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Speaker 1: It's time to ask the c l o uh to

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Speaker 1: Shonda or maybe maybe I should know. I'm sorry, Toronto.

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Speaker 1: Her name is Toronto, Toronto, and Lafayette says, my husband's

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Speaker 1: sister is having problems in her marriage, so she's staying

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Speaker 1: with us. When I got home from work, she was

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Speaker 1: wearing one of my robes. I will gladly get her

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Speaker 1: some things if need be. So how do I nicely

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Speaker 1: tell her that my stuff, my stuff is off limits.

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Speaker 2: Let me catch you ass in this robe? Will get him? Nicely?

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Speaker 1: She said, nice nicely?

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Speaker 2: That's it? Off of second, just walk up there, Just

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Speaker 2: tad off of hem. Or if I can't wear the robe,

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Speaker 2: ain't nobody gonna wear a rope? Take a butcher knife

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Speaker 2: and cut the cold, cut the bill, just swinkle, just

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Speaker 2: do whood stuff.

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Speaker 1: Here's my question. Is she's saying anything while she's cutting

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Speaker 1: the robe off?

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, everybody cussing and cutting is a part

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it goes, it goes.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and see, don't look the same on you no more?

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Speaker 1: All right? Moving on to Marissa and Stockbridge, Marissa writes,

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Speaker 1: I'm thirty eight years old and my husband likes to

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Speaker 1: watch porn while we're intimate. He says, he imagines that

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Speaker 1: I'm the women in the video. This doesn't sit well

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Speaker 1: with my soul. Does this mean that he is not

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Speaker 1: satisfied with my body and normal intimacy?

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Speaker 2: Well, he imagined that you the women in the video.

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Speaker 1: Uh, huh, you do what?

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Speaker 2: What? What? What did you text? What did you write us?

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Speaker 2: This fault? He just told you. He imagines that you

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Speaker 2: are the women in the video. So he takes his

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Speaker 2: mind off you and puts it on huh. And instead

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Speaker 2: of doing you, he's doing huh. Which partities you don't get.

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Speaker 2: Just don't sit right with my soul. You ain't got

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Speaker 2: to drag your soul and it is.

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Speaker 1: It did take it somewhere else, didn't it. That's the

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Speaker 1: name of the movie.

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Speaker 2: Back in the day.

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Speaker 1: She needs to shut that down, all right, Frankie in Texas.

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Speaker 1: As we move on, Frankie says, my son's child, that

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Speaker 1: would be your grandchild. My son's child and child's mother

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Speaker 1: live with me. She can't stay with my son because

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Speaker 1: he has a new girlfriend. But he still comes to

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Speaker 1: have sex with his child's mother. And I don't need

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Speaker 1: to be hearing that, and neither does the child. What

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Speaker 2: Well, you got to put a stop to that in

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Speaker 2: your house. Your house, you could actually put a stop

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Speaker 2: to that and just tell him that he's being disrespectful.

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Speaker 2: Very and then now he has a new girlfriend somewhere

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Speaker 2: else but his former girlfriend and baby with his mama.

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Speaker 1: Right, and he has his own.

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Speaker 2: Live with the mama too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he has his own house that you know, he

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Speaker 1: has this new girlfriend over I'm sure.

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Speaker 2: Well, so you got to take all this to your house. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: and you coming back over here still having relations with

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Speaker 2: her in front of me and this boy. That ain't

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Speaker 2: gonna work being disrespectful. You need to sit the girl

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Speaker 2: down at that and ask her what's wrong with her.

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Speaker 1: That's what Frankie should do, because that's what she wants

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Speaker 1: to know. What should she do?

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Speaker 2: Well, you need to have conversations with your son about

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Speaker 2: being respectful of your house and your rules. Secondly, you

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Speaker 2: need a conversation with this girl and just go what's

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Speaker 2: wrong with you? Yeah? Now, you ain't good enough to

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Speaker 2: go with him, You ain't good enough to be with him.

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Speaker 2: You got you gotta stop being good enough to do

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Speaker 2: him better than that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Good?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? And then mama's food right after that though.

