WEBVTT - Who Is She? 0:00:00.200 --> 0:00:03.120 Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:04.120 and the Black Effects. 0:00:15.480 --> 0:00:17.800 Oh shit, just like that, we back on the air. 0:00:17.840 --> 0:00:19.960 Welcome back to you had another carefully reckless episode with 0:00:20.079 --> 0:00:20.599 your girl, Jess. 0:00:20.640 --> 0:00:21.759 Hilarious. What are we doing? 0:00:22.040 --> 0:00:25.560 I'll be fixing mess and we got one. Listen my baby, 0:00:25.600 --> 0:00:26.119 my baby, I'm in here. 0:00:26.120 --> 0:00:28.800 What say? Let's say what's up Taylor? You all say? 0:00:28.800 --> 0:00:30.880 What's up on my girl? What's she here? 0:00:31.240 --> 0:00:33.559 Even more pregnant than she was two weeks ago? So 0:00:33.600 --> 0:00:35.199 she gonna be in and out y'all because she is 0:00:35.280 --> 0:00:39.040 annoyed as fuck. She got a little baby up in there? 0:00:39.080 --> 0:00:39.840 What you have a girl? 0:00:39.920 --> 0:00:41.599 Oh? Can we know? Yeah, I have a new boy. 0:00:41.720 --> 0:00:43.320 She's having a little boy. So she's about to be 0:00:43.360 --> 0:00:46.600 a bit sorry talking about that. My god. 0:00:46.640 --> 0:00:48.920 Boys make you so mean. In my opinion, I was 0:00:49.000 --> 0:00:50.080 mean when I was pregnant with ash. 0:00:50.080 --> 0:00:51.320 I wasn't. Do you think I was mean when I 0:00:51.360 --> 0:00:55.840 was pregnant with Marley? No, I wasn't mean. 0:00:56.000 --> 0:00:56.360 I didn't know. 0:00:57.440 --> 0:01:00.400 Yeah, yeah, I wasn't mean. I just was like over everything. 0:01:00.440 --> 0:01:02.400 I wasn't mean, though, I just was like, y'all getting 0:01:02.400 --> 0:01:05.480 on my motherfucking nerves all right, So we have a 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:08.720 voice memo, y'all. It's the first one in a long time. 0:01:08.800 --> 0:01:10.240 I think it's the first one in season four that 0:01:10.280 --> 0:01:12.120 we had. I ain't have a voice memo since like 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:14.840 season two, I think either way. 0:01:15.319 --> 0:01:20.000 But let's get straight into it. Let me sing hey. 0:01:19.840 --> 0:01:24.880 Girl, Hey, okay, es he picks my mess and you're 0:01:24.880 --> 0:01:27.080 gonna be like, what the fuck? It's not even mess, 0:01:27.120 --> 0:01:31.320 it's really pissed. Okay, it's really more borderline shit. Yeah, 0:01:31.360 --> 0:01:33.120 let me get it started, because I ain't trying to hold. 0:01:32.959 --> 0:01:34.400 You, Okay. 0:01:34.440 --> 0:01:36.200 So I'm gonna try to make a long story short. 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:39.959 I am twenty seven, just turn twenty seven. My wishing 0:01:40.000 --> 0:01:43.000 mccollic because it's an ex but it's a washing mcgolic 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:44.280 because I ain't go back. 0:01:45.560 --> 0:01:48.200 One more time for a find a round of this disappointment. 0:01:48.840 --> 0:01:52.520 Okay, So I'm twenty seven. My wish mccallage is thirty 0:01:52.560 --> 0:01:56.040 eight seven thirty nine this year. So we met when 0:01:56.040 --> 0:01:58.280 I was twenty four, turned in twenty five and a. 0:01:58.240 --> 0:01:59.400 Couple of months. 0:02:00.040 --> 0:02:02.440 I mean, everything was kind of perfect, Like we talked 0:02:03.040 --> 0:02:07.760 for a month before we like linked up. I was 0:02:08.080 --> 0:02:12.480 dating single for a year and a half, heavy on 0:02:12.520 --> 0:02:16.880 the self love. My confidence was how its fuck all 0:02:17.000 --> 0:02:22.000 time high, like bitches is working out, doing yoga, drawing, reading, writing, women, 0:02:22.040 --> 0:02:24.600 their breast life and shit. So I was dating, I 0:02:24.639 --> 0:02:26.520 wasn't exclusively like dating him. 