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Speaker 1: Hey, everyone, it's Sophia. Welcome to work in progress. Welcome

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Speaker 1: back to work in progress friends. Today we are joined

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Speaker 1: by a woman I adore so much, who I've also

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Speaker 1: been lucky enough to call a co star. She is

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Speaker 1: an exceptional coworker. She is the sort of woman who

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Speaker 1: mentors all of us through her example, and she also

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Speaker 1: happens to be someone I've looked up to literally my

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Speaker 1: entire life. Today we are joined by the icon Brookshields.

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Speaker 1: Brook has spent her entire life in the public eye,

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Speaker 1: from being a child movie star to a model, to

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Speaker 1: a best selling author, entrepreneur, and now wearing her latest

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Speaker 1: hat as the executive producer of Acorn TV's breakout mystery

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Speaker 1: series You're Killing Me. She is someone who has continually

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Speaker 1: redefined herself and reclaimed herself. And I am just in

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Speaker 1: awe of the woman that she is. Whether she's talking

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Speaker 1: about motherhood, aging, mental health, work, deep reflection, or being

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Speaker 1: the absolute funniest person in the room, she is in

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Speaker 1: an era where she seems less interested in meeting other

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Speaker 1: people's expectations and perhaps more interested in living according to

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Speaker 1: her own values. I am fascinated by a life led

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Speaker 1: by someone who's been looked at her whole life, who's

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Speaker 1: finally deciding how she wants to be seen. So let's

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Speaker 1: dive in today with our dear friend Brookshield. Well, I'm

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Speaker 1: just so excited for all the things for you. I'm

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Speaker 1: loving the new show. I have a million things I

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Speaker 1: want to ask you about, okay before we jump into

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Speaker 1: the present, which is so full and so gorgeous. I

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Speaker 1: am really curious, especially for you, because you have I mean,

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Speaker 1: you've been famous your whole life. You know when you

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Speaker 1: did you were eleven when you booked Pretty Baby. You've

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Speaker 1: done this incredible act. I think of love for women

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Speaker 1: and of mothering so many of us and your community,

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Speaker 1: in addition to your beautiful daughters. By reflecting and sharing

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Speaker 1: in the books you've written and the conversations you've had

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Speaker 1: with us and for us out on these stages, I

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Speaker 1: think have made us all feel so seen. And I'm

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Speaker 1: really curious for you now, not just in terms of

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Speaker 1: your advocacy as a woman in the public eye, but

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Speaker 1: but for you, Brooke. If you got to walk out

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Speaker 1: years old, what would it feel like to see yourself

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Speaker 1: now with all your wisdom and all your experience. Do

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Speaker 1: you think that little girl would see herself in you?

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Speaker 1: Would you see who you are now in her?

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Speaker 2: I think I would see who I am now in her.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if she would see herself in me,

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Speaker 2: because because I think if you know, being that young

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Speaker 2: and being lucky actually that I lived in New York

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Speaker 2: and my mom was, you know, very adamant about my

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Speaker 3: I think that helped.

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Speaker 2: But I think I was so desiring of being liked

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Speaker 2: I don't know if you're supposed to know that at

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Speaker 2: that age. I mean, I try to instill that in

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Speaker 2: to feel confident. And it's hard, but if you surround

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Speaker 2: I don't think I would have had the confidence to say, like, oh,

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Speaker 1: You know. You talk about your mom being part of

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Speaker 1: that grounding for you, and now as a mom, when

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Speaker 1: how those things have informed your own vibe as a mom.

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Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: There's such a profound, profound connection between children and their mothers.

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Speaker 3: But I think mothers and daughters as well. I don't.

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Speaker 2: But I think I took so much more from her

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Speaker 3: And I think that I that.

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Speaker 2: She was actually for as broken, scarred, alcoholic, scared as

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Speaker 2: That is and I didn't feel judged because I was

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Speaker 2: there is something to be said for that for children

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Speaker 3: You know.

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Speaker 2: And I think that that that's what I try to

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Speaker 2: and you're like, who who do you love more? And

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Speaker 2: You're like, there's no such thing.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, you're like, depending on how you act, one

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you better behave it is so funny.

