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Speaker 1: All right, buckle up, hold on tight wet strawberry. Letter time,

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Speaker 1: subject mother in law take your good morning. Subject I

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Speaker 1: wrote it says, good morning everyone, Steve, Shirley, Carla and Tommy.

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Speaker 1: I'm having some issues. My mother in law is going

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Speaker 1: through some problems financial and needs some support. Now, let's

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Speaker 1: start from the beginning, Steve. I married my wife in

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Speaker 1: ninety two, back from the First War in the desert.

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Speaker 1: Since then, I've been not the nine one one of

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Speaker 1: her family. My father in law broke camp and told me,

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Speaker 1: son in law, you better leave while you got the chance.

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Speaker 1: I didn't understand what was going on or what he meant. Then,

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Speaker 1: my wife has four younger sisters and she's the only

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Speaker 1: one that's married and stable. I've heard it all and yes,

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Speaker 1: even seen it too. I'm a strong man and grew

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Speaker 1: up without a father. I have three beautiful babies ranging

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Speaker 1: from thirteen to nine, by my wife. I love her

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Speaker 1: to death, and I'll tell you why, Steve. I was

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Speaker 1: a dog when she met me and married me. It

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Speaker 1: took me about two years after marriage to realize what

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Speaker 1: I had. She stuck by me. I got myself together

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Speaker 1: and devoted myself to her to forsake all others. Now,

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Speaker 1: I've put up with the in laws, thinking that this

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Speaker 1: was punishment for all my infidelities. I've helped out with cars, rent,

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Speaker 1: house payments, bills, bankruptcies, and even got an apartments in

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Speaker 1: my name. Now my wife will probably Now, my wife

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Speaker 1: will probably hear this. She listens to you also, my wife. No,

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Speaker 1: my wife will probably well every every other yeah, it's

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Speaker 1: every it's now. It means now you'll see when you

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Speaker 1: read the letter back. Uh, Now, my wife will probably

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Speaker 1: hear this. She listens to you also. But I married her,

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Speaker 1: not her family. My god, haven't I suffered enough? Brett

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Speaker 1: can't do it anymore. I've can it running away, but

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Speaker 1: can't leave my babies don't want to leave her? What

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Speaker 1: should I do? Dazed and confused? Well, what I don't understand?

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Speaker 1: It's easy, Yeah, this is very easy. But I mean

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Speaker 1: I'm saying who because he's up in it. Uh. You

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Speaker 1: know you can just say no, Daves and confused, You know,

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Speaker 1: just say you don't have it. Okay, as soon as

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Speaker 1: you start giving, they'll stop taking. Just say it, you know,

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Speaker 1: cut cut her family off. You did marry her and

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Speaker 1: not the family, all right, Steve come on, let's get

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Speaker 1: to part two of your response to today's Strawberry letter. Alright, hell, okay, hey,

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Speaker 1: good morning everyone. Steve Sherlett Carlin. Tell me I'm having

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Speaker 1: some issues. My mother in law is going through some

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Speaker 1: problems financially needs some support. All right, now, let's start

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Speaker 1: at the beginning. Steve, I man and my wife and

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Speaker 1: back from the first war in the desert. Since then,

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Speaker 1: I've been nine one one of her family. I've been

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Speaker 1: the nine one one of her family. My father in

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Speaker 1: law broke camp and told me, son in law, you

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Speaker 1: betterlieve why you got the chance. I didn't understand what

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Speaker 1: he was going on or what he meant. Then. My

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Speaker 1: wife was has four younger sisters and she's the only

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Speaker 1: one that's married. And statement, I've heard it all, yes,

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Speaker 1: even seen it too. I'm a strong man and grew

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Speaker 1: up without a father. I have three beautiful babies ranging

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Speaker 1: from thirteen to nine by my wife. I love her

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Speaker 1: to death. And I'll tell you why, Steve. I was

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Speaker 1: a dog when she met me and married me. Took

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Speaker 1: me about two years after manage to realized what I had.