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:28.760 So when I monthly got to know. 0:02:28.680 --> 0:02:31.639 Each other, you know, we just kind of clicked more 0:02:31.680 --> 0:02:33.919 than the other guys, and the other guys were kind 0:02:33.919 --> 0:02:38.000 of more on my roster d for convenience and not 0:02:38.160 --> 0:02:41.440 just convenienced like there were good dudes. So you know, 0:02:41.480 --> 0:02:44.120 I wanted to see if more feelings could develop for me. 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:50.760 So after that first link up, it was fucking history. 0:02:50.800 --> 0:02:52.800 We is going on days every weekend. 0:02:53.480 --> 0:02:55.280 I eventually stopped. 0:02:55.000 --> 0:02:59.919 Texting the other guys so much, and you know, about 0:03:00.040 --> 0:03:03.080 two months go by, and at this point, he is 0:03:03.760 --> 0:03:07.160 spending the night every night I'm talking about he's basically 0:03:07.200 --> 0:03:11.040 living here, like his game is here, he has close here, 0:03:11.120 --> 0:03:15.120 He comes right after work, it doesn't leaven, so he 0:03:15.160 --> 0:03:18.040 goes back to work. Like we're literally together all the 0:03:18.200 --> 0:03:23.720 fucking time, Like even on the weekends, he's there after work, 0:03:24.280 --> 0:03:27.160 he's there playing the game like just it's like we're 0:03:27.200 --> 0:03:31.480 living together at this point. So that about the third 0:03:31.600 --> 0:03:34.720 month mark, I got to put myself down, like, hey, 0:03:34.960 --> 0:03:38.240 what are we doing? Like you know, single for many 0:03:38.240 --> 0:03:41.080 I need boundaries think like are we together? 0:03:41.320 --> 0:03:45.880 Are we not together? Relationship, which clearly it fucking was. 0:03:47.800 --> 0:03:49.920 So I'm like, look, if you want me to. 0:03:49.840 --> 0:03:51.840 Be your girlfriend, you need to ask me a person 0:03:51.880 --> 0:03:53.600 not throwing off fucking text me as it is, which 0:03:53.640 --> 0:03:56.640 your drive before, which was a major red flag. 0:03:57.680 --> 0:04:01.160 So you know, I'm the pype girl like hook every day. 0:04:01.480 --> 0:04:06.119 So I'm backing him lunches with fruit, snacks, juice, whatever. 0:04:05.800 --> 0:04:08.720 The fuck he likes, cute little notes. 0:04:10.200 --> 0:04:13.559 He's also doing cute shit like appealing to my love languages. 0:04:14.400 --> 0:04:16.240 You know, we go to the store together or whatever. 0:04:16.279 --> 0:04:20.120 He'll go have here. You know, he got me on 0:04:20.120 --> 0:04:22.680 my saying stuff for Christmas, which is the fuck he should. 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:28.159 I got him something as well, so you know shit's 0:04:28.160 --> 0:04:28.640 coming good. 0:04:28.640 --> 0:04:31.520 But I'm kind of like at this point now, like, well, 0:04:31.560 --> 0:04:33.919 you know you're not. I'm playing these bills on. 0:04:33.960 --> 0:04:36.200 All like, and that's kind of turning me off from you, 0:04:36.839 --> 0:04:39.039 because you know, I had a dude on my roster 0:04:39.400 --> 0:04:42.640 and send me money for the fucking hell of it. 0:04:43.400 --> 0:04:46.000 My asude dude on my roster was in the streets 0:04:46.000 --> 0:04:49.160 and this dude wasn't so I wasn't really tripping. 0:04:49.320 --> 0:04:51.520 I'm like, I got a good dude, like you might 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:53.040 be the nigga that I've been praying for. 0:04:55.080 --> 0:04:59.320 So the date slowed down from every weekend every once 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:03.560 in a while, the affection slowed down. 0:05:04.000 --> 0:05:05.279 Everything slowed down. 0:05:06.279 --> 0:05:09.599 So this is about month six, and I'm noticing these changes. 