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Speaker 1: Hey guys, welcome to a Dallan sized a dish your

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Speaker 1: hopes of horrible decision. I'm your girl, Mandy b aka

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Speaker 1: Downed aka pull Corkunths aka deb Beach. Welcome back, y'all.

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Speaker 1: I'm we'sy.

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Speaker 2: We're here for another episode in La But I gotta

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Speaker 2: tell you how I know our two guests. Oh okay,

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Speaker 2: So I've known Heather forever for following her because I

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Speaker 2: just like following hot bitches.

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Speaker 1: No, but I always un follow them when I go

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Speaker 1: through my body it's morphia.

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Speaker 2: I'll be like, on a bitch, I'm too fat for

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Speaker 2: this corner, Like I gotta I gotta unfollow. And then

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Speaker 2: I saw your page one day. I was like, oh

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Speaker 2: my god, he's so cute. And then I saw Heather

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Speaker 2: they're see when you follow niggas that look really good,

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Speaker 2: you gotta look at the girlfriend. If a girlfriend's mid,

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Speaker 2: you'll be fine, but the girlfriend's fine.

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Speaker 3: Not now.

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Speaker 1: The mid girlfriends end up getting pregnant over and over and.

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Speaker 2: It don't matter though, because when they get with you,

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Speaker 2: it's just like, oh yeah me, why oh I'm not

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Speaker 2: about to get no Heather smoke, Oh, well, like too

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Speaker 2: many people.

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Speaker 3: Well, y'all.

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Speaker 1: We are joined today by Tea Round and Heather Sanders,

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Speaker 1: hosts of the Back on Fake podcast and Ladies Listening.

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Speaker 1: Y'all may have purchased clothes because it's been around forever.

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Speaker 1: Heather Sanders is the owner of so relaiboutique and We're

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Speaker 1: excited to have y'all on here to talk about. We

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Speaker 1: hoping they don't break up after this. Actually, but we

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Speaker 1: don't dig into the way, should we do. Some Valentine's

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Speaker 1: predictions by the end of this episode are we gonna

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Speaker 1: want a man or not?

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Speaker 3: Right?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's do it. We're gonna do make us feel better.

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Speaker 4: Wait, so you thought you was cute, y'all?

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Speaker 1: I don't know. I'm good.

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Speaker 3: Look y'all, I look good.

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Speaker 1: Can I be honest? This is no shape?

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Speaker 2: Okay, the girlfriend is fine.

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Speaker 1: Kind of makes you be like, oh damn, it makes

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Speaker 3: I look better. I look better because she looks better.

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Speaker 1: Well, okay, they tell me this ain't true.

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Speaker 2: When you see a niggro Instagram and his bitch is bad,

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Speaker 1: If you see a man and his chick is whack,

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Speaker 1: Y'all just going on. They don't even look good together.

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Speaker 1: What's going on? Shore?

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Speaker 1: Right now, we can't deny or confirm this until she does.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to start this podcast off with some icebreakers.

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Speaker 1: So would you rather have sex in a car or

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Speaker 1: Because car sexist? Kind of like high school?

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Speaker 2: In fourteen years, you've never had sex in a card again? Me,

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Speaker 3: I guess you know what I mean, because if I'm

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Speaker 1: It's what are your signs? Anything else? I'm an Aquarius? Happy?

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Speaker 1: you to need me. He's why he cheated on me. Yeah, okay,

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Speaker 3: But I like you start in the bedroom, you walk

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Speaker 1: Oh no, We'll be starting in the living room because

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Speaker 3: You know, I make it a little cute.

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Speaker 3: Little, so he hid from the back boom. You know what,

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Speaker 1: Well, and that's the thing. He's like six seven and

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Speaker 2: I think if I pick anything that wasn't a bed,

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Speaker 1: Oh gir, I ain't never eating a.

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Speaker 1: Now, this is where I wanted to get on. That's crazy.

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Speaker 3: So you gave him some head in here.

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Speaker 1: Oh, I ain't gonna be like I felt wrong to

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Speaker 2: So when you're with the kids and you get the

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Speaker 3: It's going crazy. I'm fucking all up and down Mexico,

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Speaker 1: And then they're always trying to like Tequilo, you up, hey, vacage. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: give it to me. You don't even know what it is.

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Speaker 1: They say, you know, you don't care. We never heard

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Speaker 1: is good ship. They ain't got this back at home. Nigga,

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Speaker 1: that should be twelve us. Yeah, it don't be nothing.

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Speaker 1: before we get into our vanilla ship t roll. Let's

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Speaker 2: So for the listeners, Mandy has prepared some questions for them.

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Speaker 2: They're folded up in their laps and no one knows

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Speaker 1: And ask the question on the paper. You're gonna answer it,

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Speaker 3: Okay, here we go. Would you rather? Would you rather

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Speaker 3: I become best friends with my ex or best friends

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Speaker 3: with your ex.

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Speaker 1: Ship and I only best friends with yours? What you

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Speaker 1: would rather him become best friends with his ex? Am?

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Speaker 1: I tripping or nobody in the room would have said,

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Speaker 1: I ain't gonna lie. I don't know if I would

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Speaker 5: Because him and his ex are already cool and I

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Speaker 1: Wait is it an X you have children with? Though?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that doesn't count well because he's picking up that's

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Speaker 2: a that's a that's a respect you have for a

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Speaker 3: Yeah, well don't know none of my ex at that

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Speaker 1: Okay, I can get that. I can get that. Heather

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Speaker 5: We're only five minutes in it and it's already fucking

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Speaker 1: She can be caught. I'm not getting cheated on. I'm

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Speaker 5: I'm gonna ask, Okayterrell, would you rather cheat and be

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Speaker 1: Damn?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, just don't even tell me.

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Speaker 1: Really well, I'm not gonna lie as a man if

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Speaker 3: If you're cheat on me and I know we're done.

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Speaker 2: But if you cheat, what if this she knows fteen

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Speaker 1: What if she got a Mexico moment with her homegirl.

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Speaker 3: Look it's gone, don't look at me, don't touch me.

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Speaker 3: I don't know like you gave them.

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Speaker 2: That you know the type of woman you have, right,

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Speaker 3: I mean, you could just fuck a nigg on vacation.

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Speaker 3: I mean if I'm a pick between the two. But

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Speaker 3: still you gave him a hand. Okay, this is oh my,

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Speaker 3: this is that is the emotional connection. Because the emotional connection, well,

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Speaker 1: To be fair, the one that I had. Where you sit,

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Speaker 1: Do you believe in emotional cheating? Or like liking posts

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Speaker 1: What? What do you what? What is your idea of

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Speaker 3: You if you crack open a DM bitch, you cheat.

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Speaker 3: You crack on the DM. You cheating, and if you

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Speaker 3: like it, you cheat. If you talking to a nigga

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Speaker 3: probably whatever it is, and you click, you but you

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Speaker 3: know and now I don't like you, so it way

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Speaker 1: So you're thinking of the way that men respond to

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Speaker 3: Is the issue. It's not even really what are you allowed.

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Speaker 1: To have guy friends? You have guy friends? Yeah, I

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Speaker 3: They all gay, and they Momi not my homies. Her

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Speaker 5: No, but recently I've met a lot of new men

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Speaker 1: And you're okay with me having them, they must not be.

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Speaker 3: They cool. They all they at the gym. They cool,

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Speaker 3: They got wife, they they cool with me too. It

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Speaker 3: ain't like I don't know them. I don't know of

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I want to get into our fanilla ship

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Speaker 1: have done this. This has been a constant conversation recently,

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Speaker 1: the New York Post. Sleep divorce isn't just a trend.

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Speaker 1: New scientific research actually backs the separate bed theory, so

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Speaker 1: The news comes as more and more couples are opting

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Speaker 1: out of conventional shared beds sleeping arrangements. Again, Cameron Diaz

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Speaker 1: Have you guys thought to have separate beds? Have y'all

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Speaker 1: slept separate after an argument? How do you go about

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Speaker 3: If I'm arguing with you, I might lead You know, Okay,

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Speaker 3: I'm definitely going to sleep in another room. My energy

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Speaker 3: But what Karen Die is saying, I think she's that's

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Speaker 3: rich nigga shit. That's like Oprah Stadman, Get your ass

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Speaker 3: in the backyard. I got a house for you, like rich.

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Speaker 3: That's rich people shit, like they always have their own homes,

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Speaker 3: over here Beverly Hill, Like that's they shit, normal people.

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Speaker 3: We do not do that. You better get your ass

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Speaker 3: in the house full time. Is it like we don't

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Speaker 3: do that? Well?

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Speaker 2: No, they were saying separate bedrooms, separate letter even like

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Speaker 2: out of pocket, you know what I mean?

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Speaker 1: Like you think having separate bedrooms in the same house

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Speaker 1: as I people want to.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't even want to. I don't even want

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Speaker 5: Well, we got into it last night and his ass

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Speaker 1: And I was totally fine with that. And you still

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Speaker 5: We need to say I love you before we go

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Speaker 1: We need to kiss before we go to sleep.

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Speaker 5: And now I'm like fourteen years I'm like, nigga, if

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Speaker 5: be my fucking guest. If you want to go down

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Speaker 5: sleep in your little man, can't go be my guest.

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Speaker 5: I'm fine sleeping with my baby. My baby sleeps with

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Speaker 3: Nothing.

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Speaker 1: My question is what happens next. You guys go to

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Speaker 1: and now what does communication look like in the morning

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Speaker 1: to get over whatever y'all argued about. Well, this is

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Speaker 2: Let me ask you a question that I'm interested in

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Speaker 2: to be what you said that now you've let it go.

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Speaker 2: Do you think that comes from a place of I

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Speaker 2: Like you fighting, but you know you're gonna end up

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Speaker 2: with this na, you know what I mean, you've seen

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Speaker 2: the love whatever.

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Speaker 1: Do you think that's why you don't give a fuck

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Speaker 2: Or is it because you've learned that he needs space

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Speaker 2: because some women can't give men space.

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Speaker 5: Probably a little bit of both. Like, I know he'll

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Speaker 5: get over it. He's just mad right now. He gets really,

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Speaker 5: then he'll think about it and then we always end

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Speaker 5: because I need time too, because we have to be

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Speaker 2: Because I need to have some faithistus. I say, because

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Speaker 2: I really do want to know, though. Can you tell

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Speaker 1: You fixed that, we fix that, you overcame. Uh, just

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Speaker 2: Like with my ex, he felt like I wasn't considered

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Speaker 1: Go ahead, because you complain about me all day. I

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Speaker 3: Something it ain't no fucking sweet no. You know you've

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Speaker 3: and that's just not with me, you feel me. That's

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Speaker 3: just not giving the best vibe. You feel me, like,

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Speaker 3: you you calm down with that a lot. I told her,

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Speaker 3: you know, just be positive, be positive. You know everything

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Speaker 3: is good. You don't have to be so hard all

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Speaker 3: It's taking fucking years. How do you do?

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Speaker 1: How do you communicate? Because clearly you seem to like

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Speaker 1: how do you get her if she's in a space

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Speaker 3: I say, that's what okay, that's what I gotta work

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Speaker 3: So we both got to work on our our communication

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Speaker 3: you know, how things are supposed to go and what

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Speaker 1: I don't you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: With a girl that's too nice and sweet, even the

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Speaker 2: this that?

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Speaker 1: Do you know who do shit like that?

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Speaker 2: Real sweet and nice girls and they have no idea

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Speaker 2: that they're disrespecting their man. If your girl isn't a

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Speaker 2: a bitch who probably pisses you off because she's too

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Speaker 2: work with men like.

440
00:19:47,800 --> 00:19:49,000
Speaker 1: You, So you want this.

441
00:19:50,440 --> 00:19:50,640
Speaker 3: Now.

442
00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:54,120
Speaker 2: No, if you hear that video of Cone's wife because

443
00:19:54,160 --> 00:19:55,960
Speaker 2: with the nigga and she was like you got it me?

444
00:19:56,760 --> 00:19:57,919
Speaker 1: You saw that, Yeah, like.

445
00:20:00,080 --> 00:20:03,639
Speaker 3: By my face, no, no, my leg would be like

446
00:20:04,080 --> 00:20:06,800
Speaker 3: it's just different though, because she just like her attitude

447
00:20:06,960 --> 00:20:10,760
Speaker 3: is just like it's just like mine. And she's a girl,

448
00:20:10,840 --> 00:20:13,040
Speaker 3: she's a woman, and you can't be like me all

449
00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:15,440
Speaker 3: the time, like people are gonna take it the wrong

450
00:20:15,480 --> 00:20:17,920
Speaker 3: way and I can't really protect you everywhere where you at.

451
00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:19,840
Speaker 3: You talking crazy like that, You might get out of

452
00:20:19,840 --> 00:20:20,200
Speaker 3: a nigga.

453
00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:21,840
Speaker 1: Why I look at him, he really just wants to

454
00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:26,320
Speaker 1: protect you. I would like to ask you, then, knowing

455
00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:30,399
Speaker 1: that there's this communication gap, how do you stay with

456
00:20:30,440 --> 00:20:33,239
Speaker 1: someone for fourteen years and y'all are still figuring out

457
00:20:33,280 --> 00:20:35,600
Speaker 1: how fuck to communicate with each other? Because that's like

458
00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:38,679
Speaker 1: almost now a deal breaking for me. I need someone

459
00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:41,400
Speaker 1: who I feel like I can come to and hold

460
00:20:41,440 --> 00:20:43,639
Speaker 1: accountable for how they act and then not turn into argument.

461
00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:45,000
Speaker 1: When I was telling you, I broke up this nigga

462
00:20:45,040 --> 00:20:47,399
Speaker 1: thirteen years, thirteen times, it's because every time I questioned

463
00:20:47,440 --> 00:20:49,760
Speaker 1: him about his fuck ass behavior, he just wanted to

464
00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:51,840
Speaker 1: run because he didn't want to be held accountable for

465
00:20:51,920 --> 00:20:53,840
Speaker 1: how he made me feel in his actions. So it

466
00:20:53,920 --> 00:20:57,199
Speaker 1: was just easier to break up, take some time, and

467
00:20:57,240 --> 00:20:58,719
Speaker 1: then I missed the dick and we just came up

468
00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:00,600
Speaker 1: and we never ever talked about any of the.

469
00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:02,720
Speaker 3: Issues where everybody not perfect, but I.

470
00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:04,320
Speaker 1: Get that, But now I'm to the point where no,

471
00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:06,520
Speaker 1: I would like to be able to work through things

472
00:21:06,800 --> 00:21:10,240
Speaker 1: and you understand and respect my feelings and truthfully apologize

473
00:21:10,240 --> 00:21:12,000
Speaker 1: so that I know you're not gonna keep doing that shit.

474
00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:13,119
Speaker 3: So this being.

475
00:21:13,000 --> 00:21:15,080
Speaker 1: Fourteen years in and y'all still figuring out how to

476
00:21:15,119 --> 00:21:17,359
Speaker 1: communicate when y'all are young. You know, only when you

477
00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:21,080
Speaker 1: hear fourteen years there's a different Like twenty years old, y'all.

478
00:21:21,119 --> 00:21:24,639
Speaker 1: Niggas in y'all thirty, so you're twenties into your thirties,

479
00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:27,840
Speaker 1: now becoming parents together, all these things. How do you

480
00:21:27,840 --> 00:21:31,000
Speaker 1: get this part and not have a strong communication foundation.

481
00:21:31,680 --> 00:21:34,120
Speaker 3: We I'm just saying, were not perfect. Everybody, y'all.

482
00:21:34,359 --> 00:21:37,480
Speaker 5: He communicates well better than you, yeah, better than me.

483
00:21:37,560 --> 00:21:38,760
Speaker 1: He communicates well.

484
00:21:38,760 --> 00:21:41,359
Speaker 5: He'll tell me how he feels his feelings, what he

485
00:21:41,400 --> 00:21:43,800
Speaker 5: doesn't like, what he does, like, he'll communicate.

486
00:21:43,320 --> 00:21:46,520
Speaker 1: That really well. You are so lucky. Literally, I still have.

487
00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:49,679
Speaker 5: Problems with communicating because I'm just like fuck it, Like

488
00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:50,399
Speaker 5: I don't care.

489
00:21:50,480 --> 00:21:51,240
Speaker 1: I'll just be done.

490
00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:54,760
Speaker 2: You know, your men do tell us how to treat them,

491
00:21:54,760 --> 00:21:58,399
Speaker 2: and we don't really listen sometimes, And it's it's interesting

492
00:21:58,440 --> 00:22:00,520
Speaker 2: because like I feel like I would beg to that

493
00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:01,320
Speaker 2: in my last relationship.

