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Speaker 1: Hello, welcome to another episode of Club sha Shay. I

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Speaker 1: am your host, Shannon Sharp. I'm also the propriet of

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Speaker 1: Club Shahe and today we're at Spotlight La stopping by

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Speaker 1: for conversation and a drink.

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Speaker 5: Today.

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Speaker 1: Is a polar a polarizing figure in the entertainment business

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Speaker 1: for almost two decades and unapologetic personality. A confident model,

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Speaker 1: a bold business woman, a recognizable media figure, a multi

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Speaker 1: talented activist, actress, influencer, TV hosts, author, and a mother.

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Speaker 1: Here she is ladies and gentlemen, the one, the only,

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Speaker 1: Miss amber Rose.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you so much.

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Speaker 5: Thank you for stopping by.

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Speaker 1: I know you're very busy, a young lady, young mother,

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Speaker 1: and uh I want to say thank you again for

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Speaker 1: stopping by.

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Speaker 3: Thank you for having me.

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Speaker 5: I would like to toast.

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Speaker 1: I know you don't drink much, but you told me,

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Speaker 1: say Shanna, I don't drink much, but I want to

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Speaker 1: try this.

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Speaker 3: I do so everyone Ransom raves about this, by the way, to.

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Speaker 5: All your all you've done and all you'll continue to do.

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Speaker 3: Thank you, baby, well, thank you so much. Ooh some

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Speaker 3: special you got right? God, damn.

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Speaker 1: You don't we tell you?

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Speaker 2: I mean, I mean, listen, if I drink that, you're

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Speaker 2: gonna know all my business.

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Speaker 5: Well again, thank you for stopping by.

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Speaker 1: Of course, born and raised in South Yes, growing up

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Speaker 1: in South Philly, what did Amberoads want to be when she.

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Speaker 3: I wanted to be an epidemiologist.

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Speaker 5: Okay, I.

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Speaker 2: I had a there was a guy in my neighborhood

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Speaker 3: And I didn't know what it was at the time.

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Speaker 2: And I know this might sound crazy, but watching his

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Speaker 2: I became obsessed with HIV and AIDS and I would

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Speaker 3: The forefront of a cure like that.

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Speaker 2: Those were my dreams and aspirations and like just being

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Speaker 2: It happened so fast that I just became fascinated with it.

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Speaker 1: Like, you know, what was your what was your fondest

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Speaker 5: I don't know how many sailings, how many brothers and

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Speaker 2: I miss I miss being liked for who I am.

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Speaker 3: I miss that because people gave.

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Speaker 3: That's what I miss the most.

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Speaker 5: You feel you get judged by the cover now, huh?

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Speaker 1: For sure?

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Speaker 2: Like my persona and who I am as a person

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you're nothing like what people when people see Amber roll.

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Speaker 2: If you're nothing like that, I am the complete I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I couldn't be more I'm just a nerd. I

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Speaker 2: And I think I just got pigeon held into a

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Speaker 1: You know, when obviously you didn't have siblings, but when

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Speaker 1: like where your tomboy? Were you girly girl? Did you

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I was definitely loved.

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Speaker 2: I feel like I always had a good personality. I'm

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Speaker 2: But I definitely was loved. I had a lot of friends,

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Speaker 2: and I was a tomboy as well. I played softball. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'm a softball girl. I would play wall ball with

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Speaker 3: But I was always feminine. But I'll play with the boys, right. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: So how was your mom?

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Speaker 1: How was was she a disciplinarian and did she let

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Speaker 2: Well it's tough because, like my mom's mom committed suicide

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Speaker 3: And so no, she wasn't a disciplinary.

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Speaker 1: That's what I was about to ask. And I'm not

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Speaker 2: I did, and I would say for many many years

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Speaker 3: She suffered for many years.

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Speaker 1: You resent the fact that you didn't really get a

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Speaker 5: Kid, right.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So like even when I had chials and tribulations

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Speaker 3: I felt like that I couldn't burden my mom.

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Speaker 1: When you when you got to high school, were you

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Speaker 2: I definitely was popular when I got to high school,

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Speaker 2: for sure. My boyfriend was like the head of the basketball. Okay,

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Speaker 2: you know it was god vibe.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So obviously it's hard looking at you naesthetically. Were

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Speaker 3: I mean yes and no.

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Speaker 2: Again, I had a lot of friends, but like the

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Speaker 3: Like I don't like your dress.

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Speaker 2: I want to fight you, and then you gotta be like, fuck,

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Speaker 2: And then in school you'd be like, it's twelve o'clock.

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Speaker 5: I mean, you a girly girl or were you tomboys girl?

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Speaker 2: I was a girly girl, but I like sports, okay,

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Speaker 2: So I was around the boys a lot, and the

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Speaker 2: But mind you, I'm I'm just like, I'm chilling. I'm

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Speaker 2: I'm just having fun and playing sports at.

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Speaker 1: Why are you mad at me? Because he might have

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Speaker 2: Exactly a story in my life, shinning. It ain't my fun, girl,

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Speaker 2: Like I'm not.

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Speaker 5: Were your parents together?

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Speaker 2: My father had me when he was nineteen and my

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Speaker 1: How much do you know about your dad because you said,

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I mean you got to think I'm forty one years old, right,

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Speaker 2: so this is the nineties. Yes, So you can't just

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Speaker 3: You know, you gotta.

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Speaker 2: He always loved me. It's just the circumstances up. But

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Speaker 5: Really.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, did your mom ever say anything negative about your

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Speaker 3: My mom spoke very negatively about my dad. Yeah, she did. Sorry, mom,

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Speaker 3: this is my story.

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Speaker 2: I got to tell my school, okay, and I love

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Speaker 3: He da da da dah this and that.

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Speaker 2: And now that I'm older, my dad's like, yo, I

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Speaker 2: And I feel like maybe my mom didn't understand that

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Speaker 3: I don't want to dwell on all that stuff.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 2: I've had resentment towards my dad initially, then I had

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Speaker 2: I really am tired because I become famous and I'm

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Speaker 1: Yeah, you've been fighting you feel you've been fighting your

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Speaker 1: I had to fight, fight, fight, fight.

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Speaker 5: Just one day. I just want to I just want

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, imagine you're young. Excuse me, you're the only child.

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Speaker 2: My stepfather was an alcoholic, so he would, you know,

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Speaker 2: he would go on binges for weeks at a time,

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Speaker 2: you know, we were poor, and I would get up

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Speaker 2: just like that. And it's like, I gotta do what

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Speaker 2: And I started very young, thinking like taking the train

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Speaker 2: up to New York, trying to make connections, try to

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Speaker 2: get signed to modeling agencies, just trying to do everything

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Speaker 5: So is this where the exotic dancing came in at?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? Absolutely so.

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Speaker 5: I mean I think I'm started at fifteen.

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Speaker 2: Well, I yes, that was the first time I danced.

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Speaker 2: I was fifteen years old, and granted my parents did

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Speaker 1: Of course, how do you pull that off? Because don't

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Speaker 1: they normally? I d or, man, you just look very

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Speaker 3: Well, I just went to the check cash and place

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Speaker 3: and just got a fake ID. Like it was just like.

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Speaker 2: They're giving out fake id's okay, I'm on my way.

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Speaker 2: Like it was like, you know, but I'll be honest.

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Speaker 2: I used to like, I used to like weigh crack

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Speaker 2: But then I went to him, I'm like, I have

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Speaker 2: an alcoholic.

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Speaker 5: So he would they missed too many Mondays or they

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so he would do like he would do estimates

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Speaker 2: all around these neighborhoods and then he wouldn't finish the job.

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Speaker 2: Oh you know, So then he would take the money

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Speaker 2: and go get drunk or whatever. And we got evicted

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Speaker 2: when I was like fifteen years old and I had

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Speaker 2: But then her mom was like, you need to put

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Speaker 2: go get a chicken wing for a corner at the

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Speaker 2: corner of Chinese store. I get a chicken wing or something,

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Speaker 2: maybe some fried rice if I had like a dollar

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Speaker 2: then Shannon I tried to sell crack bro I tried.

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Speaker 2: I did it for like two hours, and I was

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Speaker 3: Dealing with these people.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I can imagine.

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Speaker 3: And I was like, yo, I cannot do this. I can't.

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Speaker 3: I want them Like.

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Speaker 2: In my mind, I'm like, you see the money I

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Speaker 2: meant surviving.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm trying to get out.

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to figure my life out and I'm young

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Speaker 2: and I don't have no family, right, so you know.

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Speaker 2: Then I ran into some girls and they were like,

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Speaker 2: you're pretty, you can come make money over here, and

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Speaker 2: it just was not my personality at all, and I

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Speaker 2: just I felt like, what else am I going to do?

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Speaker 2: I can't go work at McDonald's, but it's not enough money.

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Speaker 5: So let me ask give you this.

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Speaker 1: I had cash doll on and she said when she

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Speaker 1: first I think she was in her teens. Also when

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Speaker 1: she first started, what is the mindset that you have

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Speaker 1: to get in to go do that? Because she said, hey,

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Speaker 1: I had to take a couple of shots get my

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Speaker 1: have to take my clothes off in front of strange man.

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Speaker 1: Taking your clothes off in front of your man is

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Speaker 1: one thing. Taking your clothes off in a building everybody

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Speaker 1: watching is something entirely different. So what was the mindset

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Speaker 2: I didn't even think about it, Shannon. I just knew

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Speaker 2: I never did a drug in my life. To this day,

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Speaker 2: I've never tried coke Molly. People would be like, how

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Speaker 2: did you marry?

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Speaker 3: What's khalif?

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Speaker 2: And you never smoke weed? I don't smoke weed. I

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Speaker 2: just was a laser focused.

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Speaker 3: On making money. And I don't know where cash all.

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Speaker 2: Worked, but where I worked, it was only topless. Okay, okay,

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Speaker 2: so it wasn't I've never danced nude.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay.

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Speaker 5: So you kept the bottom.

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Speaker 2: Zone, yes, okay, kept the bottoms on, so it was

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Speaker 2: just topless. I was like, I mean, once you see

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Speaker 2: a pair of titties, you've seen them. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: yeah yeah yah yeah, I don't know if you.

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Speaker 5: Did yeah, I think football.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, never. I've never danced nude ever, no never.

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Speaker 3: So yeah.

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Speaker 2: So it's like once you get into the dressing room

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Speaker 2: with the girls and everyone has there, yeah, you're just

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Speaker 2: you become desensitized.

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Speaker 3: You're like, it's really not a big deal.

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Speaker 2: It's not like a huge reveal where the guys are like,

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Speaker 2: oh my god, it's you know, so did you.

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Speaker 5: Make a lot of money? You make good?

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Speaker 1: I mean so, so your first night working you go

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Speaker 1: in there, You're like, Okay, I got to do this.

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Speaker 1: There is no other option. I don't have any family.

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Speaker 1: I can lean on my mom, really needs me to

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Speaker 1: come through. You're fifteen, sixteen years of age. How much

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Speaker 1: money did you make the first night? And were you

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Speaker 3: Thirty three dollars, I'll never forget three.

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Speaker 5: You about have came up better going to McDonald's.

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00:20:51,800 --> 00:20:56,280
Speaker 3: I know, I know, three dollars, yes.

445
00:20:56,320 --> 00:20:58,119
Speaker 1: Well, how much was the dance? A dollar?

446
00:20:58,800 --> 00:21:02,399
Speaker 2: I didn't do no dances. I was too scared. I

447
00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:05,560
Speaker 2: was too scared, Shannon. I just was not that girl.

448
00:21:05,760 --> 00:21:08,800
Speaker 2: I felt like I had to be there and I

449
00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:10,800
Speaker 2: went on stage and this was one.

450
00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:12,520
Speaker 3: Of those It was it more of a gentleman's club,

451
00:21:12,800 --> 00:21:13,800
Speaker 3: like a make a ring club.

452
00:21:13,880 --> 00:21:14,040
Speaker 2: Yeah.

453
00:21:14,160 --> 00:21:18,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, So the guys was like giving me little one.

454
00:21:18,080 --> 00:21:19,840
Speaker 5: Yes, they talking a buck, Yeah, took a buck.

455
00:21:20,040 --> 00:21:22,320
Speaker 3: I made thirty three dollars, thirty three.

456
00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:24,840
Speaker 2: Yes, I'll never forget the number, because I was like,

457
00:21:25,080 --> 00:21:26,040
Speaker 2: at least I get to eat.

