WEBVTT - Ep. 79 — Sh-- Pie

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<v Speaker 1>You know when you said you're rolling, you see me rolling?

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<v Speaker 1>They hanging.

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<v Speaker 2>Trying to catch me dirty. Yeah, it took me a.

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<v Speaker 1>Minute, huh. I know right. I was like, come on, now,

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<v Speaker 1>you got it up. We're about to pull your Brown cards.

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<v Speaker 2>Long day. Wait, that is what made me lose my

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<v Speaker 2>brown card. Not knowing the lyrics to ride and Dirty.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, everybody, there's certain songs that you just are.

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<v Speaker 2>Like, come on, I've given you so many other reasons.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't know who remy Ma was at first.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that was crazy. Tell me that at least you

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<v Speaker 1>you well, you don't really watch Ratchet TV. Do you

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<v Speaker 1>watch Housewives of the Real Housewives of Atlanta?

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<v Speaker 2>So yesterday I spent six hours watching a Great British

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<v Speaker 2>bakeoff on Netflix?

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<v Speaker 1>So you had me excited. You welcome into the Ratchet club. Girl,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm stripping you over. Your Ratchet card has been revoked,

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<v Speaker 1>not that it was your your your application was pending

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<v Speaker 1>and you just got you know, you're like you put

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<v Speaker 1>to the bottom of the pile and Sothemically I don't,

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<v Speaker 1>but Ratchet TV helps me watch dishes, and so.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not judging no, for sure. I mean your Nikki

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<v Speaker 2>leaks is my Is that her name? Y'all said, y'all

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<v Speaker 2>and yes her, And that's the only one I know.

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<v Speaker 2>She's your Paul and Mary. I know we have to

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<v Speaker 2>have some listeners who watched the Great British Bakeoff, like

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<v Speaker 2>we have to, or at least the American version.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't even know there's such a thing. Tell me

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<v Speaker 1>at least. I mean, like, well, I watch HG TV.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm assuming you partake.

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<v Speaker 2>I used to when we paid for cable, and now

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<v Speaker 2>it is harder to find, so not as much, not

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<v Speaker 2>as much. Well, but yeah, yeah, I love my property brothers.

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<v Speaker 2>I love Magnolia.

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<v Speaker 1>I love Fixer Upper. That's my favorite.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you ready to see your fixer Upper?

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<v Speaker 1>Ship flop ship Lap?

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<v Speaker 2>I had to google what the hell is ship Lap?

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<v Speaker 2>And the silos, I'm like, what the silo?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? I love Yeah. So anyway, for those of you

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<v Speaker 1>who do partic partake in a little ratchet from time

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<v Speaker 1>to time. So I don't watch the show, but I

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<v Speaker 1>do watch the reunion episodes because I mean, if you

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<v Speaker 1>really want to just get to the to the drama,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just like, I really don't care about the day

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<v Speaker 1>to day to the show, but the reunion episodes are

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<v Speaker 1>life and I was like, oh, Phaedra caught in that line.

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<v Speaker 1>For those of you I know, Mandy's like, I have

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<v Speaker 1>no idea what she's talking about. But for those of

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<v Speaker 1>you who are listening, fade got what was coming through her.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't stand.

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<v Speaker 2>Anyone named Fedra type belongs on that show. They're up

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<v Speaker 2>to no good?

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<v Speaker 1>Right, so ad honey, Finally, anything done in the dark

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<v Speaker 1>will come out to light, like a grandma would say, right,

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<v Speaker 1>this is a black grandma saying, what does it come

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<v Speaker 1>out in the wash? Wait? What does it come out

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<v Speaker 1>in the wash? Will come out in the rings? Wait?

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<v Speaker 1>Something like that. I don't know. I had an African grandma.

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<v Speaker 1>She didn't. Those are not her type of parables. But anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>something basically that, like, nothing secret you know, will stay

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<v Speaker 1>secret long. So yeah, yeah, So that was just a little,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, a little beginning ratchet opening up. So have

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<v Speaker 1>you been Mandra? Swell?

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<v Speaker 2>Simply swell. It was a rough week, man. I don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>if you leave for vacation, you come back to work.

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<v Speaker 2>The first week it was rough. I had like a

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<v Speaker 2>real world hangover. I'm like, I forgot how early the

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<v Speaker 2>mornings are and how much coffee I need. But I'm back.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm back at it.

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<v Speaker 1>I was gonna ask how it was coming back after

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<v Speaker 1>like your world wind life.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it's hard. It's not like it used to

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<v Speaker 2>be when I used to working at a big company

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<v Speaker 2>where you could be gone for a week or two

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<v Speaker 2>and then back and it's like you just kind of

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<v Speaker 2>pick up where you left off. But you know, being

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<v Speaker 2>just in a management role, and then at a smaller

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<v Speaker 2>company when it came back, it was like, Okay, these

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<v Speaker 2>million things piled up and then you have all these

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<v Speaker 2>million things to edit and stuff. So just a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit of catch up. But I feel a lot better now.

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<v Speaker 2>I feel a lot And we had a very relaxing

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<v Speaker 2>weekend where I like didn't leave the house really on

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<v Speaker 2>like had some friends over on Saturday and cooked and

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<v Speaker 2>then Sunday, like I said, great British bake off all day.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm trying to do. I binge on any shows. It's

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<v Speaker 1>very rare typically, you know, after an episode or two,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like all right, I'm over, But like every once

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<v Speaker 1>in a while, like I've binged on Blue Bloods. That

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<v Speaker 1>was pretty good. Me and Superman before is that j

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<v Speaker 1>Love show? Show Mandy.

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<v Speaker 2>No, Oh, I was sure.

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<v Speaker 1>I was right.

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<v Speaker 2>Sure, Wait what's were blood girl? I'm really good with

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<v Speaker 2>TV usually I know the show like that.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you would think that Mandy I was a

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<v Speaker 1>millennial and Mandy was not. I mean it's like baby

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<v Speaker 1>could get turned up there. He is colder here. No,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not. No, it's like some I don't even know

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<v Speaker 1>what Chandeler comes on. I just like watch it online

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<v Speaker 1>on Netflix.

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<v Speaker 2>Sometimes the hell is her show called? Then? Because I

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<v Speaker 2>swear it's blue something.

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<v Speaker 1>It probably is, but I don't. I don't. I typically

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<v Speaker 1>like I don't watch too much like current TV. Instead,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, if I'm going to watch TV, it's typically

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<v Speaker 1>ach TV. And then if there's something ratchet on on occasion,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll partake. But and then I just go back to

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<v Speaker 1>work because honestly, I'm just like it's just kind of

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<v Speaker 1>like my escape away when I'm like, oh, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want to think about anything responsible. Where are the housewives?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? I think we all need that little bit of

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<v Speaker 2>like just give your brain a mental if you have

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<v Speaker 2>a job that's like mentally draining. Some jobs aren't so

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<v Speaker 2>mentally draining, they're physically draining or whatever. But like at

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<v Speaker 2>the end of the day, my brain hurts, and you

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<v Speaker 2>just don't you just can't think yeah anymore. That's why

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<v Speaker 2>when people ask me, oh, you might you must listen

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<v Speaker 2>to all those financial podcasts you're you know, personal finance whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, sure, don't, sure, don't. I read and talk

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<v Speaker 2>about this stuff all day. I don't know anything about uh,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, these financial podcasts or whatnot. Because I just

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<v Speaker 2>can't take any more. I want to listen to like

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<v Speaker 2>all the like the storytelling podcasts.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I have to get into something. You have to

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<v Speaker 1>give you something.

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<v Speaker 2>Crime. I like the crime ones. There's some good ones. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>I love. If you're looking for like a good storytelling podcast,

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<v Speaker 2>it doesn't get better than Strangers. It's this is like

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<v Speaker 2>amazing narrative and every episode usually there's there might be

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<v Speaker 2>a couple that are two partners, but usually it's so

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<v Speaker 2>it's about an hour, hour and a half episode and

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<v Speaker 2>she really like tells the story and they're the stories

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<v Speaker 2>are all over the place, like how this family adopted

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<v Speaker 2>these two Haitian children from Miami and then ends up

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<v Speaker 2>adopting their mother and bringing everyone over to you know,

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<v Speaker 2>to like the story of a girl who's you know,

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<v Speaker 2>sexually assaulted by her father and then finds, you know resolution.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just it's really good. I don't mean to go

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<v Speaker 2>on a tangent.

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<v Speaker 1>No story, okay, no, because I've started to go back

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<v Speaker 1>in the gym in the morning and I need something

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<v Speaker 1>to keep me from looking like at the clock. Literally

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like really one minute, oh my gosh, when I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like like on the treadmill or whatever, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I need something that's gonna keep me going, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>And so I need to be entertained, you know. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm looking for some good podcasts to start to get

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<v Speaker 1>into because music doesn't do it for me. Like I

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<v Speaker 1>can listen for a little bit and I'm like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I hear you.

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<v Speaker 2>I totally hear you.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. So like either I talk to a friend

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<v Speaker 1>on the phone or and that doesn't that's not really

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<v Speaker 1>all that productive because then I'm like, let me sell

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<v Speaker 1>the treadmill that I'm breathed to her.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, right.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm like, if I can listen to something that's

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<v Speaker 1>like engaging, it'll keep me going for longer.

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<v Speaker 2>But people are not here to listen to us talk

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<v Speaker 2>about other.

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome, I know, welcome I had a big milestone today.

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<v Speaker 1>It was so random. Me and Superman are so random.

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't sure if I could say anything. So I'm

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<v Speaker 2>excited that you got to it already.

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<v Speaker 1>I sent you the picture like it's happening. We were

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<v Speaker 1>just we were at City Hall really because we had

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<v Speaker 1>a meeting with the Housing and Economic Development Office because

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<v Speaker 1>we've been having trouble finding a house, as you know,

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<v Speaker 1>and so I wanted to be like, like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>what's going on. Is there something that you guys can do,

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<v Speaker 1>and are their programs and whatever. So we had a

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<v Speaker 1>really good meeting where they're going to help us to

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<v Speaker 1>really move forward in the home buying process because you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the first house we were so excited about, but then

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<v Speaker 1>it didn't pass inspection. It was like contaminated soil, messed

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<v Speaker 1>up foundation, blah blah blah, everything was wrong. So we

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<v Speaker 1>had to walk away second house. You know, we look

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<v Speaker 1>the other two or three houses that we've seen since

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<v Speaker 1>then that we put in offers for, we've been outbid,

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<v Speaker 1>so it's been like really disappointing. So I was like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what, let me go to the city to

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<v Speaker 1>see they have him helping some solutions and they are

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<v Speaker 1>going to help us. So I'm excited about that. So

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully and then you know, a few months, something will

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<v Speaker 1>something will pop. And while we were there, because last

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<v Speaker 1>week we'd gone to get a marriage license but the

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<v Speaker 1>city of Newark didn't, we talked about this last week

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<v Speaker 1>they held up for ransom. Yeah, that was really weird.

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<v Speaker 2>They were hacked.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and so the hacker, you know, held you know,

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<v Speaker 1>the city or the city's files anyway for ransom for

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<v Speaker 1>like thirty thousand dollars. I'm like, what are you twelve?

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<v Speaker 1>You know, like it just seemed like such a random,

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<v Speaker 1>arbitrary number. So anyway, either they fixed it or they

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<v Speaker 1>paid them. And so when we were there today, he

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<v Speaker 1>was like, you know what, we should go downstairs to

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<v Speaker 1>see if we can get our marriage license. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't bring our application, but we could probably fill

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<v Speaker 1>it out downstairs. But I'm like, do I have a

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<v Speaker 1>random bill? Because you have to bring a bill with

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<v Speaker 1>you to prove residency. And I happen to have and

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<v Speaker 1>this like never happens. I happened to have a random

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<v Speaker 1>light bill in my purse. I'm like, oh, and it

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<v Speaker 1>was it was recent. It was like this month's light bill.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, well, this works out perfectly. But then

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<v Speaker 1>we also needed a witness, and so he was like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>let me see, you know, my best friend, and he

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<v Speaker 1>happened to be like around the corner, which is also weird.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, what at the universe? Just lining everything up?

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, I'm actually around the corner at a diner.

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<v Speaker 1>So he was like, well, come around.

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<v Speaker 2>So here I was coupled together a wedding and minute, you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know, when you apply for the license, you're just applying

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<v Speaker 1>for the license. You're not you know, it's not like

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<v Speaker 1>you get married. And so you apply for the license

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<v Speaker 1>and then they ask you, you know, when you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get married or where, and then we were like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>we're just gonna go to the Justice of the Peace,

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<v Speaker 1>which in New York is just the courthouse, which is

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<v Speaker 1>next door. And she was like all right, take this

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<v Speaker 1>slip to the courthouse and they'll give you a date.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, okay. It felt so weird and

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<v Speaker 1>it's a real I was like all right. So we

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<v Speaker 1>went to the courthouse and they were like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>this is the nearest date, you know, and I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>is that when you want to get married, and he

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<v Speaker 1>was like sure. He was like, give us the quickest,

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<v Speaker 1>the soon ast date you have.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, and then they're like, oh, it's

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<v Speaker 2>that kind of wedding congratulations.

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<v Speaker 1>And then and then and then it's so crazy to

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<v Speaker 1>have a business trip literally the next day. And I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, mayb, maybe we should pick it up the

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<v Speaker 1>date because I'm a business trip. And he was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, our life is like it's not like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we're already living together, you know. So he was like, well,

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<v Speaker 1>that's just life. So I was like, okay, so we're

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<v Speaker 1>just gonna go to the courthouse. I am gonna gonna

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<v Speaker 1>you know, get something cute and wear something cute. But

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<v Speaker 1>it's exciting but weird because I thought to myself, I

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't gonna think it was a big deal because you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like I feel like, well, we're like married now. But

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<v Speaker 1>then you're like, whoa, I see what you mean, Mandy.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I feel like it's like real.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, because I have to be a big deal.

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<v Speaker 2>Make it a big deal. I mean, I know you're

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<v Speaker 2>doing it low key, but you should still make it.

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<v Speaker 2>I think it's really sattle.

