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Speaker 1: Minute, huh. I know right. I was like, come on, now,

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Speaker 1: you well, you don't really watch Ratchet TV. Do you

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Speaker 2: So yesterday I spent six hours watching a Great British

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Speaker 2: I agree, I wish they would. You know, it's like naive,

433
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Speaker 2: you want to wish that they won't let politics get

434
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Speaker 2: in the way or but you know that this is

435
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Speaker 2: a big deal for Trump to pass something and say

436
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Speaker 2: that he accomplished something. You know, he didn't have the

437
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Speaker 2: best one hundred days and now he's got to at

438
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Speaker 2: least get his health plan across and it was a

439
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Speaker 2: huge fail when he did it. So for him, it's ego.

440
00:20:40,920 --> 00:20:43,720
Speaker 2: It's like I need to get something through, and unfortunately

441
00:20:44,240 --> 00:20:46,760
Speaker 2: they're not taking the time to maybe improve upon what's

442
00:20:46,800 --> 00:20:49,879
Speaker 2: already there. They're just trying to rip it apart and

443
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Speaker 2: just build something even jankier.

444
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Speaker 1: Yeah, which is crazy. It just makes you like sometimes

445
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Speaker 1: you just want to like check out. You're like, h

446
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Speaker 1: chia call me tomorrow, Like I'll peek my head and

447
00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:03,160
Speaker 1: I'll read some stuff, and I'm like, oh, my head,

448
00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:06,480
Speaker 1: my heart, I can't well grind, break ground break.

449
00:21:07,720 --> 00:21:10,119
Speaker 2: It makes me just it makes me grateful to have,

450
00:21:10,359 --> 00:21:13,800
Speaker 2: you know, employer coverage and I I mean, it's gonna

451
00:21:13,800 --> 00:21:16,680
Speaker 2: be honestly, it's it's the use of the it's the you,

452
00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:20,960
Speaker 2: it's the entrepreneurs, it's the self employed, it's the people

453
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Speaker 2: who work for small businesses and then don't get healthcare.

454
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Speaker 2: We're gonna have to deal with this crap.

455
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Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. So we went to get our

456
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Speaker 1: marriage license today. Superman was like, welcome to health insurance.

457
00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:37,879
Speaker 1: Oh that's right, yeah, yeah, because he's got awesome helvisus.

458
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Speaker 1: He works for the city, so his health insurance is

459
00:21:39,960 --> 00:21:43,040
Speaker 1: like that grade A Like what when he had his

460
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Speaker 1: annuals and surgery two years ago, he didn't pay not

461
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Speaker 1: a nickel or not. I mean he had, like, you know,

462
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Speaker 1: all the best of everything, the best doctors, the best

463
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Speaker 1: aftercare everything, and you know, and I just remember being like, WHOA,

464
00:21:54,920 --> 00:21:57,840
Speaker 1: what health insurance do you have? They even treat you differently, Mandy.

465
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Speaker 1: When we walked in places, he we give his card

466
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Speaker 1: and it was like we sat in a different waiting.

467
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Speaker 2: Room, like oh no, no, no, you don't have to

468
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Speaker 2: add a little.

469
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Speaker 1: I remember, no, but I do remember like he had

470
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Speaker 1: to get a he was like he had a headache

471
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Speaker 1: after he'd had surgery, you know, and so he had

472
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Speaker 1: to get a not a memor ran. I'm look at me.

473
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Speaker 1: What are those things called? When you go through like that,

474
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Speaker 1: like the not an ultrasound. They put you in that

475
00:22:23,359 --> 00:22:25,359
Speaker 1: big huge magneque land in your back. It's like a

476
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Speaker 1: little circle. They put you inside of it ultrasound, No

477
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Speaker 1: din of my memory. I'm all right, there you go. Remember.

478
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Speaker 1: So we went to the emergency room and they immediately

479
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Speaker 1: put him in a room, and I was like okay.

480
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Speaker 1: And then when we came out, the emergency room was

481
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Speaker 1: full and there was an older gentleman like in his seventies.

482
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Speaker 1: So like an older, older gentleman in the hallway on

483
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Speaker 1: like a gurney, and I was like, well, how long

484
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Speaker 1: have you been here? He was like oh hours. I said,

485
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Speaker 1: well what are you waiting for? He said, MRI And

486
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:56,280
Speaker 1: I was like what. And so when Superman found out,

487
00:22:56,320 --> 00:22:57,639
Speaker 1: he went to the head nurse and said, you know,

488
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Speaker 1: like he can have my room. I didn't, you know,

489
00:23:00,000 --> 00:23:02,159
Speaker 1: we're waiting for the same thing, and I don't it

490
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Speaker 1: just it golt wrong to have this seventy year old

491
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Speaker 1: man like in the hallway and she's said, oh no, no, no,

492
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:10,639
Speaker 1: you guys are here for different things or whatever. And

493
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Speaker 1: I asked my brother in law later, like does that

494
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Speaker 1: make sense? He was like, he said, I guarantee you.

495
00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:19,640
Speaker 1: It's about insurance. He was like, you know, your fiance

496
00:23:20,320 --> 00:23:23,520
Speaker 1: can pay his insurance can pay for that room, and

497
00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:26,200
Speaker 1: that gentleman probably didn't have any and it just made

498
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Speaker 1: me say, wow, doesn't that feel so terrible? You know?

499
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Speaker 2: That was my dad before Obamacare. My dad would go

500
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Speaker 2: to Grady Memorial Hospital in Atlanta and I would call

501
00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:37,200
Speaker 2: him in the morning. He'd be in for like he's

502
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Speaker 2: had knee pain and like other issues since he's gotten older.

503
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Speaker 2: But yeah, he'd go in in the morning and he

504
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Speaker 2: would still be there when I got off work, waiting

505
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Speaker 2: and waiting and waiting for an emergency room. It got

506
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Speaker 2: to I mean, my dad now he has made friends

507
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Speaker 2: and he has doctor friends who will see him. He

508
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Speaker 2: had Obamacare, He had a plan through Obamacare. That's how

509
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Speaker 2: he got his gastric bypass surgery two or three years ago.

510
00:24:01,560 --> 00:24:04,040
Speaker 2: And you know that was completely covered and he paid

511
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Speaker 2: for it for a year and then the price has

512
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:08,480
Speaker 2: got to be too expensive and he was like, nope,

513
00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:12,080
Speaker 2: not doing that anymore. So uh, yeah, he didn't go

514
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Speaker 2: back and I don't think he will be back. And

515
00:24:15,280 --> 00:24:19,159
Speaker 2: that's that scares me, as his daughter, thinking of you

516
00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:22,200
Speaker 2: know what if something really serious happens, and you know,

517
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:24,800
Speaker 2: he'll laugh and he'll like look at He'll show me

518
00:24:24,880 --> 00:24:27,200
Speaker 2: his like bathroom counter, which is like covered in every

519
00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:29,680
Speaker 2: single supplement that you can get a CVS basically, or

520
00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:32,800
Speaker 2: that you can see on Doctor Oz, and he's like,

521
00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:35,239
Speaker 2: I'm fine, I take my gensing and my doo ding

522
00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:37,760
Speaker 2: and I have my spinach smoothies. But I know that's

523
00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:41,520
Speaker 2: not a healthcare plan. Yeah, and it Yeah, it's frustrating

524
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Speaker 2: that there's nothing, you know, nothing for him at least

525
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Speaker 2: as it stands. And I don't see that it's going

526
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Speaker 2: to be getting better anytime soon fortunately.

527
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Speaker 1: So this is just a random little twist. Do you remember,

528
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Speaker 1: like you being a journalist and like, so, have you

529
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Speaker 1: ever written for Ebity magazine? Never? So, do you know

530
00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:03,439
Speaker 1: you know, like, I don't know what happened with Ebony,

531
00:25:03,560 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 1: but I guess one of their writers. Did you see that?

532
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:08,120
Speaker 1: It was like a while ago, maybe like a week

533
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Speaker 1: or so ago. Well a writer had said, like I've

534
00:25:12,200 --> 00:25:15,720
Speaker 1: been the magazine is not paying its writers, and then

535
00:25:15,800 --> 00:25:21,200
Speaker 1: it became this whole Twitter hashtag kind of like campaign

536
00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 1: where like other writers like steps stood up and were like, yeah,

537
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:26,159
Speaker 1: they have not paid me either, and it was like, oh,

538
00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:28,560
Speaker 1: it's such a shame because you know, Ebony is this

539
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:32,440
Speaker 1: iconic black magazine, you know, Yeah, And I guess they've

540
00:25:32,440 --> 00:25:35,720
Speaker 1: been struggling for a while financially because I remember maybe

541
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Speaker 1: it was last year that I heard that Ebany was

542
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Speaker 1: trying to sell their their archives. They're like their pictures,

543
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Speaker 1: the physical archives of like I guess, they're the pictures

544
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Speaker 1: that they've collected over years and years and years, and

545
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Speaker 1: I thought, wow, that would truly be lost if it

546
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Speaker 1: wasn't available for the public somewhere like in a museum

547
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,480
Speaker 1: and somebody like a private collector collected them. And I

548
00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:57,760
Speaker 1: just remember they thinking shady, like, Oh, I remember I

549
00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:00,840
Speaker 1: wrote for Ebony, like I don't know, three or four

550
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:04,000
Speaker 1: years ago, I wrote an article. Chah. It took them

551
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:05,840
Speaker 1: nine months to pay me. I think it was like

552
00:26:06,200 --> 00:26:11,360
Speaker 1: three hundred dollars. Oh, nine months of like daily emails.

553
00:26:11,400 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 1: And you know, back then, three hundred dollars was I mean,

554
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Speaker 1: it's still a lot of money now, but especially back then,

555
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Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, And I just remember every day, every week,

556
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:22,040
Speaker 1: every Monday, it was like one of my routine. It's

557
00:26:22,119 --> 00:26:26,439
Speaker 1: Monday time to hit up Ebony. I didn't really think

558
00:26:26,480 --> 00:26:28,159
Speaker 1: I was gonna get it, and then one day it

559
00:26:28,200 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 1: came to the mail and I nearly cried tears of joy.

