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Speaker 1: Mala. Are you ready to lock.

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Speaker 2: In, like for the rest of the year, for the

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Speaker 1: Are you ready?

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I've been trying to lock in for

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Speaker 2: like the past thirty three years. Is now the time?

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Speaker 1: Why start?

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Speaker 3: Now?

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Speaker 2: You're right, Look how far we've come. I've done so well.

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Speaker 2: Why bother?

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Speaker 1: Why bother?

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Speaker 2: Lock into what exactly?

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Speaker 1: Exactly?

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Speaker 2: Let's talk about it. Let's talk about it. Ola la is,

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Speaker 2: I'm Fiosa and I'm Mala.

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Speaker 3: Today we're talking about the pressure to quote finish the

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Speaker 3: year strong.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so much pressure.

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Speaker 3: There's so much chatter. Yeah, during the last I feel

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Speaker 1: Of the year.

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Speaker 3: Definitely the last quarter, starting October, I think is when

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Speaker 3: we really start to see that chatter.

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Speaker 2: There's a lot of pressure to completely change everything about yourself.

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Speaker 2: Why by January? I know, like ditch all of your

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Speaker 2: old habits, start new ones, get rid of your wardrobe,

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Speaker 1: A hobby, be a whole new person, be a.

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Speaker 2: Whole new person. Like, don't be yourself anymore, actually be

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Speaker 3: B goes back to like being the optimized version of yourself.

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Speaker 2: It's true, it's true. And now with AI we can

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Speaker 2: optimize every aspect of our lives.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, everything, everything, everything I've noticed. So there's like two

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Speaker 3: winter arc. Have you heard of that one? No?

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Speaker 2: What is the winter arc? This is a new one. Okay,

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Speaker 2: this is a new one.

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Speaker 3: The winter arc is where an individual focuses on self improvement, wellness,

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Speaker 1: Oh, I see, that's the winter arc.

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Speaker 3: That's the winter arc, which is a misnomer because not

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Speaker 3: to be a nerd, but winter does and start until December,

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Speaker 3: So can we start there?

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Speaker 2: The arc is misplaced. The arc needs to start in

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Speaker 2: December and then end in February.

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Speaker 1: Yes, and you know we're mammals.

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Speaker 3: This is actually the rest period.

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Speaker 1: Yes, nothing blooms in the wintertime.

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Speaker 2: We have to hibernate. We have to like have our

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Speaker 2: We need to rejuvenate.

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Speaker 2: We need to actually maybe indulge in our existing habits. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I get it. And I'll just I'll start in December.

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Speaker 3: It's like we're contentifying our lives in some ways, will

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Speaker 2: Absolutely. I'm in this place too where I think what

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Speaker 1: All of that.

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Speaker 3: you're here. It did kind of like I roll at

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Speaker 3: them a little bit. Yeah, yeah, yeah, but I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 3: I so to go. Going back to your initial question,

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Speaker 3: I think it was just as they came after I

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Speaker 3: ran the Nike one. My coach goes, you're in really

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Speaker 3: great shape, like race wise, how do you feel about

447
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Speaker 3: doing one more? And it's in four weeks And I

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Speaker 3: was like, all right, let's do it.

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Speaker 2: Since you're already in race shape, Yeah, might as well

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Speaker 2: keep going.

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Speaker 1: Yes I was, and I said, okay, cool.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it doesn't take a lot to convince me no,

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Speaker 3: Like if you asked me to do something or you

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Speaker 3: like suggest something like I'll do it.

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Speaker 2: Sure, I'll do it, I'll do it. Yeah yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: why not? Yeah, I mean you've already put in the training. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: you know, and if you're in condition for it, like, yes,

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Speaker 2: do it? You were in season? I was, you were

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Speaker 2: in season.

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Speaker 3: So yeah, those are my big and small that I

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Speaker 3: would have myself on the back floor.

