WEBVTT - The ONLY 7 Step Goal Setting Method You Need to Become Who You Want to Be in 2024 (NEW Framework - Don't Skip this One) 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:03.280 Let's make it a year. We're a little kinder to 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:08.280 yourself and others. We're less judgmental of ourselves and others, 0:00:08.680 --> 0:00:11.360 even when it's hard, especially when it's hard. If we 0:00:11.400 --> 0:00:14.079 can't love ourselves, we can't love others. And if we 0:00:14.120 --> 0:00:17.160 can't love others, we can't love ourselves. I'm here for you. 0:00:17.640 --> 0:00:20.360 I want you to win. I'm forever in your corner. 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:32.720 Here's to twenty twenty four being your year. Happy New Year, 0:00:33.120 --> 0:00:38.640 Welcome back to on Purpose in twenty twenty four. I 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:42.600 am so grateful, so excited, and I also want to 0:00:42.640 --> 0:00:47.120 add I am committed this year deeper than ever, more 0:00:47.200 --> 0:00:51.159 than ever, to help you become the person you know 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:53.920 you can be, To help you become the person you 0:00:54.040 --> 0:00:57.320 want to be. To let go of all the layers, 0:00:57.360 --> 0:01:03.240 all of the coverings, all of the false identifications, the 0:01:03.440 --> 0:01:06.440 energies that you no longer need, to be able to 0:01:06.560 --> 0:01:10.640 leave them behind in twenty twenty three and move forward 0:01:11.000 --> 0:01:15.320 towards your greatest self in twenty twenty four. Thank you 0:01:15.440 --> 0:01:19.800 so much for picking on Purpose as your partner for growth, 0:01:20.120 --> 0:01:22.840 because this is the place where we're having some of 0:01:22.880 --> 0:01:28.720 the most amazing conversations with insightful thought, leaders, experts, athletes, celebrities, 0:01:29.120 --> 0:01:33.120 and of course for your Friday workshop with me. Now, 0:01:33.120 --> 0:01:36.600 today's one is really really important. You've heard the stats before. 0:01:36.920 --> 0:01:40.000 Eighty percent of people are not practicing their New As 0:01:40.040 --> 0:01:44.360 resolutions by the end of January. I don't want you 0:01:44.400 --> 0:01:45.959 to be in that camp. And the reason why you're 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:47.880 not going to be in that camp is because we're 0:01:47.920 --> 0:01:54.800 switching resolutions out for goals, growth and reformation. Resolutions are 0:01:54.840 --> 0:01:57.760 these pine in the sky ideas that we hope will 0:01:57.760 --> 0:02:00.960 be able to live up to. They're usually created as 0:02:00.960 --> 0:02:03.960 an extreme to what we experienced in December, where we 0:02:03.960 --> 0:02:07.280 were eating anything we wanted and drinking anything we wanted. 0:02:07.680 --> 0:02:10.639 And really what we miss out on is what's at 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:13.240 the root of who we want to be, what's at 0:02:13.240 --> 0:02:18.839 the core of the person we are becoming, what's at 0:02:18.880 --> 0:02:22.360 the essence of who we are and where we're going. 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:25.359 Not just an idea or a habit or a practice. 0:02:25.400 --> 0:02:27.520 These are all good and well, but if they're not 0:02:27.639 --> 0:02:31.600 rooted to something deeper, something more profound, something more powerful, 0:02:31.840 --> 0:02:36.280 that we're committed to, something higher, it's really really difficult 0:02:36.520 --> 0:02:40.359 to pursue it properly. Now you're here, because you want 0:02:40.400 --> 0:02:44.160 to improve. You know there's another level you can reach 0:02:44.320 --> 0:02:46.920 in some area of your life, but you're just not 0:02:47.040 --> 0:02:49.760 getting there. You can feel inside you that there's an 0:02:49.760 --> 0:02:53.800 opportunity you haven't yet grasped, but for some reason, you 0:02:53.880 --> 0:02:57.320 also doubt yourself. You already know that this will last 0:02:57.360 --> 0:03:00.480 for a few weeks and then