560
00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:32,840
Speaker 1: Nine months and so I thought it was just me

561
00:26:32,960 --> 00:26:34,359
Speaker 1: because you know, like, who was I I thought that

562
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Speaker 1: they were like.

563
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Speaker 2: Girl, oh, it's never just you. Yeah, especially when it yeah,

564
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:42,320
Speaker 2: these magazines, that's just a sign of trouble and how

565
00:26:42,440 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 2: they've been struggling though, I just for a long time.

566
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Speaker 2: So what happened did that writer?

567
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Speaker 1: Now? Ebony basically was like, we don't know what you're

568
00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:51,639
Speaker 1: talking about. I mean, it's such a shame because, like

569
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Speaker 1: I said, I just thought it was meal. You know.

570
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Speaker 1: Of course I was never gonna say anything publicly or

571
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Speaker 1: post anything or whatever. I just thought, oh that I'm

572
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Speaker 1: a small time and they were like, girl, you're not

573
00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:04,880
Speaker 1: even on our radar or whatever. And but to hear

574
00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 1: that they haven't paid some major major writers, I'm like,

575
00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 1: why is that? You know? That's crazy to me?

576
00:27:11,320 --> 00:27:16,040
Speaker 2: Google Hello Google? So oh yeah. So on Friday they

577
00:27:16,040 --> 00:27:18,080
Speaker 2: announced that they were cutting one third of their staff,

578
00:27:19,920 --> 00:27:21,719
Speaker 2: which and I was at first, I was like, oh

579
00:27:21,760 --> 00:27:26,440
Speaker 2: my god, how many people ten there's only thirty five employees. Wow, man,

580
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:30,679
Speaker 2: that's that's that's teeny for a magazine thirty five Now

581
00:27:30,680 --> 00:27:31,960
Speaker 2: they're only going to have twenty five.

582
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Speaker 1: That's crazy.

583
00:27:33,520 --> 00:27:36,680
Speaker 2: They're moving from Chicago to California. I mean, that's it's

584
00:27:36,880 --> 00:27:40,760
Speaker 2: especially sad because it's Ebony, which means so much to

585
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:44,399
Speaker 2: the African American experience in the US. But also just

586
00:27:44,640 --> 00:27:46,760
Speaker 2: you know, magazines in general, it's just not like it

587
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:49,200
Speaker 2: used to be. You know, they're just uh, it's I

588
00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 2: literally I studied magazines in college and that's not even

589
00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:55,600
Speaker 2: a major anymore because everyone knows that's not a career,

590
00:27:57,200 --> 00:27:59,879
Speaker 2: you know, that's not a specific career you should be

591
00:28:00,119 --> 00:28:03,119
Speaker 2: you know, striving toward I guess, you know. And I

592
00:28:03,160 --> 00:28:05,639
Speaker 2: worked at a magazine at my first job in New York,

593
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:08,440
Speaker 2: and it's kind of sad to see them, to see

594
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Speaker 2: them struggle.

595
00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:13,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, because you're right, it's iconic and so but you know,

596
00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:17,080
Speaker 1: you've you've heard you've all heard that like magazines, you know,

597
00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:20,040
Speaker 1: are not making money anymore, that people are really you

598
00:28:20,119 --> 00:28:21,119
Speaker 1: know online and digital.

599
00:28:21,480 --> 00:28:23,920
Speaker 2: Maybe someone will some of like big investor will save them.

600
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:28,400
Speaker 2: I feel like that's what they need. Yeah, I feel

601
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:31,359
Speaker 2: like you never know, you never know, you never know.

602
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:33,960
Speaker 1: Theybele have to make a shift. You know, Like you

603
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:36,639
Speaker 1: heard the Adidas right, Adidas is no longer going to

604
00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:40,600
Speaker 1: be doing magazine ads or any of their their shift.

605
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:44,160
Speaker 1: They're shifting all of their ad money to just just digital.

606
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 1: That's humongous.

607
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:48,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's just killed some magazines, I know exactly.

608
00:28:48,840 --> 00:28:51,640
Speaker 1: So it's hard, like you know, even TV. Look what's

609
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:55,480
Speaker 1: happening with Netflix and Hulu and stuff like and so

610
00:28:55,600 --> 00:28:57,479
Speaker 1: you know somebody that you know, how do you get

611
00:28:57,560 --> 00:28:59,880
Speaker 1: money for these shows? How you get money for these

612
00:29:00,280 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 1: These advertisers advertise on your show, but if you know

613
00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:06,120
Speaker 1: people are not watching, then there's really no money in

614
00:29:06,160 --> 00:29:09,080
Speaker 1: it for them. And honestly, my marketing guy, who I'm

615
00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:11,320
Speaker 1: like aka the Genius, one of the things he told

616
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Speaker 1: me was, and this is years ago, we well a

617
00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:17,400
Speaker 1: year or so ago we first started working together, he said, Tiffin,

618
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:20,080
Speaker 1: you have to get into digital marketing now. You know.

619
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Speaker 1: At the time, I was like, I don't even know

620
00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:24,160
Speaker 1: what that means. And he was like, so he said,

621
00:29:24,200 --> 00:29:27,960
Speaker 1: here's why, he said, right now, people don't really get it,

622
00:29:28,680 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: so it's cheap. He said, like for example, Google ads,

623
00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:33,240
Speaker 1: when they first came out, people it was only the

624
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:35,720
Speaker 1: computer geeks and so there was a lot of computer

625
00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 1: geeks making big money on Google Ads, and then once

626
00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 1: these big companies understand, hey there's money to be made here,

627
00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:44,200
Speaker 1: then they throw so much money at it that they

628
00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:47,280
Speaker 1: make it so that you can't afford it anymore, you know,

629
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Speaker 1: because you know, you know, Adidas is paying ten thousand

630
00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:53,760
Speaker 1: dollars you know, a day in ads, and you're like, well,

631
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:56,280
Speaker 1: my ten dollars doesn't do anything anymore. And so he

632
00:29:56,440 --> 00:29:58,280
Speaker 1: was like, digital ads are like that. This was like

633
00:29:58,400 --> 00:30:00,120
Speaker 1: last year or a year and a half ago. He

634
00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:03,560
Speaker 1: was like, these large companies are slow to move, so

635
00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:07,160
Speaker 1: there's still money in it. Like It's one of the reasons, honestly,

636
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:10,600
Speaker 1: why I was able to go from when I started

637
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:14,640
Speaker 1: working with him twenty thousand community members like dream Catchers

638
00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:17,280
Speaker 1: to three hundred thousand in a year and a half.

639
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:22,280
Speaker 1: It was because we were using digital ads and inexpensively,

640
00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 1: like we were converting people, and converting means this that

641
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 1: how much money do you have to spend for someone

642
00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:31,080
Speaker 1: to take the action you want them to take. So

643
00:30:31,680 --> 00:30:33,200
Speaker 1: I might say, hey, I want people to side up

644
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:36,120
Speaker 1: for my challenge, and so I'm going to spend ten

645
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Speaker 1: dollars and if the conversion rate is a dollar for person.

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Speaker 1: That means for every ten dollars I spend, I get

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Speaker 1: ten people. We were converting people for as low as

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Speaker 1: a penny. A penny sometimes that's unheard of. And so

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Speaker 1: and then there's some people who if you're not good

650
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Speaker 1: at doing ads, you convert people like for example, there

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Speaker 1: I know an insurance company that it takes them twenty

652
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Speaker 1: five dollars to get one person. So now what's going

653
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Speaker 1: to happen these bigger companies kind of come into this

654
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Speaker 1: digital space is that it's going to cost more money

655
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Speaker 1: to convert, and smaller people are not going to for that.

656
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Speaker 1: And so for those of y'all with small businesses, if

657
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Speaker 1: you don't know nothing about Facebook ads and Instagram ads

658
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Speaker 1: or whatever, you have like another year and maybe a

659
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Speaker 1: little bit to learn before you get outpriced. And honestly,

660
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Speaker 1: it's just it's really why it's so useful or it

661
00:31:26,040 --> 00:31:28,400
Speaker 1: just even better than a magazine. Think about when you

662
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Speaker 1: pick up a magazine, you never know who's picking up

663
00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:34,880
Speaker 1: that magazine to see your ad. But when you're on Facebook,

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Speaker 1: you can literally say I want black women ages twenty

665
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Speaker 1: five to forty who live in Florida and like to

666
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Speaker 1: watch Real Housewives of Atlanta. If Facebook will whittle it

667
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Speaker 1: down to that list for you and only show your

668
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Speaker 1: ads those people, so you can really get so specific

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Speaker 1: about who sees it. Because once you know your archetype,

670
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Speaker 1: like the type of person that enjoys your brand already,

671
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Speaker 1: you can find that woman over and over and over

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Speaker 1: and over again. That's what I figured out. Like, we

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Speaker 1: figured out that women who liked Black Enterprise versus essence

674
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Speaker 1: liked me, and women who like which is weird illness

675
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Speaker 1: Elba but not Oprah liked me. Right, So there's like

676
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Speaker 1: this weird like mix of a type of personality that

677
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Speaker 1: really would enjoy me if they knew I existed. So

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Speaker 1: once we figured out like what her archetype was, we

679
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Speaker 1: just started putting ads toward her and you know and saying, hey,

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Speaker 1: you know, we've got this like great, this great resource,

681
00:32:29,640 --> 00:32:31,880
Speaker 1: the Live Ritual Challenge, and so yeah, if you're a

682
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Speaker 1: business person, you need to learn now how to how

683
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Speaker 1: to start doing digital ads and stuff or else you're

684
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Speaker 1: going to be left behind and it's going to get

685
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Speaker 1: too expensive to do.

