WEBVTT - Can We Fall In Love Quickly, Please? 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:01.840 Can we fall in love quickly? Please? I have a 0:00:01.880 --> 0:00:03.520 two o'clock. It's one more thing. 0:00:05.440 --> 0:00:08.119 That's great thanking for before we get to this. And 0:00:08.160 --> 0:00:11.239 I know the podcast lives on forever and you might 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:13.119 be listening to this six years from now, but if 0:00:13.160 --> 0:00:17.640 you're listening to it anywhere near June the fifth, twenty 0:00:17.720 --> 0:00:22.520 twenty five, Elon just started shooting back at Trump on Twitter. 0:00:23.079 --> 0:00:24.840 We talked about it a lot on the radio show. 0:00:24.880 --> 0:00:27.440 We think by the end of by sunset today on 0:00:27.520 --> 0:00:30.520 June fifth, they will be taking personal shots at each 0:00:30.560 --> 0:00:33.040 other as two of the most powerful people on earth 0:00:33.280 --> 0:00:34.600 that you can't imagine. 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:37.440 I say it happens while I'm still picking my lunch 0:00:37.479 --> 0:00:40.839 out of my teeth. It's not gonna be till sunset. Holy. 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:43.839 Elon just said Trump would not have won without me. 0:00:44.560 --> 0:00:47.840 That's gonna piss Trump off. That's gonna really get under 0:00:47.840 --> 0:00:48.200 his skin. 0:00:48.800 --> 0:00:51.640 Oh boy, all right, Moron, that's come on the live 0:00:51.760 --> 0:00:54.760 radio show tomorrow. If you're listening today, If you're listening tomorrow, 0:00:54.800 --> 0:00:57.080 it was yesterday. If you're listening three days from now, 0:00:57.240 --> 0:00:58.040 it was a week from two. 0:00:58.720 --> 0:01:00.960 If you're listening in four years, how is AI working 0:01:00.960 --> 0:01:03.800 out of any robots drained your blood or anything. 0:01:05.120 --> 0:01:08.280 Eating your liver straight out of your belly. All right, 0:01:08.360 --> 0:01:11.640 a moment to center ourself. Now, Oh, there we go. 0:01:11.959 --> 0:01:14.880 So I'm reading my reams and reams of media the 0:01:14.959 --> 0:01:17.200 other day and I came across what was a follow 0:01:17.319 --> 0:01:22.600 up article on a woman who writes a well loved 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:26.800 column about love, and it was a ten year follow 0:01:26.920 --> 0:01:33.400 up on her relationship with her man, which began with 0:01:33.800 --> 0:01:38.039 an essay from well, it's a study, an essay a 0:01:38.080 --> 0:01:43.319 thing of a jigger from a psychologist about whether intimacy 0:01:43.400 --> 0:01:47.520 between two strangers can be accelerated, how you can go 0:01:47.600 --> 0:01:52.800 through a process and be in love or damn close 0:01:52.840 --> 0:01:56.360 to it at the end of the very very brief process. 0:01:56.240 --> 0:01:58.360 So that you can get to the divorce by dinner 0:01:58.400 --> 0:01:58.960 time or what? 0:01:59.120 --> 0:02:03.000 Wow, I don't you're in a hurry. I don't know exactly, 0:02:03.080 --> 0:02:08.360 although before you get to your harsh and idiotic judgments something. Now, 0:02:08.400 --> 0:02:12.760 I sound like trumpet elon, don't I let me explain 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:16.200 what's going on here? And I guess this made a 0:02:16.240 --> 0:02:19.800 bit of noise around ten years ago. I either missed 0:02:19.840 --> 0:02:27.520 it or have forgotten about it. Thirty six questions, broken 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:32.680 up into three sets you go through with that person, 0:02:33.560 --> 0:02:37.840 and then you stare into each other's eyes for four minutes. 