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Speaker 2: Does Yeah, it's again both big and small at the

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Speaker 2: same time.

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Speaker 1: Don't go anywhere, locomotives. We'll be right back.

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Speaker 2: And we're back with more of our episode. So to

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Speaker 2: our listeners, do resolutions work for you? Have they ever

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Speaker 2: worked for you? Realistically? I think the idea is lovely. Again,

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Speaker 2: I don't want to discourage anybody from trying something new

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Speaker 2: and starting the year with a positive goal and intentions

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Speaker 2: and the desire to change, like do it. But I'm

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Speaker 2: just like having this moment of reflection. Where has it

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Speaker 2: ever actually worked for me? So I want to know

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Speaker 2: from our listeners, has the New Year's resolution ever worked

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Speaker 2: for you? How do you end the year? How do

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Speaker 2: you start the new year? Like, are you trying a

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Speaker 2: winter arc? Are you trying to accomplish a bajillion things

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Speaker 2: in ninety days, Like what is your method and what works?

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Speaker 2: That's what I'm curious about. What works?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, earlier today I saw there's this I guess it's

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Speaker 3: a trend, but there's this concept of like.

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Speaker 2: Vlog, miss vlog, miss, so you vlog?

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Speaker 3: I think the twenty five days of December, like leading

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Speaker 3: up to Christmas. It's like Christmas themed.

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Speaker 1: So I sent it to.

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Speaker 3: Jackie, my bestie and also our project manager.

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Speaker 1: Hijackie, and I'm like, Jackie, do you think I should

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Speaker 1: do this?

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Speaker 3: And she goes, okay, zero to one hundred, like you're

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Speaker 3: not even posting anything right now and you want.

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Speaker 1: To vlog miss.

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Speaker 2: Hilarious.

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Speaker 3: And that was a reality check for me because here

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Speaker 3: I am encouraging our listeners like, don't go zero to

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Speaker 3: one hundred.

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Speaker 4: Yes, rest take it easy, like just pick one.

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Speaker 3: Thing, and I'm over here, turn ofvlog for twenty five

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Speaker 3: days of course, which I can't even vlog for a week.

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Speaker 2: I think you should do it.

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Speaker 1: No, I think you totally do it. No, I'm not.

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Speaker 3: I love like the holiday season. I'm not a big

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Speaker 3: like Christmas person.

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Speaker 2: You're a you're a Halloween person.

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Speaker 1: Person.

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Speaker 3: I appreciate the religious elements of Christmas and the winter solstice.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, and I love the decor.

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Speaker 3: But I'm not someone like Fernando ironically loves Christmas, loves Christmas,

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Speaker 3: and he's such a scrooge in so many ways, but

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Speaker 3: he loves He's not a scrooge. Actually, he's more of

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Speaker 3: a grin part of gold Heart, too Small.

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Speaker 2: Not anymore, not anymore, not anymore.

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Speaker 3: So that's my experience that I wanted to share that

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Speaker 3: happened today, where I was like trying to like bite

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Speaker 3: off more than I could chew, and my homegirl was like,

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Speaker 3: absolutely not be realistic.

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Speaker 2: Just come on, that's fair. Yeah. But it's so funny

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Speaker 2: because I feel like we were just posting so much,

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Speaker 2: but now it's like, oh, we don't post because it's

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Speaker 2: been a few days. Yes, so we're not posting anything.

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Speaker 1: So it's so tiring.

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Speaker 2: It's exhausting.

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Speaker 1: It's exhausting. Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I mean, there's so much to say about the creator economy,

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Speaker 3: which is a whole other episode. But going back, I

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Speaker 3: think to like the Winter arc, locking in the pressure, Like,

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Speaker 3: I think.

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Speaker 1: Motivation is good.

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Speaker 3: External motivation is good, but if that's not your vibe, right, now, like,

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Speaker 3: don't force it to be your vibe because everyone.