494
00:22:01,359 --> 00:22:03,600
Speaker 1: I'd be like, damn, what's he thinking about? What's he feeling?

495
00:22:03,880 --> 00:22:05,680
Speaker 2: And I was always trying to guess and it came

496
00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:06,920
Speaker 2: off like I was so desperate.

497
00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:08,600
Speaker 1: When you have a clear communicator.

498
00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:09,160
Speaker 3: It is good.

499
00:22:09,200 --> 00:22:10,920
Speaker 2: It's just did that nigga push you off so much

500
00:22:10,920 --> 00:22:13,000
Speaker 2: to where you can He just makes me so upset

501
00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:15,399
Speaker 2: because he talks crazy. Like the way he talks is

502
00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:19,040
Speaker 2: so disrespectful, crazy, like to even just if he gets

503
00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:21,440
Speaker 2: into an argument with somebody that he works with, it's

504
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:22,680
Speaker 2: just so disrespectful.

505
00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:23,000
Speaker 1: Crazy.

506
00:22:23,040 --> 00:22:26,080
Speaker 5: But that's how my dad was too. And my dad

507
00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:28,399
Speaker 5: is really stern and mean. And I feel like I

508
00:22:28,520 --> 00:22:30,320
Speaker 5: kind of like you know how you kind of like

509
00:22:30,400 --> 00:22:34,240
Speaker 5: you know what you grew up around me, Like my

510
00:22:34,359 --> 00:22:34,800
Speaker 5: dad is.

511
00:22:35,880 --> 00:22:40,280
Speaker 2: A short Jamaican in my mind, I like that make

512
00:22:40,320 --> 00:22:44,240
Speaker 2: me feel like a princess. Yeah, that's I mean, keep

513
00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:45,480
Speaker 2: up the princesship when you're mad.

514
00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:46,919
Speaker 1: You know he does not.

515
00:22:47,160 --> 00:22:49,440
Speaker 2: He does not let me keep up the princess ship

516
00:22:49,480 --> 00:22:54,359
Speaker 2: when he's mad. That's tell me your favorite thing about

517
00:22:54,400 --> 00:22:54,959
Speaker 2: your partner.

518
00:22:55,080 --> 00:23:00,520
Speaker 1: Oh that's a good question. You go first, but it'll

519
00:23:00,520 --> 00:23:03,280
Speaker 1: be a while for me. You think hard, and it

520
00:23:03,359 --> 00:23:04,720
Speaker 1: can't it can't be physical.

521
00:23:04,920 --> 00:23:09,480
Speaker 3: Oh, oh my god, it's fourteen years.

522
00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:11,480
Speaker 1: You shall go first. I go first.

523
00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 5: He I love how he is like he leads, He

524
00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:18,639
Speaker 5: leads us like he is like a good like provider

525
00:23:18,680 --> 00:23:21,480
Speaker 5: for our family. He'll like make sure he leads me

526
00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:24,400
Speaker 5: in the right direction. He's always given me really good advice.

527
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:27,800
Speaker 5: He's so fucking funny. I love that he's funny. He's

528
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:30,679
Speaker 5: just like a boss. But and he's just a thug

529
00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:33,880
Speaker 5: and just like but he's soft with me. And it's

530
00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:36,560
Speaker 5: just like certain things. Majority most of it is just

531
00:23:36,600 --> 00:23:39,560
Speaker 5: he makes me laugh and he's good to our kids.

532
00:23:39,600 --> 00:23:41,840
Speaker 1: That's that's a good fourteen years. You make me to laugh,

533
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:46,119
Speaker 1: like everything you just said. Now, what is your favorite

534
00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:46,680
Speaker 1: thing about Heather?

535
00:23:48,280 --> 00:23:53,440
Speaker 3: I don't know. You know, she's a she's a great businesswoman,

536
00:23:53,840 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 3: great business woman, very very except can't be physical, but

537
00:23:57,400 --> 00:24:02,280
Speaker 3: very beautiful, A great mother, great mother, man inside out

538
00:24:02,359 --> 00:24:05,560
Speaker 3: is wild. I couldn't ask for, you know, anything else.

539
00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:11,080
Speaker 3: Very consistent man like I always say I'm an inconsistent person,

540
00:24:11,200 --> 00:24:13,720
Speaker 3: but you know I can. I learned from her a lot.

541
00:24:14,160 --> 00:24:17,200
Speaker 2: Well, don't get mad when that attitude consistent too, because

542
00:24:17,240 --> 00:24:21,199
Speaker 2: it is. I have never heard a man say a

543
00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:22,480
Speaker 2: woman is consistent.

544
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:26,720
Speaker 3: She's very consistent when she puts her mind to something

545
00:24:28,040 --> 00:24:31,520
Speaker 3: and she just does it every day, whether if it's Surreller,

546
00:24:31,640 --> 00:24:33,800
Speaker 3: money for nails, whether if it's TikTok you've seen this

547
00:24:33,920 --> 00:24:38,359
Speaker 3: out there with the fucking tripod God Mody' got that

548
00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:42,359
Speaker 3: motherfucker like it's a dial. No, Paul, she just got

549
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:44,880
Speaker 3: that bitch Like I'm like, thisfucker, little crazy.

550
00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:46,240
Speaker 1: Sorella's a real big deal though.

551
00:24:46,240 --> 00:24:48,760
Speaker 2: And I would say, I think what's impressive about it

552
00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:51,600
Speaker 2: is we're in such an ig boutique era that like

553
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:54,080
Speaker 2: you did this before that shit though, and I recently.

554
00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 2: I mean I think I always remembered it was you.

555
00:24:56,320 --> 00:24:58,040
Speaker 2: But when I was shopping in there maybe a few

556
00:24:58,080 --> 00:25:00,919
Speaker 2: months ago after the flea market, this white girl said to.

557
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:03,320
Speaker 1: Another way girl, Yes, this is black house. Oh wow.

558
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:08,400
Speaker 5: And I was like, they love that, they love it, bitch,

559
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 5: keep it going.

560
00:25:09,080 --> 00:25:11,000
Speaker 1: I say that shit every day.

561
00:25:11,240 --> 00:25:11,400
Speaker 6: Now.

562
00:25:11,400 --> 00:25:13,040
Speaker 3: You brought up dil Do. So here we go.

563
00:25:13,080 --> 00:25:16,160
Speaker 1: We're getting into our hoo dirt, and I mean, all right,

564
00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:18,480
Speaker 1: come down with this sout of it, you know, for

565
00:25:18,600 --> 00:25:21,879
Speaker 1: our hore dirt. I would love to know from both

566
00:25:21,880 --> 00:25:25,080
Speaker 1: of you, how being together for so long, especially even

567
00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:28,280
Speaker 1: after having kids, how you keep it spicy for you.

568
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:30,959
Speaker 1: I want you to talk about what sex look like

569
00:25:31,119 --> 00:25:34,120
Speaker 1: after having your children and how you really got comfortable

570
00:25:34,119 --> 00:25:37,240
Speaker 1: with that, and for you, it's being in this relationship

571
00:25:37,280 --> 00:25:40,680
Speaker 1: so long, and even through fatherhood and her being pregnant,

572
00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:41,960
Speaker 1: how y'all kept it spicy.

573
00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:45,240
Speaker 3: I got back into it. I think, I think it's

574
00:25:45,359 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 3: just you just love. You gotta love your partner. You

575
00:25:48,080 --> 00:25:51,320
Speaker 3: feel me just like, you know. I always think about

576
00:25:51,680 --> 00:25:53,919
Speaker 3: the first time I met her, you know, and that

577
00:25:54,000 --> 00:25:55,680
Speaker 3: first time I met her, I'm like, Damn, I wanna

578
00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:57,399
Speaker 3: be with you forever, you know what I mean, Like

579
00:25:57,440 --> 00:25:59,800
Speaker 3: she walked up to me and I was like, Damn,

580
00:26:00,160 --> 00:26:02,960
Speaker 3: be with you forever. So it's just like it's always

581
00:26:03,000 --> 00:26:05,199
Speaker 3: that feeling, like, you know, I don't never have to

582
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:08,879
Speaker 3: fuck another girl's just to I always every time I

583
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:10,600
Speaker 3: look at her, I think about that, and you know,

584
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:12,919
Speaker 3: it just give me that same feeling. You know, we

585
00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:15,560
Speaker 3: have sex or whatever the case may be, It's just

586
00:26:15,720 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 3: always the same for me. So I love it, you

587
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:19,640
Speaker 3: know what I mean, Like, I really don't care.

588
00:26:20,040 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 5: He's always liked me, though, fact because I've been through

589
00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:23,400
Speaker 5: a lot of stages of Heather.

590
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:25,360
Speaker 1: I've been with him since I was nineteen years old.

591
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 5: I'm about to turn thirty four on Friday, and I've

592
00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:29,960
Speaker 5: been through a lot of stages. I've went through postpartum,

593
00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:33,800
Speaker 5: like I've gained like one hundred and thirty pounds, like

594
00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:36,919
Speaker 5: I've just I've had Bell's palsy. My whole face was

595
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:40,240
Speaker 5: like paralyzed on the right side. And I've just like

596
00:26:40,359 --> 00:26:44,320
Speaker 5: not always been my best and he always still loved me.

597
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:48,280
Speaker 5: He was fucking me up when I have Bell's palsy.

598
00:26:50,080 --> 00:26:53,000
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I.

599
00:26:52,960 --> 00:26:54,080
Speaker 6: Really don't love.

600
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 1: I was almost cheering up and.

601
00:27:00,840 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 3: No, no, I try to give a little cool, little answer.

602
00:27:04,280 --> 00:27:09,679
Speaker 3: I was just saying anything, but I think said she

603
00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:14,600
Speaker 3: had Bill's falls, your whole face like this, the whole thing,

604
00:27:17,680 --> 00:27:19,879
Speaker 3: and one of the whole girls like you was fucking

605
00:27:19,880 --> 00:27:20,920
Speaker 3: her with Bill's falls.

606
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:31,240
Speaker 1: You cold, no, sir, she made her feel that it

607
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:31,920
Speaker 1: wasn't right.

608
00:27:32,920 --> 00:27:39,000
Speaker 7: So she in that ball fucking gold Craigs. She was

609
00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:44,080
Speaker 7: let me see it again, she gotta look back.

610
00:27:51,400 --> 00:27:56,080
Speaker 1: When I let's just say one when I was in

611
00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:56,880
Speaker 1: New York, and the other.

612
00:27:56,840 --> 00:27:59,480
Speaker 3: One was look it was doing this show.

613
00:28:00,080 --> 00:28:02,840
Speaker 1: Were you like focusing on the cities like or did

614
00:28:02,840 --> 00:28:03,960
Speaker 1: you just learn to live with.

615
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:07,320
Speaker 3: You just got to be in there close?

616
00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:13,160
Speaker 1: Maybe you just like you you know that? So then

617
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:18,080
Speaker 1: with all of let's promove the belt. Know, then maybe

618
00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 1: if you could give I've shared I've lost eighty pounds.

619
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:23,560
Speaker 1: I've been as high as two thirty five all the

620
00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:27,000
Speaker 1: way down to one fifty. I want to know what

621
00:28:27,080 --> 00:28:29,560
Speaker 1: tips you would maybe have for women who have experienced

622
00:28:29,760 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: those different weight losses only because to how I showed

623
00:28:33,160 --> 00:28:35,560
Speaker 1: up in the bedroom where my confidence is a lot

624
00:28:35,600 --> 00:28:40,120
Speaker 1: different now. Yeah, outstandards now, But I want to know,

625
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:43,000
Speaker 1: like being in a relationship, how that affected you sex

626
00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:44,880
Speaker 1: sex wise, and how you say confident.

627
00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:48,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, I just always knew that I was a bad bitch.

628
00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:50,920
Speaker 5: I always knew that Plissy was it. I just know

629
00:28:51,040 --> 00:28:53,360
Speaker 5: that I was it, you know, And no matter how

630
00:28:53,400 --> 00:28:56,840
Speaker 5: big or I was, I knew that I can still

631
00:28:56,880 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 5: do certain things that you know. But it did kind

632
00:28:59,880 --> 00:29:01,280
Speaker 5: of mess with me a little bit, like I'm not

633
00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:02,640
Speaker 5: I don't even want to be touched.

634
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:03,720
Speaker 1: At some point in times.

635
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 5: I'm like, I don't want to be touched, I don't

636
00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:06,680
Speaker 5: want to do this, I don't look good enough whatever.

637
00:29:07,240 --> 00:29:09,240
Speaker 5: But still, deep down inside, I knew that he always

638
00:29:09,280 --> 00:29:10,880
Speaker 5: loved me no matter how I looked. I knew I

639
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:12,320
Speaker 5: still had it, and I knew that it was still

640
00:29:12,320 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 5: good everymore.

641
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:17,320
Speaker 2: If you gained some weight like big, like that's at

642
00:29:17,400 --> 00:29:21,160
Speaker 2: least to me. Niggas fuck with thick girls with big No.

643
00:29:21,280 --> 00:29:25,120
Speaker 2: Yeah they gained one hundred. Yeah, let her get she

644
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 2: gained another body, let me get it out when you're big, right,

645
00:29:29,480 --> 00:29:30,760
Speaker 2: because you've got a beautiful face.

646
00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 1: But Bell's palsy. I know the way.

647
00:29:33,800 --> 00:29:35,320
Speaker 2: To me, I'd be like that could come and go.

648
00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:36,960
Speaker 2: We don't know if that I going back up. I

649
00:29:37,000 --> 00:29:37,960
Speaker 2: know that's love.

650
00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 1: Yeah.

651
00:29:38,360 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 3: That was.

652
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:41,200
Speaker 1: And he was like every day like trying to figure out,

653
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 1: like how can we fix this?

654
00:29:42,160 --> 00:29:43,520
Speaker 5: Cause I was just like, you know what, this is

655
00:29:43,520 --> 00:29:45,480
Speaker 5: how I am, Like I was like ready to give

656
00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:48,280
Speaker 5: up on life. I just had a baby, Like I

657
00:29:48,360 --> 00:29:50,200
Speaker 5: was focused on taking care of my baby.

658
00:29:50,760 --> 00:29:52,960
Speaker 1: Like I didn't care how I looked. I was just like,

659
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:54,400
Speaker 1: I'm gonna take care of my baby.

660
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:56,240
Speaker 5: He was lucky to even be in this world because

661
00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 5: he almost didn't make it there in labor. So I

662
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:01,720
Speaker 5: was just going through a lot dear that time. So

663
00:30:01,920 --> 00:30:03,640
Speaker 5: I mean that it really phased me. But he was like, no,

664
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:05,560
Speaker 5: we got to get over it, Like you can't be

665
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:08,040
Speaker 5: out here like this, Like you could be like Heather,

666
00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:10,240
Speaker 5: this is not the end of your life, you know.

667
00:30:10,320 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 1: I was like, you could just delete by Instagram like

668
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:15,560
Speaker 1: Romeo from iMX. You could have just done the iPad,

669
00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:16,520
Speaker 1: I could have you know.

670
00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:22,680
Speaker 3: What I done that. I was like, it was you

671
00:30:22,680 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 3: see a picture?

672
00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:26,480
Speaker 1: Where how did that happen? I think it was caused

673
00:30:26,520 --> 00:30:27,160
Speaker 1: from stress.

674
00:30:27,240 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 5: It's caused uh after pregnancy and stress and just different things,

675
00:30:33,360 --> 00:30:36,280
Speaker 5: just not taking care of yourself. And I really wasn't.

676
00:30:36,440 --> 00:30:38,560
Speaker 5: So it was like, oh, I was reading everything like

677
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:43,360
Speaker 5: oh do yoga, like meditate, eat healthy, just go on

678
00:30:43,440 --> 00:30:44,520
Speaker 5: about your daily life.

679
00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:47,040
Speaker 1: That's not gonna work out. Don't tell me to do yoga.

680
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:49,600
Speaker 5: And and that's what I accepted. And he was like

681
00:30:49,680 --> 00:30:52,200
Speaker 5: hell no, like that's not what it. That's not that's

682
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:53,360
Speaker 5: you know, that's not it.

683
00:30:53,600 --> 00:30:54,120
Speaker 1: I'm a doctor.

684
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 2: I want to ask a pternal question really quick because

685
00:30:57,240 --> 00:30:59,920
Speaker 2: where when women podcast, we very rarely have men on

686
00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:03,440
Speaker 2: talking about being dads, but postpartum is a common theme

687
00:31:03,480 --> 00:31:06,920
Speaker 2: with women. What happens with you when you see the

688
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:09,040
Speaker 2: person that you love being depressed as fuck?