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:41.520 Now some people say two minutes is enough, some people 0:02:41.560 --> 0:02:44.440 say it really takes four minutes. So you go through 0:02:44.480 --> 0:02:48.400 these thirty six questions which I will absolutely read you, 0:02:49.040 --> 0:02:51.359 and then you stare into each other's eyes, and by 0:02:51.400 --> 0:02:55.800 the end of it, if there is love to be 0:02:55.880 --> 0:03:01.520 found there, you'll have found it. The idea being I 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:02.919 can explain it to you, but go ahead. 0:03:03.360 --> 0:03:05.760 So I've thought this many times in my life before 0:03:05.800 --> 0:03:08.720 we even had this discussion. I look back over people 0:03:08.720 --> 0:03:12.160 that I ended up in relationships with, and you know, 0:03:12.360 --> 0:03:14.880 the feeling that we generally call love, although what what 0:03:14.880 --> 0:03:16.840 it love is, it gets very very complicated. I mean, 0:03:16.880 --> 0:03:22.280 the long lasting dedication to supporting someone blah blah blah 0:03:22.400 --> 0:03:26.359 versus the you know, butterflies in your stomach la la lalla, 0:03:26.440 --> 0:03:30.960 but not to mention the hats, uh yeah, but the 0:03:30.960 --> 0:03:35.280 the closely related to the butterflies, the butterflies thing of mine. 0:03:35.600 --> 0:03:38.400 In every instance it's happened to me in my life. 0:03:38.920 --> 0:03:43.440 I can remember the moment that our eyes locked for 0:03:43.520 --> 0:03:47.360 however long, and that's when the magic happens. Of nobody 0:03:47.360 --> 0:03:51.760 actually understands if it's pheromones, or we read each other's 0:03:52.440 --> 0:03:57.080 genome and realize we could have healthy kids together, or 0:03:57.400 --> 0:04:00.120 what the hell goes on there? But I got I 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:03.680 remember the moment for every situation, and that's when it happened. 0:04:04.000 --> 0:04:07.280 So I can absolutely believe that if you went through 0:04:07.320 --> 0:04:10.000 a room like a big group of people and y'all 0:04:10.040 --> 0:04:12.280 both star at each other's for a certain percentage, I 0:04:12.280 --> 0:04:14.480 don't know what percentage you it would happen. 0:04:14.880 --> 0:04:16.720 Well, and feel free to jump in whenever you want, 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:19.000 Katie or Michael or home you know, either one. But 0:04:20.279 --> 0:04:22.720 that it's funny I got. I got like an electric 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:25.880 charge through me when you describe that we met eyes 0:04:26.120 --> 0:04:30.480 and moment, and nobody has to fill out what happens 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:34.080 after the end. Everybody who's ever fallen in love knows it, 0:04:34.240 --> 0:04:39.400 and it can be an extremely brief yeah, locking of eyes. 0:04:39.839 --> 0:04:42.640 Yeah, That's that's why I've always thought, if you get 0:04:42.680 --> 0:04:46.000 turned down, you got to just realize that whatever whatever 0:04:46.040 --> 0:04:48.800 this magic was, wasn't there. You don't have to take 0:04:48.800 --> 0:04:49.360 it personally. 0:04:50.240 --> 0:04:52.560 It's not a rejection of your qualities as a human being. 0:04:52.600 --> 0:04:54.279 It feels like it is, and I always thought it 0:04:54.360 --> 0:04:58.520 was but no, it's it's funny. I had this this 0:04:58.640 --> 0:05:01.719 experience years ago of I was walking through an airport 0:05:02.360 --> 0:05:04.240 and there are all sorts of human beings. There are 0:05:04.279 --> 0:05:06.720 some of the best people watching on earth, including you know, 0:05:06.760 --> 0:05:10.360 attractive females, and I am a flaming heterosexual though faithfully married, 0:05:10.760 --> 0:05:14.240 and I passed one woman and my brain about exploded. 0:05:14.600 --> 0:05:15.640 Wow, that's interesting. 