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:13.800 I'm like, hey, like, you know, it's something wrong, like 0:05:13.880 --> 0:05:17.160 do we need to do something else to connect? You know, 0:05:17.240 --> 0:05:21.520 what are you missing? Because I've noticed changes in our relationship. 0:05:22.680 --> 0:05:27.920 So I noticed that, you know, we would go through 0:05:27.920 --> 0:05:29.039 my phone sometimes. 0:05:30.120 --> 0:05:34.240 So I was scrolling through his Facebook one day and 0:05:34.640 --> 0:05:35.520 I saw. 0:05:37.400 --> 0:05:39.800 This, I know, this this one girl and all of 0:05:39.839 --> 0:05:43.320 his like literally all of his fucking like all of them. 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:45.760 So I call him. 0:05:45.800 --> 0:05:49.000 I'm like, hey, babe, I was just scrolling through your 0:05:49.000 --> 0:05:50.960 Facebook and I noticed this one girl and all of 0:05:51.000 --> 0:05:51.400 your li likes. 0:05:51.520 --> 0:05:53.719 I was just wondering who it was, like, you know, 0:05:54.880 --> 0:05:55.600 who is it like? 0:05:55.680 --> 0:05:57.440 And this is like, you know, he was scrolling through 0:05:57.440 --> 0:06:01.360 my Facebook, asked questions through my phone, asked questions. 0:06:01.400 --> 0:06:02.919 So I didn't think it would be a problem. 0:06:03.440 --> 0:06:08.520 He immediately gets defensive, like, that's my best friend. Weve 0:06:08.520 --> 0:06:11.840 been best friend since child, we grew up together. I'm 0:06:11.839 --> 0:06:15.760 not cutting her off like whoa dude relaxed like And 0:06:15.839 --> 0:06:17.479 that really blew me to cook back and was a 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:21.679 major red flag because I literally have never asked him 0:06:22.160 --> 0:06:25.600 to cut any female friend off or came off as 0:06:25.640 --> 0:06:26.839 any type of insecure. 0:06:27.560 --> 0:06:30.200 It was just like that shit blew me a back. 0:06:31.120 --> 0:06:32.359 So with Henry acting on. 0:06:32.360 --> 0:06:34.760 All defensive and she you know, I'm like, that's your 0:06:34.800 --> 0:06:37.280 best friend, Like you know, why never made her? 0:06:37.320 --> 0:06:39.200 Why have I never heard of her? Why you never 0:06:39.240 --> 0:06:42.520 brought her up? If I literally never stroke through your. 0:06:42.360 --> 0:06:47.159 Facebook and asked who she was, I literally would have 0:06:47.240 --> 0:06:52.560 never knew about her, So be red flag right. So 0:06:54.440 --> 0:06:58.760 after that, he kind of started being like more private, 0:06:58.880 --> 0:07:02.000 like I don't you know, so I don't ask you questions, 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:04.080 you don't ask me questions. It's just fucking crazy because 0:07:04.080 --> 0:07:07.480 the nigga asks questions all the times. 0:07:08.200 --> 0:07:10.760 And then also he basically living at your house like 0:07:10.840 --> 0:07:12.960 basically once the nigga game is there, he moved the 0:07:12.960 --> 0:07:16.760 fucking so you trying to have your cake and needith 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:18.920 too and I and I'm not really with that ship, 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:20.520 so I definitely understand. 0:07:20.600 --> 0:07:21.960 Yeah, but yeah, that's you. 0:07:21.960 --> 0:07:24.200 You let him, You let him do a little bit 0:07:24.240 --> 0:07:26.720 too much, too fast, and he started getting he started 0:07:26.720 --> 0:07:30.080 smelling hisself as the black mothers would say, but I'm 0:07:30.080 --> 0:07:32.360 gonna let you finish. Hold up, Hold up, I know 0:07:32.440 --> 0:07:34.560 the ship getting good. But listen to just a couple 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:36.840 of seconds of a commercial. If you love me, you'll listen. 