WEBVTT - 3 Techniques to Switch from Overthinking to Thinking Effectively & 4 Ways to Turn That Into Action 0:00:00.080 --> 0:00:03.400 You want to expect failure and to make mistakes and 0:00:03.480 --> 0:00:05.880 not try and avoid them. If you're failing and making 0:00:05.920 --> 0:00:09.200 mistakes and learning for them, you're on the part. If 0:00:09.200 --> 0:00:11.799 you're failing and making mistakes and not learning from them, 0:00:11.960 --> 0:00:14.360 then that's obviously not useful. But I want you to 0:00:14.400 --> 0:00:17.759 expect failure. I want you to expect to make mistakes. 0:00:17.960 --> 0:00:21.079 So now you're not surprised. Now you don't judge yourself. 0:00:21.239 --> 0:00:25.160 Now you don't make yourself feel insecure or inferior because 0:00:25.200 --> 0:00:34.519 of it. Hey, everyone, welcome back to our Purpose, the 0:00:34.600 --> 0:00:37.640 number one health podcast in the world. Thanks to each 0:00:37.680 --> 0:00:39.720 and every one of you that come back every week 0:00:40.000 --> 0:00:43.319 to listen, learn and grow. Now, I know that if 0:00:43.320 --> 0:00:47.000 you're here, you're here because you want to be happy, healthy, 0:00:47.040 --> 0:00:49.479 and healing. That's what I want for myself, That's what 0:00:49.520 --> 0:00:51.720 I want for all of you. It's what I want 0:00:51.720 --> 0:00:55.680 for everyone in the world. Imagine if the world was happier, healthier, 0:00:56.080 --> 0:00:59.480 and more healed, what a beautiful world we'd live in 0:00:59.520 --> 0:01:03.040 would be to people, we'd be better parents, we'd be 0:01:03.040 --> 0:01:07.199 better professionals, it would be a truly phenomenal place to live. 0:01:07.640 --> 0:01:12.360 And on Purpose is dedicated to that mission. Introducing you 0:01:12.400 --> 0:01:18.080 to incredible thinkers and minds, ideas, topics, takeaways, insights that 0:01:18.120 --> 0:01:21.000 can help you transform your life. So if you're here, 0:01:21.480 --> 0:01:25.440 take a moment to just acknowledge and express gratitude to 0:01:25.560 --> 0:01:30.120 yourself for showing up for yourself. Now, today's episode is 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:34.760 something that was sparked by a conversation with one of 0:01:34.800 --> 0:01:37.720 my dear friends, Humble the Poet. If you haven't read 0:01:37.720 --> 0:01:40.920 his work or don't follow him, he's an incredible, incredible 0:01:40.959 --> 0:01:44.640 thinker and I've really enjoyed my conversations with him since 0:01:44.680 --> 0:01:48.120 we became friends around four years ago. And what we'll 0:01:48.160 --> 0:01:52.000 often do is we'll just find questions that we find 0:01:52.120 --> 0:01:56.360 fascinating and we'll think, we'll reflect, we'll try and come 0:01:56.440 --> 0:02:01.880 up with actionable items. And so this episode was inspired 0:02:01.880 --> 0:02:05.840 by that conversation because the question he asked me and 0:02:05.920 --> 0:02:07.640 some of the insights he shared with me, which I'll 0:02:07.640 --> 0:02:11.880 be sharing today, was what is the difference between thinking 0:02:12.000 --> 0:02:16.640 and overthinking? And we probably thought about this ironically for 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:19.960 like a couple of hours, but the conversation was so 0:02:20.040 --> 0:02:22.400 brilliant that I had to share it with you. And 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:23.960 some of the things he shared with me was so 0:02:24.000 --> 0:02:26.040 fascinating he's going to be on the podcast soon too, 0:02:26.080 --> 0:02:29.000 because here's a new book coming out, so we all 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:31.760 look forward to that. Now, when it comes to thinking 0:02:31.760 --> 0:02:34.960 and overthinking, I think the reason why we have to 0:02:35.000 --> 0:02:40.720 address this question is because I think we all experience overthinking, 0:02:41.240 --> 0:02:46.000 we experience overanalyzing. I'm sure many of you experienced brain 0:02:46.080 --> 0:02:51.320 fog or feeling cloudy because there's just so much to process. 