1 00:00:00,040 --> 00:00:01,840 Speaker 1: Can we fall in love quickly? Please? I have a 2 00:00:01,880 --> 00:00:03,520 Speaker 1: two o'clock. It's one more thing. 3 00:00:05,440 --> 00:00:08,119 Speaker 2: That's great thanking for before we get to this. And 4 00:00:08,160 --> 00:00:11,239 Speaker 2: I know the podcast lives on forever and you might 5 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:13,119 Speaker 2: be listening to this six years from now, but if 6 00:00:13,160 --> 00:00:17,640 Speaker 2: you're listening to it anywhere near June the fifth, twenty 7 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:22,520 Speaker 2: twenty five, Elon just started shooting back at Trump on Twitter. 8 00:00:23,079 --> 00:00:24,840 Speaker 2: We talked about it a lot on the radio show. 9 00:00:24,880 --> 00:00:27,440 Speaker 2: We think by the end of by sunset today on 10 00:00:27,520 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 2: June fifth, they will be taking personal shots at each 11 00:00:30,560 --> 00:00:33,040 Speaker 2: other as two of the most powerful people on earth 12 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:34,600 Speaker 2: that you can't imagine. 13 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:37,440 Speaker 1: I say it happens while I'm still picking my lunch 14 00:00:37,479 --> 00:00:40,839 Speaker 1: out of my teeth. It's not gonna be till sunset. Holy. 15 00:00:40,880 --> 00:00:43,839 Speaker 2: Elon just said Trump would not have won without me. 16 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:47,840 Speaker 2: That's gonna piss Trump off. That's gonna really get under 17 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:48,200 Speaker 2: his skin. 18 00:00:48,800 --> 00:00:51,640 Speaker 1: Oh boy, all right, Moron, that's come on the live 19 00:00:51,760 --> 00:00:54,760 Speaker 1: radio show tomorrow. If you're listening today, If you're listening tomorrow, 20 00:00:54,800 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 1: it was yesterday. If you're listening three days from now, 21 00:00:57,240 --> 00:00:58,040 Speaker 1: it was a week from two. 22 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:00,960 Speaker 2: If you're listening in four years, how is AI working 23 00:01:00,960 --> 00:01:03,800 Speaker 2: out of any robots drained your blood or anything. 24 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:08,280 Speaker 1: Eating your liver straight out of your belly. All right, 25 00:01:08,360 --> 00:01:11,640 Speaker 1: a moment to center ourself. Now, Oh, there we go. 26 00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:14,880 Speaker 1: So I'm reading my reams and reams of media the 27 00:01:14,959 --> 00:01:17,200 Speaker 1: other day and I came across what was a follow 28 00:01:17,319 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 1: up article on a woman who writes a well loved 29 00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:26,800 Speaker 1: column about love, and it was a ten year follow 30 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:33,400 Speaker 1: up on her relationship with her man, which began with 31 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:38,039 Speaker 1: an essay from well, it's a study, an essay a 32 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:43,319 Speaker 1: thing of a jigger from a psychologist about whether intimacy 33 00:01:43,400 --> 00:01:47,520 Speaker 1: between two strangers can be accelerated, how you can go 34 00:01:47,600 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 1: through a process and be in love or damn close 35 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:56,360 Speaker 1: to it at the end of the very very brief process. 36 00:01:56,240 --> 00:01:58,360 Speaker 2: So that you can get to the divorce by dinner 37 00:01:58,400 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 2: time or what? 38 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:03,000 Speaker 1: Wow, I don't you're in a hurry. I don't know exactly, 39 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:08,360 Speaker 1: although before you get to your harsh and idiotic judgments something. Now, 40 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:12,760 Speaker 1: I sound like trumpet elon, don't I let me explain 41 00:02:12,800 --> 00:02:16,200 Speaker 1: what's going on here? And I guess this made a 42 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:19,800 Speaker 1: bit of noise around ten years ago. I either missed 43 00:02:19,840 --> 00:02:27,520 Speaker 1: it or have forgotten about it. Thirty six questions, broken 44 00:02:27,600 --> 00:02:32,680 Speaker 1: up into three sets you go through with that person, 45 00:02:33,560 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 1: and then you stare into each other's eyes for four minutes. 46 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:41,520 Speaker 1: Now some people say two minutes is enough, some people 47 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:44,440 Speaker 1: say it really takes four minutes. So you go through 48 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:48,400 Speaker 1: these thirty six questions which I will absolutely read you, 49 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:51,359 Speaker 1: and then you stare into each other's eyes, and by 50 00:02:51,400 --> 00:02:55,800 Speaker 1: the end of it, if there is love to be 51 00:02:55,880 --> 00:03:01,520 Speaker 1: found there, you'll have found it. The idea being I 52 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:02,919 Speaker 1: can explain it to you, but go ahead. 