689
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:10,120
Speaker 1: You don't even know what to do?

690
00:31:10,280 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 3: Like me, have you from the ghetto? And she told me, ship,

691
00:31:13,520 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 3: I'm thinking about throwing my baby down the stairs. I'm like, bitch,

692
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:18,720
Speaker 3: I got to get my baby up out of here.

693
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:23,400
Speaker 3: Who was going, and I was like, I thought she

694
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 3: was just like maybe she needs some attention. Maybe I

695
00:31:27,040 --> 00:31:29,160
Speaker 3: don't know, maybe she going crazy. I don't I didn't

696
00:31:29,160 --> 00:31:29,480
Speaker 3: know what.

697
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:29,960
Speaker 1: It was, did you.

698
00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:34,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, well she had went to the doctor or whatever

699
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:37,280
Speaker 3: the case may be, and they was like, well maybe

700
00:31:37,320 --> 00:31:41,640
Speaker 3: you have postpartum, you know, And I start googling it,

701
00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:43,080
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, and I'm like, let me

702
00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:46,000
Speaker 3: see if this is the symptom. And so I'm like, oh,

703
00:31:46,360 --> 00:31:49,280
Speaker 3: she got all of it. So I feel like a

704
00:31:49,320 --> 00:31:51,960
Speaker 3: fucked up person because I took it hard on them,

705
00:31:51,960 --> 00:31:53,560
Speaker 3: you know, like, what the fuck are you talking about?

706
00:31:53,640 --> 00:31:56,400
Speaker 5: Don't ever fucking stand about get my baby? Bitch like

707
00:31:56,520 --> 00:31:58,320
Speaker 5: going crazy on me. But I'm like, I'm just letting

708
00:31:58,360 --> 00:32:00,600
Speaker 5: you know. Because we have a three story house, so

709
00:32:00,640 --> 00:32:03,040
Speaker 5: we have three flights of stairs. So when I'm going

710
00:32:03,120 --> 00:32:05,200
Speaker 5: up to make my baby a bottle, I'm holding my

711
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:10,120
Speaker 5: baby so fucking tight because there is yeah, and I'm

712
00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:12,600
Speaker 5: like praying, and I'm like, what the fuck is this ship?

713
00:32:12,960 --> 00:32:15,200
Speaker 5: And I'm not feel like yourself, Yeah I did it,

714
00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:17,360
Speaker 5: but I'm like, I know I'm not crazy, and I know.

715
00:32:17,440 --> 00:32:18,680
Speaker 3: I never do it.

716
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 5: I know I'll never actually do I just couldn't ever

717
00:32:21,840 --> 00:32:24,400
Speaker 5: physically see myself doing it. But why am I thinking it?

718
00:32:25,000 --> 00:32:26,680
Speaker 5: I don't want to think like this. I don't want

719
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:28,800
Speaker 5: to hold my baby tight when I'm walking up the stairs.

720
00:32:28,880 --> 00:32:31,480
Speaker 5: I'm like, something's not right. And I didn't experience that

721
00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:33,720
Speaker 5: with my first kid. I was like, back to my normal.

722
00:32:33,720 --> 00:32:35,000
Speaker 5: It's really just the hormones.

723
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:37,680
Speaker 1: I had a conversation on my periods this podcast where

724
00:32:38,000 --> 00:32:40,760
Speaker 1: this girl had got on birth control, and birth control

725
00:32:41,160 --> 00:32:42,920
Speaker 1: was making her when she got to a red light

726
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:47,120
Speaker 1: wanting to run it just like she had suicidal ideologies. Bro,

727
00:32:47,280 --> 00:32:47,960
Speaker 1: those are this shit?

728
00:32:48,120 --> 00:32:50,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, just no, you want to fuck normal and not

729
00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:54,880
Speaker 2: get pregnant, but you might die, like I know, literally.

730
00:32:55,080 --> 00:32:58,840
Speaker 1: Just any type of medicine or anything like, I don't just.

731
00:32:58,800 --> 00:33:00,800
Speaker 3: I don't know, feel like a fuck the person during

732
00:33:00,840 --> 00:33:02,640
Speaker 3: that time, don't she tell me that? I was like,

733
00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:05,240
Speaker 3: oh fuck because the ship I didn't did because I'm

734
00:33:05,320 --> 00:33:07,200
Speaker 3: so extra out. I'm like, man, give you my baby.

735
00:33:07,240 --> 00:33:10,640
Speaker 3: I'm just super op protecting my kids anyway. And I'm like,

736
00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:12,040
Speaker 3: I'm a do it. You go over here and do

737
00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 3: whatever you got going on.

738
00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:17,040
Speaker 1: And after googling it, then how did you for support through?

739
00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:18,240
Speaker 1: What would you recommend.

740
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:21,760
Speaker 3: So after I did that, I was just like, all right,

741
00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 3: I got you. You know what I mean, whatever you

742
00:33:23,520 --> 00:33:26,440
Speaker 3: need and help whatever you got going on, like you

743
00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:29,920
Speaker 3: go over here. My biggest thing right now is you know,

744
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:32,640
Speaker 3: if if anybody out there you have any topic, stress

745
00:33:32,720 --> 00:33:34,760
Speaker 3: or depressed or anything like that, go work out, you

746
00:33:34,800 --> 00:33:37,600
Speaker 3: know what I mean, that's one thing. Go to the gym,

747
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:41,840
Speaker 3: or let's run. Let's go take some walks and do that.

748
00:33:41,920 --> 00:33:45,360
Speaker 3: You feel me like, I'm just helping her around the house.

749
00:33:45,880 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 3: Anything had to do with the kids. I did it, baths, diapers,

750
00:33:50,800 --> 00:33:54,840
Speaker 3: stand up, late, sleep, bottles, I did anything, every every

751
00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:55,400
Speaker 3: single thing.

752
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:58,000
Speaker 1: So just to help you recognize that that helped that

753
00:33:58,560 --> 00:34:00,640
Speaker 1: it switched whenever he thinks out what was.

754
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:01,240
Speaker 3: Going on with you?

755
00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:05,760
Speaker 1: Right, yeah it did because she was like again, this

756
00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 1: is real, Yeah, this is real.

757
00:34:07,480 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 5: And I'm like thank you because I'm I'm trying to

758
00:34:10,120 --> 00:34:13,759
Speaker 5: like tell you that I'm having a problem and you're

759
00:34:13,880 --> 00:34:16,960
Speaker 5: just like downplaying it like whatever, like you're crazier trip

760
00:34:17,000 --> 00:34:19,080
Speaker 5: and whatever. But I'm like, no, this is like for real,

761
00:34:19,600 --> 00:34:21,240
Speaker 5: like I'm not eaty, it's trying to be extra.

762
00:34:21,400 --> 00:34:21,560
Speaker 3: Now.

763
00:34:21,600 --> 00:34:23,719
Speaker 1: People don't believe in depression. They don't know, but I

764
00:34:23,719 --> 00:34:25,480
Speaker 1: really don't. You said, will help a lot of dads

765
00:34:25,520 --> 00:34:25,759
Speaker 1: out there.

766
00:34:25,760 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 2: I have a friend who recently had a baby, who

767
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:29,520
Speaker 2: like was venting to me, and it's hard because I

768
00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:31,959
Speaker 2: don't have kids. She's like, you don't understand, like the bath,

769
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:34,520
Speaker 2: Like I'm already I got the C section. It's like

770
00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:36,160
Speaker 2: hurting me to bend over. She was like, and this

771
00:34:36,239 --> 00:34:38,799
Speaker 2: nigga just thinks I'm being needy because I'm asking them

772
00:34:38,760 --> 00:34:40,880
Speaker 2: to help me with a bath. And it does sound simple,

773
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:43,759
Speaker 2: but these little things make someone really feel appreciated.

774
00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:46,399
Speaker 1: I got fat for this fucking baby. You can't get

775
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:47,239
Speaker 1: this motherfucker bath.

776
00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:50,200
Speaker 5: Yeah, I mean with you just having another human and

777
00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:52,360
Speaker 5: you have to make sure that you take care of

778
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:54,680
Speaker 5: this person all day, from when you wake up to

779
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:57,000
Speaker 5: when you go to sleep. It is nice to be like, hey,

780
00:34:57,000 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 5: you know, I'll take them at bath tonight and then

781
00:34:58,719 --> 00:35:00,560
Speaker 5: you could go take your own bath, Like I can

782
00:35:00,560 --> 00:35:03,759
Speaker 5: go enjoy my shower, or I can go you know,

783
00:35:03,880 --> 00:35:06,040
Speaker 5: I like to smoke, like I can go like do

784
00:35:06,239 --> 00:35:09,160
Speaker 5: other things in which baby, because you have four, so

785
00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:12,040
Speaker 5: we have one that's not mine, okay, and then I

786
00:35:12,080 --> 00:35:13,080
Speaker 5: have three of my own.

787
00:35:13,280 --> 00:35:16,120
Speaker 1: But this was my second baby. Oh wow, Yeah, so

788
00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:18,759
Speaker 1: you scared to when you got pregnant for the third

789
00:35:18,800 --> 00:35:22,959
Speaker 1: time after experiencing this, then, were you like, I don't

790
00:35:23,040 --> 00:35:24,160
Speaker 1: know if I want to do this again.

791
00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 3: Yeah.

792
00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:27,160
Speaker 1: When I got pregnant, I was like so sad. I'm like,

793
00:35:27,520 --> 00:35:29,280
Speaker 1: I don't want to do this again. I'm so scared.

794
00:35:29,600 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 1: He was like, fuck, no, don't do it.

795
00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:33,560
Speaker 5: And then I called my mom like I'm pregnant, like,

796
00:35:33,800 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 5: but I don't know if I want to have it.

797
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:37,520
Speaker 5: And my mom has four girls, and she's like, have it.

798
00:35:37,560 --> 00:35:39,680
Speaker 5: Each pregnancy is different, like you're not it's not going

799
00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:42,240
Speaker 5: to be the same as zaying, like you won't experience

800
00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:44,239
Speaker 5: the same things. And I'm so happy that she told

801
00:35:44,239 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 5: me that, because I was like, I'm gonna go get

802
00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:49,560
Speaker 5: an abortion like I am, because I don't. First of all,

803
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:51,600
Speaker 5: I never lost my weight from my second I just

804
00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 5: got over Bell's palsy. I just got over postpartum depression.

805
00:35:54,880 --> 00:35:57,760
Speaker 5: I'm just now kind of feeling like myself. I don't

806
00:35:57,760 --> 00:35:59,840
Speaker 5: have myself fully back yet, and I like to have

807
00:36:00,080 --> 00:36:02,359
Speaker 5: myself kind of back before I get pregnant or else

808
00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:03,520
Speaker 5: She's gonna be a big man.

809
00:36:04,120 --> 00:36:04,319
Speaker 1: Else.

810
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:06,520
Speaker 5: I was just already was a big mess. I'm like,

811
00:36:06,560 --> 00:36:09,160
Speaker 5: fuck it, I'm already a mess. Might as well have

812
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:12,360
Speaker 5: another baby. And she is the best, like, I'm so

813
00:36:12,520 --> 00:36:15,040
Speaker 5: happy that I made that decision, like to have another baby.

814
00:36:15,080 --> 00:36:19,040
Speaker 5: She like completed our family. She's so happy. She's like

815
00:36:19,120 --> 00:36:19,720
Speaker 5: the best.

816
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:20,440
Speaker 1: I'm glad.

817
00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:23,440
Speaker 2: She talked about wanting to have an abortion because we

818
00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:27,279
Speaker 2: associate abortions with single people, and it's just, you know,

819
00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:30,680
Speaker 2: consider it inner relationship after two kids, and I was

820
00:36:30,760 --> 00:36:33,719
Speaker 2: sad because I'm like, like, I'm not a.

821
00:36:33,719 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 5: Kid, like I'm not sixteen where I have to go

822
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:37,879
Speaker 5: have an abortion. And I call my mom and I'm

823
00:36:37,920 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 5: just like, yeah, like I think I want to have abortion.

824
00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 5: She's like what she was like, No, you've already had kids.

825
00:36:42,120 --> 00:36:44,120
Speaker 5: You're not having an abortion. If you get pregnant, you're

826
00:36:44,160 --> 00:36:45,799
Speaker 5: having your baby. That's just what it is.

827
00:36:46,080 --> 00:36:47,440
Speaker 1: Did you watch it come out? Were you in there

828
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:48,319
Speaker 1: like a douola holding it?

829
00:36:49,280 --> 00:36:52,280
Speaker 3: Yeah? I was, you know, you had that postpartum depression.

830
00:36:53,160 --> 00:36:56,640
Speaker 3: And then she got bills pausing, I'm like, life is

831
00:36:56,640 --> 00:37:05,520
Speaker 3: spinning in this is getting Yeah, I'm like, this is wow.

832
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:09,239
Speaker 3: So I'm so you're scared too. Now I'm fully in it.

833
00:37:09,320 --> 00:37:15,839
Speaker 3: You feel me now now I'm fucking this lady, this

834
00:37:15,920 --> 00:37:20,319
Speaker 3: lady with Bell's palsy and now she pregnant. Get over

835
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:24,200
Speaker 3: the ship, right, I'm like, we're not having no kids.

836
00:37:24,400 --> 00:37:24,959
Speaker 3: That's out.

837
00:37:25,000 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 1: We're not. So what did that conversation look like? Clearly

838
00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:30,600
Speaker 1: you're scared, but I'm like, cut it out. You also

839
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:32,839
Speaker 1: were like yo anymore either?

840
00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:35,160
Speaker 5: Well, because he is like my best friend and he

841
00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:38,319
Speaker 5: gets he gets all of my emotions, attitudes, everything, the

842
00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:40,319
Speaker 5: most he's he's with me the most.

843
00:37:40,320 --> 00:37:42,280
Speaker 1: We're together all day. He's my best friend.

844
00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:44,680
Speaker 5: So any little thing, before I call my mom, before

845
00:37:44,680 --> 00:37:46,640
Speaker 5: I call my sisters, anything, I'm going to him. This

846
00:37:46,719 --> 00:37:48,120
Speaker 5: is how I feel, this is what I'm going through.

847
00:37:48,640 --> 00:37:51,480
Speaker 5: I'm losing it with him. So he does get a

848
00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:53,600
Speaker 5: lot of me, which is why he probably gets so

849
00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 5: fucking annoyed with me. But he was just like, I'm

850
00:37:56,800 --> 00:37:59,120
Speaker 5: not doing it, Like I'm not dealing with you like that.

851
00:37:59,239 --> 00:38:01,319
Speaker 5: On another level, I just got over this shit with

852
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:03,320
Speaker 5: you in Zane, like I'm not doing anything.

853
00:38:03,320 --> 00:38:06,560
Speaker 1: I'm curious to know. Then, bringing up the conversation around

854
00:38:06,600 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 1: abortion and being single, a lot of women have the

855
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:12,560
Speaker 1: final say, which a lot of men normally get upset

856
00:38:12,680 --> 00:38:14,319
Speaker 1: for if they're like, I told you I didn't want

857
00:38:14,320 --> 00:38:16,640
Speaker 1: this baby. I told you, whatever, you still want to

858
00:38:16,680 --> 00:38:19,120
Speaker 1: have it? Anyways, what did the conversation that look like

859
00:38:19,160 --> 00:38:22,080
Speaker 1: when after your mom said no, have this baby, you

860
00:38:22,160 --> 00:38:24,200
Speaker 1: then coming back to him and be like, I'm gonna

861
00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 1: have it?

862
00:38:25,320 --> 00:38:25,680
Speaker 3: Was there?

863
00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:27,960
Speaker 1: Any Yeah, if he was mad at me for like

864
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:30,960
Speaker 1: he didn't talk to me. We literally did.

865
00:38:30,800 --> 00:38:33,440
Speaker 5: Not talk probably the longest time in our relationship, for

866
00:38:33,520 --> 00:38:36,080
Speaker 5: like seven full days, oh wow, because he was so

867
00:38:36,320 --> 00:38:38,920
Speaker 5: upset with me and my decision. And I was like,

868
00:38:38,960 --> 00:38:40,880
Speaker 5: you're a piece of shit, like you don't want me

869
00:38:40,880 --> 00:38:42,799
Speaker 5: to have another baby. But I'm like, whatever, he went

870
00:38:42,840 --> 00:38:44,480
Speaker 5: through a lot, I went through a lot. Whatever, but

871
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:47,800
Speaker 5: he'll get over it. But we literally went.

872
00:38:47,719 --> 00:38:50,120
Speaker 1: Seven days without talking. He was so upset with me.