0:02:51.639 --> 0:02:55.640 Maybe you feel like you're just constantly bombarded by information. 0:02:56.080 --> 0:03:00.960 You're bombarded by data, you're bombarded by messages andifications. And 0:03:01.000 --> 0:03:04.640 I find that, me included, I have to be really 0:03:04.680 --> 0:03:07.919 careful about what I let in to my mind and 0:03:07.960 --> 0:03:11.200 my space. Just as we're careful about who we led 0:03:11.240 --> 0:03:14.280 into our home, we have to be careful about what 0:03:14.320 --> 0:03:18.000 we led into our mind. And as I was researching 0:03:18.080 --> 0:03:23.040 for this episode, I saw some incredible statistics that blew 0:03:23.120 --> 0:03:25.639 my mind that I want to share with you. And 0:03:25.720 --> 0:03:31.720 this study showed that the average person today processes as 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:37.320 much as seventy four gigabytes of information per day. That's 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:41.760 as much as watching sixteen movies. Can you imagine that 0:03:41.960 --> 0:03:46.160 seventy four gigabytes? Right? If you think about your phone, 0:03:46.560 --> 0:03:48.480 your phone might have like two hundred and fifty six 0:03:48.520 --> 0:03:54.400 gigabytes memory. You're processing seventy four gigabytes per day, which 0:03:54.560 --> 0:03:58.320 is a huge amount of information. And when we think 0:03:58.360 --> 0:04:02.640 about our search for information, we know that Google has 0:04:02.720 --> 0:04:08.160 about over forty thousand searches every second. How many of 0:04:08.160 --> 0:04:11.640 those are you responsible for? Right? Like? Just think about 0:04:11.640 --> 0:04:15.600 how often we're searching for information. And I'm not even 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:18.799 getting into just how many YouTube views per second or minute, 0:04:18.839 --> 0:04:21.880 how many tweets per second or minute. I mean, the 0:04:21.960 --> 0:04:28.520 rate of information creation and consumption is going through the roof. 0:04:29.120 --> 0:04:35.120 And as we see this escalation in exposure to all 0:04:35.160 --> 0:04:38.000 of this information that our mind and our brain has 0:04:38.040 --> 0:04:41.760 to make sense of. It has to structure it, it 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:46.160 has to organize it, it has to bring emotion in, 0:04:46.320 --> 0:04:48.840 take emotion out. I mean, when you think about the 0:04:48.960 --> 0:04:53.840 number of processes we're having to do now, it is 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:59.760 not abnormal to recognize that so many of us are struggling, right, 0:05:00.160 --> 0:05:02.480 not abnormal at all. So if you're one of those 0:05:02.520 --> 0:05:04.760 people who's going, oh, I don't feel smart enough, I 0:05:04.760 --> 0:05:07.520 don't feel fast enough. I feel like I'm too weak, 0:05:07.640 --> 0:05:09.920 I feel like I should be better at this, I 0:05:10.000 --> 0:05:12.960 just want you to cut yourself some slack. I want 0:05:13.000 --> 0:05:15.320 you to forgive yourself. I want you to give yourself 0:05:15.640 --> 0:05:19.839 a break and recognize that it's so natural that we're 0:05:19.880 --> 0:05:25.080 feeling overwhelmed because of the rate of overconsumption. Now, when 0:05:25.080 --> 0:05:29.080 you think about how much you're consuming and how you're feeling, 0:05:30.080 --> 0:05:34.039 I'm sure that overthinking is something that happens a lot. 0:05:34.480 --> 0:05:39.560 We're now exposed to poorer quality of information. So not 0:05:39.640 --> 0:05:43.599 only are you experienced too more, you're experience to more 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:49.440 with less quality, with less research, with less evidence, with 0:05:49.680 --> 0:05:53.240 less thoughts sometimes as well, to be honest, and so 0:05:53.320 --> 0:05:56.000 what ends up happening is that we're now having to 