fall apart. Or maybe 0:03:00.520 --> 0:03:03.920 you're optimistic but going to push yourself too hard and 0:03:03.960 --> 0:03:06.320 burn out and crash. So I want to help you 0:03:06.440 --> 0:03:09.640 reframe this idea. I want you to look at it 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:13.160 this way. Think about this for a second. What type 0:03:13.160 --> 0:03:17.080 of year is this for you? I'm guessing no one's 0:03:17.120 --> 0:03:21.200 really ever asked you that question before. We always want 0:03:21.240 --> 0:03:23.880 every year to be the best year. We want it 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:26.080 to be the biggest year. We want it to be 0:03:26.800 --> 0:03:30.000 the most winningest year. Right, it's the year where we 0:03:30.080 --> 0:03:33.880 achieve everything. But have you noticed that life is so 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:38.640 much more about cycles. Life happens so much more in 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:43.120 rhythms and patterns, and not every year can be your 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:46.160 title winning year. If you look at a sports team, 0:03:46.520 --> 0:03:50.160 there are years where they're building developing players and there's 0:03:50.280 --> 0:03:53.360 years where they're out performing their peers. If you look 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:56.360 at the Oscars, or the Emmys. There are years where 0:03:56.360 --> 0:03:59.480 an actor or an actress is dominating and there are 0:03:59.560 --> 0:04:02.600 years you don't hear about them because they're doing the work. 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:05.440 If you look at music, how often do you get 0:04:05.480 --> 0:04:09.160 Taylor Swift on tour or Beyonce on tour? Not very 0:04:09.200 --> 0:04:11.760 often because they have to prepare, they have to create, 0:04:11.880 --> 0:04:15.320 they have to practice, they have to go inward. So 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:20.160 what we recognize is that each year can have a 0:04:20.200 --> 0:04:26.000 different feel. So there are generally four types of year. 0:04:27.000 --> 0:04:30.480 There can be a year where you're learning, There can 0:04:30.520 --> 0:04:34.039 be a year where you're experimenting, there could be a 0:04:34.120 --> 0:04:37.520 year where you're performing, and there can be the year 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:40.160 that you're thriving. Now, there are some people that are 0:04:40.160 --> 0:04:42.680 so prolific that they will be able to do one 0:04:42.720 --> 0:04:45.159 of those per quarters. So quarter one is learning, quarter 0:04:45.160 --> 0:04:48.360 two is experimenting, quarter three is performing in quarter four 0:04:48.480 --> 0:04:50.560 is thriving. And you may even have some of those 0:04:50.560 --> 0:04:53.600 people around you. But for all of us, what we 0:04:53.640 --> 0:04:56.080 think is twenty twenty three had to be a thrive year. 0:04:56.080 --> 0:04:57.640 We didn't get their. Twenty twenty four us to be 0:04:57.720 --> 0:04:59.520 a thrive year, we didn't get there. Twenty twenty five 0:04:59.560 --> 0:05:02.160 has to be a and we put so much pressure 0:05:02.520 --> 0:05:06.640 on making every year a thrive year that we end 0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:11.400 up just about surviving. Right, If that? And so I 0:05:11.440 --> 0:05:14.040 want you to reframe how you think about the year. 0:05:14.080 --> 0:05:15.960 I want you to ask yourself, is this a year 0:05:16.160 --> 0:05:18.800 where you want to learn? Maybe you've been giving so 0:05:18.920 --> 0:05:23.159 much energy outwards. Maybe you've expended everything that you'd gained 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:25.680 up to now. Maybe you're in a position where you've 0:05:25.760 --> 0:05:27.960 just given, given, given, and you're like, well, I don't 0:05:27.960 --> 0:05:31.600 have anything. The cup is empty, right, the tank is empty. 