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Speaker 1: Welcome to Carefully Reckless, the production of Our Heart Radio

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Speaker 1: and the Black Effect, And just like that, we're back

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Speaker 1: on the air. Welcome to yet another episode of Carefully

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Speaker 1: Reckless with your girl just hilarious. I got my sister

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Speaker 1: in here again, shape say without yo yo with a

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Speaker 1: holes at again like the holes won't always come to

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Speaker 1: the podcast. Listen, listen, I'm gonna do storytime today, although

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Speaker 1: my sister is here because this is a topic that

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Speaker 1: will forever be debatable and discussed amongst us. So grab

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Speaker 1: your tea, your halls, your hot tidy, your handy, whatever

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Speaker 1: you want, because it's story time. Back in two thousand

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Speaker 1: and fifteen, there were two girls, their sisters Claremont twins.

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Speaker 1: Y'all know the mask, Shannon and Shied. They start on

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Speaker 1: the reality series b g C Bad Girls Club right

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Speaker 1: as y'all can see. They look nothing like they used

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Speaker 1: to look. Now. They were beautiful girls to me, I swear,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I you know, they were beautiful, brown skinned girls.

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Speaker 1: And I always make fun of them, you know, with

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Speaker 1: just with the mess and all of that ship, I mean,

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Speaker 1: because you know who wouldn't. But I'm just saying they

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Speaker 1: did not look the same. They had excellent bone structure.

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Speaker 1: They nice bodies, you know, but something happened to those

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Speaker 1: girls where they just felt like they weren't beautiful had

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Speaker 1: to be because they look completely different. I'm talking about

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Speaker 1: in two thousand and fifteen on Bad Girls Club. If

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Speaker 1: that was the last time y'all ever saw them, and

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Speaker 1: they walked down the street today, you would not know

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Speaker 1: that that is Shannon and Chanelle Claremont. And that brings

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Speaker 1: me to the topic of today, body dysmorphia disorder. And

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Speaker 1: I never knew that there was a name for this.

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Speaker 1: My sister just brought this to my attention today. Actually,

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Speaker 1: you know that this is an actual disorder that people have,

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Speaker 1: because I've always said, in my mind, not everybody who

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Speaker 1: gets addicted to plastic surgery is doing it because they

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Speaker 1: want to. They're doing it because they feel like they

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Speaker 1: have to. They're doing it because there is something that

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Speaker 1: they see that they don't like every time they look

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Speaker 1: in the mirror. You know. That's why I wanted to

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Speaker 1: cater to it, the disorder by doing an episode on it.

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Speaker 1: And um my sister actually told me that she actually

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Speaker 1: suffers with body dysmorphia disorder. I did not know that, Yes,

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Speaker 1: So for those who don't know what body dysmorphia disorder is,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to read this off of Google. It is

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Speaker 1: a mental illness involving obsessive focus on a perceived flaw

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Speaker 1: in appearance. That flaw can just be looking in the

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Speaker 1: mirror and not seeing something that you like. So with

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Speaker 1: me looking in the mirror, of course, you already know that.

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Speaker 1: You know, I lost weight, and even before I gained

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Speaker 1: a whole lot of weight after having three children, I

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Speaker 1: looked at myself and looked at my stomach and just like,

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Speaker 1: oh my gosh, this is not what I'm used to

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Speaker 1: Because I had three kids back to back to back,

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Speaker 1: didn't give my body any rest. So that last tessity

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Speaker 1: is gone, and that is normal for most mothers if

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Speaker 1: they didn't snap back the way some people did, Like

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Speaker 1: you know, you snap bag. You know you look good still.

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Speaker 1: But you know a lot of mothers go straight to surgery.

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Speaker 1: Now nowadays, you know, they go straight to surgery. Like

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Speaker 1: Cardi was even saying she didn't go and have light hope,

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Speaker 1: but she was actually saying it right before she had

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Speaker 1: this baby, that she's laying on that table as soon

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Speaker 1: to work. A lot of people just don't do it

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Speaker 1: the natural way anymore. They feel like, you know, there

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Speaker 1: has to has to be a surgery right after you

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Speaker 1: give birth so you can look good quicker, you know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, honestly, it might be too son for her,

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Speaker 1: That's what she was saying. It's too saon. But I

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Speaker 1: know women who have done that went got right off

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Speaker 1: they want to do that, then that's up to them.