458
00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:26,480
Speaker 5: Yeah.

459
00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:30,160
Speaker 1: Yeah, Okay, You're like, ok, if you make thirty three dollars, now,

460
00:21:30,200 --> 00:21:31,959
Speaker 1: that's not a big incentive, am, But to come back

461
00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:34,399
Speaker 1: the next night. I'm just saying, I just see if

462
00:21:34,440 --> 00:21:36,280
Speaker 1: you made a five or you made five hundred, you

463
00:21:36,320 --> 00:21:39,120
Speaker 1: made two fifty, yeah, thousand dollars. Absolutely, I'm coming back

464
00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:42,760
Speaker 1: thirty three dollars. But somehow you're like, I got to

465
00:21:42,800 --> 00:21:43,200
Speaker 1: go back.

466
00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:47,040
Speaker 3: Yes, I even got junks and everything at the club for.

467
00:21:47,080 --> 00:21:48,199
Speaker 1: Thirty three dollars.

468
00:21:48,240 --> 00:21:51,480
Speaker 2: Not that nice, okay, but I got so they took

469
00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:54,359
Speaker 2: your money. Hell no, they didn't take my money. Okay, No,

470
00:21:54,440 --> 00:21:55,639
Speaker 2: they didn't take my money.

471
00:21:56,200 --> 00:21:58,320
Speaker 1: So why would you get jumped because you order you

472
00:21:58,359 --> 00:21:59,399
Speaker 1: the prettiest girl in the club.

473
00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:03,919
Speaker 2: I got jumped because there was stages, right, and you

474
00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:06,120
Speaker 2: know when you get called to stage, then you got

475
00:22:06,119 --> 00:22:07,480
Speaker 2: to go to the next stage and a new girl

476
00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:11,960
Speaker 2: comes up and it's like a rotation. Yes, so I

477
00:22:12,000 --> 00:22:14,560
Speaker 2: this girl went up before me, and she was doing

478
00:22:14,600 --> 00:22:17,159
Speaker 2: all these tricks and splits and stuff like that. And

479
00:22:17,200 --> 00:22:20,679
Speaker 2: I was never that dancer. I was always very sensual

480
00:22:20,760 --> 00:22:24,880
Speaker 2: and sexy. That's the type of dancer I was. So

481
00:22:24,920 --> 00:22:28,480
Speaker 2: she got up and I think they were like Africans,

482
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:31,560
Speaker 2: if I remember correctly, and they just had stacks and

483
00:22:31,640 --> 00:22:35,920
Speaker 2: stacks and stacks of money at this one stage, Shannon,

484
00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:36,840
Speaker 2: they didn't.

485
00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:40,359
Speaker 3: Give her a dollar. They didn't give this girl a dollar.

486
00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,239
Speaker 2: So it was my turn to get on stage, and

487
00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:46,160
Speaker 2: it was a tsunami as soon as I stepped foot

488
00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:50,920
Speaker 2: on that stage. It was crazy and she got mad

489
00:22:50,960 --> 00:22:55,879
Speaker 2: at me. What and she is so she so she

490
00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:58,520
Speaker 2: was bullying me and then we go into the dressing

491
00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:02,720
Speaker 2: room and she's like, mm hmm, I want to think they.

492
00:23:02,760 --> 00:23:04,240
Speaker 3: Better they cute.

493
00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:07,359
Speaker 2: Just I was like, girl, you're obviously talking about me, Like,

494
00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:10,199
Speaker 2: just say it to me, right. I was in the Bronx.

495
00:23:10,280 --> 00:23:13,840
Speaker 2: I was like, who's rendezvous at the time, and uh.

496
00:23:14,280 --> 00:23:16,159
Speaker 2: One of her friends was like, don't talk to her

497
00:23:16,280 --> 00:23:19,480
Speaker 2: like that. And I'm like, oh, are about the jump,

498
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:23,399
Speaker 2: you know? And then I said, you know, you shut

499
00:23:23,400 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 2: it up because I felt like if I don't you know,

500
00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:28,760
Speaker 2: I'm from Philly. If I don't do this, I can't

501
00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:31,560
Speaker 2: come back and make money, I can't let these bully me,

502
00:23:31,920 --> 00:23:32,119
Speaker 2: you know.

503
00:23:33,640 --> 00:23:37,240
Speaker 3: And then yeah, they wind up jumping me. But the

504
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:40,520
Speaker 3: girl that started everything didn't even jump in. We didn't

505
00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:44,160
Speaker 3: even fight. It was it was her friends that jumped

506
00:23:44,160 --> 00:23:45,199
Speaker 3: me in what was.

507
00:23:45,200 --> 00:23:45,880
Speaker 5: Your stage name?

508
00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:52,320
Speaker 1: Paris coming to the stage all the way from Philly.

509
00:23:52,720 --> 00:23:54,120
Speaker 1: Let's give it up for Paris.

510
00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:57,280
Speaker 3: You know, I was Paris before Paris Hillton.

511
00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:01,719
Speaker 2: He's gonna say that, yeah, because I was like, I'm

512
00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:02,679
Speaker 2: gonna be Paris.

513
00:24:03,359 --> 00:24:06,440
Speaker 5: So you so, how long how long were your exotic dancer?

514
00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:08,320
Speaker 2: So?

515
00:24:09,640 --> 00:24:14,400
Speaker 3: Oh god, probably five seven years?

516
00:24:14,600 --> 00:24:16,399
Speaker 1: Five years. But so you had to be making some

517
00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:17,920
Speaker 1: good money, did you after why?

518
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:18,960
Speaker 3: I was, Yeah, I was.

519
00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:21,240
Speaker 1: You was the girl that they came back. They requested, man,

520
00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:22,919
Speaker 1: where's Paris? I'm looking for Paris?

521
00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:23,440
Speaker 3: Exactly?

522
00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:26,800
Speaker 1: So were you like, how many nights a week would

523
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:28,360
Speaker 1: you work? Two nights a week, three nights a week,

524
00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:28,760
Speaker 1: five nights.

525
00:24:29,000 --> 00:24:31,400
Speaker 2: I would work all the time. Sometimes I'll do doubles,

526
00:24:31,400 --> 00:24:32,800
Speaker 2: sometimes I'll do day shifts.

527
00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:37,359
Speaker 1: Really yeah, I mean normally the girls that day shift.

528
00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:38,520
Speaker 3: They don't be like that now exactly.

529
00:24:38,520 --> 00:24:42,480
Speaker 1: Why make money? Yeah, you're the baddest breaking the powerm

530
00:24:42,520 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 1: oh yeah.

531
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:44,920
Speaker 2: Because you know, like the businessmen will come on their

532
00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:47,640
Speaker 2: lunch break. Yeah, and yeah, I would make I would

533
00:24:47,680 --> 00:24:48,119
Speaker 2: make money.

534
00:24:50,119 --> 00:24:52,240
Speaker 5: You get an apartment? You're doing well?

535
00:24:52,560 --> 00:24:53,520
Speaker 3: Yeah?

536
00:24:53,720 --> 00:24:56,399
Speaker 1: Did you know, like, I'm just doing this temporarily. This

537
00:24:56,480 --> 00:24:58,600
Speaker 1: is not gonna I'm not going to make this a career.

538
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:01,159
Speaker 1: So what was your thought? PROB said, So what would you?

539
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:02,320
Speaker 1: Did you have an exit plan?

540
00:25:02,960 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 3: I did, so.

541
00:25:06,560 --> 00:25:09,119
Speaker 2: I moved to New York. Well, so when I was

542
00:25:09,119 --> 00:25:12,560
Speaker 2: going up to New York and I was trying to

543
00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:17,640
Speaker 2: get signed to a modeling agency. And what's crazy is.

544
00:25:17,600 --> 00:25:21,199
Speaker 3: That Channing Tatum before he was famous.

545
00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:23,800
Speaker 2: Okay, so we both weren't famous, but he was like

546
00:25:24,119 --> 00:25:26,160
Speaker 2: dating some girl that I knew and we all became

547
00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:26,920
Speaker 2: friends or whatever.

548
00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:30,199
Speaker 3: And he was an exotic dancer.

549
00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:33,240
Speaker 2: So I was like, chan can you get me some

550
00:25:33,320 --> 00:25:36,680
Speaker 2: appointments up in New York. I'm tall, I'm slim at

551
00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:40,040
Speaker 2: the time, and I had kids and now I filled

552
00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:42,640
Speaker 2: out a little bit. So I'm like, can you give

553
00:25:42,680 --> 00:25:46,879
Speaker 2: me some appointments at modeling agencies? And he was like

554
00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:48,800
Speaker 2: of course. So I would go up there and I

555
00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:52,080
Speaker 2: had hair at the time, and they were like, no, no, no, girl,

556
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:53,840
Speaker 2: You're never going to be a model. It's never going

557
00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:57,920
Speaker 2: to happen for you. And make a very long story short.

558
00:25:58,520 --> 00:26:02,920
Speaker 2: I went back to Philly and I was like, you know, okay,

559
00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:05,639
Speaker 2: I'm a pretty girl, but all the girls are pretty

560
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:09,120
Speaker 2: that are going up there, They're all beautiful girls. How

561
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:12,520
Speaker 2: can I stand out? And I went to the barbershop

562
00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:15,720
Speaker 2: and I said, just go down the middle. I don't care,

563
00:26:16,000 --> 00:26:21,360
Speaker 2: just shave this off. Really, yes, you cut.

564
00:26:21,160 --> 00:26:24,400
Speaker 1: All the I'm assuming because you're biracial, your father's while

565
00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:27,399
Speaker 1: your mom is black. Correct, Yes, So I'm I'm I'm

566
00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:30,080
Speaker 1: I'm assuming, and I am I have a lot of hair.

567
00:26:30,840 --> 00:26:33,720
Speaker 5: Forgive me for being presumptuous. Those gorgeous locks.

568
00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:36,880
Speaker 3: You just shaved them, shaved it off, shaved it off.

569
00:26:36,960 --> 00:26:38,440
Speaker 2: And I said, you know what, I don't because I

570
00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:41,080
Speaker 2: used to put my hair in a ponytail, a low ponytail,

571
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:43,159
Speaker 2: and look from the side and I was say, it

572
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:43,439
Speaker 2: kind of.

573
00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 3: Looks like I have a nice shaped head.

574
00:26:45,359 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 1: You know. Yeah, you definitely have. You definitely have the

575
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:49,040
Speaker 1: head that you can pull it off.

576
00:26:49,680 --> 00:26:50,160
Speaker 3: Thank you.

577
00:26:50,440 --> 00:26:54,600
Speaker 2: So you know, I took a gamble and and I won,

578
00:26:54,720 --> 00:26:57,160
Speaker 2: and I got signed to Ford Models out of New York.

579
00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:02,000
Speaker 2: But I wasn't a famous model. I was just I

580
00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:05,840
Speaker 2: just got signed, so I still wasn't like this famous model.

581
00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:08,960
Speaker 3: I still had to work, started to make money.

582
00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:14,240
Speaker 2: I was sending money back to Philly for my mom.

583
00:27:13,720 --> 00:27:17,479
Speaker 3: And I just tried everything. And then oh and then

584
00:27:17,520 --> 00:27:18,280
Speaker 3: this lady.

585
00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:22,399
Speaker 2: Comes into SU's rendezvous and she's like, you should do

586
00:27:22,560 --> 00:27:27,600
Speaker 2: music videos, damn. And I was like, I'm a real model.

587
00:27:27,680 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 2: I'm not doing.

588
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:32,760
Speaker 3: Just my ego right.

589
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 2: Talking okay, And she was like, no, it's all expenses

590
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,520
Speaker 2: paid and you get paid like one thousand dollars and

591
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:41,719
Speaker 2: you get like a pre damn to eat and you know,

592
00:27:42,080 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 2: get a hotel and everything. So I was like, get

593
00:27:44,600 --> 00:27:47,439
Speaker 2: I'll do it. And then my first video was a

594
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:49,520
Speaker 2: young jeezy I put on from my city.

595
00:27:49,920 --> 00:27:50,200
Speaker 1: Wow.

596
00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:52,800
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I had hair because I would like wear

597
00:27:53,040 --> 00:27:55,199
Speaker 2: hair to the strip club because when I modeled, I

598
00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:55,879
Speaker 2: was ballheaded.