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<v Speaker 1>You should like I text my my friend who well,

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<v Speaker 1>like she's a makeup artist, and so she like, I

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<v Speaker 1>have a bunch of friends who are makeup artists, but

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<v Speaker 1>she was amazing when she did my face, and so

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<v Speaker 1>I texted her. She's like, oh, yeah, I'm available. I

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<v Speaker 1>was like yes, And so I'm going to reach out

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<v Speaker 1>to another friend of mine who has a she like

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<v Speaker 1>makes wedding gowns to see if she's going to make

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<v Speaker 1>something like simple and really cute and like summary for me,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm really excited to be married, getting married, like you know,

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<v Speaker 1>when the weather's going to be nice, because like that's

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<v Speaker 1>so me. I don't want to wear like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>some big, heavy gown. I want something like floating and

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<v Speaker 1>like a summer dress.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, as soon as the when's the big day?

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<v Speaker 2>Can I ask?

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<v Speaker 1>It's gonna be in June?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh a June wedding.

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<v Speaker 1>I know at the end of June. I'll just say,

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<v Speaker 1>because I feel like some people are crazy, you be surprised.

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<v Speaker 1>I've eaten places and people have just shown up. So

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I just kind of don't want someone to

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<v Speaker 1>be like I heard you gotta get married today.

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<v Speaker 2>I know how it is a Newark Tiffany is a

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<v Speaker 2>public figure. It just never I love they come by

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<v Speaker 2>with like a potato salad, and then.

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<v Speaker 1>Afterwards we'll probably like, you know, like me and because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just literally just like my mom, my dad, my sisters,

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<v Speaker 1>and my two best friends and his immediate family. And

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<v Speaker 1>then we're gonna have a big to me when we

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<v Speaker 1>get our house. Then I want to have a big

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<v Speaker 1>invite everybody that we care about. Well not big, but

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the like the reception slash party when we

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<v Speaker 1>get a house.

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<v Speaker 2>And so that's it.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm excited though, because I'm like, hey, I ain't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, way, I'm going to get married, lady could

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<v Speaker 1>feel so weird. I never really thought I was gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get married. I'm not gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so capitol w weiss it is a big deal.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. I'm like, whoa, this seems weird and it's

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<v Speaker 1>so crazy, Like I have not cooked in like forever.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm the worst sometimes, Like I'm the type of like

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<v Speaker 1>I will.

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<v Speaker 2>Like you see that every episode, like literally every episode.

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<v Speaker 2>It's been so long. I feel so bad. I cooked

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<v Speaker 2>some dinner tonight. I think it's every other Sunday or Monday.

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<v Speaker 2>You are cooking dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>Like when I cook, like I'll like go hard for

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<v Speaker 1>like two or three weeks, and then I'll take off

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<v Speaker 1>a week like I don't feel like doing any day.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I was like, I felt like it's such

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<v Speaker 1>a good wifely mood. I'm like, I'm gonna make a

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<v Speaker 1>fold that I made meat, love roast potatoes, roasted vegetables,

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<v Speaker 1>and I even made gravy from scratch for the.

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<v Speaker 2>First Oh delicious.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I didn't even know how. I have a

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<v Speaker 1>call friend of mine. I was like, I'll take I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how to do this for two hundred Alex.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's my lad.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, while you were out getting married and I was honeymooning,

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<v Speaker 2>apparently like the Republicans finally got around to completely f

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<v Speaker 2>and up our healthcare system. Well they're halfway there anyway.

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<v Speaker 2>This new I love how they're calling it. What are

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<v Speaker 2>they calling the American Health Act or something like that, Uh,

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<v Speaker 2>their replacement for Obamacare. So strike one, they didn't get

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<v Speaker 2>their first plan through, so now they've pushed through some

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<v Speaker 2>kind of turd, yeah, through the house.

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<v Speaker 1>Exactly like that.

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<v Speaker 2>Like they were like they're like, just eat this shit

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<v Speaker 2>pie that we made for you. Like, I just keep

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<v Speaker 2>thinking of what's her face from the help, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>when she makes the boos the pie and then feeds it,

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<v Speaker 2>Like we're the white woman who's being fed the ship

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<v Speaker 2>pie right now. It's sort of how I feel. Yeah, this, uh,

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<v Speaker 2>this Healthcare Act is like I don't know what else

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<v Speaker 2>to say about it, just big fat turd.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I mean, it's only it has to still pass

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<v Speaker 1>of what the Senate.

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<v Speaker 2>It has to go through the Senate. Yeah, but the

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<v Speaker 2>fact that the House passed that I think is what's

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<v Speaker 2>frightening because at least the last time it was blocked

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<v Speaker 2>and and I think that the biggest, the biggest, like shocker,

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<v Speaker 2>not shocker, but the fact that they're eliminating eight hundred

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<v Speaker 2>billion dollars from the Medicaid system and somehow think that

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<v Speaker 2>Medicaid is going to get better and that it's going

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<v Speaker 2>to bring more health care to more people. And I'm like,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't understand how tax cuts for the rich and

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<v Speaker 2>then taking away eight hundred billion dollars is going to

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<v Speaker 2>make that any better. And on top of that, it's

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<v Speaker 2>going to make things like pregnancy being a woman, like

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of women related needs, like a pre existing

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<v Speaker 2>condition where you could like you may still get healthcare,

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<v Speaker 2>but you may have to pay a lot more for it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, And I mean, I am definitely not going to

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<v Speaker 1>say say that. You know, the system that you know,

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<v Speaker 1>President Obama put, you know, brought him to existence was perfect.

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<v Speaker 1>It wasn't. It was expensive and a little bit convoluted,

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<v Speaker 1>but it was a start to something. I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>folks just didn't want it because it was him, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like certain people you know that like if you said, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to fix health care because that's that's what

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<v Speaker 1>it should be. It's like this president brought in a

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<v Speaker 1>system that we didn't have it all before, where everyone

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<v Speaker 1>should have health care. It's not perfect, so every president

0:16:38.480 --> 0:16:42.920
<v Speaker 1>should be improving upon it, versus just saying like well no,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like I just feel like it's more about

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<v Speaker 1>about you know, discrediting his legacy than it is about

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<v Speaker 1>really wanting to help people. And I'm just like, and

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<v Speaker 1>then it's so crazy. I think to myself of the people,

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<v Speaker 1>some of the people that voted for him, and how

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<v Speaker 1>they're going to suffer, And I'm like, do you even

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<v Speaker 1>realize you know what I mean, Like, did you really

0:17:02.360 --> 0:17:04.479
<v Speaker 1>think this billionaire was this down to earth guy who

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<v Speaker 1>was like, you know what you there, you know in

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<v Speaker 1>the backwoods of Alabama. I'm I'm for you, Like, are

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<v Speaker 1>you crazy? That's not what's happening, Like, it's just I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. Well, I mean, I guess if anything is

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<v Speaker 1>the one thing that this has helped is that you

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<v Speaker 1>saw you saw the French elections.

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<v Speaker 2>I did.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, I feel like that some of the result.

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<v Speaker 1>I was just reading this article from the New York

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<v Speaker 1>Times called them what what is it? What's wrong with

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<v Speaker 1>France or something like that, and basically saying that part

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<v Speaker 1>of the reason why you know whatever his name starts

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<v Speaker 1>with the M he won over basically their Donald Trump

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<v Speaker 1>was because of our Donald Trump. You know. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Marilla Penyah, she well she was like the populist complete

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<v Speaker 2>like the xenophobic. Yeah, the Trump of France essentially. So

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<v Speaker 2>it was kind of like a sigh of relief that

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<v Speaker 2>she didn't win, because it was looking like she was

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<v Speaker 2>gonna lose. I mean, sorry that she was gonna, uh,

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<v Speaker 2>if not win, but at least get a bigger share.

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<v Speaker 2>And I think I read this was last night, so

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<v Speaker 2>maybe it changed, but looked like she had that. The

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<v Speaker 2>the guy who won Macron had has that how you

0:18:11.520 --> 0:18:14.520
<v Speaker 2>say his name Macron. I think I took four years

0:18:14.560 --> 0:18:17.560
<v Speaker 2>of French I shouldn't know that he got like sixty

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<v Speaker 2>four percent of the vote, which was a huge margin.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, and I heard it actually was more like sixty

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<v Speaker 1>six and really okay, yeah, Like I was like this

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<v Speaker 1>morning when I was on the tread mill, I was like, oh,

0:18:28.400 --> 0:18:29.960
<v Speaker 1>you know, and it was just crazy. And then so

0:18:30.040 --> 0:18:32.160
<v Speaker 1>many people like I was just like reading like article

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<v Speaker 1>after article, and so many folks were like, we don't want,

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<v Speaker 1>we don't want what happened in America to happen here.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, he was still different. He was still an independent

0:18:40.280 --> 0:18:44.000
<v Speaker 2>candidate completely sort of like he was aver. He reviewed

0:18:44.040 --> 0:18:49.040
<v Speaker 2>sort of like the status quo U in French government.

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<v Speaker 2>But at least he wasn't like the xenophobic crazy person.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah Trump, I wish it almost makes you wish, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>I he you know, he was a little bit Burnie esque,

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<v Speaker 2>I guess, yeah, okay, if not in his policies. I

0:19:02.119 --> 0:19:03.680
<v Speaker 2>don't know much about his policies. I don't think it

0:19:03.720 --> 0:19:05.359
<v Speaker 2>was his policies that made him Bernie esque. But he

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<v Speaker 2>was like the anti Hillary, but still on the other side,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, what I mean, Yeah, like not so establishment

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<v Speaker 2>and definitely yeah, thirty nine years old too.

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<v Speaker 1>I know that's crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>He's a baby.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I was like, oh, so like my brother is

0:19:20.440 --> 0:19:21.639
<v Speaker 1>going to be like so what we're going to do

0:19:21.800 --> 0:19:26.399
<v Speaker 1>is right? Yeah? So, I mean I don't know.

0:19:26.480 --> 0:19:28.720
<v Speaker 2>So the world's not totally in a hell going to

0:19:28.760 --> 0:19:31.359
<v Speaker 2>hell in a hand basket, but it certainly feels like.

0:19:33.840 --> 0:19:35.920
<v Speaker 2>I mean, I was I was reading something about Glorious

0:19:35.920 --> 0:19:37.959
<v Speaker 2>Sin and said about Trump. But I think we can

0:19:38.000 --> 0:19:42.040
<v Speaker 2>all agree that yes, he's a class a moron and

0:19:42.560 --> 0:19:45.600
<v Speaker 2>completely incompetent and has no idea what he's doing this job.

0:19:46.119 --> 0:19:49.280
<v Speaker 2>But he's also I think made America wake up in

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<v Speaker 2>a way and the attention in a way that we

0:19:51.440 --> 0:19:55.920
<v Speaker 2>haven't before and get involved. I mean, everybody is talking

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<v Speaker 2>about this, the passage of the new health plan in

0:19:59.400 --> 0:20:01.080
<v Speaker 2>the House and going ahead to send it and just

0:20:01.200 --> 0:20:04.720
<v Speaker 2>encouraging everyone to contact your legislators. Go just go to

0:20:04.800 --> 0:20:08.440
<v Speaker 2>your senate's website and send an email or call, leave

0:20:08.480 --> 0:20:10.200
<v Speaker 2>a voicemail to your senator and let them know that

0:20:10.240 --> 0:20:14.879
<v Speaker 2>you don't want this and speak up and have a voice.

0:20:15.080 --> 0:20:18.160
<v Speaker 2>It worked the first time because the bill didn't pass

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<v Speaker 2>the first time, you know, hopefully it can work again. Yeah,

0:20:22.200 --> 0:20:25.560
<v Speaker 2>I agree, I wish they would. You know, it's like naive,

0:20:25.600 --> 0:20:27.760
<v Speaker 2>you want to wish that they won't let politics get

0:20:27.800 --> 0:20:29.960
<v Speaker 2>in the way or but you know that this is

0:20:30.000 --> 0:20:32.400
<v Speaker 2>a big deal for Trump to pass something and say

0:20:32.440 --> 0:20:34.680
<v Speaker 2>that he accomplished something. You know, he didn't have the

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<v Speaker 2>best one hundred days and now he's got to at

0:20:36.640 --> 0:20:38.480
<v Speaker 2>least get his health plan across and it was a

0:20:38.600 --> 0:20:40.800
<v Speaker 2>huge fail when he did it. So for him, it's ego.

0:20:40.920 --> 0:20:43.720
<v Speaker 2>It's like I need to get something through, and unfortunately

0:20:44.240 --> 0:20:46.760
<v Speaker 2>they're not taking the time to maybe improve upon what's

0:20:46.800 --> 0:20:49.879
<v Speaker 2>already there. They're just trying to rip it apart and

0:20:50.160 --> 0:20:51.600
<v Speaker 2>just build something even jankier.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, which is crazy. It just makes you like sometimes

0:20:55.520 --> 0:20:57.119
<v Speaker 1>you just want to like check out. You're like, h

0:20:57.320 --> 0:21:01.040
<v Speaker 1>chia call me tomorrow, Like I'll peek my head and

0:21:01.119 --> 0:21:03.160
<v Speaker 1>I'll read some stuff, and I'm like, oh, my head,

0:21:03.280 --> 0:21:06.480
<v Speaker 1>my heart, I can't well grind, break ground break.

0:21:07.720 --> 0:21:10.119
<v Speaker 2>It makes me just it makes me grateful to have,

0:21:10.359 --> 0:21:13.800
<v Speaker 2>you know, employer coverage and I I mean, it's gonna

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<v Speaker 2>be honestly, it's it's the use of the it's the you,

0:21:16.840 --> 0:21:20.960
<v Speaker 2>it's the entrepreneurs, it's the self employed, it's the people

0:21:21.040 --> 0:21:24.119
<v Speaker 2>who work for small businesses and then don't get healthcare.

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<v Speaker 2>We're gonna have to deal with this crap.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna lie. So we went to get our

0:21:28.720 --> 0:21:32.560
<v Speaker 1>marriage license today. Superman was like, welcome to health insurance.

0:21:33.880 --> 0:21:37.879
<v Speaker 1>Oh that's right, yeah, yeah, because he's got awesome helvisus.

