Speaker 1: Hell I Suck at Dating with Denglert and Dared Haven
Speaker 1: and I heard radio podcast What's going on? Everyone? Welcome
Speaker 1: to an all new episode of Help I Suck at Dating. Uh,
Speaker 1: it's just good to be back. I missed last week.
Speaker 1: I apologize, Um, Dared, what did I missed last week? Uh?
Speaker 1: Tammy was on the podcast Tammy Uh from that James season.
Speaker 1: I think she was. She was always un Bachelor in Paradise.
Speaker 1: It was great. She's awesome. Uh. She lives in New York,
Speaker 1: l A and Tampa, so, oh my gosh. I know
Speaker 1: I asked her about the dating scene in All three.
Speaker 1: But Tammy was last week. So if you haven't listened
Speaker 1: to the last week's episode, definitely go check it out.
Speaker 1: It was a great one. This week, we have a
Speaker 1: very special guest who is joining us via zoom with
Speaker 1: I think a fake white wall background? Is that fake?
Speaker 1: Oh my god? It looked so it looks like you
Speaker 1: look super imposed in front of it. It's Katie Morton. Ladies, Gemen.
Speaker 1: It looks like Katie is zooming in from like the
Speaker 1: gates of Heaven or something. Seriously, this is it? Slight
Speaker 1: little halo coming behind you? This is it? This is Katie. Well,
Speaker 1: welcome to the podcast. It's a it's a pleasure to
Speaker 1: have you here as always. Hey guys, I'm so happy
Speaker 1: to be back finally. Yeah, we're happy to have you back.
Speaker 1: Your hair looks good. Um, what's going on? Phill Us
Speaker 1: in on your life? What's what's up with? What's up
Speaker 1: with Katie Morton these days? Um? I mean, I'm I'm
Speaker 1: back in l A. At the moment. I've kind of
Speaker 1: been a nomad. Dean. I love it. I love the nomad.
Speaker 1: Katie Moore in, Yeah, I've kind of been a nomad.
Speaker 1: So I'm I'm giving Dean vibes and I like spent
Speaker 1: some time with my family back home. But now I'm
Speaker 1: back in l A filming for like a fitness video.
Speaker 1: Don't you. You've done a lot of that before, haven't you.
Speaker 1: Weren't you on like a Netflix show or something like that,
Speaker 1: and you're like you're like dancing or something, weren't you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm like, I am a professional dancer, So I have
Speaker 1: been on a cup Yeah, I was on a Netflix
Speaker 1: movie memory, thank you. I feel like I feel like
Speaker 1: they're probably not the same though, obviously a fitness thing
Speaker 1: and a dancing thing are pretty pretty different, but in
Speaker 1: the same Marina at least. Yes, ok, yeah, yeah, book
Speaker 1: by the same agent. I knew there was some some
Speaker 1: connection there. Um, well, that's exciting. What is this fitness
Speaker 1: thing that you're doing. I'm like a fitness model for
Speaker 1: Beach Body, remember back in the day, like pen I
Speaker 1: d x M. It's that same company, and I'm one
Speaker 1: of their fitness models, like for their video for like
Speaker 1: Body on Demand. Yes, Dina, and I know beach Body
Speaker 1: on Demand very well. They've been a sponsor in this podcast,
Speaker 1: So thank you so much for your body And that's awesome, Katie. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So like, yeah, I'm basically like Joel Is. He's the
Speaker 1: guy that's like, hey, guys, we're going to be doing
Speaker 1: a you know, squats, and then I'm the person right
Speaker 1: next to him doing the squads. Okay, so you're the
Speaker 1: person that like shows off the technique. So Joe will
Speaker 1: come over and be like, this is Katie's Katie leg gentlemen,
Speaker 1: Katie's got the perfect form. Yeah, get a Katie, Get Katie,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I'm dying. That's great. So next time,
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, like Jared said, Beach Body has been
Speaker 1: keeping the lights on here, I help my second dating.
Speaker 1: So now when we promote it, we got to promote
Speaker 1: you at the same time. It's a win win amazing.
Speaker 1: So Katie have a quick story too. So I was
Speaker 1: at the Warwick Mall about like three weeks ago, which
Speaker 1: is you know, it's a pretty pretty big deal here
Speaker 1: in Rhode Island. And I walked back past I think
Speaker 1: it was the G m C store and I saw
Speaker 1: a sign for this company called a Lonnie l A
Speaker 1: L A N I says, buy one, get one off.
Speaker 1: And it was a big sign, probably like four ft
Speaker 1: by four ft in front of the store, and it
Speaker 1: had this very pretty lady on the front of it.
Speaker 1: I don't know if you can see it. It's me,
Speaker 1: But I was like, is this Katie? So I took
Speaker 1: a picture of it. I meant a d M you,
Speaker 1: and of course I just got sidetracked, but I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't want I'm pretty sure that's Katie in the
Speaker 1: Wark Mall and Rhode Island. Wow, and it is you.
Speaker 1: I told you I was a nomad. She's all over
Speaker 1: the place, so that is you. Yeah, that's me. So
Speaker 1: how does that work? I've always wondered, So do you, like,
Speaker 1: do you know where your face is going to pop up?
Speaker 1: Did you have any idea that you'd be in a
Speaker 1: random mall? Um and all? Honestly, no, I had no idea.
