WEBVTT - Mirror Mirror on the Wall

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio

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<v Speaker 1>and the Black Effect, And just like that, we're back

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<v Speaker 1>on the air. Welcome to yet another episode of Carefully

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<v Speaker 1>Reckless with your girl just hilarious. I got my sister

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<v Speaker 1>in here again, shape say without yo yo with a

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<v Speaker 1>holes at again like the holes won't always come to

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast. Listen, listen, I'm gonna do storytime today, although

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<v Speaker 1>my sister is here because this is a topic that

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<v Speaker 1>will forever be debatable and discussed amongst us. So grab

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<v Speaker 1>your tea, your halls, your hot tidy, your handy, whatever

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<v Speaker 1>you want, because it's story time. Back in two thousand

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<v Speaker 1>and fifteen, there were two girls, their sisters Claremont twins.

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<v Speaker 1>Y'all know the mask, Shannon and Shied. They start on

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<v Speaker 1>the reality series b g C Bad Girls Club right

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<v Speaker 1>as y'all can see. They look nothing like they used

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<v Speaker 1>to look. Now. They were beautiful girls to me, I swear,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I you know, they were beautiful, brown skinned girls.

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<v Speaker 1>And I always make fun of them, you know, with

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<v Speaker 1>just with the mess and all of that ship, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>because you know who wouldn't. But I'm just saying they

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<v Speaker 1>did not look the same. They had excellent bone structure.

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<v Speaker 1>They nice bodies, you know, but something happened to those

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<v Speaker 1>girls where they just felt like they weren't beautiful had

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<v Speaker 1>to be because they look completely different. I'm talking about

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<v Speaker 1>in two thousand and fifteen on Bad Girls Club. If

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<v Speaker 1>that was the last time y'all ever saw them, and

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<v Speaker 1>they walked down the street today, you would not know

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<v Speaker 1>that that is Shannon and Chanelle Claremont. And that brings

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<v Speaker 1>me to the topic of today, body dysmorphia disorder. And

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<v Speaker 1>I never knew that there was a name for this.

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<v Speaker 1>My sister just brought this to my attention today. Actually,

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<v Speaker 1>you know that this is an actual disorder that people have,

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<v Speaker 1>because I've always said, in my mind, not everybody who

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<v Speaker 1>gets addicted to plastic surgery is doing it because they

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<v Speaker 1>want to. They're doing it because they feel like they

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<v Speaker 1>have to. They're doing it because there is something that

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<v Speaker 1>they see that they don't like every time they look

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<v Speaker 1>in the mirror. You know. That's why I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>cater to it, the disorder by doing an episode on it.

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<v Speaker 1>And um my sister actually told me that she actually

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<v Speaker 1>suffers with body dysmorphia disorder. I did not know that, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>So for those who don't know what body dysmorphia disorder is,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to read this off of Google. It is

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<v Speaker 1>a mental illness involving obsessive focus on a perceived flaw

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<v Speaker 1>in appearance. That flaw can just be looking in the

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<v Speaker 1>mirror and not seeing something that you like. So with

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<v Speaker 1>me looking in the mirror, of course, you already know that.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, I lost weight, and even before I gained

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<v Speaker 1>a whole lot of weight after having three children, I

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<v Speaker 1>looked at myself and looked at my stomach and just like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my gosh, this is not what I'm used to

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<v Speaker 1>Because I had three kids back to back to back,

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<v Speaker 1>didn't give my body any rest. So that last tessity

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<v Speaker 1>is gone, and that is normal for most mothers if

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<v Speaker 1>they didn't snap back the way some people did, Like

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you snap bag. You know you look good still.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know a lot of mothers go straight to surgery.

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<v Speaker 1>Now nowadays, you know, they go straight to surgery. Like

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<v Speaker 1>Cardi was even saying she didn't go and have light hope,

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<v Speaker 1>but she was actually saying it right before she had

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<v Speaker 1>this baby, that she's laying on that table as soon

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<v Speaker 1>as she had his baby. So she can get back

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<v Speaker 1>to work. A lot of people just don't do it

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<v Speaker 1>the natural way anymore. They feel like, you know, there

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<v Speaker 1>has to has to be a surgery right after you

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<v Speaker 1>give birth so you can look good quicker, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, honestly, it might be too son for her,

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<v Speaker 1>That's what she was saying. It's too saon. But I

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<v Speaker 1>know women who have done that went got right off

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<v Speaker 1>the fucking table and went to another room and got

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<v Speaker 1>on another table. Man, if you're doctors or whomever decide

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<v Speaker 1>they want to do that, then that's up to them.

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<v Speaker 1>Honestly me, I don't think that may be safe because

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<v Speaker 1>you know, you just lost blood from having a child

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<v Speaker 1>and all that stuff like that. If you are uncomfortable

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<v Speaker 1>with how you look and you have body dysmorph your disorder,

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<v Speaker 1>then that's what it drives you to do, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I mean. Like, there are a lot of things

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<v Speaker 1>that I I still I'm not happy with. Yeah, I

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<v Speaker 1>had surgery, you know, I got I had a BBL,

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<v Speaker 1>I had my boobs done, and there are still things

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<v Speaker 1>that I still feel like, No, I don't have hips.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not as wide enough in my hip area as

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<v Speaker 1>I would want to be. But am I gonna go

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<v Speaker 1>back and lay on the table. No, I'm not, because

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<v Speaker 1>I now know there are natural ways that you can

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<v Speaker 1>make your hips spread, you know. And then also I

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<v Speaker 1>don't go lay down on the table again, and then

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<v Speaker 1>I get up in one of my hips is bigger

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<v Speaker 1>than the other one. I ain't trying to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>Ship like that happens a lot. I know your hips.

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<v Speaker 1>You know why I said, what fucking is not the

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<v Speaker 1>only way you can spread them, goddamn hip. So don't

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<v Speaker 1>remember that. People used to say that's like you get

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<v Speaker 1>hit from the back, that will make your but bigger.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, I've been getting hit from the back for

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<v Speaker 1>a long time and that did not make my butt

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<v Speaker 1>bigger at all. Like, seriously, it don't matter how you

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<v Speaker 1>or then I heard somebody say if you if you

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<v Speaker 1>do reverse cow girl, that will widen your hips. Well, ship,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. Maybe I'm sucking the wrong man because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm telling you I don't know. Maybe they're talking about

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<v Speaker 1>a different reverse because I just sex never did anything

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<v Speaker 1>to enhance my body. But they say sweet potatoes, um

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<v Speaker 1>eating them sweet potatoes? Yeah, potatoes, rice, sweet potatoes especially

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<v Speaker 1>that can that go straight to your hips? Yeah? Hiding carbs,

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<v Speaker 1>which is still not healthy. But I do want my

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<v Speaker 1>damn hips. You know what I'm saying. Other things I

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<v Speaker 1>don't like. I don't like my feet. I can't stand it.

