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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 1: online at Advocateslaw dot com.

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Speaker 2: Lucas is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Ella. So we're

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Speaker 2: gonna see if we can figure out why she's ghosting

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Speaker 2: and when we call her in just a second. But first, Lucas,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from Ella?

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Speaker 3: It's been like a week week.

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Speaker 4: So did you try contacting her after the date or

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Speaker 4: was that the last time you guys spoke.

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Speaker 3: I did contact her after and I hadn't heard from her.

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Speaker 5: There was no response. Can you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So, well the way we met though, we'll do

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Speaker 3: that at the office party and the company that I

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Speaker 3: currently work at met there and we spent that night

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Speaker 3: just hanging out talking about oh why are you're saying

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Speaker 3: everything and this stuff, and I asked her to get

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Speaker 3: coffee a few days after that, and then that we did,

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Speaker 3: and I found she just like, really easy to talk to,

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Speaker 3: really easy to get along with. I felt, you know,

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Speaker 3: I didn't feel like I had to try so hard

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Speaker 3: with her. She was really easy going and gorgeous. It's

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Speaker 3: funny time and yeah, and so then I didn't ask

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Speaker 3: her out again after.

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Speaker 5: And I just never heard that you said you met

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Speaker 5: her at an office party. Could she be one of

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Speaker 5: your bosses that you just don't know as your boss?

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Speaker 3: I have no idea. I mean, like I I don't

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Speaker 3: even know if she works with a company. Well, she

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Speaker 3: said that she was a guest of someone at the party,

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Speaker 3: so that's all I know.

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Speaker 5: Okay.

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Speaker 4: Was there anything that happened on the date that was

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Speaker 4: kind of awkward or weird that would make her maybe

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Speaker 4: not want to talk to you again? No, obviously you're lovely, Lucas.

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Speaker 4: This isn't you know that that licas.

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Speaker 3: Well? I mean, I do have a tendency sometimes when

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Speaker 3: I'm talking, I raised my voice a little without realizing,

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Speaker 3: speaking a little bit louder than usual. And okay, and

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Speaker 3: like sometimes I get a little excited when I talk her.

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Speaker 3: I guess when I get really happy, I sometimes I

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Speaker 3: don't realize the volume of my voice should be a

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Speaker 5: I can't control the volume of my voice. So you're

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Speaker 5: saying you yelled at her. She may not have realized

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Speaker 5: that was normal.

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Speaker 3: Oh oh god, I hope she didn't think I I

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Speaker 3: was the only at her for any reason I had.

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Speaker 3: I had no reason to yell at her. But if

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Speaker 3: I my voice was a little louder than usual than

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Speaker 3: I apologize.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I mean that could be you know, maybe

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Speaker 2: she thought you. You know, some people are very uncomfortable

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Speaker 2: with loud people. Yeah, in general, that could have been it.

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Speaker 4: I think I'm still kind of suspect as to who

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Speaker 4: she was even at that party with going back to

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Speaker 4: like the other thing, because we don't know if it's

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Speaker 4: like one of her friends. Maybe her friends got a

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Speaker 4: crush on you, you know, like maybe you're just like

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Speaker 4: off limits or something.

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Speaker 3: Oh, I never thought of myself as off limits before

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Speaker 3: we start.

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Speaker 2: Time to start thinking of yourself that way, big boy. Well,

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Speaker 2: let's play a song come Back, and then we'll call

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Speaker 2: her and see if we can get her to tell

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Speaker 2: us why she's ghosting you and maybe get to another day. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 2: I'm good, All right, plays song come Back, get your

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Speaker 2: first date follow up next, if you're just joining us

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Speaker 2: for the first date follow up.

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Speaker 5: We've got lovely Lucas on the phone.

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Speaker 2: He's getting ghosted by a woman named Ella, and he

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Speaker 2: doesn't know why. We're about to call her and see

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Speaker 2: if we can figure it out. But first, Lucas, why

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Speaker 2: don't you refresh everybody's memory on the situation with Ella.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: So I met Ella at a party, an office party

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Speaker 3: at a company that I work at. She was someone's

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Speaker 3: guests there, and we spend that whole night, you know,

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Speaker 3: asked her to get coffee a few days later, and

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Speaker 5: Let's find out why she's ghosting you? Ready to call her?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 5: All right, cool? Here we go. Hello, I may I

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Speaker 5: speak to Ella? Please?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 4: Speaking?

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Speaker 5: Ella? How are you? My name is Jewbile host radio

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Speaker 5: show and it's called the Jebel Show. The whole show's here. Ella.

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Speaker 4: My name is Nina.

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Speaker 1: Hi.

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Speaker 5: Hi, I'm Victoria. Yep, so there's three. Oh my goodness,

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Speaker 5: what's up? Hey?

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Speaker 1: I'm actually fan of you. Guys. Did I did I

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Speaker 1: win something?

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Speaker 5: Or Ella?

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Speaker 2: We got an email about you from somebody you went

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Speaker 2: on a date with. This is a first date follow up.

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Speaker 5: I'm guessing you know what that is.

