WEBVTT - Wedding DJs vs. Wedding Bands 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:02.920 Hey, everyone, it's Josh Johnson and we want to know 0:00:03.520 --> 0:00:05.360 what do you want to hear us argue about next 0:00:05.400 --> 0:00:08.240 on the show. Okay, it's very easy to let us know. 0:00:08.360 --> 0:00:11.000 You can drop a comment on any of the Daily 0:00:11.080 --> 0:00:15.720 Shows clips of hold Up, whether it's Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, 0:00:16.079 --> 0:00:18.919 YouTube or Twitter. You can also hit us up with 0:00:18.960 --> 0:00:22.000 the hashtag hold up And honestly, if we have an 0:00:22.000 --> 0:00:24.840 opinion about it, we'll do an episode about it. We 0:00:24.920 --> 0:00:27.639 both love to talk, we love to argue, and we 0:00:27.720 --> 0:00:31.320 love you, so without anything else, let's let's get into 0:00:31.320 --> 0:00:40.199 the show. Hey, everybody, welcome to Hold Up. It's the 0:00:40.240 --> 0:00:44.360 Show with Josh Johnson. That that's me. I'm a writer 0:00:44.440 --> 0:00:49.520 for The Daily Show and I'm joined by a correspondent 0:00:49.560 --> 0:00:51.880 for The Daily Show. And on this show, we talk 0:00:51.960 --> 0:00:55.000 about the hard hitting, important issues that are going on 0:00:55.240 --> 0:00:59.240 in all of our lives. Okay, today we're coming in hot. 0:00:59.280 --> 0:01:02.240 We're coming in he because we're both very passionate about 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:05.960 today's topic. Has to do with matrimony, has to do 0:01:06.000 --> 0:01:08.240 with lifelong commitment, has to do with a lot of 0:01:08.360 --> 0:01:10.840 a lot of a lot of stuff that ideally is 0:01:10.880 --> 0:01:13.240 only ever gonna happen one time. But depending on who 0:01:13.240 --> 0:01:15.440 you are, sometimes it happens five. You know, some people 0:01:15.480 --> 0:01:17.959 are hard to get along with with others. Today we're 0:01:17.959 --> 0:01:24.760 talking about wedding DJs versus wedding bands, all right, and uh, 0:01:25.800 --> 0:01:27.320 don't say just let the people know. I'm not even 0:01:27.360 --> 0:01:29.360 asking for your arguments. I'm just saying, let people know 0:01:29.400 --> 0:01:32.600 where you stand. I don't want to give the people 0:01:32.640 --> 0:01:37.200 a second to think where I stand play the fake 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:46.280 in music. Y'all know where I stand. You know where 0:01:46.280 --> 0:01:49.520 I stand. You know I'm behind no damn fan. You 0:01:49.560 --> 0:01:53.000 know I'm DJ all the way. What did you even 0:01:53.000 --> 0:01:58.080 talk about? What did you even tome abat? Okay, of 0:01:58.080 --> 0:02:04.680 course I'm tem D because I like having a good tied. You, 0:02:04.880 --> 0:02:07.160 on the other hand, want to listen to acoustic guitar 0:02:07.240 --> 0:02:12.760 all night? The fuck? No acoustic guitar? Yeah that sounds right. 0:02:12.760 --> 0:02:18.840 That's in a band, right, So let's get started. Okay, 0:02:20.600 --> 0:02:23.440 all right, Because you're coming at wedding bands like it's 0:02:23.480 --> 0:02:25.640 just one guy that you didn't invite to a party 0:02:25.919 --> 0:02:29.160 with a guitar. That's not what's happening, all right. These 0:02:29.160 --> 0:02:33.959 bands have brass, they have percussion, they have lead singers. Okay, 0:02:34.000 --> 0:02:38.160 we've all been in a shopping mall right, we've all 0:02:38.200 --> 0:02:42.119 been in a business where you were listening to what's 0:02:42.160 --> 0:02:46.480 the correct term for it, where it's like someone has 0:02:46.520 --> 0:02:51.040 remade a song, but you don't know why they did it. Okay, 0:02:51.520 --> 0:02:54.200 Like it's the wrong girl singing Britney spears because not 0:02:54.320 --> 0:02:58.320 Brittney Critney sang the song. It's a cover. Right. I 0:02:58.360 --> 0:03:00.799 don't want to pay a group of adults to not 0:03:01.040 --> 0:03:03.600 do their own music, you see what I'm saying. Like 0:03:03.680 --> 0:03:06.280 y'all became like I have a hard time believing in 0:03:06.320 --> 0:03:09.720 a group of