Speaker 1: This is Suckers. I'm Kilin Bell, I'm Dean Bell, and
Speaker 1: I'm Jared Haven at iHeartRadio podcast. Hey, welcome to an
Speaker 1: all new episode of Suckers with Jared Haven. I don't
Speaker 1: know if that's the official title or not, but that's
Speaker 1: what we're going with right now. Thank you so much
Speaker 1: for tuning in once again into another week of me,
Speaker 1: myself and I. You know, this podcast has been I
Speaker 1: don't know how many episodes. This says four or five,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm starting to lose track of just
Speaker 1: everything in my life. That's what happens when you have kids.
Speaker 1: You just everything becomes one big blur, which is a
Speaker 1: good and a bad thing. Means you're busy. I'm very busy.
Speaker 1: Things are going well. Valentine's Day just passed. Ashley and
Speaker 1: I didn't go on a date yet. We're planning on
Speaker 1: doing that this weekend. It's so much different when you
Speaker 1: have kids, and plus Audrey's I was working on Valentine's Day.
Speaker 1: We did this Valentine's Day a little cute dinner. We
Speaker 1: had about ten to twelve vers of eight, and we
Speaker 1: had some walk ins too, that's at the bar, and
Speaker 1: had some drinks and it was nice. We kind of
Speaker 1: turned it into a little bit of a restaurant for
Speaker 1: a minute and did some table service and candle like dinner,
Speaker 1: and I was cooking in the back and I made
Speaker 1: a salmon dish, a chicken dish, and a and a
Speaker 1: baked pasta dish. Was quite delicious if you ask me,
Speaker 1: which nobody's asking me. I'm just telling you because I'm
Speaker 1: talking to myself here. But it was really nice. So
Speaker 1: Ashley and I have not had a Valentine's Day date yet.
Speaker 1: We haven't gone on a day in a while though,
Speaker 1: which is not good. It's something we really need to
Speaker 1: start doing more of. It's it's just, you know, time
Speaker 1: goes by just so fast. You don't have time to
Speaker 1: schedule dates like before you know it. It's like, wait,
Speaker 1: what's the lostiming on a date four months? Four months? Also,
Speaker 1: Ashley being pregnant doesn't help, you know, she's not feeling well, lethargic.
Speaker 1: I'm working a lot, so whenever we have time, we
Speaker 1: just kind of want to just not do anything. And
Speaker 1: that's what we do, you know, come home, watch TV,
Speaker 1: chill out, hang with Dawson. So there's never like a
Speaker 1: moment where like, Okay, we need to you know, have
Speaker 1: a night. We're gonna get a babysitter, we're gonna go
Speaker 1: out to dinner, but we really need to do that
Speaker 1: because we just, you know, full transparency, it's like, we
Speaker 1: don't even feel like a couple. Well we feel like
Speaker 1: a married couple obviously, but we don't feel like a
Speaker 1: romantic couple. And there's a lot of factors, having Dawson
Speaker 1: and her being pregnant, and Audrey's it just being so
Speaker 1: cold outside, so there's a lot of factors as to
Speaker 1: why it's just like, let's just not do anything. We'll
Speaker 1: stay in and I'm sure there's a lot of couples
Speaker 1: going through that right now. It's just a horrible time
Speaker 1: of the year. To February. God, what a piece of
Speaker 1: crap time of year, especially in the Northeast. Listen, obviously,
Speaker 1: if you're down south listening to this, here you have
Speaker 1: pretty nice weather, but up here, which majority of the
Speaker 1: country has to go through, you know, you're just waiting
Speaker 1: for the weather to turn. And it's not too much longer,
Speaker 1: but it's just like grinding through January, grinding through February
Speaker 1: and even March. I'm sorry, March socks, there's nothing look
Speaker 1: forward to it in March, like I guess sometimes the
Speaker 1: weather starts breaking a little bit, but I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just feel like March the past couple of years
Speaker 1: has still been kind of cold and just rainy, and
Speaker 1: so it's just like it's just it's I don't know,
Speaker 1: it's not my favorite. Hopefully I'm wrong, and hopefully like
Speaker 1: March is like fifty degrees outside and sunny and good times,
Speaker 1: good times. We'll see. Anyway, you guys didn't tune into
Speaker 1: this podcast to listen to the weather, or maybe you
Speaker 1: did because you listening to me right now, which I
Speaker 1: still can't believe. Thank you again. Hopefully you guys listened
Speaker 1: to this past week's episode of suck Ass. I wonder
Speaker 1: what you're Let me know what you think about that
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Speaker 1: our Instagram. It's been grown a little bit, which is great.