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Speaker 1: Honestly me, I don't think that may be safe because

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Speaker 1: you know, you just lost blood from having a child

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Speaker 1: and all that stuff like that. If you are uncomfortable

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Speaker 1: then that's what it drives you to do, you know

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Speaker 1: I had my boobs done, and there are still things

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Speaker 1: that I still feel like, No, I don't have hips.

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Speaker 1: I'm not as wide enough in my hip area as

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Speaker 1: I would want to be. But am I gonna go

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Speaker 1: I now know there are natural ways that you can

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Speaker 1: Ship like that happens a lot. I know your hips.

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Speaker 1: You know why I said, what fucking is not the

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Speaker 1: only way you can spread them, goddamn hip. So don't

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Speaker 1: remember that. People used to say that's like you get

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Speaker 1: hit from the back, that will make your but bigger.

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I've been getting hit from the back for

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Speaker 1: a long time and that did not make my butt

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Speaker 1: bigger at all. Like, seriously, it don't matter how you

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Speaker 1: or then I heard somebody say if you if you

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Speaker 1: do reverse cow girl, that will widen your hips. Well, ship,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Maybe I'm sucking the wrong man because

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you I don't know. Maybe they're talking about

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Speaker 1: a different reverse because I just sex never did anything

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Speaker 1: to enhance my body. But they say sweet potatoes, um

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Speaker 1: eating them sweet potatoes? Yeah, potatoes, rice, sweet potatoes especially

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Speaker 1: that can that go straight to your hips? Yeah? Hiding carbs,

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Speaker 1: which is still not healthy. But I do want my

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Speaker 1: damn hips. You know what I'm saying. Other things I

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Speaker 1: don't like. I don't like my feet. I can't stand it.

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Speaker 1: I got bunyans from dad Yo. But am I gonna

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Speaker 1: get a bunyan surgery? No? Because I need to walk

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Speaker 1: on stage. Monica had one. Monica had bunion surgery. John Sally,

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Speaker 1: Um he's a basketball player. Um, well he retired, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: he had bunyan surgery. He said he was down for

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Speaker 1: like six months. I don't got that kind of time

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Speaker 1: Shut roll into the stage, just desol And then I

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Speaker 1: talking with that motherfucking tongue? Off topic, Let's get back

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Speaker 1: on it, Okay, So what are some other things you

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Speaker 1: don't like about yourself? Because I I really didn't know

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Speaker 1: that you had suffered from this disorder. I really didn't.

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Speaker 1: I know some other celebrities that have. But we're gonna

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Speaker 1: get into that. What don't you like about yourself? I

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Speaker 1: look in the mirror and I see that I have

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Speaker 1: bags under my eyes. I literally go back and I

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Speaker 1: So it's just like the older I get, which I'm

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Speaker 1: I start looking up feelers and stuff like that, and

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Speaker 1: me happy, But will it really make me happy? I

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Speaker 1: don't know. I look in the mirror. I have full

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Speaker 1: I'm just like, oh man, my lips aren't the same size.

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Speaker 1: So it's just like, like, how your lips Your lips

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Speaker 1: And then I look at my lips and I'm like, damn,

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Speaker 1: And it's just like I look at the invasive fillers

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Speaker 1: it to make it swollen. So you're really doing research

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Speaker 1: on different things to perfect your face. And this is

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Speaker 1: the thing. Do you think it has something to do

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Speaker 1: even thinking about this ship until like more recently. Like

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Speaker 1: I would say, what, like how long have you had

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Speaker 1: years at least, um, two years, like going on two years? Okay,

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Speaker 1: So is it what you see? Because that can be

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Speaker 1: It's just like you still be looking at magazines. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you've been like in guy's eyes and and other That's

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Speaker 1: why our bitches hated on you. When you were younger.