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Speaker 2: That's pretty damn good.

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Speaker 1: Don't you come in. That's the bright side for you.

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Speaker 2: That's why you that's why you do pranks.

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Speaker 1: All right, Steve, here's the last one. This one's Nevea

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Speaker 1: in Culver City. Naveah says, I've been dating a man

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Speaker 1: for fourteen years and we both turned forty in December.

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Speaker 1: I was hoping for an engagement ring for Christmas, but

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Speaker 1: he said the ring is custom made and won't be

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Speaker 1: ready until Valentine's Day. If I don't get it, then

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Speaker 1: should I leave?

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Speaker 2: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Well, she's been they've been dating. What what?

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Speaker 2: Okay, what what do y'all want me to say?

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Speaker 1: Say it? Just say it?

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Speaker 2: You hell, listen to me. I've said this one hundred

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Speaker 2: times on this show. Why is it that women do

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Speaker 2: not understand this fact that you have every right to

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Speaker 2: life is going. Again, you have a right to have

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Speaker 2: a say so and know the direction in which your

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Speaker 2: life is going. That's your right as a human being.

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Speaker 1: Okay, stop right there. Why don't they Why don't they then?

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Speaker 2: Because you think that you're supposed to center around and

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Speaker 2: wait on somebody else to make a decision. About your

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Speaker 2: you want. Example, Okay, the reason you keep waiting on

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Speaker 2: a ring and don't get it is because a ring

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Speaker 2: is not a requirement of yours. It is a hope

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Speaker 2: of yours. And if that ain't the hope of his,

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Speaker 2: then all hope is lost.

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Speaker 1: We're hopeless.

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Speaker 2: So why don't you make it a requirement for this

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Speaker 2: to continue? I am no.

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Speaker 1: Fourteen years that's a little long's life.

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Speaker 2: And now it's custom made and it won't be ready

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Speaker 2: to custom boy? What boy? Stop them? Rings ain't custom made.

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Speaker 2: Their ass is in k jewler, they in the window

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Speaker 2: or they in the window. You ain't got enough smart

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Speaker 2: to make a damn custom ring?

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Speaker 1: Are you nuts?

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Speaker 2: Let me tell you something, man, if you go in

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Speaker 2: there and pick out that diamond in that setting, your

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Speaker 2: ass can come back tomorrow the ring ready? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Okay, one more question, And because we need to understand this,

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Speaker 1: see go ahead. Well why fourteen years? I mean, why

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Speaker 1: would you stay with someone for fourteen years without anything?

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Speaker 2: A lot of people have done because because you keep

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Speaker 2: waiting on this theme to happen, that you have not

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Speaker 2: made a requirement. And I keep telling y'all listen to me, ladies.

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Speaker 2: A wedding day is a woman's dream. The wedding day

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Speaker 2: is not the man's dream. All the man dreams of

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Speaker 2: is the chick of his dreams. We don't dream of

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Speaker 2: our wedding day. And if we can get to chick

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Speaker 2: without the wedding day, bam, he got what he oh? Don't?

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Speaker 1: All right? Clo, thank you.

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Speaker 2: This is Steve Harven Martin show man. Here.

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Speaker 3: That twenty four year old girl is dating this sixty

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Speaker 3: five year old man that buys and does everything for her.

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Speaker 3: Five months ago, I met another man closer to my age.

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Speaker 3: He took me to a family reunion and to my surprise,

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Speaker 3: my sugar daddy is his stepdaddy.

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Speaker 2: He ain't say anything, and I showed didn't because his

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Speaker 2: wife is down.

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Speaker 3: Now you over there got to be quiet and stupid,

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Speaker 3: but you're dating the man's day.

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Speaker 2: Son. My question is, is the sugar daddy his daddy?

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Speaker 2: Your daddy?

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Speaker 3: Where is his daddy?

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Speaker 2: How many daddies you got? I'm gonna be that's Morder

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Speaker 2: Steve Harvey Morner Show coming up right after you