0:07:38.880 --> 0:07:42.400 So at this point, my mind is fixated when his 0:07:42.520 --> 0:07:45.000 best friend, Like, I am determined to figure out. 0:07:45.200 --> 0:07:47.920 What the fuck he really got going on, because it's 0:07:48.160 --> 0:07:49.360 more than a defense thing. 0:07:50.480 --> 0:07:57.320 So I go through his phone, can't find anything, so boom, 0:07:57.480 --> 0:08:01.120 fuck it. Like, you know, he's on Facebook, you know 0:08:01.200 --> 0:08:02.480 inboxing girls. 0:08:02.160 --> 0:08:04.720 My getting replies. I'm like, you know what, I don't 0:08:04.720 --> 0:08:05.200 want to call my. 0:08:05.240 --> 0:08:09.240 Fice insecure, even though if we're in a relationship, I 0:08:09.280 --> 0:08:12.200 do kind of find like I'm not inboxing niggas trying 0:08:12.200 --> 0:08:16.000 to get attention or response as hard I'm not heart 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:18.520 I you know, motherfucking stories and sending it to the 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:20.280 inbox hoping and respond like. 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:22.280 I'm not doing any of that. But I got to 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:27.640 just let it go. My fault. So a few months 0:08:27.680 --> 0:08:32.280 go by and we're just we're not getting along. 0:08:32.880 --> 0:08:37.040 I'm finding out that he's inconsistent, he's a liar. He 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:41.920 is hiding shit, like literally, he is making me insecure 0:08:42.160 --> 0:08:45.040 by just he done did a whole one to eighty 0:08:45.120 --> 0:08:47.720 from the motherfucker he showed me in the beginning, Like 0:08:47.800 --> 0:08:52.280 he's not affectionate. We're not like that intimate as much anymore. 0:08:52.440 --> 0:08:56.600 Like where he used to want to talk like throughout 0:08:56.640 --> 0:08:59.120 the workday, like while he was working or whatever. 0:09:01.920 --> 0:09:03.720 You know, he is not willing to do that anymore. 0:09:03.920 --> 0:09:05.839 So I'm like cool, like and my mom, I'm like, 0:09:05.840 --> 0:09:07.839 I'm gonna run through this nigga phone like fuck that. 0:09:08.000 --> 0:09:10.360 I'm want an ambitious I rather know. 0:09:11.040 --> 0:09:13.360 Hold up, you given this ship a lot of posssion 0:09:13.440 --> 0:09:14.840 for you to be coming from the streets. 0:09:14.840 --> 0:09:17.400 Remember you said you had this nigga, that nigga, this nigga, 0:09:17.400 --> 0:09:18.960 that nigga. You didn't got rid of the nigga that 0:09:19.000 --> 0:09:21.240 was paying your bills for this clown ass nigga. And 0:09:21.280 --> 0:09:24.520 you still like this one must have been the one 0:09:24.559 --> 0:09:27.480 that had you like ready to be on some exclusive ship. 0:09:27.559 --> 0:09:29.359 And you you you hinted toward. 0:09:29.160 --> 0:09:31.960 That earlier like seven minutes ago, and you also said 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:33.160 you was gonna make this story short. 0:09:33.200 --> 0:09:33.920 And I'm loving it. 0:09:34.240 --> 0:09:36.240 Remember you said that you lie, honey, so I'm gonna 0:09:36.280 --> 0:09:43.120 let you finished. But yeah, this this seemed like you I'm, i'm, i'm, I'm, 0:09:43.320 --> 0:09:44.600 I'm gonna let you finish. 0:09:45.000 --> 0:09:48.319 And to just be wondering like Beach just be talking 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:51.320 about intuition. Well, Beach, my mother fucking insuition led me 0:09:51.440 --> 0:09:52.680 to look through this niggaphone. 