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Speaker 1: Else is doing it.

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Speaker 3: I think that's what I want the listener to take away,

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Speaker 3: that there's no judgment in doing it. If that's what

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Speaker 3: works for you and you need the structure of a

533
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Speaker 3: challenge an arc, do it, you know. But if you

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Speaker 3: feel like I'm actually really tired and all I want

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Speaker 3: to do is read my b book. That's another thing

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Speaker 3: I've seen in like the book community, it's like ten

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Speaker 3: books before the year ends. I'm like ten, I'm trying

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Speaker 3: to finish one right now, right, right right. And so

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Speaker 3: there is I'm seeing in like other pockets of subcommunities

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Speaker 3: online where it's this super intense way to finish the

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Speaker 3: year when I'm like, just read a.

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Speaker 1: Book, just read one.

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Speaker 2: I would love to read one book.

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Speaker 3: I'd love to read one book before the year ends.

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Speaker 2: One book would be amazing for me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 3: I hope this resonates with y'all and let us know, like,

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Speaker 3: how are you going to be spending the next couple

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Speaker 3: of weeks? Are you locking in? Are you resting? Both

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00:27:35,520 --> 00:27:36,760
Speaker 3: are valid? Both are fine?

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Speaker 1: Do it feels right for you?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Tell us, tell us we want to know. We

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Speaker 2: want to know, and I'm genuinely curious what works for you.

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Speaker 3: Oh, you know, before we sign off. Something that I've

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Speaker 3: been doing in the last two or three years is

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Speaker 3: at the top of the year, I write a letter

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Speaker 3: to my future self.

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Speaker 1: Oh, and I write.

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Speaker 3: Like how I think the year is going to go,

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Speaker 3: and then I don't open it until the following year.

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Speaker 2: And you remember to open it at the end of

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Speaker 2: the year.

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Speaker 3: So what I do is I just stick it in

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Speaker 3: the front of my journal so I know where it is.

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00:28:10,640 --> 00:28:13,919
Speaker 3: It's there, And that has been a really sweet thing

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Speaker 3: where it's not centered around resolutions and yeah, there's some

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Speaker 3: goal elements because you have expectations for how you hope

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00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 3: the year will go. And so I think you can

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Speaker 3: write to yourself in a way that feels right Like

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Speaker 3: it doesn't have to be goal or resolution specific, but

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Speaker 3: it could just be like, I hope this year you

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Speaker 3: spend a lot of time with your friends and you

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Speaker 3: pick up new hobby, whatever it may be. I think

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Speaker 3: that that is a really sweet thing to do for

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Speaker 3: yourself that is not like optimizing and.

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Speaker 1: About like locking.

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Speaker 3: It's just like a letter to your future self and

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Speaker 3: how you hope the year goes.

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Speaker 2: That's so beautiful.

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Speaker 3: I love that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, thank you.

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Speaker 2: You're just wishing your future self well and not hoping

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Speaker 2: necessarily she's a totally different person.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, just I hope you're doing well that one year.

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Speaker 3: And I remember writing when it was during a really

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Speaker 3: challenging time where I wrote, like, next year, your living

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00:29:08,280 --> 00:29:10,040
Speaker 3: situation is going to be so much better.

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Speaker 1: And then when I opened it up the following year,

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Speaker 1: my living.

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00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:16,080
Speaker 3: Situation was that much better and not in like, oh

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Speaker 3: I manifested it. It just was really sweet to read,

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Speaker 3: like this was really hard and now I'm on the

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Speaker 3: other side of it, and it just is just a

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Speaker 3: really good, I think way to also just document where

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Speaker 3: you're at in your life and what you hope for

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00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:31,040
Speaker 3: the following year.

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, listeners, I think you should do that. I think

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Speaker 2: you should write a letter to yourself.

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Speaker 1: Let us know when you do.

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Speaker 3: All right, all right, look, we will catch you next time.

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