53 00:03:03,360 --> 00:03:05,760 Speaker 2: So I've thought this many times in my life before 54 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:08,720 Speaker 2: we even had this discussion. I look back over people 55 00:03:08,720 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 2: that I ended up in relationships with, and you know, 56 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 2: the feeling that we generally call love, although what what 57 00:03:14,880 --> 00:03:16,840 Speaker 2: it love is, it gets very very complicated. I mean, 58 00:03:16,880 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 2: the long lasting dedication to supporting someone blah blah blah 59 00:03:22,400 --> 00:03:26,359 Speaker 2: versus the you know, butterflies in your stomach la la lalla, 60 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:30,960 Speaker 2: but not to mention the hats, uh yeah, but the 61 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 2: the closely related to the butterflies, the butterflies thing of mine. 62 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:38,400 Speaker 2: In every instance it's happened to me in my life. 63 00:03:38,920 --> 00:03:43,440 Speaker 2: I can remember the moment that our eyes locked for 64 00:03:43,520 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 2: however long, and that's when the magic happens. Of nobody 65 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:51,760 Speaker 2: actually understands if it's pheromones, or we read each other's 66 00:03:52,440 --> 00:03:57,080 Speaker 2: genome and realize we could have healthy kids together, or 67 00:03:57,400 --> 00:04:00,120 Speaker 2: what the hell goes on there? But I got I 68 00:04:00,160 --> 00:04:03,680 Speaker 2: remember the moment for every situation, and that's when it happened. 69 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:07,280 Speaker 2: So I can absolutely believe that if you went through 70 00:04:07,320 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 2: a room like a big group of people and y'all 71 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:12,280 Speaker 2: both star at each other's for a certain percentage, I 72 00:04:12,280 --> 00:04:14,480 Speaker 2: don't know what percentage you it would happen. 73 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:16,720 Speaker 1: Well, and feel free to jump in whenever you want, 74 00:04:16,760 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 1: Katie or Michael or home you know, either one. But 75 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:22,720 Speaker 1: that it's funny I got. I got like an electric 76 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:25,880 Speaker 1: charge through me when you describe that we met eyes 77 00:04:26,120 --> 00:04:30,480 Speaker 1: and moment, and nobody has to fill out what happens 78 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:34,080 Speaker 1: after the end. Everybody who's ever fallen in love knows it, 79 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:39,400 Speaker 1: and it can be an extremely brief yeah, locking of eyes. 80 00:04:39,839 --> 00:04:42,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, That's that's why I've always thought, if you get 81 00:04:42,680 --> 00:04:46,000 Speaker 2: turned down, you got to just realize that whatever whatever 82 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:48,800 Speaker 2: this magic was, wasn't there. You don't have to take 83 00:04:48,800 --> 00:04:49,360 Speaker 2: it personally. 84 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:52,560 Speaker 1: It's not a rejection of your qualities as a human being. 85 00:04:52,600 --> 00:04:54,279 Speaker 1: It feels like it is, and I always thought it 86 00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:58,520 Speaker 1: was but no, it's it's funny. I had this this 87 00:04:58,640 --> 00:05:01,719 Speaker 1: experience years ago of I was walking through an airport 88 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:04,240 Speaker 1: and there are all sorts of human beings. There are 89 00:05:04,279 --> 00:05:06,720 Speaker 1: some of the best people watching on earth, including you know, 90 00:05:06,760 --> 00:05:10,360 Speaker 1: attractive females, and I am a flaming heterosexual though faithfully married, 91 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:14,240 Speaker 1: and I passed one woman and my brain about exploded. 92 00:05:14,600 --> 00:05:15,640 Speaker 2: Wow, that's interesting. 93 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:20,479 Speaker 1: She was my type. And you know, it's probably not 94 00:05:20,560 --> 00:05:23,520 Speaker 1: an insane to state that she looked a fair amount 95 00:05:23,560 --> 00:05:25,720 Speaker 1: like my wife did when she was young and we 96 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 1: got together, but it was it was striking. It was 97 00:05:28,839 --> 00:05:31,680 Speaker 1: like she's good looking, she's kind of hot, ha ha. 98 00:05:33,360 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 1: It was. It was crazy, and so I thought, wow, 99 00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:40,360 Speaker 1: there is something going on there, whether it's Freudian biochemical 100 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:43,600 Speaker 1: as you're suggesting, or whatever that either is or it isn't. 101 00:05:43,640 --> 00:05:45,719 Speaker 2: I believe we read each other's genomes with our with 102 00:05:45,800 --> 00:05:48,840 Speaker 2: our minds. But yes, Michael Show, did your mouth I 103 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:50,440 Speaker 2: love you too? Well? 104 00:05:50,600 --> 00:05:52,400 Speaker 1: No, I said