0:09:54.200 --> 0:09:56.360 So I find. 0:09:56.520 --> 0:10:01.199 Messages with the X, you know, asking when can he 0:10:01.280 --> 0:10:03.760 come see her. She basically told his niggas she's busy 0:10:03.840 --> 0:10:08.000 until the next mother fucking year. Come to find out 0:10:08.080 --> 0:10:12.520 much later on that X was her or whatever. So 0:10:13.840 --> 0:10:15.720 fast forward, we have an argument. 0:10:16.240 --> 0:10:17.920 He's mad at me. He sends me a. 0:10:17.880 --> 0:10:22.360 Screenshot of text messages but with the name covered up 0:10:22.559 --> 0:10:26.720 and you know, the little drawing shit. So the message 0:10:26.760 --> 0:10:28.959 he's talking about a day and you know. 0:10:28.920 --> 0:10:30.280 They've been trying to take each other. 0:10:30.120 --> 0:10:34.320 Out on dates for months, and I'm just like, what 0:10:34.360 --> 0:10:38.720 the fuck? Like in for context, he was the type 0:10:38.720 --> 0:10:42.480 of nigga that overtalked me, you know, bring up pitches 0:10:42.559 --> 0:10:44.439 and how he got options, and he taught. 0:10:44.320 --> 0:10:44.880 Me, are you. 0:10:46.480 --> 0:10:48.040 He couldn't just sit down and have. 0:10:48.000 --> 0:10:53.280 A conversation and be held accountable, So he couldn't have 0:10:53.360 --> 0:10:54.679 difficult conversations. 0:10:55.720 --> 0:10:58.640 So he sends his screenshot. 0:10:59.000 --> 0:11:01.720 So now I have said it on figuring out who 0:11:01.760 --> 0:11:02.800 the fuck was he. 0:11:02.920 --> 0:11:05.119 Talking to an as green shot. I was talking about. 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:08.959 Dates and sidelines, and she's basically saying, you're trying to 0:11:09.000 --> 0:11:12.000 make me outsideline, and he basically said. 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:14.480 Back, no, you're trying to make me your sideline. 0:11:14.760 --> 0:11:21.560 Fucking with so and so so anyway, girl, So I 0:11:21.640 --> 0:11:23.599 want to say, like for three months straight that I 0:11:23.679 --> 0:11:27.560 left him alone, he's calling me non stop, pulling up 0:11:27.600 --> 0:11:30.600 to my house, pulling up to my mom my house, like. 0:11:32.280 --> 0:11:37.440 Pulling up with me, literally like stalking me. So me being. 0:11:37.280 --> 0:11:40.679 Delusional and retarded. Oh my gosh, I am so sorry. 0:11:40.720 --> 0:11:44.319 If that offends anybody, just just beat that out or something, 0:11:45.080 --> 0:11:47.000 me being stupid and delusional. 0:11:47.679 --> 0:11:49.680 I'm like, you know what this man is really fighting 0:11:49.679 --> 0:11:50.160 from my love? 0:11:50.240 --> 0:11:53.880 He said, fucked up, And he never talked to truth 0:11:53.880 --> 0:11:57.880 about the sex message. He literally went from is my sister, 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:00.960 who I used another phone to make that up just 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:03.240 to make you jealous, like all types of shit. 0:12:03.320 --> 0:12:04.959 Never told the truth about it, so I never know 0:12:05.040 --> 0:12:07.720 who it was at that point. This is long as fuck. 0:12:07.800 --> 0:12:09.080 Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry. 0:12:09.160 --> 0:12:11.199 Okay, So I'm just mean this all the way up 0:12:11.760 --> 0:12:14.840 fast far we get back together, why my dumb mess 0:12:14.920 --> 0:12:17.439 was doing good? I had a new bool like just 0:12:17.480 --> 0:12:22.400 the fucking stupid. Okay, So we get back together. So 0:12:22.520 --> 0:12:25.920 he's the same narcis assistic type. 0:12:25.679 --> 0:12:26.280 Of man. 0:12:27.600 --> 0:12:30.520 He's I'm thinking that, you know, maybe he'll be who 0:12:30.559 --> 0:12:32.600 he showed me in the beginning, but no, because he 0:12:32.679 --> 0:12:34.200 was probably never that nigga to begin with. 0:12:34.920 --> 0:12:37.319 So fast forward. 