0:05:32.080 --> 0:05:35.039 This is a year that I need to learn. It's 0:05:35.040 --> 0:05:37.080 a year that I need to grow. It's a year 0:05:37.120 --> 0:05:39.640 that I need to level up. Does that make sense? 0:05:40.440 --> 0:05:43.880 And it's a really important consideration because all of a sudden, 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:47.159 your energy moves away from I want this result to 0:05:47.279 --> 0:05:50.040 I want to build this skill. I want this award 0:05:50.120 --> 0:05:53.200 or this achievement or this goal too. I'm going to 0:05:53.400 --> 0:05:59.479 craft a plan to develop myself. That's what I'm focused 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:03.560 on this year. Becoming better is more important than being 0:06:03.600 --> 0:06:07.040 seen as the best. Right this year, if it's about learning, 0:06:07.080 --> 0:06:11.279 for you, becoming better is more important than being seen 0:06:11.480 --> 0:06:14.880 as the best. And I mean it always is, but 0:06:15.120 --> 0:06:18.400 sometimes we're so fixated on what makes us look good 0:06:18.960 --> 0:06:22.640 that we owned end up doing what makes us feel good. Right. 0:06:22.720 --> 0:06:26.280 Sometimes we're so focused, so addicted to what makes it 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:29.599 look like we're doing well, as opposed to doing the 0:06:29.720 --> 0:06:34.159 things and being the person that makes us feel well. So, 0:06:34.640 --> 0:06:37.120 if this is a learning year for you, that's a 0:06:37.200 --> 0:06:39.680 year of courses, it's a year of programming, it's a 0:06:39.760 --> 0:06:42.520 year of coaching, it's a year of classes, it's a 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:45.440 year of reading, it's a year of listening. Now I'm 0:06:45.480 --> 0:06:47.760 not saying you're not doing those things in other years, 0:06:48.080 --> 0:06:51.200 it's just that in this year that's the top priority. 0:06:52.120 --> 0:06:55.760 Notice how that completely shifts how you've been developing your year. 0:06:56.279 --> 0:06:59.240 Maybe you've never launched a podcast before, or you've never 0:06:59.279 --> 0:07:02.479 written a book, or you've never started a company, or 0:07:03.040 --> 0:07:06.200 you have never really prioritized time with your family, and 0:07:06.240 --> 0:07:08.520 all of a sudden, your big goal is you've got 0:07:08.560 --> 0:07:10.560 to be the best parent in the world. Your goal 0:07:10.680 --> 0:07:13.440 is you've got to launch the number one podcast in 0:07:13.480 --> 0:07:16.280 the world. And all of a sudden, you're crippled by 0:07:16.320 --> 0:07:22.880 your goal. You're totally stuck, frozen by your goal, right 0:07:22.960 --> 0:07:24.920 because you're so scared of it. It's so big, it's 0:07:24.920 --> 0:07:29.040 so hard, and you haven't allowed yourself to learn. I've 0:07:29.040 --> 0:07:30.920 had many years in my life that I would call 0:07:31.000 --> 0:07:33.520 learning years, and if you looked at me from the 0:07:33.560 --> 0:07:36.880 outside in, you would say, Jay didn't achieve anything that year. 0:07:37.440 --> 0:07:39.880 But when I look at myself, I know when I 0:07:39.920 --> 0:07:42.760 look back, that that was the year I learned everything 0:07:43.360 --> 0:07:47.040 that people then notice later on, that people then agreed 0:07:47.080 --> 0:07:51.480 with or celebrated later on. Now, maybe it's not a 0:07:51.520 --> 0:07:53.440 learning year. Maybe you did a lot of learning last year, 0:07:53.440 --> 0:07:55.040 and you're like Joe, I need to do something now 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:57.480 right Like you're like Jay, We've learned enough. I've done 0:07:57.600 --> 0:07:59.520 enough courses, I've done enough of that I need to 0:07:59.560 --> 0:08:02.880 actually execute. I need to do something. So this is 0:08:02.920 --> 0:08:07.160 the year of experimenting again. We often try and skip 0:08:07.200 --> 0:08:10.480 experimenting and go straight into it. We haven't yet tested 0:08:10.480 --> 0:08:13.640 the waters, we haven't yet seen whether we enjoy it, 0:08:13.760 --> 0:08:16.120 what skills we are missing out on. I'll give you 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:18.960 an example. Last