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Speaker 1: Welcome back to I Do Part two, the podcast that's

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Speaker 1: all about finding love again and where some of your

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Speaker 1: hosts Amy here along with TJ and Janna, And this

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Speaker 1: is part two of our conversation with Kelly ben Simone

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Speaker 1: from the Real Housewives of New York and Ultimate Girls Trip.

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Speaker 2: Do you think girls should go out to meet guys

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Speaker 2: in groups like the Ultimate Girls Trip?

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Speaker 3: You know when that Ultimate Girls Trip, They're always like,

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Speaker 3: introduce me, to introduce me, introduce me. So I'm constantly

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Speaker 3: introducing them to everybody, and then they don't like the

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Speaker 3: guys and I'm just like, I didn't say, like you

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Speaker 3: asked me to introduce you. I'm like, Hi, this is

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Speaker 3: the way, mister Rinda.

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Speaker 2: Right, Like TJ, would you rather meet someone in a group.

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Speaker 2: I mean, obviously you're in a lovely relationship, but with

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Speaker 2: you were single, would you want to meet in a

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Speaker 2: group or in a one on one setday?

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Speaker 4: No, I'm always been it's more one on one orthetic. Yeah, like,

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Speaker 4: just meet people. I don't like being set up. I

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Speaker 4: don't like, well, she'll be there and we'll go with

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Speaker 4: our group.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 4: Just in day to day life, you just meet people

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Speaker 4: and it's sot to hear about dating apps, and I

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Speaker 4: hear that now, and that just blows my mind to

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Speaker 4: where they're I couldn't imagine doing that. I'm from I'm

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Speaker 4: forty seven now, so I grew up in an era

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Speaker 4: where that wasn't necessarily the case, the dating online. But

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Speaker 4: I just I guess you hear me talking about it.

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Speaker 4: A prenup is not romantic to me or you hear

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Speaker 4: I just just old fashioned in that way. So I

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Speaker 4: just organically think, why can't people just meet people? We

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Speaker 4: see people all the time, but we don't give people

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Speaker 4: that we see on the train or at a restaurant

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Speaker 4: or down we're looking at our phone when the level

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Speaker 4: of your life might be at the end of the ball, right,

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Speaker 4: you don't even look down there. That is my mindset

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Speaker 2: Yeah, one Rya is so superficial too. I mean there's

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Speaker 2: so many beautiful people, especially on those apps, and Rya

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Speaker 2: specifically where it's just supermodel after supermodel and there and

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Speaker 2: the ones in Portugal or Istanbul or like.

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Speaker 3: I was saying everything, I don't even take photos like that.

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Speaker 3: These guys are like so they're like doing backflips off

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Speaker 3: of like mountains and like these exotic places I'm like,

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Speaker 3: what is happening here? Yeah?

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Speaker 2: It just looks really pretty, and I feel like that's

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Speaker 2: where it's like, oh they can get somebody better with

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Speaker 2: a swipe of a finger, right.

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Speaker 1: Wow, You're always being compared to someone's adventure or their

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Speaker 1: photoshop this or that. That's crazy. How much more difficult

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Speaker 1: is it to date in your I mean you've been

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Speaker 1: single for a long time. Have you found it to

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Speaker 1: be more difficult the older you get?

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Speaker 2: What?

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Speaker 1: Like, do you feel like what you have to choose

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Speaker 1: from gets as a smaller pool? What's that been like?

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Speaker 3: So you know, I feel like, you know, I've been single.

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Speaker 3: I mean I've been single for a while since I

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Speaker 3: got divorced in two thousand and seven, So I've been

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Speaker 3: single since like two thousand and six. And you know,

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Speaker 3: I think that there was you know, I met a

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Speaker 3: lot of different people, but it was like, really more

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Speaker 3: about my mindset and that's another kind of advice. So

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Speaker 3: we talked about bandwidth, but also like the mindset, so

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Speaker 3: you know, kind of really being open to dating. I

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Speaker 3: was so worried about my children, about raising them from Rockford, Illinois,

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Speaker 3: like I'm living in New York City, like with all

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Speaker 3: suburban mindset in an urban environment, that was like what

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Speaker 3: I was constantly thinking about. I wasn't thinking about like, hey,

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Speaker 3: that guy's hot, you know. And then I went on

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Speaker 3: housewives and housewives really even though I was on the

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Speaker 3: cover Playboy and I had all these you know, beautiful

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Speaker 3: accolades and everything was really exciting. You know, fighting with

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Speaker 3: of guys being like what's the tea here? Like what

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Speaker 3: paid a lot of money to argue with females and

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Speaker 3: like that's not my thing, but you know a lot

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Speaker 3: of guys are kind of like what is going on here? Like,

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Speaker 3: you know, why would someone want to marry someone who's

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Speaker 4: Like, wow, chances in the day about that?

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Speaker 3: No, because it was just I mean, it was such

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Speaker 3: a huge opportunity. I mean, I wrote, you know, I

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Speaker 3: wrote two books before, three books before that, and then

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Speaker 3: opportunities that came my way that would never. I Mean,

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Speaker 3: one of the reasons that I'm so successful in real

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Speaker 3: because it's her. So, I mean, it's been such an

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Speaker 3: amazing opportunity, but it was very, very difficult for me personally.

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Speaker 1: Kelly, we just watched back the Scary Island episode today

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Speaker 1: actually before, just to be reacquainted with that.

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Speaker 3: Have you watched it? Rewatched it?

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Speaker 1: Like, do you look back and think I shouldn't have

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Speaker 1: done this, I shouldn't have said this, or you do

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Speaker 3: So I before I was on Housewives, I had this

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Speaker 3: amazing acting coach name is Anthony Abson, and he said

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Speaker 3: to me, he's like, if you're to go on this show,

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Speaker 3: He's like, you need to be one hundred percent authentic

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Speaker 3: authentic and I'm I'm dealing with it would be like

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Speaker 3: being in a scene with someone where you're like, you're

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Speaker 3: was like, wait, I'm sorry, what's happening right now? Which

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Speaker 3: just in particular, she was just like, I will do

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Speaker 3: and whatever is in my way, I am going to

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Speaker 3: get rid of it. And I just happened to be

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Speaker 3: that person you were in the way. Yeah, I was

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Speaker 3: in the way. But what was the good news too?

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Speaker 3: Is that I was in the way, But you know

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Speaker 3: it's bittersweet, but I mean, I'm proud of like who

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Speaker 3: people say like I was edited poorly, because don't go

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Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean? This isn't like ABC,

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Speaker 3: This isn't you know, a podcast. This is a television

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Speaker 3: show that you know needs to fit a certain amount

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Speaker 3: of time, and it's seven storylines, one big storyline. You know,

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Speaker 3: it has there's things that has to have to happen.

