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Speaker 1: What's up y'all? Thank you for tuning in for a
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Speaker 1: you dreamers and chasers. Just your co hosts a j holiday.
Speaker 1: What's up big Tam Bam, It's tam bab y'all.
Speaker 2: I love y'all. Shout out to the niggas and hold own.
Speaker 2: That own was supposed to be louder, but it started
Speaker 2: to hurt. I don't know my throat.
Speaker 3: You been doing this weekend, bitch nothing. I refuse to
Speaker 3: do anything with one foot.
Speaker 1: I refuse you making massage your souls? Why why it's
Speaker 1: in the air, no.
Speaker 2: Feeling it?
Speaker 1: How many times you had sex in twenty twenty four?
Speaker 2: I did not get nothing that much this year, because
Speaker 2: remember I had been celibate most of the year and
Speaker 2: my birthday I hop back outside. I can count on
Speaker 2: one hand how much beings I had twenty twenty four.
Speaker 2: Ain't that sad? Not I need worth? It is boring.
Speaker 1: I need you to get your dick up. Yeah, man,
Speaker 1: get your dick up, man.
Speaker 3: It's been a Yeah, twenty twenty four they said twenty
Speaker 3: twenty four was the year they cancer.
Speaker 1: How y'all literally a fucking disease. Okay, don't pick that
Speaker 1: over us.
Speaker 2: You see.
Speaker 1: I said that as somebody on the on Instagram because.
Speaker 2: I ignored that shit.
Speaker 1: Like cancers are not the best. You're literally a disease.
Speaker 2: Car just read up on us. You're amazing, literally.
Speaker 3: Y'all so much. It's a dry year. It's been a
Speaker 3: dry year. And then oh, with no people trying to
Speaker 3: take me on a date right now, I'm not going
Speaker 3: on no day with the foot. Yeah without the foot,
Speaker 3: you know what I'm saying, Like, no, So I just
Speaker 3: been chilling. I haven't had on real clothes, like got
Speaker 3: dawged up, did my makeup and did all of that
Speaker 3: since sometime since the wedding in August.
Speaker 1: Damn, your hair looks nice.
Speaker 2: Thank you.
Speaker 3: I did it today. Some reason why I did it?
Speaker 3: I mean I did it yesterday.
Speaker 2: Huh. It's a quick weave ing a quick week.
Speaker 1: Yeah, nice and flowy.
Speaker 2: Thank you? Because I was just looking so bad. My
Speaker 2: mama was like, my mom was like, why don't you
Speaker 2: do something to your hair.
Speaker 1: Baby.
Speaker 2: I was like, you know what, You're right, it'll make
Speaker 2: you feel better.
Speaker 1: That's how I've been looking for weeks. Kay hat Wig,
Speaker 1: going riding bike.
Speaker 2: Going to ride a bike? So bad, so bad. What'd
Speaker 2: you do over the weekend?
Speaker 1: Not too much? Ride my bike, me and my hosband.
Speaker 1: I rode my bike Saturday and Sunday, very long away.
Speaker 1: I probably rode my bike like thirty miles this weekend.
Speaker 2: Ooh, that's total.
Speaker 1: Like riding a bike the Whole Foods to sit down
Speaker 1: and eat the riding it back.
Speaker 2: Home counterproductive, but at least you burned off what you ate.
Speaker 1: Not really, I'm pretty sure I burned way more than
Speaker 1: I actually ate, but I still didn't eat like a
Speaker 1: super bad meal at the Whole Foods.
Speaker 2: Yeah that's not that's cute. I'm here for it. Used
Speaker 2: by yourself.
Speaker 1: He was with a friend Monday, not Monday, Jesus Christ.
Speaker 1: I skip like that. On Saturday, I went by myself,
Speaker 1: and then yesterday I had my homegirl rolle with me.
Speaker 1: And it's so like, y'all, get a fucking bike. I
Speaker 1: know it's getting cold outside now, but get a bike
Speaker 1: or a kite something so you could tap into that
Speaker 1: child like energy inside. It's just so fun when it's
Speaker 1: nice outside and the breeze.
Speaker 2: Or go to spin class.
Speaker 3: Man, if y'all got a good spin class with like
Speaker 3: the lights that like go off with the music and
Speaker 3: it'll be dark and the lights flashing and shit, I
Speaker 3: love that shit.
Speaker 2: I love that shit.
Speaker 1: I've been spending for years. Man, it's just so expensive now.
Speaker 1: Like I started spinning when I live in Saint Louis,
Speaker 1: and that shit was with my gym membership, Like I
Speaker 1: paid twenty dollars a month, good ass spin classes, and
Speaker 1: then when I moved back South, I got my certification.
Speaker 1: But I just I don't know. People don't even do
Speaker 1: the spin like that, not at the gyms. But then
Speaker 1: you gotta pay for these old side spots. How much
Speaker 1: you paid for spin.
Speaker 2: It was like for Unlimited it was almost two hundred
Speaker 2: a month.
Speaker 1: That is fucking stupid. Bitch. You need to open a
Speaker 1: spin studio, fat girl spin, fat.
Speaker 2: Girl spind sc L. I don't that sound like, and
Speaker 2: then serve pizza at the class.
Speaker 1: No bitch is gonna be coming to class just for
Speaker 1: the free pizza afterwards. That is an incentive.
Speaker 2: Shit, what's good in the sense a first sin of
Speaker 2: the week.
Speaker 1: This is just this is just a little fyi for
Speaker 1: anybody who'll be around here, snooping, snooping in your significant
Speaker 1: significant other cell phone, waiting until your man go to sleep,
Speaker 1: going to shower, handing a cell phone. It's against the law. Okay,
Speaker 1: you might can look in there, but don't tell. I
Speaker 1: done looked at nigga cell phones and they'll never know
Speaker 1: because I'm not going to bring up anything. I've seen it.
Speaker 1: I am able to see things and then just put
Speaker 1: a sticky note on it.
Speaker 3: I only went through a niggaphone one time in my life,
Speaker 3: one time, and it just wasn't good. Like, I'll never
Speaker 3: do that again. It wasn't good for my mental health,
Speaker 3: it wasn't good for our relationship.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it just was bad. So I'll never do that again.
Speaker 1: If you want to lose fifteen pounds real quick, then
Speaker 1: going a niggaphone, That's not.
Speaker 2: How it worked for me.
Speaker 3: If you want to gain fifteen pounds real quick, go
Speaker 3: through that nigga.
Speaker 2: I eat my feelings.
Speaker 1: I don't get the pressed real quick. No, I definitely
Speaker 1: be eating for real anyway. Yeah, for some people, you know,
Speaker 1: all diets don't work for anybody, everybody. But if you,
Speaker 1: if you are somebody who like you know, start like
Speaker 1: starving yourself when you get depressed, going that niggaphone. So
Speaker 1: the Federal Wiretap Act, also known as the Electric Communications
Speaker 1: Privacy Act ECPA, or Title one of the EPCA, is
Speaker 1: a law that prohibits the UNECPA. What did I say?
