 0:16:07.080 bunch of butts. And I went by myself and I 0:16:07.120 --> 0:16:09.400 was in the back of the theater by myself for real, 0:16:09.640 --> 0:16:12.480 and I am bowling at the Muppet so and then 0:16:12.480 --> 0:16:15.600 I watched it on a plane one time, so it 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:16.560 was a double doozy. 0:16:16.680 --> 0:16:19.640 It was like plane and Muppets. 0:16:19.760 --> 0:16:23.400 Plane and Muppets get me every time. But to know 0:16:23.480 --> 0:16:25.240 that you can get that out though, like I love 0:16:25.320 --> 0:16:26.320 that I know who I am. 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:27.480 Yeah. 0:16:27.560 --> 0:16:30.440 Yeah, it's super it's super helpful. And so again for 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:35.320 empathic listeners like this, this tension builds and you have 0:16:35.400 --> 0:16:38.520 to be really mindful of what you're consuming from media, 0:16:39.840 --> 0:16:43.720 whichever your media sources. I understand want to be informed, 0:16:43.840 --> 0:16:48.800 wanting to understand, super critical and don't over index on it, 0:16:49.600 --> 0:16:53.000 especially if it's going to fry you, right, so step 0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:55.920 away from that. And it could be I need to 0:16:56.000 --> 0:16:57.920 dance it out. It could be I need to listen 0:16:58.000 --> 0:17:01.160 to sad music and right because I hits the emotional field, 0:17:01.200 --> 0:17:05.120 so I need to have that sort of release. Super helpful. 0:17:05.800 --> 0:17:10.720 So there's all kinds of healthy options. But monitoring the 0:17:10.800 --> 0:17:15.199 consumption and then monitoring the self care of processing and 0:17:15.240 --> 0:17:18.840 releasing are going to be really helpful for you. 0:17:19.240 --> 0:17:21.760 Yeah, And you know, I have a go to and 0:17:21.760 --> 0:17:26.320 it's my song that when the world's really confusing to me, 0:17:26.920 --> 0:17:31.840 it seems to be more than I but it is. 0:17:32.119 --> 0:17:35.120 It's four non Blades and it's called What's Up. And 0:17:35.160 --> 0:17:38.640 it's like I know every word to that song, and 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:41.560 I'll walk around and I'll sing it and I get 0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:43.600 it out of my body, because part of that is 0:17:43.640 --> 0:17:46.480 getting it out of your body. I also just recently, 0:17:46.560 --> 0:17:49.840 somebody asked me a really important question. I said, wait 0:17:49.880 --> 0:17:52.960 a second, and they go, what why, And I said, 0:17:53.119 --> 0:17:55.200 I'm dropping a ground in court. I need to make 0:17:55.240 --> 0:17:58.760 sure that I'm very clear on the answer that I'm 0:17:58.760 --> 0:18:00.200 giving to you, because you just asked me some thing 0:18:00.240 --> 0:18:03.959 really important, and I don't want everything else to influence 0:18:04.520 --> 0:18:08.040 what it is. And and so just I think that awareness, 0:18:08.080 --> 0:18:10.719 like you said, and finding that thing. I mean, there 0:18:10.800 --> 0:18:13.959 was a time when I years ago and living in 0:18:14.119 --> 0:18:18.520 la uh again, work could anger me. I mean it 0:18:18.560 --> 0:18:22.359 ankers most people. You know. It's not always you know, 0:18:22.600 --> 0:18:27.200 having cheese fondue in the Alps, and it sounds really good, 0:18:27.200 --> 0:18:31.200 doesn't it. Unless you're lactose intolerant. It sounds like a nightmare. 0:18:32.600 --> 0:18:38.040 So uh And and mine was I would ride my 0:18:38.080 --> 0:18:42.480 bike then, and because I remember telling people I was 0:18:42.560 --> 0:18:44.639 so incredibly mad before I got on my bike, but 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:47.680 I can't remember what I was mad about now right again. 0:18:47.760 --> 0:18:50.080 Mine is the physical because they to me that's how 0:18:50.080 --> 0:18:53.000 I do it. Some people that yoga some people you know, 0:18:53.119 --> 0:18:54.720 it could be combination too, by the way, you don't 0:18:54.880 --> 0:18:56.160 do just one. 0:18:56.080 --> 0:18:57.240 Yeah, but just. 0:18:57.119 --> 0:19:02.120 Find you what it is, our phone a friend. Sometimes 0:19:02.119 --> 0:19:03.960 I just need to talk to someone. I need to 0:19:03.960 --> 0:19:07.399 giggle and write, find find some relief and remember that 0:19:07.440 --> 0:19:10.960 the world is bicker and that in the in the 0:19:10.960 --> 0:19:12.320 long run, everything's okay. 0:19:12.640 --> 0:19:14.800 Watch old episodes of Golden Girls. It works for me 0:19:14.840 --> 0:19:18.160 every time it does. Can I tell you during COVID 0:19:18.160 --> 0:19:20.080 because this reminds me a lot of what we were 0:19:20.119 --> 0:19:21.080 talking about. 