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Speaker 2: Would you go back on if they asked you to come?

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Speaker 3: Well, I did The Ultimate Girls trub I just finished.

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Speaker 2: But the New York Ones, I know they're going to

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Speaker 3: Well. See I know Jenna really well from j Crew

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Speaker 3: and Uba and I know each other really well. I

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Speaker 3: I think that yeah, I definitely. I mean, of course,

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Speaker 3: much fun. Like I love reality TV because I'm just myself,

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Speaker 3: Like I don't I'm not unapologetically myself, and I think

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Speaker 1: Amy's like laughing, She's like, oh my god, No, I

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Speaker 1: not performing, and you are that you are authentic, you

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Speaker 1: see is what you get, yah, and that to me

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Speaker 1: is mostly all you can ask for in a relationship. Right.

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Speaker 1: Everything else is it's just it's false and it's impossible

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Speaker 2: No, I was just gonna say it's hard because I

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Speaker 2: When I look at but it's like, so I only

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Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, I think you guys would be best friends,

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Speaker 3: But different people have like different pathways to success, right

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Speaker 3: Mine is to celebrate people and hers is to tear

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Speaker 4: Is there no chance here? Are you open to you

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Speaker 3: I mean I have to get paid a lot of

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Speaker 3: money for that. Sorry, So I fight, Yeah, I fight

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Speaker 3: for a price. Yeah, I mean I would be I.

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Speaker 3: You know, it's funny because she asked me to be

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Speaker 4: I just was not into it.

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Speaker 3: I just wasn't interested in like engaging when she was

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Speaker 3: So that was like a big no no for me.

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Speaker 3: So I told her that we could do it like

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Speaker 3: maybe sometime like twenty twenty eight or something, twenty twenty eight.

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Speaker 2: So you're saying there's a chance, you know, I just.

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Speaker 1: Saw window open.

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Speaker 4: Thank you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, you know, I.

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Speaker 4: Have to say as well, Look, I am a I

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Speaker 4: don't watch the didn't watch the franchise, but I am

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Speaker 4: a Bethany frank The only time I've been around Bethany Frankly,

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Speaker 2: And what is like, what is the the ultimate dating

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Speaker 3: I guess you know, just talking badly about your ex.

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Speaker 3: What am I doing wrong? Like I've been single for

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Speaker 3: and then trauma from just you know, from being on TV.

432
00:20:09,520 --> 00:20:11,159
Speaker 3: I mean, I know that there's a lot of trauma

433
00:20:11,160 --> 00:20:11,399
Speaker 3: from that.

434
00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:14,200
Speaker 2: You might be blocking yourself up from you know, and

435
00:20:14,520 --> 00:20:16,760
Speaker 2: guarding yourself and you don't even know that you're doing that.

436
00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:30,600
Speaker 4: Right, Are you ready for the relationship you're talking about? Right?

437
00:20:30,640 --> 00:20:32,800
Speaker 4: Because to her point about being younger, and I know

438
00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:35,600
Speaker 4: we were the same way if we'd have met and

439
00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:38,720
Speaker 4: started dating in our thirties or early forties, so this

440
00:20:38,760 --> 00:20:40,040
Speaker 4: would have been a disaster.

441
00:20:39,920 --> 00:20:44,480
Speaker 1: Right, He says that to me a lot. Oh, He's like,

442
00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:45,760
Speaker 1: it all had to happen when it happened.

443
00:20:46,119 --> 00:20:48,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, it sucked. It had to happen how it happened,

444
00:20:48,320 --> 00:20:51,920
Speaker 4: but when it happened is probably right. But are you ready?

445
00:20:52,040 --> 00:20:54,640
Speaker 4: Do you think you're in the right space and you're

446
00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:56,200
Speaker 4: ready to That's.

447
00:20:56,080 --> 00:20:59,600
Speaker 3: A really good question. And I feel like after spending

448
00:20:59,760 --> 00:21:02,080
Speaker 3: time I'm with my girls, which I hadn't done since

449
00:21:02,320 --> 00:21:08,160
Speaker 3: really COVID like I just felt like that family part

450
00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:11,800
Speaker 3: of me is really solid, and so, like I said,

451
00:21:11,840 --> 00:21:13,840
Speaker 3: like I feel like I'm eighteen years old again. I

452
00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:17,160
Speaker 3: feel like I'm like ready to go out there. And

453
00:21:17,440 --> 00:21:19,080
Speaker 3: I mean have to remember, like I started modeling when

454
00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:22,119
Speaker 3: I was fifteen from Rockford, Illinois. It's not like, you know,

455
00:21:22,880 --> 00:21:24,679
Speaker 3: just like I had this like random life. I had

456
00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:30,200
Speaker 3: this very specific, strange upbringing that most people don't have.

457
00:21:30,359 --> 00:21:32,719
Speaker 3: Like I didn't like go to high school with like

458
00:21:32,760 --> 00:21:36,639
Speaker 3: five hundred kids. You know, my twin brother was my

459
00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:39,719
Speaker 3: date at our prom. You know, It's like I went

460
00:21:39,720 --> 00:21:42,240
Speaker 3: to a very small school. I was in a very

461
00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:45,240
Speaker 3: you know, high profile industry at a very young age.

462
00:21:45,280 --> 00:21:47,679
Speaker 3: And so I just had a different life than most people.

463
00:21:47,720 --> 00:21:50,920
Speaker 3: And I've had a lot of really bad bad men

464
00:21:51,200 --> 00:21:54,160
Speaker 3: like attract me to be attracted to me. Not saying

465
00:21:54,160 --> 00:21:55,520
Speaker 3: that my ex was like it was a bad man.

466
00:21:55,560 --> 00:21:57,800
Speaker 3: He's not a bad man. He's just not my lobster.

467
00:21:58,000 --> 00:21:59,399
Speaker 4: But I love that.

468
00:22:00,000 --> 00:22:02,400
Speaker 3: But you know, just like I just have been around

469
00:22:02,400 --> 00:22:03,800
Speaker 3: a lot of people. So now I'm like now that

470
00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:06,959
Speaker 3: I'm trusting myself with like my education where I am,

471
00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:08,720
Speaker 3: with my work where I am. I had so much

472
00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:10,480
Speaker 3: fun on the Ultimate Girls trip. I really did. I

473
00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:12,200
Speaker 3: had a great time and I tried to tell them

474
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,639
Speaker 3: what was going on, but they were like obsessed with

475
00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:17,760
Speaker 3: Scary Island too. I'm like, no, no, something bigger than

476
00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:19,919
Speaker 3: Scary Island two is happening and you guys are missing out,

477
00:22:20,040 --> 00:22:21,639
Speaker 3: And they were like, why didn't you tell us like

478
00:22:21,640 --> 00:22:22,000
Speaker 3: I did?

