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Speaker 2: Second Date Update. Where's the worst place to take a
Speaker 2: woman on a first date?
Speaker 3: The worst?
Speaker 2: Brook and Jeffrey in the morning Home of the Second
Speaker 2: Date Update? I mean, like a garbage dump?
Speaker 1: Are you going to give us options? Because I have
Speaker 1: some ideas.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean, crematorium comes to mind than the garbage dump,
Speaker 2: especially if you talked about having barbecue already that there
Speaker 2: is something that might be worse than that. There's no way,
Speaker 2: Jeff Well, I was gonna say, chure Nobyl, but you
Speaker 2: know what, let's okay, let's talk to our listener htt
Speaker 2: because he thinks he may have taken his date someplace
Speaker 2: pretty regrettable.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's all you have to do is come
Speaker 1: on our show and you'll feel better by comparison.
Speaker 2: Before we find out about this woman, just tell us
Speaker 2: the place that you took her.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I took her to my ex's house.
Speaker 2: Oh god, what I okay.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we got a backup, not even like the restaurant
Speaker 1: where my ex works.
Speaker 3: I know, the bad idea.
Speaker 2: Now, okay, it's good that you realize that. But let's
Speaker 2: go back and let's start from the beginning. Where did
Speaker 2: you meet this woman? And what's her name?
Speaker 1: And not yours?
Speaker 3: And took out the girl that I took out. Her
Speaker 3: name's Chrisena. We met at a hiking club, a small
Speaker 3: group of people that get together and take hikes on
Speaker 3: the weekend.
Speaker 2: Let me guess you reached for the same cashew in
Speaker 2: the bag of trail.
Speaker 3: Mix, and.
Speaker 1: How did you turn it from hiking to a date.
Speaker 3: So we're both cat people. So that's kind of how
Speaker 3: we came together a little bit on that.
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, hiking and cat people. Yeah, that's true. So
Speaker 1: I mean you guys had a pretty good relationship then,
Speaker 1: probably before you actually moved into the romantic world, right, Yeah.
Speaker 3: I mean we had tons of talks and I mean
Speaker 3: I showed her tons of pictures. My cat's name is Sorbet.
Speaker 3: So I set up a date at my house to
Speaker 3: help meet my cat.
Speaker 1: Okay, I like how you said your house. That's good.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we were gonna make pizzas at my place. I
Speaker 3: got a fancy pizza oven, nice, so we wanted to
Speaker 3: do that. Introduced her to the cat. She looked real nice.
Speaker 3: We didn't burn anything. That's usually a good sign.
Speaker 1: I mean, were you able to have because you guys
Speaker 1: had been friends already, were you able to have like
Speaker 1: some flirty moments.
Speaker 2: Like come up behind her and need the pizza, like
Speaker 2: show her like grab her hands and show her show
Speaker 2: her how to toss it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, we got like a little ghost moment with the pizza.
Speaker 1: Do do not say you did that.
Speaker 3: I'm just kidding. Yeah, it was still flirty, a little
Speaker 3: flower getting everywhere, but nothing crazy Oh.
Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, that's cute. I mean it sounds like
Speaker 1: a set up to a great evening.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like a great setup to go over
Speaker 2: to your ex's house, because how does that come into
Speaker 2: the picture.
Speaker 3: So, I mean I kept calling for the cat. The
Speaker 3: cat likes to hide when new people are there, so
Speaker 3: I figured they needed a little bit of time to
Speaker 3: get used to her.
Speaker 1: And right, I mean, cats notoriously don't come when you
Speaker 1: call them, you know, right.
Speaker 3: And then I remembered that I actually had dropped the
Speaker 3: cat off at the cat moms that morning.
Speaker 1: What do you remembered.
Speaker 2: You and your split custody of your cat?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I mean it was kind of a contentious
Speaker 3: part of the breakup there, but I mean we're good now.
Speaker 1: How could you forget that it was the whole date center?