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:58.520 make sense of stuff that may not even make sense 0:05:58.520 --> 0:06:01.440 in the first place, or may not be valid enough 0:06:01.800 --> 0:06:07.120 to make sense of. And that creates a lot of stress, 0:06:07.160 --> 0:06:10.000 a lot of pressure, a lot of tension. I remember 0:06:10.080 --> 0:06:12.120 when I was living in New York I lived there 0:06:12.160 --> 0:06:15.479 for two years. I would often feel tired in the 0:06:15.560 --> 0:06:18.960 evening after a busy day, but I'd feel more tired 0:06:18.960 --> 0:06:21.280 in New York than anywhere before. And when I started 0:06:21.279 --> 0:06:24.440 looking into it, I came across this idea of cognitive load, 0:06:24.920 --> 0:06:27.119 the idea that when you're walking around New York City, 0:06:27.160 --> 0:06:31.160 there's so many sirens, there's so much roadwork going on, 0:06:31.320 --> 0:06:34.960 there's so much noise from the trash and whatever else. 0:06:35.000 --> 0:06:38.400 There may be that our brains are trying to make 0:06:38.560 --> 0:06:44.120 sense of insignificant, unuseful sound, and that takes up energy. 0:06:44.720 --> 0:06:47.919 So the reason why Humble and I started having this 0:06:47.960 --> 0:06:52.320 conversation was because we were realizing that we think this 0:06:52.400 --> 0:06:55.239 is a challenge for a lot of people that we know, friends, family, 0:06:55.320 --> 0:06:57.240 people that we work with, people that we hear from 0:06:58.320 --> 0:07:03.839 where overthinking over analyzing has become the norm. But it's 0:07:03.920 --> 0:07:07.080 not easy to just say to someone, will stop overthinking it, 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:10.960 like stop over analyzing it, And that's not useful advice. 0:07:11.000 --> 0:07:13.320 It's not helpful. If anyone's ever said that to you before, 0:07:13.720 --> 0:07:15.760 or you've ever said that to anyone before, you know 0:07:15.920 --> 0:07:21.000 how unimpactful it truly is. So let's talk about the 0:07:21.080 --> 0:07:26.720 differences between thinking and overthinking, and Humble brought up the 0:07:26.720 --> 0:07:29.760 first run. He said that his therapist told him it 0:07:29.800 --> 0:07:34.239 was the amount of time. The first difference between thinking 0:07:34.280 --> 0:07:39.600 and overthinking, according to his therapist, was time. Now, let's 0:07:39.640 --> 0:07:42.800 talk about time. I think time is one of the 0:07:42.840 --> 0:07:47.840 differences between thinking and overthinking because there's a difference whether 0:07:47.840 --> 0:07:50.000 you're thinking about something for a month or two months 0:07:50.120 --> 0:07:53.920 or two years. And I would say that this time 0:07:54.400 --> 0:07:59.440 applies to the extent of the task, So it depends 0:07:59.480 --> 0:08:02.920 on thee of the task. For example, if I'm about 0:08:02.960 --> 0:08:05.320 to write a book, and for those of you who know, 0:08:05.360 --> 0:08:08.200 I've just finished writing my second book, Eight Rules of Love. 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:11.600 And if I'm going to write a book, I may 0:08:11.800 --> 0:08:16.000 think about that book for a couple of years before 0:08:16.040 --> 0:08:18.880 I start to write it. I don't consider that to 0:08:18.920 --> 0:08:23.560 be overthinking, because it's a book. It's words on a page, 0:08:23.640 --> 0:08:28.760 it's set in stone, It's there as a thoughtful, curated, 0:08:29.000 --> 0:08:31.920 researched piece of work that I can't wait to share 0:08:31.960 --> 0:08:34.440 with you. Right, So the amount of thinking that it 0:08:34.520 --> 0:08:40.000 requires to create a three hundred page book is very different. 