479
00:22:22,520 --> 00:22:26,000
Speaker 4: Now the times killy he comes back. He says, he

480
00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:28,919
Speaker 4: calls today, I'll sign whatever bringing up you want. I

481
00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:30,920
Speaker 4: want you back, I love you, I miss you.

482
00:22:31,000 --> 00:22:33,360
Speaker 2: He there talked to those girls first, Yeah, and make

483
00:22:33,400 --> 00:22:36,280
Speaker 2: it right with your with your daughter's huh daughter, Yeah yes,

484
00:22:36,400 --> 00:22:38,200
Speaker 2: But if he does that and sign it.

485
00:22:38,280 --> 00:22:40,199
Speaker 4: Are you open? If he called and said that.

486
00:22:40,600 --> 00:22:43,080
Speaker 3: You know, it's like, I'm One thing that I learned

487
00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:47,960
Speaker 3: recently is like to just close doors, like just really

488
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:50,520
Speaker 3: close them, not like lock them, not you don't have

489
00:22:50,560 --> 00:22:54,720
Speaker 3: to be mean, but like close them and like you

490
00:22:54,760 --> 00:22:55,960
Speaker 3: know what I mean, close them and just be like

491
00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:58,480
Speaker 3: thank you, nice to see you, like hope you're well.

492
00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:03,400
Speaker 2: Slam it shut just because we were like slamming things

493
00:23:03,600 --> 00:23:06,200
Speaker 2: like oh god, no no, but Jon Housewive slammed door.

494
00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:07,680
Speaker 2: Just nice.

495
00:23:09,359 --> 00:23:10,480
Speaker 3: Slamming door exactly.

496
00:23:10,520 --> 00:23:12,399
Speaker 1: Just be like oh okay, Kelly, It actually, you know

497
00:23:12,480 --> 00:23:15,240
Speaker 1: it hasn't been that long, right, Your marriage was supposed

498
00:23:15,240 --> 00:23:15,800
Speaker 1: to take place.

499
00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:17,679
Speaker 3: What date, June?

500
00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:19,040
Speaker 4: The summer?

501
00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:22,560
Speaker 1: It was the summer, so it's only more months. Have

502
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:25,200
Speaker 1: you had a moment where you wished you had gone

503
00:23:25,240 --> 00:23:27,320
Speaker 1: through with it? Have you had a moment where you think, God,

504
00:23:27,359 --> 00:23:29,960
Speaker 1: I miss him?

505
00:23:30,160 --> 00:23:32,240
Speaker 3: You know it's funny that you say that, because you know,

506
00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:35,560
Speaker 3: right after we called it off, I had to move out,

507
00:23:35,760 --> 00:23:37,640
Speaker 3: so because he made me move out of my apartment,

508
00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:40,440
Speaker 3: so I rented my apartment. Then we moved into another apartment.

509
00:23:40,800 --> 00:23:42,640
Speaker 3: So then I had to move out of that apartment

510
00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:44,600
Speaker 3: into another apartment. And I work in real estate. There's

511
00:23:44,640 --> 00:23:47,560
Speaker 3: no apartments, so it's like awful to try to find

512
00:23:47,600 --> 00:23:51,119
Speaker 3: something and to move everything and get everything organized and

513
00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:52,080
Speaker 3: work and do everything.

514
00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:55,360
Speaker 2: Can I just time it really fast? Can Can you help

515
00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:56,960
Speaker 2: me understand why you had to move out of your place?

516
00:23:57,520 --> 00:23:59,480
Speaker 3: He I had an apartment and he didn't want to

517
00:23:59,520 --> 00:24:02,160
Speaker 3: live there, wanted to start fresh. So I was like, okay,

518
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:04,960
Speaker 3: So I rented that apartment and then we were in

519
00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:07,560
Speaker 3: another apartment, and then I had to leave that and

520
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 3: find another apartment, which is like, there's no apartments available

521
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:11,960
Speaker 3: in New York, like there is nothing. I mean, you

522
00:24:12,000 --> 00:24:13,719
Speaker 3: have to buy something. I'm like, I'm not like, this

523
00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:15,000
Speaker 3: is not what's happening right now.

524
00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 4: So that was just.

525
00:24:17,720 --> 00:24:20,919
Speaker 3: All that stress. It was just there was it was

526
00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:23,600
Speaker 3: like my hot my life was so messy that I

527
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:26,640
Speaker 3: now I'm just like I'm feeling very emotional with you guys.

528
00:24:26,680 --> 00:24:28,680
Speaker 3: First of all, thank you so much, Like I love

529
00:24:28,760 --> 00:24:32,640
Speaker 3: all your insight. You're gonna make me cry, but I'm

530
00:24:32,680 --> 00:24:34,880
Speaker 3: just like starting to like process it.

531
00:24:35,560 --> 00:24:38,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean you were the logistics like like you said,

532
00:24:38,280 --> 00:24:40,760
Speaker 1: of having we we know we just recently lived this

533
00:24:40,800 --> 00:24:43,880
Speaker 1: where you're moving and packing and the memories and then

534
00:24:44,200 --> 00:24:46,280
Speaker 1: your life is up ended and you don't have a

535
00:24:46,359 --> 00:24:48,159
Speaker 1: solid foundation or a safe place.

536
00:24:48,840 --> 00:24:50,679
Speaker 3: Like what do you do with the photos? It's like

537
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:53,119
Speaker 3: it's like, oh am, I gonna be like a teenager

538
00:24:53,160 --> 00:24:55,280
Speaker 3: and like ump the phinals Like I'm just like what

539
00:24:55,320 --> 00:24:57,640
Speaker 3: do I do with these? Like do I keep them?

540
00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:00,160
Speaker 3: Do I not keep? In the same exact sa. It's

541
00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:03,960
Speaker 3: a very like you unsettling time and.

542
00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 2: Is the emotion the piece to of like because obviously

543
00:25:08,600 --> 00:25:10,520
Speaker 2: you want your person, you want your lobster, you want

544
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:12,240
Speaker 2: to you want companionship.

545
00:25:12,400 --> 00:25:15,400
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, I mean I do, of course I do, and.

546
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:18,119
Speaker 1: Like you have, you had a moment to miss him.

547
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:20,880
Speaker 3: I'm sorry to interrupt, No, no I. And that's what I'm

548
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:23,320
Speaker 3: just saying is like I'm just starting to like get

549
00:25:23,359 --> 00:25:26,000
Speaker 3: back into the swing of things, like you know, everything

550
00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:28,880
Speaker 3: is like now calm in New York, and like I've

551
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:31,680
Speaker 3: just been kind of like thinking through like what do

552
00:25:31,880 --> 00:25:34,000
Speaker 3: I want and just preparing for today. I was kind

553
00:25:34,000 --> 00:25:37,040
Speaker 3: of like thinking of myself, like what do I want.

