1 00:00:16,560 --> 00:00:20,119 Speaker 1: Hey, Hurdler's what a week? 2 00:00:20,720 --> 00:00:24,040 Speaker 2: Emily coming back in to your feed with another installment 3 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:26,160 Speaker 2: of five Minute Friday. 4 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 1: I feel so many things this week. A lot's been 5 00:00:29,640 --> 00:00:30,120 Speaker 1: going on. 6 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 2: One of my best dearest friends left yesterday to move 7 00:00:35,760 --> 00:00:37,879 Speaker 2: away from New York and that was pretty tough. I 8 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:44,000 Speaker 2: also actually had my last session with the therapists that 9 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:47,760 Speaker 2: I've been seeing since October, and that's where I am 10 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:51,239 Speaker 2: bringing us in today's installment of five Minute Friday. For 11 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:54,960 Speaker 2: anyone that is new listening to the show, first and 12 00:00:54,960 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 2: foremost welcome to the community. You are now officially a hurdler. 13 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:04,840 Speaker 2: And so some background five Minute Friday. I share a story, 14 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 2: something that I'm thinking about lately, I offer you a 15 00:01:07,280 --> 00:01:09,160 Speaker 2: thought prompt to take you into your weekend, and then 16 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:11,440 Speaker 2: I offer up some highlights of the week, things that 17 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:13,920 Speaker 2: I think are awesome, whether that is a person, a 18 00:01:13,959 --> 00:01:17,760 Speaker 2: piece of content, a podcast episode, something you should buy. 19 00:01:18,280 --> 00:01:21,120 Speaker 1: You get the details. 20 00:01:21,400 --> 00:01:23,760 Speaker 2: I also do want to say before we get started, 21 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:28,200 Speaker 2: this week's hurdle session raised three hundred and fifty dollars 22 00:01:28,640 --> 00:01:32,720 Speaker 2: for the Loveland Foundation. I had a blast with you, 23 00:01:32,959 --> 00:01:35,720 Speaker 2: and I'm so amped about the direction that this is 24 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:38,720 Speaker 2: going and what we will be able to talk about 25 00:01:38,920 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 2: coming down the pipeline upcoming next week. If you're interested 26 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:47,480 Speaker 2: in freelance writing, I've got you. Intro to freelance writing 27 00:01:47,720 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 2: is this coming Tuesday. So if you want to sign 28 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:53,080 Speaker 2: up for next week's Hurdle session, click on over to 29 00:01:53,160 --> 00:01:57,360 Speaker 2: a link with the description to this episode. On that note, 30 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:00,400 Speaker 2: everything you hearing me chat about today, I'll all be 31 00:02:00,440 --> 00:02:04,680 Speaker 2: linked in there as well. All right, So, as I mentioned, 32 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:09,400 Speaker 2: this week, I had my last session with my therapist. 33 00:02:09,680 --> 00:02:10,800 Speaker 1: It was just one of those. 34 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:13,440 Speaker 2: Things where I felt as though I knew that it 35 00:02:13,840 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 2: was time to move on, and I'd felt that way 36 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:19,840 Speaker 2: for a little while. I was super grateful for all 37 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:23,720 Speaker 2: of our interactions and really grateful for the takeaways that 38 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 2: I gained during this time and this experience, and I 39 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:30,840 Speaker 2: just I knew that it was time to close this chapter. 