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Speaker 2: Lucas is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Ella. So we're

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Speaker 2: gonna see if we can figure out why she's ghosting

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Speaker 2: and when we call her in just a second. But first, Lucas,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from ellak

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Speaker 2: It's been like a week week.

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Speaker 3: So did you try contacting her after the date or

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Speaker 3: was that the last time you guys spoke.

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Speaker 4: I did contact her after and I hadn't heard from her.

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Speaker 4: There was no response.

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Speaker 2: Can you tell us about the date?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: So, well the way we met though, we'll do that

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Speaker 6: at the office party of the company that I currently

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Speaker 4: Meant there and we spent that night.

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Speaker 6: Just hanging out talking about oh why are you saying

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Speaker 4: And I asked.

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Speaker 6: Her to get coffee a few days after that, and

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Speaker 6: and that we did, and I found she just like,

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Speaker 4: I felt, you know, I didn't feel like I had

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Speaker 4: going and gorgeous. It's funny time and yeah, and so

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Speaker 4: then I did ask her out again after And I

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Speaker 4: just never heard that.

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Speaker 2: You said you met her at an office party. Could

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Speaker 2: she be one of your bosses that you just don't

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Speaker 4: I have no idea.

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Speaker 6: I mean, like I don't even know if she works

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Speaker 6: with a company. Well, she said that she was a

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Speaker 6: guest of someone at the party, so that's all I know.

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Speaker 2: Okay.

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Speaker 3: Was there anything that happened on the date that was

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Speaker 3: not want to talk to you again? Obviously you're lovely, Lucas.

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Speaker 3: This isn't you know that that?

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Speaker 1: Well?

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Speaker 4: I mean, I do have a tendency sometimes when I'm talking, I.

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Speaker 6: Raised my voice a little without realizing, speaking.

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Speaker 4: A little bit louder than the usual. And okay, like

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Speaker 4: sometimes I get a little excited when I talk her.

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Speaker 6: I guess when I'm get really happy, I sometimes I

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Speaker 2: I can't control the volume of my voice. So you're saying,

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Speaker 2: yelled at her. She may not have realized that was normal.

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Speaker 6: Oh oh god, I hope she didn't think I I

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Speaker 6: was the only at her for any reason I had.

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Speaker 4: I had no reason to yell at her. But if

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Speaker 4: I my voice was a little louder than usual than

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Speaker 4: I apologize.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Well, I mean that could be you know, maybe

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Speaker 2: she thought you. You know, some people are very uncomfortable

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Speaker 2: with loud people. Yeah, in general, that could have been it.

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Speaker 3: I think I'm still kind of suspect as to who

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Speaker 3: she was even at that party with going back to

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Speaker 3: like one of her friends. Maybe her friends got a

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Speaker 6: Oh, I never thought of myself as off limits before

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Speaker 6: we start.

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Speaker 2: Time to start thinking yourself that way, big boy. All right, Well,

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Speaker 2: let's play a song come Back, and then we'll call

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Speaker 2: her and see if we can get her to tell

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Speaker 2: us why she's ghosting here and maybe get you another date.

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Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, sounds good.

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 2: Plus song come Back, Get your first date follow up.

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for the first date follow up,

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Speaker 2: we've got lovely Lucas on the phone. He's getting ghosted

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Speaker 2: by a woman named Ella, and he doesn't know why.

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Speaker 2: We're about to call her and see if we can

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Speaker 2: figure it out. But first, Lucas, why don't you refresh

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 6: So I met Ella at a party and office party

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Speaker 6: at a company that.

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Speaker 4: I work at.

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Speaker 6: She was someone's guests there, and we spend that whole

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Speaker 6: then I asked her to get coffee a few days later,

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Speaker 6: and we did, But then after that coffee date was

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Speaker 6: And I thought she was great. I thought she was

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Speaker 2: Let's find out why she's ghosting. Are you ready to

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Speaker 2: call her?

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Speaker 5: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: All right, cool, here we go. Hello, hew me, I

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Speaker 2: speak to Ella? Please? Uh speaking Ella? How are you?