0:19:21.359 --> 0:19:24.520 During the tension, especially at the beginning when we didn't 0:19:24.560 --> 0:19:27.160 know what was what it was so stressful. 0:19:28.280 --> 0:19:30.639 My sacred place was the Golden Girls and laugh all 0:19:30.680 --> 0:19:34.240 you want, but it actually worked, of course. Yeah, it 0:19:34.280 --> 0:19:36.359 was like it was time travel and I needed to 0:19:36.359 --> 0:19:39.080 time travel away from the present because I couldn't do 0:19:39.080 --> 0:19:39.800 anything about it. 0:19:40.040 --> 0:19:42.439 And like, wellthing you watched with your mom, right, and 0:19:42.480 --> 0:19:44.639 I go, oh, yes, yes, it was. 0:19:44.840 --> 0:19:47.560 I know. I always it's like it's like a fuzzy 0:19:47.560 --> 0:19:51.480 blanket to me. It's like Linus and Golden Girls is 0:19:51.480 --> 0:19:53.480 my fuzzy blanket because my mom and I, yes, I 0:19:53.560 --> 0:19:55.280 used to hang out on Saturday nights with my mother 0:19:55.359 --> 0:19:58.119 and because it used to air Saturday night and we 0:19:58.119 --> 0:20:00.280 would watch Golden Girls and we would giggle like little 0:20:00.280 --> 0:20:03.160 school while I was technically a schoolgirl and a good 0:20:03.200 --> 0:20:05.840 giggle like a school girl. So it is a very 0:20:05.880 --> 0:20:08.120 comforting thing for me. And so to know what those 0:20:08.119 --> 0:20:10.800 things are, because sometimes we do need to escape from 0:20:10.800 --> 0:20:14.000 what things are happening, not like permanently, but like just 0:20:14.040 --> 0:20:15.600 to get a kind of a grip and get your 0:20:15.680 --> 0:20:19.760 arms around things. I think that that's actually necessary, you know, 0:20:20.040 --> 0:20:25.480 And lately lately, you know, because I notice, like I 0:20:25.480 --> 0:20:28.159 think other m paths will probably agree, if you let 0:20:28.240 --> 0:20:31.800 that tension build up, you do explode because I can be. 0:20:31.920 --> 0:20:34.760 I am a very fiery human being and when all 0:20:34.840 --> 0:20:37.960 that pressure and that means I'm firing off at people 0:20:38.000 --> 0:20:41.040 who do not deserve my rage and my. 0:20:41.040 --> 0:20:44.080 Find Well, that's the thing. When you don't tend to it, 0:20:44.400 --> 0:20:47.320 when you don't tend to yourself, you don't tend if 0:20:47.359 --> 0:20:50.719 you're not paying attention to where how hiw your stress 0:20:50.800 --> 0:20:53.920 is getting, you can't you can't do anything about it, right, 0:20:53.960 --> 0:20:57.679 So it's gonna come out sideways. It just comes out sideways. 0:20:58.119 --> 0:20:59.199 So what do you what are you going to do? 0:20:59.359 --> 0:21:02.399 Call you know, the Ukraine and yell at them, called Russia, 0:21:02.480 --> 0:21:05.440 yell yell at them. No, you've got to be able 0:21:05.440 --> 0:21:07.840 to manage this yourself, right, right. 0:21:07.880 --> 0:21:09.920 Because also to know what you can and cannot do. 0:21:10.520 --> 0:21:10.720 Right. 0:21:10.840 --> 0:21:12.399 In fact, why don't we take a quick break and 0:21:12.480 --> 0:21:14.360 let's talk about that, because I think that's a really 0:21:14.440 --> 0:21:17.040 important thing to put things in perspective. So we're going 0:21:17.080 --> 0:21:18.320 to come back with a little perspective. 0:21:18.400 --> 0:21:19.480 Y'all be right back. 0:21:26.680 --> 0:21:29.240 Oh good lord, she brought us back with a giggle again, y'all. 0:21:30.600 --> 0:21:32.679 Another way, by the way, is humor. Don't forget that 0:21:33.280 --> 0:21:37.080 helping mechanism. But to your point what you were saying about, 0:21:37.119 --> 0:21:39.000 what am I going to do? Call up you know, 0:21:40.000 --> 0:21:43.800 the world leader of Ukraine. You know, of course you're not. 0:21:44.000 --> 0:21:47.000 And I think part of you know, we've always talked 0:21:47.040 --> 0:21:49.720 about how this is a really great quote and I 0:21:49.720 --> 0:21:51.760 don't think it's exact, because you know, I don't live 0:21:51.760 --> 0:21:55.240 in that world of exact is, but it was the 0:21:55.320 --> 0:21:57.040 quote is that we are not creatures that think and 0:21:57.119 --> 0:21:59.640 sometimes feel. We are creatures that feel and sometimes think, 0:22:00.480 --> 0:22:04.400 and if we're able to in these situations like we're 0:22:04.400 --> 0:22:09.359 living in today, is what you are in charge of 0:22:09.400 --> 0:22:11.280 and what you are not in charge of. I am 0:22:11.280 --> 0:22:14.440 not in charge of disasters in the world. I will 0:22:14.440 --> 0:22:18.119