0:08:40.040 --> 0:08:41.800 And so some people may say, well, that sounds like 0:08:41.880 --> 0:08:46.200 overthinking you spend two years on it, But it's only 0:08:46.280 --> 0:08:48.960 overthinking if it's based on the task. Now, if I 0:08:49.000 --> 0:08:54.080 spent two years thinking about one thirteen minute solo episode, 0:08:54.559 --> 0:08:57.880 that can be considered overthinking. I may have thought about 0:08:57.880 --> 0:09:01.120 this idea before, I may elected on it before. But 0:09:01.160 --> 0:09:04.800 if I'm consistently thinking every day for two to three 0:09:04.880 --> 0:09:08.360 years about a thirteen minute podcast episode that would be 0:09:08.400 --> 0:09:12.480 considered overthinking. So when you're making a plan, one of 0:09:12.480 --> 0:09:15.160 the things I'd recommend is that you first look at 0:09:15.160 --> 0:09:18.600 the scale of the task, and based on the scale 0:09:18.600 --> 0:09:22.080 of the task, you figure out the scope of the time. 0:09:22.640 --> 0:09:25.160 The larger the task, the more difficult the task, the 0:09:25.200 --> 0:09:28.480 more challenging the task, the more you give yourself a 0:09:28.480 --> 0:09:31.720 certain time. And this is also the difference between thinking 0:09:31.720 --> 0:09:36.040 and overthinking when it comes to time. Scheduled time makes 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:40.360 it thinking. Unscheduled time can make it overthinking. So if 0:09:40.400 --> 0:09:42.120 I say to myself, hey, I want to write a 0:09:42.120 --> 0:09:44.280 book about this subject, I'm going to spend a couple 0:09:44.280 --> 0:09:46.160 of years thinking about it before I really you know, 0:09:46.160 --> 0:09:48.959 while I gather my thoughts, gather my research, gather my insights, 0:09:49.760 --> 0:09:52.840 and then those two years will give me these things 0:09:52.840 --> 0:09:57.199 that I need. Now, you're using your time wisely. Now 0:09:57.480 --> 0:10:01.079 you are actually thinking and not over thinking because your 0:10:01.120 --> 0:10:04.280 time is accounted for. And so if you're someone who 0:10:04.320 --> 0:10:07.560 wants to do something big, something that's coming up, something 0:10:08.000 --> 0:10:11.360 significant that I want you to think about, how much 0:10:11.440 --> 0:10:13.800 time is that going to take for you to think 0:10:13.840 --> 0:10:15.920 about it, for you to reflect on it. The mistake 0:10:15.960 --> 0:10:18.520 we often make is we just try and dive in, 0:10:19.000 --> 0:10:21.400 and when you drive in, you could get discouraged. And 0:10:21.440 --> 0:10:24.200 this is why it really comes to self awareness. There 0:10:24.240 --> 0:10:27.720 are a lot of people who don't need to function 0:10:27.760 --> 0:10:29.680 this way. They would just dive in, they'd make mistakes, 0:10:29.720 --> 0:10:32.760 they'd figure it out and everything would work out for them. 0:10:32.920 --> 0:10:35.520 And there are some people who need more thought, need 0:10:35.520 --> 0:10:38.440 more process, need more structure. So I want you to 0:10:38.559 --> 0:10:41.400 really think about your self awareness to figure that out. 0:10:42.080 --> 0:10:44.760 Have you ever had one bad moment spoil your entire 0:10:44.840 --> 0:10:48.680 day or felt overwhelmed for no reason? What about stress 0:10:48.800 --> 0:10:52.320 or anxious over that big moment or difficult conversation. 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That's 0:11:56.520 --> 0:11:59.079 only forty two dollars for the whole year for daily 0:11:59.120 --> 0:12:04.360 guided meditation. Experienced the Daily Jay only on Calm now. 0:12:04.440 --> 0:12:07.640 The second difference between thinking and overthinking this was Humble's 0:12:07.679 --> 0:12:11.440 answer is that he said it's about action. So he 0:12:11.559 --> 0:12:17.199 was saying that if you are thinking, then it will 0:12:17.280 --> 0:12:21.040 lead to action, and if you're overthinking, it will lead 0:12:21.040 --> 0:12:24.320 to inaction. I thought this was a brilliant, brilliant answer 0:12:24.360 --> 0:12:26.880 from him because I couldn't agree with him more when 0:12:26.920 --> 0:12:31.000 we're thinking strategically and effectively, it leads to action, it 0:12:31.080 --> 0:12:34.240 leads to change, it leads to transformation. But when we 0:12:34.280 --> 0:12:38.120 just overthink, and this is why things like