0:21:37.880 --> 0:21:39.879
<v Speaker 1>He works for the city, so his health insurance is

0:21:39.960 --> 0:21:43.040
<v Speaker 1>like that grade A Like what when he had his

0:21:43.160 --> 0:21:45.359
<v Speaker 1>annuals and surgery two years ago, he didn't pay not

0:21:45.520 --> 0:21:48.200
<v Speaker 1>a nickel or not. I mean he had, like, you know,

0:21:48.440 --> 0:21:50.600
<v Speaker 1>all the best of everything, the best doctors, the best

0:21:50.840 --> 0:21:54.880
<v Speaker 1>aftercare everything, and you know, and I just remember being like, WHOA,

0:21:54.920 --> 0:21:57.840
<v Speaker 1>what health insurance do you have? They even treat you differently, Mandy.

0:21:57.920 --> 0:22:00.880
<v Speaker 1>When we walked in places, he we give his card

0:22:00.960 --> 0:22:02.439
<v Speaker 1>and it was like we sat in a different waiting.

0:22:02.359 --> 0:22:06.399
<v Speaker 2>Room, like oh no, no, no, you don't have to

0:22:06.440 --> 0:22:07.200
<v Speaker 2>add a little.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember, no, but I do remember like he had

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<v Speaker 1>to get a he was like he had a headache

0:22:13.800 --> 0:22:16.439
<v Speaker 1>after he'd had surgery, you know, and so he had

0:22:16.480 --> 0:22:18.119
<v Speaker 1>to get a not a memor ran. I'm look at me.

0:22:18.240 --> 0:22:19.680
<v Speaker 1>What are those things called? When you go through like that,

0:22:20.400 --> 0:22:23.280
<v Speaker 1>like the not an ultrasound. They put you in that

0:22:23.359 --> 0:22:25.359
<v Speaker 1>big huge magneque land in your back. It's like a

0:22:25.400 --> 0:22:29.159
<v Speaker 1>little circle. They put you inside of it ultrasound, No

0:22:29.480 --> 0:22:33.160
<v Speaker 1>din of my memory. I'm all right, there you go. Remember.

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<v Speaker 1>So we went to the emergency room and they immediately

0:22:36.200 --> 0:22:38.280
<v Speaker 1>put him in a room, and I was like okay.

0:22:38.400 --> 0:22:40.480
<v Speaker 1>And then when we came out, the emergency room was

0:22:40.520 --> 0:22:43.280
<v Speaker 1>full and there was an older gentleman like in his seventies.

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<v Speaker 1>So like an older, older gentleman in the hallway on

0:22:46.760 --> 0:22:49.080
<v Speaker 1>like a gurney, and I was like, well, how long

0:22:49.160 --> 0:22:51.000
<v Speaker 1>have you been here? He was like oh hours. I said,

0:22:51.000 --> 0:22:52.920
<v Speaker 1>well what are you waiting for? He said, MRI And

0:22:53.000 --> 0:22:56.280
<v Speaker 1>I was like what. And so when Superman found out,

0:22:56.320 --> 0:22:57.639
<v Speaker 1>he went to the head nurse and said, you know,

0:22:58.280 --> 0:22:59.879
<v Speaker 1>like he can have my room. I didn't, you know,

0:23:00.000 --> 0:23:02.159
<v Speaker 1>we're waiting for the same thing, and I don't it

0:23:02.280 --> 0:23:04.880
<v Speaker 1>just it golt wrong to have this seventy year old

0:23:05.160 --> 0:23:07.879
<v Speaker 1>man like in the hallway and she's said, oh no, no, no,

0:23:08.400 --> 0:23:10.639
<v Speaker 1>you guys are here for different things or whatever. And

0:23:10.720 --> 0:23:13.240
<v Speaker 1>I asked my brother in law later, like does that

0:23:13.359 --> 0:23:15.760
<v Speaker 1>make sense? He was like, he said, I guarantee you.

0:23:15.920 --> 0:23:19.640
<v Speaker 1>It's about insurance. He was like, you know, your fiance

0:23:20.320 --> 0:23:23.520
<v Speaker 1>can pay his insurance can pay for that room, and

0:23:23.840 --> 0:23:26.200
<v Speaker 1>that gentleman probably didn't have any and it just made

0:23:26.240 --> 0:23:28.600
<v Speaker 1>me say, wow, doesn't that feel so terrible? You know?

0:23:28.960 --> 0:23:31.920
<v Speaker 2>That was my dad before Obamacare. My dad would go

0:23:32.040 --> 0:23:34.560
<v Speaker 2>to Grady Memorial Hospital in Atlanta and I would call

0:23:34.680 --> 0:23:37.200
<v Speaker 2>him in the morning. He'd be in for like he's

0:23:37.200 --> 0:23:40.520
<v Speaker 2>had knee pain and like other issues since he's gotten older.

0:23:40.560 --> 0:23:42.000
<v Speaker 2>But yeah, he'd go in in the morning and he

0:23:42.000 --> 0:23:44.399
<v Speaker 2>would still be there when I got off work, waiting

0:23:44.760 --> 0:23:48.879
<v Speaker 2>and waiting and waiting for an emergency room. It got

0:23:48.920 --> 0:23:50.879
<v Speaker 2>to I mean, my dad now he has made friends

0:23:50.920 --> 0:23:53.840
<v Speaker 2>and he has doctor friends who will see him. He

0:23:53.920 --> 0:23:56.959
<v Speaker 2>had Obamacare, He had a plan through Obamacare. That's how

0:23:57.000 --> 0:24:01.160
<v Speaker 2>he got his gastric bypass surgery two or three years ago.

0:24:01.560 --> 0:24:04.040
<v Speaker 2>And you know that was completely covered and he paid

0:24:04.040 --> 0:24:06.560
<v Speaker 2>for it for a year and then the price has

0:24:06.600 --> 0:24:08.480
<v Speaker 2>got to be too expensive and he was like, nope,

0:24:08.680 --> 0:24:12.080
<v Speaker 2>not doing that anymore. So uh, yeah, he didn't go

0:24:12.240 --> 0:24:15.200
<v Speaker 2>back and I don't think he will be back. And

0:24:15.280 --> 0:24:19.159
<v Speaker 2>that's that scares me, as his daughter, thinking of you

0:24:19.200 --> 0:24:22.200
<v Speaker 2>know what if something really serious happens, and you know,

0:24:22.600 --> 0:24:24.800
<v Speaker 2>he'll laugh and he'll like look at He'll show me

0:24:24.880 --> 0:24:27.200
<v Speaker 2>his like bathroom counter, which is like covered in every

0:24:27.280 --> 0:24:29.680
<v Speaker 2>single supplement that you can get a CVS basically, or

0:24:29.760 --> 0:24:32.800
<v Speaker 2>that you can see on Doctor Oz, and he's like,

0:24:32.960 --> 0:24:35.239
<v Speaker 2>I'm fine, I take my gensing and my doo ding

0:24:35.359 --> 0:24:37.760
<v Speaker 2>and I have my spinach smoothies. But I know that's

0:24:37.800 --> 0:24:41.520
<v Speaker 2>not a healthcare plan. Yeah, and it Yeah, it's frustrating

0:24:41.600 --> 0:24:44.720
<v Speaker 2>that there's nothing, you know, nothing for him at least

0:24:45.080 --> 0:24:47.479
<v Speaker 2>as it stands. And I don't see that it's going

0:24:47.520 --> 0:24:50.080
<v Speaker 2>to be getting better anytime soon fortunately.

0:24:51.359 --> 0:24:53.960
<v Speaker 1>So this is just a random little twist. Do you remember,

0:24:54.280 --> 0:24:57.000
<v Speaker 1>like you being a journalist and like, so, have you

0:24:57.080 --> 0:25:00.720
<v Speaker 1>ever written for Ebity magazine? Never? So, do you know

0:25:01.560 --> 0:25:03.439
<v Speaker 1>you know, like, I don't know what happened with Ebony,

0:25:03.560 --> 0:25:06.399
<v Speaker 1>but I guess one of their writers. Did you see that?

0:25:06.640 --> 0:25:08.120
<v Speaker 1>It was like a while ago, maybe like a week

0:25:08.200 --> 0:25:12.199
<v Speaker 1>or so ago. Well a writer had said, like I've

0:25:12.200 --> 0:25:15.720
<v Speaker 1>been the magazine is not paying its writers, and then

0:25:15.800 --> 0:25:21.200
<v Speaker 1>it became this whole Twitter hashtag kind of like campaign

0:25:21.240 --> 0:25:23.800
<v Speaker 1>where like other writers like steps stood up and were like, yeah,

0:25:23.840 --> 0:25:26.159
<v Speaker 1>they have not paid me either, and it was like, oh,

0:25:26.200 --> 0:25:28.560
<v Speaker 1>it's such a shame because you know, Ebony is this

0:25:28.920 --> 0:25:32.440
<v Speaker 1>iconic black magazine, you know, Yeah, And I guess they've

0:25:32.440 --> 0:25:35.720
<v Speaker 1>been struggling for a while financially because I remember maybe

0:25:35.760 --> 0:25:37.960
<v Speaker 1>it was last year that I heard that Ebany was

0:25:38.000 --> 0:25:41.400
<v Speaker 1>trying to sell their their archives. They're like their pictures,

0:25:42.760 --> 0:25:44.960
<v Speaker 1>the physical archives of like I guess, they're the pictures

0:25:44.960 --> 0:25:46.879
<v Speaker 1>that they've collected over years and years and years, and

0:25:46.920 --> 0:25:49.560
<v Speaker 1>I thought, wow, that would truly be lost if it

0:25:49.720 --> 0:25:52.800
<v Speaker 1>wasn't available for the public somewhere like in a museum

0:25:53.080 --> 0:25:55.480
<v Speaker 1>and somebody like a private collector collected them. And I

0:25:55.600 --> 0:25:57.760
<v Speaker 1>just remember they thinking shady, like, Oh, I remember I

0:25:58.240 --> 0:26:00.840
<v Speaker 1>wrote for Ebony, like I don't know, three or four

0:26:00.880 --> 0:26:04.000
<v Speaker 1>years ago, I wrote an article. Chah. It took them

0:26:04.080 --> 0:26:05.840
<v Speaker 1>nine months to pay me. I think it was like

0:26:06.200 --> 0:26:11.360
<v Speaker 1>three hundred dollars. Oh, nine months of like daily emails.

0:26:11.400 --> 0:26:13.520
<v Speaker 1>And you know, back then, three hundred dollars was I mean,

0:26:13.560 --> 0:26:16.000
<v Speaker 1>it's still a lot of money now, but especially back then,

0:26:16.119 --> 0:26:20.000
<v Speaker 1>you know. Yeah, And I just remember every day, every week,

0:26:20.200 --> 0:26:22.040
<v Speaker 1>every Monday, it was like one of my routine. It's

0:26:22.119 --> 0:26:26.439
<v Speaker 1>Monday time to hit up Ebony. I didn't really think

0:26:26.480 --> 0:26:28.159
<v Speaker 1>I was gonna get it, and then one day it

0:26:28.200 --> 0:26:30.080
<v Speaker 1>came to the mail and I nearly cried tears of joy.

0:26:30.600 --> 0:26:32.840
<v Speaker 1>Nine months and so I thought it was just me

0:26:32.960 --> 0:26:34.359
<v Speaker 1>because you know, like, who was I I thought that

0:26:34.400 --> 0:26:34.760
<v Speaker 1>they were like.

0:26:34.800 --> 0:26:38.320
<v Speaker 2>Girl, oh, it's never just you. Yeah, especially when it yeah,

0:26:38.359 --> 0:26:42.320
<v Speaker 2>these magazines, that's just a sign of trouble and how

0:26:42.440 --> 0:26:44.760
<v Speaker 2>they've been struggling though, I just for a long time.

0:26:45.119 --> 0:26:46.400
<v Speaker 2>So what happened did that writer?

0:26:47.280 --> 0:26:49.200
<v Speaker 1>Now? Ebony basically was like, we don't know what you're

0:26:49.200 --> 0:26:51.639
<v Speaker 1>talking about. I mean, it's such a shame because, like

0:26:51.840 --> 0:26:53.680
<v Speaker 1>I said, I just thought it was meal. You know.

0:26:53.720 --> 0:26:56.000
<v Speaker 1>Of course I was never gonna say anything publicly or

0:26:56.359 --> 0:26:59.120
<v Speaker 1>post anything or whatever. I just thought, oh that I'm

0:26:59.160 --> 0:27:01.480
<v Speaker 1>a small time and they were like, girl, you're not

0:27:01.520 --> 0:27:04.880
<v Speaker 1>even on our radar or whatever. And but to hear

0:27:04.960 --> 0:27:08.000
<v Speaker 1>that they haven't paid some major major writers, I'm like,

0:27:08.119 --> 0:27:10.240
<v Speaker 1>why is that? You know? That's crazy to me?

0:27:11.320 --> 0:27:16.040
<v Speaker 2>Google Hello Google? So oh yeah. So on Friday they

0:27:16.040 --> 0:27:18.080
<v Speaker 2>announced that they were cutting one third of their staff,

0:27:19.920 --> 0:27:21.719
<v Speaker 2>which and I was at first, I was like, oh

0:27:21.760 --> 0:27:26.440
<v Speaker 2>my god, how many people ten there's only thirty five employees. Wow, man,

0:27:26.520 --> 0:27:30.679
<v Speaker 2>that's that's that's teeny for a magazine thirty five Now

0:27:30.680 --> 0:27:31.960
<v Speaker 2>they're only going to have twenty five.

0:27:32.600 --> 0:27:33.200
<v Speaker 1>That's crazy.

0:27:33.520 --> 0:27:36.680
<v Speaker 2>They're moving from Chicago to California. I mean, that's it's

0:27:36.880 --> 0:27:40.760
<v Speaker 2>especially sad because it's Ebony, which means so much to

0:27:40.920 --> 0:27:44.399
<v Speaker 2>the African American experience in the US. But also just

0:27:44.640 --> 0:27:46.760
<v Speaker 2>you know, magazines in general, it's just not like it

0:27:46.880 --> 0:27:49.200
<v Speaker 2>used to be. You know, they're just uh, it's I

0:27:50.160 --> 0:27:53.000
<v Speaker 2>literally I studied magazines in college and that's not even

0:27:53.040 --> 0:27:55.600
<v Speaker 2>a major anymore because everyone knows that's not a career,

0:27:57.200 --> 0:27:59.879
<v Speaker 2>you know, that's not a specific career you should be

0:28:00.119 --> 0:28:03.119
<v Speaker 2>you know, striving toward I guess, you know. And I

0:28:03.160 --> 0:28:05.639
<v Speaker 2>worked at a magazine at my first job in New York,

0:28:05.680 --> 0:28:08.440
<v Speaker 2>and it's kind of sad to see them, to see

0:28:08.480 --> 0:28:09.160
<v Speaker 2>them struggle.

