WEBVTT - "MY EX MIGHT BE A CANNIBAL" 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:04.680 Hello, Oh my gosh, Wait, is this the world's favoue? 0:00:04.720 --> 0:00:07.200 Gak? This is a get Go? 0:00:07.360 --> 0:00:07.760 How are you? 0:00:07.880 --> 0:00:09.480 Is this shave from Alabama? 0:00:11.119 --> 0:00:12.320 It sure is? 0:00:12.440 --> 0:00:14.400 What's what's going on with you? You know? 0:00:14.560 --> 0:00:14.840 Gak? 0:00:14.960 --> 0:00:16.599 I've been having a little bit. 0:00:16.520 --> 0:00:18.960 Of an existential crisis lately. 0:00:20.120 --> 0:00:23.840 Something's been on my mind for a while, and I 0:00:23.880 --> 0:00:27.000 haven't talked to anybody about it, and I thought who 0:00:27.080 --> 0:00:30.240 better to share it with than a get Go? So 0:00:30.680 --> 0:00:31.400 here I am. 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:33.080 So I guess, like. 0:00:33.440 --> 0:00:37.680 The short version of the story is I kind of 0:00:37.680 --> 0:00:41.239 think my ex boyfriend was like a cannibal, but like 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:43.479 I'm not. I don't have like proof of that. 0:00:45.520 --> 0:00:48.960 But what is it that makes you believe that he 0:00:49.240 --> 0:00:49.959 is a cannibal? 0:00:52.320 --> 0:00:55.240 So let me just start kind of from the beginning. Okay, 0:00:55.320 --> 0:01:01.040 So me and this ex we were both and we're 0:01:01.040 --> 0:01:05.440 both in medical school together barely stand up guy. You know, 0:01:05.480 --> 0:01:08.800 we were like kind of basically best friends all through 0:01:08.880 --> 0:01:12.160 undergrad of college leading up to that year of medical 0:01:12.160 --> 0:01:17.200 school and last year, you know, we were just close 0:01:17.200 --> 0:01:20.319 friends whatever, and you know, he asked me out whatever, 0:01:21.520 --> 0:01:25.399 and within our relationship he was like really into like 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:30.960 biting me like on the ear anywhere that I had 0:01:31.000 --> 0:01:33.039 like a lot of like fad I guess, like my 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:36.680 inner size or my stomach area, to the point where 0:01:36.680 --> 0:01:38.920 it became like kind of like a big issue with 0:01:39.000 --> 0:01:41.720 the relationship because I would bleed and he would like 0:01:41.920 --> 0:01:45.720 enjoy like drinking the blood. Like it was so fucking weird, 0:01:46.040 --> 0:01:48.880 Like I don't know how to quite explain it, and 0:01:48.960 --> 0:01:50.720 I just thought it was like a weird like kink. 0:01:50.760 --> 0:01:52.840 And I couldn't really tell any of like my med 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:56.400 school friends because they were also like type A and like, 0:01:56.560 --> 0:02:00.840 you know, I don't know, just like really Southern esque, 0:02:01.000 --> 0:02:03.040 you know, and I don't know, I just didn't really 0:02:03.080 --> 0:02:06.120 feel like comfortable talking to them about it, so I 0:02:06.200 --> 0:02:10.799 just kind of kept it internal, and it just kind 0:02:10.800 --> 0:02:13.240 of got like really weird, and it just it kind 0:02:13.280 --> 0:02:15.080 of grows me out. But I just, I don't know, 0:02:15.080 --> 0:02:18.120 I was stupid, and I just like I was so 0:02:18.160 --> 0:02:19.920 stressed with school I didn't really have time to like 0:02:19.960 --> 0:02:22.960 address it, so I just kept it going whatever. And 0:02:23.000 --> 0:02:26.360 then one day it was like Thanksgiving break and we 0:02:26.560 --> 0:02:29.880 went to his parents' lake house, just like the two 0:02:29.919 --> 0:02:33.680 of us, and we both got like super busted drunk, 0:02:33.880 --> 0:02:37.320 like I don't think we've ever both been that drunk before, 