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Speaker 1: This is Unbreakable with Jay Glacier, a mental wealth podcast

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Speaker 1: build you from the inside out.

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Speaker 2: Now here's Jay Glacier.

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Speaker 3: Welcome into Unbreakable, a mental wealth podcast with Jay Glazer.

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Speaker 3: I'm Jay Glazer and joining me now is somebody who

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Speaker 3: you know everybody loves a redemption story and redemptions on us.

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Speaker 3: I always have a saying, you never know what lies

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Speaker 3: around next Tuesday. The next Tuesday, your life can change.

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Speaker 3: You can go for the bed or can you can

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Speaker 3: make a choice and make your life get back on

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Speaker 3: a track you never even knew it would lead to.

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Speaker 3: That's a pretty good way to intro our. Next guest

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Speaker 3: Marion Jones, who has one time labeled the fastest woman alive,

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Speaker 3: had five medals you have to correct me, five Olympic

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Speaker 3: medals and life Firal.

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Speaker 2: Had some drug issues. I was involved in Balco, did some.

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Speaker 3: Prison time, but before he hit that because I always

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Speaker 3: want to do the redemptions first and then go back

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Speaker 3: to it. You have used all your experiences to now

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Speaker 3: come up with a new podcast. It's just launched called

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Speaker 3: Second Wind, which I love obviously with who you are,

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Speaker 3: but kind of dive into how this all came about.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Jay well, thank you for having me on. It's

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Speaker 1: nice to meet you. It has been an incredible ride,

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Speaker 1: to say the least. And there's not many people in

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Speaker 1: this world, I think that can truly say that they

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Speaker 1: have hit one of the one of the peaks of

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Speaker 1: their career, right, and I certainly did. At least I

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Speaker 1: thought that was the peak of my career because I

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Speaker 1: am of course on my second wind. And then, you know,

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Speaker 1: choices and life and things happen and you kind of

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Speaker 1: lose it all and you wonder for a short period

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Speaker 1: of time, Jay, like like what's next? Like where am

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Speaker 1: I going after all of this? You know, what does

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Speaker 1: redemption look like for me? And then you just grind

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Speaker 1: and you bounce back and you pick yourself up and

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Speaker 1: you figure it out and you learn tools on not

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Speaker 1: only how to cope, but how to push through even further.

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Speaker 1: And so that's where we're at now. Yes, So you know,

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Speaker 1: alongside my friend and business partner Susanne Evans, we've launched

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Speaker 1: Second Wind, which launched on March the eighteenth. Again, really,

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Speaker 1: what it is is a podcast for everybody, Jay, It's

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Speaker 1: for people whom again have caught a bad break. I've

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Speaker 1: made a poor choice, which I think encompasses most people

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Speaker 1: on this earth, right, and you're right, and then you

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Speaker 1: come back and your second win, and so we chat

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Speaker 1: with entrepreneurs and celebrities and athletes and people whom I

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Speaker 1: feel like are on their second win and have just

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Speaker 1: that has been in my wheelhouse for many years and

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Speaker 1: it's come to fruition this year and I'm so excited

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Speaker 1: about it.

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Speaker 2: Mart I like to say I'm fucked up, and I'm

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Speaker 2: good with my fucked upness.

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Speaker 4: You know, I'm very open about everything I've ever done

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Speaker 4: or issues, and I think it was really trying to

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Speaker 4: I wrote a mental health a few years ago, called

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Speaker 4: them breakable because I'm like, the center of dude is mom, football, fighting, ballers.

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Speaker 3: No one's question my manhood. So I could the more

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Speaker 3: I talk about things, the more I fell. I think

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Speaker 3: So I appreciate somebody coming on and saying, hey, this

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Speaker 3: is what this is what I did. So I got

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Speaker 3: a bunch of different questions for you. So let's go back,

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Speaker 3: obviously to when you're the fastest woman in the world.