0:12:37.880 --> 0:12:40.120 I go through his phone a couple of months after 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:42.959 we get back together. So you're not we had both 0:12:42.960 --> 0:12:45.559 agreed when we got back together. You know, we got 0:12:45.600 --> 0:12:47.600 a month to cut off any extra shit we got 0:12:47.640 --> 0:12:51.559 going on. This is three months after that conversation, and 0:12:51.600 --> 0:12:53.920 it's odd types of bitches, not even old bitches from 0:12:53.960 --> 0:12:55.280 the three months new bitches. 0:12:56.000 --> 0:12:59.080 Okay, what the hell did you expect? 0:12:59.080 --> 0:12:59.640 Baby girls? 0:13:00.600 --> 0:13:04.120 Really fucked my head up place. I went through that 0:13:04.200 --> 0:13:08.280 phone for motherfucking teeth for tea. So in the screenshots, 0:13:08.840 --> 0:13:11.840 he had the message that it was in his pictures. 0:13:11.880 --> 0:13:14.360 He had the screenshot that he covered up with the 0:13:14.400 --> 0:13:18.040 ink or whatever, and then his dumb ass had the 0:13:18.080 --> 0:13:20.800 fucking real screenshot there, the one that he didn't cover 0:13:20.840 --> 0:13:24.359 the name of So I'm gonna find out the motherfucking 0:13:24.360 --> 0:13:27.280 screenshot about the dates and the flirting and shit in 0:13:27.320 --> 0:13:29.600 the sidelines and how they want each other was from 0:13:29.640 --> 0:13:32.960 he's fucking so God best friend that he was defensive 0:13:32.960 --> 0:13:33.600 to suck about. 0:13:34.160 --> 0:13:39.600 Kay yum, see why you should have left, girl? See 0:13:39.600 --> 0:13:42.240 do you see why you put up? You put up 0:13:42.240 --> 0:13:43.479 with a lot of shit. 0:13:43.240 --> 0:13:46.600 From this nigga. Girl. I'm gonna keep reminding you. 0:13:46.600 --> 0:13:49.040 Remember you you you left the nigga that was paying 0:13:49.080 --> 0:13:53.760 your bills for this nigga fuck talking about that was 0:13:53.760 --> 0:13:55.240 a red flag, and that was a red flag, and 0:13:55.240 --> 0:13:57.000 then that was a red flag and the bitch you just. 0:13:57.360 --> 0:13:58.319 Was on a roller coaster. 0:13:58.480 --> 0:14:02.320 You just went through it like there was nothing red flag, 0:14:02.520 --> 0:14:04.040 six flagshead. 0:14:03.480 --> 0:14:07.640 Ass, like you didn't give a fuck. Ma'am. I'm gonna 0:14:07.679 --> 0:14:09.360 let you finish. 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:15.280 So now I am on a so so I find 0:14:15.440 --> 0:14:17.840 an iCloud and a phone number, and I go through 0:14:17.880 --> 0:14:20.880 all of their messages literally from the time before time, 0:14:22.160 --> 0:14:26.840 basically since the time we got together. So he has 0:14:26.880 --> 0:14:32.520 been flirting with, like linking with, you know, but from 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:34.920 the messages aspar as I could tell, they hadn't fucked 0:14:34.960 --> 0:14:37.440 an intimate but clearly it's some type of. 0:14:37.440 --> 0:14:38.840 Feelings and emotions there. 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:43.600 Its just something has prevented them from being together in 0:14:43.680 --> 0:14:45.920 a relationship or I don't know what it is. 0:14:46.200 --> 0:14:49.560 Yeah, because that's they were best friends. They really started 0:14:49.600 --> 0:14:51.600 off his best friends and he probably always had a 0:14:51.640 --> 0:14:54.560 thing for her, but she, probably being his best friend, 0:14:54.680 --> 0:14:56.760 has seen how he's done bitches for. 0:14:56.720 --> 0:14:58.960 Years and years and years, you including. 