WEBVTT - Second Date Update PODCAST: Should I Stay or Should I Love?

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<v Speaker 1>Brooking jewels. A second date update. Today's second date update

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<v Speaker 1>is a little different from the others because the girl

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<v Speaker 1>that's on the phone to do a second date update

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<v Speaker 1>today has actually had three dates with the guy that

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<v Speaker 1>she wants to call. Can that's break in the rules

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<v Speaker 1>and come on. Normally the rule is one date and

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<v Speaker 1>that's it, not three dates, because that's kind of more

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<v Speaker 1>of a relationship type fan and that's not a second

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<v Speaker 1>date update. That'd be a fourth date update. But I

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<v Speaker 1>went ahead and I talked to the girl and she

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<v Speaker 1>offered me a thousand dollars cash if we would do

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<v Speaker 1>the second date update for her anyway. And you know

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<v Speaker 1>what rules are meant to be broken sometimes, So, Kate,

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<v Speaker 1>you will have my PayPal request in just a little while. Okay, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll get it right out of You didn't know the

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<v Speaker 1>second date update was going to cost you a thousand dollars,

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<v Speaker 1>did you, Kate? Well, I didn't, but I mean, I

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<v Speaker 1>hope it's worth it. I swear when you hear the story,

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna understand why. Okay, so your email said that

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<v Speaker 1>you've been out on three dates with this guy and

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<v Speaker 1>now he's just stopped calling you. Tell us a little

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<v Speaker 1>bit about him. Okay, so his name is Andrew. It

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<v Speaker 1>sounds really cheesy, but we were doing like a volunteered

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<v Speaker 1>charity event and we met there and we were working together,

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<v Speaker 1>so we just had a lot of time, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like hang out and talk and stuff, and you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we had a connection and he asked me out on

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<v Speaker 1>a date, and since then it's just kind of been

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<v Speaker 1>like a whirlwind, you know what I mean, Like you're

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<v Speaker 1>super into him and you see this going into like

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<v Speaker 1>relationship status. Yeah, I mean obviously not like right now

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<v Speaker 1>at this moment, because I'm I'm calling you for a reason,

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<v Speaker 1>but no, it was definitely like it was I felt

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<v Speaker 1>like it was headed in that direction. Yet, what did

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<v Speaker 1>you guys do for your dates? Dates plural? So my

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<v Speaker 1>first date, it was actually really romantic when I'm one

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<v Speaker 1>of those dinner cruises, which I probably would have hated

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<v Speaker 1>if it was someone that I had turned out not

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<v Speaker 1>to be attractive to you, But we had we had

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<v Speaker 1>so much fun. You know, like if I needed to

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<v Speaker 1>see dropped on a boat with anyone, that would be

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<v Speaker 1>the person that I would want to be stuf. That's

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<v Speaker 1>actually a good idea for guys to take girls on

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<v Speaker 1>a dinner cruise date for the first date because there's

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<v Speaker 1>nowhere to go. Yeah, but it does say it does

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<v Speaker 1>say that he was like really into you, because if

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<v Speaker 1>a guy is gonna devote that much time and energy

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<v Speaker 1>into a first date, he's obviously wanting to impress you. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>screw time and energy, just cash. That's not a cheap

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<v Speaker 1>date at all. Okay, so you went on a dinner cruise,

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<v Speaker 1>that's cool. Would you do for your other dates? The

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<v Speaker 1>next date, we went on one of those like wine

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<v Speaker 1>and tasting events at a bar, which was you know,

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<v Speaker 1>like super casual, and it was fun because there were

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<v Speaker 1>other people there and so we got to sort of

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<v Speaker 1>like spend more time in a group of people and

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<v Speaker 1>see what that dynamic is like. And it was really fun.