Speaker 1: I mean, that makes me look so bad. You're a
Speaker 1: cat dad that doesn't remember where he left his cat.
Speaker 3: I had a pretty busy day and it split my mind.
Speaker 3: I mean I had out there things to worry about.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, that is a lot to tackle, both pepperoni
Speaker 2: and cheese, so I can understand your head was totally full.
Speaker 2: I still don't get how did you end up at
Speaker 2: your ex's house.
Speaker 3: So right after we ate, I was pretty disappointed that
Speaker 3: she couldn't meet Sorbet.
Speaker 1: Yeah okay, yeah, but just chalk it up and you
Speaker 1: make a plan for the next time.
Speaker 3: Right, Yeah, I wish I would have done that. That's
Speaker 3: a good point. On our way home, I just figured
Speaker 3: I'd swing by my exes and introduce her to Sorbet.
Speaker 1: No making her home.
Speaker 2: You brought Christina over to your ex's house. Oh no, it.
Speaker 3: Sounds really bad when you say it like that.
Speaker 4: It is.
Speaker 1: I didn't warn either woman. So you show up unexpectedly
Speaker 1: with a date on your ex's door and Christina doesn't
Speaker 1: even know that's where she's going.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but usually my ex is pretty cool. If I
Speaker 3: need to sling by and see the cat, you know,
Speaker 3: he alone.
Speaker 2: Yeah? How did that go?
Speaker 3: So? I mean when when we showed up, it was fine,
Speaker 3: but I could kind of tell that she wasn't really
Speaker 3: digging it. X wasn't really happy that we showed up,
Speaker 3: uh to see the cat?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 2: Really?
Speaker 1: Yeah shocking.
Speaker 2: I can see why you you guys broke up. She's
Speaker 2: not not accepting woman.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was a lot of silence and patting the
Speaker 3: cat on the couch, and it was real awkward. She
Speaker 3: was just staring at my date the whole time.
Speaker 1: You're all sitting on the couch together. Why did I
Speaker 1: imagine this just at a doorstep?
Speaker 3: You know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Like say hi to the cat. Then everybody parts.
Speaker 2: You're like a scene a funny movie.
Speaker 1: You're inside.
Speaker 2: Okay, So you guys all spent the night at your
Speaker 2: ex's house and and when you left the next morning,
Speaker 2: how did that go?
Speaker 3: That didn't happened? Thank god?
Speaker 2: Okay, good.
Speaker 3: The whole time ended in like a real big fight.
Speaker 1: Wait, a fight with who you in the ex or
Speaker 1: what you in the cat?
Speaker 3: Everybody kind of ended up shouting, yeah, Christina didn't like
Speaker 3: my ex was being rude. My my accident like that,
Speaker 3: I brought a girl there. It was. It was a
Speaker 3: whole thing.
Speaker 1: Why are you wanting to call this girl again? Christina
Speaker 1: doesn't want to have anything to.
Speaker 4: Do with you.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but your show says you help people get second
Speaker 3: dates and.
Speaker 2: Miracles over here.
Speaker 1: But oh my gosh, can I just ask when you
Speaker 1: drop Christina off at her door, what was the last
Speaker 1: thing she said to you?
Speaker 3: She actually gave me the finger, but I don't think.
Speaker 3: She mentioned.
Speaker 2: If it's a finger that I'm thinking of, then it
Speaker 2: could be a good thing.
Speaker 1: She still took the right and then put off.
Speaker 3: Wow, she was emotional. Now that we've had some space,
Speaker 3: it's been about a week or so, so I figured
Speaker 3: we could give it another and you guys could help
Speaker 3: me out.
Speaker 2: Guys, at least this will be a great story, right, Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm very eager to hear how Christina felt the experience.
Speaker 1: This one was gonna be cussing.