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Speaker 2: So I just read this headline. I needed to share

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Speaker 2: it though the Senate has I was talking about Yeah, well,

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Speaker 2: hopefully the Senate's going to block this healthcare bell. But

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Speaker 2: I just read that they have formed a committee of

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Speaker 2: thirteen members, all of whom are men, to discuss the

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Speaker 2: future this Healthcare Act and you know, women's needs and

692
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Speaker 2: oh yeah, the current version of the bill is going

693
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Speaker 2: to defund planned parenthood for a year. So yay, America.

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Speaker 2: Just don't the ambulance fans.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, so nobody has any daughters, nobody has like

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Speaker 1: any They don't care.

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Speaker 2: They don't care. They don't care because they're like, oh, well,

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Speaker 2: I have money, my daughter will be fine. They don't

699
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Speaker 2: care about you know, they don't care about the susie

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Speaker 2: who's the you know, doesn't have healthcare. Parents can't afford

701
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Speaker 2: to help to help her, you know, or pay for

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Speaker 2: her to travel across state lines to get an abortion

703
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Speaker 2: if she's sexually assaulted or something like that. You know,

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Speaker 2: they don't, they don't, they don't know. They cry.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm just like, how do you sleep at night?

706
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Speaker 1: And I'm just like, I guess you're right. So people

707
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Speaker 1: literally have divorced themselves from the fact that everyone doesn't

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Speaker 1: look like them.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely well, it easier than ever because they live in

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Speaker 2: other increasing the living in a bubble where the people

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Speaker 2: in the administration. Every photo of the current administration makes

712
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Speaker 2: me want to like hurl or it makes my stomach

713
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Speaker 2: tight because I see it is like white man, white man,

714
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Speaker 2: white man, white man, white man, woman, white man, white man.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's Morosa.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and you're like, oh, hey, look, oh no, she's

717
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Speaker 2: just a reporter, Like, oh no, she's just there delivering

718
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Speaker 2: the news or delivering the mail. You know, it's it's

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Speaker 2: not it's not a great time.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh chah, Well that's a great segue into are

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Speaker 1: we gonna boos? Are we gonna break? Either way, we're

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Speaker 1: staying brown. I like that, but I'm gonna keep that.

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Speaker 1: It's brown break, brown booth time.

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Speaker 2: You're so confident. I'm like, yeah, I like it too.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I just had to like loosen, like

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Speaker 1: lighten up the mood because I'm like, oh, that whole

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Speaker 1: forty five makes me so depressed. I don't matter what. No,

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Speaker 1: forty five, you know, that's the number of our presidents.

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Speaker 1: The presidents. I don't even like say his name, So

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Speaker 1: forty five makes me, Yeah, Ley moron, it makes me depressed.

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Speaker 2: Listen, you're gonna boost her break Evening.

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Speaker 1: I think I'm going to boost. It's a little random,

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Speaker 1: but I think it's a little lighthearted. So I'm gonna

734
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Speaker 1: boost Zendaya. Here's why this little this young woman is everything.

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Speaker 1: Have you seen this, Like, you know, there's a show

736
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Speaker 1: called Lipstick Battle? Yes, I know, yes, yes, on the

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Speaker 1: same cultural page. Look at this.

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Speaker 2: I see YouTube videos. I know, I know what's up

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Speaker 2: Chrissy Till cool J.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and so it's a fun show. And I mean

741
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Speaker 1: I've seen everybody on there, from Lupita to Mary j

742
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Speaker 1: BLI just it's just a fun, fun, fun show. So

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Speaker 1: Zendeia did she did this really fun Erica Badou Lipstick

744
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:03,080
Speaker 1: Battle to Tyrone. She's got the big head rap. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: it's literally I gotta watch that. Yes, it is everything.

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Speaker 1: I was like, wait a minute, So I just said,

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Speaker 1: you know what. I always love her. She looked amazing

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Speaker 1: at the met gala. She had very afrocentric dress on,

749
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Speaker 1: huge like loose curl frown.

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Speaker 2: So I was definitely watching the metcal of red carpet

751
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Speaker 2: via Twitter. Yeah, just refreshing that hashtag refresh Risanna, refresh.

752
00:36:24,719 --> 00:36:27,840
Speaker 2: That's a big picture of Mandy Kaling refresh exactly.

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Speaker 1: She was everything at the at the met gala, and

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00:36:30,760 --> 00:36:33,239
Speaker 1: so yeah, I just think that as a day. Every

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00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:35,800
Speaker 1: time you know, you read about her, she's either standing

756
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Speaker 1: up for herself or someone else's rits or just flang.

757
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:42,160
Speaker 1: And so just a little boost to you, Zee, that's it.

758
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Speaker 2: I love her. Good boost And it's fun if you follow,

759
00:36:46,360 --> 00:36:48,520
Speaker 2: Like there's all this there's like a new class of

760
00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:53,400
Speaker 2: young black girl magic, like among celebrities like Yara Hashidi

761
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Speaker 2: from Blackish, and then Zendeia and then Amandola Stenberg and

762
00:36:59,080 --> 00:37:01,200
Speaker 2: and then two it's like the fairy godmothers like Tracy

763
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Speaker 2: Ellis Ross and Kerrie Washington, Shonda Rhimes and do Ava

764
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Speaker 2: Duvernet and I follow them all on Instagram and it's

765
00:37:07,920 --> 00:37:09,880
Speaker 2: so cute because they all share each other's posts and

766
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:11,799
Speaker 2: they all like, like, you know, support each other. It's

767
00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:15,879
Speaker 2: really beautiful. But just throwing that out there, I want

768
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Speaker 2: to do I'm gonna do a boost too. And I

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Speaker 2: love this time of year because it's college graduation season.

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Speaker 2: And congratulations to the class of twenty seventeen, which includes

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Speaker 2: my really good friend Toulou who just actually got her masters.

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Speaker 2: I just got her NBA when I'm super proud of

773
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Speaker 2: her because she did it while commuting an hour and

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Speaker 2: a half to school with a toddler.

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Speaker 1: Wow.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah for most I think for half the year,

777
00:37:40,920 --> 00:37:43,120
Speaker 2: he was in daycare at her school, so she was

778
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Speaker 2: commuting with her son to class, like really just juggling everything.

779
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:51,920
Speaker 2: So shout out to Tulou. Hey Tulu, Hey Tulu. And

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Speaker 2: I want to shout out because my favorite time of

781
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Speaker 2: this is the reason I like this time of year

782
00:37:56,000 --> 00:37:58,240
Speaker 2: so much is because there's always these like fabulous stories

783
00:37:58,280 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 2: of these like black Girl, Black Boy, Matt of like

784
00:38:01,320 --> 00:38:04,640
Speaker 2: kids getting into every single Ivy League school. And there's

785
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Speaker 2: two that we shared and I wanted to share them.

786
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Speaker 2: So this one is that as this teenager who apparently

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Speaker 2: did not get asked to prom, which I can't imagine

788
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Speaker 2: because she's gorgeous.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I saw this hilarious.

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Speaker 2: So instead of not instead of going, you know, just

791
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Speaker 2: spaying the night at home and eating ice cream, she

792
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:25,520
Speaker 2: showed up a prom uh with her Harvard acceptance letter

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Speaker 2: in her hand.

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Speaker 1: And they're.

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Speaker 2: So badass, Like, who what school does she go to?

796
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Speaker 2: For some idiot not to want to take her A

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00:38:35,120 --> 00:38:38,839
Speaker 2: problem I don't understand, So shout out to her, I'm

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Speaker 2: gonna find her name real quick. Oh Priscilla, samey. She's

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Speaker 2: seventeen years old. So that was badass. And then the Quadruples.

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Speaker 2: Did you see this? The quadruples from Ohio?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, who all.

802
00:38:50,160 --> 00:38:51,719
Speaker 2: Got into IVY leagues and they're going to go to

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Speaker 2: college together.

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Speaker 1: That is awesome.

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Speaker 2: Where they go on Yale?

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Speaker 1: Oh Yale?

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00:38:55,880 --> 00:38:57,759
Speaker 2: Yeah, yea yeah. The one I'll go into Yale is

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Speaker 2: right there. Seriously, it's hard to get one kid right

809
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Speaker 2: plus four.

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00:39:02,280 --> 00:39:05,480
Speaker 1: I know. And then on top of that, like what

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Speaker 1: I mean, I've been like my sister, you know, she

812
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Speaker 1: just had her baby, so I've been like sleeping over

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Speaker 1: because her husband works nights, and I was sleeping over

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Speaker 1: and like babysitting or at least helping because she had

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Speaker 1: the newborn that she has to get up every few

816
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Speaker 1: hours to feed. And then she's got the one and

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Speaker 1: a half year old Roman, who is crazy in a

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Speaker 1: good way, but still crazy. And I was like, yo too, dude,

819
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Speaker 1: two yo. I would try to put the baby to

820
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Speaker 1: sleep and Roman is doing flips, like look at me.

821
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Speaker 1: His big thing is wow, he knows like three words. Wow. Wow.

822
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Speaker 1: I'm like, Roman, we get it. It starts like, wow,

823
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Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know what are you communicating? That

824
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Speaker 1: was so overwhelmed. I can't imagine four So congrats to

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Speaker 1: your parents, quadruplets, quadruplets, quads, whatever, Just congrats.

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Speaker 2: And the dad has quoted us saying what's the secret.

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Speaker 2: He says, lots of push ups and stead up and running,

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Speaker 2: discipline and structure. That's a good dad right there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I could see that, Like, what you're

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Speaker 1: not gonna do is make me crazy.

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Speaker 2: I guess just god man like good parenting. I guess

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Speaker 2: just four kids at one time.

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Speaker 1: My god. She see the article that the kids inherit

834
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Speaker 1: their they're smart from their mom.

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Speaker 2: Oh I believe that one hundred percent.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I was like, ah, I never thought they were,

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Speaker 1: like because I guess is it the why is it

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Speaker 1: women's we're the Y chromosome or the X chromosome?

839
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Speaker 2: We have double X, so double X.

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Speaker 1: And they said that your intelligence is found in that chromosome.

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Speaker 1: So it doesn't matter who your daddy is. Your mama

842
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Speaker 1: gives you your brain. And I said, oh, interesting.