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<v Speaker 1>And then my third one was so sweet because I

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<v Speaker 1>had just I was really stressed out at work and

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<v Speaker 1>I think I had mentioned it like a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>times in conversation, and so he books up a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of massage. What that's like relationship status stuck. Yeah, So

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<v Speaker 1>we definitely like took our relationship to the next level

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<v Speaker 1>after that, and I'm you know, like starting to feel

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<v Speaker 1>emotionally connected to him. And putting in you know, feelings

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<v Speaker 1>and effort and time, and since then it has been

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<v Speaker 1>complete radio silence. That's weird. Time to put that much

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<v Speaker 1>effort into all those dates, I know. And by effort

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<v Speaker 1>you still mean money, don't you? Pretty much? But I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't buy somebody a couple's massage if you don't

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<v Speaker 1>care about absolutely No. I mean, I wouldn't spend that

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<v Speaker 1>much money, and I can't. I just can't believe he's

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<v Speaker 1>like spent that much money for just a hook up

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<v Speaker 1>like that seems laid a lot of work. That was

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<v Speaker 1>the first night you guys hooked up after the couple's massage. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>so he stopped calling you after the first night that

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<v Speaker 1>you hooked up. Yes, I know, I know, But the

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<v Speaker 1>lead up is still confusing because that's you know, everyone's

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<v Speaker 1>been in the hook up situation before, whether they like

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<v Speaker 1>intended to or not, you know what I mean. And

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<v Speaker 1>it usually doesn't have that much build up. Usually someone

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't put in that much time and effort and then

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<v Speaker 1>go completely obsecret. It sounds like he was doing all

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<v Speaker 1>that just to get in your pants, if I'm being honest,

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<v Speaker 1>Well it does if he's doing all yes, would you

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<v Speaker 1>do that much. I wouldn't. I wouldn't know, but a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of guys would. I mean, if he's putting in

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<v Speaker 1>all that effort and then stops calling you the moment

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<v Speaker 1>that you guys, hook up sounds like that's all he wanted. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I also like in my head, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like wondering, was he like just getting out

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<v Speaker 1>of a relationship and did he fixed things? Did he

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<v Speaker 1>did he go back to see and like all of

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<v Speaker 1>it is totally like if that were the kid. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>life happens. I just some kind of answer, just some

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<v Speaker 1>kind of conversation telling you what happened. That's where my

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<v Speaker 1>mind goes to. I think, did you stay the night

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<v Speaker 1>at his house? Yeah? What was it like in the morning?

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<v Speaker 1>It was really nice. It wasn't like hook up, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean? If you know when it's a

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<v Speaker 1>hook up, you're a woman, you know, like you've been there,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. No, most women don't know when it's a

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<v Speaker 1>hook up. I'll tell you that much. Totally disagree with that. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I disagree too. No, most don't know. That's why there's

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<v Speaker 1>clinging women who will text you after and think that

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<v Speaker 1>they're in a relationship when they're not. It happens all

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<v Speaker 1>the time. Sorry. I think she's right. I think the

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<v Speaker 1>majority of women know when to hook up is just

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<v Speaker 1>a hook up. I completely agree. Okay, well, maybe the

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<v Speaker 1>guy's a player and he's really good at it, and

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know if that's what he's doing. He's really good,

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm sure you've thought about it a ton. Then

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<v Speaker 1>if you don't think it's just a hook up thing

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<v Speaker 1>and he was just kind of using you, then what

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<v Speaker 1>do you think it is. I'm trying to think of

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<v Speaker 1>anything at this point. I mean, that's why, that's why

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<v Speaker 1>I need your help. I'm really interested to see why

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<v Speaker 1>he would stop calling you after all those elaborate dates

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<v Speaker 1>and leaving his house. That was the last time you've

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<v Speaker 1>talked to him. No, there've been like texts, like little

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<v Speaker 1>texts like you know, I've been busy, Like oh, you're

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<v Speaker 1>just suddenly so yeah, he's like scheduling cruises and massages

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<v Speaker 1>and then all of a sudden, his schedule just got

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<v Speaker 1>so packed. All right, Well we'll play a song, come

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<v Speaker 1>back call him and get your second date up date. Okay, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, hang on looking jubil in the morning, Kate. Yeah, seriously,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't even believe that you want to call this