people who learned the skill. Right. Playing 0:03:09.720 --> 0:03:11.799 an instrument is difficult. That's why all of us can't 0:03:11.800 --> 0:03:15.320 do it. Everybody can talk, but not everyone can learn 0:03:15.320 --> 0:03:18.679 an instrument. I was supposed to learning a saxosphone in 0:03:18.680 --> 0:03:20.280 the fourth grade when we moved back to Miami, so 0:03:20.360 --> 0:03:23.519 I couldn't, right, But I can play with a recorder 0:03:23.680 --> 0:03:26.720 just as good as everybody else. I can read music 0:03:26.720 --> 0:03:30.600 because I sang you know, the train singer, and I 0:03:30.639 --> 0:03:34.320 know enough about a piano or I can. I can't 0:03:34.360 --> 0:03:38.360 play the accompaniment, but I can play the vocal part 0:03:38.600 --> 0:03:42.400 of my other song. Right, Playing a piano is difficult. 0:03:42.720 --> 0:03:44.800 You need both hands. Playing the drums is very hard. 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:47.360 Guitar all that, and they got two hands on something 0:03:47.880 --> 0:03:50.560 that ain't easy. So you sat up and learned this 0:03:50.720 --> 0:03:57.400 skill to be paid to play someone else's music professionally, 0:03:58.640 --> 0:04:04.440 I'm supposed to hear your rendition of Survivor, I'm supposed 0:04:04.440 --> 0:04:11.640 to hear a wedding band rendition of Beyonce. Why would 0:04:11.680 --> 0:04:15.080 I want that? Why would I spend my hard earned money. 0:04:15.320 --> 0:04:19.080 I'm trying to celebrate hon trap this man. It took 0:04:19.120 --> 0:04:22.360 me so long to meet this bastard. He's late. If 0:04:22.400 --> 0:04:25.000 you're listen, if the man who I'm going to marry 0:04:25.080 --> 0:04:30.200 is listening to this, you're late, bro, You're fucking late. 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:34.040 Where have you been? Okay? I'm very annoyed. But if 0:04:34.080 --> 0:04:36.720 I suppent the time I found a venue, how to 0:04:36.760 --> 0:04:39.359 put out a dress out of, fed a bunch of people. 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:42.200 Now I'm supposed to spend the rest of my evening 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:47.000 listen to a budget of middle aged people do their 0:04:47.040 --> 0:04:52.400 own rendition of Rundy. I'm out here. Okay. So you 0:04:52.560 --> 0:04:55.680 brought up some interesting points, brought up some things that 0:04:55.720 --> 0:05:03.840 are better. Maybe maybe atlet but I don't think so. Okay, because, 0:05:03.880 --> 0:05:06.640 first of all, you brought up singing other people's songs. 0:05:07.040 --> 0:05:10.360 That's not always the case. Oh they're they're oh oh oh, 0:05:10.440 --> 0:05:12.039 they don't want to get original music. For some people 0:05:12.040 --> 0:05:14.800 I've never even heard of, Well, why would you hire 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:16.640 them for your wedding if you never even heard them? 0:05:16.680 --> 0:05:18.599 There are bands that people like that they get to 0:05:18.600 --> 0:05:21.200 play their wedding. You're still a wedding band even if 0:05:21.200 --> 0:05:24.520 you're a famous band. What's a band that plays at 0:05:24.520 --> 0:05:28.000 a wedding? What's a well known band. Who's a well 0:05:28.040 --> 0:05:30.640 known band that plays at a wedding? Any band that's 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:35.120 hired by Saudi prince. Okay, okay, first of all, they 0:05:36.040 --> 0:05:40.440 take care of you. Back up, back up, Yeah, only 0:05:40.480 --> 0:05:45.120 a Saudi princess, Saudi prince money, Not just a Saudi prince. 0:05:46.200 --> 0:05:49.640 You're a regular money if you're a regular person, huh, 0:05:50.320 --> 0:05:53.480 with a regular budget. Okay, Not somebody who's living your 0:05:53.520 --> 0:05:57.320 life based off of fossil fuels okay, ground up dinosaurs 0:05:57.320 --> 0:06:00.960 and a gas tank. Okay, if you a regular human 0:06:01.000 --> 0:06:05.520 being on a regular wedding budget. What is a band 0:06:05.600 --> 0:06:09.039 that people would know that you can hire for your wedding? 