0:05:15.680 --> 0:05:20.479 She was my type. And you know, it's probably not 0:05:20.560 --> 0:05:23.520 an insane to state that she looked a fair amount 0:05:23.560 --> 0:05:25.720 like my wife did when she was young and we 0:05:25.880 --> 0:05:28.800 got together, but it was it was striking. It was 0:05:28.839 --> 0:05:31.680 like she's good looking, she's kind of hot, ha ha. 0:05:33.360 --> 0:05:36.400 It was. It was crazy, and so I thought, wow, 0:05:36.480 --> 0:05:40.360 there is something going on there, whether it's Freudian biochemical 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:43.600 as you're suggesting, or whatever that either is or it isn't. 0:05:43.640 --> 0:05:45.719 I believe we read each other's genomes with our with 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:48.840 our minds. But yes, Michael Show, did your mouth I 0:05:48.880 --> 0:05:50.440 love you too? Well? 0:05:50.600 --> 0:05:52.400 No, I said it. I grabbed her in both my 0:05:52.560 --> 0:05:55.240 arms and gave her a long kid. You're like the 0:05:55.320 --> 0:05:58.200 sailor with the nurse after World War two exactly. And 0:05:58.240 --> 0:06:04.080 when the cops stopped beating me anyway, all right, So 0:06:04.120 --> 0:06:13.360 here's the stuff. I love you, that's us So all right, 0:06:13.520 --> 0:06:17.880 here's the story this. Psychologist Arthur Aaron and others were 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:21.960 exploring whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by 0:06:22.000 --> 0:06:25.120 having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. 0:06:25.520 --> 0:06:27.680 The thirty six questions in the study are broken up 0:06:27.720 --> 0:06:30.359 into three sets, each, with each set intended to be 0:06:30.400 --> 0:06:33.720 more probing than the previous one. The idea is that 0:06:33.880 --> 0:06:39.200 mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. To quote the studies authors quote, 0:06:39.600 --> 0:06:43.320 one key pattern associating with the development of close relationship 0:06:43.360 --> 0:06:50.680 among peers is sustained, escalating reciprocal personal self disclosure. Allowing 0:06:50.720 --> 0:06:54.599 oneself to be vulnerable with another person can be exceedingly difficult, 0:06:54.839 --> 0:06:59.599 so this exercise forces the issue. Now, I can't remember, Jacket, 0:06:59.640 --> 0:07:01.280 may have been during the radio show when we were 0:07:01.279 --> 0:07:06.240 talking about doing this. You asked, is accelerating it necessarily 0:07:06.320 --> 0:07:07.840 a good idea? Well, what you are? 0:07:07.839 --> 0:07:10.320 Would you want to? Or is the drawn out process 0:07:10.320 --> 0:07:12.600 of it happening at the pace it currently happens? Is 0:07:12.600 --> 0:07:15.160 like the greatest thing in the world is do. 0:07:15.160 --> 0:07:18.520 You earn your way in? Is the way I'd put it. 0:07:18.560 --> 0:07:21.040 So like here's how to skip over having to eat 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:24.840 Thanksgiving dinner. It takes too long to enjoy those flavors. 0:07:24.840 --> 0:07:26.800 Here you can enjoy all the flavors immediately in like 0:07:26.840 --> 0:07:27.920 two seconds. 0:07:27.680 --> 0:07:31.960 In a pill. I don't want to well, right, and again, 0:07:33.120 --> 0:07:37.200 it could be argued that the time spent working your 0:07:37.240 --> 0:07:39.680 way from set one to set two in real life, 0:07:39.880 --> 0:07:42.760 that's an application process. Like I said, you've got to 0:07:42.760 --> 0:07:43.760 earn your way in. 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:46.360 Maybe your heart would explode if you fell in love 0:07:46.400 --> 0:07:47.320 instantly alta. 0:07:47.640 --> 0:07:50.360 Well as opposed to all right, let's move on to 0:07:50.360 --> 0:07:57.640 a higher level of intimacy. Ready, here we go, I mean, anyway, 0:07:57.720 --> 0:08:00.960 it's an interesting theory. And the one you're done, you 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:04.400 stare into each other's eyes for four minutes set number one. 0:08:04.440 --> 0:08:05.320 Let's go through the question. 