873
00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:52,160
Speaker 3: But look, but I'm like, you.

874
00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:53,880
Speaker 1: Want to go to my first doctor's appointment with me?

875
00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:54,799
Speaker 1: And he did.

876
00:38:55,160 --> 00:38:58,600
Speaker 3: Look, of course, I'm gonna go post party Bell's palsy

877
00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:02,239
Speaker 3: before we have Before we even have that, we have

878
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:06,480
Speaker 3: this traumatizing, ass fucking pregnancy. When my son comes out

879
00:39:06,520 --> 00:39:10,520
Speaker 3: ten pounds, nobody knows he's ten pounds. She has this

880
00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:13,320
Speaker 3: young man through still vaginally.

881
00:39:15,640 --> 00:39:18,440
Speaker 1: It's supposed to be pounds is a whole lot.

882
00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 3: So he's coming trying to get squeezed out. The doctor

883
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:23,800
Speaker 3: don't know what's going on. I'm looking at the doctor,

884
00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:25,480
Speaker 3: me and the doctor at the thing like.

885
00:39:25,440 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 1: That, at the thing at the whole at the point.

886
00:39:29,440 --> 00:39:32,359
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm at that thing with him, like we gonna

887
00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:36,040
Speaker 3: figure this out. We look, we both looking. I'm looking.

888
00:39:36,120 --> 00:39:37,240
Speaker 3: Did he cut her open?

889
00:39:37,320 --> 00:39:40,719
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, oh, you saw the slight.

890
00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:45,760
Speaker 3: And then then he's yanking on him. Now he's pulling

891
00:39:45,800 --> 00:39:47,440
Speaker 3: his arm out boom. You know what I mean. If

892
00:39:47,480 --> 00:39:48,879
Speaker 3: a lot of people don't know out there, I gotta

893
00:39:48,880 --> 00:39:50,719
Speaker 3: break your plexus injury right now because I had a

894
00:39:50,719 --> 00:39:53,440
Speaker 3: motorcycle accident. So my right arm don't move, but I

895
00:39:53,560 --> 00:39:55,600
Speaker 3: just move like I'm normal. So a lot of people

896
00:39:55,600 --> 00:39:58,839
Speaker 3: don't really, you know, it's just I look normal. I know.

897
00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:02,120
Speaker 3: I'll just talk myself how to you know, carry myself.

898
00:40:02,320 --> 00:40:04,440
Speaker 3: But he came out with this same injury, because you

899
00:40:04,480 --> 00:40:06,600
Speaker 3: can have this injury when you were a child, you

900
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:09,400
Speaker 3: know what I mean. So he came out finally he

901
00:40:09,480 --> 00:40:13,360
Speaker 3: came out, and he wasn't breathing. I'm so I'm just

902
00:40:13,400 --> 00:40:16,200
Speaker 3: trying to look for the cry. Where's the cry? Sixty

903
00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:17,440
Speaker 3: seconds twenty seconds.

904
00:40:18,719 --> 00:40:21,200
Speaker 2: They also say when there's no cry, that your kid

905
00:40:21,200 --> 00:40:23,359
Speaker 2: could be autistic or something could be wrong.

906
00:40:23,400 --> 00:40:26,440
Speaker 3: So so my boy, they ic you come in put

907
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:28,719
Speaker 3: my bone. It's the hundred people over there, they doing

908
00:40:28,760 --> 00:40:31,640
Speaker 3: it up. Finally I go over there too. I'm over

909
00:40:31,680 --> 00:40:33,920
Speaker 3: there with him, like I'm all over there. He finally

910
00:40:33,920 --> 00:40:37,520
Speaker 3: got like a little cry like, oh he got a breath,

911
00:40:37,520 --> 00:40:40,000
Speaker 3: Oh he good. Then he gave a little bit more cry.

912
00:40:40,000 --> 00:40:42,000
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh he good, he good, Like it was

913
00:40:42,080 --> 00:40:44,799
Speaker 3: just fucking me up right, And then his arm wasn't

914
00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:47,080
Speaker 3: moving like and he just moving and he just was

915
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:49,200
Speaker 3: like his arm moving. I'm like, hey, come over here, man,

916
00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:51,680
Speaker 3: this arm ain't moving like. They like, what's going on.

917
00:40:51,760 --> 00:40:53,960
Speaker 3: I'm like, I got the same injury. I know it.

918
00:40:54,040 --> 00:40:54,759
Speaker 3: I've been having it.

919
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:56,799
Speaker 5: It's like when babies come out there like trying to

920
00:40:56,840 --> 00:40:58,520
Speaker 5: move be cause they they really don't get to move

921
00:40:58,560 --> 00:41:00,520
Speaker 5: in there, so they're trying to like spread open and moved.

922
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 5: And his arm was just staying down there and he

923
00:41:02,800 --> 00:41:05,759
Speaker 5: was moving this hand. So Terrelle is like, what is

924
00:41:05,840 --> 00:41:07,920
Speaker 5: going on with him? Like what's happening?

925
00:41:08,160 --> 00:41:10,239
Speaker 1: And they didn't even they couldn't even they didn't even

926
00:41:10,280 --> 00:41:15,520
Speaker 1: know to the next day. But I'm not gonna lie,

927
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:17,320
Speaker 1: I think. And we never get to hear how to

928
00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:19,520
Speaker 1: stop sucking a shit niggas, brother listen, because we never

929
00:41:19,560 --> 00:41:23,040
Speaker 1: get to hear the traumatizing side of what pregnancy means

930
00:41:23,040 --> 00:41:25,560
Speaker 1: to the fathers especially do show up in the room

931
00:41:25,880 --> 00:41:28,400
Speaker 1: and do care and are proud to be fathers and

932
00:41:28,480 --> 00:41:31,800
Speaker 1: welcoming new life. This is where it was traumatic for you.

933
00:41:32,120 --> 00:41:32,520
Speaker 3: Traumatic.

934
00:41:32,640 --> 00:41:33,360
Speaker 1: I don't believe that.

935
00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:36,239
Speaker 2: Actually it's obviously as love and care about each other,

936
00:41:36,280 --> 00:41:38,759
Speaker 2: especially the things you've just said. I don't even think

937
00:41:38,840 --> 00:41:40,680
Speaker 2: there needs to be a relationship. I think men just

938
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:45,560
Speaker 2: actually have to be more responsible and more caring and

939
00:41:45,640 --> 00:41:48,000
Speaker 2: proud to be fathers. Like, yeah, you know, I have

940
00:41:48,000 --> 00:41:50,160
Speaker 2: a friend who recently had a baby with a girl

941
00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:52,200
Speaker 2: that he doesn't know that well, and I'm just so

942
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:54,279
Speaker 2: impressed with dad that he's been and even me.

943
00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:56,279
Speaker 1: I even said to him like, oh shit, I ain't

944
00:41:56,400 --> 00:41:58,080
Speaker 1: all sucking and shit. He was like, just because I'm

945
00:41:58,080 --> 00:42:00,560
Speaker 1: a good man, bro, And I'm like, wow, we always

946
00:42:00,600 --> 00:42:03,279
Speaker 1: associated good dad with love, and I think men just

947
00:42:03,320 --> 00:42:04,920
Speaker 1: need to really step it up to play. We don't

948
00:42:04,960 --> 00:42:06,360
Speaker 1: have a lot of examples that ever. I mean, some

949
00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:09,319
Speaker 1: men are great dads, but awful partners, and I think

950
00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:10,960
Speaker 1: that that's what we see a lot of them want

951
00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:14,719
Speaker 1: to be bothers. There's just strained relationships where women want

952
00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:20,520
Speaker 1: partnership with those people. I wanted to ask y'all though,

953
00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:25,160
Speaker 1: outside of having kids becoming moms and dads, where men

954
00:42:25,280 --> 00:42:27,799
Speaker 1: really want to be fathers, a lot of them, a

955
00:42:27,840 --> 00:42:30,319
Speaker 1: lot of women want to be wives. And Heather, we

956
00:42:30,320 --> 00:42:33,399
Speaker 1: were having the conversation and you have gone viral where

957
00:42:33,400 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 1: people have dissected this fourteen year relationship where you do

958
00:42:37,080 --> 00:42:38,720
Speaker 1: not have a ring and you are not a wife.

959
00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:41,160
Speaker 1: What are the some of the things they've dissected in

960
00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: your relationship that you felt like, damn, how do they

961
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 1: find is shuit?

962
00:42:45,200 --> 00:42:47,600
Speaker 5: I definitely have a ring, it's just not I definitely

963
00:42:47,640 --> 00:42:50,400
Speaker 5: have a ring, it's just nothing on paper. But I

964
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:52,800
Speaker 5: feel like because we kind of our relationship kind of

965
00:42:52,840 --> 00:42:55,560
Speaker 5: started on the internet, like we were on Instagram in

966
00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:57,919
Speaker 5: twenty ten when it first came out, like a lot

967
00:42:57,920 --> 00:43:01,520
Speaker 5: of og people like really know us, like being together,

968
00:43:02,040 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 5: so they're just like, why you know she was really

969
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:06,799
Speaker 5: positive the girl who cracked it all off. Oh yeah,

970
00:43:06,840 --> 00:43:09,840
Speaker 5: they've been together so long. They have beautiful family, beautiful kids,

971
00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:12,400
Speaker 5: Like why are they not married? I love this couple,

972
00:43:13,640 --> 00:43:15,680
Speaker 5: and she she did stay some good points. She's like

973
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:17,400
Speaker 5: she's not going to be able to make any medical

974
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:19,799
Speaker 5: decisions for him, She's not going to be able to

975
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:21,160
Speaker 5: do this for him, do that for him.

976
00:43:21,239 --> 00:43:23,399
Speaker 1: But I don't know. I just feel like.

977
00:43:24,920 --> 00:43:28,040
Speaker 5: We've like always just been like a hustle and like

978
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:31,759
Speaker 5: grinding like couple ever since we've known each other, and

979
00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:34,319
Speaker 5: just always like on the go, always on the move,

980
00:43:36,000 --> 00:43:40,319
Speaker 5: always chasing after something. Not marriage though. What scares you

981
00:43:40,400 --> 00:43:43,960
Speaker 5: about putting that on this relationship on paper? Well, because

982
00:43:44,360 --> 00:43:48,600
Speaker 5: every single literally every single person besides maybe my uncle

983
00:43:48,640 --> 00:43:51,600
Speaker 5: and my aunt two of them I have nine have

984
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:54,960
Speaker 5: literally got married and got divorced. And it's such a

985
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 5: big fear for me because especially people that have been

986
00:43:57,560 --> 00:43:59,759
Speaker 5: together for a while, they found like, okay, you know,

987
00:43:59,760 --> 00:44:02,080
Speaker 5: we're i'ally going to tie the knot and then a year,

988
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:05,360
Speaker 5: year and a half passes a divorce. That's my biggest

989
00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:08,240
Speaker 5: fear because once I get married, I'm not getting a divorce.

990
00:44:09,120 --> 00:44:11,680
Speaker 5: How I grew up my mom, what my mom and

991
00:44:11,760 --> 00:44:14,440
Speaker 5: dad taught me, You're not getting married just to get

992
00:44:14,440 --> 00:44:14,920
Speaker 5: a divorce.

993
00:44:15,040 --> 00:44:16,840
Speaker 1: Do you want to get married. I'm getting married.

994
00:44:16,960 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 5: I'm for sure getting married. He asked me twice. He

995
00:44:20,600 --> 00:44:22,759
Speaker 5: asked me when I was nineteen years old with a

996
00:44:22,840 --> 00:44:25,759
Speaker 5: fake ring. I've said this before, but he's asked me

997
00:44:25,800 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 5: what a fake ring from? Uh, what's it called?

998
00:44:28,480 --> 00:44:30,800
Speaker 1: What's up place? Fred Siegel?

999
00:44:30,920 --> 00:44:34,440
Speaker 5: Okay, okay, And that's why I was like, Okay, I'm

1000
00:44:34,440 --> 00:44:36,880
Speaker 5: going to actually move to California with him because he

1001
00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:37,759
Speaker 5: like gave me a ring.

1002
00:44:37,840 --> 00:44:39,799
Speaker 1: He really likes me, so I go.

1003
00:44:40,000 --> 00:44:42,440
Speaker 5: And then we just were always on the move and

1004
00:44:42,480 --> 00:44:44,319
Speaker 5: I was like, I'm not worried about a wedding, like

1005
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:47,680
Speaker 5: I'm not pressed. And then again in twenty seventeen, he's like,

1006
00:44:47,719 --> 00:44:50,319
Speaker 5: we started making money and we started being successful in life,

1007
00:44:50,360 --> 00:44:52,680
Speaker 5: and so he's like, I'm going to upgrade her ring,

1008
00:44:52,760 --> 00:44:55,759
Speaker 5: I guess. And then on my birthday he gave me

1009
00:44:55,800 --> 00:44:58,880
Speaker 5: another ring, which opris you what's your hands? Yeah, and

1010
00:44:59,400 --> 00:45:02,960
Speaker 5: it's beautiful. And then after that, I don't know.

1011
00:45:04,760 --> 00:45:08,359
Speaker 1: Right now or You're just gonna be engaged forever, Like.

1012
00:45:09,080 --> 00:45:11,880
Speaker 5: I feel like I'm married to him, and I feel like, Okay,

1013
00:45:12,040 --> 00:45:14,600
Speaker 5: a paper doesn't define our loyalty.

1014
00:45:14,640 --> 00:45:17,880
Speaker 1: A paper doesn't define us, you know how does it

1015
00:45:17,920 --> 00:45:19,279
Speaker 1: make you feeling here and sapless things?

1016
00:45:19,280 --> 00:45:22,280
Speaker 3: She's full of ship. Let me tell you this, because

1017
00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:25,800
Speaker 3: this is just how I just do so much, you

1018
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:28,359
Speaker 3: know what I mean, on our relationships. So and she don't.

1019
00:45:28,400 --> 00:45:30,000
Speaker 3: You know, a lot of girls on here, they just

1020
00:45:30,000 --> 00:45:32,960
Speaker 3: be pressured get married, get married. It's just a pressure thing,

1021
00:45:33,040 --> 00:45:35,359
Speaker 3: but they don't know what goes into it. So like her,

1022
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:37,320
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, growing up trying to see you.

1023
00:45:37,480 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 3: Oh we're gonna we're gonna get married one day. A

1024
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:41,160
Speaker 3: lot of people, a lot of women are not doing

1025
00:45:41,200 --> 00:45:43,360
Speaker 3: that shit. So when I asked her to marry me,

1026
00:45:43,600 --> 00:45:45,960
Speaker 3: you feel me after that? It's she has to go

1027
00:45:46,040 --> 00:45:48,120
Speaker 3: do all these things. And she didn't know that. She

1028
00:45:48,200 --> 00:45:50,359
Speaker 3: thought I was gonna go pick her wed and dress out,

1029
00:45:52,880 --> 00:45:54,120
Speaker 3: go pick the chapel out.

1030
00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:56,360
Speaker 1: She said, Oh, you're the fool putting me up for

1031
00:45:56,400 --> 00:45:56,759
Speaker 1: more work.

1032
00:45:56,840 --> 00:45:58,759
Speaker 3: You know what I was gonna go do all So

1033
00:45:58,800 --> 00:46:01,359
Speaker 3: she was just waiting on me to set the date

1034
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 3: and do everything, and it was her job. And she

1035
00:46:04,560 --> 00:46:07,600
Speaker 3: didn't know this and I didn't either, But in my heart,

1036
00:46:07,840 --> 00:46:09,879
Speaker 3: for some reason, I was like, I'm just giving his ring.

1037
00:46:09,960 --> 00:46:13,080
Speaker 3: But then that was it. Oh wow, did we finally

1038
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:14,880
Speaker 3: figured it out one day and I was like, damn,

1039
00:46:15,200 --> 00:46:16,200
Speaker 3: your daddy's supposed to.

1040
00:46:16,200 --> 00:46:19,880
Speaker 1: Be paying for this. I'm like, well that's going And

1041
00:46:19,920 --> 00:46:22,279
Speaker 1: then I was like, you're supposed to be playing the

1042
00:46:22,320 --> 00:46:25,720
Speaker 1: water family growing up married? Like, were you not familiar

1043
00:46:25,800 --> 00:46:27,960
Speaker 1: with what it meant to be married? Uh?