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<v Speaker 1>I got bunyans from dad Yo. But am I gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get a bunyan surgery? No? Because I need to walk

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<v Speaker 1>on stage. Monica had one. Monica had bunion surgery. John Sally,

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<v Speaker 1>Um he's a basketball player. Um, well he retired, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he had bunyan surgery. He said he was down for

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<v Speaker 1>like six months. I don't got that kind of time

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<v Speaker 1>that get does to rule you out on that stage.

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<v Speaker 1>Shut roll into the stage, just desol And then I

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<v Speaker 1>was gonna say then because you know, Ray hate me,

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<v Speaker 1>bitch Rare and be like, yeah, how does it fair

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<v Speaker 1>talking with that motherfucking tongue? Off topic, Let's get back

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<v Speaker 1>on it, Okay, So what are some other things you

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<v Speaker 1>don't like about yourself? Because I I really didn't know

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<v Speaker 1>that you had suffered from this disorder. I really didn't.

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<v Speaker 1>I know some other celebrities that have. But we're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get into that. What don't you like about yourself? I

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<v Speaker 1>look in the mirror and I see that I have

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<v Speaker 1>bags under my eyes. I literally go back and I

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<v Speaker 1>look at my pictures from being a toddler. I looked

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<v Speaker 1>at my kindergarten school pictures just like, damn, I had

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<v Speaker 1>bags under my eyes then. So it's not like I'm

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<v Speaker 1>tired or whatever like that, but it's just like I

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<v Speaker 1>look at it and I'm just like, damn, I'm getting older.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's just like the older I get, which I'm

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<v Speaker 1>only thirty five and that's not really old. When I

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<v Speaker 1>look at myself and I'm like, damn, I need some

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<v Speaker 1>fellers under my eyes. So you know, I go and

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<v Speaker 1>I start looking up feelers and stuff like that, and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just like, do I really want to do this

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<v Speaker 1>to myself? Yes, because I feel like it will make

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<v Speaker 1>me happy, But will it really make me happy? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I look in the mirror. I have full

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<v Speaker 1>lips already your around with like thin mints. But then

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just like, oh man, my lips aren't the same size.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's just like, like, how your lips Your lips

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<v Speaker 1>are a full, yeah, full lips, but I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>your lips are equally the same size top and bottom lips.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I look at my lips and I'm like, damn,

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<v Speaker 1>should I get the top lip plumped up a little bit?

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<v Speaker 1>And it's just like I look at the invasive fillers

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<v Speaker 1>where they actually stick the needle in your lip, and

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<v Speaker 1>then they also have like this hydro something kind of um,

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<v Speaker 1>non invasive filler where they I don't know what they do,

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<v Speaker 1>they just put something on your lip and like shock

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<v Speaker 1>it to make it swollen. So you're really doing research

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<v Speaker 1>on different things to perfect your face. And this is

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<v Speaker 1>the thing. Do you think it has something to do

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<v Speaker 1>with nowadays? Um knowing that just seeing how everybody else

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<v Speaker 1>can fix it about them or because like you aren't

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<v Speaker 1>even thinking about this ship until like more recently. Like

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<v Speaker 1>I would say, what, like how long have you had

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<v Speaker 1>this disorder? You feel like, what years? A couple of

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<v Speaker 1>years at least, um, two years, like going on two years? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So is it what you see? Because that can be

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<v Speaker 1>a form of you being conditioned to think you have

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<v Speaker 1>to make yourself look pretty to keep up with what

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<v Speaker 1>you see. So I feel like, um, it may be

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<v Speaker 1>a combination of just looking at the internet, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>looking at looking at the magazines and stuff like that.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just like you still be looking at magazines. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>but you don't have a bomb. You do that like

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<v Speaker 1>you'll look at them. I will bomb every once in

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<v Speaker 1>a while, Like if I see a magazine with Brandy

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<v Speaker 1>on it, I'm buying it. That's just I'm just like, Brandy,

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<v Speaker 1>let me get this. Or you know, the last magazine

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<v Speaker 1>I actually purchased was UM with Meg and Marco and

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<v Speaker 1>Harry on there. Okay, I kind of you know. I

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<v Speaker 1>was just like, right, this is about so, and the

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<v Speaker 1>line was moving fast. I was like, I'm just gonna

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<v Speaker 1>have to buy. Yeah. So it's what you see in

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<v Speaker 1>the magazines and online and ship like that, and I

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<v Speaker 1>that's exactly what I feel like it is because Yo,

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<v Speaker 1>you've been like in guy's eyes and and other That's

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<v Speaker 1>why our bitches hated on you. When you were younger.

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<v Speaker 1>You had the perfect body, you had full lips, you

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<v Speaker 1>had like nobody. I don't know, I don't really feel

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<v Speaker 1>like nobody was paying attention to the ship that you

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<v Speaker 1>can consider a flaw right now, back in the day,

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<v Speaker 1>because everybody had flaws. It's like nobody was really focusing

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<v Speaker 1>on perfecting themselves. Everybody seeing each other just for who

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<v Speaker 1>the funk they were, you know, what I'm saying, and

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<v Speaker 1>and of course I'm not saying there were no bullying.

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<v Speaker 1>There was no ugly people back in the day, but

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<v Speaker 1>people weren't so conscious about being perfect. And I really

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<v Speaker 1>feel like surgery is so much more affordable today than

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<v Speaker 1>it used to be, and it's way more popular. You

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<v Speaker 1>got installments you can make on your your surgeries and

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<v Speaker 1>all that type of ship down payments and all you

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<v Speaker 1>can actually pay off your titties, you know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>in installments and ship like that. So I felt like

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<v Speaker 1>that's also people's drive. This disorder is like kind of

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<v Speaker 1>fuel because you have options there. You have options now

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<v Speaker 1>you can fix this. I've just seen something online where

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<v Speaker 1>you can make yourself taller. There is a plastic surgery

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<v Speaker 1>that they do something to your bones where they extend

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<v Speaker 1>them where you can have YO. That was on Shade Room.

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<v Speaker 1>It was on Shade Room. Um, I could not believe

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<v Speaker 1>it when I first saw that was on site. Shout

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<v Speaker 1>out the right Ali. I love her unblocked page, but

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<v Speaker 1>I first seen it on site, I believe. But yes,

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<v Speaker 1>that you can you can be made taller. So these

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<v Speaker 1>short niggers really go crazy. I know. Tory lanes where

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<v Speaker 1>you go crazy with that ship. You know it was

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<v Speaker 1>that just yeah, it's just please get the platforms. But yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you can do you can get new kneecaps. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>you can get bitches is getting new chins out here.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why I don't know why Natalie didn't do that yet.