0:02:38.240 --> 0:02:40.280 and we were just we're like really interested in like 0:02:40.360 --> 0:02:43.680 serial killers and stuff, you know. So we were just 0:02:43.760 --> 0:02:47.040 talking about like Ted Bundy and all this crap, and 0:02:47.919 --> 0:02:51.440 we got on the topic of like like cannibalism because 0:02:51.480 --> 0:02:53.400 I remember we read about this one guy who like 0:02:54.160 --> 0:02:56.200 was like on LSD and he just like ripped someone's 0:02:56.240 --> 0:03:00.240 face off, you know. So we were talking about that 0:03:00.320 --> 0:03:03.400 and then like he jokingly was I joking. LI said, 0:03:03.440 --> 0:03:06.240 like would you ever like eat me or something? And 0:03:06.280 --> 0:03:08.440 he's like, you know what, I'm so glad you brought 0:03:08.440 --> 0:03:12.040 it up because I've been wanting to for so long. 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:15.200 And then I was drunk and he was drunk, so 0:03:15.240 --> 0:03:17.760 I just kind of like laughed it off. But then 0:03:17.800 --> 0:03:20.880 he like goes to like detail kind of telling me 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:25.600 like how he would do it, and I don't know, 0:03:25.960 --> 0:03:30.800 at that point, I was kind of scared. Like he 0:03:30.960 --> 0:03:34.080 was telling me how he would like cut off like 0:03:34.120 --> 0:03:37.360 my thigh meats, and that kind of reminded me of 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:42.480 how he always bites my thigh. And then he told 0:03:42.520 --> 0:03:44.720 me like he would like to sear it and like 0:03:44.760 --> 0:03:47.920 put it with soy sauce, and it was just such 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:51.280 a vivid detail. It just seemed like he had really 0:03:51.320 --> 0:03:55.080 thought it out before, you know what I mean, and 0:03:55.160 --> 0:03:58.680 he just kept going on and on, and then that's 0:03:58.680 --> 0:04:00.560 what I just kind of got creeped out. And then 0:04:00.600 --> 0:04:03.320 I was trying to keep my calm, you know. And 0:04:04.480 --> 0:04:07.240 the next morning I left, and then I just kind 0:04:07.240 --> 0:04:09.480 of told my close friend everything that was going on, 0:04:10.640 --> 0:04:13.280 and she like was kind of shocked because like I 0:04:13.280 --> 0:04:17.000 hadn't told her any of this stuff before that was 0:04:17.040 --> 0:04:20.159 going on or whatever. And yeah, I kind of ended 0:04:20.240 --> 0:04:24.720 up just ghosting him. And now I see his face 0:04:24.760 --> 0:04:27.920 all the time, I mean, not for Arcy school, medical school, 0:04:27.920 --> 0:04:30.799 and it's just kind of kind of strange. 0:04:30.839 --> 0:04:37.160 You know, when he was telling you that he wanted 0:04:37.200 --> 0:04:44.920 to eat you, how did you respond to him at first? 0:04:45.200 --> 0:04:47.520 You know, being so drunk, I was just kind of 0:04:47.600 --> 0:04:50.560 laughing it off, like like just kind of like a 0:04:50.600 --> 0:04:55.080 nervous giggle, and I just was kind of giving him 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:57.839 this confused look. So he kind of kept elaborating to me. 0:04:58.279 --> 0:05:01.120 I didn't really know how to respond to that, and 0:05:01.200 --> 0:05:02.880 to be honest, I was kind of out of it, 0:05:02.960 --> 0:05:08.720 being so like drunk, so I didn't really say anything. 0:05:08.960 --> 0:05:11.080 And the kind of the crazy thing is is what 0:05:11.240 --> 0:05:15.960 kind of makes this like theory I guess valid to me? 0:05:16.080 --> 0:05:20.160 Is he kind of never like like he doesn't talk 0:05:20.240 --> 0:05:21.840 to me at all. He hasn't talked to our friend 0:05:21.839 --> 0:05:23.880 group at all anymore. Like he just kind of like 0:05:24.800 --> 0:05:26.960 I think he's afraid that, Like I'm going to tell 0:05:27.000 --> 0:05:30.760 people because like if you was joking and being funny 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:31.840 about it, go. 0:05:31.760 --> 0:05:32.440 Ahead, go ahead. 