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Speaker 3: Were you the fastest woman in the world without the

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Speaker 3: use of drugs, and if you were, what got you

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Speaker 1: Yeah, the answer is I certainly believe that, you know,

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Speaker 1: off of facts. This is not me guessing, This is

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Speaker 1: not my opinion. This is the fact that from the

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Speaker 1: regards to whom I'm surrounding myself with. And it's one

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Speaker 1: as you know, Jay, the company that you keep and

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Speaker 1: surround yourself with people who are going to lift you

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Speaker 1: I could have won the gold medals and the bronze

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Speaker 1: having been given certain stuff. Yes, all right, And so

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Speaker 1: I always like to clear up though, j when we're

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Speaker 1: sharing the story, like the facts of it, and that

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Speaker 1: is that like in all of it, like, did I

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Speaker 1: besides what I thought was all natural. Right now, My issue, right,

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Speaker 1: My issue is that I made choices years later to

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Speaker 1: what it was, and I lied to federal investigators, which

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Speaker 1: is always a no no, right, And because of that, Jake, right,

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Speaker 1: I accepted my sentence of six months incarceration. But again,

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Speaker 1: like there's no excuses, like I messed up, paid the consequences.

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Speaker 1: But you know, I like to say, man, do I

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Speaker 1: wish I could go back and do things slightly different? Sure,

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Speaker 1: but I would be right as you Jay, You wouldn't

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Speaker 1: right when you have nothing to provide for them, right

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Speaker 1: So just I always always like to give that little

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Speaker 3: This podcast know I say all the time, I'm most

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Speaker 3: I never talked about them, but I just did right there.

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Speaker 3: the shit I've overcome, you know, the grind and the

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Speaker 3: What was the pivot for you to go? You know what,

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Speaker 3: I can either be you know, just curious that this

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Speaker 1: Yeah, well, I'll tell you there was a brief moment

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Speaker 1: pissed off, yeah, and then once you get past that point,

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Speaker 1: But I also think that you know, you realize that,

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Speaker 1: Can I use this mess? And we've heard the term

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Speaker 2: We go through this pain to help others do theirs.

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Speaker 1: So I mentioned the word fuel because that's all that

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Speaker 1: but like move forward. And when was that necessary moment

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Speaker 1: kind of my mantra now, Jay, like, our setbacks can

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Speaker 1: want like like just like right, and you know, you

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Speaker 1: just get people to say, no, we don't got to

433
00:22:37,320 --> 00:22:39,600
Speaker 1: be stuck. You don't care who you are. You don't

434
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Speaker 1: care if you're on the cover of Vogue magazine and

435
00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:45,960
Speaker 1: lost it all right, there's still something incredible about you

436
00:22:46,040 --> 00:22:48,760
Speaker 1: that the world should hear and just make it happen.

437
00:22:48,920 --> 00:22:51,000
Speaker 1: So that's so when.

438
00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:53,040
Speaker 2: Did you when? What was the thing that got you

439
00:22:53,080 --> 00:22:54,679
Speaker 2: make that switch from I.

440
00:22:54,920 --> 00:22:58,159
Speaker 3: Don't know if you were resentful or bift or or

441
00:22:58,240 --> 00:22:59,760
Speaker 3: had a pitty party, whatever it was.

442
00:23:00,680 --> 00:23:04,840
Speaker 4: This second win, well, you know, I I'm proud of

443
00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:05,520
Speaker 4: you for this murder.

444
00:23:05,760 --> 00:23:08,760
Speaker 1: Thank you, Jay, well, I like to say, well, I

445
00:23:08,800 --> 00:23:12,520
Speaker 1: had a lot of downtime in my six month vacation.

446
00:23:13,800 --> 00:23:14,919
Speaker 2: I do want to ask you about that.

447
00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:15,640
Speaker 3: Go ahead.

448
00:23:17,359 --> 00:23:20,960
Speaker 1: To reflect, and again, I'm gonna make the best of

449
00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:24,720
Speaker 1: every situation. I stepped out of most time to.

450
00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:26,440
Speaker 2: Go with the pity party route.