year, in twenty twenty three, I went 0:08:19.000 --> 0:08:21.840 on my world tour. And on my world tour, I'd 0:08:21.880 --> 0:08:24.800 never done a world tour before, but for the previous 0:08:24.920 --> 0:08:28.560 years I'd done a lot of speaking at corporate organizations 0:08:28.720 --> 0:08:31.280 across the world, and so I got into the habit 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:35.360 of what it felt like to travel, to speak, to recover, 0:08:35.720 --> 0:08:37.880 to rest, to get back on a plane and do 0:08:37.920 --> 0:08:40.600 it all over again. So it's not that i'd done 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:43.640 a world tour, but I was familiar with what the 0:08:43.760 --> 0:08:48.680 experience was like, and that experimenting is what gave me 0:08:48.720 --> 0:08:50.959 the confidence to go on a world tour. Now, if 0:08:51.000 --> 0:08:54.600 I in twenty sixteen, twenty seventeen, when my videos first 0:08:54.640 --> 0:08:56.400 went viral, if I said, Okay, now I'm gonna go 0:08:56.440 --> 0:08:59.520 on a world tour, I probably wouldn't have known how 0:08:59.520 --> 0:09:02.679 to stay healthy. I probably wouldn't have known the amount 0:09:02.720 --> 0:09:04.600 of voice rest I needed. So, for example, when I 0:09:04.600 --> 0:09:07.000 was on my world tour, I never went to a 0:09:07.040 --> 0:09:09.959 restaurant at night. We never went to a bar, we 0:09:10.040 --> 0:09:13.520 never went to a noisy place. I would be in 0:09:13.559 --> 0:09:17.200 a quiet space without any music, without any background noise, 0:09:17.640 --> 0:09:20.480 even the noise of people talking, because of how much 0:09:20.480 --> 0:09:22.440 I had to protect my voice on tour, because I 0:09:22.559 --> 0:09:25.440 know how easy it is to lose your voice when 0:09:25.840 --> 0:09:29.120 you're performing every night or multiple shows a day sometimes. 0:09:29.640 --> 0:09:33.640 Now that's what experimenting gives you. If you've never interviewed 0:09:33.679 --> 0:09:35.800 someone before, and all of a sudden, you're launching a podcast. 0:09:35.800 --> 0:09:38.760 Maybe it's a good idea to experiment this year, right, 0:09:38.840 --> 0:09:42.000 whatever it is for you, experiment. Maybe you've come up 0:09:42.040 --> 0:09:43.520 with a new idea of how to spend time with 0:09:43.559 --> 0:09:46.280 your family. Experiment with it before you put in a 0:09:46.360 --> 0:09:49.160 rule every week, we need to do this every month, 0:09:49.200 --> 0:09:51.400 we need to do X every quarter, we need to 0:09:51.440 --> 0:09:56.080 do why Like that can be challenging if you haven't experimented. 0:09:57.520 --> 0:09:59.679 The third one is performing. This is a year when 0:09:59.720 --> 0:10:03.520 you've kind of got into your groove, you've found your zone, 0:10:04.160 --> 0:10:06.880 you've got into a bit of practice, you've experimented, you've learned, 0:10:06.920 --> 0:10:10.040 and now you're in your rhythm, right, you're in step. 0:10:10.720 --> 0:10:12.959 And that type of a year could be a year 0:10:13.000 --> 0:10:14.679 for you right now where you're like, Jay, you know what, 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:17.439 the past couple of years I've learned, I've experimented. This 0:10:17.480 --> 0:10:20.520 is the year to really work in that direction. And 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:24.360 that type of year requires commitment, It requires dedication, it 0:10:24.400 --> 0:10:29.199 requires focus, it requires persistence. So it requires a whole 0:10:29.200 --> 0:10:32.480 different set of skills and abilities. In the learn year, 0:10:32.559 --> 0:10:36.560 you needed a lot of curiosity. In the experiment year, 0:10:37.120 --> 0:10:40.480 you needed a lot of openness. Right, you have to 0:10:40.480 --> 0:10:43.360 be open to what the experiment brought about. In a 0:10:43.400 --> 0:10:47.280 performance here, you need a lot of commitment and consistency. 