0:06:09.560 --> 0:06:15.599 Any local band they enjoy, who enjoys a local No no, no, no, no, 0:06:15.600 --> 0:06:19.960 no no. People enjoy local things, I'm sure they do. 0:06:20.680 --> 0:06:22.680 That does not mean that everybody at my wedding is 0:06:22.720 --> 0:06:25.400 gonna know who they are or even care. But why 0:06:25.440 --> 0:06:27.159 is it important to know they are if they're good? 0:06:28.680 --> 0:06:32.400 But if they're it doesn't matter. There was didn't know 0:06:32.480 --> 0:06:35.640 who making the stallion was, but she was good. Now 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:38.599 everybody knows who she is, but everyone. But my question is, 0:06:38.600 --> 0:06:41.160 but stay before people knew who she was, then you're 0:06:41.240 --> 0:06:45.400 hiring a local rapper for your wedding. Everybody was local, 0:06:45.440 --> 0:06:47.359 Like I was a local comic before I got in 0:06:47.360 --> 0:06:50.039 this here television. You were a local comic before you 0:06:50.040 --> 0:06:53.560 got them at their television, you know. So I'm not 0:06:53.600 --> 0:06:55.800 saying that people don't hire local band. What I'm saying 0:06:55.880 --> 0:06:59.160 is that their repertoire. The reason I'm not a fan, 0:06:59.360 --> 0:07:04.760 mainly of the wedding band is that they don't know 0:07:05.040 --> 0:07:10.480 all the songs. They know their songs. And now, if 0:07:10.520 --> 0:07:12.400 I'm a fan of this band, but the people at 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:14.480 my wedding are a fan of this band, that means 0:07:14.480 --> 0:07:17.240 if my wedding, the guests of my wedding are subjected 0:07:17.280 --> 0:07:19.960 to the song of this band, that they have never 0:07:20.000 --> 0:07:27.080 heard of, right subjected to because because it's fine, they're 0:07:27.120 --> 0:07:32.360 able to enjoy whatever. A band only knows the songs 0:07:32.600 --> 0:07:34.400 are had plenty of friends and bands because I have 0:07:34.480 --> 0:07:39.960 a lot of white friends. They know their songs and 0:07:40.000 --> 0:07:44.800 then the songs they learned how to play. After that, 0:07:44.960 --> 0:07:49.280 there's no more songs. So depending on how long your 0:07:49.280 --> 0:07:53.679 reception is. So say they got ten songs, billy probably 0:07:53.720 --> 0:07:58.160 know about thirty songs. Right, They couldn't know more. They 0:07:58.200 --> 0:08:00.360 need to know more. If their a wedding band, they 0:08:00.400 --> 0:08:03.440 should no more. But there's certain things that they can't play. 0:08:03.760 --> 0:08:08.760 You go than the demographics, right, I can't. But I 0:08:08.840 --> 0:08:14.280 want to hear No Hands by Wacker Flocker. I don't 0:08:14.320 --> 0:08:16.120 know a band is gonna play that, And I don't 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:18.680 want to hear a band play that. Well, you don't 0:08:18.680 --> 0:08:20.160 know that. You don't want to hear a band play 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:22.040 no no, no no, no. There was that one white boy 0:08:22.080 --> 0:08:24.760 that was playing that was doing it in the acoustic 0:08:24.880 --> 0:08:26.960 version of it, to the point that Wacker Flocking took 0:08:26.960 --> 0:08:29.200 I'm on the road. I'm not saying that I don't. 0:08:29.240 --> 0:08:32.559 What I'm saying is is that the music that they 0:08:32.559 --> 0:08:36.880 imagine their catalog of music is limited because they can 0:08:37.000 --> 0:08:40.040 only play a certain amount of songs. But if you 0:08:40.120 --> 0:08:45.000 have a DJ, you have all of the music. So 0:08:45.200 --> 0:08:47.760 this is the thing. This is where I think DJs 0:08:47.800 --> 0:08:50.240 can fall short. There's two ways in which I think 0:08:50.320 --> 0:08:53.760 DJs really can hit rock bottom as far as the 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:57.520 reception goes. Not one of them, yeah, absolutely rock bott 0:08:57.960 --> 0:09:00.800 One of them is a DJ. Just like you're talking 0:09:00.840 --> 0:09:03.559 about wedding bands. A DJ has to have the right 0:09:03.679 --> 0:09:08.000 rhythm and they have to feel out the mood of 0:09:08.080 --> 0:09:11.600 the reception. Okay, that's a talent that not everybody has. 0:09:11.880 --> 0:09:14.360 A lot of people can make sure the songs don't skip. 