599
00:27:56,720 --> 00:27:59,680
Speaker 1: Oh okay, So so at what age did you cut

600
00:27:59,720 --> 00:28:03,199
Speaker 1: your hair? Eighteen eighteen? And so this is kind of

601
00:28:03,200 --> 00:28:05,080
Speaker 1: the look that you've had since you were eighteen, twenty

602
00:28:05,119 --> 00:28:08,680
Speaker 1: two years, since twenty two years. Yeah, you don't miss it.

603
00:28:09,359 --> 00:28:09,720
Speaker 3: I do.

604
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:11,480
Speaker 5: You're gonna let it grow back?

605
00:28:12,200 --> 00:28:16,000
Speaker 3: You're not, probably not, probably not. I don't.

606
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:16,320
Speaker 1: You know.

607
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 3: It's just like it's.

608
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:19,439
Speaker 5: Your look now. I mean it's kind of like you

609
00:28:19,480 --> 00:28:20,240
Speaker 5: see Amber Rolle.

610
00:28:20,320 --> 00:28:23,240
Speaker 1: You expect to see the low haircut and I don't

611
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:24,920
Speaker 1: want to say ball here, but you expect to see

612
00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:25,240
Speaker 1: this one.

613
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:27,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, for sure, for sure. I throw a wig

614
00:28:27,600 --> 00:28:29,280
Speaker 2: on everything. But you know what it's like, I almost

615
00:28:29,320 --> 00:28:32,720
Speaker 2: look worse with like wigs. It's so weird.

616
00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:33,400
Speaker 5: People recognize you with a wig.

617
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:35,680
Speaker 3: They do. They'll be like, girl, if you don't take

618
00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:36,280
Speaker 3: that wig off.

619
00:28:37,680 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 1: Okay, the lady comes in she says, you know what

620
00:28:40,160 --> 00:28:41,000
Speaker 1: you ought to do.

621
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:43,160
Speaker 5: You ought to do music videos.

622
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:45,120
Speaker 1: You're like, I'm a real model, but anyway, you give

623
00:28:45,160 --> 00:28:47,120
Speaker 1: it a try, you do it for a thousand dollars.

624
00:28:47,240 --> 00:28:50,120
Speaker 2: And then yes, so I do that, and then she

625
00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:53,680
Speaker 2: calls me back for another Young Jeezy video vacation, but

626
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:54,680
Speaker 2: again at the strip club.

627
00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:55,600
Speaker 3: I'm wearing a wig.

628
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:59,400
Speaker 2: So then she calls me back for a Ludacris and

629
00:28:59,480 --> 00:29:02,440
Speaker 2: Chris Brown video. I know what them girls like and

630
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:03,960
Speaker 2: I said, well, her name is Margot.

631
00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:04,680
Speaker 3: Shout out to Margo.

632
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:08,360
Speaker 2: I said, Margo, you know I got like this buzz

633
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:11,200
Speaker 2: cut underneath this wig I've been wearing. Do you think

634
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 2: like maybe the next video I do, like I can

635
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:17,120
Speaker 2: rock my short haircut. And she was like video girls

636
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:20,600
Speaker 2: don't have short haircuts. Amber like, it's just not a thing, right,

637
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:23,320
Speaker 2: And I said, well, can I just send a picture

638
00:29:23,560 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 2: maybe maybe they might try it, you know. So she

639
00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:31,840
Speaker 2: sent it to Chris Robinson, the video director, and he's like, yo.

640
00:29:31,760 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 3: Fly her out.

641
00:29:33,280 --> 00:29:35,680
Speaker 2: And I became one of the main girls in that video.

642
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 2: It was my first time in LA so I was

643
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 2: really excited and that video is really what changed my life.

644
00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:46,000
Speaker 1: Wow, yeah, I read you once got paid one hundred

645
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:46,720
Speaker 1: thousand dollars.

646
00:29:46,560 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 5: For a music video? Is that true? No, what's the

647
00:29:49,320 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 5: most you ever made in the music video?

648
00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:52,200
Speaker 3: Twenty five thousand?

649
00:29:52,440 --> 00:29:54,000
Speaker 5: Is that normal or was that excessive?

650
00:29:54,840 --> 00:29:55,960
Speaker 3: Well, I was already famous.

651
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:59,120
Speaker 2: I think Future gave me twenty five thousand, or mask Off,

652
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 2: I think he gave me twenty five thousand. Yeah, and

653
00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:05,800
Speaker 2: then I think I did fabulous his music video. You'd

654
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 2: be killing them. I think he gave me like fifteen thousand.

655
00:30:09,440 --> 00:30:11,440
Speaker 2: But really, at that time, I just thought it was cool,

656
00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:13,040
Speaker 2: Like they were like my home music say.

657
00:30:13,080 --> 00:30:14,560
Speaker 3: I'm like, y'all come through and do a video.

658
00:30:14,600 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 1: It's not a problem because I did music videos with Future,

659
00:30:17,800 --> 00:30:22,320
Speaker 1: Nicki Minaj's Young, j Z, fam Luda Breezey, Kanye Wherez

660
00:30:22,720 --> 00:30:25,080
Speaker 1: and Mary Mary two of these guys. You end up

661
00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:28,880
Speaker 1: we're gonna talk about that. What's your best experience in

662
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:32,520
Speaker 1: the music video? So just meeting the guys and like, damn,

663
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:35,080
Speaker 1: they really cool.

664
00:30:35,600 --> 00:30:35,959
Speaker 3: Yeah.

665
00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:39,200
Speaker 2: I was very surprised with Future because he comes off

666
00:30:39,320 --> 00:30:42,920
Speaker 2: very toxic, but like we haven't seen where. We're like

667
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:47,040
Speaker 2: in the car, like driving together, and he's just a

668
00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:49,800
Speaker 2: really nice, well spoken guy. Like I could see why

669
00:30:49,840 --> 00:30:52,800
Speaker 2: girls date Future, okay, because I'll see it online and

670
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:55,000
Speaker 2: they'll be like, girl, you dan in future, you know

671
00:30:55,040 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 2: how future. But when I did this video with him,

672
00:30:57,560 --> 00:30:59,360
Speaker 2: I was like, he's actually really nice. And you know,

673
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 2: my friend China dated him, right, But yeah, he's just

674
00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:05,640
Speaker 2: a well spoken, very professional, nice guy.

675
00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:08,280
Speaker 5: What's the worst part of doing music videos?

676
00:31:10,840 --> 00:31:14,480
Speaker 2: I'm when I come on set, I'm very professional. I'm

677
00:31:14,520 --> 00:31:17,320
Speaker 2: not drinking, I'm not doing nothing. I'm waiting for my

678
00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:18,360
Speaker 2: turn or waiting.

679
00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:20,560
Speaker 3: To get called. That's just that's just how I move.

680
00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:22,640
Speaker 3: So I've always had a pleasant experience.

681
00:31:22,840 --> 00:31:27,320
Speaker 1: So what is there anything that people their perception of

682
00:31:27,400 --> 00:31:29,400
Speaker 1: music videos that's not reality?

683
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:29,920
Speaker 5: What?

684
00:31:29,640 --> 00:31:29,680
Speaker 1: What?

685
00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:30,480
Speaker 5: What?

686
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 1: What does the public don't get about music videos?

687
00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:36,840
Speaker 3: I think it depends on the artist.

688
00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:43,440
Speaker 2: I'll be honest with you, because again, Chris Brown, Young, Geezy, Future, fabulous,

689
00:31:43,480 --> 00:31:46,960
Speaker 2: they were all very professional with everybody that was there,

690
00:31:47,040 --> 00:31:49,960
Speaker 2: so I didn't have a bad experience. I can't speak

691
00:31:50,000 --> 00:31:52,360
Speaker 2: for other artists, you know, I don't know what they

692
00:31:52,440 --> 00:31:55,400
Speaker 2: do on set, but these guys were always great.

693
00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:56,320
Speaker 5: I read.

694
00:31:56,320 --> 00:31:57,840
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's true or not that Nicki

695
00:31:57,880 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 1: Minaj helped you get your following me up by shouting

696
00:31:59,880 --> 00:32:02,880
Speaker 1: you out that you got gained like a ton of followers.

697
00:32:03,240 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, I called her and I said, girl, I

698
00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:07,800
Speaker 2: needed I just signed up for Twitter. Can you give

699
00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 2: me a shout out? And she was like hell yeah,

700
00:32:10,520 --> 00:32:12,840
Speaker 2: and then she did it. I was just went at

701
00:32:12,920 --> 00:32:16,440
Speaker 2: Nikki's house the other day. Yeah, we're still We're still

702
00:32:16,440 --> 00:32:17,480
Speaker 2: good friends, you know.

703
00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:20,040
Speaker 5: So you got a cool relationship with her, Yes.

704
00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:26,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, video Vixen's that's is that the m that's the

705
00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:28,640
Speaker 1: term that some of you, some of you young ladies get.

706
00:32:28,680 --> 00:32:31,480
Speaker 1: You look at Melissa Ford and Karen Stephen's and Buffy

707
00:32:31,480 --> 00:32:34,440
Speaker 1: the Body, Gloria Bellez, Black China, Eric Manena.

708
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:37,520
Speaker 5: Is that a? Is that an enduring term? Or you're like,

709
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:40,360
Speaker 5: now we end up we just well.

710
00:32:40,120 --> 00:32:42,680
Speaker 2: That's a part of my resume. Okay, I'm not a

711
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 2: video of Vixen now, but I was.

712
00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:48,320
Speaker 3: I was. Yeah, and it was a fun time really yeah,

713
00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:49,240
Speaker 3: hell yeah it was fun.

714
00:32:49,320 --> 00:32:51,680
Speaker 5: Did you did you work with any of these ones

715
00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:52,320
Speaker 5: that I mentioned?

716
00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 3: I did not. I haven't had the pleasure. Now, wow,

717
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:57,440
Speaker 3: would you do a little before my time?

718
00:32:57,560 --> 00:32:57,880
Speaker 5: Okay?

719
00:32:57,920 --> 00:32:59,880
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah I came after those girls.

720
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 5: Oh okay, okay, my bad.

721
00:33:03,840 --> 00:33:07,520
Speaker 3: Uh oh not just playing, No, shade to the girls.

722
00:33:07,560 --> 00:33:09,000
Speaker 3: Oh my god, I didn't mean it like that.

723
00:33:09,440 --> 00:33:11,840
Speaker 2: I'm just saying that they're a general They're like with

724
00:33:12,160 --> 00:33:15,360
Speaker 2: Cisco and like I was still young with like Drew

725
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:16,760
Speaker 2: Hill and Cisco and stuff like that.

726
00:33:18,040 --> 00:33:20,840
Speaker 1: I read that John Legend said that I sat down

727
00:33:20,880 --> 00:33:23,280
Speaker 1: with John Legend as a matter of fact, this very

728
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:25,840
Speaker 1: building here, and it was talking about that he had

729
00:33:25,880 --> 00:33:27,960
Speaker 1: a shot a video.

730
00:33:28,520 --> 00:33:30,880
Speaker 5: That's how he ended up meeting his wife, Christy Tigan.

731
00:33:32,800 --> 00:33:34,680
Speaker 1: Obviously you went on a video a couple of video

732
00:33:34,680 --> 00:33:37,880
Speaker 1: shoots and you ended up meeting your future partners. Is

733
00:33:37,960 --> 00:33:39,720
Speaker 1: that when you go on the shoot, you was like,

734
00:33:39,760 --> 00:33:42,520
Speaker 1: I'm keeping it professional, yes, or at least you try to.

735
00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:45,040
Speaker 1: Is that the goal of some women like go on

736
00:33:45,080 --> 00:33:47,200
Speaker 1: decess and maybe try to get with the guy.

737
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:48,920
Speaker 3: That's I'm sure women do that.

738
00:33:49,280 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 2: I'm sure plenty of women do that. That's personally not me.

739
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:58,960
Speaker 2: But it's crazy because you're referring to Kanye when I

740
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:02,560
Speaker 2: did his video. Yes, okay, well he flew me out

741
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:04,560
Speaker 2: to do RoboCop video because he was like, you look

742
00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:06,640
Speaker 2: like a robot. I think this would be cool, right,

743
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:10,040
Speaker 2: And I said absolutely, I'll doube. You're Kanye West. Of

744
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:12,440
Speaker 2: course I'll come out shoot the video. It would be

745
00:34:12,480 --> 00:34:16,160
Speaker 2: an honor. And I come out and shoot the I'm sorry.