0:05:32.880 --> 0:05:37.480 So you had this night with him where he told 0:05:37.480 --> 0:05:40.800 you he was going to eat June, And about how 0:05:40.880 --> 0:05:43.480 long had you been dating him up until that point? 0:05:44.600 --> 0:05:45.280 Three months? 0:05:45.360 --> 0:05:47.200 We were together for about three months. 0:05:47.400 --> 0:05:49.560 We were together for three months, and you said that 0:05:49.640 --> 0:05:53.320 after that night you just ghosted him. You didn't have 0:05:53.360 --> 0:05:57.479 any sort of convert you have it. When's the last 0:05:57.480 --> 0:05:59.720 time you had any sort of contact with this person? 0:06:04.080 --> 0:06:08.960 Well, we don't really probably like why say hi hello, 0:06:09.040 --> 0:06:11.200 because like we're both like in medical school together and 0:06:11.200 --> 0:06:12.440 our classes small. 0:06:12.720 --> 0:06:16.840 Okay, so so so so, So this is a person 0:06:16.960 --> 0:06:20.960 that you still interact with pretty regularly in your classes. 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:26.520 Yeah, but he's kind of like isolated himself from our 0:06:26.640 --> 0:06:29.320 entire like friend group. Only one of my friends knows 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:31.800 this story, and no one else does to my knowledge 0:06:31.800 --> 0:06:32.920 at least, What. 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:34.280 Did your friend tell you to do. 0:06:34.320 --> 0:06:38.480 In response to this, she was, Okay, like I said, 0:06:38.560 --> 0:06:41.320 all these people that go to my school, like they're 0:06:41.440 --> 0:06:43.400 very like, I don't know. 0:06:43.800 --> 0:06:45.920 Very judgmental about cannibalism. 0:06:46.400 --> 0:06:46.640 Yeah. 0:06:50.080 --> 0:06:53.760 Well, I mean I don't really necessarily agree with cannibalism myself, 0:06:54.240 --> 0:06:58.840 but I mean, besides besides that, I would say they're 0:06:59.000 --> 0:07:00.000 very like conservative. 0:07:00.560 --> 0:07:03.400 Yeah what did What did your friends say when you 0:07:03.400 --> 0:07:03.960 told her that? 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:09.320 Basically just oh my gosh, like this is crazy, like 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:11.000 you got to break up with him, Like she was 0:07:11.040 --> 0:07:16.400 really worried for me, so you know, I was worried 0:07:16.400 --> 0:07:18.560 to I guess seeing how worried she was, so I 0:07:18.680 --> 0:07:22.080 just followed in that suit, I guess. 0:07:23.600 --> 0:07:23.800 Yeah. 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:27.480 I think I think that there is is, for sure 0:07:28.080 --> 0:07:32.120 a reason to worry if a man is uh drinking 0:07:32.200 --> 0:07:34.240 your blood and telling you he wants to eat you, 0:07:34.840 --> 0:07:36.560 I think that that is a good situation to get 0:07:36.600 --> 0:07:40.480 out of. I'm glad to hear it doesn't sound to 0:07:40.520 --> 0:07:45.600 me like this guy has reached out to you, since 0:07:45.800 --> 0:07:49.480 he's not like stalking you. He's not texting you a bunch, 0:07:49.480 --> 0:07:52.160 she's not trying to find you. He's not looking for 0:07:52.240 --> 0:07:55.520 any sort of closure about the three months you just 0:07:56.160 --> 0:08:02.120 simply I'm very, very confused at how this whole thing ended, 0:08:02.160 --> 0:08:07.320 because you are still seeing him day to day and 0:08:07.400 --> 0:08:10.520 he hasn't like followed up with you. He hasn't been like, hey, 0:08:11.960 --> 0:08:14.360 let me, let's let's see each other. He hasn't been 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:15.680 trying to contact. 