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Speaker 1: You had the perfect body, you had full lips, you

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Speaker 1: like nobody was paying attention to the ship that you

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Speaker 1: can consider a flaw right now, back in the day,

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Speaker 1: because everybody had flaws. It's like nobody was really focusing

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Speaker 1: and of course I'm not saying there were no bullying.

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Speaker 1: There was no ugly people back in the day, but

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Speaker 1: people weren't so conscious about being perfect. And I really

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Speaker 1: feel like surgery is so much more affordable today than

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Speaker 1: all that type of ship down payments and all you

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Speaker 1: you can make yourself taller. There is a plastic surgery

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Speaker 1: that they do something to your bones where they extend

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Speaker 1: them where you can have YO. That was on Shade Room.

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Speaker 1: It was on Shade Room. Um, I could not believe

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Speaker 1: it when I first saw that was on site. Shout

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Speaker 1: out the right Ali. I love her unblocked page, but

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Speaker 1: I first seen it on site, I believe. But yes,

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Speaker 1: that you can you can be made taller. So these

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Speaker 1: short niggers really go crazy. I know. Tory lanes where

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Speaker 1: But it's just like I feel like, damn, like I

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Speaker 1: I'm not I am not going to be happy with

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Speaker 1: myself until I get it cut off. And then, like

426
00:22:08,640 --> 00:22:10,600
Speaker 1: I said, I don't know how far I'm going to go.

427
00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:12,880
Speaker 1: I don't want to When I look at the Claremont

428
00:22:12,920 --> 00:22:15,440
Speaker 1: Twins when I look at little Kim, I don't want

429
00:22:15,440 --> 00:22:18,000
Speaker 1: to look like them. But it's just like you still

430
00:22:18,119 --> 00:22:20,440
Speaker 1: want to fix things. Yeah, I want to fix things,

431
00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:24,120
Speaker 1: but I don't know how far I will go. Yeah.

432
00:22:24,160 --> 00:22:26,200
Speaker 1: Like one of my home girls just like you know,

433
00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:27,800
Speaker 1: she said to me, she was like, you give me

434
00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:29,560
Speaker 1: a little Kim vibes like I don't like it. She's like,

435
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:32,880
Speaker 1: are you gonna be happy with yourself after you actually

436
00:22:33,080 --> 00:22:37,080
Speaker 1: get this procedure done. I'm just like, I'm like, I

437
00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:39,199
Speaker 1: don't know. I really don't know. I was just like

438
00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:41,679
Speaker 1: I want to be happy, but am I really going

439
00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:44,480
Speaker 1: to be happy? And and I feel like I feel

440
00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:46,280
Speaker 1: like I'm I feel like I'm not okay. So I

441
00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:48,240
Speaker 1: feel like God works in mysterious ways, and I feel

442
00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:50,120
Speaker 1: like that's why you haven't gotten your money back yet.

443
00:22:50,240 --> 00:22:53,200
Speaker 1: And honestly, I don't feel like you're not gonna ever

444
00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:55,040
Speaker 1: get it back. I definitely feel like it's not going

445
00:22:55,080 --> 00:22:58,640
Speaker 1: to come back unless I se no. But yeah, and

446
00:22:58,640 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 1: and it's fine whether you still or not. I feel

447
00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:02,840
Speaker 1: like you're gonna get it back. It's just that right

448
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:05,479
Speaker 1: now you're not in the head space to do that.

449
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:07,840
Speaker 1: I feel like you needed to get over some things

450
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:09,720
Speaker 1: before you get it back and just go give it

451
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:11,960
Speaker 1: to another doctor for them to tell you the same thing,

452
00:23:12,119 --> 00:23:13,479
Speaker 1: or for them to do it. And then you get

453
00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:15,840
Speaker 1: up and you not even like the ship that they did.

454
00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:18,399
Speaker 1: I know this, but explain to the listeners why you

455
00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:20,480
Speaker 1: won't get in the gym. Why can't you just lose

456
00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:23,400
Speaker 1: your stomach, because that's all you fucking has a stomach.