746
00:34:16,320 --> 00:34:21,920
Speaker 3: I go to LA and we're like hanging out.

747
00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:25,560
Speaker 2: That night, i meet him and he's on another video

748
00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:28,320
Speaker 2: set and I'm like, okay, so what time should.

749
00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:29,840
Speaker 3: I be ready? Tomorrow morning? Is the cardon?

750
00:34:30,040 --> 00:34:33,920
Speaker 2: You know? So I'm so used to like these other

751
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:37,480
Speaker 2: videos I've done before that, and he's like, no, not

752
00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:39,359
Speaker 2: just chill. We're going to figure it out.

753
00:34:39,440 --> 00:34:42,040
Speaker 3: I'll just you know. So I'm like okay.

754
00:34:42,880 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 2: So then a day goes by, Then another day goes by,

755
00:34:45,800 --> 00:34:47,000
Speaker 2: we're going out to dinners.

756
00:34:47,560 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 3: Oh we're going We're going like, you know, you're.

757
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:54,520
Speaker 1: Doing everything but shooting the video, and yes, I'm doing everything.

758
00:34:54,520 --> 00:34:55,360
Speaker 3: We're shooting a video.

759
00:34:55,920 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 2: Some like Kanye, you know, like only like one outfit,

760
00:35:01,520 --> 00:35:03,680
Speaker 2: because that's what I was used to. You flying, you

761
00:35:03,680 --> 00:35:05,440
Speaker 2: do the video, you have an outfit to get back

762
00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:09,879
Speaker 2: on the airplane and go home. He's like, you don't

763
00:35:09,920 --> 00:35:12,160
Speaker 2: need no outfit. Don't even worry about it. I got you.

764
00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:15,440
Speaker 3: So I'm like okay.

765
00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:17,400
Speaker 2: So then he's so then we go out to dinner

766
00:35:18,239 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 2: and he this is like the fourth fifth day I'm

767
00:35:20,560 --> 00:35:24,440
Speaker 2: there and he's like, hey, do you want to I

768
00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:25,759
Speaker 2: know this is crazy, but do you want to come

769
00:35:25,760 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 2: to the Grammys with me? And I was like, oh

770
00:35:30,080 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 2: my god, yes, like this, you know it sounds fun.

771
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:39,759
Speaker 2: So we went to the Grammys and then you know me,

772
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:43,000
Speaker 2: I'm just I'm so young, Shannon, I'm like, are we

773
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:46,680
Speaker 2: still doing this video? I did not realize I got

774
00:35:46,680 --> 00:35:47,759
Speaker 2: flown out.

775
00:35:48,360 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 1: O hell, I'm sitting here. I didn't realize you got flown.

776
00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:55,200
Speaker 3: I was so green.

777
00:35:55,360 --> 00:35:58,920
Speaker 2: I didn't realize that he really flew me out because

778
00:35:59,040 --> 00:36:04,400
Speaker 2: he saw me in the ideo right and you know, hot,

779
00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:06,200
Speaker 2: and then he flew me out.

780
00:36:06,239 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 3: But I didn't know.

781
00:36:08,320 --> 00:36:10,120
Speaker 1: Were you at the video when he jumped on the

782
00:36:10,160 --> 00:36:11,320
Speaker 1: stage with Taylor?

783
00:36:11,600 --> 00:36:16,560
Speaker 3: Yes, you called that. I did not. I did not

784
00:36:16,640 --> 00:36:17,040
Speaker 3: call that.

785
00:36:17,160 --> 00:36:18,719
Speaker 1: But let me ask you a question. Okay, day one

786
00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:20,680
Speaker 1: go by, you're in shoot no video. Day two go by.

787
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:24,520
Speaker 1: He like, Bro, I understand, we going to dinner things,

788
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:27,120
Speaker 1: but Bro, I need to make money. Did you ever

789
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:28,840
Speaker 1: did that? Thought like, hold on, I'm not here and

790
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:31,239
Speaker 1: that's fine. I'm going to these nice restaurants, but that

791
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:32,560
Speaker 1: ain't putting no money in my pocket.

792
00:36:32,600 --> 00:36:35,840
Speaker 2: Well you have to think, Shannon, like it's still Kanye West,

793
00:36:36,160 --> 00:36:38,600
Speaker 2: and he's very nice to me, and he's not being

794
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:41,480
Speaker 2: fresh with me or nothing, being very respectful and nice.

795
00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:43,120
Speaker 5: See that's that nineties talking fresh.

796
00:36:43,480 --> 00:36:43,880
Speaker 6: Yeah.

797
00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:48,800
Speaker 2: So like he you know, he was. He was very charming.

798
00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:53,640
Speaker 2: So I was having a good time. But once I realized,

799
00:36:53,920 --> 00:36:56,719
Speaker 2: you know, so anyway, we go to the Grammy, Right,

800
00:36:57,280 --> 00:36:59,719
Speaker 2: I called my mom. I said, Mom, Kanye invited me

801
00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:03,759
Speaker 2: to the Grammys. Like I just I'm flabbergasted. I don't know,

802
00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:06,759
Speaker 2: Like she's like, baby, just go have a good time,

803
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:08,080
Speaker 2: blah blah blah.

804
00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 3: So little did I know.

805
00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:13,879
Speaker 2: The same day I called my mom was the same

806
00:37:13,960 --> 00:37:16,279
Speaker 2: day my aunt died. It was my favorite person in

807
00:37:16,280 --> 00:37:19,920
Speaker 2: the whole world. It's my mom's sister, right, and she

808
00:37:20,360 --> 00:37:24,879
Speaker 2: died of an overdose. But so I call Kanye because

809
00:37:24,880 --> 00:37:27,400
Speaker 2: I'm at the hotel and I guess he's at home,

810
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 2: and I'm like, I'm.

811
00:37:28,960 --> 00:37:30,520
Speaker 3: Sorry, I have to leave.

812
00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:32,720
Speaker 2: I have to go back to Philly and my aunt died,

813
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:35,680
Speaker 2: and he was like, I'll go with you.

814
00:37:36,160 --> 00:37:39,560
Speaker 3: I'll come with you. I don't care. And I was like,

815
00:37:40,680 --> 00:37:40,960
Speaker 3: I'm like.

816
00:37:41,000 --> 00:37:43,759
Speaker 2: Kanye, you can't come with me because the funeral is

817
00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:45,960
Speaker 2: going to be all about you being there. Let me

818
00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 2: just go handle my stuff. I'll just call you. And

819
00:37:49,719 --> 00:37:52,840
Speaker 2: he's like, okay, okay. So I go and I go

820
00:37:52,920 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 2: to my aunt's funeral and he's checking on me every hour, Shannon,

821
00:37:59,160 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 2: every hour's checking on me.

822
00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:01,400
Speaker 3: And mind you this.

823
00:38:01,520 --> 00:38:04,000
Speaker 2: We didn't have sex, we didn't kiss, we didn't hug,

824
00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:06,880
Speaker 2: we didn't do nothing. Like I flew out to do

825
00:38:06,920 --> 00:38:09,200
Speaker 2: a music video. He's take me out to dinner. But

826
00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:14,880
Speaker 2: that was about it. So long story short, the funerals.

827
00:38:14,920 --> 00:38:17,160
Speaker 2: Over a couple of days go by, he calls me

828
00:38:18,120 --> 00:38:20,040
Speaker 2: and he's just like, I know this is crazy, but

829
00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:22,319
Speaker 2: like you should just come out here and just be

830
00:38:22,400 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 2: with me. Just move to LA and just come and

831
00:38:24,680 --> 00:38:27,920
Speaker 2: be with me, like I'd been thinking about you every day. Wow,

832
00:38:28,160 --> 00:38:31,799
Speaker 2: And I just think we should try it. And I'm like, well,

833
00:38:31,800 --> 00:38:33,319
Speaker 2: I got to go back to the Bronx and get

834
00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:35,840
Speaker 2: all my stuff out out of my apartment.

835
00:38:35,880 --> 00:38:37,520
Speaker 3: He's all that stuff.

836
00:38:37,560 --> 00:38:40,000
Speaker 2: I'll get you all brand new stuff. You don't need nothing.

837
00:38:40,560 --> 00:38:42,520
Speaker 2: So I left all my in the Bronx.

838
00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:47,040
Speaker 3: I left everything I had, and he got me everything

839
00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:47,560
Speaker 3: brand new.

840
00:38:48,080 --> 00:38:50,040
Speaker 5: Somebody got some good stuff up in the Bronx, hun.

841
00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:53,880
Speaker 3: Yeah, they got some cool ain't as school as but

842
00:38:53,960 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 3: Kanye brought me.

843
00:38:54,840 --> 00:39:02,000
Speaker 2: But yeah, Shannon, I did not know. I just did

844
00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:05,000
Speaker 2: not know. So when people are like, oh, Kanye found

845
00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:07,799
Speaker 2: her at the strip club, he didn't even know I

846
00:39:07,880 --> 00:39:10,560
Speaker 2: was a dancer. And so I went back to La

847
00:39:11,760 --> 00:39:14,359
Speaker 2: to be with him. I was like, by the way

848
00:39:14,480 --> 00:39:16,319
Speaker 2: I was dancing, and he was like, I don't give

849
00:39:16,320 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 2: a shit about that, Like, I just want to be

850
00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 2: with you.

851
00:39:19,760 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 3: So he was very charming.

852
00:39:21,600 --> 00:39:24,120
Speaker 2: That's why I fell in love with Kanye because it

853
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:25,799
Speaker 2: was really amazing at the time.

854
00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:26,400
Speaker 5: Wow.

855
00:39:26,600 --> 00:39:32,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, so Kanye. So first dates, give me, give me

856
00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:34,200
Speaker 1: a kind of like a timeline, like a first date.

857
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:35,040
Speaker 5: High should line up?

858
00:39:35,040 --> 00:39:39,239
Speaker 1: Okay, I see some you see somebody Because this studies say,

859
00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:41,760
Speaker 1: now nobody ask anybody on a date in person.

860
00:39:41,960 --> 00:39:45,040
Speaker 5: Basically it's dming. It's you know, it's.

861
00:39:45,040 --> 00:39:47,960
Speaker 1: Third party a my homeboy or my homegirl saw you,

862
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:49,640
Speaker 1: or they want to know can they get you? You know,

863
00:39:49,840 --> 00:39:53,240
Speaker 1: give me your ig, don't nobody's passed out, no numbers anymore.

864
00:39:53,360 --> 00:39:54,879
Speaker 5: You can hit me on ig things like that.

865
00:39:55,080 --> 00:39:58,200
Speaker 1: So if someone were to ask, and I don't want

866
00:39:58,200 --> 00:40:00,600
Speaker 1: to be disrespectful, So if you're in a relationship, I apologize.

867
00:40:00,600 --> 00:40:01,840
Speaker 3: I'm very much single.

868
00:40:01,920 --> 00:40:08,520
Speaker 1: Okay, I'm just what's the best way to go about

869
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:10,359
Speaker 1: asking Amber.

870
00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:10,960
Speaker 5: Rolls out on a date?

871
00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:16,600
Speaker 3: Just ask me. I might actually say yes, because no

872
00:40:16,640 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 3: one talks to me ever. And that's the thing.

873
00:40:19,640 --> 00:40:22,440
Speaker 2: You know, people will be like, you know, how did

874
00:40:22,480 --> 00:40:26,200
Speaker 2: Nick Cannon get Mariah? And it's like he got Mariah

875
00:40:26,200 --> 00:40:29,520
Speaker 2: because he actually asked and he wasn't intimidated because she

876
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:32,920
Speaker 2: was Mariah carried, you know, and you gotta think somebody

877
00:40:33,000 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 2: like Mariah or even me.

878
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:37,080
Speaker 3: I know I'm not Mariah.

879
00:40:37,960 --> 00:40:42,520
Speaker 2: You might say, yeah, but they just are so they're

880
00:40:42,640 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 2: scared of the rejection that so many months go by

881
00:40:47,360 --> 00:40:51,120
Speaker 2: where no one tries to talk to us, and then we're.

882
00:40:51,040 --> 00:40:55,840
Speaker 5: Just what's wrong with me? Just like.

883
00:40:58,640 --> 00:41:02,319
Speaker 1: With y'all. So you like a confident man, You like

884
00:41:02,360 --> 00:41:04,120
Speaker 1: a man to walk up on you say, excuse me?