Speaker 1: Our PR team's doing an incredible jar with the social media,
Speaker 1: so shout out to iHeart for that. And it's been
Speaker 1: fun and I hope you guys are be enjoying these
Speaker 1: podcasts listening to Kalin's pop culture, which I'm sure She's
Speaker 1: talked a decent amount about Bachelor because that's been dominating
Speaker 1: the news. The ratings are doing really well, which is incredible.
Speaker 1: Everybody seems to really enjoy Joey as the Bachelor's the
Speaker 1: first time. I feel like people have liked The Bachelor.
Speaker 1: No offense to Clayton and Zach. I'm very likable gentlemen,
Speaker 1: but just you know, sometimes it's just, you know, not
Speaker 1: that captivating, and it feels like Joey season's captivating. Everybody's behind.
Speaker 1: Ratings are doing well, there's more engagement on social media.
Speaker 1: Feels good, feels good, so that's great. They just announced
Speaker 1: they're going to do another season The Golden Bachelorette. Very exciting.
Speaker 1: I'm curious who's going to be the Golden Bachelorette. Odds
Speaker 1: on favorite is Leslie. I'd be stunned. We're talking about
Speaker 1: this on The Sucker's podcast. If they don't choose someone
Speaker 1: from the Golden Bachelor cast, if they do go from
Speaker 1: the outside and pick a random like they did with
Speaker 1: you know Gary and yeah Gary for the Golden Bachelor.
Speaker 1: Because the Golden Bachelor was such a success that the
Speaker 1: ratings did so well that you feel like they would
Speaker 1: want to try to catapult off that and grab someone
Speaker 1: from that season who is a rootable character and make
Speaker 1: her the Golden Bachelorette and then give her brand new guys.
Speaker 1: But we'll see. I'm glad they're doing it. I hope
Speaker 1: it does really well because the first season did so well.
Speaker 1: I really hope this one does well also because I'm
Speaker 1: just ruined for the franchise. Speaking of Bachelor, though, I'd
Speaker 1: be remiss to not at least speak on Sidney, who
Speaker 1: a lot of people just do not like, and I
Speaker 1: feel bad. Sidney is a friend. I haven't seen everything.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give full disclosure on that. I've seen a
Speaker 1: decent amount of the drama that Sidney has been involved
Speaker 1: in with her and Maria. I don't know Maria. I'm
Speaker 1: sure Maria is very nice as well. I think what sucks.
Speaker 1: And this is how I felt as soon as Sidney
Speaker 1: came back, because because she's a friend, you know, we
Speaker 1: talked about, like, all right, what happened, and she give
Speaker 1: us the lowdown of what happened that was involving her
Speaker 1: and the drama with her Maria, And when I first
Speaker 1: heard it, I felt nervous for her because it sounded
Speaker 1: like she could be the person who was constantly going
Speaker 1: to the Bachelor complaining about another woman, and nobody wants
Speaker 1: to be that person. Nobody wants to see that person,
Speaker 1: and that person is not enjoyable to watch. And so
Speaker 1: I was very nervous for her at that point, but
Speaker 1: she felt very confident that a lot of the girls
Speaker 1: in the season did not like Maria, and Maria was
Speaker 1: the core problem. And Sidney might be right because after
Speaker 1: Sydney left, it feels like there is more drama involving Maria,
Speaker 1: and for some reason, there's a lot of girls that
Speaker 1: have issues with Maria. And let's be honest, it's problemen,
Speaker 1: not a coincidence. There's probably a reason why multiple girls
Speaker 1: are having problems with Maria. Uh. I don't know why,
Speaker 1: but there's something there. Where there's smoke, there's fire. But
Speaker 1: also I can criticize sid and I never like I
Speaker 1: just you know, what I tell people is just focus
Speaker 1: on yourself, you know, and trying definitely don't be the
Speaker 1: person that goes to the Bachelor complaining about another person,
Speaker 1: because it's just never gonna end well for you. It's
Speaker 1: kind of like you know, rule one O one, But
Speaker 1: so I didn't like that obviously, But I do you
Speaker 1: feel bad for sid because she's just gets so much hate.