0:08:05.360 --> 0:08:09.680 You can't stare into someone someone's eyes. You can pick 0:08:09.720 --> 0:08:13.360 an eye and stare into it, thank you, And it's 0:08:13.360 --> 0:08:14.200 always bothered me. 0:08:14.600 --> 0:08:16.720 Yes, Mike, if I feel like we're losing the thread here, 0:08:16.800 --> 0:08:18.800 you pick an eye and you stare into that eye, 0:08:18.840 --> 0:08:20.680 and maybe they're staring into the same eye as you, 0:08:21.040 --> 0:08:23.240 or you're staring into two different eyes, or you alter 0:08:23.520 --> 0:08:25.120 their left and they're staring into your right, so you 0:08:25.120 --> 0:08:28.080 aren't really even looking at each other. Wow. And what 0:08:28.120 --> 0:08:29.880 if you're like me and you have the crazy eyes 0:08:30.400 --> 0:08:35.680 exactly right? Got them real tor eyes? Yeah, that's that's funny. 0:08:35.720 --> 0:08:38.440 It's neurological truth. Thank you Jack. Here we go now, 0:08:38.640 --> 0:08:44.880 set number one. This definitely starts with ice breaking party 0:08:44.960 --> 0:08:47.440 game and moves on from there. Here's your first set 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:52.080 of twelve twelve questions. I think it is twelve. Yeah. Uh. One, 0:08:52.120 --> 0:08:54.160 given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would 0:08:54.160 --> 0:08:58.480 you want to as a dinner guest? Just stop me 0:08:58.480 --> 0:09:00.080 if you want me to stop, we can discuss the 0:09:00.080 --> 0:09:03.160 the greater length animal after two? Would you like to 0:09:03.200 --> 0:09:09.760 be famous? In what way? I would? Well? Yeah, answer 0:09:11.760 --> 0:09:15.199 if we If we answer all of these Number one, 0:09:15.200 --> 0:09:17.280 it's going to be really time consuming. Number two, we'll 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:19.160 all be in love with each other and that would 0:09:19.200 --> 0:09:22.080 make it super weird to do the show a trumple 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:25.319 or quadruple or whatever. Yeah, good lord, it was right? 0:09:25.360 --> 0:09:26.160 All right? Here we go. 0:09:26.640 --> 0:09:26.880 Uh. 0:09:26.920 --> 0:09:29.520 Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what 0:09:29.559 --> 0:09:34.040 you're going to say? Why this is? I tell you what? 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:35.960 As you work your way because I've read all these 0:09:37.840 --> 0:09:40.400 as I work my way through them. I definitely felt 0:09:40.559 --> 0:09:43.760 a I would feel really close to this person? 0:09:43.920 --> 0:09:46.280 Is this yeah? I don't want to get off track. 0:09:46.280 --> 0:09:48.319 Here is the assumption that if you answer the same 0:09:48.520 --> 0:09:52.800 you are a better fit or is it just not 0:09:52.880 --> 0:09:55.280 at all? Okay, it's just the having the conversation is 0:09:55.320 --> 0:09:57.120 a way to find out about. 0:09:56.880 --> 0:09:59.079 Each other, you know. As I said in the UH 0:09:59.120 --> 0:10:06.520 and the introduction, it's all about escalating vulnerability and trust reciprocal. 0:10:07.440 --> 0:10:14.360 Where is that phrase, escalating reciprocal personal self disclosure? Okay? 0:10:14.360 --> 0:10:17.800 Where were we? What would constitute the perfect day for you? 0:10:19.559 --> 0:10:23.120 What did you last sing to yourself or to someone else? 0:10:24.600 --> 0:10:26.319 I sing to myself every single day. 0:10:27.080 --> 0:10:30.680 Every day, although this shows ruined my throat. Six. If 0:10:30.720 --> 0:10:32.440 you were able to live to the age of ninety 0:10:32.520 --> 0:10:35.000 and retain either the mind or body of a thirty 0:10:35.040 --> 0:10:37.480 year old for the last sixty years of your life, 0:10:37.720 --> 0:10:38.600 which would you want? 0:10:39.240 --> 0:10:43.640 That's an obvious one to me. Without the brain, what 0:10:43.679 --> 0:10:44.720 the hell's the point? 0:10:45.000 --> 0:10:48.360 I'd be handsome as hell. What's the point of being 0:10:48.360 --> 0:10:49.120 some brainiac? 0:10:49.200 --> 0:10:52.720 You're old and wandering around the neighborhood. No, your brain's fine. 