Speaker 1: I give people like depending on the contracts, people get
Speaker 1: certain rights. You know, one point we all signed a
Speaker 1: contract and gave way all ab our rights. No that
Speaker 1: true signed contracts and like you give the rights to
Speaker 1: like certain usage and so yeah, I don't know sometimes
Speaker 1: how nomadic I will actually be. So I didn't know
Speaker 1: I would end up in a mall Nord Island. But honestly,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. That's that's like a bucket list
Speaker 1: of mine to be like on a featured poster in
Speaker 1: the work mall, because I was like the mall. I
Speaker 1: was a mall right in high school, so that would
Speaker 1: be the mall that was Yeah, we wo cigarettes, no
Speaker 1: candy cigarettes. I was a pussy girl still a cigarettes
Speaker 1: are bad. You're not condoned the use of cigarettes. I've
Speaker 1: got a similar ish story. So on my season of
Speaker 1: the Bachelor, at my season on rachel season, and I
Speaker 1: was lucky enough to be a participant on uh, there
Speaker 1: was a male model named Brady, really nice guy. Uh.
Speaker 1: And fast fast forward like a year later, me and
Speaker 1: my buddy Alex was also on the same season. We're driving,
Speaker 1: we rento motorcycles and drive into the north of France.
Speaker 1: All the way in France, like this random, rinking dink,
Speaker 1: little beach town. We're just walking down and to get
Speaker 1: breakfast or something, and we look to her right and
Speaker 1: there's this bank and it's Brady, the guy from our season,
Speaker 1: the American guy that was a model, was like modeling
Speaker 1: sunglasses or something for the bank, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I lost my mind. I was like, what are the
Speaker 1: odds in this little rinky dink town in France there
Speaker 1: is a poster of a guy who was on the
Speaker 1: same reality TV show as this guy that I'm traveling with.
Speaker 1: It was just it was weirdly serendipitous, I guess. But um,
Speaker 1: you never know where your poster is gonna end up.
Speaker 1: I mean, Jared and I don't have the luxury of
Speaker 1: being just naturally beautiful, so we don't. We're not on
Speaker 1: any posters that I know of, at least, um, so
Speaker 1: we're not gonna end up anywhere. I mean, I'm on
Speaker 1: Audrey's poster, but you know, I put myself on there,
Speaker 1: so Hey, Jared, congrats and getting on the road sign
Speaker 1: for Audrey's. Thanks, that's big. What's the bureaucousy like in that?
Speaker 1: Because I noticed sometimes where it's like, let's say a
Speaker 1: restaurant goes out of business, it would the name is
Speaker 1: still on the sign like years later, so what is
Speaker 1: like the what is this? What is that? Like? It
Speaker 1: was pretty easy, I mean just I had to talk
Speaker 1: to the property manager and be like, hey, we need
Speaker 1: to get a sign up. Some people know that we're
Speaker 1: in the plaza. So it's just like going through it was.
Speaker 1: It is ridiculous, how like time consuming it takes just
Speaker 1: to get the sign exactly the way you want because
Speaker 1: there you know, and it makes sense. Like the proper
Speaker 1: edger was trying to help me out. He's like, well,
Speaker 1: I want Audrey's as big as it is so they
Speaker 1: could see people, you know, so they could see from
Speaker 1: the side of the road, which means we'd have to
Speaker 1: make the coffee house and lunch smaller. So we went
Speaker 1: through different sizes and it was pretty pretty like not
Speaker 1: strenuous by any stretch of the imagination, but I put
Speaker 1: a lot of time, more time than I thought I
Speaker 1: was going to for like being like, hey, just put
Speaker 1: a sign up front place. For the love of God.
Speaker 1: Some people will drive by and be like, oh, that's
Speaker 1: where Audrey's is. But you know it's funny. So the
Speaker 1: previous owner, he put up a sign for his coffee
Speaker 1: shop on a piece of grass and it's like stuck
Speaker 1: into two by four and it's still there. But he
Speaker 1: went to the town and adopted the land, so I
Speaker 1: can't touch it. So there's still a sign or I
Speaker 1: think actually he might have taken it down by now,
Speaker 1: But for like two or three months after we opened,
Speaker 1: they were still a sign and saying like, hey, check
Speaker 1: out this coffee shop, even though that coffee shop wasn't
Speaker 1: there anymore. And I was like, well, I can't touch it.
Speaker 1: I don't want to get in trouble. I think he
Speaker 1: adopted that land, so like that's his property. Hey, um
Speaker 1: on this on the same Audrey's note. Uh, I just
Speaker 1: googled Audrey's Coffee Shop, Rhode Island Google Maps, expecting it
Speaker 1: not to be on Google Maps, but there, sure enough,
Speaker 1: there it is Audrey's Coffee House and Lounge. Four point
Speaker 1: seven stars. Screw those people that didn't give you five stars.
Speaker 1: By the way, I wasn't gonna say anything because you know,
Speaker 1: as a business owner, I'm so grateful for everybody who
Speaker 1: comes in. But you know, the stars on Google and
Speaker 1: Yelp they mean a lot to a business. You know,
Speaker 1: they mean everything because you go on, the first thing
Speaker 1: you see is at four point seven. So we were
Speaker 1: a decisions exactly like that's how people make their decisions.