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<v Speaker 1>That's another thing I was looking. So they have um

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<v Speaker 1>I've been looking at about my nose because I don't

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<v Speaker 1>like how my nose hooks at the end. They have

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<v Speaker 1>another procedure where you don't have to get cut. It's

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<v Speaker 1>some kind of like like some kind of like rod

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<v Speaker 1>or string or something like that, and they put it

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<v Speaker 1>in your nose and they lifted, they lifted and it's

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<v Speaker 1>just literally like I think it's just done under local anesthetics.

0:11:16.880 --> 0:11:18.800
<v Speaker 1>It's not you got you ain't gotta get your your

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<v Speaker 1>ship all cut up. Because now they're finding new ways,

0:11:21.960 --> 0:11:24.840
<v Speaker 1>like you know, like surgery. This ship works just like technology.

0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:27.520
<v Speaker 1>I see, like you see how we used to have iPods.

0:11:27.800 --> 0:11:30.040
<v Speaker 1>Now there's no iPads. It's just Apple music on your phone.

0:11:30.240 --> 0:11:33.600
<v Speaker 1>Like it evolves with time. So like now they have

0:11:33.840 --> 0:11:38.120
<v Speaker 1>non invasive surgery and ship like that, Like everything is

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<v Speaker 1>evolving pretty soon You're just going to go in the machine,

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<v Speaker 1>don't you know the ts A machine where you go

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<v Speaker 1>standing and your surgery. They're going turn around and you're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be a new person, will be a new person.

0:11:50.080 --> 0:11:52.600
<v Speaker 1>You can be able to get out um. Having this

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<v Speaker 1>disorder has cost me a lot of money, A lot

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<v Speaker 1>of money. I actually was supposed to you have surgery,

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<v Speaker 1>yeah bad in August. Right now, I'm supposed to be

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<v Speaker 1>healing from my mommy makeover. But I spent damn there

0:12:07.840 --> 0:12:11.280
<v Speaker 1>ten thousand dollars for this plastic surgery company. Can I

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<v Speaker 1>mentioned that absolutely, I don't go there. So they called

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<v Speaker 1>me two weeks before my surgery and they canceled my

0:12:21.040 --> 0:12:23.439
<v Speaker 1>surgery and they told me I can't get a refund.

0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:27.840
<v Speaker 1>I spent damn there ten thousand dollars, and I kind

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<v Speaker 1>of fault myself. I tried not to fault myself because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just like, if I didn't have this disorder, I

0:12:33.520 --> 0:12:36.079
<v Speaker 1>wouldn't have never been so quick to kick out the

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<v Speaker 1>money and to be paying, you know, paying on this

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<v Speaker 1>because I feel like I have to look a certain way,

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<v Speaker 1>and I have my friends they tell me all the time,

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<v Speaker 1>We're like, you know, are you really going to be

0:12:46.559 --> 0:12:51.360
<v Speaker 1>happy if its done, and I'm just like probably not because,

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<v Speaker 1>like I said, I've been looking at so like my news.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not trying to get my ship cut in half

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<v Speaker 1>like paid LaBelle dead like I just wanted diamn you

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<v Speaker 1>straight put out there. I mean, you know she didn't. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>go with school shitty. We love you though you are

0:13:07.280 --> 0:13:11.360
<v Speaker 1>the queen and ship you you ain't like it. You

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<v Speaker 1>got to fexts what it is like you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sitting there talking about getting my ship lifted with strings

0:13:17.480 --> 0:13:19.600
<v Speaker 1>like what you say? Yeah, I ain't get my ship

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<v Speaker 1>cutting half like Patty, but um yeah, so so for

0:13:22.720 --> 0:13:24.960
<v Speaker 1>everybody out there who didn't know, yeah, Patty, ship is

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<v Speaker 1>cutting half. So that's something you can say to it

0:13:27.920 --> 0:13:29.040
<v Speaker 1>in the meet and Greek, I ain't know that you

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<v Speaker 1>had ship cutting half. She'ld be like what but go ahead,

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<v Speaker 1>yeah a little advers So I don't think that that

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<v Speaker 1>I'll be happy. I really don't know, because I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like no matter how I look at myself in the mirror,

0:13:45.120 --> 0:13:47.760
<v Speaker 1>I'm always going to find something wrong. Like I don't

0:13:47.800 --> 0:13:50.480
<v Speaker 1>like the peak. I have a peak. I have a

0:13:50.480 --> 0:13:53.360
<v Speaker 1>peak too, but it's just like it's it's little things

0:13:53.559 --> 0:13:56.040
<v Speaker 1>and it's just like you're about to get peak surgery.

0:13:56.240 --> 0:14:00.040
<v Speaker 1>I don't know hairline food with surgery to bring the

0:14:00.120 --> 0:14:01.800
<v Speaker 1>rest of it up because the pick will make you

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<v Speaker 1>look bald. Here this fun, yeah, the peak. You know,

0:14:05.120 --> 0:14:07.880
<v Speaker 1>like I cut my peek off before and that should

0:14:07.880 --> 0:14:11.920
<v Speaker 1>look dumb as fun when you dumbs a bit, the

0:14:12.040 --> 0:14:15.719
<v Speaker 1>ponytails look crazy, didn't they when I was looking dum

0:14:16.000 --> 0:14:19.520
<v Speaker 1>But you know it's it's really it's really saying. I

0:14:19.560 --> 0:14:23.920
<v Speaker 1>feel like these plastic surgery companies harp on people like myself,

0:14:24.960 --> 0:14:31.560
<v Speaker 1>seeing the desperation and just knowing like, oh, you know,

0:14:31.640 --> 0:14:34.160
<v Speaker 1>we could we could possibly get over when this person

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<v Speaker 1>and I know I'm not the only one that they've got,

0:14:37.600 --> 0:14:40.040
<v Speaker 1>did they have explained to you? Why they didn't? What

0:14:40.080 --> 0:14:42.840
<v Speaker 1>did they say? So? Um, they called and they said

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<v Speaker 1>that I have history of c v A. C v

0:14:47.120 --> 0:14:51.760
<v Speaker 1>A can also be noticed as a stroke, but they're

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<v Speaker 1>two different things. C v A stands for cerebral vascular accident,

0:14:58.080 --> 0:15:00.720
<v Speaker 1>but stroke is stroke and cv it's c v A.