Speaker 2: EPCA?
Speaker 1: ECPA, y'all check that, okay, because she'd be saying I
Speaker 1: say something, and then when we hit the recordings, people
Speaker 1: be messaging me back like you did say such and such. Anyway,
Speaker 1: maybe most me like you was right, lies go listen.
Speaker 1: It's a law that prohibits the unauthorized in certain, interception, use,
Speaker 1: or disclosure of wire, oral or electric communications and you
Speaker 1: know cell phone, email, text messages, like it's none of
Speaker 1: your business if it's in if it's in someone else's device.
Speaker 3: Let me tell you what my sister did yesterday. So
Speaker 3: she accidentally sent twenty dollars to me that she was
Speaker 3: supposed to send to my mama. And she came and
Speaker 3: she was like, oh, I sent you twenty dollars on
Speaker 3: cash up. I meant to send that to mama. I
Speaker 3: was like, that's not like a personal problem.
Speaker 1: I don't know what.
Speaker 2: So later that day I asked her.
Speaker 3: I passed her I can't walk, so I passed her
Speaker 3: my phone so she could plug it. I was like,
Speaker 3: can you plug my phone up? And when she plugged
Speaker 3: my phone up, she went in my phone and sent
Speaker 3: the twenty dollars back to herself.
Speaker 2: I was like, that's illegal. You just there is a
Speaker 2: new law and that is illegal. You just committed a
Speaker 2: federal crime. Now, don't go on my phone.
Speaker 3: She's like, all I did was send my twenty dollars back. No,
Speaker 3: that was not your twenty dollars, no more, that was
Speaker 3: my money.
Speaker 1: Hold on. Okay, So what time did she accidentally send
Speaker 1: you the twenty dollars.
Speaker 2: She sent it to me the day before, the night before.
Speaker 1: Okay, So the next day she had to steal her money.
Speaker 1: Why did you not transfer that money back to your sister?
Speaker 2: The money AJ ain't no money, bitch.
Speaker 1: That's not your money. So your sister had to steal
Speaker 1: her cash app back from you.
Speaker 2: She can't steal nothing back from me. That's mine.
Speaker 3: Once listen, cash app. Let you know that once you
Speaker 3: transfer money, where you send it, because once you transfer
Speaker 3: that money is no longer yours, baby girl.
Speaker 1: Bitch, You a Colombian scammer. You a Colombian scammer? Like,
Speaker 1: how you scamming your sister? You know it's an accident.
Speaker 1: How did I scam her? She say you were adamant
Speaker 1: about not sending it back and she had to steal it.
Speaker 2: No, I just forgot, honestly. But those still shit for me.
Speaker 1: That's a legal system. Your sister's right, it is illegal.
Speaker 1: So this type of shit is not admissible in court. Okay.
Speaker 1: So you go in somebody's soul phone, you think you
Speaker 1: got all the evidence against your ex husband, child or whoever,
Speaker 1: and you don't. You can't use that shit if you
Speaker 1: obtained it in an illegal way, like snooping into somebody's
Speaker 1: cell phone. So be careful, ladies. If that's the type
Speaker 1: of shit you be on ammin. Because every nigga that
Speaker 1: I've been with been in my damn cell phone, and
Speaker 1: even the ones that lions sit ain't never been in there.
Speaker 1: Why the fuck my settings off? Like you've been in
Speaker 1: my cell phone doing stuff? I could tell, but they'll
Speaker 1: lie insity ain't been in a cell phone.
Speaker 2: I don't go on to a niggaphone, don't go in mind.
Speaker 2: I'm not going to yours.
Speaker 1: I have in the past once And if you want
Speaker 1: to hurt your own feelings going a cell.
Speaker 2: Phone, exactly, that's what I'm because you're.
Speaker 1: Gonna find what you're looking for every fucking time.
Speaker 2: Why am I ruining my own day? That's how I feel.
Speaker 1: About it, exactly. Yeah, I'm not. I'm not doing that,
Speaker 1: you know, anyway things come to me. I don't ever
Speaker 1: have to do that type of shit because if I
Speaker 1: need to know something, it's literally gonna knock at the door.
Speaker 2: Right, It's gonna come find you.
Speaker 1: It's going to keep a nigga car, It's gonna pop
Speaker 1: up somewhere we at every fucking time.
Speaker 3: So if y'all didn't see this over the weekend, people
Speaker 3: are mad at Trina she for not signing a prenup.
Speaker 3: Apparently she did it. Had a conversation and she goes
Speaker 3: on to talk about how she's married to Benjamin Leon
Speaker 3: Kirsch Junior. She got married in me or Mar, Florida
Speaker 3: and May of this year, and she said her husband
Speaker 3: cannot spend money without her knowledge or can sit uh.
Speaker 3: Says she didn't want to make her husband sign a
Speaker 3: prenup agreement and that he willingly gives her all his
Speaker 3: money and he she oversees the couple's finances, and I quote,
Speaker 3: my husband brings all his money to me, so I'm
Speaker 3: in charge. He can't spend it down without my consent.
Speaker 3: He can't spend it down for nothing unless it goes
Speaker 3: through me, she said, resolutely and authoritatively.
Speaker 1: Okay, I gotta okay, So the people need to mind
Speaker 1: their business right about. I mean, she's putting it on
Speaker 1: a public platform. She was on Kishi Kior's podcast, So
Speaker 1: she's put it on a public platform, her relationship stuff
Speaker 1: and not having a prenup. My problem is you don't
Speaker 1: think you're embarrassing a man a little bit, Like it's
Speaker 1: kind of em masculating that little conversation.
Speaker 2: Yeah, the way she said it was masculating.
Speaker 3: Yes, like it's nothing wrong because I mean, it don't
Speaker 3: happen as much now, but Granddaddy used to bring Big
Speaker 3: Mama his hit, you know, always, Yeah, so it's not
Speaker 3: that wasn't an uncommon thing. But the way you said
Speaker 3: is like, my nigga can't spend a dim I've slapped
Speaker 3: the shit out.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she sounds strict as fucked. Okay, that nigga can't breathe.
Speaker 1: So we don't know what Trina Park is looking like.
Speaker 1: We don't know where her man pocket pocket is looking like.
Speaker 1: It might be beneficial for her to not have signed
Speaker 1: a prenup. We just don't know that, right, Yeah, And
Speaker 1: you just got to know your personal because if it
Speaker 1: could be if it's a situation where your man is
Speaker 1: better with money, maybe you would be more inclined to
Speaker 1: have him in charge of the finances. You know, women
Speaker 1: are bad with money. There are some women that are
Speaker 1: bad with money, and then there are some men who
Speaker 1: are very frugrow and they know how to make money grow.