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Speaker 2: Some dads are like, whoof not my fault, that's all you.

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Speaker 1: So I just thought I throw that in there, like

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Speaker 1: all right, well, congratulations, mama.

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Speaker 2: Well that's my brown break to all the college guys

847
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Speaker 2: at twenty seventeen makes me feel so old.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what about these prom pictures? Prom? Two K? What

849
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:02,360
Speaker 1: is it? Prom to seventeen? K?

850
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Speaker 2: I don't know from two K?

851
00:41:04,960 --> 00:41:06,080
Speaker 1: No prom seventeen.

852
00:41:06,120 --> 00:41:08,560
Speaker 2: I mean like I've been seeing like, oh, two K seventeen,

853
00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:10,640
Speaker 2: that's what it is, two K seventeen.

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Speaker 1: And so if you click on that these prom dresses.

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Speaker 1: I mean I was on looking today and I thought

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Speaker 1: to myself, so is she is she? Is she twenty five?

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00:41:18,280 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 1: I mean these girls look like grown, beautiful, accomplished. I

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Speaker 1: have a job and a Porsche and a penthouse apartment

859
00:41:26,000 --> 00:41:30,720
Speaker 1: in New York City. Women meanwhile, they're like, I'm sixteen.

860
00:41:31,880 --> 00:41:33,080
Speaker 2: Their parents are like they look.

861
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:37,320
Speaker 1: But they look. I mean, I did not have it.

862
00:41:37,440 --> 00:41:41,160
Speaker 1: I don't have this together now, Like now, I can't

863
00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:43,280
Speaker 1: even slay like that. These girls are out here slaying

864
00:41:43,320 --> 00:41:44,880
Speaker 1: and I just I can't deal. And I love it.

865
00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:45,839
Speaker 2: Did you go to prom?

866
00:41:46,800 --> 00:41:49,919
Speaker 1: I did, but nobody asked me either. So my best

867
00:41:49,960 --> 00:41:51,960
Speaker 1: friend had her date say, you know, I'm going with

868
00:41:52,040 --> 00:41:55,120
Speaker 1: Tiffany and Veronica. I was like, oh, I love you, Veronica.

869
00:41:55,400 --> 00:41:58,200
Speaker 2: That's the way to do it. Just go with your girlfriends. Yeah,

870
00:41:58,440 --> 00:41:59,520
Speaker 2: just go with your girlfriends.

871
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:01,640
Speaker 1: Actually, her mom like, could you hook me up? She

872
00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:04,600
Speaker 1: was like, oh yeah, no, I.

873
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 2: Do remember that. My twelfth grade prom dress was a

874
00:42:07,480 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 2: big that was like my first big purchase. I think

875
00:42:09,719 --> 00:42:13,839
Speaker 2: it was two hundred and eighty dollars and I picked

876
00:42:13,880 --> 00:42:15,319
Speaker 2: it out a special and I worked really hard at

877
00:42:15,320 --> 00:42:18,960
Speaker 2: the gap and then I took my gay ex boyfriend.

878
00:42:18,680 --> 00:42:21,040
Speaker 1: To the problem. Did you know he was gay? Well,

879
00:42:21,040 --> 00:42:23,520
Speaker 1: obviously not when you were dating. No, I was so naive.

880
00:42:24,040 --> 00:42:28,439
Speaker 2: Everybody but me knew let's not go down that. Let's

881
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 2: not go down that role. Now you guys know officially,

882
00:42:30,640 --> 00:42:34,359
Speaker 2: you officially know way too much about my life, way

883
00:42:34,440 --> 00:42:34,839
Speaker 2: too much.

884
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:36,879
Speaker 1: Great.

885
00:42:37,600 --> 00:42:38,680
Speaker 2: He was a great dance partner.

886
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:41,160
Speaker 1: I think we all liked the guy that You're like,

887
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: how did I not? How did how did I not?

888
00:42:43,440 --> 00:42:44,040
Speaker 1: How did I go?

889
00:42:44,760 --> 00:42:46,680
Speaker 2: Not only did I go with him? I turned down

890
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:50,680
Speaker 2: the hot six foot something basketball player who I will

891
00:42:50,760 --> 00:42:54,600
Speaker 2: not name. Maybe he listens, why don't you turned down

892
00:42:55,560 --> 00:42:57,120
Speaker 2: because I had a crush on a crush on my

893
00:42:57,160 --> 00:43:01,920
Speaker 2: gay ex boyfriend. He was very sensitive and listen to me.

894
00:43:04,600 --> 00:43:10,080
Speaker 1: Oh my god, Oh my gosh, feel like he's so great,

895
00:43:10,120 --> 00:43:12,480
Speaker 1: he's like a friend. He's like, if you only do.

896
00:43:13,600 --> 00:43:17,040
Speaker 2: He braids my hair? He didn't do that, all right, anyway,

897
00:43:17,080 --> 00:43:18,439
Speaker 2: we're going down a treacherous path.

898
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:22,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that is how hilarious And he's like no, clearly,

899
00:43:23,000 --> 00:43:25,040
Speaker 1: like yeah, that is hilarious.

900
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:27,920
Speaker 2: They were an all Ivy League. Quadrupe was from we

901
00:43:27,960 --> 00:43:32,839
Speaker 2: were in school. Okay to school with the Ivy League

902
00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:42,279
Speaker 2: quadrup was our questions. Our listeners do have questions. And

903
00:43:42,280 --> 00:43:43,640
Speaker 2: you know what I love even more is when they

904
00:43:44,200 --> 00:43:46,839
Speaker 2: when people get up to us or back to us.

905
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:49,520
Speaker 2: I can't speak today when they get back to us

906
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:52,480
Speaker 2: with updates. So I don't remember what we used for

907
00:43:52,560 --> 00:43:55,839
Speaker 2: this woman's code name a while back, but she asked

908
00:43:55,920 --> 00:43:58,839
Speaker 2: us a question I would say a couple of months ago,

909
00:43:59,320 --> 00:44:01,080
Speaker 2: she says, a few. I feel like it was longer,

910
00:44:02,200 --> 00:44:06,239
Speaker 2: asking about she needed encouragement to find a new job

911
00:44:06,400 --> 00:44:08,520
Speaker 2: and to continue her job or she wasn't happy at

912
00:44:08,560 --> 00:44:11,520
Speaker 2: her job. And I forget what we said, but apparently

913
00:44:11,600 --> 00:44:13,360
Speaker 2: it was awesome, because she says, I just wanted to

914
00:44:13,440 --> 00:44:15,600
Speaker 2: let you know that. I ended up having two offers

915
00:44:16,160 --> 00:44:19,160
Speaker 2: this week for new opportunities I found through networking. I

916
00:44:19,280 --> 00:44:21,520
Speaker 2: have happily accepted an offer and will be starting at

917
00:44:21,560 --> 00:44:22,839
Speaker 2: the end of May.

918
00:44:23,520 --> 00:44:27,400
Speaker 1: Yeahs, we'll be making things happen me where I'm like,

919
00:44:27,520 --> 00:44:28,120
Speaker 1: what do we say?

920
00:44:29,000 --> 00:44:32,440
Speaker 2: I'm sure she did all the work, I know, but

921
00:44:32,520 --> 00:44:33,160
Speaker 2: that's exciting.

922
00:44:33,280 --> 00:44:33,480
Speaker 1: Yay.

923
00:44:34,000 --> 00:44:36,560
Speaker 2: Even when you're down, you always bounce back, you know, Yeah,

924
00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:39,800
Speaker 2: for sure. So if you have questions, as always, you

925
00:44:39,920 --> 00:44:44,840
Speaker 2: can go to Brown Ambition Podcast dot com dot com where.

926
00:44:44,680 --> 00:44:45,160
Speaker 1: You at.

927
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:50,080
Speaker 2: Slow all right, go ahead, or you can email us

928
00:44:50,160 --> 00:44:53,799
Speaker 2: at Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com. And if

929
00:44:53,840 --> 00:44:56,160
Speaker 2: you go to the website Bronambition podcast dot com, you

930
00:44:56,239 --> 00:44:58,200
Speaker 2: just have to click on ask us anything. And while

931
00:44:58,200 --> 00:44:59,959
Speaker 2: you're there, take a look around at our beautiful websit.

932
00:45:00,080 --> 00:45:03,160
Speaker 2: I go to our Facebook page, like us there, leave

933
00:45:03,239 --> 00:45:09,480
Speaker 2: us a note chill out, meet each other and anyway,

934
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:12,640
Speaker 2: I'm mumbling now, so we'll go on to today's question.

935
00:45:13,840 --> 00:45:19,960
Speaker 2: Let's just call her Okay, okay, okay, okay. So she says, Hi, girls,

936
00:45:20,080 --> 00:45:21,919
Speaker 2: I'm a new listener and I am trying to become

937
00:45:22,000 --> 00:45:25,840
Speaker 2: more aware and educated on my finances. Listening to your podcast,

938
00:45:25,920 --> 00:45:28,279
Speaker 2: I realize that I'm currently in a circumstance that no

939
00:45:28,320 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 2: one really talks about anymore. I'm currently working for a

940
00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:36,160
Speaker 2: small business owner, and although it's very successful, my boss

941
00:45:36,239 --> 00:45:38,200
Speaker 2: is not in a position to provide her office with

942
00:45:38,320 --> 00:45:42,719
Speaker 2: any benefits other than vision and dental. With that being said,

943
00:45:42,920 --> 00:45:45,800
Speaker 2: what is the best way to invest in a retirement

944
00:45:45,840 --> 00:45:49,880
Speaker 2: of a retirement fund without the assistance of an employer

945
00:45:50,120 --> 00:45:54,080
Speaker 2: and without employer matching shaw?

946
00:45:54,480 --> 00:45:58,440
Speaker 1: You should It's not one of my employees. I know

947
00:45:58,480 --> 00:46:00,440
Speaker 1: it's not because they don't even get vision in that anyway,

948
00:46:00,480 --> 00:46:01,160
Speaker 1: we're working on it.