0:28:09.880 --> 0:28:13.520
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because you're right, it's iconic and so but you know,

0:28:13.600 --> 0:28:17.080
<v Speaker 1>you've you've heard you've all heard that like magazines, you know,

0:28:17.200 --> 0:28:20.040
<v Speaker 1>are not making money anymore, that people are really you

0:28:20.119 --> 0:28:21.119
<v Speaker 1>know online and digital.

0:28:21.480 --> 0:28:23.920
<v Speaker 2>Maybe someone will some of like big investor will save them.

0:28:24.640 --> 0:28:28.400
<v Speaker 2>I feel like that's what they need. Yeah, I feel

0:28:28.440 --> 0:28:31.359
<v Speaker 2>like you never know, you never know, you never know.

0:28:31.760 --> 0:28:33.960
<v Speaker 1>Theybele have to make a shift. You know, Like you

0:28:34.080 --> 0:28:36.639
<v Speaker 1>heard the Adidas right, Adidas is no longer going to

0:28:36.680 --> 0:28:40.600
<v Speaker 1>be doing magazine ads or any of their their shift.

0:28:40.640 --> 0:28:44.160
<v Speaker 1>They're shifting all of their ad money to just just digital.

0:28:44.480 --> 0:28:45.400
<v Speaker 1>That's humongous.

0:28:45.560 --> 0:28:48.720
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's just killed some magazines, I know exactly.

0:28:48.840 --> 0:28:51.640
<v Speaker 1>So it's hard, like you know, even TV. Look what's

0:28:51.680 --> 0:28:55.480
<v Speaker 1>happening with Netflix and Hulu and stuff like and so

0:28:55.600 --> 0:28:57.479
<v Speaker 1>you know somebody that you know, how do you get

0:28:57.560 --> 0:28:59.880
<v Speaker 1>money for these shows? How you get money for these

0:29:00.280 --> 0:29:03.080
<v Speaker 1>These advertisers advertise on your show, but if you know

0:29:03.160 --> 0:29:06.120
<v Speaker 1>people are not watching, then there's really no money in

0:29:06.160 --> 0:29:09.080
<v Speaker 1>it for them. And honestly, my marketing guy, who I'm

0:29:09.120 --> 0:29:11.320
<v Speaker 1>like aka the Genius, one of the things he told

0:29:11.360 --> 0:29:13.600
<v Speaker 1>me was, and this is years ago, we well a

0:29:13.680 --> 0:29:17.400
<v Speaker 1>year or so ago we first started working together, he said, Tiffin,

0:29:17.440 --> 0:29:20.080
<v Speaker 1>you have to get into digital marketing now. You know.

0:29:20.120 --> 0:29:21.400
<v Speaker 1>At the time, I was like, I don't even know

0:29:21.440 --> 0:29:24.160
<v Speaker 1>what that means. And he was like, so he said,

0:29:24.200 --> 0:29:27.960
<v Speaker 1>here's why, he said, right now, people don't really get it,

0:29:28.680 --> 0:29:31.080
<v Speaker 1>so it's cheap. He said, like for example, Google ads,

0:29:31.080 --> 0:29:33.240
<v Speaker 1>when they first came out, people it was only the

0:29:33.440 --> 0:29:35.720
<v Speaker 1>computer geeks and so there was a lot of computer

0:29:35.760 --> 0:29:38.320
<v Speaker 1>geeks making big money on Google Ads, and then once

0:29:38.440 --> 0:29:40.840
<v Speaker 1>these big companies understand, hey there's money to be made here,

0:29:41.240 --> 0:29:44.200
<v Speaker 1>then they throw so much money at it that they

0:29:44.280 --> 0:29:47.280
<v Speaker 1>make it so that you can't afford it anymore, you know,

0:29:47.480 --> 0:29:51.520
<v Speaker 1>because you know, you know, Adidas is paying ten thousand

0:29:51.520 --> 0:29:53.760
<v Speaker 1>dollars you know, a day in ads, and you're like, well,

0:29:53.880 --> 0:29:56.280
<v Speaker 1>my ten dollars doesn't do anything anymore. And so he

0:29:56.440 --> 0:29:58.280
<v Speaker 1>was like, digital ads are like that. This was like

0:29:58.400 --> 0:30:00.120
<v Speaker 1>last year or a year and a half ago. He

0:30:00.320 --> 0:30:03.560
<v Speaker 1>was like, these large companies are slow to move, so

0:30:03.840 --> 0:30:07.160
<v Speaker 1>there's still money in it. Like It's one of the reasons, honestly,

0:30:07.280 --> 0:30:10.600
<v Speaker 1>why I was able to go from when I started

0:30:10.600 --> 0:30:14.640
<v Speaker 1>working with him twenty thousand community members like dream Catchers

0:30:14.920 --> 0:30:17.280
<v Speaker 1>to three hundred thousand in a year and a half.

0:30:17.960 --> 0:30:22.280
<v Speaker 1>It was because we were using digital ads and inexpensively,

0:30:22.400 --> 0:30:25.560
<v Speaker 1>like we were converting people, and converting means this that

0:30:26.960 --> 0:30:29.080
<v Speaker 1>how much money do you have to spend for someone

0:30:29.160 --> 0:30:31.080
<v Speaker 1>to take the action you want them to take. So

0:30:31.680 --> 0:30:33.200
<v Speaker 1>I might say, hey, I want people to side up

0:30:33.200 --> 0:30:36.120
<v Speaker 1>for my challenge, and so I'm going to spend ten

0:30:36.200 --> 0:30:39.360
<v Speaker 1>dollars and if the conversion rate is a dollar for person.

0:30:39.440 --> 0:30:41.680
<v Speaker 1>That means for every ten dollars I spend, I get

0:30:41.720 --> 0:30:43.880
<v Speaker 1>ten people. We were converting people for as low as

0:30:43.880 --> 0:30:48.040
<v Speaker 1>a penny. A penny sometimes that's unheard of. And so

0:30:48.240 --> 0:30:50.120
<v Speaker 1>and then there's some people who if you're not good

0:30:50.160 --> 0:30:53.200
<v Speaker 1>at doing ads, you convert people like for example, there

0:30:53.280 --> 0:30:55.360
<v Speaker 1>I know an insurance company that it takes them twenty

0:30:55.400 --> 0:30:59.400
<v Speaker 1>five dollars to get one person. So now what's going

0:30:59.480 --> 0:31:01.880
<v Speaker 1>to happen these bigger companies kind of come into this

0:31:02.040 --> 0:31:05.080
<v Speaker 1>digital space is that it's going to cost more money

0:31:05.440 --> 0:31:08.880
<v Speaker 1>to convert, and smaller people are not going to for that.

0:31:09.720 --> 0:31:11.640
<v Speaker 1>And so for those of y'all with small businesses, if

0:31:11.640 --> 0:31:13.920
<v Speaker 1>you don't know nothing about Facebook ads and Instagram ads

0:31:13.960 --> 0:31:16.680
<v Speaker 1>or whatever, you have like another year and maybe a

0:31:16.720 --> 0:31:20.040
<v Speaker 1>little bit to learn before you get outpriced. And honestly,

0:31:20.080 --> 0:31:25.920
<v Speaker 1>it's just it's really why it's so useful or it

0:31:26.040 --> 0:31:28.400
<v Speaker 1>just even better than a magazine. Think about when you

0:31:28.800 --> 0:31:31.360
<v Speaker 1>pick up a magazine, you never know who's picking up

0:31:31.400 --> 0:31:34.880
<v Speaker 1>that magazine to see your ad. But when you're on Facebook,

0:31:34.920 --> 0:31:37.680
<v Speaker 1>you can literally say I want black women ages twenty

0:31:37.760 --> 0:31:40.640
<v Speaker 1>five to forty who live in Florida and like to

0:31:40.760 --> 0:31:45.240
<v Speaker 1>watch Real Housewives of Atlanta. If Facebook will whittle it

0:31:45.320 --> 0:31:47.520
<v Speaker 1>down to that list for you and only show your

0:31:47.560 --> 0:31:50.760
<v Speaker 1>ads those people, so you can really get so specific

0:31:50.800 --> 0:31:54.680
<v Speaker 1>about who sees it. Because once you know your archetype,

0:31:54.760 --> 0:31:58.280
<v Speaker 1>like the type of person that enjoys your brand already,

0:31:58.720 --> 0:32:00.800
<v Speaker 1>you can find that woman over and over and over

0:32:00.840 --> 0:32:02.400
<v Speaker 1>and over again. That's what I figured out. Like, we

0:32:02.480 --> 0:32:06.600
<v Speaker 1>figured out that women who liked Black Enterprise versus essence

0:32:06.760 --> 0:32:09.120
<v Speaker 1>liked me, and women who like which is weird illness

0:32:09.240 --> 0:32:13.560
<v Speaker 1>Elba but not Oprah liked me. Right, So there's like

0:32:13.640 --> 0:32:16.320
<v Speaker 1>this weird like mix of a type of personality that

0:32:16.480 --> 0:32:19.320
<v Speaker 1>really would enjoy me if they knew I existed. So

0:32:19.440 --> 0:32:22.200
<v Speaker 1>once we figured out like what her archetype was, we

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<v Speaker 1>just started putting ads toward her and you know and saying, hey,

0:32:26.400 --> 0:32:29.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, we've got this like great, this great resource,

0:32:29.640 --> 0:32:31.880
<v Speaker 1>the Live Ritual Challenge, and so yeah, if you're a

0:32:31.960 --> 0:32:34.880
<v Speaker 1>business person, you need to learn now how to how

0:32:34.920 --> 0:32:36.960
<v Speaker 1>to start doing digital ads and stuff or else you're

0:32:36.960 --> 0:32:38.719
<v Speaker 1>going to be left behind and it's going to get

0:32:38.760 --> 0:32:39.560
<v Speaker 1>too expensive to do.

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<v Speaker 2>So I just read this headline. I needed to share

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<v Speaker 2>it though the Senate has I was talking about Yeah, well,

0:32:55.360 --> 0:32:57.400
<v Speaker 2>hopefully the Senate's going to block this healthcare bell. But

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<v Speaker 2>I just read that they have formed a committee of

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<v Speaker 2>thirteen members, all of whom are men, to discuss the

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<v Speaker 2>future this Healthcare Act and you know, women's needs and

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<v Speaker 2>oh yeah, the current version of the bill is going

0:33:10.640 --> 0:33:13.960
<v Speaker 2>to defund planned parenthood for a year. So yay, America.

0:33:15.000 --> 0:33:17.400
<v Speaker 2>Just don't the ambulance fans.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, so nobody has any daughters, nobody has like

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<v Speaker 1>any They don't care.

0:33:22.960 --> 0:33:26.000
<v Speaker 2>They don't care. They don't care because they're like, oh, well,

0:33:26.080 --> 0:33:28.080
<v Speaker 2>I have money, my daughter will be fine. They don't

0:33:28.120 --> 0:33:31.960
<v Speaker 2>care about you know, they don't care about the susie

0:33:32.080 --> 0:33:35.600
<v Speaker 2>who's the you know, doesn't have healthcare. Parents can't afford

0:33:35.640 --> 0:33:37.960
<v Speaker 2>to help to help her, you know, or pay for

0:33:38.040 --> 0:33:41.240
<v Speaker 2>her to travel across state lines to get an abortion

0:33:41.360 --> 0:33:43.320
<v Speaker 2>if she's sexually assaulted or something like that. You know,

0:33:43.480 --> 0:33:46.640
<v Speaker 2>they don't, they don't, they don't know. They cry.

0:33:47.400 --> 0:33:49.360
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm just like, how do you sleep at night?

0:33:49.440 --> 0:33:51.600
<v Speaker 1>And I'm just like, I guess you're right. So people

0:33:51.760 --> 0:33:54.880
<v Speaker 1>literally have divorced themselves from the fact that everyone doesn't

0:33:54.880 --> 0:33:55.400
<v Speaker 1>look like them.

0:33:56.240 --> 0:33:59.480
<v Speaker 2>Absolutely well, it easier than ever because they live in

0:33:59.520 --> 0:34:02.640
<v Speaker 2>other increasing the living in a bubble where the people

0:34:02.760 --> 0:34:06.600
<v Speaker 2>in the administration. Every photo of the current administration makes

0:34:06.640 --> 0:34:08.400
<v Speaker 2>me want to like hurl or it makes my stomach

0:34:08.440 --> 0:34:11.200
<v Speaker 2>tight because I see it is like white man, white man,

0:34:11.360 --> 0:34:14.520
<v Speaker 2>white man, white man, white man, woman, white man, white man.

0:34:15.080 --> 0:34:18.000
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it's Morosa.

0:34:18.120 --> 0:34:21.719
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and you're like, oh, hey, look, oh no, she's

0:34:21.920 --> 0:34:24.880
<v Speaker 2>just a reporter, Like, oh no, she's just there delivering

0:34:24.920 --> 0:34:27.279
<v Speaker 2>the news or delivering the mail. You know, it's it's

0:34:27.360 --> 0:34:28.759
<v Speaker 2>not it's not a great time.

0:34:29.440 --> 0:34:34.279
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Oh chah, Well that's a great segue into are

0:34:34.360 --> 0:34:38.680
<v Speaker 1>we gonna boos? Are we gonna break? Either way, we're

0:34:38.719 --> 0:34:42.239
<v Speaker 1>staying brown. I like that, but I'm gonna keep that.

0:34:44.200 --> 0:34:46.160
<v Speaker 1>It's brown break, brown booth time.

0:34:47.200 --> 0:34:49.040
<v Speaker 2>You're so confident. I'm like, yeah, I like it too.

