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Speaker 1: Hi, we're back.

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Speaker 2: We're back with the minisode. We have our special guest.

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Speaker 2: Her name is Yaminika. I don't know if you've been

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Speaker 2: exposed to her yet through this podcast or through our

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Speaker 2: shows or through her Instagram.

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Speaker 1: Exposed to me, Yeah, it's exposure.

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Speaker 3: That's what I'm I would frame thank you, and the

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Speaker 3: only reason why I'm here is fully exposure.

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Speaker 2: Catherine, what do we have on the docket for today.

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Speaker 4: Well, we have an update from a previous caller. This

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Speaker 4: is Savannah. She had called in on our Kevin Hart episode.

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Speaker 4: She is not a person doing OnlyFans, but her dad

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Speaker 4: thought she was doing only fans because the step.

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Speaker 2: By was spreading rumors of right exactly, stepbrother was tele

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Speaker 2: going around the family telling everybody that this girl was

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Speaker 2: on OnlyFans.

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Speaker 1: I don't know.

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Speaker 4: She had made some offhanded comment about like I wonder

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Speaker 4: how much they make or how do they do their taxes?

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Speaker 1: And like she started telling e Ray she was doing

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Speaker 1: only fans. Oh wow. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: So the advice was to like hit it head on,

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Speaker 4: have a conversation with her. And so she's like kind

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Speaker 4: of not talking to her stepmom because she's mad at her.

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Speaker 4: So I asked for an update, She says, I have

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Speaker 4: my tail between my legs because we've continued to just

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Speaker 4: ignore each other. She lives three hours away and we

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Speaker 4: don't have to talk much anymore. I'm getting nervous as

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Speaker 4: her daughter, my stepsister, is getting married this year and

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Speaker 4: I want to tackle it by then August. I just

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Speaker 4: have fear over how she'll receive what I want to say.

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Speaker 4: She will shut down and get defensive and say things like, well,

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Speaker 4: I guess I'm just the worst person ever. I don't

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Speaker 4: want to pull my dad into this anymore, and I

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Speaker 4: think I just need to call her when I'm feeling brave.

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Speaker 4: I guess I just haven't been feeling brave and she

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Speaker 4: hasn't tried anything either. The advice you and Chelsea Gabe

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Speaker 4: was wonderful, and I've listened back to it to make

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Speaker 4: sure it lives in my head when the time for

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Speaker 4: the conversation comes. I just don't know when that would

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Speaker 4: be signed a nervous and disappointed non sex worker stepdaughter Savannah.

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Speaker 3: No baby baby, and I know I wasn't here for

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Speaker 3: the first one who gives a crap, which is why

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Speaker 3: are you talking to your stepmother?

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Speaker 4: Beat it?

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Speaker 3: You told everybody in a family. I was on OnlyFans

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Speaker 3: bitch beat it. I don't understand why she gotta have

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Speaker 3: stepsister's wedding.

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Speaker 1: My dad going to beat it.

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Speaker 3: I'm a beat it unless the stepsister tell you to

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Speaker 3: beat it, and then you know what a step sister lie.

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Speaker 1: I don't understand this nonsense of I got to tackle.

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Speaker 3: This conversation with a woman that you already know is

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Speaker 3: going to be defensive, and it's passive aggressive and playing

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Speaker 3: the victim.

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Speaker 1: Beat it lady.

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Speaker 3: So that's me updating you, giving you updated advice.

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Speaker 2: That's better advice than I gave the first time around.

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Speaker 2: Quite frankly, I mean.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, fuck her.

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Speaker 2: I think the girl was upset because her her dad

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Speaker 2: actually was like believing the mother, but also exactly like,

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Speaker 2: fuck off. If you're spreading rumors about me like that,

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Speaker 2: that aren't true. If there's no basis, like a fact,

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Speaker 2: and then.

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Speaker 1: No, fuck off, it's right fuck off.