949
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:05,560
Speaker 2: I think this is probably a lot more common than

950
00:46:05,880 --> 00:46:09,200
Speaker 2: than some people think, because a lot of small businesses

951
00:46:10,120 --> 00:46:11,959
Speaker 2: don't have to offer If you have under a certain

952
00:46:12,000 --> 00:46:13,719
Speaker 2: I think like twenty five or fifty, you don't have

953
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:17,759
Speaker 2: to offer any benefits. So so yeah, that's tough, but

954
00:46:18,040 --> 00:46:18,879
Speaker 2: not impossible.

955
00:46:19,320 --> 00:46:19,520
Speaker 1: Yep.

956
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 2: I think your first step is and she's she asked

957
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:25,560
Speaker 2: specifically about retirement, although she didn't mention where she gets

958
00:46:25,600 --> 00:46:28,279
Speaker 2: health care from. But since she asked about retirement, I

959
00:46:28,320 --> 00:46:32,239
Speaker 2: would say you can easily open an IRA through a

960
00:46:32,480 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 2: brokerage firm and some of my favorites because they tend

961
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:40,759
Speaker 2: to be very transparent, very long term investment, and very affordable.

962
00:46:41,560 --> 00:46:48,320
Speaker 2: Our Vanguard Charles Schwab I'm about to get trans America

963
00:46:48,360 --> 00:46:51,080
Speaker 2: and TD Ameritrade mixed up, but they're both fine. So

964
00:46:52,040 --> 00:46:54,960
Speaker 2: but top top top pick will probably be Banguard, Vanguard,

965
00:46:55,280 --> 00:46:57,839
Speaker 2: uh In Tarls Schwab is another one.

966
00:46:58,040 --> 00:46:59,600
Speaker 1: Rock iray or you're telling her.

967
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 2: Well, I mean that's up to her. The difference between

968
00:47:03,520 --> 00:47:09,560
Speaker 2: a wroth and a traditional iray. Traditional iray you put

969
00:47:09,640 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 2: money in and it's put in tax free, and your

970
00:47:12,239 --> 00:47:16,080
Speaker 2: tax later when you withdraw the funds. With a wroth iray,

971
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:18,800
Speaker 2: your tax today your current tax rate, and you withdraw

972
00:47:18,880 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 2: the funds tax free when you're ready to retire. If

973
00:47:22,560 --> 00:47:25,120
Speaker 2: you're wondering, why would I just give the government money now?

974
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:30,440
Speaker 2: The idea if you're younger, they typically say, although you'd

975
00:47:30,440 --> 00:47:33,680
Speaker 2: probably want to get advice from a you know, investment excerpt,

976
00:47:33,719 --> 00:47:36,840
Speaker 2: but typically the idea generally and why they'd want to

977
00:47:37,360 --> 00:47:41,880
Speaker 2: they recommend people take out a wroth iray. It is

978
00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:43,920
Speaker 2: because if you get tax at your current tax rate,

979
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:47,480
Speaker 2: as you get older, the ideas that your income will

980
00:47:47,560 --> 00:47:50,160
Speaker 2: increase and so will go tax rate. So really it's

981
00:47:50,200 --> 00:47:52,680
Speaker 2: a tax savings because you're forgetting tax at a lower

982
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:54,480
Speaker 2: rate today. It means you won't get tax at your

983
00:47:54,560 --> 00:47:58,439
Speaker 2: higher rate later. Yeah, but again it's very it's hard

984
00:47:58,520 --> 00:48:03,920
Speaker 2: to give general advice. But unfortunately, there's not much you

985
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:06,640
Speaker 2: can do if you don't get a match from your employer.

986
00:48:06,719 --> 00:48:09,880
Speaker 2: All you can do is increase or try to increase.

987
00:48:10,560 --> 00:48:13,600
Speaker 2: It just invests all that a little bit more than

988
00:48:13,640 --> 00:48:16,120
Speaker 2: what you maybe would do if you're getting a match

989
00:48:16,120 --> 00:48:17,080
Speaker 2: from your employer, right.

990
00:48:18,040 --> 00:48:20,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean yeah, because I and not every I mean,

991
00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:25,200
Speaker 1: I don't know too many small businesses that do match.

992
00:48:25,880 --> 00:48:30,279
Speaker 1: I mean because it's expensive to like, you know, bring

993
00:48:30,440 --> 00:48:33,400
Speaker 1: on so in all and and to be all transparent.

994
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:37,200
Speaker 1: I just switch from an LLC, which is basically like

995
00:48:39,160 --> 00:48:42,680
Speaker 1: it's just a different type of business, to an es corp,

996
00:48:43,000 --> 00:48:46,640
Speaker 1: where now I work for my business, I'm not my business,

997
00:48:46,880 --> 00:48:48,800
Speaker 1: which an LLC is kind of like you are your business,

998
00:48:48,880 --> 00:48:51,120
Speaker 1: you know, And so with an es corp, you have

999
00:48:51,239 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 1: to have at least one employee, one official official employee,

1000
00:48:54,760 --> 00:48:57,759
Speaker 1: like right now, I like on the books, they're not

1001
00:48:58,400 --> 00:49:00,279
Speaker 1: the people who work for me are not employee ease,

1002
00:49:00,600 --> 00:49:05,560
Speaker 1: they are contractors, right, So that because I can't afford

1003
00:49:05,640 --> 00:49:08,360
Speaker 1: and we're working towards that, but I can't afford because

1004
00:49:08,360 --> 00:49:10,880
Speaker 1: if I make somebody an employee there's certain things that

1005
00:49:10,920 --> 00:49:12,600
Speaker 1: you have to do, like you know, you have to

1006
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:15,040
Speaker 1: there's certain packages you have to pay. I have to

1007
00:49:15,080 --> 00:49:17,200
Speaker 1: provide certain types, certain level of health care, you know

1008
00:49:17,320 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 1: that kind of stuff. So right now I'm the only

1009
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:23,520
Speaker 1: official employee, and then the next employee, like hopefully later

1010
00:49:23,600 --> 00:49:26,400
Speaker 1: on this year it'll be my CEO CR and then

1011
00:49:26,440 --> 00:49:28,600
Speaker 1: we'll bring on more people. But you have to be

1012
00:49:28,640 --> 00:49:31,600
Speaker 1: able to pay for that, and so, you know, so

1013
00:49:31,920 --> 00:49:35,040
Speaker 1: you kind of ask yourself, do I bring on additional

1014
00:49:35,080 --> 00:49:38,200
Speaker 1: employees or do I the employees I do have, do

1015
00:49:38,360 --> 00:49:41,400
Speaker 1: I give them better benefits? And so everything costs, you know,

1016
00:49:42,200 --> 00:49:45,320
Speaker 1: a lot of money basically, But if you're with the

1017
00:49:45,400 --> 00:49:47,399
Speaker 1: company that you really see a lot of growth there

1018
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:49,879
Speaker 1: and you see that it's like you know that there's

1019
00:49:50,000 --> 00:49:53,160
Speaker 1: a that there's something happening here. These are things you

1020
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:56,480
Speaker 1: could talk to your employer about about, Like, you know,

1021
00:49:56,680 --> 00:49:59,360
Speaker 1: I we really love this because now, for example, I

1022
00:49:59,440 --> 00:50:02,279
Speaker 1: have a I don't I mean, for lack of better word,

1023
00:50:02,280 --> 00:50:05,160
Speaker 1: I guess she's like our CFO. But you know, like

1024
00:50:05,200 --> 00:50:07,399
Speaker 1: I said, I don't have any employees. She just does

1025
00:50:07,480 --> 00:50:10,440
Speaker 1: contract work for us, but she has been like really

1026
00:50:10,600 --> 00:50:13,759
Speaker 1: helping us to see what we're making versus what we're

1027
00:50:13,800 --> 00:50:16,719
Speaker 1: spending and what we can't spend before. Like literally this

1028
00:50:16,800 --> 00:50:19,200
Speaker 1: is how I used to make decisions. Sierra would be like, hey,

1029
00:50:19,320 --> 00:50:20,920
Speaker 1: you know, I think we should get this program. It's

1030
00:50:20,960 --> 00:50:23,920
Speaker 1: gonna you know, make it smoother to like add courses

1031
00:50:23,960 --> 00:50:26,520
Speaker 1: to the academy. How much is it thirty dollars A long?

1032
00:50:26,680 --> 00:50:30,000
Speaker 2: I like I had no, like, you know, I don't

1033
00:50:30,040 --> 00:50:33,560
Speaker 2: know the budget needs to have no budget for the business.

1034
00:50:33,600 --> 00:50:35,719
Speaker 1: Yeah, which is so crazy because in my personal life

1035
00:50:35,840 --> 00:50:38,920
Speaker 1: budget to the tea. But with the business, I was

1036
00:50:39,120 --> 00:50:42,600
Speaker 1: more like, I don't know. You just do whatever you

1037
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:45,440
Speaker 1: can to grow. And I'm like, well, the thing is

1038
00:50:45,840 --> 00:50:47,759
Speaker 1: we don't have any debt. The business doesn't have any debt,

1039
00:50:48,400 --> 00:50:50,520
Speaker 1: and so I just kind of felt like, well, we

1040
00:50:50,680 --> 00:50:53,040
Speaker 1: made money, so I know there's more than thirty dollars

1041
00:50:53,120 --> 00:50:57,360
Speaker 1: left over. So yeah, but there was no real I

1042
00:50:57,440 --> 00:51:00,440
Speaker 1: couldn't tell you what I was making versus what I

1043
00:51:00,480 --> 00:51:03,080
Speaker 1: was spending, although I kept really copious, like I kept

1044
00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:07,960
Speaker 1: really detailed records. So when Rachel, our new CFO, came on,

1045
00:51:08,440 --> 00:51:11,680
Speaker 1: she was like, for someone who was all over the place,

1046
00:51:11,800 --> 00:51:14,040
Speaker 1: you have like the best records, So like I kept

1047
00:51:14,120 --> 00:51:16,719
Speaker 1: record of every petty spent and every penny made, but

1048
00:51:16,880 --> 00:51:18,880
Speaker 1: there was no sense made out of those records, you

1049
00:51:18,880 --> 00:51:21,480
Speaker 1: see what I mean? And so like just because there

1050
00:51:21,560 --> 00:51:23,320
Speaker 1: was so much on top of everything else, I didn't

1051
00:51:23,360 --> 00:51:25,360
Speaker 1: really like, yeah, I could tell you like, oh, you know,

1052
00:51:25,440 --> 00:51:27,239
Speaker 1: this month we made ten thousand and then we spent

1053
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:30,520
Speaker 1: you know, two, but there was no real sense made

1054
00:51:30,560 --> 00:51:32,759
Speaker 1: of like, well, where is the money really going? You know,

1055
00:51:32,880 --> 00:51:34,680
Speaker 1: how much of this is staff? How much of this

1056
00:51:34,800 --> 00:51:37,080
Speaker 1: is this? How much? So I didn't have any like reports.