1044
00:46:28,080 --> 00:46:30,640
Speaker 3: My mom was married, but it wasn't like marriage wasn't

1045
00:46:30,680 --> 00:46:33,120
Speaker 3: like a crazy thing like when I was growing up,

1046
00:46:33,160 --> 00:46:36,560
Speaker 3: Like yeah, but then, you know, when I was growing

1047
00:46:36,600 --> 00:46:38,960
Speaker 3: up and I started really realizing my mama was going

1048
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:41,160
Speaker 3: through a divorce, you know, I was just I'm on

1049
00:46:41,200 --> 00:46:43,960
Speaker 3: my mama's side. You know, I was going through Uh, nigga,

1050
00:46:44,000 --> 00:46:46,600
Speaker 3: fuck this, nigga, you know what I mean, Like, I'm

1051
00:46:46,640 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 3: on mom side whatever she talking about.

1052
00:46:48,640 --> 00:46:51,359
Speaker 1: Fuck you do you get exhausted at people asking why

1053
00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:53,400
Speaker 1: you aren't? Yeah, it's so annoying.

1054
00:46:54,160 --> 00:46:58,200
Speaker 5: It's so annoying, But it is crazy, Like fourteen years

1055
00:46:58,200 --> 00:46:58,960
Speaker 5: in y'all are married?

1056
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:01,200
Speaker 1: Why? Why? Why is it just the internet or is

1057
00:47:01,200 --> 00:47:02,799
Speaker 1: it everything's giving your Yeah?

1058
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:05,200
Speaker 5: No, I mean the only person that presses me in

1059
00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:09,640
Speaker 5: my family is my grandma and I she is ninety eight.

1060
00:47:09,840 --> 00:47:12,520
Speaker 5: She turned ninety eight this year, and I just feel

1061
00:47:12,560 --> 00:47:14,920
Speaker 5: like she's not going to pass away until I get married.

1062
00:47:14,960 --> 00:47:15,799
Speaker 1: I feel like God to.

1063
00:47:15,960 --> 00:47:18,640
Speaker 5: Her on this earth because every time she's on the

1064
00:47:18,680 --> 00:47:21,320
Speaker 5: phone with me, every time Terrell comes to Texas and

1065
00:47:21,400 --> 00:47:23,720
Speaker 5: visits her, she's like, well, when are you gonna get married?

1066
00:47:23,760 --> 00:47:26,560
Speaker 1: Heather, Like she's ninety eight years old. I feel like

1067
00:47:26,600 --> 00:47:29,400
Speaker 1: that's marrying you guys, her grandmama.

1068
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 2: A lot you guys will tell you it's either gonna

1069
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:36,000
Speaker 2: be the super fly Travis Courtney, we ran into Vegas

1070
00:47:36,200 --> 00:47:38,959
Speaker 2: blind niggas got married nobody else, or is it gonna

1071
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:40,440
Speaker 2: be the big Like it's.

1072
00:47:40,320 --> 00:47:41,880
Speaker 3: I just feel like, yeah, we could go do the

1073
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:45,200
Speaker 3: We could we could go do the you know he

1074
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:48,160
Speaker 3: loved and they had a big party because you know,

1075
00:47:48,280 --> 00:47:50,200
Speaker 3: niggas just want to eat your food anyway and do it.

1076
00:47:51,080 --> 00:47:53,080
Speaker 3: So it's really you.

1077
00:47:53,040 --> 00:47:55,360
Speaker 2: See how much other people are involved in I feel like,

1078
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:58,239
Speaker 2: to your to your point, you already have the love,

1079
00:47:58,280 --> 00:48:00,839
Speaker 2: a great partner and children, and then we still need

1080
00:48:00,880 --> 00:48:03,839
Speaker 2: something else from you. With me, I felt like I'd

1081
00:48:03,880 --> 00:48:07,239
Speaker 2: had so many accomplishments in my life, whether academically or

1082
00:48:07,280 --> 00:48:09,680
Speaker 2: just personally, and then the next thing is, Okay, where's

1083
00:48:09,680 --> 00:48:12,839
Speaker 2: your man? And it's so many things that we say

1084
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:15,279
Speaker 2: to women that don't we don't realize make them feel worse,

1085
00:48:15,760 --> 00:48:19,320
Speaker 2: Like I don't even know how that must make you feel.

1086
00:48:19,360 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 2: To think you've got such a great friend, you're beautiful,

1087
00:48:22,800 --> 00:48:24,839
Speaker 2: you have followers that love you. You know, a lot

1088
00:48:24,840 --> 00:48:27,920
Speaker 2: of girls online aren't well received from women, And to

1089
00:48:28,000 --> 00:48:29,560
Speaker 2: think like, God, damn, bitch, can you not sell?

1090
00:48:29,840 --> 00:48:30,719
Speaker 1: You're not happy for me?

1091
00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:34,160
Speaker 3: You know, as time goes on, I see, oh they

1092
00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:37,879
Speaker 3: got married in two years. Oh they divorced. Now, oh

1093
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:39,799
Speaker 3: here go my other friends. Oh they get married. We're

1094
00:48:39,840 --> 00:48:43,960
Speaker 3: going I'm looking at there's a.

1095
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:47,480
Speaker 1: Lot of trauma I think, or instilled fear. And I

1096
00:48:47,520 --> 00:48:50,000
Speaker 1: said all the time, there's not a relationship that I

1097
00:48:50,239 --> 00:48:52,400
Speaker 1: that I want that I want to replicate, like I

1098
00:48:52,440 --> 00:48:54,840
Speaker 1: don't have a good, healthy relationship as an idea of

1099
00:48:54,880 --> 00:48:57,239
Speaker 1: what I would even want. I thought that the other

1100
00:48:57,320 --> 00:48:59,520
Speaker 1: day and this morning I know who it is for me,

1101
00:49:00,000 --> 00:49:01,960
Speaker 1: and I've been saying, we don't know anybody that has

1102
00:49:01,960 --> 00:49:05,759
Speaker 1: a relationship that we want. Sham Booty and Jared they

1103
00:49:05,800 --> 00:49:10,040
Speaker 1: are happy, healthy every time I see him, and mind you,

1104
00:49:10,080 --> 00:49:13,080
Speaker 1: they're flirty and open. And even when I'm talking to

1105
00:49:13,160 --> 00:49:15,400
Speaker 1: Jared alone in their house or a party or anything,

1106
00:49:15,400 --> 00:49:17,759
Speaker 1: I always find he finds a way to touch her

1107
00:49:18,320 --> 00:49:20,319
Speaker 1: or just say something to her, and I'm like, oh,

1108
00:49:20,360 --> 00:49:22,480
Speaker 1: I love men like that, Like, yes, you know, I'm

1109
00:49:22,480 --> 00:49:23,960
Speaker 1: not gonna fox some other bitch in your face, but

1110
00:49:24,000 --> 00:49:26,200
Speaker 1: I want you to know I'm here. They are so

1111
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:30,000
Speaker 1: supportive of each other, and I think that like for

1112
00:49:30,040 --> 00:49:31,959
Speaker 1: a woman that talks about sex for a living, there's

1113
00:49:32,000 --> 00:49:34,200
Speaker 1: so much to say about I don't know if y'all

1114
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:36,920
Speaker 1: know Shamboody, but there's so much to say about her nigga.

1115
00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:38,560
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, like, oh, you let your

1116
00:49:38,560 --> 00:49:40,760
Speaker 2: girl do this, or you let her post lingerie online.

1117
00:49:40,760 --> 00:49:42,000
Speaker 2: And they're so happy and healthy.

1118
00:49:42,600 --> 00:49:44,520
Speaker 1: I still wouldn't want their relationship EI there because I

1119
00:49:44,520 --> 00:49:46,520
Speaker 1: don't think I would want to work with my man.

1120
00:49:46,760 --> 00:49:50,800
Speaker 1: And they work, they work closely together, they are parents together.

1121
00:49:51,160 --> 00:49:53,000
Speaker 1: Like to me, I think I would want that separation

1122
00:49:53,120 --> 00:49:55,640
Speaker 1: from my partner to where he has his own career

1123
00:49:55,680 --> 00:49:58,680
Speaker 1: and does his thing and is it super imported, I

1124
00:49:58,680 --> 00:50:01,359
Speaker 1: mean he does. They also they're share supportive and they

1125
00:50:01,360 --> 00:50:01,920
Speaker 1: work together.

1126
00:50:01,960 --> 00:50:03,279
Speaker 2: I do think I wouldn't want to work I think

1127
00:50:03,440 --> 00:50:05,040
Speaker 2: And I was gonna ask you guys this next, because

1128
00:50:05,040 --> 00:50:07,400
Speaker 2: I mean he's a rapper and talented by the way.

1129
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:10,080
Speaker 1: But how was is it working together?

1130
00:50:10,080 --> 00:50:11,839
Speaker 2: Because you've been together so long, so now you get

1131
00:50:11,840 --> 00:50:14,799
Speaker 2: money together, which I think is a dream, but it

1132
00:50:14,800 --> 00:50:15,440
Speaker 2: could be tough.

1133
00:50:15,920 --> 00:50:17,719
Speaker 3: And that's what she just said. We worked together. We've

1134
00:50:17,719 --> 00:50:21,839
Speaker 3: been working together for the last seven years together every day,

1135
00:50:22,200 --> 00:50:25,799
Speaker 3: go to work together, wake up together, kids together. Yeah,

1136
00:50:25,840 --> 00:50:28,280
Speaker 3: we've been doing it. Yeah, I would say the last decade.

1137
00:50:28,320 --> 00:50:29,600
Speaker 3: We've been together every day.

1138
00:50:29,760 --> 00:50:32,800
Speaker 1: Compartmentalized though, how you talk to each other as business

1139
00:50:32,800 --> 00:50:36,520
Speaker 1: partners and how you because we're married together as partners,

1140
00:50:36,760 --> 00:50:39,279
Speaker 1: it gets it becomes difficult. That's why I know I'm

1141
00:50:39,280 --> 00:50:40,640
Speaker 1: in a marriage. I don't want to do it with

1142
00:50:40,760 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 1: my partner, don't want a business relationship with my partner

1143
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:48,239
Speaker 1: because of those compartmentalizations of that, like the dynamics, and

1144
00:50:48,560 --> 00:50:52,520
Speaker 1: it's really hard to not take things personally and how

1145
00:50:52,520 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 1: someone shows up in business and not receive it as

1146
00:50:55,680 --> 00:50:58,319
Speaker 1: disrespect personally because nigga, you know me, Why am I

1147
00:50:58,360 --> 00:50:59,759
Speaker 1: doing all this work? Why are you not doing?

1148
00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:00,960
Speaker 3: Like? You know?

1149
00:51:01,120 --> 00:51:04,879
Speaker 1: So it becomes difficult. Would you advise against it now?

1150
00:51:04,960 --> 00:51:07,200
Speaker 1: Having worked together? Like, clearly you're not going to get

1151
00:51:07,239 --> 00:51:09,440
Speaker 1: out of business together. But for any couples listening, who

1152
00:51:09,480 --> 00:51:10,520
Speaker 1: may be considering going in here.

1153
00:51:10,560 --> 00:51:13,320
Speaker 3: I don't know, because I need her in certain certain areas,

1154
00:51:13,440 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 3: certain aspects. I need her in the business, like because

1155
00:51:16,360 --> 00:51:18,800
Speaker 3: certain things I wouldn't be able to do, and certain

1156
00:51:18,800 --> 00:51:23,040
Speaker 3: things she knows how to handle, and she takes over creatively,

1157
00:51:23,360 --> 00:51:26,160
Speaker 3: you know what I mean. So if I don't have

1158
00:51:26,280 --> 00:51:29,400
Speaker 3: her there, like, I wouldn't be able to do those things.

1159
00:51:29,440 --> 00:51:34,560
Speaker 3: So she's she's needed, you know, yeah, yeah, yeah, And

1160
00:51:34,600 --> 00:51:36,440
Speaker 3: I'm needed in my areas. And it's kind of like

1161
00:51:36,480 --> 00:51:38,879
Speaker 3: we're there, but we're not there. You know, she's over here,

1162
00:51:39,120 --> 00:51:41,040
Speaker 3: I'm over here doing it. I'm not. I don't mess

1163
00:51:41,080 --> 00:51:43,800
Speaker 3: with her space. I don't mess with her creative space.

1164
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:46,440
Speaker 3: I don't mess with what she's what. You know, what

1165
00:51:46,560 --> 00:51:49,040
Speaker 3: she's built and what you know, what she's no what

1166
00:51:49,160 --> 00:51:52,200
Speaker 3: she knows. So for me, it's great, you know what

1167
00:51:52,239 --> 00:51:55,719
Speaker 3: I mean, it's great. So I wouldn't I wouldn't dare.

1168
00:51:56,000 --> 00:51:58,200
Speaker 3: I wouldn't dare go out there by myself and try

1169
00:51:58,239 --> 00:52:00,839
Speaker 3: to go buy women's clothes, buy my fuckself, then have

1170
00:52:00,880 --> 00:52:04,680
Speaker 3: a photo shoot, then created, then book models and then

1171
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:07,319
Speaker 3: you know, and then have inspo on the board and

1172
00:52:07,400 --> 00:52:10,680
Speaker 3: you know, and then you know, pick out Fure. I know, yes,

1173
00:52:10,800 --> 00:52:12,960
Speaker 3: I know her, and so it's it's no way I

1174
00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:15,319
Speaker 3: could do that. So yeah, she's the I think it is.

1175
00:52:16,040 --> 00:52:17,879
Speaker 3: It's a very big help.

1176
00:52:18,120 --> 00:52:20,360
Speaker 5: And I just like having a man with me because

1177
00:52:20,400 --> 00:52:22,640
Speaker 5: being a woman in business, people will like try to

1178
00:52:22,680 --> 00:52:24,680
Speaker 5: get over on you, try to run over you think

1179
00:52:24,719 --> 00:52:29,920
Speaker 5: that you're not you know, like like more you know

1180
00:52:30,040 --> 00:52:32,719
Speaker 5: as what you should be and I do yeah or

1181
00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:34,960
Speaker 5: just like and I just feel like I have a

1182
00:52:34,960 --> 00:52:37,560
Speaker 5: certain respect when I have a man girl.

1183
00:52:37,880 --> 00:52:41,640
Speaker 2: You know, I'm gonna tell you Mandy and I Mandy

1184
00:52:41,719 --> 00:52:45,319
Speaker 2: is the longest business partnership I've ever had, right, and

1185
00:52:45,719 --> 00:52:49,080
Speaker 2: I have seen so many differences with WTF media specifically,

1186
00:52:49,719 --> 00:52:53,120
Speaker 2: like I have a male business partner, and it's crazy

1187
00:52:53,160 --> 00:52:55,279
Speaker 2: because I've been in business longer with Mandy, so I

1188
00:52:55,280 --> 00:52:57,239
Speaker 2: have been able to see how people treat me. So

1189
00:52:57,320 --> 00:52:59,360
Speaker 2: many times, a nigga will start talking to me someway

1190
00:52:59,400 --> 00:53:02,160
Speaker 2: and it's like he has to snap into it, or

1191
00:53:02,560 --> 00:53:05,080
Speaker 2: maybe it's an issue with a client and there's no

1192
00:53:05,200 --> 00:53:07,759
Speaker 2: respect there until he has to talk to them. And

1193
00:53:07,840 --> 00:53:11,239
Speaker 2: I completely understand that because when I think about it,

1194
00:53:11,760 --> 00:53:16,520
Speaker 2: you know, I don't really know if for myself, I

1195
00:53:16,560 --> 00:53:18,560
Speaker 2: can necessarily be like the hound.

1196
00:53:18,560 --> 00:53:19,080
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.

1197
00:53:19,440 --> 00:53:20,880
Speaker 1: I really don't want to be that person.

1198
00:53:20,960 --> 00:53:23,640
Speaker 2: There's a lot of times where my professionalism will just

1199
00:53:23,920 --> 00:53:26,759
Speaker 2: go if I get like that. And I think in

1200
00:53:26,840 --> 00:53:30,279
Speaker 2: business it's important for women not necessarily to have a

1201
00:53:30,360 --> 00:53:32,799
Speaker 2: male business partner fifty to fifty, but.

1202
00:53:32,760 --> 00:53:35,600
Speaker 1: There's only that one little representative. I think sometimes you

1203
00:53:35,640 --> 00:53:38,640
Speaker 1: need to just be like, Okay, yeah, you handle this. Honestly.

1204
00:53:38,760 --> 00:53:41,200
Speaker 2: I think it's really really helpful, and especially when men

1205
00:53:41,200 --> 00:53:42,719
Speaker 2: can respect you in that way too, because a lot

1206
00:53:42,760 --> 00:53:44,520
Speaker 2: of men will make you feel like you're not doing

1207
00:53:44,600 --> 00:53:45,320
Speaker 2: enough in business.