it. I grabbed her in both my 105 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:55,240 Speaker 1: arms and gave her a long kid. You're like the 106 00:05:55,320 --> 00:05:58,200 Speaker 1: sailor with the nurse after World War two exactly. And 107 00:05:58,240 --> 00:06:04,080 Speaker 1: when the cops stopped beating me anyway, all right, So 108 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:13,360 Speaker 1: here's the stuff. I love you, that's us So all right, 109 00:06:13,520 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 1: here's the story this. Psychologist Arthur Aaron and others were 110 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:21,960 Speaker 1: exploring whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by 111 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 1: having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. 112 00:06:25,520 --> 00:06:27,680 Speaker 1: The thirty six questions in the study are broken up 113 00:06:27,720 --> 00:06:30,359 Speaker 1: into three sets, each, with each set intended to be 114 00:06:30,400 --> 00:06:33,720 Speaker 1: more probing than the previous one. The idea is that 115 00:06:33,880 --> 00:06:39,200 Speaker 1: mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. To quote the studies authors quote, 116 00:06:39,600 --> 00:06:43,320 Speaker 1: one key pattern associating with the development of close relationship 117 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:50,680 Speaker 1: among peers is sustained, escalating reciprocal personal self disclosure. Allowing 118 00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:54,599 Speaker 1: oneself to be vulnerable with another person can be exceedingly difficult, 119 00:06:54,839 --> 00:06:59,599 Speaker 1: so this exercise forces the issue. Now, I can't remember, Jacket, 120 00:06:59,640 --> 00:07:01,280 Speaker 1: may have been during the radio show when we were 121 00:07:01,279 --> 00:07:06,240 Speaker 1: talking about doing this. You asked, is accelerating it necessarily 122 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:07,840 Speaker 1: a good idea? Well, what you are? 123 00:07:07,839 --> 00:07:10,320 Speaker 2: Would you want to? Or is the drawn out process 124 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 2: of it happening at the pace it currently happens? Is 125 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 2: like the greatest thing in the world is do. 126 00:07:15,160 --> 00:07:18,520 Speaker 1: You earn your way in? Is the way I'd put it. 127 00:07:18,560 --> 00:07:21,040 Speaker 2: So like here's how to skip over having to eat 128 00:07:21,080 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 2: Thanksgiving dinner. It takes too long to enjoy those flavors. 129 00:07:24,840 --> 00:07:26,800 Speaker 2: Here you can enjoy all the flavors immediately in like 130 00:07:26,840 --> 00:07:27,920 Speaker 2: two seconds. 131 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: In a pill. I don't want to well, right, and again, 132 00:07:33,120 --> 00:07:37,200 Speaker 1: it could be argued that the time spent working your 133 00:07:37,240 --> 00:07:39,680 Speaker 1: way from set one to set two in real life, 134 00:07:39,880 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 1: that's an application process. Like I said, you've got to 135 00:07:42,760 --> 00:07:43,760 Speaker 1: earn your way in. 136 00:07:44,400 --> 00:07:46,360 Speaker 2: Maybe your heart would explode if you fell in love 137 00:07:46,400 --> 00:07:47,320 Speaker 2: instantly alta. 138 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:50,360 Speaker 1: Well as opposed to all right, let's move on to 139 00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:57,640 Speaker 1: a higher level of intimacy. Ready, here we go, I mean, anyway, 140 00:07:57,720 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 1: it's an interesting theory. And the one you're done, you 141 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 1: stare into each other's eyes for four minutes set number one. 142 00:08:04,440 --> 00:08:05,320 Speaker 1: Let's go through the question. 143 00:08:05,360 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 2: You can't stare into someone someone's eyes. You can pick 144 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:13,360 Speaker 2: an eye and stare into it, thank you, And it's 145 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 2: always bothered me. 146 00:08:14,600 --> 00:08:16,720 Speaker 1: Yes, Mike, if I feel like we're losing the thread here, 147 00:08:16,800 --> 00:08:18,800 Speaker 1: you pick an eye and you stare into that eye, 148 00:08:18,840 --> 00:08:20,680 Speaker 1: and maybe they're staring into the same eye as you, 149 00:08:21,040 --> 00:08:23,240 Speaker 1: or you're staring into two different eyes, or you alter 150 00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:25,120 Speaker 1: their left and they're staring into your right, so you 151 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:28,080 Speaker 1: aren't really even looking at each other. Wow. And what 152 00:08:28,120 --> 00:08:29,880 Speaker 1: if you're like me and you have the crazy eyes 153 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:35,680 Speaker 1: exactly right? Got them real tor eyes? Yeah, that's that's funny. 