Speaker 1: So it just depends know your personality child, right.
Speaker 3: And that's that's between them. I don't see why people
Speaker 3: were upset about that.
Speaker 1: I'm just upset about how she said it. If I
Speaker 1: was her man like, I almost.
Speaker 2: Feel like, like, man, why you have to say it
Speaker 2: like that?
Speaker 1: If I was to stop, be like, girl, who the
Speaker 1: fuck it's bitch talking to my son over there? I
Speaker 1: mean my son, my brother over there getting handled by Trina, Like, girl,
Speaker 1: what you acting bad? You finally got a nigga to
Speaker 1: marry you? Anyway, I don't do that, girl, were all
Speaker 1: on the same boat side talking talking too much ship
Speaker 1: for me. I love Trino, okay, but you can't tell
Speaker 1: me I wasn't the baddest bitch in high school. Let's
Speaker 1: be very clear.
Speaker 2: Shout up next year. Claim it, claim it.
Speaker 1: Claim it, claim it. I already missed my window for
Speaker 1: a Gemini. Sou'm shining for a Virgo in December and
Speaker 1: a Libra in the December, Okay, I mean November and December.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna try.
Speaker 2: Don't worry about the baby.
Speaker 1: I can't just be having a sperm in my pussy
Speaker 1: for no reason. I don't like it. I don't like it,
Speaker 1: and it got it be for a reason.
Speaker 3: I mean when you're ovulating. Yeah, but don't be worried
Speaker 3: about the astrological sign.
Speaker 1: That stuff matters, it really does. I don't want no
Speaker 1: demon seed.
Speaker 2: It ain't gonna be a demon astrological sign.
Speaker 1: Like I can't be the most loving others yet, y'all
Speaker 1: be finessing. Okay, let's be very clear and love it.
Speaker 1: Were one person all we are. We're one person as well.
Speaker 1: It's duality, you know, we not we just one person.
Speaker 1: And the thing is is that multiple people might get
Speaker 1: multiple personalities from us.
Speaker 3: You see how she has negative negativity to say about
Speaker 3: the cancer. I don't bring that energy. Jo Gemini, be
Speaker 3: yourself whatever you are. You see who's the good Zodia
Speaker 3: girl bye?
Speaker 1: The thing is Gemini? Be seeing through the bullshit? Why
Speaker 1: I can say these things?
Speaker 2: Okay? Okay, are creating?
Speaker 1: We creating, We're seeing through the bullshit. Okay, we see
Speaker 1: things other people don't see.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 3: Eli must Avail unveiled Tesla's new line of robot and
Speaker 3: self driving vehicles, including the Tesla Bot. Name optimists during
Speaker 3: an event on October tenth. Would you get you an optimist?
Speaker 1: You get what I might I might want on that thing.
Speaker 2: I didn't see no dick on, bitch, I forget my modified.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be in a little order for and asks
Speaker 1: for little auditions like you're ordering a car. I'm an
Speaker 1: ad dick because big black dick soft one though, like
Speaker 1: I don't want to like a sheer you. I mean
Speaker 1: if we could turn to pop up the volume like
Speaker 1: a bullet vibrator, I mean.
Speaker 2: What is it malfunction? You be in the hospital because
Speaker 2: you got a safe word with the.
Speaker 1: Girl. Would never have no ship like that in my house.
Speaker 1: That thing might mess run to get real. Cons ain't
Speaker 1: gonna fuck you up. That's the weird part about it.
Speaker 1: Y'all go on twiktok, twiktok. What the fuck? Go on
Speaker 1: TikTok and look at these videos people talk about what
Speaker 1: they're gonna do today. Optimists like why y'all want to
Speaker 1: be mean and something so bad?
Speaker 2: Right? They gonna like telling you where to go to bed. Maken,
Speaker 2: you go to bed, actually and maybe go to bed.
Speaker 2: He won't.
Speaker 1: I was engaged to an optimist once they try to
Speaker 1: fucking Kurfew's be whispering on the phone and tell me.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, why are you whistling? It's lockdown, it's lockdown?
Speaker 2: Why you gotta go to bed?
Speaker 1: Nigga used to be sighing and sucking his teeth with
Speaker 1: his back to me. But could you imagine a big
Speaker 1: six foot machine walking around in your house? That is
Speaker 1: wild to me? Isn't just where we're headed?
Speaker 3: Jetson's don't tell you when to go, Ashley, it is
Speaker 3: your bedtime, bitch, don't come back out that bed rope.
Speaker 2: I'll fuck you up.
Speaker 1: And it's like that, right, because it might start off
Speaker 1: where we give it some power right, like, because now
Speaker 1: we're trying to get our lives in order, so you
Speaker 1: might tell it, hey, make sure I'm in bed by
Speaker 1: such and such, not all of a sudden. It's like
Speaker 1: forcing you to sleep and locking the door behind itself.
Speaker 2: Right, shit like that for your own best interest.
Speaker 1: I'm cool on the optimus. I don't want that shit
Speaker 1: in my house. It's just weird. And I guess that's
Speaker 1: what AI is headed. At AI is supposed to make
Speaker 1: everybody's life easy, right to do the things that humans
Speaker 1: do every day, and just relieve us of some of
Speaker 1: the jobs and things. But it's gonna take over because
Speaker 1: they're not putting things in place for humans to do
Speaker 1: in place of the normal job. Like how if you
Speaker 1: still got to pay bills? And shit, how are you
Speaker 1: going to pay bills if you don't have a job, right, So,
Speaker 1: what's the new job's gonna be? I guess social media,
Speaker 1: like you get everybody's a content creator. Is that where
Speaker 1: the world is headed.
Speaker 2: That's where it looks like. Besides, I like my robot
Speaker 2: dick without a body.
Speaker 1: Only the men want that shit. It's only the men
Speaker 1: who want of those bluff dolls and machine pussy because
Speaker 1: they think that's all women are good for.
Speaker 2: Once the body get on there, it get creepy. Girl.
Speaker 1: Imagine that shit coming to the house with the big
Speaker 1: dick on it. That'd be weird.
Speaker 3: But imagine somebody who don't have like I can see
Speaker 3: where a person who doesn't have any romance in their
Speaker 3: life and nobody wants to have sex with them and
Speaker 3: nobody choose them nice where they would fall in love
Speaker 3: with their.
Speaker 1: Robot people already fall in love with AI characters online.
Speaker 3: That's weird, yeah, but I can see how it can
Speaker 3: happen if you don't have any like real human in
Speaker 3: that interaction.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm, y'all watch that Watch that movie. Sarah's it's
Speaker 1: not really about robots because this that's some total recall shit.
