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Speaker 2: Okayop, this is okay, Op. I'm sabled and I'm John Fry,

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Speaker 2: and we telled all funnier stories on the strong finish.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I wasn't quite ready for to bring the heat,

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Speaker 2: We always bring the heat because we're like pizza buyers

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Speaker 1: Oh, speaking of hot somali, uh salami. I'm wondering this

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Speaker 1: you know how like growing up in like middle school,

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Speaker 2: I did, what was piano? I did like fifteen years

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Speaker 2: I can't like jam with my bros.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and so I wish, which, by the way, we

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Speaker 2: That is true. That is true. John John is an

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Speaker 1: Yes, that was my like high school from from like

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah that's right. Can we call you captain band? Yes?

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Speaker 2: Captain bands because remaking stacks out stacks stack support us

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Speaker 1: Yeah, bands that make her dance came out when I

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Speaker 2: But it's band appropriate. Yeah, baby and the heat. That's right,

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Speaker 1: Oh no, drum if you catch my throat. But I

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Speaker 2: Oh like in a sexy way or in like an

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Speaker 2: assault way, in an angry way. Okay, in a skillful way,

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's right, we're woke.

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Speaker 1: The explosion of the like alpha male podcast has been

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Speaker 2: I've seen some of them, Like I've seen like some

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Speaker 2: Ferociously, Yeah, it's because you know, inside it's on Alpha male.

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Speaker 2: It's a little little cub let's run out for affection.

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Speaker 2: A cubs that needs a hug, Just cubs that need

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, we are high value cubs that deserve hugs.

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Speaker 2: That's all right, that's right. Suck it, Alpha Male Podcast.

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Speaker 2: That's right. Hug and you're gonna freaking love it. That's right.

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Speaker 2: love it, gotta love it. All right, let's dive in.

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Speaker 1: I am a martial artist and I've been training in

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Speaker 2: you're right, mixed martial arts. It's like martial arts, but

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Speaker 1: But notice how I said almost everyone. Oh wow, wow

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Speaker 1: Maybe that can be our future studio name the dojo, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so like we don't say like, hey do you

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Speaker 1: Of course, I left my gear bag in the change room, though,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Bropie needs the brace's knee or her knee needs

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Speaker 2: All reinforced knees, superbionic knees. The seven million dollar woman.

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Speaker 1: Head black belts, well, why is your daughter aiming for

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Speaker 2: Why does she even need it? She can work just

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Speaker 1: Reinforcing a knee. This isn't concrete, guys like she needs

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Speaker 1: But Rick suggested that I don't attend and it sucks,

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Speaker 4: so much new at Nordstrom rack for so much less,

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Speaker 4: but hurry get first dips on the season's best up

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Speaker 4: to sixty percent off now at your norse Storm rack store.

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Speaker 2: What will you find