154 00:08:35,720 --> 00:08:38,440 Speaker 1: It's neurological truth. Thank you Jack. Here we go now, 155 00:08:38,640 --> 00:08:44,880 Speaker 1: set number one. This definitely starts with ice breaking party 156 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:47,440 Speaker 1: game and moves on from there. Here's your first set 157 00:08:47,440 --> 00:08:52,080 Speaker 1: of twelve twelve questions. I think it is twelve. Yeah. Uh. One, 158 00:08:52,120 --> 00:08:54,160 Speaker 1: given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would 159 00:08:54,160 --> 00:08:58,480 Speaker 1: you want to as a dinner guest? Just stop me 160 00:08:58,480 --> 00:09:00,080 Speaker 1: if you want me to stop, we can discuss the 161 00:09:00,080 --> 00:09:03,160 Speaker 1: the greater length animal after two? Would you like to 162 00:09:03,200 --> 00:09:09,760 Speaker 1: be famous? In what way? I would? Well? Yeah, answer 163 00:09:11,760 --> 00:09:15,199 Speaker 1: if we If we answer all of these Number one, 164 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:17,280 Speaker 1: it's going to be really time consuming. Number two, we'll 165 00:09:17,320 --> 00:09:19,160 Speaker 1: all be in love with each other and that would 166 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:22,080 Speaker 1: make it super weird to do the show a trumple 167 00:09:22,160 --> 00:09:25,319 Speaker 1: or quadruple or whatever. Yeah, good lord, it was right? 168 00:09:25,360 --> 00:09:26,160 Speaker 1: All right? Here we go. 169 00:09:26,640 --> 00:09:26,880 Speaker 2: Uh. 170 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:29,520 Speaker 1: Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what 171 00:09:29,559 --> 00:09:34,040 Speaker 1: you're going to say? Why this is? I tell you what? 172 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:35,960 Speaker 1: As you work your way because I've read all these 173 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:40,400 Speaker 1: as I work my way through them. I definitely felt 174 00:09:40,559 --> 00:09:43,760 Speaker 1: a I would feel really close to this person? 175 00:09:43,920 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 2: Is this yeah? I don't want to get off track. 176 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:48,319 Speaker 2: Here is the assumption that if you answer the same 177 00:09:48,520 --> 00:09:52,800 Speaker 2: you are a better fit or is it just not 178 00:09:52,880 --> 00:09:55,280 Speaker 2: at all? Okay, it's just the having the conversation is 179 00:09:55,320 --> 00:09:57,120 Speaker 2: a way to find out about. 180 00:09:56,880 --> 00:09:59,079 Speaker 1: Each other, you know. As I said in the UH 181 00:09:59,120 --> 00:10:06,520 Speaker 1: and the introduction, it's all about escalating vulnerability and trust reciprocal. 182 00:10:07,440 --> 00:10:14,360 Speaker 1: Where is that phrase, escalating reciprocal personal self disclosure? Okay? 183 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:17,800 Speaker 1: Where were we? What would constitute the perfect day for you? 184 00:10:19,559 --> 00:10:23,120 Speaker 1: What did you last sing to yourself or to someone else? 185 00:10:24,600 --> 00:10:26,319 Speaker 2: I sing to myself every single day. 186 00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:30,680 Speaker 1: Every day, although this shows ruined my throat. Six. If 187 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:32,440 Speaker 1: you were able to live to the age of ninety 188 00:10:32,520 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 1: and retain either the mind or body of a thirty 189 00:10:35,040 --> 00:10:37,480 Speaker 1: year old for the last sixty years of your life, 190 00:10:37,720 --> 00:10:38,600 Speaker 1: which would you want? 191 00:10:39,240 --> 00:10:43,640 Speaker 2: That's an obvious one to me. Without the brain, what 192 00:10:43,679 --> 00:10:44,720 Speaker 2: the hell's the point? 193 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:48,360 Speaker 1: I'd be handsome as hell. What's the point of being 194 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:49,120 Speaker 1: some brainiac? 195 00:10:49,200 --> 00:10:52,720 Speaker 2: You're old and wandering around the neighborhood. No, your brain's fine. 196 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:56,520 Speaker 1: Seven? No, do you have a secret hunch how you 197 00:10:56,559 --> 00:11:01,959 Speaker 1: will die? A Name three things you and your partner 198 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:04,880 Speaker 1: appear to have in common. Your partner being the person 199 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:05,800 Speaker 1: that you're doing this with. 200 00:11:06,120 --> 00:11:16,679 Speaker 2: That last one clearly h ob halo bullets. 201 00:11:13,200 --> 00:11:20,640 Speaker 1: Terminal syphilis because I play around a lot. Oh my gosh, horror. 202 00:11:21,120 --> 00:11:24,600 Speaker 1: That is great pleasure in life. I can't give up. 203 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:28,120 Speaker 1: So yeah, yep, dad from syphilis. All right, Moving on 204 00:11:28,240 --> 00:11:34,199 Speaker 1: to question eight, I'll say fireworks accident. All right, Name 205 00:11:34,280 --> 00:11:36,480 Speaker 1: three things you and your partner appear to have in common. 206 00:11:36,679 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 1: That's that's a good little bonding one. Eight. What in 207 00:11:40,040 --> 00:11:42,719 Speaker 1: your life do you for? What in your life do 208 00:11:42,760 --> 00:11:48,120 Speaker 1: you feel most grateful? Ten? If you could change anything 209 00:11:48,160 --> 00:11:50,320 Speaker 1: about the way you were raised, what would it be? 210 00:11:50,520 --> 00:11:51,600 Speaker 2: Oh that's a good one. 211 00:11:52,040 --> 00:11:55,160 Speaker 1: Oh and that is getting a little more deeply into 212 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:59,600 Speaker 1: who I am. You are? And yeah, take number eleven. 