40 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 2: And so on Wednesday, when we had our call, we 41 00:02:34,880 --> 00:02:37,000 Speaker 2: went through all of those niceties that you go through 42 00:02:37,040 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 2: with someone when you're talking to them on zoom or 43 00:02:39,760 --> 00:02:43,160 Speaker 2: the phone, especially during the pandemic, and it's like chatting 44 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 2: about the weather, and then it's chatting about the pandemic, 45 00:02:45,600 --> 00:02:47,800 Speaker 2: and then it's like everything feels the same, but everything 46 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:50,760 Speaker 2: feels different, and I know you all know exactly these 47 00:02:50,840 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 2: niceties that I'm talking about. And so after we got 48 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:55,880 Speaker 2: those out of the way, she said to me, I 49 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:58,840 Speaker 2: would like for us in our final session to talk 50 00:02:58,880 --> 00:03:01,760 Speaker 2: about what it is that you feel like you learned 51 00:03:01,800 --> 00:03:05,440 Speaker 2: about yourself during this time. And that was definitely something 52 00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:08,360 Speaker 2: that I had been thinking about a lot as well 53 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:11,400 Speaker 2: leading into our chat. I came to the conclusion that 54 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 2: I've learned a few things, of course, I would hope so, 55 00:03:15,280 --> 00:03:19,400 Speaker 2: but two pretty dominant things that I am taking away 56 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:23,320 Speaker 2: from this time. First and foremost, it really becomes super 57 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:26,760 Speaker 2: clear what things you are giving your energy to when 58 00:03:26,800 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 2: you have forty five minutes every week to talk about yourself. 59 00:03:31,120 --> 00:03:34,519 Speaker 2: So that was takeaway number one, and takeaway number two 60 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:40,280 Speaker 2: is that radical vulnerability is really really scary and hard, 61 00:03:40,720 --> 00:03:45,240 Speaker 2: especially I mean for me, I feel like oftentimes when 62 00:03:45,280 --> 00:03:47,840 Speaker 2: I get to a place with friends or people I 63 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:51,520 Speaker 2: care about where I'm truly truly vulnerable, that a lot 64 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:54,840 Speaker 2: of the time they leave in some sort of way. 65 00:03:56,840 --> 00:03:58,520 Speaker 2: All right, So let's not make this episode of down 66 00:03:58,560 --> 00:04:02,120 Speaker 2: or I'm going to focus on takeaway number one, and 67 00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:05,920 Speaker 2: that centers around your energy, so your mental well being, 68 00:04:06,120 --> 00:04:07,880 Speaker 2: our mental well being. 69 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:09,360 Speaker 1: It's important period. 70 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 2: I mentioned in the season three announcement that I put 71 00:04:14,680 --> 00:04:18,640 Speaker 2: up on the substack that it's super important for us 72 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:20,960 Speaker 2: all to take care of ourselves. And if you don't 73 00:04:20,960 --> 00:04:23,359 Speaker 2: take care of yourself, then you can't best show up 74 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:26,239 Speaker 2: for other people. It's something that Coach Bennett also talks 75 00:04:26,279 --> 00:04:30,080 Speaker 2: about in our episode from earlier this week. You need 76 00:04:30,120 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 2: to protect your energy in every way possible, because. 77 00:04:34,400 --> 00:04:36,640 Speaker 1: Your energy, really it's your magic. 78 00:04:36,760 --> 00:04:40,080 Speaker 2: This also means that if you're going to give an 79 00:04:40,080 --> 00:04:43,159 Speaker 2: abundant amount of your energy to any one thing, then 80 00:04:43,240 --> 00:04:46,120 Speaker 2: it's got to be something that truly truly fills you 81 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:48,919 Speaker 2: up in one way or another. And there are different 82 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:53,480 Speaker 2: ways that certain things or people can provide that in 83 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:57,000 Speaker 2: your life. So I'll give you an example. Let's talk 84 00:04:57,000 --> 00:05:00,640 Speaker 2: about training for a marathon. It's in a that has 85 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:06,280 Speaker 2: a huge, large, big opportunity cost, which means that you 86 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:09,560 Speaker 2: are going to give up a lot of opportunities to 87 00:05:09,680 --> 00:05:14,440 Speaker 2: go for this one big opportunity. You will skip out 88 