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Speaker 1: My sister's in laws kick me out of the wedding

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Speaker 1: for being a filthy divorced woman.

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Speaker 2: My sister found out and made a little change to

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Speaker 2: the wedding. You know, I mean she did get divorced. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: how dare she? How dare you? You know, let's go

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Speaker 2: back to some biblical rules.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, get stoned, like yeah, like the yeah no, you know,

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Speaker 3: no rocks, rocks, rocks, crack rocks.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I've actually watching Breaking Bad right now. Oh really, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's pretty good. I like it on season two. Nice

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Speaker 1: for background. Stella and I are identical twins twenty nine female,

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Speaker 1: and we will both be thirty when her wedding comes

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Speaker 1: round this fall.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow.

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Speaker 1: I had her as my maid of honor eight years

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Speaker 1: ago and she promised me that I could be hers

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Speaker 1: when her wedding came around.

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Speaker 2: Very sweet, Yeah, very sweet.

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Speaker 1: I have two kids, six female and three female. They're

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Speaker 1: both flower girls. My marriage fell apart just over two

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Speaker 1: years ago. Oh geez, I thought this was all gonna

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Speaker 1: be funny games, but no divorce due to a still

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Speaker 1: birth and my husband's infidelity, which came first. That is

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Speaker 1: really still birth or the infidelity, and what's worse probably

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Speaker 1: the still birth and then then fidelity.

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Speaker 2: Oh, like, what's the worse experience for her?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I thought you were saying, like, who who

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Speaker 2: effed up Morris? This poor woman? Like literally just kid

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Speaker 2: can't have a baby.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, both terrible, I would say, that's that's what

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Speaker 1: My parents and my sister were the only reason I

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Speaker 1: didn't drown from stress, loneliness, and total abandonment of my spouse.

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Speaker 1: I was a total mess. I went to therapy, got

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Speaker 1: diagnosed with bipolar disorder and depression, quit drinking. And I

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Speaker 1: owe a lot of it to my amazing sister. She's

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Speaker 1: the reason why I kept chasing down my ex for

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Speaker 1: child support. When he stopped suddenly paying. He suddenly switched

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Speaker 1: from the world's best ad to deadbeat dumps so quickly

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Speaker 1: that my ex mother in law is disgusted with him. Wow,

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Speaker 1: oh mother, come on, was like, you suck doing it all? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you're sucking heavily. Oh. Stella and John thirty five Mail

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Speaker 1: got engaged last year. His parents are paying about sixty

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Speaker 1: percent of the wedding. Our parents are paying thirty percent.

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Speaker 1: Stella and John are paying for the rest of themselves.

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Speaker 1: That big fat ten percent. How expensive is his wedding.

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Speaker 1: I guess it can get pretty cool.

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Speaker 4: I mean it can get like six figure crazy sis.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: The biggest caveat is that they must be married in

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Speaker 1: John's family church, full Mass with communion. The family is

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Speaker 1: on board because it is going to be a very

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Speaker 1: big wedding. Tonight, Stella had invited me to dinner. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I feel like I see where this is going a

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Speaker 1: little bit, but i'll see. We'll see if you guys

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Speaker 1: can catch on. Tonight, Stella had invited me to dinner

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Speaker 2: To be her maid of honor. It only makes sense. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that would promise she was the maid of honor before.

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Speaker 1: I was excited since I haven't been in a wedding

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Speaker 1: party aside for my own wedding. John was with her

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Speaker 1: weird because Stella didn't mention him at all in our

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Speaker 1: didn't weirder whatever. After we got our drinks, they got

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Speaker 1: to it in a nutshell. John expressed the following. Despite

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Speaker 1: my best efforts to keep it secret. My parents found

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Speaker 1: out that your divorce when they asked why your husband

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Speaker 1: as a maid of honor because it won't look good

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Speaker 1: You can be a bridesmaid, but can't mention the divorce

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Speaker 1: or your conditions at all during the wedding events. There's

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Speaker 1: more to this story, But John, what do you think conditions?

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Speaker 2: Conditions? But your face about to get a condition, my friend?

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Speaker 2: Because bro, like, oh, it's just it's just so dumb

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Speaker 1: Dumb, especially with everything she's been going like through, and

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Speaker 1: then to have this unloaded on top of it, being

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Speaker 1: you and you're you're going through and getting all your

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Speaker 1: your mental health issues taken care of, but also you

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Speaker 4: Like also to me, the big thing, like it already

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Speaker 4: would be bad, but the fact that they're like twin

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but maybe maybe she's like, oh, maybe this bad

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Speaker 1: juju is gonna affect my wedding. Okay, I don't know,

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm saying is.

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Speaker 4: Like, like you literally got to be the maid of

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Speaker 4: Hundred percent, especially to have yeah John there. I mean,

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Speaker 4: I think think probably what Stella thinks is like, oh,

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Speaker 4: this is the big like sit down. But it's like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: Okay, well we got more to this story. Yeah, John sucks.