451
00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:30,320
Speaker 3: And again it keeps going that way or something usually

452
00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 3: trips us to make to go the other way going

453
00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:34,440
Speaker 3: you know what, to use my pain to help others

454
00:23:34,480 --> 00:23:34,879
Speaker 3: do theirs.

455
00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:37,800
Speaker 1: And let me tell you what that moment was, Jay, Right,

456
00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:39,919
Speaker 1: like when I won, when I stepped out of the

457
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:42,800
Speaker 1: facility in Carswell in Fort Worth, Texas. That was the

458
00:23:42,800 --> 00:23:46,520
Speaker 1: federal institution I was housed in. I one stepped out

459
00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:49,520
Speaker 1: of there the best shape in my life. Okay, really

460
00:23:49,840 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 1: because I had so much time like a movement and exercise.

461
00:23:53,800 --> 00:23:56,639
Speaker 1: That is my stress reliever. And I don't care if

462
00:23:56,640 --> 00:23:59,359
Speaker 1: you keep me in solitary, which I was for forty

463
00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:02,199
Speaker 1: nine days, right, if you keep me stuck in a

464
00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:08,480
Speaker 1: small space, unless you put me in a sharp cage, right,

465
00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:16,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna Jay. And I became friends with the guards

466
00:24:16,200 --> 00:24:18,119
Speaker 1: and they would slit me an extra peanut butter and

467
00:24:18,160 --> 00:24:20,879
Speaker 1: banana to make sure I had some fuel. Right anyway,

468
00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:25,480
Speaker 1: But in those quiet, dark, hard times, I like to say,

469
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:30,359
Speaker 1: I and was able to reflect because things before I

470
00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:33,400
Speaker 1: was on this wave. Right, listen to this example. I'm

471
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:35,600
Speaker 1: on this wave and it just takes you further and

472
00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:38,800
Speaker 1: further out sometimes where you can't touch the bottom and

473
00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:41,160
Speaker 1: you're just kind of treading and you're kind of existing

474
00:24:41,200 --> 00:24:44,960
Speaker 1: and surviving and you're moving away from like the reality

475
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:47,760
Speaker 1: of the ground and the earth, right, and so you're

476
00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:51,000
Speaker 1: making decisions and it's quick and you're not right. But now,

477
00:24:51,320 --> 00:24:53,880
Speaker 1: like the wave that had brought me back, and I'm

478
00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:57,520
Speaker 1: on the shore and I'm like, you know what, how

479
00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:58,960
Speaker 1: did I get to be to this? How did I

480
00:24:59,000 --> 00:25:03,800
Speaker 1: get here? Right? But more important, like what was my mother?

481
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:04,720
Speaker 2: Right?

482
00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:09,439
Speaker 1: Who sacrificed so much right and left this small third

483
00:25:09,480 --> 00:25:12,920
Speaker 1: world country and made the decision at whatever age I

484
00:25:12,920 --> 00:25:14,640
Speaker 1: don't know how old she was when she came here

485
00:25:14,680 --> 00:25:16,680
Speaker 1: with my older brother, and she's like, you know what,

486
00:25:16,840 --> 00:25:21,720
Speaker 1: Like I don't, I don't know, but I've heard, I've

487
00:25:21,760 --> 00:25:24,000
Speaker 1: read that it can give a better life for me

488
00:25:24,200 --> 00:25:28,360
Speaker 1: and my babies, right, Like, how does how do if

489
00:25:28,400 --> 00:25:32,239
Speaker 1: I'm here sulking about them stuck? I'm stuck, and my

490
00:25:32,400 --> 00:25:36,399
Speaker 1: mom right, it's a hard childhood just says you know what,

491
00:25:37,400 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 1: I don't care. I'm going to do it. I don't

492
00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:42,520
Speaker 1: know what the future holds, but I know it's got

493
00:25:42,520 --> 00:25:44,359
Speaker 1: to be better than where I'm at right now. And

494
00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:48,639
Speaker 1: that was my inspiration, right, that one right, like the

495
00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:52,960
Speaker 1: dream that my mom had, right for her babies, right

496
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:56,800
Speaker 1: to be a success, to make a real impact in

497
00:25:56,880 --> 00:26:00,520
Speaker 1: this life was not going to go unheard, right, And

498
00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:03,440
Speaker 1: that was my fuel, really, And it was the first time.