0:08:15.240 --> 0:08:17.440 You, no. 0:08:17.880 --> 0:08:21.280 I mean he's given me like stolen glances across like 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:23.960 the room and stuff like that. I mean, I've even 0:08:24.000 --> 0:08:26.160 trying to talk to his best friend who's like within 0:08:26.200 --> 0:08:29.119 our friend group about it, and he isn't even talking 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:32.400 to him at all. So it's like really strange. Like 0:08:32.960 --> 0:08:34.600 I guess we both kind of goes to each other 0:08:34.640 --> 0:08:37.600 in a sense. Sure, like he kind of like I 0:08:37.640 --> 0:08:40.200 like really broke it off like really quick because I 0:08:40.240 --> 0:08:42.120 was scared in the moment and I really didn't want 0:08:42.120 --> 0:08:44.040 to address the topic because I was kind of afraid 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:46.960 to like know the truth, I guess, and then he, 0:08:47.480 --> 0:08:49.559 I guess, like I don't know, like he just hasn't 0:08:49.600 --> 0:08:52.080 talked to me at all since, So it's just kind 0:08:52.080 --> 0:08:54.400 of awkward between both of us, and I guess I'm 0:08:54.440 --> 0:08:57.679 wondering like if I should like reach out to him 0:08:57.679 --> 0:09:00.280 to get that closure. But I'm also a little bit like. 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:01.000 Scared to do. 0:09:01.080 --> 0:09:03.240 So, Yeah, I don't think you need to reach back 0:09:03.240 --> 0:09:06.920 out to him. I'm just glad to hear that he 0:09:07.120 --> 0:09:09.520 I mean, how long has it been since you, uh, 0:09:09.880 --> 0:09:11.720 since he told you he wanted to eat you? 0:09:13.600 --> 0:09:17.320 This was like over Thanksgiving break this past year. 0:09:17.559 --> 0:09:20.400 Oh, this was a while ago. This was a long 0:09:20.440 --> 0:09:24.480 time ago. Okay, yeah, this was a long time right, 0:09:24.480 --> 0:09:26.599 all right, So this was a long time ago. And 0:09:26.760 --> 0:09:30.240 in these past seven months he has not tried to 0:09:30.280 --> 0:09:34.200 contact you and tried to say anything to you anything 0:09:34.280 --> 0:09:34.720 like that. 0:09:36.360 --> 0:09:38.680 Now, but it's still super awkward him being like. 0:09:39.720 --> 0:09:42.520 I would I would share, I would share, I would 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:48.800 let this go. I don't think you should. I don't. 0:09:48.880 --> 0:09:50.800 I have no fucking idea what's up with this guy? 0:09:51.400 --> 0:09:53.440 You have no fucking idea with Nobody has any idea 0:09:53.480 --> 0:09:56.320 what's up with this guy? As long as he's not 0:09:59.360 --> 0:10:02.920 trying to you, continue to talk to you, or like, 0:10:03.800 --> 0:10:08.240 you know, uh, be involved with you. I think you 0:10:08.400 --> 0:10:09.960 just let this let this go. 0:10:11.960 --> 0:10:16.280 Okay, Well, I'm glad that I'm kind of stewing myself 0:10:16.280 --> 0:10:18.360 in the right direction, so I. 0:10:18.320 --> 0:10:21.480 Appreciate it for sure. Is there anything else you want 0:10:21.520 --> 0:10:23.040 to say to the people of the computer Shai. 0:10:24.840 --> 0:10:27.800 No, but I really love your show. I think you're 0:10:27.840 --> 0:10:31.920 doing an awesome job and gek forever man than doing 0:10:31.960 --> 0:10:35.359 this Man, I appreciate it. Yeah YouTube man by. 0:10:35.920 --> 0:10:41.120 Gotts tell us, Okay, let's see what do you do 0:10:41.160 --> 0:10:42.920 when a person says that they want to eat you? 0:10:43.679 --> 0:10:47.440 That is a weird situation because, on one hand, if 