Speaker 1: And what I can speak upon about sid because obviously
Speaker 1: I wasn't there, so I don't know the full context
Speaker 1: of what happened between her and Maria and why Sidney
Speaker 1: kept on insisting to go to Joey telling him that
Speaker 1: Maria is the real problem, which I did not like.
Speaker 1: Didn't like it at all. I wish I could go
Speaker 1: there and be like sid just focused on herself and
Speaker 1: don't go to Joey about another girl. Nobody wants that.
Speaker 1: But what I can speak upon on Sydney is her character.
Speaker 1: I worked with Sydney, she did social media for Audrey's.
Speaker 1: She's a friend, someone I've spent time with, someone that
Speaker 1: has been over our house, has spent time with our son, Dawson,
Speaker 1: who's been so good to him. You know, Sidney's a
Speaker 1: good person. She's got a good heart, and she works hard,
Speaker 1: and she treats people well. And obviously she went on
Speaker 1: The Bachelor, got caught up in the drama. I'm sure
Speaker 1: there's a lot of things that she regrets. Having said that,
Speaker 1: there's no need for people to say some of the
Speaker 1: things that have been said towards Sydney because it just
Speaker 1: goes too far. Now, of course, there's some lightheartedness that
Speaker 1: I find funny that I think should all be good.
Speaker 1: You know, Like there was a clip on TikTok or
Speaker 1: something where people were in the parking lot of Folk.
Speaker 1: It was like young kids celebrating Sidney got sent home.
Speaker 1: All right, I find that funny, Like, I think that
Speaker 1: that's funny. I think sid hopefully got a good laugh
Speaker 1: at that because they were just partying because Sidney got
Speaker 1: sent home. I think, you know, because that's kind of lighthearted.
Speaker 1: It's all fun and games. There is a part of
Speaker 1: you that is a character. Like we're part character on
Speaker 1: this show. We're very real, we're real people. It's real stories,
Speaker 1: it's real feeling. But it's also a TV show, and
Speaker 1: there's characters that are created, and like Ashley and I
Speaker 1: are character on this TV show, and so is Sydney,
Speaker 1: and so I find it funny that people were celebrating,
Speaker 1: like drinking in Sydney's parking a lot of her store
Speaker 1: in Rhode Island, like celebrating the fact that I guess
Speaker 1: she sent home. Because I think, like if Sydney she
Speaker 1: wasn't at the store at the time, so she couldn't
Speaker 1: have done this, But I thought it would be so
Speaker 1: funny if she was actually at the store and she
Speaker 1: went out and like partied with these people, because they
Speaker 1: would have loved it, you know, and it was shown
Speaker 1: self deprecating and it would have been funny and it
Speaker 1: would have been great. And that's the type of stuff
Speaker 1: that I think is funny and totally fair game. But
Speaker 1: of course the things that I don't find fair game
Speaker 1: are some of the messages that Sidney even posted on
Speaker 1: her Instagram where people are just saying heinous stuff, and
Speaker 1: it's like, guys, guys, you know, I'm not saying you
Speaker 1: have to like Sydney, but like, would you ever, in
Speaker 1: your everyday life say some of the things that you're
Speaker 1: saying to someone's face? Of course not, of course you wouldn't.