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<v Speaker 1>But if they're related, they go handing in. I mean, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like if if they're going to put something,

0:15:06.800 --> 0:15:10.240
<v Speaker 1>they need to put stroke slash c v A, just

0:15:10.280 --> 0:15:12.600
<v Speaker 1>like lupus and cancer, you know what I'm saying. They

0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:15.760
<v Speaker 1>have their own you know, they're like their own separate

0:15:15.840 --> 0:15:18.960
<v Speaker 1>entities of diseases, but they are still hand in hand,

0:15:19.000 --> 0:15:20.520
<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean. So like I feel like,

0:15:20.560 --> 0:15:22.440
<v Speaker 1>you know, lupus is a type of cancer, although you

0:15:22.440 --> 0:15:26.200
<v Speaker 1>know it's still identified as just lupus, but you had

0:15:26.240 --> 0:15:28.520
<v Speaker 1>a stroke. If you love me, you'll listen to this

0:15:28.600 --> 0:15:34.360
<v Speaker 1>commercial and then we'll be right back. So in the

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<v Speaker 1>beginning they noticed it as a stroke. After I went

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<v Speaker 1>to UM, the neurologists and they did testing stuff like that,

0:15:42.680 --> 0:15:45.440
<v Speaker 1>and they said, okay, we can't per se classify this

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<v Speaker 1>as a stroke, so we're going to classify it as

0:15:47.920 --> 0:15:50.240
<v Speaker 1>c v A. So they changed it from stroke to

0:15:50.680 --> 0:15:54.640
<v Speaker 1>c v A v A. So all my all my paperwork,

0:15:54.720 --> 0:15:58.320
<v Speaker 1>it doesn't say stroke, it says c v A. So

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<v Speaker 1>what what me? Aesthetics told me? They said, oh, you know,

0:16:01.400 --> 0:16:05.120
<v Speaker 1>you can get the surgery, but you just can't get

0:16:05.120 --> 0:16:08.120
<v Speaker 1>it done here because we're clinic based. Our doctors don't

0:16:08.160 --> 0:16:12.760
<v Speaker 1>feel comfortable performing it on you. So I'm just like, okay,

0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:16.040
<v Speaker 1>so now I ain't gonna lie. My anxiety has been high,

0:16:16.200 --> 0:16:17.680
<v Speaker 1>it's been bothering the hell out of me because it's

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<v Speaker 1>just like, I want my money, and it's just like

0:16:21.400 --> 0:16:23.440
<v Speaker 1>and you're supposed to get your money back, and it's

0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:26.040
<v Speaker 1>just like I want my money, so goals, so I

0:16:26.160 --> 0:16:29.160
<v Speaker 1>get the ship fixed that I don't like about myself.

0:16:29.640 --> 0:16:32.280
<v Speaker 1>So it's not even just I just want my money

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<v Speaker 1>back and I'm gonna sit on it. No, I'm definitely

0:16:34.760 --> 0:16:38.880
<v Speaker 1>going to go somewhere else because you had from the jump,

0:16:38.920 --> 0:16:41.320
<v Speaker 1>like that's when you even gave them your money. That's

0:16:41.360 --> 0:16:45.000
<v Speaker 1>why you gave them me money. I do understand. So basically, bitch,

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<v Speaker 1>you got the c V A ship. That's why they

0:16:47.160 --> 0:16:49.040
<v Speaker 1>didn't want to perform it. Yeah, so what they did

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<v Speaker 1>wrong was not giving your money back because you are

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<v Speaker 1>entitled to a refund because they canceled you. Okay, so

0:16:55.600 --> 0:16:58.360
<v Speaker 1>yeah me esthetics, Yeah, yeah, you're gonna have some big

0:16:58.400 --> 0:17:03.360
<v Speaker 1>lawsuits on your motherfucking hands because carefully reckless reaches all.

0:17:03.400 --> 0:17:06.200
<v Speaker 1>It reaches a lot of people. Yes, And I don't

0:17:06.359 --> 0:17:08.600
<v Speaker 1>you know, I got lawyers listening to my ship. I

0:17:08.680 --> 0:17:11.080
<v Speaker 1>got a lot of people listening to my ship. Y'all

0:17:11.080 --> 0:17:13.679
<v Speaker 1>be getting my sister bad hut ten thousand. But do

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<v Speaker 1>you feel that you will go somewhere else and you

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<v Speaker 1>will have the same fucking problem. Not non refund I'm

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<v Speaker 1>talking about where they can't do it because my doctor

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<v Speaker 1>medically cleared me to have the because your c v

0:17:29.680 --> 0:17:31.800
<v Speaker 1>A a k A you know stroke what they told

0:17:31.800 --> 0:17:39.200
<v Speaker 1>you was a stroke before was back in so my doctor.

0:17:39.240 --> 0:17:41.320
<v Speaker 1>So I even said to me, and I'm just like, hey,

0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:43.160
<v Speaker 1>my doctor cleared me. And they're just like, we see

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<v Speaker 1>that the doctor cleared you because I had I had

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<v Speaker 1>to um, I had to get the medical clearance forms

0:17:48.280 --> 0:17:52.920
<v Speaker 1>filled out by doctor. So my doctor said it's okay

0:17:52.960 --> 0:17:55.640
<v Speaker 1>for you to do this. I haven't had any any

0:17:55.680 --> 0:18:00.439
<v Speaker 1>issues since but to a plastic surgey. And you know

0:18:00.440 --> 0:18:02.920
<v Speaker 1>who's not all about the money, but in this case,

0:18:02.960 --> 0:18:06.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't know because the money, Yeah, but they would

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<v Speaker 1>have still just did this. Ship you feel me like,

0:18:08.119 --> 0:18:10.359
<v Speaker 1>I guess they're more about your They're about your health

0:18:10.400 --> 0:18:14.720
<v Speaker 1>and their money as well. Not about the health. They

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<v Speaker 1>just about not wanting a death on their behad. So

0:18:19.040 --> 0:18:21.359
<v Speaker 1>it's not it's not even about me. It's just they

0:18:21.400 --> 0:18:27.400
<v Speaker 1>don't want their name, their reputation. Yeah, well people dying anyway, Yeah, Well,

0:18:27.520 --> 0:18:29.080
<v Speaker 1>why then are you gonna go down there miss c

0:18:29.200 --> 0:18:33.399
<v Speaker 1>v A, because I'm not happy with my I was depressed.

0:18:33.760 --> 0:18:37.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm deppressed, and then that right there goes for the body,

0:18:37.920 --> 0:18:41.639
<v Speaker 1>this mophea. It's a disorder in my mind. I'm sitting

0:18:41.640 --> 0:18:44.159
<v Speaker 1>there like, oh, I don't care. I could possibly die

0:18:44.200 --> 0:18:46.080
<v Speaker 1>on this table, but I don't care. What if I

0:18:46.119 --> 0:18:48.320
<v Speaker 1>don't die, I can have the body that I want,

0:18:48.800 --> 0:18:51.520
<v Speaker 1>my dreams or what I want. Ye, you're right, that's

0:18:51.520 --> 0:18:53.840
<v Speaker 1>the disorder, because it's really a disorder just knowing that

0:18:53.880 --> 0:18:56.359
<v Speaker 1>I could possibly die and don't even give a funk.