0:10:47.440 --> 0:10:50.840 a person says that they want to eat you and 0:10:50.920 --> 0:10:54.920 she's all, she's over here, like is he joking? Is 0:10:55.000 --> 0:10:58.080 he like, what the fuck? I'm over here like is 0:10:58.120 --> 0:11:00.520 he joking? Is he like? What the fuck? I don't know. 0:11:01.000 --> 0:11:03.760 I have no fucking idea. I'm glad you share that 0:11:03.800 --> 0:11:07.120 with us. This is one of those calls, and I 0:11:07.120 --> 0:11:09.679 get a lot of these calls. Again, this show is 0:11:09.720 --> 0:11:11.520 not about giving advice. This show is about being a 0:11:11.520 --> 0:11:13.960 gecko and talking to people on the phone. I have 0:11:14.000 --> 0:11:18.360 no idea what the fuck to do. That's a crazy situation. 0:11:21.160 --> 0:11:25.760 I'm glad that it's been seven months. Although what I'm 0:11:25.800 --> 0:11:29.839 a little scared of is is it possible that he 0:11:30.160 --> 0:11:34.840 fucking found some other girl to drink her blood and 0:11:34.880 --> 0:11:38.760 that's why he's not talking to Shay anymore. But I 0:11:38.760 --> 0:11:41.000 don't know. I don't know if Shay needs to get 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:50.079 all involved in this, and you know what, before we 0:11:50.120 --> 0:11:52.679 move on. I don't take a lot of stands on 0:11:52.720 --> 0:11:55.240 this show, you know. I don't talk a lot about 0:11:55.240 --> 0:11:57.240 the issues. I try to just you know, be a 0:11:57.280 --> 0:11:59.960 gecko and kind of hang out. But I'm gonna take 0:12:00.120 --> 0:12:03.680 stand on this one. I'm gonna say right here, right now. 0:12:04.920 --> 0:12:12.640 I do not support eating other people. Pigs, cows, chickens, 0:12:12.840 --> 0:12:15.640 eat the fuck out of those things, but not people. 0:12:17.960 --> 0:12:29.160 Someone said, what if it's consensual cannibalism. I don't know. 0:12:30.080 --> 0:12:33.640 I believe, and I think most people believe this, that 0:12:34.800 --> 0:12:37.480 you should be able to do You should be able 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:42.120 to do whatever you want in life as long as 0:12:42.160 --> 0:12:47.400 you're not hurting other people. So if two adults make 0:12:47.559 --> 0:12:54.480 the conscious decision with their bodies, with their souls of 0:12:54.640 --> 0:13:09.440 sound mind, to eat each other, man, we live in 0:13:09.440 --> 0:13:13.760 a world with so many questions. Let's talk to some 0:13:13.800 --> 0:13:22.920 people on the phone. Hello, Gek, Hi is this Andy? 0:13:22.960 --> 0:13:24.120 It is? What's up? Gek? 0:13:24.800 --> 0:13:28.720 Now much? What's going on with you? Andy? Not much? 0:13:28.800 --> 0:13:33.320 Dude? All right, So listen, I uh me and this 0:13:33.360 --> 0:13:36.559 girl broke up like five six months ago, right yep, 0:13:37.120 --> 0:13:41.800 and we stayed friends for the majority of that, and 0:13:41.840 --> 0:13:46.839 then maybe a week ago, she messages me tells me 0:13:46.960 --> 0:13:49.360 she wants to go to contact, she needs time to heal, 0:13:49.559 --> 0:13:52.360 needs me to like be her ex for a minute, 0:13:52.960 --> 0:13:58.600 Like okay, cool, Yeah, that's fine communication, h right, And 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:03.160 two days after that, she shows up to my house 0:14:03.679 --> 0:14:07.840 unannounced to hang out with my grandmother. Well I'm not home. 0:14:10.920 --> 0:14:12.320 That's that's weird, right. 