457
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:26,040
Speaker 1: So and then and people people on the outside looking

458
00:23:26,080 --> 00:23:28,240
Speaker 1: at and people see me on social media and they're like,

459
00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 1: you don't need it, you don't need it. You know,

460
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,439
Speaker 1: you're being lazy, you trying to take the easier There

461
00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:35,040
Speaker 1: are a waste trainers gems like, yeah, what what is

462
00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:38,120
Speaker 1: your response to that? So with that, I tell people

463
00:23:38,160 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 1: all the time, you don't see what's under my clothes.

464
00:23:41,760 --> 00:23:45,959
Speaker 1: What's under my clothes is loose skin. My elasticity is

465
00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:50,200
Speaker 1: one gone. It's at least like seven pounds of skin

466
00:23:50,440 --> 00:23:54,600
Speaker 1: that I literally tuck inside of my clothes. I wear

467
00:23:54,640 --> 00:23:56,600
Speaker 1: a lot of leggings and stuff like that with the

468
00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:59,600
Speaker 1: control top or the band that makes um that basically

469
00:23:59,680 --> 00:24:02,080
Speaker 1: smooth use it out and makes it you know it.

470
00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:06,400
Speaker 1: It gives off a flatter appearance or more flattering appearance,

471
00:24:06,760 --> 00:24:08,360
Speaker 1: you know, where people look at me and like, oh,

472
00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:10,320
Speaker 1: you know, what are you getting there for? You're like, look,

473
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:12,639
Speaker 1: you don't know what's on the head until I show somebody.

474
00:24:13,000 --> 00:24:15,040
Speaker 1: And then when I show people, they're like, oh my gosh,

475
00:24:15,080 --> 00:24:16,760
Speaker 1: I didn't know that was onto that. Yeah, because it's

476
00:24:16,800 --> 00:24:19,320
Speaker 1: not for you to know that it's right. But I

477
00:24:19,359 --> 00:24:21,440
Speaker 1: just want to wear two piece. I want to wear

478
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:24,560
Speaker 1: a bikini and I want I don't want my skin

479
00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:26,919
Speaker 1: hanging over. I don't want to have to talk my

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00:24:27,000 --> 00:24:29,120
Speaker 1: skin inside of a bikini. I just want to wear

481
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,919
Speaker 1: two piece. That's that's my ultimate goal. I literally I purchased.

482
00:24:32,920 --> 00:24:34,880
Speaker 1: I don't know if you, um, if you ever heard

483
00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:37,240
Speaker 1: of someone say, you know, they buy something knowing that

484
00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:39,159
Speaker 1: they can't fit it, and they will say, like this

485
00:24:39,240 --> 00:24:42,080
Speaker 1: is my goal outfit or something like that. Yeah, to

486
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:44,520
Speaker 1: be able to fit this. I literally I bought a bikini.

487
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:47,479
Speaker 1: It's a Baltimore Ravens bikini. I'm a Ravens fan. Of

488
00:24:47,520 --> 00:24:50,560
Speaker 1: course you're hater. And I bought this bikini two years

489
00:24:50,560 --> 00:24:54,040
Speaker 1: ago because I said, I'm gonna I'm gonna get in

490
00:24:54,080 --> 00:24:57,040
Speaker 1: this one day. I'm gonna get in this. I actually

491
00:24:57,080 --> 00:24:59,240
Speaker 1: can fit it. But then it's just the skin is

492
00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:01,560
Speaker 1: in the way. It's in the way, and I have

493
00:25:01,680 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 1: it and it's still my gold bikini. This is what

494
00:25:04,119 --> 00:25:05,960
Speaker 1: I want to I just wanna I just want to

495
00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:09,520
Speaker 1: look right in it. I don't like how my arms hang. Um,

496
00:25:09,560 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 1: I can easily go in the gym. I can work

497
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:14,360
Speaker 1: that out, you know. I've had trainers tell me these

498
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,640
Speaker 1: different exercises that I can do to work that out.