1208
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:46,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.

1209
00:53:46,520 --> 00:53:48,799
Speaker 3: And going back to when you it was way back

1210
00:53:48,840 --> 00:53:52,640
Speaker 3: this when you was talking about being married, and you

1211
00:53:52,640 --> 00:53:55,520
Speaker 3: can't make the decisions whether or not something if I

1212
00:53:55,560 --> 00:53:57,480
Speaker 3: pass away or something like that. But go get a

1213
00:53:57,480 --> 00:53:59,799
Speaker 3: living trust, guys. It's something called a living trust or

1214
00:54:00,000 --> 00:54:02,560
Speaker 3: can get. You can create a wheel between you guys.

1215
00:54:03,239 --> 00:54:06,920
Speaker 3: You guys can definitely do that. So marriage is not

1216
00:54:07,000 --> 00:54:08,960
Speaker 3: the you know, not the last thing you can do.

1217
00:54:09,040 --> 00:54:10,600
Speaker 3: So living trust our will.

1218
00:54:10,440 --> 00:54:12,960
Speaker 1: Hey hold on, now, niggas gonna lean on that point.

1219
00:54:14,840 --> 00:54:16,279
Speaker 1: Maybe I'm gonna just put your wheel.

1220
00:54:16,800 --> 00:54:20,800
Speaker 3: I'm gonna just won't anyway, you see, you were saying

1221
00:54:20,840 --> 00:54:24,200
Speaker 3: that to be nice, somebody about just won't anyway what

1222
00:54:24,760 --> 00:54:26,759
Speaker 3: I want to be in the wheel. You want the money.

1223
00:54:27,719 --> 00:54:29,640
Speaker 1: First off, you saying that a lot of these niggas

1224
00:54:29,640 --> 00:54:31,759
Speaker 1: ain't even got no money. Calm down, now, we're not

1225
00:54:31,920 --> 00:54:34,719
Speaker 1: here making the money. Let's be very Let's be very clear.

1226
00:54:34,880 --> 00:54:37,560
Speaker 1: When we made bro we date a lot of women

1227
00:54:37,600 --> 00:54:39,160
Speaker 1: a day in a whole bunch of broke ass niggas

1228
00:54:39,200 --> 00:54:41,640
Speaker 1: with no assets. I don't want niggas think we want

1229
00:54:41,920 --> 00:54:44,040
Speaker 1: money for child support or we want you to die

1230
00:54:44,120 --> 00:54:46,640
Speaker 1: to take your money. You ain't got nothing. Yeah, no,

1231
00:54:46,680 --> 00:54:49,080
Speaker 1: we know this. Black black women entrepreneurs like clips.

1232
00:54:49,560 --> 00:54:51,000
Speaker 3: We got the money. We just need you.

1233
00:54:52,200 --> 00:54:54,640
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, let me go back, let me, let me refocus.

1234
00:54:54,680 --> 00:54:55,799
Speaker 1: I feel like doctor m right now.

1235
00:54:56,280 --> 00:54:58,239
Speaker 2: I did want to ask something about Okay, so you

1236
00:54:58,239 --> 00:55:01,279
Speaker 2: have the businesses now the podcast, I want to ask you,

1237
00:55:01,440 --> 00:55:04,719
Speaker 2: Mandy and I. Through the evolution of our show, we

1238
00:55:05,600 --> 00:55:07,600
Speaker 2: have had fans pit us against each other a lot

1239
00:55:07,600 --> 00:55:10,000
Speaker 2: in a comment. We could be literally having fun ragging

1240
00:55:10,000 --> 00:55:11,480
Speaker 2: on each other and they're like, ow.

1241
00:55:13,960 --> 00:55:17,640
Speaker 1: They do that to y'all, and oh, man, really want me?

1242
00:55:18,160 --> 00:55:20,840
Speaker 1: The fuck gone? Really gone?

1243
00:55:21,000 --> 00:55:21,160
Speaker 3: Well?

1244
00:55:21,160 --> 00:55:24,840
Speaker 1: Because men, you were on a male podcast.

1245
00:55:25,000 --> 00:55:27,279
Speaker 2: So now I don't know how many podcasts you have,

1246
00:55:27,320 --> 00:55:28,839
Speaker 2: but I know you were on one with with men,

1247
00:55:29,120 --> 00:55:30,880
Speaker 2: so I could see if they want to listen to you.

1248
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:32,359
Speaker 1: Now they got to have it here. I can see

1249
00:55:32,360 --> 00:55:32,960
Speaker 1: maybe that.

1250
00:55:32,880 --> 00:55:35,520
Speaker 3: It's very very male driven, you feel me. And then

1251
00:55:35,600 --> 00:55:38,920
Speaker 3: they're very aggressive. That audience is very aggressive, and we're

1252
00:55:38,960 --> 00:55:41,160
Speaker 3: alive most of the time, so they get just a

1253
00:55:41,280 --> 00:55:44,200
Speaker 3: pick at you and fuck with you. So every little

1254
00:55:44,239 --> 00:55:47,719
Speaker 3: thing she says and does, oh, they're on it, you

1255
00:55:47,760 --> 00:55:50,440
Speaker 3: feel me, may oh, she fucked up the vibe. We

1256
00:55:50,600 --> 00:55:53,040
Speaker 3: just want homies in here. We don't need here.

1257
00:55:52,960 --> 00:55:55,040
Speaker 1: And here girl, you might need a secondary podcast.

1258
00:55:55,120 --> 00:55:57,880
Speaker 3: You can feel well, she she created her own channel.

1259
00:55:57,920 --> 00:55:59,880
Speaker 3: She's definitely gonna, you know, start doing our own thing.

1260
00:56:00,160 --> 00:56:02,799
Speaker 3: To me, I'll be feeling like it's just like a

1261
00:56:03,120 --> 00:56:05,920
Speaker 3: small percentage of people in there, and it's a and

1262
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:09,200
Speaker 3: it's a very big percentage of people that have their

1263
00:56:09,600 --> 00:56:12,000
Speaker 3: well men that has their girl right there, and the

1264
00:56:12,120 --> 00:56:13,880
Speaker 3: men is like, you know what, what are you watching?

1265
00:56:14,080 --> 00:56:16,359
Speaker 3: You feel me like, hey, she on it. And then

1266
00:56:16,560 --> 00:56:20,120
Speaker 3: the woman start becoming fans of who she is because

1267
00:56:20,120 --> 00:56:23,239
Speaker 3: they're they're going to see her on social media, going

1268
00:56:23,239 --> 00:56:27,240
Speaker 3: to the going researching her on Twitter, Instagram, or whatever

1269
00:56:27,280 --> 00:56:29,200
Speaker 3: the case may be in TikTok and they're like, oh,

1270
00:56:29,239 --> 00:56:32,239
Speaker 3: I love that, So I really don't. I don't. I

1271
00:56:32,280 --> 00:56:35,080
Speaker 3: really don't listen to that. I gotta I need that.

1272
00:56:35,320 --> 00:56:38,239
Speaker 3: I need that. I need that different aspect you feel

1273
00:56:38,280 --> 00:56:41,239
Speaker 3: me on the show. I need a woman's opinion on

1274
00:56:41,280 --> 00:56:44,800
Speaker 3: the show sometimes, like I need I need a woman

1275
00:56:44,840 --> 00:56:47,080
Speaker 3: to say some bullshit, you know what I mean, some

1276
00:56:47,080 --> 00:56:49,840
Speaker 3: some ship a man wouldn't say, you know, and everybody

1277
00:56:49,960 --> 00:56:51,920
Speaker 3: just like, Oh, why she say that for you.

1278
00:56:53,960 --> 00:56:57,080
Speaker 2: It's funny because to me, when I would see it, I'd

1279
00:56:57,040 --> 00:56:59,360
Speaker 2: be like, Oh, that's Heather's boyfriend. So on that podcast

1280
00:56:59,400 --> 00:57:03,759
Speaker 2: you're yes, yeah, And it's like, I can't love that.

1281
00:57:03,920 --> 00:57:04,279
Speaker 3: She's like.

1282
00:57:05,160 --> 00:57:08,000
Speaker 5: But it's so crazy because when we met, he was

1283
00:57:08,080 --> 00:57:11,000
Speaker 5: doing better than me. I was in Dallas, Texas, working

1284
00:57:11,040 --> 00:57:15,040
Speaker 5: a regular job, trying to do something with myself, and

1285
00:57:15,080 --> 00:57:17,720
Speaker 5: then I met him and he was around all these

1286
00:57:17,800 --> 00:57:20,680
Speaker 5: celebrities and lived in Los Angeles, California, and was just

1287
00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:23,320
Speaker 5: big doing it. He didn't have a lot of money though,

1288
00:57:23,360 --> 00:57:28,680
Speaker 5: he didn't have nothing, but he was just around a world. Yeah,

1289
00:57:28,720 --> 00:57:30,920
Speaker 5: he was around the world that I wanted to be

1290
00:57:30,960 --> 00:57:34,760
Speaker 5: in too, and so I'm like, oh, he's like, you know,

1291
00:57:35,200 --> 00:57:38,000
Speaker 5: like I love him, He's so funny whatever. He brought

1292
00:57:38,040 --> 00:57:40,400
Speaker 5: me around his world and he kind of just brought

1293
00:57:40,400 --> 00:57:43,640
Speaker 5: me in it and I figured out my way through it,

1294
00:57:43,680 --> 00:57:45,360
Speaker 5: and I was in it for a couple of years

1295
00:57:45,440 --> 00:57:47,840
Speaker 5: until I was like, this is not what I want

1296
00:57:47,880 --> 00:57:48,080
Speaker 5: to do.

1297
00:57:48,120 --> 00:57:50,560
Speaker 1: Because I'm a real boss. I know I am.

1298
00:57:50,640 --> 00:57:52,800
Speaker 5: I don't have nothing, but I know that this is

1299
00:57:52,840 --> 00:57:55,000
Speaker 5: not what I'm meant to do. I'm not meant to

1300
00:57:55,040 --> 00:57:58,280
Speaker 5: be cleaning up after y'all and following after y'all. So

1301
00:57:58,520 --> 00:58:00,800
Speaker 5: I was like, I have to start my own and

1302
00:58:00,840 --> 00:58:03,440
Speaker 5: then I started my own thing with my other business partner,

1303
00:58:03,440 --> 00:58:07,560
Speaker 5: which is literally your twin. It's crazy. Yeah, yeah, I'm Brittany.

1304
00:58:08,280 --> 00:58:12,040
Speaker 5: And we started our business. Well, I started the business

1305
00:58:12,080 --> 00:58:15,320
Speaker 5: first and then met her probably like three four months in,

1306
00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:17,400
Speaker 5: and then we kind of just took it, you know,

1307
00:58:17,480 --> 00:58:20,280
Speaker 5: from there, and he was always involved though always it

1308
00:58:20,320 --> 00:58:22,600
Speaker 5: was just us three. I think that's I had my

1309
00:58:22,680 --> 00:58:23,240
Speaker 5: own thing.

1310
00:58:23,680 --> 00:58:28,040
Speaker 1: You don't want to work with was dope, Yeah, good

1311
00:58:28,160 --> 00:58:32,040
Speaker 1: for you for you. I just say me saying dope,

1312
00:58:32,040 --> 00:58:32,760
Speaker 1: don't mean I want it.

1313
00:58:32,800 --> 00:58:36,720
Speaker 5: But for what he was doing kind of just what, well,

1314
00:58:36,800 --> 00:58:39,160
Speaker 5: what I was doing kind of overpowered what he was doing.

1315
00:58:39,200 --> 00:58:41,720
Speaker 5: It was it was taking care of us, it was

1316
00:58:41,760 --> 00:58:45,160
Speaker 5: bringing the money in, it was it was I was

1317
00:58:45,280 --> 00:58:45,800
Speaker 5: kind of like.

1318
00:58:46,960 --> 00:58:49,280
Speaker 1: And he was the supporters. Can I ask you a

1319
00:58:49,320 --> 00:58:51,120
Speaker 1: question that I've really been curious about?

1320
00:58:51,600 --> 00:58:54,960
Speaker 2: So, and this is just to end on this. You're monogamous,

1321
00:58:55,000 --> 00:58:57,040
Speaker 2: correct from what I'm gathering.

1322
00:58:57,560 --> 00:59:00,760
Speaker 1: That means not a cheater rightly have sex with each other.

1323
00:59:01,240 --> 00:59:01,960
Speaker 1: He said, he don't need no.

1324
00:59:01,960 --> 00:59:09,120
Speaker 2: Other pussy having threesome. So okay, okay, I had known

1325
00:59:09,160 --> 00:59:12,080
Speaker 2: and seen you before from being on Adam's podcast, and

1326
00:59:12,280 --> 00:59:15,360
Speaker 2: I'm curious for you both of you. Adam is so

1327
00:59:15,440 --> 00:59:17,560
Speaker 2: known of sex on camera with his girl, right, and

1328
00:59:17,600 --> 00:59:20,800
Speaker 2: they have this very open and sexual relationship. Have you

1329
00:59:20,880 --> 00:59:24,720
Speaker 2: ever felt pressure to open your relationship because so many

1330
00:59:24,720 --> 00:59:27,160
Speaker 2: people nowadays, including us, are non monogamous, right, so many

1331
00:59:27,200 --> 00:59:28,160
Speaker 2: women are bisexual?

1332
00:59:28,920 --> 00:59:31,439
Speaker 1: And yeah, it just makes me I'm really curious about that.

1333
00:59:31,640 --> 00:59:34,280
Speaker 1: I ever have not on camera, not on camera, not.

1334
00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:36,720
Speaker 2: It doesn't just because they're they're like even when he

1335
00:59:36,760 --> 00:59:38,680
Speaker 2: wasn't having sex on camera right, Like, they're a very

1336
00:59:38,720 --> 00:59:40,880
Speaker 2: sexual couple and open and talking about it. And she's

1337
00:59:40,920 --> 00:59:43,800
Speaker 2: by like the way the relationships have evolved.

1338
00:59:44,120 --> 00:59:45,440
Speaker 1: Have you ever felt that pressure?

1339
00:59:45,480 --> 00:59:47,680
Speaker 2: And then on the other end, like, yeah, you're a

1340
00:59:47,680 --> 00:59:51,520
Speaker 2: monogamous guy sitting across from a man that's, you know,

1341
00:59:51,640 --> 00:59:52,959
Speaker 2: doing whatever he wants with his girl.

1342
00:59:53,080 --> 00:59:53,960
Speaker 1: I hated that too.

1343
00:59:54,000 --> 00:59:57,000
Speaker 5: I'm like, oh, Wally, And they're like he's gonna like

1344
00:59:57,680 --> 01:00:01,680
Speaker 5: completely change the way Torelle thinks what ever. But he

1345
01:00:01,840 --> 01:00:03,919
Speaker 5: was like, I'm my own person, like I'm Sean, He's

1346
01:00:03,960 --> 01:00:05,760
Speaker 5: not gonna change me. And then my mom called me

1347
01:00:05,800 --> 01:00:08,760
Speaker 5: one day. She's like this, Adam and Leanta that you

1348
01:00:08,800 --> 01:00:11,120
Speaker 5: all are around, like please, Heather, don't everything that you

1349
01:00:11,200 --> 01:00:14,000
Speaker 5: have to do this and she was like concerned, like

1350
01:00:14,280 --> 01:00:16,320
Speaker 5: you know that's not God's way and this is this

1351
01:00:16,480 --> 01:00:18,600
Speaker 5: like you don't do that head oh boy, And I'm like,

1352
01:00:18,760 --> 01:00:21,280
Speaker 5: i know, like I'm not attracted to girls, like I'm

1353
01:00:21,320 --> 01:00:23,720
Speaker 5: just a little different. I'm just not really like into

1354
01:00:23,800 --> 01:00:26,680
Speaker 5: it like that, I'm not gonna lie like even hearing

1355
01:00:27,400 --> 01:00:28,080
Speaker 5: even hearing that.

1356
01:00:28,200 --> 01:00:30,960
Speaker 1: I actually just had a conversation with my friend last night.

1357
01:00:31,440 --> 01:00:34,960
Speaker 1: I've had people literally to me, I feel like not

1358
01:00:35,040 --> 01:00:38,680
Speaker 1: respect me as a human being because I'm lifestyle, because

1359
01:00:38,720 --> 01:00:41,040
Speaker 1: I'm by because we talk about the sex pod. So

1360
01:00:41,120 --> 01:00:44,040
Speaker 1: I hate to know that you got that call because

1361
01:00:44,080 --> 01:00:46,200
Speaker 1: of what Adam and Lenda have chose to put out.