499
00:26:03,480 --> 00:26:05,960
Speaker 1: And I give the story about the wave and the

500
00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:09,200
Speaker 1: treading water so you can get some context. I'm moving

501
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:13,119
Speaker 1: fast and there's chaos and I needed I needed a

502
00:26:13,160 --> 00:26:17,080
Speaker 1: moment of stillness, right, And it was prison for me.

503
00:26:17,200 --> 00:26:20,120
Speaker 1: I hope. My hope is that it's not for others, right,

504
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:22,720
Speaker 1: But that's for me. Sometimes you just need to be

505
00:26:23,200 --> 00:26:25,440
Speaker 1: like you need your you can slow your ass damp

506
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:28,600
Speaker 1: and you need to get away from that world of

507
00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:33,359
Speaker 1: chaos and say, okay, who am I? But more importantly,

508
00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:35,920
Speaker 1: who do I want to be? Who do I want

509
00:26:35,960 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 1: to be in this world? Right? Do I want to

510
00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:40,240
Speaker 1: just be remembered as the fast? To me, it's like

511
00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 1: the idea of being remembered as the fastest woman in

512
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 1: the world. There was a time, Jay, when I was like, yeah,

513
00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:48,240
Speaker 1: that's what I want to be remembered at. Right when

514
00:26:48,320 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 1: when you're and you get to a certain age where

515
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:53,679
Speaker 1: you're like, man, I want to be remembered for like

516
00:26:53,720 --> 00:26:57,600
Speaker 1: a human who sacrificed and like made real impact in

517
00:26:57,640 --> 00:27:00,320
Speaker 1: the lives of people. Like you get to a place

518
00:27:00,359 --> 00:27:03,040
Speaker 1: in your life when that is what you aspire to

519
00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:07,119
Speaker 1: do and to be and that is to me and

520
00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:11,639
Speaker 1: people will say it's so true. I mean it is.

521
00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:14,399
Speaker 1: It is the feeling that knowing that, like, Okay, I

522
00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:17,720
Speaker 1: had to go through stuff and my time away and

523
00:27:17,720 --> 00:27:19,760
Speaker 1: from what I've had to deal with with the public

524
00:27:20,280 --> 00:27:23,200
Speaker 1: and like fighting for my name back and like all

525
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:25,560
Speaker 1: that type of stuff and my reputation. It's been a

526
00:27:25,560 --> 00:27:26,040
Speaker 1: hard wood.

527
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 3: Man.

528
00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:30,560
Speaker 1: When people hear the story and they're like, wait, if

529
00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:33,880
Speaker 1: she can do this and she can pull herself off

530
00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 1: and she bounced back and she can be here and

531
00:27:36,640 --> 00:27:39,240
Speaker 1: there and everywhere, and now getting an opportunity and a

532
00:27:39,280 --> 00:27:42,359
Speaker 1: platform to share her story when there were so many doors, Jay,

533
00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:45,840
Speaker 1: that were shut when I came out of prison and

534
00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,000
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, y I'll shoo my story. No boom,

535
00:27:48,040 --> 00:27:50,560
Speaker 1: nobody wants to hear it. No boom, nobody wants to

536
00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:53,880
Speaker 1: hear it. And I'm patient. And I put into time right,

537
00:27:54,040 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 1: and I nurtured myself and I grew, and I nurtured

538
00:27:57,480 --> 00:28:00,880
Speaker 1: my family and they grow right and and and then

539
00:28:01,200 --> 00:28:03,280
Speaker 1: now all of a sudden, I get a call, Hey,

540
00:28:03,680 --> 00:28:05,679
Speaker 1: you want to be on Special Forces, which is just

541
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:09,160
Speaker 1: an incredible show that I was on last this past year.