gossip, why 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:44.360 things like negativity, why things like comparison, complaining, and criticism 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:49.160 are often not healthy thinking and are overthinking because they 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:52.559 don't lead to positive action. So I think the question 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:54.719 you have to ask yourself as hey, well, if I 0:12:54.840 --> 0:12:57.319 thought about this for a long time but it led 0:12:57.360 --> 0:13:00.720 to action, then maybe I'm not an overthinker. I remember 0:13:00.800 --> 0:13:08.080 before launching my YouTube channel, I spent two years thinking, researching, looking. 0:13:08.640 --> 0:13:11.360 It took me two years before I even launched my 0:13:11.400 --> 0:13:14.640 first video. Now, some could say that was overthinking, some 0:13:14.720 --> 0:13:17.319 could say that was stalling. Some would even call that 0:13:17.400 --> 0:13:20.319 a failure. But for me, I just saw that as 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:23.480 part of the process and guess what, It led to action, 0:13:23.920 --> 0:13:26.640 and that action has led to all these incredible things 0:13:26.640 --> 0:13:28.880 in my life. I'll give you another example. Before I 0:13:28.960 --> 0:13:32.480 launched on Purpose this podcast, I thought about launching a 0:13:32.520 --> 0:13:34.960 podcast for another two years. I found that some of 0:13:34.960 --> 0:13:39.600 the biggest projects, biggest ideas that I've created in my life, 0:13:39.600 --> 0:13:43.760 whether it's my books, my podcast, the content I'm creating. 0:13:44.120 --> 0:13:48.080 I'll often spend a couple of years learning, growing, researching, 0:13:48.160 --> 0:13:53.400 experimenting to truly understand right to really think about what 0:13:53.480 --> 0:13:55.280 I want to do and why I want to do it. 0:13:55.679 --> 0:13:59.240 And I find that to be extremely helpful because by 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:04.240 the time I get going, I'm already really clear on 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:06.320 what I'm trying to achieve and why I'm trying to 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:10.560 achieve it. Diving in sometimes I find actually takes me 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:15.080 three steps back because I don't give myself the time 0:14:15.080 --> 0:14:18.000 to really know why it's important to me, why it's 0:14:18.040 --> 0:14:21.120 relevant to me, and how I want it to flow. 0:14:21.640 --> 0:14:26.240 So try this. Ask yourself, the next time you're thinking 0:14:26.240 --> 0:14:30.000 about something, how quickly can I get to action? What 0:14:30.240 --> 0:14:33.000 is the right action to follow this thought? All of 0:14:33.080 --> 0:14:36.520 a sudden, you won't be overthinking. Overthinking means you keep 0:14:36.560 --> 0:14:40.040 repeating the same thought, you keep repeating the same emotion, 0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:42.880 the same feeling, and you never ask yourself, what do 0:14:42.960 --> 0:14:45.520 I change? What can I do about this? How can 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:49.760 I shift from this position? And that simple question can 0:14:49.800 --> 0:14:55.520 make all the difference. Now. The third difference between thinking 0:14:55.560 --> 0:15:01.200 and overthinking, which came from my insight, is how structured 0:15:02.160 --> 0:15:05.320 your process is. So when I'm thinking about something. I'll 0:15:05.320 --> 0:15:09.120 have a structure, I'll break it down, I'll have steps, 0:15:09.640 --> 0:15:12.640 I'll have points that I'm following. I'll have principles or 0:15:12.720 --> 0:15:15.880 values that I use as a guide. But when you're overthinking, 0:15:15.920 --> 0:15:18.640 you just keep repeating the same thought. You keep going 0:15:18.680 --> 0:15:21.600 round around in circles. There's