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Speaker 4: So new advice, Savannah, Just fuck her. Yeah, So we

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Speaker 4: do have a caller today, Ashley writes in her subject

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Speaker 4: line is politics are destroying my book club. Dear tell

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Speaker 4: I'm part of a six woman book club that consists

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Speaker 4: of the following demographic politically, one MAGA, three Liberal Dems,

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Speaker 4: one moderate DEM think Bill maher DEM this is me,

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Speaker 4: and one extremely woke progressive. We live in Seattle, however,

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Speaker 4: all the Dems are transplants from California and the magafan

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Speaker 4: is a transplant from Idaho. I was homesick during our

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Speaker 4: last gathering in early February when a notable fight erupted

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Speaker 4: over the current Trump administration's work since taking office. It

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Speaker 4: resulted in the Mega individual leaving the gathering in tears,

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Speaker 4: and one remaining progressive in three liberals agreeing to kick

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Speaker 4: her out of.

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Speaker 1: The book club.

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Speaker 4: When we planned our next meetup, I inquired about talking

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Speaker 4: to Maga and moving the group forward without her. I

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Speaker 4: of feedback given her values. I disagree with this. Kicking

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Speaker 4: someone out of a club they've been in for six

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Speaker 4: years with no feedback, then continuing to post about it

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Speaker 4: on social media is a textbook form of high school bullying.

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Speaker 4: We're thirty seven, Grow the fuck up, and yes we've

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Speaker 4: already tried, agreed to disagree, and don't talk politics in

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Speaker 4: our book club. However, it's difficult to avoid these topics

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Speaker 4: in twenty twenty five. I do not believe in cancel culture,

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Speaker 4: nor do I believe in ghosting. And while I've spent

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Speaker 4: my entire life residing in coastal elite quote unquote areas,

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Speaker 4: I have a handful of family members who voted for

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Speaker 4: Trump that I would never dream of cutting out of

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Speaker 4: my life. I feel strongly that further segregation of our

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Speaker 4: two communities is compounding the current issues we're facing in America. Finally,

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Speaker 4: this has raised some questions for me about my liberal

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Speaker 4: friends who are more than happy to continue life in

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Speaker 4: don't share their beliefs. As it stands, I'm wondering if

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Speaker 4: I should excuse myself from the group altogether.

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Speaker 2: Ashley sounds like a Supreme Court situation here. I mean,

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Speaker 2: the liberals, progressive, this is a hard day moderate, and

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Speaker 2: then a maga, okay, gop it hi, Hi, how are you, Chelsea?

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Speaker 5: I'm will How are you?

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Speaker 1: So? I don't know? I mean, what do you think?

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Speaker 1: I feel like? Do you want me to go first?

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Speaker 1: I think we're gonna go? Okay, yeah, yeah, you go first?

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Speaker 1: You want me to go. You go first.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I'm in a book club, so we try.

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Speaker 3: You know, this book club is really centered. Any of

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Speaker 3: the book clubs I've ever been in have been centered

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Speaker 3: around people that are sort of like minded in ways. Right,

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Speaker 3: there's something that's threading us together. And I feel like

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Speaker 3: when we've had dissension in the club, it's probably somebody.

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Speaker 3: You know, people didn't like somebody or whatever it was.

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Speaker 3: So I've seen people come and go in book clubs

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Speaker 3: and you just go into another damn book club.

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Speaker 1: I think it's unfortunate that it did get political.

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Speaker 3: I think the issue probably right now is I understand

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Speaker 3: like you have people in your family that you would

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Speaker 3: never turn away from even though they voted for Donald Trump,

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Speaker 3: and I think you have the capacity to do that

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Speaker 3: right now. For me, if I'm honest in this time,

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Speaker 3: being a woman and being a black woman, I think

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Speaker 3: it's a matter of life or death for me when

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Speaker 3: I start to see people that are saying certain things

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Speaker 1: Know, it becomes life or death.

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Speaker 3: So then I do look at people during this time

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Speaker 1: Did when we all, you know, I didn't agree that,

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Speaker 3: George Bush Junior was president, Like, there was no way

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Speaker 3: I would have ever gotten rid of somebody because they

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Speaker 1: But we're talking for me right now.

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Speaker 3: The president we have is very dangerous to people like me,

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Speaker 3: and so it's like a matter of life or death.