1057
00:51:37,440 --> 00:51:40,200
Speaker 1: I just had like numbers like ten to eight, ten

1058
00:51:40,320 --> 00:51:42,320
Speaker 1: to two, three to four, you know. And so with

1059
00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:44,279
Speaker 1: her coming on, like I asked the other day, I

1060
00:51:44,320 --> 00:51:46,840
Speaker 1: always feel like that we're spending too much, you know.

1061
00:51:47,239 --> 00:51:48,840
Speaker 1: And I asked her the other day form for example,

1062
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:51,040
Speaker 1: the academy, and I was like, you know, Rachel, can

1063
00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:52,680
Speaker 1: you share with us, like, you know, if we have

1064
00:51:52,840 --> 00:51:55,239
Speaker 1: a meeting every Thursday, with like a money meeting every

1065
00:51:55,280 --> 00:51:57,759
Speaker 1: Thursday with everyone. Rachel and I talk almost every day

1066
00:51:57,760 --> 00:51:59,880
Speaker 1: about money, but with everyone. And she said, you know

1067
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:04,560
Speaker 1: that we spend six percent our operating expense is six

1068
00:52:04,680 --> 00:52:07,520
Speaker 1: percent of our gross I'm like, what, that's good, right?

1069
00:52:07,600 --> 00:52:11,600
Speaker 1: She was activity that's incredible and I was like, oh, Neil,

1070
00:52:11,719 --> 00:52:14,680
Speaker 1: I didn't. Who know, she's activity. You only have to

1071
00:52:14,760 --> 00:52:17,080
Speaker 1: spend six dollars to make one hundred dollars. And I

1072
00:52:17,200 --> 00:52:20,640
Speaker 1: was like, that's really that's good, okay. And so now

1073
00:52:20,840 --> 00:52:23,239
Speaker 1: we can work from a place of you know how

1074
00:52:23,400 --> 00:52:25,440
Speaker 1: business should go. So the two things I wish I

1075
00:52:25,480 --> 00:52:28,000
Speaker 1: would have known better, you know, as far as running

1076
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:29,640
Speaker 1: a business is like one I should have gotten like

1077
00:52:30,120 --> 00:52:33,000
Speaker 1: an assistant sooner and to your money person. And so

1078
00:52:33,360 --> 00:52:35,719
Speaker 1: I say that to say I'm be a listener with

1079
00:52:35,800 --> 00:52:38,440
Speaker 1: this letter that sometimes sitting down and talking with like,

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00:52:38,719 --> 00:52:41,640
Speaker 1: I don't know how small the small business is, but oftentimes,

1081
00:52:41,719 --> 00:52:45,560
Speaker 1: you know, small business owners are good at not necessarily

1082
00:52:45,640 --> 00:52:47,279
Speaker 1: the money aspect. But they're good at the thing that

1083
00:52:47,320 --> 00:52:49,480
Speaker 1: they're doing. They're good at baking the cake, or they're

1084
00:52:49,520 --> 00:52:52,520
Speaker 1: good at singing the song or teaching or whatever that is,

1085
00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:55,600
Speaker 1: but they're not necessarily good at running the business. And

1086
00:52:55,960 --> 00:52:58,839
Speaker 1: a little nudging, a little suggestion can go a long way,

1087
00:52:58,880 --> 00:53:00,840
Speaker 1: because I know we go along with for me and

1088
00:53:00,960 --> 00:53:02,920
Speaker 1: so you know that would be my advice is that yes,

1089
00:53:03,360 --> 00:53:06,040
Speaker 1: do do it on your own, but don't don't discount

1090
00:53:06,120 --> 00:53:08,680
Speaker 1: that they haven't done it. Just because they don't want to.

1091
00:53:09,080 --> 00:53:11,480
Speaker 1: Maybe they just need some help restructuring, you know, their

1092
00:53:11,520 --> 00:53:13,000
Speaker 1: finances right.

1093
00:53:13,080 --> 00:53:14,839
Speaker 2: And it's and that's what makes it sort of hard

1094
00:53:14,880 --> 00:53:16,600
Speaker 2: to work for a small business too, is that it's

1095
00:53:16,640 --> 00:53:18,880
Speaker 2: almost good because you're so close and up close and

1096
00:53:18,960 --> 00:53:22,280
Speaker 2: personal with your with your bosses, with the founders and whatnot.

1097
00:53:22,320 --> 00:53:24,600
Speaker 2: But and you have the opportunity to speak up and

1098
00:53:24,680 --> 00:53:26,560
Speaker 2: ask for what you need or what you want. But

1099
00:53:26,680 --> 00:53:28,399
Speaker 2: it also is kind of like you have to because

1100
00:53:28,400 --> 00:53:29,719
Speaker 2: it's not like anyone else is going to do it.

1101
00:53:30,320 --> 00:53:32,120
Speaker 2: You know, like you really have to be your advocate.

1102
00:53:32,200 --> 00:53:35,600
Speaker 2: There's no HR department and you know, no union or

1103
00:53:35,640 --> 00:53:38,400
Speaker 2: whatever to talk up. So but in the in the

1104
00:53:38,480 --> 00:53:41,160
Speaker 2: near future, what K can certainly do is just open

1105
00:53:41,280 --> 00:53:43,799
Speaker 2: up a basic I ray and I'm a big fund,

1106
00:53:43,920 --> 00:53:46,839
Speaker 2: a big fund. Here I go again. I'm a big

1107
00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:50,440
Speaker 2: fan of target date funds. I think they're super simple.

1108
00:53:50,600 --> 00:53:53,560
Speaker 2: And these are just basically funds where you match it

1109
00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:56,160
Speaker 2: to the date you anticipate that you'll retire, and they'll

1110
00:53:56,400 --> 00:54:00,480
Speaker 2: they'll invest your funds accordingly. And typically that means more

1111
00:54:00,520 --> 00:54:03,040
Speaker 2: aggressive starting out with more stocks, and then as you

1112
00:54:03,120 --> 00:54:06,239
Speaker 2: get older and closer to retirement, it'll wean you off

1113
00:54:06,320 --> 00:54:12,200
Speaker 2: and shift your investments more toward low risk investments like bonds.

1114
00:54:13,160 --> 00:54:16,640
Speaker 2: And I think, well, I definitely know that Vanguard, Charles Schwab,

1115
00:54:16,800 --> 00:54:21,279
Speaker 2: Fidelity all have their own versions of target date funds,

1116
00:54:21,280 --> 00:54:24,279
Speaker 2: so they're all good. And you only need about what

1117
00:54:24,400 --> 00:54:27,000
Speaker 2: five hundred bucks to start five hundred to one thousand

1118
00:54:27,040 --> 00:54:30,040
Speaker 2: dollars to open up one of these accounts, so not

1119
00:54:30,239 --> 00:54:30,600
Speaker 2: very much.

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00:54:31,520 --> 00:54:33,759
Speaker 1: Yeah, so just get started as sooner the better. When

1121
00:54:33,760 --> 00:54:34,120
Speaker 1: it comes to.

1122
00:54:34,160 --> 00:54:37,640
Speaker 2: Retirement, absolutely like don't yeah, and you don't let the

1123
00:54:37,719 --> 00:54:40,120
Speaker 2: fact that you don't have it makes it harder if

1124
00:54:40,160 --> 00:54:45,520
Speaker 2: you don't have, you know, a employment offering for benefits.

1125
00:54:45,560 --> 00:54:47,680
Speaker 2: But at the same time, I mean, just because your

1126
00:54:47,719 --> 00:54:50,680
Speaker 2: employer offers you benefits doesn't mean it's going to be awesome. Yeah,

1127
00:54:50,840 --> 00:54:53,000
Speaker 2: a good retirement plan. So it's nice to have control

1128
00:54:53,040 --> 00:54:57,680
Speaker 2: over everything in a way. Yeah, so thinks Okay, and

1129
00:54:57,880 --> 00:54:59,920
Speaker 2: again if you have questions, go to brand Ambition pot

1130
00:55:00,080 --> 00:55:03,520
Speaker 2: cast dot com or email us Front Ambition podcast at

1131
00:55:03,640 --> 00:55:07,719
Speaker 2: gmail dot com dot com. No, I know you still

1132
00:55:07,760 --> 00:55:08,000
Speaker 2: knew it.

1133
00:55:08,880 --> 00:55:10,240
Speaker 1: I was on it down when I was like waiting,

1134
00:55:10,239 --> 00:55:26,000
Speaker 1: I was like, okay, she's sick, Okay, is it time

1135
00:55:26,080 --> 00:55:26,720
Speaker 1: for wins?

1136
00:55:27,680 --> 00:55:29,359
Speaker 2: I believe it's wins. It's been a wile since we've

1137
00:55:29,360 --> 00:55:29,880
Speaker 2: done wins.

1138
00:55:30,320 --> 00:55:33,320
Speaker 1: I know, all we do is win, win, win, no

1139
00:55:33,480 --> 00:55:36,680
Speaker 1: matter what. We haven't done wins in the wild, so

1140
00:55:37,000 --> 00:55:43,000
Speaker 1: what so yeah, so it's time for you know, first.