Speaker 2: We don't know. We're gonna call her, we'll see how
Speaker 2: she's doing, but we do your second date update right
Speaker 2: after this second date update. What went wrong on Rhett's
Speaker 2: first date a little hard to say because there was pizza,
Speaker 2: there was cute cats, and the one tiny mistake and
Speaker 2: when I say tiny, I mean like minuscule. There was
Speaker 2: kind of a fight at his ex's house that involved him,
Speaker 2: his date, and his ex girlfriend, resulting at the end
Speaker 2: in a certain finger being pointed at Rhett when he
Speaker 2: dropped Christina off at home. It was proposal with the
Speaker 2: wedding ring. Other than that, though a plus date, Wrett,
Speaker 2: you would agree, right, Yeah.
Speaker 3: Other than all of that, I guess it was fine, Okay.
Speaker 1: Wait, I have a question. Have you had a chance
Speaker 1: to apologize to Christina?
Speaker 3: Well, that's the biggest thing is I just haven't seen
Speaker 3: her in the hiking group at all, and it's not
Speaker 3: often you get to go from friends into dating. So
Speaker 3: I just I didn't want to mess that up.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, and don't you didn't.
Speaker 2: I'm sure necessarily think you're the one who needs to apologize.
Speaker 2: It sounds like your ex girlfriend owes her an apology
Speaker 2: for not being cool about that.
Speaker 1: He needs to apologize to both women house. We can't
Speaker 1: bring a date to your ex's house, especially unannounced.
Speaker 2: I don't know who does that. I'm just clearly read
Speaker 2: as somebody that wants everybody to get along. Feels like
Speaker 2: you should be able to move past ex grievances the ladies,
Speaker 2: I don't know why you guys are holding onto this
Speaker 2: like it's a big.
Speaker 1: Deal your ex shows up at your house today.
Speaker 2: I don't have one, all right, But we don't know
Speaker 2: the whole story. We have a hunch of what went wrong.
Speaker 2: We need to get Stina's angle to really understand the
Speaker 2: full scope.
Speaker 1: I can't wait to hear her story. And the thing
Speaker 1: is is that you actually sound like a really nice
Speaker 1: guy that just made dumb choices.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm just a really nice guy who made one
Speaker 3: dumb choice, and I told you the whole story.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, but her perspective is going to be interesting.
Speaker 2: Yeah, perspective. Well, let's find out what that is. I'm
Speaker 2: going to dial her right now. Hopefully she has nothing
Speaker 2: but good things to.
Speaker 1: Say about you, or she doesn't just cuss at us
Speaker 1: and hang up.
Speaker 2: Okay, we'll see how this goes. I'm dialing she flips
Speaker 2: us off as she answers the phone be able to
Speaker 2: see it, we'll be able to feel it here.
Speaker 4: Hello.
Speaker 2: Hey is this Christina? Yeah, hey Christina, good morning. We've
Speaker 2: all been very eager to talk to you. Where a
Speaker 2: radio show called Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning And uh,
Speaker 2: I don't.
Speaker 1: Even know where to begin, Christina, how are you doing.
Speaker 4: Fine? What is this?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 2: This is this is a radio show and we're doing
Speaker 2: a segment trying to help out one of our listeners
Speaker 2: that you went on a date with recently. His name
Speaker 2: is Rhett.
Speaker 4: Uh what yeah, yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean actually that's a better response than I expected
Speaker 1: from you. To be honest, I'm being serious.
Speaker 2: Because we heard about your guys' hangout. We won't rehash
Speaker 2: the whole story.
Speaker 4: Wait a second, called you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, he emailed us.
Speaker 4: Why is he doing that?
Speaker 2: Well, obviously because he likes you.
Speaker 1: Well, I mean just that, like you guys were friends
Speaker 1: in the hiking group and then and then you had
Speaker 1: one date and he knows he screwed it up.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Can I just hear the story, like I want to
Speaker 1: hear from your perspective, Like, you show up to his
Speaker 1: ex's house. Did you know that's where you were going?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 4: He was like, Oh, I've got something to show you.