no structure, there's no process, 0:15:21.600 --> 0:15:25.240 there's no system. So I want you to focus on 0:15:25.360 --> 0:15:29.640 having a system for how you think. Every time you 0:15:29.680 --> 0:15:32.440 have a thought, try and create an if this, then 0:15:32.520 --> 0:15:36.240 that system with that idea. If I feel this, then 0:15:36.320 --> 0:15:39.440 I do this. As soon as you start implementing that 0:15:39.520 --> 0:15:44.080 and practicing that, that will now become the thought pattern 0:15:44.160 --> 0:15:47.720 you carve for your mind. What we have to realize 0:15:47.800 --> 0:15:50.960 is that every thought you're having is simply a thought, 0:15:51.000 --> 0:15:54.000 a pathway in your mind that has been carved because 0:15:54.040 --> 0:15:56.200 you've walked on it so many times. It's like if 0:15:56.200 --> 0:15:59.520 you take the same route to work or to school 0:15:59.680 --> 0:16:04.120 every day, that becomes your norm, and now anything that's 0:16:04.200 --> 0:16:07.400 different to that feels random, it feels awkward, it may 0:16:07.440 --> 0:16:10.080 feel uncomfortable. All you have to do is start taking 0:16:10.120 --> 0:16:12.520 another route, and as you take that route every day, 0:16:13.680 --> 0:16:16.200 if this, then that, If it rains, then I take 0:16:16.280 --> 0:16:19.760 this route, now you start to have a different approach. 0:16:20.160 --> 0:16:26.440 So the three differences between thinking and overthinking are time, action, 0:16:27.200 --> 0:16:31.880 and structure. Now now that we know that, how do 0:16:31.960 --> 0:16:35.560 we shift into taking action? The first thing you have 0:16:35.600 --> 0:16:38.880 to remember is that you will never ever feel ready. 0:16:39.960 --> 0:16:43.480 I don't know anyone who started something who ever felt ready. 0:16:43.520 --> 0:16:45.960 If you asked me when I launched my YouTube channel, 0:16:45.960 --> 0:16:48.400 did I feel ready? I would have said no. If 0:16:48.400 --> 0:16:50.360 you asked me before we launched on purpose, if I 0:16:50.360 --> 0:16:53.720 felt ready, I would have said no. If you asked 0:16:53.760 --> 0:16:55.720 me that about a book, you asked me that about genius, 0:16:55.760 --> 0:16:57.400 you asked me that about anything we've ever done. We 0:16:57.480 --> 0:17:00.120 never felt ready. I never felt ready. If any thing, 0:17:00.160 --> 0:17:01.960 it was always like, well, if we had six more months, 0:17:01.960 --> 0:17:03.480 we could do this. If we had twelve more months, 0:17:03.520 --> 0:17:06.960 we could do this. But I realized that the growth 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:11.080 I'd make in six to twelve months of not doing 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:14.640 something would never outweigh the growth that I would make 0:17:14.800 --> 0:17:17.320 if I did launch it. When you launch something, when 0:17:17.320 --> 0:17:20.720 you create something, when you think about something, you learn 0:17:20.840 --> 0:17:24.160 so much more. Then when you wait till you're ready, 0:17:24.240 --> 0:17:27.040 you wait till the perfect time, You wait till everything's 0:17:27.080 --> 0:17:29.160 calmed down right, we always say like, I'm just gonna 0:17:29.200 --> 0:17:31.720 wait till things settle down a bit. By then you 0:17:31.720 --> 0:17:34.600 could lose inspiration, lose motivation, you could get busier, you 0:17:34.600 --> 0:17:38.399 could get distracted, something else comes along. I find that 0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:44.480 I've learned that my ability accelerates and expands every year 0:17:44.720 --> 0:17:48.280 as I add more to my plate and create better 0:17:48.359 --> 0:17:51.760 practices to deal with it. So you'll never feel ready 0:17:51.960 --> 0:17:55.960 start anyway. Right, Please remember that if you're worrying about 0:17:56.000 --> 0:17:58.840 starting something right now, I want you to know that, 0:17:59.640 --> 0:18:02.240 don't wait till you're ready, don't wait till you know everything. 