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<v Speaker 1>dog back. Like, seriously, girl, you need to move on

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<v Speaker 1>to greener pastures. Okay, because he totally used you and

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<v Speaker 1>now he's not calling you back and I wouldn't even

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<v Speaker 1>give him the time of day. You should not be

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<v Speaker 1>doing a second date update. You need to move the along,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, Snap out of it. Girlfriend. Let's you and

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<v Speaker 1>I go get some cosmos and talk about this in

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<v Speaker 1>your mind. This is how female conversations go. Isn't it

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<v Speaker 1>that that was my conversation with Kate about moving on? Kate?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you about ready to call Andrew for your second

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<v Speaker 1>date update? Well? After that, I'm feeling really inspired. The

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<v Speaker 1>reason that I said that is Kate actually wants to

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<v Speaker 1>call a guy that she has gone out on three

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<v Speaker 1>dates with. They've all been pretty elaborate. The last one

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<v Speaker 1>was a couple's massage. It was like a dinner cruise

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<v Speaker 1>and stuff in there. Anyway, after they hooked up. After

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<v Speaker 1>the third date, he stopped calling her, hasn't responded to anything.

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<v Speaker 1>So my first thought is that he just used her

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<v Speaker 1>and just wanted to hook up with her, and now

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<v Speaker 1>he's not calling her at all. That's why he's a

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<v Speaker 1>dog girl, Kate, What if that is the reason, Are

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<v Speaker 1>you just gonna let him have it? I'm gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>really passed. Yeah, I'm gonna die this phone number right

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<v Speaker 1>now and see we're gonna on the phone. Okay, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm dialing the phone number. Good. Hello, Hi, I was

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<v Speaker 1>looking for Andrew. Yeah, let's to see Andrew. How are you.

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<v Speaker 1>This is Jewil from brook and Jewil in the Morning. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm calling you because we recently got an email about

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<v Speaker 1>you from one of our listeners. I didn't submit for

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<v Speaker 1>any contest or anything. Guys, Yeah, no, I know. This

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<v Speaker 1>is not about a contest. Actually, I just need a

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<v Speaker 1>few minutes of your time in regards to in regards

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<v Speaker 1>to a date that you went on, actually a few

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<v Speaker 1>dates that you went on. What Yeah, we do a

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<v Speaker 1>segment on our show. It's called the second Date Update.

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<v Speaker 1>You recently took a girl named Kate out. She told

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<v Speaker 1>us a little bit about your dates. They were all

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<v Speaker 1>very elaborate and very romantic. But now you're not calling

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<v Speaker 1>her back, and she's very confused. I'm just not I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not sure to say. Well, you could start by telling

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<v Speaker 1>us why you would blow her off after three dates.

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's not as simple as that. Okay. Yeah, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not trying to sound confrontational with you like it's I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to know what happened, And more than anything,

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<v Speaker 1>she wants to know what happened because you guys went

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<v Speaker 1>out on so many dates and she said that they

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<v Speaker 1>were all pretty romantic, and you seem like you guys

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<v Speaker 1>really liked each other. Just a weird situation. I'm trying

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<v Speaker 1>to it's it's been in my head and I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>trying to figure this stuff out. Does that mean that

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<v Speaker 1>you are actually maybe in a relationship with somebody else? No? No, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>certainly not No. Okay, I wish it was that simple.

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<v Speaker 1>It's it's more complicated than that. Let me ask you

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<v Speaker 1>a question, just an easy question to answer. Did you

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<v Speaker 1>like Kate? Yes? Very much? So you did? I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>still do? Okay, so you still do? Well? Then why

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<v Speaker 1>not offer her the respect of letting her know why

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<v Speaker 1>you're not calling her back? Well, I just I accepted

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<v Speaker 1>a job offer in Germany that I just I couldn't

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<v Speaker 1>turn it down. You what, I leaven a couple of

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<v Speaker 1>weeks actually for Germany. WHOA, and that's why you're not

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<v Speaker 1>calling her back? Well, I feel strongly for us. Don't

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<v Speaker 1>know how to tell her, you know, I mean, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what to say to her. I just

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<v Speaker 1>I just figured the easiest thing would be just to,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, disappear, fade away. Are you disappear? That's like

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<v Speaker 1>the coward way out. You owe it to her to

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<v Speaker 1>talk to her about what's going on. Like I said,

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<v Speaker 1>this is not an easy situation. I'm I'm struggling as

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<v Speaker 1>far as how to deal with this and what to do.