0:34:54.120 --> 0:34:56.239
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, I just had to like loosen, like

0:34:56.320 --> 0:34:58.080
<v Speaker 1>lighten up the mood because I'm like, oh, that whole

0:34:58.200 --> 0:35:02.960
<v Speaker 1>forty five makes me so depressed. I don't matter what. No,

0:35:03.080 --> 0:35:04.920
<v Speaker 1>forty five, you know, that's the number of our presidents.

0:35:06.719 --> 0:35:09.360
<v Speaker 1>The presidents. I don't even like say his name, So

0:35:09.480 --> 0:35:13.800
<v Speaker 1>forty five makes me, Yeah, Ley moron, it makes me depressed.

0:35:14.760 --> 0:35:19.560
<v Speaker 2>Listen, you're gonna boost her break Evening.

0:35:20.200 --> 0:35:22.920
<v Speaker 1>I think I'm going to boost. It's a little random,

0:35:23.000 --> 0:35:24.839
<v Speaker 1>but I think it's a little lighthearted. So I'm gonna

0:35:24.840 --> 0:35:29.280
<v Speaker 1>boost Zendaya. Here's why this little this young woman is everything.

0:35:29.520 --> 0:35:32.480
<v Speaker 1>Have you seen this, Like, you know, there's a show

0:35:32.520 --> 0:35:37.920
<v Speaker 1>called Lipstick Battle? Yes, I know, yes, yes, on the

0:35:38.040 --> 0:35:40.040
<v Speaker 1>same cultural page. Look at this.

0:35:40.640 --> 0:35:43.520
<v Speaker 2>I see YouTube videos. I know, I know what's up

0:35:43.640 --> 0:35:45.080
<v Speaker 2>Chrissy Till cool J.

0:35:46.080 --> 0:35:48.960
<v Speaker 1>Yes, and so it's a fun show. And I mean

0:35:49.000 --> 0:35:51.840
<v Speaker 1>I've seen everybody on there, from Lupita to Mary j

0:35:51.960 --> 0:35:54.160
<v Speaker 1>BLI just it's just a fun, fun, fun show. So

0:35:54.600 --> 0:35:59.200
<v Speaker 1>Zendeia did she did this really fun Erica Badou Lipstick

0:35:59.320 --> 0:36:03.080
<v Speaker 1>Battle to Tyrone. She's got the big head rap. Honestly,

0:36:03.239 --> 0:36:07.120
<v Speaker 1>it's literally I gotta watch that. Yes, it is everything.

0:36:07.200 --> 0:36:08.759
<v Speaker 1>I was like, wait a minute, So I just said,

0:36:08.840 --> 0:36:11.360
<v Speaker 1>you know what. I always love her. She looked amazing

0:36:11.440 --> 0:36:14.040
<v Speaker 1>at the met gala. She had very afrocentric dress on,

0:36:14.280 --> 0:36:16.360
<v Speaker 1>huge like loose curl frown.

0:36:16.920 --> 0:36:19.200
<v Speaker 2>So I was definitely watching the metcal of red carpet

0:36:19.280 --> 0:36:23.920
<v Speaker 2>via Twitter. Yeah, just refreshing that hashtag refresh Risanna, refresh.

0:36:24.719 --> 0:36:27.840
<v Speaker 2>That's a big picture of Mandy Kaling refresh exactly.

0:36:27.920 --> 0:36:30.600
<v Speaker 1>She was everything at the at the met gala, and

0:36:30.760 --> 0:36:33.239
<v Speaker 1>so yeah, I just think that as a day. Every

0:36:33.280 --> 0:36:35.800
<v Speaker 1>time you know, you read about her, she's either standing

0:36:35.880 --> 0:36:38.440
<v Speaker 1>up for herself or someone else's rits or just flang.

0:36:38.520 --> 0:36:42.160
<v Speaker 1>And so just a little boost to you, Zee, that's it.

0:36:42.960 --> 0:36:46.240
<v Speaker 2>I love her. Good boost And it's fun if you follow,

0:36:46.360 --> 0:36:48.520
<v Speaker 2>Like there's all this there's like a new class of

0:36:48.640 --> 0:36:53.400
<v Speaker 2>young black girl magic, like among celebrities like Yara Hashidi

0:36:53.640 --> 0:36:58.520
<v Speaker 2>from Blackish, and then Zendeia and then Amandola Stenberg and

0:36:59.080 --> 0:37:01.200
<v Speaker 2>and then two it's like the fairy godmothers like Tracy

0:37:01.239 --> 0:37:05.880
<v Speaker 2>Ellis Ross and Kerrie Washington, Shonda Rhimes and do Ava

0:37:05.920 --> 0:37:07.879
<v Speaker 2>Duvernet and I follow them all on Instagram and it's

0:37:07.920 --> 0:37:09.880
<v Speaker 2>so cute because they all share each other's posts and

0:37:09.960 --> 0:37:11.799
<v Speaker 2>they all like, like, you know, support each other. It's

0:37:11.840 --> 0:37:15.879
<v Speaker 2>really beautiful. But just throwing that out there, I want

0:37:15.920 --> 0:37:17.759
<v Speaker 2>to do I'm gonna do a boost too. And I

0:37:17.880 --> 0:37:20.440
<v Speaker 2>love this time of year because it's college graduation season.

0:37:20.800 --> 0:37:24.720
<v Speaker 2>And congratulations to the class of twenty seventeen, which includes

0:37:24.760 --> 0:37:28.840
<v Speaker 2>my really good friend Toulou who just actually got her masters.

0:37:29.040 --> 0:37:31.200
<v Speaker 2>I just got her NBA when I'm super proud of

0:37:31.280 --> 0:37:34.239
<v Speaker 2>her because she did it while commuting an hour and

0:37:34.320 --> 0:37:36.680
<v Speaker 2>a half to school with a toddler.

0:37:37.320 --> 0:37:37.560
<v Speaker 1>Wow.

0:37:38.320 --> 0:37:40.600
<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah for most I think for half the year,

0:37:40.920 --> 0:37:43.120
<v Speaker 2>he was in daycare at her school, so she was

0:37:43.160 --> 0:37:47.280
<v Speaker 2>commuting with her son to class, like really just juggling everything.

0:37:47.400 --> 0:37:51.920
<v Speaker 2>So shout out to Tulou. Hey Tulu, Hey Tulu. And

0:37:52.239 --> 0:37:54.120
<v Speaker 2>I want to shout out because my favorite time of

0:37:54.280 --> 0:37:55.920
<v Speaker 2>this is the reason I like this time of year

0:37:56.000 --> 0:37:58.240
<v Speaker 2>so much is because there's always these like fabulous stories

0:37:58.280 --> 0:38:01.160
<v Speaker 2>of these like black Girl, Black Boy, Matt of like

0:38:01.320 --> 0:38:04.640
<v Speaker 2>kids getting into every single Ivy League school. And there's

0:38:04.719 --> 0:38:06.480
<v Speaker 2>two that we shared and I wanted to share them.

0:38:06.600 --> 0:38:10.200
<v Speaker 2>So this one is that as this teenager who apparently

0:38:10.360 --> 0:38:12.360
<v Speaker 2>did not get asked to prom, which I can't imagine

0:38:12.360 --> 0:38:13.160
<v Speaker 2>because she's gorgeous.

0:38:13.400 --> 0:38:14.800
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I saw this hilarious.

0:38:15.440 --> 0:38:19.360
<v Speaker 2>So instead of not instead of going, you know, just

0:38:19.400 --> 0:38:21.719
<v Speaker 2>spaying the night at home and eating ice cream, she

0:38:21.840 --> 0:38:25.520
<v Speaker 2>showed up a prom uh with her Harvard acceptance letter

0:38:26.160 --> 0:38:26.760
<v Speaker 2>in her hand.

0:38:27.000 --> 0:38:27.680
<v Speaker 1>And they're.

0:38:29.360 --> 0:38:32.759
<v Speaker 2>So badass, Like, who what school does she go to?

0:38:32.960 --> 0:38:34.960
<v Speaker 2>For some idiot not to want to take her A

0:38:35.120 --> 0:38:38.839
<v Speaker 2>problem I don't understand, So shout out to her, I'm

0:38:38.840 --> 0:38:41.799
<v Speaker 2>gonna find her name real quick. Oh Priscilla, samey. She's

0:38:41.840 --> 0:38:46.279
<v Speaker 2>seventeen years old. So that was badass. And then the Quadruples.

0:38:46.400 --> 0:38:48.360
<v Speaker 2>Did you see this? The quadruples from Ohio?

0:38:49.040 --> 0:38:50.240
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, who all.

0:38:50.160 --> 0:38:51.719
<v Speaker 2>Got into IVY leagues and they're going to go to

0:38:51.800 --> 0:38:52.480
<v Speaker 2>college together.

0:38:53.239 --> 0:38:53.960
<v Speaker 1>That is awesome.

0:38:54.280 --> 0:38:55.240
<v Speaker 2>Where they go on Yale?

0:38:55.400 --> 0:38:55.799
<v Speaker 1>Oh Yale?

0:38:55.880 --> 0:38:57.759
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yea yeah. The one I'll go into Yale is

0:38:58.600 --> 0:39:01.120
<v Speaker 2>right there. Seriously, it's hard to get one kid right

0:39:01.200 --> 0:39:01.920
<v Speaker 2>plus four.

0:39:02.280 --> 0:39:05.480
<v Speaker 1>I know. And then on top of that, like what

0:39:06.040 --> 0:39:09.680
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I've been like my sister, you know, she

0:39:09.800 --> 0:39:11.480
<v Speaker 1>just had her baby, so I've been like sleeping over

0:39:11.920 --> 0:39:13.960
<v Speaker 1>because her husband works nights, and I was sleeping over

0:39:14.080 --> 0:39:16.600
<v Speaker 1>and like babysitting or at least helping because she had

0:39:16.600 --> 0:39:18.520
<v Speaker 1>the newborn that she has to get up every few

0:39:18.560 --> 0:39:20.680
<v Speaker 1>hours to feed. And then she's got the one and

0:39:20.719 --> 0:39:25.440
<v Speaker 1>a half year old Roman, who is crazy in a

0:39:25.480 --> 0:39:29.280
<v Speaker 1>good way, but still crazy. And I was like, yo too, dude,

0:39:29.680 --> 0:39:31.800
<v Speaker 1>two yo. I would try to put the baby to

0:39:31.840 --> 0:39:33.920
<v Speaker 1>sleep and Roman is doing flips, like look at me.

0:39:34.320 --> 0:39:39.000
<v Speaker 1>His big thing is wow, he knows like three words. Wow. Wow.

0:39:39.120 --> 0:39:43.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, Roman, we get it. It starts like, wow,

0:39:43.800 --> 0:39:46.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I don't know what are you communicating? That

0:39:46.719 --> 0:39:50.480
<v Speaker 1>was so overwhelmed. I can't imagine four So congrats to

0:39:50.560 --> 0:39:55.400
<v Speaker 1>your parents, quadruplets, quadruplets, quads, whatever, Just congrats.

0:39:56.080 --> 0:39:58.400
<v Speaker 2>And the dad has quoted us saying what's the secret.

0:39:58.520 --> 0:40:00.640
<v Speaker 2>He says, lots of push ups and stead up and running,

0:40:01.080 --> 0:40:03.640
<v Speaker 2>discipline and structure. That's a good dad right there.

0:40:04.120 --> 0:40:05.880
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean I could see that, Like, what you're

0:40:05.920 --> 0:40:07.040
<v Speaker 1>not gonna do is make me crazy.

0:40:09.000 --> 0:40:11.560
<v Speaker 2>I guess just god man like good parenting. I guess

0:40:11.840 --> 0:40:13.640
<v Speaker 2>just four kids at one time.

0:40:13.760 --> 0:40:16.720
<v Speaker 1>My god. She see the article that the kids inherit

0:40:16.800 --> 0:40:18.480
<v Speaker 1>their they're smart from their mom.

0:40:19.040 --> 0:40:20.359
<v Speaker 2>Oh I believe that one hundred percent.

0:40:20.920 --> 0:40:22.840
<v Speaker 1>Yeah. I was like, ah, I never thought they were,

0:40:22.920 --> 0:40:25.080
<v Speaker 1>like because I guess is it the why is it

0:40:25.200 --> 0:40:27.719
<v Speaker 1>women's we're the Y chromosome or the X chromosome?

0:40:27.960 --> 0:40:29.880
<v Speaker 2>We have double X, so double X.

0:40:29.960 --> 0:40:32.920
<v Speaker 1>And they said that your intelligence is found in that chromosome.

0:40:33.040 --> 0:40:35.600
<v Speaker 1>So it doesn't matter who your daddy is. Your mama

0:40:35.680 --> 0:40:39.200
<v Speaker 1>gives you your brain. And I said, oh, interesting.

0:40:39.719 --> 0:40:44.480
<v Speaker 2>Some dads are like, whoof not my fault, that's all you.

0:40:46.560 --> 0:40:48.000
<v Speaker 1>So I just thought I throw that in there, like

0:40:48.000 --> 0:40:49.760
<v Speaker 1>all right, well, congratulations, mama.

0:40:51.560 --> 0:40:53.600
<v Speaker 2>Well that's my brown break to all the college guys

0:40:53.640 --> 0:40:55.520
<v Speaker 2>at twenty seventeen makes me feel so old.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, what about these prom pictures? Prom? Two K? What

0:41:00.239 --> 0:41:02.360
<v Speaker 1>is it? Prom to seventeen? K?

0:41:02.880 --> 0:41:04.000
<v Speaker 2>I don't know from two K?

0:41:04.960 --> 0:41:06.080
<v Speaker 1>No prom seventeen.

0:41:06.120 --> 0:41:08.560
<v Speaker 2>I mean like I've been seeing like, oh, two K seventeen,

0:41:08.920 --> 0:41:10.640
<v Speaker 2>that's what it is, two K seventeen.

0:41:10.760 --> 0:41:13.280
<v Speaker 1>And so if you click on that these prom dresses.

0:41:13.360 --> 0:41:15.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean I was on looking today and I thought

0:41:15.040 --> 0:41:18.200
<v Speaker 1>to myself, so is she is she? Is she twenty five?