Speaker 1: So we were at four point eight and we went
Speaker 1: down to four point seven. And you know, I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna say this user named I'm sure they're very sweet,
Speaker 1: but they're they're common said menu needs to be expanded.
Speaker 1: Service and coffee are great, just which they had more
Speaker 1: food options. Okay, fine, I mean we have a pretty
Speaker 1: extensive lunch in nighttime option. But that's all I find.
Speaker 1: It's your opinion. But they only gave three stars. Oh man,
Speaker 1: And it's like, if the service and coffee are great,
Speaker 1: the only issue had was that you think we should
Speaker 1: add more food to the menu, that's fine, very least. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you can't give me three stars because that's like it
Speaker 1: brings us down so much and it really hurts us.
Speaker 1: Three stars is not good. It's like it's like in school. Unfortunately,
Speaker 1: when you like randomly would have like, I mean, I
Speaker 1: don't know about you guys, but there were times when
Speaker 1: I would get like a bad grade. But it's like
Speaker 1: when you get a bad grade, it's so much harder
Speaker 1: to start at a low g p A and try
Speaker 1: to bring it up, Like it's so easy to go
Speaker 1: down and and it's so much more difficult to just
Speaker 1: even bring that up. Like one bad grade affects you
Speaker 1: like drastically, and you have to like one for one
Speaker 1: d you have to get ten a's to balance the
Speaker 1: totally and the same thing. We were at a four
Speaker 1: point seven for like two months and then finally bumped
Speaker 1: up to a four point and I'm like, yes, after
Speaker 1: we got like fift like ten five star reviews and
Speaker 1: thank you for everybody who leaves a great review for ardres.
Speaker 1: It means the world to me. And then so we're
Speaker 1: at four point and I was like hell yeah, and
Speaker 1: then literally one three star review brought it down back
Speaker 1: to four point seven, and I was like, son of
Speaker 1: a bitch, it's the same, it's the same with the
Speaker 1: same whatever. It's this way off topic, I guess, But
Speaker 1: like when I'm investing money and like the stock market
Speaker 1: and crypto or something. I'm like, I can lose money
Speaker 1: so fast, but I can never make it back as fast.
Speaker 1: It's like, it's so easy to go down, but it's
Speaker 1: so hard to go up. So easy to go down. Guys, Um,
Speaker 1: I was reading some reviews, Jared. I'm just gonna share
Speaker 1: a couple. Oh God, you're commenting back to which is
Speaker 1: really good? Uh? And these are the mean ones to
Speaker 1: remember when he did the mean segment on help My
Speaker 1: Second Day, don't ready the mean comments about Audrey. I
Speaker 1: don't care if you read read comments about me, not
Speaker 1: about Audrey's. Okay, well then I'm not gonna read them.
Speaker 1: I just have questions for you. This person is upset
Speaker 1: that you have your Christmas decorations up in February. Are
Speaker 1: the Christmas decorations down? Yes, they were down. So what
Speaker 1: we did we thought was a cute idea. I remember
Speaker 1: that review and I felt very self conscious about it.
Speaker 1: So Ashley and myself had the We were very busy,
Speaker 1: you know, Dawson was just being born, so and then
Speaker 1: I was bouncing back and forth between Virginia and our
Speaker 1: hands are very much on Audrey's. So it's it's hard
Speaker 1: to like get a lot of things done when I'm
Speaker 1: not there. So we had the idea like, hey, let's
Speaker 1: keep the fake trees up and make them Valentine's Day
Speaker 1: trees in the Christmas trees, so they were decorated with
Speaker 1: hearts and red lights. We thought it was cute. This person,
Speaker 1: I guess, still assumed that it was a Christmas tree
Speaker 1: and not a Valentine's Say tree, which is why they
Speaker 1: were upset that the Christmas decorations were still up. And
Speaker 1: there's a silly thing to be upset about, though, you know, dude,
Speaker 1: what a silly thing to like labor like the I
Speaker 1: don't know, I feel that for me, it takes a
Speaker 1: lot for me to leave a review in terms of
Speaker 1: like I understand that it is really good for restaurants,
Speaker 1: and I honestly I'm sitting here thinking about it, like,
Speaker 1: you know, maybe I should leave more reviews, like now
Speaker 1: that you're sitting here like as a business owner, and
Speaker 1: I'm thinking, oh, for the because it's when places are good,
Speaker 1: It's almost this expectation of places to be good, so
Speaker 1: you almost like don't even leave a review, and so
Speaker 1: like a lot of the times I find that the
Speaker 1: only reviews coming in are bad reviews. Because it's just
Speaker 1: like they felt compelled to share this experience. But most
Speaker 1: the majority of the time, like you almost have to
Speaker 1: cut a restaurant in some slack that maybe even has
Speaker 1: like a four surview or like maybe a three stur
Speaker 1: review even because how many people are going in there
Speaker 1: and leaving good reviews. Like the people that have a
Speaker 1: good experience is because they expected a good experience, because
Speaker 1: you really should have one. And I don't review because
Speaker 1: it's like an expectation, and I think that it's just
Speaker 1: the moment someone's expectations aren't met, that's when a review
Speaker 1: is left. So it's almost like not a balanced way
Speaker 1: of ratings and like and like how often do you
Speaker 1: go into a restaurant expecting it to be bad and
Speaker 1: then it's good and then you leave a good review.