885
00:41:05,160 --> 00:41:06,560
Speaker 5: Can I take you to lunch? Can I take you

886
00:41:06,560 --> 00:41:10,120
Speaker 5: to gain? You know?

887
00:41:10,120 --> 00:41:10,840
Speaker 1: Not like to climb?

888
00:41:12,719 --> 00:41:15,640
Speaker 5: Lord have mers? You got to give me in trouble.

889
00:41:16,480 --> 00:41:18,120
Speaker 1: But so, but you like, you like a man with

890
00:41:18,239 --> 00:41:21,640
Speaker 1: confidence that's not put off because there's not there's not

891
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:24,400
Speaker 1: I feel comfortable in saying this. I don't think there

892
00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:26,200
Speaker 1: are very many people that can that's gonna walk up

893
00:41:26,239 --> 00:41:29,000
Speaker 1: on you and not know who you are. But a

894
00:41:29,000 --> 00:41:31,640
Speaker 1: lot of times people get intimidated by the men that

895
00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:34,600
Speaker 1: you dated. She dated Kanye, she dated a wiz, she

896
00:41:34,719 --> 00:41:39,319
Speaker 1: dated Sam and so they like automatically. Yeah, So let

897
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 1: me ask you a question. You cool with a dude

898
00:41:42,040 --> 00:41:43,840
Speaker 1: that's that's not on that level.

899
00:41:45,120 --> 00:41:48,480
Speaker 3: As far as what like, either famous or financially Yes.

900
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:51,040
Speaker 1: I mean obviously, Look, you're doing good for yourself. I

901
00:41:51,040 --> 00:41:52,719
Speaker 1: ain't gonna be with somebody that ain't doing as good

902
00:41:52,719 --> 00:41:54,880
Speaker 1: as me. I need you to be due at least

903
00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:57,960
Speaker 1: as good as me, if not better, better, it's better.

904
00:41:58,480 --> 00:42:01,000
Speaker 1: But I'm saying, could it be someone that's not famous

905
00:42:01,080 --> 00:42:01,840
Speaker 1: quote unquote of.

906
00:42:01,880 --> 00:42:03,759
Speaker 2: Course, yeah, they don't have to be famous at all,

907
00:42:04,360 --> 00:42:05,839
Speaker 2: but they they.

908
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:07,080
Speaker 5: They gotta have to be rich.

909
00:42:08,200 --> 00:42:09,560
Speaker 3: They have to be rich for sure.

910
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:16,399
Speaker 1: So you go out, So what's so? How's because it's

911
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:19,640
Speaker 1: interesting to see because you know, you think you how

912
00:42:19,680 --> 00:42:22,960
Speaker 1: I would talk to someone that's not famous versus someone

913
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:23,800
Speaker 1: that is famous.

914
00:42:23,920 --> 00:42:27,160
Speaker 5: You're trying to like, Okay, when a n actuality is

915
00:42:27,200 --> 00:42:27,920
Speaker 5: still a.

916
00:42:27,920 --> 00:42:31,799
Speaker 1: Woman and they like pretty much a lot of the

917
00:42:31,880 --> 00:42:34,919
Speaker 1: same things. So I can have a normal you could

918
00:42:34,920 --> 00:42:37,399
Speaker 1: a guy can have a normal conversation, correct.

919
00:42:37,480 --> 00:42:41,319
Speaker 3: Right, exactly. So there was this guy, it was like

920
00:42:41,320 --> 00:42:42,040
Speaker 3: two weeks ago.

921
00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:46,839
Speaker 2: He went to his manager and asked about me. If

922
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:49,440
Speaker 2: his manager knew someone that knew me to get in

923
00:42:49,520 --> 00:42:50,560
Speaker 2: contact with me, right.

924
00:42:50,800 --> 00:42:51,759
Speaker 5: You're doing too much bro.

925
00:42:52,600 --> 00:42:53,600
Speaker 3: So he did all that.

926
00:42:53,719 --> 00:42:55,399
Speaker 2: So I finally get on the phone. I'm like, why

927
00:42:55,400 --> 00:42:58,359
Speaker 2: didn't you just DM me? And he was like, I

928
00:42:58,480 --> 00:43:01,799
Speaker 2: just feel like you got so many dms.

929
00:43:01,440 --> 00:43:02,120
Speaker 5: You ain't gonna see me.

930
00:43:02,200 --> 00:43:05,560
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna see And I said, I have no dms.

931
00:43:05,800 --> 00:43:09,440
Speaker 2: My dms are so dry. Men are terrified of me, Shannon,

932
00:43:09,920 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 2: even when I go on dates, like their handshake and

933
00:43:12,560 --> 00:43:13,160
Speaker 2: I'm just like.

934
00:43:15,239 --> 00:43:15,479
Speaker 3: Why.

935
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, are you okay being because

936
00:43:20,239 --> 00:43:21,919
Speaker 1: the thing is Amber the thing of people? I think

937
00:43:22,040 --> 00:43:25,480
Speaker 1: sometimes the like the public, the publicity, what comes along

938
00:43:25,480 --> 00:43:29,160
Speaker 1: with Amber Rose. Are you okay not being dating publicly?

939
00:43:29,960 --> 00:43:32,600
Speaker 1: I prefer that okay, because you.

940
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:34,320
Speaker 5: Know you date public, you got to break up public.

941
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:36,360
Speaker 3: I made those.

942
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:39,440
Speaker 2: Mistakes throughout the years. I don't I'm not even concerned

943
00:43:39,440 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 2: with that anymore.

944
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:43,200
Speaker 1: But when gods slide to your DM, do I mean,

945
00:43:43,680 --> 00:43:45,680
Speaker 1: do they like I would like to get to know you?

946
00:43:45,719 --> 00:43:47,640
Speaker 1: How do you? How do you differentiate, how do you like?

947
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:48,720
Speaker 5: Okay, you serious?

948
00:43:48,760 --> 00:43:50,359
Speaker 1: Oh you man, you're going to bull jobs and so

949
00:43:50,400 --> 00:43:53,040
Speaker 1: forth to So how do you how do you determine.

950
00:43:53,719 --> 00:43:56,360
Speaker 5: What are you going to entertain and what you're gonna

951
00:43:56,719 --> 00:43:57,399
Speaker 5: mark the red?

952
00:43:57,600 --> 00:44:00,560
Speaker 2: Well, I'm not based off the first conversation on the phone.

953
00:44:00,960 --> 00:44:07,759
Speaker 2: If you're stupid. I'm very attracted to like I'm attracted

954
00:44:07,800 --> 00:44:13,240
Speaker 2: to articulate, smart men that have like a soothing energy

955
00:44:13,360 --> 00:44:16,719
Speaker 2: but still very masculine and strong. I need all of

956
00:44:16,760 --> 00:44:19,759
Speaker 2: those components to make me feel safe around you. So

957
00:44:19,800 --> 00:44:21,919
Speaker 2: if I get on the phone with you and you're like, yo,

958
00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:25,640
Speaker 2: what up? Shauty, what up? I'm going to be like this,

959
00:44:25,719 --> 00:44:28,200
Speaker 2: ain't it. It's not it. It's not it.

960
00:44:28,960 --> 00:44:32,400
Speaker 1: You mentioned like you want someone that's obviously financially secure,

961
00:44:32,840 --> 00:44:35,160
Speaker 1: So what is this? What about fifty to fifty relationships?

962
00:44:35,160 --> 00:44:36,319
Speaker 1: You ain't You ain't trying to hear that?

963
00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:39,080
Speaker 5: Bruh. You asked me out come on with it?

964
00:44:39,480 --> 00:44:41,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, especially on the date. I'm not paying for no date.

965
00:44:42,680 --> 00:44:45,719
Speaker 2: I'm not paying for no date. Okay, I'm not Like,

966
00:44:45,800 --> 00:44:49,919
Speaker 2: if I I'm in a committed relationship with someone, why

967
00:44:49,920 --> 00:44:52,040
Speaker 2: do I have to pay the bills?

968
00:44:52,480 --> 00:44:53,160
Speaker 3: That's insane.

969
00:44:53,480 --> 00:44:55,680
Speaker 5: I mean, I'm not so no bills.

970
00:44:56,880 --> 00:44:58,640
Speaker 2: I'm I can pay for my cell phone bill because

971
00:44:58,640 --> 00:45:00,959
Speaker 2: it's like already like set up, Like I'm not gonna

972
00:45:00,960 --> 00:45:02,600
Speaker 2: be like let me take my credit card off and

973
00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:03,200
Speaker 2: put yours on.

974
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:08,279
Speaker 3: I'm not an ass, but you know, I mean just.

975
00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:12,520
Speaker 2: Realistically, I don't like, I don't even know how that

976
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:15,279
Speaker 2: would work. I've never experienced.

977
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:17,319
Speaker 5: Have you ever paid for a date? Have you a guy?

978
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:19,000
Speaker 1: Have you ever taken a guy out and paid for

979
00:45:19,040 --> 00:45:21,600
Speaker 1: his date, been paid for them, you know, brought to

980
00:45:21,800 --> 00:45:24,640
Speaker 1: you know, the meal, the check came and you're like, babe,

981
00:45:24,680 --> 00:45:25,040
Speaker 1: I got this.

982
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:28,560
Speaker 2: Or if it was my man, yes, for sure, I'll

983
00:45:28,600 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 2: do that. That's not a problem. But if it's just

984
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:33,440
Speaker 2: a date and I'm getting to know the person.

985
00:45:33,600 --> 00:45:37,120
Speaker 1: No, do you want to share bank accounts or you're okay,

986
00:45:37,160 --> 00:45:39,040
Speaker 1: like you got your own? I got my own. I

987
00:45:39,040 --> 00:45:40,400
Speaker 1: know you're gonna take care of me like that. Or

988
00:45:40,440 --> 00:45:42,200
Speaker 1: do you need to be have a You guys need

989
00:45:42,200 --> 00:45:44,000
Speaker 1: to have a joint bank account, even if you if

990
00:45:44,040 --> 00:45:46,279
Speaker 1: you're married. I understand that because I think everybody if

991
00:45:46,320 --> 00:45:48,560
Speaker 1: you're married, have a joint bank account. You got your

992
00:45:48,560 --> 00:45:52,320
Speaker 1: bank account, I got my bank account. But what about

993
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:53,880
Speaker 1: just dating? We're not married.

994
00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:57,040
Speaker 3: No, I don't want to see that's too invasive. Okay,

995
00:45:57,120 --> 00:45:58,239
Speaker 3: yeah I don't. I don't need that.

996
00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:00,799
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, I don't need that.

997
00:46:02,280 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 5: Marriage. You want to get married again.

998
00:46:04,840 --> 00:46:08,160
Speaker 3: If I find the right person, But I'm not kid

999
00:46:08,280 --> 00:46:14,120
Speaker 3: one more kid? Do I want another baby? Daddy? Is

1000
00:46:14,120 --> 00:46:14,720
Speaker 3: the question?

1001
00:46:15,760 --> 00:46:17,480
Speaker 5: Because you told me I think you you want you

1002
00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:19,400
Speaker 5: want a girl? Right? You want to? You got two boys?

1003
00:46:19,520 --> 00:46:20,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, I wouldn't mind another boy.

1004
00:46:21,640 --> 00:46:22,399
Speaker 5: What about a daughter?

1005
00:46:22,800 --> 00:46:27,080
Speaker 1: You don't want to I'm good, you're a friend, he

1006
00:46:27,200 --> 00:46:31,239
Speaker 1: might be like big, you know what.

1007
00:46:31,239 --> 00:46:33,000
Speaker 3: I'm actually I love my boys.

1008
00:46:33,040 --> 00:46:35,919
Speaker 2: I'm very much a boy's mom, so I'm so used

1009
00:46:35,960 --> 00:46:37,239
Speaker 2: to that that I don't even know what I would

1010
00:46:37,280 --> 00:46:39,040
Speaker 2: do with a girl, you know what I mean?

1011
00:46:40,000 --> 00:46:41,040
Speaker 3: But I would have to get.

1012
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:43,200
Speaker 2: A Sarah Gate because I was telling you before we started,

1013
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:47,879
Speaker 2: I have tears in my spinal cord from pregnancy. So

1014
00:46:48,120 --> 00:46:50,720
Speaker 2: I have to get like epidoro steroids shots and stuff.

1015
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:52,880
Speaker 2: And once I get those, I'm like running around like

1016
00:46:52,920 --> 00:46:53,440
Speaker 2: a teenager.