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:16.240 A lot can A lot of people can make sure 0:09:16.240 --> 0:09:19.040 the songs don't skip, but some people don't know. It's like, 0:09:19.080 --> 0:09:23.520 all right, we just played this song. Maybe not this 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:26.560 song next, you know, No, that's because that goes out. Listen. 0:09:26.600 --> 0:09:30.360 As someone who has dated a lot of DJs, dated 0:09:30.400 --> 0:09:37.520 slapt with Tomato Tomato, I've done both. Right. A good DJ, yeah, Yeah, 0:09:37.760 --> 0:09:39.960 they're gonna be paying attention to the flow of the party. 0:09:40.040 --> 0:09:42.320 They're gonna be paying attention to beasts per minute. They're 0:09:42.320 --> 0:09:47.400 gonna know how to ample party up, going bring a 0:09:47.440 --> 0:09:49.000 party down and it's an end of the night. You 0:09:49.080 --> 0:09:50.920 see what I'm saying. Like I was at an event 0:09:51.080 --> 0:09:53.800 last night and the DJ and this is what the 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:56.440 number of DJs I have food in my life? Like, 0:09:56.520 --> 0:10:02.360 DJs to me are almost like journalists, right, there's no listen. 0:10:03.280 --> 0:10:05.480 Think about the number of times that you've been interviewed 0:10:05.520 --> 0:10:07.640 by somebody and been like, you didn't go to school, 0:10:09.440 --> 0:10:11.800 you're not trained in this. Like like when we were 0:10:11.840 --> 0:10:19.040 only dealing in newspaper and periodicals, you had to have 0:10:19.520 --> 0:10:26.439 just you know, schooling training and gunction all right, just 0:10:26.559 --> 0:10:30.080 being a real fucking nosy to become a journalist. Now 0:10:30.640 --> 0:10:35.920 anybody would internet connection in Google docs can call themselves 0:10:35.960 --> 0:10:38.600 a journalist. The number of times I have been in 0:10:38.600 --> 0:10:43.600 an interview and been like, ah, did you do any research? 0:10:44.360 --> 0:10:47.360 Did you any research? Like, it's the number of times 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:50.400 I've been an interview and I could tell someone does 0:10:50.520 --> 0:10:55.200 not know what they're doing. You want to be called 0:10:55.200 --> 0:10:57.800 a journalist more than you're trying to be a journalist. 0:10:58.160 --> 0:10:59.760 It's like when those comics that first started out that 0:10:59.840 --> 0:11:02.480 only want to hang out in the green room, like 0:11:02.480 --> 0:11:03.960 you've been doing stand up for three months, Get the 0:11:03.960 --> 0:11:05.800 hell out of the green room. You're not a comic. 0:11:05.840 --> 0:11:08.360 You're someone who's performed on Here's someone who's gotten on 0:11:08.400 --> 0:11:10.760 stage and said words, you're not a comic. So what 0:11:10.760 --> 0:11:12.960 I'm saying is, we've all seen shitty people try to 0:11:12.960 --> 0:11:17.040 do a thing. And this DJ last night they called 0:11:17.080 --> 0:11:20.720 I call them the anti crowd DJ, or they will 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:23.959 play you've had We've all experienced the anti crowd DJ. 0:11:26.120 --> 0:11:29.680 And this is someone who takes a popular song from whenever, 0:11:29.920 --> 0:11:32.600 from whatever. They'll play it long enough for you to 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:36.760 get excited about it, like, Okay, that's my soult and 0:11:36.800 --> 0:11:39.080 they I think they wait for somebody to go that's 0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:41.120 my soul, and they never get them. Let them get 0:11:41.160 --> 0:11:44.280 to the part where they say saw somebody like oh 0:11:44.760 --> 0:11:46.959 in between songs, yeah no, no, no, no. If you're 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:49.160 the person who's enjoying the song and you get ready 0:11:49.160 --> 0:11:52.320 to say, oh that's my song, this DJ is watching 0:11:52.360 --> 0:11:56.360 you and they're watching you go that's my and then 0:11:56.360 --> 0:11:59.680 they change it m and then they'll do it again 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:02.360 with it this ang and then change it and then 0:12:02.360 --> 0:12:04.520 they do it again another and then and then the 0:12:04.600 --> 0:12:06.680 song they let the play all the way out is 0:12:06.679 --> 0:12:11.400 a song that nobody is enjoying. I will tell you this. 