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<v Speaker 1>Why are you struggling so much with I mean, you

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<v Speaker 1>guys have been out on three days. It's not like

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<v Speaker 1>you've been dating for months and months and months and

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<v Speaker 1>you're leaving. Why not just call her and say, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm moving. Sorry, we can't see each other anymore, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I really like her a lot. But okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so you see a future with her if if you

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<v Speaker 1>were going to stay here and Germany wasn't in the picture,

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<v Speaker 1>there's no question in your mind that you guys would

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<v Speaker 1>continue this if I was going to stay here, definitely,

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<v Speaker 1>no question in my mind. But now that the reality

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<v Speaker 1>is Germany, there's just no chance because you know I'm moving.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys could maybe try a long distance thing. That's

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<v Speaker 1>not fair for me to ask her to do something

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<v Speaker 1>like that. You know she's she's super sweets gorgeous. That's

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<v Speaker 1>not yeah, but how do you know? You don't know,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you're putting your feelings on her, like you

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how she would react to. I am putting

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<v Speaker 1>her needs first. She didn't deserve to be in a

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<v Speaker 1>long distance relationship like that with someone. She deserves someone's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be there with her, contributing to her life.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm putting her needs way above mine. I still know

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<v Speaker 1>what to say. It sounds like you really like her

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<v Speaker 1>a lot. Yeah, yeah, I do. Man, that sucks. I honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>if I were in your position, that would be hard

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<v Speaker 1>to meet somebody that you're I mean, I guess it

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<v Speaker 1>sounds like you're falling for and then you're like, man,

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<v Speaker 1>now I gotta move. Yeah, it sucks, but some consolation

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<v Speaker 1>German chicks can be kind of hot. Okay, okay, that's

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<v Speaker 1>not where we're going in the making more money, obviously.

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<v Speaker 1>Can I ask one question though, did you know that

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<v Speaker 1>you were going to Germany before that last couple's massage,

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<v Speaker 1>slept together night. No, no, no. In fact, this is

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<v Speaker 1>from a previous situation I had to develop over the

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<v Speaker 1>course of three or four months, so I thought that

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<v Speaker 1>the opportunity had kind of fizzled out. But it turns

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<v Speaker 1>out it was just taking a little bit more time

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<v Speaker 1>and then they may be an offer. I just had

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<v Speaker 1>to have to jump on this. Wow. I'm just really

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<v Speaker 1>excited about this Germany thing. It's it's the dream job

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<v Speaker 1>I've always always wanted. But at the same time, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like I could be missing out and not

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<v Speaker 1>being able to share something like that with someone like her. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>then why not just talk to her about it? I agree.

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<v Speaker 1>I know it's early on in your relationship, but why

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<v Speaker 1>not just talk to her? Man Easier said than done. Guys,

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<v Speaker 1>not really, because she's actually on the line listening. Excuse me,

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<v Speaker 1>I said, she's on the other line and listening to

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<v Speaker 1>this conversation and wants to talk to you take on

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<v Speaker 1>the phone. Yes she is. Yeah, him, I don't really

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<v Speaker 1>know that. This is a lot. You've been on the

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<v Speaker 1>phone the whole time, the whole time. I'm I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I I'm sorry I stopped calling you. I just it

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<v Speaker 1>was the only way that I saw to handle this.

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<v Speaker 1>It's okay, I'm um, I don't really know what I

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<v Speaker 1>would have what I would have done in the situation either.

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<v Speaker 1>I just I just I wish you would have told me.