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:56.520 Seven? No, do you have a secret hunch how you 0:10:56.559 --> 0:11:01.959 will die? A Name three things you and your partner 0:11:02.000 --> 0:11:04.880 appear to have in common. Your partner being the person 0:11:04.960 --> 0:11:05.800 that you're doing this with. 0:11:06.120 --> 0:11:16.679 That last one clearly h ob halo bullets. 0:11:13.200 --> 0:11:20.640 Terminal syphilis because I play around a lot. Oh my gosh, horror. 0:11:21.120 --> 0:11:24.600 That is great pleasure in life. I can't give up. 0:11:24.960 --> 0:11:28.120 So yeah, yep, dad from syphilis. All right, Moving on 0:11:28.240 --> 0:11:34.199 to question eight, I'll say fireworks accident. All right, Name 0:11:34.280 --> 0:11:36.480 three things you and your partner appear to have in common. 0:11:36.679 --> 0:11:40.000 That's that's a good little bonding one. Eight. What in 0:11:40.040 --> 0:11:42.719 your life do you for? What in your life do 0:11:42.760 --> 0:11:48.120 you feel most grateful? Ten? If you could change anything 0:11:48.160 --> 0:11:50.320 about the way you were raised, what would it be? 0:11:50.520 --> 0:11:51.600 Oh that's a good one. 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:55.160 Oh and that is getting a little more deeply into 0:11:55.240 --> 0:11:59.600 who I am. You are? And yeah, take number eleven. 0:11:59.600 --> 0:12:02.280 Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story 0:12:02.400 --> 0:12:04.240 in as much detail as possible. 0:12:04.559 --> 0:12:07.920 Take how many minutes? Four minutes, as much as the 0:12:08.160 --> 0:12:09.560 period of time four minutes? 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:13.240 Okay, yeah. Uh. If you could wake up tomorrow having 0:12:13.280 --> 0:12:17.520 gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? Oh? Boy, 0:12:18.200 --> 0:12:21.120 there we go. Uh huh. Here's where the guy says 0:12:21.160 --> 0:12:25.360 something stupid and the woman rolls her eyes, but then realizes, 0:12:25.559 --> 0:12:28.840 now he's a dope boy, but I kind of like him, 0:12:29.320 --> 0:12:34.640 which you know, honestly, I can think of several instances 0:12:34.720 --> 0:12:37.560 in a couple of relationships, particularly with the Lovely Judith, 0:12:38.200 --> 0:12:44.600 where the vibe was, I've been an idiot and I 0:12:44.640 --> 0:12:49.240 screwed up, but you're forgiving me and laughing along with me. 0:12:49.840 --> 0:12:50.960 That's that's a step. 0:12:51.160 --> 0:12:52.520 Oh huge, that's huge. 0:12:52.600 --> 0:12:56.600 Yeah, ron to set too. Does anybody need to have 0:12:56.600 --> 0:12:58.720 a good cry or wipe their nose. 0:13:00.160 --> 0:13:02.319 Can kind of screwed me up a little, to tighten. 0:13:02.040 --> 0:13:06.000 Their pelt or anything? All right, on set too. So 0:13:06.080 --> 0:13:08.520 this question thirteen, if a crystal ball could tell you 0:13:08.559 --> 0:13:11.600 the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, 0:13:11.600 --> 0:13:12.480 what would you want to know? 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:16.400 That's a tough one. 0:13:16.520 --> 0:13:22.240 Yeah, yeah, huh. 0:13:22.280 --> 0:13:25.000 Who's going to win Super Bowl fifty seven? 0:13:27.720 --> 0:13:30.400 All right? Next question? Is there something that you've dreamed 0:13:30.400 --> 0:13:33.360 of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it? 0:13:35.440 --> 0:13:38.960 That's a good one. Again, you're gonna have to admit, 0:13:40.960 --> 0:13:43.200 so say what I'm going to do too much and. 0:13:43.360 --> 0:13:46.760 Start on it too little laziness, fear, whatever it would be, 0:13:46.800 --> 0:13:48.800 whatever it would be, it wouldn't be an attractive quality. 0:13:48.960 --> 0:13:50.439 So that's a good question for that reason. 0:13:51.040 --> 0:13:55.160 Yeah, yeah, escalating levels vulnerability. Here we go. Fifteen, what 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:58.720 is the greatest accomplishment of your life? What do you 0:13:58.840 --> 0:14:00.440 value most in a friend ship? 