Speaker 1: It's like that's never. Never, like, oh my god, you
Speaker 1: know that was perfectly satisfying. I'll leave a review. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And it's funny because we do that in all different
Speaker 1: aspects of life. Like a lot of times I'll go
Speaker 1: to a movie would be like it's probably gonna suck,
Speaker 1: and then it's like, oh, that was pleasantly surprising. That
Speaker 1: was good, you know, yourself. Huh you say it to yourself,
Speaker 1: you don't leave the review. Oh yeah. My point being,
Speaker 1: you know, is like when we don't go to restaurants
Speaker 1: being like, oh this is gonna suck, you know, But
Speaker 1: it's we do it in a lot of different aspects
Speaker 1: of life where it's like, yeah, that's a good point.
Speaker 1: That's a good point. What's the last movie, Jared that
Speaker 1: you went into that you expe it did not be
Speaker 1: good that ends up surprising you. That's a great question.
Speaker 1: I'm man, Uh, you want to know all that while
Speaker 1: you think about it. I want to say. The opposite
Speaker 1: that happened to me a movie that was hyped up
Speaker 1: to be good and I just it just didn't catch
Speaker 1: for me. Was in Conto Watch Jesus Christ. I didn't
Speaker 1: I didn't love in Content. I love those movies too,
Speaker 1: like that style of movie, the beautiful storytelling and all
Speaker 1: that stuff. Something about in Content just I didn't love it.
Speaker 1: There was no like real major like point of struggle
Speaker 1: that they had to overcome. Yeah, I get at the
Speaker 1: House is losing its charm and stuff, but I just
Speaker 1: didn't like, I don't know, I didn't love it, and
Speaker 1: I was upset that I didn't love it as much
Speaker 1: as I wanted to. It's funny that you say that, Dean,
Speaker 1: because I'm going to go ahead and say I watched
Speaker 1: in Kanto back to back, like oh wow, watched it
Speaker 1: and then was like I didn't even catch everything I
Speaker 1: needed to catch. Watched it right away again. I started playing.
Speaker 1: I'd be like, hey, Google, play the in can't a soundtrack?
Speaker 1: I started doing that. That's how much of it in
Speaker 1: Canta fan or cantor in Canda. That's how much of
Speaker 1: a fan I am of that movie. So, like of
Speaker 1: all the movies for you to take Son and that, Like,
Speaker 1: now that you say it, I don't think that there
Speaker 1: was so much to overcome. But I honestly I also
Speaker 1: didn't go into that movie thinking they should probably really
Speaker 1: overcome something here. I was more there for the music
Speaker 1: than the same that composed the music of that movie
Speaker 1: was the same guy that composed Hamilton's. Okay, what's Leslie
Speaker 1: Lima Miranda? Yeah? I think so what is his name?
Speaker 1: The same composer of lim same composer of the music
Speaker 1: of music as Hamilton's. And so I knew that I
Speaker 1: needed to like, I knew I would just be like
Speaker 1: addicted to the songs. Yeah, I do love that guy
Speaker 1: lin Manuel Miranda. Is that what it is? Um? Because
Speaker 1: I liked Hamilton he also was He's super talented too.
Speaker 1: He sung a couple of songs. He sings this really
Speaker 1: good version of your Welcome from Ilana that I just
Speaker 1: didn't obsessed with. So yeah, I agree, I see where
Speaker 1: you're coming from. The music is very good. Um, I
Speaker 1: guess I was tuning in for more of the storyline,
Speaker 1: which I was just a little underwhelmed by. So what's
Speaker 1: the name? What's the name of the animation movie where
Speaker 1: they're the kid plays music and like they're dead their
Speaker 1: skeletons and yeah, Coco, I know what you're talking about. Coco, Yes,
Speaker 1: is one of those movies. There's like two of those
Speaker 1: movies that are pretty similar. I think Coco is probably
Speaker 1: one of them. Yeah, I think it was Coco. So
Speaker 1: Ashley was watching it when I got home from work
Speaker 1: because she was watching with Dawson, and I watched the
Speaker 1: last hour of a Dan that's an emotional Roycalist or
Speaker 1: holy crap, that's a sad movie. I will say there's
Speaker 1: definitely more UM animated movies that have better or like
Speaker 1: more more of a storyline and more of like an
Speaker 1: arc to get over. Like Incanto's really flowy, like it's
Speaker 1: just happy kind of all around, Like the sadest part
Speaker 1: happens like it's in a snap. Have you guys seen
Speaker 1: up emotional roller coaster? For sure? I in five minutes
Speaker 1: into the movie, I was getting choked up. I'm like,
Speaker 1: what the hell am I watching? Why am I crying
Speaker 1: right now? Oh? My god. They do start you on
Speaker 1: a low note though, with like the old man who
Speaker 1: lost his wife and then he's all lonely and you're like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you can see what I'm like starting to tear if
Speaker 1: you just mentioned it. I was like, I gotta turn
Speaker 1: this off. Like I'm a thirty year old man watching
Speaker 1: this by myself. I can't all right, and we should
Speaker 1: get back aple time for you to think. That's ample
Speaker 1: time for you to think about before we get back
Speaker 1: to dating. I want to know what you're under. Impressed
Speaker 1: movie choices, Oh like one where you were like so
Speaker 1: excited and you just couldn't you couldn't get over something
Speaker 1: about it. I don't know. Well, I'd say most recently
Speaker 1: was The Batman. I was very didn't love Batman. Did
Speaker 1: not love it. I liked it. I have only seen
Speaker 1: it once. I really have to see it again. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I was very much looking forward to that movie, and
Speaker 1: there were things that I really liked about it, But honestly,
Speaker 1: there were things that I really didn't like about it either.