0:41:18.280 --> 0:41:22.680
<v Speaker 1>I mean these girls look like grown, beautiful, accomplished. I

0:41:22.800 --> 0:41:25.880
<v Speaker 1>have a job and a Porsche and a penthouse apartment

0:41:26.000 --> 0:41:30.720
<v Speaker 1>in New York City. Women meanwhile, they're like, I'm sixteen.

0:41:31.880 --> 0:41:33.080
<v Speaker 2>Their parents are like they look.

0:41:35.160 --> 0:41:37.320
<v Speaker 1>But they look. I mean, I did not have it.

0:41:37.440 --> 0:41:41.160
<v Speaker 1>I don't have this together now, Like now, I can't

0:41:41.200 --> 0:41:43.280
<v Speaker 1>even slay like that. These girls are out here slaying

0:41:43.320 --> 0:41:44.880
<v Speaker 1>and I just I can't deal. And I love it.

0:41:45.080 --> 0:41:45.839
<v Speaker 2>Did you go to prom?

0:41:46.800 --> 0:41:49.919
<v Speaker 1>I did, but nobody asked me either. So my best

0:41:49.960 --> 0:41:51.960
<v Speaker 1>friend had her date say, you know, I'm going with

0:41:52.040 --> 0:41:55.120
<v Speaker 1>Tiffany and Veronica. I was like, oh, I love you, Veronica.

0:41:55.400 --> 0:41:58.200
<v Speaker 2>That's the way to do it. Just go with your girlfriends. Yeah,

0:41:58.440 --> 0:41:59.520
<v Speaker 2>just go with your girlfriends.

0:42:00.040 --> 0:42:01.640
<v Speaker 1>Actually, her mom like, could you hook me up? She

0:42:01.800 --> 0:42:04.600
<v Speaker 1>was like, oh yeah, no, I.

0:42:04.640 --> 0:42:07.440
<v Speaker 2>Do remember that. My twelfth grade prom dress was a

0:42:07.480 --> 0:42:09.680
<v Speaker 2>big that was like my first big purchase. I think

0:42:09.719 --> 0:42:13.839
<v Speaker 2>it was two hundred and eighty dollars and I picked

0:42:13.880 --> 0:42:15.319
<v Speaker 2>it out a special and I worked really hard at

0:42:15.320 --> 0:42:18.960
<v Speaker 2>the gap and then I took my gay ex boyfriend.

0:42:18.680 --> 0:42:21.040
<v Speaker 1>To the problem. Did you know he was gay? Well,

0:42:21.040 --> 0:42:23.520
<v Speaker 1>obviously not when you were dating. No, I was so naive.

0:42:24.040 --> 0:42:28.439
<v Speaker 2>Everybody but me knew let's not go down that. Let's

0:42:28.480 --> 0:42:30.520
<v Speaker 2>not go down that role. Now you guys know officially,

0:42:30.640 --> 0:42:34.359
<v Speaker 2>you officially know way too much about my life, way

0:42:34.440 --> 0:42:34.839
<v Speaker 2>too much.

0:42:36.640 --> 0:42:36.879
<v Speaker 1>Great.

0:42:37.600 --> 0:42:38.680
<v Speaker 2>He was a great dance partner.

0:42:39.400 --> 0:42:41.160
<v Speaker 1>I think we all liked the guy that You're like,

0:42:41.440 --> 0:42:43.040
<v Speaker 1>how did I not? How did how did I not?

0:42:43.440 --> 0:42:44.040
<v Speaker 1>How did I go?

0:42:44.760 --> 0:42:46.680
<v Speaker 2>Not only did I go with him? I turned down

0:42:47.000 --> 0:42:50.680
<v Speaker 2>the hot six foot something basketball player who I will

0:42:50.760 --> 0:42:54.600
<v Speaker 2>not name. Maybe he listens, why don't you turned down

0:42:55.560 --> 0:42:57.120
<v Speaker 2>because I had a crush on a crush on my

0:42:57.160 --> 0:43:01.920
<v Speaker 2>gay ex boyfriend. He was very sensitive and listen to me.

0:43:04.600 --> 0:43:10.080
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, Oh my gosh, feel like he's so great,

0:43:10.120 --> 0:43:12.480
<v Speaker 1>he's like a friend. He's like, if you only do.

0:43:13.600 --> 0:43:17.040
<v Speaker 2>He braids my hair? He didn't do that, all right, anyway,

0:43:17.080 --> 0:43:18.439
<v Speaker 2>we're going down a treacherous path.

0:43:18.520 --> 0:43:22.720
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but that is how hilarious And he's like no, clearly,

0:43:23.000 --> 0:43:25.040
<v Speaker 1>like yeah, that is hilarious.

0:43:25.280 --> 0:43:27.920
<v Speaker 2>They were an all Ivy League. Quadrupe was from we

0:43:27.960 --> 0:43:32.839
<v Speaker 2>were in school. Okay to school with the Ivy League

0:43:32.880 --> 0:43:42.279
<v Speaker 2>quadrup was our questions. Our listeners do have questions. And

0:43:42.280 --> 0:43:43.640
<v Speaker 2>you know what I love even more is when they

0:43:44.200 --> 0:43:46.839
<v Speaker 2>when people get up to us or back to us.

0:43:47.120 --> 0:43:49.520
<v Speaker 2>I can't speak today when they get back to us

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<v Speaker 2>with updates. So I don't remember what we used for

0:43:52.560 --> 0:43:55.839
<v Speaker 2>this woman's code name a while back, but she asked

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<v Speaker 2>us a question I would say a couple of months ago,

0:43:59.320 --> 0:44:01.080
<v Speaker 2>she says, a few. I feel like it was longer,

0:44:02.200 --> 0:44:06.239
<v Speaker 2>asking about she needed encouragement to find a new job

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<v Speaker 2>and to continue her job or she wasn't happy at

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<v Speaker 2>her job. And I forget what we said, but apparently

0:44:11.600 --> 0:44:13.360
<v Speaker 2>it was awesome, because she says, I just wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>let you know that. I ended up having two offers

0:44:16.160 --> 0:44:19.160
<v Speaker 2>this week for new opportunities I found through networking. I

0:44:19.280 --> 0:44:21.520
<v Speaker 2>have happily accepted an offer and will be starting at

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<v Speaker 2>the end of May.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeahs, we'll be making things happen me where I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>what do we say?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure she did all the work, I know, but

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<v Speaker 2>that's exciting.

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<v Speaker 1>Yay.

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<v Speaker 2>Even when you're down, you always bounce back, you know, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>for sure. So if you have questions, as always, you

0:44:39.920 --> 0:44:44.840
<v Speaker 2>can go to Brown Ambition Podcast dot com dot com where.

0:44:44.680 --> 0:44:45.160
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<v Speaker 2>Slow all right, go ahead, or you can email us

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0:44:53.840 --> 0:44:56.160
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0:44:56.239 --> 0:44:58.200
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0:44:58.200 --> 0:44:59.959
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0:45:03.239 --> 0:45:09.480
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<v Speaker 2>I'm mumbling now, so we'll go on to today's question.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's just call her Okay, okay, okay, okay. So she says, Hi, girls,

0:45:20.080 --> 0:45:21.919
<v Speaker 2>I'm a new listener and I am trying to become

0:45:22.000 --> 0:45:25.840
<v Speaker 2>more aware and educated on my finances. Listening to your podcast,

0:45:25.920 --> 0:45:28.279
<v Speaker 2>I realize that I'm currently in a circumstance that no

0:45:28.320 --> 0:45:31.200
<v Speaker 2>one really talks about anymore. I'm currently working for a

0:45:31.280 --> 0:45:36.160
<v Speaker 2>small business owner, and although it's very successful, my boss

0:45:36.239 --> 0:45:38.200
<v Speaker 2>is not in a position to provide her office with

0:45:38.320 --> 0:45:42.719
<v Speaker 2>any benefits other than vision and dental. With that being said,

0:45:42.920 --> 0:45:45.800
<v Speaker 2>what is the best way to invest in a retirement

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<v Speaker 2>of a retirement fund without the assistance of an employer

0:45:50.120 --> 0:45:54.080
<v Speaker 2>and without employer matching shaw?

0:45:54.480 --> 0:45:58.440
<v Speaker 1>You should It's not one of my employees. I know

0:45:58.480 --> 0:46:00.440
<v Speaker 1>it's not because they don't even get vision in that anyway,

0:46:00.480 --> 0:46:01.160
<v Speaker 1>we're working on it.

0:46:03.520 --> 0:46:05.560
<v Speaker 2>I think this is probably a lot more common than

0:46:05.880 --> 0:46:09.200
<v Speaker 2>than some people think, because a lot of small businesses

0:46:10.120 --> 0:46:11.959
<v Speaker 2>don't have to offer If you have under a certain

0:46:12.000 --> 0:46:13.719
<v Speaker 2>I think like twenty five or fifty, you don't have

0:46:13.800 --> 0:46:17.759
<v Speaker 2>to offer any benefits. So so yeah, that's tough, but

0:46:18.040 --> 0:46:18.879
<v Speaker 2>not impossible.

0:46:19.320 --> 0:46:19.520
<v Speaker 1>Yep.

0:46:20.760 --> 0:46:23.000
<v Speaker 2>I think your first step is and she's she asked

0:46:23.000 --> 0:46:25.560
<v Speaker 2>specifically about retirement, although she didn't mention where she gets

0:46:25.600 --> 0:46:28.279
<v Speaker 2>health care from. But since she asked about retirement, I

0:46:28.320 --> 0:46:32.239
<v Speaker 2>would say you can easily open an IRA through a

0:46:32.480 --> 0:46:35.640
<v Speaker 2>brokerage firm and some of my favorites because they tend

0:46:35.680 --> 0:46:40.759
<v Speaker 2>to be very transparent, very long term investment, and very affordable.

0:46:41.560 --> 0:46:48.320
<v Speaker 2>Our Vanguard Charles Schwab I'm about to get trans America

0:46:48.360 --> 0:46:51.080
<v Speaker 2>and TD Ameritrade mixed up, but they're both fine. So

0:46:52.040 --> 0:46:54.960
<v Speaker 2>but top top top pick will probably be Banguard, Vanguard,

0:46:55.280 --> 0:46:57.839
<v Speaker 2>uh In Tarls Schwab is another one.

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<v Speaker 1>Rock iray or you're telling her.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I mean that's up to her. The difference between

0:47:03.520 --> 0:47:09.560
<v Speaker 2>a wroth and a traditional iray. Traditional iray you put

0:47:09.640 --> 0:47:12.120
<v Speaker 2>money in and it's put in tax free, and your

0:47:12.239 --> 0:47:16.080
<v Speaker 2>tax later when you withdraw the funds. With a wroth iray,

0:47:16.239 --> 0:47:18.800
<v Speaker 2>your tax today your current tax rate, and you withdraw

0:47:18.880 --> 0:47:22.560
<v Speaker 2>the funds tax free when you're ready to retire. If

0:47:22.560 --> 0:47:25.120
<v Speaker 2>you're wondering, why would I just give the government money now?

0:47:26.280 --> 0:47:30.440
<v Speaker 2>The idea if you're younger, they typically say, although you'd

0:47:30.440 --> 0:47:33.680
<v Speaker 2>probably want to get advice from a you know, investment excerpt,

0:47:33.719 --> 0:47:36.840
<v Speaker 2>but typically the idea generally and why they'd want to

0:47:37.360 --> 0:47:41.880
<v Speaker 2>they recommend people take out a wroth iray. It is

0:47:41.960 --> 0:47:43.920
<v Speaker 2>because if you get tax at your current tax rate,

0:47:44.320 --> 0:47:47.480
<v Speaker 2>as you get older, the ideas that your income will

0:47:47.560 --> 0:47:50.160
<v Speaker 2>increase and so will go tax rate. So really it's

0:47:50.200 --> 0:47:52.680
<v Speaker 2>a tax savings because you're forgetting tax at a lower

0:47:52.760 --> 0:47:54.480
<v Speaker 2>rate today. It means you won't get tax at your

0:47:54.560 --> 0:47:58.439
<v Speaker 2>higher rate later. Yeah, but again it's very it's hard

0:47:58.520 --> 0:48:03.920
<v Speaker 2>to give general advice. But unfortunately, there's not much you

0:48:03.960 --> 0:48:06.640
<v Speaker 2>can do if you don't get a match from your employer.

0:48:06.719 --> 0:48:09.880
<v Speaker 2>All you can do is increase or try to increase.

0:48:10.560 --> 0:48:13.600
<v Speaker 2>It just invests all that a little bit more than

0:48:13.640 --> 0:48:16.120
<v Speaker 2>what you maybe would do if you're getting a match

0:48:16.120 --> 0:48:17.080
<v Speaker 2>from your employer, right.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I mean yeah, because I and not every I mean,

0:48:21.080 --> 0:48:25.200
<v Speaker 1>I don't know too many small businesses that do match.

0:48:25.880 --> 0:48:30.279
<v Speaker 1>I mean because it's expensive to like, you know, bring

0:48:30.440 --> 0:48:33.400
<v Speaker 1>on so in all and and to be all transparent.

