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Speaker 1: Brooking jewels. A second date update. Today's second date update

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Speaker 1: is a little different from the others because the girl

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Speaker 1: that's on the phone to do a second date update

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Speaker 1: today has actually had three dates with the guy that

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Speaker 1: she wants to call. Can that's break in the rules

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Speaker 1: and come on. Normally the rule is one date and

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Speaker 1: that's it, not three dates, because that's kind of more

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Speaker 1: of a relationship type fan and that's not a second

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Speaker 1: date update. That'd be a fourth date update. But I

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Speaker 1: went ahead and I talked to the girl and she

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Speaker 1: offered me a thousand dollars cash if we would do

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Speaker 1: the second date update for her anyway. And you know

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Speaker 1: what rules are meant to be broken sometimes, So, Kate,

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Speaker 1: you will have my PayPal request in just a little while. Okay, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'll get it right out of You didn't know the

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Speaker 1: second date update was going to cost you a thousand dollars,

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Speaker 1: did you, Kate? Well, I didn't, but I mean, I

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Speaker 1: hope it's worth it. I swear when you hear the story,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna understand why. Okay, so your email said that

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Speaker 1: now he's just stopped calling you. Tell us a little

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Speaker 1: bit about him. Okay, so his name is Andrew. It

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Speaker 1: sounds really cheesy, but we were doing like a volunteered

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Speaker 1: charity event and we met there and we were working together,

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Speaker 1: so we just had a lot of time, you know,

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Speaker 1: we had a connection and he asked me out on

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Speaker 1: like a whirlwind, you know what I mean, Like you're

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Speaker 1: super into him and you see this going into like

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Speaker 1: relationship status. Yeah, I mean obviously not like right now

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Speaker 1: at this moment, because I'm I'm calling you for a reason,

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Speaker 1: but no, it was definitely like it was I felt

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Speaker 1: you guys do for your dates? Dates plural? So my

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Speaker 1: first date, it was actually really romantic when I'm one

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Speaker 1: of those dinner cruises, which I probably would have hated

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Speaker 1: if it was someone that I had turned out not

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Speaker 1: to be attractive to you, But we had we had

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Speaker 1: so much fun. You know, like if I needed to

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Speaker 1: the person that I would want to be stuf. That's

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Speaker 1: a dinner cruise date for the first date because there's

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Speaker 1: nowhere to go. Yeah, but it does say it does

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Speaker 1: say that he was like really into you, because if

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Speaker 1: screw time and energy, just cash. That's not a cheap

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Speaker 1: date at all. Okay, so you went on a dinner cruise,

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Speaker 1: that's cool. Would you do for your other dates? The

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Speaker 1: next date, we went on one of those like wine

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Speaker 1: And then my third one was so sweet because I

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Speaker 1: of massage. What that's like relationship status stuck. Yeah, So

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Speaker 1: like that seems laid a lot of work. That was

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Speaker 1: the first night you guys hooked up after the couple's massage. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: so he stopped calling you after the first night that

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Speaker 1: Well it does if he's doing all yes, would you

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Speaker 1: it is totally like if that were the kid. You know,

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Speaker 1: life happens. I just some kind of answer, just some

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Speaker 1: hook up. I'll tell you that much. Totally disagree with that. No,

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Speaker 1: So I'm sure you've thought about it a ton. Then

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Speaker 1: talked to him. No, there've been like texts, like little

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Speaker 1: just suddenly so yeah, he's like scheduling cruises and massages

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Speaker 1: so packed. All right, Well we'll play a song, come

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Speaker 1: back call him and get your second date up date. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 1: all right, hang on looking jubil in the morning, Kate. Yeah, seriously,

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Speaker 1: I can't even believe that you want to call this

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Speaker 1: all right, Snap out of it. Girlfriend. Let's you and

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Speaker 1: your mind. This is how female conversations go. Isn't it

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Speaker 1: that that was my conversation with Kate about moving on? Kate?

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Speaker 1: Are you about ready to call Andrew for your second

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Speaker 1: dog girl, Kate, What if that is the reason, Are

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Speaker 1: really passed. Yeah, I'm gonna die this phone number right

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Speaker 1: now and see we're gonna on the phone. Okay, Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm dialing the phone number. Good. Hello, Hi, I was

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Speaker 1: looking for Andrew. Yeah, let's to see Andrew. How are you.

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Speaker 1: This is Jewil from brook and Jewil in the Morning. Okay,

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Speaker 1: I'm calling you because we recently got an email about

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Speaker 1: you from one of our listeners. I didn't submit for

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Speaker 1: any contest or anything. Guys, Yeah, no, I know. This

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Speaker 1: is not about a contest. Actually, I just need a

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Speaker 1: few minutes of your time in regards to in regards

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Speaker 1: to a date that you went on, actually a few

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Speaker 1: dates that you went on. What Yeah, we do a

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Speaker 1: segment on our show. It's called the second Date Update.

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Speaker 1: You recently took a girl named Kate out. She told

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Speaker 1: us a little bit about your dates. They were all

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Speaker 1: very elaborate and very romantic. But now you're not calling

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Speaker 1: her back, and she's very confused. I'm just not I'm

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Speaker 1: not sure to say. Well, you could start by telling

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Speaker 1: us why you would blow her off after three dates.

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Speaker 1: It's it's not as simple as that. Okay. Yeah, I'm

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Speaker 1: not trying to sound confrontational with you like it's I mean,

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Speaker 1: I just want to know what happened, And more than anything,

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Speaker 1: out on so many dates and she said that they

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Speaker 1: were all pretty romantic, and you seem like you guys

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Speaker 1: to it's it's been in my head and I'm just

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Speaker 1: trying to figure this stuff out. Does that mean that

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Speaker 1: you are actually maybe in a relationship with somebody else? No? No, no, no,

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Speaker 1: It's it's more complicated than that. Let me ask you

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Speaker 1: a question, just an easy question to answer. Did you

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Speaker 1: like Kate? Yes? Very much? So you did? I didn't

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Speaker 1: still do? Okay, so you still do? Well? Then why

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Speaker 1: you're not calling her back? Well, I just I accepted

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Speaker 1: a job offer in Germany that I just I couldn't

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Speaker 1: turn it down. You what, I leaven a couple of

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Speaker 1: weeks actually for Germany. WHOA, and that's why you're not

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Speaker 1: I just figured the easiest thing would be just to,

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Speaker 1: you know, disappear, fade away. Are you disappear? That's like

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Speaker 1: the coward way out. You owe it to her to

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Speaker 1: talk to her about what's going on. Like I said,

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Speaker 1: this is not an easy situation. I'm I'm struggling as

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Speaker 1: far as how to deal with this and what to do.

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Speaker 1: Why are you struggling so much with I mean, you

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Speaker 1: guys have been out on three days. It's not like

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Speaker 1: you're leaving. Why not just call her and say, hey,

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Speaker 1: I'm moving. Sorry, we can't see each other anymore, you know.

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Speaker 1: I mean I really like her a lot. But okay,

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Speaker 1: so you see a future with her if if you

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Speaker 1: there's no question in your mind that you guys would

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Speaker 1: continue this if I was going to stay here, definitely,

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Speaker 1: no question in my mind. But now that the reality

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Speaker 1: You guys could maybe try a long distance thing. That's

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Speaker 1: not fair for me to ask her to do something

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