554
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:39,160
Speaker 3: I'm hearing all these stories from other people, but what

555
00:25:39,240 --> 00:25:42,159
Speaker 3: do I want? And to your point, you out like

556
00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:46,840
Speaker 3: I want someone that is like just really genuinely, genuinely

557
00:25:46,840 --> 00:25:48,920
Speaker 3: cares about me and wants me to be happy.

558
00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:52,640
Speaker 4: And well, any chance that person is already in your life.

559
00:25:52,720 --> 00:25:54,520
Speaker 3: I don't know. Why do you know him?

560
00:25:54,800 --> 00:25:56,880
Speaker 4: I don't know. I was worrying of you might know him.

561
00:25:56,920 --> 00:25:57,320
Speaker 3: I don't know.

562
00:25:57,440 --> 00:26:01,399
Speaker 4: Maybe who have you been friends with for about it

563
00:26:01,480 --> 00:26:03,440
Speaker 4: worked for us. I'm just saying, it's.

564
00:26:03,240 --> 00:26:05,399
Speaker 3: So funny, Like on TikTok, You're like tik and I

565
00:26:05,440 --> 00:26:07,160
Speaker 3: was like, this is so weird. Why are all these

566
00:26:07,320 --> 00:26:11,400
Speaker 3: psychics coming there? Like you will find the man. He

567
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:14,440
Speaker 3: is right in front of you. He's trying to call you,

568
00:26:14,480 --> 00:26:16,760
Speaker 3: but he can't call you in his hand. His phone

569
00:26:16,800 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 3: is in his hand, and I'm like who what? I'm like,

570
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:21,680
Speaker 3: is she real?

571
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:22,960
Speaker 1: Wait?

572
00:26:23,080 --> 00:26:25,520
Speaker 2: Let's play a lightning round. We're all going to answer.

573
00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:27,760
Speaker 2: First question is should men pay for the first date?

574
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:33,520
Speaker 2: I say absolutely, yes, yes, yes, yes. How long till

575
00:26:33,600 --> 00:26:35,920
Speaker 2: you text someone after a date? Three day rule?

576
00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:40,440
Speaker 4: Question mark that evening right away? I agree immediately.

577
00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:42,280
Speaker 2: I think I think once you leave them, be like,

578
00:26:42,280 --> 00:26:46,200
Speaker 2: that was an amazing night. Do you want the does

579
00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 2: the girl text or the guy text first?

580
00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:51,280
Speaker 4: Whoever is the adult? What I'm saying, where is the adult?

581
00:26:51,480 --> 00:26:53,920
Speaker 4: I want to say, we're all in here forty fifties,

582
00:26:54,040 --> 00:26:55,919
Speaker 4: and when you got time for this crap to be

583
00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 4: playing around? I'm a grown ass man. You're a grown

584
00:26:58,359 --> 00:26:59,639
Speaker 4: ass woman. If you like me, till me.

585
00:26:59,680 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 1: I ain't got time for games. Guys.

586
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 3: I'm at the restaurant.

587
00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:09,479
Speaker 2: I'm helping a lot of nice girlfriends right now with

588
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:11,760
Speaker 2: their responses. I'm like, no, just text them Backstop waiting.

589
00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:13,560
Speaker 2: Why are you waiting? There's no point of waiting. Just

590
00:27:13,600 --> 00:27:15,640
Speaker 2: be like I had a lot of fun, swinky face,

591
00:27:16,119 --> 00:27:17,000
Speaker 2: you know, like thank you.

592
00:27:17,160 --> 00:27:19,040
Speaker 1: TJ told me one time he was like, the biggest

593
00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:21,600
Speaker 1: mistake y'all make, meaning us girls, is that you think

594
00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:22,560
Speaker 1: we want to chase you.

595
00:27:22,640 --> 00:27:22,880
Speaker 3: Yeah.

596
00:27:23,400 --> 00:27:26,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, you want to get the text too, Like I

597
00:27:26,560 --> 00:27:28,000
Speaker 2: appreciate the text.

598
00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:30,000
Speaker 4: And if a guy doesn't appreciate that text and does

599
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:31,199
Speaker 4: the right thing with it, you don't need to be

600
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:32,320
Speaker 4: with them in the first place.

601
00:27:32,520 --> 00:27:33,719
Speaker 2: How long till you're intimate?

602
00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:40,680
Speaker 1: I mean for me, there wouldn't be a rule.

603
00:27:40,840 --> 00:27:41,119
Speaker 4: For me.

604
00:27:41,160 --> 00:27:43,480
Speaker 1: It would be when I felt like I wanted to be.

605
00:27:43,560 --> 00:27:45,080
Speaker 4: I don't want to hear that from your girlfriend there's

606
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:45,520
Speaker 4: no rule.

607
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:50,960
Speaker 2: Well, well, there are rules in place, they say, they

608
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 2: say like the third day or is you.

609
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 1: Know, I think whenever you're feeling it.

610
00:27:55,560 --> 00:27:59,240
Speaker 4: And yeah, this is another we're grown folks. Yeah, and

611
00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:00,919
Speaker 4: you can make whatever decision you want to.

612
00:28:01,480 --> 00:28:04,560
Speaker 2: I think if someone is going because some people say like, oh, well,

613
00:28:04,560 --> 00:28:06,639
Speaker 2: if you give it to them right away, I'm like, no,

614
00:28:06,800 --> 00:28:08,960
Speaker 2: if the guy just wants that, then you're going to

615
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:10,960
Speaker 2: know that right off the bat, you know, So.

616
00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:13,280
Speaker 1: Why buy the cow if you're getting the milk for free?

617
00:28:13,640 --> 00:28:15,000
Speaker 1: I mean, come on, who grew up?

618
00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:16,080
Speaker 3: I heard that growing on?

619
00:28:16,520 --> 00:28:16,840
Speaker 4: I did.

620
00:28:16,960 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 3: It's so dominicing.

621
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:23,639
Speaker 2: Actually absolutely, I think younger maybe that is more, but

622
00:28:23,800 --> 00:28:27,240
Speaker 2: when you're older, it's like, Okay, you're gonna I would

623
00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:29,880
Speaker 2: hope that it's not the case where.

624
00:28:29,880 --> 00:28:32,119
Speaker 3: I think it's just more so. It's just it's so

625
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:36,280
Speaker 3: difficult dating in general, and like for my kids, they're

626
00:28:36,320 --> 00:28:39,120
Speaker 3: in their twenties, and for me, it's just dating is

627
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:42,440
Speaker 3: just really really hard, and there's just so much expectation

628
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 3: and like, you know, what do you want to do

629
00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:47,280
Speaker 3: in life? What's going to happen? And people have had

630
00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 3: so many issues in the past, and you know, I

631
00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:54,360
Speaker 3: just I am just very open and like easy going.