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Speaker 1: I do, I do, but I haven't been on that

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Speaker 1: many dates lately, so so I'm curious.

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Speaker 5: Well, his name is Lucas.

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Speaker 3: I remember Lucas.

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Speaker 2: Okay, and Lucas emailed us because he said he really

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Speaker 2: liked you, but you've been ghosting him.

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Speaker 5: Can you tell us why?

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Speaker 1: I didn't mean to ghost him. I have been a

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Speaker 1: little slow to respond though, I'm.

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Speaker 3: Sorry about that.

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Speaker 1: I should have texted him back. So it's like a

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Speaker 1: it's a bit of a weird situation, and I wasn't.

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Speaker 3: I've been like confused as.

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Speaker 1: To how to proceed. See it's even like hard for

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Speaker 1: me to like finish that sentence.

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Speaker 5: You're making this real sketchy. What's going on?

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Speaker 1: I met him at like a work party, but I

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Speaker 1: went with my dad to his work party, and my

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Speaker 1: dad is his ball us.

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Speaker 5: So your dad's Lucas's boss.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And does your dad have a rule you don't

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Speaker 2: you don't date the help.

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Speaker 1: Yeah it's not bad, but it's but yeah, my dad

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Speaker 1: is kind of a horrid and he's very like all business.

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Speaker 1: It's like all he talks about he's I mean, I

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Speaker 1: wouldn't want to work for him. He's my dad, but

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Speaker 1: he's like a tough, tough guy. I don't know. I

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Speaker 1: kind of had figured it out earlier, but I didn't

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Speaker 1: And then I felt awkward about that, and then I

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Speaker 1: didn't know what to do, so I should have texted back,

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Speaker 1: but it was like, how do you text that, like, Hey,

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Speaker 1: my dad's your boss.

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Speaker 5: I feel like I feel.

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Speaker 1: Like that's going to get awkward or real quick. So

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Speaker 1: I wasn't sure quite how to how to put that

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Speaker 1: in text form.

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Speaker 5: It seems like a lot a lot for a text

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Speaker 5: speaking of getting awkward real quick.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you listen to the show, so I'm assuming

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Speaker 2: that you forgot a part of this.

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Speaker 3: What did I forget?

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Speaker 5: Lucas is on the phone listening, and then this whole

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Speaker 1: Hey, I did forget? Hey, Lucas, I apologize, you.

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Speaker 6: Know what I'm I'm it's understandable. I what are the

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Speaker 6: odds that I be interested in the boss's daughter?

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Speaker 3: So so Mike your dad, huh yeah, what are the odds? Yeah?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, well I know, but still no, I didn't.

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Speaker 1: I didn't think you were, and that's why I was

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Speaker 1: a bit at a loss for how to how to

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Speaker 1: tell you that. But no, I really enjoyed hanging out

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Speaker 1: with you too. It's just I should have said something

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Speaker 5: But yeah, I didn't.

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Speaker 1: Want to because I was having a nice time too.

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Speaker 3: But then I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you you know how.

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Speaker 5: He is so and I'm I'm.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he's definitely a great at his job, great at

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Speaker 3: being a boss.

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Speaker 1: I'm a very diplomatic answer, Lucas, I promise, I'm promised.

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Speaker 1: He's not in the room with me.

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Speaker 3: I had a great time with you, and I completely

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Speaker 3: understand now. But you know, I'm still open to going

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Speaker 3: on a second date you if you are. I really,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I I really had a good time

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Speaker 1: with you too. But I I am a little concerned

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Speaker 1: but also, you know, understandably, you know, you want to,

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Speaker 1: you know, I don't want I don't want my dad

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Speaker 1: just don't want to create like a weird situation for

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Speaker 3: I under yeah, I understand, I get that. You know,

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Speaker 3: if you one, I can speak to Mike, speak to

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Speaker 3: work uh while I'm out we're on the day with

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Speaker 3: at least let him know son't feel like I'm doing

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Speaker 5: Ella, would you like to go on another day with

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Speaker 5: Lucas We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, yeah, sure, I mean yeah, if you really,

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Speaker 1: And I do think my dad would would appreciate that

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Speaker 1: if you're and honestly, if you're up for sitting down

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Speaker 1: with him and saying that then I definitely think we

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Speaker 1: should go on a second day.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, it sounds like lovely. Lucas is a guy. I

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Speaker 5: just love it.

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Speaker 4: For everybody listening, this is also a lesson. When a

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Speaker 4: man is into you, you will know this guy is

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Speaker 4: ready to go and talk to your dad about wanting

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Speaker 4: to go on a date. And if some dude's not

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Speaker 4: even texting you back, good point.

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Speaker 3: I will I will talk to them and yeah, I'm

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Speaker 3: definitely let's let's do it.

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Speaker 5: Sweet. Well, congratulations Lucas, you got another date. Love this

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Speaker 5: all right?

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Speaker 3: Thank you guys very much. I appreciate it.

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Speaker 5: And thank you Ella.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you. I'm glad that you that you've made

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Speaker 1: this happen.

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Speaker 5: Jule's first day follow up