Speaker 1: But Sarahgates is like, this is where people are, like
Speaker 1: they don't want to be themselves. They don't want to
Speaker 1: live in the reality anymore. Like they can't wait to
Speaker 1: literally put their consciousness online right and not have to
Speaker 1: exist in the reality any.
Speaker 2: In the human form. Oh, mer jesus, well, what are
Speaker 2: we talking about this week?
Speaker 1: I don't know what you want to talk about.
Speaker 3: I want to talk about our intrusive thoughts dun't dunt
Speaker 3: dumb like sending.
Speaker 1: I'm like, why, I keep want to call it oculus,
Speaker 1: but optimists send an optimist to somebody house to do something.
Speaker 2: To them like that, that's one of your thoughts.
Speaker 1: I just thought about it.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, something like that.
Speaker 3: Have you ever just been like I should push this
Speaker 3: person out into the street or some like this, some
Speaker 3: wild ass ship that pops in your head and you're like,
Speaker 3: why am I thinking that? And you even started by
Speaker 3: your own thoughts. I have thought, like, y'all, don't judge
Speaker 3: me because I would never do this. This was one
Speaker 3: of my intrusive thought. Well, you know what, we're gonna
Speaker 3: talk about it when we come back from this commercial.
Speaker 2: Y'all listen to this ship. I'll be right back. Okay, y'all.
Speaker 2: I'm sharing with y'all because we're family here, and I
Speaker 2: know that y'all not judging me, right.
Speaker 1: Right, bitch, Come on, cancer, I'm talking to you. This
Speaker 1: is a judge free zone, like in your face.
Speaker 2: One time I had my friend brought her baby over
Speaker 2: and I thought, what if I threw this baby over
Speaker 2: the back of be right?
Speaker 1: But I would never do that.
Speaker 2: I don't know why that came into my hand, and
Speaker 2: I was just so uphill with myself for even having
Speaker 2: their thought, and it was just like, what is that?
Speaker 1: You know? But why the fuck intrusive thoughts when you
Speaker 1: say them out loud? Why they't funny like that? Though?
Speaker 1: I don't know, that's dangerous as fuck, Like why is
Speaker 1: it that funny? Let me think of Oh, I had
Speaker 1: one just this past weekend. So we rode bike Sunday
Speaker 1: and then we walked this. It's a new park over here.
Speaker 1: It's only been there for like a year, but it
Speaker 1: has it's like this long ass like walkway out over
Speaker 1: like Marshland, and we walked across it. As we're coming back,
Speaker 1: I'm actually talking to my homegirl about some shit, and
Speaker 1: then I'm all, because you know, just thinking about like
Speaker 1: what we're going to talk about this week and things
Speaker 1: like that, I'm like, maybe I should, Maybe I should.
Speaker 1: This is what I'm thinking, I should push this lady.
Speaker 1: It was a chunky white lady like walking towards us
Speaker 1: that she had on an orange shirt that said boom,
Speaker 1: like a Halloween shirt, and in my mind I had
Speaker 1: already seen her falling over the fucking walkway.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: I already saw her doing it. So now my thought was,
Speaker 1: is it really intrusive if you can say it out loud?
Speaker 2: If yeah, are you doing this speaking your intrusive thought?
Speaker 1: But I don't think that intrusive thoughts are like okay,
Speaker 1: so I know there are usually negative thoughts, but is
Speaker 1: it actually negative to have an intrusive thought?
Speaker 2: Yes? Why?
Speaker 1: Why? Though? Because I think it's just it's just regularly
Speaker 1: you know. You remember a couple months ago, there was
Speaker 1: this whole write up about how some people don't have
Speaker 1: an inner dialogue, like they don't talk to themselves essentially,
Speaker 1: like they don't have like computing. That's what I That's
Speaker 1: what I felt it meant, right, That's how I like
Speaker 1: interpret the article. But yes, they don't really have conscious
Speaker 1: consciousness because that's what that inner thoughts are, like your
Speaker 1: subconscious mind, and this is what we work on daily
Speaker 1: to try to reprogram right so our subconscious thoughts, the
Speaker 1: positive ones, can manifest in the real world. So my
Speaker 1: question now is if you have an intrusive thought, No,
Speaker 1: do crimes start as intrusive thoughts and then once you
Speaker 1: perform it, it becomes the reality.
Speaker 2: Perhaps it's no longer intrusive thought if you act on it,
Speaker 2: I think.
Speaker 1: So is it that some of us like there's a
Speaker 1: filter in between the intrusive thought and reality, and that's
Speaker 1: called morals. So now, this is why I always say
Speaker 1: humans are just sophisticated animals, because if you take away
Speaker 1: laws and religion, people get to live out there intrusive
Speaker 1: thoughts because nothing's going to happen to them but good
Speaker 1: and evil. We should know, right, It should just be
Speaker 1: an innate thing to know what is good and what
Speaker 1: is bad. But some people don't have that filter.
Speaker 2: You should not, but what if.
Speaker 1: Okay, now, look, let me add an extra step to
Speaker 1: this shit woo Halloween. Like, I'm watching this series on
Speaker 1: Amazon called The Devil's Hour. This lady she's waking up
Speaker 1: every night at three three three. You know, thirty three
Speaker 1: is a very significant number. So she's waking up every
Speaker 1: night at three three three. But there's this guy who
Speaker 1: they perceive as being a serial killer in the show, right,
Speaker 1: but he's not. He's trying to catch people who are
Speaker 1: bad people, who are innately bad people, right, He's trying
Speaker 1: to kill them before they commit the car killing the
Speaker 1: good person, right, And she's she's having she's waking up
Speaker 1: because she's seeing premonitions of things, so she's kind of
Speaker 1: thinking she's going crazy a little bit. But they're kind
Speaker 1: of like intrusive thoughts because she doesn't she doesn't know
Speaker 1: the people right things are happening to or things she
Speaker 1: has to do to somebody, she doesn't know them. So
Speaker 1: in her to her she's going crazy because of these
Speaker 1: and she's happening these intrusive thoughts, but they're actually she's
Speaker 1: seeing the future, other people's future. M hm, So could
Speaker 1: that be what an intrusive thought is?
Speaker 2: I mean, if you're seeing people few, I don't like.
Speaker 1: Bad shit happening to somebody else.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but that baby never went over the balcony, so
Speaker 3: that's not you know, a permanent if it. If it
Speaker 3: goes on to happen, then that's just like some miscleos
Speaker 3: psychic shit. And the trusive thought is typically something that
Speaker 3: you are right, so listen, it says. Truscive thoughts are
Speaker 3: disturbing and involuntary thoughts that seem to appear out of
Speaker 3: nowhere and reoccur again and again. They're often violent, sexual,
Speaker 3: or sacrilegious in nature because they're in a sharp contrast
Speaker 3: with the person's values or beliefs that can produce feelings
Speaker 3: of guilt, embarrassment, fear, shame, and disgust. So it says,
Speaker 3: according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, approximately
Speaker 3: six million Americans.