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Speaker 1: She stuck by me. I got myself together and devoted

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Speaker 1: myself to her forsake and all others. Now I put

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Speaker 1: the in laws thanking. This was punishment for all my

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Speaker 1: infidelities out of help that would cause rent, house payments, bills, bankrupts,

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Speaker 1: even got an apartments in my name. Now, my wife's

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Speaker 1: gonna probably hear this. She listened to you also, But

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Speaker 1: I married her, not her family, my god. Having I

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Speaker 1: suffered enough my family of naw, I would have considered

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Speaker 1: running away. But I can't leave my baby. Don't want

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Speaker 1: to leave her? What should I do? Days and confused? Well,

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Speaker 1: days that confused. Listen, it is you cannot sink your

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Speaker 1: family trying to hold up everybody else. Your responsibility is only,

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Speaker 1: and I mean only and solely to your wife and

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Speaker 1: them kids. Outside of that, anything you're doing is above

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Speaker 1: and beyond, and it ain't necessary. You ain't saying one

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Speaker 1: vibe of her mom in law, her little three trifling sisters.

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Speaker 1: You ain't said if I God didn't ask you when

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Speaker 1: you cleave only them to them forsake and all the others.

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Speaker 1: He didn't ask you nothing. They ain't in the vised

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Speaker 1: that He don't even mention them. I can't really think

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Speaker 1: too many Bible versions. Got some people mentioned in there.

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Speaker 1: You ain't got to do nothing for them. But now

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Speaker 1: a dog is stretching you out because you got a

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Speaker 1: little problem. Because she gonna be hearting it. She gonna

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Speaker 1: hear this, and now you probably don't bought it too

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Speaker 1: it before, but she can't stop them what you want

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Speaker 1: her to do. Trifling is trifling. You got trip and

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Speaker 1: family members out here. So what do I say to

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Speaker 1: you to handle this as a solution? Days and confused?

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Speaker 1: Start dazing and confusing them. See, you ain't got the

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Speaker 1: only one. Got to be dazzed and confused. Turn around

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Speaker 1: in days and confused them. On the first of the month,

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Speaker 1: starting in January, go over there and ask them for

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Speaker 1: your rent. Oh, I got it, But just go ask

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Speaker 1: them for your rent next time your compayment. Do just

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Speaker 1: go down there, say man man, yeah, thank y'all. Beat

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Speaker 1: them to the point. You gotta confuse them. What his

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Speaker 1: hell is going on? Why is he calling us for money?

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Speaker 1: And we I was you know, I was just about

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Speaker 1: to call you. Damn you mean I beat you to it.

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Speaker 1: Beat him to the point. You gotta daze and confused people.

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Speaker 1: And from now on, your answer is we ain't got it.

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Speaker 1: Bottom line. A matter of fact, here's here's what I've

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Speaker 1: done a couple of times. Now, this is very helpful

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Speaker 1: to you because I have been in this position where

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Speaker 1: I've been trying to beat old Saint Nick fair body

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Speaker 1: doing good thing, So here I go. When I first

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Speaker 1: So whenever somebody called yah ahead and I gave it

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Speaker 1: to him, you go, here, you go, here, you gonna go.

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Speaker 1: But see you get out of hared because they don't

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Speaker 1: know how to stop because now all of a sudden

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Speaker 1: they outage you. And what I proposed to people Often time,

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Speaker 1: when you got people always begging you for money, if

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Speaker 1: they didn't know you, what would they do if they

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Speaker 1: why there's no answer machine on my phone, and why

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Speaker 1: you can't leave message. That's why I got everybody's right

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Speaker 1: and if I don't recognize your name, it don't get

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Speaker 1: can't fix it for you. That's why anybody called me

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Speaker 1: used to call me with messages. Man, I need to

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Speaker 1: ho let you always wait two weeks to call this

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Speaker 1: because because emergency's passed in two weeks. Anybody got no

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Speaker 1: emergency for two damn weeks after wi we gotta quit

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Speaker 1: being emergency, all right, Steve, You know we gotta get

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Speaker 1: out of here. You can email us or instagram us

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Speaker 1: your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter at my Girl surely

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