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:03.320 Fourth of July, couple of years ago. I ate seven 0:14:03.320 --> 0:14:04.480 hot dogs in one sitting. 0:14:05.040 --> 0:14:09.280 Why impressive? That is great? Moving along to the friendship thing. 0:14:11.320 --> 0:14:15.160 Then seventeen is what is your most treasured memory? And 0:14:15.200 --> 0:14:17.680 then eighteen what is your most terrible memory? 0:14:17.800 --> 0:14:20.600 Oh? My god, fuck, I don't even know if I 0:14:20.640 --> 0:14:22.360 want to think about that, but I could see why 0:14:22.360 --> 0:14:24.000 it would be a valuable conversation. 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:29.000 Yeah, no kidding. Nineteen options if a skip? No, no, 0:14:29.080 --> 0:14:32.280 absolutely not. You can't skip. I'm rejecting you for even 0:14:32.280 --> 0:14:35.400 suggesting it. Next, let's get started with question one. Here 0:14:35.440 --> 0:14:37.440 we go, Let's say nineteen if you knew that in 0:14:37.480 --> 0:14:40.560 one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything 0:14:40.560 --> 0:14:42.360 about the way you are living now? 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:44.400 Why these are good? 0:14:44.840 --> 0:14:47.240 Yeah? Yeah? And the way they kind of go up 0:14:47.280 --> 0:14:49.400 and down in intensity I think is super small. You 0:14:49.440 --> 0:14:51.480 got to send me this list, Oh I will, I 0:14:51.480 --> 0:14:52.080 absolutely will. 0:14:52.120 --> 0:14:54.240 I want to use it, and we'll post this whole. 0:14:54.160 --> 0:14:58.320 Thing at Armstrong and geddy dot com. There it is 0:14:58.360 --> 0:15:02.960 twenty What does friendship mean to you? Twenty one? What 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:05.960 roles do love and affection play in your life? 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:08.040 I'm always a question behind. They would help me bury 0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:11.920 your body, they would bail me out, Yeah exactly. 0:15:13.160 --> 0:15:16.600 Uh yeah, you know that's I've heard that said before. 0:15:16.640 --> 0:15:18.480 They'd show up to bill you out without asking what 0:15:18.520 --> 0:15:22.840 you did. Oh, that's a good goal, right, kil three hobos. 0:15:22.840 --> 0:15:26.840 Thanks for dropping boy, I need a ride home. Let's 0:15:26.920 --> 0:15:31.520 see it too. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive 0:15:31.640 --> 0:15:35.880 characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items. 0:15:36.400 --> 0:15:40.280 You go back and forth. Here's this is an interesting 0:15:40.360 --> 0:15:46.400 transition because this is not revealing yourself exactly. This is 0:15:46.640 --> 0:15:48.200 saying I really. 0:15:48.000 --> 0:15:50.480 Like you something positive about them, and you don't know 0:15:50.560 --> 0:15:53.160 them very well, though you might. 0:15:54.880 --> 0:15:57.760 I mean, this is not a speed dating thing. This 0:15:57.880 --> 0:15:59.520 is you have an interest in each other. 0:16:01.160 --> 0:16:03.520 When do we stare into each other's eye at the 0:16:03.800 --> 0:16:06.480 end of it, I'm gonna stare into your eye. Hold still, 0:16:06.880 --> 0:16:11.560 We're almost done. I tell you what you fixated on 0:16:11.600 --> 0:16:11.880 that whole? 0:16:11.960 --> 0:16:14.080 You know, it's actually impossible to stare into both Some 0:16:14.320 --> 0:16:17.080 say we don't move on from that. We're done? Yeah, 0:16:17.160 --> 0:16:20.480 right for real, next for starting to question one again, 0:16:20.600 --> 0:16:23.640 come on in here for almost for almost done with 0:16:23.720 --> 0:16:27.600 section two. This is twenty three How close and warm 0:16:27.760 --> 0:16:30.920 is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier 0:16:30.960 --> 0:16:34.760 than most other people? And then twenty four how do 0:16:34.800 --> 0:16:39.960 you feel about your relationship with your mother? And then 0:16:40.000 --> 0:16:42.920 I guess you take a break, or you take a 0:16:42.960 --> 0:16:44.680 shower or something, to do five push ups and you 0:16:44.720 --> 0:16:47.480 come back for set number three. You thought the first 0:16:47.480 --> 0:16:48.360 two sets, Oh my. 0:16:48.280 --> 0:16:49.920 God, there's more. This is exhausting. 