Speaker 1: So anyway, anyway, that's my thoughts on The Bachelor. We
Speaker 1: also just had Super Bowl Sunday, which was fun. Man,
Speaker 1: It's just turned into such a thing. The idea that
Speaker 1: the Monday after the super Bowl is not a holiday
Speaker 1: is just banana land, absolute craziness. Like, come on, America,
Speaker 1: Come on, America. I love this country. I think it's
Speaker 1: the greatest country in the world. But come on, you
Speaker 1: need to make the Monday after the super Bowl a
Speaker 1: national holiday and you don't need any excuse to do it.
Speaker 1: People were like, why can't you just celebrate President's Day,
Speaker 1: you know, and move it to the Monday after the
Speaker 1: super Bowl. You don't even need to do that. A
Speaker 1: lot of people that work hard in this country, that
Speaker 1: work five days a week, and it's just like, you know,
Speaker 1: you need good things in life. You need good things
Speaker 1: in life, and the making the Monday a holiday after
Speaker 1: the super Bowl is a good thing in life, and
Speaker 1: we should just do it, because you know what, life
Speaker 1: is too short. Let's take the day off of work
Speaker 1: after the super Bowl because we're all up late, we're
Speaker 1: all eating, we all feel like crap because I've had
Speaker 1: seventy four wings with all different types of sauces that
Speaker 1: are now mixed together in my stomach. I've had seven beers.
Speaker 1: I haven't moved from the couch. It's late, and now
Speaker 1: you tell me I got a wake up early. No no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: Let's just all have the day off. Let's all get together. Okay,
Speaker 1: Republican Democrats doesn't matter and just say, hey, listen, if
Speaker 1: there's one thing we're going to agree on, it's nobody's
Speaker 1: going to work the Monday after the super Bowl. Because
Speaker 1: this is a good thing. And that's my rant about that.
Speaker 1: It was fun, got to watch it with Dawson. I
Speaker 1: feel a little conflicted with doing things with Dawson right
Speaker 1: now that are meant for adults as well. The reason
Speaker 1: I say this is a super Bowl. You know, we
Speaker 1: went to my friend's house for the Super Bowl. And
Speaker 1: it's tough, right because you go, like, I want to
Speaker 1: watch the game. I want to watch the game with Dawson.
Speaker 1: I want to share this experience. But he could give
Speaker 1: a rats ass about the game. He doesn't know what's
Speaker 1: going on, Like he just wants to run around. So
Speaker 1: I find myself running around with him, not paying attention
Speaker 1: to the game, not bonding with him over the things
Speaker 1: that I don't want to bond with him over, Like it's
Speaker 1: just things that we do all the time, which is
Speaker 1: like reading a book or just like throwing the ball
Speaker 1: or just me chasing him, which is so much fun.
Speaker 1: But it's also like, bro, it's a super Bowl, like
Speaker 1: we you know, this is something like I want to
Speaker 1: share with you and not do the things that we
Speaker 1: do all the time. Anyway, A point is the reason
Speaker 1: I was thinking about this is because I'm going to
Speaker 1: a Bruins game, Boston Bruns game, which I'm excited about.