0:10:48.000 --> 0:10:52.160 And finally, in a thrive year, you need humility. Right, 0:10:52.200 --> 0:10:55.200 in a thrive year, you need humility and a lack 0:10:55.240 --> 0:10:59.640 of complacency. So notice how what you need to work 0:10:59.679 --> 0:11:01.400 on and you need to build in all of those 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:06.640 years is so different. Yet we treat every year as 0:11:06.679 --> 0:11:09.920 if it's the same, just as we treat every person 0:11:10.000 --> 0:11:12.640 as if they're the same. But every year, every person, 0:11:12.720 --> 0:11:18.199 every act in our life requires a different intentionality. So 0:11:18.559 --> 0:11:21.960 in my life this year, I'm in a learning year 0:11:22.160 --> 0:11:24.840 and an experimenting year, and because I've been through this 0:11:24.920 --> 0:11:27.400 cycle many times, I'm able to do all four in 0:11:27.480 --> 0:11:30.880 one year. But a big part of it for me 0:11:30.920 --> 0:11:34.360 this year is learning and experimenting and building, And it 0:11:34.400 --> 0:11:38.360 won't be a year of performing in the new areas 0:11:38.400 --> 0:11:40.640 that I want to expand in. Now, you may say, Jay, 0:11:40.640 --> 0:11:42.440 but you just had an amazing guest on the podcast, 0:11:42.440 --> 0:11:45.400 and you just did this, and so that's everything that's 0:11:45.440 --> 0:11:48.200 developed over time. So we will thrive this year in 0:11:48.240 --> 0:11:51.080 many areas. There will be lots of amazing achievements and 0:11:51.120 --> 0:11:55.080 announcements by the grace of the universe, which I'm extremely 0:11:55.120 --> 0:11:59.080 grateful for right not by my own doing, but all 0:11:59.120 --> 0:12:01.960 of that is happenings result of practicing what I'm sharing 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:03.920 with you, and that's why I'm giving you this secret. 0:12:04.240 --> 0:12:07.400 The reason why I'm giving you this idea is because 0:12:07.400 --> 0:12:12.439 once you start approaching your year differently, your year will 0:12:12.480 --> 0:12:16.920 be abundant beyond how you think about it. So some 0:12:17.080 --> 0:12:20.040 years you're gonna learn, some years you're gonna launch, some 0:12:20.200 --> 0:12:22.680 years you're gonna level up, some years you're gonna love. 0:12:23.960 --> 0:12:27.839 But you have to ask yourself, what is twenty twenty 0:12:27.840 --> 0:12:33.080 four for you? Okay, that's step one. Step two is 0:12:33.120 --> 0:12:35.400 a really important question I want you to ask yourself. 0:12:35.520 --> 0:12:38.600 And this one's a big one because how many times 0:12:38.640 --> 0:12:40.440 have you ever been through a day where you checked 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:42.360 off everything off your to do list, but you still 0:12:42.400 --> 0:12:45.480 felt dissatisfied at the end of it. How many times 0:12:45.520 --> 0:12:49.400 have you been through a couple of months maybe where 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:52.680 you go, Wow, I'm on target, but I'm not feeling fulfilled. 0:12:52.880 --> 0:12:55.000 Maybe even a few years have gone by and you're thinking, 0:12:55.040 --> 0:12:57.760 wait a minute, I'm pretty much doing everything I set 0:12:57.800 --> 0:13:00.440 out to do. So this is the quote I want 0:13:00.480 --> 0:13:04.240 you to ask yourself, three hundred and sixty five days 0:13:04.240 --> 0:13:08.319 from now, what would you want to be true about 0:13:08.360 --> 0:13:13.120 you and your life? Think about that, three hundred and 0:13:13.160 --> 0:13:16.160 sixty five days from now, what would you want to 0:13:16.160 --> 0:13:20.720 be true about you and your life? We often think 0:13:20.760 --> 0:13:23.959 about what we want to do, but we actually have 0:13:24.040 --> 0:13:29.000 to start one year away and visualize ourselves and think 0:13:29.480 --> 0:13:33.160 what is truly going to make a difference and what 0:13:33.280 --> 0:13:37.360 is truly going to make me feel different? Right? What 0:13:37.559 --> 0:13:40.960 is going to make me feel different and what is 0:13:41.000 --> 0:13:43.560 truly going to make a difference. What will I be 0:13:43.679 --> 0:13:46.760 proud to say in a year that I've been able 0:13:46.760 --> 0:13:49.280 to do for you? It could be I just slept 0:13:49.320 --> 0:13:53.600 well this year. Notice how your inner voice will give 0:13:53.640 --> 0:13:55.600 you an answer that feels so much more true than 0:13:55.600 --> 0:13:57.400 when you go what's on my vision board? What do 0:13:57.440 --> 0:13:58.760 I need to achieve? What do I need to do? 