1141
00:55:45,200 --> 00:55:45,719
Speaker 2: Whens.

1142
00:55:47,480 --> 00:55:50,520
Speaker 1: Colleenla, nobody came from her wins.

1143
00:55:52,320 --> 00:55:53,920
Speaker 2: I forgot what wins were supposed to be.

1144
00:55:54,640 --> 00:55:56,800
Speaker 1: There's supposed to be. I mean, if they can be personal,

1145
00:55:57,040 --> 00:55:58,440
Speaker 1: but this is supposed to be like you know, some

1146
00:55:58,840 --> 00:56:01,960
Speaker 1: because sometimes and I mean today was was was decent.

1147
00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:04,640
Speaker 1: But I think we started wins because you know, it

1148
00:56:04,800 --> 00:56:08,200
Speaker 1: was during the time of the reign of He who

1149
00:56:08,239 --> 00:56:10,760
Speaker 1: shall not be named, when when that transition was happening

1150
00:56:10,840 --> 00:56:12,640
Speaker 1: and it got a little heavy and we needed something.

1151
00:56:12,760 --> 00:56:15,320
Speaker 1: We wanted to always end on a bright note. And

1152
00:56:15,480 --> 00:56:17,279
Speaker 1: so Winds were like no matter what we talked about,

1153
00:56:17,440 --> 00:56:20,200
Speaker 1: whether how bad or whatever, that we always ended with

1154
00:56:20,280 --> 00:56:23,239
Speaker 1: something positive. Got it.

1155
00:56:25,239 --> 00:56:26,640
Speaker 2: I'm back on the Winds train.

1156
00:56:27,760 --> 00:56:29,400
Speaker 1: Well, here's a win, even though this is like, you know,

1157
00:56:29,480 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 1: a little bit on the old side. But no, I'm

1158
00:56:32,120 --> 00:56:33,759
Speaker 1: not gonna do that one that is really old. I'm

1159
00:56:33,800 --> 00:56:38,560
Speaker 1: like to like, go play yourself. I'm like, all right,

1160
00:56:38,600 --> 00:56:45,600
Speaker 1: all right, all right, let's see I don't know. I

1161
00:56:45,760 --> 00:56:48,200
Speaker 1: just didn't think wins are just brown girls in general,

1162
00:56:48,320 --> 00:56:52,000
Speaker 1: because we're like just pretty awesome. I have to say,

1163
00:56:52,200 --> 00:56:55,040
Speaker 1: I don't know, we're just out here slain and you know,

1164
00:56:57,760 --> 00:57:01,560
Speaker 1: I know, I mean, I know, I thought I had

1165
00:57:01,600 --> 00:57:06,080
Speaker 1: a win and I was like, I don't. Well, okay, well,

1166
00:57:06,760 --> 00:57:08,320
Speaker 1: I mean, well that's the first one I feel like

1167
00:57:08,320 --> 00:57:10,040
Speaker 1: I already talked about, like you know the list name. Well,

1168
00:57:10,040 --> 00:57:12,239
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be at fest like I have a win.

1169
00:57:12,360 --> 00:57:14,080
Speaker 2: But it's really fun listening to your ramble.

1170
00:57:14,640 --> 00:57:17,520
Speaker 1: Okay, yes, yes, please bring.

1171
00:57:19,600 --> 00:57:24,440
Speaker 2: Let's see how long Tiffany can go. No, I did

1172
00:57:24,520 --> 00:57:26,360
Speaker 2: want to do a win, and actually I had this

1173
00:57:26,440 --> 00:57:28,640
Speaker 2: written down for last week. I was prepared for a

1174
00:57:28,680 --> 00:57:31,160
Speaker 2: win last week, but we didn't do one. And it's

1175
00:57:31,200 --> 00:57:34,280
Speaker 2: gonna sound like a cheap one, but it's really meaningful.

1176
00:57:34,360 --> 00:57:36,280
Speaker 2: And I wanted to give a win to my sister,

1177
00:57:37,800 --> 00:57:42,800
Speaker 2: who I feel like is she's like the unsung hero

1178
00:57:43,280 --> 00:57:46,120
Speaker 2: of my life and of my siblings' lives, and I

1179
00:57:46,240 --> 00:57:48,840
Speaker 2: just feel super appreciative to her. You know how in

1180
00:57:48,960 --> 00:57:51,040
Speaker 2: a family like we have four siblings, and I feel

1181
00:57:51,080 --> 00:57:53,680
Speaker 2: like there's always the one who gets like the brunt

1182
00:57:53,760 --> 00:57:56,400
Speaker 2: of everyone's like, you know, they're the ones that you

1183
00:57:56,520 --> 00:57:58,560
Speaker 2: get all the phone calls. They're the one who have

1184
00:57:58,640 --> 00:58:02,360
Speaker 2: to deal with the emergency and you know, be there

1185
00:58:02,520 --> 00:58:05,280
Speaker 2: when you know the parents need something or when something

1186
00:58:05,360 --> 00:58:08,680
Speaker 2: goes wrong, and just handling everything and anyway. So I

1187
00:58:08,800 --> 00:58:12,040
Speaker 2: feel like my sister is just like the backbone of

1188
00:58:12,160 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 2: our siblings right now. And at the same time, I

1189
00:58:17,440 --> 00:58:19,000
Speaker 2: wanted to, I want to give her that shout out,

1190
00:58:19,040 --> 00:58:22,040
Speaker 2: which she definitely deserves, because she's amazing and she, you know,

1191
00:58:22,160 --> 00:58:24,880
Speaker 2: kept me saying even before you know, she was my

1192
00:58:24,960 --> 00:58:26,520
Speaker 2: maid of honor and it was her job to keep

1193
00:58:26,560 --> 00:58:30,280
Speaker 2: me saying. She's always there supporting me. But she makes

1194
00:58:30,360 --> 00:58:33,920
Speaker 2: me think a lot about the role of like sisters

1195
00:58:33,960 --> 00:58:37,200
Speaker 2: and families and how the women in families typically end

1196
00:58:37,280 --> 00:58:40,320
Speaker 2: up being the caretaker. And I look at my sister

1197
00:58:40,440 --> 00:58:43,360
Speaker 2: and I kind of already see that we are defaulting

1198
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:46,440
Speaker 2: toward Okay, Mallory will take care of it. My sister's

1199
00:58:46,520 --> 00:58:48,640
Speaker 2: name is Mallori. You know, she'll be the one. And

1200
00:58:49,000 --> 00:58:51,400
Speaker 2: and it makes me like I wanted I had started

1201
00:58:51,440 --> 00:58:53,320
Speaker 2: having a talk with her about it because I wanted to.

1202
00:58:53,520 --> 00:58:56,800
Speaker 2: I felt bad. I wanted to stop doing that so

1203
00:58:56,960 --> 00:58:58,919
Speaker 2: much because I didn't want her to feel like every

1204
00:58:58,960 --> 00:59:01,000
Speaker 2: time something goes wrong, she must be the one to

1205
00:59:01,040 --> 00:59:05,240
Speaker 2: swoop in, because it wears you down after a while,

1206
00:59:05,320 --> 00:59:08,080
Speaker 2: and it's not really fair to that sibling. And I mean,

1207
00:59:08,120 --> 00:59:11,280
Speaker 2: we don't have to. I mean, there was a Vice Viceland,

1208
00:59:11,480 --> 00:59:14,880
Speaker 2: which is that Vice network. They have a business finance show,

1209
00:59:14,920 --> 00:59:17,400
Speaker 2: and they had a woman on talking about the role

1210
00:59:17,440 --> 00:59:20,440
Speaker 2: of women and how women almost always end up being

1211
00:59:20,480 --> 00:59:23,600
Speaker 2: a default caretaker, and how women are more likely to

1212
00:59:23,720 --> 00:59:25,920
Speaker 2: turn down promotions because they have to take care of

1213
00:59:26,040 --> 00:59:29,160
Speaker 2: elder family or spouses. Women are more likely to leave

1214
00:59:29,200 --> 00:59:31,720
Speaker 2: the workforce because they have to be a caretaker and

1215
00:59:31,840 --> 00:59:34,680
Speaker 2: to sacrifice themselves. And I feel like it doesn't always

1216
00:59:34,760 --> 00:59:38,440
Speaker 2: have to be that way, Like sometimes it is because

1217
00:59:38,480 --> 00:59:40,880
Speaker 2: there's only the daughter or only the niece or whatever.

1218
00:59:41,000 --> 00:59:43,640
Speaker 2: But I feel like in families sometimes it's easy to

1219
00:59:44,040 --> 00:59:46,840
Speaker 2: step back and say, Okay, well my sister has it, yeah,

1220
00:59:47,360 --> 00:59:49,160
Speaker 2: and she's the one ever you know, that can take

1221
00:59:49,200 --> 00:59:51,480
Speaker 2: care of it. And I certainly did this when my

1222
00:59:51,600 --> 00:59:54,080
Speaker 2: mother a couple of years ago, my mother fell and

1223
00:59:54,600 --> 00:59:59,120
Speaker 2: shattered her kneecap on ice and I went from this, yeah,

1224
00:59:59,120 --> 01:00:01,280
Speaker 2: and I went from my to Wisconsin, and I spent

1225
01:00:01,360 --> 01:00:04,000
Speaker 2: my week with her, and after that, my sister was

1226
01:00:04,040 --> 01:00:05,880
Speaker 2: on her own and she was the only one living

1227
01:00:05,960 --> 01:00:07,960
Speaker 2: near her to take care of her. And that's like

1228
01:00:08,600 --> 01:00:10,560
Speaker 2: my mother couldn't use the bathroom on her own. So

1229
01:00:10,920 --> 01:00:13,760
Speaker 2: I mean, that's like around the clock taken care of

1230
01:00:13,880 --> 01:00:15,760
Speaker 2: and she was there for months and months and months

1231
01:00:15,800 --> 01:00:19,760
Speaker 2: for her recuperation. And I kind of used that distance

1232
01:00:19,840 --> 01:00:24,080
Speaker 2: as an excuse, but I'm just anyway, I just wanted

1233
01:00:24,160 --> 01:00:26,640
Speaker 2: to give her the shout out and the wind. But

1234
01:00:26,760 --> 01:00:28,160
Speaker 2: also your.