0:48:33.719 --> 0:48:37.200
<v Speaker 1>I just switch from an LLC, which is basically like

0:48:39.160 --> 0:48:42.680
<v Speaker 1>it's just a different type of business, to an es corp,

0:48:43.000 --> 0:48:46.640
<v Speaker 1>where now I work for my business, I'm not my business,

0:48:46.880 --> 0:48:48.800
<v Speaker 1>which an LLC is kind of like you are your business,

0:48:48.880 --> 0:48:51.120
<v Speaker 1>you know, And so with an es corp, you have

0:48:51.239 --> 0:48:54.640
<v Speaker 1>to have at least one employee, one official official employee,

0:48:54.760 --> 0:48:57.759
<v Speaker 1>like right now, I like on the books, they're not

0:48:58.400 --> 0:49:00.279
<v Speaker 1>the people who work for me are not employee ease,

0:49:00.600 --> 0:49:05.560
<v Speaker 1>they are contractors, right, So that because I can't afford

0:49:05.640 --> 0:49:08.360
<v Speaker 1>and we're working towards that, but I can't afford because

0:49:08.360 --> 0:49:10.880
<v Speaker 1>if I make somebody an employee there's certain things that

0:49:10.920 --> 0:49:12.600
<v Speaker 1>you have to do, like you know, you have to

0:49:12.640 --> 0:49:15.040
<v Speaker 1>there's certain packages you have to pay. I have to

0:49:15.080 --> 0:49:17.200
<v Speaker 1>provide certain types, certain level of health care, you know

0:49:17.320 --> 0:49:19.520
<v Speaker 1>that kind of stuff. So right now I'm the only

0:49:19.680 --> 0:49:23.520
<v Speaker 1>official employee, and then the next employee, like hopefully later

0:49:23.600 --> 0:49:26.400
<v Speaker 1>on this year it'll be my CEO CR and then

0:49:26.440 --> 0:49:28.600
<v Speaker 1>we'll bring on more people. But you have to be

0:49:28.640 --> 0:49:31.600
<v Speaker 1>able to pay for that, and so, you know, so

0:49:31.920 --> 0:49:35.040
<v Speaker 1>you kind of ask yourself, do I bring on additional

0:49:35.080 --> 0:49:38.200
<v Speaker 1>employees or do I the employees I do have, do

0:49:38.360 --> 0:49:41.400
<v Speaker 1>I give them better benefits? And so everything costs, you know,

0:49:42.200 --> 0:49:45.320
<v Speaker 1>a lot of money basically, But if you're with the

0:49:45.400 --> 0:49:47.399
<v Speaker 1>company that you really see a lot of growth there

0:49:47.760 --> 0:49:49.879
<v Speaker 1>and you see that it's like you know that there's

0:49:50.000 --> 0:49:53.160
<v Speaker 1>a that there's something happening here. These are things you

0:49:53.200 --> 0:49:56.480
<v Speaker 1>could talk to your employer about about, Like, you know,

0:49:56.680 --> 0:49:59.360
<v Speaker 1>I we really love this because now, for example, I

0:49:59.440 --> 0:50:02.279
<v Speaker 1>have a I don't I mean, for lack of better word,

0:50:02.280 --> 0:50:05.160
<v Speaker 1>I guess she's like our CFO. But you know, like

0:50:05.200 --> 0:50:07.399
<v Speaker 1>I said, I don't have any employees. She just does

0:50:07.480 --> 0:50:10.440
<v Speaker 1>contract work for us, but she has been like really

0:50:10.600 --> 0:50:13.759
<v Speaker 1>helping us to see what we're making versus what we're

0:50:13.800 --> 0:50:16.719
<v Speaker 1>spending and what we can't spend before. Like literally this

0:50:16.800 --> 0:50:19.200
<v Speaker 1>is how I used to make decisions. Sierra would be like, hey,

0:50:19.320 --> 0:50:20.920
<v Speaker 1>you know, I think we should get this program. It's

0:50:20.960 --> 0:50:23.920
<v Speaker 1>gonna you know, make it smoother to like add courses

0:50:23.960 --> 0:50:26.520
<v Speaker 1>to the academy. How much is it thirty dollars A long?

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<v Speaker 2>I like I had no, like, you know, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know the budget needs to have no budget for the business.

0:50:33.600 --> 0:50:35.719
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, which is so crazy because in my personal life

0:50:35.840 --> 0:50:38.920
<v Speaker 1>budget to the tea. But with the business, I was

0:50:39.120 --> 0:50:42.600
<v Speaker 1>more like, I don't know. You just do whatever you

0:50:42.680 --> 0:50:45.440
<v Speaker 1>can to grow. And I'm like, well, the thing is

0:50:45.840 --> 0:50:47.759
<v Speaker 1>we don't have any debt. The business doesn't have any debt,

0:50:48.400 --> 0:50:50.520
<v Speaker 1>and so I just kind of felt like, well, we

0:50:50.680 --> 0:50:53.040
<v Speaker 1>made money, so I know there's more than thirty dollars

0:50:53.120 --> 0:50:57.360
<v Speaker 1>left over. So yeah, but there was no real I

0:50:57.440 --> 0:51:00.440
<v Speaker 1>couldn't tell you what I was making versus what I

0:51:00.480 --> 0:51:03.080
<v Speaker 1>was spending, although I kept really copious, like I kept

0:51:03.160 --> 0:51:07.960
<v Speaker 1>really detailed records. So when Rachel, our new CFO, came on,

0:51:08.440 --> 0:51:11.680
<v Speaker 1>she was like, for someone who was all over the place,

0:51:11.800 --> 0:51:14.040
<v Speaker 1>you have like the best records, So like I kept

0:51:14.120 --> 0:51:16.719
<v Speaker 1>record of every petty spent and every penny made, but

0:51:16.880 --> 0:51:18.880
<v Speaker 1>there was no sense made out of those records, you

0:51:18.880 --> 0:51:21.480
<v Speaker 1>see what I mean? And so like just because there

0:51:21.560 --> 0:51:23.320
<v Speaker 1>was so much on top of everything else, I didn't

0:51:23.360 --> 0:51:25.360
<v Speaker 1>really like, yeah, I could tell you like, oh, you know,

0:51:25.440 --> 0:51:27.239
<v Speaker 1>this month we made ten thousand and then we spent

0:51:27.600 --> 0:51:30.520
<v Speaker 1>you know, two, but there was no real sense made

0:51:30.560 --> 0:51:32.759
<v Speaker 1>of like, well, where is the money really going? You know,

0:51:32.880 --> 0:51:34.680
<v Speaker 1>how much of this is staff? How much of this

0:51:34.800 --> 0:51:37.080
<v Speaker 1>is this? How much? So I didn't have any like reports.

0:51:37.440 --> 0:51:40.200
<v Speaker 1>I just had like numbers like ten to eight, ten

0:51:40.320 --> 0:51:42.320
<v Speaker 1>to two, three to four, you know. And so with

0:51:42.440 --> 0:51:44.279
<v Speaker 1>her coming on, like I asked the other day, I

0:51:44.320 --> 0:51:46.840
<v Speaker 1>always feel like that we're spending too much, you know.

0:51:47.239 --> 0:51:48.840
<v Speaker 1>And I asked her the other day form for example,

0:51:48.920 --> 0:51:51.040
<v Speaker 1>the academy, and I was like, you know, Rachel, can

0:51:51.080 --> 0:51:52.680
<v Speaker 1>you share with us, like, you know, if we have

0:51:52.840 --> 0:51:55.239
<v Speaker 1>a meeting every Thursday, with like a money meeting every

0:51:55.280 --> 0:51:57.759
<v Speaker 1>Thursday with everyone. Rachel and I talk almost every day

0:51:57.760 --> 0:51:59.880
<v Speaker 1>about money, but with everyone. And she said, you know

0:52:00.120 --> 0:52:04.560
<v Speaker 1>that we spend six percent our operating expense is six

0:52:04.680 --> 0:52:07.520
<v Speaker 1>percent of our gross I'm like, what, that's good, right?

0:52:07.600 --> 0:52:11.600
<v Speaker 1>She was activity that's incredible and I was like, oh, Neil,

0:52:11.719 --> 0:52:14.680
<v Speaker 1>I didn't. Who know, she's activity. You only have to

0:52:14.760 --> 0:52:17.080
<v Speaker 1>spend six dollars to make one hundred dollars. And I

0:52:17.200 --> 0:52:20.640
<v Speaker 1>was like, that's really that's good, okay. And so now

0:52:20.840 --> 0:52:23.239
<v Speaker 1>we can work from a place of you know how

0:52:23.400 --> 0:52:25.440
<v Speaker 1>business should go. So the two things I wish I

0:52:25.480 --> 0:52:28.000
<v Speaker 1>would have known better, you know, as far as running

0:52:28.000 --> 0:52:29.640
<v Speaker 1>a business is like one I should have gotten like

0:52:30.120 --> 0:52:33.000
<v Speaker 1>an assistant sooner and to your money person. And so

0:52:33.360 --> 0:52:35.719
<v Speaker 1>I say that to say I'm be a listener with

0:52:35.800 --> 0:52:38.440
<v Speaker 1>this letter that sometimes sitting down and talking with like,

0:52:38.719 --> 0:52:41.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't know how small the small business is, but oftentimes,

0:52:41.719 --> 0:52:45.560
<v Speaker 1>you know, small business owners are good at not necessarily

0:52:45.640 --> 0:52:47.279
<v Speaker 1>the money aspect. But they're good at the thing that

0:52:47.320 --> 0:52:49.480
<v Speaker 1>they're doing. They're good at baking the cake, or they're

0:52:49.520 --> 0:52:52.520
<v Speaker 1>good at singing the song or teaching or whatever that is,

0:52:52.760 --> 0:52:55.600
<v Speaker 1>but they're not necessarily good at running the business. And

0:52:55.960 --> 0:52:58.839
<v Speaker 1>a little nudging, a little suggestion can go a long way,

0:52:58.880 --> 0:53:00.840
<v Speaker 1>because I know we go along with for me and

0:53:00.960 --> 0:53:02.920
<v Speaker 1>so you know that would be my advice is that yes,

0:53:03.360 --> 0:53:06.040
<v Speaker 1>do do it on your own, but don't don't discount

0:53:06.120 --> 0:53:08.680
<v Speaker 1>that they haven't done it. Just because they don't want to.

0:53:09.080 --> 0:53:11.480
<v Speaker 1>Maybe they just need some help restructuring, you know, their

0:53:11.520 --> 0:53:13.000
<v Speaker 1>finances right.

0:53:13.080 --> 0:53:14.839
<v Speaker 2>And it's and that's what makes it sort of hard

0:53:14.880 --> 0:53:16.600
<v Speaker 2>to work for a small business too, is that it's

0:53:16.640 --> 0:53:18.880
<v Speaker 2>almost good because you're so close and up close and

0:53:18.960 --> 0:53:22.280
<v Speaker 2>personal with your with your bosses, with the founders and whatnot.

0:53:22.320 --> 0:53:24.600
<v Speaker 2>But and you have the opportunity to speak up and

0:53:24.680 --> 0:53:26.560
<v Speaker 2>ask for what you need or what you want. But

0:53:26.680 --> 0:53:28.399
<v Speaker 2>it also is kind of like you have to because

0:53:28.400 --> 0:53:29.719
<v Speaker 2>it's not like anyone else is going to do it.

0:53:30.320 --> 0:53:32.120
<v Speaker 2>You know, like you really have to be your advocate.

0:53:32.200 --> 0:53:35.600
<v Speaker 2>There's no HR department and you know, no union or

0:53:35.640 --> 0:53:38.400
<v Speaker 2>whatever to talk up. So but in the in the

0:53:38.480 --> 0:53:41.160
<v Speaker 2>near future, what K can certainly do is just open

0:53:41.280 --> 0:53:43.799
<v Speaker 2>up a basic I ray and I'm a big fund,

0:53:43.920 --> 0:53:46.839
<v Speaker 2>a big fund. Here I go again. I'm a big

0:53:47.000 --> 0:53:50.440
<v Speaker 2>fan of target date funds. I think they're super simple.

0:53:50.600 --> 0:53:53.560
<v Speaker 2>And these are just basically funds where you match it

0:53:53.680 --> 0:53:56.160
<v Speaker 2>to the date you anticipate that you'll retire, and they'll

0:53:56.400 --> 0:54:00.480
<v Speaker 2>they'll invest your funds accordingly. And typically that means more

0:54:00.520 --> 0:54:03.040
<v Speaker 2>aggressive starting out with more stocks, and then as you

0:54:03.120 --> 0:54:06.239
<v Speaker 2>get older and closer to retirement, it'll wean you off

0:54:06.320 --> 0:54:12.200
<v Speaker 2>and shift your investments more toward low risk investments like bonds.

0:54:13.160 --> 0:54:16.640
<v Speaker 2>And I think, well, I definitely know that Vanguard, Charles Schwab,

0:54:16.800 --> 0:54:21.279
<v Speaker 2>Fidelity all have their own versions of target date funds,

0:54:21.280 --> 0:54:24.279
<v Speaker 2>so they're all good. And you only need about what

0:54:24.400 --> 0:54:27.000
<v Speaker 2>five hundred bucks to start five hundred to one thousand

0:54:27.040 --> 0:54:30.040
<v Speaker 2>dollars to open up one of these accounts, so not

0:54:30.239 --> 0:54:30.600
<v Speaker 2>very much.

0:54:31.520 --> 0:54:33.759
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so just get started as sooner the better. When

0:54:33.760 --> 0:54:34.120
<v Speaker 1>it comes to.

0:54:34.160 --> 0:54:37.640
<v Speaker 2>Retirement, absolutely like don't yeah, and you don't let the

0:54:37.719 --> 0:54:40.120
<v Speaker 2>fact that you don't have it makes it harder if

0:54:40.160 --> 0:54:45.520
<v Speaker 2>you don't have, you know, a employment offering for benefits.

0:54:45.560 --> 0:54:47.680
<v Speaker 2>But at the same time, I mean, just because your

0:54:47.719 --> 0:54:50.680
<v Speaker 2>employer offers you benefits doesn't mean it's going to be awesome. Yeah,

0:54:50.840 --> 0:54:53.000
<v Speaker 2>a good retirement plan. So it's nice to have control

0:54:53.040 --> 0:54:57.680
<v Speaker 2>over everything in a way. Yeah, so thinks Okay, and

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<v Speaker 2>again if you have questions, go to brand Ambition pot

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<v Speaker 2>cast dot com or email us Front Ambition podcast at

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<v Speaker 2>gmail dot com dot com. No, I know you still

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<v Speaker 2>knew it.

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<v Speaker 1>I was on it down when I was like waiting,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, okay, she's sick, Okay, is it time

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<v Speaker 1>for wins?

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<v Speaker 2>I believe it's wins. It's been a wile since we've

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<v Speaker 2>done wins.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, all we do is win, win, win, no

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<v Speaker 1>matter what. We haven't done wins in the wild, so

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<v Speaker 1>what so yeah, so it's time for you know, first.

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<v Speaker 2>Whens.

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<v Speaker 1>Colleenla, nobody came from her wins.

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<v Speaker 2>I forgot what wins were supposed to be.

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<v Speaker 1>There's supposed to be. I mean, if they can be personal,

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<v Speaker 1>but this is supposed to be like you know, some

0:55:58.840 --> 0:56:01.960
<v Speaker 1>because sometimes and I mean today was was was decent.