Speaker 1: Um So yeah, I'd say The Batman would be the
Speaker 1: most recent movie I could think of where I was like,
Speaker 1: I didn't love it. That's fair. I feel kind of
Speaker 1: like a simple bitch because I liked it, and I
Speaker 1: know you have a much like deeper taste in movies,
Speaker 1: and so for you to not like a movie that
Speaker 1: I like, I'm like, crap. He's so much he sees
Speaker 1: things so much better than I do. Know, I wouldn't
Speaker 1: say that. I mean there's a lot of things. I mean,
Speaker 1: Robert Pattinson is great. I really enjoyed Paul Dano as
Speaker 1: the Riddler. I just thought that, Um, I I think
Speaker 1: there's too much happening in that film. Uh, we don't
Speaker 1: have to get into the film critique of it, but
Speaker 1: I really wish. You know, there's like a whole hour
Speaker 1: in the second act where the Riddler is not even
Speaker 1: shown because they really focused on the Falconi storyline. And
Speaker 1: they kind of get into Colwin storyline a little bit,
Speaker 1: and I just felt like, as much as I love
Speaker 1: Colin Farrell as the penguin, I like he was underutilized.
Speaker 1: He wasn't in the film as much as I thought, like,
Speaker 1: if you take the penguin character out of that movie,
Speaker 1: I don't think it changes in the movie one bit.
Speaker 1: Um and Uh. As much as I love Pattinson as Batman,
Speaker 1: I just felt like he was lacking a certain charm,
Speaker 1: not because of his acting skills, but because of the
Speaker 1: the script. There's a lot of times where he's just
Speaker 1: walking around and I get it that he's, you know,
Speaker 1: intimidating Batman and he's a little bit younger and he's
Speaker 1: still kind of finding his way. But like a great
Speaker 1: example is that there's a scene where Catwoman, I want
Speaker 1: it's not a spoiler, but Catwoman has this guy on
Speaker 1: the roof that she's interrogating. Batman walks up and sees
Speaker 1: like her punching him in the face and she's like
Speaker 1: I found him, and he's like I can see that.
Speaker 1: And it was just like a like one miniscule moment
Speaker 1: that was so charming from Pattinson as Batman. I was like,
Speaker 1: we need more moments like that where like you're letting
Speaker 1: Robert Pattinson breathe in the suit a little bit where
Speaker 1: he can really become Batman instead of like this overbearing
Speaker 1: emo type character where he's just and he is vengeance.
Speaker 1: So I get it, but I don't know. I would
Speaker 1: have liked to see a little bit more character development
Speaker 1: throughout the film instead of at the very end where
Speaker 1: he's like, oh, I need to become more than vengeance,
Speaker 1: I need to become a symbol of hope, which was
Speaker 1: a cool ending, but the movie is three hours, so
Speaker 1: it took a while to get there. Let me ask
Speaker 1: you this the Dark Knight series. I feel like the
Speaker 1: first Dark Knight was uh critique a very similar way
Speaker 1: that you just mentioned, and then in the second one
Speaker 1: he really comes into his own. So do you first
Speaker 1: see that happening with Robert Pattinson's Batman? Oh a thousand percent.
Speaker 1: I think Pattinson will become more and more Batman esque
Speaker 1: into the next one. Sorry, Katy, we don't have my God,
Speaker 1: we should really move fastest because we're definitely losing subscribers
Speaker 1: right now. But my point being is, yes, what I
Speaker 1: really enjoyed about Batman begins going into the Dark Knight
Speaker 1: was that Batman Begins was the same thing, a story about,
Speaker 1: you know, Bruce Wayne becoming ultimately becoming Batman. But also
Speaker 1: one of the downsides I'm sorry of the new the
Speaker 1: Batman was Bruce Wayne. Bruce Wayne is a character that
Speaker 1: I really enjoy I like the duality of an actor
Speaker 1: playing both Bruce Wayne and Batman, and Christian Bale as
Speaker 1: much as I didn't love him as Batman, I love
Speaker 1: him as Bruce Wayne, and I think he did a
Speaker 1: really good job. Christian Bale really played three characters, honestly,
Speaker 1: because he played Bruce Wayne himself, where he's trying to
Speaker 1: become a better human being. Then he plays Batman, which
Speaker 1: is this like vengetabul character who's just acting in anger.
Speaker 1: And then he also played the facade Bruce Wayne, where
Speaker 1: he's like this playboy billionaire and he's trying to put
Speaker 1: on this facade that he doesn't really give a about
Speaker 1: the world because he doesn't want people to accuse him
Speaker 1: of being Batman. So like that was really interesting to see.