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:15.480 That thing that you're describing right there, I think that 0:12:15.520 --> 0:12:19.240 comes from people who used to do radio and then 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:23.880 they started DJ because if you remember back in the 0:12:23.960 --> 0:12:27.800 day when we were kids and there wasn't this like 0:12:28.240 --> 0:12:33.840 um ultimate access to music, right, actually you can have 0:12:34.120 --> 0:12:37.480 was on the radio. Radio DJs would tease out the 0:12:37.960 --> 0:12:40.480 upcoming song like whatever new thing was about to drop, 0:12:40.760 --> 0:12:43.360 they play like fifteen seconds of it, and and it 0:12:43.360 --> 0:12:45.559 would be how they keep you listening to their show. 0:12:46.160 --> 0:12:48.319 They'd be like, oh, and stay tuned for the new 0:12:48.400 --> 0:12:51.200 drake and you know whatever, right, So that would just 0:12:51.240 --> 0:12:54.120 happen over and over and over again. Then finally they 0:12:54.200 --> 0:12:57.480 play no, no, I'm with you. But that's just where 0:12:57.520 --> 0:13:00.560 the person like learned that skill and so they're just 0:13:00.600 --> 0:13:03.400 carrying it over. But it's a it's a very weird thing. 0:13:03.440 --> 0:13:06.360 It's not conducive with parties. But that's also why I'm 0:13:06.400 --> 0:13:11.280 not defending radio DJs or wedding DJs. Well, but I 0:13:11.320 --> 0:13:15.920 feel like for that to come from that, eventually the 0:13:16.080 --> 0:13:20.480 radio DJ played the song m like allegally there was 0:13:20.520 --> 0:13:27.360 a payoff for them doing this. This is just hey, 0:13:27.600 --> 0:13:29.400 you know you know this, this you know this song, 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:33.320 you know this mego song? Did you really like? Mhmm? 0:13:34.400 --> 0:13:38.120 Here's fifteen seconds of you know why do you know? 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:41.480 Mama told me? And then it's gone. I'm like, but 0:13:41.600 --> 0:13:45.160 I love seventeen five. I want to do your some 0:13:45.360 --> 0:13:50.120 colored T shirt like it's I'm with you surely rude. 0:13:50.360 --> 0:13:53.439 So it's like those DJs are annoying. Um I called 0:13:53.440 --> 0:13:55.960 the antichrid. DJ is also the number of DJs that 0:13:56.000 --> 0:13:59.960 I have booed. Oh. I feel like you should show 0:14:00.040 --> 0:14:03.280 some wedding band because you're coming at DJs way harder 0:14:03.280 --> 0:14:06.240 than I am. What I'm saying is that DJ's have 0:14:06.440 --> 0:14:09.920 their ups and there their pros and their cons, but 0:14:10.000 --> 0:14:14.880 there's more prose to having a DJ because, like say, 0:14:14.960 --> 0:14:19.960 you have like my wedding, because we're speaking into existence 0:14:19.960 --> 0:14:22.520 that I'm going to have a wedding. Okay, okay, this 0:14:22.600 --> 0:14:24.960 is what we're trying to do. I'm trying to talk better. 0:14:25.320 --> 0:14:28.920 I'm trying to be less pessimistic but sometimes being you know, 0:14:29.000 --> 0:14:32.040 trying to because I always think the worst of a situation. 