213 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:02,280 Speaker 1: Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story 214 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:04,240 Speaker 1: in as much detail as possible. 215 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:07,920 Speaker 2: Take how many minutes? Four minutes, as much as the 216 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:09,560 Speaker 2: period of time four minutes? 217 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:13,240 Speaker 1: Okay, yeah. Uh. If you could wake up tomorrow having 218 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:17,520 Speaker 1: gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? Oh? Boy, 219 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:21,120 Speaker 1: there we go. Uh huh. Here's where the guy says 220 00:12:21,160 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 1: something stupid and the woman rolls her eyes, but then realizes, 221 00:12:25,559 --> 00:12:28,840 Speaker 1: now he's a dope boy, but I kind of like him, 222 00:12:29,320 --> 00:12:34,640 Speaker 1: which you know, honestly, I can think of several instances 223 00:12:34,720 --> 00:12:37,560 Speaker 1: in a couple of relationships, particularly with the Lovely Judith, 224 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:44,600 Speaker 1: where the vibe was, I've been an idiot and I 225 00:12:44,640 --> 00:12:49,240 Speaker 1: screwed up, but you're forgiving me and laughing along with me. 226 00:12:49,840 --> 00:12:50,960 Speaker 1: That's that's a step. 227 00:12:51,160 --> 00:12:52,520 Speaker 2: Oh huge, that's huge. 228 00:12:52,600 --> 00:12:56,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, ron to set too. Does anybody need to have 229 00:12:56,600 --> 00:12:58,720 Speaker 1: a good cry or wipe their nose. 230 00:13:00,160 --> 00:13:02,319 Speaker 2: Can kind of screwed me up a little, to tighten. 231 00:13:02,040 --> 00:13:06,000 Speaker 1: Their pelt or anything? All right, on set too. So 232 00:13:06,080 --> 00:13:08,520 Speaker 1: this question thirteen, if a crystal ball could tell you 233 00:13:08,559 --> 00:13:11,600 Speaker 1: the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, 234 00:13:11,600 --> 00:13:12,480 Speaker 1: what would you want to know? 235 00:13:15,520 --> 00:13:16,400 Speaker 2: That's a tough one. 236 00:13:16,520 --> 00:13:22,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, huh. 237 00:13:22,280 --> 00:13:25,000 Speaker 2: Who's going to win Super Bowl fifty seven? 238 00:13:27,720 --> 00:13:30,400 Speaker 1: All right? Next question? Is there something that you've dreamed 239 00:13:30,400 --> 00:13:33,360 Speaker 1: of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it? 240 00:13:35,440 --> 00:13:38,960 Speaker 1: That's a good one. Again, you're gonna have to admit, 241 00:13:40,960 --> 00:13:43,200 Speaker 1: so say what I'm going to do too much and. 242 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:46,760 Speaker 2: Start on it too little laziness, fear, whatever it would be, 243 00:13:46,800 --> 00:13:48,800 Speaker 2: whatever it would be, it wouldn't be an attractive quality. 244 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:50,439 Speaker 2: So that's a good question for that reason. 245 00:13:51,040 --> 00:13:55,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, escalating levels vulnerability. Here we go. Fifteen, what 246 00:13:55,240 --> 00:13:58,720 Speaker 1: is the greatest accomplishment of your life? What do you 247 00:13:58,840 --> 00:14:00,440 Speaker 1: value most in a friend ship? 248 00:14:01,120 --> 00:14:03,320 Speaker 2: Fourth of July, couple of years ago. I ate seven 249 00:14:03,320 --> 00:14:04,480 Speaker 2: hot dogs in one sitting. 250 00:14:05,040 --> 00:14:09,280 Speaker 1: Why impressive? That is great? Moving along to the friendship thing. 251 00:14:11,320 --> 00:14:15,160 Speaker 1: Then seventeen is what is your most treasured memory? And 252 00:14:15,200 --> 00:14:17,680 Speaker 1: then eighteen what is your most terrible memory? 253 00:14:17,800 --> 00:14:20,600 Speaker 2: Oh? My god, fuck, I don't even know if I 254 00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:22,360 Speaker 2: want to think about that, but I could see why 255 00:14:22,360 --> 00:14:24,000 Speaker 2: it would be a valuable conversation. 256 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:29,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, no kidding. Nineteen options if a skip? No, no, 257 00:14:29,080 --> 00:14:32,280 Speaker 1: absolutely not. You can't skip. I'm rejecting you for even 258 00:14:32,280 --> 00:14:35,400 Speaker 1: suggesting it. Next, let's get started with question one. Here 259 00:14:35,440 --> 00:14:37,440 Speaker 1: we go, Let's say nineteen if you knew that in 260 00:14:37,480 --> 00:14:40,560 Speaker 1: one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything 261 00:14:40,560 --> 00:14:42,360 Speaker 1: about the way you are living now? 262 00:14:42,600 --> 00:14:44,400 Speaker 2: Why these are good? 263 00:14:44,840 --> 00:14:47,240 Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah? And the way they kind of go up 264 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:49,400 Speaker 1: and down in intensity I think is super small. You 265 00:14:49,440 --> 00:14:51,480 Speaker 1: got to send me this list, Oh I will, I 266 00:14:51,480 --> 00:14:52,080 Speaker 1: absolutely will. 267 00:14:52,120 --> 00:14:54,240 Speaker 2: I want to use it, and we'll post this whole. 