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<v Speaker 1>But what you don't even like mentioned that you applied,

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<v Speaker 1>I know, you just like I didn't even know they

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<v Speaker 1>youn't even like applied, you know, like you didn't even

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<v Speaker 1>that wasn't mentioned. Just see, it's in regular conversation, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I mean, it was if so, it's like

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<v Speaker 1>really out of left field. Well, yeah, I honestly I

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<v Speaker 1>thought that that I thought that that prospect had kind

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<v Speaker 1>of just fizzled out long, you know, long before I

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<v Speaker 1>even met you. So it just kind of popped out

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<v Speaker 1>of nowhere. Again. It just really sucks because I like

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<v Speaker 1>have really, I mean, I I have strong feelings for you.

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<v Speaker 1>I have strong feelings for you too. It's just not

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<v Speaker 1>fair for you. It's not it's not fair for us.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, life is just not on our side, it seems, um, Well, Andrew,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe maybe life is on your side and that's why

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<v Speaker 1>you guys are being connected in a second date update

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<v Speaker 1>to talk about it, I guess, I mean I think

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<v Speaker 1>about you every day and I want you know, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>the long distance relationship is really really hard, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>not fair me to even apply something like that, even

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<v Speaker 1>asked that it's only been three dates, but you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't stop thinking about you. So my heart says,

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<v Speaker 1>something in my mind says something different, you know, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm just gonna ask for you. Would you

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<v Speaker 1>do a long distance relationship? I don't know. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>somebody's going to step in and ask her what her

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<v Speaker 1>opinion is that whole matter. I don't. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I don't. I don't know because it's

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<v Speaker 1>not it's not really being put on the table. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not like a real question, So I don't. I don't know.

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<v Speaker 1>It's also it's so soon and it's so new, and

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<v Speaker 1>in general, would I would I do along distance relationship?

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<v Speaker 1>Like in general in life? What I consider it? Well, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I would, but it's not really it's not really what's

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<v Speaker 1>being asked now. Well, the simple fact of the matter is,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, long distance relationships suck. You know, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>this is really hard. I mean, my heart says, something

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<v Speaker 1>in my mind says something different. You know, I'm thinking

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<v Speaker 1>that I just need to sever this, cut this off,

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<v Speaker 1>but I can't stop thinking about you. So I'm feeling

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<v Speaker 1>like I need to ask you to go with me. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I know that's crazy. I shouldn't have even said that.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry. I feel like I just like a phone.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, you don't want me to go with I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>we've been on three days. You can't, it's not that's

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<v Speaker 1>not like a real Is that a real question? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. I don't think. I don't want to put

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<v Speaker 1>words in your mouth, Andrew, but I don't think you

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<v Speaker 1>were actually asking or to go with you. I think

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<v Speaker 1>you were saying that's the way you feel, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just not sure at this point this phone calls.

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<v Speaker 1>Really it's even more confusing now. It seems like but

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<v Speaker 1>it sounds like to me that if she would say yes,

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<v Speaker 1>that that is exactly what you're asking, I wouldn't want

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<v Speaker 1>to ask her that. You know, that's that's just a

0:14:53.480 --> 0:14:55.760
<v Speaker 1>huge bombshell to drop on somebody. Know, it's a lot

0:14:55.760 --> 0:14:59.000
<v Speaker 1>of pressure to put on her. Let's let's play a game, Andrew.

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<v Speaker 1>Let's put this relationship ship seven months down the road.

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<v Speaker 1>If you guys have been dating for seven months, would

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<v Speaker 1>you ask her to go with you to Germany? Yes? Wow, Kate,

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<v Speaker 1>what do you think about that? If you were dating

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<v Speaker 1>seven months, would you go? This is like, ah, like

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<v Speaker 1>anypathetical situation. I mean, if if we have been dating

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<v Speaker 1>in the same way that it's been, if we just

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<v Speaker 1>continued down the same path that we started, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>see why I wouldn't consider it. You guys, have a

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<v Speaker 1>couple of weeks or whatever till you leave. I mean,

0:15:32.480 --> 0:15:34.600
<v Speaker 1>you could bond, You could spend every day together. You

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<v Speaker 1>could see how it goes up until then, and then

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<v Speaker 1>maybe in six months you could come join you you

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<v Speaker 1>got it all figured out by this whole thing is

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<v Speaker 1>It's just crazy. No, So let's just step back and

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<v Speaker 1>let Kate process this. Well, how about you guys process together.