0:18:57.040 --> 0:19:00.720
<v Speaker 1>It's really a mental illness, right. So it's like I'm

0:19:00.760 --> 0:19:03.359
<v Speaker 1>putting my life on the line for something that I

0:19:03.400 --> 0:19:07.840
<v Speaker 1>could be sitting there winning my casket right like oh yeah, yeah,

0:19:07.920 --> 0:19:10.240
<v Speaker 1>she was snatched up in that casket, right, and you're

0:19:10.280 --> 0:19:13.240
<v Speaker 1>not even here right. No, I'm gonna be on the

0:19:13.320 --> 0:19:16.440
<v Speaker 1>top like, yeah girl, you look good, caast, get show it,

0:19:16.960 --> 0:19:18.680
<v Speaker 1>and you're gonna be having all angels, gonna be walking

0:19:18.680 --> 0:19:20.680
<v Speaker 1>bare and be like you did that because you're never

0:19:20.760 --> 0:19:22.520
<v Speaker 1>going You're going. You're not gonna go up there with

0:19:22.520 --> 0:19:25.760
<v Speaker 1>that body gog going, You're gonna be up and having

0:19:30.760 --> 0:19:34.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm fucking done, bitch, Moving on all right, so listen,

0:19:35.320 --> 0:19:37.320
<v Speaker 1>I feel like there are a lot of people that

0:19:37.400 --> 0:19:39.280
<v Speaker 1>you can look at in the media, famous people that

0:19:39.320 --> 0:19:42.840
<v Speaker 1>we see every day that has body dys morphia disorder,

0:19:42.880 --> 0:19:47.159
<v Speaker 1>like Little Kim. Nobody can possibly possibly think that she

0:19:47.240 --> 0:19:48.959
<v Speaker 1>wanted to look like that, that she wanted to go

0:19:49.000 --> 0:19:51.679
<v Speaker 1>through all those changes and look like that Black China.

0:19:51.880 --> 0:19:55.760
<v Speaker 1>Nobody can actually really sit here and say, not even her,

0:19:55.920 --> 0:19:59.199
<v Speaker 1>you know, but that she is okay with looking the

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<v Speaker 1>way that she was look and she's looking better and

0:20:00.960 --> 0:20:03.320
<v Speaker 1>better now, but all the ship that she had to

0:20:03.359 --> 0:20:06.800
<v Speaker 1>go through, like Chloe car Dashing, nobody is gonna sit

0:20:06.840 --> 0:20:09.480
<v Speaker 1>here and tell me that this girl looks in the

0:20:09.560 --> 0:20:13.280
<v Speaker 1>mirror without makeup and be like, this is my goal,

0:20:13.359 --> 0:20:15.000
<v Speaker 1>this is what I wanted to look like. This is

0:20:15.200 --> 0:20:18.720
<v Speaker 1>what I want to know. It's a disorder. You'll find

0:20:18.840 --> 0:20:22.200
<v Speaker 1>something wrong with yourself just because, like like you just said,

0:20:22.320 --> 0:20:24.280
<v Speaker 1>I never even heard you complain about your lips. Now

0:20:24.280 --> 0:20:26.000
<v Speaker 1>you feel like your lips ain't right, that the bags

0:20:26.040 --> 0:20:28.800
<v Speaker 1>under your eyes, Like now you know all your peak, bitch,

0:20:28.880 --> 0:20:31.359
<v Speaker 1>all the ship that you grew up with, and you

0:20:31.400 --> 0:20:33.760
<v Speaker 1>were just as beautiful as can be. Like you know

0:20:33.840 --> 0:20:36.680
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying it's like, but you've developed this disorder

0:20:36.720 --> 0:20:39.640
<v Speaker 1>in the last two years, I don't even think it's

0:20:39.640 --> 0:20:42.879
<v Speaker 1>a disorder, and we can go get diagnosed together, and

0:20:42.920 --> 0:20:46.400
<v Speaker 1>I think it's a condition because of what we're seeing,

0:20:46.640 --> 0:20:50.000
<v Speaker 1>you know. So I'm a touch on something else. Like

0:20:50.040 --> 0:20:53.000
<v Speaker 1>I feel like my entire life since I you know,

0:20:53.119 --> 0:20:55.440
<v Speaker 1>since I've started to sprout with just having a body

0:20:55.440 --> 0:20:58.679
<v Speaker 1>and anything, since being a teenager, I feel like I

0:20:58.720 --> 0:21:02.119
<v Speaker 1>have always been looked at it for my body. I

0:21:02.160 --> 0:21:05.480
<v Speaker 1>felt like guys have only come at me and just

0:21:05.680 --> 0:21:10.040
<v Speaker 1>talked to me and just looked at me for my body, small, waists, big,

0:21:10.480 --> 0:21:14.320
<v Speaker 1>just like I feel like that was my way of

0:21:14.560 --> 0:21:17.480
<v Speaker 1>gaining or getting anybody's attention. And then I look at

0:21:17.520 --> 0:21:20.880
<v Speaker 1>myself and I'm like, damn, it's falling apart. But that's

0:21:20.920 --> 0:21:23.800
<v Speaker 1>what happens when you get older and you have children.

0:21:24.240 --> 0:21:27.000
<v Speaker 1>But it's just like I feel like, damn, like I

0:21:27.119 --> 0:21:31.480
<v Speaker 1>need to get that old thing back because maybe that's

0:21:31.520 --> 0:21:34.680
<v Speaker 1>why I don't have anybody, or that's why I'm single,

0:21:34.880 --> 0:21:37.520
<v Speaker 1>or I felt like, you know, you know, people are

0:21:37.520 --> 0:21:40.479
<v Speaker 1>looking at me like she is you know, she you know,

0:21:40.520 --> 0:21:43.120
<v Speaker 1>she got a poopa or you know, like I feel

0:21:43.160 --> 0:21:44.960
<v Speaker 1>like like I got high Waist James on today and

0:21:44.960 --> 0:21:46.360
<v Speaker 1>it's just like this ship is sitting in my leg

0:21:46.480 --> 0:21:51.800
<v Speaker 1>like looking at you, not the foo is looking at me. Yo,

0:21:52.560 --> 0:21:57.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm fucking done with you. I've become a Fannie Peck junkie. Yeah,

0:21:57.520 --> 0:22:01.400
<v Speaker 1>just just just to hide that. And it's just like

0:22:01.880 --> 0:22:05.480
<v Speaker 1>I'm not I am not going to be happy with

0:22:05.520 --> 0:22:08.600
<v Speaker 1>myself until I get it cut off. And then, like

0:22:08.640 --> 0:22:10.600
<v Speaker 1>I said, I don't know how far I'm going to go.