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Speaker 1: And now a word from our sponsors who make this

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Speaker 1: show possible. You know, it's so interesting to think about

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Speaker 1: what you're able to hold, right, And I think that's

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Speaker 1: such a marker of healthy evolution in life when you can,

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Speaker 1: for you because for so long you had so many

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Speaker 1: other people's opinions, and all those opinions were ordered in

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Speaker 1: like all these things that you had to meet when

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Speaker 1: I know how to do this. I know how to

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Speaker 2: I think that's a very astute way of looking at it,

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Speaker 2: because I think I was doing that before I knew

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Speaker 3: So, you know, you you read a room, right, you.

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Speaker 2: Just go, you know, it's like heat seeking missile and

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Speaker 2: So just to be able to and I'm I'm proud.

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Speaker 3: Of being able to navigate that and do that.

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Speaker 2: And I learned it at such a young age that

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Speaker 2: I watched other kids, you know, my age sort of

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Speaker 2: I don't waste the time anymore, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 2: I don't and I don't feel obligated. It's like to

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Speaker 3: Me back, what did I do? What I do wrong?

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Speaker 2: And I would watch that sort of angst in other

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Speaker 2: this history, this navigation, this adult world actually gave me

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Speaker 3: Are, not where I want them to be, right.

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Speaker 2: And that's very freeing because then you can, you know,

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Speaker 3: You know, it's not the end of the world.

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Speaker 3: Why is that okay?

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Speaker 2: And I I remember thinking, no, I don't I want

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Speaker 2: in my sixtieth year, I all of my different groups

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Speaker 2: like my work buddies, individually but in their kind of groups.

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Speaker 3: And they don't know each other.

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Speaker 2: Instead of having like a big party with everybody, which

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Speaker 2: it's amazing how long we've been friends. And I always

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Speaker 2: it because there's such there's such deep connection in years

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Speaker 2: you know, and they're still around today, and it's it's

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Speaker 2: I've got these quality friends and we've known each other

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Speaker 2: over forty years.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, oh, I love that so much. I have a

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Speaker 1: and I and it is so special.

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Speaker 3: Not everybody has it.

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Speaker 2: It's like I talk to people and they're like, you're

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Speaker 1: I know, And I feel so lucky, especially because not

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Speaker 3: We had friends.

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Speaker 1: So many people's friendships fractured, but there is this little

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Speaker 1: And now a word from our sponsors. I can't wait

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Speaker 1: to send this episode to my mom because I we've

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Speaker 1: Now where yes, she's my parent and I'm her daughter,

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Speaker 1: I've known you. I will never forget you said something

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Speaker 3: Long, and there was like a traumatized no.

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Speaker 1: I just was like, no one's ever said it out loud,

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Speaker 1: don't know, what is it like a year two years ago,

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Speaker 1: like in my mouth, in my eyes, in my hair,

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Speaker 1: be scared, You're okay, Like and what do I do

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Speaker 1: and how do I how do I manage this moment?

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Speaker 1: And I thought about you, and I was like, it's official,

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Speaker 1: it's official, Like that's the thing. And you've shared like

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Speaker 1: you talked about postpartum before anybody would, and like you,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, you've just been so generous with us

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Speaker 1: like over and over again, you you do.

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Speaker 3: That for me. Oh gosh, thank you.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I've always always looked up to you, and

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Speaker 2: I've always really loved your brain and loved the way

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Speaker 2: and all of those things that what you represent is

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Speaker 2: all of the complexities of being a woman, do you

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Speaker 2: you know what I mean?

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Speaker 3: And to be not afraid to reveal it.

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Speaker 2: And I mean, I feel like the second I met you,

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh yeah, I was like and then

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Speaker 2: you compounded it by having the white tattoo, when I

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Speaker 2: It's just like, you know that that type of model

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Speaker 2: as a female is really is and you share it too.

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Speaker 2: And I'm proud to say that you're my friend.

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Speaker 1: You know, I just love you, sweet soul. I am

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Speaker 1: enjoying this conversation so much. Join us for part two

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Speaker 1: so we can ask Brooke all the questions we have

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Speaker 1: about her breakout series, You're Killing Me on Acorn TV.

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Speaker 1: See you for part two.