542
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:15,840
Speaker 1: It's on Hulu now, the World's Toughest Task. Like that's

543
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:18,800
Speaker 1: not just that's me putting in the work. That's God.

544
00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:21,240
Speaker 1: But like all those those type of things don't just happen.

545
00:28:21,560 --> 00:28:24,359
Speaker 1: And then from there it's a catalyst for something else.

546
00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:27,760
Speaker 1: And it's the podcast, and it's the triathlon, and it's

547
00:28:27,840 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 1: all these different things, and it just lines up because

548
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:32,919
Speaker 1: I put in the time and it was hard.

549
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:35,880
Speaker 2: If you're going forward, you ain't going backwards.

550
00:28:37,040 --> 00:28:37,359
Speaker 1: There you go.

551
00:28:37,960 --> 00:28:39,360
Speaker 2: But I had two more questions for you.

552
00:28:39,520 --> 00:28:42,400
Speaker 3: One just a last I just want to hit on

553
00:28:42,440 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 3: telling you said you got put in the whole for

554
00:28:44,160 --> 00:28:44,920
Speaker 3: forty nine days.

555
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:48,920
Speaker 1: Why ah, okay, let me give you a quick Let

556
00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:51,960
Speaker 1: me give me the quick story. So as some people

557
00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:53,959
Speaker 1: know that might be seeing and hearing this, you know,

558
00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:58,480
Speaker 1: when you're incarcerated, there's there's no money, right, so you

559
00:28:59,040 --> 00:29:02,080
Speaker 1: can purchase from commissary. I think goods, things that you

560
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:05,080
Speaker 1: need and want. Usually your family will put money on

561
00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:08,800
Speaker 1: your books and type of stuff. But also people make

562
00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:10,600
Speaker 1: money if they don't have family and friends that put

563
00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:16,320
Speaker 1: on the books. They're hustle, right, They they help with laundry, right,

564
00:29:16,440 --> 00:29:19,640
Speaker 1: they sew, they cook, they do all these little things

565
00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 1: right to make money if they don't have a support

566
00:29:23,160 --> 00:29:26,120
Speaker 1: system to put money on their books. Also, in a

567
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:30,480
Speaker 1: lot of these institutions, right, there's theft, and so you

568
00:29:30,480 --> 00:29:33,840
Speaker 1: don't necessarily want to stand at the washer and dryer

569
00:29:33,960 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 1: for two hours, so you hire somebody with it who's

570
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 1: trying to make money, which I quickly realized like that

571
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 1: was the thing. I don't want I stealing my stuff,

572
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:46,520
Speaker 1: So you hire somebody to do your lune. Well, I

573
00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:49,200
Speaker 1: find and I worked out Jay while I was there,

574
00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:53,280
Speaker 1: and so I had a few different like sweatsuits, but

575
00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:57,160
Speaker 1: I call it that all right. And all of a sudden, Jay,

576
00:29:57,200 --> 00:30:00,000
Speaker 1: I'm realizing, like I don't have a s my sweat

577
00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:03,960
Speaker 1: sure they're coming up missing, and I'm still paying out

578
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:08,360
Speaker 1: via commissary this individual and so like I'm trying to

579
00:30:08,560 --> 00:30:11,480
Speaker 1: navigate the prison system. I don't have any history of it.

580
00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 1: Nobody in my family ever has. So I learned when

581
00:30:14,200 --> 00:30:16,440
Speaker 1: you get in there. And so I'm like, all right, well,

582
00:30:16,440 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 1: how am I going to like bring this up to

583
00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:23,680
Speaker 1: this person without offending anybody? Right? And so I decided

584
00:30:23,680 --> 00:30:25,760
Speaker 1: one you don't do it around a lot of people, right,

585
00:30:25,880 --> 00:30:29,040
Speaker 1: like anybody, you do it one on one. So one

586
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 1: day the young lady and I asked her gently. I

587
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:33,640
Speaker 1: was like, you know, I didn't ask her. I was like,

588
00:30:33,680 --> 00:30:35,160
Speaker 1: you know what I think. I think I'm going to

589
00:30:35,240 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 1: start to do my own laundry, right like, just like that,

590
00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:41,120
Speaker 1: like you know, thank you, and I'll finish paying you. Well,

591
00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:44,520
Speaker 1: she took offense. Why because that's her last through your hood.