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Speaker 3: And I can see how people are getting crunchy in

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Speaker 3: to cause you a tear, you may have to just

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Speaker 3: go to another place, you know what I'm saying, Because

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Speaker 3: when one of the things about the book clubs are

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Speaker 3: like we respect each other's opinions, you know, even about

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Speaker 3: the interpretation of books, you know, interpretations of words and

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Speaker 5: I think that's a really interesting perspective just about the

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Speaker 5: point of the book club obviously is to respect each

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Speaker 5: other's opinions because you're going to have different opinions about

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Speaker 5: how you interpret things that you read, etc. I think

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Speaker 5: what was really interesting for me is this all came

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Speaker 5: up so your book, I think Chelsea came out in February,

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Speaker 5: chapters in your book that come to mind because there's

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Speaker 5: a theme of sisterhood right in your book, about being

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Speaker 5: able to have tough conversations respectfully. I'm thinking of the

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Speaker 5: Jane Fondae chapter right, your friend who partied a little

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Speaker 5: And so to me, I think the bigger issue is,

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Speaker 5: these are your my friends? Are we now at a

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Speaker 5: I think that's more what I'm struggling with in terms

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that does make sense, And it's like it's it

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Speaker 2: seems like it's just really up to you, you know

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Speaker 2: what I mean, it's really a personal decision, Like do

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Speaker 5: Well, I think she lives in her own media bubble, right,

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Speaker 5: so she consumes what she wants to consume, and so

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Speaker 5: she ironically is the one. So book club existed before Covid, right,

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Speaker 5: So started in twenty eighteen ish, right, And obviously Trump

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Speaker 5: She comes from a place of I want to learn,

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Speaker 5: I want to hear your opinion, I want to understand

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Speaker 5: your viewpoints, which I think we all welcome having conversations,

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Speaker 5: comes from kind of the Fox News lens of anytime

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Speaker 5: we engage in the conversation, it's like, well, what about

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Speaker 5: when Hillary did it?

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Speaker 1: Right?

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Speaker 5: She just follows that like media playbooked, and so the

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Speaker 5: conversations end up being not productive.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's the bottom line. Is it a

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Speaker 2: productive Like it's nice to be able to extend your

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so it's just like, Okay, that's the solution, just

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Speaker 2: And but that's her though, Like you can't blame your

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Speaker 5: So you mentioned recently on your social media that you

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Speaker 2: So I have a different set of values. But I

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Speaker 5: What I'm saying there, Yeah, and I think this is validating.

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Speaker 5: I think the reason I loved your most recent book

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Speaker 2: Want to extend that to her, you can, But I

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Speaker 3: And she might have tapped out on her reading source.

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Speaker 2: They won't be reading for long though, because there'll be

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Speaker 1: So there's that.

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Speaker 1: You can tell the progressive that.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, No, I appreciate it. Thank you, Chelsea. Catherine gokay

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Speaker 2: Book clubat great Well, she should read that, you know,

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Speaker 4: One of the funniest things about the MAGA contingent for

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Speaker 3: And this time, what it means to be maga is

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Speaker 1: That was a long minisode.

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Speaker 2: Sure, I feel like longer than a shower.

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Speaker 1: Okay, don't say that that means you to enjoy me.

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Speaker 2: I always enjoy you, of course I do. I just

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Speaker 2: Saying yes to trans people is a bad thing, like

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Speaker 3: You want to do certain things, you want the doubt

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Speaker 1: That don't get it.

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Speaker 1: Do you understand?

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Speaker 3: People are very selfish and that's when the conversations have

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Speaker 1: And yeah, it, where's you out? I get it?

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Speaker 3: You get tired, I'm your Hey, I'm doing my part.

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Speaker 2: That is a mental disorder. That's a great, great way

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Speaker 2: to frame it. Racism is a mental disorder. If you

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Speaker 2: really believe Wait not laughing.

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Speaker 1: It's true. It's fucking mental disorder.

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Speaker 2: If you really believe someone who has a different skin

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Speaker 2: color is less valuable, that is a mental disorder.

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Speaker 3: A mental disorder, and starting bye bye, bye bye.

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Speaker 6: So I added a couple of new dates. I'm not

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Speaker 6: on tour yet, but I added a couple of dance

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Speaker 6: just because I felt like we need a little bit

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Speaker 6: more laughter and a little bit more medicine for the

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Speaker 6: end of the year. And I was wrapping things up,

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Speaker 6: but I thought, maybe let me do a couple more.

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Speaker 6: So I'm adding three more dates in addition to my

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Speaker 6: Vegas residency. I'm doing Westhampton Beach August twenty first, I'm

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Speaker 6: headlining the Rochester Fringe Comedy Festival September thirteenth, and I

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Speaker 6: will be in NAPA on October third, So those will

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Speaker 1: Of the year.

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