Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,
Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's
Speaker 1: tip is to figure out what responsibilities everyone in your
Speaker 1: household can own. Let go of the assumption that everything
Speaker 1: is your responsibility and other people should help. Instead, divvy
Speaker 1: up responsibility so everyone takes ownership of areas they will manage.
Speaker 1: Today's tip comes from Catherine's Soulman, author of the book
Speaker 1: The Four Jobs Club. I interviewed Catherine for one of
Speaker 1: the longer Before Breakfast episodes earlier this year. She offered
Speaker 1: lots of helpful insights. One tip was that we don't
Speaker 1: want our partners and kids to ask how can I help.
Speaker 1: I mean, sure, help is nice, and it is better
Speaker 1: that they ask than that they do nothing, But asking
Speaker 1: how can I help? Implies that everything is somebody else's responsibility. Instead,
Speaker 1: we want everyone in the household to be thinking what
Speaker 1: can I own? That is, what can I take responsibility
Speaker 1: for from start to finish. I've heard some people refer
Speaker 1: to this as vertical ownership. In other words, you own
Speaker 1: a task stream top to bottom. There are a lot
Speaker 1: of benefits to this approach. For one thing, it's clear
Speaker 1: that no one is responsible for everything. You are responsible
Speaker 1: for some things and other people in your household are
Speaker 1: responsible for other things. This means less time and mental
Speaker 1: bandwidth are required of you for making your household run.
Speaker 1: Vertical ownership is also more efficient if you are responsible
Speaker 1: for feeding your family, for instance, deciding what to eat,
Speaker 1: getting groceries, and cooking, then you know what you need
Speaker 1: at the grocery store. On the other hand, if it
Speaker 1: varies week to week who does the grocery shopping and cooking,
Speaker 1: or if one person cooks in another person grocery shops,
Speaker 1: there's going to be a lot more coordination required. Vertical
Speaker 1: ownership gives kids an opportunity to build skills and confidence.
Speaker 1: Even a young child who sets the table every day
Speaker 1: will learn to do so reliably before too long. A
Speaker 1: kid who's in charge of dog walking will learn, perhaps
Speaker 1: the hard way, how long your dog can go without
Speaker 1: a bathroom break. For adults, vertical ownership can mean more
Speaker 1: autonomy and less worry that someone is constantly monitoring their
Speaker 1: decisions as to how you might divvy up aspects of
Speaker 1: home life. There are a lot of experts out there
Speaker 1: you can consult, including Eve Rodsky, who developed the fair
Speaker 1: Play method and Lyndall Shiner, who takes an analytical approach,
Speaker 1: but to get you started thinking. Some possible areas for
Speaker 1: ownership include school, childcare, kid activities, kid, medical, pets, home maintenance, cleaning, laundry, yard, food, finances,
Speaker 1: extended family, and social The particular aspects of life that
Speaker 1: need ownership will vary, and there may be some areas
Speaker 1: that aren't important to you and might make other people's
Speaker 1: lists or vice versa. For instance, if you don't have
Speaker 1: a yard, you don't need to be concerned about yard work.
Speaker 1: But the point is to get shared agreement on what
Speaker 1: the household priorities are and then divvy up ownership not
Speaker 1: just who does what task, but who's responsible for what tasks.
Speaker 1: Stream If you want to lead a full life, it's
Speaker 1: not enough for others in your household to help. Everybody
Speaker 1: needs to own certain tasks and then everyone can be
Speaker 1: more efficient in getting things done. Do you use vertical
Speaker 1: ownership in your household? I'd love to know how you
Speaker 1: do it. You can reach me at Laura at Laura
Speaker 1: vandercam dot com. In the meantime, this is Laura. Thanks
Speaker 1: for listening, and here's to making the most of our time.
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