1017
00:46:53,440 --> 00:46:53,879
Speaker 3: I'm good.

1018
00:46:54,600 --> 00:46:58,000
Speaker 2: But to go through that like again with my body

1019
00:46:58,040 --> 00:47:00,120
Speaker 2: and carrying a baby in my body, I can I

1020
00:47:00,280 --> 00:47:00,959
Speaker 2: go through that again?

1021
00:47:01,120 --> 00:47:01,279
Speaker 5: Oh?

1022
00:47:01,360 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 1: Okay, gifts. What's the best gift you've ever received?

1023
00:47:07,480 --> 00:47:08,840
Speaker 3: I don't get gifts.

1024
00:47:08,320 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 1: Stop this dam and I see now see how you

1025
00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:11,960
Speaker 1: see putting on?

1026
00:47:12,160 --> 00:47:13,040
Speaker 5: We would do it good.

1027
00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:15,440
Speaker 1: I thought you was courteous, receptive to courtesy, and now

1028
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:17,320
Speaker 1: you're gonna tell me and nobody know about you no gifts.

1029
00:47:17,360 --> 00:47:19,680
Speaker 3: They don't buy me gifts. They don't buy me gifts.

1030
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:22,759
Speaker 1: They don't buy you no gifts anymore, or they have

1031
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:23,920
Speaker 1: never bought you gifts.

1032
00:47:24,440 --> 00:47:29,960
Speaker 2: I never really like, I never like men have taken

1033
00:47:29,960 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 2: me shopping. For sure, I go shopping, but as far

1034
00:47:33,200 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 2: as like I was thinking about you and I got

1035
00:47:35,520 --> 00:47:35,759
Speaker 2: you this.

1036
00:47:36,000 --> 00:47:39,200
Speaker 3: No, really, I'm telling you you know.

1037
00:47:39,280 --> 00:47:40,799
Speaker 2: When I was at home and I was thinking about

1038
00:47:40,800 --> 00:47:44,319
Speaker 2: this interview, I'm like, people are gonna think that I'm

1039
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:50,640
Speaker 2: a liar, Yes, but I really just always had bad luck.

1040
00:47:51,360 --> 00:47:53,239
Speaker 2: Like I just feel like my whole life has just

1041
00:47:53,239 --> 00:47:56,160
Speaker 2: been bad luck. And I had some cool happen, but

1042
00:47:57,200 --> 00:47:59,000
Speaker 2: for the most part, I don't know. I just never

1043
00:47:59,080 --> 00:48:02,080
Speaker 2: really had I.

1044
00:48:02,040 --> 00:48:04,759
Speaker 3: Mean, maybe a Christmas gift, I don't know.

1045
00:48:05,080 --> 00:48:07,680
Speaker 2: No, I see girls on Instagram and it's like my

1046
00:48:07,680 --> 00:48:09,200
Speaker 2: boyfriend just bought me a g wagon.

1047
00:48:09,320 --> 00:48:12,160
Speaker 3: I'm like, I never got that ever.

1048
00:48:13,200 --> 00:48:15,600
Speaker 5: Wow, yeah, that's what.

1049
00:48:16,080 --> 00:48:19,600
Speaker 1: But how would you feel like or you start dating

1050
00:48:19,760 --> 00:48:22,200
Speaker 1: because I think you know, once you start leading with money,

1051
00:48:22,239 --> 00:48:24,800
Speaker 1: there's an expectation that that's the continuation and that's the

1052
00:48:24,840 --> 00:48:27,239
Speaker 1: way it should be. So I mean, so what's your

1053
00:48:27,280 --> 00:48:28,279
Speaker 1: expectations you get in.

1054
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:29,360
Speaker 3: I don't leave with money.

1055
00:48:29,560 --> 00:48:31,040
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. They leave, you know, lead

1056
00:48:31,080 --> 00:48:33,279
Speaker 1: with money. I don't expect you to. But I'm saying

1057
00:48:33,320 --> 00:48:33,759
Speaker 1: of a guy.

1058
00:48:34,760 --> 00:48:36,839
Speaker 3: Oh, I hear what you're saying. I understand what you're saying.

1059
00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:42,880
Speaker 2: Yeah, well, here's the thing. I won't just date a

1060
00:48:42,920 --> 00:48:45,200
Speaker 2: man because he has money. Okay, if that's the case,

1061
00:48:45,280 --> 00:48:48,319
Speaker 2: I could have been married a billionaire already. I need

1062
00:48:48,360 --> 00:48:50,640
Speaker 2: to want to have sex with you. I need to

1063
00:48:50,680 --> 00:48:53,759
Speaker 2: want to snuggle up with you. I need to want

1064
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:57,759
Speaker 2: to not eat until I eat with you. That's what

1065
00:48:57,840 --> 00:48:59,279
Speaker 2: I love. I'm a lover girl.

1066
00:48:59,480 --> 00:49:00,239
Speaker 3: Oh uh.

1067
00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 2: You know, if we're watching the series, I'm not finna

1068
00:49:04,160 --> 00:49:06,840
Speaker 2: watch the next episode without you. That's the type of

1069
00:49:06,840 --> 00:49:09,600
Speaker 2: person I am. So I can't just be with a

1070
00:49:09,640 --> 00:49:11,320
Speaker 2: guy just because he has money.

1071
00:49:11,480 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 1: There.

1072
00:49:11,680 --> 00:49:13,879
Speaker 2: It has to be a full package, which is why

1073
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:15,600
Speaker 2: I've been single for the past two years.

1074
00:49:15,640 --> 00:49:19,160
Speaker 3: It's because I just won't. I just won't settle.

1075
00:49:19,880 --> 00:49:24,240
Speaker 2: I just won't settle for something that's not genuinely gonna

1076
00:49:24,239 --> 00:49:25,200
Speaker 2: make me excited.

1077
00:49:25,600 --> 00:49:27,359
Speaker 1: Well, I mean, I mean, it's not like you got

1078
00:49:27,520 --> 00:49:30,960
Speaker 1: a wheelhouse type of guy. I mean with this six

1079
00:49:31,080 --> 00:49:34,719
Speaker 1: four you got Kanye looks order, I mean, I mean

1080
00:49:35,320 --> 00:49:36,399
Speaker 1: you'd be I.

1081
00:49:36,400 --> 00:49:38,759
Speaker 3: Dated white man, I dated black man. I did. I

1082
00:49:38,800 --> 00:49:39,239
Speaker 3: don't care.

1083
00:49:39,400 --> 00:49:43,439
Speaker 2: I don't really have a preference and looks Okay, yeah,

1084
00:49:43,440 --> 00:49:46,239
Speaker 2: I don't. I just I like Korean men too, like

1085
00:49:46,360 --> 00:49:49,959
Speaker 2: I like the Yeah, like the the k pop.

1086
00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:52,240
Speaker 1: They're like cute athletes.

1087
00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:54,520
Speaker 5: I don't know about. You dated an athlete.

1088
00:49:54,239 --> 00:49:58,920
Speaker 3: Before I dated one was a l I don't want

1089
00:49:58,920 --> 00:49:59,359
Speaker 3: to talk about.

1090
00:49:59,840 --> 00:50:04,759
Speaker 1: But I was.

1091
00:50:04,760 --> 00:50:07,719
Speaker 2: Going through a divorce. It don't count. But I did

1092
00:50:07,719 --> 00:50:10,200
Speaker 2: in Monte Morris, that was my boyfriend for a while.

1093
00:50:10,920 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 3: We're actually still very close.

1094
00:50:12,760 --> 00:50:14,959
Speaker 2: And I'm close with his family and stuff like that,

1095
00:50:15,600 --> 00:50:17,759
Speaker 2: but as friends, we haven't been together for a very

1096
00:50:17,800 --> 00:50:18,200
Speaker 2: long time.

1097
00:50:18,239 --> 00:50:21,439
Speaker 5: What about football player getting a football guy? Know what's

1098
00:50:21,480 --> 00:50:23,920
Speaker 5: wrong with them?

1099
00:50:24,120 --> 00:50:26,319
Speaker 3: They're a little you know.

1100
00:50:27,400 --> 00:50:28,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, I'm sorry.

1101
00:50:28,520 --> 00:50:28,920
Speaker 1: I tried.

1102
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:31,400
Speaker 5: I tried. I tried to get y'all leave, but he like.

1103
00:50:32,000 --> 00:50:34,120
Speaker 3: Crazy, So no, it's okay. So it's not that.

1104
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:37,080
Speaker 2: It's like, you know what's Shannon, I'm gonna be honest

1105
00:50:37,120 --> 00:50:40,839
Speaker 2: with you. If I get on the phone with you

1106
00:50:41,400 --> 00:50:44,200
Speaker 2: and you you try to love bombing and then all

1107
00:50:44,239 --> 00:50:47,880
Speaker 2: you talk about is sex, I'm gonna block you very

1108
00:50:47,920 --> 00:50:49,600
Speaker 2: early on in the conversations.

1109
00:50:50,239 --> 00:50:51,080
Speaker 3: And I feel like with.

1110
00:50:51,080 --> 00:50:56,040
Speaker 2: A lot of athletes, they're very sexual all the time,

1111
00:50:56,160 --> 00:50:58,040
Speaker 2: and it's like, can we just chop it up and

1112
00:50:58,160 --> 00:50:59,399
Speaker 2: laugh and just go to.

1113
00:50:59,360 --> 00:51:04,480
Speaker 3: The movies and to eat. Like, just like men have groupies,

1114
00:51:05,120 --> 00:51:06,160
Speaker 3: I have groupies too.

1115
00:51:06,920 --> 00:51:10,399
Speaker 2: So when it gets too convenient and too easy, I'm

1116
00:51:10,480 --> 00:51:11,120
Speaker 2: turned off.

1117
00:51:11,320 --> 00:51:15,720
Speaker 3: It's too accessible for me. I'm not the average girl.

1118
00:51:16,680 --> 00:51:19,480
Speaker 2: So when it's too accessible and you just slinging it

1119
00:51:19,840 --> 00:51:23,080
Speaker 2: all over the place, I'm like, it's not I don't

1120
00:51:23,160 --> 00:51:24,759
Speaker 2: really want it, you know.

1121
00:51:26,080 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, so that's that's your red flag.

1122
00:51:29,280 --> 00:51:31,960
Speaker 3: Yeah, just like I just want to I want to

1123
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:34,160
Speaker 3: see you. I want to do this. And now I'm like, God,

1124
00:51:34,680 --> 00:51:39,040
Speaker 3: what's your last name? But where you come? You got kids?

1125
00:51:39,080 --> 00:51:39,839
Speaker 3: What's going on here?

1126
00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:40,120
Speaker 4: Like?

1127
00:51:41,160 --> 00:51:42,320
Speaker 3: What are what your hobbies?

1128
00:51:42,880 --> 00:51:42,960
Speaker 4: Like?

1129
00:51:43,040 --> 00:51:45,160
Speaker 3: Talking about having sex with me? You don't even know me?

1130
00:51:45,800 --> 00:51:48,880
Speaker 5: So weird idea first day?

1131
00:51:48,920 --> 00:51:59,799
Speaker 3: Okay, I might't need another sipidition. God damn.

1132
00:52:00,560 --> 00:52:02,239
Speaker 5: All right, Hello, Hey, what's up?

1133
00:52:03,680 --> 00:52:04,520
Speaker 3: Are we doing this? Yeah?

1134
00:52:04,520 --> 00:52:07,360
Speaker 5: You know we're doing this. I'm calling, I'm calling you

1135
00:52:07,400 --> 00:52:10,800
Speaker 5: pick up? Hello, Hey, how you doing this? Shannon?

1136
00:52:11,040 --> 00:52:11,880
Speaker 3: Oh? Hey Shannon.

1137
00:52:13,200 --> 00:52:16,600
Speaker 1: Uh that was the one thing. If you're free tomorrow night,

1138
00:52:17,400 --> 00:52:18,879
Speaker 1: I want to take you to dinner. I just want

1139
00:52:18,880 --> 00:52:20,879
Speaker 1: to get to know you, just just feel you out, nothing,

1140
00:52:20,960 --> 00:52:23,759
Speaker 1: having nothing major, no no strings attached. It's not like

1141
00:52:23,840 --> 00:52:26,080
Speaker 1: this is a committed relationship or anything like that. But

1142
00:52:26,120 --> 00:52:27,200
Speaker 1: I just want to get to know you and see

1143
00:52:27,239 --> 00:52:27,759
Speaker 1: if we can buy it.