632
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:56,800
Speaker 3: If I like something, I'm just like I like you, right?

633
00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 2: Is ghosting? Is ghosting very acceptable? And have you guys

634
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:02,440
Speaker 2: been ghosted before?

635
00:29:04,640 --> 00:29:05,440
Speaker 3: I have No.

636
00:29:05,560 --> 00:29:07,960
Speaker 1: I don't think it's acceptable. And I have not been

637
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:11,760
Speaker 1: ghosted and I have not ghosted anyone.

638
00:29:11,880 --> 00:29:15,120
Speaker 3: I was accused of ghosting, but it wasn't like that

639
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:17,480
Speaker 3: I was actually ghosting. I was just way for the week,

640
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:19,800
Speaker 3: working and I'm just kind of like, I'm kind of

641
00:29:19,840 --> 00:29:22,320
Speaker 3: you were busy. Now, well, I'm also like when I'm working,

642
00:29:22,360 --> 00:29:24,080
Speaker 3: I'm like work, I'm trying to like stay focused on

643
00:29:24,080 --> 00:29:25,719
Speaker 3: what I'm doing. I can't. And you know, it's like

644
00:29:26,120 --> 00:29:28,400
Speaker 3: you get. I mean when I was I was, when

645
00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:30,720
Speaker 3: I was on Housewives like people, they would be screaming

646
00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:32,800
Speaker 3: at me, like you don't respond. I'm like, I'm filming.

647
00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:35,760
Speaker 3: I'm getting yelled at, like just stop, give me two minutes.

648
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:40,720
Speaker 4: Like I didn't ghost you. I was just busy. That's

649
00:29:40,720 --> 00:29:41,800
Speaker 4: why I was busy.

650
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 3: I mean, I was getting yelled and screamed down. I'm like,

651
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:44,760
Speaker 3: oh my god, I'll call you in a minute.

652
00:29:44,840 --> 00:29:46,600
Speaker 4: I know, Jenn, I have not, and I think it's

653
00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:51,520
Speaker 4: never acceptable. I mean, somebody the decency of a response.

654
00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 2: Right, I mean, I I agree, but I will have

655
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:57,160
Speaker 2: to say, probably in my twenties dating in Los Angeles,

656
00:29:57,160 --> 00:30:00,880
Speaker 2: I'm sure I ghosted that. I'm almost one hundred percent

657
00:30:00,880 --> 00:30:04,480
Speaker 2: positive I've been ghosted. I'm sure I've ghosted, but post divorce.

658
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:05,840
Speaker 3: You're so beautiful.

659
00:30:05,920 --> 00:30:09,600
Speaker 2: Oh, I've been ghosted many times and even posted like

660
00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:13,240
Speaker 2: post divorce ghosted many times from like, well not many times.

661
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:15,080
Speaker 2: There was two guys I can think of that ghosted

662
00:30:15,160 --> 00:30:17,520
Speaker 2: me on Riah. We were supposed to meet at the

663
00:30:17,520 --> 00:30:24,160
Speaker 2: Soho house and then they never ended up showing up. Yeah,

664
00:30:24,200 --> 00:30:26,880
Speaker 2: and he was like a pretty like known person too.

665
00:30:26,920 --> 00:30:30,440
Speaker 2: And I'm like so yeah, you never heard a response

666
00:30:30,480 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 2: from response that was just the one awful. But I

667
00:30:34,840 --> 00:30:37,680
Speaker 2: will not say it is. I will not say who

668
00:30:37,680 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 2: it is. But but yeah, so I don't. But I

669
00:30:41,600 --> 00:30:44,720
Speaker 2: said post divorce, like, I will be very uh mindful

670
00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:48,080
Speaker 2: and respectful about saying I don't feel like this is

671
00:30:48,080 --> 00:30:49,720
Speaker 2: going to go anywhere. This isn't for me. So like

672
00:30:49,720 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 2: I would text and say like this one person, like, hey,

673
00:30:52,080 --> 00:30:54,040
Speaker 2: I had a lovely time with you, and I could

674
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:55,400
Speaker 2: tell that they would want to hang out again. But

675
00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:57,920
Speaker 2: I said, for me, this, this isn't what I'm looking for.

676
00:30:58,600 --> 00:31:00,880
Speaker 2: And then what was frustrating Some guys would be like

677
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:02,600
Speaker 2: but I was still like another chance, why don't you.

678
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:04,520
Speaker 2: I'm like, I don't have you know what I mean, Like,

679
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:06,680
Speaker 2: I'm like I've said please see above.

680
00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:08,960
Speaker 3: Basically I just want to.

681
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:13,720
Speaker 2: Like sometimes they don't even accept the response. But even so,

682
00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 2: I knew I did the right thing by at least

683
00:31:15,840 --> 00:31:18,239
Speaker 2: so I grew in that aspect because I'm pretty sure

684
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:18,680
Speaker 2: I've got.

685
00:31:18,800 --> 00:31:20,920
Speaker 3: That's a good thing. I should say that if there's

686
00:31:20,920 --> 00:31:22,120
Speaker 3: someone that I like, I should.

687
00:31:21,880 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 2: Say because I'm a mom too, it needs to align

688
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:25,920
Speaker 2: with my family, you know, Like I'm not like I

689
00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:27,600
Speaker 2: used to appease and go out and second dates when

690
00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 2: I knew it wasn't the thing. But now older, I'm like,

691
00:31:29,800 --> 00:31:31,520
Speaker 2: this is a this is not I'd rather be here

692
00:31:31,520 --> 00:31:35,040
Speaker 2: with my children. This is a waste of everyone's time. Yes, yeah, yeah,

693
00:31:35,480 --> 00:31:40,480
Speaker 2: well that was that lightning round over.

694
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:41,800
Speaker 4: You guys on I was enjoying that.

695
00:31:42,240 --> 00:31:44,400
Speaker 3: I like. I like the from like you know, from

696
00:31:44,400 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 3: the I like the responding. I like what you were saying,

697
00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:48,680
Speaker 3: Like I like what everyone is saying. Just like to

698
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:50,920
Speaker 3: respond and like be the adult in the room and just.

699
00:31:51,080 --> 00:31:54,320
Speaker 3: And I need to also be more like adult with

700
00:31:54,320 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 3: with with texting too. I'm not a good texture, so

701
00:31:56,960 --> 00:31:58,920
Speaker 3: I need to be more just. I'm not either, are

702
00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:00,520
Speaker 3: just really good at it. Like I'm on my phone

703
00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 3: so much for work that the last thing I want

704
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:05,520
Speaker 3: to do is like text someone like I just you know,

705
00:32:05,560 --> 00:32:13,200
Speaker 3: it's psych a lot.