268 00:14:54,160 --> 00:14:58,320 Speaker 1: Thing at Armstrong and geddy dot com. There it is 269 00:14:58,360 --> 00:15:02,960 Speaker 1: twenty What does friendship mean to you? Twenty one? What 270 00:15:03,200 --> 00:15:05,960 Speaker 1: roles do love and affection play in your life? 271 00:15:06,040 --> 00:15:08,040 Speaker 2: I'm always a question behind. They would help me bury 272 00:15:08,080 --> 00:15:11,920 Speaker 2: your body, they would bail me out, Yeah exactly. 273 00:15:13,160 --> 00:15:16,600 Speaker 1: Uh yeah, you know that's I've heard that said before. 274 00:15:16,640 --> 00:15:18,480 Speaker 1: They'd show up to bill you out without asking what 275 00:15:18,520 --> 00:15:22,840 Speaker 1: you did. Oh, that's a good goal, right, kil three hobos. 276 00:15:22,840 --> 00:15:26,840 Speaker 1: Thanks for dropping boy, I need a ride home. Let's 277 00:15:26,920 --> 00:15:31,520 Speaker 1: see it too. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive 278 00:15:31,640 --> 00:15:35,880 Speaker 1: characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items. 279 00:15:36,400 --> 00:15:40,280 Speaker 1: You go back and forth. Here's this is an interesting 280 00:15:40,360 --> 00:15:46,400 Speaker 1: transition because this is not revealing yourself exactly. This is 281 00:15:46,640 --> 00:15:48,200 Speaker 1: saying I really. 282 00:15:48,000 --> 00:15:50,480 Speaker 2: Like you something positive about them, and you don't know 283 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:53,160 Speaker 2: them very well, though you might. 284 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:57,760 Speaker 1: I mean, this is not a speed dating thing. This 285 00:15:57,880 --> 00:15:59,520 Speaker 1: is you have an interest in each other. 286 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:03,520 Speaker 2: When do we stare into each other's eye at the 287 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:06,480 Speaker 2: end of it, I'm gonna stare into your eye. Hold still, 288 00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:11,560 Speaker 2: We're almost done. I tell you what you fixated on 289 00:16:11,600 --> 00:16:11,880 Speaker 2: that whole? 290 00:16:11,960 --> 00:16:14,080 Speaker 1: You know, it's actually impossible to stare into both Some 291 00:16:14,320 --> 00:16:17,080 Speaker 1: say we don't move on from that. We're done? Yeah, 292 00:16:17,160 --> 00:16:20,480 Speaker 1: right for real, next for starting to question one again, 293 00:16:20,600 --> 00:16:23,640 Speaker 1: come on in here for almost for almost done with 294 00:16:23,720 --> 00:16:27,600 Speaker 1: section two. This is twenty three How close and warm 295 00:16:27,760 --> 00:16:30,920 Speaker 1: is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier 296 00:16:30,960 --> 00:16:34,760 Speaker 1: than most other people? And then twenty four how do 297 00:16:34,800 --> 00:16:39,960 Speaker 1: you feel about your relationship with your mother? And then 298 00:16:40,000 --> 00:16:42,920 Speaker 1: I guess you take a break, or you take a 299 00:16:42,960 --> 00:16:44,680 Speaker 1: shower or something, to do five push ups and you 300 00:16:44,720 --> 00:16:47,480 Speaker 1: come back for set number three. You thought the first 301 00:16:47,480 --> 00:16:48,360 Speaker 1: two sets, Oh my. 302 00:16:48,280 --> 00:16:49,920 Speaker 2: God, there's more. This is exhausting. 303 00:16:50,200 --> 00:16:53,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, I know it is all right, Katie. 304 00:16:53,360 --> 00:16:55,920 Speaker 2: No I'm not. This is a lot. 305 00:16:56,520 --> 00:16:58,840 Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, Well you're a woman. 306 00:16:58,920 --> 00:17:00,640 Speaker 2: You better drive a nice car if you expect her 307 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:01,920 Speaker 2: to stick around for round three. 308 00:17:02,520 --> 00:17:07,920 Speaker 1: Oh oh too shallow to swimming. Here we go, Set three, 309 00:17:09,840 --> 00:17:12,320 Speaker 1: make it set this is number twenty five. Make three 310 00:17:12,600 --> 00:17:16,080 Speaker 1: true quote we statements. For instance, we are both in 311 00:17:16,160 --> 00:17:21,240 Speaker 1: this room feeling something twenty six Complete this sentence. I 312 00:17:21,280 --> 00:17:24,879 Speaker 1: wish I had someone with whom I could share like. 313 00:17:27,440 --> 00:17:32,000 Speaker 2: A popsicle this samewich, that's right to pizza. 314 00:17:32,200 --> 00:17:33,600 Speaker 1: I'm really hungry. 315 00:17:35,600 --> 00:17:38,040 Speaker 2: Twenty seven if you were to I was thinking about 316 00:17:38,040 --> 00:17:41,640 Speaker 2: that the other day. A walk around the block when 317 00:17:41,640 --> 00:17:43,560 Speaker 2: I go for a walk at night. I thought that'd 318 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:46,080 Speaker 2: be a good one. I see other people walking with someone, 319 00:17:46,080 --> 00:17:47,399 Speaker 2: and I think that would be nice. 320 00:17:47,840 --> 00:17:50,560 Speaker 1: You know, Judy and I walk the dog together every morning, 321 00:17:51,240 --> 00:17:54,119 Speaker 1: and sometimes one of us will sleep in for whatever 322 00:17:54,160 --> 00:17:56,440 Speaker 1: reason or have like an early morning appointment or something 323 00:17:56,480 --> 00:17:59,959 Speaker 1: like that, and if we miss it, I hate it, 324 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:00,760 Speaker 1: just hate it. 325 00:18:01,280 --> 00:18:03,399 Speaker 2: My mom and dad walked together every night. She's for 326 00:18:03,520 --> 00:18:04,879 Speaker 2: decades and decades and decades. 327 00:18:05,480 --> 00:18:09,160 Speaker 1: That's a beautiful thing. Uh So, there you go. That's 328 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:11,480 Speaker 1: the sort of answer that you would share with somebody 329 00:18:11,520 --> 00:18:15,520 Speaker 1: and it'd be like wow, anyway. Twenty that was really 330 00:18:15,520 --> 00:18:17,680 Speaker 1: well put, Joe, You do this for a living. Twenty seven. 