0:16:50.200 --> 0:16:53.240 Yeah, I know it is all right, Katie. 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:55.920 No I'm not. This is a lot. 0:16:56.520 --> 0:16:58.840 Yeah. Yeah, Well you're a woman. 0:16:58.920 --> 0:17:00.640 You better drive a nice car if you expect her 0:17:00.680 --> 0:17:01.920 to stick around for round three. 0:17:02.520 --> 0:17:07.920 Oh oh too shallow to swimming. Here we go, Set three, 0:17:09.840 --> 0:17:12.320 make it set this is number twenty five. Make three 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:16.080 true quote we statements. For instance, we are both in 0:17:16.160 --> 0:17:21.240 this room feeling something twenty six Complete this sentence. I 0:17:21.280 --> 0:17:24.879 wish I had someone with whom I could share like. 0:17:27.440 --> 0:17:32.000 A popsicle this samewich, that's right to pizza. 0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:33.600 I'm really hungry. 0:17:35.600 --> 0:17:38.040 Twenty seven if you were to I was thinking about 0:17:38.040 --> 0:17:41.640 that the other day. A walk around the block when 0:17:41.640 --> 0:17:43.560 I go for a walk at night. I thought that'd 0:17:43.600 --> 0:17:46.080 be a good one. I see other people walking with someone, 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:47.399 and I think that would be nice. 0:17:47.840 --> 0:17:50.560 You know, Judy and I walk the dog together every morning, 0:17:51.240 --> 0:17:54.119 and sometimes one of us will sleep in for whatever 0:17:54.160 --> 0:17:56.440 reason or have like an early morning appointment or something 0:17:56.480 --> 0:17:59.959 like that, and if we miss it, I hate it, 0:18:00.280 --> 0:18:00.760 just hate it. 0:18:01.280 --> 0:18:03.399 My mom and dad walked together every night. She's for 0:18:03.520 --> 0:18:04.879 decades and decades and decades. 0:18:05.480 --> 0:18:09.160 That's a beautiful thing. Uh So, there you go. That's 0:18:09.200 --> 0:18:11.480 the sort of answer that you would share with somebody 0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:15.520 and it'd be like wow, anyway. Twenty that was really 0:18:15.520 --> 0:18:17.680 well put, Joe, You do this for a living. Twenty seven. 0:18:18.119 --> 0:18:20.000 If you were going to become a close friend with 0:18:20.040 --> 0:18:22.440 your partner, please share what would be important for him 0:18:22.520 --> 0:18:29.399 or her to know about you. I drink a lot, 0:18:31.000 --> 0:18:33.000 and when people tell me I drink too much, that 0:18:33.160 --> 0:18:39.400 makes me drink more. So don't bother. Twenty eight. Tell 0:18:39.440 --> 0:18:42.320 your partner what you like about them. Be very honest 0:18:42.359 --> 0:18:45.159 this time, saying things that you might not say to 0:18:45.200 --> 0:18:48.320 someone you've just met. Wow, so we're going back for 0:18:48.440 --> 0:18:52.359 round two of this. But this is not a cocktail party. 0:18:52.359 --> 0:18:55.719 Be real. Twenty nine Share with your partner, an embarrassing 0:18:55.720 --> 0:18:59.960 moment in your life more vulnerability obviously thirty When did 0:18:59.960 --> 0:19:03.360 you last cry in front of another person? When did 0:19:03.359 --> 0:19:08.760 you let last cry by yourself? Thirty one Tell your 0:19:08.760 --> 0:19:11.920 partner something that you like about them already so we're 0:19:11.960 --> 0:19:14.879 back to that again so soon? Thirty two What if 0:19:14.920 --> 0:19:18.480 anything is too serious to be joked about? Boy? 0:19:18.640 --> 0:19:19.840 I don't know if there is a topic for me 0:19:20.000 --> 0:19:21.800 hardly but short. 