706
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:18,840
Speaker 2: Wait, I have one more. I'm sorry, what is your

707
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:20,520
Speaker 2: what is everyone's deal breaker?

708
00:32:21,760 --> 00:32:22,200
Speaker 4: Smoking?

709
00:32:23,160 --> 00:32:23,400
Speaker 3: Yeah?

710
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:24,080
Speaker 4: Period?

711
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:27,160
Speaker 2: Have you ever smoked before? Never been a smoking never,

712
00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:28,320
Speaker 2: never smoked one cigarette?

713
00:32:28,360 --> 00:32:30,840
Speaker 4: Oh yeah cigarette before in life. But if somebody was

714
00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:32,840
Speaker 4: an actual smoker, it's just not we are not going

715
00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 4: to work out, and I don't care who it is.

716
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:35,640
Speaker 3: Yep.

717
00:32:36,200 --> 00:32:39,800
Speaker 1: A deal breaker for me is anyone who has anger issues.

718
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:42,400
Speaker 1: I just I can't deal with the yelling and the

719
00:32:42,480 --> 00:32:45,280
Speaker 1: name calling. I'm over that in my life completely. So

720
00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:46,000
Speaker 1: that's a deal break.

721
00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:49,720
Speaker 4: And if it's an angry smoker she's really smoking, is.

722
00:32:49,720 --> 00:32:50,320
Speaker 1: High on my list?

723
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:53,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, yeah, mine would be. I've got to just because.

724
00:32:53,920 --> 00:32:57,080
Speaker 2: And I'm not saying if you cheat, you can't fix

725
00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:59,600
Speaker 2: your relationship, but for me, knowing how I react now

726
00:32:59,600 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 2: in this situations and given my past, I couldn't be

727
00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:06,800
Speaker 2: in a relationship if someone cheated again. And then any

728
00:33:07,000 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 2: any sort of abuse, whether it's insinuating aggression, getting in

729
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 2: my face or actual physical touches, You're out.

730
00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:16,920
Speaker 3: I could not agree more. I think fatas physical touch

731
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:21,280
Speaker 3: is absolutely out. Anger is absolutely out. I just will

732
00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:22,120
Speaker 3: not put up with that.

733
00:33:22,600 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 4: Kelly, can you tell folks because some are gonna folks

734
00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:27,640
Speaker 4: are want to hear this, and there're gonna be some

735
00:33:27,640 --> 00:33:29,040
Speaker 4: guys who might be interested in you. They are going

736
00:33:29,120 --> 00:33:31,160
Speaker 4: to hear this, and they might not jump on Rya.

737
00:33:31,400 --> 00:33:34,520
Speaker 4: Maybe they just wow, do I have a shot at Kelly?

738
00:33:35,080 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 4: What what is the you said? You don't text, you

739
00:33:37,400 --> 00:33:39,800
Speaker 4: don't like the text? You're not good on text? How

740
00:33:39,840 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 4: should What is the right way to court Kelly?

741
00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:47,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, just ask me out and slid into your DMS.

742
00:33:48,160 --> 00:33:48,720
Speaker 4: Does that work?

743
00:33:48,800 --> 00:33:53,240
Speaker 2: So my husband got me that way. I love that.

744
00:33:53,560 --> 00:33:55,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, please don't sign them to my DMS.

745
00:33:55,320 --> 00:33:56,719
Speaker 2: I feel like it's better than RYA though. I've got

746
00:33:56,760 --> 00:33:58,560
Speaker 2: to be honest with you. Instagram is like the better

747
00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:01,920
Speaker 2: dating app I think. Yeah, I would just say be

748
00:34:02,000 --> 00:34:02,479
Speaker 2: open to it.

749
00:34:02,640 --> 00:34:04,880
Speaker 3: I just get so many weird people doing so many

750
00:34:04,880 --> 00:34:05,280
Speaker 3: weird things.

751
00:34:05,280 --> 00:34:06,880
Speaker 2: Well, you got to make sure they're like got a

752
00:34:06,880 --> 00:34:08,000
Speaker 2: little verified check.

753
00:34:08,040 --> 00:34:10,640
Speaker 1: We need the little blue check mark, not a paycheck either, Like.

754
00:34:12,360 --> 00:34:14,680
Speaker 3: No, like I don't know you, Like I try to

755
00:34:14,680 --> 00:34:20,360
Speaker 3: be nice, but I'm like, oh god, I guess you know,

756
00:34:20,480 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 3: just if you knew someone that I knew, just to

757
00:34:22,600 --> 00:34:24,680
Speaker 3: give me some comfort, because like, like when we talked

758
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:26,759
Speaker 3: about that before, like trust is really important to me,

759
00:34:27,120 --> 00:34:30,839
Speaker 3: and so just for me to like feel like I'm

760
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:33,400
Speaker 3: you know, like you're not trying to like use me

761
00:34:33,760 --> 00:34:36,360
Speaker 3: is like that's just like my big thing too. I

762
00:34:36,360 --> 00:34:40,600
Speaker 3: mean outside of like you know, aggressive behavior like aggression

763
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:43,560
Speaker 3: towards your your exes or any anything like that, but

764
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:47,239
Speaker 3: just feeling like I'm being used just just not like

765
00:34:47,280 --> 00:34:49,719
Speaker 3: I've had so many guys be like, oh, yeah, I'm

766
00:34:49,719 --> 00:34:52,360
Speaker 3: with Kelly, you know, like Kelly'll handle the reservation or

767
00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:55,759
Speaker 3: Kelly'll do this. I'm like, oh, who's Kelly? Like you

768
00:34:55,840 --> 00:34:56,239
Speaker 3: want to be?

769
00:34:56,440 --> 00:34:58,640
Speaker 1: I mean, doesn't every woman. I don't want to speak

770
00:34:58,640 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 1: for everyone, but I'm going to say it anyway and

771
00:35:01,320 --> 00:35:03,359
Speaker 1: just ask you too what you think. Don't we all

772
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:04,960
Speaker 1: just at the end of the day, no matter how

773
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:07,400
Speaker 1: much money we have or how much success we've had,

774
00:35:08,800 --> 00:35:10,200
Speaker 1: don't we just want to be taken care of?

775
00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:13,520
Speaker 2: Yes, you guys. I had this guy post divorce where

776
00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:15,960
Speaker 2: he took me on a nice little weekend getaway and

777
00:35:16,000 --> 00:35:17,319
Speaker 2: at the very end he goes, hey, do you mind

778
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:20,440
Speaker 2: posting this? And I go and I said I and

779
00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:22,799
Speaker 2: I knew exactly what was coming. And I said, what

780
00:35:22,840 --> 00:35:24,520
Speaker 2: do you mean why? And he goes, well, because if

781
00:35:24,520 --> 00:35:25,720
Speaker 2: you post, we get it for free.

