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Speaker 1: We told this to her parents. Mine died when I

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Speaker 1: in a car accident. Wow, that is sad. His whole

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Speaker 1: family died in a car acit jeez, and our friends.

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Speaker 1: But even here some things were off because her parents

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Speaker 1: going on? No, she told me, listen, put an icy

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Speaker 1: to be hard for you, but I'm not by I

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Speaker 1: am a lesbian. Oh my parents knew this for two

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Speaker 1: faking it? What? But please, I beg you to not

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Speaker 3: The question is why why would she lie after seven years,

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Speaker 3: it's like, oh, they're afraid, maybe even in danger of

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Speaker 3: I'm just confused. I don't understand.

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Speaker 1: I was standing there on my feet for like one

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Speaker 1: In this three months, I was hospitalized three times because

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Speaker 1: How good is she to finally realize she was a

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Speaker 1: being mad. I'm just in disbelief for what happened, how

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Speaker 3: So basically everyone is thinking on the surface level of like, oh,

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Speaker 1: But he's just being discarded.

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Speaker 3: And they're not even maybe considering that, like, oh, opis

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Speaker 1: Yes, I mean why there are like casualties one hundred percent,

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Speaker 3: It would have been fine if it was just her

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Speaker 1: Because Op has just been broken up with Yeah after

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Speaker 3: I wonder if she's like I stayed with you seven

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Speaker 1: Least right, and it's like, hey, what should have happened

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Speaker 1: Like I am here to talk to you, to.

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Speaker 3: Help you as a friend.

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Speaker 1: Let me help you as a friend. Yes, because at

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Speaker 1: Yeah. No, I think it's pretty whack on her end.

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Speaker 1: You all seem like such good people. I want to

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Speaker 1: And three times I was hospitalized, I tried to unlive myself.

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Speaker 1: I'm not even good at doing that. For three months,

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Speaker 1: what could I do better? What I did wrong? But

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Speaker 1: Behold my toe, said you did nothing wrong, and that

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Speaker 1: agile weight seven five seven one says, I'm so sorry

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Speaker 1: You can do it, and there is an update on

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Speaker 1: March fifteenth, which is relatively recent.

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Speaker 1: You ready for it?

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Speaker 3: I don't think I am, but give it to me.

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Speaker 1: This ex friend I'll call Paul, reached out to me

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Speaker 3: So that's why nobody cared about OP. She was lying

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Speaker 3: and everyone thought that OP was his evil ahole.

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Speaker 1: They all believed her, but then when they saw my posts,

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Speaker 1: So bad though, so bad to lie about that. Since

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Speaker 1: everyone asking me how I'm doing, if I'm fine. They

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Speaker 3: This reminds me of the one okop post where it's

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Speaker 3: I'm using is his real name? Fuck you Steve. This

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Speaker 1: She texted me the ex girlfriend, asking to forgive her,

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Speaker 1: that she knew Dana since a year and never told

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Speaker 3: Wow wow, wow wow, Wow. Wow, we want, well would

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Speaker 1: Deformation is a really hard suit to even actually make stick. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Like I've heard, defamation is one of the hardest suits

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Speaker 3: I could totally see. How do you prove someone is

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Speaker 1: Yeah, unless you have like a ironclad contract where you

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Speaker 3: Love you and see it tomorrow.

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Speaker 3: Time for okop relam.

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Speaker 1: My husband makes one hundred and forty thousand dollars a year,

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Speaker 3: Oh oh, this sounds like some piping hot tea.

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Speaker 1: There's some joins in this story. John Fresh, squeeze on,

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Speaker 1: you're a dollar only a dollar. Come over, get this.

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Speaker 3: Joice, Let me suck the juice out of it.

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Speaker 1: Such that juicy jews. Baby. My husband makes one hundred

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Speaker 1: I know Reddit thinks women asexually produced children and then

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Speaker 1: I have now learned the in cells on Reddit. Come on,

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Speaker 1: there we are. My salary would not have justified the

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Speaker 1: I thought we were fine. I don't know how this happened.

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Speaker 1: I love him so much. By all accounts. Our marriage

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Speaker 1: that just sets us back even more because my earning

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Speaker 3: Oh dear, I've sense the direction this is going.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, what do you think this update is?

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Speaker 3: I think he got some side poop dang, some side

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Speaker 1: I just realized how bad this is. Oh no, I

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Speaker 1: The woman has two kids, and I guess he's been

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Speaker 1: Thank you to everyone who made me feel a little

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Speaker 3: My God. Also, like when she said she said in

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Speaker 3: I mean I've heard one thing I've been doing in

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Speaker 1: But like what is he not like putting money in

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Speaker 3: I think the thing that's crazy is that it went

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I could I could see I could see her like

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Speaker 1: I'm honestly not sure. It's fifty thousand dollars in credit

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Speaker 3: Fifty thousand in credit card debt is very bad because

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Speaker 1: What does fifty thousand in credit card debt mean?

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Speaker 3: It means so you have to pay They probably paying

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Speaker 3: single month they get charged one twelfth of whatever their

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Speaker 1: Oh so that's that's fun.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, let's see fifty times. So they're paying ten grand

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Speaker 3: a year in interest alone, an interest alone, and that's

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Speaker 3: that's like, oh no, no, a thousand.

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Speaker 1: It would be more than ten grand a year, right

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Speaker 1: if it's so, let's say it's fifty times twenty time

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Speaker 1: twelve No, so is it not fifteen percent a month? No?

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Speaker 3: No, no no, So it's like twenty percent annually, So

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Speaker 3: you divide that by the month. But I mean, I

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Speaker 3: mean still, they could literally pay eight hundred and thirty

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Speaker 3: paid down their their credit card bill, like like ten

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Speaker 3: k for the whole year, they would still be fifty

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Speaker 1: Bad but all right, But even even if that's true,

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Speaker 1: like like if you're making one hundred and forty k,

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Speaker 1: I feel like that should be like not terrible to

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Speaker 1: pay off forty k is like I forget her.

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Speaker 3: It was good that she put the numbers in the beginning,

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Speaker 3: but like, how much is there more? How much is

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Speaker 3: there like, so it's.

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Speaker 1: Two thousand, so yeah, actually's let's look through this. So

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Speaker 1: two thousand dollars a month for the home loan yep,

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Speaker 1: five hundred a month for car payments, child care for

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Speaker 1: three kids, another three grand a month, yeah.

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Speaker 3: For extraneous so I mean six point six point five

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Speaker 3: sixty five hundred a month and expenses probably okay, And

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Speaker 3: then you're making eleven thousand, six hundred before taxes. Yea,

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Speaker 3: So maybe that's let's say, let's say he's making around

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Speaker 3: like nine or ten grand. Yeah, you're right, you're right.

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Speaker 3: I mean that's he's still making ten grand, which which.

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Speaker 1: Probably have like a grand leftover for which.

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Speaker 3: Isn't which isn't crazy considering that, Well, the crazy part is,

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Speaker 3: how did he get so in debt. Yeah, I mean

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Speaker 3: he must have been spending a lot on that family.

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Speaker 3: That's the only way. I wonder if make got a

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Speaker 3: credit card in his in his name without without her

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Speaker 3: having the account access. So it's like maybe that was

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Speaker 3: like under their joint or his name or whatever. And

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Speaker 3: then it's like he just never told her about it

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Speaker 3: and she would never know.

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Speaker 1: Spooky dude, spooky dang. If you liked that story, check

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Speaker 1: out this one. I arrested my fiance for cheating