0:19:21.440 --> 0:19:27.160 List no doubt? Yeah. Uh. Thirty three If you were 0:19:27.200 --> 0:19:30.760 to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, 0:19:31.040 --> 0:19:34.119 what would you most regret not having told someone? 0:19:35.800 --> 0:19:36.040 Wow? 0:19:36.200 --> 0:19:39.440 And why haven't you told them yet? Wow? I think 0:19:39.480 --> 0:19:47.520 we're all gonna need a minute. Wow gitting for clemped? Yeah? Yeah, Okay. 0:19:47.680 --> 0:19:50.160 Now when the two of you are both done crying, 0:19:50.280 --> 0:19:55.800 you can continue with number thirty four. Your house containing 0:19:55.880 --> 0:19:58.880 everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones 0:19:58.920 --> 0:20:00.439 and pets, you have time to say, if we make 0:20:00.440 --> 0:20:03.280 a final dash to save any one item, what would 0:20:03.320 --> 0:20:08.080 it be and why it wouldn't be my fire extinguisher 0:20:08.080 --> 0:20:09.280 because it didn't do me any good. 0:20:09.320 --> 0:20:14.000 I assume you're not thinking about like your tax files 0:20:14.119 --> 0:20:17.240 or birth certificates or something, or are you. 0:20:18.080 --> 0:20:20.879 You answer however you want? You're telling me how to answer. 0:20:20.960 --> 0:20:24.560 You're too oppressive. Next, let's start again with question one. 0:20:24.680 --> 0:20:28.000 He's telling me how to answer the questions. 0:20:28.720 --> 0:20:30.680 There'll probably be paperwork actually. 0:20:31.960 --> 0:20:32.360 Boring. 0:20:32.720 --> 0:20:34.600 Yeah, I know, but there's some things it would be 0:20:34.720 --> 0:20:37.600 really really really really difficult to lose. 0:20:38.119 --> 0:20:43.080 The classic answer wedding photos, family pictures, a lot of 0:20:43.080 --> 0:20:43.919 them are on the cloud. 0:20:44.000 --> 0:20:47.320 Now yeah, yeah, wow. 0:20:49.960 --> 0:20:52.399 Well, you know what's interesting about this question is you 0:20:52.400 --> 0:20:55.400 can sit here and think about it, whereas the very 0:20:55.680 --> 0:20:58.240 structure of the question implies you would have no time 0:20:58.280 --> 0:21:02.840 to think about it. Wow. I don't even know the 0:21:02.960 --> 0:21:06.760 answer to that question. It's like, it's a really interesting 0:21:06.840 --> 0:21:09.440 question and worth the discussion in this context. But that's 0:21:09.480 --> 0:21:11.600 like one of those you know, how would you react 0:21:11.600 --> 0:21:12.879 if someone pulled a gun on you? 0:21:12.960 --> 0:21:16.120 Yeah? Well, the problem with this is, uh, a lot 0:21:16.119 --> 0:21:18.159 of the answers could sound really shallow. I mean, if 0:21:18.200 --> 0:21:20.239 I've got my loved ones out and everything like that, 0:21:20.280 --> 0:21:22.679 and like if all important paperwork is in a safe, 0:21:22.680 --> 0:21:25.200 which in my case it is, which bright survived the fire, 0:21:25.560 --> 0:21:28.840 and then it's probably gonna be something kind of material. 0:21:29.280 --> 0:21:33.600 I'm afraid I PlayStation five. Yeah, something like that. I 0:21:33.640 --> 0:21:35.639 got a couple of guitars I'd hate to see burned up. 0:21:36.000 --> 0:21:40.520 I was gonna say, I might grab my telecaster. It's 0:21:40.600 --> 0:21:44.320 it's it's a totem of some of the best times 0:21:44.359 --> 0:21:47.439 I've ever had. It was in my hand while I 0:21:47.560 --> 0:21:50.960 was doing some of the things I've loved the most. Anyway, Uh, 0:21:51.520 --> 0:21:53.760 but you know it's again, it's not it's not like 0:21:53.760 --> 0:21:55.080 there's a right or wrong answer. 0:21:55.119 --> 0:21:57.760 So there's a wrong answer. I'm sorry, that's the wrong answer. 0:21:57.960 --> 0:22:02.040 Right my collection of iguana hide. I mean, the point 0:22:02.119 --> 0:22:05.440 is that you're being intimate anyway. Moving along, second, last one, 0:22:05.480 --> 0:22:08.200 thirty five of all the people in your family, whose 0:22:08.280 --> 0:22:12.640 death would you find most disturbing? My god, what kind 0:22:12.680 --> 0:22:15.919