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:02.240 And all of a sudden you could be chasing a 0:14:02.280 --> 0:14:05.839 group of goals that aren't yours. So many of us 0:14:05.880 --> 0:14:10.560 waste years pursuing a path that isn't ours because it 0:14:10.600 --> 0:14:14.800 feels right, it seems right, it sounds right. What about 0:14:15.240 --> 0:14:19.400 what is us? Because often we add things because they 0:14:19.440 --> 0:14:22.880 sound good or everyone's doing them. There's a famous quote 0:14:22.880 --> 0:14:26.960 by Bill Gates where he said, we overestimate what we 0:14:27.000 --> 0:14:29.560 can do in one year, and we underestimate what we 0:14:29.600 --> 0:14:32.640 can do in ten years. And I think that's the 0:14:32.680 --> 0:14:35.720 same principle of we overestimate what we can do in 0:14:35.760 --> 0:14:38.280 one month, and we underestimate what we can do in 0:14:38.280 --> 0:14:42.120 twelve months. So resolutions often become a one month thing, 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:44.600 and then all of a sudden, we're like, I've used 0:14:44.640 --> 0:14:47.760 all my grit, all my resilience, all my strength, all 0:14:47.760 --> 0:14:50.000 my willpower, all in January. How many terms of you 0:14:50.120 --> 0:14:52.400 felt that? Raise your hand, not along right now, if 0:14:52.400 --> 0:14:54.400 you've ever felt that way before, where you're like, I 0:14:54.680 --> 0:14:57.440 just used Now, I've been there. I just used all 0:14:57.520 --> 0:15:01.200 my energy, all my willpower, all my mental strength in January. 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:02.840 I've got nothing left for the rest of the year. 0:15:03.400 --> 0:15:06.560 Let's really break it down, Let's really really think about it. 0:15:06.600 --> 0:15:10.240 What is going to be worth working towards for twelve 0:15:10.240 --> 0:15:16.600 months that we're allowing ourselves twelve months to develop. They're 0:15:16.600 --> 0:15:19.800 called a new Year's goal for a reason, a new 0:15:19.880 --> 0:15:22.880 year's resolution, but we only spend one month on it 0:15:22.920 --> 0:15:26.360 because we go so hard we don't recognize what would 0:15:26.360 --> 0:15:28.000 it feel like to wake up like that in three 0:15:28.040 --> 0:15:30.520 hundred and sixty five days. We want to do it 0:15:30.560 --> 0:15:34.000 in three days or three weeks or thirty days. Now, 0:15:35.000 --> 0:15:38.160 how you start seeing it as a year is really important. 0:15:38.600 --> 0:15:41.360 So I always look at it this way. For each goal. 0:15:41.400 --> 0:15:44.600 So let's say I have one goal, I'm looking at 0:15:44.640 --> 0:15:49.120 that across four quarters, right, and then I'm looking at 0:15:49.120 --> 0:15:51.360 it as what am I going to do in each 0:15:51.440 --> 0:15:54.720 of those three months? And then I'm breaking down the 0:15:54.760 --> 0:15:57.720 months into each week. This is what I call the 0:15:57.840 --> 0:16:00.680 one four to three to one method. It sounds like 0:16:00.920 --> 0:16:03.920 a sports lineup or something like that, but one four 0:16:03.960 --> 0:16:08.200 to three to one method, one goal across four quarters, 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:10.360 what do you want to do for each of those 0:16:10.440 --> 0:16:14.560 three months inside the quarter? And what are you going 0:16:14.600 --> 0:16:16.600 to do per week? So let me break it down. 0:16:17.000 --> 0:16:19.480 This year, I want to write my next book, right, 0:16:19.480 --> 0:16:22.560 that's a big goal. I want to write my third 0:16:22.760 --> 0:16:25.560 book by the end of the year. So I have 0:16:25.600 --> 0:16:28.520 to break down what do I plan to do over 0:16:28.560 --> 0:16:31.640 the four quarters. So in the first quarter, my plan 0:16:31.840 --> 0:16:36.880 is to research and develop the idea. Quarter two, my 0:16:37.000 --> 0:16:42.440 plan