499
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:19,639
Speaker 1: But then at the end of it all, I'm just

500
00:25:19,680 --> 00:25:22,280
Speaker 1: like CARDI do I really want to work it out.

501
00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:24,239
Speaker 1: I need to be was ain't gonna money to be

502
00:25:24,600 --> 00:25:28,320
Speaker 1: getting my chick cut off. But people have surgeries where

503
00:25:28,320 --> 00:25:31,400
Speaker 1: they actually get the bottom of their arm, the hanky part,

504
00:25:31,520 --> 00:25:35,600
Speaker 1: they get it cut off. They literally have cosmetic procedures

505
00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:39,160
Speaker 1: for any and everything, and I feel like I kind

506
00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:40,680
Speaker 1: of feel like it's sucked up in a way because

507
00:25:40,800 --> 00:25:44,280
Speaker 1: like these surgeons are really like taking people's money, just

508
00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:49,280
Speaker 1: capitalizing off of your insecurities, yep, off of people probably

509
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:53,560
Speaker 1: having the same thing this b D D. You know,

510
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:55,600
Speaker 1: I'm all for getting your money, Like, go ahead and

511
00:25:55,600 --> 00:25:57,159
Speaker 1: get your money, do your thing, but it's just like

512
00:25:57,200 --> 00:26:00,440
Speaker 1: at the same time, like damn, like these the funders

513
00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:03,359
Speaker 1: are really out here getting rich off of people hating

514
00:26:03,400 --> 00:26:06,080
Speaker 1: themselves and hating the way that they look when they

515
00:26:06,119 --> 00:26:08,520
Speaker 1: look in the mirror. I don't I don't like myself

516
00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:10,639
Speaker 1: when I look at the mirror. I literally can be

517
00:26:10,680 --> 00:26:14,600
Speaker 1: going to the market and I will change clothes about

518
00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:16,359
Speaker 1: three times just to go to the day market. And

519
00:26:16,359 --> 00:26:18,920
Speaker 1: I'm literally just going to the market because I don't

520
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:21,960
Speaker 1: like how my body looks in something. And to me,

521
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:24,679
Speaker 1: that goes to when they say just because they make

522
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:29,119
Speaker 1: any your size doesn't mean that you need to Because

523
00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:32,760
Speaker 1: I see ship on people and I'm like, why the

524
00:26:32,920 --> 00:26:36,280
Speaker 1: fuck would that? Do you have that one? And then

525
00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:38,440
Speaker 1: I look at myself, and I'm just like, damn, I

526
00:26:38,480 --> 00:26:40,680
Speaker 1: wonder if anybody else is looking at me, like, why

527
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:44,920
Speaker 1: the funk was she wear it? But an actuality? I

528
00:26:44,960 --> 00:26:47,720
Speaker 1: don't even be looking bad, but in my mind, in

529
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:50,639
Speaker 1: my mind, I'm just like, this has to change. I

530
00:26:51,000 --> 00:26:53,679
Speaker 1: can't look like this. I can't live like this. The

531
00:26:53,680 --> 00:26:55,960
Speaker 1: body dysmorphia disorders so bad with me. I literally have

532
00:26:56,119 --> 00:27:00,000
Speaker 1: dreams about plastic surgery sometimes. And you know the craziest

533
00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 1: thing about that. People will look at my sister and

534
00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,640
Speaker 1: be like, that's the body I want. Somebody will show

535
00:27:06,720 --> 00:27:09,240
Speaker 1: your picture to a doctor and be like, that's the

536
00:27:09,240 --> 00:27:11,199
Speaker 1: body I want. I'm telling you because you still have

537
00:27:11,280 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 1: these small ways and you still have your hips, your

538
00:27:14,040 --> 00:27:18,199
Speaker 1: ass like people have asked her for years, did she

539
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:21,199
Speaker 1: get her ass done? And like just certain ship like

540
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 1: people ask you, you know what I'm saying, And you've