592
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:47,040
Speaker 1: I also found out a little bit later she was

593
00:30:47,080 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 1: on some some meds and stuff. She hadn't been taking them.

594
00:30:51,400 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 1: So there was an altercation, right, and I ran out

595
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 1: of the room after there was some as we back

596
00:30:56,920 --> 00:30:59,440
Speaker 1: in the day used to say, fist the cuffs, fist

597
00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:02,720
Speaker 1: the cuffs, and I ran to the guard. She was

598
00:31:02,760 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 1: bleeding all kinds of stuff and because of that, we

599
00:31:04,960 --> 00:31:08,240
Speaker 1: got taken across the street to High security. I was

600
00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:10,520
Speaker 1: putting the shoe. If you know with you know a

601
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:13,840
Speaker 1: federal institution that's lock up twenty three out of twenty

602
00:31:13,840 --> 00:31:16,360
Speaker 1: four hours a day. And because it was her word

603
00:31:16,480 --> 00:31:19,560
Speaker 1: versus my word, they had to do an investigation. And

604
00:31:19,600 --> 00:31:22,560
Speaker 1: so forty nine days later I was able.

605
00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:24,160
Speaker 2: To do forty nine days Because you want to fight,

606
00:31:24,200 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 2: that's not fair.

607
00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:28,320
Speaker 1: Hey yeah, but again her word versus my word. But

608
00:31:28,360 --> 00:31:31,720
Speaker 1: not again, I tell you to be by myself like

609
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:34,520
Speaker 1: I had. I needed that in my life. Even when

610
00:31:34,560 --> 00:31:37,240
Speaker 1: I was on the lower security side they call it

611
00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:40,080
Speaker 1: a camp. I was around a lot of people and

612
00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:42,160
Speaker 1: I was having to navigate life and how to figure

613
00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:45,800
Speaker 1: that out. Which, again, Jay, if I would have had

614
00:31:45,880 --> 00:31:50,040
Speaker 1: that time that I needed to figure out who I want,

615
00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:52,640
Speaker 1: who I am, I'm moving forward what I was going

616
00:31:52,720 --> 00:31:55,160
Speaker 1: to do. So I am grateful for those forty nine

617
00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:58,360
Speaker 1: days in the shoe. They were tough, but hey, yeah,

618
00:31:58,800 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 1: like it all right?

619
00:32:00,240 --> 00:32:00,760
Speaker 2: Question for you?

620
00:32:00,960 --> 00:32:03,400
Speaker 3: I asked all my guests, this, give me your real

621
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:06,960
Speaker 3: breakable moment, the moment that sharebroken. You could have and didn't,

622
00:32:07,000 --> 00:32:08,520
Speaker 3: and as a result, you came through the other side

623
00:32:08,560 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 3: of that tull stronger.

624
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:11,760
Speaker 2: You may have already discussed it, but just frame it.

625
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:16,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I haven't discussed it yet. So my unbreakable moment,

626
00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:22,360
Speaker 1: Jay was standing on the courtroom steps after everything happened.

627
00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:26,080
Speaker 1: It was the day of my sentencing. I had already,

628
00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:28,280
Speaker 1: you know, made the decision that I was going to

629
00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:31,440
Speaker 1: share with the world that I had lied to federal investigators,

630
00:32:31,440 --> 00:32:35,480
Speaker 1: and we had the sentencing and going into that day,

631
00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 1: you know, I had my legal team and everything. Going

632
00:32:38,280 --> 00:32:44,080
Speaker 1: into that day, it was recommended that I would get probation.

633
00:32:44,400 --> 00:32:44,560
Speaker 3: Right.