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:17,279 Speaker 2: on happy hours with friends, you'll probably wake up earlier 89 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:20,440 Speaker 2: to get in these training runs. Your body, oh my god, 90 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:25,080 Speaker 2: black toenails, sore muscles, eight geyback, you name it. You 91 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 2: run the risk of becoming that person that just constantly 92 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:30,480 Speaker 2: talks about running in social situations and you might not 93 00:05:30,520 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 2: even realize it. And I am so the head person 94 00:05:34,480 --> 00:05:38,559 Speaker 2: sometimes anyway. Okay, So the marathon, it requires a lot 95 00:05:38,600 --> 00:05:42,200 Speaker 2: of opportunity costs, and it requires a lot of your energy. 96 00:05:42,320 --> 00:05:45,120 Speaker 2: So then now that we recognize that, you have to 97 00:05:45,160 --> 00:05:47,840 Speaker 2: ask yourself, right, is this thing a thing that I 98 00:05:47,960 --> 00:05:51,080 Speaker 2: want to do? Is it making me better? Do I 99 00:05:51,200 --> 00:05:54,040 Speaker 2: feel like I am getting a return on my investment? 100 00:05:54,080 --> 00:05:56,640 Speaker 2: Does it make me feel good? And if the answer 101 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:59,120 Speaker 2: to some of these questions is no, then I would 102 00:05:59,200 --> 00:06:02,160 Speaker 2: encourage you to ask yourself why it is that you 103 00:06:02,200 --> 00:06:04,719 Speaker 2: want to do this thing in the first place. Okay, 104 00:06:04,760 --> 00:06:07,840 Speaker 2: So that's an example of something that can take a 105 00:06:07,839 --> 00:06:09,640 Speaker 2: lot of your energy and how it could be good 106 00:06:09,720 --> 00:06:13,800 Speaker 2: for you or perhaps not good for you. Another example, 107 00:06:14,040 --> 00:06:18,400 Speaker 2: I'll get a little personal here. I remember months and 108 00:06:18,440 --> 00:06:21,440 Speaker 2: months and months ago, I was talking to my therapist 109 00:06:21,480 --> 00:06:24,800 Speaker 2: about someone that I had been dating and it had 110 00:06:24,839 --> 00:06:28,080 Speaker 2: been going on for some time, and she kind of 111 00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:30,880 Speaker 2: stopped me mid sentence, which she didn't do often, and 112 00:06:30,920 --> 00:06:33,520 Speaker 2: she said to me, does this person make you happy? 113 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:36,760 Speaker 2: And I immediately like my gut reaction was to get 114 00:06:36,800 --> 00:06:38,919 Speaker 2: so defensive with her. In my head, I'm like, what 115 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:41,719 Speaker 2: do you mean, does this person make me happy? I 116 00:06:41,760 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 2: have told you that he made me happy. I told 117 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:47,040 Speaker 2: you about our first kiss and how it was great 118 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:48,400 Speaker 2: and all these things. 119 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:50,040 Speaker 1: And I realized in my. 120 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:53,080 Speaker 2: Head, I'm laying there like not saying anything but doing 121 00:06:53,080 --> 00:06:55,800 Speaker 2: a lot of mental processing at the time, that I'm 122 00:06:55,839 --> 00:07:02,440 Speaker 2: getting really defensive. And within a few seconds I realized 123 00:07:03,520 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 2: that my gut had said something at first, but the 124 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:13,040 Speaker 2: answer was that lately, no, this person doesn't make me happy. I, 125 00:07:13,400 --> 00:07:15,800 Speaker 2: in that relationship had been holding onto so much of 126 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 2: the good from before, hoping that that good would come back. 127 00:07:19,920 --> 00:07:23,760 Speaker 2: And in that process of this hope, I was letting 128 00:07:23,920 --> 00:07:30,040 Speaker 2: this person and this relationship drain me of really important energy. 129 00:07:30,360 --> 00:07:32,640 Speaker 2: I remember I had a conversation with Christy Godsow, and 130 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 2: I'll link this in the show notes as well, where 131 00:07:36,680 --> 00:07:41,240 Speaker 2: we called this scenario an energy leak. What I came 132 00:07:41,560 --> 00:07:44,560 Speaker 2: to realize is when you consciously stop giving your energy 133 00:07:44,840 --> 00:07:47,600 Speaker 2: to things or people that don't deserve it, then good 134 00:07:47,880 --> 00:07:52,480 Speaker 2: things they can happen. Time freeze up, and that process 135 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:55,880 Speaker 2: is one that I would say is certainly ever evolving. 