0:14:32.840 --> 0:14:36.160 So instead of being disappointed when it goes bad, I 0:14:36.200 --> 0:14:40.320 get to be surprised when it goes well. Now I 0:14:40.400 --> 0:14:41.880 kind of feel like that's not probably the best way 0:14:41.880 --> 0:14:46.280 to think. No, No, it's it's it's not conducive with 0:14:46.840 --> 0:14:50.000 getting and what you want and feeling how you want 0:14:50.040 --> 0:14:52.160 to feel, right, because usually I've just been a lot 0:14:52.200 --> 0:14:55.680 of time being disappointed and hoping that something will change it, right, 0:14:56.360 --> 0:14:59.760 as opposed to being optimistic and then being disappointed. But like, 0:15:00.640 --> 0:15:05.800 don't realize that. I hope it's hard. So I hope 0:15:05.840 --> 0:15:08.640 it's very hard. And I also think that you know, 0:15:09.360 --> 0:15:12.280 like this, I completely agree with what you're saying. Hope 0:15:12.280 --> 0:15:14.640 it's difficult, which is why I feel like you either 0:15:14.720 --> 0:15:18.160 take the hopeful route, or if you're really trying to 0:15:18.200 --> 0:15:20.440 get there, you're trying to manifest it, you go the 0:15:20.560 --> 0:15:24.240 grind route. Okay, you go ahead. No, I'm just saying, 0:15:24.320 --> 0:15:27.840 I'm just saying it's a possibility. I'm just saying. I'm 0:15:27.920 --> 0:15:30.560 just saying, you find a man this out here, doing 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:34.440 this thing, getting it, just getting the grind drilled into 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:37.040 his lifestyle, you know what I'm saying. So then when 0:15:37.080 --> 0:15:39.440 you meet him, he's like dout say, I want to 0:15:39.440 --> 0:15:41.040 I want to sit and chat with you, I want 0:15:41.040 --> 0:15:42.800 to be around you and everything, but I can't even 0:15:42.840 --> 0:15:45.240 I gotta go right now, because the grind is out there. 0:15:45.480 --> 0:15:48.400 All right. Here is home, but you can't stay home. 0:15:48.920 --> 0:15:51.720 Sometimes you got to grind it out, you know. Sometimes 0:15:51.760 --> 0:15:54.680 you gotta leave that person that you're with go grind. 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:56.520 But I just got him, And why is he leaving 0:15:56.520 --> 0:15:59.440 me to grind? A no, no, no, no no. The 0:15:59.480 --> 0:16:02.320 one of the reasons you like him, it's because he 0:16:02.360 --> 0:16:05.640 put the grind in. Okay, So then you're what is 0:16:05.680 --> 0:16:07.720 he gonna be done grinding? What is he gonna be ground? 0:16:08.920 --> 0:16:13.600 He'll be ground when he is completely and forever no 0:16:13.680 --> 0:16:16.920 longer broke, all right, But until he's there, don't you 0:16:16.960 --> 0:16:19.240 want to grinder? Or do you just want do you 0:16:19.280 --> 0:16:22.160 just want somebody who you have to spot for dinner? Okay, 0:16:22.200 --> 0:16:26.120 so let that grind. I'm also grinding, but we are 0:16:26.160 --> 0:16:30.960 grinding needs to stink up. Hey, Hey, I'm just telling 0:16:30.960 --> 0:16:35.320 you the way it is out there. I hope for 0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:38.200 you that the grinding sinks up. I hope you where 0:16:38.240 --> 0:16:41.000 you should go. He has to go, all right, but 0:16:41.120 --> 0:16:44.320 more than likely when you have to go, that may 0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:46.600 be his only time to rest. And he really shouldn't 0:16:46.680 --> 0:16:48.880 be resting. He should be out there grinding, all right. 0:16:49.280 --> 0:16:51.520 If you see him sleep and you wake him up, 0:16:51.760 --> 0:16:55.480 you tell him sleep is for the week. Listen. You 0:16:55.480 --> 0:16:58.720 know the scariest thing I've ever heard is I'll sleep 0:16:58.760 --> 0:17:01.800 what I'm dead. M hmm. I feel like that's one 0:17:01.840 --> 0:17:05.280 of the most toxic things that we have been taught 0:17:06.080 --> 0:17:10.520 as a society. That and um, he's only being mean 0:17:10.560 --> 0:17:13.840 to you because he likes you. Uh. There's so many 0:17:13.840 --> 0:17:17.760 girls that have been been very, very awful situations because 0:17:17.760 --> 0:17:21.320 of that phrase. Um. Yeah, because he might just be mean. 0:17:21.760 --> 0:17:24.040 He might just be mad. He might just be mad. 0:17:24.160 --> 0:17:28.040 And look, let me tell you right now, if he's 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:31.080 being mean, he's not grinding. If he's out here grinding, 0:17:31.119 --> 0:17:35.400 he doesn't have time to be mean. Okay, when