Speaker 4: I really want you to see that I've fallen for
Speaker 4: that one before. Yeah, okay, I mean at first I
Speaker 4: just thought it was like his friend or something. I
Speaker 4: didn't realized it was his X. And then when we
Speaker 4: get into this argument.
Speaker 3: She called me, ah, oh god, okay, but what we
Speaker 3: go from.
Speaker 4: Petting the cat to that get some major insecurity issues
Speaker 4: or jumping because she was like, well, do you know
Speaker 4: what he likes? Because I know what he likes?
Speaker 2: Oh god, okay, we did not know that part of
Speaker 2: the story.
Speaker 4: Yeah, Like I said, she yelled at me and called
Speaker 4: me a what did do?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 4: He was yeeling back at her. It was just it
Speaker 4: was so dramatic, and this is the first date.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, I'm gonna tell you on the thirty second
Speaker 1: date that would not be okay.
Speaker 2: Look, I know that we all feel terrible about that.
Speaker 2: Rehet feels sorry for even making the decision to bring
Speaker 2: you over there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, he honestly sounds like a nice guy
Speaker 1: that made a dumb choice.
Speaker 4: I don't know. He lied to me too, okay, just.
Speaker 2: Like about bringing you over there to introduce you to
Speaker 2: his cat.
Speaker 4: No before that, so I knew him from hiking. We
Speaker 4: hugged together with like a group, and we were talking
Speaker 4: about our cats, and he told me that Sorbet is
Speaker 4: five and my cat is five two. So I was like, oh,
Speaker 4: that's cool to the same age. But then his ex
Speaker 4: told me the Sorbet is nine.
Speaker 1: I don't know, and the name Colin.
Speaker 4: White doesn't look a five year different. That's crazy.
Speaker 2: Okay. That was worse to you than the argument that
Speaker 2: broke out between the three years.
Speaker 4: Honestly, I think that he lied about his cat's age
Speaker 4: on purpose. I think he was trying to say that
Speaker 4: it was the same age as my cat so that
Speaker 4: they would get along.
Speaker 2: Okay, I mean, we do hear a lot of people
Speaker 2: lying about their age on dating apps to impress somebody,
Speaker 2: not usually lying about their cats age to impress each other.
Speaker 4: But well, yeah, but like that's important to me.
Speaker 3: I have something to say here.
Speaker 2: You shut your mouth, you liar. I really hope you would,
Speaker 2: because we need to tell you, Christina that Ret's been
Speaker 2: on the other line listening to this call.
Speaker 4: Want to do.
Speaker 1: And hopefully apologize.
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, I mean I'm going to apologize for the fight,
Speaker 3: but not not for my cat being a different age.
Speaker 3: I mean, those are just details.
Speaker 4: Well you might not think that's important, but I do.
Speaker 4: I don't have kids and not painting. I'm having kids
Speaker 4: any time soon. My cat is my world. Like, I
Speaker 4: don't want my cat to be the little second side
Speaker 4: kit cat because you have this older leader meme cat.
Speaker 3: Well maybe if your cat was more mature, it'd be okay,
Speaker 3: hanging out with my old cat.
Speaker 4: Okay, my cat is plenty mature.
Speaker 2: It sounds like it's where the top hat.
Speaker 1: I don't get it in I thought we'd really be
Speaker 1: concentrated on the name college. Yeah, ex's house here, Well.
Speaker 4: That wasn't cool, but neither in lying about the age
Speaker 4: of your cat. Why would you do that? Why don't
Speaker 4: you why about anything like that?
Speaker 1: What if the ex is lying?
Speaker 3: I mean, my ex wasn't lying about that. He is nine.
Speaker 3: And then if if that's the only thing standing in
Speaker 3: the way of this, I mean, we can always go
Speaker 3: get a five year old cat.
Speaker 2: Okay, there are a.
Speaker 1: Lot of cats that need especially you're dating.
Speaker 2: I like the problem solving. That's a positive.
Speaker 4: So my cat's a third wheel.
Speaker 3: Now that's great.
Speaker 1: What what you're upset at?