0:14:13.559 --> 0:14:17.000 She came to your house to hang out with your 0:14:17.000 --> 0:14:19.000 grandmother while you were not home. 0:14:19.320 --> 0:14:23.320 M Like, she gave her a birthday card and like whatever, 0:14:23.600 --> 0:14:27.240 that's nice, But she wasn't that close with my grandma 0:14:27.360 --> 0:14:31.880 to begin with, So, like what, I'm trying to understand 0:14:31.880 --> 0:14:38.760 the logic behind it, if there's any. 0:14:36.400 --> 0:14:38.720 She wasn't that close with your with your grandma to 0:14:38.760 --> 0:14:39.200 begin with. 0:14:41.000 --> 0:14:44.400 No, like they talked on the phone sometimes. She maybe 0:14:44.480 --> 0:14:49.240 accompanied me there twice for the year we were together. 0:14:53.960 --> 0:14:58.600 Why do you think she is continuing this relationship with 0:14:58.640 --> 0:15:00.680 your grandma? 0:15:02.400 --> 0:15:05.320 Personally? I think it's to get under my skin. But 0:15:08.720 --> 0:15:12.480 it's a weird situation. And what was she going to 0:15:12.560 --> 0:15:13.440 do if I had been home? 0:15:15.720 --> 0:15:18.160 Have you talked to your grandma about this and that 0:15:18.240 --> 0:15:18.920 it's bothering you? 0:15:21.880 --> 0:15:25.240 Yeah? I tried to my grandma is this sweet little 0:15:25.240 --> 0:15:29.640 old Christian lady, like she is a gem of this earth. 0:15:29.960 --> 0:15:33.280 So she's not like slighted about it. And I try 0:15:33.320 --> 0:15:37.320 to tell her. I'm like, look, I don't want her around. 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:39.360 I'd rather you didn't talk to her. I don't want 0:15:39.360 --> 0:15:43.400 her to have access to my wife. And she's like, well, 0:15:43.640 --> 0:15:47.800 I'm gonna still talk to her. So I don't know. 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:49.400 It's weird. It puts me in a weird spot. 0:15:50.640 --> 0:15:52.360 And have you talked to your ex about this? 0:15:54.600 --> 0:15:54.880 Yeah? 0:15:54.920 --> 0:15:57.600 And she gas lit me into thinking I was absolutely 0:15:57.680 --> 0:16:01.160 crazy for being bothered by it, told me she was 0:16:01.200 --> 0:16:03.840 gonna do whatever the fuck she wanted to go cry 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:07.280 about it. And then I was like, okay, well stay 0:16:07.320 --> 0:16:09.920 away from me and my family, like you crossed the boundary. 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:14.080 I'm not cool with it, Like I'm I'm just cutting ties. 0:16:14.840 --> 0:16:17.680 And when we ended the phone call, she said, Okay, well, 0:16:17.680 --> 0:16:20.920 when I'm on the verge of suicide, I'm not gonna 0:16:20.920 --> 0:16:25.840 call you. Okay, call a hotline, like what, don't call me? 0:16:28.480 --> 0:16:31.560 Andy? Does your grandmother live with you? 0:16:33.320 --> 0:16:33.560 Yeah? 0:16:33.640 --> 0:16:35.120 Yeah, I currently live with my grandmother. 0:16:36.080 --> 0:16:37.480 Okay, so you live with your grandmother? 0:16:38.880 --> 0:16:39.120 Yeah? 0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:40.560 Yeah, And you're twenty five. 0:16:42.880 --> 0:16:46.560 Yes, we broke up right before we were supposed to 0:16:46.600 --> 0:16:50.320 renew our lease and I didn't have any other plans. 0:16:50.800 --> 0:16:52.680 Oh yeah, no, no, no judgment. I'm trying to figure out 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:56.400 your situation there, because clearly the next step is, uh 0:16:56.520 --> 0:17:00.440 to move out of your grandma's house. Oh for sure, 0:17:02.800 --> 0:17:03.840 what is your plan to do that? 0:17:06.840 --> 0:17:10.639 I'm looking at like little one bedrooms. Thing is I 0:17:10.640 --> 0:17:14.240 have a pitbull and some places are like really restrictive 0:17:14.280 --> 0:17:18.720 on breathe. It's in the works. It's just a matter 0:17:18.840 --> 0:17:20.480 of getting everything kind. 0:17:20.400 --> 0:17:21.080 Of set in motion. 0:17:22.400 --> 0:17:26.000 Yeah, I think you should move out of your grandma's house. 