Speaker 1: I've actually never been to a Bruns game. It's my
Speaker 1: first Brun's game ever, which is crazy. But I was
Speaker 1: thinking do I bring you know, I was talking to
Speaker 1: Ashley about it, and Ashley, it's not feeling too great
Speaker 1: right now with pregnancy. She's not really a hockey fan,
Speaker 1: you know. She was like, I'll go and it would
Speaker 1: be fun. We can bring Dawson, and I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: do I want that? Though? And then I felt so
Speaker 1: terrible because I was like, I want to go so
Speaker 1: badly to sporting events with my son because that's such
Speaker 1: an experience for both of us. But it am I
Speaker 1: being selfish by saying I don't want to go with
Speaker 1: him right now because he's just too young for those
Speaker 1: type of environments. Like when we went to Disney. I
Speaker 1: didn't feel like he was too young for Disney because
Speaker 1: there's so much for him there should do you know,
Speaker 1: at a game, the only thing to do is to
Speaker 1: watch the game, and of course there's lights and you
Speaker 1: can walk around, but like, I don't want you five
Speaker 1: minutes in him to start freaking out and just want
Speaker 1: to run around the stadium where it's like no, no, no,
Speaker 1: we watched the game, buddy, you know, we're going to
Speaker 1: watch the game together, and there's like so much happening,
Speaker 1: but he doesn't care. You know, after ten minutes of
Speaker 1: watching that, he's he's over it. He wants Aladdin, you know.
Speaker 1: So I feel kind of selfish being like I don't
Speaker 1: know if I want to take Dawson. In fact, I
Speaker 1: know I don't want to take Dawson, not because I
Speaker 1: don't want to be with my son. I want to
Speaker 1: be with my son so badly. I want to bring
Speaker 1: him to Red Sox games. I want to bring him
Speaker 1: to Bruin's games and Patriots and like share that experience.
Speaker 1: But I want him to know what's going on, so
Speaker 1: I can, you know, talk to him about things like, dude,
Speaker 1: you see that play, like this is what he did
Speaker 1: on that? Isn't that crazy? You're like, oh, my god,
Speaker 1: was on a crazy throw, you know, or my god,
Speaker 1: what to pass? And like, oh the Bruins won, Like
Speaker 1: he has no idea, he's probably gonna be scared. Honestly,
Speaker 1: I was also thinking that, like with the loud noise
Speaker 1: in the lights, he's probably gonna freaked the hell out.
Speaker 1: So maybe it's not that selfish. I don't know anybody
Speaker 1: else feel that way though, where you get this parent guilt.
Speaker 1: You're like, oh, no, I want to do something without
Speaker 1: my son, but something I do want to do with
Speaker 1: my son down the line, So like, should I feel
Speaker 1: terrible for not wanting to do it right now even
Speaker 1: though I think it's probably the best that I do this,
Speaker 1: And then he just stays home and just like you know,
Speaker 1: chills in his room with his toys, which is what
Speaker 1: he's going to want to do. Anyway. I don't know.
Speaker 1: These are all things that pop in my head. I
Speaker 1: kind of feel like a bad person. But at the
Speaker 1: same time, should I not? Should I feel like a
Speaker 1: bad person? I don't really know anyway. What else' those
Speaker 1: are my thoughts about taking Dawson to the Bruins games.
Speaker 1: I know, compelling stuff. Guys, tell me about it. If
Speaker 1: you guys have any questions for me about parenting, about
Speaker 1: fatherhood relationships, please dm the Instagram let me know. I
Speaker 1: would love nothing more than to answer them on air,
Speaker 1: because again I'm doing this podcast by myself, so I'm
Speaker 1: really talking to you guys to listeners, which is fun
Speaker 1: for me. I hope it's fun for you. It's really
Speaker 1: just me talking at you. I don't know how much
Speaker 1: fun that is for you. But I guess you're driving
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Speaker 1: Thank you again for doing so. But if you have
Speaker 1: any questions for me you want to answer, you want
Speaker 1: me to answer on the air, or just like thoughts
Speaker 1: in general stories things like that, please DM the Instagram,
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Speaker 1: talk about them on air, because at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, this solo podcast is really just a conversation
Speaker 1: between me and you. You know, and I'm sure you
Speaker 1: guys have a lot of kids. You know a lot
Speaker 1: of people listening to this have kids. That's the whole
Speaker 1: point of it, the relatability. So let's talk, let's chat,
Speaker 1: let's have a good time. And once again, I really
Speaker 1: appreciate you guys listening to this podcast. You have no
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Speaker 1: I can't believe I think it's been six six years
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Speaker 1: I can't believe it's lasted this long. It's only lasted
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