1144
00:52:28,520 --> 00:52:31,160
Speaker 3: I'm actually free tomorrow. I would love that with time.

1145
00:52:31,840 --> 00:52:32,680
Speaker 5: Uh, I'm on.

1146
00:52:32,640 --> 00:52:37,320
Speaker 1: My way right now, but I think of a party.

1147
00:52:38,280 --> 00:52:40,400
Speaker 5: So so, okay, got called.

1148
00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:43,759
Speaker 2: I'm easy, you know, but I'm not easy in that way.

1149
00:52:43,800 --> 00:52:46,120
Speaker 3: But it's like, if i'm available, sure I'll go.

1150
00:52:46,080 --> 00:52:46,520
Speaker 4: On a date.

1151
00:52:47,480 --> 00:52:48,400
Speaker 5: What do you like? So?

1152
00:52:48,480 --> 00:52:51,359
Speaker 1: What's a what's a you wanna dimly lid? Okay, you're cool.

1153
00:52:51,400 --> 00:52:53,160
Speaker 1: You want to be off in the back room somewhere.

1154
00:52:53,480 --> 00:52:56,600
Speaker 1: What's what's what's an ideal evening for amber?

1155
00:52:57,480 --> 00:52:58,440
Speaker 3: Great conversation?

1156
00:52:58,600 --> 00:53:04,480
Speaker 2: Okay, eye contact, not talking about sex at all, it's

1157
00:53:04,480 --> 00:53:05,319
Speaker 2: gonna turn me off.

1158
00:53:07,920 --> 00:53:08,880
Speaker 3: What are your dreams?

1159
00:53:08,880 --> 00:53:11,200
Speaker 2: And ambitions or what were they like you asked me

1160
00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:12,520
Speaker 2: earlier when you were a kid.

1161
00:53:12,600 --> 00:53:14,200
Speaker 3: I just want to get to know you.

1162
00:53:14,640 --> 00:53:17,839
Speaker 2: I want to feel a closeness to you where it

1163
00:53:17,840 --> 00:53:20,520
Speaker 2: makes me be like, damn, I'm thinking about him the

1164
00:53:20,560 --> 00:53:20,920
Speaker 2: next day.

1165
00:53:20,960 --> 00:53:22,120
Speaker 3: I want to see him again.

1166
00:53:22,400 --> 00:53:25,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I like that, you know, so like y'all

1167
00:53:25,239 --> 00:53:26,840
Speaker 1: see that women do y'all need to know.

1168
00:53:27,200 --> 00:53:28,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to be like I want to wake

1169
00:53:29,000 --> 00:53:31,279
Speaker 2: up the next day and just be like that was

1170
00:53:31,400 --> 00:53:32,160
Speaker 2: so nice.

1171
00:53:32,320 --> 00:53:33,480
Speaker 3: I wonder what he's doing.

1172
00:53:33,360 --> 00:53:37,000
Speaker 5: Later, hopefully, I sure hope he asked me out again.

1173
00:53:37,239 --> 00:53:41,080
Speaker 2: Yes, yes, but she had it. Hold on before you

1174
00:53:41,120 --> 00:53:47,040
Speaker 2: say that. These men out here are princesses. Okay. They

1175
00:53:47,120 --> 00:53:50,160
Speaker 2: want to be the princess. They want you to text first.

1176
00:53:50,719 --> 00:53:51,359
Speaker 2: They want you.

1177
00:53:51,360 --> 00:53:55,799
Speaker 3: To be like, babe, I'm gonna take you out. They

1178
00:53:55,840 --> 00:53:57,719
Speaker 3: want you to call I'm gonna take you out, boo.

1179
00:53:58,000 --> 00:54:00,560
Speaker 2: They want you to be the man in the relationship. Really,

1180
00:54:00,800 --> 00:54:05,319
Speaker 2: it's so bad out here. It's so terrible. You don't

1181
00:54:05,360 --> 00:54:08,120
Speaker 2: know how many people are blocked, like I can't take it.

1182
00:54:08,920 --> 00:54:11,840
Speaker 2: And these are really I mean, I'm not going to

1183
00:54:11,920 --> 00:54:18,080
Speaker 2: name y'all. They're really successful guys, just stupid, just they

1184
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:22,920
Speaker 2: want to be catered to, and it's like I'm old.

1185
00:54:22,719 --> 00:54:25,720
Speaker 1: School, but it's okay. If you call, it's okay.

1186
00:54:25,719 --> 00:54:27,120
Speaker 5: It's like, hey, are.

1187
00:54:27,040 --> 00:54:27,640
Speaker 3: You and I do?

1188
00:54:28,080 --> 00:54:30,799
Speaker 1: Okay, I do because somebody some of y'all, y'all, some

1189
00:54:30,840 --> 00:54:32,000
Speaker 1: of y'all y'all be doing too well.

1190
00:54:32,080 --> 00:54:32,680
Speaker 3: Not toxic.

1191
00:54:33,120 --> 00:54:36,719
Speaker 1: No, but I'm saying I shouldn't have to call all

1192
00:54:36,840 --> 00:54:37,279
Speaker 1: the time.

1193
00:54:37,480 --> 00:54:39,280
Speaker 3: No, I'm not saying that. I'm saying.

1194
00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:43,120
Speaker 2: What I'm saying is is that these men nowadays do

1195
00:54:43,160 --> 00:54:44,880
Speaker 2: not take initiative.

1196
00:54:44,840 --> 00:54:45,520
Speaker 3: Like men do.

1197
00:54:46,239 --> 00:54:48,560
Speaker 2: If you if me, you are talking, and you text

1198
00:54:48,640 --> 00:54:50,759
Speaker 2: me and I'm on my phone, I'm not going to

1199
00:54:50,800 --> 00:54:52,839
Speaker 2: be toxic and be like let me wait. I'm gonna

1200
00:54:52,880 --> 00:54:55,759
Speaker 2: let him wait ten minutes for okay. That not doing

1201
00:54:55,800 --> 00:54:56,240
Speaker 2: that done.

1202
00:54:56,680 --> 00:54:57,520
Speaker 3: I'm too old for that.

1203
00:54:57,880 --> 00:54:59,480
Speaker 2: If I'm on my phone or you text me, I'm

1204
00:54:59,520 --> 00:55:01,520
Speaker 2: gonna be like, hey, what you doing, I'm gonnaect you

1205
00:55:01,640 --> 00:55:04,239
Speaker 2: right back. I don't care about looking thirsty and all that.

1206
00:55:04,480 --> 00:55:06,960
Speaker 2: If I'm excited, I'm going to show you that I'm

1207
00:55:06,960 --> 00:55:08,880
Speaker 2: excited and I want the same in return.

1208
00:55:10,600 --> 00:55:11,200
Speaker 5: I like that.

1209
00:55:13,520 --> 00:55:16,200
Speaker 1: Hold on, is it true that you make men get

1210
00:55:16,239 --> 00:55:17,440
Speaker 1: tested before they sleep with you?

1211
00:55:17,680 --> 00:55:21,880
Speaker 3: Yes, well I'm protecting yes every time.

1212
00:55:21,920 --> 00:55:22,640
Speaker 5: And they cool with that.

1213
00:55:22,640 --> 00:55:25,920
Speaker 2: They're like, okay, yeah, but they're not gonna do it.

1214
00:55:25,920 --> 00:55:26,480
Speaker 3: They're gonna do it.

1215
00:55:26,560 --> 00:55:29,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, you believe it. Hey, As a matter of fact,

1216
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:34,560
Speaker 1: I'm coming with it that you go right now, exactly

1217
00:55:34,600 --> 00:55:35,799
Speaker 1: at what age did you start doing?

1218
00:55:35,840 --> 00:55:35,880
Speaker 4: What?

1219
00:55:36,160 --> 00:55:36,879
Speaker 5: What age?

1220
00:55:36,960 --> 00:55:41,640
Speaker 2: But again, I watched my neighborhood friend died of AIDS,

1221
00:55:42,520 --> 00:55:45,560
Speaker 2: So for me, it was very close to home. And

1222
00:55:45,600 --> 00:55:51,600
Speaker 2: I wanted to be epidemiologist, so I studied STDs and

1223
00:55:51,640 --> 00:55:54,320
Speaker 2: I was obsessed with like bacterias and stuff.

1224
00:55:55,040 --> 00:55:56,880
Speaker 3: So for me, it's like, you're not finna play with

1225
00:55:56,920 --> 00:55:58,640
Speaker 3: my life. I don't give how cute you are.

1226
00:55:59,239 --> 00:56:02,759
Speaker 1: Wow, what's the wildest thing you've ever done in relationship?

1227
00:56:02,800 --> 00:56:04,920
Speaker 1: I reg with Meghan Fox. I think she drank like

1228
00:56:04,960 --> 00:56:07,319
Speaker 1: some of the machine gun Kelly's blood. And you saw

1229
00:56:07,880 --> 00:56:11,120
Speaker 1: Angelina Angelina Joe Lee did this with Billy Bob Thornton.

1230
00:56:11,239 --> 00:56:13,279
Speaker 1: What's the wildest thing you've done in the relationship ever?

1231
00:56:13,360 --> 00:56:15,960
Speaker 3: I'm not a wild girl. I'm not.

1232
00:56:16,320 --> 00:56:18,160
Speaker 5: But why people have that perception of you know they

1233
00:56:18,200 --> 00:56:18,360
Speaker 5: do that?

1234
00:56:18,600 --> 00:56:20,680
Speaker 2: No, ask my assistant Joseph. You've been with me for

1235
00:56:20,719 --> 00:56:23,680
Speaker 2: ten years. I had no skeletons in my closet. I'm

1236
00:56:23,680 --> 00:56:27,279
Speaker 2: not into dbus sex. I don't like eating kouchie. I'm

1237
00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:31,760
Speaker 2: not into threesomes. I don't I'm a very traditional hole.

1238
00:56:32,800 --> 00:56:35,880
Speaker 2: I don't like none of that extra. I don't do drugs.

1239
00:56:35,880 --> 00:56:39,640
Speaker 2: I don't get drunk. I'm very square. I'm just not

1240
00:56:39,760 --> 00:56:40,280
Speaker 2: that person.

1241
00:56:40,440 --> 00:56:42,160
Speaker 5: Oh so you like a basket. You like one on one.

1242
00:56:42,680 --> 00:56:44,880
Speaker 3: I like one on one. I like one.

1243
00:56:44,960 --> 00:56:46,359
Speaker 5: Give me that, Give me that, y'ah.

1244
00:56:46,800 --> 00:56:50,680
Speaker 2: All them that's frowns upon nowadays, because if girls say that,

1245
00:56:50,800 --> 00:56:53,759
Speaker 2: it's like, oh, she ain't gonna bring No. I'm not

1246
00:56:53,760 --> 00:56:56,720
Speaker 2: bringing no bitchess home, y'all. I'm not doing it. Don't

1247
00:56:56,719 --> 00:56:59,120
Speaker 2: ask me, don't bother me with that, or just leave

1248
00:56:59,120 --> 00:57:00,719
Speaker 2: me alone. Right, it's not my thing.

1249
00:57:02,040 --> 00:57:05,600
Speaker 5: You spend the block. No, once you done, you're done.

1250
00:57:05,719 --> 00:57:09,040
Speaker 3: I'm done. Yeah. I hope grudges too, Really yeah, I do.

1251
00:57:09,560 --> 00:57:09,840
Speaker 5: Why?

1252
00:57:10,520 --> 00:57:12,440
Speaker 3: I just I'm just not a forgiving person.

1253
00:57:13,920 --> 00:57:15,319
Speaker 5: What if it's you're the one that messed up.

1254
00:57:15,400 --> 00:57:18,000
Speaker 3: I don't mess up. I never met. I'm an overachiever.

1255
00:57:18,240 --> 00:57:22,400
Speaker 3: I do not mess up. Mm hmmm. You go through

1256
00:57:22,440 --> 00:57:25,440
Speaker 3: my phone if i'm if you're my man, you can go.

1257
00:57:25,560 --> 00:57:30,240
Speaker 2: You got my password. I don't got nothing to high Damn. Yeah, Shannon,

1258
00:57:30,360 --> 00:57:32,680
Speaker 2: men don't cheat on their barber. Why you won't cheat

1259
00:57:32,680 --> 00:57:32,880
Speaker 2: on me?