782
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:30,360
Speaker 4: And I was like, oh, no, no, no.

783
00:35:28,239 --> 00:35:32,760
Speaker 1: No, yeah that's awful, Like yeah, let me, that's horrible.

784
00:35:32,800 --> 00:35:34,720
Speaker 2: But then my problem is I continue dating this person

785
00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:38,399
Speaker 2: like that's like, but those are things that now you see.

786
00:35:38,400 --> 00:35:40,719
Speaker 2: Then I'm like, you know, but I'm like, that's you

787
00:35:40,719 --> 00:35:42,480
Speaker 2: don't want to you want someone to take care of

788
00:35:42,480 --> 00:35:44,080
Speaker 2: you and not take advantage of you.

789
00:35:44,160 --> 00:35:44,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, there you go.

790
00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:46,960
Speaker 4: Yeah, you'll always say she says it all the time.

791
00:35:47,000 --> 00:35:49,800
Speaker 4: It's just amount of safety. You just make me feel serious.

792
00:35:49,800 --> 00:35:51,960
Speaker 4: It's not just financial, just emotional safety.

793
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:52,880
Speaker 1: Emotional safety.

794
00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:54,920
Speaker 4: I feel like somebody's got you in that way, so

795
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:58,080
Speaker 4: that that's nuts. That's where are you'll finding these dudes?

796
00:35:58,960 --> 00:36:04,280
Speaker 3: What is wrong with us? At TJ okay exactly.

797
00:36:04,239 --> 00:36:07,879
Speaker 4: That's crazy. Nothing's wrong with y'all. Something sometimes is terribly wrong.

798
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:09,800
Speaker 2: We want to Yeah, I think we hold on to

799
00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:12,120
Speaker 2: people because we think maybe that's our best shot and

800
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:14,000
Speaker 2: that's the only person out there. But it's not. But

801
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:15,840
Speaker 2: it's not, it's not. And we're so excited to have

802
00:36:15,960 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 2: Kelly be a part of our celebrity mentor team on

803
00:36:18,040 --> 00:36:20,480
Speaker 2: I Do Part two. We know our single listeners are

804
00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:21,920
Speaker 2: going to learn so much from you. So if you

805
00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:24,360
Speaker 2: are single and ready to find love again, call us

806
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:28,080
Speaker 2: one eight four four four I Do Pod. That's eight

807
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Speaker 2: four four four four three six seven six three or

808
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:34,400
Speaker 2: email us at I dopod at iHeartRadio dot com and

809
00:36:34,640 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 2: obviously follow us on Instagram at I Do Part two Pod.

810
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:40,880
Speaker 2: I Love That Love You this is so fun. This

811
00:36:40,920 --> 00:36:43,000
Speaker 2: is it's like the biggest screat and now I just

812
00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:44,840
Speaker 2: want everyone to be happy and and love and have

813
00:36:44,920 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 2: the heart sing with you guys.

814
00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:49,040
Speaker 3: Oh my god, you guys. You are You're like a

815
00:36:49,120 --> 00:36:50,160
Speaker 3: huge hug. I love you, guys.

816
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:51,799
Speaker 4: Look, we can't say it enough. You've said a lot

817
00:36:51,840 --> 00:36:54,120
Speaker 4: of kind words to us here, and look, I will

818
00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:56,799
Speaker 4: be honest with you. That my first introduction to you.

819
00:36:57,440 --> 00:36:59,200
Speaker 4: I read plenty, But the first time I've ever saw

820
00:36:59,200 --> 00:37:02,920
Speaker 4: you on television was when I watched Season three, episode twelve,

821
00:37:03,200 --> 00:37:04,000
Speaker 4: which was the.

822
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:06,520
Speaker 1: Scary Eye Island episode SYE.

823
00:37:06,640 --> 00:37:11,080
Speaker 4: So that was my first exposure to you. It was

824
00:37:11,120 --> 00:37:13,960
Speaker 4: a wild scene. But then you walked into this place

825
00:37:14,160 --> 00:37:17,240
Speaker 4: and you were the warmest, the big smile, big hug.

826
00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:20,319
Speaker 4: So I I know you say that's authentically you, but

827
00:37:20,320 --> 00:37:23,400
Speaker 4: it's unfortunate sometimes people think that you're a caricature or

828
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:25,799
Speaker 4: that's only you. We're seeing you sit here and talk

829
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:29,520
Speaker 4: passionately and authentically and with tears in your eyes about life.

830
00:37:29,560 --> 00:37:32,200
Speaker 4: You're just going through with like everybody else. So we

831
00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:34,279
Speaker 4: thank you for your words, and it's a pleasure to

832
00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:35,080
Speaker 4: get to meet you here.

833
00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 3: But you're with me on Scary Island. You would have

834
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:39,239
Speaker 3: been like, wait, what is going on? You'd be like, Kelly,

835
00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:40,400
Speaker 3: give me one of those comming bears.

836
00:37:41,480 --> 00:37:43,560
Speaker 1: I mean, you're you and you still are a single

837
00:37:43,560 --> 00:37:47,200
Speaker 1: mom who you're a mama mama bear like so many

838
00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:50,040
Speaker 1: of us are. And yes, you'd like to protect your heart,

839
00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 1: but more importantly you want to protect your daughter's hearts.

840
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:54,480
Speaker 1: And so you can see that, you can feel that

841
00:37:54,480 --> 00:37:57,360
Speaker 1: that is true and real. And I guess any advice

842
00:37:57,400 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 1: for anyone who wants to date you is they need

843
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:02,799
Speaker 1: to make sure your to the loves of your life. Yes,

844
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:05,879
Speaker 1: are okay with him first? That's probably the biggest test

845
00:38:05,920 --> 00:38:07,279
Speaker 1: they have to pass, yes, one.

846
00:38:07,280 --> 00:38:11,040
Speaker 3: Hundred percent, Because I mean, don't you want like one big, happy,

847
00:38:11,160 --> 00:38:13,920
Speaker 3: fun family and there's there's and it's just so easy.

848
00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:17,480
Speaker 3: It's so easy to do. I think that sometimes like

849
00:38:17,800 --> 00:38:20,799
Speaker 3: men or women to like they create drama so that

850
00:38:20,840 --> 00:38:24,160
Speaker 3: there's energy towards that person. I'm like, no, no, no, no, no,

851
00:38:24,320 --> 00:38:27,240
Speaker 3: this is like this is a unit. We want the unit.