Speaker 2: Have intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 3: Not everyone who has them suffers from a mental health condition,
Speaker 3: but the frequency and the intensity of intrusive thoughts can
Speaker 3: point to underlying mental health issues. Hmm, all right, So
Speaker 3: examples of intrusive thoughts slitting your own wrist or throat,
Speaker 3: leaping off a building, Clifford bridge, jumping in front of
Speaker 3: a car train, pushing a stranger in front of a
Speaker 3: car train.
Speaker 1: Why is that funny? Are we serial killers at heart?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: Listen?
Speaker 3: Stabbing a loved one, dropping a baby on the ground,
Speaker 3: exposing yourself in public, having sex in public, engaging in
Speaker 3: a pugnant sexual act, vandalizing a place of worship.
Speaker 2: I should tear this church up.
Speaker 1: Why did they make it a place of worship? Why
Speaker 1: the they't making it? Like? Then? Truse, So the intrusive
Speaker 1: thoughts do people kind of associated with like a like
Speaker 1: a spirit coming over you right quick? Because why would
Speaker 1: they say vandalizing a church? Yeah, that's what I'm saying
Speaker 1: like it's sacrilegious, because when I think about vandalizing some shit,
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about, like if I catch this nigga at
Speaker 1: a restaurant I introduced him to, I'm going to fucking
Speaker 1: clear this table with my forearm and flip it over, Like,
Speaker 1: is that an intrusive thought? Me seeing like me, me
Speaker 1: thinking about seeing this nigga I fuck with somewhere and
Speaker 1: doing that.
Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: That is, but I'd actually fucking with though, So there's
Speaker 1: that part.
Speaker 3: Well, then I don't know if that's an intrusive thought.
Speaker 3: Is typically things that goes against your moral compass, you know,
Speaker 3: things that you would never do, but your mind is
Speaker 3: saying do it.
Speaker 1: Shoplifting, So then it becomes I meditated, right now you
Speaker 1: should run out of here with this ship. Yeah, that line.
Speaker 1: Then it's a thin line between thinking about it and
Speaker 1: then then doing it. So thinking about it is just
Speaker 1: so continuously thinking about.
Speaker 2: I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just I gotta study this. I gotta know now.
Speaker 2: I'm like, I gotta.
Speaker 1: Study intrusive thoughts because I think the way we think
Speaker 1: about them is wrong. Innocence you mean, like the okay,
Speaker 1: what are you where are you reading that?
Speaker 2: From uh Newportinstitute dot com. I sent it to you.
Speaker 1: Okay, I just feel like I don't think intrusive thoughts
Speaker 1: are bad, and I think they're actually natural to have
Speaker 1: intrusive thoughts, and I don't And I think if they
Speaker 1: say sixty or six million or billion million people, I
Speaker 1: think it's way more than that. But some people are
Speaker 1: probably embarrassed to tell people about their intrusive thoughts, so
Speaker 1: they would never take a survey, you know. So are
Speaker 1: intrusive thoughts natural?
Speaker 2: Well, obviously it's natural of six million people in the
Speaker 2: right experience, and that's just the number that admit it
Speaker 2: or you know, or based on statistics.
Speaker 1: So that number.
Speaker 2: It's probably much greater.
Speaker 1: But okay, but that number sitting next to people who
Speaker 1: are actually serial killers and who actually do crimes, Like,
Speaker 1: is it really a problem?
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's a problem. Really is a problem because.
Speaker 1: It's not a problem you never do it though.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: Yeah, well, I mean as long as you don't act
Speaker 3: on an intrusive thought is not a problem. But I
Speaker 3: mean if you're like, all right, so I thought about
Speaker 3: throwing that baby over the balcony, right, but instantly I
Speaker 3: was like, no, get that out of your head right,
Speaker 3: and I never thought about it again. I didn't like
Speaker 3: every time I saw the baby, I was like, I
Speaker 3: want to throw that baby off.
Speaker 1: But that was the only baby you wanted to throw
Speaker 1: you never want.
Speaker 2: No, that was the only one time I ever thought
Speaker 2: that baby is something? Why did Yeah?
Speaker 1: What if you see that's the movie The Devil Hour,
Speaker 1: Like he realized, like this thing, I'm thinking this thing,
Speaker 1: but it has to happen to this person because this
Speaker 1: person is bad.
Speaker 2: So maybe you're saying that baby's gonna grow to serial killer.
Speaker 1: You're saving ten other lives. No, for real, you see,
Speaker 1: you see, you see where I'm going at with this.
Speaker 2: Let's see where you're trying to go. But I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't think that baby. That baby is a sweet baby.
Speaker 1: So I don't know. I don't know why I thought.
Speaker 2: That about that baby. I felt instantly bad.
Speaker 3: It's it, And that's what in truest of thoughts typically
Speaker 3: will give you immediate guilt, you know, or just you know,
Speaker 3: negative feelings to me.
Speaker 1: Because it's only the moral, the laws, and religion that
Speaker 1: kick in. But if those things didn't exist, imagine how
Speaker 1: many people would actually act out on the intrusive thought.
Speaker 3: Right, but it's a good thing that they do exist.
Speaker 3: You know, morals almost aligned with good and evil.
Speaker 1: Like I think without those mechanisms, right, I'd still be
Speaker 1: at heart a good person. I still wouldn't act out
Speaker 1: on these things because I don't really want to bring
Speaker 1: harm to anybody else, no matter what the law says
Speaker 1: I can do.
Speaker 2: Right, That's what I'm saying. Having morality isn't necessarily.
Speaker 1: They doesn't have anything to do with legality, right, right.
Speaker 3: It doesn't have to do with the law. Like even
Speaker 3: though if you know there's a law, he's thrown babies
Speaker 3: over the bathman. Honestly, you can't do that, but you're
Speaker 3: innate desire to, you know, love key is and care
Speaker 3: for children and nurture children would make you not want to.
Speaker 3: But then think about this, in nature, some animals kill
Speaker 3: their kids.
Speaker 1: Yes, that's what I'm saying, So we say that now.
Speaker 1: I used to be obsessed with looking at people in
Speaker 1: prison because I'd be trying to understand, like why people
Speaker 1: go to jail, why did they do what they did?
Speaker 1: And you've seen these cases where a mom said, well
Speaker 1: this my child was possessed and I had to kill her.
Speaker 1: That type of stuff, right, and if majority of the
Speaker 1: people in America are Christians. Right, So we believe in
Speaker 1: the Holy goals, we believe in all these different things.