you grinded, 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:38.119 you just have time to grind and to sleep and 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:40.959 to be a good man. I'm gonna sleep because I 0:17:41.040 --> 0:17:43.520 understand that being sleep he can make you cranky. And 0:17:43.560 --> 0:17:46.080 I don't want some sleep deprived man, because you know 0:17:46.119 --> 0:17:49.639 what happens with the man's grinding and sleep deprived, he 0:17:49.840 --> 0:17:52.359 dropping off that d like he should be okay, And 0:17:52.400 --> 0:17:54.520 at the end of the day, that's part of the 0:17:54.560 --> 0:17:57.600 grind too. Though part of the part of the grind, 0:17:58.119 --> 0:18:01.200 it is how can it not be all right, it's one. 0:18:01.280 --> 0:18:03.800 It's one of the main things. All we really need 0:18:03.840 --> 0:18:12.760 as humans is water, shelter, food, and the smash that's 0:18:12.760 --> 0:18:23.160 true is a synonym for what grinding. I cannot waste 0:18:23.200 --> 0:18:26.719 that this book comes out here. You're you are a terrist. 0:18:32.200 --> 0:18:34.560 So one day I'm gonna get married, and this is 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:38.119 the thing with the good DJ. Right. So I have 0:18:38.440 --> 0:18:44.080 friends and family of various ethnic backgrounds. Right, my wedding 0:18:44.160 --> 0:18:47.560 is going to have a very large amount my best friend, 0:18:47.600 --> 0:18:50.200 one of my good friends, like their families my family, 0:18:50.200 --> 0:18:51.920 and their mom is my mom, like and it's all 0:18:53.520 --> 0:18:55.160 like my family is gonna consist of like a very 0:18:55.160 --> 0:18:59.600 small group of black people. Yeah, and then I don't 0:18:59.600 --> 0:19:04.639 know out fifty of my Mexican family, right, m So 0:19:04.720 --> 0:19:09.600 the music at my wedding it's going to be very different, 0:19:09.600 --> 0:19:12.520 you see what I'm saying. So it's like I have 0:19:12.840 --> 0:19:15.800 down South stuff and then pop stuff and then wrap stuff, 0:19:16.160 --> 0:19:18.880 and then Latin music is going to be played. So 0:19:19.119 --> 0:19:22.040 I need a DJ because I'm want to be playing 0:19:22.440 --> 0:19:28.159 various genres of music from various errors, right, Like you 0:19:28.240 --> 0:19:30.520 might be playing that La Vaka song and then there's 0:19:30.600 --> 0:19:32.639 comma La Floor. You know what I'm saying, because I 0:19:32.680 --> 0:19:35.679 enjoyed both of those songs, but also there might be 0:19:35.720 --> 0:19:40.200 a bad thug time any song. And then gloriala Pimp. 0:19:41.840 --> 0:19:43.720 I love her, by the way, have you heard of her? 0:19:45.400 --> 0:19:48.399 She's great, she has a very she's from Memphis. She 0:19:48.440 --> 0:19:50.440 has a very deep voice. She's a tiny little thing. 0:19:50.840 --> 0:19:52.920 She's so adorable, but her voice is deep. But she 0:19:52.960 --> 0:19:54.679 has this song and a lot of the song was 0:19:54.720 --> 0:19:58.159 like he got ninety nine problems in the biggest wins 0:19:58.240 --> 0:20:00.600 knee and like you can just hear her small smiling 0:20:01.080 --> 0:20:05.040 and it makes me so happen because also it's like, 0:20:06.880 --> 0:20:12.359 I don't want to be the biggest problem, right, I 0:20:12.480 --> 0:20:22.000 want to be thirty seven of these problems. That's not true. 0:20:22.040 --> 0:20:23.680 I don't want to be any of his problems. I 0:20:23.720 --> 0:20:26.120 want to be in solutions. But if you can choose, 0:20:26.200 --> 0:20:27.920 because listen, I don't know, have you ever heard it 0:20:28.000 --> 0:20:34.240 song by Prince the Beautiful Ones? No, listen. Princes has 0:20:34.240 --> 0:20:37.399 a song called Beautiful Ones and the chorus is that 0:20:37.480 --> 0:20:40.119 the beautiful Ones will hurt you every time and just 0:20:40.160 --> 0:20:43.480 the thing I want. And I just hope that if 0:20:43.520 --> 0:20:45.640 my future husband is listening, then he finds the humor 0:20:45.920 --> 0:20:48.960 what I'm about to say. But for everyone listening, listen 0:20:49.000 --> 0:20:51.399 