0:18:02.359 --> 0:18:06.000 Don't wait because you'll never know everything. You'll never be ready. 0:18:06.080 --> 0:18:08.760 That's the point. There isn't a point where you go, Okay, 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:12.520 I'm completely healed now, Okay, I'm completely here now. This 0:18:12.600 --> 0:18:17.679 is a Western ideology of beginning and completion. Have you 0:18:17.760 --> 0:18:21.040 ever completed anything? Like? What do you you know? Have 0:18:21.119 --> 0:18:24.480 we completed our education? No? It was just an arbitrary 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:30.520 mark of saying you've now graduated. So recognizing that things 0:18:30.520 --> 0:18:34.399 are more cyclical organic in nature, has a tree ever 0:18:34.480 --> 0:18:41.680 finished growing? No? Right, it's not fully grown even as humans. Right, 0:18:41.720 --> 0:18:45.200 there are parts of us that may stop growing, but 0:18:45.240 --> 0:18:47.960 they don't stop changing, and so I just want you 0:18:47.960 --> 0:18:50.400 to recognize that the second thing I'm going to say 0:18:50.520 --> 0:18:54.959 can be counterintuitive, but you want to expect failure and 0:18:55.040 --> 0:18:57.760 to make mistakes and not try and avoid them. One 0:18:57.800 --> 0:18:59.719 of the reasons why we don't take action and where 0:18:59.800 --> 0:19:03.520 we sitting overthinking is because we're trying to plot and 0:19:03.680 --> 0:19:08.320 plan how to avoid every mistake and failure. I can 0:19:08.359 --> 0:19:11.640 honestly tell you that with every venture I've started, I 0:19:11.640 --> 0:19:14.600 have failed and made so many mistakes. Honestly, I've made 0:19:14.640 --> 0:19:18.000 so many mistakes. I've failed it so many things, and 0:19:18.200 --> 0:19:22.080 I've realized that that's just the path. When I think 0:19:22.119 --> 0:19:25.160 about things like Steve Jobs getting kicked out of Apple, 0:19:25.560 --> 0:19:28.200 can you imagine getting kicked out of your own company? 0:19:28.600 --> 0:19:31.320 What kind of failure that is? What kind of challenge 0:19:31.359 --> 0:19:33.639 that is? When you think about any of the people 0:19:33.680 --> 0:19:36.960 you admire, they have all failed and made mistakes. That 0:19:37.160 --> 0:19:40.560 is the path. If you're failing and making mistakes and 0:19:40.680 --> 0:19:43.600 learning for them, you're on the path. If you're failing 0:19:43.600 --> 0:19:46.720 and making mistakes and not learning from them, then that's 0:19:46.720 --> 0:19:50.000 obviously not useful. But I want you to expect failure. 0:19:50.440 --> 0:19:52.840 I want you to expect to make mistakes. So now 0:19:52.880 --> 0:19:57.119 you're not surprised. Now you don't judge yourself. Now you 0:19:57.119 --> 0:20:00.760 don't make yourself feel insecure or in fear area because 0:20:00.760 --> 0:20:04.080 of it. Step number three, I want you to break 0:20:04.640 --> 0:20:07.280 down what you want to achieve to the smallest thing. 0:20:07.640 --> 0:20:10.080 I'll give an example. One of my friends wanted to 0:20:10.119 --> 0:20:12.399 be a movie director and he said to me, I 0:20:12.440 --> 0:20:13.879 really want to be a movie director. I want to 0:20:13.880 --> 0:20:17.120 make Hollywood movies, right, but like big budget feature films. 0:20:17.880 --> 0:20:21.000 So I was like, okay, that's that's a big goal, right, 0:20:21.040 --> 0:20:23.440 and that could lead to a lot of overthinking because 0:20:23.440 --> 0:20:26.200 it's hard, it's far away, it takes time. Let's break 0:20:26.240 --> 0:20:27.880 it down. What do you need to do in order 0:20:27.920 --> 0:20:30.320 to do that? And he was like, well, I would 0:20:30.400 --> 0:20:33.480 need to be able to get that kind of a budget. 