0:17:28.680 --> 0:17:33.560 As far as what to do in the meantime, you 0:17:33.640 --> 0:17:35.159 might have to just deal with it in the meantime 0:17:35.200 --> 0:17:38.040 because if you've talked to your ex and she's not 0:17:38.240 --> 0:17:43.240 receptive to your feelings about how it's a boundary crosser, 0:17:43.760 --> 0:17:46.119 and you've talked to your grandma and she's not receptive 0:17:46.600 --> 0:17:50.120 about your feelings about how it's a a boundary crosser, 0:17:50.720 --> 0:17:55.240 then the next move is to go, well, guys, have 0:17:55.280 --> 0:17:58.640 fun together. I'm gonna go have absolutely nothing to do. 0:17:58.640 --> 0:18:04.919 With this, right, just kind of removing from the situation altogether. 0:18:05.640 --> 0:18:08.720 Yeah. Uh, And it sounds like you are on the 0:18:08.760 --> 0:18:12.280 trajectory towards moving out, and in the meantime you might 0:18:12.320 --> 0:18:14.000 just have to fucking deal with it if you've already 0:18:14.040 --> 0:18:16.440 expressed to both of these parties that it's not cool, 0:18:16.800 --> 0:18:21.400 and neither of them have been receptive to that, Right. 0:18:22.040 --> 0:18:26.480 I just I think it's just weird. Like I've never 0:18:26.600 --> 0:18:30.520 broken up with someone and then went to go hang 0:18:30.560 --> 0:18:35.200 out with their family, Like weird? 0:18:36.359 --> 0:18:39.840 Would you if like their grandma was really cool? 0:18:47.000 --> 0:18:50.480 Maybe, but like I would want to have like express 0:18:50.600 --> 0:18:54.240 consent from my ex to do so, just because I 0:18:54.720 --> 0:18:57.800 see it as like a heart boundary, Like that's when 0:18:57.800 --> 0:18:59.679 you break up with someone, you break up with their family. 0:19:00.760 --> 0:19:08.399 Like, well, this is hard because you can express your 0:19:08.440 --> 0:19:10.520 feelings to both your ex and to your grandma, and 0:19:10.520 --> 0:19:15.919 then after that they're gonna do what they're gonna do. 0:19:16.000 --> 0:19:18.560 You can't control the behavior of your grandmother or of 0:19:18.600 --> 0:19:25.320 your ex, but you can move out and cut contact 0:19:25.520 --> 0:19:27.760 with both of them to the degree that you need to, 0:19:28.680 --> 0:19:32.359 and sort of remove yourself from the situation and be like, 0:19:32.480 --> 0:19:35.920 all right, you guys, have fun. I will be way 0:19:35.960 --> 0:19:47.119 over there, right. What is your name again, Andy? Andy? Well? Andy, 0:19:47.200 --> 0:19:50.600 you're not crazy? I'm sorry that this price is making 0:19:50.640 --> 0:19:54.080 you feel like you are, and I hope that you 0:19:54.480 --> 0:19:57.280 are successful in moving out of there soon. 0:20:00.040 --> 0:20:00.639 I appreciate it. 0:20:00.720 --> 0:20:07.600 Gag of course, man, you have a good night, you too, Yeah, 0:20:07.640 --> 0:20:11.679 I agree. I think that is a boundary crosser. And 0:20:11.880 --> 0:20:16.400 I think what's worse is that, you know, every time 0:20:16.440 --> 0:20:19.200 every single call, I always I'm like, well, okay, did 0:20:19.200 --> 0:20:21.400 you tell this person this thing that you're saying about them? 0:20:21.640 --> 0:20:24.600 And he did and both of them were not receptive 0:20:24.640 --> 0:20:26.320 to it. So at that point, he's just got to 0:20:26.320 --> 0:20:28.399 get out of there. I don't think he can control 0:20:28.440 --> 0:20:33.640 what his grandmother does, but I do think that if 0:20:33.680 --> 0:20:38.320 it's making him uncomfortable that his grandma is keeping in 0:20:38.359 --> 0:20:41.840 touch with his ex girlfriend, he's expressed that to her. 0:20:42.480 --> 0:20:45.679 His grandma does not care. I think he does need 0:20:45.720 --> 0:20:47.399 to throw up his hands and go, well, I'm not 0:20:47.440 --> 0:20:49.520 in control of what my ex girlfriend does. I'm not 0:20:49.520 --> 0:20:51.439 in control of what my grandma does. But I am 0:20:51.480 --> 0:20:53.720 in control of how close I want to be to 0:20:53.760 --> 0:20:56.760 that shit, and I'm going to choose to be far 0:20:56.800 --> 0:20:57.159 from it. 0:21:00.040 --> 0:21:05.680 Yep, Hello, how are you good? How you doing doing good? 0:21:05.880 --> 0:21:10.520 It is this Dan, Yes, it is what's going on Dan. 0:21:12.800 --> 0:21:16.640 Uh not much. I was calling the shows. He told 0:21:16.640 --> 0:21:17.240 you I was calling. 