852
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:29,880
Speaker 3: We don't want, you know, like fractured. We want it

853
00:38:29,880 --> 00:38:31,919
Speaker 3: to be one big unit. So that's what I'm looking

854
00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:33,560
Speaker 3: for my missing piece.

855
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:35,799
Speaker 2: Well, we're excited. The listeners are going to be so

856
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 2: lucky to have you be a mentor, so thank you.

857
00:38:38,280 --> 00:38:42,000
Speaker 2: I'm excited You're going to find love in the process

858
00:38:42,040 --> 00:38:42,399
Speaker 2: with them.

859
00:38:42,480 --> 00:38:45,279
Speaker 3: I'm gonna be crying. I'm gonna be fining love. It's

860
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,520
Speaker 3: going to be like this huge journey for me.

861
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 4: It's like, at the end of that, you end up

862
00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:51,920
Speaker 4: in a relationship, end up married.

863
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:54,080
Speaker 2: We need to get on a group message so you

864
00:38:54,120 --> 00:38:55,520
Speaker 2: can tell us anything so we can be like no

865
00:38:55,680 --> 00:38:58,680
Speaker 2: red flag, Nope, we gotta help. We gotta help you too,

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Speaker 2: So here we go.

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Speaker 3: I was I was actually supposed to be with Luan

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Speaker 3: right now. She's on a dating show in Cowbo and

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Speaker 3: I was supposed to be giving her advice today and

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Speaker 3: then and I was thinking to myself, like, what if

871
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Speaker 3: I met one of the guys and I was interested

872
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Speaker 3: in that.

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Speaker 2: What if it was a client?

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Speaker 3: Is that a no?

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Speaker 1: No?

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Speaker 3: So I actually met one client who was really attractive,

877
00:39:18,680 --> 00:39:20,400
Speaker 3: who was so great, and I just said I was

878
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:22,160
Speaker 3: honest with them. I was like, you know, I my

879
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:26,319
Speaker 3: reputation is everything, and so you know later on, but

880
00:39:26,480 --> 00:39:27,920
Speaker 3: not while you're working. I can't do it.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes you can find love at work, I was sae let. Yeah,

882
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:34,759
Speaker 1: just letting you know that that is actually a great

883
00:39:34,760 --> 00:39:36,160
Speaker 1: place sometimes to meet someone.

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Speaker 3: But I feel like in my business, because it's a

885
00:39:37,960 --> 00:39:41,200
Speaker 3: transaction business, you can't. I mean, if you do start

886
00:39:41,200 --> 00:39:43,000
Speaker 3: down that, it's a very slippery slope. And I just

887
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:45,240
Speaker 3: trust is everything, and I want my clients to feel

888
00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:48,520
Speaker 3: like they are getting there you know that I'm there

889
00:39:48,680 --> 00:39:52,359
Speaker 3: for them in that financial transaction and if later on

890
00:39:52,440 --> 00:39:55,319
Speaker 3: something happens like I'm open to that, but not while

891
00:39:55,360 --> 00:39:58,880
Speaker 3: we're in the middle of, you know, dealing with their money.

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Speaker 4: Thank you for saying transaction, because John, I'm meant to

893
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Speaker 4: ask you. I know we're wrapping here, but we talked

894
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Speaker 4: about protecting your finances right with the free nup? How

895
00:40:07,160 --> 00:40:09,560
Speaker 4: do you do women? Do you protect your heart? How

896
00:40:09,560 --> 00:40:11,440
Speaker 4: do you go about that? You talk about that step

897
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Speaker 4: you want to take because I got to protect what

898
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Speaker 4: I've built. Are women so often trying to protect their heart?

899
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Speaker 4: And does that get in the way sometimes possibly under community?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know if it's so much heart. I

901
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:25,719
Speaker 3: think it's just like there's so much more ego now

902
00:40:25,760 --> 00:40:27,000
Speaker 3: than there ever has been.

903
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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I think just the ego, it's just as

904
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Speaker 2: a hego is there to protect your protection is first

905
00:40:33,840 --> 00:40:37,160
Speaker 2: and foremost my babies, Like that's I'll always protect my family,

906
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:39,719
Speaker 2: and then I feel like I'm kind of second to that.

907
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Speaker 2: But yeah, I don't know. I mean, I think we've

908
00:40:41,680 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 2: definitely I'm so scared of for me personally, the unsteadiness

909
00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 2: of things and fearful of what could happen because it's

910
00:40:51,120 --> 00:40:52,759
Speaker 2: what I've been used to. But I think now it's

911
00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:55,040
Speaker 2: like I have to just lean into trusting that it's

912
00:40:55,080 --> 00:40:58,279
Speaker 2: a different situation and to open my heart up to

913
00:40:58,360 --> 00:41:01,080
Speaker 2: know that this isn't it's going to be the same

914
00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:02,960
Speaker 2: thing because this is a different person and I don't

915
00:41:03,000 --> 00:41:03,640
Speaker 2: have to mirror that.

916
00:41:04,360 --> 00:41:06,920
Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree, and and yes, I think TJ. We

917
00:41:06,960 --> 00:41:09,120
Speaker 1: all do try to protect our hearts, but it can't

918
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Speaker 1: be at the cost of the other person's. I think

919
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:14,280
Speaker 1: that's the big that's the big takeaway. But you know what, Kelly,

920
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Speaker 1: we're looking forward to. We love weddings here, so we

921
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Speaker 1: are looking forward to celebrating yours.

922
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Speaker 3: At the end of all of this.

923
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Speaker 1: That's I mean, the one that actually happens.

924
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:26,239
Speaker 3: I would you know, It's like it's so funny because

925
00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:28,520
Speaker 3: the wedding business is so huge, and it's like I

926
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Speaker 3: would love to I will be married. I will get married, Yes,

927
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Speaker 3: you will. I think like next year is a very

928
00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:36,920
Speaker 3: big year for me. I'm feeling very very like, well,

929
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Speaker 3: just because I'm I'm gonna put the work.

930
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Speaker 1: In, you're manifesting.

931
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Speaker 2: Wait, actually have someone for you? I think that. Yeah, wait,

932
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Speaker 2: can on sidebar kind of set you up potentially? Okay,

933
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Speaker 2: I think it would be great.

934
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Speaker 1: All right, that's just the beginning, okay of setups and

935
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Speaker 1: potential new romances and.

936
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Speaker 3: First putting the work in. You have to at the

937
00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 3: work in. You have to know what your bandwidth is

938
00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:04,400
Speaker 3: and you have to put the work in. You can't

939
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:07,160
Speaker 3: just be like, yeah, I'm open and available. You have

940
00:42:07,200 --> 00:42:08,400
Speaker 3: to put the work in. Amen to that.

941
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