0:20:33.800 --> 0:20:35.359 I was like, okay, well, what do you need to 0:20:35.400 --> 0:20:37.920 do in order to get that budget? He said, well, 0:20:37.920 --> 0:20:42.200 I would have to make movies that were impressive with 0:20:42.280 --> 0:20:44.040 less of a budget. And I was like, well, what 0:20:44.080 --> 0:20:45.320 do you need to do that? And he said, well, 0:20:45.359 --> 0:20:47.439 I need to learn how to make movies. I need 0:20:47.480 --> 0:20:50.000 to learn directing and scripting. I was like, okay, how 0:20:50.040 --> 0:20:52.159 do you do that? He said well, I need to 0:20:52.200 --> 0:20:55.400 get into film school or I need to make short movies. 0:20:55.880 --> 0:20:57.920 And I said, well, which one do you want to try? 0:20:58.200 --> 0:21:00.880 He said, well, maybe I'll start with short movies. So 0:21:00.920 --> 0:21:04.879 he started making short movies and then he went to 0:21:04.880 --> 0:21:06.919 film school because he realized there were certain skills he 0:21:06.920 --> 0:21:10.240 didn't have. Now he's on the path. But notice how 0:21:10.280 --> 0:21:14.520 if his goal was to make feature films, he would 0:21:14.520 --> 0:21:18.320 overthink about that for maybe a few decades. But when 0:21:18.400 --> 0:21:23.479 his first step would start making short movies or apply 0:21:23.640 --> 0:21:26.359 for film school. That's something you could do today. And 0:21:26.400 --> 0:21:29.760 I think people forget this, that the goal is the 0:21:29.880 --> 0:21:34.440 same but the current move looks different. It's like when 0:21:34.480 --> 0:21:37.520 you're climbing Mount Everest. That's the goal. The goal is 0:21:37.520 --> 0:21:40.080 to get to the top of Mount Everest, but every 0:21:40.200 --> 0:21:42.840 step doesn't take you to the top of Mount Everest. 0:21:43.160 --> 0:21:45.159 And so we have to recognize that the step and 0:21:45.160 --> 0:21:47.639 the goal are different, and we have to know the goal, 0:21:48.000 --> 0:21:50.960 but focus on the step, and your step may lead 0:21:51.040 --> 0:21:53.359 you in directions that you don't want. You might have 0:21:53.359 --> 0:21:56.560 to learn skills you don't care about. You might have 0:21:56.640 --> 0:22:00.800 to build qualities and character traits that you didn't even realize. 0:22:00.960 --> 0:22:04.440 I've had to develop so many more leadership qualities than 0:22:04.480 --> 0:22:07.080 I ever thought because of the team we lead. I've 0:22:07.080 --> 0:22:10.879 had to learn so much more about investments and finances 0:22:10.920 --> 0:22:14.320 than I ever thought I would need to because that's 0:22:14.359 --> 0:22:16.760 getting me to my ultimate goal, which is impacting one 0:22:16.840 --> 0:22:20.240 billion lives and making a difference in the world. So 0:22:21.119 --> 0:22:24.480 the path, the steps look very different from the goal, 0:22:24.760 --> 0:22:26.760 and we can't keep fixating saying no, but I just 0:22:26.800 --> 0:22:28.280 want to feel this way. I just want to feel 0:22:28.320 --> 0:22:30.679 like I'm having an impact. It's like, well, no, If 0:22:30.680 --> 0:22:32.679 you really want to have an impact, you have to 0:22:32.680 --> 0:22:35.200 be ready to learn this. And the fourth and final 0:22:35.280 --> 0:22:37.679 step to start taking action is you have to be 0:22:37.720 --> 0:22:40.840 surrounded by people who are taking action. You will not 0:22:41.000 --> 0:22:45.199 move forward. If you're around people who are going backwards, 0:22:45.880 --> 0:22:50.080 you will not move forward. If you're around people who 0:22:50.119 --> 0:22:53.800 are happy being behind. If you're surrounded by go getters, 0:22:54.400 --> 0:22:56.920 people who are making a difference, making a shift, making 0:22:56.920 --> 0:23:00.400 an impact that will make the difference. Your circle will 0:23:00.440 --> 0:23:06.080 define your impact. Your circle will define how fast, how 0:23:06.119 --> 0:23:09.240 effectively you move forward. And so it makes you find 0:23:09.280 --> 0:23:11.560 that tribe. I'm not telling you to change all your friends. 0:23:11.840 --> 0:23:13.840 I'm saying have a few people around you that are 0:23:13.840 --> 0:23:16.679 also on a mission, because those are the people that 0:23:16.720 --> 0:23:20.199 will help you reach your vision that you so deeply 0:23:20.240 --> 0:23:23.680