to the song, the beautiful ones and the thing about 0:20:51.440 --> 0:20:55.959 somebody who broke your heart. Don't you want them? Sitting 0:20:56.000 --> 0:21:00.720 in the dark listening to that song thinking about you. 0:21:00.720 --> 0:21:05.600 You don't want that for your life. You don't want 0:21:05.600 --> 0:21:08.679 that for yourself. You know what's abody? Just sit in 0:21:08.680 --> 0:21:13.440 the dark crying, going babite baby baby, Oh my god, 0:21:13.760 --> 0:21:21.560 so happy. I think I'm all right. The thing about 0:21:21.560 --> 0:21:27.680 a wedding band that bad because I feel like we've 0:21:27.720 --> 0:21:32.080 we've we've gone awry as usual. The thing with a 0:21:32.119 --> 0:21:35.840 wedding band that I will say, there is an energy 0:21:36.880 --> 0:21:40.959 in the room, but that can't be matched by just 0:21:41.119 --> 0:21:46.280 playing a song out in what energy. Every time I've 0:21:46.280 --> 0:21:48.400 been at a wedding with a band, I've been annoyed. 0:21:48.840 --> 0:21:51.840 And also any time I'm at a wedding with a band, 0:21:52.119 --> 0:21:55.520 it seems like that the band either didn't there. I've 0:21:55.520 --> 0:21:59.120 been to some nice white weddings with bands. There's never 0:21:59.160 --> 0:22:02.400 been the black wet with a band, but it's always 0:22:02.520 --> 0:22:06.840 first of all, once the swing music starts, I gotta go. 0:22:08.119 --> 0:22:10.560 Also a band start playing genres the music that I 0:22:10.560 --> 0:22:12.280 don't listen to I don't enjoy I don't know how 0:22:12.320 --> 0:22:15.760 to dance too so and they're always gonna play a 0:22:15.800 --> 0:22:21.119 chicken dance, which is fine, but like, I don't know 0:22:21.160 --> 0:22:23.440 what energy you're talking about. Any time I've ever been 0:22:23.440 --> 0:22:26.000 at a wedding with a band, so they start playing, 0:22:26.359 --> 0:22:30.080 how the people leave? So my band heads know what 0:22:30.119 --> 0:22:32.920 I'm talking about? Band heads? What are you talking about? 0:22:33.359 --> 0:22:36.000 The band heads hired a band for their wedding and 0:22:36.080 --> 0:22:38.760 what I'm talking about the people who play in bands 0:22:38.800 --> 0:22:40.560 for weddings that I'm talking about the people who have 0:22:40.600 --> 0:22:42.720 been to a wedding with a band that the band 0:22:42.800 --> 0:22:45.320 went off, No, exactly what I'm talking about. Gim an 0:22:45.320 --> 0:22:47.439 example of a band going off at a wedding. I 0:22:47.440 --> 0:22:51.240 have never enjoyed a band at a wedding ever. Just 0:22:51.280 --> 0:22:54.639 because you hate bands at weddings they're the worst, They're 0:22:54.680 --> 0:22:57.800 not the worst they are. DJs be the worst. I've 0:22:57.800 --> 0:23:01.160 had DJs be absolutely insane. We've all had off, We've 0:23:01.200 --> 0:23:03.120 all seen awful dj They've been a clubs a deep 0:23:03.200 --> 0:23:06.960 with bad DJs. I have booed DJs. I have recruited 0:23:07.000 --> 0:23:11.440 people to boo a DJ. Just okay, as all the 0:23:11.640 --> 0:23:15.520 bood of bad people don't realize booing is actually very 0:23:15.640 --> 0:23:23.639 cathartic and it's informative. You've never booed before. I'm not 0:23:23.640 --> 0:23:26.000 gonna say I've never booed. Actually, I'm just trying to 0:23:26.040 --> 0:23:29.360 make sure that you booed, because someone who's booed knows 0:23:29.560 --> 0:23:32.560 what I'm talking about. Would you rather boo one person 0:23:32.600 --> 0:23:36.080 playing bad music or boo a bunch of people who 0:23:36.080 --> 0:23:39.920 are trying to live their dream booing one motherfucker who 0:23:39.920 --> 0:23:43.359 didn't play the song you wanted. Fine, but booing a 0:23:43.400 --> 0:23:55.560 wedding band? What what? What? So? Look, I'm saying DJ 0:23:56.160 --> 0:23:59.639 is too accessible, all right, just like you said it is, 0:24:00.040 --> 0:24:03.520 iPod whatever. It's so accessible that some people that are 0:24:03.560 --> 0:24:06.200 both bad at checking the vibe of the room and 0:24:06.240 --> 0:24:08.840 being a DJ get to be DJ sometimes hired for 0:24:08.880 --> 0:24:12.760