1362
01:00:46,360 --> 01:00:49,320
Speaker 1: Because I've literally had people treat me that way and

1363
01:00:49,320 --> 01:00:54,360
Speaker 1: I've literally no, no, no, no no. But I'm saying regardless,

1364
01:00:54,800 --> 01:00:56,560
Speaker 1: I don't know, and I ain't gonna put the person's

1365
01:00:56,600 --> 01:00:59,200
Speaker 1: name out there. But anyways, there's a friendship recently that

1366
01:00:59,320 --> 01:01:03,360
Speaker 1: literally has because when I broke up with my boyfriend,

1367
01:01:03,880 --> 01:01:06,200
Speaker 1: she felt like she couldn't be seen out with me

1368
01:01:06,600 --> 01:01:09,600
Speaker 1: because I was a single woman now and she is not.

1369
01:01:10,120 --> 01:01:12,320
Speaker 1: And I was like, purrible decision's been around that, And

1370
01:01:12,480 --> 01:01:14,240
Speaker 1: but that's what I'm saying. She doesn't know me for

1371
01:01:14,320 --> 01:01:15,880
Speaker 1: the things that I had to do out of survival

1372
01:01:15,920 --> 01:01:18,280
Speaker 1: of my twenties. I've shared it, but to know that

1373
01:01:18,400 --> 01:01:21,120
Speaker 1: now you really don't respect me as a human being

1374
01:01:21,160 --> 01:01:23,960
Speaker 1: because of how I live my life sexually. I hate

1375
01:01:23,960 --> 01:01:26,200
Speaker 1: that that that there's calls like that, Like I hate

1376
01:01:26,240 --> 01:01:27,520
Speaker 1: that I'm sure they've lost.

1377
01:01:27,680 --> 01:01:30,480
Speaker 2: I hate that friends like so, I filmed I do

1378
01:01:30,520 --> 01:01:32,640
Speaker 2: a show called sex Sells where I talked to business

1379
01:01:32,680 --> 01:01:35,760
Speaker 2: owners right, and it made me think of Lenna when

1380
01:01:35,800 --> 01:01:38,120
Speaker 2: you said, oh, we have a space to record our podcast.

1381
01:01:38,160 --> 01:01:40,200
Speaker 2: But I remember Lena took me to the house or

1382
01:01:40,240 --> 01:01:43,120
Speaker 2: she shoots herself right, Yeah. And when I went to

1383
01:01:43,160 --> 01:01:46,240
Speaker 2: her house, I saw I don't really know Adam or

1384
01:01:46,320 --> 01:01:48,840
Speaker 2: Lena that well, just industry shit. I saw him playing

1385
01:01:48,840 --> 01:01:51,240
Speaker 2: with his kid in the pool and their family, and

1386
01:01:51,320 --> 01:01:53,840
Speaker 2: even in my own brain, I was like, oh my god,

1387
01:01:53,840 --> 01:01:56,400
Speaker 2: there's so fucking normal, right, Like, I don't know whatever

1388
01:01:56,400 --> 01:01:58,160
Speaker 2: happened with your show. I'm not into too much tea,

1389
01:01:58,240 --> 01:02:01,320
Speaker 2: but people can be normal. I'm sure that relationship can

1390
01:02:01,360 --> 01:02:02,800
Speaker 2: be healthy, and this is healthy, and I think it's

1391
01:02:02,840 --> 01:02:05,880
Speaker 2: good to know that because joking about y'all not even

1392
01:02:05,920 --> 01:02:07,960
Speaker 2: having car sex before and this being the show all

1393
01:02:08,000 --> 01:02:11,560
Speaker 2: about sex talk right, vanilla sex, and that, like, these

1394
01:02:11,600 --> 01:02:13,919
Speaker 2: two relationships can be healthy. And I do think there's

1395
01:02:13,920 --> 01:02:16,880
Speaker 2: a lot of pressure and maybe this podcasting torutchwates of

1396
01:02:16,920 --> 01:02:19,440
Speaker 2: it to have women be opening their ship for niggas

1397
01:02:19,440 --> 01:02:20,280
Speaker 2: to fuck other bitches.

1398
01:02:20,480 --> 01:02:23,520
Speaker 3: But at that same time, you know, me being over

1399
01:02:23,560 --> 01:02:25,880
Speaker 3: there at that with the on the platform with him,

1400
01:02:25,920 --> 01:02:28,040
Speaker 3: he taught me a lot. First of all, I really did.

1401
01:02:28,160 --> 01:02:33,000
Speaker 3: I wasn't used to white people. Let's just oh.

1402
01:02:31,560 --> 01:02:36,000
Speaker 1: My god, it's Adam. I wasn't.

1403
01:02:36,040 --> 01:02:38,640
Speaker 3: I wasn't used to white people and these white people

1404
01:02:38,720 --> 01:02:42,960
Speaker 3: doing poor. So now my mind, yeah, it's all this.

1405
01:02:43,000 --> 01:02:46,160
Speaker 1: Is great white yo. See them like it's like they're crazy.

1406
01:02:46,480 --> 01:02:48,880
Speaker 3: But yeah, so my mind is opening. I'm not being

1407
01:02:48,960 --> 01:02:52,080
Speaker 3: judgment of. My mind is opening. You know. I'm bringing

1408
01:02:52,080 --> 01:02:54,560
Speaker 3: her around too. So we go to birthday parties at

1409
01:02:54,600 --> 01:02:57,440
Speaker 3: their home all the ship, you know what I mean. So,

1410
01:02:57,800 --> 01:03:01,400
Speaker 3: and it was like you said, it was beautiful. It was.

1411
01:03:00,960 --> 01:03:04,760
Speaker 3: It's a beautiful environment. If this young lady right, They'll

1412
01:03:04,800 --> 01:03:06,400
Speaker 3: be like, oh okay, this young lady right here, she's

1413
01:03:06,400 --> 01:03:07,160
Speaker 3: the biggest porn star.

1414
01:03:07,200 --> 01:03:09,439
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, right here.

1415
01:03:11,280 --> 01:03:13,680
Speaker 3: So I'm looking it up.

1416
01:03:13,720 --> 01:03:15,880
Speaker 1: I'm like looking at her like this heart right there.

1417
01:03:15,920 --> 01:03:19,000
Speaker 5: I'm like, what, we're at a baby's first birthday part

1418
01:03:19,680 --> 01:03:22,560
Speaker 5: He's like this heart right here, busting it open, pussy out,

1419
01:03:22,720 --> 01:03:23,440
Speaker 5: titties out all.

1420
01:03:23,520 --> 01:03:26,680
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh see this. It's it taught me not

1421
01:03:26,760 --> 01:03:29,680
Speaker 3: to be judgmental and sit like that because I met

1422
01:03:30,080 --> 01:03:33,440
Speaker 3: I'm then before I start speaking about her, I met her,

1423
01:03:33,720 --> 01:03:37,040
Speaker 3: talked to her, her boyfriend. She had everybody nice people,

1424
01:03:37,800 --> 01:03:40,600
Speaker 3: very nice people before I knew what they actually did.

1425
01:03:41,200 --> 01:03:43,200
Speaker 3: So that that did open my mind.

1426
01:03:43,080 --> 01:03:47,840
Speaker 5: A lot, Like I never judge. It's like this is

1427
01:03:47,880 --> 01:03:50,520
Speaker 5: their life, this is what they choose to do. Everybody's different,

1428
01:03:50,640 --> 01:03:52,919
Speaker 5: Like I'm like, maybe you could teach me some fun

1429
01:03:52,960 --> 01:03:55,320
Speaker 5: stuff to spice it up, because honey, I'm boring, Like

1430
01:03:55,400 --> 01:03:56,240
Speaker 5: I'm just.

1431
01:03:56,200 --> 01:03:59,120
Speaker 2: Not seeing some videos like I'm be real boring on

1432
01:03:59,160 --> 01:04:02,200
Speaker 2: some real ship. Not everybody needs the bell I'm like this,

1433
01:04:03,560 --> 01:04:04,560
Speaker 2: say the bells and whistle.

1434
01:04:04,800 --> 01:04:10,000
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay, okay. Every don't ask as saying boring,

1435
01:04:10,080 --> 01:04:13,720
Speaker 3: But what what's not boring? Sex? Like I don't it's objective.

1436
01:04:13,760 --> 01:04:16,080
Speaker 3: I will say it's all ye, Like we get emails

1437
01:04:16,080 --> 01:04:18,920
Speaker 3: all the time supposed to do.

1438
01:04:18,960 --> 01:04:24,080
Speaker 2: I think spicy sex if you're not using toys or

1439
01:04:24,120 --> 01:04:25,880
Speaker 2: doing ship like that. Right, if we're not sticking our

1440
01:04:25,880 --> 01:04:27,680
Speaker 2: fingers in our niggas ass. I feel like that's always

1441
01:04:27,720 --> 01:04:30,240
Speaker 2: like a moment the Internet starts to get excited about

1442
01:04:30,240 --> 01:04:34,160
Speaker 2: bootoles and shit, right. I think spiciness is truly when

1443
01:04:34,240 --> 01:04:37,720
Speaker 2: you're outside of the two people that you are. Maybe

1444
01:04:37,720 --> 01:04:40,920
Speaker 2: you're doing crazy role play. Maybe it's getting rough and

1445
01:04:40,960 --> 01:04:44,160
Speaker 2: it's like you kind of escape mom and dad or

1446
01:04:44,200 --> 01:04:46,520
Speaker 2: the couple that's always been fucking you, get out of it.

1447
01:04:46,800 --> 01:04:48,040
Speaker 2: Maybe you're wearing.

1448
01:04:47,760 --> 01:04:49,920
Speaker 1: Different things because this sounds basic.

1449
01:04:50,200 --> 01:04:52,520
Speaker 2: Putting on a sexy outfit sounds basic, but it's something

1450
01:04:52,520 --> 01:04:54,200
Speaker 2: that we don't really do all the time, right, Like

1451
01:04:54,240 --> 01:04:56,880
Speaker 2: when you change something that you normally do. You've been

1452
01:04:56,880 --> 01:04:59,560
Speaker 2: together fourteen years, you know each other's favorite decisions, how

1453
01:04:59,560 --> 01:05:01,960
Speaker 2: to make each other come the next time. You do

1454
01:05:02,000 --> 01:05:04,640
Speaker 2: something that's different from the routine. That's spicy.

1455
01:05:04,920 --> 01:05:08,760
Speaker 1: I think spicy is subjective, right, Like for me, there's

1456
01:05:08,760 --> 01:05:12,000
Speaker 1: probably sucking another by, but maybe for you it was

1457
01:05:12,040 --> 01:05:13,560
Speaker 1: the car, Like but you just said, like we should

1458
01:05:13,560 --> 01:05:15,520
Speaker 1: have filmed this ship. For me, someone else is like

1459
01:05:15,560 --> 01:05:18,400
Speaker 1: the car is nothing, you know. The club for me

1460
01:05:18,480 --> 01:05:21,439
Speaker 1: is being watched or like watching other people or having

1461
01:05:21,440 --> 01:05:23,760
Speaker 1: people watch me. Like, that's spicy for me. I can't

1462
01:05:23,920 --> 01:05:25,360
Speaker 1: So I've tried to go to sex clubs.

1463
01:05:25,400 --> 01:05:27,160
Speaker 2: We were like, you know, AWA's interviewing people in the

1464
01:05:27,160 --> 01:05:29,200
Speaker 2: sex club and I enjoy being in the environment for

1465
01:05:29,360 --> 01:05:31,240
Speaker 2: the second mine kiss me in the sex clubs.

1466
01:05:31,360 --> 01:05:31,560
Speaker 3: Let's go.

1467
01:05:31,640 --> 01:05:34,520
Speaker 1: I want to just started off, you know how, like

1468
01:05:34,560 --> 01:05:36,360
Speaker 1: when you go to a club and ain't nobody on

1469
01:05:36,440 --> 01:05:38,760
Speaker 1: the dance Oh yeah, oh maaybe I'm starting it out

1470
01:05:38,800 --> 01:05:43,720
Speaker 1: going to the middle of the floor. Second dick, anyway,

1471
01:05:44,200 --> 01:05:48,120
Speaker 1: I will take you. Wait are you cool with that

1472
01:05:48,400 --> 01:05:53,000
Speaker 1: get up party this Saturday?

1473
01:05:53,000 --> 01:05:59,120
Speaker 3: Okay, so sex part I don't know if you so,

1474
01:05:59,120 --> 01:06:01,800
Speaker 3: how do you walk in fully glow? Yeah, and then

1475
01:06:03,000 --> 01:06:03,520
Speaker 3: take cloth?

1476
01:06:04,960 --> 01:06:07,160
Speaker 1: Well, I mean it literally even be a room like this.

1477
01:06:07,240 --> 01:06:09,520
Speaker 1: It could be a house like in New York. There

1478
01:06:09,640 --> 01:06:12,600
Speaker 1: laws or based like basement apart like at the bottom

1479
01:06:12,640 --> 01:06:15,920
Speaker 1: of the floor. They have beds laid out everywhere. There's

1480
01:06:16,240 --> 01:06:20,320
Speaker 1: normally someone selling drugs. There's a bartender. It's free and flowing.

1481
01:06:20,680 --> 01:06:22,520
Speaker 1: And then a lot of the women ended up going

1482
01:06:22,560 --> 01:06:27,080
Speaker 1: to the bathroom and they change into latex, leather, fishnets, lingerie,

1483
01:06:27,200 --> 01:06:30,480
Speaker 1: like just get really sexy. And you walk around the

1484
01:06:30,520 --> 01:06:32,840
Speaker 1: ones that I go to. There's consent speeches so you're

1485
01:06:33,080 --> 01:06:38,120
Speaker 1: given the play. There's puppy pads, there's condoms. There's squirt

1486
01:06:38,240 --> 01:06:39,280
Speaker 1: for squirting.

1487
01:06:38,880 --> 01:06:42,640
Speaker 2: And ping so that you don't get the dog.

1488
01:06:46,040 --> 01:06:47,960
Speaker 1: And then yeah, you you A lot of people are

1489
01:06:48,000 --> 01:06:50,080
Speaker 1: with their partners. They normally don't have single men there,

1490
01:06:50,360 --> 01:06:53,400
Speaker 1: so it's a lot more women or couples. And then

1491
01:06:53,440 --> 01:06:55,440
Speaker 1: you just start talking to people and the next thing

1492
01:06:55,440 --> 01:06:57,600
Speaker 1: you know, the person you're talking to might start licking

1493
01:06:57,600 --> 01:06:59,840
Speaker 1: your nipple and then can I eat your pussy? Sure?

1494
01:06:59,840 --> 01:07:00,960
Speaker 1: And then you go into the corner.

1495
01:07:01,000 --> 01:07:02,960
Speaker 2: And by the way, I would like to tell you, Heather,

1496
01:07:05,040 --> 01:07:09,600
Speaker 2: my apprehend I wouldn't be too apprehensive.

1497
01:07:09,160 --> 01:07:09,760
Speaker 3: You know what I mean.

1498
01:07:10,040 --> 01:07:13,200
Speaker 1: You know what I mean, be a judge people play

1499
01:07:13,840 --> 01:07:16,480
Speaker 1: it was it little judge, you know.

1500
01:07:16,720 --> 01:07:20,320
Speaker 2: I would actually say to you, I have noticed that

1501
01:07:21,080 --> 01:07:23,480
Speaker 2: women were really respectful of the men that I brought,

1502
01:07:23,560 --> 01:07:26,440
Speaker 2: and I was very surprised at that, because that was

1503
01:07:26,480 --> 01:07:27,840
Speaker 2: the thing I was kind of worried about the most,

1504
01:07:27,880 --> 01:07:29,360
Speaker 2: like I'm gonna I'm gonna go to the bathroom the

1505
01:07:29,360 --> 01:07:29,640
Speaker 2: next thing.

1506
01:07:29,680 --> 01:07:29,880
Speaker 1: I know.

1507
01:07:30,280 --> 01:07:34,480
Speaker 2: They're really I feel like the average bitch doesn't understand

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01:07:34,520 --> 01:07:38,600
Speaker 2: that language, and people that are into crazier ship generally

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01:07:38,720 --> 01:07:41,680
Speaker 2: know how to communicate around it. And uh, that's what's

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01:07:41,680 --> 01:07:43,280
Speaker 2: made me feel the safest, even though I don't have

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01:07:43,320 --> 01:07:44,720
Speaker 2: sex and sex parties.

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Speaker 1: But I think y'all some of the best sex I've

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01:07:47,520 --> 01:07:48,000
Speaker 1: ever had.