0:22:10.720 --> 0:22:12.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to When I look at the Claremont

0:22:12.920 --> 0:22:15.440
<v Speaker 1>Twins when I look at little Kim, I don't want

0:22:15.440 --> 0:22:18.000
<v Speaker 1>to look like them. But it's just like you still

0:22:18.119 --> 0:22:20.440
<v Speaker 1>want to fix things. Yeah, I want to fix things,

0:22:20.480 --> 0:22:24.120
<v Speaker 1>but I don't know how far I will go. Yeah.

0:22:24.160 --> 0:22:26.200
<v Speaker 1>Like one of my home girls just like you know,

0:22:26.680 --> 0:22:27.800
<v Speaker 1>she said to me, she was like, you give me

0:22:27.800 --> 0:22:29.560
<v Speaker 1>a little Kim vibes like I don't like it. She's like,

0:22:29.880 --> 0:22:32.880
<v Speaker 1>are you gonna be happy with yourself after you actually

0:22:33.080 --> 0:22:37.080
<v Speaker 1>get this procedure done. I'm just like, I'm like, I

0:22:37.080 --> 0:22:39.199
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I really don't know. I was just like

0:22:39.320 --> 0:22:41.679
<v Speaker 1>I want to be happy, but am I really going

0:22:41.720 --> 0:22:44.480
<v Speaker 1>to be happy? And and I feel like I feel

0:22:44.520 --> 0:22:46.280
<v Speaker 1>like I'm I feel like I'm not okay. So I

0:22:46.359 --> 0:22:48.240
<v Speaker 1>feel like God works in mysterious ways, and I feel

0:22:48.240 --> 0:22:50.120
<v Speaker 1>like that's why you haven't gotten your money back yet.

0:22:50.240 --> 0:22:53.200
<v Speaker 1>And honestly, I don't feel like you're not gonna ever

0:22:53.240 --> 0:22:55.040
<v Speaker 1>get it back. I definitely feel like it's not going

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<v Speaker 1>to come back unless I se no. But yeah, and

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<v Speaker 1>and it's fine whether you still or not. I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like you're gonna get it back. It's just that right

0:23:02.840 --> 0:23:05.479
<v Speaker 1>now you're not in the head space to do that.

0:23:05.520 --> 0:23:07.840
<v Speaker 1>I feel like you needed to get over some things

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<v Speaker 1>before you get it back and just go give it

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<v Speaker 1>to another doctor for them to tell you the same thing,

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<v Speaker 1>or for them to do it. And then you get

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<v Speaker 1>up and you not even like the ship that they did.

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<v Speaker 1>I know this, but explain to the listeners why you

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<v Speaker 1>won't get in the gym. Why can't you just lose

0:23:20.480 --> 0:23:23.400
<v Speaker 1>your stomach, because that's all you fucking has a stomach.

0:23:23.560 --> 0:23:26.040
<v Speaker 1>So and then and people people on the outside looking

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<v Speaker 1>at and people see me on social media and they're like,

0:23:28.560 --> 0:23:30.040
<v Speaker 1>you don't need it, you don't need it. You know,

0:23:30.080 --> 0:23:32.439
<v Speaker 1>you're being lazy, you trying to take the easier There

0:23:32.440 --> 0:23:35.040
<v Speaker 1>are a waste trainers gems like, yeah, what what is

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<v Speaker 1>your response to that? So with that, I tell people

0:23:38.160 --> 0:23:41.080
<v Speaker 1>all the time, you don't see what's under my clothes.

0:23:41.760 --> 0:23:45.959
<v Speaker 1>What's under my clothes is loose skin. My elasticity is

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<v Speaker 1>one gone. It's at least like seven pounds of skin

0:23:50.440 --> 0:23:54.600
<v Speaker 1>that I literally tuck inside of my clothes. I wear

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of leggings and stuff like that with the

0:23:56.680 --> 0:23:59.600
<v Speaker 1>control top or the band that makes um that basically

0:23:59.680 --> 0:24:02.080
<v Speaker 1>smooth use it out and makes it you know it.

0:24:02.080 --> 0:24:06.400
<v Speaker 1>It gives off a flatter appearance or more flattering appearance,

0:24:06.760 --> 0:24:08.360
<v Speaker 1>you know, where people look at me and like, oh,

0:24:08.440 --> 0:24:10.320
<v Speaker 1>you know, what are you getting there for? You're like, look,

0:24:10.680 --> 0:24:12.639
<v Speaker 1>you don't know what's on the head until I show somebody.

0:24:13.000 --> 0:24:15.040
<v Speaker 1>And then when I show people, they're like, oh my gosh,

0:24:15.080 --> 0:24:16.760
<v Speaker 1>I didn't know that was onto that. Yeah, because it's

0:24:16.800 --> 0:24:19.320
<v Speaker 1>not for you to know that it's right. But I

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<v Speaker 1>just want to wear two piece. I want to wear

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<v Speaker 1>a bikini and I want I don't want my skin

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<v Speaker 1>hanging over. I don't want to have to talk my

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<v Speaker 1>skin inside of a bikini. I just want to wear

0:24:29.160 --> 0:24:32.919
<v Speaker 1>two piece. That's that's my ultimate goal. I literally I purchased.

0:24:32.920 --> 0:24:34.880
<v Speaker 1>I don't know if you, um, if you ever heard

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<v Speaker 1>of someone say, you know, they buy something knowing that

0:24:37.280 --> 0:24:39.159
<v Speaker 1>they can't fit it, and they will say, like this

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<v Speaker 1>is my goal outfit or something like that. Yeah, to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to fit this. I literally I bought a bikini.

0:24:44.600 --> 0:24:47.479
<v Speaker 1>It's a Baltimore Ravens bikini. I'm a Ravens fan. Of

0:24:47.520 --> 0:24:50.560
<v Speaker 1>course you're hater. And I bought this bikini two years

0:24:50.560 --> 0:24:54.040
<v Speaker 1>ago because I said, I'm gonna I'm gonna get in

0:24:54.080 --> 0:24:57.040
<v Speaker 1>this one day. I'm gonna get in this. I actually

0:24:57.080 --> 0:24:59.240
<v Speaker 1>can fit it. But then it's just the skin is

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<v Speaker 1>in the way. It's in the way, and I have

0:25:01.680 --> 0:25:03.560
<v Speaker 1>it and it's still my gold bikini. This is what

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<v Speaker 1>I want to I just wanna I just want to

0:25:06.000 --> 0:25:09.520
<v Speaker 1>look right in it. I don't like how my arms hang. Um,

0:25:09.560 --> 0:25:11.240
<v Speaker 1>I can easily go in the gym. I can work

0:25:11.280 --> 0:25:14.360
<v Speaker 1>that out, you know. I've had trainers tell me these

0:25:14.840 --> 0:25:17.640
<v Speaker 1>different exercises that I can do to work that out.

0:25:17.680 --> 0:25:19.639
<v Speaker 1>But then at the end of it all, I'm just

0:25:19.680 --> 0:25:22.280
<v Speaker 1>like CARDI do I really want to work it out.