0:14:58.520 --> 0:15:01.960 Being one of them, and she's like, nah, I don't 0:15:01.960 --> 0:15:03.720 trust you. I see how you move with bitches. So 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:06.480 that's she loves her best friend too, but as much 0:15:06.480 --> 0:15:08.280 as she loves them, she damn sure ain't about to 0:15:08.320 --> 0:15:10.400 be one of his victims, you know, end up like 0:15:10.480 --> 0:15:12.120 your ass, So you know. 0:15:12.120 --> 0:15:12.520 What I mean? 0:15:12.640 --> 0:15:14.680 Like that, that's you gotta think about that when a 0:15:14.720 --> 0:15:16.840 best friend, when a female best friend is like hesitant 0:15:16.880 --> 0:15:19.920 to get with her her male best friend, but they 0:15:19.960 --> 0:15:22.400 do like each other more than likely that's why because 0:15:22.440 --> 0:15:24.200 she's seeing how he is with women. 0:15:24.840 --> 0:15:28.040 She has two young kids, so. 0:15:30.200 --> 0:15:33.239 I don't know. She doesn't adversity together her grown ass. 0:15:33.000 --> 0:15:36.520 Age either, So it's probably a couple of factors. 0:15:36.720 --> 0:15:40.440 Or first of all, how the fuck you going? Girl? 0:15:41.320 --> 0:15:44.240 You write and think about your story. You're sitting here 0:15:45.320 --> 0:15:49.840 giving me this story where you are the fool. 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:50.160 In the circus. 0:15:50.280 --> 0:15:52.360 You you are made out to be the clown in 0:15:52.400 --> 0:15:54.920 the circus. And how dare you speak on what this 0:15:54.960 --> 0:15:58.120 woman ain't got together in her life? She got that 0:15:58.200 --> 0:16:00.280 nigga that she was trying to get, She got that 0:16:00.320 --> 0:16:02.320 nigga that you thought was yours. 0:16:02.440 --> 0:16:03.000 You know what I mean? 0:16:03.880 --> 0:16:07.560 So I hate when women come at the other one 0:16:07.640 --> 0:16:10.680 month when it's really like, you know, when when y'all 0:16:10.680 --> 0:16:12.720 don't have to sometimes you gotta check a bit. 0:16:12.840 --> 0:16:13.920 Sometimes you gotta. 0:16:13.840 --> 0:16:16.160 You know, air a girl out every time, every now 0:16:16.240 --> 0:16:17.920 and then, you know what I'm saying. Arabit y'all, let 0:16:18.120 --> 0:16:20.040 pop out and show you know what I'm saying. But 0:16:20.640 --> 0:16:22.800 if you got your own shit going on, the last 0:16:22.800 --> 0:16:24.720 thing you need to be thinking about is somebody else 0:16:24.800 --> 0:16:27.840 not having their life together. Okay, now we got a 0:16:27.840 --> 0:16:29.960 commercial and if you click off of this podcast, I 0:16:30.000 --> 0:16:31.160 swear I'm gonna beat your ass. 0:16:31.480 --> 0:16:36.000 Listen, so let's let me let you finish. 0:16:36.080 --> 0:16:38.040 Top of She not this nigga ain't shit for real. 0:16:40.120 --> 0:16:42.000 So I'm going back to such a time before. 0:16:41.880 --> 0:16:45.320 Time see other bitches. But what bother me the. 0:16:45.280 --> 0:16:48.240 Most was her because you know, this kind of fucked 0:16:48.320 --> 0:16:53.520 up my views on best friends and platonic relationships between 0:16:53.560 --> 0:16:56.720 male and females. You know, so now as I move 0:16:56.760 --> 0:17:00.560 over dating, it's gonna be like, nigga, I don't want 0:17:00.560 --> 0:17:01.520 to be one of the bitches. 0:17:01.560 --> 0:17:04.160 Blade ain't no friends like. 0:17:04.160 --> 0:17:06.240 I need to see all the messages from the sign 0:17:06.320 --> 0:17:08.840 before time hang out with these bitch a couple of 0:17:08.880 --> 0:17:12.359 times with you see how she vibes around you, and 0:17:12.600 --> 0:17:14.160 just read the energy in the room. 0:17:14.880 --> 0:17:17.639 Basically, this nigga fucked my head up with that. 0:17:18.520 --> 0:17:20.159 So and it was just like you know, they was 0:17:20.200 --> 0:17:24.000 talking about sexual shit and how they love each other 0:17:24.080 --> 0:17:27.399 and how