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Speaker 1: I was stunned and I felt tears in my eyes.

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Speaker 1: Stella started crying too, and she tried to spend it

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Speaker 1: in a good way. This is way less stressful for you,

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Speaker 1: so it's a good thing. Mother in law has already

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Speaker 1: proved my BFF as my maid of honor, so please

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Speaker 1: don't make this any harder. I knew that I couldn't

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Speaker 2: Oh.

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Speaker 1: A few hours later, I texted Stella that I would

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Speaker 1: was my decision. I wouldn't pull my daughters out, but

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Speaker 1: I sent my parents a summary of what happened and

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Speaker 1: Della thinks that this is a total overreaction. I don't

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Speaker 1: Please help me, am I the a hole? Okay, there's

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm just like what like you literally got the

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Speaker 2: The reason is just so dumb.

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Speaker 1: The reason is really very dumb. The reason is really

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Speaker 2: Going to be like in the future.

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Speaker 4: I think the one thing we've learned today is John

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Speaker 1: Everyone remotely related or looking or sounding like him thrown

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Speaker 4: If you're John, just jump in a river and don't

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Speaker 1: Going one of those Florida spring water rivers where they

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Speaker 2: The earth, do it. You know what I'm talking about,

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Speaker 1: You'll get sucked in. Okay, but there's deep deep. I

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Speaker 1: love deep holes. He loves deep holes. Oh, but there's

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Speaker 1: more to this story, goes deeper. I have a call

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Speaker 1: I think about it, sitting through a mass sounds less

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Speaker 2: Okay, so now there's an update.

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Speaker 1: Two days later, Oh okay, John found this post as

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Speaker 1: I wish I used a fake name Ursula, since she

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Speaker 1: joked about that detail herself. Stella Ursula has officially called

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Speaker 1: When John was ranting about the post and how bad

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Speaker 2: Boo take that, John, Yes, screw you, John.

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Speaker 1: John went into a rage, and while you didn't do

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Speaker 1: This is what triggered her to text our parents and myself.

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Speaker 1: I didn't know what everyone else. And this story's not

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Speaker 1: in this situation if you were Stella, would you break

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Speaker 2: I think I would ye, John's a filthy piece of duty.

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Speaker 1: Stella wanted to thank you all for the comments calling

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Speaker 1: her out. It shattered at the mosaic that John built

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Speaker 1: how deep the manipulation goes until you're outside of it

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Speaker 2: As kids.

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Speaker 1: I was more outgoing and she was more reserved. So

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Speaker 1: I felt obliged to go along with her the other night,

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Speaker 1: you know what you Keith?

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Speaker 2: Hear the story put it on the show. But John,

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Speaker 1: She said like there was this mosaic of all these

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's man, dude, like what what is the solution?

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Speaker 1: Well, I guess before you get married, do the pre

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Speaker 4: Honestly very lucky that she didn't get Actually, now Mary

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Speaker 2: She the paperwork gift to do so even just even.

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Speaker 4: Just after like the day after, Like, so honestly bullet dodged.

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Speaker 4: Am I the a hole for making a pregnancy jar? Okayop,

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Speaker 4: I have no idea what a pregnancy jar is?

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Speaker 2: Jar of pregnancy?

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Speaker 1: Is that like when you store your baby, your little

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Speaker 2: That is that it? Oh?

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Speaker 1: no avail. Dang, why can't you get pregnant? That's where

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Speaker 1: I carry it with me in my bag whenever I'm

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Speaker 4: Oh that's much better than what I was thinking.

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Speaker 2: What were you thinking that there was storing the gins

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Speaker 2: we've heard crazier. That is true.

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Speaker 1: That is true. I'd get puzzled looks. But they reach

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Speaker 1: Last week, we had dinner at my parents' house. My

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Speaker 2: So am with the a hole for this? Yeah?

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Speaker 4: I mean there's there's maybe a time and place to

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Speaker 4: Like I don't know, there's like a way to approach it.

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Speaker 4: It seems like op already made it clear she doesn't

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Speaker 2: Is everyone doing it? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: And then I guess like this is like maybe a

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Speaker 2: Yeah, try to be an asshole about it.

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Speaker 1: So One, this has been going on for years, but

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Speaker 2: Two.

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Speaker 1: I already told them about how I feel regarding this question.

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Speaker 1: My husband doesn't. My husband doesn't care much and says

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Speaker 1: I should let it go to Three. Yes, they pay

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Speaker 1: My husband and I spend the money on snacks to

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Speaker 1: for the dogs. One more thing, I realized that this

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Speaker 1: could actually be expanded into wedding jar, Slasha cake jar

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Speaker 1: to a gallon of gas in my city.

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Speaker 2: Smart I love it inflation, op, get yours