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<v Speaker 1>But I think we started wins because you know, it

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<v Speaker 1>was during the time of the reign of He who

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<v Speaker 1>shall not be named, when when that transition was happening

0:56:10.840 --> 0:56:12.640
<v Speaker 1>and it got a little heavy and we needed something.

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<v Speaker 1>We wanted to always end on a bright note. And

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<v Speaker 1>so Winds were like no matter what we talked about,

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<v Speaker 1>whether how bad or whatever, that we always ended with

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<v Speaker 1>something positive. Got it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm back on the Winds train.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, here's a win, even though this is like, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a little bit on the old side. But no, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not gonna do that one that is really old. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like to like, go play yourself. I'm like, all right,

0:56:38.600 --> 0:56:45.600
<v Speaker 1>all right, all right, let's see I don't know. I

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<v Speaker 1>just didn't think wins are just brown girls in general,

0:56:48.320 --> 0:56:52.000
<v Speaker 1>because we're like just pretty awesome. I have to say,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, we're just out here slain and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I mean, I know, I thought I had

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<v Speaker 1>a win and I was like, I don't. Well, okay, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, well that's the first one I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I already talked about, like you know the list name. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna be at fest like I have a win.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's really fun listening to your ramble.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, yes, yes, please bring.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's see how long Tiffany can go. No, I did

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<v Speaker 2>want to do a win, and actually I had this

0:57:26.440 --> 0:57:28.640
<v Speaker 2>written down for last week. I was prepared for a

0:57:28.680 --> 0:57:31.160
<v Speaker 2>win last week, but we didn't do one. And it's

0:57:31.200 --> 0:57:34.280
<v Speaker 2>gonna sound like a cheap one, but it's really meaningful.

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<v Speaker 2>And I wanted to give a win to my sister,

0:57:37.800 --> 0:57:42.800
<v Speaker 2>who I feel like is she's like the unsung hero

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<v Speaker 2>of my life and of my siblings' lives, and I

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<v Speaker 2>just feel super appreciative to her. You know how in

0:57:48.960 --> 0:57:51.040
<v Speaker 2>a family like we have four siblings, and I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like there's always the one who gets like the brunt

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<v Speaker 2>of everyone's like, you know, they're the ones that you

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<v Speaker 2>get all the phone calls. They're the one who have

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<v Speaker 2>to deal with the emergency and you know, be there

0:58:02.520 --> 0:58:05.280
<v Speaker 2>when you know the parents need something or when something

0:58:05.360 --> 0:58:08.680
<v Speaker 2>goes wrong, and just handling everything and anyway. So I

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<v Speaker 2>feel like my sister is just like the backbone of

0:58:12.160 --> 0:58:16.720
<v Speaker 2>our siblings right now. And at the same time, I

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<v Speaker 2>wanted to, I want to give her that shout out,

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<v Speaker 2>which she definitely deserves, because she's amazing and she, you know,

0:58:22.160 --> 0:58:24.880
<v Speaker 2>kept me saying even before you know, she was my

0:58:24.960 --> 0:58:26.520
<v Speaker 2>maid of honor and it was her job to keep

0:58:26.560 --> 0:58:30.280
<v Speaker 2>me saying. She's always there supporting me. But she makes

0:58:30.360 --> 0:58:33.920
<v Speaker 2>me think a lot about the role of like sisters

0:58:33.960 --> 0:58:37.200
<v Speaker 2>and families and how the women in families typically end

0:58:37.280 --> 0:58:40.320
<v Speaker 2>up being the caretaker. And I look at my sister

0:58:40.440 --> 0:58:43.360
<v Speaker 2>and I kind of already see that we are defaulting

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<v Speaker 2>toward Okay, Mallory will take care of it. My sister's

0:58:46.520 --> 0:58:48.640
<v Speaker 2>name is Mallori. You know, she'll be the one. And

0:58:49.000 --> 0:58:51.400
<v Speaker 2>and it makes me like I wanted I had started

0:58:51.440 --> 0:58:53.320
<v Speaker 2>having a talk with her about it because I wanted to.

0:58:53.520 --> 0:58:56.800
<v Speaker 2>I felt bad. I wanted to stop doing that so

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<v Speaker 2>much because I didn't want her to feel like every

0:58:58.960 --> 0:59:01.000
<v Speaker 2>time something goes wrong, she must be the one to

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<v Speaker 2>swoop in, because it wears you down after a while,

0:59:05.320 --> 0:59:08.080
<v Speaker 2>and it's not really fair to that sibling. And I mean,

0:59:08.120 --> 0:59:11.280
<v Speaker 2>we don't have to. I mean, there was a Vice Viceland,

0:59:11.480 --> 0:59:14.880
<v Speaker 2>which is that Vice network. They have a business finance show,

0:59:14.920 --> 0:59:17.400
<v Speaker 2>and they had a woman on talking about the role

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<v Speaker 2>of women and how women almost always end up being

0:59:20.480 --> 0:59:23.600
<v Speaker 2>a default caretaker, and how women are more likely to

0:59:23.720 --> 0:59:25.920
<v Speaker 2>turn down promotions because they have to take care of

0:59:26.040 --> 0:59:29.160
<v Speaker 2>elder family or spouses. Women are more likely to leave

0:59:29.200 --> 0:59:31.720
<v Speaker 2>the workforce because they have to be a caretaker and

0:59:31.840 --> 0:59:34.680
<v Speaker 2>to sacrifice themselves. And I feel like it doesn't always

0:59:34.760 --> 0:59:38.440
<v Speaker 2>have to be that way, Like sometimes it is because

0:59:38.480 --> 0:59:40.880
<v Speaker 2>there's only the daughter or only the niece or whatever.

0:59:41.000 --> 0:59:43.640
<v Speaker 2>But I feel like in families sometimes it's easy to

0:59:44.040 --> 0:59:46.840
<v Speaker 2>step back and say, Okay, well my sister has it, yeah,

0:59:47.360 --> 0:59:49.160
<v Speaker 2>and she's the one ever you know, that can take

0:59:49.200 --> 0:59:51.480
<v Speaker 2>care of it. And I certainly did this when my

0:59:51.600 --> 0:59:54.080
<v Speaker 2>mother a couple of years ago, my mother fell and

0:59:54.600 --> 0:59:59.120
<v Speaker 2>shattered her kneecap on ice and I went from this, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and I went from my to Wisconsin, and I spent

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<v Speaker 2>my week with her, and after that, my sister was

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<v Speaker 2>on her own and she was the only one living

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<v Speaker 2>near her to take care of her. And that's like

1:00:08.600 --> 1:00:10.560
<v Speaker 2>my mother couldn't use the bathroom on her own. So

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, that's like around the clock taken care of

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<v Speaker 2>and she was there for months and months and months

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<v Speaker 2>for her recuperation. And I kind of used that distance

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<v Speaker 2>as an excuse, but I'm just anyway, I just wanted

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<v Speaker 2>to give her the shout out and the wind. But

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<v Speaker 2>also your.

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<v Speaker 1>Author right, and your mother had those moves on the dead,

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<v Speaker 1>so I'm like, really, she heeled great.

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<v Speaker 2>I know it is. I mean when I think about

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<v Speaker 2>if I showed you pictures or video my mom two

1:00:36.560 --> 1:00:39.200
<v Speaker 2>years ago, I swear I was like, she's never gonna

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<v Speaker 2>walk again. Like I just had to help my mother

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<v Speaker 2>use the bathroom. How this is crazy. She's in her

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<v Speaker 2>mid fifties. That is so scary, so scary, and and yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>her recovery was amazing. She also lost fifty pounds this year.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's just give Mama a shout out to you. Let's

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<v Speaker 2>give mama win.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, why are we here, right? Yeah? I kind of

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<v Speaker 1>sister's got great energy, and so does her wife. I

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<v Speaker 1>was just like, oh, they were just just all of

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<v Speaker 1>your family. When I was there and in uh and

1:01:07.200 --> 1:01:10.240
<v Speaker 1>husband's family, it was just such a great, like warm,

1:01:10.840 --> 1:01:14.160
<v Speaker 1>welcoming environment. And so everybody gets a shadow. You get

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<v Speaker 1>a shadow, you get a shout, everybody gets a shout out.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, even what's your what's your what's what's his name?

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<v Speaker 1>Your your best friend's.

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<v Speaker 2>Guy Baron or Kevin Baron?

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<v Speaker 1>Now you Baron, you left me, I know, just thank

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<v Speaker 1>you so much because I know he's listening.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't think anyone's ever been mad at Baron Brown.

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<v Speaker 1>Like go. He's really awesome too. He had such great edergy.

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<v Speaker 1>He made sure that was good. So yeah, no, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I just know sisters are really I mean, there's something

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<v Speaker 1>special about sisters. I mean brothers too, but I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have any brothers, so I wouldn't know. So, but there's

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<v Speaker 1>just something special about sisters and how far they'll go

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<v Speaker 1>for you. So that's awesome, thanks Mallie.

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<v Speaker 2>But they also have to take care of themselves, you

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<v Speaker 2>know what I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>It's nice to be the one who swoops in, but

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<v Speaker 2>it's also like up to the rest of us, me

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<v Speaker 2>who is the most awkward caretaker in all of history

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<v Speaker 2>needs to get better at trying and being there.

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<v Speaker 1>I've got to win. Yes, yes, So I was just

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<v Speaker 1>doing a little scrolling through. So a friend of mine

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<v Speaker 1>named Ivida her course Robinson. Yes that's her real name.

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<v Speaker 2>Wait I know that name? Where do I?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes? She is the founder of No Madness, got it?

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<v Speaker 1>And so No Madness for those who don't know, it's

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<v Speaker 1>this awesome travel community specifically for people of color, brown people,

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<v Speaker 1>brown ambition people. Right, So Avida was already awesome. I

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<v Speaker 1>was already like, Oh, Avita's awesome. She's amazing her movement,

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<v Speaker 1>Like you're seeing this huge uptick in brown travel, and honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>they really credit a lot of it to her. And

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<v Speaker 1>there's a few other kind of like folks that has

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<v Speaker 1>started that movement, but she's one of the founding folks.

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<v Speaker 1>So she's, like, like I said, amazing. But what I

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<v Speaker 1>love about Avida is, yes, No Madness is great, But

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<v Speaker 1>she's always been so civic minded and recently she dropped

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<v Speaker 1>to me one of the most amazing things that she

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<v Speaker 1>could have done outside of starting No Madness, she started

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<v Speaker 1>this lip stain line called Compass by a Vida and

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, this is cute, Like okay, these

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<v Speaker 1>lipstains that you can wear, And honestly, the stains are

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<v Speaker 1>actually really nice. You know sometimes people make things and

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<v Speaker 1>you're like, oh, I guess, but they're really nice. But

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<v Speaker 1>what I love about it is that she names the

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<v Speaker 1>lip stain after a city in the world, like there's Aleppo,

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<v Speaker 1>there's joe Berg, there is Haiti. Well, Haiti's a country,

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<v Speaker 1>but whatever, Bangkok Legos for Nigeria, Soweto for South Africa.

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<v Speaker 1>So she names the lip stain after places in the world.

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<v Speaker 1>And because she's so like pro women focused, she gives

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<v Speaker 1>ten percent of the income from that lip stain to

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<v Speaker 1>women in that country. How dope is that?

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<v Speaker 2>That's amazing?

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<v Speaker 1>And so what I love about it is that, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you get to buy this dope product, but you're buying

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<v Speaker 1>something where you're giving to women like you and the

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<v Speaker 1>other countries. So she just today she just dropped what

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<v Speaker 1>percentage of I guess of what percentage of lipstains are selling?

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<v Speaker 1>Like who like, what's selling more Haiti? It's you know,

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<v Speaker 1>joe Burg has gotten the most and then Haiti has

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<v Speaker 1>gotten the second and most I guess of sales. And

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<v Speaker 1>so if you loving to wear like and the lip

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<v Speaker 1>stains what I love about it. But I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>how she made this work, but she her campaign. She

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<v Speaker 1>shows women of all brown shades, not just brown shades,

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<v Speaker 1>women periods. Honestly, it's not just the a lip stain

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<v Speaker 1>line just for brown girls, but so women of all

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<v Speaker 1>shades wearing these stains and it looks good. From super

1:04:29.160 --> 1:04:32.439
<v Speaker 1>super chocolate girls like me to Lily Lily, Lily white

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<v Speaker 1>girls like some of her friends that have warn it

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<v Speaker 1>and you're like, wow, that's the same lipstain. It looks amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants where the

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<v Speaker 1>jeens fit all of their body sizes. Yes, what stain does.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm just really proud of her because this is

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<v Speaker 1>just something that she's created to bring awareness to the

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<v Speaker 1>fact that there are women around the world that really

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<v Speaker 1>need our help, but doing it in a way that's

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<v Speaker 1>like fun and that way you could participate, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>while buying something really cute and like, you know, so girly,

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<v Speaker 1>like a lip stain, but knowing that your your contribution

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<v Speaker 1>is helping out the women. So if you're interested in

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<v Speaker 1>learning more about it, it's compassed by ivida e v

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<v Speaker 1>I t a dot com and get yourself a lipstain.

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<v Speaker 1>I've ordered. I've ordered the Red. I think it's Aleppo,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm excited about it because I'm like, ooh, I

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<v Speaker 1>love me a good Red. Now it's time to say

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<v Speaker 1>goodbye to all our company.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess we have a few. Is this the end

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<v Speaker 2>credits of Golden Girls?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes? No? No? How do you not know? Oh my god,

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<v Speaker 1>forgot you're millennial? P r O w N A bitch.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a Mickey Mouse Club, am I? I know that, Gondy,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. On that you're either super young or

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<v Speaker 1>super old, depending on like what the topic is. Mandy's like, what,

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<v Speaker 1>but you did know Golden Girls? Which so you know?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean you actually knew the name of that even

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<v Speaker 1>though you're new to them, right? Was it you who

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<v Speaker 1>never heard of Golden Girl, like you never watched the

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<v Speaker 1>episode until recently?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, that was me.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, so you know we're slowly bringing you into the

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<v Speaker 1>gen X am I gen x or y I don't

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<v Speaker 1>even know. But either way, either way Brown Ambition, it's

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<v Speaker 1>been awesome, as per usual,