deeply they feel about each other and about 0:17:27.760 --> 0:17:30.960 marriage and being together and moving in together like all 0:17:31.080 --> 0:17:34.520 types of shit. So this is well after you know, 0:17:34.640 --> 0:17:38.639 we done got back together and that month, don't want 0:17:38.720 --> 0:17:40.760 boy where we're supposed to be cutting size. 0:17:40.480 --> 0:17:42.639 With everyone, so. 0:17:44.880 --> 0:17:48.480 I leave again and then I also what really fucked 0:17:48.480 --> 0:17:52.000 my hand up was because he knew I hadn't ran 0:17:52.040 --> 0:17:54.639 through that phone before and saw her and question d 0:17:55.080 --> 0:17:57.320 and tripped out about it, and that's why we broke up. 0:17:57.480 --> 0:18:01.159 Ultimately, he saved her. 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:04.679 Number and another girl's number under male names, so I 0:18:04.680 --> 0:18:09.520 wouldn't really think twice to look through those messages, or 0:18:09.560 --> 0:18:11.600 if they called, I wouldn't think twice about why he 0:18:11.720 --> 0:18:14.960 wasn't going to answer. And what fucked me up was 0:18:15.880 --> 0:18:18.000 one of the names had been in there for like 0:18:18.119 --> 0:18:21.959 two whole years, and I literally have been seeing it 0:18:22.040 --> 0:18:26.439 for two whole years. And this is like literally the 0:18:26.520 --> 0:18:28.119 two years of the relationship. 0:18:29.720 --> 0:18:32.840 So really what's. 0:18:32.720 --> 0:18:35.439 Been holding me on was Yeah, I can't wait to 0:18:35.480 --> 0:18:35.720 hear that. 0:18:35.880 --> 0:18:37.520 Thanks time. 0:18:37.640 --> 0:18:40.040 If this it, like, damn nigga, like, you don't waste 0:18:40.080 --> 0:18:42.160 it two years in my twenties, I'm twenty seven. 0:18:42.240 --> 0:18:45.080 Now I'm like in. 0:18:44.960 --> 0:18:47.320 Love with you in the most toxic way ever, Like, 0:18:48.119 --> 0:18:51.520 and it's so hard to leave him, like these niggas 0:18:51.560 --> 0:18:54.400 kicked my door in multiple times because I blocked him 0:18:54.440 --> 0:18:57.480 for weeks since the last time I went through his phone, Like. 0:18:58.920 --> 0:19:01.000 I just I really don't know what to do. 0:19:01.160 --> 0:19:04.240 I need help getting away, staying away. I'm moving soon 0:19:04.480 --> 0:19:06.040 so that should make it better. 0:19:06.160 --> 0:19:09.919 But yeah, and ROWN needs help, Like what how do 0:19:10.000 --> 0:19:10.800 I move on from this? 0:19:11.640 --> 0:19:15.879 I feel stupid and brainwashed and stuck, but I'm ready. 0:19:16.560 --> 0:19:18.320 Well, I'm glad that you said it, and I don't 0:19:18.320 --> 0:19:20.840 have to say it because I don't like calling women stupid. 0:19:20.920 --> 0:19:23.480 I don't like calling you know, because we've all been 0:19:23.560 --> 0:19:25.840 in predicaments like this. And why I can't say we've 0:19:25.880 --> 0:19:27.960 all because I know a few women that have not, 0:19:28.520 --> 0:19:30.400 you know, but I have. I've been in a predicament 0:19:30.400 --> 0:19:33.040 where I couldn't leave a guy alone and know he 0:19:33.200 --> 0:19:36.480 was treating me like ten carrots shit, you feel me 0:19:36.720 --> 0:19:40.280 like putting things before him and putting him up on 0:19:40.320 --> 0:19:42.480 a pedestal, and it's like, first of all, bitch, you're 0:19:42.600 --> 0:19:43.920 you're you're. 0:19:44.560 --> 0:19:45.720 That's a whole other situation. 0:19:46.160 --> 0:19:48.760 But yes, I've done that before, so I'm really I 0:19:48.760 --> 0:19:51.400 don't want to say that you're stupid, but what you 0:19:51.440 --> 0:19:54.240 just said, you know, you're giving him too much power 0:19:54.280 --> 0:19:55.960 talking about he wasted two years ago, Like if you 0:19:56.040 --> 0:19:59.359