Speaker 1: But you don't believe that somebody could actually be possessed
Speaker 1: and God told this person to do that? Why cannot
Speaker 1: why can't that not be true?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: You know this person was actually evil, damn.
Speaker 2: But but this is high though, you know, how do
Speaker 2: you do how you who gets to decide that God
Speaker 2: told you to do this? You know?
Speaker 4: Well?
Speaker 1: See this is why I always say God is within you. This.
Speaker 1: I don't want to get religious really, like make this
Speaker 1: a religious conversation. But when you know God is in you,
Speaker 1: you do shit a little bit better. You do shit differently.
Speaker 1: You don't violate people. I feel like in America in particular,
Speaker 1: the judicial system is literally the Bible. Like these people
Speaker 1: have the right to give and take life. Like right now,
Speaker 1: you got a couple other people out for execution in
Speaker 1: South Carolina, Like, why is it that they get to
Speaker 1: decide who dies? Like even if that person did kill
Speaker 1: somebody else, why do y'all collectively get to sit in
Speaker 1: a room and decide to kill that person and it
Speaker 1: be legal?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: Like, imagine if those people like judges and stuff. Maybe
Speaker 1: they're actually serial killers and they get to legally kill people.
Speaker 1: It might give them joy to do it, right. That
Speaker 1: is fucking scary, and I do feel like like the
Speaker 1: system is being ran by a bunch of sadists as
Speaker 1: far as I'm concerned. Halloween, Any other intrusive thoughts you
Speaker 1: ever have, Like I I'm trying to think of something
Speaker 1: real nuts that's as crazy as it gets for me,
Speaker 1: Like hitting somebody. I always think about hitting somebody real hard.
Speaker 1: But again, I might do it, but a random ass
Speaker 1: person like, why am I having that thought? And if
Speaker 1: my head out loud and laugh, is it really intrusive?
Speaker 2: Okay, this is another one that I can't believe I'm
Speaker 2: sharing with y'all, But I love y'all so much. I
Speaker 2: just tell the truth.
Speaker 3: I have had intrusive thoughts about like Donkey konging the
Speaker 3: bitch on the top of her head while I was
Speaker 3: doing her hair, like taking my place right on top
Speaker 3: of her head. You didn't do nothing to me, but
Speaker 3: I was like, what if I just this bitch right
Speaker 3: at the top of her hair right now?
Speaker 1: What happens?
Speaker 2: Yo?
Speaker 1: Your client's go ahead this episode to be like you
Speaker 1: know what, let me find me a new was it me?
Speaker 1: But what did they do? Like maybe that person needed
Speaker 1: to get thump in the head? Maybe that person nothing.
Speaker 1: You don't know that though they may not have done
Speaker 1: anything to you. You see, I just feel like.
Speaker 2: Advocating for like following up your dupe of thoughts.
Speaker 1: I just feel like we don't know though. It's so
Speaker 1: many things that we don't know, and the more you learn,
Speaker 1: you realize you don't know shit. So who was to
Speaker 1: say that intrusive thoughts are a bad thing?
Speaker 2: Some of them can be really bad though, splitting your
Speaker 2: own wrists?
Speaker 1: No, that's bad? Yeah, well, okay, Well I won't talk
Speaker 1: about that on the show because I think differently, even
Speaker 1: about suicide.
Speaker 2: What do you think about suicide?
Speaker 1: I think that this is our like we we should
Speaker 1: have the right to choose whether we if we want
Speaker 1: to live or not. Like it shouldn't be against alaw
Speaker 1: to kill yourself, Like you try to commit suicide and
Speaker 1: then you aren't successful and they get to lock you up,
Speaker 1: Like that's some bullshit. Some people literally feel like they
Speaker 1: don't belong here, you know what I'm saying, and they
Speaker 1: want to get the fuck up out of here, and
Speaker 1: I think that when people get to the point of
Speaker 1: actually because it's hard to kill yourself. It's not easy,
Speaker 1: it's not easy to follow through. That's probably one of
Speaker 1: the hardest things somebody could actually execute. Right, So imagine
Speaker 1: if you are in that state of mind to where
Speaker 1: you're comfortable leaving this plane, maybe in that moment, the
Speaker 1: person knows something the rest of us don't about the
Speaker 1: other side. That's how I see it.
Speaker 3: I mean, I get that understanding, but my only thing
Speaker 3: about it is if you do that and you're not successful,
Speaker 3: now somebody got to take care of your ass. And
Speaker 3: you can't take care of yourself no more because you
Speaker 3: wouldn't good at it.
Speaker 2: No, don't do that.
Speaker 1: That's fucked up, like you know, trying to shoot yourself
Speaker 1: and then it doesn't work right, and now you just
Speaker 1: mangled face.
Speaker 2: And it's hurtful to me.
Speaker 1: I was just doing it again.
Speaker 2: I was sorry. Everybody that loves you is hurtful to them,
Speaker 2: you know, Like suicide is just a hard thing.
Speaker 1: People see it as selfish. People see it as selfish,
Speaker 1: but everybody had like I. However, people choose to live
Speaker 1: their lives like I'm coming to a place where I'm okay, right,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about what people I love, however they choose
Speaker 1: to live their lives. Like if you have somebody who
Speaker 1: abuses drugs in your family something like that, you have
Speaker 1: to be okay with that because they are so who
Speaker 1: are you to tell them how they you know, if
Speaker 1: they enjoy doing what they do, who are you to
Speaker 1: tell them not to do it? Right? So you just
Speaker 1: have to support people and whatever it is that they
Speaker 1: choose to do for their lives, because you're gonna rec
Speaker 1: your brain otherwise. All right, let's go over some ways
Speaker 1: to deal with no hold on pull on before we go, though,
Speaker 1: because this is the one thing I meant to already say.
Speaker 1: You know how i'd be saying niggas be gay in
Speaker 1: the mind. That's an intrusive thought type shit.
Speaker 2: I think, Yeah, that's an intrusive thoughts. Sexual acts can
Speaker 2: be intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 3: I think if a man a man thinking about sucking
Speaker 3: some dick, but he's not gay, that's an intrusive thought.
Speaker 1: Yes, I think there are a lot. I think most
Speaker 1: men are gay in mind. They have intrusive thoughts about
Speaker 1: being gay, but they men never may never act on it,
Speaker 1: which is why they act on stuff like the aggression
Speaker 1: towards women. It might be because they have gay intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 3: But they can have intrusive gay thoughts that are intrusive.
Speaker 3: But that doesn't mean they're gay or they want.
Speaker 1: To be gay, does it.
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: I don't want to throw no baby off on a balcony.
Speaker 3: That shit just popped in my head. Like so he
Speaker 3: could think about sucking some dick that in his head.