0:25:22.600 --> 0:25:24.239
<v Speaker 1>I need to be was ain't gonna money to be

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<v Speaker 1>getting my chick cut off. But people have surgeries where

0:25:28.320 --> 0:25:31.400
<v Speaker 1>they actually get the bottom of their arm, the hanky part,

0:25:31.520 --> 0:25:35.600
<v Speaker 1>they get it cut off. They literally have cosmetic procedures

0:25:35.840 --> 0:25:39.160
<v Speaker 1>for any and everything, and I feel like I kind

0:25:39.160 --> 0:25:40.680
<v Speaker 1>of feel like it's sucked up in a way because

0:25:40.800 --> 0:25:44.280
<v Speaker 1>like these surgeons are really like taking people's money, just

0:25:44.560 --> 0:25:49.280
<v Speaker 1>capitalizing off of your insecurities, yep, off of people probably

0:25:49.320 --> 0:25:53.560
<v Speaker 1>having the same thing this b D D. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm all for getting your money, Like, go ahead and

0:25:55.600 --> 0:25:57.159
<v Speaker 1>get your money, do your thing, but it's just like

0:25:57.200 --> 0:26:00.440
<v Speaker 1>at the same time, like damn, like these the funders

0:26:00.440 --> 0:26:03.359
<v Speaker 1>are really out here getting rich off of people hating

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<v Speaker 1>themselves and hating the way that they look when they

0:26:06.119 --> 0:26:08.520
<v Speaker 1>look in the mirror. I don't I don't like myself

0:26:08.520 --> 0:26:10.639
<v Speaker 1>when I look at the mirror. I literally can be

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<v Speaker 1>going to the market and I will change clothes about

0:26:14.640 --> 0:26:16.359
<v Speaker 1>three times just to go to the day market. And

0:26:16.359 --> 0:26:18.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm literally just going to the market because I don't

0:26:18.960 --> 0:26:21.960
<v Speaker 1>like how my body looks in something. And to me,

0:26:22.080 --> 0:26:24.679
<v Speaker 1>that goes to when they say just because they make

0:26:24.680 --> 0:26:29.119
<v Speaker 1>any your size doesn't mean that you need to Because

0:26:29.440 --> 0:26:32.760
<v Speaker 1>I see ship on people and I'm like, why the

0:26:32.920 --> 0:26:36.280
<v Speaker 1>fuck would that? Do you have that one? And then

0:26:36.800 --> 0:26:38.440
<v Speaker 1>I look at myself, and I'm just like, damn, I

0:26:38.480 --> 0:26:40.680
<v Speaker 1>wonder if anybody else is looking at me, like, why

0:26:40.680 --> 0:26:44.920
<v Speaker 1>the funk was she wear it? But an actuality? I

0:26:44.960 --> 0:26:47.720
<v Speaker 1>don't even be looking bad, but in my mind, in

0:26:47.800 --> 0:26:50.639
<v Speaker 1>my mind, I'm just like, this has to change. I

0:26:51.000 --> 0:26:53.679
<v Speaker 1>can't look like this. I can't live like this. The

0:26:53.680 --> 0:26:55.960
<v Speaker 1>body dysmorphia disorders so bad with me. I literally have

0:26:56.119 --> 0:27:00.000
<v Speaker 1>dreams about plastic surgery sometimes. And you know the craziest

0:27:00.080 --> 0:27:03.560
<v Speaker 1>thing about that. People will look at my sister and

0:27:03.640 --> 0:27:06.640
<v Speaker 1>be like, that's the body I want. Somebody will show

0:27:06.720 --> 0:27:09.240
<v Speaker 1>your picture to a doctor and be like, that's the

0:27:09.240 --> 0:27:11.199
<v Speaker 1>body I want. I'm telling you because you still have

0:27:11.280 --> 0:27:14.040
<v Speaker 1>these small ways and you still have your hips, your

0:27:14.040 --> 0:27:18.199
<v Speaker 1>ass like people have asked her for years, did she

0:27:18.240 --> 0:27:21.199
<v Speaker 1>get her ass done? And like just certain ship like

0:27:21.280 --> 0:27:23.960
<v Speaker 1>people ask you, you know what I'm saying, And you've

0:27:24.000 --> 0:27:27.240
<v Speaker 1>never had one look of surgery like ever, and people ask,

0:27:27.600 --> 0:27:30.080
<v Speaker 1>but that is the body that people are trying to

0:27:30.920 --> 0:27:33.520
<v Speaker 1>that the bitches pay for that, Like you got thick thighs,

0:27:33.560 --> 0:27:37.320
<v Speaker 1>thick legs all I want. It's thick legs, Like that's

0:27:37.359 --> 0:27:39.840
<v Speaker 1>all I want. And then you have people with thick

0:27:39.920 --> 0:27:41.960
<v Speaker 1>legs that all they want is this. So it's like

0:27:42.040 --> 0:27:43.920
<v Speaker 1>what you see is not what everybody else see. But

0:27:43.960 --> 0:27:46.679
<v Speaker 1>it don't matter what everybody see. It matters about how

0:27:46.680 --> 0:27:49.679
<v Speaker 1>you feel about yourself. I just really really want you

0:27:49.720 --> 0:27:51.640
<v Speaker 1>to get some help with that. I did not know

0:27:51.760 --> 0:27:54.119
<v Speaker 1>that you had b d D. I didn't even know

0:27:54.320 --> 0:27:56.640
<v Speaker 1>that it was a disorder. You know, I learned something

0:27:56.680 --> 0:28:01.120
<v Speaker 1>new every day psychiatrist talk to me about it. It's

0:28:01.160 --> 0:28:03.840
<v Speaker 1>not a cure for it, medication, it's just it's not

0:28:03.960 --> 0:28:08.600
<v Speaker 1>It's just it's surgery. Yeah, it's I mean, but like

0:28:08.600 --> 0:28:12.920
<v Speaker 1>like we touched on before, bill surgery. Actually, what I'm saying,

0:28:12.960 --> 0:28:18.560
<v Speaker 1>excessive surgery is like cure excessive. It's not like never

0:28:18.840 --> 0:28:21.359
<v Speaker 1>I mean, never gonna be happy, but that is what

0:28:21.440 --> 0:28:23.760
<v Speaker 1>y'all feel like y'all have to do. So that would be,

0:28:24.320 --> 0:28:27.280
<v Speaker 1>in hindsight, the cure, you know what I'm saying. But

0:28:27.359 --> 0:28:30.560
<v Speaker 1>you'll just be crying yourself forever in your mind, that's

0:28:30.600 --> 0:28:32.800
<v Speaker 1>just what that is, and be sitting there looking crazy

0:28:33.200 --> 0:28:35.840
<v Speaker 1>at the end of it all exactly even with you

0:28:35.920 --> 0:28:40.200
<v Speaker 1>knowing that, you still I feel like you need it.

