1 00:00:03,000 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning. 2 00:00:10,760 --> 00:00:16,400 Speaker 2: This is Laura, Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:16,400 --> 00:00:19,639 Speaker 2: tip is when you are unsure how to show kindness 4 00:00:19,680 --> 00:00:25,200 Speaker 2: to someone, consider reciprocating the kindness they have already shown 5 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:30,080 Speaker 2: to you. So kids are often taught to treat others 6 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:32,600 Speaker 2: the way that they would like to be treated. That 7 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:36,360 Speaker 2: is the so called golden rule, and there's real wisdom 8 00:00:36,360 --> 00:00:39,560 Speaker 2: in this. If you don't want your classmate to knock 9 00:00:39,600 --> 00:00:43,520 Speaker 2: over your block tower, you shouldn't knock over his block tower. 10 00:00:45,200 --> 00:00:47,480 Speaker 2: As we get older, we may aspire to go beyond 11 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:50,599 Speaker 2: the golden rule and treat other people the way that 12 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 2: they want to be treated, even if that is different 13 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:56,280 Speaker 2: from the way we would want to be treated in 14 00:00:56,280 --> 00:00:59,960 Speaker 2: their position. This makes sense because, if you think of it, 15 00:01:00,840 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 2: the golden rule can feel a little self referential. The 16 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:08,479 Speaker 2: grandmother who receives a glow in the dark baseball from 17 00:01:08,560 --> 00:01:11,760 Speaker 2: her eight year old grandson may be charmed that he 18 00:01:11,880 --> 00:01:16,400 Speaker 2: clearly gave her what he wanted for himself. But how 19 00:01:16,480 --> 00:01:20,080 Speaker 2: much more mature when that child, ten years later figures 20 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:23,280 Speaker 2: out what his grandmother actually wants and gives her that. 21 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:26,280 Speaker 1: Of course, the hard. 22 00:01:26,040 --> 00:01:28,720 Speaker 2: Part of all of this is knowing how another person 23 00:01:29,080 --> 00:01:32,840 Speaker 2: wants to be treated. It is very hard to get 24 00:01:32,840 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 2: out of our own heads. This is why people buy 25 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 2: other people's sweaters in their own favorite colors I mean, 26 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 2: which you clearly see as a great color, and then 27 00:01:42,920 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 2: are mystified when the other person doesn't wear it. It 28 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:48,840 Speaker 2: is even harder to get out of our own heads 29 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:52,800 Speaker 2: on more weighty matters. So if you are not sure 30 00:01:52,840 --> 00:01:56,680 Speaker 2: how someone wants to be treated, one hint is how 31 00:01:56,680 --> 00:02:00,919 Speaker 2: they have treated you. Your friend who gives you stationary 32 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:05,800 Speaker 2: for your birthday every year might appreciate stationary for her birthday. 33 00:02:06,520 --> 00:02:09,880 Speaker 2: I mean, she clearly thinks stationary is a great gift. 34 00:02:11,160 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 1: The cousin who texts. 35 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 2: You on your late mother's birthday every year might appreciate 36 00:02:17,080 --> 00:02:21,280 Speaker 2: your reaching out to her to remember her late brother's birthday. 37 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:25,359 Speaker 2: I mean, she clearly believes that honoring birthdays for loved 38 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:29,120 Speaker 2: and departed family members is important, which is why she 39 00:02:29,200 --> 00:02:32,359 Speaker 2: does this. So you can do the same unto her, 40 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:35,360 Speaker 2: even if you aren't the sort of person who actually 41 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 2: cares all that much about dates. Your colleague who asks about. 42 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:44,639 Speaker 1: Your weekend every Monday morning would probably value an invitation 43 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:49,920 Speaker 1: to tell you about his weekend. So ask your spouse 44 00:02:49,919 --> 00:02:53,880 Speaker 1: who buys you a joky card for every holiday, Birthday, Christmas, 45 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:57,800 Speaker 1: your Anniversary, Valentine's Day, Groundhog's Day might appreciate you are 46 00:02:57,880 --> 00:03:02,200 Speaker 1: getting him funny cards too. After all, he is showing 47 00:03:02,240 --> 00:03:04,760 Speaker 1: you that he thinks this is a great way to 48 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:08,280 Speaker 1: spread levity in life. So no doubt he will think 49 00:03:08,360 --> 00:03:11,639 Speaker 1: you are being very insightful when you do the same thing. 50 00:03:13,240 --> 00:03:17,920 Speaker 1: Often the kindnesses people show toward us offer a window 51 00:03:17,960 --> 00:03:22,280 Speaker 1: and to the kindness as they themselves value. It can 52 00:03:22,320 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: be hard to know what people want, but if we 53 00:03:25,360 --> 00:03:28,320 Speaker 1: assume that most people act according to what they think 54 00:03:28,440 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: matters and is valuable and is helpful, then what they 55 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:40,040 Speaker 1: do shows us what they want done. It really is 56 00:03:40,080 --> 00:03:44,880 Speaker 1: as simple as that. In the meantime, this is Laura. 57 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:50,480 Speaker 1: Thanks for listening, and here's to making the most of 58 00:03:50,520 --> 00:04:01,800 Speaker 1: our time. Thanks for listening to Before Breakfast. 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