331 00:18:18,119 --> 00:18:20,000 Speaker 1: If you were going to become a close friend with 332 00:18:20,040 --> 00:18:22,440 Speaker 1: your partner, please share what would be important for him 333 00:18:22,520 --> 00:18:29,399 Speaker 1: or her to know about you. I drink a lot, 334 00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:33,000 Speaker 1: and when people tell me I drink too much, that 335 00:18:33,160 --> 00:18:39,400 Speaker 1: makes me drink more. So don't bother. Twenty eight. Tell 336 00:18:39,440 --> 00:18:42,320 Speaker 1: your partner what you like about them. Be very honest 337 00:18:42,359 --> 00:18:45,159 Speaker 1: this time, saying things that you might not say to 338 00:18:45,200 --> 00:18:48,320 Speaker 1: someone you've just met. Wow, so we're going back for 339 00:18:48,440 --> 00:18:52,359 Speaker 1: round two of this. But this is not a cocktail party. 340 00:18:52,359 --> 00:18:55,719 Speaker 1: Be real. Twenty nine Share with your partner, an embarrassing 341 00:18:55,720 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 1: moment in your life more vulnerability obviously thirty When did 342 00:18:59,960 --> 00:19:03,360 Speaker 1: you last cry in front of another person? When did 343 00:19:03,359 --> 00:19:08,760 Speaker 1: you let last cry by yourself? Thirty one Tell your 344 00:19:08,760 --> 00:19:11,920 Speaker 1: partner something that you like about them already so we're 345 00:19:11,960 --> 00:19:14,879 Speaker 1: back to that again so soon? Thirty two What if 346 00:19:14,920 --> 00:19:18,480 Speaker 1: anything is too serious to be joked about? Boy? 347 00:19:18,640 --> 00:19:19,840 Speaker 2: I don't know if there is a topic for me 348 00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:21,800 Speaker 2: hardly but short. 349 00:19:21,440 --> 00:19:27,160 Speaker 1: List no doubt? Yeah. Uh. Thirty three If you were 350 00:19:27,200 --> 00:19:30,760 Speaker 1: to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, 351 00:19:31,040 --> 00:19:34,119 Speaker 1: what would you most regret not having told someone? 352 00:19:35,800 --> 00:19:36,040 Speaker 2: Wow? 353 00:19:36,200 --> 00:19:39,440 Speaker 1: And why haven't you told them yet? Wow? I think 354 00:19:39,480 --> 00:19:47,520 Speaker 1: we're all gonna need a minute. Wow gitting for clemped? Yeah? Yeah, Okay. 355 00:19:47,680 --> 00:19:50,160 Speaker 1: Now when the two of you are both done crying, 356 00:19:50,280 --> 00:19:55,800 Speaker 1: you can continue with number thirty four. Your house containing 357 00:19:55,880 --> 00:19:58,880 Speaker 1: everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones 358 00:19:58,920 --> 00:20:00,439 Speaker 1: and pets, you have time to say, if we make 359 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:03,280 Speaker 1: a final dash to save any one item, what would 360 00:20:03,320 --> 00:20:08,080 Speaker 1: it be and why it wouldn't be my fire extinguisher 361 00:20:08,080 --> 00:20:09,280 Speaker 1: because it didn't do me any good. 362 00:20:09,320 --> 00:20:14,000 Speaker 2: I assume you're not thinking about like your tax files 363 00:20:14,119 --> 00:20:17,240 Speaker 2: or birth certificates or something, or are you. 364 00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:20,879 Speaker 1: You answer however you want? You're telling me how to answer. 365 00:20:20,960 --> 00:20:24,560 Speaker 1: You're too oppressive. Next, let's start again with question one. 366 00:20:24,680 --> 00:20:28,000 Speaker 1: He's telling me how to answer the questions. 367 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:30,680 Speaker 2: There'll probably be paperwork actually. 368 00:20:31,960 --> 00:20:32,360 Speaker 1: Boring. 369 00:20:32,720 --> 00:20:34,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, I know, but there's some things it would be 370 00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:37,600 Speaker 2: really really really really difficult to lose. 371 00:20:38,119 --> 00:20:43,080 Speaker 1: The classic answer wedding photos, family pictures, a lot of 372 00:20:43,080 --> 00:20:43,919 Speaker 1: them are on the cloud. 373 00:20:44,000 --> 00:20:47,320 Speaker 2: Now yeah, yeah, wow. 374 00:20:49,960 --> 00:20:52,399 Speaker 1: Well, you know what's interesting about this question is you 375 00:20:52,400 --> 00:20:55,400 Speaker 1: can sit here and think about it, whereas the very 376 00:20:55,680 --> 00:20:58,240 Speaker 1: structure of the question implies you would have no time 377 00:20:58,280 --> 00:21:02,840 Speaker 1: to think about it. Wow. I don't even know the 378 00:21:02,960 --> 00:21:06,760 Speaker 1: answer to that question. It's like, it's a really interesting 379 00:21:06,840 --> 00:21:09,440 Speaker 1: question and worth the discussion in this context. But that's 380 00:21:09,480 --> 00:21:11,600 Speaker 1: like one of those you know, how would you react 381 00:21:11,600 --> 00:21:12,879 Speaker 1: if someone pulled a gun on you? 382 00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:16,120 Speaker 2: Yeah? Well, the problem with this is, uh, a lot 383 00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:18,159 Speaker 2: of the answers could sound really shallow. I mean, if 384 00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:20,239 Speaker 2: I've got my loved ones out and everything like that, 385 00:21:20,280 --> 00:21:22,679 Speaker 2: and like if all important paperwork is in a safe, 386 00:21:22,680 --> 00:21:25,200 Speaker 2: which in my case it is, which bright survived the fire, 387 00:21:25,560 --> 00:21:28,840 Speaker 2: and then it's probably gonna be something kind of material. 