1514
01:07:48,280 --> 01:07:49,840
Speaker 2: I went to a sex party with this dude I

1515
01:07:49,920 --> 01:07:52,000
Speaker 2: was talking to and we were talking mad shit about people.

1516
01:07:52,000 --> 01:07:53,360
Speaker 2: I'm not looking at bit shodoes and the baby webs

1517
01:07:53,360 --> 01:07:55,200
Speaker 2: because she got mad, come on her baby laugh about ship.

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01:07:55,120 --> 01:07:56,120
Speaker 1: Like these white people over here.

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01:07:56,520 --> 01:07:58,520
Speaker 2: By this time we got home, we fucked crazy I

1520
01:07:58,560 --> 01:08:01,320
Speaker 2: think just being in one and around it's fun.

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01:08:01,600 --> 01:08:02,720
Speaker 3: So you can just go and watch.

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01:08:02,760 --> 01:08:04,400
Speaker 1: You can just go on watch and they enjoy you watching.

1523
01:08:04,480 --> 01:08:06,720
Speaker 3: You gotta be invited. Yeah, you gotta know.

1524
01:08:06,840 --> 01:08:08,440
Speaker 1: I'll send you to one I know about. We know.

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01:08:11,240 --> 01:08:11,760
Speaker 3: On Saturday.

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01:08:11,800 --> 01:08:14,440
Speaker 1: You know, it's a little grammy text party to I

1527
01:08:14,440 --> 01:08:16,640
Speaker 1: had a party on Saturday, but afterwards.

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01:08:16,640 --> 01:08:19,400
Speaker 3: You look, I'm coming to her birthday party Friday.

1529
01:08:19,680 --> 01:08:20,639
Speaker 1: I leave tomorrow.

1530
01:08:21,000 --> 01:08:23,400
Speaker 3: You gotta go back to she going to the sex party,

1531
01:08:23,400 --> 01:08:24,560
Speaker 3: income to the birthday.

1532
01:08:24,560 --> 01:08:27,559
Speaker 1: I want to see uncle waffles and you know, maybe

1533
01:08:27,600 --> 01:08:29,240
Speaker 1: all you waffles in the morning with a bitch, but yeah,

1534
01:08:29,479 --> 01:08:33,800
Speaker 1: someone might have blue waffles. Well let's go and Heather,

1535
01:08:33,920 --> 01:08:35,920
Speaker 1: please let everyone know where they could follow you, listen

1536
01:08:36,000 --> 01:08:39,040
Speaker 1: to you, support you, shot from you, and we will. However,

1537
01:08:39,080 --> 01:08:41,160
Speaker 1: I didn't even I never had a threesome before.

1538
01:08:41,880 --> 01:08:42,080
Speaker 3: Girl.

1539
01:08:42,160 --> 01:08:45,120
Speaker 1: We knew that from this. Oh you didn't. Y'all was

1540
01:08:45,200 --> 01:08:49,640
Speaker 1: in a moment, babe. It was something y'all just walking apart.

1541
01:08:49,479 --> 01:08:51,040
Speaker 3: A couple of weeks ago.

1542
01:08:51,439 --> 01:08:52,720
Speaker 1: She said, I don't know if you guys know, I've

1543
01:08:52,800 --> 01:08:58,840
Speaker 1: never done it. No that girl, Okay, what do you

1544
01:08:58,920 --> 01:09:01,880
Speaker 1: recommend to see you? Wait, bait, you don't you don't

1545
01:09:01,920 --> 01:09:03,920
Speaker 1: like girls, so why do you want to have to? Well,

1546
01:09:03,960 --> 01:09:05,599
Speaker 1: just because I'm like, he needs a little reward.

1547
01:09:05,640 --> 01:09:06,640
Speaker 3: Okay, this is what you gotta do.

1548
01:09:06,840 --> 01:09:09,280
Speaker 2: This will be the most fat all you gotta do.

1549
01:09:09,479 --> 01:09:12,080
Speaker 2: Y'all go to Vegas together or somewhere out of the country.

1550
01:09:12,479 --> 01:09:14,439
Speaker 2: You bring a bitch, let him fuckers. You can watch

1551
01:09:14,479 --> 01:09:16,920
Speaker 2: it if be really sexy and then if you wanted

1552
01:09:16,920 --> 01:09:19,599
Speaker 2: to stop your stock. But that's not that's what seek

1553
01:09:19,600 --> 01:09:21,280
Speaker 2: you see how you're already crazy. Maybe just let her

1554
01:09:21,280 --> 01:09:24,120
Speaker 2: suck his dick. That's the beginner, Like let her let

1555
01:09:24,120 --> 01:09:24,920
Speaker 2: her just suck his dick.

1556
01:09:25,320 --> 01:09:28,200
Speaker 1: That look all right, y'all. Saw everyone know where they

1557
01:09:28,200 --> 01:09:29,760
Speaker 1: can follow you, and we need the update on when

1558
01:09:29,800 --> 01:09:30,840
Speaker 1: this three someme take place.

1559
01:09:30,920 --> 01:09:32,720
Speaker 5: I'll let y'all know when it happens, but you can

1560
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Speaker 5: follow my two businesses to relay boutique money for nails.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, back on Fig, back on Fig on YouTube, don't

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Speaker 1: patreon this Patreon dot com backslash Horrible Decisions. This has

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01:10:10,240 --> 01:10:18,880
Speaker 1: been yet another episode of Horrible Decisions. It's bonus, bitches.

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01:10:19,200 --> 01:10:24,720
Speaker 1: Welcome to another bonus episode of Horrid blade Decisions. I

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01:10:24,720 --> 01:10:27,519
Speaker 1: am joined today with someone that you guys may be

1577
01:10:27,640 --> 01:10:30,600
Speaker 1: very familiar with. She is one half of the Cocktails

1578
01:10:30,600 --> 01:10:34,240
Speaker 1: thirty Discussions podcast, Medina Monroe.

1579
01:10:34,600 --> 01:10:38,160
Speaker 6: Oh that was such a great intro. Hello everybody. I

1580
01:10:38,240 --> 01:10:40,160
Speaker 6: know you've been waiting for me to come back and

1581
01:10:40,200 --> 01:10:40,960
Speaker 6: here I am.

1582
01:10:41,479 --> 01:10:43,160
Speaker 1: No, I don't think they've been waiting.

1583
01:10:43,160 --> 01:10:44,280
Speaker 3: I don't think they've been waiting.

1584
01:10:45,400 --> 01:10:46,559
Speaker 6: I said, are you getting cute?

1585
01:10:46,600 --> 01:10:49,519
Speaker 1: You said no, and bitch, you look cute. Bitch, this

1586
01:10:49,640 --> 01:10:51,800
Speaker 1: is just my hair is being molded so I can

1587
01:10:51,920 --> 01:10:55,040
Speaker 1: like have my pixie. I have no makeup on. Bitch,

1588
01:10:55,080 --> 01:10:57,200
Speaker 1: I'm not cute. No one told you to come in

1589
01:10:57,600 --> 01:10:59,719
Speaker 1: with a whole. I don't even know what you got going.

1590
01:11:00,760 --> 01:11:04,000
Speaker 6: I was channeling my inner Ain't Jemima happy black heads,

1591
01:11:04,200 --> 01:11:04,599
Speaker 6: you know.

1592
01:11:04,600 --> 01:11:05,840
Speaker 3: Because it's black his three months.

1593
01:11:05,920 --> 01:11:07,080
Speaker 1: I didn't want to say.

1594
01:11:06,880 --> 01:11:10,640
Speaker 6: It, Yetta, be careful you you can't say it as

1595
01:11:10,640 --> 01:11:11,280
Speaker 6: a white woman.

1596
01:11:11,680 --> 01:11:12,600
Speaker 3: Hope this show do me.

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01:11:12,840 --> 01:11:17,719
Speaker 1: I am not happy Black History Months everybody. I hope

1598
01:11:17,720 --> 01:11:21,840
Speaker 1: that you all enjoyed your Valentine's Day with your nigga

1599
01:11:22,000 --> 01:11:24,600
Speaker 1: or your sign nigga, or your sugar daddy or just

1600
01:11:24,640 --> 01:11:27,680
Speaker 1: the nigga, you fucking whatever. Book. But to start this

1601
01:11:27,760 --> 01:11:31,680
Speaker 1: episode though off, we're gonna get into some ice breakers

1602
01:11:32,280 --> 01:11:36,920
Speaker 1: that Medina has ill. So what's the first one. Let's

1603
01:11:37,000 --> 01:11:40,479
Speaker 1: let's get into get the first one.

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01:11:40,920 --> 01:11:43,679
Speaker 6: Oh, this is so perfect for you because you're gonna

1605
01:11:43,720 --> 01:11:48,479
Speaker 6: have such a crazy answer. What's wrong with having sex

1606
01:11:48,520 --> 01:11:52,519
Speaker 6: on the first day? What's wrong with it? What are

1607
01:11:52,560 --> 01:11:54,320
Speaker 6: the wrong things about having sex?

1608
01:11:56,320 --> 01:11:59,000
Speaker 1: That's the wrong thing? I'm the wrong person to ask that,

1609
01:11:59,080 --> 01:12:01,960
Speaker 1: because all the niggas that I've actually ended up being

1610
01:12:02,040 --> 01:12:07,120
Speaker 1: with long term or have even got connectual bonds to bitch,

1611
01:12:07,120 --> 01:12:07,719
Speaker 1: we fucked.

1612
01:12:07,479 --> 01:12:11,519
Speaker 6: The first night, really, but would you find anything any

1613
01:12:11,560 --> 01:12:13,040
Speaker 6: wrong things that happened with that?

1614
01:12:15,760 --> 01:12:19,280
Speaker 1: You know? You know, bitch, we both have these sexually

1615
01:12:19,320 --> 01:12:23,240
Speaker 1: liberated podcasts. So it's one of those to where we're

1616
01:12:23,240 --> 01:12:25,880
Speaker 1: all adults now, you know what I mean. So I

1617
01:12:25,920 --> 01:12:28,959
Speaker 1: think that when you were in your teens in your twenties,

1618
01:12:29,360 --> 01:12:32,320
Speaker 1: the idea of having sex on the first night, you know,

1619
01:12:32,880 --> 01:12:34,920
Speaker 1: was a bad thing. But I think we're adults now,

1620
01:12:35,120 --> 01:12:38,600
Speaker 1: and I think even men know that women like to

1621
01:12:38,640 --> 01:12:41,880
Speaker 1: fuck just as fucking much as they do. And if

1622
01:12:41,880 --> 01:12:43,840
Speaker 1: you turning me on and we vibe it to me,

1623
01:12:43,920 --> 01:12:45,080
Speaker 1: I think if I want to fuck you on the

1624
01:12:45,080 --> 01:12:48,519
Speaker 1: first night, that's that's a good thing because that means.

1625
01:12:48,400 --> 01:12:56,519
Speaker 6: I'm really into there's your phone ringing, Oh it is going, Yes,

1626
01:12:56,640 --> 01:13:00,160
Speaker 6: that's Oh.

1627
01:13:00,200 --> 01:13:03,080
Speaker 1: That was my nigga, y'all know he got the little special.

1628
01:13:03,800 --> 01:13:05,519
Speaker 3: Yeah. It was a.

1629
01:13:06,680 --> 01:13:08,200
Speaker 1: Bad and it was right here. But I'm like, I

1630
01:13:08,240 --> 01:13:10,640
Speaker 1: was like, it's why are you looking like that? My

1631
01:13:10,720 --> 01:13:14,679
Speaker 1: bad Joe. It was my nigga calling me nasty. Oh

1632
01:13:16,439 --> 01:13:19,640
Speaker 1: I had something. I mean, what would your answer be

1633
01:13:19,720 --> 01:13:19,920
Speaker 1: to that?

1634
01:13:20,000 --> 01:13:20,200
Speaker 3: Thought?

1635
01:13:20,320 --> 01:13:20,360
Speaker 6: Like?

1636
01:13:21,320 --> 01:13:22,080
Speaker 1: We are grown?

1637
01:13:22,200 --> 01:13:26,120
Speaker 6: We are we are, and sex should be We just

1638
01:13:26,200 --> 01:13:28,519
Speaker 6: have the sex and everything can just carry on how

1639
01:13:28,840 --> 01:13:31,840
Speaker 6: it would go if we didn't have sex, right. But

1640
01:13:32,120 --> 01:13:34,640
Speaker 6: one thing that I'm learning is and I've had relationships

1641
01:13:34,640 --> 01:13:37,880
Speaker 6: that started with we fucked on the first date, but

1642
01:13:38,120 --> 01:13:40,400
Speaker 6: that's not the norm. And I feel like there's a

1643
01:13:40,520 --> 01:13:44,240
Speaker 6: dynamic switch up when you have sex with the man

1644
01:13:44,360 --> 01:13:46,479
Speaker 6: too quick, even not even too quick, just when you

1645
01:13:46,479 --> 01:13:48,000
Speaker 6: give up, when you have some, when you give up

1646
01:13:48,000 --> 01:13:50,600
Speaker 6: them draws. There's this switch that I really don't like,

1647
01:13:50,720 --> 01:13:53,400
Speaker 6: and I try to hold on, try to hold on

1648
01:13:53,479 --> 01:13:55,360
Speaker 6: to it as long as I can. It's almost like

1649
01:13:55,640 --> 01:13:59,920
Speaker 6: before you have sex, they're so interested, they're courting.

1650
01:14:00,479 --> 01:14:07,240
Speaker 1: Because they're lying. Once they get the pussy, lot of me, bro,

1651
01:14:07,400 --> 01:14:09,080
Speaker 1: you gotta deal with. You gotta deal with a man

1652
01:14:09,120 --> 01:14:12,559
Speaker 1: who actually is not pressed on the pussy. That's the

1653
01:14:12,600 --> 01:14:14,519
Speaker 1: thing I feel like, Even if they're not pressed on

1654
01:14:14,520 --> 01:14:16,360
Speaker 1: the pussy, there's still a power change.

1655
01:14:16,400 --> 01:14:16,880
Speaker 6: Don't lie.

1656
01:14:17,000 --> 01:14:19,639
Speaker 1: Don't they know because you don't know that they press

1657
01:14:19,680 --> 01:14:21,559
Speaker 1: on the pussy, but they're only showing up as their

1658
01:14:21,600 --> 01:14:24,400
Speaker 1: representative to get the pussy. And so once they have

1659
01:14:24,400 --> 01:14:27,320
Speaker 1: the pussy, if you see a man switches up in

1660
01:14:27,400 --> 01:14:30,720
Speaker 1: his behavior or even in his courtmanship or how he's

1661
01:14:30,720 --> 01:14:34,040
Speaker 1: showing up to you, even on the telephone through text messages,

1662
01:14:34,200 --> 01:14:36,040
Speaker 1: that's because he got what he wanted. He's not a

1663
01:14:36,040 --> 01:14:38,360
Speaker 1: growl man. He probably wasn't even looking for a relationship.

1664
01:14:38,520 --> 01:14:40,880
Speaker 1: He probably was only looking for the pussy and because

1665
01:14:40,920 --> 01:14:44,160
Speaker 1: you gave it to him. So there is that scenario.

1666
01:14:44,439 --> 01:14:47,960
Speaker 6: But then there's also just like men want pussy, not

1667
01:14:48,080 --> 01:14:51,040
Speaker 6: that they just want your pussy, but they do want

1668
01:14:51,280 --> 01:14:53,200
Speaker 6: They're always motivated by that, whether they just want to

1669
01:14:53,200 --> 01:14:54,800
Speaker 6: fuck or they still want to be with you. There

1670
01:14:54,880 --> 01:14:56,439
Speaker 6: is a slight change, and I don't like a change.

1671
01:14:56,439 --> 01:14:57,479
Speaker 6: I try to hold on to it as long as

1672
01:14:57,520 --> 01:15:00,000
Speaker 6: I can, but they really don't be that long. Okay,

1673
01:15:00,160 --> 01:15:03,680
Speaker 6: next one, you catch your friends partner cheating on them

1674
01:15:03,720 --> 01:15:07,799
Speaker 6: in public, would you tell your friend that their partner

1675
01:15:07,840 --> 01:15:08,320
Speaker 6: is cheating?

1676
01:15:09,479 --> 01:15:14,040
Speaker 1: So I wouldn't say your nigga is cheating. I would

1677
01:15:14,040 --> 01:15:16,960
Speaker 1: say I saw your nigga out with this person. Here's

1678
01:15:17,000 --> 01:15:18,640
Speaker 1: the picture. You know who this woman is.