is to write the first draft. Quarter three it's 0:16:42.520 --> 0:16:46.520 to write the second draft, and then quarter four is 0:16:46.560 --> 0:16:50.400 to edit and of course work through it. So notice 0:16:50.480 --> 0:16:54.640 how I've broken down one big goal into what I 0:16:54.720 --> 0:16:58.240 need to achieve in each quarter. It makes it much 0:16:58.240 --> 0:17:00.560 more tangible. When I have a goal is write book, 0:17:01.240 --> 0:17:02.640 I have no idea where to start on know what 0:17:02.680 --> 0:17:04.840 I need, so I have to design phases. So phase 0:17:04.920 --> 0:17:10.560 one for quarter one is research and develop the concept. 0:17:10.920 --> 0:17:13.119 Now if it's research and develop the concept, now I 0:17:13.160 --> 0:17:15.080 go a step further and go, okay, if that's what 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:17.320 quarter one is about, what do I need to do 0:17:17.400 --> 0:17:21.360 per month? So Month one, I'm going to spend reading 0:17:21.440 --> 0:17:25.400 and researching about the topic. Month two, I'm going to 0:17:25.440 --> 0:17:29.880 spend developing a plan of my chapter structure and chapter summary. 0:17:30.760 --> 0:17:35.359 Plan three. I'm now going to look at the references 0:17:35.359 --> 0:17:37.560 and the content that I already have that I love, 0:17:38.400 --> 0:17:40.439 that I believe should be in this book versus what 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:43.200 I don't have, and looking at all the gaps right 0:17:43.280 --> 0:17:47.240 for example. So notice how every step it gets even 0:17:47.280 --> 0:17:50.560 more in depth. Now I break down that month each 0:17:50.680 --> 0:17:54.679 month into each week, so I say, okay, what am 0:17:54.720 --> 0:17:56.439 I going to do in the first week of that 0:17:56.520 --> 0:18:00.160 month of research. I'm going to read this book. I'm 0:18:00.160 --> 0:18:03.120 going to reach out to this person. I'm going to interview, 0:18:03.200 --> 0:18:06.680 this scientist, write whatever it may be. Notice how we've 0:18:06.720 --> 0:18:09.960 taken one goal of writing a book all the way 0:18:10.040 --> 0:18:16.359 down to finding a researcher. You've broken down a difficult task, 0:18:16.720 --> 0:18:21.200 a difficult project, into a really simple step one four 0:18:21.240 --> 0:18:25.480 to three to one method. One goal, four quarters, three months, 0:18:25.760 --> 0:18:28.359 one week. I promise you, if you sat down with 0:18:28.400 --> 0:18:30.880 each of your goals and broke it down this way, 0:18:31.400 --> 0:18:34.120 not only are you more likely to get there, you're 0:18:34.160 --> 0:18:37.200 more likely to allow yourself the year to get there. 0:18:37.600 --> 0:18:39.280 Most of us don't break it down this way, and 0:18:39.320 --> 0:18:41.560 so we're hoping by the end of January that we'll 0:18:41.560 --> 0:18:44.640 already have mastered it. We'll already be at our ideal weight, 0:18:44.680 --> 0:18:47.560 We'll already be at our ideal diet, We'll already be 0:18:47.680 --> 0:18:51.680 at our ideal whatever it is that we're chasing. One 0:18:51.760 --> 0:18:55.720 goal four quarters, three months, one week. Please please please 0:18:55.840 --> 0:18:58.400 use that method, break it down, and I promise you 0:18:58.920 --> 0:19:02.320 the results will be at the Other reason why is 0:19:02.359 --> 0:19:06.320 because what I'm encouraging you to do is not just 0:19:06.480 --> 0:19:11.320 goal set, but take your goal into a process and 0:19:11.359 --> 0:19:15.679 then into a task. Right goal process task GPT like 0:19:15.760 --> 0:19:20.880 chat GPT, but GPT goal process task. If you don't 0:19:20.880 --> 0:19:23.440 break your goal down into a process and then into 0:19:23.480 --> 0:19:26.840 a task, it's not going to happen. So, for example, 0:19:27.080 --> 0:19:29.240 my goal is to write a book. The process is 0:19:29.280 --> 0:19:33.520 to research, but the task is to find the right 0:19:33.600 --> 0:19:39.359 books and find the right scientists to study. Right, that's 0:19:39.400 --> 0:19:41.560 the task. So I've got to break down a goal 0:19:41.720 --> 0:19:44.119 into a task through