388 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:33,600 Speaker 2: I'm afraid I PlayStation five. Yeah, something like that. I 389 00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:35,639 Speaker 2: got a couple of guitars I'd hate to see burned up. 390 00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:40,520 Speaker 1: I was gonna say, I might grab my telecaster. It's 391 00:21:40,600 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 1: it's it's a totem of some of the best times 392 00:21:44,359 --> 00:21:47,439 Speaker 1: I've ever had. It was in my hand while I 393 00:21:47,560 --> 00:21:50,960 Speaker 1: was doing some of the things I've loved the most. Anyway, Uh, 394 00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:53,760 Speaker 1: but you know it's again, it's not it's not like 395 00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:55,080 Speaker 1: there's a right or wrong answer. 396 00:21:55,119 --> 00:21:57,760 Speaker 2: So there's a wrong answer. I'm sorry, that's the wrong answer. 397 00:21:57,960 --> 00:22:02,040 Speaker 1: Right my collection of iguana hide. I mean, the point 398 00:22:02,119 --> 00:22:05,440 Speaker 1: is that you're being intimate anyway. Moving along, second, last one, 399 00:22:05,480 --> 00:22:08,200 Speaker 1: thirty five of all the people in your family, whose 400 00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:12,640 Speaker 1: death would you find most disturbing? My god, what kind 401 00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:15,919 Speaker 1: of question is that? It's a question that only people 402 00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:19,960 Speaker 1: who are really, really close would deal with. Wow, this 403 00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:20,960 Speaker 1: is what we're doing. 404 00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:25,680 Speaker 2: Because you pick one. You got to leave some people out, obviously. 405 00:22:25,240 --> 00:22:30,280 Speaker 1: And then this is the last one. Share a personal 406 00:22:30,359 --> 00:22:33,239 Speaker 1: problem and ask your partner's advice on how he or 407 00:22:33,280 --> 00:22:36,400 Speaker 1: she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect 408 00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:40,680 Speaker 1: back to you how you seem to be feeling about 409 00:22:40,720 --> 00:22:45,000 Speaker 1: the problem. You have chosen. Oh, I get it. Okay, 410 00:22:45,040 --> 00:22:50,880 Speaker 1: So how would you handle this? And can you tell 411 00:22:50,920 --> 00:22:57,560 Speaker 1: how I feel about this problem? How? What? What are 412 00:22:57,600 --> 00:23:03,760 Speaker 1: you sensing from me when I describe this? So don't 413 00:23:03,800 --> 00:23:07,840 Speaker 1: just solve it for me. Understand what I'm really trying 414 00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:08,280 Speaker 1: to tell you. 415 00:23:11,160 --> 00:23:13,040 Speaker 2: Crab grass in the side yard. 416 00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:20,600 Speaker 1: Tried everything, I'd rip it up and resad and I 417 00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:22,960 Speaker 1: can tell you really hate crab grass. 418 00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:26,480 Speaker 2: There we just gave you for instance. 419 00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:29,720 Speaker 1: You know what you keep crabgrass mode? It looks great. 420 00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:34,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, well when I mode lawns, I mostly mode crab grass. 421 00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:40,880 Speaker 1: Honestly. Sure. Back in yeah, yeah, nobody had a lawn 422 00:23:40,920 --> 00:23:41,520 Speaker 1: worth a crab. 423 00:23:42,040 --> 00:23:44,520 Speaker 2: Everything was just mowed down weeds which looked pretty nice. 424 00:23:44,560 --> 00:23:51,840 Speaker 1: Actually yeah the crab huh no, no, no, next. So 425 00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:53,640 Speaker 1: there you have it. We will post that at Armstrong 426 00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:56,399 Speaker 1: and getty dot com, but under like hot links for 427 00:23:56,560 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 1: June the fifth, or can we give it like a banner, 428 00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:02,080 Speaker 1: you know, featured position? Yeah? 429 00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:03,919 Speaker 2: I would like to run through those questions sometime in 430 00:24:03,960 --> 00:24:05,200 Speaker 2: my life. That sounds pretty cool. 431 00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:07,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll have our people get on that. Hope you 432 00:24:07,920 --> 00:24:10,639 Speaker 1: enjoyed it, and God bless you in your pursuits romantic, 433 00:24:11,040 --> 00:24:12,760 Speaker 1: professional and otherwise. 434 00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:15,320 Speaker 2: And if you've got someone, go home and stare them 435 00:24:15,359 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 2: in the eye. 436 00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:21,920 Speaker 1: If you could kill three people this afternoon and how 437 00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:25,080 Speaker 1: be detailed. 438 00:24:25,200 --> 00:24:29,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, well I guess that's it.