634
00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:49,479
Speaker 1: Was prison time a possibility, of course, it always is,

635
00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:53,360
Speaker 1: But the court recommends stuff. They research the person's life

636
00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:56,800
Speaker 1: on what potentially good can come out of them being incarcerated,

637
00:32:56,840 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 1: and what good they weigh that, and what good the

638
00:33:00,120 --> 00:33:03,200
Speaker 1: person probation maybe help athletes, maybe help young people make

639
00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:06,720
Speaker 1: better choices. And so stepping in that courtroom, we me

640
00:33:06,880 --> 00:33:11,960
Speaker 1: and my legal team were fairly you know, fairly prepared

641
00:33:12,080 --> 00:33:16,960
Speaker 1: for a sentence of probation, fines, et cetera. And three

642
00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:20,640
Speaker 1: hours later, I looked to my left and right my

643
00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:23,920
Speaker 1: legal team, and I had to ask them, did he

644
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:28,800
Speaker 1: did this guy just say six months locked up? Like

645
00:33:28,800 --> 00:33:31,840
Speaker 1: like I couldn't even fathom it, Jay, Right, Like, even

646
00:33:31,840 --> 00:33:34,239
Speaker 1: though you knew it was on the table, right, like

647
00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:37,520
Speaker 1: everybody's like marrying, don't even don't even like you're not

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Speaker 1: involved in any of this. Right, it's not going to happen.

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Speaker 1: And I had to look to my left and I

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Speaker 1: was like, I was just done. You're just donned. I

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Speaker 1: don't know. At that point, I had two little boys,

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Speaker 1: two kids. Now I have three beautiful kids who are

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Speaker 1: almost grown now. But man, I'm like what. So after that,

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Speaker 1: in that moment of just being in shock, I walk

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Speaker 1: out of the courtroom and I walked down the steps

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Speaker 1: and there are, however, maybe felt like a thousand cameras

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Speaker 1: waiting for a statement from me, and I could have

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Speaker 1: easily just kind of like been ushered to the car,

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Speaker 1: and I was like, no, right, like the world embraced me.

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you, the world embraced me. Right, they put

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Speaker 1: me on every cover of every magazine. Talk but right,

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Speaker 1: it is my responsibility to step up now and do

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Speaker 1: the right thing right and share with the world what

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Speaker 1: happened that I'm sorry for it. And my unbreakable moment

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Speaker 1: is when I stood in front of that microphone and

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Speaker 1: I shared with the world that I had made poor choices.

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Speaker 1: But my unbreakable moment was not just that. It was

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Speaker 1: my mom's hand on my shoulder right like, giving me

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Speaker 1: comfort and support, whispering in my ear You've got this,

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Speaker 1: I'm here. We're going to get through this. And that

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Speaker 1: was the moments. As hard as it was Jay to

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Speaker 1: know that my rep everything at that moment would change forever,

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Speaker 1: but feeling her hand on my shoulder, knowing that she

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Speaker 1: loves me no matter what, and if my mama tells

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Speaker 1: me that we're going to get through this, we're going

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Speaker 1: to get through this.

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Speaker 4: And so that was my moment, Jay, Maren, I really

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Speaker 4: appreciate you joining me in vulnerability.

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Speaker 3: Vulnerability is true track and I really appreciate it. Tell

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Speaker 3: everybody again about your podcast before we.

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Speaker 2: Let you go.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So the podcast is called Second Win. It's on

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Speaker 1: anywhere that you hear and see your podcast. You know,

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Speaker 1: it's just it's just an interesting perspective. Everybody wants to

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Speaker 1: come back, want to see and hear a comeback story.

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Speaker 1: And these are people that you know, that you've heard of,

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Speaker 1: that you've been a fan of, that have been knocked down.

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Speaker 1: Similar to, maybe, whoever is hearing this and you want

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Speaker 1: to hear what their second win in life is all about?

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Speaker 1: Tune in. Yeah, it's something special.

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Speaker 2: Love it We ever want to guess? You got my peeps,

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Speaker 2: I'm in. Thanks Ran Jones, Thanks you for joining the

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Speaker 2: Unbreaable Mental Wealth podcast.

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Speaker 1: Yeah awesome