136 00:07:56,120 --> 00:08:01,480 Speaker 2: And lifelong. In that process, you become a happier version 137 00:08:01,640 --> 00:08:04,040 Speaker 2: of yourself. You're more capable to show up for the 138 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:07,240 Speaker 2: things that are worthy of your energy. 139 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:09,120 Speaker 1: And I think that's pretty awesome. At the end of 140 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: the day. 141 00:08:10,200 --> 00:08:12,360 Speaker 2: What I'm trying to say here is that I think 142 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:16,640 Speaker 2: I think you're great. And I know that's kind of 143 00:08:16,680 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 2: weird for me to say into this microphone from where 144 00:08:20,080 --> 00:08:21,960 Speaker 2: I am and where you are, and the fact that 145 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:25,000 Speaker 2: we don't really even know each other maybe at all. 146 00:08:26,120 --> 00:08:27,920 Speaker 1: But the thing is is that I know this. 147 00:08:28,080 --> 00:08:31,240 Speaker 2: I know that we all deserve to surround ourselves with 148 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:35,200 Speaker 2: people and things that fill us up, period. And it 149 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:38,640 Speaker 2: took me hearing myself talk for almost a year with 150 00:08:38,679 --> 00:08:41,800 Speaker 2: this one woman, both on a couch and over Skype, 151 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:43,720 Speaker 2: to get to a place that I can say this 152 00:08:43,920 --> 00:08:48,280 Speaker 2: with so much certainty. And so by getting transparent with 153 00:08:48,679 --> 00:08:51,840 Speaker 2: thousands and thousands of people who listen to this podcast, 154 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:55,440 Speaker 2: my goal is that you'll learn a little something. And 155 00:08:55,480 --> 00:08:59,320 Speaker 2: as coach Bennett said in the episode Familier this Week, 156 00:08:59,320 --> 00:09:01,520 Speaker 2: he said, if you do I don't listen and learn 157 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:06,320 Speaker 2: from people's life lessons, then you're an idiot. I don't 158 00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:08,840 Speaker 2: think i'd be as blunt as that I think everybody's 159 00:09:08,880 --> 00:09:14,120 Speaker 2: a little bit different. But maybe, just maybe this will 160 00:09:14,240 --> 00:09:19,040 Speaker 2: encourage you my story to do a personal audit as well. 161 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:22,840 Speaker 2: Prompt for the week, what is one thing in your 162 00:09:22,880 --> 00:09:26,360 Speaker 2: life that's draining your energy and what is one thing 163 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:31,319 Speaker 2: that excites you that you can replace it with? All right, now, 164 00:09:31,520 --> 00:09:35,360 Speaker 2: Highlights of the week. You've got to check out this website. 165 00:09:35,400 --> 00:09:38,640 Speaker 2: It's called looks like you Need Iceland dot Com Again, 166 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:43,640 Speaker 2: looks like you need Iceland dot Com. Basically, you go 167 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:46,760 Speaker 2: to this website, you click a button and you scream. 168 00:09:47,080 --> 00:09:50,040 Speaker 2: And I know that sounds bizarre, but that scream is 169 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:55,040 Speaker 2: then broadcasted over this small yellow speaker, well rather large 170 00:09:55,080 --> 00:09:58,920 Speaker 2: yellow speaker that is somewhere in the open fields of Iceland. 171 00:09:58,920 --> 00:10:00,840 Speaker 2: And they show you a video of and it is 172 00:10:01,280 --> 00:10:06,040 Speaker 2: hilarious and so necessary. Please someone tag me in a 173 00:10:06,120 --> 00:10:09,839 Speaker 2: video of them doing this today. When you listen to this, 174 00:10:10,960 --> 00:10:13,200 Speaker 2: I need to experience the joy with you. 175 00:10:13,280 --> 00:10:14,120 Speaker 1: It's so awesome. 176 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:17,640 Speaker 2: Another highlight of the week the episode of How I 177 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:22,719 Speaker 2: Built This with the Tacha founder Vicky Sai. Tacha it's 178 00:10:22,720 --> 00:10:25,839 Speaker 2: a collection of luxury beauty products from Japan. Last year, 179 00:10:26,080 --> 00:10:31,640 Speaker 2: Unilever acquired it for a reported astounding five hundred million dollars. 