0:28:40.320 --> 0:28:42.480
<v Speaker 1>I still feel like I needed like just knowing even

0:28:42.520 --> 0:28:45.560
<v Speaker 1>just looking at these celebrities looking at the Claremont Twins

0:28:45.560 --> 0:28:47.520
<v Speaker 1>looking at a little cam I still I'm looking at

0:28:47.560 --> 0:28:50.800
<v Speaker 1>them like, oh they look crazy ship, Like oh man,

0:28:50.840 --> 0:28:53.520
<v Speaker 1>they were really beautiful. And then I'm just like, damn,

0:28:53.840 --> 0:28:58.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm in the same boat. It's like I had the

0:28:58.920 --> 0:29:02.280
<v Speaker 1>same mentality. I'm just like in my mind like, damn,

0:29:02.280 --> 0:29:04.640
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to I don't want to look like them,

0:29:04.680 --> 0:29:08.240
<v Speaker 1>but I just wanna be a better me. And to

0:29:08.640 --> 0:29:12.240
<v Speaker 1>other people, it's nothing wrong with me. But to you,

0:29:12.440 --> 0:29:15.040
<v Speaker 1>it don't matter. Yeah, it don't matter what nobody else thinks,

0:29:15.040 --> 0:29:16.560
<v Speaker 1>because that's all you're gonna see at the end of

0:29:16.600 --> 0:29:18.720
<v Speaker 1>the day, when you look throughout the day, at the

0:29:18.760 --> 0:29:21.080
<v Speaker 1>top of the day, whatever, when you look in the mirror.

0:29:21.480 --> 0:29:24.920
<v Speaker 1>Another thing before we go, I want to say, it

0:29:25.120 --> 0:29:27.240
<v Speaker 1>is a disorder, and I know that it is real

0:29:27.440 --> 0:29:31.000
<v Speaker 1>because these girls and these guys we're not guys are

0:29:31.000 --> 0:29:33.280
<v Speaker 1>not exempt from this ship. Guys are getting surgery too.

0:29:33.640 --> 0:29:35.640
<v Speaker 1>And the thing is they get all the surgery done,

0:29:35.680 --> 0:29:38.400
<v Speaker 1>all the surgery done for an image, right and in

0:29:38.400 --> 0:29:40.760
<v Speaker 1>their mind, you know, because they want to look better

0:29:40.840 --> 0:29:42.400
<v Speaker 1>and look pretty and everything, but they also want to

0:29:42.480 --> 0:29:45.280
<v Speaker 1>keep up with what they see as well. They get

0:29:45.280 --> 0:29:48.680
<v Speaker 1>all this ship done, and then they do that just

0:29:48.760 --> 0:29:51.360
<v Speaker 1>to take pictures and still edit the funk out of

0:29:51.360 --> 0:29:55.880
<v Speaker 1>their pictures. That is a disorder for sure. Perfect makeup,

0:29:55.920 --> 0:29:58.800
<v Speaker 1>perfect body. Now you made up, you're done up, and

0:29:58.880 --> 0:30:01.600
<v Speaker 1>you still edit the ship out of your pictures. You

0:30:01.640 --> 0:30:04.000
<v Speaker 1>see a piece of fat, got a photo shoppy. If

0:30:04.040 --> 0:30:06.080
<v Speaker 1>I knew how to photoshop, I wouldn't have Bunnings in

0:30:06.160 --> 0:30:09.400
<v Speaker 1>no picture. If you teach me, I'll do that. But

0:30:09.480 --> 0:30:13.200
<v Speaker 1>the thing is, you know what I'm saying, like, yoh,

0:30:13.280 --> 0:30:16.280
<v Speaker 1>my god, yo, buddy is in the coins that got

0:30:16.320 --> 0:30:18.360
<v Speaker 1>to go. But I ain't laying down to get surgery.

0:30:18.360 --> 0:30:19.720
<v Speaker 1>I need to walk. I need to walk in like

0:30:19.760 --> 0:30:22.360
<v Speaker 1>im talking. And look on that note, I'm gonna go

0:30:22.400 --> 0:30:25.320
<v Speaker 1>get my sisters some help as much as I can.

0:30:25.400 --> 0:30:27.040
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna try to get out my fucking ten thousand

0:30:27.080 --> 0:30:29.200
<v Speaker 1>dollars back because me excidics, We're coming for you, bitch.

0:30:29.560 --> 0:30:31.760
<v Speaker 1>And like I don't like that, I don't like that ship.

0:30:31.800 --> 0:30:33.240
<v Speaker 1>Of course, I would rather them take her money to

0:30:33.600 --> 0:30:36.240
<v Speaker 1>do I surgery and she fucking die. But I would

0:30:36.360 --> 0:30:39.520
<v Speaker 1>rather also see her get her hard earned sucking money back, honestly,

0:30:39.760 --> 0:30:43.320
<v Speaker 1>And I love you, I love you, and it's crazy.

0:30:43.360 --> 0:30:46.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm like a little saddened by the fact that I

0:30:46.080 --> 0:30:49.240
<v Speaker 1>know that you have that ship now or whatever. But listen,

0:30:49.280 --> 0:30:52.400
<v Speaker 1>it's good to keep encouraging your family, your friends. Although

0:30:52.600 --> 0:30:54.440
<v Speaker 1>it may go on one and out the other, they

0:30:54.480 --> 0:30:56.680
<v Speaker 1>would appreciate it. You don't know what they were hear

0:30:56.720 --> 0:30:58.760
<v Speaker 1>and what will stick in their minds. So just continue

0:30:58.840 --> 0:31:01.280
<v Speaker 1>to love on those who you feel have these issues.

0:31:01.360 --> 0:31:04.040
<v Speaker 1>Like my sister's friend. She's telling them, I don't like

0:31:04.120 --> 0:31:06.360
<v Speaker 1>I don't like the head is talking ship, I don't

0:31:06.400 --> 0:31:08.880
<v Speaker 1>like the hair that you have this issue and ship

0:31:08.960 --> 0:31:11.080
<v Speaker 1>like that. Keep talking to them like that. You never know.

0:31:11.200 --> 0:31:13.960
<v Speaker 1>One day they may wake up from this fucking bad dream,

0:31:14.320 --> 0:31:16.720
<v Speaker 1>come up out of this disorder or this condition that

0:31:16.840 --> 0:31:19.080
<v Speaker 1>they have, and just like that, we're gonna end up.

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<v Speaker 1>Make sure you tune in next week, so carefully reckless

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<v Speaker 1>and then my deepest Pam voice peace, peace out yall,

0:31:26.560 --> 0:31:45.960
<v Speaker 1>and pray for those who have this disorder. Please Carefully

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