Speaker 1: And unfortunately in this incarnation, which I understand why they
Speaker 1: did it, but still just because I understand why they
Speaker 1: did something doesn't mean that I have to like it.
Speaker 1: Is that like this emo Bruce Wayne, who doesn't say
Speaker 1: or do anything and is barely in the film, just
Speaker 1: was something that I didn't really enjoy watching. Sorry, I
Speaker 1: love I love how you're like, Okay, we shouldn't be
Speaker 1: talking about this right now. He go for ten minutes
Speaker 1: of something completely right now. I want to see when
Speaker 1: you were telling, uh, explaining all that, which, by the way,
Speaker 1: thank you very much. I feel like my brain is
Speaker 1: swollen a little bit more. I'm a little smarter now. Um.
Speaker 1: I want to see a superhero movie like Batman, like
Speaker 1: you know, like one of the mainstay superhero movies where,
Speaker 1: um do you remember like Awesome Powers, the Spy who
Speaker 1: shacks Me? How Mike Myers played every role? Basically, I
Speaker 1: want to see a superhero movie where like Robert Pattinson
Speaker 1: plays Batman and the Joker in the same film, kind
Speaker 1: of stupid, like he's not the it's not the same person,
Speaker 1: but like he's playing both characters as as separate people
Speaker 1: like like Mike Myers, did you know, like fat Bastard?
Speaker 1: Not like like the parent Trap? Is this supposed to
Speaker 1: the parent Trap? I wanted to be a serious movie,
Speaker 1: like you're serious Batman movie where Robert Pattinson plays himself,
Speaker 1: the joker, the butler. What's his name again, bos Wilford
Speaker 1: or something like that, Alfred. He also he made let's say,
Speaker 1: let's say it's a he. You know, Batman in this
Speaker 1: iteration of the film series is a homosexual. He also
Speaker 1: plays the love interest of Batman. Um anyways, is getting
Speaker 1: pist off at us for the movie talk. It's just
Speaker 1: an idea. If you guys are listening to this, and
Speaker 1: when I say you guys, that mean like the big
Speaker 1: wigs in Hollywood, take it and absorb it, and you know,
Speaker 1: try and spit something out similar to it and make
Speaker 1: me happy. That's what We're gonna take a quick break
Speaker 1: and jump to a commercial and then uh, we're gonna
Speaker 1: jump into everything revolving dating. I know, it's dating podcast.
Speaker 1: We have not been very dating centric right now, so
Speaker 1: taking a break, beer, right back, we are back and
Speaker 1: as promised, let's talk some dating. So let's talk about Katie. Yeah,
Speaker 1: let's talk about Katie. My dating life is boring, Jared's
Speaker 1: dating life is boring. Katie? Is your dating life boring? Nope? Yeah,
Speaker 1: So if you don't mind us asking because you are
Speaker 1: and help us like a dating. The last time we
Speaker 1: talked to you, you were in a very committed relationship
Speaker 1: with you. Guys were doing long distance right he lived
Speaker 1: in London? Still does still are? Yeah? Still are okay? Great?
Speaker 1: Oh that's great, yeah okay. Because your your response to
Speaker 1: Dan's question was very um interesting cells like oh oh god, no,
Speaker 1: like we did um actually like break up for a second.
Speaker 1: I mean, life this complicated, but I we like broke
Speaker 1: up for a second o because we don't really care
Speaker 1: about each other. That was last year, and that was
Speaker 1: because we were like, how in the world are we
Speaker 1: going to figure that this out? Like is it impossible?
Speaker 1: Like do we break up? Like we're just like what's
Speaker 1: going on? And now? And then we were like, wow,
Speaker 1: we actually don't want to be without each other, which
Speaker 1: was really nice, uh feeling. And so now we're it's
Speaker 1: still hard, but it's worth it. And we're in the
Speaker 1: process of like talking to an immigration lawyer and oh,
Speaker 1: so what is immigration? You immigrating that way or him
Speaker 1: immigrating this way? So he loves it over here. Um,
Speaker 1: sometimes I'm like why, Yeah, he loves it over here. Um,
Speaker 1: so him immigrating this way, but just like to have
Speaker 1: the option to be here. Um, we've also talked about
Speaker 1: going there, but going there like in the future. Mm hmm.
Speaker 1: Well how does it work for him? Because he I mean,
Speaker 1: obviously he has to be physically in London in order
Speaker 1: or you know, England to work, right, Like his job
Speaker 1: is to be a soccer player, isn't it. Yeah, So
Speaker 1: he wanted to try playing in the MLS here when
Speaker 1: he when he came to California, he was like, I
Speaker 1: love California. Why they charged us so much? Because California
Speaker 1: is just beautiful. Um, he was like, I love California.
Speaker 1: And so he was trying to get into the MLS.