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Speaker 2: My name is Jewbil host the radio show and it's

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Speaker 2: called the Jebel Show. The whole show's here, Ella.

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Speaker 3: My name is Nina.

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Speaker 2: Hi, Hi, Iam Victoria. Yep, So there's three goods. What's up?

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Speaker 5: Hey? I'm actually fan of you guys. Did I did I.

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Speaker 2: Win in something or Ella, we got an email about

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Speaker 2: you from somebody you want on a date. If this

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Speaker 7: I do, I do, but I haven't been on that

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Speaker 2: Well, his name is Lucas.

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Speaker 5: I remember Lucas.

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Speaker 2: Okay, and Lucas emailed us because he said he really

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Speaker 2: us why?

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Speaker 5: I didn't mean to ghost him.

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Speaker 7: I have been a little slow to respond, though, I'm

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Speaker 7: sorry about that.

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Speaker 5: I should have texted him back.

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Speaker 2: So you're.

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Speaker 7: It looked like it's a bit of a weird situation,

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Speaker 7: and I wasn't.

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Speaker 5: I've been like confused as to how to proceed. See,

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Speaker 2: You're making this real sketchy. What's going on?

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Speaker 7: I met him at like a work party, but I

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Speaker 2: So your dad's Lucas's boss. Yeah, And does your dad

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Speaker 2: have a rule you don't you don't date to help?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I mean it's not that, but it's but yeah,

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Speaker 5: It's like all he talks about he's I mean, I

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Speaker 7: To work for him.

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Speaker 2: He's my dad, but.

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Speaker 5: He's like a tough, tough guy. I don't know.

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Speaker 7: I kind of had figured it out earlier, but I

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Speaker 5: Such a nice time. And then I felt awkward about that.

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Speaker 7: And then I was just like it was like a

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Speaker 7: I should have texted back, but it was like, how

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Speaker 5: I feel like I feel like that's going to get

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Speaker 7: So I wasn't sure quite how to how to put

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Speaker 5: Seems like a lot a lot.

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Speaker 2: For a text speaking of getting awkward real quick. I mean,

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Speaker 5: What did I forget?

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Speaker 2: Lucas is on the phone listening and then this whole

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Speaker 5: Hey, I did forget that. Hey, Lucas, I I apologize,

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Speaker 6: But it's it's understandable. I what are the odds that

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Speaker 5: No, and I didn't. I didn't think you were, and

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Speaker 7: A bit at a loss for how to how to

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Speaker 7: tell you that. But no, I really enjoyed hanging out

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Speaker 5: It's just I should have said something when I figured

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Speaker 7: But yeah, I didn't want to because I was having

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Speaker 5: But then I don't know. I mean, you you know

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Speaker 6: Yeah, he's definitely a great at his job, great at

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Speaker 7: A very diplomatic answer, Lucas, I promise, I promised.

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Speaker 5: He's not in the room with me.

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Speaker 6: I had a great time with you, and I completely

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean I really had a good time with

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Speaker 5: That it just might get really awkward.

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Speaker 7: I don't want anything to affect your job, not that

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Speaker 5: Look at nothing that he.

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Speaker 7: Would, but I just don't want to create like a

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Speaker 9: I'd rather not talk about work, uh while I'm out

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Speaker 9: but I would like to at least let him know

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Speaker 2: Ella, would you like to go on another day with

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Speaker 2: Lucas We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 7: I mean, yeah, yeah, sure, I mean yeah, if you really,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds like lovely Lucas is an assertive type guy.

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Speaker 3: For everybody listening, this is also a lesson when a

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Speaker 2: And if some dude's not even texting you back, good point, I.

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Speaker 4: I will talk to him and yeah, I am definitely

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Speaker 2: Sweet. Well, congratulations Lucas, you got another day.

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Speaker 4: Loved all right, Thank you guys very much. I appreciate it.

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Speaker 4: And thank you Ella.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, thank you, glad that you that you've made this happen.

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