541
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:27,240
Speaker 1: never had one look of surgery like ever, and people ask,

542
00:27:27,600 --> 00:27:30,080
Speaker 1: but that is the body that people are trying to

543
00:27:30,920 --> 00:27:33,520
Speaker 1: that the bitches pay for that, Like you got thick thighs,

544
00:27:33,560 --> 00:27:37,320
Speaker 1: thick legs all I want. It's thick legs, Like that's

545
00:27:37,359 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 1: all I want. And then you have people with thick

546
00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:41,960
Speaker 1: legs that all they want is this. So it's like

547
00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:43,920
Speaker 1: what you see is not what everybody else see. But

548
00:27:43,960 --> 00:27:46,679
Speaker 1: it don't matter what everybody see. It matters about how

549
00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:49,679
Speaker 1: you feel about yourself. I just really really want you

550
00:27:49,720 --> 00:27:51,640
Speaker 1: to get some help with that. I did not know

551
00:27:51,760 --> 00:27:54,119
Speaker 1: that you had b d D. I didn't even know

552
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:56,640
Speaker 1: that it was a disorder. You know, I learned something

553
00:27:56,680 --> 00:28:01,120
Speaker 1: new every day psychiatrist talk to me about it. It's

554
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:03,840
Speaker 1: not a cure for it, medication, it's just it's not

555
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:08,600
Speaker 1: It's just it's surgery. Yeah, it's I mean, but like

556
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:12,920
Speaker 1: like we touched on before, bill surgery. Actually, what I'm saying,

557
00:28:12,960 --> 00:28:18,560
Speaker 1: excessive surgery is like cure excessive. It's not like never

558
00:28:18,840 --> 00:28:21,359
Speaker 1: I mean, never gonna be happy, but that is what

559
00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:23,760
Speaker 1: y'all feel like y'all have to do. So that would be,

560
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:27,280
Speaker 1: in hindsight, the cure, you know what I'm saying. But

561
00:28:27,359 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 1: you'll just be crying yourself forever in your mind, that's

562
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:32,800
Speaker 1: just what that is, and be sitting there looking crazy

563
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:35,840
Speaker 1: at the end of it all exactly even with you

564
00:28:35,920 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 1: knowing that, you still I feel like you need it.

565
00:28:40,320 --> 00:28:42,480
Speaker 1: I still feel like I needed like just knowing even

566
00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:45,560
Speaker 1: just looking at these celebrities looking at the Claremont Twins

567
00:28:45,560 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 1: looking at a little cam I still I'm looking at

568
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:50,800
Speaker 1: them like, oh they look crazy ship, Like oh man,

569
00:28:50,840 --> 00:28:53,520
Speaker 1: they were really beautiful. And then I'm just like, damn,

570
00:28:53,840 --> 00:28:58,880
Speaker 1: I'm in the same boat. It's like I had the

571
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:02,280
Speaker 1: same mentality. I'm just like in my mind like, damn,

572
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 1: I don't want to I don't want to look like them,

573
00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:08,240
Speaker 1: but I just wanna be a better me. And to

574
00:29:08,640 --> 00:29:12,240
Speaker 1: other people, it's nothing wrong with me. But to you,

575
00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 1: it don't matter. Yeah, it don't matter what nobody else thinks,

576
00:29:15,040 --> 00:29:16,560
Speaker 1: because that's all you're gonna see at the end of

577
00:29:16,600 --> 00:29:18,720
Speaker 1: the day, when you look throughout the day, at the

578
00:29:18,760 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 1: top of the day, whatever, when you look in the mirror.

579
00:29:21,480 --> 00:29:24,920
Speaker 1: Another thing before we go, I want to say, it

580
00:29:25,120 --> 00:29:27,240
Speaker 1: is a disorder, and I know that it is real

581
00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:31,000
Speaker 1: because these girls and these guys we're not guys are

582
00:29:31,000 --> 00:29:33,280
Speaker 1: not exempt from this ship. Guys are getting surgery too.