Speaker 2: They don't make him gay. He could be like, oh,
Speaker 2: what the fuck is that? Get out my head? You
Speaker 2: know what I'm saying, Like, it doesn't It doesn't make
Speaker 2: him gay. I don't think so you do. I haven't
Speaker 2: an intrusive thought, and a sexual fantasy is different.
Speaker 1: It's like it's like borderline gay.
Speaker 3: And that's when I say, I don't mean guys that
Speaker 3: gay is bad, because I know y'all gonna be in
Speaker 3: my dms like why'd you say no? But I'm just
Speaker 3: saying someone who isn't gay might have an ick for that,
Speaker 3: you know, popping in their heads.
Speaker 1: Right, So I think that's something to talk about. I
Speaker 1: wish we'd had had a guy who could be honest
Speaker 1: with what is intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 3: That's a heterosexual. Yeah, it's not happening. No straight guy
Speaker 3: is going to come on the show and admit that
Speaker 3: they've had gay intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 1: Why though, it's just intrusive. You've never done it, You
Speaker 1: don't do it right.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but it's just you know, the people starting to
Speaker 2: question their sexuality a j So what you just did it?
Speaker 1: You just like, I don't know, it's like gay, it's
Speaker 1: like this just mentally gay.
Speaker 2: Mentally gay is crazy. Okay.
Speaker 3: Everything starts in the mind, everything, all right, So how
Speaker 3: to deal with your intrusive thoughts?
Speaker 2: All right?
Speaker 3: By themselves? Anxious thoughts, even violent thoughts, are not harmful.
Speaker 3: Simply put, they're neutral in nature, byproducts of a wandering mind.
Speaker 3: It's only when people react negatively to intrusive thoughts in
Speaker 3: or feel the need to act on them, that they
Speaker 3: become problematic. Various evidence based techniques can help adults cope
Speaker 3: with or eliminate unwanted negative thoughts, including the following strategies
Speaker 3: and approaches. Okay, here's one mindfulness. Rather than push intrusive
Speaker 3: thoughts away, try to notice these thoughts and label them
Speaker 3: as intrusive. One way to do that is to practice
Speaker 3: mindfulness meditation. This type of meditations helped you observe your
Speaker 3: thoughts from a detached place without becoming emotional about them
Speaker 3: or judging them. So you can sit comfortably in a
Speaker 3: quiet place, bree deeply, and imagine you're looking out the
Speaker 3: window of a moving train as the scenery passes by,
Speaker 3: notice it without judgment. Then do the same with your thoughts.
Speaker 3: Notice them in the present moment, but don't attach yourself
Speaker 3: to them.
Speaker 1: So then next thing you know, you pushing somebody out
Speaker 1: the train and the thought.
Speaker 3: But you gotta separate, Yeah, because I mean separate your
Speaker 3: thought from you. That's just a thought.
Speaker 2: It's not me.
Speaker 3: It's not a part of me, No more different than
Speaker 3: this tree moving past in my mind. So that's one
Speaker 3: way to separate yourself from that thought. Another way writing.
Speaker 3: Another way to gain, however, your obsessive and trustive thoughts
Speaker 3: is to write them down. By typing your thoughts out
Speaker 3: or writing them down on paper, you become aware of
Speaker 3: disturbing thought patterns. Often after you've written your thoughts down,
Speaker 3: reflect on how what no, reflect on what you think
Speaker 3: trigger them, write down the triggers too.
Speaker 1: So I mean I'm having a good day, I rode
Speaker 1: my bike. I burned some calories a day, Like why
Speaker 1: am I thinking about pushing this random lady who I
Speaker 1: don't know?
Speaker 2: I don't know, I can't They're not answering why it happening.
Speaker 2: I mean, the worst she probably does is eat boogers,
Speaker 2: Like why do.
Speaker 1: I want to push her?
Speaker 4: That?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: They say pet therapy is an excellent way to dissipate
Speaker 3: anxious thoughts is to spend time with animals. Because they
Speaker 3: live in the present moment and have no understanding of
Speaker 3: troubling thoughts. Animals help humans reduce stress. In fact, at
Speaker 3: twenty nineteen, studies showed that the undergraduate students who participated in.
Speaker 5: Participating dissipated why should participated in ten minutes of hands
Speaker 5: on interaction with cats and dogs from a local shelter
Speaker 5: has significantly lower levels of cortisol, the stress homeone in
Speaker 5: their salava compared to those who don't.
Speaker 1: How they have like the cats and cats in the prison.
Speaker 1: But the only thing is like, why y'all got them
Speaker 1: cats in jail? Why y'all y'all literally locking cats up too?
Speaker 1: But I can see how it's very It's very animals
Speaker 1: can be very therapeutic, you know, God dog is God
Speaker 1: spelled backwards like. They just make you feel good. And
Speaker 1: I believe cats can see into the future. Bitch, there's
Speaker 1: something majestic about cats.
Speaker 3: The next one is time and nature. There's nothing like
Speaker 3: nature to boost move and reduce stress. The sight of
Speaker 3: an a sunset that sounds of bird trapping in the trees,
Speaker 3: the feel of wind against your skin, the smell of
Speaker 3: the ocean, even the taste of rain drops on your
Speaker 3: tongue can ground you in the present moment. When you're
Speaker 3: focusing on the five senses, you're not focusing on distressing thoughts.
Speaker 3: Another one exercise. Exercise is an excellent way to just
Speaker 3: help everything because it gives you endorphins, and endorphins make
Speaker 3: you happy, yes about killing people, Doubamine and serotonin the
Speaker 3: same thing you get from scrolling. Get it from exercises
Speaker 3: in a much groller level.
Speaker 1: You think that people who watch like because I talk
Speaker 1: about the genre of like true crime and how it's
Speaker 1: so entertaining, especially for women, y'all love watching all of
Speaker 1: those true crime murder type shows, and shit.
Speaker 2: I sister, love that shit. I don't be liking that shit.
Speaker 1: That shit weirdess hells to me, how can you go to.
Speaker 3: Sleep for somebody like literally screaming in agony from losing
Speaker 3: a loved one, And all of.
Speaker 1: That is in your subconscious mind while you're sleeping too,
Speaker 1: So that might be embedding in truth of thoughts in
Speaker 1: your mind subconsciously. Like I listen to meditation stuff or
Speaker 1: I listen to like books in my sleep, you know
Speaker 1: what saying program in there. But I cannot listen to kill, kill, murder,
Speaker 1: murder shit like while I'm sleeping. That is wild to me.
Speaker 1: So I think it's feeding something though that that person
Speaker 1: needs that. I feel like that's something they need to
Speaker 1: talk about in their.