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<v Speaker 1>Would you like to go out in a second, well

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<v Speaker 1>fourth date with Kate? We will pay for you guys

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<v Speaker 1>to go out again, at least before you leave. You

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<v Speaker 1>want to go? I mean, yeah, yes, yes, all right,

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<v Speaker 1>Well keep us keep us updated on what happens. Okay, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, we'll try all right, and until you leave, Andrew,

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<v Speaker 1>I want you guys to process as much as possible.

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<v Speaker 1>Just keep processing every night until he's got a text

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<v Speaker 1>in at seven eight, five nine two that says, O MG,

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<v Speaker 1>I need them to get married. I feel the same way.

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<v Speaker 1>I am right there with you. Brook and Jewel in

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<v Speaker 1>the morning talking about today's second date update. This girl

0:16:35.360 --> 0:16:37.880
<v Speaker 1>named Kate wanted to call a dude name Andrew. They

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<v Speaker 1>have actually gone out on a few dates, so technically

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<v Speaker 1>it wasn't a first date. And then she's not getting

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<v Speaker 1>a call back. They'd gone out a few times, he

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<v Speaker 1>stops calling her back, and of course she was wondering why.

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<v Speaker 1>It's kind of weird, but we got him on the

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<v Speaker 1>phone and it turns out that he actually really liked

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<v Speaker 1>her a lot. They both like each other a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>But he got a job offer in Germany and it's

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<v Speaker 1>like his dream job. So he's like, well, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be leaving. So it's the point of continuing this. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just gonna be bad for both of us. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>ask her to do a long distance thing. Three dates

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<v Speaker 1>in and then he was like, well, I mean maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you could move with me in like seven months or

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<v Speaker 1>something if we continue the relationship. It's still alive people,

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<v Speaker 1>and she said that she would be willing to think

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<v Speaker 1>about it because they both like each other now, so

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<v Speaker 1>I guess they're gonna work on things and talk about

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<v Speaker 1>it and figure out where their relationship is headed and

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<v Speaker 1>if they can make it work. From Germany. But everybody

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<v Speaker 1>texting in at seven eight five nine two is just

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<v Speaker 1>in love with today's new sweetheart couple. Do you know why?

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<v Speaker 1>Because people love love and I love them for that.

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<v Speaker 1>It really makes me so happy. I mean, you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want this girl to regret, right, I mean, even if

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<v Speaker 1>it doesn't work out, at least you tried. And then

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<v Speaker 1>you know. Of course people are texting in seven eight

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<v Speaker 1>five nine two saying they're crying in their car for

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<v Speaker 1>these guys. They're gonna be so disappointed if these two

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<v Speaker 1>get together and they're like, well I went on on

0:17:52.280 --> 0:17:55.959
<v Speaker 1>her fourth day and oh man, like Germany. Two mus

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<v Speaker 1>later he cheated on. Yeah, the whole thing is just

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<v Speaker 1>screwed up. Now, thanks a lot for doing that second

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<v Speaker 1>date update and having us go out again and planning

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<v Speaker 1>our future because my life is wrecked. I can't get

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<v Speaker 1>back from Germany now. I don't have enough money because

0:18:11.080 --> 0:18:14.040
<v Speaker 1>I moved out for this dude. So it can either

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<v Speaker 1>go really well or really bad we'll try to keep

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<v Speaker 1>you updated on that. Every once in a while, we'll

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<v Speaker 1>get back in touch with the people who do the

0:18:21.000 --> 0:18:23.119
<v Speaker 1>second date updates. This is obviously one that we'll have

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<v Speaker 1>to ask them in a few months how things are going.

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<v Speaker 1>It could be very happy or very sad. I'm staying

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<v Speaker 1>optimistic about it.