Speaker 1: But it was like a weird you know cycle of
Speaker 1: the MLS wants you to already have an international like
Speaker 1: players visa, and then they won't give you a visa
Speaker 1: if you're not already in the MLS. So it was
Speaker 1: like a thing where you're like, so is anyone going
Speaker 1: to help, Like we don't need to get on a
Speaker 1: team and you sponsor recipe for the visa because we
Speaker 1: can't get the visa without being on a team. But
Speaker 1: the team, you know. So that's what we found out
Speaker 1: last summer and that's when we were like, oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: this is quite a lot of work. Like we really
Speaker 1: thought it was gonna because he's a really good soccer player,
Speaker 1: so we thought it was. He also thought he was like,
Speaker 1: we're just gonna go there, I'm gonna get into training,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get on a team, because that's how it
Speaker 1: works for him in England, and it just didn't work
Speaker 1: that way. Um, we're just trying to find ways around
Speaker 1: it in terms of like there's a certain type of
Speaker 1: visa where if you're like an athlete, basically you can
Speaker 1: come and then have the visa to try out for
Speaker 1: a team. So we could present a team and say
Speaker 1: like we have the visa already because they wouldn't get
Speaker 1: into training with that one. So we're going that route now. Um,
Speaker 1: and yeah, well, I mean definitely, Like it's it's crazy
Speaker 1: to hear because obviously, like relationships are hard enough on
Speaker 1: their own, and then you implement the dilemma that like
Speaker 1: a he lives over there, he wants to come over here,
Speaker 1: but he can't just come over here that easily, Like
Speaker 1: they'll flag you if you're in the country for two
Speaker 1: and a half months. Of it, like you can be
Speaker 1: here for three months at a time, but you can't
Speaker 1: be here for three months at a time too often.
Speaker 1: We're also flagged and your visa could get denied and
Speaker 1: then you won't be able to enter the country. But
Speaker 1: it added an extra element of um stress to the relationship,
Speaker 1: I think, um And it came to a point where
Speaker 1: I had to be like, okay, like I was being
Speaker 1: a little bit of a negative Nellie because I was like,
Speaker 1: relations ship shouldn't be this hard, because they really shouldn't
Speaker 1: be hard in the relationship, but our relationship isn't hard
Speaker 1: when we're in it. And I think I got that
Speaker 1: confused because it's really just the logistics in our heart. Man,
Speaker 1: what did we sign up for? But I'm really happy
Speaker 1: and we're really happy, and it's just like it's like, Wow,
Speaker 1: this is really going to be freaking worth it. So
Speaker 1: let me ask you what happens. I don't know how
Speaker 1: it works when somebody gets married, not saying that you
Speaker 1: guys should get married, but I'm sure this is something
Speaker 1: that's popped in your head. Yeah, it has. I think
Speaker 1: like we're trying to make it, you know, just like
Speaker 1: more special. Like I just don't want to be like,
Speaker 1: you know, I think we're gonna be together forever, which
Speaker 1: I actually like, I do feel like we're going to
Speaker 1: be together for a really long time. Like I definitely
Speaker 1: Seehi as my person. But just like marriage is so
Speaker 1: intense to be, like it doesn't feel right to be like, well,
Speaker 1: we get you into the country, get married like it
Speaker 1: for me, it just doesn't feel like it's not the
Speaker 1: right time right now. That feel it doesn't give me
Speaker 1: like as good like to get married, Like it doesn't
Speaker 1: mean you feel it's like happy. But um, you know,
Speaker 1: people do it all the time. Don't blame them because
Speaker 1: also like we we did discuss the marriage visa with
Speaker 1: the lawyer just to hear it out, Like what does
Speaker 1: that look like? Holy smokes. The wait times are insane,
Speaker 1: Like it's like six months at least. Um, it's just
Speaker 1: the way times they're basically insane. And then if you
Speaker 1: do get married, when you're waiting for the green card,
Speaker 1: that can take between two weeks to two years, and
Speaker 1: you have to stay for that period of time, you
Speaker 1: have to stay in the US for that period of time,
Speaker 1: and it's just that's and that's really intense, Like especially
Speaker 1: if he doesn't have like a team here already and
Speaker 1: all that stuff. So, um, the visa option we're going
Speaker 1: with like gives him the option to be going back
Speaker 1: and forth between the United States and England, and we
Speaker 1: both essentially about to do that, and so yeah, I
Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, while you're waiting to get
Speaker 1: your green card, you have to stay in the country
Speaker 1: for like I think some people are waiting at this
Speaker 1: point with COVID processing times up to three years actually,
Speaker 1: and you can't leave, Like there's no like going to Mexico,
Speaker 1: there's no going to England, there's no going anywhere else.
Speaker 1: Like you have to say, that sounds very stressful. I'm
Speaker 1: very glad that I don't have to deal with that.
Speaker 1: I mean, I can only imagine the stress it puts
Speaker 1: on your relationship. I can't even not leave the country.
Speaker 1: I can't. I can't believe that we're it's the two
Speaker 1: and we're still confined by these imaginary borders that like
Speaker 1: keep us rooted in certain places. It's like, who cares
Speaker 1: if you were born in the USA or in England
Speaker 1: or anywhere else? Like, why it just sucks that they
Speaker 1: don't let you move as freely around as we feel
Speaker 1: like I feel like we should be able to move around,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Yeah, just like a permanent visit.