0:21:17.119 --> 0:21:23.680 About, right, Uh, I say that one more time, MANI. 0:21:22.080 --> 0:21:25.320 Katie obviously told you what I was calling about. Right, Well, what. 0:21:25.440 --> 0:21:27.840 Enough about that? Let you know we're we're here together, 0:21:27.960 --> 0:21:29.600 you and me. What are you calling about? 0:21:30.960 --> 0:21:35.520 So I've been having this issue ladies with my sexuality. 0:21:35.920 --> 0:21:39.959 But so I've been in a relationship for about uh 0:21:40.760 --> 0:21:44.199 like six or seven years now with a girl. And 0:21:44.920 --> 0:21:47.680 so my co worker, he's kind of new. He came 0:21:47.720 --> 0:21:50.520 in during COVID like a year and a half ago. 0:21:51.000 --> 0:21:54.640 His name's Paul with Ah, you know, little Asian guy, 0:21:55.240 --> 0:21:58.720 and he's a que his health and uh, me and him, 0:21:59.320 --> 0:22:03.000 you know, we basically not the same. We have had sex, 0:22:03.040 --> 0:22:05.000 but we pooled around a bit a couple of times. 0:22:05.040 --> 0:22:07.719 So yeah, my thing is, I'm not really sure what 0:22:07.760 --> 0:22:09.960 to do at this point because I'm in a serious relationship. 0:22:13.520 --> 0:22:15.240 Well kind of get some advice. 0:22:14.960 --> 0:22:17.960 Or Okay, so you're in a six year you're in 0:22:18.000 --> 0:22:22.240 a six year relationship. You let's just I mean, let's 0:22:22.240 --> 0:22:23.640 just say it. You cheat on your girlfriend? 0:22:25.760 --> 0:22:26.160 Kind of. 0:22:29.080 --> 0:22:32.600 You cheat on your girlfriend, I guess, so yeah, you 0:22:32.600 --> 0:22:39.080 could say that, are you now? Uh? Thinking to yourself 0:22:39.160 --> 0:22:41.160 that you are going to break up with your girlfriend 0:22:41.200 --> 0:22:42.040 and start dating men. 0:22:44.320 --> 0:22:47.160 No, it's more of like, I don't know. I was thinking, 0:22:47.400 --> 0:22:49.520 I think I can get away with just pooling around 0:22:49.560 --> 0:22:52.399 with my cowork and no one will find out. I 0:22:52.440 --> 0:22:54.200 don't know. I'm not comfortable with coming. 0:22:54.040 --> 0:22:58.120 Out and you know, well you're you're asking me if 0:22:58.119 --> 0:23:00.840 I if I think that, if I think you can 0:23:00.880 --> 0:23:05.200 get away with it without anyone finding out, I don't. 0:23:05.200 --> 0:23:07.240 I don't know if to tell you truth, because it's 0:23:07.280 --> 0:23:09.440 it's a weird situation because I only see him at work. 0:23:09.480 --> 0:23:11.439 I've never hung out with socially. It's more of like, 0:23:12.240 --> 0:23:15.360 you know, we've been in like those no pun intending 0:23:15.400 --> 0:23:15.960 but well. 0:23:15.840 --> 0:23:18.359 Okay before I don't want to hear the punt. But 0:23:18.400 --> 0:23:23.480 the you are asking me if you can get away 0:23:23.520 --> 0:23:23.800 with it? 0:23:26.280 --> 0:23:28.960 I mean, I guess. I mean, I mean in a 0:23:30.280 --> 0:23:31.920 you know, in a perfect world. 0:23:31.800 --> 0:23:32.000 You know. 0:23:33.480 --> 0:23:36.400 Well, obviously the answer to that is you know you can. 0:23:36.560 --> 0:23:39.359 You can? Yeah, if you wanted to hide it, sure, 0:23:40.040 --> 0:23:46.480 But uh, are you adverse to telling your girlfriend what happened? 0:23:48.800 --> 0:23:49.199 I don't know. 0:23:49.240 --> 0:23:51.600