180 00:10:31,679 --> 00:10:35,800 Speaker 2: And her founder's story is so interesting, especially as a 181 00:10:35,800 --> 00:10:38,960 Speaker 2: New Yorker. She talks about living in the city during 182 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:43,200 Speaker 2: nine to eleven and she has faced so, so so 183 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 2: many hurdles in her career to get to where she 184 00:10:45,760 --> 00:10:47,880 Speaker 2: is today. And I'm telling you, if you want to 185 00:10:47,920 --> 00:10:53,480 Speaker 2: hear a story about resiliency and determination, this woman has 186 00:10:54,000 --> 00:10:57,959 Speaker 2: got you. Also highlight of the week join Club Hurdlers 187 00:10:58,120 --> 00:11:00,440 Speaker 2: on Strava. I'm super excited about this. I've been wanting 188 00:11:00,480 --> 00:11:02,439 Speaker 2: to start this club on there for a long time. 189 00:11:02,679 --> 00:11:05,800 Speaker 2: We're already one hundred and fifty plus members strong. Just 190 00:11:05,840 --> 00:11:09,040 Speaker 2: go into your Strava app, look into the clubs. It's 191 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:13,200 Speaker 2: a running club. It's called Hurdler's and join and there 192 00:11:13,400 --> 00:11:17,679 Speaker 2: we can celebrate each other's achievements and some awesome running 193 00:11:17,880 --> 00:11:19,320 Speaker 2: and movement, no matter what. 194 00:11:19,240 --> 00:11:20,240 Speaker 1: That looks like for you. 195 00:11:20,880 --> 00:11:22,840 Speaker 2: And I do want to give a shout out to 196 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:26,240 Speaker 2: Christy Malley who tackled twenty. 197 00:11:25,960 --> 00:11:28,040 Speaker 1: Three plus miles this week. Impress it. 198 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:31,959 Speaker 2: And last highlight of the week is I'm going to 199 00:11:32,040 --> 00:11:34,559 Speaker 2: share with you I just bought a new journal. It's 200 00:11:34,559 --> 00:11:37,880 Speaker 2: by a company called Baron Fig It's a hardcover notebook 201 00:11:38,120 --> 00:11:40,800 Speaker 2: that I'm obsessed with. I have no affiliation with Baron 202 00:11:40,840 --> 00:11:43,920 Speaker 2: fig but this journal is just like the perfect journal, 203 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:47,560 Speaker 2: and that it's got like great distance spread lines, which 204 00:11:47,600 --> 00:11:50,280 Speaker 2: I think is clutch. It's also got a nice cloth cover, 205 00:11:51,360 --> 00:11:53,840 Speaker 2: a perfect little bookmark. I'm such a writing nerd, but 206 00:11:53,920 --> 00:11:56,560 Speaker 2: as you can tell, I really appreciate the little things, 207 00:11:56,559 --> 00:11:59,160 Speaker 2: and so I would highly, highly encourage you to. 208 00:11:59,200 --> 00:12:03,160 Speaker 1: Grab one of these notebooks yourself. Again. Links to all 209 00:12:03,200 --> 00:12:06,719 Speaker 1: this stuff in the show notes to this episode. 210 00:12:07,280 --> 00:12:10,760 Speaker 2: As always, please connect with Hurdle on social media at 211 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:13,199 Speaker 2: Hurdle Podcasts, at Emily a Body if you have a 212 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:15,400 Speaker 2: Hurdle moment of your own to share or just want 213 00:12:15,400 --> 00:12:18,840 Speaker 2: to say hi Emily at Hurdle us. And if you 214 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:23,200 Speaker 2: haven't done so yet, make sure pretty pretty please to 215 00:12:23,320 --> 00:12:28,480 Speaker 2: sign up for the weekly Hurdle newsletter. I seriously, seriously 216 00:12:28,520 --> 00:12:32,400 Speaker 2: appreciate everyone who has offered me a payment to be 217 00:12:32,440 --> 00:12:36,360 Speaker 2: a regular subscriber. It is not necessary, but so so 218 00:12:36,520 --> 00:12:40,800 Speaker 2: appreciated this community this week. It's really filling me up 219 00:12:41,160 --> 00:12:43,680 Speaker 2: just as much as it certainly is a fair share 220 00:12:43,800 --> 00:12:46,240 Speaker 2: of work to show up in this feed three times 221 00:12:46,280 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 2: each week put out this newsletter. To do these hurdle sessions, 222 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:52,040 Speaker 2: the energy that I am getting back from all of you, 223 00:12:52,720 --> 00:12:55,079 Speaker 2: it is certainly certainly worthwhile. 224 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:56,040 Speaker 1: And that's it. 225 00:12:56,480 --> 00:13:01,120 Speaker 2: Happy weekend, y'all, Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.