1235
01:00:28,080 --> 01:00:30,360
Speaker 1: Author right, and your mother had those moves on the dead,

1236
01:00:30,440 --> 01:00:32,120
Speaker 1: so I'm like, really, she heeled great.

1237
01:00:32,320 --> 01:00:34,320
Speaker 2: I know it is. I mean when I think about

1238
01:00:34,400 --> 01:00:36,480
Speaker 2: if I showed you pictures or video my mom two

1239
01:00:36,560 --> 01:00:39,200
Speaker 2: years ago, I swear I was like, she's never gonna

1240
01:00:39,200 --> 01:00:41,640
Speaker 2: walk again. Like I just had to help my mother

1241
01:00:42,040 --> 01:00:44,920
Speaker 2: use the bathroom. How this is crazy. She's in her

1242
01:00:45,000 --> 01:00:50,520
Speaker 2: mid fifties. That is so scary, so scary, and and yeah,

1243
01:00:50,600 --> 01:00:54,800
Speaker 2: her recovery was amazing. She also lost fifty pounds this year.

1244
01:00:54,960 --> 01:00:56,440
Speaker 2: Let's just give Mama a shout out to you. Let's

1245
01:00:56,440 --> 01:00:57,000
Speaker 2: give mama win.

1246
01:00:57,160 --> 01:00:59,280
Speaker 1: Yeah, why are we here, right? Yeah? I kind of

1247
01:01:00,080 --> 01:01:02,000
Speaker 1: sister's got great energy, and so does her wife. I

1248
01:01:02,120 --> 01:01:04,920
Speaker 1: was just like, oh, they were just just all of

1249
01:01:04,960 --> 01:01:07,040
Speaker 1: your family. When I was there and in uh and

1250
01:01:07,200 --> 01:01:10,240
Speaker 1: husband's family, it was just such a great, like warm,

1251
01:01:10,840 --> 01:01:14,160
Speaker 1: welcoming environment. And so everybody gets a shadow. You get

1252
01:01:14,200 --> 01:01:16,960
Speaker 1: a shadow, you get a shout, everybody gets a shout out.

1253
01:01:17,880 --> 01:01:20,400
Speaker 1: You know, even what's your what's your what's what's his name?

1254
01:01:20,680 --> 01:01:22,200
Speaker 1: Your your best friend's.

1255
01:01:21,920 --> 01:01:25,080
Speaker 2: Guy Baron or Kevin Baron?

1256
01:01:25,320 --> 01:01:27,880
Speaker 1: Now you Baron, you left me, I know, just thank

1257
01:01:27,880 --> 01:01:30,600
Speaker 1: you so much because I know he's listening.

1258
01:01:30,680 --> 01:01:33,160
Speaker 2: I don't think anyone's ever been mad at Baron Brown.

1259
01:01:33,080 --> 01:01:35,720
Speaker 1: Like go. He's really awesome too. He had such great edergy.

1260
01:01:35,760 --> 01:01:38,400
Speaker 1: He made sure that was good. So yeah, no, yeah,

1261
01:01:38,520 --> 01:01:42,000
Speaker 1: I just know sisters are really I mean, there's something

1262
01:01:42,040 --> 01:01:44,720
Speaker 1: special about sisters. I mean brothers too, but I don't

1263
01:01:44,720 --> 01:01:47,000
Speaker 1: have any brothers, so I wouldn't know. So, but there's

1264
01:01:47,040 --> 01:01:50,040
Speaker 1: just something special about sisters and how far they'll go

1265
01:01:50,120 --> 01:01:52,080
Speaker 1: for you. So that's awesome, thanks Mallie.

1266
01:01:52,440 --> 01:01:54,120
Speaker 2: But they also have to take care of themselves, you

1267
01:01:54,160 --> 01:01:54,560
Speaker 2: know what I mean?

1268
01:01:54,680 --> 01:01:55,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly.

1269
01:01:56,520 --> 01:01:58,680
Speaker 2: It's nice to be the one who swoops in, but

1270
01:01:58,720 --> 01:02:01,200
Speaker 2: it's also like up to the rest of us, me

1271
01:02:01,360 --> 01:02:03,760
Speaker 2: who is the most awkward caretaker in all of history

1272
01:02:04,440 --> 01:02:06,720
Speaker 2: needs to get better at trying and being there.

1273
01:02:08,360 --> 01:02:11,600
Speaker 1: I've got to win. Yes, yes, So I was just

1274
01:02:11,640 --> 01:02:13,840
Speaker 1: doing a little scrolling through. So a friend of mine

1275
01:02:14,280 --> 01:02:17,720
Speaker 1: named Ivida her course Robinson. Yes that's her real name.

1276
01:02:17,840 --> 01:02:19,080
Speaker 2: Wait I know that name? Where do I?

1277
01:02:19,320 --> 01:02:21,840
Speaker 1: Yes? She is the founder of No Madness, got it?

1278
01:02:22,600 --> 01:02:24,440
Speaker 1: And so No Madness for those who don't know, it's

1279
01:02:24,480 --> 01:02:28,600
Speaker 1: this awesome travel community specifically for people of color, brown people,

1280
01:02:28,720 --> 01:02:31,960
Speaker 1: brown ambition people. Right, So Avida was already awesome. I

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Speaker 1: was already like, Oh, Avita's awesome. She's amazing her movement,

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Speaker 1: Like you're seeing this huge uptick in brown travel, and honestly,

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Speaker 1: they really credit a lot of it to her. And

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Speaker 1: there's a few other kind of like folks that has

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Speaker 1: started that movement, but she's one of the founding folks.

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Speaker 1: So she's, like, like I said, amazing. But what I

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Speaker 1: love about Avida is, yes, No Madness is great, But

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Speaker 1: she's always been so civic minded and recently she dropped

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Speaker 1: to me one of the most amazing things that she

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Speaker 1: could have done outside of starting No Madness, she started

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Speaker 1: this lip stain line called Compass by a Vida and

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Speaker 1: I was like, oh, this is cute, Like okay, these

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Speaker 1: lipstains that you can wear, And honestly, the stains are

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Speaker 1: actually really nice. You know sometimes people make things and

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Speaker 1: you're like, oh, I guess, but they're really nice. But

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Speaker 1: what I love about it is that she names the

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Speaker 1: lip stain after a city in the world, like there's Aleppo,

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Speaker 1: there's joe Berg, there is Haiti. Well, Haiti's a country,

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Speaker 1: but whatever, Bangkok Legos for Nigeria, Soweto for South Africa.

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Speaker 1: So she names the lip stain after places in the world.

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Speaker 1: And because she's so like pro women focused, she gives

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Speaker 1: ten percent of the income from that lip stain to

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Speaker 1: women in that country. How dope is that?

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Speaker 2: That's amazing?

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Speaker 1: And so what I love about it is that, yeah,

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Speaker 1: you get to buy this dope product, but you're buying

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Speaker 1: something where you're giving to women like you and the

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Speaker 1: other countries. So she just today she just dropped what

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Speaker 1: percentage of I guess of what percentage of lipstains are selling?

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Speaker 1: Like who like, what's selling more Haiti? It's you know,

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Speaker 1: joe Burg has gotten the most and then Haiti has

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Speaker 1: gotten the second and most I guess of sales. And

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Speaker 1: so if you loving to wear like and the lip

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Speaker 1: stains what I love about it. But I don't know

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Speaker 1: how she made this work, but she her campaign. She

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Speaker 1: shows women of all brown shades, not just brown shades,

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Speaker 1: women periods. Honestly, it's not just the a lip stain

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Speaker 1: line just for brown girls, but so women of all

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Speaker 1: shades wearing these stains and it looks good. From super

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Speaker 1: super chocolate girls like me to Lily Lily, Lily white

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Speaker 1: girls like some of her friends that have warn it

1322
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Speaker 1: and you're like, wow, that's the same lipstain. It looks amazing.

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Speaker 1: It's like the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants where the

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Speaker 1: jeens fit all of their body sizes. Yes, what stain does.

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Speaker 1: And I'm just really proud of her because this is

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Speaker 1: just something that she's created to bring awareness to the

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Speaker 1: fact that there are women around the world that really

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Speaker 1: need our help, but doing it in a way that's

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Speaker 1: like fun and that way you could participate, you know,

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Speaker 1: while buying something really cute and like, you know, so girly,

1331
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Speaker 1: like a lip stain, but knowing that your your contribution

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Speaker 1: is helping out the women. So if you're interested in

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Speaker 1: learning more about it, it's compassed by ivida e v

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Speaker 1: I t a dot com and get yourself a lipstain.

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Speaker 1: I've ordered. I've ordered the Red. I think it's Aleppo,

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Speaker 1: and I'm excited about it because I'm like, ooh, I

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Speaker 1: love me a good Red. Now it's time to say

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Speaker 1: goodbye to all our company.

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Speaker 2: I guess we have a few. Is this the end

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Speaker 2: credits of Golden Girls?

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Speaker 1: Yes? No? No? How do you not know? Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: forgot you're millennial? P r O w N A bitch.

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Speaker 1: It's a Mickey Mouse Club, am I? I know that, Gondy,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. On that you're either super young or

1345
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Speaker 1: super old, depending on like what the topic is. Mandy's like, what,

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Speaker 1: but you did know Golden Girls? Which so you know?

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Speaker 1: I mean you actually knew the name of that even

1348
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Speaker 1: though you're new to them, right? Was it you who

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Speaker 1: never heard of Golden Girl, like you never watched the

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Speaker 1: episode until recently?

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Speaker 2: Yes, that was me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so you know we're slowly bringing you into the

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Speaker 1: gen X am I gen x or y I don't

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Speaker 1: even know. But either way, either way Brown Ambition, it's

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Speaker 1: been awesome, as per usual,