Speaker 3: Yeah, absolutely, why do you like that? So that's the
Speaker 3: thing when to seek treatment for your intrusive thoughts. So,
Speaker 3: if your intrusive thoughts are unrelenting, cause pronounced distress, or
Speaker 3: interfere with your daily life, seek professional care. Unproductive obsessive
Speaker 3: thinking can be a symptom of an issue that requires treatment.
Speaker 3: So mental health professionals are skilled at working with intrusive
Speaker 3: thoughts that stem from anxiety disorders, history of trauma OCD,
Speaker 3: and attention deficit disorder, and mood disorders like depression and
Speaker 3: bipolar disorder. So if you you know, if your interests
Speaker 3: of thoughts are like to the point where you can't
Speaker 3: stop thinking about throwing that baby over that balcony.
Speaker 1: You can, I think you try to talk yourself out
Speaker 1: of it.
Speaker 3: No, I only thought about that one time. But that's
Speaker 3: just one that really like shocked me. You know, it
Speaker 3: shook me to my core, that popped into my head,
Speaker 3: you know. So I just use that as an example.
Speaker 3: You know, everybody has their own thing, but that was
Speaker 3: the one for me that really like made me feel like,
Speaker 3: am I sick?
Speaker 2: You know?
Speaker 1: Like I think filling your brain with positive things, not
Speaker 1: just I mean they're gonna help. So filling your brain
Speaker 1: with positive things, not watching and taking in negative stuff
Speaker 1: all day long, because social media does it right. So
Speaker 1: one minute you see a cute baby, then you see
Speaker 1: a cute dog. Then the next thing you see some
Speaker 1: little boy that got murdered, you know. Then the next
Speaker 1: thing is a happy thing, the next thing is a
Speaker 1: sad thing, the next thing is a neutral things. So
Speaker 1: like your emotions is going up and down, up and down,
Speaker 1: up and down, up and down. Like I do feel
Speaker 1: like some of the things that we we taken, whether
Speaker 1: it's you know, consciously or subliminally, it's programming these intrusive thoughts.
Speaker 1: But these are not our own thoughts, and I think
Speaker 1: that is the most important part about the whole conversation. Right,
Speaker 1: they're not your thoughts. These are somebody else's thoughts. They
Speaker 1: don't belong to you. Yeah, so let's remove the my
Speaker 1: because they're not my intrusive thoughts. They're just intrusive thoughts. Yeah,
Speaker 1: the intrusive thoughts. They don't belong to me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that part.
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just too much. It's too much shit on TV.
Speaker 1: That's why I watched TV that much. When I watched something,
Speaker 1: I'm learning something from it.
Speaker 2: Yeah. I was just watching.
Speaker 3: Bad Boys, the uh, the one that just came out
Speaker 3: because I wanted to see the fine Mexican son o.
Speaker 3: He is nice looking, right, Oh, he fine? But his
Speaker 3: mom was Hispanic, I believe, Yeah, I don't know if
Speaker 3: it was.
Speaker 1: I think it was just say Hispanic. Don't ever call
Speaker 1: anybody Mexican because you don't know if they're from Mexico
Speaker 1: or not.
Speaker 2: But wasn't that where he went. Didn't they go to Mexico?
Speaker 1: Well that's well, I think he might have. He might
Speaker 1: have been working for the Mexican cartel.
Speaker 2: Okay, well anyway, I said that just because of the story.
Speaker 2: But I just like, look, he's handsome.
Speaker 3: So but I just looked at all the killing in
Speaker 3: the movie and how all the people were just it
Speaker 3: didn't matter, Like people were just getting shot and stabbed
Speaker 3: and killed and just then we move on to the
Speaker 3: next thing, and I was like, damn, like they make
Speaker 3: death so gradual.
Speaker 1: Yes, it's glorified now it's it's so casual. So we are.
Speaker 3: Desensitized, yeah, very desensitized to it because like people were
Speaker 3: just dying and it was like, okay.
Speaker 2: Next week.
Speaker 1: You know, I never feel like not with real I
Speaker 1: can see. I guess you have to be able to differentiate, right,
Speaker 1: real from fake because when I see like real death,
Speaker 1: like somebody may just be like social media or somebody
Speaker 1: knew in real life like that shit, it feels real
Speaker 1: every time. Yeah, TV, I don't know, I've seen this,
Speaker 1: little boy.
Speaker 3: But if you're a child, if you're a young person
Speaker 3: growing up now and you're seeing all this, you watching
Speaker 3: these movies where people just getting killed and TV shows
Speaker 3: and your mama watched First forty eight to Go to Sleep,
Speaker 3: and you're just growing up with all these all this
Speaker 3: sensory overload of death.
Speaker 2: Are you gonna be fair when people die?
Speaker 1: How? I guess that's how people can just pull up,
Speaker 1: pull up and do shit, take a life, just thoughtless.
Speaker 2: Yeah, you get to play call of duty all day long,
Speaker 2: thoughtless killing. So you practicing, you know. Just I know
Speaker 2: that kind of went away from our intrusive thought things.
Speaker 1: But this is because intrusive thoughts can lead to real action.
Speaker 1: Mm hmmm, So is it really an intrusive thought? I
Speaker 1: guess it's only intrusive when you don't actually act on it.
Speaker 1: Once you do, it's premeditated. It's a premeditated thought. M
Speaker 1: I don't know. Let's let's focus on happy thoughts, y'all.
Speaker 1: Do something, yes, do some to day to make you
Speaker 1: feel better?
Speaker 2: Yeah, feel good? Yeah, masturbate that's my last last. Everybody
Speaker 2: masturbate today.
Speaker 1: I'm thinking about your masturbating. I'm thinking about it. But
Speaker 1: I don't know. Intrusive thoughts, I don't, I don't. I
Speaker 1: just think that intrusive thoughts should not just be negative.
Speaker 1: I think intrusive thoughts could also be positive thoughts.
Speaker 2: They just what is it an?
Speaker 1: The word intrusive meaning you didn't invite it right, yeah, right, okay,
Speaker 1: I got it. Positive thoughts, y'all.
Speaker 4: Puppies, puppies, cats, rabbits, and lots of money for us
Speaker 4: all yes and stars, little sprinkles, fairy dust, all that stuff.
Speaker 1: I mean cake, lots of cake.
Speaker 2: Oh that's my favorite thought.
Speaker 1: From public cream cream, cheese, nutting, bunt cake. Make me happy,
Speaker 1: that's fat.
Speaker 2: I know that shit got way too sugar, it's so good.
Speaker 1: The lemon one, it is so good.
Speaker 2: That should make me sweat when I eat it. I think.
Speaker 1: All right, y'all, think big bitch and think positive.
Speaker 2: Amen.
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Speaker 2: Ahay y'all, Tam bam. Loved y'all.
Speaker 3: Let that be your thought for today. I love y'all
Speaker 3: so much, and I really really appreciate y'all. Remember speak
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Speaker 1: Goodbye,