Speaker 1: Like I mean, I know that sounds. I'm sure a
Speaker 1: lot of people like that. That would be like out
Speaker 1: of control potentially. I understand why, like some rules are
Speaker 1: in place, but I'm like, if you can prove that
Speaker 1: you're in a relationship, like why aren't we just why
Speaker 1: aren't we just allowing it to be just a little
Speaker 1: bit longer? Yeah, is a bit intense. I feel a
Speaker 1: lot of the laws are outdated. I mean, it's just
Speaker 1: because there should be obviously rules and laws. But I
Speaker 1: agree with you both, it should be it's a little
Speaker 1: outdated right now. Yeah. Yeah. So um, I will say,
Speaker 1: like England does have a really good health I would
Speaker 1: say healthcare is like nice, like it's free for everyone
Speaker 1: and like all that. So maybe later in life I
Speaker 1: can see myself there. But guys, it is the one
Speaker 1: thing I have to say about England. I love England
Speaker 1: so much, like England England till I died, But like
Speaker 1: there's no sun instead of confect me a lot. And yeah,
Speaker 1: it's no Southern California. Yeah, I was born in Florida,
Speaker 1: like the sun when I was born in Virginia, but
Speaker 1: I was raised in Florida, the Sunshine State, and then
Speaker 1: like I'm in California, and so going there. I love England,
Speaker 1: like I think it's so beautiful, but I'm like, actually
Speaker 1: a little bit nervous over like a long long periods
Speaker 1: of time without Son. Well you said that you guys
Speaker 1: bill see each other moving back there at some point, Yeah,
Speaker 1: so what would I would need to be? I would
Speaker 1: then turn into Dean and I would escape to like
Speaker 1: Greece or with Son frequently. Yeah, I mean why not.
Speaker 1: You can become a vagabond. You can even just buy
Speaker 1: a van and you don't even have to have an
Speaker 1: address as far as the government is concerned. You're just
Speaker 1: you know, you're you're not even there, You're just an apparition. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're cruising. Um. I will say. One of my best
Speaker 1: friends moved in London a couple of years ago, and
Speaker 1: that was his one big complaint about it. He's like,
Speaker 1: it's always gloomy, there's never sun, And I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: it can't be that bad, but he's like, no, it's bad.
Speaker 1: It's even worse than you think it could possibly be.
Speaker 1: So Um, the healthcare is nice, I guess, and he
Speaker 1: loves the city of London, like I know, I could
Speaker 1: definitely see living there. So when the side, so it's
Speaker 1: really beautiful and it's it's really honestly, people like to
Speaker 1: go there, and especially when you're in l a and
Speaker 1: everyone's quite literally on top of each other. Um, to
Speaker 1: go from here to nobody being around it is actually
Speaker 1: like a breath of fresh air. When do you guys,
Speaker 1: when do you guys get to see each other? Now?
Speaker 1: Each other here for two months January and February, and
Speaker 1: then I went there for a month in March, and
Speaker 1: then now we have to wait a certain period of
Speaker 1: time for him to come back to the US, but
Speaker 1: they'll be back this summer again for a month. And
Speaker 1: to also like help me figure out, you know, what
Speaker 1: I'm doing with all my stuff in storage here. But
Speaker 1: I'm really just like, so what do you do in
Speaker 1: in the time period that he's not here? Because I
Speaker 1: think a lot of people going through long distance relationships
Speaker 1: have difficulty not being with their significant others. So how
Speaker 1: do you and him cope with the fact that like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I'll see you in three months. Yeah, So basically I
Speaker 1: keep myself busy, but also we have like certain times
Speaker 1: where we talk. It's not super super rigid, like like
Speaker 1: it's not super strict like it's but it's generally the
Speaker 1: same time every day. I say good night to him
Speaker 1: at my two pm mm hmmm, which is like that's weird,
Speaker 1: and then you wake up and he's already been up
Speaker 1: for basically an entire day. Yeah, And I also so
Speaker 1: I say good night to him at two pm, and like,
Speaker 1: get this, Like imagine I say good night and good
Speaker 1: morning in the same day. I'll say good night at
Speaker 1: two pm, eleven pm, twelve pm rolls around, or eleven
Speaker 1: PM rolls throughout, but um, I'll be like going to
Speaker 1: bed around eleven and I'll like text him good morning,
Speaker 1: and he's texting me good morning. So like that's eight hours,
Speaker 1: like literally like eight hours happens, and by day it's
Speaker 1: like two pm and like good night and eleven PM.
Speaker 1: I'm like good morning in the same day. And that's
Speaker 1: it's kind of cool too, because then you gotta wake
Speaker 1: up at your eight am or whatever it is, and
Speaker 1: you got to ask him about his whole day and
Speaker 1: he can fill you in on a whole day's worth
Speaker 1: of information. Usually he's like, I've got one whole left
Speaker 1: in golf. Oh nice, that's all. That's right. He was
Speaker 1: a golfer. We were supposed to play golf that one
Speaker 1: were not the one time, but I do remember talking
Speaker 1: about that. Yeah, He'll be like I'm on my last
Speaker 1: hole and I'm like, all right, good morning, good morning.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you guys. Well, that's gonna do it
Speaker 1: for this episode. We're gonna keep Katie around. We are
Speaker 1: going to have a great guest coming up here in
Speaker 1: our next episode coming out later this week. Um so, Katie,
Speaker 1: thank you for joining us this week, but you're not
Speaker 1: going anywhere, so don't turn off your zoom yet. Um
Speaker 1: We're going to take a break and be sure tune
Speaker 1: in next episode because maybe we suck a little bit less.
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