Speaker 2: Yeah, you find very interesting things important for your dating life.
Speaker 4: You got to think of it from my perspective. If
Speaker 4: this does work out and we're together, No, we've got
Speaker 4: two full time cats and one part time cat that
Speaker 4: we're suffling back and forth between a deck. Who thinks
Speaker 4: I'm a hoot? What?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean I could see that part, but I mean
Speaker 1: it's nine. It's not like you're gonna have to do
Speaker 1: it for many years.
Speaker 3: But I take offense to that because my cat maybe nine,
Speaker 3: but she looks seven at worst.
Speaker 2: How many lives has left.
Speaker 1: But we are really stuck on this.
Speaker 2: I know she's very upset that she got cat cat fished.
Speaker 2: That's the big issue.
Speaker 1: I think fish I think it's just cat fit.
Speaker 4: It is you did cat catfish me.
Speaker 1: Okay, the double cat rat.
Speaker 2: You're very sorry, right, tell her how sorry you are
Speaker 2: for doing that?
Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I mean, I'm I'm very sorry for telling
Speaker 3: you the wrong age of my cat. And I mean,
Speaker 3: going forward, I swear I won't lie to you about
Speaker 3: something like that.
Speaker 1: Something like that. Why would you? Why would you just
Speaker 1: say I swear not lie to you anything.
Speaker 3: Well, because that's like super important. I want her to
Speaker 3: know how important it is that I'm taking her cat
Speaker 3: age very importantly. I won't lie at all.
Speaker 1: Okay, I mean, honestly, Christina, he is taking it into account,
Speaker 1: and I think a lot of people would not be
Speaker 1: so patient.
Speaker 2: Brook is basically saying team rat, team rat. And so
Speaker 2: we would like to offer to send you out on
Speaker 2: another date with him, and we would pay for it.
Speaker 4: I don't know.
Speaker 2: Two cats, three cats, one cat, no cat, whatever, however
Speaker 2: many cats you want or don't want on it?
Speaker 1: Yeah, find a five year old one perfect well.
Speaker 4: I doubt he wants to go out again with att.
Speaker 2: What do you think?
Speaker 3: I mean, as long as the price is right, I
Speaker 3: guess Okay, I know it's I'm kidding obviously I would.
Speaker 3: I would love to have a second try at this.
Speaker 2: Yes, you went through all this effort to make this
Speaker 2: happen and we're running out of time here. So what
Speaker 2: do you say, Christina? One more date with Rhett? I
Speaker 2: need a yes or a no?
Speaker 4: Fine? Yeah whatever?
Speaker 2: Are you fine?
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's still emotional. She'll get over and I'm okay
Speaker 3: with fine.
Speaker 1: Are we miracle workers? Because that is insane.
Speaker 2: Yes, we should take all the credit for king Jeffrey
Speaker 2: in the morning. You know what really makes me happy
Speaker 2: hearing someone regrettably agreed to go out on a date again.
Speaker 1: Fine, Joe, Fine, they're going to.
Speaker 2: Look back and listen to this on their wedding day.
Speaker 2: Right before, Christina turns to the past and was like, fine,
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm pretty sure the ex is going to show
Speaker 1: up to that wedding.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just hope the cats show up.
Speaker 1: I don't think anybody is showing up. I think he's
Speaker 1: gonna host it at their house.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: It's a good reminder that everybody crazy. Everybody values different
Speaker 2: things in their relationships, and for Christina, she values honesty
Speaker 2: about your cat's real age. That's number one on the relationship.
Speaker 4: I mean, maybe you could have still been dating the Yes, yeah,
Speaker 4: like I don't care about that.
Speaker 1: Abound Number five is x name calling.
Speaker 2: Yes, it still mattered to her, just not quite as hot. Yeah,
Speaker 2: but everyone's got different priorities and we know that now.
Speaker 2: So whatever is important to you, we will call that
Speaker 2: person who's not calling you back. Email the show so
Speaker 2: we can help, and go check out all of our
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