1260
00:57:34,280 --> 00:57:34,640
Speaker 5: Damn?

1261
00:57:34,680 --> 00:57:37,960
Speaker 1: I ain't look at it like that. I didn't look

1262
00:57:37,960 --> 00:57:38,960
Speaker 1: at it like that. You heard that.

1263
00:57:39,200 --> 00:57:40,200
Speaker 5: You don't cheer you, You.

1264
00:57:40,120 --> 00:57:41,720
Speaker 1: Don't go to the barbers. He can be cut you

1265
00:57:41,720 --> 00:57:43,520
Speaker 1: every ten years, all of a sudden, step out on

1266
00:57:43,600 --> 00:57:44,480
Speaker 1: and let somebody else cut it.

1267
00:57:44,600 --> 00:57:46,880
Speaker 2: They don't do that. Why why do you cheating on

1268
00:57:46,920 --> 00:57:48,840
Speaker 2: me for what? Why do I have to tolerate that?

1269
00:57:51,000 --> 00:57:52,919
Speaker 3: Damn? I'm dealing with that ship.

1270
00:57:54,480 --> 00:58:00,000
Speaker 1: What have dating in La taught you?

1271
00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:04,240
Speaker 2: It is a nightmare out here. Really, it's a nightmare.

1272
00:58:04,400 --> 00:58:04,560
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1273
00:58:04,600 --> 00:58:06,440
Speaker 2: I saw on Instagram the other day they said La

1274
00:58:06,560 --> 00:58:08,760
Speaker 2: is the worst place in America for dating.

1275
00:58:08,880 --> 00:58:09,480
Speaker 5: I can believe it.

1276
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:12,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, because there's a lot of pretending amber. There's a

1277
00:58:12,480 --> 00:58:15,200
Speaker 1: lot of pretending on both sides. I'm somebody that I'm not,

1278
00:58:15,640 --> 00:58:18,840
Speaker 1: I have something that i'm not, I'm going someplace I'm not,

1279
00:58:19,320 --> 00:58:23,000
Speaker 1: And so everybody, everybody is lying to each other. And

1280
00:58:23,000 --> 00:58:24,960
Speaker 1: then when you get together and you finally catch up,

1281
00:58:25,000 --> 00:58:28,360
Speaker 1: like bro Sis, you've been lying this whole time. You

1282
00:58:28,400 --> 00:58:30,360
Speaker 1: ain't none of what you said.

1283
00:58:30,600 --> 00:58:34,040
Speaker 3: It's sick out here. It's sick if.

1284
00:58:33,920 --> 00:58:36,040
Speaker 1: You live here, so you gotta you're gonna have if

1285
00:58:36,040 --> 00:58:37,360
Speaker 1: you gonna get married, you gonna have to.

1286
00:58:38,080 --> 00:58:41,040
Speaker 2: I live here by default because my kids are here

1287
00:58:41,120 --> 00:58:44,120
Speaker 2: and they're still young. If I didn't have my kids,

1288
00:58:44,440 --> 00:58:46,080
Speaker 2: or if I didn't want to go through all this

1289
00:58:46,320 --> 00:58:47,880
Speaker 2: with my baby Daddy's, I would leave.

1290
00:58:48,080 --> 00:58:50,040
Speaker 3: I would go to I would go to Dallas or something.

1291
00:58:50,880 --> 00:58:54,600
Speaker 5: I thought you'd gonna say, Houston. Why do you think

1292
00:58:54,640 --> 00:58:55,200
Speaker 5: people cheat?

1293
00:58:56,640 --> 00:58:57,400
Speaker 3: They're insecure.

1294
00:59:00,320 --> 00:59:02,360
Speaker 2: If you cheat, your insecure, because all you have to

1295
00:59:02,400 --> 00:59:05,120
Speaker 2: do is say, hey, listen, I care about you, but

1296
00:59:05,160 --> 00:59:07,200
Speaker 2: I'm not happy. So I want to go over here

1297
00:59:07,360 --> 00:59:10,080
Speaker 2: and try this. It's really not that hard. Yes, you

1298
00:59:10,160 --> 00:59:13,120
Speaker 2: might shatter someone's hard, but at least you're being honest.

1299
00:59:13,800 --> 00:59:17,400
Speaker 2: So when you cheat, you're trying to find validation somewhere

1300
00:59:17,440 --> 00:59:19,600
Speaker 2: else because you can't face what you got going on

1301
00:59:19,680 --> 00:59:20,360
Speaker 2: in your life.

1302
00:59:21,000 --> 00:59:22,080
Speaker 3: Just be honest.

1303
00:59:22,880 --> 00:59:24,440
Speaker 5: So transparency is big for you.

1304
00:59:25,600 --> 00:59:28,080
Speaker 3: It is the only thing. If you betray me, I've

1305
00:59:28,120 --> 00:59:29,200
Speaker 3: never talked to you ever again.

1306
00:59:29,680 --> 00:59:32,280
Speaker 5: Never Never have you ever cheated.

1307
00:59:32,400 --> 00:59:36,040
Speaker 3: Never, not on any boyfriend I ever had ever in

1308
00:59:36,080 --> 00:59:37,880
Speaker 3: my life. I never cheated. I'm not a cheater.

1309
00:59:38,240 --> 00:59:40,360
Speaker 1: I mean, I mean you don't drink, you don't smoke.

1310
00:59:40,840 --> 00:59:41,880
Speaker 1: You and I here tripping?

1311
00:59:42,320 --> 00:59:43,560
Speaker 5: What is it? What is it?

1312
00:59:43,600 --> 00:59:45,160
Speaker 1: I mean I would have thought you'd have been married

1313
00:59:45,160 --> 00:59:46,680
Speaker 1: with my four or five kids by nothing.

1314
00:59:46,800 --> 00:59:47,840
Speaker 3: Men are terrified in me.

1315
00:59:48,720 --> 00:59:49,600
Speaker 5: Why they terrified me?

1316
00:59:49,760 --> 00:59:52,120
Speaker 3: I don't know. I mean you're a man. Tell me.

1317
00:59:52,240 --> 00:59:55,960
Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't know. I think they're they're

1318
00:59:55,960 --> 00:59:57,760
Speaker 3: intimidated by my persona.

1319
00:59:57,920 --> 00:59:59,000
Speaker 5: Yeah, I believe it.

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Speaker 3: But if you get to know me.

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01:00:01,040 --> 01:00:03,160
Speaker 2: As a person, you'd be like, damn she cool with sales.

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01:00:03,280 --> 01:00:05,400
Speaker 2: I'm really just a souldfilly regular.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you came in here, You're like, hey, how

1324
01:00:07,640 --> 01:00:09,800
Speaker 1: you doing. Nice to meet you, Thanks for having me.

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01:00:09,960 --> 01:00:12,840
Speaker 1: I appreciate you coming out to do this. You're very courteous,

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01:00:12,960 --> 01:00:16,240
Speaker 1: very receptive to courtesy. Yeah, but I can I can

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Speaker 1: see because I'm thinking in my head, I'm like, wow, okay,

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01:00:19,200 --> 01:00:21,000
Speaker 1: she's a very attractive woman. I mean I see her.

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Speaker 1: When you see someone that I was telling you this

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Speaker 1: off camera. I say, to see someone on television and

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Speaker 1: you think you're going to see this person, and all

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01:00:27,480 --> 01:00:29,520
Speaker 1: of a sudden you meet this person. Of course, I

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01:00:29,520 --> 01:00:31,360
Speaker 1: had a perception of what I thought you would be.

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01:00:32,200 --> 01:00:34,640
Speaker 1: You're nothing. What I thought you would be. That's actually

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01:00:34,680 --> 01:00:36,840
Speaker 1: sitting here talking to you off camera, now talking to

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01:00:36,880 --> 01:00:40,320
Speaker 1: you on camera. So I can see why men that

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Speaker 1: see you and I like to think I'm kind of

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Speaker 1: successful but a normal person. Yeah, they would be very

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01:00:47,640 --> 01:00:48,480
Speaker 1: intimidated by you.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, and it happens.

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01:00:50,600 --> 01:00:53,640
Speaker 2: But you know, girls like me are probably the most

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Speaker 2: loneliest for sure.

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Speaker 1: How do you how do you know someone is cheating?

1344
01:00:59,560 --> 01:01:02,080
Speaker 1: Have you someone cheating? You go through his phone, you

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01:01:02,160 --> 01:01:04,680
Speaker 1: follow him out, you put what are the air tags?

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Speaker 5: I think that's the thing. So how have you called? I?

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Speaker 3: Will I listen?

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Speaker 5: You're gonna tell your secrets.

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Speaker 2: I'm a real soul Philip. I used to pull up.

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Speaker 2: I will pull up. I'll do all that stuff. I'll

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01:01:16,360 --> 01:01:17,440
Speaker 2: bust out windows.

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01:01:17,960 --> 01:01:21,840
Speaker 1: I'm on jazz, but sell the windows. Somebody call I swear.

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Speaker 2: To God like that is the amber back in the day. Okay, Okay,

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01:01:25,720 --> 01:01:30,200
Speaker 2: now I have an intuition. I'll know like that, and

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01:01:30,240 --> 01:01:31,840
Speaker 2: I'll just be like, out of my life.

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Speaker 3: I don't tolerate. Why why tolerate?

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01:01:35,480 --> 01:01:37,600
Speaker 2: I have my own money, my own children, my own house,

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01:01:37,640 --> 01:01:41,680
Speaker 2: my own cars. Why tolerate and betrayal? If you can

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01:01:41,760 --> 01:01:44,240
Speaker 2: sit there and lie to me, you're not my friend.

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01:01:44,840 --> 01:01:47,600
Speaker 2: And in a relationship, you have to be friends with

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01:01:47,640 --> 01:01:51,480
Speaker 2: someone first before anything, you know, So if you're not

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01:01:51,560 --> 01:01:53,280
Speaker 2: my friend, why are you in my life for what?

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01:01:54,760 --> 01:02:00,400
Speaker 1: How do you repray a broken heart time? Because they

1364
01:02:00,480 --> 01:02:02,720
Speaker 1: say the mind replays what the heart can't delete.

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Speaker 3: That makes sense.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So when you're in a situation and you're with

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01:02:08,280 --> 01:02:11,919
Speaker 1: someone for an extended period of time and not saying

1368
01:02:11,920 --> 01:02:15,120
Speaker 1: this betrayal because and the thing is that I'm bright,

1369
01:02:15,120 --> 01:02:17,880
Speaker 1: and now what I tell people, breaking up with someone

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01:02:18,000 --> 01:02:20,160
Speaker 1: is easy if you're the one that wanted to do

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01:02:20,200 --> 01:02:23,360
Speaker 1: the breaking up. The hard part is when you want

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Speaker 1: to be in this relationship and the other party doesn't. Yes,

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01:02:27,040 --> 01:02:30,200
Speaker 1: that's the hard part. How do you start to mend

1374
01:02:30,320 --> 01:02:36,120
Speaker 1: when you've been interwoven with this person for an extended

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Speaker 1: period of time two years, five years, seven years, ten years?

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Speaker 5: How do you untangle that?

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01:02:43,080 --> 01:02:46,640
Speaker 2: I mean, I go to the gym. That's all I do.

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01:02:46,880 --> 01:02:51,040
Speaker 2: I get up every day. No, it sounds superficial, but

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01:02:51,080 --> 01:02:53,920
Speaker 2: the only thing that can heal that is time. Getting

1380
01:02:54,000 --> 01:02:58,240
Speaker 2: up under somebody else is not going to help. Sitting

1381
01:02:58,240 --> 01:02:59,960
Speaker 2: at home and crying about it is not going to help.

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01:03:00,040 --> 01:03:02,360
Speaker 2: It's not going to change nothing. But if you go

1383
01:03:02,520 --> 01:03:06,800
Speaker 2: and you get active and you stay busy, time will

1384
01:03:06,800 --> 01:03:08,800
Speaker 2: go by, and then you know things will get better.

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Speaker 1: This concludes the first half of my conversation. Part two

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01:03:13,480 --> 01:03:15,680
Speaker 1: is also posted and you can access it to whichever

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Speaker 1: podcast platform you just listen to part one on. Just

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01:03:19,240 --> 01:03:22,080
Speaker 1: simply go back to club Shashay profile and I'll see

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01:03:22,120 --> 01:03:22,439
Speaker 1: you there.