583
00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:35,640
Speaker 1: And the thing is they get all the surgery done,

584
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:38,400
Speaker 1: all the surgery done for an image, right and in

585
00:29:38,400 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 1: their mind, you know, because they want to look better

586
00:29:40,840 --> 00:29:42,400
Speaker 1: and look pretty and everything, but they also want to

587
00:29:42,480 --> 00:29:45,280
Speaker 1: keep up with what they see as well. They get

588
00:29:45,280 --> 00:29:48,680
Speaker 1: all this ship done, and then they do that just

589
00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:51,360
Speaker 1: to take pictures and still edit the funk out of

590
00:29:51,360 --> 00:29:55,880
Speaker 1: their pictures. That is a disorder for sure. Perfect makeup,

591
00:29:55,920 --> 00:29:58,800
Speaker 1: perfect body. Now you made up, you're done up, and

592
00:29:58,880 --> 00:30:01,600
Speaker 1: you still edit the ship out of your pictures. You

593
00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:04,000
Speaker 1: see a piece of fat, got a photo shoppy. If

594
00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 1: I knew how to photoshop, I wouldn't have Bunnings in

595
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:09,400
Speaker 1: no picture. If you teach me, I'll do that. But

596
00:30:09,480 --> 00:30:13,200
Speaker 1: the thing is, you know what I'm saying, like, yoh,

597
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:16,280
Speaker 1: my god, yo, buddy is in the coins that got

598
00:30:16,320 --> 00:30:18,360
Speaker 1: to go. But I ain't laying down to get surgery.

599
00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:19,720
Speaker 1: I need to walk. I need to walk in like

600
00:30:19,760 --> 00:30:22,360
Speaker 1: im talking. And look on that note, I'm gonna go

601
00:30:22,400 --> 00:30:25,320
Speaker 1: get my sisters some help as much as I can.

602
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:27,040
Speaker 1: I'm gonna try to get out my fucking ten thousand

603
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,200
Speaker 1: dollars back because me excidics, We're coming for you, bitch.

604
00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:31,760
Speaker 1: And like I don't like that, I don't like that ship.

605
00:30:31,800 --> 00:30:33,240
Speaker 1: Of course, I would rather them take her money to

606
00:30:33,600 --> 00:30:36,240
Speaker 1: do I surgery and she fucking die. But I would

607
00:30:36,360 --> 00:30:39,520
Speaker 1: rather also see her get her hard earned sucking money back, honestly,

608
00:30:39,760 --> 00:30:43,320
Speaker 1: And I love you, I love you, and it's crazy.

609
00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:46,000
Speaker 1: I'm like a little saddened by the fact that I

610
00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:49,240
Speaker 1: know that you have that ship now or whatever. But listen,

611
00:30:49,280 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 1: it's good to keep encouraging your family, your friends. Although

612
00:30:52,600 --> 00:30:54,440
Speaker 1: it may go on one and out the other, they

613
00:30:54,480 --> 00:30:56,680
Speaker 1: would appreciate it. You don't know what they were hear

614
00:30:56,720 --> 00:30:58,760
Speaker 1: and what will stick in their minds. So just continue

615
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 1: to love on those who you feel have these issues.

616
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:04,040
Speaker 1: Like my sister's friend. She's telling them, I don't like

617
00:31:04,120 --> 00:31:06,360
Speaker 1: I don't like the head is talking ship, I don't

618
00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:08,880
Speaker 1: like the hair that you have this issue and ship

619
00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:11,080
Speaker 1: like that. Keep talking to them like that. You never know.

620
00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:13,960
Speaker 1: One day they may wake up from this fucking bad dream,

621
00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:16,720
Speaker 1: come up out of this disorder or this condition that

622
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:19,080
Speaker 1: they have, and just like that, we're gonna end up.

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00:31:19,080 --> 00:31:22,120
Speaker 1: Make sure you tune in next week, so carefully reckless

624
00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:26,200
Speaker 1: and then my deepest Pam voice peace, peace out yall,

625
00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:45,960
Speaker 1: and pray for those who have this disorder. Please Carefully

626
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:48,600
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