a process. If I don't do that, 0:19:44.160 --> 0:19:46.119 I'm stuck with a big goal of writing a book. 0:19:46.400 --> 0:19:49.320 And that's where so many of us set ourselves up 0:19:49.880 --> 0:19:53.320 for wasting time because we don't follow that process. We 0:19:53.359 --> 0:19:57.080 don't understand that methodology. We just have this vision of 0:19:57.160 --> 0:19:59.120 I need to do this, I need to do that, 0:19:59.520 --> 0:20:02.600 and it just feels further and further away as the 0:20:02.680 --> 0:20:06.720 year gets along. Right, as more time passes, your goal 0:20:06.800 --> 0:20:10.080 feels further away, and then you get less and less motivated. 0:20:10.480 --> 0:20:17.880 It's like time decreases, goal feels further, motivation decreases. Right now, 0:20:17.920 --> 0:20:22.560 the next step is know that you will fall off 0:20:22.640 --> 0:20:24.320 your plan. So I just laid out for you the 0:20:24.359 --> 0:20:27.440 one four, three to one method. You will fall off. 0:20:27.680 --> 0:20:29.920 There will be a week or a month that goes 0:20:29.960 --> 0:20:32.640 completely wrong. No matter how committed you are no matter 0:20:32.640 --> 0:20:35.680 how awesome you are, no matter how much work you've 0:20:35.680 --> 0:20:39.800 put in, it will fail. The first plan and knowing 0:20:39.880 --> 0:20:44.800 it will fail is your greatest ally avoiding believing that 0:20:44.880 --> 0:20:50.040 you will never fall off is your greatest hindrance. That's 0:20:50.119 --> 0:20:53.160 one of the biggest reasons people don't achieve their goals 0:20:53.680 --> 0:20:58.280 is because they believe that they won't get distracted. They 0:20:58.320 --> 0:21:02.600 believe that there will be no pushback. They believe that 0:21:02.680 --> 0:21:06.080 there won't be a detour or the need for a contingency. 0:21:06.560 --> 0:21:08.440 When I say have a plan B, I don't mean 0:21:08.720 --> 0:21:10.439 have a second goal so you don't care about the 0:21:10.440 --> 0:21:13.760 first goal. I mean have a plan B of the process. See, 0:21:13.800 --> 0:21:15.879 people think having a plan B means, oh, if I 0:21:15.880 --> 0:21:17.840 want to build something really successful. No, my plan B 0:21:17.960 --> 0:21:21.000 is I'll just settle for what I have. My version's different. 0:21:21.560 --> 0:21:23.639 If I'm not reaching a goal because a plan A, 0:21:24.320 --> 0:21:27.359 I have a plan B. Right, it's not goal B, 0:21:27.560 --> 0:21:29.639 it's Plan B. But when we talk about it, we go, 0:21:29.760 --> 0:21:31.560 oh no, no, don't have a plan B. Although you 0:21:31.600 --> 0:21:34.439 never get to plan A. No, Plan B is a 0:21:34.440 --> 0:21:39.119 different route. It's a different path. It's not a different goal. 0:21:39.880 --> 0:21:42.040 You don't have to change your goal. You can change 0:21:42.080 --> 0:21:45.160 the journey towards it. And so I know that there 0:21:45.160 --> 0:21:47.080 are going to be months where I'm not as healthy 0:21:47.119 --> 0:21:48.680 as I want to be. If I'm traveling a lot, 0:21:48.760 --> 0:21:52.199 I already know that. So my contingency plan is that 0:21:52.320 --> 0:21:54.160 when I am at home, when I am in town, 0:21:54.240 --> 0:21:57.280 that's when I'm taking even more care of my health. 0:21:57.320 --> 0:22:00.159 I'm being even more productive and proactive. And then I 0:22:00.160 --> 0:22:02.280 have a Plan B version of a workout and a 0:22:02.320 --> 0:22:05.439 diet when I'm traveling. But if I don't create that process, 0:22:05.480 --> 0:22:08.119 if I don't create that Plan B, I'm at the 0:22:08.160 --> 0:22:12.840 mercy of falling apart and going completely in the other direction. 0:22:13.320 --> 0:22:15.560 So if you don't have a Plan B, you will 0:22:15.600 --> 0:22:17.679 go to the other extreme. But remember this is not 0:22:17.800 --> 0:22:20.960 goal be its Plan B. Overall, we have to create 0:22:21.160 --> 0:22:30.240 an internal essence of grace over guilt and growth over guilt. 0:22:30.640 --> 0:22:38.400 If we can't give ourselves grace, we won't enjoy the journey. 0:22:38.480 --> 0:22:44.160 You can choose grit and push yourself and we become 0:22:44.200 --> 0:22:49.879